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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:03,200 This programme contains strong language 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:04,760 You got asked if you had any feelings towards me... 3 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:07,720 Previously... ..and apparently you didn't say anything. ..a retreat reunion... 4 00:00:07,760 --> 00:00:09,320 I've been left and didn't know what was going on. 5 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:11,120 I don't give a BLEEP. I don't care. 6 00:00:11,160 --> 00:00:14,200 ..proved to be the final straw for Maeve and Joe. 7 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:15,960 Get me home now. 8 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:18,680 You don't tell someone that you love them and don't mean it. 9 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:21,120 ..and... Divarni, you could have walked away. You're a grown man, 10 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:22,600 you know you make your own decisions. 11 00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:25,240 ..after a fiery showdown with husband Divarni... 12 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:26,760 Don't talk to me like I'm a BLEEP kid. 13 00:00:26,800 --> 00:00:30,280 I've tried my best. I'm over it, I'm done. Same shit. 14 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,920 ..Julia-Ruth's fury spread through the group. 15 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:34,240 Why are you so worried, babe? 16 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:36,640 He deserves the best and you haven't given him that. 17 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:38,480 I think you've hurt the boy sitting next to you. 18 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:41,480 Pull your BLEEP up because you're boring as BLEEP, seriously. 19 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:43,280 You're an evil person. 20 00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:46,440 And provoked a surprise reaction from Steven. 21 00:00:46,480 --> 00:00:49,880 People she hasn't directly affected, shut up, it's as simple as that. 22 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:54,320 Tonight... 23 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:56,080 It's beyond my expectations. 24 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:59,000 ..as the couples return to face the experts... 25 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:00,080 I'm getting chills. 26 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:01,520 Yeah! 27 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:05,360 It's so good. ..some reap the rewards from their time away. 28 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:07,160 We're just getting stronger and stronger, 29 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:09,120 and my feelings are massive. 30 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:13,200 But, for others... I've gone week in, 31 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:15,400 week out, trying to make things work. 32 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:18,360 I've wasted my time. ..turmoil from the retreat... 33 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:19,440 What more can I do now? 34 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:22,040 The relationship is in the gutter. You didn't give it a second. 35 00:01:22,080 --> 00:01:24,600 ..continues to build. Like, are you on the verge of leaving? 36 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:26,320 If I'm not giving you what you need, I need to go. 37 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,720 And Grace... This has been the hardest week. 38 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,240 ..is left questioning her marriage to Ashley. 39 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:37,280 We were bringing out the very worst in each other, so I've chosen to... 40 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:50,360 Love you. 41 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:52,600 I like you a little bit, too. 42 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:55,240 Morning. Morning. 43 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:58,560 Thank you very much. You're welcome. 44 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:02,400 Good coffee. Well done, thank you. 45 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:04,160 Always. Call me the Coffee King. 46 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:09,040 So, the dinner party was chaotic, wasn't it? 47 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:12,560 Oh, my gosh, I was not expecting it to go down like that at all. 48 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:14,560 I knew there was going to be drama, 49 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:17,160 but I feel like that was at a whole new level. 50 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:18,240 Yeah. 51 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:22,840 Oh, that was so much drama, wasn't there? 52 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:25,920 It was a lot. I'm just so lucky to be here with you. 53 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:29,040 Yeah, we're strong now, aren't we? I'm happy. I'm happy, too. 54 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:34,520 How are you feeling about today? 55 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:36,400 It's going to be an eventful one, I think. 56 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:38,520 I'm most looking forward to seeing Divarni. 57 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:40,400 I was kind of a bit down, actually, at the dinner party, 58 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,360 because Divarni was next to me and he was, like, quite shaken. 59 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:44,840 I think Julia-Ruth was a lot. 60 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:47,600 She was just so rude. To have Divarni sat next to her, 61 00:02:47,640 --> 00:02:49,800 and that speech, it's so insensitive. 62 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:53,120 Does she not realise everything that she's doing is hurtful to him? 63 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:55,400 For him, his marriage is over 64 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:57,480 and she's just laughing, like nothing's ever happened. 