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This programme contains strong language, nudity and scenes of a sexual nature

The word virgin, people see it as a joke. It's quite upsetting.

In a world where sex is everywhere...

My God.

..the truth is surprising.

There are more adult virgins than ever.

Being a young adult in this day and age, it's difficult.

Social media. Dating apps. TV shows.

Porn. Porn. Porn.

Porn. Porn is everywhere.

Are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other?

Now...

Yeah.

..at this radical retreat,

intimacy experts are offering a very hands-on solution...

Oh, yeah.

She's a miracle worker.

Woohoo!

Ooh, yeah. Like that? I like that!

..to help Britain's virgins...

Mm...

..lose the one thing...

Do I make you feel nervous?

..they feel is holding them back.

I want to lose my virginity.

It's now or never.

But when the moment arrives...

Would you like to move to the bed?

..who will be ready?

I just don't want anyone to touch me.

..to go all...

SHE MOANS

..the way?

You are so sexy.

Yeah, so good.

Over the last few days on Virgin Island...

I'm definitely gay.

I know, thank you.

That felt really good.

HE YELLS, APPLAUSE

..revelations...

This is MY body. Yes.

..led to breakthroughs.

Right now, I feel on top of the world.

Charlotte's bravado...

Why do you have these horrible stretch marks?

Why have you...? You didn't say horrible, did you?

..has caused issues for some.

I've always hated my body.

I know it's a little thing, but for me it's quite big.

And Dave...

How are you feeling? Good.

..started work with surrogate partner Kat.

It's given me a massive confidence boost.

Now, halfway through the course,

the group will be challenged like never before.

The relationship with the body is very crucial

to dating, intimacy, and sex.

How are you feeling about genital touching?

What we bring to sex is our bodies -

if we feel shame about our bodies, we won't be able to engage in sex.

It's day seven of the retreat,

and this morning there's an extra surprise in store.

Oh, fuck's sake.

Well, that's not scary. SHE LAUGHS

It doesn't bode well that there's a robe.

It's the stage of the course they've all been dreading...

"This phase of the course is The Body.

"Please come to this workshop

"in as few clothes as you feel comfortable wearing

"underneath a bathrobe."

Suddenly need the loo... SHE LAUGHS

..for about four hours -

just until after the workshop's over!

I think this may be one of the scariest workshops

for a lot of people, because it's so intense to expose your body.

I'm not a bathrobe person.

I like clothes. Clothes are a mark of civilisation.

Morning.

Is that what you're going in? Yes.

I've never really looked at my body and not felt sick.

In school, in my friendship group,

I was the uglier, fatter friend.

So, even though, like, I'm not as fat now,

I feel like I just still feel it.

You nervous? Yeah. I want you guys to know

I'm really small and skinny, so don't be surprised. Hmm?

What? Is he on about his cock?

I dunno. I was just nodding my head!

Oh-h-h-h...

Argh...

Am I the only one that's not going to fully take my robe off?

In this morning's workshop,

the experts are keen to see if anyone has the confidence to bare all.

We get horrible messages about our bodies.

There are so many ways to think

"My body isn't right, my body isn't enough,"

and then we are supposed to go out and, like,

enjoy pleasure in our body, it's quite impossible, actually.

Hello, hello. All right? Hello. Welcome, welcome.

Our relationship with our body

makes such a huge difference to how we feel about ourselves.

And social media,

where it's, like, constant images of the Kardashians

with all their augmentations,

and all the influencers,

and it just creates these crazy expectations,

which is why it's so important to start to reclaim our bodies.

And what better way to get comfortable with bodies...

..than by seeing some first-hand?

So Devah, if you feel ready...

So, this is my body, everyone.

And though I love my body now,

I struggle with something called body dysmorphia...

..which means, when I look in the mirror...

..I don't see the same thing that everybody else sees.

This is my body.

And I also love my body now,

but it has been years really with poor self-image.

