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Neil was
charismatic and witty.
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Just a nice, normal man.
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That was the ruse.
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There's something very
strange about this baby.
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You can keep the baby.
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Great for you.
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But it ain't mine, darling.
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It seriously,
seriously isn't mine.
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Tina was in absolute shock.
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I've spoken
to probably 200 people
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who Neil traumatized.
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I've had to pretty much
talk girls off the ledge.
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I didn't realize
the gravity of the situation
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that I escaped from.
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Everything he told me
was a lie.
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I've never seen anything
as extreme as this.
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I would like him
to suffer slowly, tortuously.
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Someone really needs
to stop him.
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I'm Andrea Gunning,
and this is Betrayal,
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a show about the people
we trust the most
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and the deceptions
that change everything.
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Today I'm talking
with Tina Maia,
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a strong, independent woman
whose casual fling
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turned her world upside down.
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When she tried to understand
what happened to her,
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she ended up forming
a community of women
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that were all deceived
by the same man.
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Can you talk a little bit about
the scope of what Neil did?
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He just hides behind
being this normal guy.
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But his lies are so damaging.
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They're so eroding,
and it's been going on
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for, like, 30-something years.
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Wow.
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There's a whole load
of people that think,
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oh, well, you know,
how did you go for that?
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But this is my truth.
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This is my story.
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I was born in Tehran
before the revolution in 1975,
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and things got
a little real over there
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when I was quite young.
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So we moved back to the UK
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because my father
was born there.
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I lived in a very nice place.
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I had great friends,
good education.
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Tina's full of life, carefree.
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After I graduated
university,
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I was starting my career
in the technology world,
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and I just sort of
had to figure out
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what this internet was.
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Tina ends up
in New York City
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with a high-paying job,
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and she's there
for about ten years.
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She gets married,
has a baby, gets divorced.
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And then in 2015, she gets
a great job offer in London,
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and she decides to move home.
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I was just sort of
starting again,
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just me and my son, Leo.
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He was six.
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She was working
in e-commerce,
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and she was very
business-minded.
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So it was very early 2016.
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I was at one of these
conferences in London.
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I was speaking
with a lot of people,
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and that's where
I stumbled across Neil Lawman.
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He had a marketing firm.
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He was cute, quite attractive.
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But I really didn't think too
much about that conversation.
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He just seemed like
a nice, normal man.
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Neil Lawman is from Essex.
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It's a tough, working class
area outside of London.
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He's a successful businessman,
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and he even has
an interesting hobby.
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He loves cooking
and appears in YouTube videos.
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If you cooked this,
I'd actually
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come round for dinner
and let you cook for me.
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Would you spoon me
afterwards?
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Why not?
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Tina had no desire
for a relationship,
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but after the conference,
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Neil texted her
out of the blue.
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He said that he was
going to be in Bromley,
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a town close to where I lived,
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and did I want to meet up?
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I was in a good mood,
and Leo was at a sleepover,
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and Neil seems like he might
be good fun for a drink.
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Um, OK.
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He was charismatic and witty.
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He was a fun guy.
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I told him a little bit
about my divorce,
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and he said that
he was divorced also,
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and they lived together
in the States too.
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And he said that his ex-wife
had got quite bitter
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about the fact that
he couldn't give her children.
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He said,
"I had testicular cancer,
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and I'm completely infertile."
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And he said his ex-wife had
an affair with his friend
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and left him for the friend
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and gone on to have
children with him.
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I felt like he was being,
you know,
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quite vulnerable and genuine.
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It actually drew me to him.
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Tina starts
seeing Neil more often.
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She still has no desire
for a relationship,
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but she's having fun with him,
and she's enjoying the sex.
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That was part
of what it was
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and part of what was fun.
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She didn't need
to live like a nun.
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They're two consenting adults.
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Have fun.
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Even though he told me
he was infertile,
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I was still worried,
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because having another child
was not in my plan.
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He was like, "No, like,
I have zero sperm count."
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But he had sort of
dropped into conversation
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about having
a lot of allergies,
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and one of those allergies
was latex,
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and so he couldn't
use protection.
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Over the next few months,
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Tina sees Neil sporadically.
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We would see each other
once a week or so.
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He told me a bit
about his family.
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He didn't come from money,
but I didn't care.
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He came up in passing,
some guy she'd been seeing.
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I never for a minute
thought that he was
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going to play a part
in her life.
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Tina started noticing
things about Neil
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that were off-putting.
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I heard him have a phone
conversation with his mother,
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and he was being
so awful to her.
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And then there was the lying.
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He was clearly lying
about his education.
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He told me he went to
the London School of Economics.
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No, you didn't, because I know
the area quite well.
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We were talking about it,
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and he didn't seem to know
even where LSE was.
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So it was these little things.
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Just as Tina's hoping
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that this relationship
with Neil fades away,
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she starts to experience
this familiar
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but concerning brain fog.
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I started to be
quite forgetful.
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I remember
one particular incident
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where I threw
the rubbish away,
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and then I couldn't
find my keys.
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I'm like, did I not
throw the rubbish out,
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but I threw my keys
in the wheelie bin?
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Yes, I'd thrown my keys
in the wheelie bin.
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And I said, that's weird,
because the only time
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I've ever been
that absent-minded
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is when I was pregnant
with Leo.
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And then my period was late,
so I got a pregnancy test.
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Immediately popped up:
pregnant.
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I was like, well, no,
I can't be pregnant.
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Bought a few more.
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That didn't work.
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I thought, Neil doesn't know
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he can have children.
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I thought maybe
it's a medical mistake
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or it was truly a miracle.
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Tina decides to keep the baby
and reaches out to Neil.