65 00:02:57,520 --> 00:02:59,440 Yeah. She knows, she just doesn't care. 66 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:09,840 The retreat was rocky, for sure. Julia-Ruth still mugging me off, 67 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:13,440 still not taking accountability. But it was just very dramatic, 68 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:14,800 and I felt like she just wanted to be 69 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:16,600 the centre of attention and go out with a bang. 70 00:03:16,640 --> 00:03:18,200 Obviously, the feelings just don't disappear, 71 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:20,680 but she hurt me and, knowing 72 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,600 that my feelings were taken advantage of, 73 00:03:23,640 --> 00:03:24,720 it's come down to this. 74 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:28,440 The marriage can't be salvaged, no. 75 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:31,080 I know I can walk out of this with my head held high. 76 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:39,240 The retreat was intense because I feel like 77 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:41,320 we've just gotten a lot of attention on us. 78 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:44,200 At least this time I got to stand 79 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:47,280 up and do what I needed to do for myself. 80 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:48,560 We've got some closure. 81 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:51,360 I feel proud that I just held my own. 82 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:53,640 I honestly don't think the marriage can be salvaged at all. 83 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:56,000 I don't think we're the right people for each other. 84 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:58,080 Sometimes you just need to know when to walk away from it. 85 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:02,480 I'm ready for another Juicy Roo feast today. 86 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,560 I think it's going to be same vibes as the retreat. 87 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:07,280 I feel like people will definitely be ready 88 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:10,520 to get in their final bits and say their pieces, 89 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:12,040 but I'm definitely standing my ground. 90 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:14,720 I won't take that, so I'm just going 91 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:17,160 to go back to Juicy Roo, back to myself, 92 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:18,440 the person who walked in here. 93 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:26,080 Last night, Steven and I had a bit of a barney. 94 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:28,880 It was a hard dinner party for me because I never argue 95 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,280 with people like I did with Julia-Ruth and, 96 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:33,640 actually, I would have liked a little bit more support from Steven. 97 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:37,120 Julia-Ruth was being nasty to me. 98 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:39,960 When she kept interrupting me, he could have just piped up and said, 99 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:43,120 "Don't talk to my wife that way," or, "Let my wife speak." 100 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:47,320 At that point, I was like, "I'm so done with hiding how I'm feeling." 101 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:50,520 I need him to put me first, make me feel secure, 102 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:52,560 that's what needs to change. 103 00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:54,440 Morning, tea's there. Thanks. 104 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:56,720 I need to see some progress 105 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:59,120 because, if I don't, then I'm wasting my time. 106 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:04,040 I lost my cool with Julia-Ruth, like, she's really wound me up. 107 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,200 I think I just had to say what I needed to say. 108 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:10,120 I could see that you were getting annoyed at me. 109 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:12,040 Just, like, that went on longer than what it should have, 110 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:13,720 that dinner party. And like I said, 111 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:15,760 I was sitting there thinking, "I'm bored of everyone 112 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:17,240 "just, like, chirping in, it's like..." 113 00:05:17,280 --> 00:05:20,000 I was just hoping, more than anything, that you would comfort me, 114 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:22,560 that's what I need in a relationship. 115 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:25,680 Nelly said she wanted me to back her up in her argument with Julia-Ruth. 116 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:26,880 I've always said, 117 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:29,960 if it's between you and that person, I won't get involved, and 118 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:31,600 she's taken it to heart. 119 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:34,040 I don't get why you were so passionate about the situation. 120 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,640 I don't need to be at the show that I've not bought a ticket for. 121 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:38,200 I don't know what to do at this point. 122 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,320 I just feel like I need more from you. 123 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:41,960 Today will be really important for us. 124 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:43,760 Yeah, for sure. 125 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:45,800 I've tried to be as supportive as possible, 126 00:05:45,840 --> 00:05:48,920 but I think the biggest issue for us is actually the reassurance. 