All language subtitles for The family therapist - Angela sommers allie haze

Mom!

Get down here! I have something to show
you! It's really important!

You know that tux that I've been
studying for a really long time?

Yes. We got an A on it!

Ah, you did, didn't you?

Well, um...

That's a good start, but just so you
know, I was on the dean's list three

semesters in a row, and it's going to
take you a lot more than that.

Oh, okay.

Well, I did study a lot, and I worked
really hard, and I was wondering if

you want to go to the spa with me to
celebrate?

You know that I'm very, very busy. I
have a very important count that I'm

working on right now, and I just don't
have time right now.

Okay. Well...

Have a good day at work.

Oh, honey.

I just pressed this.

I have to go.

I'll talk to you later.

What's going on?

Not a whole lot.

How's your trip going?

My trip's going great. I'm at a resort
right now in Barbados.

I'm talking to another one in a couple
of days in Texas, Caicos.

And then I'm going to talk to the
beverage vendor at another resort in

And then I'm heading home to you guys.

So when's that going to be?

in a half week?

Right on.

Okay.

I hear something in your voice,
sweetheart. What's the matter?

I don't know. I guess it's just Angela.

I mean... You guys have been married
since I was four.

And she's the only mom that I know and
she's just cold. It's like I'm a

or something to her.

It's your mom, and, you know, she's
raised you since you were a little girl,

she just wants to provide you with the
best. I mean, just like I do. We both

working hard at our jobs, and she just
wants to make sure that you have the

education and the best clothes and just
all the things that you need in life.

She's just very committed to her career.

Did anything happen between you guys
today?

Hi, Jesse.

I've been studying for that stupid test
forever, and I found out that I got an

A, and she's just like, it's not good
enough because she was on the Dean's

Congratulations, honey. I know you've
been studying so hard for that test. I'm

so happy you got an A. I'm really proud
of you.

Thanks. Let me think.

I'll have to talk to Angela about this
again.

You know what?

Maybe I've talked enough.

I know of a great family therapist that
one of my coworkers went to.

Her name is Dr.

Hayes, and he recommended the world. He
did some marriage counseling with his

wife. Maybe she could talk to you and
Angela and help sort things out between

you guys, because I obviously haven't
been able to.

I'm going to talk to her and make sure
she makes the time to go see this

Are you okay, honey?

All right, if you think it'll work.

Great. Sounds good.

We'll do it.

All right, honey. Congratulations on
your test.

Thanks. Have fun in Barbados.

I will, honey. I'll bring you back
another one of those little necklaces

sarong things that you like so much.

Thanks, Dad.

All right. Bye, sweetie. Bye.

All right, ladies, why don't you go
ahead and tell me why you think you're

today?

Okay, well, my husband wants me to be
here because he thinks it's a good idea

for us to communicate.

Hold on. I would like to hear what both
of you had to say. So I'm going to go

ahead and start with Elle first.

Why do you think you're here?

I think we're here because I'm tired of
being a nuisance

to her.

She's been in my life since I was four
years old.

She is not interested in anything that
I've ever done.

And she's just too busy avoiding me, I
suppose.

Okay, well, sometimes I find it's easy
for people to understand where someone

else is coming from if they use
examples. Maybe something that has

happened that made you feel this way?

Jess.

Yesterday, I've been working so hard in
school.

My dad is always on business trips.

And I've just been working so hard. And
I've been passing all my classes.

And I wanted to do something to
celebrate with her. I wanted to have a

-daughter spa day.

And she completely blew me off. She
rolled her eyes at me. I tried to give

her a hug.

her shirt getting wrinkled.

So, yeah, that's what I deal with.

Okay, Elle, that's a very good example.
And let me know how you felt then at

that moment when you decided that, I
guess, wrinkles in her clothes and

what was going on at work is more
important than spending the day with

It made me feel neglected.

Hold on one second.

Angela, it helps when someone's telling
you. how they feel if you look them in

the eye so you can understand where
they're really coming from.

All right.

Go ahead, O.

It made me feel neglected.

That's it?

That's not it.

Makes me feel like a nuisance.

Makes me feel unwanted.

Like I'm just the extra baggage that
came with your marriage.

That is so untrue.

I never meant to make you feel that way.
It's just you have to understand. She

has to understand.

I have a very high -profile job, and a
lot of weight is on my shoulders.

So, you know, my life gets very busy,
and things can be very stressful, and I

would only hope that she would
understand this.

So, with that being said, could you
maybe take a chance to see where Elle is

coming from?

And if you maybe had invited somebody to
go out with you, and they told you no,

in maybe an abrupt manner, how it might
offend you?

I do see her point of view.

She doesn't see my point of view. I have
a lot of things on my plate, and I

provide for her very well.

She doesn't see the fact that I have to
pay the mortgage. I have to pay her

student loans.

I put clothes on her back.

I feed her all the kind of food that she
loves.

I take care of her very well.

I can see how you're expressing. Sounds
like you are a very good mother.

But there's more to it than just that.

How about this? Why don't you...
Describe maybe your relationship with

mother. See if we can get something from
that.

I don't see how my mother has anything
to do with this. I provide for Elle

very well.

My mother did not provide for me at all.

I made sure that I've given Elle
everything that I didn't have as a

So that has nothing to do with this
situation here.

All right. Well.

Just by what you're saying, I can see
that you listed maybe a lot of material

things that you're providing for Elle,
which is great. Like you said, your

mother didn't give you that, but I think
what we're lacking here is the word

affection.

How was that with your mother? Did your
mother ever show you any affection?

No, my mother was not affectionate with
me, and I still don't see how this has

anything to do with this situation here.

