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We're gonna do a Braxton family vacation.

So beautiful.

This trip is going so great.

We're laughing, we're having fun.

Whoo!

Vince birthday is on Friday.

- But it's sister week. - It's birthday week.

But it's sister week, though.

We always celebrate his birthday together.

Is anybody here?

Yeah.

I'm gonna tell my sisters that he's here.

I hope Daddy comes out.

That'd be so much fun.

I'm not sure Daddy's gonna come.

It's-it's been a couple of days now

and it seems like it's just not gonna happen.

Whoa.

You are my family now.

and I just want my children to accept you.

Do your girls know that we're here?

Uh, it's gonna be a surprise.

Logan just spotted you.

- Logan! - Hi, Logan.

- Uh-oh... - No!

- Can you keep a secret? -No.

♪ We are the Braxtons and you'll see ♪

♪ We are not like an ordinary family ♪

♪ Toni, Traci, Towanda, Trina, Tamar, and Miss E ♪

♪ Will teach you a thing or two ♪

♪ On "Braxton Family Values." ♪

Yo, like my dress? I bought it expressly

for our sister trip here in Mexico.

I like Tamar jellies and her purse.

You can have 'em, they too small.

We decided to stroll through the market

and do a little shopping at the Río Cuale Mercado.

Those look-- I'll get one of those.

Toni's napping, of course.

and Mommy's actually laying by the pool.

Tamar, did you hear from Daddy yet?

I have not

- You think he's coming? - Probably not.

At this point, it looks like Daddy's not going to make it.

I'm sad that this didn't turn into the family trip

we were hoping this was going to be,

both Mommy and Daddy.

Ooh, I want to get these bungos for Logan.

- 200 pesos. - Is that a lot? How much that is?

- You have 200 pesos. - How much is 200 pesos?

About $20. 15, $10 is good here.

Okay, here, 200.

Logan loves xylophones.

He's obsessed with, like, music stuff.

Like bongos, xylophones, drums.

Vince and Logan is at the hotel.

- Boom. - Boom!

We're gonna go see Mommy, okay?

Look at this hotel, Logey.

Wow!

So I'm gonna tell my sisters that he's here.

We're all out here vacationing, you know,

we spending a lot of sister time together,

Vince is here for his birthday.

You know, I got a couple surprises.

- Really? - Yeah. And Logan.

- So it's a family trip. - Yeah, it's a family trip.

So it'll be okay, of course, family.

I wish I would've known it was a family trip.

Tamar brought Vince to a family trip.

This is supposed to be just our core family coming.

This is not what we discussed,

this is not what was supposed to happen.

- I told y'all he was coming. - No, no, no, no...

I did. Yes, I did. I had. I had told you.

That's not fair.

Y'all know how me and Vince feel about birthdays.

I know y'all think it's real lame

or, like, played out,

but we're, like, big birthday people, you know?

And so, like, I just thought that maybe it would be cool

for them, both of them, to come.

Oh, so that's it.

Why didn't you tell us that in the first place?

- You should've been honest. - I am being honest.

I am going to enjoy my man's birthday

because homeboy almost died a couple years ago.

So we make a big deal out of each other's birthdays.

So I don't care where we are in the world,

we gonna be together on his birthday

and we gonn', you know, bust it open.

- This is gorgeous, isn't it? - Now, don't you fall on this.

And I hope I don't fall on this.

- I just have one question. - What?

What's your plan, doll?

- Wanda, I knew... - You know I get nervous.

I know you nervous, but, you know,

it's time now that we start

doing some things to promote healing.

I don't like to talk about my-my past so much.

But Evelyn and I were having problems

in our relationship.

And I hate saying this, but I reached out to Wanda

and she was a nice person to talk with.

And from our talking and talking,

I-I strayed.

I['m not proud of it, but it happened.

But she is not the reason why our marriage dissolved.

Evelyn and I had some serious problems going on.

Well, you know, I'm all for promoting

healing in the family.

My prayer is that this works.

- It's gonna work. - It's gonna work.

We'll do our best. Do our best.