127 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:51,440 She's already said, I need to show a little bit more. 128 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:52,960 She does overthink. 129 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:56,280 I'm fully questioning how much I can do to make this girl happy. 130 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:59,400 We're getting close to crunch time with the end of the experiment. 131 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:00,760 I'm starting to mentally check out. 132 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:11,680 How are you feeling today? Are you all right? 133 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:15,720 I'm all right, yeah. I think that that talk we had 134 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:18,200 last night has kind of confused me. 135 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:24,040 I'm upsetting you by doing things that I think are right and noble. 136 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:28,400 Mm-hm. And I'm starting to just feel really unheard... 137 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:29,640 ..in the relationship. 138 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:32,120 I've been anxious this morning. 139 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:35,560 Grace and I are arguing over April, basically. 140 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:37,240 So, in the games that we play in the retreat, 141 00:06:37,280 --> 00:06:39,720 April has listed me, and then Grace has taken 142 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:42,120 a little bit of insecurity with that because, April and I, 143 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:44,120 we do get on well. 144 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:46,280 We had a good week until last night. 145 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:49,240 The initial reason we started arguing was 146 00:06:49,280 --> 00:06:51,680 because April consistently chooses Ash, 147 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:53,200 no matter what the question. 148 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:56,400 Who she'd rather be matched with? Who's the funniest? It's always Ash. 149 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:57,480 It is just a game, 150 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:00,040 but it does come across as a little bit threatening. 151 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:02,440 I asked Ash, "Could we tackle it together?" 152 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:04,080 Ash did not attack the problem together. 153 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:06,520 At the end of the dinner party, 154 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:08,040 April asked me what was wrong. 155 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:09,400 I just explained to April, 156 00:07:09,440 --> 00:07:11,320 Grace feels uncomfortable and I just don't feel 157 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:13,440 like we can have that friendship 158 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:15,680 that we could have had because of that. 159 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:18,280 I've then told Grace that it's happened, 160 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:22,200 and Grace has hit the roof and she's pissed off at me for doing it. 161 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:24,760 They had a conversation. Why did I have no input here? 162 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:26,600 Like, this was my issue. It was me being disrespected. 163 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:28,800 Why have you two squashed it between the two of you? 164 00:07:28,840 --> 00:07:30,360 And so I was annoyed. 165 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:33,760 We should have dealt with it together and I 166 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:35,400 apologise for shooting the gun. Mm. 167 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:39,400 I understand that you wanted to fix the April situation, 168 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:42,080 but it was the complete opposite of what I asked you to do. 169 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:46,280 I think you do, sort of, genuinely, just think your way is 170 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:48,560 the right way, and I need to get used to your way, 171 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:51,920 otherwise, this relationship will never work, 172 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:54,360 and that's what I find a bit challenging. 173 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:55,880 I'm not sure you trust me. 174 00:07:56,920 --> 00:07:59,040 You're constantly questioning 175 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:02,040 my character with the things that you're upset with. 176 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:04,760 Um... 177 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,400 ..we both came here for marriage. It is hard work. 178 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:13,720 Is it this hard work? I don't know. 179 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:16,520 I don't think either of us want to leave, 180 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:18,800 but we're both starting to feel like we don't have a choice. Hmm. 181 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:24,160 I'm feeling really torn going into the commitment ceremony today. 182 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:26,880 This is the hardest decision I've ever had to make. 183 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:30,160 I really, really like Grace. 184 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,080 I really want to make it work, but there's always something 185 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:37,160 I'm doing that needs to be argued with, or picked up on, or attacked. 186 00:08:37,200 --> 00:08:40,920 We're both coming at this from just completely different angles. 