So, yeah, it's a process. It's a process. Yeah.

How do you feel when you look at Joy and Devah?

I sort of feel like I'm crossing a boundary.

There's a lot of discomfort, and a lot of feelings of, like,

"Oh, that's private," but if you're going to have sex,

this is not private any more! SHE LAUGHS

I feel like I actively avoid mirrors,

I kind of feel like it can bring me down,

so I don't have mirrors in my room, or in my house.

Thank you for sharing.

Thank you. Thank you so much.

Thank you. APPLAUSE

If being exposed to two naked bodies wasn't awkward enough,

what's coming next is the group's worst nightmare.

The biggest thing that we can change

is how we can relate to our body.

We are going to invite you, one by one, to claim your body.

We're asking the group to take off their robes

and stand in front of the mirror

and look at their body.

It's such a way to shift their body confidence.

Who's ready?

Do you know what? YOLO.

First to volunteer is 25-year-old Jason,

who has always had a problem with his self-image.

OK. Right, so...

The front, I'm fine with. It's the butt.

Because my stretch marks, they're really red.

Looking in the mirror feels strange,

because I don't see myself as attractive at all.

I don't like my hair.

I don't like my face.

I've always been like a stickman.

Like, if you had a cartoon stickman, that's me.

OK...

THEY CHEER

Can you come to the mirror with me?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I'll do that.

This is your mirror here, you can check yourself out.

I've seen this every day for 25 years.

CHUCKLING: Good. I'm used to it.

And then when you feel ready,

I want you to just say "This is my body."

This is my body. Yeah.

One more time. This is my body. Yes! Yeah?

THEY CHEER

Amazing!

Who's ready next?

OK. Oh, my God.

Next to face the mirror is 29-year-old Charlotte,

whose relationship with her body has been a struggle.

I had a massive weight loss.

My highest weight was 120 kilos.

Since losing the weight, I have scars, I have loose skin.

When I was larger,

my self-esteem I would definitely say was lower,

but I acted a lot more confident than I am.

DANIELLE BREATHES DEEPLY

I have scars.

Yeah.

I have them too.

You've been on an intense journey around your body.

Now remember the queen that you are.

This is my body. Yes.

Want to try one more time to really feel it?

It's yours you've earned it.

This is my body.

Can I give you a hug?

SHE PUFFS

As they each get up...

This is my body.

..to face their reflections...

I'm basically, like,

probably dressed more than all of you put together.

..how much they're willing to reveal varies.

This is my body. There we go.

CHUCKLING: That was beautiful.

Looking at their bodies,

loving their bodies holistically,

can be hugely empowering.

This is my body.

That's great, thank you.

Who is ready?

Yeah, fuck it. APPLAUSE

So far, 24-year-old Dave

has kept a relatively low profile at the retreat.

THEY CHEER

When I look at you...

..I'm going to embarrass you...

THEY LAUGH

..I see a sexy, handsome man.

Yeah, that does embarrass me.

I know, it's OK. THEY LAUGH

This is my body.

Who else?

So, I think everyone else in this room

knew I was going to do this today. THEY CHUCKLE

I don't actually want to.

This is my body.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Who wants to go next?

Hey, love how are you feeling?

I just feel like I could be sick.

OK. What thoughts are coming up?

Just that I hate the way I look.

What emotions are there?

Like, what emotion are you feeling?

Anxious, sick...

..and disgust.

You can get up there in front of everybody else

and be with your body and see what comes next.

You are not going to let a fear or a lack of self-worth

stop you from living your life.

This is my body. CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Who else is ready?

This is amazing.

Uh...

SHE GROANS

WHISPERING: Yeah, I don't want to look.

You don't want to look? Then look at me for a minute.

This is my body.

This is my body.

I'm so proud of you. Thank you. Can I have a hug?

APPLAUSE

Go - be proud of yourself, flaunt your bodies around,

shake them, remember what they are there for.

