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You are everything that we could have wished for him.

Previously... He told me that he loved me.

..Abigail and John's home stay touched hearts...

I can't express how happy I am.

..but others were left broken.

I struggle to see a future with Leo outside of the experiment.

He's trying, and you're not. Maybe she's not for you.

Leisha, you really want to settle down,

I need to have that gut feeling that you're the same.

If I was in your position, I would leave.

..leaving some... I'm not sure if I could leave home.

..with more questions than answers. If we can't come to an agreement,

then we're both going to end up with broken hearts.

And a shocking discovery... If you're married,

do you think it's appropriate to be on a dating website?

..was the nail in the coffin for Nelly and Steven's marriage.

I'm not on anything. Yes, you are.

Why have you wasted your time in this experiment, and told her,

"I really want to see it work," when actually you had no intention?

This marriage is over.

I want nothing to do with Steven any more.

Tonight... I've never felt like this before about anybody.

..it's the final commitment ceremony... I love you now,

I loved you at the wedding day,

and I'm just so excited for everything.

While some couples are more certain than ever before...

I cannot imagine the rest of my life with anyone else.

..damage from home stays... I did feel the pressure a lot of,

"Becca, are you going to move to Hove?"

..pushed others further apart. I'm not ready to say yes to that.

We have had a lot of unnecessary drama.

Do I need that?

How is that possible? In seven weeks,

how do I not know you?

And Steven's secret scandal...

I found out he was busy swiping on a dating app.

I wasn't. ..sends shock waves through the group.

That is Steven's profile, which is verified.

That is not me. It's your face. Of course I'm going to deny it,

because I know what I'm saying is true.

That is not me on Hinge.

Good morning, darling. Hello, little one.

Thank you very much. Do you want some healthy greens?

Yes, thank you. Start the day off right.

Do you want some eye masks on? Come on then, make me all pretty.

After time away at home stays,

the couples are settling back into the apartments.

Strangely weird being back. We've definitely come back stronger.

Yeah, definitely. I think the argument

was hugely beneficial to our relationship, overall.

Yeah, it gave us the opportunity

to learn more on how to deal with situations.

I wouldn't change it. Love you more.

Love you.

Mwah.

Going into this commitment ceremony, I've got a lot of clarity.

During this home stay, I've learned that Stephen

has been busy swiping women on a dating app.

Sad, really.

I've done a bit more digging, and Steven is lying.

Are you really telling me that that verified account isn't you?

Honestly, if he owned it,

this would be a completely different commitment ceremony.

If you don't have the basic respect to even give me the truth,

then I can't help you at this point.

I'm done protecting you now,

but if you want to play that game, I'm prepared.

That's not a problem by me.

The end of the home stay with Nelly,

yeah, not how I anticipated it would go.

I thought I was going to Manchester purely to

have a check with Nelly and I, and just to hash a few things out.

When her friend come in and told me I was on a dating app, was,

was shocking.

When I'm still in this experiment,

how stupid would I be to go on a dating app?

I think there'll be a fair bit of animosity from Nelly towards me.

She probably will want to get answers, but my head's clear,

so, if they want to bring it up, then, I've got the answers for it.

We'll see once we get to the commitment ceremony.

Here you go, babe. Thank you.

After home stays, I'm like, wow,

like, that was so good for us.

The more, kind of, milestones, I guess, we go through,

it just strengthens, like, our bond and it just makes me realise how,

what an incredible relationship, like, we do have.

Home stay has definitely given us

a taste of what life could be like outside of the experiment.

Our family can see our genuine connection,

so, I'm really excited

and, I think we're going to have, like,

an incredible life ahead of us.

People can see the effect

that this relationship is having on us,

and we're both becoming

better versions of ourselves because of each other.

Yeah,

and just makes me really excited for everything that's to come.

So, what do you feel like you're going

to do today with the decision?

I don't know, I'm like in two minds at the moment.

OK. The thought of leaving today,

yeah, it makes me sad, because we've had a good home stay

and it's been so good,

and I did see her in a different light.

Now I'm thinking, could it work on the outside world?

There's all these different positives,

but also some negatives in there, like, swooshing around.

She doesn't trust me. Why?

Because, I've disrespected her apparently,

throughout this process. How?

Obviously, there was the overfamiliar thing with you,

and then there was me saying Leisha was more my type.

But I did say that because she asked

me outright at a dinner party. I'm not going to lie.

Like I wouldn't mind

if I've actually disrespected her, or I've actually done something,

do you know what I mean?

I just think it's so unfair not to be able to trust me.

It's tough because you want to give it a chance,

but I feel like you've given it a chance for such a long time,

do you know what I mean?

It's like huge decision for me today, definitely.

After the home stays, me and April, we are in separate apartments.

I was really holding out hope that the home stays

were going to be make rather than break.

The feedback from my friends wasn't great,

but my mum and my sister communicated to me that,

if you do like her still, you shouldn't give up right away.

I have had a lot of feelings for April, and I still do,

to be honest. We've had ups and downs,

but I really hoped that we were going to fall in love.

My head and my heart really aren't aligned,

so I've really got to make this decision wisely.

It's got to be what's best for me moving forward.

Going into home stays,

the hope that was there was that I could see the real Leo

and see if his personality did come out,

that he's been talking about all this time, but that didn't happen.

Leo's friends confirmed what I thought,

which is I'm not getting the real Leo.

We've got completely different personalities,

and we just haven't gelled.

I came into this experiment wanting to find someone

I could genuinely spend the rest of my life with.

I was so hopeful at the beginning that it was going to work out,

and, up until this point,

I've definitely put Leo's feelings before mine,

but today is the opportunity for me to make sure

that I'm doing what's right for me.

I want to lay everything out on the table,

I'm going to be brutally honest. This is my time to get

what I've been thinking and feeling off of my chest.

Hey. All right? Yes.

My anxieties are starting to creep in a little bit.

My family loved Reiss They really, really want it to work.

The only concern they had was

when he told them that he's just not quite there yet.

Reiss needs to be completely honest with himself,

and he needs to really decide

whether I am his lifelong partner that he's always wanted.

So, I think we've always kind of known that,

like, my feelings have been a little bit stronger than yours

since the start, which is obviously not nice for me.

