All language subtitles for Major Attitude Adjustment - Alexia Anders, Ryan Mclane - PervTherapy

Come in.

Hi.

I'm Ryan. I'm Alexia. Nice to meet you.
Have a seat. Sure.

Okay, so let me just start out by
telling you a little bit about myself

practice here.

I have been in psychology and therapy
for, I've practiced in this office for

last four years.

I mainly see a wide variety of
clientele, basically dealing with

the people who have issues that are not
that severe, but things that are

stopping positive progress in their
life.

We just kind of talk through things.
This first session that we'll do, we

basically just kind of get a base
foundation.

of you and your life.

And, you know, I want you to tell me
some things that, I don't want to say

problems you're having, but things that
feel like problems to you.

And then we'll kind of, I'll take some
notes on it. Just so you know, Tamara, I

film all of my patient sessions.

It helps both of us really be able to,
me to go back when I'm, Sometimes when

you're in the middle of something, you
know, you don't remember everything as

well. And so when I'm at home and I'm
able to kind of replay things and maybe

pick up something that I didn't notice
the first time. Yeah.

And for you, sometimes, actually, I've
had a few clients who actually will

the videos from their previous sessions,
and they see the difference from when

they began the process.

So that's very helpful. That's what
that's all about.

Do you mind me asking how you found out
about myself and the

practice here?

I was actually just online Googling the
best therapist we could find around

town. Okay. And your name showed up.
Okay.

That's great.

Now, are you from, are you local here?

Did you just move here, or are you from
the area?

Actually, my family and I just moved out
here a year ago.

Okay. Yeah. So we're pretty new to the
city.

Okay. Now, do you have siblings?

I have one brother and one sister.

Okay. Yeah, they're both older than me.

Okay. Let me go ahead and take some
notes here on this.

Yeah. My sister, she's about 32.

My daughter is 45.

Okay.

Okay, all right.

That's good to know.

Hold on. Sorry about that. Let me just
get organized here for a second.

My secretary, she did a very poor job of
organizing my

notes for me, but that's okay. That's
something I'll talk to her about.

Okay.

I already hear that. That's okay.

Let me just put it over there.

Okay, so you just moved to town a year
ago?

Just a year ago. Now, were you living in
the state, or is it a completely

different atmosphere and lifestyle to
you than what you've been used to?

So this is more the city. I mean, I came
from Nevada.

Okay. So it's more quieter, more calmer
out there. Okay. So it's pretty

different. Did you feel more...

yourself and at ease there or in this
new situation is that I guess some of

problems that you've one of the reasons
why you're here like is that kind of a

new development since the move or is it
issues that you've been having that you

feel you've been having for a longer
period of time yeah I definitely feel

Reason why I'm here is because I moved
out from like a completely new, I mean

completely different kind of city. So
it's a whole new change for me and I

like my parents have been treating me
kind of differently ever since we moved

here. Okay, you still live with your
parents? Yeah. Okay.

Okay, go ahead. Keep on coming with me.

Yeah, and I don't know. I just feel
like...

Ever since I moved here, like, I haven't
had many friends out here.

You know, I haven't had much people to
talk to. And my parents, they're just

always working all the time.

Okay.

So your friends that you have back where
you were living, you still keep in

touch with them?

Yeah, sometimes we talk.

Sometimes we call each other. But you
don't, like, in person?

No. No. Okay.

Not since I moved here.

Okay.

Well.

I'm going to just go ahead, just before
we get too much basic information here.

Why don't you tell me what exactly it is

that is frustrating to you right now?
Like, what is it that's the problem that

you're trying to get through?

Well, I feel like my parents, they've
been treating me like shit lately.

Okay. You know, like...

I feel like all my friends, they have it
way better than me. They're going to

better schools.

I have one girlfriend that's even going
to Harvard.

And my parents don't even encourage me
to go to schools like that. They don't

care about where I'm going.

They don't even bother to show up to
meetings that my teachers would have.

They wouldn't want to talk to them. They
didn't want to show up.

