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Previously on The Real Housewives of New
York City.
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So Heather, you have a podcast too? I
do.
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I thought that was a real friendship,
but nothing really I learned with Luann
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genuine. Yeah, that's true.
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What?
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My grandmother is very sick and passing
away right now.
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I do not feel fully like myself, and I'm
not good at pretending I feel a
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different way.
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Ramona does not like the way I talk
about sex.
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My daughter doesn't speak that way. Are
you freaking kidding me? You think your
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daughter is going to speak to you about
sex in front of you? I'm over it. Do not
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compare me to your daughter.
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You're a hoe, you're a hoe, you're a
hoe. Leave me the fuck alone.
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Oh, my God. Biggest pose ever.
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I know you're upset about your
grandmother, but there's no excuse to
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this. But I don't subscribe to the fact
that to use those words mean you're
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unclassy. It has nothing to do with
class. It has to do with education.
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Well, no, it doesn't have to do with
education either, Lou. I have more
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education, frankly, than anybody at this
table. Let's not go tit for tat on who
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has an education or not, girlfriend.
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You're an angry woman right now. Tell me
it's not about race. Don't come into my
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house and tell me I don't have an
education.
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Well, I can leave you.
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I think you should go. Oh, my God. I
will not silence myself for you. It's
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trash. You should be familiar.
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Have a safe trip.
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You don't have to leave with me. These
are your friends. You should stay.
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But I'm going to go because I'm not
going to be somewhere I'm not wanted.
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angry. She's referring to race.
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I never brought up the color of her skin
once. What's that got to do with it?
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She has issues.
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Holy shoot.
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I honestly think this thing blew up into
a mushroom pile. Well, I wanted to stay
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because I didn't want to run, but she
told me to leave, Heather. So I need to
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leave. Oh, here's your Uber.
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Women don't want to be called angry. And
when you're with a black woman, avoid
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it. And if you do do that, you back down
right away and say, wow, didn't
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realize, now I do.
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We just have to listen to each other
more.
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That's it.
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You know what, though, Heather? We have
to listen even when we don't like what
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we hear.
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That's the issue. Hell yes. That's the
issue.
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Yeah, you get comfortable with being
uncomfortable.
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Amen. Bye, Queen.
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All right. It wasn't even about me. I
was saying that Ramona felt
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Right. That's all. You have to respect
people. That's it.
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After Ebony made such a derogatory
statement as she's the smartest woman at
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table, she lost me. For someone that's
so well -educated, that was a really
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thing to say.
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I don't know her that well, but boy, did
I get to know her today.
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Thank you very much.
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Hi.
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Where is everybody?
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I don't know. Luanne kicked me out of
her house.
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Wait, what?
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Oh, she kicked me out of her f***ing
house. Luanne called me an angry black
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woman. She did not.
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No, she did not.
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No, she did not.
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Leah, I didn't do it.
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She did not call you that.
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I'm trying not to get emotional right
now. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. Because
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such a full s*** I've dealt with my
whole f***ing life. What the f***?
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Society does not afford black women in
particular a range of emotions.
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Or just downright f***ing. passion
around an issue and it's a problem and I
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my friend Luann to give me more credit
than that tell me what happened after
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left I said Ramona you've made it clear
Luann you've made it clear that y 'all
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don't like that terminology around the
reproductive organs I won't use it but
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then Luann had to go further girl and
she's like it's really about education
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Leah I lost it.
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Girl, I just, I had to flex. And I said,
well, hold up now, Lou. Don't make it
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about education because I actually have
more formal education than anyone at
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this table.
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Ebony's a smart girl. I mean, she told
us all. Well, she's the most educated,
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but does that mean you're smart?
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She's very proud and she should be very
proud as a black woman to have the most
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high degree that you could ever have.
And I'm proud of her too. I know you
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However, we didn't say that.
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Lou lost her. She's like, oh, so now I'm
an uneducated person. And I said, no,
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that's what you said. Right. And Luann
was like, well, you know, why are you so
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angry at me? I said, oh, God, the bitch
is an idiot.
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Now I'm an angry black woman. I didn't
say that.
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When you use the word angry,
unfortunately, and I know what you mean,
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angry is an angry word. It's an
adjective. Well, she was clearly very
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was upset.
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She was upset. She was raising her
voice. I know, baby, but listen to me.
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she said your white fragility. I have no
idea what that means. I know you don't.
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So you should have maybe said to her,
what does that mean?
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She was actually so upset.
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The onus is on us right now. We need to
back up right now and understand and
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listen.
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between you and Leah, I think we can get
through that. Oh, it's silly BS. It's
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silly. But what happened with Ebony is
not. No, it's serious. And it's very
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serious. And I think that to understand
each other is the most important thing
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right now. And we have to go in there
with apologies.
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And I'm telling, not, listen, Luann, I
know that you got in a fight and I know
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you feel attacked in your home. Yes. And
that's not cool. It's your turf. I get
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it. It's not my turf. It's about how she
reacted towards me and it was uncalled
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for. No, but she, well, in her mind,
not.
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Instead of seeing any pain and
suffering, righteousness comes right
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We have to, you know, strip the ego and
just listen to someone else's
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perspective. If there's ever been time
for that within this group, it's right
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now. It's our responsibility right now
as white women to push pause on your
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reaction and your defense to that and
say, wait a minute, what did I do to
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you feel that way?
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I hate that because I thought Lou and I
were friends. And then, girl, she let it
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out. Like, everything she'd been feeling
about me, Leah, came out.
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Oh, I'm pretentious. Oh, I'm a black,
angry bitch. Like, oh, you think you're
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better than people. No, Lou, that's your
feeling. Like, save that for someone
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else.
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That's not who I am. That's not who she
is. She thinks she's better than people,
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but she knows she's not. She only works
on a hierarchy, and that's her count and
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whatever. You know, like, girl, go
anyways.
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Ebony is a better woman than I will ever
be.
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I probably would have burned that.
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Where are these girls?
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This is terrifying.
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Honey, we're home!
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Ladies!
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How are my girls? You come in. Holy s***
ball.
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It sounds like I missed an even more
disgusting display of judgment.
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You set it off, girl.
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I think Luann did, actually.
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Luann actually surprised me with the
weird. She's been weird on the strip.
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To call a black woman angry right now,
you're just starting a problem.
