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When I got back from Iraq, I was having
issues dealing with anxiety, so we got
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Salem to help me deal with it.
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At least once a day, Salem will attack
the other cats.
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To see him fight like that and get
pissed like that is a big trigger for
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Bartholomew is a beautiful cat, but
doesn't have a beautiful personality to
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match. He has scratched every piece of
furniture we have.
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I go, Bartholomew, you stop. And Shari
will go, don't be mean to my cat.
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When we talk about cats from heaven,
this is that cat.
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I didn't know my name. I didn't know
where I was.
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Molly and Otitis met up when they needed
each other the most. The reason that he
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came into my life was because of his ear
infection.
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Whoa.
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Holy. I'm Jackson Gallagher. What the
hell, man?
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The animal behavior.
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The guardians called, and they're giving
him a difficult cat.
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Sometimes I wish that I didn't have her.
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Damn.
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I'm out to prove that there is no such
thing as a bad cat. Just a cat that
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my help. This is fun.
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I'm David.
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My wife, Melissa. We've been married.
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Just shy of 20 years, we have one child,
Ronnie, and we also have our four cats
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that live with us, Dexter, Rizzo, Lip,
and Salem.
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Salem is my therapy cat.
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I was deployed in the Gulf War in the
90s, and then once again ended up going
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Iraq in 2010.
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When I got back from Iraq, I was having
issues dealing with anxiety, bad dreams,
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things like that, so we got Salem to
help me deal with it.
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Salem has helped me immensely.
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He sees me in a really panicky
situation.
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He'll come up right at the door, and I'm
like, look, I know something's wrong.
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Pet me.
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But he's our problem child.
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They all got along great for the first
couple years, and then about a year ago
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is when Salem started acting out. At
least once a day, Salem will attack the
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other cats.
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Usually it's Dexter that gets the brunt
of it.
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It can get pretty loud and violent.
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I love Salem, but Salem's a huge jerk.
He needs to stop attacking the other
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cats. It's plain and simple. Look at
that. Got her right on the nose.
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Salem could get to that point where he
does some serious damage, and we don't
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want that to happen.
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To see him fight like that and get
vicious like that is distressing to me.
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Really? You're here to be a therapy cat
and not to stress out everyone and the
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other cats.
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Basically, my whole life right now is
centered around just avoiding conflict
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altogether. But the fighting causes my
stress levels to go up, and just the
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overall anxiety level in the house is a
big trigger for me, which is why we need
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Jackson's help.
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Morning. How are you? Hi. Melissa? Hey,
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this is Ronnie. What's up, Ronnie? How
are you doing?
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Okay, guys.
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Let's talk cat.
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There's definitely evidence of cats,
which is nice. A lot of the houses I go
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you would never know there was a cat.
How many do we have here?
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Four. What's going on here with the four
cats?
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Well, Salem is pretty much my cat, but
he can be a bit of a bully sometimes.
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In a house of four cats, how did
somebody become your cat?
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Well, I've got some issues from being in
the wars that I've been in, and the VA
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had offered me a service dog.
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specifically for PTSD is that what they
yeah but I'm more of a cat person and um
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I wanted one that I could bond with
immediately you know and Salem was that
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it was like he knew I knew we both knew
boom he's coming home with me Oh, wow.
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PTSD or post -traumatic stress disorder
can develop in people who have survived
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scary or shocking or dangerous events.
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It's totally normal for those people to
feel constantly on edge, to have bad
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memories or have trouble sleeping after
an experience like that.
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You'll know immediately when I walk in
the door if I've had a real bad day.
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Yeah. They'll come right up to me and
sit on my lap the whole night.
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That's so cool. Cats now are therapy
animals. They go into hospitals. They're
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emotional support animals.
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They travel with people.
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It's about the world catching up a
little bit and recognizing that cats are
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deeply emotional beings who care about
the ones they love, just like any other
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animal. Does Salem have a problem with a
specific cat or is it just Dexter? It's
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Dexter. The three boys used to play
together really well, but one morning
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attacked Dexter. We didn't see what
happened.
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Since that first fight.
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How often is it that they're... Maybe
once a day.
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A day?
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Yeah, it's very random, though, because
they'll be sitting here, and they'll be
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nice and calm, and all of a sudden, one
will give the other one a look, and bam,
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it happens, and then it's done.
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Have there been any major injuries from
the cat?
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Ritzo has one right now.
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She's got a nice cut right across her
nose.
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Oh, no. We got video of them squaring
off when the scratch happened.
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Okay, let's take a look at that.
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Okay, so we've got, this is right here.
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That's Rizzo.
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Whoa. So there's no predictability in
terms of time of day or before
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or after meals or anything like that
that can connect it. You just know that
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someone looks a certain way when someone
else walks in the room, you're going to
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have trouble.
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Or if somebody gets startled. Lip and
Rizzo are very skittish. They slink
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like they're being tracked. If you
walked out there and startled one of
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especially Lip, and he takes off
running, that'll trigger him. That'll
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Salem. So they're constantly in fear.
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Well, that's no good. If I didn't get
here, what's our worst fear in this
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We would keep trying. I mean, none of
them are going anywhere.
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Okay. We just want Salem to be happy
again. Yeah.
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And calm.
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It's really about staying calm.
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Calm in the house. Because to see him
fight like that gives me anxiety
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Right. David will thrive when the energy
in this home is as flat -lined as
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possible. All you're doing is breaking
up fights all day long. That's not going
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to work for David. Oh, who's that? That
is Rizzo. Rizzo the princess? There she
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is. Now, Rizzo obviously is walking that
way because I'm here?