Just that I feel like they don't really
care about my life at all. You know like

I asked them to show up you know and
tell me oh or not tell me but just like

least support me in school and They're
just working so hard that they don't

notice like when I'm going what time I
come home So I just want to know what I

could do about that well, so

I think something you have to consider
is it's very difficult to be an adult

it comes with responsibilities, right?
You, young, you don't really have any

responsibilities. And so you kind of
think that just my initial thought is a

little, you know, comes with youth,
narcissism and the

sort of thought process that, well,
everybody should.

cater to everything that's going on in
your world, in your life.

And you need to realize that they have,
like you said, jobs. They work very

hard. If they weren't doing that, you
know, they're trying to provide for you.

You said you still live with them. I'm
guessing they pay for your meals and

sort of thing.

So you need to realize that they're
doing the best they can

and that not everything in their world
revolves around you.

They can still love you when everything
revolves around you. You know, they've

got a lot on their table.

So, I mean, your study, you said your
friend got into Harvard.

Yeah. Is that something you want to do?
Is that an ambition or a desire of yours

to be as?

school like that like an ivy school or
yeah i've always wanted to go to an ivy

league school ever since i started
freshman year of high school like i've

been wanting to go there and i even told
my parents like hey what would you guys

think if i went to harvard or yale or
stanford and they didn't even care

just like as long as you go to school
and then they drifted off the

are you a are you a good student did you
take your school seriously

Yeah, I take my school seriously. I
mean, I get good grades, but I go out

my girlfriends, like, almost every
weekend.

But that doesn't mean I'm not taking it
serious.

I mean, I have my own car, too.

You have your own car?

Yeah. Is that from your parents?

Yeah, and you would never guess. It's
super shitty.

It's old, and it's so, like, used up. It
sucks.

That's why I'm late all the time to
everywhere.

I'm late to school, which they don't
even care about.

Now I have a shitty car.

Right. Well, I think you'd be thankful
that your parents got you a car at all.

I'm guessing blaming your car on being
late to

school makes no sense. Is it breaking
down? If it was breaking down all the

time, I'm sure they'd get you a new car
or they would fix it.

You saying that you're late, really all
you're saying is that you're not making

school a top priority.

And you're blaming the car, and you're
blaming your parents for buying you the

car. Yeah, but it's like a 2019 Toyota
car, and it's 2021. They

need to get with the program. It's not
even funny. Like, that's so old.

Okay, well, listen, I'm not going to,
obviously we're not going to debate.

the status of your car or anything like
that. But just so you know, most

people in the world, a two -year -old
vehicle is not that old.

It's definitely not something that
should be upsetting you or upsetting

life.

If you need to get to school and you
need a car, like some people, I'm

you have friends. Do all your friends
have cars?

Yeah, they have, like, nice femurs, they
have nice families, everything like

that. It's like, why can't they just get
me something like that instead of this

old piece of trash?

Well, I don't think a car that's two
years old is a piece of trash.

2019.

Like I said, I'm seeing some, and this
obviously happens with younger people,

entitlement.

A sense that you're owed the best of
everything all the time, and

that's not realistic.

Your parents giving you a car at all is
a great thing. If they were buying you a

brand new car, you know, it's not
necessarily a realistic situation for,

know, the real world.

They're actually helping to prepare you
for what you're going to be facing,

which is obstacles and not always having
exactly...

everything you want at your fingertips
all the time. You have to learn

and you have to understand that work
comes along with

success and things that you want.

I mean, I guess that's true.

And then that's why I came in here,
because I just couldn't figure that out

myself. I think they're just treating me
like shit for, like, whatever reason

they have.

And do you feel, so you said you have
two siblings?

Yeah. So how do you feel like they treat
your siblings?

They're super nice with them. They give
them everything that they want, which is

what I don't get. Like if they want a
new car, like a brand new car, like a

newer car, like a 2021 car. Like my
sister just got a new car.

They would give that to her, no problem.
But when I ask for something, they're

super blown out by it.

I'm sorry, what's that? Super blown out
by it. Like they don't want to do it.

They don't want to do anything for me.

Well, I think that you need to realize
that

they're doing the best that they can.
And there are times when they're going

do things for, you know, a sibling that
may seem like they don't do that for

you, but that's part of psychologically
getting caught up in the moment and not

seeing the bigger picture.

And the bigger picture is things
probably...

You know, there have been a lot of
studies done. I did an entire thesis on

family psychology and this sort of
thing. And a lot of times,

everything is most of the time equal.