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But she doesn't even realize. She
doesn't even know. We have to remember,
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Luann's ego comes first.
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I can't be in a friend group that is not
going to have the consciousness to say,
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Ebony's experience in this country is
vastly different than mine. I have a
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different lens on it because...
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I have been in the homes and the core of
Black America, and it is a beautiful
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place, and I am so happy about my
experiences. Can you tell me more about
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I'm curious. Well, I just, you know, I
worked for Puffy for five years. I
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for Beyonce. But then there's, like,
real Black America. You know what I'm
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saying? Like, it's not hip -hop
entertainment industry. I'm not talking
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Puffy because that's the fake Black
America. That's, like, the illusion.
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that's elite. It's also a truly elite
class. No, but the people that work
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that were making, like, no money or
interning. I mean, I have, you know, I
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involved in Black culture. culture
heather does have an elevated sense of
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awareness but she can over familiarize
herself with aspects of black culture
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in a way that is makes me slightly
uncomfortable my friend bill gorgeous
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man dressed in gucci can't get a cab i
have to hail the cab i've seen things
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that a lot of white folks haven't seen i
hear you listen Luann is here. You
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don't have to educate her. All you have
to do is explain what you meant that she
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didn't hear.
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I'm going to talk to Lu as an adult.
What I hope she apologizes for is her
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defaulting to a very stereotypical trope
about women of color and our reactions
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and emotions.
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You guys are getting ready for dinner.
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I'm about to make myself a cocktail, and
we can talk to them.
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Yes. I hope we can get dinner together.
That's fine. You don't need to say
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anything. I really just want to say. I
think you have to say, either take me or
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leave me, girl.
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I'm happy with who I am. I have more to
say than that. Well, whatever.
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I think Ramona being mad that I talk
about sex too much
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really.
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Doesn't matter anymore when we're
dealing with race issues.
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Everybody's been very intense. Yeah,
maybe we can break the ice with just in
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kitchen. My original idea was for all us
girls to hang out, cook together. And
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make something really easy breezy.
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And then I got us all aprons. All right,
shut your eyes. I want you to shut your
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eyes. They're shut.
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Okay, turn around. Now open your eyes.
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Actually, it looks like you, though. I
don't know about that.
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But that was my idea, that we all wear,
like, funky, funny aprons. You got more?
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Yeah, I got one for everybody.
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I really wanted a fun, bonding moment
over cooking.
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Instead, it's gotten too heavy and
dismal, and we have to talk through
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Because it's complicated.
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This is complicated. It's not easy
stuff.
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Lou? Yeah?
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Hi, I'm coming in.
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Yeah. Come on in. So I just talked to
the girls.
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Yeah. And, you know, I think it would be
good if we all can just sit down and
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try to see if we can't, you know, come
to an understanding in a place where
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we're not all talking over each other
and we're listening to perspective.
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She was up off her seat in my face.
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Well, it was something that you said
that set her off wrong.
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I think that you should listen. Which
she misunderstood.
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It was a misunderstanding. So then if we
can just sit down together, hopefully
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we can understand a little bit more
about each other and move on.
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And grow from it. I'm all for it. I
figured you would be. If I make somebody
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feel bad, I want to know about it, and I
want to fix it.
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I'm going to go get Ramona. You girls
sit.
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I'm going to pee. I'm so glad I'm not
the only one that wants to be
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tonight. I'm going to just make a drink.
Can you come out? Because I got
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everybody. Oh, really? Yeah. Hey, girl.
Hey, honey.
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I'm just going to make myself a tequila,
if that's okay. Yeah. Can you make me
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one, too? I'll pour you one. Trois. Un,
deux, trois. Okay.
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Yes. I'm going to move to the hard
stuff.
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Okay. You two are really clicking, so
let's...
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Let's just get this behind us, you know?
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Listen, I mean, there was a
misunderstanding, but she has to meet me
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Coming up.
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I apologize that I got so upset with
you. And I appreciate that. I do, and I
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accept that. And I would hope that you
would extend the same to me.
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Ramona, you built a beautiful fire. Can
we sit next to the fireplace?
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This is so nice. Oh, good. I'm glad
we're all together. We got to get this
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straight here.
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So I wanted to talk to you, Lou, because
I was very disappointed.
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I hold you in high regard, Lou Anne, you
know, and I hope you know that.
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So when you called me angry, it was
unacceptable.
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Whether you're aware or not, the term
angry when referencing a black woman,
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got a long stereotypical history.
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Black women in this country have never
been afforded the opportunity to have a
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fully human experience.
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Because the minute that we raise our
voice, which I acknowledge, I definitely
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raised my voice.
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It made me feel like you were painting
me with a broad brush that we
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unfortunately do in this country when a
black woman shows up in a way that we
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don't like.
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It hurt me, Luann.
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I would love it if you could be okay if
I'm upset sometimes and not use the term
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angry because it does trigger the
stereotype of being an angry black
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Luann, I've worked my whole life.
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I work at Fox. I work in media.
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to never show up as the angry black
woman because I have a responsibility to
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black women I represent on these
platforms.
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Thank you. Well taken.
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I didn't really understand that angry
sets off that kind of reaction.
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So I didn't say it because I tried to
belittle you or make you less than
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it's not me. You know that.
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So for that, I'm sorry.
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I think it was a major miscommunication.
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Upset I saw that you were upset and that
would have been a better word and also
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I'm in my own home And I've got my
daughter there so my tourist the horns
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up Myself getting angry you know I don't
really have to educate me on that
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because I don't I don't really know I
Apologize and I got so upset with you. I
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don't yeah, I appreciate that I do and
you know I would hope that you would
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extend the same to me So you want me to
apologize for
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making you upset I want you to recognize
that, you know, how you upset me as
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well. I feel like we went five steps to
go ten backwards.
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That's exactly the problem, Lou.
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I get to be upset.
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And can you tell us how you were upset?
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Well, it upset me that, you know, that,
you know, you were yelling and that you
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wouldn't, you know, listen and you got,
you know, upset with me over something I
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didn't really understand.
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That's frustrating.
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But who should be apologizing here?
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Here's what I think this is the
important missing point.
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We have to, especially as white people,
we need to actually step back and
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actually, you know, give Ebony the
apology and stop it and move on. She was
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reacting to a trigger that she just
explained to you really well.
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Well, I'm sorry that I triggered you by
saying angry. I am really sorry about
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that. And I appreciate that and I accept
it.
