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I'm gonna marry me and find me a good girl.

I'm gonna marry me and find me a good girl.

I'm gonna find me a girl.

I'm gonna find me a girl.

Number one in the world.

One in the world. One in the world.

My name is Michael Claiborne, and I was born and raised in Atlanta, Georgia.

I'm a grad student at Atlanta University, majoring in psychology right

been here all my life. I have watched Atlanta grow from music to fashion to

movies. We're the new Hollywood.

See, that's my best friend, Jock. And even as kids, we was always in

with the girls.

That's how it started. What's better than girls at everything?

We were born better. I know it.

That's not true.

Women can do anything that men can do. Oh, really? Like what?

Like everything.

We're smart, athletic.

We can play basketball, baseball, anything. Stop right there. We're the

We provide, work hard, take care of our family, put food on the table, and keep

a roof over your head. All y 'all got to do is cook and clean. Is it really that

hard? And don't forget, taking care of the kids. Y 'all take care of the kids,

my brother.

Toys are so, so simple.

I am.

so glad that i checked no when you asked me to be your girlfriend oh really it's

okay you're gonna regret it when i become a pop star but you know what if i

you to that bench and i win you gotta give me a kiss on the cheek i will beat

you oh really now

You owe me a kiss. You lost.

Could you stop talking?

Oh, really? Here's my tea.

Now, you owe me a kiss.

Be quiet. Well, stop.

You lost.

Now, give him his kiss.

It's your own business.

You're not in this.

Exactly. You cheated. That's all little boys do anyway.

Cheat.

That's not the way you treat a young lady. Now, get up and let her sit down.

You play too much. Life is serious.

You know, you're going to appreciate me one day. The things I'm telling you.

Now let me ask you a question.

Do you know who Rosa Parks is?

See, that's Miss Perry.

She was everybody's mama at the park.

Always preaching and teaching and putting us in our place.

For one thing for sure, everything she said has come to pass.

I miss Miss Perry.

And even though she went to heaven, she never left me.

I hear her voice every day.

That's my angel.

Rosa who?

That's another problem.

You don't know your history.

Rosa Parks.

She was a strong black woman that defied all the odds against her when she

didn't give up her seat to a white man on the bus. And it was even against the

law.

Miss Perry, you see, you're confusing me.

I'm black. You're black. I was sitting on the bench and you told me to get up.

You're slow, ain't you, little boy?

That's not the moral of the story.

Women have been changing history since the beginning of time, just like men.

And relationships, my parents went together until they went to heaven.

And nowadays, women, they feel like they don't need a man.

Back then, Black relationships were just the best because they didn't have all

the opportunities that white folks had. And so they had each other, the need to

survive.

But now, woman don't need men, so they think.

And men are just little boys playing too much.

See, we all wish to be in love and married to death do us part. But it's

probably going to be hard for us. You know why? Because we date too many

stereotypes. See, I am doing a study on the human experience. However, it's a

multi -faceted subject, but somebody got to do it.

But maybe we should be more like lions. Think about it.

The lioness goes out and hunt and bring the food back to the family. Oh, I know

the ladies are going crazy right now because you think the man should be the

breadwinner. But the moral of the story is, it's for the family to eat.

And I know you're laughing right now saying, what is a hippo doing in this

movie? Well, men, I'm talking to you.

A hippo is one of the most protective animals over their calves.

Now, you think a young man is going to figure it out by himself and treat a

woman like a queen? I doubt it. Maybe you should stay in this life a little

longer and teach him how to be a good man.

Now, this is the black widow.

Ooh -wee.

This is most women that you meet, mad, pissed off, and dangerous. You know why?

Because they're tired of giving their heart to the wrong person over and over

again. But when the good guy come along, you know what she do? She murders him

and it hurts him so bad it's a calamity and defiles his faith to ever want to

love again.

And the cycle continues and a player is born again.

Well, it's about that time to go find out the real truth.

See, I'm already late.

Everybody has already arrived to my house for the truth circle dinner. And

you can hear, they already started without me.

Why is it so hard for us to communicate?

Will women ever submit? And will men ever step up and be committed?

See, my grandmother said to find an extraordinary person in this lifetime,

like winning the lottery.

What you're about to hear will challenge your perspective on love and

relationships forever.

Hey, excuse me. Hold up, please.

Excuse me. Excuse me. One second.

Thank y 'all so much for coming. How y 'all doing tonight?

Good.

Appreciate you being here, my brother.

So, tonight is very special because everybody know I'm about to graduate and

finally get these masters.

So I'm writing my thesis paper and I've been writing it for a while. And I'm

doing the human anatomy about men and women in Atlanta and why we can't get it

right when it comes to love, relationships, and all the other things.

Respect, honesty.

And I picked this human anatomy for a reason. I think most people think that I

picked it because, you know, for everybody else, but I really picked it

myself. Because I can't understand sometimes when I look in the mirror. I

beautiful woman.

She's amazing.

She's attractive. She's smart.

She's God -fearing.

And she loves me from the deepest pathos of her heart.

And I still can't get it right.

Broken heart syndrome.

may be caused by the heart's reaction to a surge of stress hormones.

Yeah, that would be me.

I suffer from cardiomyopathy, a broken heart.

I mess it up.

I don't know. I think sometimes as a man, it's hard for us to love. It's hard

for us to balance the feeling of being hurt.

It's egotistical for us. There's certain things in our brain that we want to be,

and hurt is not one.

And I think that's why women are so incredible, because I feel like you have

rubber band on you. You can bend, but don't break.

I was doing a lot of research, and I was thinking, I was like, man, I don't

think the things that they wrote about is the same in this environment,

especially in Atlanta.

And I was reading, it was like it's the top six people that you meet.

You meet the player and the cheater.

You meet the gold digger. I call her Miss Phipps Plaza.

You meet the broken woman who sits around and take all the abuse from an

insecure man that she shouldn't take.

And then you also meet the good guy who could be sitting right in front of you,

but he doesn't have all the intangibles that you think he should.

And the last two is

a real man and a real woman.

I say that's the hardest thing to become, but you're twice as lucky to

dating in Atlanta.

This is why we're having this conversation. I welcome you to my home

want everybody to understand we're moving the rocks tonight.

We're moving it. We're finding the secrets. We're finding the answers.

finding the solutions.

We're finding the problems.

And we're going to have real conversations.

So, tonight is called the True Circle Dinner.

We're going to drink. We're going to eat. And we're going to talk.

Tasty.

My first question is to you.

Okay.

I know you just moved in. How hard is it dating in Atlanta?

I'm so damn tired of these dudes in Atlanta, Georgia. All they do is lie.

They not honest. They want to just keep playing with your damn feelings. And

then when you like the honest girl or the one who really want to get married

have kids and shit, they so quick to leave.

See, that's Tay -Tay. She really wants to be in a relationship.

She is a hopeless romantic.

But she suffers from autophobia, the fear of being alone.

Like, they don't, if you're not willing to give that shit up instantly, they're

ready to go.

I've been here a year and a half, and I have yet to be able to date somebody.

Like, we'll go on one date, and they want to, you want to Netflix and chill?

Nope. Hell no.

Which I moved to Atlanta for.

It's 15 and 1, plenty of women out here. It's our city.

So if y 'all ain't want to live here, y 'all should have went somewhere else

where there's more men.

My boy Rob, he is everything that most women are looking for.

Educated, tall, and rich.

But he suffers from commitment.