Well done, Dave. Thanks, man.

I commend you both for what you did.

ZAC SIGHS I got...

Yeah, you get a little bit of a high afterwards,

don't you? You do, right?

That's the first time I've ever been naked in front of anyone,

let alone a room full of people.

I think today was the biggest thing I've done so far.

Did you feel good? Eh, mixed.

I thought I had this confidence,

and then it's different when you stare at yourself

while other people are staring at you.

I feel like... Maybe I've hit a bit of a wall.

The exercise was particularly difficult for Louise.

You know when you look in the mirror,

I feel like you just instantly look at the things you hate the most -

jiggly legs, and stretch marks on my hips -

like, that's just where your eyes go to.

I just want to feel good in my skin.

I don't know. I still feel a bit sick, to be honest.

Dave, you sly dog, I thought you were wearing boxers.

Yeah. But no, we saw everything.

Yeah, I bared all. Yeah.

I realised, when I was looking in the mirror,

one bollock was so much lower than the other. I didn't notice.

From what I saw, you all looked great.

I feel like it's easier for a girl to be naked. Really?

Cos I feel, if you've got a small dick, it's more embarrassing.

I feel it would be very apt if we had sausages today.

CROSSTALK, THEY LAUGH

Hi.

It's the afternoon on Virgin Island.

Can you have an Indian wedding if you're white?

Of course you can. Of course you can, yeah.

I just want to wear that dress.

While the course seems to be building confidence for some...

Aw, that's so sweet. You're turning me on a little bit.

Really? Mm.

..the body phase is a huge challenge for others.

I was so confident, and then I stood in front of the mirror

and I was like "Don't like that, don't like that, don't like that."

I hate my hands. At least you've not got man hands!

You haven't got man hands! THEY CHUCKLE

Where is your man hand?

I actually don't like my face. Do you not?

Let's talk about Louise.

Yeah, she was just terrified

of being judged, and she felt

that her body was disgusting.

So I was wondering, like,

what you feel like the next steps were?

To maybe disrobe the whole way,

to find new words to describe her body.

I hate the way I look.

I wouldn't say I've ever felt, like, confident.

I started I go into the gym.

That helped a lot. But yeah, it's a work in progress.

Come and have a seat.

Aisha hopes that a repeat of this morning's exercise in private,

could help improve Louise's confidence.

So, mirror work - you did that this morning,

and I wonder if you'd like to continue

doing a guided tour of your body?

Yeah. Yeah?

OK?

Uh... I don't want to put it down.

If this was a friend's body,

and they were, like, "Hey look, isn't my body disgusting?"

how might you show up differently?

So, if it was a friend, I'd just be like,

"There's nothing wrong with you, shut up."

But I just feel like I can't say that and mean it about myself.

Say it like you would to your friend, convincing.

There's nothing even wrong with you.

There's nothing even wrong with you.

Hmm.

Next step is to remove the sheet.

OK.

My boobs, I just hate my boobs.

One second, lady. LOUISE LAUGHS

Have you ever had compliments about your boobs?

Yeah. Tell me about that.

People wish they had these, or it's like, "They're perfect."

I want to invite you to receive the compliment.

"They're perfect."

Hmm.

OK.

Louise is making progress, but Aisha has one final challenge.

So, noticing what your body wants to take off next?

And I'm thinking...

..bra.

Great. When you're ready.

I'm cringing at myself.

THEY CHUCKLE

What's changed now that your bra is off?

It's always nice to take your bra off.

THEY CHUCKLE What's the feeling in your body?

The sensation of it?

Obviously, I do feel more free and just...

Yeah.

You feel more free?

Yeah. Louise!

Yeah. Everyone feels better when they're naked, just on their own.

SHE LAUGHS Yeah, OK.

So feeling better when you're naked?

I'm going to bring the robe.

Don't be ashamed.

Don't be ashamed.

