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NARRATOR: Previously...
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I want to go put my dad hat on
and I would like to leave.
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..Chris wanted to leave
the experiment...
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SAM: Stay.
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..before the experts gave
some sound advice
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for the pair to turn it around.
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But with awareness can come change.
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Treat each other in a friendly way.
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And then, all around Australia,
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Homestays Week saw our couples take
what they've learnt in the experimen
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into the outside world.
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RACHEL: Passenger Princess!
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A successful visit to his home town
saw Steven give Rachel reassurance
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for their future.
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I have caught up
in my feelings for you.
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I can see myself falling in love
with you one day.
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It really reaffirms
the feelings are real,
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the feelings are mutual.
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(LAUGHS)
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You've always told me, like,
"Don't come here to Sydney for me."
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Well, deal with it.
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Filip confirmed he would move
from Melbourne
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to live with Stella in Sydney.
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This is it. Like...
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STELLA: We are coming out
stronger than we came in.
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GIA: Be better if that wasn't there.
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My house is way cleaner.
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I couldn't live here.
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It was a tense few days at
Scott's home on the Gold Coast.
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What's that?
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Why is it pink?
Is it your ex's or something?
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Makes me feel like
she doesn't trust me.
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You're in an experiment right now
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and you can't even voice
how you feel.
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Scott finally asked Gia the hard
questions about their relationship.
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Do you, like, fully, 100% trust me?
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Do you know what I mean?
Yes, Scott.
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No, no, what I'm saying is, like...
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I didn't know you wanted
to argue today.
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Tonight...
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RACHEL: Yay!
STEVEN: So good.
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..homestays continues.
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ALISSA: Welcome home!
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You should be able to say something
nice and be genuine about it.
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BEC: Pisses me off.
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What comment has Danny made
that leaves Bec seeing red?
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I'm done.
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In Adelaide...
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The biological clock is ticking.
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You want to have a family and you
don't want to keep putting it off.
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..Alissa's mum shares words of wisdo
from her own life experience.
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It's really stressful now.
There's a lot on the line.
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DAVID: Alissa is spiralling.
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Could this be the most awkward
homestay ever...
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(COW MOOS)
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..as things for Chris and Sam
go from bad...
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"Do you accept full responsibility
for your defensiveness
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"and the aggression I felt from you
last week?"
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..to worse?
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Um...
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(COW MOOS)
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With destinations far and wide,
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our remaining couples
are on their way to homestays,
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where they will road-test life
together outside the experiment.
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We're here. We are here.
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The homestays have always been
an essential part
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of the Married at First Sight
experiment.
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We've just landed.
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I'm so excited to show David
around my home town!
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As our couples get a taste of their
partner's natural environment,
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questions will arise.
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This is their chance
to get to those answers
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before they head
to their final vows.
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Brisbane-based David and wife Alissa
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are arriving in her home town
of Adelaide...
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Can't believe I'm finally here,
babe.
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Oh, look.
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..and for the nurse
and social media businesswoman,
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the return to home turf is being met
with a very special greeting.
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Look. Look who it is.
Look who it is.
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Oh, my... That is nuts.
Look who it is.
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It's me.
Wow.
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That's me.
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DAVID: Yeah, well, the pressure of
this homestay has just doubled.
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I didn't realise how big of a deal
Alissa was
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until I saw a massive poster
with her face on it.
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I was stunned and I'm still trying
to take it all in.
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Like, are we going to walk down
the street and get mobbed
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by a group of teen girls
wanting to get Alissa's autograph?
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Like, I feel like I'm with
a celebrity in Adelaide.
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This is where I live.
Is that it?
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Yeah, this is it here.
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ALISSA: I am Queen Adelaide.
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I live a very busy life, from
nursing to all my client meetings,
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campaigns, deliverables.
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Welcome home!
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Wow, look at this.
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I'm so excited to be able to bring
my husband here...
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OK, here's our bedroom.
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..and for him to be able to get
a taste of, you know, my life.
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Massive couch.
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I don't even know where to sit.
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It's bigger than our apartment
in Sydney.
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Lots of room for extra kids.
(LAUGHS)
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I'm excited to show you around.
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I'm excited to go around too.
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Tell me more about
this huge billboard.
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I was literally stunned.
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I was, like, "Is that my wife,
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"literally the face
of Adelaide Airport?"
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Yeah.
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Do you know what,
that was a campaign I did
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like, three years ago,
with this big king-sized bed
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that we wheeled around
on the tarmac
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and it was just me modelling
on this bed by a plane.
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And it was just such a fun campaign.
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You know, that's only
just one thing that I've done
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and, you know,
a part of, like, my career.
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Seeing that at the airport,
it was just like a wild moment.
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But despite Alissa's clear connectio
to her home town,
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the couple has no plans
to move here after the experiment.
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I know Alissa is very close
to her mum.
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She's got her family here, her
businesses and everything she does.
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But me and Alissa spoke
during feedback week
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of living in Sydney for a few years
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before we ultimately move
to Adelaide to start a family.
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I am a big city boy, so I feel
way better about the Sydney idea.
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I'm from Brisbane,
so we kind of meet in the middle,
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but right now our relationship is
hanging on the fact that, you know,
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Alissa ultimately wants to
raise a family in Adelaide.
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And, you know, if I can't see myself
being here,
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there's no point leaving everything
I've built in Brisbane
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to go on this journey to Sydney
and then to Adelaide.
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Yeah, you have to get on one knee.
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When they met at the altar...
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We're not doing the vows
until...until I get down?
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..Alissa and David found themselves
in an unexpected stand-off.
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You know, I gotta, you know...
We'll see.
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But after an intense battle of wills
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it was David who caved to pressure
to give his wife what she wanted.
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(CHEERING AND APPLAUSE)
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ALISSA: Are you nervous for
the experiment to end, babe?
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I mean, look,
I definitely don't take it lightly.
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Now the plan for the Brisbane-based
groom to relocate first to Sydney,
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then to Adelaide to raise a family
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is proving another
uncomfortable test.
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DAVID: Figuring out where to live,
it's not easy.
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Brisbane is definitely not
on the cards for Alissa.
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She said no, you know.
And I mean, it is a sacrifice.
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My family and my friends
and everything I've built
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is in Queensland, you know.
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I hope that, yeah, you can see...
potentially see yourself here,
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you know, and if you can't, then,
yeah, that's just something
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that we're gonna have to navigate.
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I don't know, I hope that you
just enjoy it, because...
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Yeah.
..long term, you know, I just...
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I want to have a family
and that is, you know...
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I want to be back here with my mum.
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ALISSA: It is... It's a huge deal.
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If David can't fit his life
within my life,
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like, that's going to cause
troubles.
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Also in Adelaide...
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BEC: Oh!
DANNY: Oh, god.
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I'm stuck.
Are you OK?
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..Bec and Danny's homestay is
already facing its first major test,
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as the Melbourne-based husband
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prepares to meet
his wife's other great love.
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Are you ready to meet Coco?
Where is she?
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Everything I do in life is for Coco.
She's my daughter.
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She's my child. She is the most
important thing to me.
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So if they don't get along...
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She's right here.
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..that'll be a huge spanner
in the works for me.
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I need them to love each other.
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Hi! Come here!
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There's Daniel!
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You want to say hello to me? Oh...
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That's Daniel!
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Hi.
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Oh, you're gorgeous, aren't you?
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She's trying to make her mind up.
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Oh, is that kisses?
Oh, that's very nice.
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Oh! Yay!
That's very nice!
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Give me a cuddle! Give me a cuddle!
I got a kiss.
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I'm not joking, she's just not
like that with men, ever.
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Hello.
It's a really, really good start.
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Like, I could not have asked for it
to go any better.
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Look at this place.
This is my living room.
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Comfiest couch. Sit on the couch.
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The comfiest in the world.
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It's such a good feeling just to see
the love that Danny has for Coco.
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Is that nice?
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This is my garden, boo.
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This is so nice.
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Now he will hopefully fall in love
with the idea
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of what his life
could look like here.
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This is my bedroom.
Jesus. The size of this room.
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(LAUGHS)
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Listen, this is a nice bedroom,
isn't it?
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It feels good being in Bec's home.
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She just seems softer, more relaxed.
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Obviously, some of the experiment,
there's been a bit of drama
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and stuff like that,
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whereas seeing Bec in her own home,
she's very peaceful.
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It's nice to see Bec like that.
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You like that I buy my bed sheets
to match my dog's colour,
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the aesthetic of it?
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I really do want Danny
to like Adelaide.
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She loves a chest rub, don't you?
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This really is the time
where we're going to decide
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where we're going to live
after the experiment ends.
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Daniel's been really vocal
in telling me
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that he wants to come and move
here, because my family is here,
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you know, I've got a big house,
and, you know, with the dog
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and stuff like that.
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Feel comfy here, boo?
Yeah, I feel very relaxed.
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I can picture him being here.
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I can't picture my life
without him now.
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It's really scary to say,
to be honest with you,
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but I can't imagine a world
where he and I aren't together.
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I told you I was going to go
find you a daddy. (LAUGHS)
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Thanks for the kiss.
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As homestays gets off to
a positive start in Adelaide,
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Sam and Chris are heading to Chris's
southern New South Wales farm...
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in silence.
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In the city, I run a very successful
PT business.
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Are they my vows?
I know, right? I know.
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In the beginning, Sam and Chris's
uncanny compatibility
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set the course for steady growth
in their relationship.
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You've just, like, made a decision
on how this is going...
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No... Actually, no, that's not true.
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But in the past week,
a disagreement about future plans
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proved impossible to resolve.
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It wasn't the first time
I've witnessed you shutting me down,
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but it's the first time
that I've spoken up about it.
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I am genuinely sorry
that I hurt your feelings.
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I did not want to put pressure
on you.
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Why are you laughing?
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Because I asked you to do this
this morning...
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I'm doing it again.
I'm doing it right now.
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A communication style has
contributed to the real crisis
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that you're in now.
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After an intense commitment ceremony
Chris came to an abrupt decision.
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I've actually decided that I need
and I want to go put my dad hat on
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and I would like to leave.
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Now, with both husbands required
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to stay in the experiment
for one more week,
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their issues remain
as unresolved as ever.
249
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(REFLECTIVE MUSIC)
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SAM: Uh, yeah.
Like, it's a bit awkward in the car.
251
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(REFLECTIVE MUSIC CONTINUES)
252
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CHRIS: How are you feeling
about going to the farm? Like...
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I'm excited to see the animals.
254
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Yeah, cool.
Yeah.
255
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SAM: This is the last way I thought
we'd be going into homestays.
