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These are my sisters.
Where's Traci?

Traci?
She's here, too.

Traci's definitely
not being her normal self,

and I'm starting
to worry about her.

Let's talk
about social media.

You let people get to you
to a point

- where you go back and forth--
- No, I don't.

Wait. You let them
get to the marrow of your bones.

Not-- not like that.

Vince and I pull up
to the UNCF event,

I look over to my right
and boom!

There goes my stalker.

Why are you friends
with the person
who stalks me

and give stories to the media
about your family?

She goes back to her hotel

'cause the last thing
I'm gonna do is cause a scene

at Diezel's big,
big night.

♪ We are the Braxtons
and you'll see ♪

♪ We are not like
an ordinary family ♪

♪ Toni, Traci,
Towanda, Trina ♪

♪ Tamar and Miss E will ♪

♪ Teach you a thing or two ♪

♪ On "Braxton
Family Values." ♪

Oh, my God,
how y'all doing?

-Hey, Traci.
- Hey! Hey, hey!

I'm here.

It's nice to be able
to get together
with my family

to celebrate
the UNCF scholarship

that Diezel and I
presented this evening.

Traci flew in
from a performance
in Tennessee.

Even though she's late,
I'm so glad she made it.

Hey, Eric. Oh, my God.
I haven't seen Eric--

Eric, you are...

You're getting ready
to be 20.

- He's a man.
- He's a man.

Ooh, I like this.
Look at this.

I like Toni's, too.

I told you,
I have a jumper.

I have a jumper
and I have a layup.

It's in the back of my closet.

- What's a layup?
- The jumper is...

I thought you were
talking about basketball.

The jumper is layin' up
on this corner.

There you go.

What is wrong with Traci?

So, how many cocktails
did you have tonight?

You know what, Toni,
I didn't even have
no cocktails

because I'm--
I was just so...

- Overwhelmed.
- ...overwhelmed
because of Diez...

It's just you don't
want nothin' to drink.

That's my high today.

It's my ultimate high.

Yes.

Braxton told me--

you like my outfit,
Braxton?

It's gross?

Why is it gross?

- Is it too sexy?
- Yeah.

It's great
having all the kids
with us here tonight,

but I'm a little disappointed
that Tamar isn't here, though.

I don't know
why she couldn't show up
to Diezel's event.

He was looking forward
to Auntie Tamar seeing him
on stage tonight.

But I'm hoping
she'll just come in
and surprise us all

and walk through the door
any moment.

- Diezel, how do you feel?
- He did an excellent job.
He really did.

- He did?
- I taped it.

- I'm so upset I missed it.
- I'm gonna have to show you.

Thank you.

- Yeah, Ariana.
- I had to.

- You did?
- I needed more attention.

I had to.

You know who Ariana Grande is.

- I don't know
what she looks like.
- Yes, you do.

I'm gonna pull her up.

- Ooh!
- Oh, my God!
Braxton, she's mine.

Hey, she's fine.

I'm gonna get you back...

Trina, why you making a face?

Because girlfriends
is not really something

that you have to worry about
right now.

That's the life
that I live.

Well, I'm glad
you have a girlfriend
instead of a fianceé.

But they're just engaged.
They're not married.

But like I said,
they get engaged then comes
the baby real early.

- Hey, Grandma.
- Is that what you figure?

I'm missin' a sister.
I'm lookin' around...

None of the adults are
discussing Tamar's absence

because we're just trying to
keep it upbeat for the kids.

Especially Diezel,
because this is
his special night.

But I'm pretty sure I know
why Tamar's not here,

so I'll doubt
she'll be coming to dinner.

I can hear!

Diezel,
you wanna do the grace?

All right.

Lord, thank you
for this wonderful food.

Thank you
for all the people here

and I hope Tamar and Vince
can make it here.

If they can't, so be it.

Bless them all.
Bless everyone here.

- Amen.
-Amen.

He is a typical Aries.
He's an Aries to my own heart.

I think Diezel was
extremely disappointed

that Tamar
was unable to make it.

I need to find out
what happened.