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All the time. That happens all the time?
That walk?
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Yeah, plus she's always crouched down.
Oh, that's not cool. When I see Rizzo
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slinking across the floor and the family
is telling me that's just who she is
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and what she does, that leads me to
believe that Rizzo is living in fear 24
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So I want to see if this behavior is
present in all the other cats as well.
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Who's that?
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Dexter. That's Dexter. That's Dexter?
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Hi.
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Okay, so we got Dexter and we got Rizzo.
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And Salem and Lip. Lip's in the house.
Wait, Lip and Salem are back there?
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That's interesting, too.
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Salem is just crammed in a corner right
now. So for the cat that beats the hell
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out of everybody else in the house, he's
got that sort of unconfident vibe.
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Salem is tucked behind a cat tree,
plastered against the wall, clearly the
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scared cat in this house. That's
interesting.
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He's a good cat. He likes people. He's
very cuddly. He, like, licks his belly,
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and I'm really concerned about that.
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He's not that stressed out about you.
Hi, buddy.
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He's just having a good old sit.
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Did you tell me a little bit of an
issue?
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Pick him up for a sec.
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Holy crap.
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Yep.
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Holy crap.
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Yeah, come on, Salem.
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That's a lot of missing Salem.
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Holy crap.
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Yeah, come on, Salem.
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That's a lot of missing Salem.
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He's mutilating himself.
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This is the cat who needs my help. So I
have to gather more information to
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pinpoint exactly where all this anxiety
is coming from.
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Wow, that is one trough of food you got
over there.
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When did you start free feeding?
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About a year ago.
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It's interesting how when they started
free feeding the cats, everything
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changed. When cats eat at the same time,
their energy rises and falls at the
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same time. But with free feeding,
they're eating on different schedules,
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have energy spikes that just aren't
synced up. This could be causing
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here. Any other areas here where, man,
you have been through a lot, dude. I'm
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looking around.
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You've got, what's your experience in
the military?
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I was a commander of a vehicle.
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We were up on the front lines, and we
saw just devastation.
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Wow, man.
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The first time was the scariest.
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There was actually chemical weapons
involved in that.
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That'll make you grow up real quick.
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I was 20 years old when they sent me
over there for that one.
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Do you feel like, in terms of PTSD, is
that... Oh, yeah, that's about 90 %
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that comes from. So 20 years old, you
get thrown into this, and the rest of
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life, you're working around it.
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Does Salem play a specific role in terms
of, I mean, is it nightmares or
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anything like that that hits you? Oh,
yeah.
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I'll be sleeping on my side and he'll
come up and like, wake up, wake up. It's
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just a dream. Wake up. Get out of here.
Yeah.
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I'm so impressed that the idea of
therapeutic animals has taken root the
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way it has. Like you said, it helps, you
know what I mean?
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Especially with the suicide rates, which
are.
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Yeah, I just lost a friend. Due to the
after effects?
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Yeah. I'm so sorry. This is actually a
life and death thing to David. These
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get him through every day.
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It's so crucial that we restore peace in
this house.
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Let's start with the first thing first.
Obviously, the cat that seems to be
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picking these premeditated fights is
also incredibly anxious, right? Because
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he's bald.
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So there's obviously energetic spikes
happening in this house. In a normal
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spikes happen at least once, twice,
three times a day. When we wake up in
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morning, we come together after work, we
go to bed at night, the energy in the
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home comes up. In this home, random
spikes happening all the time. Cats
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through the house, which starts a fight.
So my goal with you guys is to de
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-spike this house.
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The first thing that I want you guys to
start committing to is every single time
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there's either a fight, or Salem over
grooming.
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I want you to mark those areas. X marks
the spot.
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Blue tape for over grooming and red tape
for a fight.
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We're going to start seeing some sort of
territorial pattern emerge because
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right now there's nothing.
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The next thing to de -spike the house,
we're going to start getting them into a
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group routine, starting with the concept
of play therapy.
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And you need to do it so that it's
happening around the same time every
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they get to eat at the end of it, and
that means the trough is going to go
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If we feed them all at the same time,
it's going to help. We have to control
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their eating because that way their
energy will all come up and down at the
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time. And if they have a ritual of play
that happens every day at predictable
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times, we're going to start being able
to control the energetic output of these
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cats and de -spike the home. The last
part of this de -spiking homework.
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is catification.
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You guys have already started doing
that, which I'm really psyched about
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I don't have to start you guys from
square one. I want to create one more
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of superhighway. We can do that very
simply with shelving or something like
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to give us just that much more space to
increase the piece in here.
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Because if cats aren't competing for the
same resource, which is usually the
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ground,
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They tend to be a little more peaceful
around each other. We're giving the cats
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options to get away from each other
instead of meeting in the middle of the
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floor. All right, guys.
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Ronnie, you've been awfully quiet this
entire time.
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How are you feeling?
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I'm good. We're going to fix Salem so
RZA doesn't have to be scared all the
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now. I hope the homework works because
I'm not really going to be pleased. If
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doesn't work in Salem, just get to work
because it's going to stress out my dad.
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I'm sorry.
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And I'm David, and we've been married 22
years, and we have a cat named
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Bartholomew.
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Bartholomew is a beautiful cat, but
doesn't have a beautiful personality to
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match.
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He has scratched every piece of
furniture we have in our living room,
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the ottoman couches downstairs.
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Bartholomew scratches everything. He
loves to stretch up and just like go at
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like this.
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I go, Bartholomew, stop.
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And Shari will go, don't be mean to my
cat.
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When David tries to stop Bartholomew,
usually what happens is a lot of
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screaming, stomping.