187 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:43,080 He is very focused on what he believes 188 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:45,640 is the right thing to be, and how he should be as a husband, 189 00:08:45,680 --> 00:08:48,480 and not what I'm literally telling him. 190 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:52,280 I'm upset. I am the person who... 191 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:57,520 ..is telling you it wasn't right for me, as your wife. 192 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:00,480 I don't know where my head's at. 193 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:03,520 I feel emotional about today's commitment ceremony. 194 00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:06,920 It's absolutely OK to walk away 195 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:09,400 if this isn't the right relationship, 196 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:11,040 and if this is damaging, 197 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:12,280 but it's also OK... 198 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,640 ..if I still feel like there's a push I could give. 199 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,000 Ash and I do have feelings for each other... 200 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:22,480 ..but when is the right time... 201 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:25,040 ..to say, "Enough is enough"? 202 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:06,080 Welcome to your penultimate commitment ceremony. 203 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:09,360 This is one of the last opportunities 204 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:11,560 for you to really open up to us, 205 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:15,640 and share your thoughts and feelings about your marriages. 206 00:10:15,680 --> 00:10:19,760 So, as always, be honest and vulnerable, 207 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:21,560 and make the most of your time with us, 208 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:23,800 while you still have the opportunity. 209 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:31,320 First up to the couch... 210 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:35,480 ..Abigail and John. 211 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:41,920 It's like I'm renewing my vows... 212 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:45,440 ..with my wedding shoes as well. Aw. 213 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:47,240 This is good, you look good. Thank you. 214 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:49,880 Thank you. So, how are you both? 215 00:10:49,920 --> 00:10:52,160 Yeah, we're good. We had, like, a great week. 216 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:54,000 The retreat was nice because I feel like we just, kind of, 217 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:57,400 like, opened up a lot more, and we just, kind of, had fun. 218 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:00,840 OK. Yeah, I had a bit of a moment where we were looking around 219 00:11:00,880 --> 00:11:02,280 the house that we had at the couple's retreat 220 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:04,800 and I was like, "Oh, the last time we were looking around 221 00:11:04,840 --> 00:11:07,080 "a villa was in the Seychelles on our honeymoon," 222 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:08,920 and we were strangers then, weren't we? 223 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:10,120 And now to kind of think, 224 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:12,760 "Oh, look, there's been so much growth in that time." 225 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:15,600 We're just so comfortable with each other, aren't we? 226 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:17,080 Communication, we talk about 227 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:20,000 what we want after the experiment, even now, you know? 228 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:23,640 We want a family and we're speaking about that, even now, you know? 229 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:27,960 So, you've already talked about having children with each other? 230 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:32,120 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I feel so connected to Abi. 231 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:35,600 We just know, like, we're a team and I've never had a we 232 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:39,320 and I've never had an us, and, when we speak about a family, 233 00:11:39,360 --> 00:11:41,160 I just thought that might pass me by. 234 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:43,520 And now, because of Abi, all of that is on the table... 235 00:11:43,560 --> 00:11:45,560 Wow. ..and that's an amazing, amazing place to be. 236 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:48,280 How does that feel? 237 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:50,320 You spent all those years single. 238 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:53,680 At certain points, you had given up hope. Yeah. 239 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:57,400 You now meet someone who you're talking about having children with. 240 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:00,160 Hmm-hmm. I'm getting chills, to be fair. 241 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:03,600 Honestly, like, it's beyond my expectations. 242 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:04,760 Wow. 243 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:11,720 Wow. OK, Abi, I know the hope that you had. 244 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:16,320 How does it feel to know that that hope is being realised? 245 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:19,120 It's just incredible. I've never been in love. 246 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:21,720 I've never, kind of, felt that way before. 247 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:23,840 You just said you've never been in love. 248 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:26,400 Are you in love now? 249 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:33,520 I think I, 100%, I have fallen and I have massive, 250 00:12:33,560 --> 00:12:35,480 strong feelings for John, 251 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:38,080 and I know that I will be in love with him, 252 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:39,480 it's just a matter of time. 253 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:48,000 So, I'm curious, Abi, are you concerned with saying that? 254 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:50,600 I'm not concerned with saying it, but I want John to know 255 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:52,800 that, when I say it, then that's 100% for life. 256 00:12:52,840 --> 00:12:56,040 When I say it, that's it, that is, literally, for definite. 