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The reason why what I won't do is say
I'm sorry is because it is an
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of me apologizing for having a natural
reaction to a very deep -seated,
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triggering word and concept. So I can't
apologize to you for that, Lewitt. I
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want to acknowledge that my dear friend
over here, Ms. Leah, cussed y 'all all
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out and called y 'all all hoes to your
faces, and nobody called her angry.
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In fact, she was told, Leah, calm down,
come back to the table, because she
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wasn't held to that standard of anger.
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Oh, I thought you called them all hoes,
not me. Yeah, I called you all hoes.
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Well, she's getting a pass because her
grandmother's dying. Well, so is mine,
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Ramona. I also have a grandmother who's
leaving us on this earth, and I'm very
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concerned with my mother.
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They're the only two family members by
blood I have left.
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Listen, I take you at your word, but
this notion of whose burden it is to
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educate, I want to just be
straightforward with you both to say to
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It's not yours. It's not my
responsibility at all.
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I'm asking you to. Yeah, you actually,
maybe you did, and you meant it sweetly.
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You said it sweetly. You said you have
to teach us.
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That's what you said. Well, I want to
teach you how to cook tonight. Maybe you
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can cook. But we're not going to
deflect.
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Don't deflect.
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The burden's on us. We're white,
privileged ladies.
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Nobody's turning the page and moving
forward.
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We have to read the page, feel the pain,
be a little bit awkward, and then we
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can turn some more pages.
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Well, maybe you can have a little bit
more sympathy, patience, patience.
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I think you're really patient. I think
I'm really patient. I do, too. I do. And
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I think and I know that to be true
because of the work I've done, y 'all.
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not new to this. I've taken on the work
professionally, Lillian. You know the
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work I do. We have the responsibility to
change by our actions because they have
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repercussion. white people and like
especially white women need to kind of
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up right now and listen so shut the up
heather and let's listen nobody's beyond
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reproach and that goes for me too listen
i always say the minute you think
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you're ripe you begin to rock i never
feel like it's enough well i hope this
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still the best day i think in many ways
it was the most honest day and for that
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it is the best day I'm really sorry that
happened.
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Because I do adore you. And I adore you.
And I think the world adores you.
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You're a strong ditch. I love that.
Thank you.
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Virgo meet Taurus. Here we go. That's
right. Here we go.
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I think it's authentic.
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You know, it's really uncomfortable, I'm
sure, for everybody, including Lou and
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me.
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And I appreciate that she really seems
apologetic.
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Good dialogue.
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So I'm not going to eat your lovely food
tonight because I want to order some
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comfort food.
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Ebony is a smart woman and she's
understanding.
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I value her as a friend.
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This is just another issue. It's a big
one. But if we talk and communicate, I
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think that we can totally get past this.
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She's a good person.
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Everybody makes mistakes.
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I have enough humility.
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No, you're not. You're a queen. And I
want you to know that about yourself.
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You know what? Leah said that to me,
too, that you point out I'm
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it. And I really need to get a little
better self -esteem. Girl, you are high
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worth. Thank you. No matter what anybody
tells you.
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Coming from a woman of high worth.
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Sonia has allowed her group of friends
to classify her as a less than valuable
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woman. That was my bald guy she married,
by the way. He married me, okay? He
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wasn't your guy. I think she's dope. I
think she's powerful. I think she's a
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badass. And I don't think Sonia sees
that in herself because it's been told
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her and she's internalized it. And I am
never here for that.
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Well, I'm so glad you came to help us
grow, and I don't believe in these
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apologies either. I think it's about
growing. You know what the best apology
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Changed behavior.
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The only thing I do believe is the
weight is on us now. White people have
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repressed and put down, you know, our
black people for so long. It's our job
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now.
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I don't think Sonia's pandering, and I
really think Sonia gets it in this
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more than almost all of these other
women.
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Okay, I heard it.
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Great job.
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Thank you. You're very articulate.
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I don't know if anyone ever talked to
that.
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Thank you. I heard it a couple times.
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That's also a microaggression, by the
way. Such a microaggression that it's
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insane.
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How do people not know this?
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She means so well. I'm going to give her
a pass on that.
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We still got work to do.
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That's actually pretty funny. I've never
seen that before. That's cute.
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Coming up.
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Woo! i'm a little nervous oh my god
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Thank you for that. So pretty.
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I would feel like if I was, let's say,
the only white chick with all black
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chicks. Oh, my God. There are some
differences and things we've went
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you know, just made me aware that I have
to really empathize with people and
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their struggles. And then maybe
sometimes I'm just in my own little
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you can say that again.
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Being around Ebony now has opened up my
mind. All of a sudden, I'm Googling all
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these things and I'm educating myself in
a different way than I ever have
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before.
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Miss Devin.
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Hello, lovely. How are you? Hey,
gorgeous.
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Listen, I have a good girlfriend who is
quickly becoming a very fast friend of
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mine. I really adore her.
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Her name is Sonia.
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And I want to find her love, Devin. I
really do.
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Devin is a matchmaker, and she's one of
the best in the country.
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And I think if Sonia worked with the
right matchmaker, she could find the
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of her life.
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She's beautiful. She's smart.
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But she, like, doesn't know her own
worth. It is so clear to me.
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You know, for you, Ebony, whatever you
need and want, I'm down.
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I'd love to see you in Philly and talk
to your girl, Sonia. All right. I adore
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you. Talk soon, baby. Okay. Bye.
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I think Sonia has so much love left to
give.
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And I know that Sonia thinks that that
ship has sailed. And I don't believe
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that.
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Ramona's so happy that she's not the one
that got in the snafu. And it was you.
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Because I think she thought she was
going to be the one also.
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Right. So now she's like so elated. I'm
getting along so well with Ebony. I
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know. Good. Me and Ebony. Let her enjoy
it while the moment lasts.
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Yeah. And I'll be the next one batter
off. Well, you know. I'm still a little
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affected by what happened last night
because it was very heavy.
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To feel like I've hurt somebody is
upsetting to me.
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So, girls, I arranged this fisherman to
meet us, and, you know, we can watch or
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fish or whatever, but we need to leave
here at 12, and it's already 11 .20, and
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we're going to have lunch at 1 .30.
Okay, so let's just grab it. I'm going
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grab a piece of pie or something like
that. So she can make us eggs while we
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ready.