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And then he really got
quite venomous.
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I cannot produce children.
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If you are pregnant,
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how you deal with it
is not my problem.
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I had intercourse
with somebody
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who I knew was infertile,
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and I was pregnant.
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So I sent him a text saying,
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"We should meet up,
and we can have a chat."
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He was like,
"I don't see why--
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"if you've got
something to tell me,
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why you can't tell me here."
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I'm like, "OK. I am pregnant.
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"It's yours.
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"I don't want
anything from you,
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but I'm letting you know."
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He said, "Nice try.
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I had a vasectomy."
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And I sent him a picture
of the pregnancy test,
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and I said,
"Well, it didn't work."
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And he started leaving
voice messages,
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which were insane.
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You need to get yourself
to a doctor
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and have a proper
pregnancy test,
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not a piss-on-a-stick one.
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But I have zero sperm.
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Don't sit there putting things
on me that this could be mine,
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because it isn't--
medically impossible.
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It wasn't like he was like,
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"Oh, go and have an abortion."
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He just didn't want
to be blamed.
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You can keep the baby.
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Great for you.
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But it ain't mine, darling.
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It seriously,
seriously isn't mine.
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He was just rude.
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I will have
nothing to do with you,
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nothing to do with your child.
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I didn't expect him
to be angry with me.
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This man, who all his life
thought he couldn't ever
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have children,
why isn't he happy?
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It got really weird.
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So I just said,
"You're more than welcome
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to take a DNA test
when the baby's born."
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Neil refuses to do
the DNA test,
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but Tina didn't need it.
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She knew he was the father.
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She hadn't been
with anybody else.
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She just couldn't understand
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why he was adamantly
denying it.
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But she moved on without Neil,
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and in January of 2017,
Tina welcomed her baby girl,
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Josephine,
and she calls her Fifi.
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When my daughter was born,
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she very quickly went blue.
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She had a lung infection.
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She was put into an incubator.
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She also had
really serious jaundice.
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The treatment
for the jaundice,
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the light treatment,
wasn't working,
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and they said,
"There's only one more level
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"we can go up
before we have to give her
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"a blood transfusion.
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"Then we're gonna need
blood types of the parents,
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any medical history."
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Tina was afraid
for her baby's life.
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She hadn't spoken to Neil
in months,
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but she had kept in touch
with one of his friends,
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and she reached out to him
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to express the urgency
of the situation.
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I suddenly get
these long, nasty texts.
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How dare I contact his friend?
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Even if he did share DNA
with my child,
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he would never want
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anything to do
with someone as vile as me
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and that he would not be
giving any medical history.
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Just ugly messages to someone
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who had just given birth
to his daughter,
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who was potentially about
to have a blood transfusion.
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Any person would make that
phone call to help any baby.
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Most people would do more
than that to help a kitten.
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This [bleep] is not helping.
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Why?
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Luckily, she didn't need
the blood transfusion.
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The next level of lights
did work.
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After a week in hospital,
we were able to go home.
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Tina and the baby are
settling in nicely at home,
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but she can't let go
of how Neil conducted himself,
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so she decides
to take action against him.
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I thought, I'm gonna set
the Child Maintenance Service
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onto you
for the next 18 years.
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Not because I want the money,
but because you deserve it.
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Because you're not
a nice person.
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Tina submitted an application
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to the Child
Maintenance Service,
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which is the UK's agency
for child support.
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Boy, did it open up
a box of worms.
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When the report came through,
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it said
that it had been accepted,
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and that he had been
assessed 5 pounds a week
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because he was
a benefits recipient,
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which was the first,
like, what?
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Like, I know this guy
has a business.
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But then the next
really alarming thing
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was that that 5 pounds a week
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was split between
four children.
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There were no names
or details in the CMS report,
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so Tina decides to do
her own investigation.
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The first thing I did
was go to Facebook,
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and I look up
Neil's last name, Lawman.
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Straight away,
up comes a profile.
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I thought, well,
this must be his ex-wife.
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Or his current wife.
Who knows?
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Not in America, right here,
not far from where I now live.
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And on the profile was
a picture of two young girls.
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And they look like Fifi.
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I thought,
shall I write to her?
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So I did.
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I said, "I just had a baby,
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and the father
is Neil Lawman."
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And quite quickly,
she got back to me.
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The first line was just,
"I am so sorry
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that you have also
been his victim."
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I'm like, oh, [bleep].
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Tina reaches out
to a woman on Facebook
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that has the same last name
as Neil, which is Lawman.
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She wrote back,
"Every word
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out of that man's mouth
is a lie."
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And he'd gone and left her
with nothing but a mess
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and his two children to raise.
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And she was
clearly traumatized.
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I used to be married to Neil.
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I chose to do this interview
anonymously
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because I have two girls
with Neil who are now grown up,
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and they don't want this
to come back and haunt them.
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I would like Neil to suffer
slowly, tortuously,
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and I'd like to witness it.
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Neil and I got married
on August the 25th, 2002.
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We were together until
November 2009 when he left.
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Neil's ex-wife,
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who doesn't want us
to use her name,
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tells Tina that they've never
lived in the United States.
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She did not leave Neil
for his friend.
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He's definitely
the father of her two kids.
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And he has never once
mentioned having cancer.
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At this point,
I realized that
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he had impregnated me
maliciously.
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He knew what he was doing.
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NEIL'S EX-WIFE:
I didn't really want
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to do this interview,
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but I can't bear
the thought of him
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having any more children with
some other unsuspecting victim.
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This is Neil's story to me,
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so it may have some
degree of untruth.
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His mother had him
when she was 16.