257 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:58,440 So can I play devil's advocate? 258 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:01,320 Do you think that you've put the cart 259 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:04,360 before the horse discussing a child, 260 00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:07,680 but not confirming that you love your partner? 261 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:10,240 I see what you mean, 262 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:13,360 but I can definitely see John being an amazing dad, 263 00:13:13,400 --> 00:13:16,240 so I feel comfortable to having those discussions. 264 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:19,360 Having a kid is such a big topic, you need to be on the same page, 265 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:20,720 and, even at the wedding, we had 266 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:22,760 this discussion about whether we wanted kids. 267 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:24,160 But it sounds like you've progressed 268 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:27,160 that to not just do you want kids, but you've said, 269 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:29,160 "Do you want kids with me?" Yeah. 270 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:35,720 I see qualities in Abi that I would want in the mother of my child, 271 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:37,520 but we also know we have to have 272 00:13:37,560 --> 00:13:39,760 all of this right before we have children. 273 00:13:39,800 --> 00:13:43,320 OK. Yeah, family is a massive part of our lives. 274 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:45,920 That's why homestays will be such a key turning point, 275 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:48,400 because we'll be able to see how each other interacts, 276 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:51,080 whether we would be able to integrate our lives. 277 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:53,160 I hoped that I would meet my forever person, 278 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:55,640 that's why I came here, and, like, obviously, 279 00:13:55,680 --> 00:13:57,480 in the past, I'd never met that person. 280 00:13:57,520 --> 00:13:59,760 So, I felt like that wasn't for me. 281 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:01,280 But, after meeting John, 282 00:14:01,320 --> 00:14:03,920 like, he has all the qualities that I've ever wanted, 283 00:14:03,960 --> 00:14:05,320 and the way he supports me, 284 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:08,920 and makes me come out of my shell, and allow me to be myself. 285 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:10,960 All right, fair. We push you 286 00:14:11,000 --> 00:14:15,000 to think about this relationship because we want it to be right. 287 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:16,680 It feels good, it looks good, right? Yeah. 288 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:20,160 But we just want to ensure that it is good, right? 289 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:24,080 So, let's go to a decision 290 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:26,720 and we're going to start with John. 291 00:14:28,040 --> 00:14:30,400 I'm just having the absolute time of my life with you. 292 00:14:30,440 --> 00:14:32,520 Every single day gets better, 293 00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:37,240 I'm more excited now to think about what happens beyond this experiment. 294 00:14:37,280 --> 00:14:41,080 Every day is amazing and so much more than I asked for, 295 00:14:41,120 --> 00:14:43,920 so, with that being said, I'm writing stay. 296 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:45,640 Yay. Great stuff. 297 00:14:49,200 --> 00:14:52,200 Each week, it keeps getting better and better between us, 298 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:54,800 and I'm just really excited about our future 299 00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:57,640 and looking forward to, like, knowing even more about you, 300 00:14:57,680 --> 00:14:59,560 and, yeah, just our future together. 301 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:03,280 So, and that's why I have decided to write stay. 302 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:04,360 Aw. 303 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:10,440 I love that you're clapping for each other. 304 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:13,080 It's so good. It's so good. It's so good. 305 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:15,280 I'll tell you what, keep learning about each other, 306 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:18,320 keep loving each other. Thank you. Thank you. 307 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:20,880 Thank you so much. Thank you. Well done. Good stuff. 308 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:30,760 Next up to the couch... 309 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:36,280 ..Nelly and Steven. 310 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:44,280 Hey, guys. Good to see the two of you. 311 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:48,280 How are you doing? 312 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:50,120 It's been a testing week again, 313 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:53,480 um... OK. We had a couple of disagreements, to say the least. 314 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:58,520 Mm. I felt one of them was extremely petty at the dinner party, 315 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:00,160 Nelly's whole argument with Julia-Ruth, 316 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:01,840 and I was sitting there thinking, 317 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:03,280 "Oh, my God, my name's come up again. 318 00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:05,000 "This is going on longer than what it should. 