It's never nice to hear that.

I keep my emotions, like, quite closed off to begin with,

until I feel, like, comfortable,

or until I feel sure,

and then I can start, like, letting the barriers down a bit.

Do you think I am somebody

that you'd want to spend the rest of your life with?

You need to ask yourself that.

Do you know that answer? Yeah, you do.

And am I? Yeah, of course you are. Yeah.

You're everything I've ever wanted in a man.

SHE SOBS

Why are you getting upset?

I'm just scared that, like, what we've got is just not gonna be

strong enough for, like, the outside.

Like, I think I know the answers for me,

but obviously...

..I don't fully know the answers from you yet,

and obviously, I just get really scared.

It's never nice seeing Leisha upset.

I know she's getting a bit emotional because she's panicking,

what's going to happen on the outside?

Also, I've got a lot to think about. It's important for me to make

the right decision today, because Leisha could end

up being, like, the woman for the rest of my life.

So, I do need to reflect on everything,

I need to make sure I'm making that right choice.

I certainly know that my feelings are very,

very strong for Reiss,

and I really want the experts to ask Reiss where his feelings are.

It is a very vulnerable moment for me.

I'm pretty much giving somebody my heart

and soul, and they could easily crush it.

But I want him to tell me directly,

does he see a lifelong partner in me or not?

Welcome to your final commitment ceremony.

It's been incredible to see all of your journeys unfold

with your time with us.

This is the last time that you get to bring your marriage to

the couch and share with us where you're at

at this pivotal stage in the experiment,

and make that final decision on whether to stay or leave.

Before we begin, obviously, you'll all notice

that Grace and Ashley are not with us today.

They've had a rocky couple of weeks, and as a result,

they felt they needed more time to reflect,

and they won't be joining us today.

Now, a lot has happened since we last met.

We know it's been a high-pressured,

emotional time for many of you,

so let's start unpacking.

First up on the couch, if we could have...

..Davide and Keye.

Come on.

All right, gents, how are we? Good. We're great.

Ups and downs, but... Good overall. ..yeah.

Right, home stays. Mm-hm.

Had a bit of a moment.

So, Davide and I went to a cat cafe.

I don't much care for cats,

but obviously they are important to Davide, as Davide has a cat.

But, I also don't particularly like small spaces,

so, the cat cafe was a basement,

which was a very small, enclosed space with eight cats,

so, I became extremely overwhelmed

and extremely uncomfortable...

..and completely shut down,

so left.

We both tried to communicate.

I then felt that Davide said something

that was condescending, so stormed off again,

and then I spent the night separately.

Wow. Yeah.

For me, I was frustrated because I could

tell something was wrong,

I just didn't understand what it was.

I didn't understand it was the space,

the cats, the questions,

and then when you decided to leave, you decided to leave by yourself.

All right, so just so I'm clear, so Keye,

where did you go that evening? So, I went back to my apartment.

Wow, so you went back home. Yeah.

And I don't do well with people walking away

from me, because I kind of feel abandoned.

So Keye, I'm curious, do you retreat because you feel overwhelmed,

or do you fear being left?

In the cat cafe situation, that was just I had to get out.

It's better for me to take myself out of that situation,

than say something I can't take back,

or that I'm going to regret

that, in the heat of the moment is what I mean,

but in actuality I have,

there's no real meaning behind it whatsoever.

OK, but it sounds like you're saying

that you do admit this is an unhealthy behaviour.

100%. OK. 100%.

But I heard you just mention that you've figured out

a resolution around it. Yeah.

Going forward in those situations, we're both going to make a gesture,

whether it's a word, a signal,

pull the other out of whatever the situation is,

and then try and go back into

the situation to resolve it properly.

If we can't, we put a pin in it. Pin in it, discuss it later.

Yeah. Great. But I think the other piece of this is,

I think, Keye, you should really

think about, "What is driving me to retreat?"

You mentioned most of the time it's being overwhelmed.

Right. So if you mark that as a trigger... M-hm.

..then you can figure out together how you will not be overwhelmed,

you can begin to set conditions.

"I feel overwhelmed when I'm in a small space."

Yeah. So we now know,

as a team, we're not going to do this.

Yeah. Yeah. Well done.

I'm curious about friends and family.

So what was the feedback

from your friends and family about your relationship?

My friends could totally see that I've never had this before,

like, they say that the way we look at each other,

I've never done that with anyone, and they can see a huge

connection between both of us.

And yeah, they just loved him massively.

It was great to see him be himself around my friends.

OK, so then, Keye, your friends

and family, what were their thoughts on Davide?

My friends absolutely loved Davide,

they loved the calmer side, and like just how at ease

that I feel in myself now, around him,

how, just, genuine our connection was

and how we were bouncing off of each other,

um, yeah. It's, yeah, absolutely loved him,

loved him to pieces.

All right, so now we can go to a decision.

I'm going to let you decide who goes first.

I can't believe how much we've grown since we met.

You make all of the best parts of me so much better,

like, just by being yourself and, like,

amplify them and then find a way to love all of

the parts I don't really like about myself.

So, for that reason,

I have chosen to stay.

I love you.

All right, here we go. So for this entire time,

I've seen parts of me with you,

that I haven't seen in a very long time,

and I haven't been this happy ever...

..and I would have never chosen to do this with anyone else.

Because I can be me...

..and just see you and me growing together.

And I'm never leaving you because you're stuck with me now.

So, I decided to stay for that reason.

Oh, there's a cat!

Oh! You know what I've truly appreciated

about your journey is that you two have been, what I say,

people of their word. You stood on your values,

you stood on your beliefs.

Continue to be of your word.

Continue to be of your word. Thank you. Thank you.

Thank you, it means a lot. I'm so happy for you.

Thank you, thank you, thank you so much.

Yay! Love you.

Our next couple tonight...

..Leigh and Leah. Oh!

Hello, you gorgeous things.

So, tell me about your experience of Partner Swap Week.

Where has it brought you to, right now?

So I was with Leisha, and you were with Davide.

For me on my side,

I came back from that all, like, excited,

and I just walked into the Spanish Inquisition,

you know, I sat down and it was like,

"Did you flirt with her? Did she flirt with you?