So, until I talk to Tamar,

I don't know.

- That little dress
is super cute.
- Thanks.

It feel real s--
I feel real summery.

It's actually a skirt.

- And you made it into a dress.
- And I made it into a dress.

- Ooh, aren't you just creative.
- Wasn't that smart?

- I know!
- I bet you they have
Sangria here.

- Let's get some.
- With that whole...

- You think so?
- You know, being the bar owner
that I am.

Hey...

- Look at the menu.
- Look at that.

I'm gonna steal it.
I'm gonna take a picture
of it.

Hey, look.
Sangria.

Okay, let's get
a pitcher?

It's, like,
two glasses are $32,

so we might as well
get the pitcher for 48.

That's what I'm sayin'.
Let's get the pitcher.

- How we doin'?
- How are you?

We got some amazing
cocktails--

craft cocktails,
some great wine.

Our Sangrias here
are amazing.

I hear you talking
about the pitcher.

Yes, we're gonna do
the pitcher of the Sangria.

- Thank you so much, Francis.
- Thanks, ladies.

How cute was Diezel?

Towanda, was that UNCF
not just the best thing ever?

It was.

I was so proud of D-Ky.

- And he looked so dapper.
- He looked handsome.

- It was good to see
everybody...
- Praise him.

Well, almost everybody
together.

Diezel was disappointed
when Tamar and Vincent
didn't come.

Well, they showed up,
but left

because they didn't like
one of the assistants
that was hired

to, um, take pictures
of Diezel.

Oh.

Mommy told us
that Tamar actually came
to the UNCF event,

but did not get out
of the car

because an old friend
and an employee--

she had major issues
with was there.

My personal opinion is
it has--

I don't care
how much you dislike
a person,

you can't dislike a person
more than you love
your family.

'Cause it was about Diezel.
It wasn't about anybody else
but Diezel.

I'm at a point,
and this is playing
devil's advocate...

I just think
if it's gonna impede
what's happening,

just don't bring
any of them around.

If you wanna have 'em
in your personal space,

have 'em in
your personal space.

Just-- just--
just don't.

Just-- just don't.

Because it just causes
too much conflict.

Trina, it's conflict anyway.

It doesn't even have to be
an outside person
to come in.

Tamar should have come
to the event regardless
of who was there.

But I just know
when I'm supposed to
come somewhere,

if a certain person
causes drama who shouldn't
be brought,

I don't get involved
with it.

If I'm supposed to
go an event,

I show up,
I'm gonna do
what I'm supposed to do,

and that's just it
for Trina.

So now what?
What do you--
what do you--

- what do you think
we need to do...
- Pray.

...to repair--
yes, we have to pray now.

Because I think,
at this point,

it's every little thing.

I don't know, Trina.

Tell me why.

'Cause I just don't know.

That's a shutdown.

- It is.
- Why?

Because I just don't--
I'm tired of--

I'm tired of it
always being something.

I'm tired, and I'm so tired
of giving everybody else
my energy.

I'm tired of that, too.

So I don't do it anymore.

But I think we need
to sit down and talk

about all these issues
between us.

The only thing
that can help fix
the sister unity

is Jesus.

That's it.
Just prayer.

Here we are.
We have our cauliflower
smoked caper vinaigrette.

-Ooh.
- Poached egg in the center.

- Okay? Enjoy.
- Thank you.

Ah, that's the, uh,
that's a poached egg.

Let me know if you like that.
I can always bring it back.

What was that, Trina?
Are you flirting
with him now?

No, I was not flirting
with him.

That sounded like
a little flirt to me.

- Look at you giggling.
- I'm not giggling.

- You're giddy.
- I did not giggle.
I laughed.

Okay. He's way cute.

-Hey, guys.
- Hello.

Hey.

- I'm so hungry.
- Are you?

I haven't eaten yet.

As a family,
I feel like we need
to be able

to collectively discuss
anything.

Whether someone gets upset
or disappointed.

The only way things
can be resolved

is to actually address it
and talk about it.

So, tonight
we all agreed to meet

to talk through our issues.