Just love yourself.

Just love yourself.

Body image is definitely a place where Louise struggles.

That strength of feeling that she has,

it feels like it comes from way, way down inside of her,

from way, way back in her life.

Louise, look how much you've done.

Thank you for sharing your body with me.

Thank you for listening.

It felt good to replace my negative thoughts - or try to.

I feel like once I change the view that I have on myself,

then it will be easier to accept it from other people.

How was your one-to-one?

I basically just re-did this morning, but properly.

Do you feel better now, having done it? Did you...?

Yeah, because we properly stood in the mirror and, like... Assessed?

Yeah, talked through everything.

I think you're gorgeous. Thanks.

Although Louise struggled with this morning's workshop...

Tuck in the bicep... Yeah. ..bring them out like this.

There. Then pull.

..Dave shocked everybody by going the full monty.

Look at your veins!

These popping veins.

I was so impressed.

Three of them got naked, THREE! Yeah.

But, like, Dave was a huge surprise! Dave!

Totally.

Yeah, I feel like today he was definitely sending a message,

and being like, "OK, I'm ready."

I will just kind of get in and see, like, if that energy is there

and where he wants to go with it.

There you go. There, four. Four.

Two more, two more.

I'm an accountant, so...pretty boring.

HE CHUCKLES

All of my friends know I am a virgin.

And actually, pretty embarrassingly,

I think all my co-workers know, as well,

cos you tell one person at work, and then everyone knows.

I don't have the confidence to properly get to know someone.

In an intimate moment,

I'm scared about what they're going to think of my body,

and what they're going to think of what I'm like,

and I've got to, like, start living my life properly.

Getting naked in the workshop was a huge step for Dave...

Hello. Hey.

..but does it mean he's ready to take his therapy to the next level?

My suggestion would be to practise, like, touch and giving feedback.

OK. Sure? Yeah, sure. Yeah? OK.

I'll have you start with my arm.

I'll try long and slow.

And can you look at me while you do it?

Yeah, I can look at you.

Thank you.

Building up to sex with surrogate partner Kat

is a possibility IF Dave can master the basics and form a connection.

Am I OK to try and, sort of, go on top?

Yeah.

Is that what you mean?

Yeah. Yeah, OK. Yeah.

And you can kiss, too. My mouth - if you want. OK.

I feel like this definitely isn't the best position.

I don't like the...where my arm is.

Are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other?

Cos that's why your knee is in that position. THEY LAUGH

It's so obvious now you've...

Yeah, OK. But does that make you uncomfortable?

Um, subconsciously, yeah. Yeah, OK.

Do you want to try again with you on top,

or do you want to try with me on top?

Can you go on top? Absolutely. Yeah.

And can you practise coming alive a little?

HE CHUCKLES

Yeah. Yeah? Cos yeah, I'm staying still, aren't I? Yeah.

HE CHUCKLES Yeah.

Try again? Yeah. Yeah, OK.

That feels good.

As Dave slowly opens up...

Go!

Mine won! Oh, it came back.

..the course is encouraging Charlotte to address her buried emotions.

I was so large for such a long time.

You think everyone is judging you all the time... Yeah.

..because you're so used to being on the defensive,

cos you feel like you have to protect yourself.

Today, I saw a softer side of Charlotte.

I saw, like, the quivering of the lip.

And that was very challenging for her - like, to look at herself.

It was really hard for her to keep the inner image

that she has of herself in front of the mirror,

and that's something that so many people are struggling with.

At boarding school, I just wasn't fitting in,

and that's been a big thing for me my whole life.

And then everyone says,

"Oh, don't worry, when you go to uni, you'll find your people,"

and then I went to uni, and then I didn't find my people.

So now - at almost 30 - it makes you doubt yourself.

The mirror workshop revealed that Charlotte's issues

are more than skin deep...

Hi. Hi.

How are you?

I'm good, thank you.