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Sonia loves fishing, and I wanted to go
to the beach and have a nice picnic and
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a nice lunch, and I thought, okay, we'll
do some fishing.
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Sophia, you'll be ready in five.
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The jacket doesn't look good with this.
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The jacket?
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Are we talking about the jacket?
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It looks good without the jacket. Oh, my
God. Are we in London or are we going
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fishing? It's Leah.
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I never say to myself, is she dressed
appropriately for the event?
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She's dressed as Leah.
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Let's move it out. Come on, girls. Let's
go.
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I'm ready. I'm ready.
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Sonia. Lulu, you're the last.
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I'm coming.
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I didn't even finish buttoning my pants.
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Hi, how are you?
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This is going to be a blast tonight.
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Yeah. It's going to be fun. And it's
exciting because it's our last night.
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Yeah. So that makes it even better. How
many people are we having tonight? Ten?
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Yeah, with Hank and us and the girls.
And I wanted you to invite who you
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I'm just having a good time with all the
girls. Yeah, it's going to be fun.
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I'm excited to see everybody. We're
going to be busy doing, you know, our
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twirling and all our fun stuff.
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I planned the last night's party at
Topping Rose. We're going to get dressed
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for Halloween. It's a 1970s -inspired
beauty pageant. As we can't have a lot
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people with COVID, we have to have some
sort of cool, interactive kind of theme.
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You know, Ebony's an ex -beauty queen. I
was in Miss Connecticut.
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After all the drama of yesterday, I
think this party is just what we need.
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All right, we're here.
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Yay, we're at the ocean.
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Oh, wow, it looks really beautiful.
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This is so beautiful.
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Hello. Hi.
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How you doing?
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Good, I'm Mark. Nice to meet you.
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Has anybody surfcast before?
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No. Excellent, excellent.
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So the first thing I want to do is get
everybody set up with a pair of waders.
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have a pair here.
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Are you kidding me? Again?
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Hell no.
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watch you guys because i i like just
want to like talk about props yeah oh
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is beautiful we can take a walk so nice
all right i can't think of anything i'd
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rather not do than wade in freezing
water to catch a fish that i don't
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care about catching let's wait for sonia
and mark is she flirting what is she
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doing bringing more lures you know sonia
likes a dad bod
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A man with a belly. Oh, yes, she does.
Over this way, ladies.
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Okay, we're coming. I got the perfect
spot picked out for us.
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I always get lucky. Do you?
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I'm a Sagittarius. I always catch a
fish.
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If I knew this guy better, I would tell
him I always catch a dick, too.
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I think you should do the hula hooping.
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Yep. Oh!
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Aim a little bit to your left, all
right?
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All right.
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Woo! That's pretty amazing.
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Oh, my God!
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back in my day, I was actually quite a
hula hooper. So, kind of like riding a
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bike. Yes!
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You got it!
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You don't have to go super hard at
first.
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No, I just want to get a feel. You just
got to get a feel for it, okay? Well, I
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just get a feel.
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Make your two fingers right there.
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Do I put the pole up high and back and
with it? Yeah, in the back, just like
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that. Do you have a f***ing date?
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I think you're right. I'm telling you, I
have a sense about these things. Yeah,
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you're 100 % right.
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All right, so let's decide.
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I feel like I can do it on my own. Oh,
you do?
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Okay, I'm going to watch you.
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Woo! Am I holding this correctly? Yes,
you are. Okay, I'm a little nervous.
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Ebony, get back!
442
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:06,800
Oh, my God.
443
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:07,819
Back up!
444
00:25:07,820 --> 00:25:09,220
Back up! Oh, my God.
445
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:11,560
Coming up.
446
00:25:11,980 --> 00:25:14,300
Please don't leave me in the van. Oh,
relax, bitch.
447
00:25:14,580 --> 00:25:15,580
No,
448
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:17,960
you bitch. You want to call me a...
449
00:25:32,270 --> 00:25:34,150
Don't go close. The waves are really
rough. Yeah, I know.
450
00:25:34,510 --> 00:25:37,630
Are you going to fish or should I lay
this down tonight? I haven't decided.
451
00:25:37,850 --> 00:25:40,170
Why am I in charge of your fishing pole
all of a sudden? Because you look good
452
00:25:40,170 --> 00:25:41,170
holding it. Yeah?
453
00:25:42,110 --> 00:25:43,290
Let's sit over here for a little bit.
454
00:25:43,730 --> 00:25:45,310
Well, okay. I'll put your pole over
here.
455
00:25:46,110 --> 00:25:47,110
All right.
456
00:25:48,670 --> 00:25:50,510
Now, this is the way I like to fish.
457
00:25:51,310 --> 00:25:52,310
Right from here.
458
00:25:52,450 --> 00:25:58,250
You almost fell into the water. This is
really fun and Mother Earth and nature,
459
00:25:58,390 --> 00:25:59,990
but I'm not about to die out here.
460
00:26:00,250 --> 00:26:03,550
So I'm done, ready for both wine and
food and a blanket.
461
00:26:05,230 --> 00:26:06,670
Whoa! Whoa!
462
00:26:07,610 --> 00:26:08,610
Bam!
463
00:26:08,950 --> 00:26:10,610
Sonia's really into this.
464
00:26:11,170 --> 00:26:12,450
Okay. Yep.
465
00:26:12,850 --> 00:26:13,890
Come over your shoulder.
466
00:26:16,190 --> 00:26:17,210
That wasn't bad.
467
00:26:17,830 --> 00:26:21,830
Well, listen, I'm so glad we kind of got
through things last night a little bit.
468
00:26:21,890 --> 00:26:24,250
Because, you know, I think so highly of
you. I really do.
469
00:26:24,450 --> 00:26:25,450
As do I.
470
00:26:25,710 --> 00:26:29,210
I still have, you know, pit in my
stomach this morning. You know, I woke
471
00:26:29,210 --> 00:26:34,410
I just felt badly and, you know, I never
want to hurt your feelings, you know. I
472
00:26:34,410 --> 00:26:38,570
was in tears about the whole thing. It
was very, very upsetting to me. I can't
473
00:26:38,570 --> 00:26:41,630
fix what's been happening in the world.
I can just try.
474
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:43,900
to be a better communicator.