"Did you look at her?" Just so many mad questions,

and I was like, the excitement of coming to see Leigh disappeared,

and it was more, oh, God, I feel like that Leigh that we saw

before was kind of coming back a little bit.

So this is the trust issue, isn't it, again?

Yeah. We had another issue, similar sort of situation.

We went for drinks

after a dinner party with, like a few of the other couples,

and Leah was with two girls,

and I saw her around one girl more.

Leah didn't introduce us to each other,

and so I got paranoid.

And so in that moment, I felt like there was more to it,

and she was around this girl and then the rest of us left,

and Leah didn't want to leave,

and I'm thinking it's because she's with this girl,

and my head just went a million miles an hour.

Can I just jump to Leah for a sec? I'm just interested in that moment,

were you aware that Leigh was feeling insecure?

For me,

I'm not really a type of person that would go out,

and I've never disrespected someone or like, the loyalty,

I've never cheated, so, I don't think like that.

Like, I just 100% trust her,

so I didn't ever think she wouldn't with me.

I guess what I'm hearing here is

that you haven't yet established that level of trust,

where it can be comfortable to flit off

and do your social butterfly thing and come back. Yeah, that's what

I've learnt now. So what do you need from Leah in order to build that?

Just maybe a bit more reassurance in certain moments.

You know, we're not really 100% sure on where we're at,

so it's like, you can't really expect too much

because there isn't certainty between us anyway.

I think, you know, maybe it is time for you to start having those

really crucial conversations about what you need.

Mm-hm. So tell me about home stays.

We've come out of home stays all like, a rock and a hard place.

Yeah. It's gone...

Because we was at such a low point just before home stay.

The dinner party, we were like, question mark,

we don't know if we're going to even do home stays,

and then we had real open, honest conversations at home stays,

like, we actually had a really good time. We did.

I did see a different side to her that I haven't seen.

She was softer, like a little bit more gentle to be around,

and I think until the home stays I didn't realise

Leigh didn't 100% trust me, because I found out then.

OK. So I think you got a bit

of validation from like my auntie and my cousin,

they were like, "Leah likes to have fun.

"She goes out, she makes 20 friends and comes back

"and they're all at her house for a party."

Stop deeping everything, just go and have fun."

And then we went to yours, didn't we? Yes, that was a lot.

OK.

Um, Nicole's my best friend, and she's always brutally honest,

you know, she's always going to tell me the truth.

She was like,

"If it was me at this point in the experiment, I would have left."

I think for us, those doubts were already there anyway,

as well as the positives, both are prominent in our minds.

So I think, you know, having both magnified

during home stay has just, I suppose,

put us in a space where it's like, right,

well, now it's the last hurdle.

Wh... Now we've got to make a decision.

The challenge we have now is

that it's practically the end of the experiment.

Yeah.

I mean, we could look at this in a very

black-and-white way and say, well, you're not in love,

you know, you're not having a full-blown romantic relationship,

therefore, end of days, move on.

Yeah. But something's certainly stopping us from saying that,

and I can see that it's stopping you guys

from saying that, as well.

Because we know this is not just a friendship.

I've known for ages

there's something there more than friendship,

because each hurdle that we come to, it's like we have

another realisation of each other. Like after home stay,

we've got to see each other again in a whole new light,

we've learnt more about each other that we didn't know,

even eight weeks on,

we're still learning about each other now.

So for me,

I'm thinking these are more reasons why we've been matched.

Now we're like, ah...

..I don't know. I wish that home stay happened weeks ago.

Yeah. That's what I feel like. Yeah.

Mm, but I think for me as well, I need 100% trust from my partner.

Especially if we're gonna look at taking this to the outside world,

and we want to have a long-distance relationship.

I think that is a huge thing for me.

I'm also thinking about who I thought I was coming

in here, and who I've realised I am now.

Can, can I give my all to somebody in the ways that they need,

with the stuff that I've still got to work on?

What you're saying, Leigh, is, "Maybe I'm not ready.

"Maybe, Leah, you are the right partner for me,

"but this is not the right time."

I think these are very fair

and important questions to ask yourself.

Yeah. Yeah.

Well, look, we're going to go to a decision.

OK. Leah, we'll start with you. What's your decision?

For me, I guess what Paul's just reiterating there

is sometimes I don't know if you are 100% ready for this.

I don't know

if maybe I'm the right person for you in that sense.

So, yeah, I have found it really difficult today,

But we've started this journey from absolutely nothing,

and each time I feel like we've grown

and grown and grown and grown. Yeah, we've plateaued a couple of times,

but there's a reason I'm still here, and a reason you're still here.

And I think each day I'm learning so much about myself and about you.

So, yeah, for that reason,

I have chose to stay, to see where this goes.

Good stuff.

And Leigh.

Um, my head's been really conflicted and all over the place.

I've been back and forth about it,

and nothing about it is a reflection of you as a person,

but while I'm still not very trusting,

and while I'm still, maybe, not over things in my past,

is it right for me, right now, to put that on somebody else?

And Nicole telling me that she would leave

at this point of the experiment, gave me a lot to think about.

But how I'm feeling right now

about me and you is...

..a lot more positive than I felt a week ago.

The connection feels better, especially after home stay,

I think that was needed at that point,

and I'm holding on to the moment that we're in right now.

It wouldn't feel right in feeling how I feel to leave.

So for that reason, I chose to stay.

OK, wonderful.

Well, some really honest,

direct conversation between the two of you.

It's time to just open it all up and lay it on the table.

You can do this. No, but thank you very much,

we do appreciate you, all three of you.

Such a pleasure. Thank you. Thank you. Wish you all the best.

Thank you. Thanks, guys. Thank you.

Next up on the couch...

..if we could have...

..Reiss and Leisha. Come on up.

Hello.

Oh, my gosh. All right,

so we cannot wait to hear about home stays,

Reiss, had you been to Scotland before?

First time. First time? Mm-hm, yeah.

So then, friends and family... Yeah. ..what do they think of Reiss?

Oh, they love Reiss, like, how can you not love Reiss?

He's just, he's easy-going, he's so nice, he's kind.

Everybody got on so well.