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She told him that
his father was Kevin Jones,
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who she was then with.
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They sat Neil down on his 18th
birthday and told him that
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Kevin Jones was not
his father,
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and he had believed all that
time that he was his father.
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Six months later, Kevin Jones
died of a heart attack,
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and Neil doesn't know
who his father is.
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But I can imagine that
finding something out like that
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when you're 18 probably
could have contributed to
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his dysfunctional personality.
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His ex-wife also shared
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that Neil used to go by
Neil Jones,
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but he changed his last name
to his mother's maiden name,
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which is Lawman.
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NEIL'S EX-WIFE:
Neil was very charming
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and very good at making people
feel comfortable.
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He appeared to be ambitious.
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He appeared to be
a hard worker,
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but he was very deceiving
in all of those things.
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Never spent any time
with the kids,
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and he was having affairs.
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Even though things
were getting really bad,
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Neil's ex-wife tried
to stick it out for the kids,
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but Neil left.
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He left his ex-wife
for another relationship.
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NEIL'S EX-WIFE:
So he left in November 2009.
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The last time my daughters
saw him was March 2010,
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and they have not
seen him since then.
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Tina and Neil's ex-wife,
they start a connection.
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They start talking on the phone
and texting all the time.
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So they decide to meet up
in London.
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We instantly got along.
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I remember her saying to me,
all these years,
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I've felt like the stupidest
woman in the world.
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And then I meet you,
and you're, like,
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the smartest woman
I've ever met,
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and you were duped.
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And I felt exactly
the same way about her.
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There was a vindication.
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I told Tina everything about
my relationship with Neil.
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They lived very lavishly.
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She thought that he was
doing well in business.
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But actually, she found out
that he remortgaged their house
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without her knowing.
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NEIL'S EX-WIFE:
He also had 40,000 pounds
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worth of business debts,
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which had a claim
over the house,
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and I didn't know
anything about any of it.
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So I had to put the house
on the market,
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sell it to pay off his debt,
and then start again.
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Neil's ex and Tina
chatted for hours,
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and then she dropped
a bombshell.
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I said to Tina,
"I hate to tell you this,
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but Neil had two other sons."
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After Neil left,
his ex-wife finds out,
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through Child
Maintenance Services,
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that he had two sons
that he had had
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before they had ever met,
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and he had never once
mentioned them to her.
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Why would you wanna have kids
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if you didn't want
to have kids?
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Before calling it a night,
Tina had an idea.
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I thought it would be funny
to send him a little memento.
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We took a picture
and were giving him the bird,
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and we entitled it,
"The other mother."
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He didn't take it with humor.
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He sent emails to my work.
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He wrote very graphic,
awful depictions
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of the time that we dated
and made it out
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to actually be
something quite lewd.
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And he sent it
to the entire company
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I worked for.
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If he'd have sent
naked pictures of me,
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it wouldn't have been
less humiliating.
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Tina was not about
to be bullied by Neil,
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so she reports the email
to the police,
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and they put out a warrant
for his arrest
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for malicious communication.
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The police told me
he also had
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another warrant
out for his arrest
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at the same time for fraud.
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I learned that he was arrested
11 times
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and convicted 5.
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But Neil's never served
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more than a couple of days
in prison.
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He always gets
suspended sentences.
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00:22:26,908 --> 00:22:28,776
And so Tina was hoping that,
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00:22:28,777 --> 00:22:30,778
with this malicious
communications charge,
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it would finally land him
behind bars.
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The police said
they couldn't find him,
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so the warrant got
canceled after a year,
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and they didn't
even let me know.
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NEIL'S EX-WIFE: The man is
still walking the streets,
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00:22:46,694 --> 00:22:48,828
and he is still capable
of impregnating women
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and then walking away
with total abandon.
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So Tina had this idea
to set up a Facebook page
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to warn people about Neil.
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The Neil Lawman
victims support group.
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We just hoped that people
would type his name
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into Facebook
before dating him
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or before going
into business with him,
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and it'll give them
a little red flag.
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Neil tried to get
the Facebook page taken down,
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but Tina fought to keep it up,
and she won.
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In the Facebook group,
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there are people who claim
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they have had business
relationships with him
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that went very sour,
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women that he has dated
who claim he's turned on them,
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family members of people
that he's hurt
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who claim he's caused problems
within the families.
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There's quite a few landlords
who claim he doesn't pay rent.
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And what I wasn't expecting
was other mothers.
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How did we all meet?
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Where do you start?
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Well, it's the first time
I've actually met
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Adelle and Claire in person.
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00:24:09,978 --> 00:24:12,946
We arranged for Tina to meet
with three members
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of the Neil Lawman
victims support group.
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00:24:15,015 --> 00:24:18,652
Right now, there are
more than 150 members.
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And of course, Karen.
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Yeah.
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00:24:21,088 --> 00:24:23,756
Karen came to the group
through Neil's ex-wife,
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and she says she was
one of his first victims
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over 30 years ago.
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00:24:28,095 --> 00:24:31,331
So obviously, you know,
back 30-odd years ago.
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00:24:31,332 --> 00:24:33,533
Neil was quite young.
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00:24:33,534 --> 00:24:34,768
Yeah.
Yeah, he wasn't like,
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00:24:34,769 --> 00:24:36,403
obviously what he is now,
he was just--
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What was he like?
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Just normal dude.
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00:24:38,672 --> 00:24:40,072
He was just a normal guy.
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00:24:40,073 --> 00:24:42,843
The thing is,
his ruse is normality.
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00:24:42,844 --> 00:24:44,711
He just pretends
to be a normal bloke,
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00:24:44,712 --> 00:24:46,145
and that's how he gets you.