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Bartholomew, stop it.
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Get away from there. I think Bartholomew
hates David.
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Shari's idea of stopping Bartholomew
from scratching the furniture is to go.
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No, that's not good. Bad boy.
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And I'm sure that really works.
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Well, I just believe in the gentle
approach.
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Yeah, that's the gentle approach, which
is no approach.
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Well, guess what? Neither one's working.
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That's correct.
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Well, hi.
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Come on in. Thank you. I'm Jackson.
Sorry.
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Sorry. David.
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David. Who's this? This is Maggie. Hi,
Maggie.
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Well, come on in.
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Looking around the couch where David and
Shari are sitting, I can definitely see
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there's a little bit of damage.
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So why am I here?
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Because of the cat toy that I'm looking
at?
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Yeah. Yeah, it's a giant cat toy. It's
every couch and chair.
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All right, well, tell me about
Bartholomew.
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He's a little problem.
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He seems to like the furniture, and
he'll just dig in.
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This is really excessive, and I've never
experienced this type of, I think I'm
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going to say aggression.
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Aggressive scratching.
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Yeah. I feel like he hates us, actually.
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Mostly him. Yeah, he hates me. He hates
you. I can't get near him. He runs away.
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Every time.
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Well, David would yell at him and stomp
his feet and scare the cat. I mean, he
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doesn't have a good relationship with
me. But that's your fault.
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Because you don't spend any time with
the cat. No, I spend time with him.
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In a year and a half, perhaps.
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30 minutes. No.
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Yeah, 30 minutes.
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David? I've had way more than 30
minutes. What have you guys talked about
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terms of why Bartholomew is scratching?
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We adopted Bartholomew from a rescue.
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They did try to warn us that he had a
really rotten year and a half living on
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the streets and that he wasn't exactly a
lap cat and that he had a difficult
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life. So they're warning you ahead of
time and you're like, no, I want him.
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was it? What did he call out to you?
Why?
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Previous to Bartholomew, we had another
cat named Bandit.
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Bandit was an American snowshoe, love of
Shari's life.
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Shari had gone through cancer, and
Bandit never left her side.
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Wow. Bandit was a very loving cat, and
he was there for me in ways that people
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couldn't be, you know.
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Throughout my chemotherapy,
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My beloved bandit parked himself on my
stomach and was there until I started
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feeling better. I felt like if I got the
same kind of cat that it would ease the
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pain. I can empathize with Shari. Of
course, anyone who's lost an animal,
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especially one that is as close to her
as bandit was, it's a hard thing to go
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through. But replacing one with someone
else, not fair to you, not fair to the
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memory of the one you lost, and not fair
to the new cat as well.
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Bartholomew is one of those things where
you saw him and you recognized the
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bandit in him.
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No.
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Not at all. He looks like bandit. But he
doesn't act like bandit. He doesn't act
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like him. He's no bandit. Shari's
completely projecting feelings that she
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for bandit all over Bartholomew. How
could he be anything but a failure in
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eyes? So there's a lot more wrapped up
than just claw marks on the couch.
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But then we've got claw marks on the
couch. So let's take off all these
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Let's just see what we're actually
dealing with here. This couple is
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patches on scratches the same way they
put a Bartholomew on a bandit. They're
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just trying to, as Shari said, mask
things, mask pain, mask dysfunction.
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Well, it's time to rip all the patches
off. So is this kind of the big hang for
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you guys? This is my man cave.
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So you hang out here. Yeah.
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One reason cats scratch furniture is
because it smells like they're humans
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they just want to co -own the space.
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Given that, it's no wonder that
Bartholomew wants to lay claim to the
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in David's man cave. He's saying, hey,
you and me, we both belong here. We're
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compadres. So here's some of
Bartholomew's pincushion artwork.
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This is one of his favorite places to
scratch.
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Right. The back of this is another one
of his favorite spots.
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That one's pretty bad, yeah. Yeah, it's
annoying, and it's terrible and
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unsightly. Did I say annoying? Because
it's really annoying.
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We've got plenty of scratching posts for
him. That he does use. But he still
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enjoys the furniture.
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I mean, this is downright... Ridiculous.
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I'm seeing a few scratching posts, and
the scratching posts don't seem to have
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scratch marks.
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It's not that much. You said that he
uses these scratching posts.
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Yeah, well... I must mean squat.
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The scratching posts don't seem to have
scratch marks.
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It's not that much. You said that he
uses these scratching posts.
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Yeah, well... I must mean squat.
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That's a fairly new one. That's a newer
one. And what about that one in the
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corner there? That one, he'll lay on top
of it. Yeah, but it's not a scratching
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post. But it's not really so much a
scratching post. Looking around, I see a
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sad scratching posts that are completely
ignored.
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Now, having seen Bartholomew's Trail of
Destruction, I just want to spend some
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time with him and see if his reputation
is what they're saying it is.
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Hello, my friend.
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Come say hi.
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Are you a good boy?
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You want some?
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Here we go.
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Baby boy.
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There's my baby boy.
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Bartholomew's a little timid at first,
but with proper motivation, food, and a
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little loving intention, he's actually a
really friendly cat, and he seems very
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driven by human affection.
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Yeah, good boy.
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Thank you.
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Bartholomew goes over on his back,
giving me what I call the cat hug.
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I earned that, man, and I got it, which
means that David can earn it too. He's
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just got to want it.
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I have got every little piece of
information that I need to help out the
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so it's time to give him some homework.
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First things first, let's just think
about why he's scratching where he
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scratches. He picks places that it's
important for him to own.