256
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I mean, Chris and I, you know,
we had a pretty smooth sailing
257
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the first few weeks
258
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and then all of a sudden
we had one speed bump
259
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and a week later he wrote 'leave'.
260
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And having him show me that
he's done with the experiment
261
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kind of was a kick in the guts.
262
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Have you reflected much on, like,
what the experts said and stuff?
263
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Of course. Yeah.
Yeah.
264
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Yep.
Yeah, nice.
265
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(CLEARS THROAT)
266
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The energy between us is awkward.
267
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(TENSE MUSIC)
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CHRIS: Obviously, I understand
there was a lot of shit
269
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that went down last week.
270
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I had to apologise
five times in total
271
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after our first little fight.
272
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But that's OK.
I'm still here in the experiment.
273
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I took it on the chin
274
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and I've realised that I need to
make some growth.
275
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But, yeah, let's have some fun
the next couple of days.
276
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It's been a bit heavy,
you know what I mean?
277
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But it's one of those things
that is going to be a process.
278
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I need us to not dwell on the past.
279
00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:03,120
You know, I've been pummelled
enough for it.
280
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Probably do need to have some
tough conversations at some point,
281
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um...you know, just about
everything the experts said.
282
00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:10,400
Mm-hm.
283
00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:15,080
CHRIS: So, yeah, hopefully we can
move forward through homestays
284
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and see if we can try and change
the energy
285
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and go down a positive route, yeah.
286
00:14:20,800 --> 00:14:23,560
And now, having arrived
at Chris's farm
287
00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:25,640
in the Southern Highlands
of New South Wales...
288
00:14:25,760 --> 00:14:27,640
(COW MOOS)
(TENSE MUSIC)
289
00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:30,800
..the energy is still
anything but positive.
290
00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:35,560
(CAR DOOR CLOSES)
291
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CHRIS: The car ride
was super awkward.
292
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I said to Sam that I just want to
try and have some fun
293
00:14:41,160 --> 00:14:42,760
over the next couple of days.
294
00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:51,400
But he did mention that he wants
to have some tough conversations
295
00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:53,160
about my couch session.
296
00:14:53,280 --> 00:14:56,480
So, yeah, it's not...it's not great.
297
00:14:56,600 --> 00:14:59,520
(TENSE MUSIC)
298
00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:06,360
Alright, I'll give you the tour.
299
00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:08,240
Um, there's a bathroom in there.
300
00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:09,640
Nice.
301
00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:14,440
Yeah.
302
00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:18,880
Oh, look, I just...
303
00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:22,200
Just not in the best space,
obviously.
304
00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:24,480
And this is the second room.
305
00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:25,840
Oh, yes. Bunk beds.
Yeah.
306
00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:27,080
Nice.
307
00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:39,280
SAM: Yeah. It looks like
we are not sharing a bed.
308
00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:41,160
You know, you could tell
he didn't want to do that.
309
00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:42,560
CHRIS: Main room's in here...
310
00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:45,040
SAM: So, yeah,
I'll be in the spare room.
311
00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:47,760
..yeah, which is good.
312
00:15:49,240 --> 00:15:50,280
Nice.
313
00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:51,600
Yeah.
314
00:15:52,920 --> 00:15:54,360
Great.
Yeah.
315
00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:58,040
I said in the car that I want to
have some big conversations
316
00:15:58,160 --> 00:16:00,560
and he didn't seem down
for the idea
317
00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:02,880
and was, like, he just wanted to
have fun this weekend.
318
00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:05,520
These flowers are for you.
319
00:16:05,640 --> 00:16:07,880
And a little
welcome to the farm card.
320
00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:09,280
Wow.
321
00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:11,920
But then I saw some flowers
and a thankyou card sitting there
322
00:16:12,040 --> 00:16:13,280
and I just had a glimmer of hope.
323
00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:16,440
This is why
he hasn't said anything yet.
324
00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:17,880
He's written it all
into this card...
325
00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:21,880
because he tells me...
told me he's reflected a lot
326
00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:23,080
over the last few days.
327
00:16:26,840 --> 00:16:28,800
But it just said,
"Welcome to the farm. Sam."
328
00:16:28,920 --> 00:16:32,120
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
329
00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:36,040
What do you want to do first?
330
00:16:38,160 --> 00:16:39,960
See that land over there?
Yeah.
331
00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:42,880
That's where the cows usually are.
332
00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:45,480
Yeah.
333
00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:46,640
Look, Chris wrote 'leave',
334
00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:48,760
but I think he kind of wants to
sweep it under the rug...
335
00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:51,120
Whatever you have planned.
This is your place.
336
00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:52,200
Yeah.
337
00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:54,680
..and I can't just float through
this weekend and be, like,
338
00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:56,880
"Everything's fine" when it's not.
339
00:16:57,000 --> 00:16:59,280
I'll introduce you to the cows
and the horses and then...
340
00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:00,400
Yeah, let's do that.
341
00:17:00,520 --> 00:17:01,960
..yeah, we can just go
for a bit of adventure.
342
00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:03,040
Cool.
343
00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:04,440
I need to see him be like
"I did... (BLEEP)"
344
00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:06,560
and I need to see him, like,
suck up to me a bit.
345
00:17:06,680 --> 00:17:07,880
Alrighty.
346
00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:14,680
Instead, it was, like,
"Anyway, come see my cows."
347
00:17:14,800 --> 00:17:15,880
Like...
348
00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:19,600
(COW MOOS)
349
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DANNY: Jesus,
the size of this place!
350
00:17:25,360 --> 00:17:28,720
BEC: Can I come in?
It's like a mansion in here.
351
00:17:28,840 --> 00:17:30,960
How are you? Good to see you.
Good to see you.
352
00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:32,920
NARRATOR: In Adelaide,
353
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Bec has brought husband Danny to mee
Aunty Helena and cousin Danielle...
354
00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:39,280
Hello. Lovely to meet you.
Hi. Lovely to meet you.
355
00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:41,120
You too.
Champion. How are you, mate?
356
00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:42,440
How are you?
You good?
357
00:17:42,560 --> 00:17:46,640
..along with dad Lee
for a family get-together over lunch
358
00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:48,400
He's never met my cousin Danielle
before.
359
00:17:48,520 --> 00:17:51,440
She's a little bit older than me,
but we've grown up together.
360
00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:54,200
Thanks so much.
There you go.
361
00:17:54,320 --> 00:17:55,720
We treat each other like sisters.
362
00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:57,400
Cheers, Danny.
Cheers.
363
00:17:57,520 --> 00:17:58,960
Nice to meet you.
You too.
364
00:17:59,080 --> 00:18:00,280
Cheers.
Cheers.
365
00:18:00,400 --> 00:18:03,840
It's one of the most crucial things
for me
366
00:18:03,960 --> 00:18:06,880
that my family like, love,
accept Danny.
367
00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:08,360
Let's sit down.
368
00:18:08,480 --> 00:18:12,360
But I know that Dad
and Aunty Helena liked him already.
369
00:18:12,480 --> 00:18:14,360
When Bec's family last met Danny,
370
00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:20,400
the relationship was in crisis
over an allegation made by Gia.
371
00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:23,160
One of the other brides here
372
00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:25,920
said that she asked Daniel
"What is your type?"
373
00:18:26,040 --> 00:18:28,520
and he said, "Someone like you,
that looks like you."
374
00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:30,040
FAMILY MEMBERS: Oh!
375
00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:32,400
It didn't happen?
Never happened.
376
00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:34,720
But after accepting Danny's word
on the matter,
377
00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:37,480
dad Lee came to
his son-in-law's support
378
00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:42,320
over concerns about Bec's outbursts
during the crisis.
379
00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:44,280
I did have a chat with Bec and say,
380
00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:46,240
"You're swearing"
and things like that.
381
00:18:46,360 --> 00:18:47,640
Yeah. Good.
382
00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:50,080
"I feel it's a bad reflection
of you."
383
00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:53,240
Remember that those words
aren't necessary.
384
00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:58,720
Last time I saw my family,
I said to Dad,
385
00:18:58,840 --> 00:19:00,240
"I'm just not too sure
if Danny's into me."
386
00:19:00,360 --> 00:19:02,080
DANNY: Where's everyone sitting?
387
00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:04,280
I know Danny was worried
about my behaviour.
388
00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:06,560
I'll sit at the end.
You two sit here.
389
00:19:06,680 --> 00:19:07,920
You're the head of the table.
390
00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:10,360
But ever since that moment,
we've just come leaps and bounds.
391
00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:13,960
We've sort of gone through
so much together
392
00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:18,000
that I actually have zero worries
or doubts in my mind at all now.
393
00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:22,040
DANIELLE: So, Danny, how do you
feel about Adelaide?
394
00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:24,280
I actually really like Adelaide,
to be honest.
395
00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:25,960
Yeah?
Yeah, it's been nice so far.
396
00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,160
This is the first time
I've ever been to Adelaide.
397
00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:30,600
It's only been, how long,
just over 24 hours.
398
00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:33,120
Yeah. Just over 24 hours.
399
00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:35,280
But so far, so good.
HELENA: First time?
400
00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:36,680
First time, yeah.
LEE: You've never been?
401
00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:38,240
Never been to Adelaide before.
402
00:19:38,360 --> 00:19:40,240
Bec gave me a tour of the city
and stuff,
403
00:19:40,360 --> 00:19:41,880
but I like Adelaide,
yeah, it's nice.
404
00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:45,160
Could you see yourself living here?
405
00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:46,800
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
406
00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:50,600
I could, yeah. I'd say so, yeah.
407
00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:52,400
(TENSE MUSIC)
408
00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:53,720
We've kind of talked about it
409
00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:57,280
and Daniel says
that because my family is here
410
00:19:57,400 --> 00:20:01,000
and my friends are here and stuff,
411
00:20:01,120 --> 00:20:04,240
that it would make most sense
for him to move here.
412
00:20:04,360 --> 00:20:08,240
HELENA: Big change.
Is it, though?
413
00:20:08,360 --> 00:20:09,960
I don't know.
All your friends in Melbourne.
414
00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:12,480
And I've got my mates,
but I can always fly back.
415
00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:14,000
It's only... How long's the flight?
416
00:20:14,120 --> 00:20:16,000
Less than an hour.
Yeah, it's nothing.
417
00:20:16,120 --> 00:20:19,560
Less than an hour. It doesn't
really sit well with me.
418
00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:22,000
Like, imagine if I was to say to Bec
"Come to Melbourne"
419
00:20:22,120 --> 00:20:24,880
and she leaves her whole family
and her life,
420
00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:27,440
where I've not got family
in Melbourne...