..so the experts suggest clinical therapist Abby

tries to find out what's really going on.

I kind of want to check in with, you know,

the reasons that brought you here?

Um...

Sometimes I do still feel like I'm still this sort of young, you know,

sort of teenage girl, because I wasn't really friends with anyone

of the girls at the boarding school,

and also, because of my size, I was quite isolated.

Like, here's this part of you that feels emotionally trapped

in your adolescence. Do you feel like no-one sees you for you?

My perception of myself can be vastly different

to how other people see me. Mm-hm.

I feel like I'm trying to really just be as fearless as possible,

putting on what I call "The Charlotte Show." Ooh?

And it's like I think I'm giving off this image of me.

Like, sometimes I have to do it at work. Mm-hm.

Then you're just working here.

You don't have to work for people's love and care.

People will love and care for you without performing.

I don't know if you believe that, though.

What if you show up as vulnerable?

I don't know how to, kind of...

..do that. We're going to get there.

We're going to get there. Yeah.

You can't really hurt something that isn't real,

but I've maybe been putting on "The Charlotte Show" too much.

I think the whole thing is about being seen.

And I guess we're going to...

..see who sees me.

Yeah. SHE LAUGHS

It's day two of the body phase at the retreat,

and there are promising signs of change.

I feel like every session I have,

I come out feeling a bit better in some way.

And getting undressed, that is a massive thing for me.

I think I've achieved a lot,

and I know there's things that I'm more confident about,

but I think there's still further for me to go.

I'm definitely seeing the confidence level rise -

they're much more likely to try different tools,

they're really growing.

But progress for Zac can't come quick enough.

I'm feeling a little bit of frustration.

I'm hoping to make some more progress, and eventually sex.

It is the next step, and it's something I want to do, and...

..you know, I'm not afraid to say that.

You can definitely tell that they are amping things up, aren't they?

Absolutely. And like, again, we've got to halfway. Mm.

I just want to be able to be... Able to give people compliments,

because I struggle with that.

Let's try that now. Yeah, OK.

I like your little nose, it's kind of cute.

Oh, thank you. I love your beard, I wish I could grow a beard like that,

it's phenomenal. Brilliant, isn't it? It is.

ZAC CHUCKLES

Let's think of one for the girls.

In a bid to improve how he interacts with women,

Zac challenges himself with his own exercise.

One thing I am not very good at is giving sincere compliments,

so, every day, I am going to come up with a new one for everyone.

ALL: Aw. That's sweet.

Emma ...I'm scared.

..you have some incredible eyes. Thank you very much.

It's amazing to stare into them. Thank you, Zac.

I really appreciate that. Thank you.

Louise,

you have a banging body, mate.

You're fucking sexy as hell.

Thanks.

Holly,

you can be so fucking funny sometimes,

and you have the greatest expressions,

and it's hilarious.

Pia, you have the greatest smile, honestly -

when you're happy, it's wonderful. I love it.

Taylor, you have a brilliant singing voice,

and you know the words to all the songs, it's fucking amazing.

Charlotte, you're always flirting with me,

but I know you'll say you're not, but you're a liar.

THEY CHUCKLE

All right? That's not a compliment!

No, it is - and you're actually pretty good at it!

OK. There we go. Whoo!

Zac may be pleased with his compliment session...

Thanks, Zac. I feel like mine needed to be reworded a bit,

but OK.

..but not everyone is feeling the love.

Don't take this personally, but can you take me out

of tomorrow's compliment book? Yeah, I don't want to be in it.

OK, that's fine. Thank you, though. I appreciate it, but thank you.

Don't worry about it. That's OK,

I hope you liked the one I gave you.

I compare myself enough to girls I see on social media,

I don't want him to be feeding different qualities about us all

individually into my ear on a daily basis, him thinking it's helping me.

Thankfully for Emma,

the boys and the girls are splitting up for today's workshop...