I'm a man. I love being a man. I love my two women. They have plenty of money to

blow. That's all y 'all want anyway.

Give y 'all a few dollars, make y 'all happy. We gonna have fun.

But y 'all lose the odds, boy.

and tell me I made the wrong decision by moving to Georgia just because it's 15

to 1. There are good men out here, and I'm going to continue to believe that.

I'm not going to let you mess that up. You ain't got no man.

I don't. You're right. I ain't got no man because these dudes out here so far

ain't seen.

But there ain't nobody out here for me, though.

Okay?

But that's fine.

You playing with God.

Hold on. Let me get that moment. Hold on. He said something that's profound,

though. You have guys that you've been dating that you don't know if they

cheated on you or not, but the relationship didn't work and you're not

with the relationships you was in. Is that correct?

Right. You said, but they lied to you. You don't know if they cheated. Let me

finish. But they lied to you. They did. Okay, so you said to him, you know, hey,

I don't want to date men like you, but he's saying, I'd rather tell you

through the door what I am. Let me finish. Hold on, let me finish. Whatever

call it. Jerk, creep, player, or honest, whatever. Because it seems that... So

men and women, we have a problem with understanding, understanding, accepting

the truth. Let me finish. It's called comfortable lies. We love to find

in a lie. So you're telling me which guy, this is for you Tay Tay, which guy

would you rather have?

Number one, A, a man who tells you everything you want to hear, but really

in his heart and he's really lying, or a guy who's telling you the truth of what

I am, who I am, and what I'm doing right now. Which one of those guys you would

rather have?

I'd rather have the truthful guy, but once he be truthful, I'm going to leave.

You may not.

You may think that because they told you the truth and it may not be what you

want that you're going to leave. That's not true. It's not. Hold on, hold on,

hold on.

It's not. Because once you see that someone is actually being truthful with

you're going to respect that. I would rather have somebody that's truthful to

than somebody that's lying to me. At the end of the day, I can respect the truth

and the honesty all day.

Now. Why do I respect that? Because that gives me the option to stay or to

leave. With a liar, you don't know what you get. But, right, I'd rather you be

honest with me and tell me how you are. But, you know, right, let me know how

you are.

Don't sit here and tell me, oh, I'm this faithful, honest guy, but then you go

cheat and you lying and you doing all this.

When I meet you, I'm going to box you in, bottom line.

There's nothing you can do, really.

I'm going to make you feel like a...

A beautiful woman in the world, which might be.

I'm going to bring you back to the crib. We're going to drink. We're going to

have fun. We're going to turn up. I'm just going to put you in a position

you really can't do nothing.

So, at the end of the day, we're going to have fun, making love, doing whatever

we need to do.

Can I play devil's advocate just for a moment? Now, you can get to the dude

loves you and lead you on, but I'm going to tell you to keep it dope. So, have

it your way.

Cortez, who do you think lied the most?

Men or women?

I'm going to have to say men.

You know what I'm saying? Because we're protecting who we are.

And depending on how we feel about the women, we're going to cater to that

feeling. You know what I'm saying?

So by catering to that, we're kind of

building a storyline.

See, it's almost impossible to have a conversation when one person is talking

and the other person is not listening. But see, Cortez, he's a cool guy, but he

suffers from being defensive.

So we got to remember who, what we say, you know what I'm saying? Because again,

like this is the, this is the main person right here. This is home.

This ain't no, no hoe. This ain't no groupie. This ain't, this is home. So

can protect home.

You know what I'm saying?

So I feel like, man, I'm going to be honest with you. See, they say the most

common person you meet in Atlanta is a liar, the cheater, the player, whatever

you like to call them.

Case study number one.

He is probably somebody every woman has dated.

This guy, Reggie. Oh, he's one of the most best and greatest players you've

met.

Until today.

Call me Mr. Ooh, yeah.

You let it say ooh, yeah.

Girl, you know you need love.

Girl, you know you want love.

Girl, you know you need love.

Hey. It's the Lions. Let's rock. Hey, you know.

Hey.

I want you.

Hey. Hey.

Take them clothes off for me. Oh, man. You can ride on the pony. Oh, man.

Up and down, don't you fall off.

Yeah. You got to tell me when you're getting off.

Okay. And I know, and you know, that I love you.

What the fuck?

Are you serious?

Who the fuck is this? Who the fuck is this?

Look. No, who the fuck is she?

Let me explain this. Is that what you mean?

Next time you turn the locations off on your phone.

The locations on my phone? Yes.

What's wrong with me?

Yes. You what's wrong with me? It's your fucking fault I'm cheating.

Excuse me?

You're boring. We don't do shit anymore.

We used to have fun. You used to be my best friend.

But ever since we got married, it's the same old boring ass routine.

Wake up in the morning, go to work, come home, cook, pray.

Same old routine.

We have boring fucking sex.

Oh, don't put my leg up. Don't pull my hair. Cut the lights out. I feel fat.

that bullshit.

I'm tired of hearing it.

You used to be my best friend.

Now the only thing you got time for is the kids.

You don't got time for me anymore.

And you wonder why I'm out here cheating?

Tell me something.

What have you done for me lately?

Huh? Only thing you care about is the fucking kids.

I don't even care about all of this.

We dated for a year and a half.

You proposed to me in front of my entire family and now you're saying you're

married with kids?

Get your ass in the car. I'll talk to you later. You know what?

Y 'all belong to each other. No.

Y 'all deserve each other.

Everything that you asked of me, I've done for you.

You've always had a hot meal on your table.

I've always watched those dirty -ass draws.

And you have the nerve to step to me about sex?

About our kids?

Our kids? Are you serious?

I can't believe you right now.

I'm done.

I refuse to lose my values and morals over some empty -ass man.

You can have them.

Damn. You know what?

You're all the same.

Black, white, Hispanic, Asian.

You're all fucking liars.

Fuck you.

You know, I was stupid enough to think that you were sent from God, but...

I was mistaken because the devil sends gifts too.

Go back to hell.

Where

is

my knife? Let me tell you something. It would be smoke in the city if I found my

man cheating on me like that.

See, this is Ray.

She is like Superwoman. She do everything.

Now, where would a man fit in her life?

Nowhere. She suffers from being overly independent.

You got a second home.

I had to put GPS on you to track your ass.

Let me tell you something.

Somebody called a black lady from First 48.

I'll get in the driveway on the other side of town, in the woods, wherever you

can take them back.

I ain't spend none of our money in no hotel.

But you got a second house that I don't know about. No, it's not.

That's disrespectful.

Hold on, hold on, hold on. What is disrespectful? A disrespectful cheater

man who cheats on you in public, have girls taking pictures, Instagram, and he

knows he has a girl, but letting a girl disrespect you. A respectful cheater

will let the side chick know that, yo, I have a chick.

This is what you can't and this is what you cannot do because I love my lady.

Candy, candy, candy.

See, her relationships let her down so much, trusting a man is out to question.

See, she suffers from filophobia, the fear of falling in love.

That's a respectful cheater. I'd rather a respectful cheater than a

disrespectful cheater. A respectful cheater uses a condom. A disrespectful

cheater doesn't. It's level -fitting. It's level -fitting.

I feel like a relationship is just like a job. If you don't do your job at work,

they're going to do what?

Fire your ass. Exactly. And they're going to do what?

Replace you. So that's what I do.