475
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:48,920
Listen, nobody's perfect, Luann. I think
we gotta, as women, release ourselves
476
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,660
of that pressure. I really do. I'm so
glad we did. And we did. I actually feel
477
00:26:52,660 --> 00:26:56,920
better that that happened. Last night's
conversation, Luann, is not, okay, put a
478
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:57,920
bow on it, we're done.
479
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:01,180
100%. Nobody's got all the answers,
including me. But I can...
480
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:05,820
Try to contribute the best I can and try
to understand it better. That's all I
481
00:27:05,820 --> 00:27:06,519
can do.
482
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:11,640
I feel like more of an authentic
connection to you because as women in
483
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:16,120
friendship, all we have to do is listen.
Yeah. And help each other. And help
484
00:27:16,120 --> 00:27:20,260
each other. All right, baby. There's
some shit about these women that I
485
00:27:20,260 --> 00:27:21,260
enjoy.
486
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:28,180
And if I could get past the
uncomfortable thing, there's like
487
00:27:28,180 --> 00:27:30,200
opportunity for something amazing.
488
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:31,980
I am committed to that.
489
00:27:32,220 --> 00:27:34,540
And I got to take these stupid wailers
off. Yeah.
490
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:36,240
Hey, girl.
491
00:27:36,260 --> 00:27:38,300
It's getting cold and the girls want to
eat.
492
00:27:38,980 --> 00:27:40,500
Okay. All right, honey. Yeah.
493
00:27:41,060 --> 00:27:43,580
That was fun, though. I really suck at
it.
494
00:27:44,180 --> 00:27:48,880
What's on my hook? Is that something?
Like, is that like a... That's bait.
495
00:27:49,260 --> 00:27:50,340
Oh, that's the bait?
496
00:27:50,580 --> 00:27:52,540
Yeah. You want me to get it out for you?
497
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:53,760
Yeah.
498
00:27:54,360 --> 00:27:55,360
Getting tired?
499
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:56,600
It's a lot of work.
500
00:27:57,940 --> 00:27:58,940
Wow, look at this.
501
00:27:59,630 --> 00:28:00,229
I know.
502
00:28:00,230 --> 00:28:01,490
Yeah. How'd you do it?
503
00:28:01,930 --> 00:28:03,150
Nobody caught a fish, huh?
504
00:28:03,490 --> 00:28:06,530
I think it's too rough. I don't know. I
was going to say, I don't understand how
505
00:28:06,530 --> 00:28:09,950
the fish are going to hang in that. Me
either. And the concept that you throw
506
00:28:09,950 --> 00:28:14,110
this tiny little thing in this massive
ocean that you get a fish always blows
507
00:28:14,110 --> 00:28:15,670
mind. What a nice setup.
508
00:28:16,090 --> 00:28:17,230
You know, we talked last night.
509
00:28:17,630 --> 00:28:18,630
Can you take these off?
510
00:28:18,790 --> 00:28:22,390
I think you're extremely high value,
Sonya Morgan. We talked about that.
511
00:28:22,390 --> 00:28:23,390
get emotional.
512
00:28:24,530 --> 00:28:27,670
I mean, you can't get emotional. Let me
not say that. It's just nice to be seen,
513
00:28:27,770 --> 00:28:31,910
you know. And I really do see you. Your
heart, so big.
514
00:28:32,410 --> 00:28:33,690
Look how welcoming you've been to me.
515
00:28:35,010 --> 00:28:36,570
You're easy to welcome, but thank you.
516
00:28:37,330 --> 00:28:38,490
You stand up for what's right.
517
00:28:38,870 --> 00:28:42,050
And anyways, I want love for you. Yeah,
I need some love. So I called my
518
00:28:42,050 --> 00:28:43,190
girlfriend, Devin.
519
00:28:43,830 --> 00:28:47,630
He is a brilliant matchmaker. She's in
Philadelphia for now. She's moving back
520
00:28:47,630 --> 00:28:48,249
to the city.
521
00:28:48,250 --> 00:28:49,630
My second home. Yeah. My kid goes to
school there.
522
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:51,660
Great guys in Philly, by the way.
523
00:28:51,900 --> 00:28:55,200
The most eligible bachelors in New York
are in the palm of her hand. We're going
524
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:57,580
to go to Philly, and we're going to find
you a man.
525
00:28:57,860 --> 00:29:01,740
Ladies, it was a pleasure. Thank you, my
dear. This was so fun.
526
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:03,400
I really enjoyed that.
527
00:29:03,620 --> 00:29:05,000
I almost died, but I had a very good
time.
528
00:29:07,300 --> 00:29:11,380
Ebony is making me feel so special
because she thinks I'm worthy of meeting
529
00:29:11,380 --> 00:29:16,340
great match, a man I could spend the
rest of my life with, and I'm just
530
00:29:16,340 --> 00:29:17,340
up the attention.
531
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:20,900
While you were fishing, Leah and I put
together... Don't tell them.
532
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,020
Wait, what? Are you surprising them?
Yeah.
533
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:27,580
Sorry, don't. Okay. All right, she
wanted to surprise you. Luann helped me
534
00:29:27,580 --> 00:29:30,860
figure out a special talent I have, and
I'll be showcasing it tonight.
535
00:29:31,420 --> 00:29:35,500
Really? Is it reading people for film?
No, she did not know. Oh, my God.
536
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,980
I feel like when I try doing that, I
stumble over my words. I'm like... You
537
00:29:38,980 --> 00:29:40,940
know? Then you just scream.
538
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,840
So I found some pom -poms for you. I'm
so glad. You want to do your
539
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:44,920
cheerleading? I'll do it. Okay.
540
00:29:45,370 --> 00:29:47,970
Ebony is surprising us with her talent.
It's a spoken word.
541
00:29:48,250 --> 00:29:49,290
Okay. All right.
542
00:29:49,790 --> 00:29:54,390
And Sonia, see that bag next to the
batons? Yes. It's got a red hat.
543
00:29:55,230 --> 00:29:58,650
That's a miming getup. All right, I'll
try that. For you, right?
544
00:30:03,610 --> 00:30:07,150
What happened to doing your push -ups
tonight? We don't want you disqualified
545
00:30:07,150 --> 00:30:10,830
because you didn't do a talent. Okay. I
mean, you doing push -ups and evening
546
00:30:10,830 --> 00:30:12,590
dresses, everything. Oh, that would be
dope.
547
00:30:13,110 --> 00:30:14,110
Okay.