Tamar, what botanical garden
did you skip through?

- I think it's cute.
- It is.

- I like it though.
- It is.

- It's pretty, though.
- Traci, I am beat
for a couple people.

Wait a minute.
Traci said, "But what botanical
garden did she come from?"

What is wrong with her?

- Traci.
- It's wanderlust.
It's definitely wanderlust.

Tamar-tian
botanical garden...

It's wanderlust.

-Well, you look nice.
- I do?

Yeah.

My Lenny-Kravitz
look today.

I was gonna say
you got-- you're not--

I never understood
why older people wore, like,

shades as, like,
their glasses.

What does that mean?

That means like, you remember,
like, what's Miss--

used to live
on Queens Town?

- Uh, let me think.
- I ain't talkin' about you.

Lookin' at you reminded me
of like older people...

No, the lady who used
to live next door.

- You know
who I'm talkin' about?
- Yeah, I forgot her name.

- It's Correen.
- Miss Correen
used to wear glasses.

Her and then the lady
who lived across the street
from her, too.

The lesbian?

Whoo!

- They were?
-Yes.

Trina,
think about it.

- You didn't just
think about it?
- She's a sweetheart,

but Tamar said--
she looked at me and said,

"Think about old people
who wear sunglasses..."

I said older people!

- If ever the word "shade"...
- No, not at all.

She's talkin' about
when we were little.

When the girls
kind of pick on each other,

it doesn't make me
feel bad at all,

because they did that
as kids,

but they used to laugh
about it.

Now, they just take it
so seriously.

I don't understand
that part.

I'm gonna have to
step out for a minute.

Bathroom.
I hate to get up.

- Y'all start.
- Want me to go with you?

- No, I got this.
- Need help?

Go ahead.

So, Tami, why didn't you come
to the UNCF event?

- Because--
- I thought
everybody was coming.

I was--
I did pull up...

...and then--
I saw Towanda and Trina
with my stalker.

Coming up on
"Braxton Family Values"...

- So now I'm a bad person?
- You said you're a bad person.

- I'm asking.
- No, it doesn't make you
a bad person.

- So I fallout with everybody?
- You are a bit abrasive.

Let's not deny that.

We're not gonna tear up
this family!

You know what?
Y'all got darn better
get it together.

I don't even wanna eat
with you. How 'bout that?

Tami, why didn't you come
to the UNCF event?

I did pull up...

and then--
I saw Towanda and Trina
with my stalker.

Who's your stalker?

Your assistant.

What makes him a stalker?
He follows you?

Yes, and my friends...

on Instagram and on Facebook
and on Twitter all the time.

But why didn't you
come in?

'Cause I don't wanna
be around--

you wanna hang out
with your stalker
at a family function?

This particular person
was asked

not to be around me, period.

And, you know,
I don't get...

...how family brings...

a person around
that another family member

is completely
and utterly uncomfortable with.

He was there
for Diezel's thing

because I needed Diezel's
social media down.

I had nobody to do it
and he was the only person...

Well, you could've asked me.
I would have did it.

- I wasn't gonna ask you
to do that.
- You should've...

No, it's for Diezel.
So he would've been
nowhere near you...

You would've asked Diezel
to be around my stalker?
Really?

Diezel was upset
that you weren't there.

So it made me feel
some kind of way, yes, it did.

But nobody explained to him
that Towanda or you

hired my stalker.

- And he's still around.
- I didn't hire your stalker.

- He always worked for me.
- Yeah, you did.

- He still works for you.
- He always worked for me.

But why does he still
work for you then?

He wasn't supposed to be
anywhere around you
that day

- out of being
respectful for you.
- But he was, though.

Okay, but then you gotta
get him out of here--
get him outta my space

- get him outta my area...
- He wasn't supposed to be
there, period.

...so I can walk through
and support my nephew.

That's how I think
it should have been.

But that's-- I mean,
I would never show up
with Trina's ex-husband.

- It's just the level...
- You really think
that's the same thing?

I do. I do feel like
it's the level of respect.

Okay. Tamar, you fall out
with everybody.