Everything is an opportunity. It's just like a job. Because first of all, you

have to think about the levels of cheating. There's different levels of

cheating. It's not just physical.

There's mental.

There's physical.

There's now with technology, we have texting. We got inboxing them,

So anytime you're entertaining anybody else other than your mate, you're

cheating to me personally.

Excuse me. Let me ask you something.

Yes. Hold on.

One second.

Have you ever cheated?

Yes.

I had a whole three -way triangle of cheating.

Hold on. Hold on.

Tell us about it. Hold on. I had, literally, I was in a relationship with

young lady for seven years. Who is? I was with a woman for seven years.

Girl. I was with a woman for seven years.

And alongside that, she was pissing me off and we had some issues. So then I

another gentleman.

You know, when I got pissed off with the second gentleman, I had another man.

Control. See, that's Aisha's favorite song.

She never wants to follow.

She suffers from being a control freak.

Listen, it's okay to let your man lead sometimes.

And when there's something you're not getting in the home, you're going

somewhere else and getting it. So, question, ladies.

If you had a man that was super attractive.

Made love to you well, kissed you where you wanted to be kissed, satisfied you

all the way you wanted to be satisfied.

Super rich.

Told you everything you wanted to hear.

But he only had one problem.

He loved to cheat.

Would you stay or would you leave?

If a man cheats on me, I feel like he don't love me, so I'm not cheating.

Okay, so let me just say this. Let me just say this.

I'm just going to say that just because a man cheats doesn't mean he doesn't

love you. This man could smash 20 kicks and none of them mean nothing. But you

can mean the world to him.

I don't agree that, oh, they just out here smashing all these females. No, if

was that important to him and he wanted to keep me, he would not do something

that he knows is going to devastate me. Right. I'm not saying it's right. I

don't agree with that. I don't care about what technology. I don't care

none of that. Right. I'm not saying it's right, but that's just the way it is,

honey. Like, that's the way men have been since the beginning of time. But

not like that with every man.

No,

men have been that way since the beginning of time. I'm just saying,

something out here that's not like that.

It's every man doesn't know they're put in that situation.

Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

Let's get to something. So you say you're going to leave, and it sounds

but the truth of the matter is he got money.

He's giving it to you right.

So there are some things that you're going to eventually, I'm not saying it's

right on his side or your side, but I've heard this story before.

And the truth of the matter is, if there's stability in the situation,

going to put up with more than you would if there was instability in the

situation. Because, this is the truth, because you're wired to be attracted to

certain level of stability.

You know what I'm saying? And so that wiring goes into the decision making.

That's why if there's an option between a pickup truck and a Lamborghini, you're

going to pick the Lamborghini because the Lamborghini says something about

stability. It doesn't say anything about character.

DC, a real politician, he loves to debate the facts.

He says he's a one -woman man, and he does not cheat. But ladies, I'm sorry to

tell you, he still suffers from being over -analytical. It's crazy that they

88 % of women will take money over love.

Love don't pay the bills.

So if my man's going to cheat, either I'm joining in or I'm coaching.

So, I mean, that's just how it's going to work.

Hold on. So, elaborate.

You know, that sounds real good.

Joining in is, we all going to do it together.

Coach, I'm like, yeah, baby.

Fuck her real good.

Because at the end of the day, if she got the bread, she going to come back

give it to us. You know, we're going to reap the benefits. So is it her or him?

Is it her or him who got the bread?

It could be both.

But you're not fucking her, though. You're fucking him. I could be doing

both. It doesn't matter.

If that's what I'm into and that's what I want at the time, that's what I'm

going to do. So he is right.

He is right. He might be right.

No, it's not might.

He is right.

Okay. Whatever my man wants, I'm going to do whatever my man wants to keep him

happy. And if that's what he wants, that's what I'm going to do. Because he

the money.

I mean, because I'm not fucking with no...

Dudes that don't have no money. The biggest thing is, like he stated before,

stability is number one.

If a man is bringing in money, you are more likely to stay because you don't

want to put up with somebody broke.

Even if you have your own money, you don't want to put up with somebody

You'd rather have that guy who has that money.

You know, but a lot of women are different. A lot of women are cut

So I feel like I'm the cream of the crop.

At the end of the day, I'm going to work. I'm going to twerk.

I'm going to cook.

I'm going to clean.

I'm going to do everything that it takes to keep my guy happy. That's all I've

been saying. I'm glad y 'all finally agreeing with me.

Basically, you'll let me go for a week.

Then you need that. Then you can start that itch. I'm going to come scratch it.

You need that bill that's due. I might come pay it.

At the end of the day, we're just going to get more passes.

The girls that like to pop and do, that's what they'd rather mess with.

not messing with no lame dude. They can't do nothing for them. Bottom line,

that's what they want. So they're going to tolerate it a little bit more.

It's just funny because, like, so let's say, ladies, I'm going to address you

guys, you know, if I could for a minute. Is that possible?

Can you possibly date a good man who happens to live at home with his mom and

he's in between, you know, situations right now financially, but he is a

great...

God. My best friend, John.

See, I've been knowing this guy all my life.

And he had a real good woman.

But it was so hard for her to find his heart because his ego was in the way.

See, he suffers from being egotistical.

I'll answer that. I can pop my own bottles by my own section.

So if you can't match what I can match, then I don't need you. Maybe you're in

that in -between stage. At this point in my life, I don't need a man that's at

that stage because I've been through that. I've been with a man at that

I'm way past that. I have more than that. So at this point, what else can

do? If you live with your mama, there's nothing you can do for her.

Let me think about her. So here's what I think she's saying.

And I could be wrong, but I feel like what she's saying, because I feel the

way, is that women want a man that can bring something to the table. Because

what I personally feel, and I'm not speaking for all these ladies here, is

I feel that I am the table. Exactly.

So when I be in the table, you need to be the legs of this table to hold me up.

So if you're living at home with your mother, you can't do that for me.

So here we go.

You speak of this table that you already have.

So you already got everything you need.

But you're missing them legs.

Correct. Now, women are always talking about how they want a good man. They

somebody by their side. They want a supporter. They want that backbone. They

want that structure.

They want that firmness.

You see how I said that? That firmness.

But he's so caught up in the fact that he's living with his mama that you can't

see the goodness in his heart, the pureness.

No, but see, what you caught up in is somebody who can pull up with a Benz

your Benz. No, no, no, no. What you caught up in, sister, is somebody who

key to a house that match your house. See, now y 'all got to figure out who's

going to sell what house.

We're going to live in this house. We're going to rent it out. See, that's a

problem. But it's a good problem. But I ain't saying it ain't a bad problem. But

I'm just saying.

You can't deal with the fact that you got yourself together. And here's a man

who's in the midst of getting himself back or just getting himself together.

don't want that. In my research, I have analyzed what happened when two

desirable characteristics, financial stability versus altruism,

were investigated together.

And I am curious.

as whether women prefer one quality over the other.

My next case study, number two.

Ho, he could be the man of your dreams.

Everything that you dream about and desire. Your superman.

He could be sitting right across from you at this table.

But you just can't see him.

S -E -X -X -X -X.

waiting on this all day.

Damn, baby, you look good.

Come here.

No, waiting on what?

Baby, waiting to satisfy you like the queen you are. What are you talking

You're not here to satisfy me. Me and you both know that's gonna take forever.

So please, can you let me go to sleep so I can get to work in the morning? I'm

just tired.

Who am I?

I'm Clark Kent.

That's who I am.