548
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:18,080
My only talent is cooking and making
money. It was up to me. I'd just be the
549
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:19,080
judge or something.
550
00:30:19,220 --> 00:30:24,280
But listen, I want to invite everybody
to my home to watch the election results
551
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:28,000
at my place. An election party. I love
it. Is that November 30th?
552
00:30:28,380 --> 00:30:29,540
You won't be there. You'll be away.
553
00:30:29,900 --> 00:30:32,320
And that's fine. But I'd love if you can
attend.
554
00:30:33,100 --> 00:30:35,160
Why don't we bet on who we think is
going to win?
555
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:36,960
Girl, I ain't betting on that.
556
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:43,580
Is everyone at the table going to early
vote? I've become so disgusted by
557
00:30:43,580 --> 00:30:49,400
politics because I can't stand the way
that each side has become. I don't even
558
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:54,300
want to partake. I struggled with it in
2016 and please don't, don't.
559
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:58,640
come at me with some really self
-righteous but you need to vote because
560
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:02,060
like i wasn't gonna say that i was gonna
actually ask you a question have you
561
00:31:02,060 --> 00:31:05,820
decided whether you were gonna vote or
not or you don't know yet she just said
562
00:31:05,820 --> 00:31:12,710
she's disgusting at this point If I
vote, it's going to be for Biden, but
563
00:31:12,710 --> 00:31:15,870
not because I like him. I just want to
go back to freaking normal.
564
00:31:16,110 --> 00:31:20,250
So you vote, you know, no, no pressure
to you. So you vote because that's the
565
00:31:20,250 --> 00:31:24,770
only way that we as Americans can make a
difference. This is just another way
566
00:31:24,770 --> 00:31:27,890
for Heather to like be morally superior.
567
00:31:28,650 --> 00:31:34,570
Of course, I'm going to vote, but I'm
voicing my dissatisfaction right now.
568
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:37,080
I feel like it's like everyone's in a
cult.
569
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:38,920
I don't feel like I'm in a cult.
570
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:44,440
What? I don't feel like I'm in a cult.
I'm over it. Don't give up on me. She's
571
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:45,440
so mean to me.
572
00:31:45,460 --> 00:31:46,460
God.
573
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:48,200
She's so mean to me, this one.
574
00:31:50,900 --> 00:31:51,900
Coming up.
575
00:31:51,980 --> 00:31:55,340
I just can't stop.
576
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:58,920
Every time I think about her, I just
can't stop crying. I'm not going to be
577
00:31:58,920 --> 00:31:59,920
with it.
578
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:13,540
is working out without being tired.
579
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:14,760
It's effortless.
580
00:32:15,300 --> 00:32:16,520
How many pounds are those?
581
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:18,260
They're small. They're only five pounds.
582
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:19,640
A lot. But I'm on stage.
583
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:22,360
I'm contestant number two.
584
00:32:23,020 --> 00:32:26,500
Yes, my name is Ramona from New York
City.
585
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:28,040
Wait, we're all from New York City.
586
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,820
Beauty pageant 70 is the theme.
587
00:32:31,300 --> 00:32:34,000
I'm really not quite understanding this
theme, but okay.
588
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:35,460
I'm doing the best I can.
589
00:32:35,820 --> 00:32:37,440
Hi, my love. How are you?
590
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,000
Amazing.
591
00:32:39,660 --> 00:32:42,340
Okay, girls. Well, I'm going to get my
hair on.
592
00:32:43,180 --> 00:32:44,180
Hello?
593
00:32:44,780 --> 00:32:45,780
Mom?
594
00:32:46,940 --> 00:32:47,940
Hi.
595
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:51,760
Because of the medication?
596
00:32:55,980 --> 00:32:59,120
We have pulled up a picture of the 70s
of Charlie's Angels, right? And
597
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:02,040
Jacqueline Smith has her hair, like, but
the bangs are shorter.
598
00:33:02,460 --> 00:33:05,460
So I'm like, Mary, do you have your
scissors with you? She's like, no. And I
599
00:33:05,580 --> 00:33:06,580
I'm willing.
600
00:33:37,260 --> 00:33:39,660
I'm going to come directly to Jersey
tomorrow from here.
601
00:33:40,260 --> 00:33:43,800
Oh, okay. I'm going to go. All right.
Love you, Mom. Bye.
602
00:33:48,740 --> 00:33:52,960
You know, I think if my grandmother was
responsive, then I would be running out
603
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:53,960
the door right now.
604
00:33:54,540 --> 00:33:59,100
Also, like, I have a huge family, and if
I leave tonight, I probably can't even
605
00:33:59,100 --> 00:34:01,120
get into her room, so I'm just going to
leave tomorrow.
606
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:13,219
I just can't stop. Every time I think
about her, I just can't stop crying. I'm
607
00:34:13,219 --> 00:34:17,360
not going to be okay with it. It's sad.
I'm going the first thing tomorrow
608
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:20,380
morning. I've got to go. You need to go
straight there.
609
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:27,659
Leah and I are on this heartbreaking
parallel experience of losing our
610
00:34:27,820 --> 00:34:32,179
It breaks my heart for my friend, and it
breaks my heart for me because I know
611
00:34:32,179 --> 00:34:35,480
I'm facing that exact scenario.
612
00:34:36,219 --> 00:34:42,360
You know, a week ago she was cracking
jokes and everything, you know?
613
00:34:44,580 --> 00:34:45,880
Thank you, babe.
614
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:47,239
Thank you.
615
00:34:48,639 --> 00:34:50,380
Oh, God, I wish I was still drinking.
616
00:34:51,340 --> 00:34:54,480
Okay. I was going to do red on the eyes
anyway. Good idea.
617
00:34:55,620 --> 00:34:56,620
Yeah.
618
00:34:57,260 --> 00:34:59,880
I'm obviously not in the best place.
619
00:35:00,430 --> 00:35:04,650
I mean, I actually kind of feel like
this is how I feel, having this giant
620
00:35:04,650 --> 00:35:07,510
on my throat. This is cathartic in a
way.
621
00:35:15,330 --> 00:35:16,330
Okay.
622
00:35:16,790 --> 00:35:17,830
Cheerleading, huh, Luann?
623
00:35:18,250 --> 00:35:19,850
Cheerleading routines for beginners.
624
00:35:21,070 --> 00:35:24,110
Left, right, it's a lotion.