The only one thing I would say with that,

when Reiss left, my sister did say to me, like, "Just be careful."

I think she just was nervous

that his feelings aren't as strong as mine.

That's interesting. Reiss, what's your take on that?

To me, honestly, I don't think that's,

that's not really a secret, is it?

Not that I haven't got no emotions, but I feel

like, you're getting quicker to the end goal, which is love, right?

Mm-hm.

So, you feel like Leisha is 100%

into you and the relationship,

and you're more, like, 80% into her in the relationship.

Probably, yeah.

Leisha, how does it feel...

..to be in a relationship, you know that you're in it 100%...

..and your partner's just acknowledged he's 80% into it?

I just want us to be in love with each other,

so, I mean, it's not nice, is it?

Leisha, how does it feel...

..to be in a relationship, you know that you're in it 100%...

..and your partner's just acknowledged he's 80% into it?

I just want us to be in love with each other,

so, I mean, it's not nice, is it?

Cos it's just never nice to, like, hear it, um...

And I can't, I can't fake it, can I?

I can't be like, "Oh yeah, I'm 100% in it as well,"

I've got to be honest.

Like, I want to get there,

I feel like we're going in the right direction,

but Leisha's a little bit more ahead of me.

Just from here and the dinner party, one thing that is clear is there

has been growth in this relationship.

Oh, for sure, yeah, like I didn't start off at 80%.

But the question, though, is,

where are we going to go next?

Because we are at the end of the experiment,

this is your last time on the couch.

And the hope is that, when you're leaving the couch,

that there's clarity on where the relationship could go.

Leisha, where do you believe

this relationship is going to go?

To be honest with you, I don't feel like I get the clarity that I need.

Oh.

I want it to go, we talk about kids,

so I do feel like there's a slight mixed messaging

because I feel like, he does say all these things,

but then, he's then telling me now that he's 80%.

Reiss, what's the 20%?

Throughout the relationship, we have had

a lot of, like, unnecessary drama,

that's why my past relationship didn't work out.

Do I need that again?

But that's what scares me, is that every single time we have

even the minor argument, I can see Reiss...

That's what scares me too, though. ..pushing away,

and I think that's real life. That's marriage.

This is what you're going to experience in relationships.

There will be times where your partner

is feeling a bit emotional and they might just need a hug.

They just might need that physical touch.

I just need Reiss to know that, obviously,

like, I do get irrational now and again.

It isn't coming from a place

that I'm trying to be annoying or I'm trying to,

you know, make his life harder,

I'm just, in that moment, my, my emotions are everywhere,

and I just need him to be like, "I've got you.

"You're my girl."

You know, what has been consistent in your relationship is

that when emotions are high, you react to it differently, right?

Whereas, Reiss,

what you like to do is you like to take a step back, right?

Leisha, you like to take a step forward.

Yeah. So you have to figure out, OK,

in these moments, which you will have,

what can each of you do to help better the situation?

So Reiss, what's one lesson that you've picked

up from this advice that you received?

If I could see, like, Leisha's stressed,

like a bit erratic, just like,

swallow my pride a little bit and just give her a hug,

and then we could just save all the other

unnecessary drama that comes with it later on.

There you go. Voila.

You're the antidote to the unnecessary drama, right?

Mm-hm. Let's say that you take

that onboard and the unnecessary drama reduces.

Mm-hm. Where do you think that 80% goes to?

Oh, 100%, it will carry on growing, yeah. Does it go to 100%?

Yeah, of course, why not? It does?

And I heard you earlier say 100% is love.

Yes, there you go. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So with these small behavioural

changes, we can get to 100%. Yeah.

Hope so. So then, we'll go to the decisions.

OK. Leisha, if you could go first. Um,

I've just loved being with Reiss.

I feel like I've been so lucky to have been matched

with Reiss as well, like,

you're just the perfect person for me.

You are, you really are,

and just hopefully grow as a couple.

So, I'm going to put stay. Cute.

Reiss. Thank you for being an amazing person,

amazing wife, amazing cook. You do put a smile on my face daily,

we always have a giggle with each other,

and I know we've got plenty more of them times to come.

So for that reason...

..I'm going to put stay.

Aw.

Mwah.

It's been beautiful to see the growth,

it really has.

Keep focusing on...

..ensuring that each other, that you feel safe. Yeah.

This is the key for the two of you.

If you do that, this relationship will be endless.

Thank you. Well done, guys. Thanks, guys. Thank you.

Next up to the couch...

..Abigail and John.

Hello. Hi. Hey, looking lovely. Thank you.

Good to see the two of you. How are you both doing?

Yeah, we're really good.

John, can you talk us through Partner Swap Week?

I had Partner Swap Week with

that amazing man over there, Keye, and we spoke about,

um, living in the moment, you know, we've been on this sofa

before and spoke so much about, oh,

what happens in the future or you know, yeah, great,

we want kids and stuff, and I had this realisation like,

wow, what the hell have I been waiting for?

I need to go back and tell my wife that I love her.

So, I came back from

Partner Swap Week and told Abi that I loved her.

And it felt exactly like it should, it was amazing.

And then you did say it back, didn't you?

Yeah, when John said

that he loved me, I was like, oh my God, like, yes,

like I literally, I love you back.

And there's been many a times where I think I've wanted to say it,

but I've kind of, maybe, stopped myself

because I've just, maybe, been scared to.

I remember saying, like, before this experiment,

I had such an anxious attachment style,

and I've just never had that security from a partner before,

that makes me feel so good about myself and like,

so secure in our relationship and just so happy.

It kind of feels like it's gone from strength to strength.

That has really helped us sort of solidify the two of you.

Yeah, definitely.

Let's talk about home stays. John,

can you talk us through the home stay experience for you?

So, um,

just so excited to see Abi's mum and dad to say,

like, look, do you know

what everything that I said I was going to do,

look at us, this is what we've done, and it was a beautiful,

beautiful moment.

And then Abi's mum mentioned, well, you can take this over if you want.

Yeah, this makes me feel emotional because, so...

Aw, do you want me to do it? Yeah, no, no, no.

Um, me and my mum are very close, and we've been through

a lot of tough times together, And, you know,

my mum sat there whilst I've been in tears after,

like, just being hurt by previous partners.