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It's that way of saying, I belong here.
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So it's actually kind of a backhanded
compliment.
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David, from your perspective, you're
saying he hates me.
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He's not saying I'm pissed at you. He's
saying I want to be a part of this.
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So guys, your first assignment is what I
call the no -yes.
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It's okay to say no. This is not where I
want you to scratch as long as right
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behind it is a yes.
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We're going to use double -sided tape.
We're going to put that on in the places
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that he has picked because he's going to
have that experience over and over that
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I reach for the couch and ugh.
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But right next to that...
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has to be a very sturdy scratching
surface that's acceptable to you guys,
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So now it comes down to your work, okay?
And there is definitely work that you
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guys got to do.
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First of all, David, if you want a
relationship with this cat, you can't
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him. You can't stomp your feet. He
associates you with scary things now.
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homework with him is really just
bonding.
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I want David to become the most
positive.
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most amazing presence in Bartholomew's
life. He's going to do that by taking
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control of all the pleasurable rituals
in this house. You're the only one who
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gives him treats for the next couple of
weeks.
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You're the one who feeds him. So you're
Santa Claus from now on. Every time you
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appear, wonderful things happen.
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For you, Shari, I want you to make a
list for me of all the things that you
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about Bartholomew, independent of any
banditness.
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Just the things about him that you love.
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It's time to commit Bandit to memory.
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It's time.
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Because regardless of what your pain is,
and of course you're still in pain, but
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Bartholomew, he's the victim.
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It's not a victimless grief.
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I understand.
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I'm obviously willing to do everything,
but just having to address some emotions
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that I've kind of buried.
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I have every expectation that if you
commit to this, things will be
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Human and cat, they'll be different.
Okay. I will see you guys very soon, and
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you'll have a brand new house by the
time I get back. It's really hard for me
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grieve for Bandit, but I'm looking
forward to doing my homework.
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Hoping for some positive results.
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Anyone?
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I'm here for my second visit with Salem.
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Last time I was here, I definitely saw
evidence of Salem's aggression, but I
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also saw redirected aggression onto
himself. There was also random spikes of
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energy that were causing all kinds of
cat mayhem, which is a problem for
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post -traumatic triggers. So the
homework was supposed to de -spike the
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and hopefully that's what I'm going to
see.
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There was a bunch going on here, looking
down on the floor.
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Obviously, a bunch of stuff happened
here.
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Just overall, how are you feeling?
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Well, the fighting is down.
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Probably about 70%. There haven't been
any real, no major league knockdown,
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out fights where there's injuries.
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Man, I'll take that. Hearing the update,
I'm totally excited to see the homework
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video because clearly what they've been
doing is causing something good to
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happen here. Here we go.
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As you can see, there's been a change in
the food area.
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The big tub is dead. Has been washed and
put away.
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The trough. And this is our play
fishing.
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And that's how you keep them interested.
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Make it run to something.
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And look!
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Got Dexter and Lip in the middle of the
floor, and there's our boy in the back.
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Now here comes Salem.
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Salem's in.
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Nobody runs away from him. This is a
large deal.
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See, big things happen when you get rid
of big troughs of food. Now that that
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trough is gone, their physical energy is
reined in.
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So this is the shelf system installed.
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We got one shelf there to get them from
the couch up to the big shelf across
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this window.
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Rocking. So all four cats checking out
their perches for the first time.
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That's fantastic.
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Now we had one minor attack last night.
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That's the dining room. They're sitting
on the fireplace.
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Ooh, Dexter. Yeah, man. But let's go
back there for a second.
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Hand up, right?
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Tail swishing. And he's prepping for a
fight. That's a classic posture of, if
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you bring it, I will bring it harder.
The family, committing to the homework,
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has given these cats a social structure
that they can adhere to. And because of
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that, Dexter is just gaining some
serious confidence, which means he's
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something. Salem is standing down, which
means he's learned something.
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Hello, Rizzo.
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Rizzo's like, I want to be a part of
everything.
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Yes, thank you, baby.
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Thank you.
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Wow, Rizzo.
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She's gotten more confident. Like, she's
actually sitting in the room with you.
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She's just owning these shelves.
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She's got more spots now. Now we get to
see Rizzo.
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A little mojo -fied. Just like Dexter,
Rizzo is acting more confident. I mean,
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the last time I was here, she was army
crawling around the floor because she
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so scared. But now, with the addition of
the shelves, she is owning the vertical
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world, and that is translating to her
feeling more confident through the
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house. We're seeing a very clear
progression here, but I am still
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about Salem.
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Have you noticed anything in terms of
over -grooming? Is Salem still as bald
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ever? It's gotten worse.
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By the way, have you noticed anything in
terms of over grooming?
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It's gotten worse.
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The aggression is definitely on the way
down. But still not all that happy about
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the fact that we still have a bald tummy
in the house. As long as that's here,
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the problem's not solved.
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I want to start working on our exes. I
got one fight and two over grooms. Any
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these happen in the last five days?
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No. Okay, great. That's what the
progress is all about, because this area
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heavily over -owned. Cats are defensive
animals by nature. They've stuck around
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for all these tens of thousands of years
because they know how to stay alive.
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So when we create lanes of highway,
we're giving the cats a chance to not
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and they're taking that bait. Let's take
a look. Want to see Thelma's stressed
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-out chair? There it is!
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Wow. Yeah, that's where he goes, right
there. Okay, now, I see X's. Look at
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this. You have, look at, look at, it's
the path.
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The whole path is dotted with fights.
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That does explain why the exes are here.
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Fight, overgroom.
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Fight, self -medicate.