I would have no friends.
I would have no employees.

- Who do I fall out with?
- You fall out with everybody.

- I don't fall out with anyone.
- Oh, my God.

Who did I fall out with?
Who have I fallen out with...

- You feel
comfortable saying that?
- ...besides my family?

- Oh, my God.
- Who did I fall out with?

So now I'm
a bad person now?

- So you're saying
I'm a bad person?
- You said you're a bad person.

- See, why you adding words?
- Don't-- don't twist words.

- You said you're a bad person.
- I'm asking.

No, it doesn't
make you a bad person.

So I fall out
with everybody?

You fall out with--
Tamar, you have to admit,

- you're a bit...
- That's a lie, Toni.

You are a bit abrasive.
Let's not deny that.

I'm sorry, Toni.
I should have come anyway.

I should've been uncomfortable.
I should've been
around somebody--

No, you shoulda said,
"Get him away from me so
I can support my nephew."

- Just like that.
- I have several times...

No, and let's just be honest.

I've asked 100,000 times,

"Please don't
bring him around me.

I'm uncomfortable
around him."
I have asked.

That's never come up?

We've never discussed
that before Diezel's event?

- Oh, yeah, we have.
- I've never said I was
uncomfortable around him?

"Please don't bring him
around me"?

He wasn't
supposed to be
in your space.

But he was there
in my space.

Okay, that's what I'm saying.
I understand that.

You don't wanna be
around somebody

that makes you
feel uncomfortable
or you don't like.

I'm saying,
you've done stuff to people

you don't like in the past
and you manage to make it work.

Why isn't Diezel
worth it?

You would be the same way
if this was Logan.

- Why isn't Diezel worth it?
- So this is a mother.

I am a lioness that would
defend my own just like you was.

So, as a mother
and as your sister,

I've felt some kind of way
and I was in my feelings
about that.

And I'm supposed to be.

- I'm not dismissing
your feelings...
- You are a little bit.

...but, no, I didn't even know
he was in your space.

- He wasn't supposed to be...
- First and foremost...

- You make it a melodrama.
- No, it's just-- no, I'm not.

- I'm a bad person.
- That's not fair.

- Nobody said
you was a bad person.
- But you are.

- I'm telling you
my disappointment.
- You are.

- Oh, my God.
- But I'm disappointed.

- No one said that, Tamar.
- Well, what I'm-- yes, yes.

- When did who said?
- Because she's saying
that I'm letting somebody

stop me
from seeing my nephew.

- And I'm just saying--
- You did.

And I'm really hurt
that I couldn't support
my nephew

and celebrate
my family's big event,

but the choice
was made for me

for my sisters, okay,
to bring my stalker.

I've never heard
of a family who does that.

Oh, but Tamar's
the big bad wolf.

It's my fault,
not yours.

I just find it
a little disrespectful

that you're not even gonna
take ownership in any of it.

And it's all me

and I'm just really
jacked up for not coming...

- I wanna be clear.
- ...and you're
not taking ownership

for having somebody
at a family event.

- All I'm saying is...
- Okay. Okay!

- You guys keep
stirring up crap...
- Exactly.

- I'm stir...
- Ah ah.

I said, "You guys."

I did not pick you out
by yourself.

I said, "You guys."

That means every
God darn person
at this table.

Except me.

You guys keep
stirring up crap,
stirring up crap

every time you get together!

If you stir crap,
it's gonna stink!

It's simple as that.

But y'all keep bringin' up--

do you think
I don't get tired of this?

Can't even sit down
and have a decent darn meal!

I wasn't here.
I went to the bathroom.

I come back.
It was chaotic.

I'm like, "What?"

So I have to come in
the middle of a hurricane.

Nobody can
express themselves
to each other?

Nobody can tell each other
how they feel, God darn it?

We're not gonna
tear up this family!

You know what?

Y'all God darn
better get it together.

I don't even
wanna eat with you!

How 'bout that?!

- Thank you.
- Sure.

Thank you so much.

Well, Missy,
you're lookin'
younger and younger

- each day I see you.
- Yeah, I do look good.