I'm confused why we're taking the book.

I hope it's just, like, drawing, like, a life model.

..as it's become clear to the experts,

when it comes to the body, they need all the help they can get.

I've never had any contact with anything below a woman's waist.

With my ex, I've, you know...

We touched up there, but I've never been...

I've never got that far.

I believe the clitoris is quite at the top,

though admittedly, I wasn't the best at biology in school, either.

If someone asked me, "Where's the clit?"

I'm like, "I don't know." No, I need to use Google.

Today, we'll start with a little bit of anatomy.

I know a lot of you really, really wanted to learn

how to touch a pussy.

Are you ready?

OK, this is the vaginal opening.

We have the outer lips, or labia majora.

I think the biggest mistake that I see men make

is they just think, "Oh, it's all about the clitoris,"

and so they just...

You know, like, do a lot of this! SHE LAUGHS

And it's quite painful, actually.

When you think of a vulva,

think, like, "Oh, you know, I want to, like, pet the whole vulva."

But there's only so much you can learn from a diagram.

Kat is generously willing to take her panties off

and show you how a real vulva looks like.

I think that show and tell is really important,

because when you look at an actual vulva,

you're going to see it does look quite different

than those quite sterile pictures. SHE LAUGHS

OK, so here you see the outer lips, the outer labia.

Right here, and here.

And then, here and here

are the inner.

And there's the clitoris.

And then down here is the vaginal opening.

Do you have any questions?

Can I just say, Kat,

I really admire your courage for doing this,

cos you are basically doing this so we can learn,

so thank you a lot for doing that, and, you know...

Yeah, thanks for saying that.

DANIELLE: OK. That's a lot for one day.

I think you deserve some rest! THEY LAUGH

Thank you. Goodbye. OK.

Bye, Danielle. Thank you. Bye.

Anyone take notes?No! THEY CHUCKLE

No, neither. I was paying attention. Yeah, I...

I'm like, "I don't have time for notes!"

I don't want to whip out a pen.

It's good to hear from women who have had

a lot of men make a lot of mistakes

and to hear from that experience,

and to hear how to not fuck up like that.

Across the island,

the girls are also talking privates.

What do you think of pubic hair?

I don't really have an opinion on it, yeah.

Like, Joy for instance had pubic hair, and it looked really nice.

It wasn't a lot though, it was a very...

She had the...what was called the landing strip.

It was shaped and I really liked that.

Yeah, that's called a landing strip. A landing strip? Yeah.

I might go and get one of them, I think that looked very stylish.

Embrace it girl, yeah.

But it's not the female body

most of the girls need to get better acquainted with.

Obviously, you have lessons in school about the way

the body works but it's not really something that I've dived into.

Obviously I've kissed a couple of boys, but that's about it.

I've had as much contact with the penis as I would like,

which is very, very little. SHE LAUGHS

Hello. OK, welcome.

Now we're going to invite up Thomas and Devah

to give you a little bit of an anatomy lesson on penises.

So, we've got the shaft of the penis.

Sometimes a penis, when it's erected,

it's not, like, super straight.

It can be a bit like this, like this.

After yesterday's penis preview...

Getting used to doing this now. THEY CHUCKLE

Devah can now give the girls a proper guided tour.

People might think that a penis is really sensitive

and, like, delicate or something, but it's not -

you can really apply a lot of pressure. It doesn't hurt, you know?

This is obviously the shaft, here.

This is the glands.

And this part back here,

the frenulum - well, on me, anyway -

it's the most sensitive part.

I don't know about you. Yeah?

And this is the scrotum, obviously.

Now, that is like playdough. THEY CHUCKLE

That's why Jason always talks about playdough skin. Yeah.

Does anyone have any questions?

Do you think prefer touch of, like, hands?

Or, like, someone's tongue?

The best combination that I enjoy

is when someone's using their hand, but also their mouth.

Right.