451
00:26:50,070 --> 00:26:54,310
Now, I know that you guys catch him
overgrooming. You're always stopping
452
00:26:54,470 --> 00:26:59,310
When I do it, I try not to just say stop
and walk away. I start rubbing his
453
00:26:59,310 --> 00:27:02,230
belly and scritching his back and
scritching him around the neck and get
454
00:27:02,230 --> 00:27:07,170
purr and then walk away. As we uncover
the facts, as we look at the exes on the
455
00:27:07,170 --> 00:27:10,800
ground, It's very clear to me what's
going on. It's all insecurity.
456
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:15,560
He wants control so badly, and of course
he can't have it.
457
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:17,960
So, let's get to some homework.
458
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:23,080
First of all, catification 2 .0. I want
you to get what I call a diffusion post,
459
00:27:23,360 --> 00:27:27,180
just a big scratching post, and put it
right by those chairs in the kitchen.
460
00:27:27,420 --> 00:27:30,100
The cats get into trouble when they have
straight lines at each other.
461
00:27:30,360 --> 00:27:34,540
The diffusion post acts as a traffic
circle, so a cat can get away from
462
00:27:34,540 --> 00:27:39,580
cat. Because right where that bunch of
X's are, right there in the kitchen,
463
00:27:39,580 --> 00:27:42,820
the center of all things nasty at this
point. This is the essence of
464
00:27:42,820 --> 00:27:46,800
catification. Get them to do what you
want behavior -wise by directing the
465
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:50,580
traffic. The over -grooming part of
things is really important here. The
466
00:27:50,580 --> 00:27:54,200
is you see him over -grooming and you
pick him up. You cuddle him. You're
467
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,220
actually rewarding him for doing it. I
want to see you do something else.
468
00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,700
So redirect means toys.
469
00:28:00,020 --> 00:28:01,020
It means treats.
470
00:28:01,260 --> 00:28:04,380
It means something that just grabs his
attention so that he just forgets what
471
00:28:04,380 --> 00:28:05,099
was doing.
472
00:28:05,100 --> 00:28:09,560
The more we see a stabilization of
territory, the more his hair is going to
473
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:14,720
back. For all of the therapy that he
gave you, your chance to give it back.
474
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,360
needs his therapy, human, right now. I
don't want to see him suffer.
475
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:22,800
Yeah, no. And, hey, listen, we're
already a good way down the road. Let's
476
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:23,519
close the deal.
477
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:27,480
From the beginning, when Salem and I
picked each other out, he's been there
478
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:32,620
me 100%, reducing my stress level. Now
I'm committed to give that back to him
479
00:28:32,620 --> 00:28:33,980
because he's given me so much.
480
00:28:36,750 --> 00:28:37,770
Bartholomew, stop it.
481
00:28:38,150 --> 00:28:39,150
Get away from there.
482
00:28:43,670 --> 00:28:49,370
I am back to see David and Shari and
their cat, Bartholomew. Last time I was
483
00:28:49,370 --> 00:28:53,910
here, these guys took normal behavior
and turned it into a codependent toxic
484
00:28:53,910 --> 00:28:57,570
cocktail. Hopefully this time around,
these guys have taken a logical approach
485
00:28:57,570 --> 00:29:01,010
to the scratching and to their
relationship with their cat.
486
00:29:01,310 --> 00:29:02,450
How are things going in this house?
487
00:29:03,020 --> 00:29:04,160
The news is good?
488
00:29:04,380 --> 00:29:05,380
The news is great.
489
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:06,399
The news is great.
490
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:07,400
Yeah. Great.
491
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,580
Wonderful. I mean, you're smiling like
crazy. What's going on here?
492
00:29:10,820 --> 00:29:17,760
Well, we put the cat furniture and cat
posts out and toys and made a
493
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:19,700
cat amusement park in here.
494
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:20,879
That's fantastic.
495
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:22,240
He's left the furniture alone.
496
00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:26,620
Amazing. You know what? On that note,
let's watch it.
497
00:29:26,860 --> 00:29:29,720
What we did over here is we put the
double -sided tape.
498
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:36,460
And now we have the brand -new
scratching post furniture.
499
00:29:36,900 --> 00:29:40,940
And we place next to this very active
area for Bartholomew.
500
00:29:43,340 --> 00:29:44,500
Oh, I love that.
501
00:29:44,740 --> 00:29:51,640
Yeah. In the video, I can see the no
-yes being executed to the T because
502
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:56,560
being told no, but given a proper outlet
right to the side of that couch, it's
503
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:57,560
working perfectly.
504
00:29:58,800 --> 00:29:59,800
Nice.
505
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,600
I feel like we made some significant
progress today.
506
00:30:03,980 --> 00:30:07,220
David's been putting in a tremendous
amount of effort.
507
00:30:07,980 --> 00:30:12,900
Bartholomew playing with him, feeding
him every single day.
508
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:17,140
Look at David. I mean, you're petting
him for a really long time. This is
509
00:30:17,140 --> 00:30:18,140
wonderful.
510
00:30:18,420 --> 00:30:19,680
There it is.
511
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:24,860
He's absolutely enjoying it. Wow, that's
wonderful.
512
00:30:25,220 --> 00:30:29,600
David absolutely executed that bonding
homework, and he got the payoff. Right
513
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:34,300
now he has a relationship with
Bartholomew, where before not only was
514
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:35,860
but the cat was scared of him too.
515
00:30:36,820 --> 00:30:37,820
Great stuff.
516
00:30:37,980 --> 00:30:42,240
So when David started playing with him
and feeding him, he started sleeping
517
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:45,880
us all night on the bed. He just perches
himself on the bed all night long.
