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All right, guys, and welcome to day five of the Attraction Blueprint, where

today we're talking about advanced communication.

So yesterday we went over two protocols to follow, the FPV protocol and the T

-Touch -Tell protocol.

I hope you're practicing those.

Guys, I would encourage you to practice those every single interaction because,

like anything, the more you do it, the better you're going to get at it. But

today what I want to do is go over some advanced communication techniques. So as

you're using those two protocols...

These are some secondary things that you can implement that are really going to

take your communication to the next level. The very first one, guys, is you

to become a really good storyteller. And there's a couple aspects of telling

stories with women and dating that are really going to take your communication

to the next level. The very first thing is learn how to tell a story that

engages emotion, right? We have to tell stories that bring her in emotionally,

make her laugh.

or make her curious is honestly one of the best emotions to ever create in

women.

And I'm going to go over an advanced technique on how to do that in a minute.

But what I encourage you to do here, and this is going to be great homework for

you, is sit down and think about your five most attractive stories.

This is going to be, you know, your most attractive story from work, whether it

could be an accomplishment or probably the most attractive story from work is

something really hard you had to overcome and the lesson you learned

a really cool food story, a good travel story, maybe a good concert story or a

fun story.

And then lastly, a funny story.

Those aren't like the five you have to have, but they're just kind of the five

that I found work best.

So go home and write those out. Use AI if you need to, to say, hey, how do I

tell this story better? You can actually input it in there and ask it to tell a

better story.

But then practice telling those stories.

The better you can get at practicing your stories where maybe you throw in a

pause or maybe you work on your tone of coming down here for a serious part of

the story, but then getting excited and talking up here.

Practice delivering those stories. That way, when you're on the date, your

delivery is on point and you're just really telling an amazing story that

captivates her emotionally.

So the second thing that I want to talk about today is the 70 -30 rule.

Guys, there's actual published research that proves the more a woman talks about

herself, the more attractive she finds you.

So she's going to be attracted to you the more she talks about herself.

So therefore, it is your job to get her talking about herself.

That's why the 70 -30 rule. In a conversation with a woman, she should be

talking 70 % of the time.

You should be talking 30 % of the time. And look, I know, I know, I know, I

know. It's really hard.

Conversation is not the easiest thing to do because we're really good at

texting. But in today's world, in -person communication, entirely

But, guys, it's the FEB protocol.

You know the questions to ask her.

You just got to follow the protocol to ask her those questions.

So get her talking 70 % of the time.

Third thing in advanced communication techniques is...

Guys, you've got to get really good at not only her body language, but yours as

well. Let's talk about yours first.

In communication, TED Talks research actually proves the more you talk

with your hands, the more engaged the person is. So talk with your hands if

you're telling a story.

Next thing in masculine body language is anytime you move.

Make it an intentional, deliberate movement. If you're going to grab a

grab the drink, drink from it, put it down. Don't fidget.

Fidgeting is one of the worst things you can do on a date. If you're constantly,

I hate when guys do this on a date, constantly pulling out their shirt or

constantly rubbing their nose or rubbing their beard, scratching their arm or

just filling with their hands.

Guys, the more you fidget, And the more you move without intention, the more

anxious and anxiety, anxious you're going to be and anxiety you're going to

her.

Calm guys that are extremely confident, we're good.

We don't need to be doing all that. I can sit, chill as can be.

I don't have to move. I'm good.

That's the body language you have to portray because when you feel safe on

date, what energy are you giving her?

Safety. So you have to present a calm, deliberate, very, very stable

body language because that's going to make her feel safe. With her, what I

suggest is pick up on her body language.

Is she constantly looking down or looking away?

Is she playing with her hair a lot? Is she fidgety?

Guys, one of the funnest things I actually do on dates is like if I saw a

like fidgety or constantly playing with her hair, I was like, you know, it's so

cute you being nervous like this.

I would call it out and she would instantly, like, of course, she would

little embarrassed, but she would instantly relax.

I'm like, hey, look, we're just two strangers trying to get to know each

Like, this isn't like, there's not a pressure here.