I don't see Braxton at all.

We aren't friends.

However, I invited Braxton
to come to Atlanta so we could

rectify whatever is goin' on
with the family.

Well, tell me how things
been goin' with the girls.

I don't like the attitude that
they have between them.

- Each other?
- I really don't.

- Again?
- I don't know.

They just got
this thing

that they're holding
on the inside

for some reason
or another.

Well, I know
they're very opinionated.

Especially with each other.

They're sisters.
They're siblings.

They supposed to express
what they feel.

However,
you leave it alone.
You let it go.

Yes. Yeah.

I'm doin' the best I can.

But I think
they need some guiding.

I've lost
a lot of communication

with-- with the girls.

'cause they just don't
talk to me at all.

I didn't know that.

From some of 'em I hadn't
had a Father's Day card,

a birthday card.

It's almost like
they don't even acknowledge me

as being
their father anymore.

When Braxton told me that
he hardly hear from the girls,

I thought he and the girls
talked everyday.

I couldn't believe it.

I think that
the children carrying--

still carrying a lot of hurt,

disappointment
and disillusion.

Just the mere fact
they're not talking to you,

they're carrying a lot,
and that needs to be fixed.

You know what
I was thinking, though?

I think they need
spiritual people
in their lives,

not that we aren't,
but sometimes

I think family need to go
beyond their family 'cause...

- Someone outside, yeah.
- Outside of the family.

'Cause sometime family
doesn't always have the answer.

I think with the girls,
that they really will need

a powerful person.

A person that's been there,
done that, got a t-shirt.

So I think this person
that I have in mind

will really work.

When do you think
you could set up this meeting?

Soon as possible,
I think.

- It's imperative...
- It very much so.

- ...for everybody.
- No one is exempt
in this thing.

'Cause it doesn't sound
like the family.

Coming up on
"Braxton Family Values"...

I just can't believe
that Mommy and Daddy

has summoned us
to an emergency...

...family meeting.

I'm a little nervous, though.

I miss everything
about our relationship.

Do you believe her?

Did you leave your jacket
on the plane?

I don't know
where I left my jacket,
Towanda.

It's probably
in your book bag.

Or in the trunk or something,
I don't, Towanda, you know.

I just can't believe
that Mommy and Daddy

has summoned us
to Orlando.

An emergency...

...family meeting.

I'm just glad
they're coming together
by something,

- Me, too.
- So if they can
come together, so can we.

So can we.

I wonder what time Traci,
Toni, and Tamar gets here.

I don't know.

I'm a little nervous, though.

- Why?
- Well, Towanda, because we've
been acting the fool, though.

Let's be honest
about it all.

Our sistership
has not been...

ideal like it used
to be.

What do you think it is?

That's why we have to have,
like, a family meeting,
I guess.

We have to get
to the root of it.

I don't think anybody really
wants to talk about it.

I don't know if things
are really gonna get better,

however, comma,
I'm just gonna
sit back and listen

and absorb everything

because I don't wanna
get into an argument
with anybody.

I feel like it's gonna be
mentally exhausting.

Our family meetings
are always mentally
exhausting.

So what are you saying?
You wanna have a cocktail
when we get there?

That'd be nice.

Towanda and I

are the first
to arrive at the hotel,

and I really hope
this isn't gonna be
another waste of time.

The last thing we need

is another family
blowup in front of whomever

we're supposed
to be meeting.

But maybe it's
President Barack Obama.

I hope so.

Oh, minibar.

There's no minibar!

Child...

I walk in the room

and that's
Bishop T.D. Jakes.

- Here we are.
- Hi, Bishop.

- So glad to see you.
- Thank you.

- How are you, sir?
- Hello. Great to see you.

Good to see you.

For the unsaved people,

Bishop T.D. Jakes

is like one of the biggest
pastors in the world.

He'll bless your soul
if you let him.

Only do it, "holla-loo."

When I walked into the room
and I saw Bishop T.D. Jakes,

I almost fell
to the floor.

No, it's not President Obama,
but it's pretty darn close.