625
00:35:24,860 --> 00:35:29,180
I love it. It's so good, Leah. I think
you should look like this every day.
626
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:30,600
Honestly, I think so, too.
627
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:33,360
I'm going to start wearing this hair all
the time. Or at least this hair.
628
00:35:33,580 --> 00:35:35,220
No, I'm very serious. Yeah, why not?
629
00:35:35,780 --> 00:35:38,200
I'm, like, gagging over myself. This is
so fun.
630
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:39,560
This is going to be fun.
631
00:35:39,980 --> 00:35:43,280
Listen, I'm here for all the costume
parties, baby. I'm a pageant girl. So,
632
00:35:43,300 --> 00:35:48,560
first of all, this whole weekend is an
extended pageant, okay? So, I live for
633
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:49,920
it. I love a costume party.
634
00:35:50,700 --> 00:35:53,660
So, I'm not sure how I'm going to be in
mine.
635
00:35:55,109 --> 00:35:58,050
So you're going to be a mime? I'm just
going to YouTube what mimes do.
636
00:35:58,590 --> 00:35:59,590
Oh, you look adorable.
637
00:36:04,890 --> 00:36:09,970
Oh, I'm actually getting good at this.
638
00:36:10,630 --> 00:36:11,630
Okay.
639
00:36:11,830 --> 00:36:12,830
Yeah, that's good.
640
00:36:13,830 --> 00:36:14,830
Oh, my God, my nose.
641
00:36:15,370 --> 00:36:16,370
Okay, I'm done.
642
00:36:23,500 --> 00:36:25,740
Oh, my God, you look so good. You look
incredible.
643
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:27,220
Thank you. So do you. You look amazing.
644
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:28,600
Thank you. You look so good.
645
00:36:28,780 --> 00:36:32,700
Oh, your eye makeup? Now I see the
vision. Yeah, no, I get it. I totally
646
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:38,040
I'm going to just fix the back here.
Thank you. I've got to tell you, y
647
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:39,700
friend Leah, she's so rude to me.
648
00:36:39,940 --> 00:36:43,280
She's like, don't be so righteous with
me on the beach. I was like, you're the
649
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:46,620
one that just said you're not voting
because you're so disgusted with every
650
00:36:46,620 --> 00:36:49,940
political party, but that's why we have
to vote. When we got back from the
651
00:36:49,940 --> 00:36:52,380
picnic, Heather came in here and, like,
652
00:36:55,170 --> 00:36:58,030
So she was bringing up this thing,
stupid podcast again.
653
00:36:58,330 --> 00:37:01,730
And honestly, Leah, I'm very bored with
it. And I told her to her face. She's
654
00:37:01,730 --> 00:37:02,730
bringing up again.
655
00:37:02,770 --> 00:37:07,450
Yeah. Well, you, she's just like, you
know, she thinks you're being like
656
00:37:07,450 --> 00:37:10,830
her. And I was honest. I said, listen, I
don't think it's a vibe between y 'all.
657
00:37:10,870 --> 00:37:14,130
I just don't like when people are so has
to be a part of every single
658
00:37:14,130 --> 00:37:17,170
conversation and they have to be the
authority of everything. You're the
659
00:37:17,170 --> 00:37:19,990
authority of race. You're the authority
of voting. You're the authority of
660
00:37:19,990 --> 00:37:22,510
sleeping. You're the authority of. And
the family member's dying.
661
00:37:22,870 --> 00:37:25,710
Do you know what I mean? I do, I do. I'm
just like, chill.
662
00:37:26,130 --> 00:37:28,270
And I love you, so I'm going to tell you
the truth. I think she was extremely
663
00:37:28,270 --> 00:37:30,590
bothered by the fact that you said you
weren't sure if you were voting in this
664
00:37:30,590 --> 00:37:31,590
election.
665
00:37:31,730 --> 00:37:36,870
It pains me, though, because the stakes
are so high for me and my existence in
666
00:37:36,870 --> 00:37:40,530
this country around everything, around
COVID relief, around police brutality.
667
00:37:41,190 --> 00:37:42,189
Everything's on the ballot.
668
00:37:42,190 --> 00:37:45,410
Was she talking about me? No. Was she
saying anything about that? Yeah, she
669
00:37:45,410 --> 00:37:48,670
that she felt that she had a
responsibility to vote, and she was
670
00:37:48,670 --> 00:37:50,290
by that. Okay, now we're done.
671
00:37:58,879 --> 00:38:03,900
I think she was extremely bothered by
the fact that you said you weren't sure
672
00:38:03,900 --> 00:38:04,900
you were voting in this election.
673
00:38:05,180 --> 00:38:09,280
She's saying anything about that. Yeah.
She said that she had a responsibility
674
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,200
to vote. She was really bothered by
that.
675
00:38:11,720 --> 00:38:13,540
Now we're done. Now we're done.
676
00:38:15,720 --> 00:38:16,720
Leah.
677
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:18,040
Oops.
678
00:38:19,950 --> 00:38:21,790
I really didn't know I was doing all
that.
679
00:38:22,030 --> 00:38:27,530
Heather, why are you talking about me
and what I said? Are you kidding me? Do
680
00:38:27,530 --> 00:38:30,710
not talk about if I want to vote or not.
It's none of your business. You are
681
00:38:30,710 --> 00:38:31,770
white feminism 101.
682
00:38:32,010 --> 00:38:33,010
You are the problem.
683
00:38:33,410 --> 00:38:37,050
You think you're the authority on
everything. Do not talk about me. Do not
684
00:38:37,050 --> 00:38:39,350
about anything that I say. It's none of
your business.
685
00:38:39,610 --> 00:38:41,510
Why do you have to be in everyone's
business like a Karen?
686
00:38:41,910 --> 00:38:42,930
It's none of your business.
687
00:38:43,250 --> 00:38:45,190
Do you understand what I'm saying? Not
really.
688
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:52,320
Literally. Don't talk to my friend about
me and my personal choices. Are you
689
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:54,840
talking about this friend? I'm talking
about Ebony.
690
00:38:55,460 --> 00:39:01,640
I'm talking about Ebony. Heather, I
don't care about... I don't care about
691
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:02,860
anything you say.
692
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:08,040
But you don't even know me. No, I do,
and what I know I don't like. Just be
693
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:11,620
quiet for one second. You don't have to
be a part of every single conversation.