You're a good woman, Wanda.

And I know you don't want to cause any conflict with 'em,

and I know you don't want to force yourself on 'em.

I'm almost 70, I got more years behind me

than I do in front of me.

Your children accept me...

and I just want my children to accept you.

I don't know if the girls will ever welcome Wanda

into the family,

It would mean so much to me

if I could see everyone come together

and just enjoy the short time that we have on Earth.

Come on, let's get over here

and get a little bit of this nice ocean.

♪ Wade in the water... ♪

I'mma leave the singing to the real Braxtons.

Well, you know where the girls got the singin' from.

- Oh, okay. - You know it came from me.

Little bit closer. Look it--Good bye!

- It's just so beautiful here. - Isn't it? Nice.

- Hey, Mama. - Hey, ladies.

- How are you? - Hey, Mama.

Hey, pretty girls.

While everyone else is doing their own thing,

Towanda and I are going to meet up with Mommy

and have ourselves a relaxing drink.

- I took my braids out. - Why'd you take your braids out?

Because I wanted my hair to kind of flow in the wind,

but I need to put my braids back in.

- You puttin' them back in? - Yeah, yeah.

- Tonight? - Tonight.

It's better. Even if they start

late tonight and then do it again early in the morning,

I can at least-- If I have to put another...

if I put a wig on the top, so it covers

the bottom of it or whatever, I can do that.

But they need to at least start the back.

Mama, what is wrong?

Why you look like you have something on your mind?

- Well... - What's wrong, Ma?

I woke up early this morning

I ran into Logan

and I was a little shocked.

- What's wrong? What's wrong? - Well, you know, a lot--

a lot's just been on my mind.

I came here to enjoy myself

to hang out with you guys and all that good stuff...

girls: Mm-hmm.

- Saw the baby... - Oh, we just found out

he came here with Vince.

He was swimming, he was having a ball.

But he saw me, he jumped outta the water

saying, "Mom-mom, Mom-mom, Mom-mom..."

I said, "Hi, Logan. How Mom-mom boy?"

"Mom-mom, I saw pop-pop...

and Miss Wanda."

"I saw pop-pop and Miss Wanda."

I said, "Oh, okay."

- So Daddy's here... - Daddy and his wife is here?

Towanda, we're right here. We're right here.

We're right here. See where we are?

And I'm like, "Wait a minute now."

I'm shocked to s---.

Daddy and his wife are here?

That was not the plan, Stan.

I mean, I suspected that Daddy might want

to bring his wife.

I wanna spend some more time with y'all.

And I'm thinking that...

your mother...

and Miss Wanda...

should get together in Mexico.

Huh?

But I didn't think that he would bring her

without letting us know or to give us

a heads up or something.

W-why they here?

This is... our vacation,

and they're invading my space?

I don't even have any words.

My mind is blank.

So I'm like, "Okay,

they can have the place 'cause I'm tired."

Uh-uh. I'm out of here. I'm out of here.

Okay, guys, I have an announcement to make.

I invited Daddy and his wife to dinner.

I can't believe that Toni invited

Daddy and his wife.

This has never happened in the history

of us being the Braxtons.

And they're coming now,

so I just thought I'd tell you.

W-why they here?

This is... our vacation

and they're invading my space?

So I'm out of here.

I'm leaving because I don't want to mingle.

I'm done with it, you know?

If they wanna come to Mexico knowing that I'm here,

they can have it.

I don't know, Mommy, it's...

I mean, it would be different if it was just Daddy.

Yeah. They can have the place,

'cause I'm tired.

I'm done, I'm over it.

Now how about that?

There's no need for anyone

to try to bring someone in my life that's not welcome.

And I asked Mommy if-if we came to brunch,

if she would be okay with Daddy being here,

- and she said yes. - Yes, of course.

We-we not gonna be here with his wife.

- I feel you. - I ain't neither.

I'm not gonna do that.

And so I have that right to leave or to stay.

Am I angry? Absolutely.

Absolutely. Why?

I am leaving 'cause...

- You leaving right now? - I'm leaving right, right now.

