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All right, guys, and welcome to day four of the Attraction Blueprint. And today,

guys, we've built the foundation. We've got the great energy.

We've got the confidence. We're in the right mindset.

Now let's go have an amazing conversation.

And I'm going to give you two frameworks today. I promise you they work.

I have used them. My clients have used them. Hell, I even use them in sales and

business and they work fantastic.

So let's get into it, guys. Let's go ahead and jump into the framework. The

first framework I want to give you today is the, I just call it the FEV asterisk

protocol. And there's an asterisk there for a reason I'll get into.

But let's dive into the FEV framework.

And here's what it is.

When you're talking to a woman, let's just say you give her.

that compliment right that we talked about on day one so now you're actually

you've started the conversation you open the conversation how do i carry on the

conversation well let's do this f e v f stands for fact ask her a fact -based

question not a yes or no question open -ended question but a fact -based

question and think past the typical everyday interview style questions where

you're from what do you do think past those questions like oh that's like

Where'd you get that cup of coffee from? Or, hey, like, I'm looking for an

amazing place to bring my boys to for dinner this weekend. You know where to

Hey, look, I've got some empty time this weekend. You know a great place I can

go hiking around here.

Ask a kind of fun, fact -based question.

And then she's going to give you an answer.

All right?

So you wait for that answer. You give her plenty of space.

Don't interject.

Let her talk.

You give her plenty of space to answer that question.

And then you take that fact.

And now we're going to move on to E.

E stands for emotion.

What emotions does she have about that fact, right?

We know from talking to women that women are deeply emotional creatures and they

bond through emotions.

The more I can get her talking about her emotions, the more she's going to open

up to me and the more she's going to connect with me. So I want to ask her a

question like, oh, wow, that hike sounds amazing.

What did you like most about it? Why did you pick that hike?

Why did you pick there to go on vacation?

Why is that your favorite restaurant? Why is that your favorite thing to cook?

Why is that your favorite?

Why? Why is such a powerful question with women?

Because it gets them talking emotionally to you. It gets them to start

connecting with you.

So after a fact -based question, now find out the energy emotion behind that

fact. Now, V, this is the one that a lot of guys have trouble with.

It's validation.

So we know the fact, we know the emotion behind the fact. Now we want to give

her some validation.

And the validation is maybe a choice she made, maybe a characteristic that she's

showing. One of my favorite ones is, wow, like that sounds really scary.

Like how brave are you? Or wow, that sounds hard. You must be really smart.

So I'm giving her a compliment on a characteristic or.

you know, that decision must've been really tough to make. Like kudos for

That sounds amazing.

So I'm complimenting something to give her validation in the information she

just told me. And I'm building her up on something that she wasn't given from

birth. Like a lot of women, if you compliment their looks, if you validate,

know, how amazing she looks or her hair or something like that, it's not really

going to hit home with her because when you compliment,

a decision she made, or a choice, or something she did, now

what she's going to interpret that as, wow, he actually sees me.

She's going to feel seen and validated when you do that, and now you're really

connecting with her, and boom, you just repeat the process.

Fact, emotion, validate, repeat.

And feel free to go deeper on some of this stuff and ask a couple follow -up

questions, but that's how the... conversation framework works because

getting her to talk about her emotions and then you're giving her validation.

The two things that women love in conversation.

So here's the asterisk side of that.

And this one to me, from my coaching practice, I find a lot of guys struggle

with. So what I tell guys here is as you're going through this FED protocol,

just to keep you from going down the rabbit hole of interview mode.

which is what a lot of guys do, a lot of mistakes, a lot of guys make these

rapid fire questions and it just becomes this like monotone, non -emotional

interview.

Never ever, as you're going through this FEV protocol, pass up a Michael Scott,

that's what she said moment.

And what I mean by that is never pass up a chance to inject Schumer into the

conversation.

Give you an example of that.

I'll be talking with my girlfriend.

and she'll say something, and keep in mind, just so you get the joke, my

girlfriend's Puerto Rican, and she'll mention something about like her

coffee or, you know, putting way too much cream in her coffee.

I was like, wow, that's so basic white girl of you.

And it's just like a funny thing to say at the moment. It's humor. She gets its

humor. And it's just a way to lighten up the conversation.

Look for ways, like, wow, I really, like she mentions, let's just use this,

because a lot of guys are complaining about this at the moment.

You know, she mentions her love of Taylor Swift music.

You could immediately say, I really thought you had better taste in music

that.

And you do it in a way where she understands it's humor, right?

You know, you're injecting humor and you're picking on her. You're talking to

her like your bratty little sister.

You're just not crossing the line, right? You're not making fun of the way

looks or her family or even like her hometown.

Some girls get kind of sensitive about that too.

So never pass up an opportunity to make a smart -ass comment, to inject humor

into the conversation just to keep her on an emotional rollercoaster ride. The

more emotions, positive emotions, you can make her feel in the conversation,

more she's going to be emotionally connected to you.

Next framework I want to go over, guys, is the tease, touch, tell framework.

This is, okay, so we've gone through the FEV framework.

We've got a connection going on.

Now let me get into the flirting side of the conversation.

So tease. We kind of went over this, but man, like just treat her

like some of those things, some of those jokes you want to make, go ahead and

say them. Just take the filter off. Go ahead and say them. I promise you if

they're done in the right energy and you've already connected, it'll be okay.

But tease her. She wants to be teased. Like she wants to, she wants that

energy back and forth.

Touch, right? Now we're getting to physical escalation.

This is a whole separate topic that we'll talk about later if you want to go

down that route inside of the program.

But you do want to start physically escalating. Once you've done the FEV

protocol and the foundation of connections there and you're teasing,

having fun together, now let's start escalating with some small safe touches,

respectful touches.

And the last one is tell.

So you're teasing her. You might touch the back of her hand or her elbow or

something like that.

And what you want to also do if you're in a date with a girl is give her these

little micro tells, these little micro commands.

This is a beautiful thing to do because what it does is establishes your

leadership. It establishes your masculine frame.

Hey, I'm going to finish checking out. Go grab that table for us.

Or hey, I'm going to get that table. Why don't you go grab us some napkins?

Very, very small asks.

But you're doing it in a way that's giving her a command.

You don't want to do this in a way that really comes off in a mean.

condescending way, but it's like, hey, I'm doing this. Why don't you do this?

But you're getting her in a very, very micro way used to following your

leadership, which honestly is something she wants you to do. She wants you to

step into a masculine leadership role. This is an easy way to do that.

So guys, here's your homework for this week is I want you to practice the FEV

protocol. And inside of the group, I want you to respond.

how this protocol worked, how the validation worked. Once you asked the

once you got to the emotion and you validated her, what happened?

How did she respond to that? Give us some feedback, guys. Look, I know this

protocol works.

I've never heard any negative feedback from a guy that I've talked to.

So I want you to go practice this. Go have three conversations where you

practice the FED protocol and let us know how it goes.

So guys, next video tomorrow, we're going to get into... advanced

so i've given you the basic framework tomorrow we're going to get a couple

advanced techniques just to make sure that as you're utilizing these

utilize them you know putting in some additional skills that really take your

communication to the next level so guys that's it for today appreciate you so

much and i'll see you in tomorrow's video