Sometimes I wish that it could be more, but for some strange reason,

That never happens to me.

I always get the kind of women that go after the popular guys, the guys with

money, the guys with the cars.

But after they feel hurt and used up and want to try something different, I'm

that safe bet.

But maybe I should change.

Maybe I should be the one who's mean, disrespectful, tells you lies, cheats.

Because that's what you're used to.

More importantly, that's what you like.

Women usually, you know, they talk about what they want, you know, and how they,

you know, my man got to be on this or that because I ain't with the mm and the

ah. But you know what?

Half of the chicks who want don't even bring what they want to the table.

That's right. You can't be like, oh, my dude got me in something foreign, and

you riding around here in a little domestic bucket.

You can't be around here in a little old -ass goddamn 83 Mustang. Talking about

you on a man with a 2018 Bentley.

So, yes, a woman can have a beat -up car, and he has a Mercedes, and we're

to choose him. And he's forgiving.

Men are forgiving women because they would choose a woman with nothing if she

treats him right. So you should.

Have a man that adds to your value as a woman that can teach you, that can

better you in your business.

But what I'm saying to you is y 'all judge too many people off. But listen,

listen, because a man that got a fancy car don't mean shit. He might be written

that he might don't own it. It's not an asset. No difference between liabilities

and assets.

Liabilities is a lot of shit. People are here faking. They don't own nothing.

They got this and they got that, but they can't pay for it the next week.

So you got men that could be broke in a month. So that's why you go out to

people with great mindsets because they're always going to be rich.

I don't need that at this age. I need you bringing something to the table.

what I possess is invisible to a woman like you.

Loyalty, commitment, trust, a willingness to serve you like you've

served before.

I massage you from head to toe.

I cook you dinner.

I run your bath even when you don't want to. I serve you.

And my lovemaking skills?

Let's just say God blessed me deeply in that department.

See, ladies, this is what I'm talking about.

She has a good man.

Just because he broke doesn't mean he's not the right one for you.

See, love comes in all types of colors you can't recognize.

And packages you wouldn't imagine.

I'm just saying.

Beverly.

Wake up, baby. We need to talk. What? Wake up. I'm trying to sleep.

Please. Baby, why you act like everything that I do gets on your

it's a task for you to make love to me? No, I'm not acting.

I do have a job. You don't.

While I'm sitting up here supporting your quote -unquote dreams, I'm giving

gas money. I'm feeding you. I'm clothing you. Fuck these flowers. Fuck all of

this shit. The flowers, the cars, romantic picnics on the park. What good

that going to do for me? I'm a grown -ass woman, and I need a grown -ass man

pay some bills around here. Now, if you don't understand that, please let me

know when you decide to do that. The walks in the park, the cars, I pay

attention to detail.

Nah, bruh, it's the bigger thing.

You know what, Beverly?

You can keep it then. I'm done. I'm done too. That's fine. Go.

Leave. Fine.

Be done.

Don't nobody want you anyway.

Whatever. Fine.

Fine.

This is why this is my man.

It could be any man that I wanted to be with no complaints, no walking off, none

of that. I could sit here and it can just please me like I want to. And guess

what? I'll wake up happy.

I could just breathe. I'm tired of him just phoning me. I'm tired of doing

everything with him.

I'm just happy he left.

Because now, just let me breathe.

Flowers, candies, roses, all that is cool. When we were 16, we're adults now.

The money you used to buy that, put it into a bill or something. Flip a

or something. I need you bringing something to the table other than

roses. I have a technical question for you. Oh, a technical? Yes. Did I meet

this man living with his mother, or is it something that...

you know, happen after what we were together. Hell, I don't know.

You tell me. You create the scenario.

If I meet him and things happen that way, then yes, I will stick with him.

if that's how, you know, if he's already had his stuff together and he failed,

he has to live with his mother, I'm there.

But if he, I can't say that I'll be with a man at my age that don't have his

stuff together.

See, this is Sheba.

She is educated, opinionated, and she is a strong black woman.

But she suffers from being in the crisis.

It's funny that she was saying that because it's like, you know, if I met a

he got down on his knees and had to go stay with his mom. Okay, well, if I met

him and he was already down on bending knee, I wouldn't get with him. What if

was just going through a divorce? But that's enough of that. So, I got a

question for you.

So, is it like etched in stone that you cannot date a man who is not up to par

financially?

I can date a man that's not a support financially because just because he's

there right now doesn't mean that he can't get there.

He just wants some right now. Girl, you got a sweetheart.

You're going to go find life. Don't make her feel bad about the situation.

I'm serious. I just feel like.

If he's just going through something, I might miss my blessing because I'm

cutting him off because he's not doing it.

It's sort of like a guy. He's not going to talk to a girl because she doesn't

have a fat ass.

A girl can be ugly as shit. I've been called ugly before, and it's okay

I know I'm a bad bitch. But I think because I have that ass, I was so

giving a pass.

And that's how it is with guys with money.

Unfortunately, yes.

A woman's standards are different.

Hold on, wait, wait, wait. Is it why you act the way you act? How do I act the

way I act?

Because you're materialistic now. I'm not materialistic. You don't see it.

Everything I got, I paid for myself. But you're the only man with no money that

label a woman as materialistic. Exactly. No, it's not about that. You just heard

her broken story.

So she's damaged.

Hold on, wait, wait, wait.

She's damaged right now. She don't trust men.

Unfortunately, since the beginning of time, a woman seeks security. This is

we want. So in our genetic makeup, we want someone who can take her. So

technically, we can have the babies, even though that's not what we're

necessarily doing, and we take care of him. Women are always talking about how

they want this type of dude.

And a woman is supposed to submit.

A woman is supposed to make sure that she, you know, follows her man.

But then you got women at the table who are not willing to follow a man if he

doesn't have a certain level of...

as we spoke of, the mindset.

And it's about a monetary gain of value. If he doesn't have that, she can't

follow him because she doesn't see where he's been successful.

Y 'all can't see that, but we can.

You know what I'm saying?

Here's where them fooling us come into play.

Fooling? Listen, a man like to, let's say, showboat things. You don't? Do you

have on a butt pad right now? No, I don't.

Because girls be doing it. I do.

Okay. That's a facade. That's a facade because when you take that dress, you're

freaking on the illusion right now.

You're just jumping in and you ain't even chimed in.

What I'm saying is a man will, a man will.

My breasts are actually awfully huge.

Okay, so we have to be able to decipher the difference. As a woman, we're not

putting in, I agree with you, what we need to put in to secure that successful

man. We need to be able to take care of him as he takes care of her. Hold on,

hold on. Hold on, wait a second. Let me respond to you because you were. spoke

to me earlier. Hold on. Like what you just said to piggyback off her.

As women, we've been taught since little girls that a man is going to take care

of you. A man is going to provide. A man is going to bring home the bacon. So

that's why I spoke about tradition.

We have been taught that a man is supposed to be a man regardless of what

So it means we can have nothing, and y 'all are still supposed to be the ones

that uplift us. Again, it's being the legs of a damn table. I mean, I hear

but at the same time, what are you bringing to the table on the other side

that? Are you cooking? Are you cleaning? But not just that. Is it something else

that you're mentally, emotionally bringing to the table? I mean, you all

success, but let's understand. Traditionally, you're not taught to look

success the way you're looking at it because what you have now is a whole

generation of people have seen video. They've seen basketball.

They've seen football players.