What time does the flight leave?

I'm catching the first thing smoking.

Do you wanna talk to everybody first?

You know, I don't.

Y'all do it, 'cause I'm tired

and it's gonna be a whole lot of denial.

You know, I don't know.

Y'all can go ahead and hang in Mexico.

Well, for the record we don't want you to leave.

Yeah...

- Love you. - Love you.

Stay with it.

Man...

You picked a heckuva time to not drink.

- I know. - Oof.

I really wish Toni would've told Mommy

about Daddy thinking about bringing his wife like she promised.

I'm in support of whoever wants to tell Mommy,

- it's just not me. - No, I'll do it.

- Tell Mommy what? - You know what? Ask Mommy.

We're not gonna tell her anything.

We're gonna ask Mommy how would she feel about the possibility

of us being a blended family while on holiday?

But that didn't happen, so here we are.

Let me see if Toni will answer

because I-I can't hold my meal right now.

I think everybody should be knowing right now.

-'Sup? - Hey, Tone.

- Sup? - Um, well Mommy just left...

- Hello. - Because guess what? She just found out

from Logan that Daddy

and Miss Wanda are here in Mexico.

What?

Girl, yes!

Okay, Logan was in the pool

and saw Daddy and Miss Wanda.

I think we need to get together with Traci, Toni, and Tamar

and let them know what's going on

and then decide if we should stay or go as well.

We gotta let Traci and Tamar know.

- Oh, my goodness. - She left. She just left.

She said she about to get about another flight.

Okay.

Okay, all right. Okay, girl.

Okay, let me get dressed, bye,

Okay, love you, bye.

- Trina. - This is no bueno.

After finding out from Trina that Daddy brought Miss Wanda,

I am very surprised.

I am not disappointed at all that Mommy left.

I know my mother.

She don't mix well like that.

When I found out Miss Wanda was here,

and that Mom is leaving I'm thinking,

"Maybe I should've told her

that my dad would want to bring his wife."

How do we have our parents together on holidays?

Well, Daddy's gonna want to bring his wife.

- She can't come. - No, she can't come.

Everybody ain't invited to the party.

I know I told my sisters I would talk to Mommy

and see how she feels about possibly taking a trip

with my father and his current wife,

but after being honest with myself

I decided I would never, ever put my mom through that.

When I really thought about it,

when we had that conversation with maybe, you know, we need

to be a blended family and stuff, I said, "Well, maybe."

- Yeah. - But adding the ex-wife that we talked about before,

that's not gonna be an option.

As a woman, I thought about that. Like, she can't do that.

I made an executive decision as the oldest,

but I am hopeful that tonight will make everything right.

Thank you.

Ooh, it is very beautiful.

So when Trina and Towanda told me

that Logan told Mommy that he saw Miss Wanda

and Daddy here in Mexico, I was like,

"Oh, my God. Why it gotta be my kid with the mouth, right?"

So he hadn't even told me yet.

But Mommy was so shook, she left the country.

Thankfully, my baby had the sense

to tell my mama, who he saw

before everybody ran into each other.

Can I-Can I get a chocolate martini?

- Can you do that? - Uh, dos.

Tres.

I decided, you know what?

I wanna meet my dad face-to-face with his wife

and talk to them both in person

because we've never gotten to hear

the entire side of the story with her.

Because we have a lot of questions

that we've never had answered.

Why'd you really get married?

- I was lonely. - Wow, I ain't never heard you say that.

I didn't have my children around to support me.

But you didn't want us around, Dad.

When he got his new wife, he forgot about us.

Where are you, Daddy?

Figure if my dad is there with his wife,

it's gonna force him to tell us the truth.

Okay, guys, I have an announcement to make.

I invited Daddy and his wife to dinner.

Toni, you invited who?

My relationship with Miss Wanda is very cordial.

But, girl, this is not gonna end up right.

I know y'all want some answers, but guess what?

I want none of this parts of this thing.

I think we should clear the air.

Toni Braxton says, "Oh, by the way.

I invited Dad's wife to dinner."