421
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:28,880
Yeah.
..do you know what I mean?
422
00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:31,360
So...
You do have family. They're here.
423
00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,200
Absolutely.
He's definitely moving to Adelaide.
424
00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:37,320
Very important.
425
00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:40,480
We have a big family
and we have a great time,
426
00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:42,920
so there's no way
she's moving to Melbourne.
427
00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:45,320
He's definitely moving here
if they're going to work out.
428
00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:47,840
We've talked about long distance
429
00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:49,720
and it's not really an option,
is it?
430
00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:52,160
I'd never do long distance,
to be honest with you.
431
00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:55,320
Not for... I don't see the point.
No, I tend to agree.
432
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:58,280
You know, like, it's not really
something I'd want to do.
433
00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,640
At the commitment ceremony,
I told him I loved him.
434
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:06,040
Right.
Dad's dying.
435
00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:07,520
Right.
(LAUGHS)
436
00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:08,480
Yeah. That's OK.
437
00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:11,280
And now he calls himself
Black Caviar. Do you know why?
438
00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:12,240
No.
439
00:21:12,360 --> 00:21:14,240
Because every single woman
he's ever been with
440
00:21:14,360 --> 00:21:16,960
has told him
that they love him first
441
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:18,160
and that's like Black Caviar.
442
00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:20,440
Never missed.
Never lost a race.
443
00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:23,480
No, but it was...
(LAUGHTER)
444
00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:27,760
25 Group One wins in a row.
(LAUGHTER)
445
00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:30,680
It's a nice horse, though, isn't it?
446
00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:33,480
(LAUGHTER)
447
00:21:33,600 --> 00:21:37,280
And then...
Danny doesn't love me back.
448
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,560
(TENSE MUSIC)
449
00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:41,840
Yeah, well, I'm not gonna sit there
and lie.
450
00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:44,800
I'm not in love with Bec yet.
451
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:48,640
You can't say to someone
you love them if you don't.
452
00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:50,200
Yeah...
I think that's very rude...
453
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:51,960
and not a good thing to do.
454
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,880
(TENSE MUSIC)
455
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,000
Danny, let's go, boy.
(LAUGHTER)
456
00:21:57,120 --> 00:22:01,440
Come out here, son.
(LAUGHTER)
457
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:03,800
Here we go.
Are we going for a drink, Lee?
458
00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:05,800
Come out, 'cause it's not that far
for me to fall.
459
00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:08,440
(LAUGHS) Yeah.
460
00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:10,120
Honestly... I'll be honest.
I hope it works.
461
00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:13,120
She's a great girl.
She's a good girl, yeah.
462
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:14,320
Yeah, she's lovely.
463
00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:16,200
She's a bloody good wife,
to be honest with you.
464
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:18,120
She's a... She dotes on me.
465
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:20,040
Well, a couple of weeks ago,
466
00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:22,200
she's like,
"What's your favourite pie?"
467
00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:24,280
I said, oh, "I love
a chicken and mushroom pie."
468
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:27,080
The next day she's made it
and, like, she's...
469
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:28,800
She dotes on me, like, almost...
470
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:31,000
Sometimes it's almost too much,
to be honest with you.
471
00:22:31,120 --> 00:22:32,480
(LAUGHS)
472
00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:38,880
You told Danny that you loved him.
Oh, here we go. Yeah.
473
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:42,040
And Danny didn't say it back.
Yes.
474
00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:44,960
How do you feel about that?
I'm OK with it.
475
00:22:46,360 --> 00:22:48,080
We had a...
I'm OK with it.
476
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:50,720
I'm OK with it.
477
00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:53,920
He shows me that he loves me
in so many different ways.
478
00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:58,200
Did I tell you that he asked me to
be his girlfriend the other day?
479
00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:02,240
It's like...it was just
that little level of security.
480
00:23:02,360 --> 00:23:04,960
BEC: Danny asking me
to be his girlfriend,
481
00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:06,360
it's really important.
482
00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:10,560
Is it important to you or not?
Not that important.
483
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,320
'Cause it, like, in the experiment,
it means you're really, like...
484
00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:15,320
This is really, really serious.
485
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:18,880
What inspired you to ask Bec
that question?
486
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:20,760
Uh, I'm trying to think...
487
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:24,720
He is so attentive.
488
00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:27,720
All my previous partners have
said I've been really hard
489
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:29,720
to, like, live with and deal with.
490
00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:30,920
Not at all.
Not him.
491
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,720
You know, sometimes you do get
to the back of your mind.
492
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:35,640
"Shit, is he genuine?"
493
00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:39,000
Not anymore. I don't think that
anymore. But I was.
494
00:23:39,120 --> 00:23:42,520
It's very hard to go into this
and think "Is he genuine?"
495
00:23:44,360 --> 00:23:46,600
Yeah.
But I know the type of person he is.
496
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:48,840
And he would not be here
right now if he wasn't.
497
00:23:52,360 --> 00:23:55,880
Look, I think
she probably likes him more.
498
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:59,080
But he's charismatic, he's warm.
499
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:01,160
He likes to have a good time.
500
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:06,520
We're a family of, you know,
fun, warmth and closeness.
501
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:08,600
He seems to bring
all those elements.
502
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:10,120
We like him, right?
503
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:11,920
Yeah, he seems lovely.
504
00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,560
It's the first time I've met him
and I really like him.
505
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,280
Of course Danny's charmed them.
506
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:20,040
He's chucked on
his maroon dinner jacket
507
00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:24,200
and popped his Black Caviar brooch
on and he's on his way.
508
00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:28,280
I would love him and his friends
to be in our family.
509
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:29,520
I would too.
510
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:31,200
He's one of them already.
511
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,120
Like, I didn't think
that I could feel stronger,
512
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:36,800
but now it's like... "Oh. no.
513
00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:39,960
"Like, I really, really,
really, really want this."
514
00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:41,480
And I think he wants it too.
515
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:43,560
I don't know,
I just feel like this is it.
516
00:24:50,120 --> 00:24:54,520
Also in Adelaide, Alissa is bringing
David to mum Belinda's
517
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:56,840
and the home where she grew up.
518
00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:58,520
ALISSA: Hello.
DAVID: Hello.
519
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:00,560
(LAUGHS)
520
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,560
Despite being close,
521
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:05,640
it's the first time Belinda's seen
Alissa since the wedding.
522
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:07,520
Good to see you.
Nice to see you.
523
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,520
Hi, Belinda. Good to see you again.
524
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:12,800
Aw! Thank you for having me
at your home.
525
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:14,240
I'm looking forward
to having an opportunity
526
00:25:14,360 --> 00:25:18,840
to speak to Alissa and David about
how their relationship is going
527
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:22,160
and what tomorrow might look like...
528
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:23,480
Oh, babe, do you want to get
the platter?
529
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:24,480
Yeah, of course.
530
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:26,240
..because it's all coming to an end
531
00:25:26,360 --> 00:25:32,360
and I would be very disappointed
to not have my daughter here.
532
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,600
Honestly, I'm so, like, glad
we can catch up again,
533
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:37,240
because on the wedding day...
Yeah, I know.
534
00:25:37,360 --> 00:25:39,600
We didn't get a chance to chat.
Yeah.
535
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,600
The wedding. Oh, my gosh.
536
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,840
I couldn't believe that you both
were at a stand-off.
537
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:48,720
ALISSA: I'm a shit-stirrer.
I'm just reckless.
538
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:50,920
(LAUGHS)
539
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:53,080
I couldn't believe
she was digging her heels in
540
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:54,400
and that
you were digging your heels in.
541
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:57,360
(DAVID LAUGHS)
What was going through your mind?
542
00:25:57,480 --> 00:26:00,560
Oh, honestly, when she told me
to get down on a knee,
543
00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:01,920
I didn't want to do it
544
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:03,920
'cause I didn't want to show her
that I was a pushover...
545
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:05,080
Yeah.
..on the first day.
546
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:05,920
Yeah.
547
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:07,600
So, yeah, I was, like,
"No, surely she's joking."
548
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:09,840
And then I looked at her
and she wasn't flinching.
549
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:11,400
No. She... I couldn't believe it.
550
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,760
I love her dearly, but she can be
too much for me.
551
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:15,960
(LAUGHS)
552
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:19,800
I'm happy to admit that I'm now
my husband's pain in the arse.
553
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:21,000
(LAUGHS)
554
00:26:21,120 --> 00:26:22,760
You know, he's having to put up
with me now.
555
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:24,400
(DAVID LAUGHS)
(BRIGHT MUSIC)
556
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:26,760
It's actually amazing to be here.
557
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,160
I get a good vibe from Alissa's mum,
558
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,320
which is very important to me
because family is important.
559
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:36,240
Is she too much?
I don't think she is too much.
560
00:26:36,360 --> 00:26:41,440
I think she is... For me, It feels
like someone that, you know...
561
00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:44,240
that I can see so much potential in,
you know.
562
00:26:44,360 --> 00:26:48,240
I know she has her hard days,
but that's why I've got two hands,
563
00:26:48,360 --> 00:26:49,960
so I can carry her on those days.
564
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,480
And I feel like the fact
that we're still here,
565
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,400
it just...it's a testimony
to the connection we have.
566
00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:57,440
We have been through a lot.
Yeah.
567
00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:59,080
But, yeah, I am excited
for the future.
568
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,560
But it's scary too.
I am 33 years old.
569
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,680
Obviously I want to settle down
in Adelaide, but...
570
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:07,240
What are your thoughts
about me moving to Sydney
571
00:27:07,360 --> 00:27:09,800
just for a couple of years?
572
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,520
I would hate that.
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
573
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:19,440
There you go. You asked, I said.
574
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,720
(TENSE MUSIC)
575
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:26,120
Yes, I have concerns
576
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:31,600
about having a plan to...
to move for a year or two.
577
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:35,200
You know, that has its risks.
578
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:39,960
I worry about the fact that,
you know, you want to have a family
579
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:43,320
and you don't want to keep
putting it off.
580
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:48,680
You know, the goal is to find
a forever partner
581
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:51,200
and one day have a family.
582
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:55,800
Unfortunately, the biological clock
is ticking
583
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,040
and we can't wait forever.
584
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:03,480
A couple of years, you can say
just a couple of years
585
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:05,360
and the next thing you know,
it's five.
586
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:09,440
I like David. He seems really nice.
He's very respectful.
587
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,960
But we don't want to be
wasting time.
588
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,760
We don't want to be playing games
589
00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:21,640
because that could possibly...
take away the opportunities you have
590
00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:23,680
of having a family one day.