And so the elevation in your mind is taken to another level. So a regular

whomever that dude may be, has to live on the level of a pro ball player for

all to see success.

When success cannot be measured if you're measuring Michael to Michael

To your point, my father is a professional basketball player. But with

being said, I'm still very submissive. I cook. I clean. I don't care what time

of night it is that my man gets home. If he wants sex, I'm waking up at 3 in the

morning. My God. If he wants to eat, whatever it is that he wants. So because

I'm asking you to be successful.

I'm also going to be successful in this relationship, honey. You ain't going to

need no side chicks.

I'm going to be all the chicks. I'm going to have wigs, whatever you need.

slide down the pole. I'll do what's necessary for my man. I don't really

But at the end of the day... Wait, wait, wait.

We're sliding.

We're sliding from that finger. What the fuck?

And brothers, I got to say this. We're going to fellowship

one time. And Mike, you know how this goes.

Hey, man, ain't nothing like having a woman you want that bad when you like,

know what? I did go to cheaper. I did buy her a $175 bag.

But do I supposed to go spend $7 ,000 or $15 ,000 on a bag?

What if my girl ain't even got $7 ,000 to put in her $7 ,000 bag?

Is that wrong, bro? Real wrong.

When I tell you a girl call me straight from sex, I'm like, hello?

She like...

Baby, what's your credit card number?

Box of the great tech.

She's like, the lady from Saks needs your credit card number. Hold on, give

to her right there. I said, hello?

Yeah, she's trying to purchase some red bottoms, $15 .50.

I said, no, put her back on the farm.

I said,

what type of thirsty stuff is that? You called her for my credit card number

from Saks, putting the lady on the farm?

She said,

well, I ain't never thirsty. I got 30 pair of red bottoms.

I said, but you just going to call me in the middle of the day for $15 .50 for

some red bottles?

Girl's back.

Hung up.

She came up to the barbershop, found me.

I was getting my little line in front of me, out in front of everybody. I said,

boy, if you don't give me this $15 .50, basically, like, I'm off you.

I said, well, you could be off me, man.

Do y 'all, like, have homegirls that y 'all have to just, like, girl, chill

Because they're, like, super.

Gold diggers. I'm talking about like, girl, we can't go over that, girl. They

got one bottle at the table.

Yeah. My best friend is on it. For real?

Do I know her?

Do I know her?

You know my best friend.

She's all about the text. She's all about the first day she meet a guy. She

Miss Biff Platt. Is she bad, though? She is like a woman's woman. She got the

makeup. She got the dress. She got the ass. She got the tits.

And she's going to give up the nappy dugout, which you guys love.

I mean, okay, she's going to give up the nappy dugout because, man, we want

that.

That's the whole point.

So you said she's got the ass and tits, but is all that real, though?

She's got the whole fantasy, and it doesn't matter if it's real or not.

right. Because at the end of the day, it's ass and tits. So to the gold

do I have to spend a little money first before I can have sex with you?

You're damn right.

That's the whole goal.

It's open.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

ever lived like this before.

I just moved to Atlanta. I'm still settling in. Give me some time.

Some time? Oh, hell no.

Scoot over.

Oh, damn.

Girl, what done happened to your damn cabinets, girl? Did your house catch on

fire? Let me find out you can't cook.

Um, it was actually like that when I moved in. And you still moved in? I

yeah. It doesn't bother me. It doesn't bother you, girl? You should have moved

out. We don't live like this. Girl, you done bumped your head.

Oh, hell no.

Oh, I can't. I can't. Get your friend. Oh, my God.

What? Where the hell is your TV? Oh, here. I don't have TV. I read books.

Girl, you've been reading this same doggone book since 10th grade. You ain't

fooling nobody.

That's some damn bullshit, and you know it. Now, we done all been broke before.

Stop trying to flex on us. What's really going on with you?

Look, you guys know I had to leave Detroit, and I left everything behind.

What I thought was my man, my home, everything.

He crushed me.

And he had the audacity to kick me out and then move in some boy who I guess is

now his boyfriend.

I had to start all the way over.

Girl, I can't. I can't right now. I told you.

I told you this before you even moved to Detroit that he wasn't no good.

See, men ain't shit.

Men ain't shit.

That's the reason why I left mine.

Same reason why I left mine.

They only good for two things. And that's for paying your bills.

and freaking goddamn give you some good head. That's about it.

See, with a nice body like yours, your pockets should never be empty. I told

that. Living in Atlanta, Georgia, don't be too excited about dating.

This next young lady is plotting on your wallet every chance she gets.

She likes to find the things in life, but she wants you to pay for them.

When I tell you this girl comes with a lot of baggage, Gucci, Louis.

Birkin, Fendi, and the list goes on and on and on.

Without further ado, I would like to introduce to you case study number

men feel bad.

You got to let these men do what they do best. And what exactly is that?

Pay. I mean, pay your rent. Pay your house. No, pay your

car.

They got to pay your rent when you want to go to feel.

Flies are on a Sunday and they close at seven, but your dad ain't. You gotta say

big daddy or baby or boot or honey or

sugar. Can I get some cash for this ass? Can I get a load

of money for this honey?

And see, it can stay funky.

That's how you're reeling me in. You got to know what you want.

I understand that you're a hot mess, but I went to school for this, to take care

of myself.

You went to school?

Can you please spare us?

Please, girl. I went to school, too. I graduated at the top of my class. I was

African Akulabi.

7 .8 GPA in this thing. All honor classes since first grade.

Are you kidding me? Did you not see me walk past stage with my purple ribbon I

had on? See?

But I gotta sell it. I gotta sell it with the truth. You want the truth?

Atlanta men are easy.

They're simple, baby.

All they want is new ass.

They want their ego struck.

They want you to make them feel like they so important.

I'm going to get you all the way together.

Neck and tight. Lean in.

Lean in. See?

Tonight is the night that we take over. Do you understand what I'm saying?

This is how it's about to go down.

We're going to go out tonight.

We're going to get our own section in VIP.

We're going to buy our own bottles because we're bosses.

And guess what?

No lanes allowed.

And then we're going to sit there.

And we're going to watch.

And we're going to throw our reel out. And we're going to reel them on back in.

Throw another one out and reel them on back in until we catch a big reel.

And we catch that big reel like this.

We're going to pull them in.

Girl, it's going to change your whole life.

Oh, my God.

And see, men love a woman with money. I mean, they're always, and I mean always,

looking for the baddest chicks in the club. And that's not hard. Listen, girl,

they come running in just like they real out there.

You just bring them in.

Don't cut me the game.

It's all in here.

So, I thought we were just going out to the club to have fun.

Girl, who said we wasn't?

Going to the club to find a man with some money is a real good time. You lost

your mind. Get them coins, girl. Don't put this little ugly book up.

Put your little shoes on.

Let's get it.

I just spent too much time on my hair. Where you the other two shoes at? We

to take her to camp.

That's where she need to go. You ain't never been to first before.

So I think every woman is a gold digger, and I think every woman is a prostitute

to a certain degree because of the fact that no woman is sleeping with a man for

free. No woman.

But that doesn't make you a prostitute. Like, because you meet a man, you go

out, you take him to dinner, that does not make you a prostitute.

No pun intended, but it's always the woman that's the prostitute that

categorizes every woman like themselves.

So, I mean, to me, there's different types of women. So wait, didn't you just

call her a prostitute? Right, right.