Like, let's just have fun.

But pay attention to her body language, especially when it comes to if you're

trying to escalate physically.

You know, if you touch her and she pulls back, well, hey, slow your roll. Be

respectful. If you touch her, she leans in and she reciprocates. Hey, now we

know we're in a good place.

Is she leaning into you? Is she sitting back? Is her arms crossed?

Does she have an open body posture? Is she showing you her neck? All those are

really good signs.

Is she closed off? Is she angling away from you, which is not a good sign.

But pay attention to her body language, especially when you're telling a story

or you're talking to her.

Pay attention to her face. Pay attention to her eyes, her mouth, how she's

angling herself.

Because there's so many clues into how you're doing and her body language. And

honestly, guys, we know this about today's society.

There's way more truth in energy and body language than there is in words,

right? So pay attention to those things.

Next thing, guys, is I mentioned earlier curiosity.

Curiosity is one of the greatest things you can give women because...

A lot of psychology points to with women, desire is built in gaps.

Curiosity is a great gap to leave her in.

And to show you how important this is, if you look at the top two genres of

things women watch on TV and listen to on podcasts, if you think about it, the

two most watched genres are serial killer murder and

reality TV. Why?

Heightened drama, heightened curiosity. I don't know how this is going to end.

So anytime you can create what's called an open loop with her, really good thing

to do. And an easy way to think about an open loop curiosity is why is Netflix

and shows like that so bingeable?

It's because they start on episode solving a problem.

At the very end of an episode, they open a new problem. They create a new

problem and don't give you an answer.

That's what an open loop is. An open loop is an unanswered question, a

that has been solved.

The more you can do that in your conversation, the better.

One of the ways that I employ doing it when I'm talking to a woman is as I'm

storytelling, I will just like, I'll drop a bombshell of like maybe something

really hard that happened or maybe something really tragic that happened to

And I'll just move on to the next subject.

I'll drop her something she absolutely wants to know about, but then I'll

pretend like it's not a big deal and I'll just keep talking about something

else. a lot of times what you'll find is she'll bring you back to that. Hey,

whoa, time out. You said this. What about that?

So look for those little opportunities to create curiosity in her.

And guys, the last thing I want to talk to you about today is called rephrasing.

This is part of the F .E. protocol that if you put this in there as well, it

just adds another layer of I see you, I hear you.

So as she tells you a story, if she tells you a story, you want to rephrase.

if I heard that right.

You did this and then this happened. And then, oh my God, this happened too.

Did I hear that right? Like all this happened.

You're basically like rephrasing her words back to her.

Checking for clarity.

This is one of the best techniques you can use to not only help you understand

what she's talking about, but also make her feel seen and heard too.

Don't overuse this.

Use it anytime she goes into a monologue.

or tells you a story or tells you something, you did what?

Tells you something really important.

Rephrase it back to her just to show that you're actually paying attention.

You're actually listening because we know the stereotype about, you know,

complain about men's listening skills.

Well, if I just paraphrase back to you everything you said to me, you can't say

I didn't listen to you.

So guys, those are five kind of second level communication techniques that I

promise you, if you get good at, this world of talking to women will change

because now you have the protocol of how to structure a conversation and you

have the techniques of how to take those conversations to the next level. So

guys, in tomorrow's video, what we're going to go over are the steps of

right? We're talking to a woman, either on a dating app or in person. How do we

get to a date? So we're having this amazing conversation.

How do we close?

All right, guys, I hope you got something out of the day. What I want

guys. is if you need help in your storytelling, your homework is to go

down five stories.

But if you need help in your storytelling, post in the group. Post

the group and ask for feedback. Get other guys to help you out with it. I'll

chime in there as well to say, hey, say this, say not this. Hey, create an open

loop here.

And also, once again, use AI to help you with that.

But that's your homework, guys, is to go create those five stories, memorize

them, have them where you can deliver them.

on an amazing level to get her to feel those so all right guys i'll see you in

tomorrow's video on how to close