There's equal treatment. So if you are
thinking to yourself that it's not

that it's biased towards, you know,
siblings, then you're probably just.

dealing with, again, that ego, which is
just focusing on what's happening to you

and how is what's happening to that
person affecting me, right? And really,

does not actually affect you. What
happens to you affects you, but saying

happens to somebody else is affecting
you or affecting how you're viewing a

situation, again, that's one of the
reasons, one of the things we'll talk

through and through these sessions and
get through is you have to...

Put the ego aside.

Do you have a boyfriend or someone
you're seeing?

No, I'm actually single right now.

Okay. Yeah, my boyfriend and I broke up
like months ago, like five months ago.

Was that your decision or his?

It was more my decision because he was
super controlling.

Always control what I would wear, where
I would go, what I would do, who would I

would talk to, everything.

He would even want to check my phone.

And he was just so annoying, super
controlling.

And there was nothing you were doing. It
was basically all his doing.

No, I mean, no, it was just all him.

Like, honestly, I had no issues. I was
such a good girlfriend.

You know, like, I...

Never did any of that stuff to him. I
never was controlling him. I didn't give

fuck what he did, how he cared about
what I was doing.

Wasn't that so annoying?

Well, I think that he was showing a lot
of interest in you.

How long were you together?

We were together for about... maybe
about six

months.

Do you normally have short relationships
like that?

Yeah, they never go beyond a year.

And it's always them, like I'm telling
you.

It's always them. It's always their
fault?

Yeah, it's always their fault. I'm
always getting super controlled with

boyfriends. I just cannot deal with
them. It just never lasts more than a

So hopefully I can find someone last
more than a year.

Yeah.

What about your... You said you had
friends back in the town you had been

in.

What about their lives or in relation to
yours and your happiness?

Well, see, some of my friends get super
pissed off because they say, I never

have the time for them.

Like, I see them once a month or maybe
once every other month.

Isn't that enough? And they were like,
how come we can't go out for, like,

or for, like, something on the weekend?
Like, it always has to be on a day that

you're free and you're available.

And I'm like, well, because that's the
day I'm free and I'm available.

What's the issue?

Right? It's so dumb.

So, is it them always coming up to visit
you, or do you go over to them?

Oh, no. They live way too far now, so I
always have them come to me.

Okay. Yeah.

Okay. And they usually, like, get a
hotel for me.

Do you help with the cost of that, since
they're driving up?

No, I'll make food, but that's about it.

Yeah. Okay.

And do you...

Are you in any sort of music or
athletics or any sort of, do you do any

It was school?

Yeah, I was in a school band, and they
said I was doing everything wrong.

So I, like, flipped out on them and
said, you know what, I don't need to be

your stupid band.

I was in cheer.

They tried to get me from cheer to band.

They said I was too preppy for that.

Whatever.

And how long did you do that before you
quit?

What, cheer?

Yeah. Did it feel like... Well, and you
said you quit band as well, right? You

quit both things? Yeah, it only lasted a
day.

Oh, it was a day?

Okay. Yeah, because they said they just
couldn't handle my attitude, and I don't

know what attitude they were talking
about, so... Yeah, I was, like, the best

one they had. I put way more effort in a
day than any of those people did.

Okay. Well, I mean, it's a little hard
to find out if you're the best person in

one day.

I know I was.

Everybody was just staring at me like I
had some problem, and actually they were

jealous of me.

Oh, really?

Yeah.

And since you're not taking time with
athletics or band, do you have

a job?

I do, but they actually let me go really
recently, like a week ago.

Okay. I was actually working at a coffee
shop.

Okay.

And how long did you work there?

For a month.

Okay. Yeah, just for a month.

And you said they, why did you, let me
ask you, why did you want to, why did

apply to a coffee shop? Why did you want
that job?

I like their drinks a lot, so I feel
like on break I could, like, instead of

having to pay for it, like, I could just
get them for free.

Like, on my break. Okay.

And it worked out way better.

So, that's just something I wanted.
Plus, I wanted money.

Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

It really wasn't about anything but,
like, money and getting free drinks.

why did you need money to help with
paying the bills for your parents? Or,

know, why?

I have a lot of loans.

Like, credit loans. So, I wanted to pay
that off. I mean...