He definitely has
a commanding presence,

and our family has been
in awe of his ministry
for many, many years.

Well, we are here.

We are here.

I am glad to be here
and to be of service to you.

What I would do
in any situation is tell you,

"I want you to tell me
why I'm here.

What you would like to see
come out of this,

this session together
with the family."

What you perceive
the problems are
out of your heart.

Let's just start
and just talk to me.

I see my family
falling apart.

The girls,
they were so close.

They were just like
two peas in one shell.

But I don't
recognize them.

I don't know these people.

Was there something
that happened

that you saw it begin
to come apart?

Yeah, you know,
when we went
through the divorce,

my ex-husband and I,

it just, like--
it just fell apart.

You know, everybody
was doing this, that--

I think it was
a lot of hurt

there was a lot
of anger,

there was a lot
of disappointment,

and I don't--
they didn't know
what to do with it.

They didn't know
how to deal with it--

I didn't know
how to deal with it,
to be honest with you.

You know,
it's interesting

that Mommy
first brought up

that she thinks
our issues started
with our parents' divorce.

I mean, I understand
every family has issues,

but I agree
that when we found out
about our dad's big affair,

the whole concept of family
was put into question.

But I don't think
that's the only reason
we're having issues.

For me, I think
the difference happened

once the show came out.

I thought the show
was what caused
the distance with us.

Maybe because
we were living our lives

out loud
on the camera

and we didn't have the skills
to communicate post-filming.

In addition to that,

I think I,
as the oldest,

was very disappointed
not that my parents
got a divorce--

well, yes,
I was about that,

but to be honest,

it was-- I thought
how it was handled

not between
my mom and my dad,

- but my dad's relationship
with us as girls.
-Mm-hmm.

So it wasn't
just getting divorced
from your mother.

You feel like
you got divorced, too.

Absolutely.

I love both of my parents,

but as a parental unit,
I'm disappointed
in both of them.

Growing up all our lives,

it was always
be forgiving,

be loving, be caring,

and then you look at them,
look at their relationship,
and it's horrible.

No one's asking them
to be in love with each other,

but if we look at you guys
and you guys still can't
come together,

- how are we gonna
come together?
-Mm-hmm.

I agree with Trina.

Every time
when we was younger,

you can tell they were
upset with each other,

but we never saw
how they came together

and what kind
of communication
that they have.

And then it spilled
onto us,

and we don't know
how to communicate
with each other.

We don't.
We just shut down.

And the next time
we see each other,

"Hey," but we ain't
never talked about it.

We just brushed it
under the rug.

You see,
one of the problems

that we're dealing with
right off the top here

is that you two

have not taught them
how to resolve conflict.

If we don't find a way

for you all to demonstrate
to them how to move forward,

I don't think
they're gonna be able
to move forward either.

And you will
never see the value
of what you have left

until it's gone.

And then you're standing
over a tomb somewhere saying,

"Oh, that's my sister."

I want everybody
to get a chance to talk.

Let's hear from you.

I feel like today,
sitting here,

that I've lost
my family.

Completely.

The tombstone you're
talking about?

I feel like I'm talking
over a tombstone.

You know something?

I guarantee you

the relationships
that you had are not gone.

I guarantee you.

I would put
my life on it.

But what has to happen here

is you have to talk.

It's scary, isn't it?

No, I'm just trying
not to cry.

- Um...
- It's okay to cry.

I miss you all
terribly.

Um...

And I love you all

more than any--
anything.

And, um...

I miss everything
about our relationship.

I miss us cooking,

and laughing,

and being on the phone.

I miss the holidays.

Like, I have my dreams
and all of my aspirations,

but if somebody
would have told me

that the price
for all of that
was to give up my family,

I would've said,
"That's okay."

Do you believe her?

Coming up on
"Braxton Family Values"...

She's hurting.
Do you care?

She's alienated herself.

What I feel in the room
is shocking.

It's just really difficult
to feel ostracized.

Have you considered ways

that you can gradually
bring them into
your atmosphere?

That doesn't work.

Tamar's the baby.
She's the last one
to have a child.