No, but... But she kind of called herself a prostitute. I guess everyone

categorized them as gold diggers or whatever, but at the end of the day,

all the same.

We are. Yes, we are. Because you're not sleeping with a man for free.

Every woman is not the same. Just because a prostitute literally is

would sell her ass for money. I'm not doing that. Yes, I want a man to have

own, be able to hold his own, take me to dinner, but that does not make me a

prostitute. First off. I think, again, you're misappropriating her definition

an exact science.

But the truth of the matter is, earlier when you said... that you wouldn't date

a man that was in his mother's house or basement.

What you basically said is, that man with nothing can't have me. So the man

something, you're trading that something for your mind, emotions, and body. So,

i .e., you are a prostitute. No, I am not a prostitute. That's not.

It is what it is. It is what it is.

Ladies and gentlemen, I love where y 'all going, but there's a difference.

There's a prostitute and a costitute.

You know what I'm saying?

No, listen.

You're the type of woman that's like, you know what, I'm not a prostitute

because I'm not going to professionally toot this ass up for you.

Yeah, but it's going to cost you something for me to toot this ass up.

prostitute. Most women see themselves as prostitutes because it's going to cost

you something.

She's going to need something.

There's some form of reciprocation, if I may say this. And this is one of the

most intellectual moments of my life. I don't even know where this voice is

coming from.

But this shit is working so perfectly right now, you know what I'm saying? So

feel you both, and I understand. I just want y 'all to know that I love y 'all,

whether you're a prostitute or a constitute.

And I think that black women are more criticized because of what we look for

a man, but white women...

They breed their little girls to marry rich.

So when we do it, we're gold diggers. But when they do it, it's okay.

And I think it's a double standard, and I don't think it's right at all.

Here's the thing. I went to college, and I went to a white college. And one

thing I've learned in living in a white community, that white women are taught

young to go to college and meet their husbands to take care of their men.

That's what they go to school to do. We're taught to get a good job and take

care of our homes. Forget about the men. And so I learned a little of both. And

for me, I have to... For me, I would take care of my man as well as work. But

prefer to stay home and give him everything he needs. He'd take care of

I take care of him. I have two degrees. I have my MBA.

So if I go out and look for a guy with...

The standards that I'm, you know, looking for or what I have, I'm a gold

Why is that?

Why is it okay for even a white woman with no degree?

These are the standards we put on ourselves as black people. If you were

white men, that wouldn't exist. You would marry him.

No, what I'm saying is that if you were dating, if you were searching for a

white man, then you would be searching for a man to support you and you support

him because that's how they see their women. A white man expects for his woman

to do certain things like take care of him and all that. When you're dating

black men, and that makes a difference.

72 % of the black household is raised by the black woman alone.

So the standards are different.

So I'm glad you said that. You made a good point. But I want to know, I want

hear you say this. Are you saying that, like, white men treat black women better

than black men treat black women?

What I am saying is that because of society and how we're raised, that in a

of cases they can, yes.

Absolutely. They have more respect in how they treat the women. The way we

at our women today is how we're raised.

The black women oftentimes curse their children out and all that because

not taught to do anything different.

But white men, their parents are just a little different with them. And the way

they respect their mothers is different. And this is just my experience. I've

dated multiple white men. I've dated black men. And the way I was treated,

per capita between both, it was better by white men. That is the most

and ignorant thing I've heard tonight.

Because my best friend in junior high school was white. He cussed out his

on the regular. You're speaking about one individual. No, pause, let me

One individual.

Sweetie, I've been around white people. Some of my best friends are white. Do

not depict your life for my life. You don't know who I know and where. She

she was going for her experience. But I'm telling you, her experience is super

atypical. Because guess what? The majority of people that live in America

white. The majority of people in poverty are white.

Pause again.

So your one story is super, super atypical. I have multiple stories.

I understand that. But I'm telling you that you cannot speak for everybody

around the nation or in this room. And I am not.

I'm telling you statistically, you're wrong. And so as I move forward, I'm

saying that a white man, no offense to any of my friends, can never.

Can never treat a black woman the same way I would treat her because they don't

understand where she comes from. I didn't say same. I said better. Two

things. Better, the same, nothing.

Because let me tell you why the statistics are the way they are. Because

the women empowerment movement came about, it was funded to destroy the

These are facts.

Don't talk.

These are facts. It came to destroy the family. And in particular, the black

family. And then not only that, if a woman. has a baby in America, if she

welfare or whatever that is, she has to. It's in the contract. No husband or no,

excuse me, no, the father cannot be in the home. So this has happened for, this

has happened for 30 years. So the mindset of the black man against the

has changed because the government and other entities. I do not disagree with

you. You're not saying anything I don't disagree with.

And you can't disagree with it because it's a fact.

But the fact of the matter is you're wrong when you say that a white man can

treat a black woman better when I understand your history, what she came

where we've been, and where we're going, period. I do not disagree with you. The

reason why they can treat us better, because they...

In this country, they control everything.

And the reason why black men don't is because of the way we were taught,

conditioned. I agree with you. But the fact is they simply can't because of

that. We're affected by the things that you mentioned, and I agree with you on

that. But it's a direct derivative of what is happening today, why they can

treat us better. We don't respect our women the way they respect theirs.

No, that's not true.

See, it's crazy. Everybody at this table, all the ladies, you guys have

different opinions about what you guys want. I want to be in love.

I want to have a family. I want to get married.

And it's just like being here, it's the hardest thing ever.

Like, it's the biggest struggle.

And it's sad because I'm starting to get to a point where I'm like, okay, either

I'm going to have to move out of Georgia or it may not happen for me at all. And

both of those really suck.

At this point in my life, I'm not interested in loving again because my

has been broken.

Every time I cared, I've had a guy poop on me, for lack of a better term, okay?

So I don't need a heart. At this point in my life, I need my career. I need my

funds. God is very important.

A heart, I mean, I have my heart for my family. Before God, I just don't have

it. I don't have the time.

Coming home thin, you know, someone that you love.

in the bed with another guy or ex, and I felt like I could never love again.

And first of all, as a man, I don't even want to love anyway.

I want to love my son.

I want to love God. I want to love my family. I don't want to love a woman

because I feel like giving you my heart and you taking advantage of it is too

easy for you, especially if I pick wrong.

You know, it's crazy to me because most women can love again over and over

again. I say they have rubber band hearts. They can try it all over and

again.

You, it's a little different.

I don't. I don't. I can't. I don't think I will, and it's sad. I want to, but at

this point in my life, I don't think I will ever.

I don't even think I'll get married.

Oh, no.

So, the last relationship was that bad?

It was very bad.

Tell me about it. I was dating a guy.

I won't mention his name.

Um, you know, he was very established. You know, we, you know, knew each other

for a long time. We were friends before anything.

I believe in building a friendship before, you know, we take it to that

Um, I had did a video for someone, I forget who it was, came home, me and my

makeup artist, and he was banging another guy.

What? Oh, my God.

Whoa.

And he never came off as being homosexual to me. If that's what your

fine. But if you're going to be banging another dude, you need to let me know.

Because first of all, you're messing with my health.

You're messing with my mental.

And I'm low -key ain't all the way there.

So I go to the car to go get the gun because I have a strap on me at all

because I'm a single female.

And I really, I went in the house, took the gun, and I pointed at him.