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00:24:48,882 --> 00:24:51,218
When I met Neil, I was 24.
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Neil was 20.
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He was my neighbor.
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In the beginning,
he was very charming.
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It was like he was looking
after me all the time.
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00:25:01,762 --> 00:25:03,630
In this relationship,
there was no mention
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00:25:03,631 --> 00:25:06,166
of infertility or cancer.
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00:25:06,167 --> 00:25:08,836
And nine months
into their relationship,
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00:25:08,837 --> 00:25:11,572
they get engaged,
and Karen was pregnant.
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When I told him
I was pregnant, he was happy.
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00:25:15,676 --> 00:25:16,910
He done the nursery up
with me.
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And there was no problem.
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00:25:20,215 --> 00:25:24,585
And when my son was born,
he was really hands-on.
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00:25:26,287 --> 00:25:30,691
It's kind of strange how Neil
goes from this loving father
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00:25:30,692 --> 00:25:32,759
when his son is born in 1994
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to never mentioning him once
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00:25:34,863 --> 00:25:38,631
to anyone he dates
for the next 31 years.
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00:25:41,903 --> 00:25:45,171
My name is Daniel,
and I'm Neil's son.
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00:25:48,076 --> 00:25:49,309
I don't really remember much,
to be honest.
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I think I try and block
most of it out.
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00:25:51,279 --> 00:25:53,013
I don't really ask
many questions about him.
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00:25:53,014 --> 00:25:54,915
It's not gonna change
anything for me,
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00:25:54,916 --> 00:25:57,951
so the less I know,
the better I feel.
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It's in this relationship
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00:25:59,686 --> 00:26:01,654
where we see a pattern form.
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00:26:01,655 --> 00:26:03,290
Neil starts off as a great guy,
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00:26:03,291 --> 00:26:06,059
but then he morphs into
a completely different person,
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00:26:06,060 --> 00:26:08,996
becomes controlling
and just plain mean.
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He didn't like to be
wrong or be told no.
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And if I ever challenged him,
Neil would say
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00:26:14,769 --> 00:26:16,103
that I was really fat
and ugly.
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00:26:16,104 --> 00:26:18,906
And if you leave me,
you'll be on your own.
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00:26:18,907 --> 00:26:20,907
You're gonna become
a single mum.
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00:26:20,908 --> 00:26:22,776
He'd go from, like,
nothing to mad.
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00:26:22,777 --> 00:26:24,377
He just chipped away at me.
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00:26:28,181 --> 00:26:31,718
Multiple women on Facebook
allege that Neil was
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00:26:31,719 --> 00:26:34,220
violent with them,
including Karen.
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00:26:34,221 --> 00:26:36,622
At the time, I did love him.
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00:26:36,623 --> 00:26:38,090
But I was nervous of him,
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00:26:38,091 --> 00:26:40,327
and I didn't wanna make him
angry, 'cause I got a smack.
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00:26:42,363 --> 00:26:44,531
I kept thinking,
it's gonna be all right.
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00:26:44,532 --> 00:26:45,532
He didn't mean to do it.
493
00:26:45,533 --> 00:26:47,000
He was really sorry.
494
00:26:47,001 --> 00:26:48,535
He said,
"I'll never do it again.
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00:26:48,536 --> 00:26:49,670
I'll get help."
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00:26:51,171 --> 00:26:54,107
A lot of what I'm hearing
today is obviously
497
00:26:54,108 --> 00:26:57,077
the first time I'm hearing
these--these things.
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00:26:57,078 --> 00:26:59,011
And the more I hear is--
it's just shocking.
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00:26:59,012 --> 00:27:01,348
It's nothing less
than a scumbag.
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00:27:01,349 --> 00:27:04,585
In responding
to a protective order
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00:27:04,586 --> 00:27:05,919
sought against him,
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00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:08,255
Neil denies
physical abuse allegations,
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00:27:08,256 --> 00:27:10,991
and he was never convicted
of any violent crimes.
504
00:27:10,992 --> 00:27:12,858
But according to Karen,
505
00:27:12,859 --> 00:27:13,827
Neil promised
that he would change,
506
00:27:13,828 --> 00:27:16,263
but things didn't get better.
507
00:27:16,264 --> 00:27:20,166
So Karen left Neil when
Daniel was just 20 months old.
508
00:27:20,167 --> 00:27:22,702
He was seeing him
on weekend visits,
509
00:27:22,703 --> 00:27:23,670
but there was loads of times
510
00:27:23,671 --> 00:27:25,839
where he'd let him down
and not turn up,
511
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:27,408
and there was always an excuse.
512
00:27:30,912 --> 00:27:32,447
I was obviously upset.
513
00:27:34,983 --> 00:27:36,316
He's not gonna come back.
514
00:27:36,317 --> 00:27:38,485
He's not gonna suddenly
become my father again.
515
00:27:41,256 --> 00:27:43,689
And getting
to where I want to go to
516
00:27:43,690 --> 00:27:46,158
in my personal journey.
517
00:27:46,159 --> 00:27:48,495
Does Neil have
a relationship with his son?
518
00:27:48,496 --> 00:27:49,630
No.
519
00:27:49,631 --> 00:27:51,497
He did until he was about six.
520
00:27:53,667 --> 00:27:57,903
The last time I seen
him was sitting in McDonald's,
521
00:27:57,904 --> 00:28:00,941
and there was, like,
sea monkeys.
522
00:28:00,942 --> 00:28:02,742
He gave me those
and basically said that
523
00:28:02,743 --> 00:28:04,443
he couldn't see me no more.
524
00:28:04,444 --> 00:28:08,782
And then he just literally
disappeared, went, gone.