518
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:50,660
Wow. Yeah. The fact that Bartholomew is
now sleeping in bed with the couple.
519
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,680
That's it. That's the bond building.
That's the belonging to an environment.
520
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:56,120
That's proof.
521
00:30:56,360 --> 00:31:01,700
So, one other homework assignment. I
wanted you to make a list of things that
522
00:31:01,700 --> 00:31:04,960
were distinctly Bartholomew, apart from
Bandit. What do we got?
523
00:31:05,220 --> 00:31:08,840
Well, of course, I think that my
Bartholomew is very sweet.
524
00:31:09,900 --> 00:31:11,480
He's very neat and clean.
525
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:19,340
He wants to be affectionate, and he
wants it to be loved. And Bartholomew is
526
00:31:19,340 --> 00:31:20,340
survivor.
527
00:31:20,460 --> 00:31:23,920
I admire that and I respect it and I
have that in common with him.
528
00:31:24,620 --> 00:31:30,380
Before we adopted him, Bartholomew had a
really rotten year and a half to two
529
00:31:30,380 --> 00:31:31,820
years living on the streets.
530
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:37,800
And the fact that Bartholomew just
walked into a new home and let all of
531
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:41,420
and was willing to enjoy life and enjoy
our couches.
532
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:44,280
He's a real tough dude.
533
00:31:45,220 --> 00:31:46,220
So am I.
534
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:47,320
Yeah.
535
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:52,400
I love the fact that you can look at him
and be reminded of your own strength
536
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:58,420
and your history as a survivor and not
there's a shadow of bandit.
537
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:03,360
Bartholomew's now Bartholomew, and he
occupies a place in your life that's so
538
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,240
much better. And then there's the other
payoff, the furniture.
539
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:10,860
All the way around. Good work, you guys.
Good work. Look, these guys have done a
540
00:32:10,860 --> 00:32:14,540
great job with their homework, but I
want to see one thing before I leave
541
00:32:14,540 --> 00:32:16,940
today, and that's David's interaction
with Bartholomew.
542
00:32:17,290 --> 00:32:18,470
Hey, Barty Moo.
543
00:32:21,350 --> 00:32:26,790
The last time I was here, David claimed
that Bartholomew would not let him near.
544
00:32:27,050 --> 00:32:27,729
Good boy.
545
00:32:27,730 --> 00:32:30,590
Now we have a bond. David has earned his
trust.
546
00:32:30,850 --> 00:32:35,330
Now, step back for a second. Look at how
he looks at you. Gives you that look of
547
00:32:35,330 --> 00:32:41,590
like, you're my man. In a few weeks, you
guys basically went from
548
00:32:41,590 --> 00:32:46,660
being... kind of acquaintances to having
a true relationship, and that's a
549
00:32:46,660 --> 00:32:47,660
credit to you.
550
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:51,160
Honestly, we could have fixed the
scratching problem. I could have walked
551
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:56,800
from here. But without relationships
formed and repaired, it feels like a
552
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:57,800
victory.
553
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:02,000
Seeing David and Bartholomew right now,
this is a job well done.
554
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:03,560
Good work, buddy.
555
00:33:04,270 --> 00:33:08,910
You know, we didn't know what was going
to happen in this process. And some of
556
00:33:08,910 --> 00:33:13,230
it was really difficult, having to
grieve for Bandit. You know, that's a
557
00:33:13,230 --> 00:33:15,810
process. But they have made a lot of
progress.
558
00:33:16,030 --> 00:33:21,330
And now it's a happier household. And it
just keeps getting better.
559
00:33:23,730 --> 00:33:25,330
How have your stress levels been lately?
560
00:33:26,010 --> 00:33:30,310
Well, last week I did have to take a
mental health day. On days like that, my
561
00:33:30,310 --> 00:33:32,530
hope would be that that's where...
562
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:33,920
Sam does his job.
563
00:33:35,020 --> 00:33:36,020
Did he do his job?
564
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:54,840
I'm here to meet up with Molly and Kyle
and their cat, Otitis. This is a story
565
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:59,060
about a woman and a cat who found each
other at exactly the right time.
566
00:34:00,260 --> 00:34:01,260
Hey!
567
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:03,740
Good to see you. You too.
568
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:07,020
Look at this. As soon as I walk in, it's
a cat.
569
00:34:07,340 --> 00:34:10,940
Is this our man? This is our Titan? He
is the one and only.
570
00:34:12,139 --> 00:34:17,179
He's so unique. And so what is his deal?
571
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:24,480
So he was a rescue. His previous owners
had him, and he started developing like
572
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:26,060
this infection in his ears.
573
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:30,800
The vet recommended that he get this
treatment for it. And for some reason or
574
00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:34,840
another, they just decided, nope, not
going to treat it. And this progressed,
575
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:38,639
and it got so bad that eventually it
required ear amputation.
576
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:40,000
Wow.
577
00:34:40,580 --> 00:34:44,679
Otitis had a pretty hard luck story, but
the really hard luck part of it is that
578
00:34:44,679 --> 00:34:46,780
his previous family could have saved
those ears.
579
00:34:47,139 --> 00:34:49,480
That infection could have been treated.
580
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,320
So what brought you to him?
581
00:34:52,730 --> 00:34:58,970
So in March of 2014, I was on my way
back to college, and I got into a pretty
582
00:34:58,970 --> 00:34:59,970
nasty car accident.
583
00:35:01,550 --> 00:35:04,870
I have amnesia from it. I don't remember
anything that happened. I was knocked
584
00:35:04,870 --> 00:35:05,870
unconscious.