591
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:28,960
Coming up...
592
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:30,640
People sometimes take ten years
to fall pregnant.
593
00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:32,440
That's the truth.
Yeah, I know.
594
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:34,520
..Alissa's mum doubles down.
595
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:37,240
I just feel torn
and pulled and pushed.
596
00:28:37,360 --> 00:28:39,720
And Alissa finds herself spiralling.
597
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:41,520
It's really stressful now.
598
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:44,120
I'm feeling so overwhelmed
right now.
599
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:47,760
It's all just hit me.
600
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:55,480
(TENSE MUSIC)
601
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:56,880
BELINDA: That doesn't make
any sense to me.
602
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:58,240
ALISSA: It does.
603
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:02,080
NARRATOR: In Adelaide, Belinda has
taken Alissa aside for a one-on-one
604
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:03,800
after hearing about
her daughter's plan
605
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:05,360
to move to Sydney
606
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:09,240
and delay settling in her home town
to raise a family.
607
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:12,520
People sometimes take ten years
to fall pregnant. That's the truth.
608
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:14,440
Yeah, I know, but, Mum,
I don't know...
609
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:16,080
I've never tried it.
That's right.
610
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:18,040
But you don't know that.
611
00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:20,160
So you don't have
a couple of years
612
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:22,880
to just take it easy
and see how you go.
613
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:28,840
I just see that year or two
turning into five years or ten,
614
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,920
because I've seen it -
I've seen it before.
615
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:34,880
Not with Alissa,
but I've seen it with other people.
616
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:37,640
You know, time goes quickly
for us all.
617
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,080
A couple of years...
A couple of years.
618
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,120
I don't think you've got
a couple of years to wait.
619
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:45,720
She's very honest.
620
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:47,640
She's down the line.
Like, she's very direct.
621
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:52,480
She's like me in a lot of ways
and she knows me at my core.
622
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:56,280
And also, if you start
somewhere else for a little while,
623
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,160
you could lose what you have here.
624
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:00,600
And that is the catch 22.
This is where I'm at.
625
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,000
So then I'm having
a mini mental breakdown
626
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:04,760
thinking
"This is getting really real
627
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:06,480
"and there's a lot on the line."
628
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:10,320
Like, I know there's... I just feel
torn and pulled and pushed.
629
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:15,440
Ultimately, I want to start a family
here, so this... It's... It's a lot.
630
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,960
There is just... I'm feeling
so overwhelmed right now
631
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:23,360
and because it's getting so close
to the end, it's all just hit me.
632
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:28,480
He's so calm and so kind.
633
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:30,760
You know, so calm and so kind.
634
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:32,920
They're pretty good attributes.
I know.
635
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:34,480
And, like, as much as I've been
636
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:36,160
maybe a little bit of a pain
in the arse,
637
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:37,720
like, I can't shake him off.
638
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:42,200
He just... He's, like,
"I know that I'm good for you."
639
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:45,040
He stands by me and I'm, like,
"Oh!"
640
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:48,520
I am definitely getting
strong feelings towards him.
641
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:50,480
Like, I'm definitely falling
for David,
642
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:52,440
like, falling in love
with this person.
643
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:57,680
And I might have to pack up, move
to Sydney and make that sacrifice.
644
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,040
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
645
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:06,920
It's really stressful now.
There's a lot on the line.
646
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:08,480
OK.
647
00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:13,040
(CRIES)
648
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:22,120
(COW MOOS)
649
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,040
CHRIS: Yeah. Visit the cows.
650
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,480
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
651
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:39,560
(COW MOOS)
652
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,560
In the Southern Highlands
of New South Wales...
653
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:47,320
following an underwhelming welcome
to the farm...
654
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:48,360
(COW MOOS)
655
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:52,400
..the vibe between Sam and Chris
is as awkward as ever.
656
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:55,440
(TENSE MUSIC)
657
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:06,280
(REFLECTIVE MUSIC)
658
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:11,560
CHRIS: Come on. Come on.
659
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:13,360
Come on, guys. Come on.
660
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:15,640
(COW MOOS)
661
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:19,880
CHRIS: Yeah, it's not what
I wanted, you know.
662
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:20,960
I didn't want to come out
to the farm
663
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:22,320
and have this awkward energy.
664
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,200
So how are you liking
the farm so far?
665
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:29,080
Yeah, it's a beautiful place.
Yeah.
666
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:30,640
Beautiful part of the world.
667
00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:32,560
It's stunning. Hey?
668
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:39,840
I've also got, like, added pressure
from outside the experiment,
669
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:41,840
like the kids coming
and, you know, the farm.
670
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:44,000
Yeah, it's very heavy.
671
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:48,800
But I want to take accountability
and I want to make growth...
672
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:55,000
so that's what I'm doing.
673
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,400
I know we had a rough week
last week,
674
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:02,160
so I just wanted to make sure
that you feel at home
675
00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:03,440
as much as you can.
676
00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:04,640
and, you know...
677
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:06,600
SAM: Um...
678
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,160
I think we're a long way
from me feeling at home here.
679
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:15,600
I can't just float through this
and be like, "Everything's fine."
680
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:21,000
I'm pretty hurt. Like, last week,
like, seeing you write 'leave'
681
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:25,240
so quickly, like...
it's going to take a lot...
682
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:26,600
Yeah, sure.
..to come back from that.
683
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:32,160
Um... Yeah, it's, like, left me
in a really, really tough place
684
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:34,000
and it really sucks,
because coming out of the retreat,
685
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:35,840
I thought we were in
an awesome place.
686
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:37,080
Yeah.
687
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,680
Well, you said you've done
some reflecting and stuff.
688
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:42,600
What have you worked out?
689
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:46,440
I mean, I heard the experts
loud and clear
690
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:49,120
and I've taken on board
what they've said.
691
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:51,440
Yeah, I realised that I probably
could have been a bit calmer
692
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,080
and not got...not got as defensive.
693
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:57,560
And...they did hold a mirror up
in my face...
694
00:33:57,680 --> 00:33:59,920
and they actually made me realise
as well,
695
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:01,320
like, I've got a lot of work to do.
696
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:09,080
And my reservation
is whether, you know...
697
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:11,160
whether it is going to be
too much pressure for me,
698
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:12,280
but I just...
Yeah.
699
00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:14,600
I'm just trying to, without putting
too much pressure on it,
700
00:34:14,720 --> 00:34:16,960
I just want to try and see
if you and I can clear the energy
701
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:18,200
over the next couple of days.
702
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:21,160
I'm working as hard as I can
to make you feel welcome.
703
00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:23,280
I mean, I'm trying my best.
Yep. Awesome.
704
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:24,680
That's awesome to hear.
Yeah.
705
00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:28,080
I'm proud of you. That's big.
Thanks. Yeah.
706
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:29,280
Well done.
Thank you.
707
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,560
SAM: Yeah, it was really nice
to see Chris
708
00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:33,440
actually has really had some time
to reflect
709
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:35,640
and really think about
what the experts said
710
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:39,520
and is starting to take that
on board, which is great.
711
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:42,280
I actually can be heard by Chris
712
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:46,640
and he does have the ability
to listen and to take in
713
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:49,000
and look at
another person's perspective,
714
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:52,160
because I hadn't seen
that side of him until now.
715
00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:55,840
Should we have a hug
through the horses?
716
00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:56,960
We should hug that out. Yeah.
(LAUGHS)
717
00:34:57,080 --> 00:34:58,680
Group hug. (LAUGHS)
718
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:00,880
CHRIS: That was really amazing.
719
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:03,120
Sam and I just had a little...
cute little therapy moment...
720
00:35:03,240 --> 00:35:04,600
(BOTH LAUGH)
721
00:35:04,720 --> 00:35:06,840
..and, you know, I could feel
his guard come down a little bit.
722
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,240
It's the horses.
They calm my energy.
723
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:10,400
Yeah. OK.
(LAUGHS)
724
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:11,720
Good to know that.
725
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:13,800
Obviously, I love the farm so much -
this is my happy place
726
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:15,960
and I just want to have
a bit of fun now
727
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:17,720
and see that playful side of him.
728
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,280
If I'm bringing you out to the
horses, you know what's coming.
729
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:22,480
If you need to chat with me,
just take me to the horses.
730
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:23,920
Yeah.
Like, we've got some fresh air.
731
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,160
We're surrounded by animals
and good vibes,
732
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:27,880
so, yeah, maybe tomorrow
we'll wake up in a better space.
733
00:35:30,720 --> 00:35:31,720
Thank you.
Yeah.
734
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:40,320
While Sam and Chris are enjoying
the benefits of time in nature...
735
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:42,840
BEC: So far, so good, hey?
You happy, boo?
736
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:43,960
So far, so good.
737
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,520
..Bec and Danny
are settling into city life
738
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:48,600
and all that it has to offer.
739
00:35:48,720 --> 00:35:50,440
Here's to Adelaide.
740
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:51,960
Yeah.
741
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:54,760
I don't know why you're laughing...
742
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:57,400
Yeah, obviously, seeing family...
We've had a really good day today.
743
00:35:57,520 --> 00:36:00,600
Um... Adelaide's been nice so far.
744
00:36:00,720 --> 00:36:03,480
Her aunty lives three minutes away.
Her dad lives three minutes away.
745
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,840
Her cousin lives five minutes away.
Like, they're all so close.
746
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:10,160
It's like a family...
close-knit family here in Adelaide.
747
00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:14,880
Is Coco allowed a bit of...
Cabana?
748
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:16,120
.,cabana?
Yeah.
749
00:36:16,240 --> 00:36:18,000
She loves a piece of salami as well,
though.
750
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:19,800
Coco, she's a sweetheart.
751
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:22,600
So, yeah, I'm just...
I'm just enjoying it.
752
00:36:22,720 --> 00:36:25,640
Do you feel like
there's a lot of pressure?
753
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:27,760
I don't really feel like there is.
754
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:29,880
Because if you don't want to live
in Adelaide, I'll move...
755
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:31,520
I'll live in Melbourne.
756
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,120
Like, I don't really feel like
there's pressure.
757
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:38,120
Do I look like a man
who feels pressure?
758
00:36:38,240 --> 00:36:39,880
I'm an animal.
759
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:42,200
(TENSE MUSIC)
760
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:46,560
Like, sometimes, you...
761
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:47,960
Because we're still
in this experiment.
762
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:50,880
No, but sometimes your brain can...
can block out pressure.
763
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:53,120
(PLANE FLIES OVERHEAD)
764
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:56,640
Nice and peaceful here, though,
isn't it?
