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Hey guys, and welcome to day six of the Attraction Blueprint.

So, you've done all the hard work, right? We've got the confidence, got the

mindset. We know how to talk to a girl. We've built an amazing connection

through conversation.

She's feeling the energy, she's feeling the vibe.

By the way, I love how women use that word.

Vibe check, that's like their catchphrase right now. Why don't you get

vibes from him?

Well, it's your job as the man to give her those vibes. That's why the energy

transfer is so important.

so today we're going to talk about the clothes and what i'm going to do is i'm

going to give you a few of my favorite closing techniques um because what

happens is and this is so funny um i actually did a bunch of street

with women a while back and it's one of the like biggest complaints about women

is he didn't ask me out like we just kept talking and i put him in the friend

zone because he wouldn't lead and on especially on dating apps um women want

as soon as they feel a connection you to lead and close.

And I literally heard one girl say, it's called a dating app. It's not a

friendship app.

Ask me out.

It's so funny when I heard her say that because like, ah, man, that's so true.

And it's a big mistake a lot of guys make.

You're scared to close because you're scared of rejection.

But we already talked about active reframing and how to get around that. So

not really worried about that.

But let's talk about how to increase your success rate with closing.

First thing I want to talk about is on the dating apps themselves.

because I think this is where most of you guys are at. You're on dating apps.

Let's talk about how we close.

So when it comes to closing on a dating app, your job through conversation, and

look, you're using that FEV protocol with humor, with storytelling, using all

those things to build emotional investment through text messaging on a

app. And by the way, secret weapon, if you have the ability, use a voice note.

Voice notes are absolutely killer on dating apps.

But as you're having that conversation with her on a dating app, your job is to

bring her in emotionally, to build her emotional investment into going out with

you. You get her to the point where she has to meet you. She has to see you in

person. And you use all the advanced communication, the frameworks to get her

that point. So what you're looking for is you're looking for signs of

investment.

This can be long replies.

Um, this can be her asking you amazing questions.

Um, a lot of emojis, uh, really it's basically reciprocated effort. Is she

giving you as much effort in the conversation as you're giving her?

And once you notice that investment's high, and once you notice she's into the

conversation, the rule that I kind of use here, guys, um, and it's, it's

but it absolutely true is strike while they aren't hot.

A lot of guys, I see this time and time again.

A lot of guys make the mistake of waiting until the conversation dies

Oh, crap, I don't have anything else to say. Let me ask her out.

No, you get her to an emotional crescendo, and then you capitalize on

emotion, alley -oop that emotion to a date.

Oh, my God, this is so amazing.

We've got to see if this is real in person.

Like, this has been an amazing conversation. I can't wait to see how

is actually going to be with the real you.

So you're getting her to that emotional peak. She's into you. She's getting the

vibes as she says.

And then you're taking advantage of that emotional high. That's when you move

into the close.

And here is my absolute favorite close.

It works a ton. And I haven't had a lot of negative feedback when guys have used

this close.

Because it gets a micro commitment. It's true. And it just works.

So get to that emotional high point.

First thing you say.

is, I don't know about you, but I absolutely hate these dating apps.

You know, whatever your opinion of them is, chances are she's going to say

something of a micro compliance of, oh my God, me too, or you have no idea, or

she'll give you something that agrees with your statement.

So you have no idea how much I hate these dating apps.

I much prefer the real world or some variation of, or something about like, I

hate the online world.

I like the real world better.

But when she says something that agrees with that statement, what she's done is

she's given you a micro compliance of the real world.

So you give her that. I don't know about you, but I hate dating apps. I much

prefer the real world. Yes, me too.

Great. Why don't we? And then you suggest a date.

Never, ever, ever ask these two questions in person, on a dating app, in

relationship, in marriage. Never.

Never, as long as you're dating women, ask these two questions.

When are you free?

What do you want to do?

That is kryptonite in the dating world. Why?

Shows zero effort, zero leadership, zero confidence.

No. I say suggest the date. And what I mean by that is, why don't we go do this

at this time on this date?

Or I bet we would have so much fun doing this this time of this date.

Oh my God, you're going to have so much fun when we go do this, this time of the

day.

You're telling her what you want to go do, when and where.

When you do that, you're going to get three possible answers from that

suggestion.

First possible answer, best case scenario is sounds great, let's do it.

Second possible answer you're going to get from that is probably scheduling

conflict. right you just gave her a very specific time and a date we live in a

very busy world she may have something going on and by the way to increase your

odds success always set the first date monday through thursday women are

typically bit busier already have plans friday saturday sunday so just to

increase your odds of her being free monday through thursday is typically a

better first date um time slot so those are the first two answers you're going

to get from um that close if you do it right third uh

It's really funny. The third thing women will do when you suggest a date is they

will literally ignore that you just said that and keep talking to you.