525
00:28:08,783 --> 00:28:10,050
That was in 2000,
526
00:28:10,051 --> 00:28:12,551
the same year
Neil met his ex-wife,
527
00:28:12,552 --> 00:28:15,621
who didn't even find out about
Daniel until after he left,
528
00:28:15,622 --> 00:28:19,393
and she read the Child
Maintenance Service report.
529
00:28:19,394 --> 00:28:22,062
There was another son that
was listed on the CMS report.
530
00:28:22,063 --> 00:28:25,098
It was a son that
he had when he was 18,
531
00:28:25,099 --> 00:28:27,200
and he ran off
as soon as he was born.
532
00:28:27,201 --> 00:28:30,569
And Tina tracked down
that mother on Facebook.
533
00:28:31,338 --> 00:28:33,305
She's very, very direct.
534
00:28:33,306 --> 00:28:34,441
She said,
"Just forget about him.
535
00:28:34,442 --> 00:28:36,242
Put it behind you.
Don't think about him."
536
00:28:36,243 --> 00:28:38,911
And she said
the day someone calls her
537
00:28:38,912 --> 00:28:41,348
to let her know
that he's dropped dead
538
00:28:41,349 --> 00:28:44,484
will be the day she pops open
a bottle of champagne.
539
00:28:45,386 --> 00:28:46,920
Through this Facebook group,
540
00:28:46,921 --> 00:28:49,089
another shocking detail
comes to light
541
00:28:49,090 --> 00:28:51,457
28 years after it happened.
542
00:28:51,458 --> 00:28:56,362
Two of his kids were born
eight weeks apart.
543
00:28:56,363 --> 00:28:59,198
Those two boys
were born to mothers
544
00:28:59,199 --> 00:29:00,800
who lived on the same street.
545
00:29:00,801 --> 00:29:04,170
One of the moms was Karen.
546
00:29:04,171 --> 00:29:08,443
He also had
a girlfriend down the road.
547
00:29:12,713 --> 00:29:13,779
And I said, he's 28 in August.
548
00:29:13,780 --> 00:29:15,514
And she said, "I think
you should hear it from me.
549
00:29:15,515 --> 00:29:17,783
There's another child,
and he was 28 in June."
550
00:29:17,784 --> 00:29:21,987
I was like, "Oh. Oh, OK."
551
00:29:21,988 --> 00:29:26,225
I'm just waiting
for who else there is.
552
00:29:26,226 --> 00:29:29,197
I call myself
the one who got away.
553
00:29:37,438 --> 00:29:39,406
How did it feel to you
when you found out
554
00:29:39,407 --> 00:29:42,642
there was another woman who
had a baby at the same time?
555
00:29:42,643 --> 00:29:44,376
To be honest, because I've
been speaking to you guys,
556
00:29:44,377 --> 00:29:45,746
I wasn't actually
really shocked.
557
00:29:45,747 --> 00:29:48,915
Just made Daniel a bit further
down in the pecking order.
558
00:29:51,319 --> 00:29:52,685
She lived on the same street.
559
00:29:52,686 --> 00:29:55,421
Literally the same street.
I didn't know that, obviously.
560
00:29:55,422 --> 00:29:57,791
How did they keep you
separated and not cross paths?
561
00:29:57,792 --> 00:30:00,327
We had to move quickly.
562
00:30:00,328 --> 00:30:02,429
You have to think
to yourself,
563
00:30:02,430 --> 00:30:05,765
how has he managed to do this
to people and keep doing it?
564
00:30:05,766 --> 00:30:07,134
Get away with it.
565
00:30:07,135 --> 00:30:08,801
It just gets more
and more insane.
566
00:30:17,310 --> 00:30:20,080
I kind of struck up
a relationship with Neil
567
00:30:20,081 --> 00:30:24,483
through a Facebook
business group in 2015.
568
00:30:24,484 --> 00:30:28,388
I was going through a divorce,
and I had two young boys.
569
00:30:28,389 --> 00:30:31,090
I wasn't looking
for a relationship
570
00:30:31,091 --> 00:30:33,260
or anything like that,
but there was this
571
00:30:33,261 --> 00:30:36,328
underlying charisma
that kind of came across
572
00:30:36,329 --> 00:30:38,931
once you started
speaking to him.
573
00:30:38,932 --> 00:30:40,733
That's when he reeled you in.
574
00:30:43,304 --> 00:30:48,175
The first time I heard
about the infertility,
575
00:30:48,176 --> 00:30:50,510
we'd been out for drinks.
576
00:30:54,681 --> 00:30:57,317
And the next morning,
577
00:30:57,318 --> 00:30:59,618
I woke to find him in my bed.
578
00:31:03,423 --> 00:31:07,093
We hadn't been intimate
prior to this.
579
00:31:07,094 --> 00:31:08,461
I remember saying to him,
"Oh, my God,
580
00:31:08,462 --> 00:31:10,130
did--did we have sex
last night?"
581
00:31:10,131 --> 00:31:12,364
And he was like,
"Don't you remember?"
582
00:31:12,365 --> 00:31:14,468
And he made it all jokey
and, like, made me feel
583
00:31:14,469 --> 00:31:18,138
a bit stupid
for not remembering.
584
00:31:18,139 --> 00:31:21,675
And I said,
did we use something?
585
00:31:21,676 --> 00:31:24,376
Obviously, I didn't want
to have any more children.
586
00:31:24,377 --> 00:31:27,179
And he said to me, "Listen,
don't worry, don't worry.
587
00:31:27,180 --> 00:31:28,782
I can't have children anyway."
588
00:31:30,350 --> 00:31:32,352
"I've had testicular cancer.