They've, obviously, never

approved previous partners that I brought home, um,

and with good reason.

My mum said to me,

like when she obviously saw me and John,

"You seem like, you know, a grown woman,

"basically a more confident version of yourself,

"and we can just see how happy you are,"

and, like, that's massive, because I've never

had, like, my mum say that, you know, about me,

like, with regards to, like, a partner, it just,

yeah, it just means, like, so much to me.

I think what's really powerful about

what both of you are saying here is that prior to meeting each other,

that single journey isn't easy,

you know, there's pros and cons of the single world,

and you've both very eloquently spoken about

some of the challenges of being single, of being alone.

And now it's your turn to enjoy being in a relationship.

I was a poorer version of myself before Abi came along,

you know, like, I just feel

like I'm ten foot tall with being with you. Aww.

Should we go to the decisions? Do we need to go to a decision?

OK. Big reveal. So let's start with yourself, Abigail.

I've never been in a relationship

where I felt so secure, so safe, and so happy.

I came into this experiment wanting to find my forever person, and

I have found that, and I'm so excited about our future,

so, that's why I have decided to...

..stay.

Am I supposed to clap?

I don't know when I'm supposed to clap! I can clap.

You can clap, it's OK. I need to clap now.

John, what's your decision? Yeah, I'm having the best time, like,

I'm so pleased that it was you at the top of the aisle,

like, everybody sees the energy that we have for each other.

I love you now, I loved you at the wedding day,

I was just a bit too scared

to say those kind of things too early.

And also, I love myself, and that's what you're doing for me.

And I'm just so excited

for everything that we've got coming.

So wait there. Wait there.

Hopefully you say stay!

So, as a result, I'm staying.

I'll kiss you now. Now, they can kiss!

Excellent. Abigail and John, go and enjoy your life together.

Oh, thank you.

Thank you. Well done, guys!

All right, next up on the couch...

..if we could have...

..April and Leo.

All right. April, good to see you. Good to see you.

Good to see you. I'm happy to be here.

All right, this is good, this is good.

I see there's no smile on April's face.

No. No. No.

Clearly, there's some serious

issues happening between the two of you, right.

It seems as if what's happened is

the relationship has actually...

..devolved.

So, let's go back and see what we've missed.

Can we go back to Partner Swap Week? OK.

So Leo, you were paired off with Rebecca...

Correct. ..and April you were paired off with Steven. Mm-hm.

OK. Leo, what did you learn from your time

with Rebecca about your relationship?

Rebecca gave me a lot of affirmations about

what a great guy I am, and how much I've put

into this relationship as well,

that I've not necessarily heard from April.

It's always been about me changing myself,

me improving on this to match what she wants,

and Rebecca just showed me I shouldn't

be changing myself this much. If it's not meant to be,

it's not meant to be, and that I'm fine the way I am.

Can I just clarify? I've never asked him to change,

I've said I want him to be himself. You're almost wording it now as if

I haven't given you affirmations, and I haven't

been telling you how great of a guy you are.

That's not true.

You're just acting like I'm just,

I've just been this horrendous partner.

No, I haven't.

That's how it came across then, to me.

I don't want him to change,

and if people pleaser is who he is, then, that's fine,

it's just something that doesn't work for me.

All right, fair enough.

So now, April, what did you learn

about your relationship with Leo through Steven?

It just, sort of, highlighted

that I don't necessarily have the same humour with Leo,

and our personalities just aren't gelling, like, it did

just sort of flag that up for me,

because it was just so easy with Steven to have

a conversation and just like,

have that banter, have that back and forth,

and I just don't feel like I got that with Leo.

OK. So when you came together, before home stays,

where did you feel like the relationship was,

given this new insight that you had?

Me and April really just said

it's going to be make or break now.

The home stay is going to highlight

the emotional connection, or it's just not going to be there,

but we were both willing to give it one last shot.

I said, you know, I still want to go on home stays

and just see if I can see the real Leo,

if this personality,

he said at the beginning that he's an extrovert,

he's the loudest one of his friends and everything like that, and like,

maybe that was just because he's

uncomfortable, and like it is an unusual

environment that we're in, this experiment is intense,

and I was like, maybe at home stays, I will see a different side.

Home stay, we need some hope. Yeah.

We went to Leo's first? Mm-hm.

OK. Was any hope delivered on, Leo, at your home stay?

When I went and met my friends, um, with April,

they were very honest with me,

and they basically, sort of, said, like, that

they don't see any compatibility between the two of us.

And for me, it really hit hard

because obviously it's coming from my friends.

I'm curious, what in particular do they think

was incompatible between the two of you?

What they mentioned

in particular was, that she wasn't really into me.

And it was really hard for me to take

because, obviously, I wanted this week to work out between us.

I really like April. She's an amazing woman,

and I still had a lot of hope in this relationship,

and hearing it from your nearest and dearest that it's,

it's not working,

and it wasn't something that I wanted to hear at the time.

OK. It's just frustrating, I just feel like...

..all I wanted when I came here was

to have somebody that was themselves,

that was completely honest,

and I just don't feel like I've got that.

I have been myself, and I have tried my hardest

in this relationship to try and make it work.

Your friends confirmed that, your friends said you're

not even speaking the way you normally speak.

It was like a light bulb and I was like,

"Oh, my God, yeah, he's just cared about how he looks."

You've been putting on the facade... I've been putting on zero facade.

..throughout the whole experiment, I was like, I don't,

I don't know you. You know...

How is that possible, in seven weeks?

How do I not know you?

It's just frustrating.

I just feel like all I wanted when I came here was

to have somebody that was themselves,

that was completely honest,

and I just don't feel like I've got that.

I have been myself, and I have tried my hardest

in this relationship to try and make it work.

Your friends confirmed that, your friends said

you're not even speaking the way you normally speak.

It was like a light bulb and I was like,

"Oh, my God, yeah, he's just cared about how he looks."

You've been putting on the facade... I've been putting on zero facade.

..throughout the whole experiment.

I was like, I don't, I don't know you. You know...

How is that possible in seven weeks? How do I not know you?

All right. So, then, what happens the next day?

The next day, we decided to have a break.