319 00:16:05,040 --> 00:16:07,880 "We're getting nowhere fast." I was already frustrated at that. 320 00:16:07,920 --> 00:16:10,120 We could definitely see that you were getting quite frustrated. 321 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:13,800 Mm. So, Nelly, what's your take on the argument? 322 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:15,880 Because I know that it was quite important 323 00:16:15,920 --> 00:16:20,840 for you to share with Julia-Ruth that you were upset about her saying 324 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:24,120 that she has an attraction to Steven. 325 00:16:24,160 --> 00:16:26,280 You were feeling quite emotional. 326 00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:28,480 What are your thoughts about that? 327 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:31,000 You're allowed to be attracted to Steven. 328 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:33,040 What bothers me is that - what was your plan? 329 00:16:33,080 --> 00:16:36,040 Was your plan to get him for partner swap and then turn his head, 330 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:38,000 and then Steven can say to me, 331 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:39,600 "Sorry, I've got feelings for Julia-Ruth, 332 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:40,680 "now - see you later, Nelly"? 333 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:43,040 Like, in my head, I'm thinking, if that's your plan, 334 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:45,320 and it worked, I don't think you've considered how 335 00:16:45,360 --> 00:16:48,280 I would feel in that moment. She just didn't feel very sorry to me. 336 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:51,080 I wonder if there was a part of you 337 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:53,720 that wanted, maybe, more reassurance from Steven. 338 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:56,040 I think you're right. 339 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:59,320 I would have liked more support, because I'm stood there defending 340 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:00,920 and fighting for our relationship 341 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:03,280 and feeling disrespected in that moment. 342 00:17:03,320 --> 00:17:06,560 It was annoying when Julia-Ruth was interrupting, 343 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:09,000 just maybe, like, a, "Let my wife speak," or something. 344 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:11,000 Just, maybe, a little bit more support. 345 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:13,200 That's what I need, and that's what I'm used to, 346 00:17:13,240 --> 00:17:15,280 and that's what I want from a relationship. 347 00:17:15,320 --> 00:17:18,360 I would have liked to have seen more support of Nelly 348 00:17:18,400 --> 00:17:19,840 because, actually, what she's saying 349 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:23,160 is, "This could potentially threaten our relationship." 350 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:25,600 But I wanted them to talk and hash things out, 351 00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:28,840 and I thought, in that moment, it didn't need other people. 352 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:30,880 I don't want to jump into something, 353 00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:33,480 then I feel like I'm the aggressor. 354 00:17:33,520 --> 00:17:36,560 But you looked very angry, even in that moment. 355 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:38,040 It looked like you were irritated 356 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:39,800 that Nelly was bringing this up again. 357 00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:41,280 What we saw was the, kind of, like, "Ugh." 358 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:46,200 Then it makes me think, "Why am I doing all this fighting?" 359 00:17:46,240 --> 00:17:47,600 And that's why it felt like - 360 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:50,440 you were really fighting for the relationship... Yeah. 361 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:54,320 ..and I wasn't seeing that reassurance from you, Steven. 362 00:17:54,360 --> 00:17:59,040 Something around the fact that, "There's no threat here. 363 00:17:59,080 --> 00:18:01,120 "You're the person that I want to be with. 364 00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:04,720 "I know where my heart is," and that's usually what you expect. Mm. 365 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:06,360 And I think that's been my biggest problem, 366 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:08,080 because last week, on the sofa, I said, 367 00:18:08,120 --> 00:18:09,920 "I'm only here for one person and one person only, 368 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:11,120 "like, I'm married to Nelly." 369 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:13,360 And I think me saying that, in my head, 370 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:15,000 would have been sufficient enough. 371 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:17,000 I'm here for Nelly and I've said that. 372 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:19,000 But you just need to tell me. 373 00:18:19,040 --> 00:18:21,160 And I've said to Steven that I do need more from you. 374 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:24,280 The relationship, as it is, wouldn't be enough for me on the outside. 375 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:25,360 What is the point? 376 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:28,120 I need to see actual progress and start to feel, again, 377 00:18:28,160 --> 00:18:30,000 like I'm in an actual relationship. 378 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:31,800 Because at the moment you don't feel like you are? 379 00:18:31,840 --> 00:18:33,720 I feel like sometimes we just co-exist. 380 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:37,000 We're getting towards the end of the experiment. 381 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:38,880 I'm not just going to go cruising through, 382 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:41,240 it's not what I'm here for. I do want to see progress. 