585
00:35:06,010 --> 00:35:10,250
I remember waking up with, like,
spitting out glass, with, like, blood
586
00:35:10,310 --> 00:35:12,930
and people being like, ma 'am, you got
to stay calm.
587
00:35:13,350 --> 00:35:18,730
I didn't know my name. I didn't know
where I was. And I had terrible anxiety
588
00:35:18,730 --> 00:35:19,730
a result.
589
00:35:19,990 --> 00:35:24,690
After the accident, when I would start
to have anxiety or a panic attack,
590
00:35:24,930 --> 00:35:30,930
getting through each day was just a huge
struggle. I was losing all hope. I was
591
00:35:30,930 --> 00:35:31,930
nauseous every night.
592
00:35:32,350 --> 00:35:33,770
I was so depressed.
593
00:35:39,130 --> 00:35:41,670
I was so miserable, I wanted to drop out
of school.
594
00:35:42,110 --> 00:35:45,770
So then I was thinking about it, I'm
like, you know, I'm happiest when I'm
595
00:35:45,770 --> 00:35:48,090
animals. I need to...
596
00:35:48,380 --> 00:35:53,420
get a cat. And I met him, and I'm like,
oh, I need him.
597
00:35:53,700 --> 00:36:00,240
Otitis and I both had a rough couple of
years, I guess you could say, prior to
598
00:36:00,240 --> 00:36:04,140
the adoption. So I think for both of us,
we just had that instantaneous click
599
00:36:04,140 --> 00:36:07,480
that we knew it was just going to work.
I adopted him, and it was just like
600
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:09,280
instantaneous change.
601
00:36:09,540 --> 00:36:10,920
I was able to sleep. Wow.
602
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:16,420
So symptomatically, you went from not
being able to function to okay?
603
00:36:16,660 --> 00:36:17,800
Yeah. Oh, yeah.
604
00:36:18,240 --> 00:36:21,820
The reason that he came into my life was
because of his ear infection.
605
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:25,580
Right. I was really going through a lot,
struggling with a lot, and we kind of
606
00:36:25,580 --> 00:36:28,980
both had our own battles that we were
fighting, so we understood each other,
607
00:36:28,980 --> 00:36:31,700
it worked out really well. It's amazing
how...
608
00:36:32,390 --> 00:36:35,590
Perfectly. He's come into your life. Do
you know what I mean?
609
00:36:35,830 --> 00:36:41,090
Oh, yeah. Otitis has helped me in so
many ways. I wrote this story about him.
610
00:36:41,450 --> 00:36:47,230
So this is called The Adventures of
Otitis. Oh, look at this picture. Poor
611
00:36:48,050 --> 00:36:54,230
So it's him and his journey. I'm a
speech pathologist, and we use books a
612
00:36:54,230 --> 00:36:59,370
therapy. So it's just to inspire people
to be proud of your differences.
613
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:03,580
You know, it takes somebody like Molly,
somebody who's got their own scars, and
614
00:37:03,580 --> 00:37:08,100
to see a cat like Otitis and look past
the physical and see the true beauty.
615
00:37:08,240 --> 00:37:11,980
That book is going to change a lot of
lives. So many cats like Otitis die in
616
00:37:11,980 --> 00:37:16,260
shelters every day just because they
don't look right. When you're looking
617
00:37:16,260 --> 00:37:20,980
cat to adopt, don't go by the looks,
man, because you might have that cat
618
00:37:20,980 --> 00:37:23,820
heaven waiting for you. They just don't
look the way you think they will. Thank
619
00:37:23,820 --> 00:37:26,560
you again so much. It was really
wonderful to meet you.
620
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:29,000
And you, and you.
621
00:37:30,010 --> 00:37:34,270
Keep it up. Man, these two came along at
the perfect time to save each other,
622
00:37:34,350 --> 00:37:39,050
and now paying it forward so that kids
all over the world know that sometimes
623
00:37:39,050 --> 00:37:40,430
being different is cool.
624
00:37:40,750 --> 00:37:41,990
Doesn't get any better than that.
625
00:37:43,490 --> 00:37:44,490
Say one.
626
00:37:51,410 --> 00:37:55,450
I'm here for my final visit with David
and Melissa and their cat, Salem. When I
627
00:37:55,450 --> 00:37:58,770
first met these guys, we were dealing
with mayhem, straight -up mayhem in this
628
00:37:58,770 --> 00:38:03,240
house. There have been massive
improvements, but for someone like David
629
00:38:03,240 --> 00:38:08,260
severe PTSD, it's about consistency. Day
after day, things get better, and
630
00:38:08,260 --> 00:38:09,720
that's what I want to see right now.
631
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:13,080
How's life in this household with cats?
632
00:38:13,300 --> 00:38:16,940
In the last couple days, Phelan's been
trying to play with Dexter like he used
633
00:38:16,940 --> 00:38:18,360
to. Wow, that's amazing.
634
00:38:18,700 --> 00:38:22,000
I really can see them getting back to
the way they used to be.
635
00:38:22,380 --> 00:38:24,120
Let's go through our video homework.
636
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:26,860
So we moved the cat post out.
637
00:38:27,980 --> 00:38:33,200
To the middle of the lane in the
kitchen. He really enjoyed it. The
638
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:37,360
post concept has worked perfectly. The
kitchen used to be where all the big
639
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,460
fights happened. Now we have a traffic
circle in the middle of the house.
640
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:43,500
There's no way to go straight towards
the other cat.
641
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:45,120
Brilliant. Hey.
