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Hey guys and welcome to the seventh and final episode of the attraction

blueprint guys. This is your bonus video This is the one that I probably enjoy

talking about the most and it is what makes an attractive man What does she

truly desire and crave in a man? And this is something that you have to do

have to become this man this version of you and it's something you have to work

on oh if you only knew how much i had to work on these things because i was

overweight my entire life i was a shy introvert like i had everything against

in the world of dating so the man you see before you today that's giving you

this advice this is from working on this for a long time and getting better at

this Not only like my physical parents, how I dress, but also how I speak. And

these techniques I've learned through trial and error, a lot of them, these

all things that have been battle tested.

And I know for a fact work, not only for myself, but anecdotally through my

clients as well.

I have that evidence.

So today I want to talk about what makes you desirable as a man.

Very first thing, guys, and this is probably, I put this first because it's,

don't know, for some reason.

I find the majority of guys, this is the number one thing they ask me about

because they struggle with, and it's humor.

Guys, you have to have a sense of humor. You have to have that playful, flirty

personality. So the biggest question a lot of guys ask me is like, Robbie, I

not naturally funny. How do I become funny? How do I have more of a humorous

personality?

Here's the ways that I did it for myself, guys.

I actually just started watching a ton of stand -up. And my favorite type of

stand -up, is crowd work right like guys like matt rife um uh forgot his first

name but um last name's car um ferguson the late night host is fantastic at this

um flirty humor uh craig ferguson so i started studying comics of how they're

talking what what line were they using what was their delivery like what was

their pitch like um what was their you know body language like i started

studying that next thing you can do um and actually i i stole this um, from

Truman was write down, like write down your favorite quotes, write down your

favorite stories.

I keep dad jokes on hand, right? Like I just keep them on hand. I memorize them.

It's always fun to throw those out.

Always look for opportunities in the conversation of you have a funny story

about that. Tell it you have a, that's what she said. Comment about that.

Tell it guys. There's ways you can practice humor.

you know, get around your boys more and just like have that locker room talk

with them.

Um, yes, you can memorize all of this, but you have to practice it. You have to

practice telling dad jokes. You have to practice making smart ass comments,

which is absolutely my brand of humor. If you can't tell from our interaction

far. Um, but you have to practice telling a funny story, but you can

these things. Just immerse yourself in humor. Go to stand up.

I literally went to a stand -up show last week.

It was hilarious.

And I actually learned some stuff that I've been using.

But just study it, guys. Study it, practice it. You're going to get better

it.

Next thing, you have to have an adventurous life.

You have to live adventure.

You have to take risks.

You have to go do fun things.

When I was single,

probably the times in my life where I was picking up the most women, having

most success with women, was when I was doing adventures. I would go on the

boat. I would go, you know, I'd go with a bunch of people and go hiking.

Or we'd go and like shoot guns or whatever. I would just go do

things with a group of people.

And women love being there, right?

So I would just live this like an adventurous life. My buddy would call me

hey. Where are we going this weekend? I'm like, I don't know. Let's find

somewhere. So we go take like weekend road trips and just go live a life that

tells a story, a story that she actually wants to read.

One of the biggest mistakes I see a lot of guys making in today's dating world

is they don't live an adventurous life and they don't like those stories that I

had you create in advanced communication.

A lot of guys that I've talked to don't even have those stories.

Okay. If you don't have those stories, you need to go make them. You need to go

on some adventures. Go find some crazy fun things to do.

Go just go enjoy life.

Those are stories you talk to women about.

The more you live life, the more interesting you are.

So you have to live this adventure life. Guys, one of the things that I tell a

lot of my younger clients is, hey, right now at this point in your life, say yes

until you can't say yes anymore.

Stop being a hermit. Stop being an introvert.

Stop sitting at home on the weekends. Just go do stuff.

You may not like it. Okay, whatever.

You can learn from that and not do it anymore, but just go do a bunch of

Go live an adventurous life.

Guys, we've already talked about the third thing, confidence.

Women deeply love confidence.

Why? Because confidence makes a woman feel safe and secure.

The more confident you are, the more you can be the other aspects of what she

needs you to be. Like confidence is kind of the foundation, the root system of

everything else that makes a man attractive.

You know, a man's not going to go on crazy adventures if he's not confident.

He's not going to have humor if he's not confident because he's too scared to

tell the joke.

So confidence is kind of the foundation which all the other attractive traits

come from, which lead into the next two.

The fourth thing that really makes men attractive is their leadership.

Now I will say this, I'm not talking about bossing her around.

I'm not talking about, you know, this, this really weird leadership that a lot

of men think, um, where it is that like, she's subservient to you, blah, blah,

blah. And like, no, your job as a man is to lead and invite her to come with

you. Like, Hey, I'm living this amazing life. I am going here.

You're more than welcome to come join me.