383 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:44,280 I can provide that. But if it hasn't started that way, 384 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:48,440 it can't just be like, right, boom, let's go and slap on the PDA. 385 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:49,800 But it's not about PDA, 386 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:51,680 it's feeling like it's more of a relationship, 387 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:53,280 feeling more secure with one another. 388 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:54,880 It's not just about PDA for me. 389 00:18:54,920 --> 00:18:58,760 I'm still being affectionate, but not to the extent that I know I can. 390 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:01,960 I just struggle to understand that, if you can be more 391 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:03,520 affectionate, why aren't you being? 392 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:08,000 It's just, as I say, it's more because that intimate, 393 00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:10,280 playful level never started that way. 394 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:11,920 But it did start that way on the honeymoon. 395 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:15,200 It wasn't like that much, like, I'd put my arm around her, 396 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:16,720 I'd give her a kiss, I'd hold her hand, 397 00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:18,640 I'd tell her that she looked beautiful. 398 00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:19,880 But I said a few weeks back, 399 00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:21,640 I didn't want another physical relationship, 400 00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:22,840 I wanted emotional first. 401 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:24,560 I'm not even hearing the emotional stuff. 402 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:28,760 I mean, if your wife is needing your support in a public environment 403 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:30,640 where she's having a conflict 404 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:33,360 with someone else and she's not getting it, 405 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:37,040 well, that's not establishing an emotional connection either. 406 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,360 What about just putting your hand on her back 407 00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:42,320 or just saying, "It's OK, babe, I've got you"? Yeah. 408 00:19:44,920 --> 00:19:47,440 So, it sounds like there's a lot for you to reflect on, 409 00:19:47,480 --> 00:19:51,640 in terms of communication and actually showing up as a unit. 410 00:19:51,680 --> 00:19:54,480 Yeah, I want to be a team. I want to tackle the solutions together 411 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:58,560 and not work against each other. What I still don't get, 412 00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:01,880 I'm like, how are you not fuming at Julia-Ruth? Because I am. 413 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:06,080 I do need to show a lot more. 414 00:20:06,120 --> 00:20:08,520 The communication does need to happen more, for sure. 415 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:14,280 All right, let's go to a decision. 416 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,200 Nelly, let's start with you. 417 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:21,440 Based on this week... 418 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:24,560 ..it can feel like we're just co-existing... 419 00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:28,400 ..and that's not what I want, it's not what I'm here for. 420 00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:32,480 I know what I need and I know what I deserve. 421 00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:37,480 The relationship, as it is, isn't enough and I do need more. 422 00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:40,400 And if you can't give it, 423 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:41,640 then what's the point? 424 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:56,120 I know what I need and I know what I deserve. 425 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:01,080 The relationship, as it is, isn't enough and I do need more. 426 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:05,240 And if you can't give it, then what's the point? 427 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:14,080 We're coming towards the end and I really need to see progress. 428 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,800 But I do think there is something there, 429 00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:19,440 and I just think, 430 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:23,040 if we both really put the work in, it could be something amazing. 431 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,600 So, for that reason, I've decided to... 432 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:28,680 ..stay. 433 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:37,480 Thank you. Nelly. Steven, what's your decision? 434 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,840 I would have liked to have been more progress 435 00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:42,480 following on from last week, for sure. 436 00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:44,760 I know I need to provide more, 437 00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:46,680 but I'm obviously willing to make it work, 438 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:48,680 because I do care for you, I do like you, 439 00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:50,680 so I've put stay... 440 00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:53,600 ..for now. 441 00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:56,680 For now? 442 00:21:58,040 --> 00:21:59,960 Are you on the verge of leaving? 443 00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:07,280 This is the last week where things need to click for both of us. 444 00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:11,160 If I can't provide for Nelly what she needs 445 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:12,840 for me, and, sort of, vice versa... 446 00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:15,440 ..then I'd have to... 447 00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:17,800 ..tap out of the experiment. 