I mean...

I'm stunned. Like, you know,

What happened?

I think we should have a talk with Dad and his wife

so he knows how we feel.

Yeah, girl, grab them knives.

I think Toni didn't tell us

that she invited Daddy and his wife to dinner

because she didn't want any resistance.

And I have to admit, if Toni told me prior to coming

that Daddy was bringing his wife,

I probably wouldn't have come.

I'm just saying, I just think we should clear the air.

And they're coming now, so I just thought I'd tell you.

- Hey, Dad. - Hey.

Hey, guys, how are you?

This has never happened in the history

of us being the Braxtons that we sat around

and talked to Daddy and his wife at one time together.

This has never happened. In one room? Mm-mmm.

Miss Wanda, you like French food?

I don't think I've ever tasted French food.

-It's good. - I don't think.

It's... good.

I'm trying to put my best fake face on

like, "Mmm, everything good."

But everything ain't good, you know?

And so I'm uncomfortable because you know

I got a whole bunch of stuff I wanna say.

We ready to order? Let's order really quick.

Uh, tomato e burrata.

- Should we do family style? - No.

Why are you here on this family vacation?

You're my dad's family, but you're not our family.

But on the other hand, this gives an opportunity

for us to have a forum to speak to Miss Wanda.

Daddy didn't come to my wedding

and I would like to ask Daddy why.

And I would like to ask in front of her.

Yeah.

And I hope that's not being petty,

even though it was so long ago, I would like to know.

I think that would give me real, true, honest closure.

This gives me a moment to either just listen,

or say what I have to say.

When'd you all get in? Today?

Actually yesterday.

- Oh, okay. - And you know what happened?

Uh, I was going through the lobby...

Checking in the bags.

Yeah, after we checked in.

This little fella jumps up and says, "Pop-pop!"

- Logan? - I said, "Don't tell your mother."

What you laughing at, Toni Braxton?

He told a 3 year old "don't tell."

Well, he didn't tell me, but he told my mother.

Let me tell you where my daddy jacked up at, okay?

Logan's 3, right?

And one of his favorite things

is to play the game of "I Got A Secret."

So when he said, "I got a secret"

of course he finna to play the telephone game.

And that was your ass, right there.

Was that a problem?

She was probably just caught off guard, you know what I mean?

- Blindsided. - Yeah, blindsided.

I'm sorry, Daddy, can I say something?

I wanted Daddy to come here and Miss Wanda here

'cause I wanted to clear the air.

I thought it was important just to clear the air--

- Can I talk guys? I just-- - It's all right, go ahead.

I support clearing the air. I mean, I feel that Daddy

has been talking to us and the relationship

between me and Daddy and all of us is not what it used to be

because the situation of how you guys got together,

it still makes us feel a little bit uncomfortable.

A lot uncomfortable. We don't know what to do,

we don't know what to say, we understand Miss Wanda's

your wife, we will always respect her.

But sometimes we don't know how to be with you, our dad.

This is our dad. We love him dearly.

Our dad's almost 70 years old.

- Yes. - You know what I mean? You're his spouse.

Anything happens to our dad today or tomorrow

we gotta talk to you.

Trying to appease people...

- Us. - Yeah.

And do things...

Like, I know that the last few years I said

I'm gonna do what I can to mend relationships

- with my family. -Exactly.

When they wanna see me, I'm going to see them.

And I think I've done that, I spent a lot of time.

But sometimes it seems as though it's fruitless

because it's like you're walking on eggs or something.

Our dad is almost 70 years old, he is getting older.

And that's why I thought that it was important

that we all sat here and we talked.

Like, what can we do?

Miss Wanda, we were so angry with you

we wanted to spit on you and stab you.

I saw the scars of my sisters.

It was your decision.

Do you get that?

You know what? This has got to stop.

Miss Wanda, we were so angry with you

we wanted to spit on you and stab you.

My dad played 50% in that, so I'm not gonna sit here

and say it was all you, my dad played his role.

But as women, this was our family.

You understand? This was our unit.