642
00:38:45,540 --> 00:38:46,980
Hey. Oh, now he's looking.
643
00:38:49,380 --> 00:38:50,600
Dexter wants to play.
644
00:38:51,700 --> 00:38:56,120
Good work. The idea is if you can get
him even moving, you take two steps.
645
00:38:56,750 --> 00:38:58,070
He'll forget what he was doing.
646
00:38:58,290 --> 00:39:02,330
It's that moment of just, what was I
doing? Oh, I'm eating.
647
00:39:02,650 --> 00:39:04,970
That's what I'm doing. Oh, I'm playing.
That's what I'm doing.
648
00:39:06,070 --> 00:39:11,410
Look at all that fur growing. Look at
that.
649
00:39:12,510 --> 00:39:17,090
I mean, we know that it takes about six
to eight weeks for that hair to really
650
00:39:17,090 --> 00:39:21,170
start growing back in a good way. But in
a couple of weeks, I'm seeing fur, man.
651
00:39:21,250 --> 00:39:24,890
I'm seeing fur on his belly. The first
time I met Salem, it was bad.
652
00:39:25,190 --> 00:39:29,540
And this time around, full -on hair
growing back, when he overgrooms, it's a
653
00:39:29,540 --> 00:39:33,600
self -soother. If he doesn't need to do
that anymore, then that means his life
654
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:34,578
is better.
655
00:39:34,580 --> 00:39:39,200
So, great stuff all the way around. In
general, David, how have your stress
656
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:40,200
levels been lately?
657
00:39:40,580 --> 00:39:43,640
Well, last week I did have to take a
mental health day.
658
00:39:43,940 --> 00:39:48,000
It didn't have anything to do with the
cats or anything like that. On days like
659
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:51,960
that, my hope would be that that's where
Sam does his job.
660
00:39:52,740 --> 00:39:53,760
Did he do his job?
661
00:40:01,900 --> 00:40:03,440
How have your stress levels been lately?
662
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:07,580
Well, last week I did have to take a
mental health day.
663
00:40:07,860 --> 00:40:10,600
It didn't have anything to do with the
cats or anything like that.
664
00:40:10,900 --> 00:40:15,820
On days like that, my hope would be that
that's where Tim does his job.
665
00:40:16,380 --> 00:40:17,400
Did he do his job?
666
00:40:17,780 --> 00:40:18,499
Oh, yeah.
667
00:40:18,500 --> 00:40:19,640
Yeah, there we go.
668
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:23,560
He stayed in bed with me for a while the
night before.
669
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:26,820
I had a lot of bad dreams that night.
670
00:40:27,260 --> 00:40:30,220
He actually got up there and did the
kneading. He did his thing.
671
00:40:30,650 --> 00:40:31,650
Fur in my face.
672
00:40:32,110 --> 00:40:33,110
That's crazy.
673
00:40:33,210 --> 00:40:36,150
I never will get over that, how crazy
that is.
674
00:40:36,370 --> 00:40:38,730
The stakes were so high in this house.
675
00:40:38,950 --> 00:40:44,190
I mean, PTSD is no joke, man. And now to
hear that Salem is back to his therapy
676
00:40:44,190 --> 00:40:48,190
cat duties and is acting playful with
the other cats instead of attacking
677
00:40:48,290 --> 00:40:52,990
that makes me so happy. But there's one
thing left that I want to check out.
678
00:40:53,390 --> 00:40:54,390
Well, hi.
679
00:40:55,650 --> 00:40:56,930
What are we doing?
680
00:40:58,250 --> 00:40:59,650
Hello, my friends.
681
00:41:00,620 --> 00:41:02,340
Hi, Dexter and Salem.
682
00:41:02,700 --> 00:41:06,420
I am really glad to see the two of you
like this. I really am.
683
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:11,740
These guys put in a lot of work to get
to this spot where these cats have a
684
00:41:11,740 --> 00:41:12,740
healed relationship.
685
00:41:12,780 --> 00:41:13,820
Hi, buddy, buddy.
686
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:18,920
Getting to spend a moment with them, I
can see how comfortable they are.
687
00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:19,920
comfortable with me.
688
00:41:20,660 --> 00:41:22,400
Tells me that this family's been helped.
689
00:41:22,940 --> 00:41:26,200
His confidence level's clearly up
from...
690
00:41:26,570 --> 00:41:28,850
The last time I was here. You're being
the therapy human.
691
00:41:29,050 --> 00:41:30,050
Yep.
692
00:41:30,490 --> 00:41:33,690
If there's the one guy that's sitting
out there and they're struggling and
693
00:41:33,690 --> 00:41:36,990
everything like that, get some kind of
animal. It will make a difference in
694
00:41:36,990 --> 00:41:40,550
life. You may be feeling terrible, but
if you can sit there and pet that
695
00:41:40,710 --> 00:41:45,230
pet that cat, pet that dog, that
tension's going to come out and you're
696
00:41:45,230 --> 00:41:49,330
going to relax and then just realize
that you're not alone because there's a
697
00:41:49,330 --> 00:41:51,150
of other people out there that are
hurting just like you.
698
00:41:53,350 --> 00:41:58,070
Millions of people like David suffer
from PTSD, and many suffer in silence.
699
00:41:58,330 --> 00:42:02,190
If you or someone that you know is
suffering from post -traumatic stress
700
00:42:02,190 --> 00:42:08,870
disorder, go to the National Center for
PTSD at ptsd .va .gov
701
00:42:08,870 --> 00:42:10,550
for answers and support.
702
00:42:11,550 --> 00:42:13,150
Know that you're not alone.
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