589
00:31:32,353 --> 00:31:33,987
"I had to go through
chemotherapy.
590
00:31:33,988 --> 00:31:37,724
I have no more sperm cells."
591
00:31:37,725 --> 00:31:39,992
I was ashamed.
592
00:31:39,993 --> 00:31:42,661
I needed to close that chapter.
593
00:31:45,466 --> 00:31:46,666
Neil tried to see
Claire again.
594
00:31:46,667 --> 00:31:49,803
Even though she never
became pregnant by him,
595
00:31:49,804 --> 00:31:51,604
she cut him off.
596
00:31:51,605 --> 00:31:56,343
He targets divorced women
with children and with careers.
597
00:31:56,344 --> 00:31:58,644
And you know, he's--
he's definitely followed
598
00:31:58,645 --> 00:32:02,381
a--a pattern.
599
00:32:02,382 --> 00:32:06,286
He goes for successful,
secure women
600
00:32:06,287 --> 00:32:09,656
and then tries
to drag them down.
601
00:32:12,627 --> 00:32:16,429
When I reached out
to his most recent girlfriend,
602
00:32:16,430 --> 00:32:18,130
she was really
under his control.
603
00:32:22,703 --> 00:32:24,170
I'm Rachel.
604
00:32:24,171 --> 00:32:27,040
I met Neil Lawman
through my business
605
00:32:27,041 --> 00:32:28,508
I had at the time.
606
00:32:28,509 --> 00:32:31,877
Neil came across very like
a successful businessman
607
00:32:31,878 --> 00:32:34,380
and caring person.
608
00:32:34,381 --> 00:32:36,116
In the beginning
of the relationship,
609
00:32:36,117 --> 00:32:37,250
he was really good
around my kids,
610
00:32:37,251 --> 00:32:38,550
and my kids really liked him.
611
00:32:38,551 --> 00:32:40,754
Neil did tell Rachel
612
00:32:40,755 --> 00:32:42,621
about his two daughters
with his ex-wife,
613
00:32:42,622 --> 00:32:45,425
but there was no mention
of any other children.
614
00:32:45,426 --> 00:32:48,428
And in the 2 1/2 years
that they are together,
615
00:32:48,429 --> 00:32:50,229
there was no mention
of infertility,
616
00:32:50,230 --> 00:32:51,398
no mention of cancer.
617
00:32:51,399 --> 00:32:53,532
But he had other stories
to tell.
618
00:32:53,533 --> 00:32:57,269
He told me about
all the property that he owns
619
00:32:57,270 --> 00:32:59,672
and how he used to work
for the government
620
00:32:59,673 --> 00:33:04,144
and how he used to be
an ex-pro ice hockey player.
621
00:33:04,145 --> 00:33:05,444
Everything he told me
was a lie.
622
00:33:05,445 --> 00:33:08,380
But he says it in such a way,
it's very believable,
623
00:33:08,381 --> 00:33:11,483
so I never really
questioned it.
624
00:33:11,484 --> 00:33:13,486
Rachel and her kids
moved in with Neil.
625
00:33:13,487 --> 00:33:15,487
At first, they stayed in
his two-bedroom apartment,
626
00:33:15,488 --> 00:33:17,189
but then Rachel bought
her own house,
627
00:33:17,190 --> 00:33:18,657
and Neil came with her.
628
00:33:18,658 --> 00:33:21,694
And according to her,
he slowly started to change.
629
00:33:21,695 --> 00:33:24,130
It was mentally controlling.
630
00:33:24,131 --> 00:33:25,497
It's weird.
631
00:33:25,498 --> 00:33:26,198
He had that thing about you
where he would
632
00:33:26,199 --> 00:33:27,233
pick you up and lift you up.
633
00:33:27,234 --> 00:33:28,201
You'd think, great,
I feel amazing.
634
00:33:28,202 --> 00:33:30,670
But then he'd really
drop you down
635
00:33:30,671 --> 00:33:33,139
and just kind of pick on
the things you don't like.
636
00:33:34,574 --> 00:33:36,443
The way I dress,
the way I look.
637
00:33:36,444 --> 00:33:39,545
And then by the end,
he was distant from everyone.
638
00:33:39,546 --> 00:33:41,380
He didn't really show
any emotion or care
639
00:33:41,381 --> 00:33:45,452
or interest in me or my kids.
640
00:33:45,453 --> 00:33:48,520
Rachel's family is
concerned about Neil.
641
00:33:48,521 --> 00:33:51,224
And Rachel has an aunt
that decides to do
642
00:33:51,225 --> 00:33:53,026
her own investigation
643
00:33:53,027 --> 00:33:54,294
and finds this Facebook page
644
00:33:54,295 --> 00:33:55,694
and shows Rachel.
645
00:33:55,695 --> 00:33:58,465
And Rachel is horrified
by what she sees,
646
00:33:58,466 --> 00:34:00,800
and it motivates her
to leave Neil.
647
00:34:00,801 --> 00:34:03,569
She sends him an email
saying that she's left,
648
00:34:03,570 --> 00:34:07,374
and then he starts bombarding
her with voice messages.
649
00:34:07,375 --> 00:34:10,042
Rachel,
I've just got your email,
650
00:34:10,043 --> 00:34:14,179
and I'm absolutely gutted.
651
00:34:14,180 --> 00:34:16,081
I want to be with you.
652
00:34:16,082 --> 00:34:18,050
I love you.
653
00:34:18,051 --> 00:34:20,319
Please answer my call, Rachel.
654
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:22,855
Please, please come home.
655
00:34:22,856 --> 00:34:25,625
At the beginning,
it was very desperate.