We-we've come from a religious background

a spiritual, black background.

So when we reading the Bible, family, we took it 100%.

So we were very angry, we didn't know how to be.

We didn't know how to be with my dad.

My dad didn't know how to be.

No one felt comfortable accepting her

because we felt this was the person that broke up our family.

I am not out here trying to hurt anybody.

But Miss Wanda, it's about me and our Dad.

Not you, that's what we're trying to say.

- That's what we're sayin-- - But you're saying

that I am the reason.

But how did y'all come to the conclusion

that she was the one who broke up the family?

Well because the communication cut off.

Immediately, Dad.

Miss Wanda was a result of what happened--

That's your philosophy.

Y'all weren't divorced,

you weren't single, you weren't separated.

Do you understand what I mean? So to us, the children,

through the views of the children.

It's not like, "Oh, Mommy

and Daddy are separated."

And divorced and Daddy found someone new.

I-I really felt that my business

with my marriage did not concern y'all.

And to say this one did this, this one said that,

that's not y'all business because... I'm sorry,

because I don't ask y'all who did what in your affair.

Who said what because that's your marriage.

Y'all know I don't take a part in y'all marriage.

Divorce is-is something that is not an easy thing.

And you always go back and you wonder,

"Did I do the right thing?

Maybe if this happened, this had changed?"

But whatever decision that you make,

you have to make a decision, you have to live with it,

because you can't go back and change.

Let me just say the other colorful elephant

in the room is our mother, m'kay?

It's so hard for us

because you have to understand,

this is our mom.

And I'm not trying to disrespect her,

and I'm not trying to hurt her.

So I'm always gonna have to walk in the door

with a conscious decision on...

How is my mother going to feel?

-That's what it is. - Because that's my mom.

How is your mother gonna feel about what?

Tamar, wait a minute.

'Kay, I'm gonna drink this.

Your mother feels some kind of way when I'm around her.

She's not comfortable when I come around sometimes.

What had happened tonight was

- y'all invited Miss Wanda here-- -I did.

- And I asked you was your mom coming... -I said nope.

Because I didn't think that that would be good

- to have that situation. - You're right.

But there have been situations that--

at your wedding, you invited Miss Wanda.

But let me just tell you what that was,

that was a plus-one situation.

Like, if you got invited to the Vanity Fair, you know,

- Oscar party... - That's not true.

- No, I'm being honest. - You're not being honest.

(bleep), Toni. Let me tell my truth.

What happened was... no...

How you gonna tell me what my truth is from my wedding?

Tell your damn truth. Just talk, go.

- I was, I was! - Go ahead. Go, go!

My truth was...

unfortunately, Dad, I witnessed

two of my siblings who was brutally hurt at their wedding.

Now, you came to Toni's wedding.

You walked her down the aisle.

But she wasn't happy. Were you happy that day?

No.

My mom and dad were newly divorced.

They got a divorce in October and I got married in April,

so the first family function was my-my wedding.

My dad ultimately did not bring his wife,

but he showed up an hour and a half before the wedding.

But I didn't-I didn't see my dad until just before

I walked down the aisle.

And then my mom's upset, she didn't know

my dad was gonna be there, I'm telling her my dad's not coming.

My dad shows up and she doesn't know,

so we're pretty much walking down the aisle.

So I'm uncomfortable walking down the aisle.

It was horrible. My wedding day was not happy.

You came to Toni's wedding, you walked her down the aisle.

But Trina, she ain't even married to the son of a bitch

and it still affects her.

So I did not want that burden for me.

I want who I invited

because I saw the scars of my sisters.

I didn't care, so when I said "It's you plus-one,"

I don't care who your plus one is.

I want who I invited.

At Toni wedding and at Trina wedding,

they ain't have the option to bring a plus-one.

At my wedding, Mommy plus-one,

Daddy plus-one, see? It's all about how you say it.

She's not technically invited.

When it came to Toni's wedding,

I was put in a position that said,

"Daddy, you could come but you can't bring her."

Okay, that was an ultimatum.