765
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:59,320
(LAUGHS)
766
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,560
(BLEEP).
Now what? Is there another plane?
767
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:08,480
It's a flight path.
768
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,440
I feel like...
I'm, like, seriously...
769
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:18,520
I actually feel like we've worked
so hard to get to this point.
770
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,240
Get a good night's sleep at least,
though, wouldn't you?
771
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,320
(LAUGHS)
772
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:28,880
You wouldn't... You wouldn't want
to be a night-shift worker
773
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:30,360
living here, would you?
774
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:32,200
(BLEEP) me. (LAUGHS)
775
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:33,720
(IMITATES DANNY'S LAUGH)
776
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:35,120
(BLEEP) hell.
777
00:37:35,240 --> 00:37:36,400
(LAUGHS)
778
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:39,680
BEC: Point of contention
in mine and Danny's relationship
779
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:44,680
is that in some serious situations,
he will crack a joke.
780
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:47,520
But I know that
it's a defence mechanism.
781
00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:50,240
100%.
782
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:51,800
Definitely.
783
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:52,880
Why do boys do that?
784
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,360
And look at us in comparison
with some of the other couples.
785
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:58,880
Honestly...
Mmm.
786
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:00,240
..you know...
787
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:01,640
I'm proud of us too,
788
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:06,560
because, like, the...the patience
I've had to have to stick with you,
789
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:08,520
do you know what I mean?
790
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:10,000
I've got the patience of a saint.
791
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:14,200
BEC: Boys are just annoying
and they mess with your head.
792
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:17,200
But for me, I definitely feel like
Danny's probably holding off
793
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:19,480
on telling me he loves me.
794
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:22,920
I think he's very much hoping
to find the right time.
795
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:29,440
I mean, I know he loves me already.
I know he does.
796
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,560
(REFLECTIVE MUSIC)
797
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:43,320
NARRATOR: As the sun sets
on another day of homestays...
798
00:38:44,720 --> 00:38:46,360
ALISSA: It was a lot.
DAVID: Yeah.
799
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:47,720
I can imagine.
800
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:49,480
..Alissa is still reeling
801
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:53,040
following an emotional lunch
with mum Belinda.
802
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:55,440
Yeah, it was a lot today...
Yeah, it was.
803
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:57,240
..but I'm glad that you got along
with my mum
804
00:38:57,360 --> 00:38:58,720
and she had
nothing but, like, praise.
805
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:00,960
Oh...
You know, she really likes you.
806
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:03,920
I can see a lot of positive,
like, traits
807
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,400
she's...she's given you, for sure.
808
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:08,360
And that's...
that's definitely one of them.
809
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,440
She's just a straight shooter.
810
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:13,320
She knows who I am
and...and what I need.
811
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:16,520
Yeah, there's definitely things
that Mum's brought up today
812
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:21,800
that I know that I need to,
you know, really consider.
813
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,360
Yeah, like, it's...it's huge.
Yeah.
814
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:28,080
It's a lot. Like, I...
I just forgot...
815
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:30,040
I forgot how much I have here.
816
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:32,840
And, like, I can't just pack up
and go.
817
00:39:34,240 --> 00:39:39,200
I think I'm just getting very
overwhelmed with what, you know...
818
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:42,640
what I have at stake here
819
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:45,080
and what I could potentially be
walking away from.
820
00:39:45,200 --> 00:39:47,480
So I'm in a bit of a catch 22
right now
821
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:50,280
and I've got to mentally take it
one day at a time right now,
822
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:52,160
because otherwise
I'm gonna overwhelm my brain.
823
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:56,280
Alissa is literally spiralling.
824
00:39:56,400 --> 00:40:00,120
She's already freaking out
about having to move to Sydney.
825
00:40:00,240 --> 00:40:03,920
I don't take it lightly.
I've got a lot to consider as well.
826
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:06,280
I know Alissa
doesn't have much time.
827
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:08,320
You know, she wants to be a mum,
828
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:15,160
but I feel like this marriage could
work if we both just stop stressing
829
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:17,880
and just keep doing
what we're doing.
830
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:21,800
I know that the clock is ticking
and all that, you know,
831
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,520
but all I can do is say, like,
you know, day by day,
832
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:28,240
I'll show, like,
that I am here for the long haul
833
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:30,160
and we're just going to have to
take it as it comes...
834
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:31,200
I know.
..you know.
835
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:32,320
Just like... It's just everything.
836
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:35,440
It's... It's just the way
our relationship works.
837
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:37,520
You know, I have to normally be
the one
838
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:40,760
to emotionally anchor Alissa
a lot of the times.
839
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,600
And that's what's happening
here again.
840
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:52,280
Across town
at the end of a long night,
841
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:54,920
Bec and Danny are still reflecting
842
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:59,440
on the success of time spent
with Bec's loved ones.
843
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:03,360
You appreciate the family dynamic?
844
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:06,040
Of course, 'cause I haven't got
no family out here,
845
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:07,400
so of course I appreciate it.
846
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:13,400
On that note, I wanted to
obviously say thank you
847
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:17,400
for showing me Adelaide
and letting me into your world.
848
00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:19,240
Obviously, you've took me
into your house
849
00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:21,360
and that's not an easy thing to do.
850
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:23,280
Um...
It was easy for me.
851
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:27,600
Well, some people
might have found it harder.
852
00:41:27,720 --> 00:41:31,280
But, yeah, I wanted to thank you
for showing me your city
853
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:32,800
and welcome...
854
00:41:32,920 --> 00:41:34,960
welcome me into open arms
with your family.
855
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:38,680
One thing I've never told you
in the past is, like, with...
856
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:40,880
because I haven't got no family
out here,
857
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:46,080
when I'm with a partner, I take
their family on as, like, my own.
858
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:49,280
Yeah, so, honestly,
it means the world to me
859
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:50,760
and I really want to thank you
for that.
860
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:54,040
Really?
861
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:56,160
What do you mean "really"?
Of course.
862
00:41:56,280 --> 00:41:58,120
Thank you. Cheers.
863
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:01,480
(LAUGHS) Come here.
864
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:03,400
(LAUGHS)
865
00:42:05,640 --> 00:42:06,720
Really?
866
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,240
Why are you 'really-ing' me?
867
00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:11,920
It's a nice night next to the fire,
isn't it?
868
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:15,240
(LAUGHS)
869
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:19,000
That's cute, boo.
870
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:21,160
(LAUGHS)
871
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:22,680
BEC: When Danny opens up to me
872
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:25,880
and tells me how he feels about
his time in Adelaide, I love it.
873
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:28,280
It's beautiful.
It's what I want to hear.
874
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:31,840
It's how I feel. It's how he feels.
It's amazing.
875
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:36,800
I... Like, I relish
in those moments.
876
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:40,760
The way your family has been...
welcomed me with open arms,
877
00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:44,120
they've been really respectful
and really, like, generous...
878
00:42:44,240 --> 00:42:48,440
I feel like probably the luckiest
girl in the world at the moment
879
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,720
to have homestays going
as well as they are going.
880
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:58,680
Danny loves my family
and my family loves him, so...
881
00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:01,400
So now all I need is for Danny
to tell me he loves me.
882
00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:03,360
That would be
the most amazing thing ever.
883
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:06,680
(WARM MUSIC)
884
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:15,120
BEC: But, like, if my family
felt the need
885
00:43:15,240 --> 00:43:19,600
to have hard conversations with you,
they would.
886
00:43:19,720 --> 00:43:24,200
But you give them a sense of
comfort and stability
887
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:25,760
that you give me
888
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:26,920
and they can see that.
889
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:29,720
(WARM MUSIC)
890
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:40,880
What?
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
891
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:45,360
(LAUGHS) I'm joking. I'm joking.
892
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:47,320
It's, like, a serious moment.
(LAUGHS)
893
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:51,520
Oh, my god.
It's gone down like a lead balloon.
894
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:53,040
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
895
00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:58,160
Sometimes we need, like, a moment
where, like, it's not all a joke,
896
00:43:58,280 --> 00:43:59,960
you know.
897
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:04,400
We've talked about it over and over.
898
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:06,400
It's a defence mechanism
of Danny's.
899
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:09,480
He... He feels really strongly
900
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:12,600
and then all of a sudden
he wants to throw in a joke
901
00:44:12,720 --> 00:44:15,000
and make a mockery of the situation
902
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:16,400
and it pisses me off.
903
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:19,920
I cracked a joke.
I always crack jokes.
904
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:22,080
I crack jokes 24/7.
905
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:25,440
You're acting like I'm Mr Serious,
I'm Mr Albert Einstein
906
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:27,880
and then I cracked
an out-of-pocket joke.
907
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:30,120
It wasn't like that, Bec.
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
908
00:44:30,240 --> 00:44:31,280
Who's going get...
But, like...
909
00:44:43,850 --> 00:44:43,960
Good
910
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:47,800
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
911
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:55,480
What?
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
912
00:44:55,600 --> 00:45:00,080
(LAUGHS) I'm joking. I'm joking.
913
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,040
It's, like, a serious moment.
(LAUGHS)
914
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:06,080
Oh, my god.
It's gone down like a lead balloon.
915
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:10,000
Sometimes we need, like,
a moment
916
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:14,680
where, like, it's not all a joke,
you know.
917
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:18,640
I cracked a joke.
I always crack jokes.
918
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:19,720
Who's gonna...
919
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:34,400
He's more worried about how he looks
on camera now
920
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:35,640
'cause he knows he made a mistake.
921
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:36,760
This is you and me.
922
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:38,680
There's a camera in my (BLEEP) face
and you're abusing me over a joke.
923
00:45:38,800 --> 00:45:40,440
Dude, there's a camera in my face
924
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:42,120
and you're making a joke
of what I'm saying.
925
00:45:42,240 --> 00:45:45,600
It's serious for me.
This relationship is serious for me.
926
00:45:45,720 --> 00:45:52,040
So when he is making a mockery
of the situation that we're in,
927
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:53,600
it pisses me off
928
00:45:53,720 --> 00:45:57,600
and it's those moments where
he doesn't take things seriously
929
00:45:57,720 --> 00:46:00,520
that makes me second-guess and go,
930
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:04,080
"Oh, god, like,
what if he's not into me?"
931
00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:07,440
I might be looking like a fool
who's just, like,
932
00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:11,280
grasping onto
those tiny bits of seriousness.
933
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:12,960
I'm Danny.
934
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:16,240
I always crack jokes 24/7
and I cracked another joke.
935
00:46:17,720 --> 00:46:22,280
It diminishes it. Don't do that
to me. Don't do it.