She don't get it yet.

I had to get it.
You understand what I'm saying?

Toni had to get it.

Trina, Towanda,
my brother--

we all had--

Jesus.

Well...

This is exciting.

Yes!

That's crazy.

Yeah.

I think we're making
really good progress.

It just fell.

For some reason,
we might've hit
the substratum

of what we really
needed to hear

because the Devil
didn't like that.

- No, he didn't.
-Yeah.

Yeah.

I have my dreams
and all of my aspirations,

but if somebody
would've told me

that the price
for all of that

was to give up my family,
I would've said,
"That's okay."

Do you believe her?

-No.
- I don't.

Wow.

Why not?

- Tell me why not.
- I think that a lot
of the words she's saying

has some truth in it.

Right.

She's alienated herself

from her family
for those dreams
and aspirations.

I think you're telling
me who's fault it is.

Nope, not at all.

- Mm-mm, not at all.
- "She's alienated herself"

- says you did it to yourself.
- No, it's history.

But it doesn't matter
who did it

right now.

The part
that she's hurting...

Do you care?

- Yes.
- Absolutely. Absolutely.

I mean, to be quite honest,
I miss her, too.

A lot of the things
that she's talking about

I miss that sisterhood
that we all shared.

So why is it hard
for you to respond to her

by saying that?
"I miss you, too."

I miss the fun,
I miss the food,

I miss the foolishness.

I'm trying to give
this family better language.

Yes.

What I feel in the room

is a shocking amount
of hurt.

I'm wise enough to know
that one session

won't fix something
that's been going on

for a long time.

But if you care
about each other,

you will take
what I'm saying to heart

and will begin
to practice it.

Because I'm afraid
if you don't,

they'll have your pictures
all over the walls,

they'll be playing
your music all in cars,

everybody will be happy
because of you,

but you.

And most celebrities
make everybody happy
but themselves.

I wanna get with you next.

We're gonna have a talk.

I have to change
my shoes.

I already changed mine
real quick.

Bishop T.D. Jakes is
a very intimidating
presence,

especially because
you can kind of feel
his anointing

when he walks
through the door.

So I'm a little nervous
to go back in there.

Girl,
it was exhausting.

I mean, I just had
to take off my clothes

and put on a robe
just so I could feel
relaxed.

What part do you think
was more exhausting?

E, all of the above.

I didn't expect
the "Tamar breakdown."

You didn't?

- You did?
- To me, that's just
classic Tamar.

Well, I think it's more

on the, "I don't
do anything to anybody,

but everybody
is always mad at me" thing.

You know, it's just...

that's the part
that made me just real like...

Tamar wants everyone else
to own their stuff,

but she doesn't wanna
own her stuff,

and that's
just disheartening.

But like I said
before, hey,

I expect these things
and these actions

and reactions
from Tamar now.

Nothing surprises me
that she does.

Well, I'm hoping
that by the end...

...of it all,
you know,

we at least come
to some resolve.

You understand
what I'm saying?

Because it's just
a long time coming

and I just-- I look forward
to whatever he has to say.

- To everybody?
- To everybody.

Should I put my clothes
back on?

Girl, those shoes.

They're cute,
but they hurt my feet.

Everything's starting
to get a little tight.

Because we've been
sitting in there,
you know what I mean?

You can't go--
these shoes are
eight-hour shoes.

They're not 12-hour shoes.

I see London, I see France,
I see women's underpants.

- You don't see nothing.
- Yes, I did!

- Come on in, ma'am,
and have a seat.
- All right now.

- Wow, we have had a day,
haven't we?
- Ugh, yes.

I very much
really honest to God
love my sisters

and deeply wanna have
a real close sisterhood
with them again.

I'm not saying
I'm perfect,
because I'm not,

but I really don't know...

...what happened...

...and why it's...

such a disconnect
with everybody.

There was a moment
that you got very,
very emotional

and your heart
broke open

and there was
an aloof response

- to that emotion.
- Yeah.

Almost all of them
in one accord

seemed not
to believe it.

What in the background
am I not seeing?