I had no idea what I was doing with my
credit cards, so I kind of maxed them

out, even though I'm still young. But I
don't know.

Yeah. Yeah.

So wait, but you don't work there
anymore?

I don't, no. What happened?

They let me go because I was eating on
my break, like all the food that they

had, and they were getting pissed off.
But you were eating their food, the food

they sell?

Yeah, like bakery items.

You didn't pay for them?

No, because I thought since I work
there, it's free.

Like, at least somewhat free.

And they didn't... No, they were like,
we have to let you go. This is like the

fourth time you're doing this.

And so I'm guessing they had warned you
before.

They warned me.

And why did you... Because I didn't take
them... I thought they were just

joking, like you can't have any or
something.

That's all I thought it was.

Yeah, they, like, still let me go
because they knew I was going to kill it

that job. I was way better than anybody
there.

So, wait, so they let you go because...
They knew I was going to kill it in that

job. They knew I was going to do so
well. I mean, I was the best one

so... I don't understand why they would
fire you if they thought you were the

best. Me either. I was the only one
doing way more than any other people

They just hated on me.

Just because you're... you and...

Because I'm so new, and I did so good,
and other people had to be there for

years and work to where I'm getting.

They saw that I was super successful in
the job, so.

Yeah, they just caught me eating, like,
off the bakery items, and that was,

like, the only way they wanted to let me
go. They're like, that's it. That's the

final straw.

So they used that as, like, an excuse.

They used that as an excuse to let me
go.

But it's only because they loved me.
That's it. They really thought I was

to do well.

Okay, so are you, have you applied to
have another job? Are you looking for

another?

Yeah, I was looking for like another
coffee shop job, see how that works.

See if they have like other policies
that I could work around with.

And people that probably don't hate on
me as much.

Okay. I really feel like ever since I
moved here.

Everybody hates me. Nobody likes me.
Nobody wants to get along with me.

I can't keep anything going on for,
like, longer than a day or two.

It's kind of annoying.

And you think that they, like, they have
it out for you?

Yeah, they do. Like, ever since I moved
here, they're like, fuck that new girl.

Like, we're going to ruin things for
her. We're going to make everything

shitty for her. And that's what I've
been feeling.

But, I don't know.

Why do you think that they're doing
that?

Because they're envious of me. They
just, like, hate that I'm super pretty.

hate that I'm super good at everything
that I do. So that's what I think it is.

I don't know what else their issue is.
What do you think?

Well, I mean, I don't... I can't imagine
an entire town hating on you. That

doesn't seem very plausible.

They do.

I mean, jobs that I barely just started
working in, people that I just met,

girls that I met in school, my parents
now are turning on me. It doesn't make

any sense. Like, why is this all
happening all at once towards me? Like,

moved here.

That's it.

Right, but I mean, you have been here a
year. It's not like, it's not like this

is a, I would say maybe if you've been
here a week and you were having these

emotions and feelings, possibly it would
be.

attributed to the new move and the, you
know, feeling uneasy about the new

environment. But thinking about this way
for like a year after you've lived here

kind of makes me think maybe it's
something more to do with you and the

view yourself and the way you view the
situation.

No, I really feel like people are out to
get me.

Like they don't like me here in this
town. They want me to go back to my

hometown.

They're so done with me.

Yeah, it's only been a year, right? So
it doesn't make any sense that they

go after me.

I don't understand.

Yeah. That's why I came here.

So, I mean, what are your solutions
here? You've just been sitting here

at me and just kind of agreeing with
everything I'm doing.

Well, I'm just allowing you time to
talk. Normally with sessions, that's

that patients need to do is to vent and
talk and work through their problems.

I can't.

No, I feel like you really don't believe
me on anything I'm saying. You probably

agree with these people. Like this
girl's a nut job or something.

That's how you're looking at me as. No,
no, no, no, not at all.

So I do have something that I think
specifically as I listen to you talk and

describe your situation, I have a
method.

That's an exercise that I think you
would definitely benefit from. I think

it's something that is untraditional in
method, but I

think that it is something that would
definitely benefit you.

But how are you certain that this is
going to benefit you? Oh, I'm not

but I'm confident.