It's like, they don't know what it's like. They think we don't know what just

happened, but it actually frustrates a lot of guys, but you've got confidence.

You know how to reframe this.

And the reframe there is just not yet. She's not ready to go on a date with me

yet. So I'm going to go back to building emotional investment. I'm going to go

back. to the FEV protocol.

And I'm going to wait until I get another emotional investment crescendo,

another emotional investment buy -in, and then I'm going to try again.

And when I try again, you know, I'm probably getting one of those three

again. If it happens a second time,

feel free to call it out.

Something as simple as, you know what you just did, or I know you saw that,

or hey.

we ain't here to play games call her out on ignoring that message she obviously

read and just have fun with it um this is part of that flirty interaction some

women do play hard to get some women do like for some reason make you really

earn a date with them especially if they're getting a lot of attention which

you're going after an attractive woman pay to break it to you she's getting a

lot of attention um so you might have to go through this like emotional

investment

Ask out emotional investment, ask out emotional investment, call her out.

Um, so you might have to go through that iteration a couple of times, but I

promise you that framework absolutely works.

If you did the job of the conversation, building the emotional investment on the

front end. And guys, like when you're doing this in person, almost the same

happens. The only thing I tell guys to do in person is before you start the

conversation with her, Give her a like pre -framed time exit of, Hey, you know,

I was just on my way to the gym. I got a couple of minutes. I just want to tell

you, give her the compliment or, you know, give her your opening line or just

like pre -frame that. Hey, I was just on my way to a meeting, but had to come

say hello to you.

Um, I've only got a couple of minutes.

I'm going to meet somebody, but pre -frame that like time constraint,

what that does for her is it takes the pressure off her of thinking.

that you're going to be there talking to her for an hour.

Um, that is actually a fear. A lot of girls have is, Oh my God, I don't want

talk to him. I'm going somewhere.

I don't want to be late.

Um, so if you pre frame this exit, um, it really helps her just like kind of,

um, take her guard down to know that you're not going to sit here and talk to

her for 30 minutes.

Um, also watch your body language, like kind of keep an open body language to

her. So you're like threatening, um, keep your distance a little bit, keep an

open body language. And as you're in the conversation, you can square up.

with her, um, as she opens and welcomes to that in that in -person interaction.

Um, and then as you're going to the close there, you're going to once again,

transition. Um, and what I like to do is I like to bring up the like high point

of the conversation.

So if she like got really excited talking about, let's just say her trip

Japan as I'm going to close, um, I would like Japan. I really want to know more

about that. Let's connect and go grab a drink.

Or if she talks about, like, you know, maybe her favorite type of food, oh, my

God, I can't wait to take you to this place to go get that.

Let's connect and go.

And a couple other things you can do there. I like getting a phone number

closed, but a lot of guys are just a little intimidated to do that. So the

easiest way to do it is you literally can go through the communication

techniques and protocols and, hey, let's connect on Instagram.

Very non -invasive.

Very non -threatening. Hey, why don't we connect?

I'd love to keep talking to you.

Boom, close and get the hell out of there.

It's your job to end that conversation and go. Do not make it awkward by

lingering, right? You're a man of action. You're a man of intention.

Be intentional. Lead the conversation.

Lead to the close and then get out of there and then leave on a high note.

Crack a joke about something you just said. I still can't believe you said

was your favorite vacation ever.

As you're like walking out there.

Or it still trips me out that really your favorite food group is a salad. I

don't understand that. And then walk away.

Leave her on some type of joke, some type of high note as you're exiting that

conversation. Just so her last memory of you is a good emotion.

Guys, so I hope that helps you. Man, there's so much more to the actual game

closing that we can get into.

But this is, you know, a little over 10 minute video that I just want to give

you. to really give you the techniques to close on social media or a dating

but also some techniques to employ in person.

So, guys, that's it for how to close. I know it was a short video, but I promise

you these techniques do work if you try them.

So tomorrow, I'm actually going to go into a little bonus with you of

you absolutely need to know, and I cannot wait to go with you because it's

something I've done a ton of research on and have kind of nailed down a couple

specifics.

Um, so yeah, guys, can't wait to see you tonight. I guess I know I'm leaving it

open for a reason just because it's a fun topic to go over. Um, there's a

bonus that I put together for you. Um, but that's it guys. I'll see you

tomorrow's video.

Do me a favor, go approach women and clothes. Now that you've worked for

everything else, go close.

Let us know how those closes went. Let us know how many closes were successful.

Let us know where you stumbled so we can give you some feedback, but go close

today.

Go find someone to make a connection with today.

Bye guys.