936
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:27,400
If you feel that it's good, say it's
good and then don't joke about it.
937
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:28,720
I just said it was.
938
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:30,360
I know, but you joked about it
at the end.
939
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:32,360
But Bec...
It doesn't matter. I don't care.
940
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:33,800
There's a time for serious
941
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:35,640
and there's a time for joking.
Yeah, I know that.
942
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:42,800
I tried to open up and show
my more vulnerable side,
943
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:44,280
which I'm not good at.
944
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:46,720
I find it a bit cringe,
but I wanted to do it for her
945
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:48,680
'cause I knew it would be special
for her.
946
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,520
And so I cracked a joke
to sort of lighten my mood.
947
00:46:53,040 --> 00:46:55,040
You can say something really nice...
Babe, let's talk about it later.
948
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:57,160
Hang on. Wait. Listen. Just listen.
Let's talk about it later.
949
00:46:57,280 --> 00:46:58,040
No.
950
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:02,720
And then the joke was just met
by her just coming at me.
951
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:06,840
You say something really nice...
Mmm.
952
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:09,560
..and then I go to respond and you
make a joke about what I'm saying...
953
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:12,240
Mmm.
..diminishes the whole situation.
954
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:13,760
Yep, OK.
The joke is the joke.
955
00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:15,240
But, like, the moment was...
956
00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:17,160
Maybe we're both bad
at cracking jokes.
957
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:19,640
No, you crack jokes
when you shouldn't be.
958
00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:22,040
There's a time and a place.
And you haven't done that!
959
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:27,600
Yeah, I'm actually a bit mind-blown.
960
00:47:27,720 --> 00:47:29,760
BEC: Can I have you guys over here,
please?
961
00:47:29,880 --> 00:47:33,000
DANNY: At the retreat,
she cracked a bad joke...
962
00:47:33,120 --> 00:47:35,000
We've had 'I love you's
963
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:36,720
and we've had finger bangs,
so, like...
964
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:38,720
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
965
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:41,920
..and it landed wrong
in front of the whole group.
966
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:45,400
No, no, no, no, no.
I think it was inappropriate.
967
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:47,400
But I backed her wholeheartedly.
968
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,160
I went against the whole group
for days.
969
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:50,360
Pull your head in.
970
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:52,120
Moving forward... We can't go back.
971
00:47:52,240 --> 00:47:53,800
But moving forward,
let's try and be better.
972
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:58,680
And then for her to do
the exact same to me,
973
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:02,320
to, like, go at me over a joke,
is so frustrating.
974
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:05,320
(TENSE MUSIC)
975
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:08,920
You should be able to say something
nice and be genuine about it
976
00:48:09,040 --> 00:48:11,160
and then not say, "Oh, your cousin
wants to (BLEEP) me."
977
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:13,160
Like...
I never said that.
978
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:16,200
I know...
Don't put words in my mouth.
979
00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:20,720
I never said your cousin wants to
F... (BLEEP) C-K me.
980
00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:23,680
DANNY: When she's in that mode,
I can't speak to her.
981
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:26,360
I just feel lost.
Like, I can't speak to her.
982
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:29,800
And I thought that side of her had
left because we've spoke about it
983
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:31,960
and she's put so much work
into herself,
984
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:34,080
but to see it just come out,
985
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:37,320
it's obviously still there,
still fully alive.
986
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:39,760
It's a poorly timed joke, dude.
987
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:44,720
Like, just take on board and...
I'm taking it on board.
988
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:48,200
..and take...take what I'm saying...
Mmm. Thank you.
989
00:48:48,320 --> 00:48:50,560
Don't say thank you.
I'm taking it on board.
990
00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:54,680
But take what I'm saying...
Thanks, babe.
991
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:55,760
..as seriously...
992
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:57,760
Stop saying thank you.
993
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,200
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
994
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:06,440
Yeah. I'm done.
995
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:09,680
(BLEEP).
It's fine.
996
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:10,640
Maybe...
997
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:13,280
This is what I mean.
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
998
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:19,920
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
999
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:21,440
I don't want to be here right now.
1000
00:49:21,560 --> 00:49:23,320
I don't want to be here with her
right now.
1001
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:27,160
I feel very uncomfortable being here
'cause I'm in her realm...
1002
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:28,680
uh, her house.
1003
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:31,720
I'm just here by myself.
1004
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:34,360
I've got none of my friends here,
none of my family here.
1005
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:36,320
And if she can just turn on me
like that,
1006
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:38,760
I'm not sure if I'd want to
move here.
1007
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:45,000
And I was very open to the idea,
but I don't know about that now.
1008
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:52,760
NARRATOR: In Adelaide...
1009
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:54,240
WOMAN: I just, like,
miss her so much.
1010
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:56,480
..bridesmaids Bec and Adriana
1011
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:58,080
are on their way to meet
1012
00:49:58,200 --> 00:50:00,120
a still-spiralling Alissa
1013
00:50:00,240 --> 00:50:01,320
and husband David for drinks.
1014
00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:03,480
Oh!
1015
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:06,960
I'm (BLEEP) terrified.
1016
00:50:07,080 --> 00:50:08,520
Everything's just too much
for my head.
1017
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:14,360
DAVID: Last night,
Alissa started literally spiralling.
1018
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:18,720
Hello. How are you?
Hey, guys.
1019
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:21,520
Hi, gorgeous. Mwah.
So good to see you.
1020
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:23,680
It will be good to talk to
Alissa's closest and nearest,
1021
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:25,640
Adriana and Bec.
1022
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:27,640
Have you been well?
I've been well, yeah.
1023
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:28,560
Yeah. I'm good.
1024
00:50:28,680 --> 00:50:30,080
DAVID: We are both putting on
a brave face,
1025
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,440
but right now,
the vibes are not vibing.
1026
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:36,520
And, you know, I'm hoping
that today will change that.
1027
00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:38,280
Tell me, what's been going on?
Uh...
1028
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:42,440
It's all been going, like,
really well for us.
1029
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:44,840
But now we're getting to
the end of the experiment.
1030
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:47,000
And I feel like, you know,
1031
00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:50,240
we've been living in our little
bubble in Sydney and now it's...
1032
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:52,840
It's like it's hitting you guys
a little bit more.
1033
00:50:52,960 --> 00:50:55,360
Yeah.
Yeah, big-time.
1034
00:50:55,480 --> 00:50:57,520
I will be honest with you.
1035
00:50:57,640 --> 00:51:00,680
Like, I... I started to spiral...
1036
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:05,160
because, you know, we said
we'd move to Sydney
1037
00:51:05,280 --> 00:51:06,280
if it was going well.
1038
00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:10,720
What the (BLEEP) did she just say?
No, sorry, I haven't...
1039
00:51:10,840 --> 00:51:12,280
Sydney?
1040
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:13,840
I haven't even spoken to you girls
about it.
1041
00:51:13,960 --> 00:51:15,160
You could've actually, like,
softened that.
1042
00:51:15,280 --> 00:51:16,920
I know. So...
And that's something we discussed.
1043
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:21,280
But the thing is, landing in
Adelaide, it's hit home.
1044
00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:22,720
I have so much here...
Yeah.
1045
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:25,000
..and so much
that I'm putting on the line.
1046
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:27,440
You know, I have a career
that I've built,
1047
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:29,360
a business that I've built.
1048
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:31,840
The other thing that I've got,
like... I want to have a family.
1049
00:51:33,640 --> 00:51:35,600
I don't want to miss out
on being a mum.
1050
00:51:35,720 --> 00:51:38,520
And if we're going to make this
thing work after the experiment,
1051
00:51:38,640 --> 00:51:40,240
David might have to move to
Adelaide.
1052
00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:42,320
Like...
1053
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:45,160
You know...
And would you at the moment?
1054
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:49,120
Like...
Could you see yourself living here?
1055
00:51:49,240 --> 00:51:51,160
(TENSE MUSIC)
1056
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:54,200
To be honest, yeah.
1057
00:51:55,720 --> 00:51:58,400
I'm not going to lie,
I feel like I...I'm at the point
1058
00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:02,160
where, you know, if I had to,
you know, take that risk,
1059
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:03,360
I'm ready to do it.
1060
00:52:03,480 --> 00:52:05,280
Right now, I feel like she's
the one. I'm ready to go all in.
1061
00:52:07,240 --> 00:52:08,840
DAVID: It is slightly overwhelming.
1062
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:11,480
You know, moving to Adelaide
is not a small feat,
1063
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:15,800
but I have sacrificed so much
to come on to this experiment
1064
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:18,400
and I want to see it through.
1065
00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:21,560
I'm (BLEEP) shit-scared and I even
said that to him today. Like...
1066
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:24,680
The big question for me now is,
is that enough for Alissa?
1067
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:28,520
I've laid all my cards out,
1068
00:52:28,640 --> 00:52:31,120
but I can only meet her
as far as she's willing to meet me.
1069
00:52:34,720 --> 00:52:39,200
I know that you're willing
to move here, which is great,
1070
00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:40,760
but I don't know,
1071
00:52:40,880 --> 00:52:42,240
I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed
with it.
1072
00:52:42,360 --> 00:52:44,400
You're, like, literally overwhelmed.
'Cause you're overwhelmed.
1073
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:48,400
I am, I am, I am
because it's, like, a lot.
1074
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:49,960
Like, it's a lot.
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
1075
00:52:50,080 --> 00:52:52,120
I'm spiralling because I'm scared...
Yeah.
1076
00:52:52,240 --> 00:52:55,760
..and I'm spiralling in my head
because it's becoming very real.
1077
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:58,040
And I want to make sure David's,
like, the right person.
1078
00:52:58,160 --> 00:53:01,880
I want to make sure that,
you know... I guess we'll just...
1079
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:03,120
Time will tell.
1080
00:53:03,240 --> 00:53:07,480
Alissa, I'm really sorry, babe.
I have to ask this to you.
1081
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:09,160
You sat here and you've talked a lot
1082
00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:11,680
about what your wants
and needs are...
1083
00:53:11,800 --> 00:53:13,360
Mmm.
1084
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:15,200
..and you've talked a lot about
your career progression.
1085
00:53:15,320 --> 00:53:16,640
Mmm.
1086
00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:19,960
What about...
Mmm. Yeah, David.
1087
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:21,680
What about David, 'cause...
And that's the other thing.
1088
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:23,480
Because, like...
That is the other thing.
1089
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:25,760
Right now, this is too good
to be true,
1090
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:29,360
like, and that is also another
reason why I'm (BLEEP) scared too.