656
00:34:25,626 --> 00:34:28,461
And then it kind of
turned nasty.
657
00:34:28,462 --> 00:34:30,897
You snuck off,
and I'm walking
658
00:34:30,898 --> 00:34:33,198
around the house, thinking,
well, all this is mine.
659
00:34:33,199 --> 00:34:35,100
All this is mine.
660
00:34:35,101 --> 00:34:36,568
I have got nowhere to go,
661
00:34:36,569 --> 00:34:39,304
and I am not leaving
this house.
662
00:34:41,408 --> 00:34:42,709
I just ignored it.
663
00:34:42,710 --> 00:34:44,344
There's no way
to get me back now.
664
00:34:44,345 --> 00:34:45,944
Not a chance in hell.
665
00:34:45,945 --> 00:34:49,249
Rachel's lucky that
she was able to completely
666
00:34:49,250 --> 00:34:50,517
cut Neil out of her life.
667
00:34:50,518 --> 00:34:53,053
So many women are
still connected to Neil
668
00:34:53,054 --> 00:34:54,086
through their children.
669
00:34:54,087 --> 00:34:57,890
And how many children Neil has
is hard to confirm.
670
00:34:57,891 --> 00:35:01,894
When it comes to kids that
there's either a DNA test
671
00:35:01,895 --> 00:35:05,732
or he's on their birth
certificate, there's five.
672
00:35:05,733 --> 00:35:09,335
Some people have
reached out and said
673
00:35:09,336 --> 00:35:11,438
that they have his child.
674
00:35:11,439 --> 00:35:14,741
I think there's
13 alleged children.
675
00:35:16,777 --> 00:35:20,179
Tina got one of the UK's
largest newspapers,
676
00:35:20,180 --> 00:35:21,980
The Times, to cover the story.
677
00:35:24,752 --> 00:35:28,287
My name is Ben Ellery,
and I am the crime editor
678
00:35:28,288 --> 00:35:30,889
for The Times.
679
00:35:30,890 --> 00:35:35,428
Every person we spoke to
opened another doorway
680
00:35:35,429 --> 00:35:38,264
into this world of Neil Lawman.
681
00:35:38,265 --> 00:35:40,366
Each one took us further
682
00:35:40,367 --> 00:35:42,135
and was slightly more
unbelievable.
683
00:35:44,838 --> 00:35:48,841
We got to a stage where
if we wanted to run the story,
684
00:35:48,842 --> 00:35:51,778
we needed to gather
some hard evidence.
685
00:35:51,779 --> 00:35:55,715
We did a DNA test
between my daughter
686
00:35:55,716 --> 00:35:59,618
and his ex-wife's
two daughters.
687
00:35:59,619 --> 00:36:02,589
Neil's on their
birth certificate.
688
00:36:02,590 --> 00:36:05,825
The markers came through
on their DNA test
689
00:36:05,826 --> 00:36:09,194
more than most
full siblings have.
690
00:36:09,195 --> 00:36:11,063
It's ironclad.
691
00:36:13,533 --> 00:36:16,635
I know Tina is campaigning for
692
00:36:16,636 --> 00:36:19,272
lying to someone
about being infertile
693
00:36:19,273 --> 00:36:21,573
to be made a criminal offense.
694
00:36:21,574 --> 00:36:22,841
There is absolutely justice
695
00:36:22,842 --> 00:36:25,010
that needs to be served
against Neil.
696
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:30,316
I want him to be convicted
of rape by deception.
697
00:36:40,860 --> 00:36:45,564
Neil had gone to such lengths
with his lies
698
00:36:45,565 --> 00:36:47,733
to impregnate me with a child
699
00:36:47,734 --> 00:36:51,970
he had no intentions
of being part of.
700
00:36:54,507 --> 00:36:56,408
At one point,
there was a police officer
701
00:36:56,409 --> 00:36:58,611
who did take a great interest
702
00:36:58,612 --> 00:37:02,749
and start investigating
Neil's actions.
703
00:37:02,750 --> 00:37:05,886
She said it really did fit
with rape by deception.
704
00:37:07,654 --> 00:37:09,389
Rape by deception
falls outside
705
00:37:09,390 --> 00:37:10,889
the typical definition
of rape.
706
00:37:10,890 --> 00:37:15,127
It's an argument that says
a perpetrator deceives someone
707
00:37:15,128 --> 00:37:16,696
in order to get consent.
708
00:37:16,697 --> 00:37:21,800
I didn't consent to be
with a fertile man.
709
00:37:21,801 --> 00:37:23,803
There's another
high-profile case in the UK
710
00:37:23,804 --> 00:37:26,471
where a man lied
about having a vasectomy
711
00:37:26,472 --> 00:37:27,840
and got a woman pregnant,
712
00:37:27,841 --> 00:37:30,376
and the rape-by-deception
argument was used,
713
00:37:30,377 --> 00:37:31,877
and he was found guilty.
714
00:37:31,878 --> 00:37:35,782
But ultimately, he was able to
have that verdict overturned.
715
00:37:35,783 --> 00:37:40,687
It was overturned
because rape by deception
716
00:37:40,688 --> 00:37:44,489
has to be connected
to the sex act itself,
717
00:37:44,490 --> 00:37:46,526
not the circumstances
around the act.
718
00:37:46,527 --> 00:37:48,528
Now it's precedent.
719
00:37:48,529 --> 00:37:51,430
So Tina's investigation
was dropped.
720
00:37:51,431 --> 00:37:54,267
You can't seem
to pin him down
721
00:37:54,268 --> 00:37:55,300
and prosecute him for anything.