Yeah, but Dad, you're supposed to read between the lines--

I can't read between the lines all of the time.

Y'all taught us those communication skills.

I can't read between--

I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I would like to hear what he has to say.

I-I have to hear what he has to say.

I can't read between the lines all the time

because I don't know what y'all are saying sometimes.

But Miss Wanda's told me, "Go anyway.

I want you to go. That's your daughter, go."

Trina got married, was getting married.

"Daddy, you can come but you can't bring your wife."

Here I am again at the same situation.

"You can come, but you can't do that."

Miss Wanda said, "Go see your daughter.

Get married with your daughter."

Miss Wanda has been very supportive of me going to see y'all.

And I said, "You know what? This has got to stop."

This has gotta stop to tell me what I can do

and can't do.

I'm your father. Giving me an ultimatum?

How much you-- You don't give me an ultimatum.

But Daddy, do you know that makes it worse?

What makes it worse?

Toni said that your wife couldn't come,

but when it came to me, it was like,

"Oh, okay, I have something to prove."

And it still hurts my feelings to this day,

and I'm divorced and it still gets to me.

Because my dad didn't come to my wedding

and walk me down the aisle

not because he was dead,

but because he made a choice not to.

That's hurtful.

You should've picked up that phone and said,

"Hey, by you telling me this

made me feel this way."

- Talk to Trina about that. - No, no, no.

Not after her wedding, before her wedding.

This is how we need to communicate.

- This is how it should be. - But that didn't happen,

and I can't go back out and change that.

You can't change anything with the past.

That's not the point. That's not the point.

Everybody's missing it. Every...

Everybody's missing it.

Tamar, I didn't miss it.

No, I c...

I called it 'cause I felt...

What happened?

That is... It's like it's worse...

Because all of these years

I think maybe we felt like, or wanted to feel like,

it was Miss Wanda's decision.

Hearing that it was your decision

not to c-come...

is more hurtful...

than anything.

Do you... do you f... do you get that?

Your decision not to come.

Miss Wanda, we owe you an apology.

- I really, uh... - We thought it was 'cause of you.

We thought it was your decision.

- Sorry... - I think I better...

- I'm sorry, Trina. - We all owe you an apology.

Every last one of y'all here,

when I felt y'all were down, I was there.

You just gotta choose your kids...

- Tamar... - over whatever!

I feel like our lives will never be the same

after hearing this new information.

Now we're hearing the truth.

It's your children.

Oh, my God!

We started with small talk.a, how are you doing?"

You know, we're doing our pleasantries.

It's beautiful here, huh, Dad?

- It's gorgeous here. - Have you been here before?

Our dinner's going good,

but I can tell that everyone's a little tense.

We know people fall in and out love all the time.

It happens, we get that.

It was the presentation that makes everybody feel odd.

Okay... Miss Wanda, what's your favorite food?

- Probably lobster. - Lobster, okay,

You got your big, like 28-pound lobster.

And you got the butter on the side?

- Yes. - You got that Baltimore ketchup

and mayonnaise sauce we make? The hot sauce from Baltimore?

- Well... - You know what I mean?

- I understand. - What you like? What you like?

Nice baked potatoes, you like sour cream on that?

- Yes. - Mmm. Good. Delicious.

But say we took that food, your favorite,

we put it on the lid of a garbage can.

- It's not too delicious. - No, it's not.

It's in the presentation.

It's in how you presented your spouse to us, Dad.

That's all we saying.

Obviously it's this love affair.

But what I'm saying is we don't know how to be.

Yes.

Oh, my God. All of this time, it's not you.

It's-it's my dad, in all actuality.

I feel like I jumped into Trina's body

and felt the pieces crumbling.

Y'all have to understand the point

that I'm not a woman.

I don't understand women's feelings.

I'm a man, y'all don't understand a man's feelings.

And sometimes that I feel I take a stand as a man

that I'm not gonna let someone tell me what I'm going to do,

whether it's right or whether it's wrong.

I took a stand.

Do you think I regretted it?

Yes, I regretted it.

Hurt me to my heart that I didn't go to my daughter's wedding.