1091
00:53:29,480 --> 00:53:31,320
Alissa is definitely self-sabotaging
I think.
1092
00:53:31,440 --> 00:53:34,320
And I think David
is a very patient person,
1093
00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:37,240
but everyone has their limitations.
1094
00:53:39,160 --> 00:53:40,960
I don't... I just...
1095
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:42,800
Just...
I'm overthinking everything.
1096
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:45,000
DAVID: 100%.
1097
00:53:45,120 --> 00:53:47,400
Alissa's friends pointed out
very honestly
1098
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:51,440
that, you know, Alissa has made it
all about her.
1099
00:53:51,560 --> 00:53:54,440
When you've put all your cards
on the table for someone
1100
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:58,160
and they're still unsure
and they need more confirmation,
1101
00:53:58,280 --> 00:54:00,280
it's sort of, like, "Wait a minute,
you know.
1102
00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:02,760
"I have sacrificed a lot already
1103
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:05,640
"just by telling Alissa
that I'm ready to come to Adelaide,
1104
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:07,920
"I'm ready to do this,
I'm ready to do that"
1105
00:54:08,040 --> 00:54:10,920
and if Alissa still questions
my intentions
1106
00:54:11,040 --> 00:54:14,920
at this point in the experiment,
then we're just not for each other.
1107
00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:18,480
It's, like, just take it down a notc
for yourself for a second, right?
1108
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:22,960
But I think what he's proven to you
is he is stable, he is calm
1109
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:25,520
and he's here
and he's shown up for you,
1110
00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:27,680
which are three things...
Yeah.
1111
00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:29,240
..that you have not had...
I know.
1112
00:54:29,360 --> 00:54:31,400
..in a really long time.
1113
00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:33,160
So, first of all, take that win.
OK.
1114
00:54:33,280 --> 00:54:34,560
Second...
It's a win.
1115
00:54:34,680 --> 00:54:36,040
It's a big win.
It's a massive win.
1116
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:37,040
It's a big win.
1117
00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:39,320
Obviously there's a bit of, like,
you know, this and that going on,
1118
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:41,280
a bit...a bit of sort of,
like, "We're unsure,"
1119
00:54:41,400 --> 00:54:44,720
but I think there's actually...
they're falling for each other.
1120
00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:47,360
I think you need to stop putting
the pressure on.
1121
00:54:47,480 --> 00:54:51,600
Right now, you just have to keep the
spark going between the two of you,
1122
00:54:51,720 --> 00:54:54,600
see how your lives integrate in time
1123
00:54:54,720 --> 00:54:57,320
and remember
that if you have something special,
1124
00:54:57,440 --> 00:54:59,400
this is the point of life.
1125
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:02,480
I think he's handling it all
really well
1126
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:04,280
and I think they could go
all the way.
1127
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:06,520
But I think there's got to be
some give and take
1128
00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:09,840
from, like, probably Alissa
to make that happen.
1129
00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:13,520
David actually is everything
that you've asked for.
1130
00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:14,560
I know.
1131
00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:16,680
You will be loved and supported.
1132
00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:18,520
That's going to be the test
for both of them.
1133
00:55:18,640 --> 00:55:21,560
(REFLECTIVE MUSIC)
1134
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:28,520
As Alissa and David navigate
a crisis of confidence...
1135
00:55:31,160 --> 00:55:32,080
(ROOSTER CROWS)
1136
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:35,840
..back at the farm, Sam too
has found himself spiralling
1137
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:38,480
following a difficult start
to the day.
1138
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:42,280
SAM: Uh... I'm not...
I'm not feeling great.
1139
00:55:42,400 --> 00:55:44,800
I woke up and, like,
Chris wasn't here.
1140
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:49,080
Like, he went to the gym
and didn't even message my phone.
1141
00:55:50,320 --> 00:55:51,600
Yeah, I guess just being here
1142
00:55:51,720 --> 00:55:54,080
and knowing how beautiful
this place is
1143
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:56,120
and how much
I would love to live here,
1144
00:55:56,240 --> 00:56:00,040
but then not feeling
that I'm really a priority,
1145
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:02,120
it's a bit of a concern.
1146
00:56:02,240 --> 00:56:05,480
I don't know, like, I find that
very selfish behaviour.
1147
00:56:05,600 --> 00:56:07,400
Coming up...
1148
00:56:07,520 --> 00:56:10,200
"Do you accept full responsibility
for your defensiveness
1149
00:56:10,320 --> 00:56:11,600
"and the aggression I felt from you
last week?"
1150
00:56:11,720 --> 00:56:15,960
..Chris's misdemeanours resurface...
Yeah...
1151
00:56:16,080 --> 00:56:18,160
..in the form of a book.
1152
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:20,840
"Do you see that breaking this
behaviour means letting go of ego?"
1153
00:56:20,960 --> 00:56:23,080
I honestly felt like I was 15,
1154
00:56:23,200 --> 00:56:25,720
getting in trouble by a teacher
or something.
1155
00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:27,200
Yeah, you can take the list
for someone else.
1156
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:28,640
It's not my vibe. (LAUGHS)
1157
00:56:35,280 --> 00:56:36,360
SAM: Ah!
1158
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:40,120
NARRATOR: At the farm, Chris has
returned from a morning at the gym
1159
00:56:40,240 --> 00:56:41,840
and attending to the animals...
1160
00:56:41,960 --> 00:56:43,720
SAM: Look at this.
What a day!
1161
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:45,040
You've already set up.
Yeah.
1162
00:56:45,160 --> 00:56:47,400
..and has set aside the afternoon
1163
00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:49,840
for some quality time
with husband Sam.
1164
00:56:49,960 --> 00:56:51,320
Chin-chin.
Chin-chin.
1165
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:52,800
(GLASSES CLINK)
Yeah.
1166
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:54,440
So we're about to have
a Scotch by the fire.
1167
00:56:54,560 --> 00:56:56,200
Two of my favourite things.
1168
00:56:56,320 --> 00:57:00,520
I'm so excited.
It's been such a big day today.
1169
00:57:00,640 --> 00:57:02,200
You can probably tell
I'm a little bit happier.
1170
00:57:02,320 --> 00:57:04,120
It's just my vibe.
I love it out here so much.
1171
00:57:04,240 --> 00:57:06,360
I'm not a city boy and this
really helps my mental health.
1172
00:57:06,480 --> 00:57:08,000
It gives me clarity.
1173
00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:12,040
You know, last night
I was making Sam dinner
1174
00:57:12,160 --> 00:57:14,240
and I kind of had a reminder
of what those feelings were like
1175
00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:15,360
in the beginning,
1176
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:18,360
looking at his face and just,
you know, wanting to, like, kiss it.
1177
00:57:18,480 --> 00:57:21,480
So, yeah, it's been great for me.
There's a glimmer.
1178
00:57:22,800 --> 00:57:24,120
But, I mean,
I'm having the best time
1179
00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:25,520
and I love having you here
and everything.
1180
00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:27,080
So...
Yeah.
1181
00:57:27,200 --> 00:57:31,200
But while life on the farm appears
to be working its magic on Chris,
1182
00:57:31,320 --> 00:57:33,960
Sam is still struggling with doubts
1183
00:57:34,080 --> 00:57:37,440
after being left to fend for himself
all morning.
1184
00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:41,920
How was your day?
1185
00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:43,440
Um...
1186
00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:45,600
(TENSE MUSIC)
1187
00:57:47,920 --> 00:57:50,320
Yeah. No, it's cool here.
1188
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:52,960
Yeah. I'm glad you like it.
1189
00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:55,720
It's not for everybody, but, um...
1190
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:57,080
Yeah.
Yeah.
1191
00:57:57,200 --> 00:57:59,480
..it's a nice life.
Yeah.
1192
00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:02,080
(TENSE MUSIC)
1193
00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:03,800
Yeah.
1194
00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:07,120
It's the last night at homestays,
right?
1195
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:08,680
Um... I think we need to, like,
really...
1196
00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:10,840
I don't know if it's...
like, cut the bullshit
1197
00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:13,040
and just make sure we're being
super, super honest with each other.
1198
00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:14,160
Yeah.
1199
00:58:14,280 --> 00:58:15,760
Obviously, like, last week,
1200
00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:18,240
I think both of us were
pretty checked out from each other
1201
00:58:18,360 --> 00:58:19,600
for obvious reasons
1202
00:58:19,720 --> 00:58:21,600
with the whole commitment ceremony
and stuff like that, so...
1203
00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:23,600
I mean, I don't think I checked out.
1204
00:58:23,720 --> 00:58:27,720
I think the reason I was so hurt
is 'cause I was very checked in.
1205
00:58:27,840 --> 00:58:30,240
Yeah.
Um...
1206
00:58:32,040 --> 00:58:36,960
So I wrote some questions down
and maybe we could just be, like,
1207
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:40,520
really raw and honest with
each other about all the answers.
1208
00:58:40,640 --> 00:58:43,960
Um... Would you mind
if we went through the questions?
1209
00:58:44,080 --> 00:58:46,240
Yeah, of course.
Cool. I'll go get them.
1210
00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:47,880
Yeah.
1211
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:49,120
CHRIS: Sam loves to
really dig deep...
1212
00:58:51,600 --> 00:58:53,520
whereas I was actually
just looking forward to kicking back
1213
00:58:53,640 --> 00:58:54,960
and relaxing.
1214
00:58:55,080 --> 00:58:56,160
I don't know what's coming.
1215
00:58:56,280 --> 00:58:57,520
Oh...
1216
00:58:57,640 --> 00:58:59,400
My glasses.
1217
00:58:59,520 --> 00:59:00,800
OK. Ready.
(LAUGHS AWKWARDLY)
1218
00:59:00,920 --> 00:59:02,760
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
1219
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:05,440
Um, yeah...
1220
00:59:05,560 --> 00:59:08,240
So, the first question is,
1221
00:59:08,360 --> 00:59:11,160
do you accept full responsibility
for your defensiveness
1222
00:59:11,280 --> 00:59:13,360
and the aggression
I felt from you last week?
1223
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:16,640
Um... What are you referring to?
1224
00:59:16,760 --> 00:59:19,480
Uh... Like, the way you treated me
at the dinner party,
1225
00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:24,200
the rolling your eyes, the, like,
I guess, sass you were giving me
1226
00:59:24,320 --> 00:59:26,160
about what happened
even on the couch before.
1227
00:59:26,280 --> 00:59:27,600
Yeah.
1228
00:59:29,920 --> 00:59:31,400
Do you think it was fair
1229
00:59:31,520 --> 00:59:33,760
what the experts said to you
on the couch?