And I'm like, I should take you both, you and this little sissy out right now

because you should have told me. It's not the point that you're banging him,

point that you led me on to believe that you love me and care about me, but you

got this man bent over banging the shit out of him. So at this point in my life,

I don't trust anybody.

I'm hurt. And so I think every man I meet is gay.

Okay, this is my thing. I hear the sincerity in what you're saying, but I

hear...

A lot of flack with it. You know what I'm saying?

With me, I date who I want to date. I date a woman. I date a man. I do what I

want to do. At the end of the day, I'm still a man.

I still got a career.

I'm still successful.

Nothing is stopping me.

You know what I'm saying?

This is my thing with you. I feel like you kind of offended me when you said

that you found your man.

Blame it on another man or whatever. He could have brought you disease.

Stop that shit.

You know what I'm saying?

He could have. I feel like.

If he was unprotected, he could have.

But this is the thing. Like, with women, you make it hard for men to tell you

the truth.

No. Listen to what I'm saying.

You make it hard to tell the truth because you see how you're so judgmental

right now? I'm not judgmental. Listen to what I'm saying. Go ahead.

You're very judgmental. You.

Basically called out all the characteristics of a gay man that you

about. Do you sleep with other men?

Do I sleep? Of course. So you don't feel like you're gay.

You don't want to be put in a box, basically. Exactly.

I feel like right now in society, the way things are being displayed, gay men

very colorful, very flamboyant, tight jeans, rules.

Gay and woo -woo. Now, you can't be mad that you was attracted to a man who acts

like a man.

You know what I'm saying? There's people like me who carry themselves like a man

and still do manly things.

We're not flamboyant. We don't do colorful shit.

You get what I'm saying?

You just put me in a box. I did not put you in a box. I'm telling you what he

tried to holler at me. When he approached me...

At that point in time, he should have let me know what he had going on, what

liked, then let me decide if I was going to be okay with that.

So, my question to you is, why is it cool for women to eat another woman's

kiss, dance, flirt, and do all of those things, street shows with their

boyfriends and all of that? But when a man do it, it's looked down on. It's

looked like, oh, I'm really a man at this point. And I feel like the reason

it looks... down upon for men is because ultimately, when you say the word man,

that's just it. You're supposed to be the strong, providing, you know,

you're supposed to be a man. You didn't understand.

Earlier, though, I said, yo, that a man still acts like a man. I only got

defensive because lately, now, all you hear is Yo, gay black men, it's down

I don't even know what y 'all something to say.

I kind of got some questions, man.

Damn.

You know, no offense, man, but my gaydar didn't pick you up, bro. I didn't see

it,

man. I'm just like, damn.

And it's so crazy because I'm sitting here and I never would have guessed.

Nothing against you, bro. You know, hey, man, it's your life. It's your

preference. And I just, there's been so many times that I just wanted to ask,

like.

Like, how you just, like, how you go there, bro?

I grew up with my mother. I didn't have a father in my life. So I always thought

what my mother did and how my mother reacted to men and whatever like that.

kind of picked up that characteristic.

You get what I'm saying?

So as I'm picking up that characteristic, I'm still over here kind

was attracted to her when I walked in.

Me and her, like, we was connected.

Oh, Lord.

So glad that that didn't happen because we would have been sending this poor

baby back to Indiana.

All right. That lady.

Super heartbroken.

Beyond broken, though. Can I say something? You said I didn't give him my

percent. We have been together for two years. And I don't want you to feel

offended because of what I said. I said it in general because...

Having sex with anybody that's not your spouse, you have a risk of getting an

STD. Say that again.

No, I can say how I want to say it because I didn't even know you. You

have offended a lot of community and you don't even know.

You know what I'm saying?

So just be careful what you say.

Both you guys offended each other. Just like it's not okay for you to say 50 and

it's not okay for you to think that she could walk in there and see another man

having sex with another man. That's totally wrong.

Because that's not how, she can't be misled as a woman. You know what I mean?

Basically in a two -year relationship and he's living a whole nother life.

That's no, you can't, you can't. Like I'm honest, whatever I do, multiple

but I'm being honest.

You know what I mean? I try to be upfront.

So there's no way in the world you can walk in and see, that's traumatizing for

a woman to see that.

That's not okay, brother.

I don't care what you say on that. When you talk about Atlanta specifically, it

has a high HIV and AIDS population.

So in Atlanta specifically,

it is not only a duty, but it's responsible. If you're in a relationship

a time period, for you to be honest enough or upfront enough or have some

of disclosure, no matter what your lifestyle is, it could be some type of

disclosure. Add to what you're doing holistically.

I listen here and listen to your side and the thing that you experienced as

well. And Rob had a great point.

See, the communication between each other is messed up.

This is the reason why you feel like you feel because you feel like you don't

have a space in the gay community to say who you are and what you are because

you're going to be judged.

Second of all, she also has a great point as well because she dated a man

didn't come out and tell the truth.

Doesn't matter. Nope, let me finish. No, I want you to just listen. I listen.

It doesn't matter. She fell in love with a stranger.

She went to bed with a stranger. True.

She prayed with a stranger because he did not come out and tell the truth.

The most thing that is important is that a woman gives so much to a lie. Can you

imagine what she would give to the truth?

The reason I respect you is because you're telling the truth.

What I do have a problem with, if I ever have a daughter, is you telling my

daughter you love her, you want to be with her, so forth and so on, and guess

what? You're not who you say you are.

And I say that to say because this next person, a broken woman, who has been

kicked and loved the wrong man, someone that abused you mentally, physically, I

mean, she's getting her ass kicked over and over and over again.

And to sit and let a man beat on you, I have a problem with that. And at some

point, you got to stand up and know what you're worth.

Know who you should love, and that's you first.

Don't be a broken woman.

Be a blessing.

I will.

I asked you a question.

Where you been all day? Where you been at all day? Where have you been all day?

I'm at work.

But you already knew that. When I call you, pick up the damn phone.

How am I gonna pick up the phone when I'm at work, Sean?

Yeah.

That doesn't make sense, right?

Being married shouldn't feel like jail.

I didn't marry you to become a prisoner.

Keep running your mouth.

And I'm gonna make it feel like hell.

Give me my phone. Give me my phone.

Touch me one more time. Touch me again. Don't push me. Touch me again.

What's this happy birthday I talked to you later today?

It's a female coworker, okay?

She just wished me happy birthday. So now you have a female coworker named

right? Yes! And I've had one for five years. You've met her.

You're cheating on me.

I'm not cheating on you.

Nor have I thought about it, but maybe I should.

Like, what are you on today?

Okay, I come home, and I cook, and I clean, and I work! I'm not trying to

that shit. Are you cheating on me?

It's my birthday.

Can we not do this?

Fuck your birthday.

Who are you calling to?

How come you?

Watch your mouth.

What do you think you're talking about? Get off me! Watch your smart -ass mouth,

though.

I will kill you.

You do what I tell you to do. Get off of me.

Get off.

Get off.

Where are you going?

Where the fuck are you going?

Where the fuck are you going?

Huh? You are so excuse for a wife.

Calm down, okay? You got an urgency on me? My wife wants you.

Look at you. You ain't not doing your fucking hair.

I think you're a fan of remembering your ugly ass.

What the fuck is going on?

What are you doing?

Huh? Open this fucking door.

Come the fuck out.

Leave me alone, all right?

Open this door.

Ephesians 5, 22.

So you also submit to your husband in everything you do.

I thought you was a saved woman.

I thought you was a God -fearing woman when I met you.