I really wanted to go.

For me, it was a bad decision.

If I did things different, would that've made

a different ending to it? I don't know.

I don't know what put y'all in the position

to have to tell me what I can do and what I can't do.

- But Dad, this is not the point-- - Tamar. Tamar...

You got the choice... No! I'm a mother!

There's a certain point where you just gotta

choose your kids over whatever.

- No, no, Trina-- - You didn--You're not hearing, Tamar.

No, no, no, no, no! You gotta choose your kids

over whatever, it doesn't matter.

Your feelings, Miss Wanda feelings,

Mommy's feelings.

It's your children! Oh, my God!

Well, I love my children but you do not dictate to what I do, Tamar.

I don't care, you're still gonna be my child.

It was his choice not to be there.

And that is gut-wrenching

because he made a decision not to come.

Not because he was crippled, not because he was invalid,

not because he died, but because he made

a conscious choice no to be there

because his wife wasn't invited.

I never thought it would be my dad

that would not want to come to my wedding.

This is our father. He's almost 70 years old.

He ain't perfect. He ain't perfect, we're not perfect.

I've done some wrong things in my life.

But I can't go back and re-change what I've done in the past.

If I was a murderer, I'd have a parole by now.

I'd be out, but I'm not. I'm still reliving

the same thing I did 17, 18 years ago.

I, wha-what can I do to change it?

Yes. Yes, this happened.

What can I do about it now?

- I'm just devastated. - Listen, no, listen.

The devastation has to take a backseat.

At the end of the day, look right here.

He is still here. All the hurt,

all the pain, all the anguish,

it's real and it's reality, but guess what?

We can pick up the phone and we can call our father

- and we can hear his voice-- -And that is important.

The thing that is the most important in our lives.

- All the other stuff... -Don't matter.

- That is just stuff. -Stuff. Listen.

It's just stuff!

And Tamar, I'm not saying whatever happened

in the past just throw away, but you can't do a darn thing

about what happened in the past,

what're you gonna do about it now?

What're you gonna do? And every last one of y'all here,

when y'all got in some trouble--

When I felt y'all were down, I was there.

That's not true.

I was in the hospital with blood clots

and getting ready to die and you did not come to see me.

Do you think I wanted to be there?

Why didn't you come?

Tamar, can I come to every chance that I can?

Daddy, I was on my deathbed.

They didn't think I was gonna make it.

- Are you serious? - I wanted to be there.

No! You did not come to see me.

Me!

I just know during that time when Tamar was in the hospital

Daddy could not fly.

The doctor told him he can't fly more than two hours.

- Period. - Daddy was sick.

I'm takin' blood pressure pi-- I'm taking nitro pills now

because I can't fly, I can't do certain things.

- I can't do it. - I have to go.

I left and I had to go and get myself together

before I made the situation worse with my mouth.

I felt myself getting ready to say things

that I would possibly regret.

I'm not gonna sit here and beat down our dad.

- I'm not doing that either. - We're not gonna do that.

But what we are gonna do is tell our truths--

- Absolutely. - And we're gonna accept his truths.

And we gonna tell each other when it hurts us,

and I want you to tell us when we hurt you.

And that's important, that's what family is about.

Everything's not gonna be great,

and it's not gonna end today.

But this is the first time we got to talk about it.

We gotta talk about it in front of Miss Wanda,

we gotta talk about it in front of our dad.

We got one dad and one mom,

and for us, that's all we care about.

That's all I care about, but I'm so glad we talked about it.

I'm so glad I have a better understanding of things

that I didn't have before today.

All I want to say is that...

Miss Wanda has been very supportive of me

going to see y'all because y'all...

There was a time that I didn't come see y'all.

- I didn't-- -We didn't know till you told right now.

We thought it was this woman that was keeping our dad away,

'cause you, Dad, made the choice to say "I'm not coming."

But we found out you was hurting, so guess what?

Hurt people hurt people.

How hard do you think it was for me to face y'all?