Oh, well,
I don't know.

I know I was sincere.

I don't understand
what the disbelief
would be.

Coming up on
"Braxton Family Values"...

That is a lie
'cause I never said that!

Why would I do that?

We don't know why.

I never put you...

- ...in the wrong, though.
- I don't know why.

- We can hear you
from the room.
- But I wasn't cussing!

- Hold up, hold up.
-I didn't support you--

There was a moment
that you got very,
very emotional

and your heart
broke open

and there was
an aloof response.

Almost all of them
in one accord

seemed not
to believe it.

What in the background
am I not seeing?

Ooh, well,
I don't know.

I know I was sincere.

I don't understand
what the disbelief
would be.

I can't lie
and tell you

that when they said
I was pretty much--

that it didn't affect me.

It did.
It'd affect anybody.

Because I was being honest,
and I still mean it.

How much of this drama

is career-related?

- Maybe about 85 or 90%.
- Wow.

Do you think
that it is career-related

because now
this is your season,

this is your moment?

How hard is it
to manage a moment

in a family of people

who are success-oriented?

It's very difficult

- because I'm alone.
- Mm-hmm.

- I don't have the support
from my siblings...
- Mm-hmm.

and I really want that.

And it's just
really difficult
to feel ostracized

and to feel like
when wonderful things
happen,

you can't share it
with your family.

Have you considered ways

that you can gradually
bring them into
your atmosphere

where they feel
a part of it with you?

- I feel like
I've tried that.
- Mm-hmm.

- It doesn't work.
- Okay.

And I feel
like their attempt
definitely didn't work.

- I was on tour and had
one of my biggest shows...
- Mm-hmm.

and one that I was
so proud of in Atlanta.

And in the middle
of the show

the girls decided
they were gonna come on

and surprise me
and do a number

while I am performing.

- It didn't go the way
that they planned it...
- Mm-hmm.

and I got blamed
for it.

- Okay.
- That has been
a big wedge.

Since you've waited
all your life to have
this moment,

isn't it then important
that you enjoy that moment

without the nagging,
gnawing inner voice
of criticism

that says this moment
is somehow tainted

because somebody I love
didn't clap for me?

You cannot deny yourself

of what you worked hard to get
and how God has blessed you,

especially if you're sure
in your heart

that you've been fair.

You're right.

- It's just getting there.
- Yeah, it's a process.

- Yes.
- It's a process.

- Pain pushes you there.
- It does.

- Thank you.
- It's been good.

All right now.

I feel like I need
some smothered chicken
after that.

While it's been
an interesting opportunity

to get to talk to you
individually and collectively,

there are a couple of things
that I want to focus on
for a few minutes.

I want to visit
something that you and I
talked about earlier.

You talked about a moment,
I think, in Atlanta.

Let's visit that
for a moment.

- I wasn't there.
It was the other...
-It was Towanda's idea.

It was.

Tamar was making a statement
that we never support her.

So at that particular
moment,

I wanted to show Tamar
that we're supporting her.

Because one thing
that brings us together
is a stage.

So we practiced
to surprise her,

and it didn't go
the way that we intended.

There was
no malice involved.

It was all about support.

It turned into
a malicious situation

when we were
called names

- and we were kicked out
of the arena.
- It's not true, though.

- It is true.
- Towanda, that is not--

- I-- I...
- It's true.

- Yes.
- That did not happen, though.

You called us bitches
and threw us out.

No, I didn't
throw you out, Trina.

How did I throw you--
I wasn't there!

Well, you had your manager
throw us out.

I didn't have him
throw you out.

Wait, wait, let me tell you
something. I've had staff
before, too, Tamar,

and they can only do
what they're told.

Did y'all
hear Tamar say that

- or was it her?
- You heard--

Yeah.

That's a lie.
That is a lie!

'Cause I never said that!

Why would I do that?

We don't know why.

- I never put you guys
in the wrong, though.
- I don't know why.

- We can hear you from the room.
- But I wasn't
cussing you guys out!

- You did.
- Hold up, hold up.

-I didn't support you--
- Hold up.