Hang on a minute, rewind. We got home and it just blew up.

I said to Leo, "We'll talk in the morning,"

he didn't want that, and then left.

Left his phone at home so no-one could contact him,

and then didn't come back until seven in the morning.

Wow, you left your own home?

I just needed space. Obviously, hearing that from my friends,

it really hit me hard.

It was the last thing that I, sort of, needed,

and it was fight or flight. And you left.

Never heard of this, someone leaving their own home stay.

OK, so did you then go to yours, April?

Yeah, we met my mum and my sister. I wasn't, like...

..as bubbly or happy or anything like that as I normally am,

or, they know what I'm like in a relationship when I'm really,

like, really like the person and everything like that,

and yeah, it's just not, they just weren't seeing it.

OK.

Seems like home stays provided some answers

to your questions, but not in a positive way.

Looking back from a personal point of view,

where do you believe that your behaviour

has contributed to the down-slide of your relationship?

I've been in my shell quite a lot.

I initially didn't show April,

potentially, who I really am, and that

put doubts in her head.

I think, me overcompensating to try and please April

to make this relationship work as well,

it's not a normal characteristic that I would normally have.

April, what behaviour do you think you've contributed to

the downslide of this relationship?

Over time,

where the emotional connection just hasn't grown, like,

it was so strong at the beginning and it's just almost just gone down.

I think, when I started to see

like potential incompatibility, or, like issues,

I almost get, like, colder because I'm now like,

"OK, this isn't working, this isn't working,

"this is gonna, this is not gonna end well."

And I would be a lot more affectionate.

I would be a lot more caring, Do you know what I mean?

And, like, if I'd just forced affection or forced things,

then that would have been me forcing it,

and I didn't want to do that. That's fair.

Yeah. So, you're admitting to,

being cold and not as affectionate as you could be.

Yeah. And, Leo, you're admitting

to being a people pleaser in the relationship.

OK, so then final question from me.

Do you believe that, if you have corrected those two,

then you would have a stronger relationship?

I think, yeah, we probably would have done.

It might have ended the same way,

but we would have been a lot stronger right now.

OK. What do you think, April?

No, because then that would have been false,

like, my behaviour changed because the relationship wasn't working.

OK.

Let's go to a decision.

April, would you like to give your decision first?

Genuinely, Leo, you have been so lovely,

and I'm so thankful

that I've been paired with someone that was so kind and caring.

But,

I am going to leave.

All right,

Well, thank you.

Leo, would you like to give your decision?

We obviously came here to find love,

and, uh, we've been through this experiment together,

and I've learnt

so much about myself during this time as well.

And you're amazing.

Thank you. But as sad as it is,

all good things have to come to an end, so...

..leave.

OK. All right. Thank you.

You know, we always want our couples

to be happy as a couple,

but more importantly, individually.

As long as you're leaving here with lessons

that you can take to become

stronger outside of the experiment,

that's really all we can ask. So, thank you,

and your time now

is done. Thank you.

Thank you, guys.

Good luck.

Thank you.

This is not the journey I wanted, this is not the ending I wanted.

I put my all into it,

I've tried my best and it didn't work out,

but, yeah, I am proud.

Even though me and Leo weren't compatible,

you know, he is a really good person, and he has been lovely,

so I wish him the best, genuinely.

Really gutted that it didn't work out between me and April.

Ever since we met, she was perfect for me.

I couldn't have asked for anything more in a partner,

and I'm just, I'm gutted

that we didn't have that fairy tale ending.

Next up to the couch...

..Rebecca and Bailey.

Hello. Hello. Hi. Hi, guys. Hiya.

Good to see the two of you.

Good to see you all, yeah. Good to see you, too.

So, how have you both been? Really well.

Yeah, really good, yeah. Really good, thank you.

OK, let's talk about the home stays.

Obviously, we live miles and miles apart,

and initially, when we started the home stays

and I turned up in Hove, where Bailey lives,

where we live is completely different.

And initially I just thought, like,

I think our lives are so far apart in terms of what we do day-to-day.

And then by the end of the home stays,

I realised that actually what we do, and what we're interested

in is so similar, we just live in different locations.

That's our only issue. OK,

so where are you at in terms of who will move where?

We kind of know what we want to do after this,

and we're, I'm very much happy to make effort,

Bec is as well, I work remotely, so the interim is, kind of, fine.

We haven't really answered the forever question yet,

and if, like, things progress as we want them to,

we don't really have an answer

for that yet, which is, I guess it is tough.

It's tough because we don't know what that looks like

because we said, "Well, would we meet in the middle?"

Um, but then, like,

that's taking Bailey away from Bluebelle,

and I've said all along, like,

I would never put pressure on him to move away.

Does that then mean, Rebecca, that you...

..have to do the moving?

Yeah, I did feel the pressure a lot of, like,

"Bec, are you going to move to Hove?"

I'm not ready to say yes to that.

Yeah, It's like I'm

caught between a rock and a hard place.

I don't want to lump all the pressure on Bec,

but then, I don't really know what else to do.

I think it's tough.

We don't know where our forever home is.

We can't give any definite

decisions on what forever looks like for us.

Say, within five years, if I had a child,

you typically just want

to be around your family and your network,

and I've got a very,

very close-knit group of people around me,

and if that was taken away and then I embarked

on big life things like having a baby, how would that work?

Because I wouldn't know anybody in Hove, other than Bay. I think

the two of you are talking about some very real issues

that a lot of couples have to, have to discuss and have to agree to.

Ultimately, it will mean one of you having to move.

I can hear how difficult this decision is for you.

OK, let's go to a decision.

Rebecca, if we can start with you, please. I think,

when I saw you at the wedding day, and we didn't connect at all,

I honestly believed that we would have a nice honeymoon,

and then when we saw you for the first time, I would write leave.

That's what, I just thought, it's not going to work.

Um,

we just managed

to have some one-on-one time and everything changed,

and every day since then, I've just got to know you more and more,

and fell in love with you more and more, and...

..I can't imagine my life without you, so...

Well, you don't have to...

..100%, I'm choosing to stay.

Bailey, could you top that?

I haven't had one single doubt in my mind about anything,

about any decision.