1230
00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:35,960
Because for me,
their feedback felt accurate.
1231
00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:38,680
Yes.
1232
00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:43,120
Do you realise my awkwardness
and silence towards you
1233
00:59:43,240 --> 00:59:45,000
was a direct result
of your behaviour,
1234
00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:46,520
not me being cold for no reason?
1235
00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:47,720
Yes.
1236
00:59:49,680 --> 00:59:52,360
Do you understand why I raised
that issue at the dinner party?
1237
00:59:52,480 --> 00:59:54,480
I was scared to bring them up
with just the two of us
1238
00:59:54,600 --> 00:59:56,120
because of the way
you've been reacting.
1239
00:59:56,240 --> 00:59:58,680
I do now. Yes.
1240
00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:00,200
Um...
1241
01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:02,160
Do you see that breaking
this behaviour
1242
01:00:02,280 --> 01:00:03,560
means letting go of ego
1243
01:00:03,680 --> 01:00:06,120
and actually unpacking
why you react like that?
1244
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:08,400
Uh, yes. And I feel like
we've gone through this.
1245
01:00:08,520 --> 01:00:09,440
Yeah.
Yeah.
1246
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:13,840
I'm (BLEEP) so over it.
Like, honestly, I'm so over it.
1247
01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:16,160
Like, you've seen how hard I work
on a daily basis.
1248
01:00:16,280 --> 01:00:17,920
I've got so much shit going on.
1249
01:00:18,040 --> 01:00:19,280
Um... I'm so (BLEEP) over it.
1250
01:00:20,800 --> 01:00:22,680
Can you promise me
that if I bring up my feelings
1251
01:00:22,800 --> 01:00:24,960
and give you feedback, you won't
speak to me like that again?
1252
01:00:25,080 --> 01:00:26,320
Yes, I promise.
1253
01:00:26,440 --> 01:00:28,720
You don't have to agree.
Yeah, no, I agree.
1254
01:00:28,840 --> 01:00:30,240
Yeah.
I just feel like we've just...
1255
01:00:30,360 --> 01:00:32,960
I've already suffered enough
from this.
1256
01:00:33,080 --> 01:00:35,240
Um... It's not cute.
1257
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:39,480
No, I hate... I hate that and I hate
that it was written down.
1258
01:00:39,600 --> 01:00:42,680
I honestly felt like I was 15,
1259
01:00:42,800 --> 01:00:44,040
getting in trouble by a teacher
or something.
1260
01:00:44,160 --> 01:00:46,160
I mean, we can stop this.
1261
01:00:46,280 --> 01:00:47,840
No. Keep... Let's go through it.
1262
01:00:47,960 --> 01:00:49,240
OK.
Yeah.
1263
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:50,760
Um...
1264
01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:52,760
(TENSE MUSIC)
1265
01:00:52,880 --> 01:00:57,000
Do you... Um...
Do you have feelings for me?
1266
01:00:57,120 --> 01:00:58,320
Um...
1267
01:00:59,640 --> 01:01:01,360
OK. Um...
1268
01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:04,680
You know, um...
1269
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:06,600
(TENSE MUSIC)
1270
01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:09,200
I don't want to dwell on the...
the negatives of the past
1271
01:01:09,320 --> 01:01:12,120
and I just want to put my dad hat on
1272
01:01:12,240 --> 01:01:14,160
and I just want to focus
on the positives.
1273
01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:19,720
Um... Yeah, I mean,
I feel like with you saying
1274
01:01:19,840 --> 01:01:21,840
"I want to put my dad hat on,"
1275
01:01:21,960 --> 01:01:24,160
like, I kind of want to be someone's
number one priority.
1276
01:01:24,280 --> 01:01:25,120
Yeah.
1277
01:01:25,240 --> 01:01:26,560
And I think I've realised...
I understand that.
1278
01:01:26,680 --> 01:01:29,720
I think I've realised
that being here...
1279
01:01:31,320 --> 01:01:36,480
I think my feelings are like...
they're pretty gone.
1280
01:01:36,600 --> 01:01:38,360
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
I...
1281
01:01:41,080 --> 01:01:44,040
I can't see this working.
1282
01:01:44,160 --> 01:01:47,640
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
1283
01:01:56,440 --> 01:02:01,920
I think my feelings are like...
they're pretty gone.
1284
01:02:02,040 --> 01:02:04,280
(TENSE MUSIC)
1285
01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:06,760
I can't see this working.
1286
01:02:10,680 --> 01:02:13,640
Um, Sam and I have just broken up.
1287
01:02:13,760 --> 01:02:17,200
Yeah. I appreciate you being honest.
I think this is what we needed.
1288
01:02:17,320 --> 01:02:18,520
Mmm.
1289
01:02:18,640 --> 01:02:20,480
I feel like...
Yeah, I wasn't expecting that.
1290
01:02:20,600 --> 01:02:23,720
But also, I'm actually kind of glad.
1291
01:02:24,960 --> 01:02:25,800
It's all good.
1292
01:02:25,920 --> 01:02:28,320
I'm not used to someone
bringing out a book with, like,
1293
01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:31,240
a list of questions for me.
1294
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:32,840
It's not how I roll.
1295
01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:35,480
Look, I've apologised seven times
in total for that now.
1296
01:02:35,600 --> 01:02:36,680
Yeah.
1297
01:02:36,800 --> 01:02:39,480
It's probably the answer that
we both knew was, you know...
1298
01:02:39,600 --> 01:02:40,840
we both knew it
in the back of our mind.
1299
01:02:42,760 --> 01:02:45,000
It's bittersweet, you know.
1300
01:02:45,120 --> 01:02:46,720
Sweet part is I think we learned
a lot about ourselves, so...
1301
01:02:46,840 --> 01:02:47,880
Yeah.
1302
01:02:48,000 --> 01:02:49,840
..it's sad, but it's also...
it's also a touch of sweet.
1303
01:02:49,960 --> 01:02:52,280
Yeah, I'm letting it go as well,
just to be clear.
1304
01:02:52,400 --> 01:02:53,480
Yeah.
It's like...
1305
01:02:53,600 --> 01:02:54,360
It's all good.
1306
01:02:57,080 --> 01:02:58,720
Yeah.
1307
01:02:58,840 --> 01:03:01,040
It's not how I envisioned
it would end.
1308
01:03:01,160 --> 01:03:03,600
I'm a little annoyed, to be honest.
1309
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:07,480
Yeah.
1310
01:03:07,600 --> 01:03:12,160
SAM: I really thought Chris
would fight for me a bit.
1311
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:14,040
Yeah, anyway, look,
it is what it is.
1312
01:03:14,160 --> 01:03:16,160
(TENSE MUSIC)
1313
01:03:21,320 --> 01:03:23,520
Want a hand packing?
No, I should be fine.
1314
01:03:27,200 --> 01:03:30,000
SAM: Um... Yeah, it kind of sucks.
1315
01:03:32,680 --> 01:03:35,480
And I still wonder
what the real reason is
1316
01:03:35,600 --> 01:03:36,640
that he didn't fight for it at all.
1317
01:03:38,320 --> 01:03:39,440
Um...
1318
01:03:39,560 --> 01:03:40,600
Do you want my honest opinion?
1319
01:03:40,720 --> 01:03:43,440
Uh... (LAUGHS)
I've tried my hardest.
1320
01:03:43,560 --> 01:03:47,360
Um... I have made growth, but,
yeah, that wasn't good enough.
1321
01:03:47,480 --> 01:03:51,400
So, yeah, there is a part of me
that's looking forward to
1322
01:03:51,520 --> 01:03:53,120
the next journey
1323
01:03:53,240 --> 01:03:56,160
and my next love
and that's my children.
1324
01:03:56,280 --> 01:03:58,280
But, yeah, you can take the list
for someone else.
1325
01:03:58,400 --> 01:04:00,400
It's not my vibe. (LAUGHS)
1326
01:04:07,440 --> 01:04:09,000
Tomorrow night...
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
1327
01:04:09,120 --> 01:04:11,840
DAVID: Throughout this experiment,
I have been patient.
1328
01:04:11,960 --> 01:04:14,520
But when you're dealing with
the mum, the family, friends,
1329
01:04:14,640 --> 01:04:17,440
they all said that I'm a great guy
for her
1330
01:04:17,560 --> 01:04:19,280
and she still sees negatives,
1331
01:04:19,400 --> 01:04:20,800
there's nothing else I can do.
1332
01:04:20,920 --> 01:04:23,000
..has David reached his limit?
1333
01:04:23,120 --> 01:04:25,920
That's the first time I've ever
heard you say that you need space.
1334
01:04:26,040 --> 01:04:28,440
You never say 'space'.
(GLASS TINKLES)
1335
01:04:28,560 --> 01:04:32,960
It's the second-last dinner party
of the experiment.
1336
01:04:33,080 --> 01:04:34,720
I can see we can do life together.
1337
01:04:34,840 --> 01:04:36,240
I feel a lot more confident now
1338
01:04:36,360 --> 01:04:39,200
that we can take this out
onto the outside.
1339
01:04:39,320 --> 01:04:42,560
Have Rachel and Steven become
this year's new power couple?
1340
01:04:42,680 --> 01:04:45,720
Who would have thought?
Who would have thought?
1341
01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:47,680
The person that he has
these feelings for
1342
01:04:47,800 --> 01:04:50,200
was quite aggressive to him...
1343
01:04:50,320 --> 01:04:52,560
But, babe, you've been aggressive
too at the dinner parties.
1344
01:04:52,680 --> 01:04:56,440
Tensions rise when Sam and Chris
air their concerns.
1345
01:04:56,560 --> 01:04:58,640
You're in no position to be giving
someone feedback
1346
01:04:58,760 --> 01:05:00,320
about their behaviour, honey.
1347
01:05:00,440 --> 01:05:01,920
And you...
I've never been aggressive to you.
1348
01:05:02,040 --> 01:05:03,280
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
1349
01:05:03,400 --> 01:05:04,320
And then...
1350
01:05:04,440 --> 01:05:06,960
I think, like, for me as a man,
I feel like...
1351
01:05:07,080 --> 01:05:10,800
MEL: Oh, god.
ALESSANDRA: Oh, my god.
1352
01:05:10,920 --> 01:05:12,560
What are you on about?
1353
01:05:12,680 --> 01:05:16,680
..it's the shock debate
that will divide the table.
1354
01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:17,960
That was not what I was getting at.
1355
01:05:18,080 --> 01:05:20,080
Are we serious with this?
1356
01:05:23,320 --> 01:05:26,320
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