HE LAUGHS

Thank you. Thank you.

We'll see you later!

You all right? Hello! How's your morning been?

It's been all right, we saw a vagina. Really?

Did you see a penis? Yeah.

Yeah.

Speechless.

It took my breath away, what can I say?

Louise may be learning more about the body,

but the experts now want a window into her mind.

Louise is not an easy person to read -

in terms of how she feels or what she wants -

but you can tell there's something big going on underneath the surface,

and that that needs to be dealt with.

To do that, they've asked Louise to keep a journal

to help her understand herself better.

How's the writing going? Good.

I feel like I have got quite a bit out.

So, my homework from Aisha was write my emotions down,

and things I felt in the past and, like, repressed.

I started with what I thought was, like, maybe the biggest factor.

I know what it is, but I just can't express it.

Louise has formed a bond with Aisha,

but whether she's ready to open up remains to be seen.

How are you feeling today?

I kind of want to feel what I've wrote.

SHE CHUCKLES Yum!

I don't know. I thought, like, maybe reading it to you? Yeah!

I just feel I'd just be able to let it all go, and I can move on.

So, taking a breath...

THEY EXHALE

..and when you're ready.

I honestly don't even know where I should start,

because I almost feel like there's just too much

that could be playing a part...

..in why I am the way that I am.

Pause, take a breath.

I know I don't like being or feeling vulnerable,

and maybe that stems from repressing my emotions

from quite early on in life.

All thanks to my...

.."Dad." SHE CHUCKLES

He was never really a big part of my life,

he just left us for his next wife and their kids.

Just pausing.

I always used to think "What's so bad about me

"that even my biological father just doesn't want to know me?"

If I wasn't even good enough for my dad,

then why would I be good enough for anybody else?

My mum used to say, "You're not bothered about your dad, are you?"

And stuff like...

I'd say no to her, but a little part of me would be like,

"But I do. "

You were taking care of her, and now what are you doing?

Now, you're taking care of you.

It does make me feel better that I've cried. Yeah.

You're starting to build up again that sense of,

"I'm important, I'm worthy of love and respect."

Would you like a hug? Please. Yeah?

I feel a lot better. A lot lighter, slightly happier.

See you later.

Even though it is what seems like little steps,

they are making a big difference.

Keen for progress of his own,

Zac's attention is still on his compliments list.

Are you sure you don't want a compliment every day?

Yeah, no. Just because I've come here to try and steer myself away

from not comparing myself to other girls. The thing is, I think...

I do that enough at home on Instagram.

I think you and Louise are the two best-looking girls here.

You don't want to be saying, like,

"Ah, Louise you've got a banging body, Emma you've got nice eyes."

HE CHUCKLES And then you said,

"Pia, you've got a nice smile." I don't know what you did say

about her. I'm not attracted to Pia, though.

That's that what I'm trying to, like... Why...?

Just put yourself in the position. But I'm also not going to lie...

I don't like being compared to other people, do you know what I mean?

Woo! Woo-hoo-hoo!

It's late afternoon on Virgin Island.

Hi, hi, hi.

And Charlotte still has some body issues to conquer.

So why didn't you go naked in front of the mirror?

Charlotte Show. Mm. I'm noticing more and more,

my issue is being vulnerable. You can't do it.

It's hard for me. You can't do it.

About Charlotte,

when she feels in control then she feels powerful. Mm. Yeah.

I think the next steps for her is she needs

to work on her body confidence

and really kind of feeling at home in her new body.

Hi! Hi.

Over a few sessions,

Charlotte has built a bond with surrogate partner Andre.

But is she ready for the radical next step?

This is an opportunity to see my body, naked... Mm-hm.

..and for me to also see your body naked.

I've never been naked in front of another person.

The intimacy scares me.

It's a lot if everything that I use,

such as clothes and humour, has been sort of stripped away.

I guess I could try going topless first,

and then I could see how I felt continuing on from there?