I just always knew I wanted to be near you

and wanted to carry on

and see a life with you outside, even from the honeymoon,

like, I could see that.

So, yeah, I'm gonna cry, yeah. You can cry if you want to.

Why do I cry so much? I don't know what's going on.

Because you love me so much. Um. It's OK. But, yeah,

I came in here asking for a best friend, and,

yeah, I've literally got that in you,

so, I am ready for the outside world.

and yeah, I can't wait to do it with you,

so, obviously I'll be staying. Well done.

Well done.

Well done. Guys, I am so excited to see where this relationship goes.

It's been such a pleasure watching your journey,

it really has and I think I

just can't wait to see little babies come along.

I just, I feel like it's coming... Thought you said little Baileys!

Little Baileys and little babies, yeah.

Thank you so much, guys. Thank you all so much. Honestly,

yeah, really appreciate it. Cheers. Thank you.

Great work. Cheers. Thank you.

Gonna grab a tissue. Thank you, guys.

Thank you.

Our last couple on the couch tonight...

..Nelly and Steven.

Hey, guys. Hi. Hey, guys.

Well...

..let's get straight into it.

What's going on for the two of you?

Nelly, why don't you kick it off?

So, I went to Bailey's

for the partner swap, and I felt like, seen,

I felt cared for,

I felt he was present, like he wanted to be around me.

We started talking about Steven and I's

relationship and actually Bailey asked me like,

"Nelly, are you happy?"

And I just cried, because I'm not, I wasn't.

I haven't been...

..and I've probably downplayed how I've been feeling.

Have you? Yeah, I think so.

And so I guess when I came back, I sort of said to Steven,

"This is what I've learnt.

"this is what I would want in a relationship."

And I said, "I've just not been feeling that way."

And when Steven had his swap with April,

I had one boundary, which was, "You've not cooked me a meal,

"so don't cook for April."

He did tell me that he made breakfast,

but again, it was downplayed, and I didn't actually realise

until recently, that it was a whole, proper cooked breakfast in bed.

I've never had that. I just felt really,

really stupid, quite embarrassed, and I think knowing that you've done

that for someone else

after two days, it makes you feel about this big.

Yeah.

Let's, let's pause there, because I'm interested

in what that experience of the partner swap

with April was like for you.

We were sitting there talking about places we

like to travel, and places we've been, or what's next on the list,

and it was so naturally flowing like that,

I thought, "Why haven't we done this?"

But I try, I've tried so hard to do all this,

and it just gets shut down, and I don't get anything back.

Like I've tried week in, week out.

I take a lot of accountability there,

I should have been asking questions, I should have done a lot more.

But it's just hard because, we've had several conversations

where you've said about, pressures of the experiment,

and that, actually, outside of this,

it could be a potential and that, you know,

you'd be even willing to come up to Manchester... It could be.

..for a weekend.

The conversations we had weeks before was like,

look, maybe away from this, maybe something could work.

Steven, are you attracted to Nelly?

Yes, absolutely. From the moment I met her,

from the moment I turned around and saw her, I was like,

"Fuck me, she's stunning."

Right now, today.

Right now?

I would say no.

An attraction is there, or it's not. I like the girl,

off course, the like's there, I think for me,

I just can't see something

progressing romantically, any further.

Yet, you just said that maybe it could, outside the experiment.

Two weeks ago, I did think that... Can you see that

there's mixed messages here?

It's mixed messages, but I'm, I'm being real,

like, I genuinely believe

if we were away from the experiment, we could have made something work.

So, when did the like stop? Partner Swap happened, I thought,

I'm not giving you what you need, and what you deserve from someone.

For me, it's like, OK, well,

let's stop the relationship

and just try and be a friend,

because I was like, I respect you enough as a friend

and value you much as a friend,

and you can give me that look, I'm telling you..

We're going to go with that look.

Tell me about that look.

It's really hard for me to sit there and listen to that

I'm respected as a friend, because, we came to home stays,

and Steven decided not to come with me to Manchester,

I did want him to come.

I saw my family, saw my friends,

and then Steven came up a couple of days later.

But I found out, on that day, that actually,

whilst he wasn't with me, he was busy swiping on a dating app...

I wasn't.

..which I have receipts for.

Just a moment, just so I'm clear...

That is Steven's profile, which is verified.

It's really hard for me to sit there and listen to that

I'm respected as a friend because we came to home stays

and Steven decided not to come with me to Manchester,

I did want him to come.

I saw my family, saw my friends,

and then Steven came up a couple of days later.

But, I found out, on that day, that actually,

whilst he wasn't with me, he was busy swiping on a dating app...

I wasn't.

..which I have receipts for.

Just a moment, just so I'm clear...

That is Steven's profile, which is verified.

What?!

Yeah, it's... Because it's verified.

So, whilst you were within the experiment...

No. ..married to Nelly... Can I see that? Yeah.

..you were on a dating profile?

And I wasn't because I got my phone out,

during her friends coming over,

and I showed them, me putting my number in,

and it coming up saying, my account has been removed.

If you were just open and honest,

it would, I wouldn't be doing this. I'm being honest,

that isn't my profile.

How is it verified?

I don't know why it's verified, that's what I'm saying...

Don't you have to verify those with your face?

With your face, yeah. That is not me on Hinge.

It's your face!

So, you think someone's catfishing you?

Absolutely, I'm banned.

They're impersonating you, then, you need to go to the police

station because they've got all your details.

Guys, let's try to see through

the details here, because we could drown in them.

The gist of what you're talking about here,

Nelly, is that during your marriage,

you believe Steven was on dating apps.

He was. And you've shown evidence

that would suggest that that's the case.

So, Steven, are you sitting here now,

point blank, denying that you've had anything

to do with any dating profiles whilst you've been married to Nelly?

Absolutely.

So, are you claiming that you've been hacked

or, just help us understand your thinking here?

I've only got one phone, so,

like, when I'm putting in my number, I haven't got a...

How is it verified, though? You have to

verify it with you face. I don't know why it's verified.

Did you, did you give them your face to verify?

I don't understand.

Well, you had to. This is what I don't understand,

like, I don't know how there's a verified profile of me.

Well, Nelly's just explained how that happens.