694
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:13,440
Don't speak.
695
00:39:13,900 --> 00:39:17,200
about my personal political decisions.
696
00:39:17,580 --> 00:39:21,020
You are up in everyone's business,
Heather. You are the problem.
697
00:39:21,500 --> 00:39:23,620
Yes, Karen's like you.
698
00:39:24,240 --> 00:39:27,320
It's just such an outlandish display.
699
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:31,380
Honestly, she sounds like a dingbat. You
all look fabulous.
700
00:39:32,260 --> 00:39:34,740
I'm loving you guys right now. You look
amazing.
701
00:39:34,980 --> 00:39:39,540
All right, let's go. Before we go, I
said what I said. Yeah, you said
702
00:39:39,540 --> 00:39:41,660
that maybe, did you want to address
something with me too?
703
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,890
No, I said the same thing. I said to
you, and I said the same thing to Leah.
704
00:39:45,350 --> 00:39:46,630
She's a fucking dumb bitch.
705
00:39:46,970 --> 00:39:52,030
I don't do the backbiting talking. So I
said that we had a conversation about
706
00:39:52,030 --> 00:39:58,290
voting, and the fact that I feel, as you
feel, that everybody that can vote in
707
00:39:58,290 --> 00:39:59,290
this election should.
708
00:39:59,330 --> 00:40:01,350
I knew the bitch was going to talk about
me.
709
00:40:01,610 --> 00:40:06,410
I also said specifically as a black
woman, the stakes for me are very high,
710
00:40:06,410 --> 00:40:07,410
that's what it is.
711
00:40:07,590 --> 00:40:10,850
This is why I don't like people that are
like, you need to vote in my face.
712
00:40:10,870 --> 00:40:12,090
Okay, these guys are nuts.
713
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:16,660
You don't care if I vote or not. You
want me to vote for who you want me to
714
00:40:16,660 --> 00:40:18,720
for. Just leave me alone.
715
00:40:19,700 --> 00:40:23,160
I want to put on my lipstick. I wish I
could stop screaming. They're giving me
716
00:40:23,160 --> 00:40:25,600
headache. Leave me alone. I'm dealing
with enough.
717
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:28,640
I don't give a shit who's winning or
who's not winning. My grandma is dying.
718
00:40:28,740 --> 00:40:32,000
That's all I care about right now. What
the fuck is going on here?
719
00:40:32,380 --> 00:40:37,780
You went to Ebony and started talking
about it's really irresponsible for Leah
720
00:40:37,780 --> 00:40:39,700
not to vote. First of all, why don't you
just tell me that?
721
00:40:39,950 --> 00:40:43,030
Did I tell you that it was irresponsible
for her not to vote? Did I use those
722
00:40:43,030 --> 00:40:44,790
words? I actually thought that you did.
723
00:40:45,430 --> 00:40:48,910
Heather's harassing you. I did. My
grandmother's dying. Please leave me
724
00:40:49,590 --> 00:40:54,110
Leah is unleashing on Heather the way
she sometimes unleashes at me.
725
00:40:54,470 --> 00:40:56,210
Bitches and everyone's in business.
726
00:40:56,850 --> 00:40:58,910
God, I cannot stand it.
727
00:40:59,110 --> 00:41:02,730
All her frustrations with her
grandmother being ill. She just, like,
728
00:41:02,850 --> 00:41:04,750
When Leah's like this, you don't even
know what to do.
729
00:41:05,010 --> 00:41:07,330
Take a time out. Oh, my God. She's so
out.
730
00:41:09,500 --> 00:41:10,820
So much for a fun night.
731
00:41:11,820 --> 00:41:13,440
So much for a fun night.
732
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:17,160
Y 'all need to talk, and I said that to
you. I said y 'all need to talk.
733
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:21,720
The pageant is going to start without
us. All right, let's go to this party.
734
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:27,980
All right. Do you have your... Will you
get them for me? Please don't leave me
735
00:41:27,980 --> 00:41:29,020
in a van with her. I can't.
736
00:41:29,620 --> 00:41:30,620
No,
737
00:41:31,260 --> 00:41:33,580
you bitch. You want to call me a bitch?
738
00:41:33,860 --> 00:41:34,860
Are you...
739
00:41:41,359 --> 00:41:44,580
Hurry, girls, hurry. Leah's getting out
the car. Is she serious?
740
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:48,600
I'm not going with her. Oh, come on. No,
not going with her. Not going. You want
741
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:52,000
me to take my car? Not going. Get me my
car. I'm going home to see my
742
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:55,020
grandmother. I'm not dealing with this.
Sorry. She's such a loser.
743
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:57,100
You want to go in my car?
744
00:41:57,340 --> 00:42:00,200
I'm not going with Heather. I don't want
to talk to her. I don't want to see
745
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:01,420
her. She's a psycho.
746
00:42:01,820 --> 00:42:02,820
Wow.
747
00:42:05,980 --> 00:42:08,420
Next time on The Real Housewives of New
York City.
748
00:42:09,220 --> 00:42:14,280
Live and in color from the Topping
Roads, this is the Miss New York
749
00:42:15,500 --> 00:42:22,020
I saw that Leah left. She went straight
to her grandmother. Thank you for being
750
00:42:22,020 --> 00:42:23,540
understanding this week with me, sadly.
751
00:42:26,100 --> 00:42:29,220
There's a young woman. She proclaims to
be my sister.
752
00:42:30,620 --> 00:42:33,840
I said something to you, Ebony, that I
want to share with the group. I feel
753
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:35,700
you're ready to preach, and I don't want
to hear preaching right now. No, no,
754
00:42:35,820 --> 00:42:37,680
no. Let her speak and listen.
755
00:42:40,810 --> 00:42:42,650
Because I don't give a f*** about you.
756
00:42:44,850 --> 00:42:48,970
Hey y 'all, happy election day.
757
00:42:49,190 --> 00:42:51,150
You know John F. Kennedy. I know John.
758
00:42:51,470 --> 00:42:52,790
I love John.
759
00:42:53,490 --> 00:42:56,890
My girl Ramona is the master of
manipulation.
760
00:42:57,110 --> 00:42:58,790
And she posted a picture of you.
761
00:42:59,070 --> 00:43:02,030
Do you think she posted a picture with
an agenda?
762
00:43:02,370 --> 00:43:03,550
I feel kind of gullible.
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