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Alright guys and welcome to day two of the attraction blueprint and we're gonna

add another level to coffins today And we're gonna talk about having a growth

mindset and active reframing The reason these two things are so important is

guys hate to break it to you But you live in the real world with real

real rejections and real people nothing's linear and A lot of mistakes

make is they think there's like this just five -step plan of success, and I'm

sorry, that's just not how this works.

So what I want to give you today is a couple tools to help you just build upon

your confidence in a more active way, in a more like internal way where you can,

you know, tell better stories and reframe things that happen to you so

becoming stronger through this process, you're becoming better through this

process, and not letting things drag you down, not letting things beat you up.

So the first thing I want to talk about is the power of story.

When we are out in the real world, we're talking to women, when we're having

conversations, we're interacting with anyone, we're constantly creating

stories. And the cool thing about that is you are the creator of those stories.

So the question to then ask yourself is how much power do I have in the creation

of that story?

Am I letting the world tell me?

my story? Am I letting my failures create a story? Am I letting my

create that story?

Or am I taking this upon myself and saying, no, I'm the creator.

I actually create these stories and I'm going to write a better story. Yeah. I

might've failed in the past. Yeah. I might've had some problems, but you know

what? I don't have to be that person. The past is the past. It's called that

a reason. I can now today decide to make and create a better story. So You have

that free will, and I love a great book by Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for

Meaning, talks about the real power you have is in the separation between

stimulus and response.

That space there between stimulus and how you respond to that stimulus, that

actually your free will, and that is your space to create a story. This is

powerful, especially...

when dealing with women because let's be honest they will be the biggest trigger

in your life so the more space you can create there between stimulus and

response the more power you then have to write a better story so a lot of people

when they hear this though they're going to think affirmations and positive self

-talk look all that is powerful for the right person it is called personal

development for a reason it's highly personal but what i like to do is say

who do i want to be what story I want to write, but more importantly, and this

is part of this whole equation is what identity do I want to create for myself?

And it's not about faking it till you make it. It's literally about who do I

want to be in this world?

Okay. In order to be that person, I must take on that identity because without

getting like too deep in the rabbit hole, guys, who you are as an identity

dictates the actions you take, right? Like if you, or the identity of, Hey, I

have amazing conversation skills and I'm absolutely great with women.

You're going to take actions from that identity.

So when I think about like positive self -talk and affirmations, I'm to me

thinking about creating a stronger identity.

I use this for myself and it's going to sound cheesy, but it is what it is. Like

before I would go on a date and before I would go talk to women, I'm like, man,

she's so lucky that I'm going to go talk to her right now because I'm an

absolute gift, right?

I'm the man she desires to be with. So the fact that I'm going to talk to her,

she's incredibly lucky right now.

That's the identity that I would take on before I would go talk to her because

it would put me in a state of abundance. It would put me in a really powerful

mindset. So that's kind of what I want to talk to you about today is like, what

identity do you want to have that goes and talks to women and putting yourself

in that identity, right? Like just talking to yourself like, hey, I am this

person. I'm not the kind of person that thinks this way. No, I am this person.

Step two today, guys, is active reframing.

Through my health journey, through my coaching practice, this is probably the

most powerful thing that I ever learned how to do.

And even with my clients, like I said, I coach a lot of high -performance

clients too.

Active reframing is one of the most powerful things you will learn how to do

this world of growth.

So here's what it is.

Active reframing, if something happens, how do I...

want to reframe what just happened, right?

This really easy example of that is let's say, you know, a girl turns down,

rejects you.

Okay. You could, one frame could be, oh man, I'm a loser.

She rejected me. I'm not good enough.

Or you could reframe that like, okay, cool.

I guess I'm just not her type. How can I get better?

Okay. She obviously like didn't like something I said. Maybe we just didn't

vibe. Maybe, you know, we're just on two different planes, whatever.

How can I get better from this? Like, what can I say differently? What can I

differently next time?

It's not me personally.

It's just maybe something just wasn't in alignment, right?

I'm going to look at the things that happened in my life, that stimulus,

space between stimulus and response. And in that space, I'm going to reframe

that in a way that's going to make me a better person. Do and believe what makes

you better.

So I'm going to reframe what just happened in a positive way.

And say, okay, you know what? You're right. I didn't say this right. I should

have said this. I should have asked this question.

Maybe I shouldn't have talked so much.

Maybe I should have been more in a state of curiosity.

So I'm going to actively reframe that situation to put myself in a better

position moving forward.

So that is what I want you to practice this week. In your interactions with

people, as you're out there playing the compliment game, before you go and give

the compliment, I want you to actively put in a new identity.

All right? So what identity do I want to have? Who do I want to be? How do I

want to show up before I go give that compliment?

And then if something negative happens, you actively reframe it in that moment,

not later when you're journaling. That's what's called active reframing. You're

going to reframe it in that moment and say, oh, you know what?

It's cool. Like I learned this.

Next.

You should teach a lot of sales.

And when I was teaching sales, I would tell guys, no just means next.

Right? Yes, you want to get better from a no, but let's actively reframe no to

next, right? Okay, so I got rejection.

How do I take that, get better from it? All right, moving on. That no longer

bothers me. It was a great learning lesson, okay? So that's the challenge I

to give you for today is active reframing. When that self -doubt

that insecurity appears, when you have any type of negative thought come into

your brain, reframe it and then take action.

Action, from day one, I told you, action is the most important thing, right?

Because nothing happens without action. So how can I create a new identity,

actively reframe to keep myself in a positive momentum, keep myself

moving forward?

That's it for today, guys. Hope you got something out of it. Leave us some

comments. Let us know how this new identity and this active reframing is

for you. Guys, we love hearing your feedback in the community.

And for day three tomorrow, we're going to talk about energy priming.

because like we talked about yesterday, she feels energy. Energy is the most

important thing that you can possibly transfer to her. So tomorrow we're going

to get into energy priming. I just needed you in the right mindset before

could do a little bit of energy work.

So guys, hope you got something out of it.

Thank you so much for tuning in, and I'll see you tomorrow.