-Face us? - Do y--Yeah, to face y'all

knowing that y'all hurt and-and when I got around y'all

I could see the hurt and the pain in your eyes and in your heart.

That's hard for me too. I just don't know what else to say.

I love my dad, I'll always love my dad.

I'll always respect my dad, but there is always

going to be that little gap based upon his choice.

But I still love him, and I'll be right there for him.

But it's very disheartening.

Trina...

Well, I'm glad you came.

Me too, me too.

And I'm glad Miss Wanda came,

and I'm glad that we were all here,

and I'm glad we got to talk.

Go check on your wife, and I wanna see you

- before we leave. - Okay.

I make apologies for what I've done in the past.

But I just don't want to relive that over again.

I-I don't wanna go back in the past

and I'm just ready to move on.

It was a conscious choice.

- And to hear that... -I'm sure.

It was a conscious choice.

You're not the villain.

I feel like I was part of the pain.

I don't want to take her place.

- I know. - I really don't.

After last night, girl, bottoms up.

I was taking aback Toni had invited

Dad's wife to come.

Hey, babe.

- Got you a cup of coffee here. - Thank you, sweetie.

- You okay, babe? - I'm okay.

- You'll be all right. - I know.

That was rough last night.

We both felt drained after that

because of the emotions running so high.

- You okay, honey? - I just...

I'm not sure if last night really helped.

I was sad to see Tamar cry.

That bothers me more than anything

because I feel like I was part of the pain.

Oh, no.

Tamar is very sensitive like you are.

Wanda's a very sensitive woman.

And when she sees someone cries,

it makes her feel very compassionate

of what they're going through.

We talk about the situation

between the girls and I all the time.

And, I mean, she can continue to communicate to me

that she don't want to see the family torn apart

because of her.

You're not the villain.

You are the one who encouraged me,

"Michael, go ahead. Go ahead.

Be with your children, be with your children."

But it was hard for me because I was hurt,

because I thought that they didn't want to be around me.

And I know they don't want to hurt their mother.

Yes, I understand.

But I can't control that, you can't control that,

they can't control that.

That's something that their mother have to work on.

And I wish she would understand

that I don't wanna take her place.

- I know, baby. - I really don't.

I know, honey, I know.

The affair was not what happened.

Evelyn and I had fallen out of love.

I wasn't even looking for another relationship

or other woman.

I mean, that was the farthest thing from my mind.

But I just couldn't stand being home.

Every family goes through problems.

And everybody needs to get together and heal.

- Because life is just short. - Yes, it is.

- It's short. - How do we move forward?

That's what I wanna know. How do we move forward?

I think first of all, it's gotta work out

between you and I,

and I think we're there.

And then we gotta get my children on board.

- One page, yeah. - Yeah.

And it's not gonna happen overnight,

but we gonna keep continuing to work at it

until we get this worked out.

Let's get some breakfast.

Good thing you don't have to cook.

I know, that's right.

That's a cute little number you got on.

Thank you. I done slimmed a lot.

I thought that was money.

Last night was pretty intense,

but this morning I feel good.

I'm ready to sit out in the sun and enjoy myself.

This is supposed to be a vacation.

- This is so nice. - It is.

- Well, hello ladies. - Hey, y'all.

- Hey, Tri. - Hey, hey.

Do you guys make virgin pina coladas?

I'll have a virgin.

Well, we're gonna have the slutty version

of the margarita.

Extra whore-ism, and whore-ism with a twist.

Don't think I want anything right now.

What? After last night, girl, bottoms up.

Last night was out of control.

And I'm just gonna need me a really good cocktail

'cause we still in Mexico,

to help myself get over it and keep it poppin'.

I mean, I was a little taken aback when Toni

had said she had invited Dad's wife to come.

Oh, speak of the devil.

- Is she "Pretty Woman?" - All right!

That's how you feeling today?

Sit down. You need another pillow?

No, I'm good.

So, Toni, before you walked up Tamar was asking us

about last night.

I was glad Daddy came, I was glad Dad invited

he and his wife, I'm glad we all agreed,

and I'm glad we talked.

But what had made you invite her though?