Open this fucking door. Open this door.

I ain't going nowhere.

Open this door. Stop!

Why you making me act like this? I'm a God -fearing man and you got me here

tripping?

God, I need help.

He's a good man, right?

I mean, he just lost his mom.

What is getting worse?

Maybe I just need to be a better wife. Maybe that's it.

be anymore. I can't.

I can't live like this anymore and I need your help because I'm saying

Help me leave, please.

Come on.

I ain't gonna touch you. Come out.

Come out, baby.

Come here.

I'm here.

You can't stay in there all night.

and don't you ever let a man hit you you understand you never let a man hit you

i know i'm not just talking i'm talking about what i've been through loved a man

more than I love myself it's not worth it and if you have nothing else to do

call on God because he will help you he will see you through

Coming home and seeing, you know, someone that you love in the bed with

guy, her ex, and I felt like I could never love again.

Giving you my heart and you taking advantage of it is too easy for you,

especially if I pick wrong.

With all these thoughts running through my head.

Remembering all the things we said.

In my deep down, yeah, I'm scared.

Cause I know I'm not in it by myself.

My worst nightmare is that I'm lost.

Wait a minute. I know that things ain't perfect.

But soon it'll all be worth it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Well, if we could stay together, baby, we'll make it through this weather day.

If you wait a little while longer, baby, everything will be fine.

Which means...

Dinner's almost ready.

I love you.

Well, we love you too, sweetie.

Hey,

she's still fine, eh?

You good? You good? What's up?

Man, I'm good, man. Just, you know, working, doing the same old thing.

I need to talk to you, Pop.

Okay.

Hold on.

So listen.

What's up?

Man to man.

Want the truth.

When you first met Mom, first time, did you think she was going to be your wife?

Hell no.

Y 'all been up there too many movies.

See, our relationship was real life.

I had to court and chase that woman.

She made it hard for me, too.

I thought I'd never have a chance to get that number.

She turned me down so many times.

How do you keep going over and over again?

Keep hearing no, no, no, and you still keep trying. I can't do that, Pop.

You see, when I first met her,

At that moment, I knew she was special.

And no matter how many times she turned me down, there ain't no difference.

I had already made up in my mind that I was going to take her on a date.

I took two years, but now, you know.

That's crazy, man.

Man,

to give along my heart over and over again.

You've been hurt before, you know, right?

It's tough.

How do you do that? Because I feel like that's like playing Russian roulette

with my life.

You see, that's what's wrong with your new generation.

You don't know how to keep fighting.

You give up too easy. You quit.

You know, every time you hit adversity, you walk out the door complacent in your

job, comfortable, and always looking for a handout.

You see, these instant gratification men, they don't believe in work.

They wanted to come easy.

And it comes easy.

Then they're ready.

A real man, he has endurance, patience, and is witty.

All you have to have is persistence and consistency to get what you want.

And once you get it, you have to know how to keep it.

Sound easy.

Love not easy, Pop.

I just don't know if I can get my heart again.

You asking me to do a lot?

Nah. I want you to be a real man, son.

Do you know the difference between an eagle and a chicken?

A what? An eagle and a chicken.

Everybody knows the difference between an eagle and a chicken. Yeah, well, let

me just tell you. You see, a chicken is a common creature.

And you can find them anywhere.

They all think alike, walk alike, talk alike.

And they're always looking down because they're not confident.

But an eagle, he thinks differently.

You see, an eagle sees things on a different plane.

You see an eagle, oh, you get excited.

When it rains, all the other birds, they fly for shelter. But the eagle, he

flies above the clouds to avoid adversity.

I understand, but what are you talking about?

Well, an eagle can make love in the sky, man.

What? Yeah, God made it that way. So he wouldn't make a mistake and make love to

a chicken.

Moral of the story is that you have to start thinking like an eagle and

stop being a chicken, son.

And Pop here, oh, I didn't come out the man I am now.

with a lot of prayer and discipline.

See this woman right here? She made me better. Come around here, girl.

It's a fine self.

Now, it's going to be hard to find one like this.

Beautiful, outstanding mother, the greatest definition of love.

Faithful not only to me, but to her beliefs and values.

You know, she never swayed.

All the mistakes I made, it should never change.

You know, she's the one that taught me that falling in love was dumb.

Oh, I remember that one. I can see it right now.

It's not okay for you to be saying that I'm willing to be hurt.

Let's do something. The whole world will gawk at you.

Let's ride in love.

Let's take love to the heavens.

And write love notes on the cloud.

Oh, my.

I still get butterflies every time your father touches me.

At night, when I pray, I thank God that I finally said yes to that

cheap date he took me on.

I will never forget our first date.

This man.

said something to me that no man had ever said before.

If you give me the chance to love you, I will make you my oxygen.

Happy anniversary, baby.

We made it through another year. Yep.

Still a long way to go.

On our wedding night, I dropped a tear into the ocean.

Now, when they find that tear,

That's the day I'm going to stop loving you.

Happy anniversary.

Come over here, chicken.

Case study five and six.

A real man and a real woman.

My parents.

I've been watching this love connection all my life.

And I still can't get it right.

I mean, this is the true value of a relationship.

loyalty, commitment, God, everything that you ask for. Now, don't get me

My father has been every kind of man I did my research on.

But see, he was smart.

When he found the right moment that made him fly, that eagle he talking about,

he was smart enough to take off.

So did you really think it would last 32 years?

Um... Well,

actually, I was hoping it would.

You know, and I pray that it lasts 32 more years.

God willing, it will.

Yeah, we'll be very fortunate.

That's because I love you, baby.

I love you too, baby. Yeah.

Not many people have that.

Aren't you right?

We're one of the lucky ones, I can tell you that.

We are.

Man, I hope one day I can have that kind of love.

I hope I'm smart enough to when I finally get my woman back, I'll keep her

32 years.

Real man and real woman is what we strive to be.

If we're lucky, we'll become one.

But you'll be twice as lucky to find one dating in Atlanta.

I believe that there's something else out there for me.

There is one thing that I know.

Wow. I finally finished my thesis and I discovered the hardest person to date is

yourself. The man in the mirror.

But now that I finally got my woman back, I can't make excuses.

It's time for me to fly.

See, I can remember my grandfather saying, son, sit down for a second.

This is simple. It's easy.

This is the formula to a real relationship.

I follow God. She follows me. And love, it takes care of itself.

This is your special day.

I'm going to give you everything.

Because of the love of my life.

And our love ain't got a price on it.

I'm taking you out to have a good time.

We're going to have champagne and wine tonight.

We're going to party.

We're going to dance.

Have some fun with everybody.

I'm going to marry you, baby.

I'm going to give you all my love.

I'm going to marry you, baby.

I'm going to give you all my love.

Mama told me this would come one day.

She said, don't be afraid.

I can change your life. I can change your life. I will treat you right. And

that's no lie.

I won't let you fall.

I'll be right there.

I won't be that shoulder that you keep coming on.

You can trust in me, love.

Won't let them hurt you again.

And you know that I do it. You're driving me crazy. You're driving me

Boy, you always got to try to run away.

Baby's got me thinking like Monday.

Girl, I got your face. I need to heal it.

If you ever part, you know I pick you up. I told you that I always be right

there. And I will lift you up. Got you back forever. And you know that you're

number one. You're hotter than the summer sun. And you know that I love

that's not right.

I won't.

You can trust in me, love, or let them hurt you.