Yeah, you can have the notes. She explained, but it still doesn't mean-

I haven't got Hinge on my phone.

So someone's walking around with your face, then?

Steven, can you see that this seems quite far-fetched

and quite hard to understand,

that you're sitting here and denying this?

Of course I'm going to deny, because I know

what I'm saying is true.

OK. This shit happens all the time, like,

people get catfished. Not a verified account.

Not a verified, Ste, Ste, be honest.

If I had the answers, right...

Come on. ..I'd tell you, It's not me...

I'm hearing this now, but... ..I've said it's not me, Becs.

It's your face. Clearly that's my face.

Clearly that's my face.

You can have that dating app without it being verified.

When it's verified, you've had to do a talking video,

and then a video of you moving your face around,

like, I've had the same app. Since when?

Since the whole time.

That is what dating apps now require.

The evidence is compelling, Steven,

I think that's probably why everyone is saying that,

but I can imagine this is quite stressful for you. It's stressful,

and I'm going to say something. I'm not an awful person,

but that's exactly how I'm being portrayed.

Whenever I bring stuff up, it gets rejected.

My intention was to be grateful with you, everything.

I wanted you to be honest.

And if you came in and said to me

or even sent me a text that week saying, "Nells, you know what,

"I hold my hands up, I'm really sorry,"

this whole thing wouldn't have happened,

but, I'm not going to sit here any longer, and...

..not be true and not say how I feel.

Whatever I say, at this rate, is...

Can I ask a question on that?

At what point in your life, Steven,

do you believe that you learned that defensiveness

was a better response than vulnerability?

What I have observed from you is that

your bad behaviour...

..has come because your reaction...

..to challenge is defensiveness.

How I'm being portrayed from weeks on end,

sitting here being grilled of X, Y, Z...

So, you don't see that there's been any behaviour

that you've demonstrated that you need to take accountability for?

If I was in that situation, and someone

had shown me, "Nelly's on this," yeah, it would have hurt,

I would have been like, I would have had my back up.

All I'm saying is,

I'm still being portrayed to be this awful person.

What's causing that?

What do you mean... We're talking about your behaviour.

There's no big, bad bogeyman here projecting something onto you,

you are behaving in a certain way and we are responding to it.

Trust me, I didn't want this to happen.

This is not how I wanted this last couch with you, ever.

I had feelings for you, my feelings were real,

I don't, I never wanted this. We're clearly not going

to resolve this, this profile situation today.

Well, I think it is what it is, and...

Steven, this is very important for you to know,

defensiveness is self-protection, protecting ego,

protecting all types of things.

And I think that if you could walk away

from this experiment knowing, "You know what, I'm a good guy,

"but when I respond to conflict,

"if I can just pause and say,

"how could I respond with vulnerability?" Then guess what?

Your life is going to become infinitely better.

Yeah, no, that's, I appreciate that. That's one thing I'm trying,

I'm trying to be more vulnerable.

Yes, I've been very defensive.

I found myself getting more and more irritable,

I'd say, during this experiment,

but I'm trying, I'm trying to be more vulnerable.

See, I don't think I've cried as much, on this experiment,

as I have in, like, the last, sort of, 10, 14 years.

Yeah, yeah. All right, guys, well, we are...

..going to move on to a decision.

So, let's start with you first, doll.

Steven, I know you and I have had loads of ups and downs,

and it's been a really, it's been a rough ride.

Um, the highs have been great, the lows have been really, really low.

But the reason I stayed for so long, and I pushed so hard, is

because I genuinely think that marriage does take hard work,

and I never wanted to leave here with any regrets.

What I have learnt is I know my worth,

I know what I deserve,

I know that the right man for me is never going

to leave me feeling confused or uncertain.

What you've taught me as well,

and this is one thing that I will always take away,

is that, I will stop

prioritising people to the detriment of myself...

..because I've done that in every relationship,

I'm not doing it any more.

But yeah, it's just sad.

But, um, but yeah, based on that, guys,

I have decided to do what's best for me,

and leave.

Thank you. And to you, Steven.

I'm gutted that, look,

I've not been able to give you what you deserve, and what you want.

It has been challenging, but, do you know what?

You as a person, being introduced

to you, is a very big moment in my life in terms of impact...

..because you've allowed me to be like this now,

like, you've brought this side out of me,

which I've turned off for so long.

So, so long.

So, in terms of impact

and what you've done for me, it's massive.

Massive. I don't, I couldn't

even put into words how massive that is,

but, for me to grow as a person,

just to spend time with my kids as well, who...

..I miss massively.

Yeah. I think it's right for me to,

to leave as well.

OK, thank you. Well done, guys.

Thank you, guys. Thank you both so much for being so brave.

Thank you. Well done. Thank you. Good luck.

We really appreciate you. Oh, man.

I think at the beginning, I don't think I ever expected

the marriage to end this way, for sure,

I think I was very hopeful in the beginning,

when you see the wedding day

and the honeymoon, even moved into the apartments,

like the first week, I thought, do you know what?

This could work.

To end it this way, definitely didn't cross my mind,

to be accused of being on a dating app,

and having to friend someone off

is never a way you want to end the marriage,

but yeah, here we are, I guess.

Steven has 1,000% been caught out.

Honestly, I don't know why he won't, why he won't admit it.

If you asked me on my wedding day,

how I thought it would end,

honestly, I just never thought

our journey would be like this.

I do deserve better, and he knows that, too.

I just know that the right man will come along

and he'll make me feel so adored, so cherished,

I will never have to question anything.

Next time... Oh, my God!

SCREAMING

Babe! ..the couples head off on their final dates.

This is stunning!

For some, it's a fairy tale come to life...

The connection we had instantly is

the same connection that we have now.

..but for others, the magic fades as reality sets in.

It's just the distance, it's everything.

I never, ever thought I'd have this problem.

I can't be without you.

And a roller-coaster of emotions....

I hate it. We're just not on the same page.

..sends Leisha and Reiss's marriage completely off the rails.

I was trying to be nice to you.

You were in a fucking mood.

I don't know if I'm the one for Leisha. Am I enough?

Is that it for us?

I don't know what else you need from me.

I just keep pushing him away, I don't really know what to do.