It's not, hey, you go. No, it's like I'm leading.

You're more than welcome to follow.

And I'm inviting you to come with me.

And you actually, when you're setting dates, you lead her on that date. You

her to the date by telling her where you're going.

Your job as a man is to lead, right? You open doors. You walk on the correct

side of the sidewalk, which I know, guys, it's the side with the cars, not

side of the building.

I just say that I laugh about it because I've had so many guys ask me.

But you do the masculine leadership things to show her I'm in control. I've

had guys ask me this, like, bro, like, what about you makes men want to

follow you?

And like, well, like, how did you, like, why?

I'm like, well, I know where I'm going and I know how to get there and I'm not

scared to go.

So I do it.

I'm very bold and decisive in my actions. I'm very deliberate in my

And that gives other people the security to know they can follow me.

A woman will never follow the leadership of a weak man that's indecisive, that's

constantly making mistakes, that doesn't know what he wants out of life.

I heard one guy say one of the best things you can do as a man is know who

are, which is... confidence and leadership know where you're going and

a good time getting there if you can do those three three things you both like

that's even more simple than what i'm talking about like those three things

you super attractive as a man is when you know who you are and you're

comfortable and confident in that person you know where you're going you're bold

and decisive in your leadership and you have a good time getting there that's

like that's that humor adventure part of it um so guys the last component of

what i want to talk about today is safety

This one, especially in today's modern culture, where we do have a lot of

craziness in this world, women have to feel safe with you.

And there's a couple different levels of safety.

They have to feel safe, like physically safe around. You can't be creepy. You

can't be awkward. You can't be weird. You can't be fidgety and all these other

weird things that I see a lot of guys doing because, you know, they haven't

the work on themselves.

So yes, a part of this physical safety, a part of it is, and this is, you know,

oftentimes misconstrued.

is financial safety she needs to know that if if you two have a future

you're good right you can take care of her um and when it comes to money guys

like i'm tired of guys like thinking they didn't make a certain amount of

get the girl it's simply not true i've gotten amazing women dead broke before

because i had all the other characteristics of attraction but even

points it's not the money she's attracted to it's the characteristics of

it took to make that money that she's attracted to extroversion being one of

highest um so she's physically safe with you she knows you're not going to hurt

her and you won't let anyone else hurt her she knows if she wants a future with

you you could financially take care of her and the third thing the most often

overlooked thing from guys is emotional safety and i often don't talk about this

this early in a program guys but

I need to because I see this tripping up a lot of guys.

So emotional safety is this.

You're comfortable and okay with her emotions.

You know, maybe she's having a bad day.

Maybe she's in, you know, one of her hangry moods.

You don't let her emotions affect your emotions.

You are the peace in her storm. You are the rock, right? That's why you often

hear that cliche of mending the rock.

You have to be that emotional rock for her.

And what happens when you employ emotional safety with a woman is

what you'll find. If he starts to depend on you more, he starts to open up to

you more because you're not scary.

She's not scared of how you're going to emotionally react. This requires a high

level of emotional intelligence from you. You have to be in command and

of your own emotions, a certain bit of stoicism.

in practicing this with women but guys i promise you when you can have and

provide emotional safety emotional safety with yourself but then provide

emotional safety for her this unlocks a level of desire and attractiveness and

really like this feeling of her just like wanting to be close to you that few

guys have ever experienced because A lot of women are scared to open up. A lot

of women are scared to be emotionally vulnerable and to really just be like

their 100 % real self with men because they don't feel emotionally safe.

So safety is the last aspect of desire and attraction that men have to provide

for women.

So guys, that's it. Those are the five biggest aspects of desire and attraction

I see that you have to embody if... You want to have real success with the women

you desire, um, the women you actually want to attract in your life because

she's going to require you to have these things.

So guys, that's it for day seven of the attraction blueprint guys. I promise you

this has been a quick course.

Um, but if you take each of these seven days to get better at them, there's yes,

there's next level to this and there's deeper work we can do. Um, if you want

take that route, just let us know.

But I promise you, if you implement these seven days alone, you will beat

% of the other guys out there because they're simply just not doing anything

they're just simply not good at them. So get good at these seven days and I

promise you, it will absolutely transform your dating and relationship

Because you got to remember, this is not about just attracting women, it's about

keeping the woman, right?

So this is something you're going to have to do from the first date all the

through long -term relationship.

So get better at these guys.

Let us know if you have any questions. Stay in contact with us. We're here to

help in any way that we can.

And look, I would love to work with you further on a deeper level. We do have

one -on -one coaching.

We do have next levels to this. So if that is something you're interested in,

let us know.

I would love to help you really accomplish all of your goals and dreams.

That's what I'm here to do. So thank you so much for spending this time with me

today, guys. I really appreciate you. And hopefully I will see you soon.

Bye, guys.