My mother was not affectionate with me,
no.

Well, the reason it has to do with this
situation is because that's not what

you're giving to Elle, is affection.

And there's nothing wrong with that if
you weren't taught that. It's kind of

hard to understand, you know, where
that's coming from. It's nothing to be

offended by. And you might be surprised
what you would also get out of showing

affection to someone else.

I think Elle gets everything she needs.

I agree with you there on some part,
Angela.

There's no denying that you definitely
provide for Elle financially, and she

has everything that she needs there.

I think what we need to address is maybe
providing some more emotional needs and

kind of covering that basis. And I think
you'd be very, very surprised.

I think you could also benefit from this
very much.

So, with that being said, I'd like to
maybe try a couple little techniques, if

you both agree that that's okay.

Sure. What kind of techniques are you
talking about?

Okay. Why don't we just start with
something simple? How about, you know,

just a hug? That doesn't seem out of the
question.

Okay, yeah. I mean, we hug all the time,
right, Elle?

You mean like yesterday when you brushed
me off and were worried about your

wrinkles? Okay, we're not breaking it
down.

We're doing the techniques. So how about
we just go with the hug first?

Fine.

See?

Okay.

Very good.

Let's go ahead and move on from the hug.

How about a kiss?

You want to go ahead and give your
mother a kiss on the cheek?

All right.

Well, it seems like we're maybe getting
somewhere, but this is what therapy's

for. She's allowed to express herself.

So, with that being said, I think it
would be a very good idea to use this

of therapy, and that means you would
both go ahead and remove your clothes.

What?

Yes.

Tripping yourself of the role that
you're playing so that you guys can dig

little deeper into what's going on here.
I'm not removing my clothes in front of

my daughter.

I don't know. I mean, it might work.

Maybe you won't be so uptight if you're
not always in those dresses.

I am not uptight.

Listen, this is ridiculous.

Is this some sort of, like, has this
worked for you before?

This is... actually something that you
do, that you practice with your clients,

taking our clothes off with mothers and
daughters, like having a strip.

Yeah, I hear what you're saying, Angela,
and I know that this technique may seem

a little unconventional, but I do
promise you that it has done a lot of

a lot of my clients. And I think what we
need to do here is establish a little

bit of trust, and I'm asking you to
trust me, and I know that this will

You want me to trust you that me taking
my clothes off in front of my daughter

and her taking her clothes off with me
is going to fix our relationship?

There's more therapy to it than just
that, but that's the first step. Just

the hugging and then the kissing, we're
moving forward, and I thought that's

what we were working for was progress.

Of course. I mean, it could work.

I don't...

Dad said that she's the best and I don't
really know what we're doing here if

we're not willing to try.

This is ridiculous.

Fine.

Fine. I'll take my clothes off.

Okay. Me too then.

So, that wasn't that hard, was it?

No.

Alright, well, how about with a smile on
our faces, we move forward and go ahead

and give each other a hug from here.

Fine.

Oh, come on, Mom.

See? Not that bad.

Not that bad.

All right.

Well, the next move is going to be a
kiss.

A kiss?

Yes.

On the cheek?

No, no. We're moving forward from there.
You can go ahead and give your daughter

a kiss on the lips.

I'm not kissing my daughter on the lips.
That's weird.

Okay, it may seem weird to you.

I can understand where you're coming
from. But with that being said, as I

even though this message is
unconventional, it does work.

I don't think that's appropriate.

Come on, Mom. It's for our relationship.

Okay, the next progression forward is a
little bit more of a kiss.

You want to show your affection, so
we're going to try and do an open mouth

here. Oh, that is just way too far.

You want us to use our tongues?

Yes, that's what an open mouth kiss is.

Dad wouldn't have sent us here if he
didn't think that she could help us. I

think we should listen to the woman.

Fine little tongue, right? Yeah

Very

good lady

So from here let's move forward I still
kind of feel

Like you guys are clinging on to the
role that you're playing.

And as I said before, that relates to
the clothes that we're wearing.

So I think it's time to get completely
naked and we can go ahead and

move on from there.

This is so weird.

I'm already halfway naked, so... I can't
believe...

that I'm doing this in front of my
daughter.

But, like I said, it's unconventional,
but we're moving forward.

Progress is the key.

This is so inappropriate.

I think you'll soon change your mind.

So what we're going to do is go ahead
and move forward and let's go with one

more kiss from here.

And open mouth one also.

Oh, goodness. This is so inappropriate.

Anything for you, Elle.

Thank you.

Okay, let's start with Elle.

How did that make you feel?

Kind of tingly, and I think my nipples
are starting to get hard.

Thank you for your honesty.

And how about you, Angela?

I felt absolutely nothing.

Alright, I'll ask you again, because I
think there's a better answer to that.

Let's try the truth.

How did that make you feel, Angela?

Alright, fine.

I got a little wet.

I think we just made a breakthrough.

This is ridiculous.

I'm not comfortable with any of this.
This is completely inappropriate.

You know, it's easy for you to sit
there. You're dressed, judging us.

Naked.

Well, I'm not judging anybody. And I
don't mind removing my clothes also.

As I told you, it's a very
unconventional way, and I don't think

kissing your daughter is inappropriate
in any way.

So, if you have such a problem with
kissing your own daughter, I think we

start off and move on, maybe.

kissing someone else in front of your
daughter.

All right.

All right.

Here. You stay where you are.

Okay.

See?

Isn't she so pretty all the time?

This is completely inappropriate.

You enjoyed it, though, correct?

Well, yes.

So, showing affection isn't that bad,
right?

No, I guess not.

How about we try this?

We'll sit right here.

We'll have Elle watch, okay?