722
00:37:55,301 --> 00:37:57,636
The rape by deception,
malicious communication,
723
00:37:57,637 --> 00:38:00,505
fraud, all been
swept under the rug.
724
00:38:00,506 --> 00:38:04,577
But I'd love to see
change happening.
725
00:38:04,578 --> 00:38:08,547
But what we have
managed to do is,
726
00:38:08,548 --> 00:38:10,884
if not stop him, slow him down.
727
00:38:10,885 --> 00:38:13,486
These women aren't
expecting Neil
728
00:38:13,487 --> 00:38:15,854
to make any admissions
anytime soon.
729
00:38:15,855 --> 00:38:20,626
They're just left wondering
why Neil is the way he is.
730
00:38:20,627 --> 00:38:21,928
Do you think
it's a control thing?
731
00:38:21,929 --> 00:38:24,264
- I do think so.
- Because he goes for women
732
00:38:24,265 --> 00:38:25,764
that are freshly divorced.
733
00:38:25,765 --> 00:38:27,867
So there's that
vulnerability about them
734
00:38:27,868 --> 00:38:29,801
even though they are
strong, independent women.
735
00:38:29,802 --> 00:38:31,470
He finds their vulnerability.
Yeah.
736
00:38:31,471 --> 00:38:32,938
And that's where he gets in at.
737
00:38:32,939 --> 00:38:36,809
And it's from then he kind of
monopolizes everything.
738
00:38:36,810 --> 00:38:39,511
You can't put it down
to trauma or anything for him
739
00:38:39,512 --> 00:38:40,479
because he had
a good upbringing.
740
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:41,447
He's got a good family.
741
00:38:41,448 --> 00:38:43,049
He's got no excuse whatsoever.
742
00:38:43,050 --> 00:38:44,082
Yeah.
743
00:38:45,786 --> 00:38:49,322
I know because
of the Facebook group
744
00:38:49,323 --> 00:38:51,624
and after The Times article,
745
00:38:51,625 --> 00:38:54,294
people aren't buying
into his fraud so much
746
00:38:54,295 --> 00:38:57,796
and his romantic charms.
747
00:38:57,797 --> 00:39:02,100
So I think his lifestyle has
definitely taken a downturn.
748
00:39:06,172 --> 00:39:08,675
Betrayal's investigative
team went to Neil's home
749
00:39:08,676 --> 00:39:11,277
in Jaywick to get
his side of the story.
750
00:39:33,667 --> 00:39:35,468
I think
all the mothers are worried
751
00:39:35,469 --> 00:39:37,135
about nature and nurture.
752
00:39:40,707 --> 00:39:42,709
But I've met a number
of the children,
753
00:39:42,710 --> 00:39:46,946
and they're all
beautiful souls.
754
00:39:48,748 --> 00:39:51,951
NEIL'S EX-WIFE:
My girls have really developed
755
00:39:51,952 --> 00:39:57,322
into successful, smart adults
in spite of what he did.
756
00:39:58,826 --> 00:40:03,629
My daughter is
the most empathetic,
757
00:40:03,630 --> 00:40:05,898
kind, sweet little girl.
758
00:40:05,899 --> 00:40:08,067
There's no faulty wiring
in her.
759
00:40:10,404 --> 00:40:14,674
That looks like me.
760
00:40:14,675 --> 00:40:17,777
I think it looks
just like you, actually.
761
00:40:17,778 --> 00:40:21,046
We've had some conversations
about Neil,
762
00:40:21,047 --> 00:40:25,751
and what I've let her know
is that she's been lucky
763
00:40:25,752 --> 00:40:28,854
that she's grown up
being given a lot of love
764
00:40:28,855 --> 00:40:31,957
and a lot of affection
and a lot of attention.
765
00:40:31,958 --> 00:40:34,861
So she's able to go
and give it to other people.
766
00:40:34,862 --> 00:40:38,563
And I said, not everyone
is filled with that
767
00:40:38,564 --> 00:40:39,799
when they're growing up.
768
00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:41,968
And unfortunately,
he's one of those people
769
00:40:41,969 --> 00:40:44,103
that just doesn't have it
to give.
770
00:40:44,104 --> 00:40:48,974
She doesn't ever seem
particularly fazed by it.
771
00:40:48,975 --> 00:40:52,511
When Neil's ex-wife told
her daughters about Fifi,
772
00:40:52,512 --> 00:40:53,679
they wanted to meet her,
773
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:55,881
and now they have
a relationship.
774
00:40:55,882 --> 00:40:58,718
They've been in her life
since she was three months old.
775
00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:00,086
She absolutely adores them.
776
00:41:00,087 --> 00:41:02,988
She's met Daniel,
her half-brother, as well.
777
00:41:02,989 --> 00:41:05,791
And--and I think
she just feels quite fulfilled
778
00:41:05,792 --> 00:41:09,062
by having people
who genuinely care about her,
779
00:41:09,063 --> 00:41:11,430
so why would she care
about someone who doesn't?
780
00:41:14,935 --> 00:41:19,871
I wish for his future that
it's exactly what he deserves.
781
00:41:19,872 --> 00:41:22,875
But let's end on
a positive note and say that,
782
00:41:22,876 --> 00:41:25,411
doesn't he have
amazing taste in women?
783
00:41:25,412 --> 00:41:26,312
Oh, absolutely.
784
00:41:28,881 --> 00:41:31,850
Whether he'll actually
face justice or not,
785
00:41:31,851 --> 00:41:36,855
I hope so, but all I can do
is tell my story
786
00:41:36,856 --> 00:41:40,926
and hope that someone listens
787
00:41:40,927 --> 00:41:44,397
who has the power
to do something about it.
62598
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