That sounds great. Let's go ahead and do that.

Hm.

Your body is your body. If there is ever a desire

to be in an intimate connection with someone... Yeah.

..there's a good chance that they're going to want to see your body.

Yes. Huh. Erm...

..I think I feel comfortable taking off my top in this space.

Thank you.

SHE GIGGLES How does it feel?It's refreshing, oh, my God.

You have beautiful breasts. Thank you.

How is your energy if we were to remove our bottoms?

I think I'm feeling OK to do it. Would you like me to turn around?

Yes, please. OK.

And just keep breathing, know that you are safe here.

OK. OK? Yeah.

We did it.

We're naked! We're naked! Oh, my God!

The change in Charlotte is beyond words,

and there's still room for her to feel comfort

and safety in her body

knowing that she is worthy of pleasure.

So proud of you. Aw, thank you so much.

I built that level of trust with Andre

that I felt that I could be vulnerable,

that I could be naked with him,

and that he was going to sort of embrace all the little parts

of myself that I don't fully love all the time.

How was that?

So, we stripped down naked and it was this moment of,

like, we did it!

And I was like, "We're naked! Yay!" Weh!

And I just felt like Dora the Explorer,

when you've, like, conquered whatever you need to do

with Dora and she goes, "You did it, you did it!" Yeah.

Never seen that episode before, where the two get naked in a tepee.

THEY LAUGH

Whilst Charlotte is moving on,

some of the boys can't stop thinking about this morning's workshop.

You know what?

I wanted to know how to properly touch a vagina,

and I feel there were some good tips there.

Yeah, that's important information.

The thing is, if we gain anything, it's a plus. It's a plus.

Dave was very interesting. I do think he took a lot out of it.

I think so too. Yeah. He's really interested in technique.

It was super educational for him.

He really wants to know more, he's thirsty for the knowledge.

Dave may be interested in the theory, but expert Kat needs

to find out if he's ready for a practical.

How are you feeling about genital touching?

Erm..

..OK-ish.

Say more.

Erm, I know I need to do things I'm not 100% comfortable with. Mm-hm.

But everything that I've done that I haven't been comfortable with,

I've ended up being comfortable with, if that makes sense. Yeah.

To get Dave relaxed, Kat starts with some kissing.

But before progressing to the next stage...

..he's got to learn one crucial detail.

You have to get naked too. Oh, OK. Sorry.

Yeah! If you want to. Yeah.

Do you have a preference for who does what first?

Maybe, can you touch me first? Yeah, OK. Go ahead and lie down.

I think touching someone in an intimate way is probably more

nerve-racking than me being touched, because I don't know if I'm

going to be doing it right or if they're going to be enjoying it.

Try to just close your eyes, feel into it.

If Dave is to eventually lose his virginity on the island...

Ready to switch? Yeah.

..he needs to learn to give, as well as receive.

I mean, it's always weird the first time,

so I feel like you should just, kind of, try.

Get used to what it feels like.

It did not feel how I expected.

How did you expect it to feel?

I don't know. Not that.

Yeah.

And then down at the bottom, yeah, that's, like, the vaginal opening.

Yeah, that feels good.

I feel more mature now. Good.

Dave's been gone for an hour.

Hi. Have you had your one-to-one? Erm, I did. Was it good?

It was quite good, actually.

Everyone's curious about his session.

With who? Kat.

But a gentleman never tells.

OK. How did that go? Just educational.

In what way?

He doesn't want to say.

It was good. We got through a lot.

So I think this is the most progress I've made in a session.

There was so much I didn't know,

so I feel like I made a big step.

Next time...

Oh, yes.

..lessons take to the bed.

I like that.

And one-on-ones...

I'm going to go on your G-spot area. SHE MOANS LIGHTLY

..build up a head of steam.

I don't know if you find that intimidating.

But sex isn't always simple.

We'll get dressed, that's enough for today.

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