I'm confident with your situation and
your...

attitude and your mannerisms and what
you're telling me that this particular

exercise is something that we should
give it a try today.

I do think we should try it today. I
don't think we should wait until the

session.

But it's something where you're going to
feel uncomfortable.

You're going to feel a little uneasy, a
little...

Those sort of feelings. But that's
something that is one of your problems.

just can't see it.

And so if we work through getting past
that with this exercise, then that will

help you significantly.

So, I mean, are you sure this is the
right situation for this? I mean, I

feel uncomfortable.

Well, this is the right exercise for
you. There's really no doubt about

that. But I need you to commit to it
because you're going to feel

and you're not going to want to continue
with things just like you do in life

when you're quitting everything,
boyfriends or your jobs or band or

But I need you to commit before we start
that when things do get uncomfortable,

you're going to power through this
exercise.

You know, it's just one hour, you know,
in this room that we have where we're

talking. I need you to just commit for
that short amount of time.

And not turn back or run from the
situation.

I mean, I guess.

Well, I don't want to say I guess. It's
a yes or no. Are you committed to it or

not? Do you want to get better? Do you
want to get past your situation or not?

do, yes.

Okay. I'm committed to this.

Okay, why don't you stand up for me?

Just relax.

Just close your eyes.

Let me move over here a little bit, just
so I can be right there.

Is it parted? Yes, we've already begun.

Do you need to be touching me like this?

Yes, I do actually, because a lot of
your attention is in your unease with

yourself, whether you realize it or not.

Relax your hands.

Keep your eyes closed.

Just relax.

You are very attractive.

I need

you to be quiet.

And just go with it. You said you were
going to be committed.

Can you share it with us?

Yes, I know exactly what I'm doing.

Interesting that you're not wearing your
hands there. I usually never do.

All right.

I'm not done.

I should just sit here.

Sit down.

Are you committed?

Yeah. Getting better?

A little bit.

I want you to take this off from me.

All the way up?

Way up.

Would you go ahead and lie back on that
couch?

Unclutch your legs.

Like this?

Mm -hmm.

And be comfortable with who you are.

You need to stop running and quitting
everything.

Okay.

Tell me if the situation gets close to
you, you run away.

You think so?

I don't know.

You just told me the case.

I'm just laying back like this. That's
good.

Are you

sure

I can touch this?

Okay.

Stand up.

Would you go ahead and take that top
off?

Nice and slow, just like that.

Okay.

Everything you're doing, like you're
doing quickly.

Get through to the next thing.

Like that. Good.

It's really helping me too.

I need you to admit that sometimes
you're bad.

You think so?

I need you to admit it.

I need you to say it.

I am pretty bad. I'm not going to lie to
you.

I'm pretty naughty.

Yeah? Yeah.

I get really dirty sometimes.

Just like that.

A

lot

of pre -cum coming out.

Let's just keep pressing ahead of that
clot.

You're getting really hard.

Yeah.

Do you like doing that? I do.

What do you find? It's just a bit all
over your cock.

Did I say you could do that?

No.

But you kind of want to. Is that okay?

What do you want to do?

Suck your cock.

Mmm.

Look at me.

Just say you're bad again.

No, say you're bad.

I'm super bad.

I'm bad bad.

Or pictures.

Yeah.

Like this one?

Mm -hmm. I love hearing that on your
cock.

Is that from the hard cock?

Yeah. Just this rock hard cock.

Is that from Moe?

Yeah, just like that. Yeah, just like
that.

Your doll's just fucking slapping my
hand.

Nice and hard.

Thank you.

so you don't have to rush anything,
right?

Okay. Yeah, you're right.

There you go.

Are you bad?

Yeah, I'm really bad.

Say it again.

I'm super bad.

Say it again. I'm so bad.

Such a bad girl.

I'm going to make this fix it. Yeah.

Oh, fuck it.

Bye.

Yes, you do.

I don't care.

it for you

You've got to get me to come.

Very good for a session.

Very well.

I'll see you back here next week.

Yeah.

Can't wait.

Now in between today and next week, I
want you to be nice to people.

Give people a chance.

Be open to being wrong.

Okay. I'll do that.

Go ahead and grab your stuff because
there's a bathroom in the hallway.

Okay.

And talk to Betty about booking you next
session.

Okay.