448 00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:23,440 I have asked you so many times, "What do I need to give you?" 449 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:25,000 And you've said, you've not said anything. 450 00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,320 Just be yourself, that's all I'm asking. But I am being myself. 451 00:22:27,360 --> 00:22:28,960 I'm being completely myself. 452 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:30,640 To become a team, you need to work in unison, 453 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:34,560 so stay for now means we've got a week. 454 00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:36,280 If I'm not giving you what you need, I need to go. 455 00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:41,120 I don't really know what else I could say to add onto that. 456 00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:43,480 That's OK. It sounds like it's quite a shock 457 00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:45,440 for you to hear what Steven is saying. 458 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:49,120 If it doesn't work out after this week, then he's going. 459 00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,280 I didn't expect the stay for now. 460 00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:56,320 I think I'm just processing it all. 461 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,880 OK, so it sounds like this is an important week for the two of you. 462 00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:03,080 All right. Thanks. Thank you very much. Thank you. 463 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:05,240 Right. 464 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,760 I didn't understand the stay for now 465 00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:10,800 and I feel a bit blindsided by it. 466 00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:13,000 If you want to leave, leave. I don't want to be a mug, 467 00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:14,080 I'm not that girl. 468 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,160 My feelings for Nelly right now are diminishing. 469 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,640 Feels like anything I do isn't good enough. 470 00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:23,880 What's bothering me the most is that I'm the only 471 00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:26,120 one who's ever got homework in this marriage. 472 00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:27,680 There's two people involved in this 473 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:29,720 and I think something needs to change drastically 474 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:33,360 because, pretty soon, I'll be dropping my wedding ring off. 475 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:36,120 Next up on the couch... 476 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:39,240 ..Davide and Keye. 477 00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:47,160 Hello. Hello. Hello. How are we doing? 478 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,080 Good, how are you? We're good. How was last week? 479 00:23:50,120 --> 00:23:52,640 It was really good. Do you know what? Our communication is 480 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:54,280 just getting so much better, like, 481 00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:56,480 we're just getting stronger and stronger. 482 00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:58,240 Above all, this week, it was just great. 483 00:23:58,280 --> 00:23:59,960 It was good to, even 484 00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:03,360 separate from him for the day, to be with the boys. 485 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,560 And then, he just comes to me and tells me like, 486 00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,200 "Oh, I love you so much," I was like, "Thank you," 487 00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:11,120 but it's great. No, he makes me feel very seen, 488 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:12,560 and I'm not even doing anything special, 489 00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:15,840 I'm just being me. It's definitely something special. 490 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:21,760 What's clear here is you're both very comfortable with one another. 491 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:26,080 We are getting to the end very soon, so are you worried how 492 00:24:26,120 --> 00:24:28,440 it'll work outside of the experiment? 493 00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:31,400 Yeah, it is slightly nerve-racking, just because you are 494 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,760 so accustomed to waking up every single morning together. 495 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:38,880 But we are a 30-minute taxi ride away from one another, 496 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:40,600 so he is basically my neighbour. 497 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:42,600 But that 30 minutes is still very different 498 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,760 to sharing an apartment together, 499 00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:47,760 so it's natural to have some form of anxiety. 500 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:49,600 But there's also excitement, because there's 501 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:52,760 so many thousands of firsts that we're going to get to do. 502 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:53,960 Like, the excitement of both 503 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:57,400 of us being at work all week, and then having to plan a date, 504 00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:58,880 and surprising each other, like, there's 505 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:02,040 so many fun firsts that come from that as well, 506 00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:04,280 so apprehensive but excited. 507 00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,440 Yeah. And we're confident we're going to make it work. 508 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:08,280 I know there'll be times where we're not going 509 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:09,760 to be able to wake up with each other, 510 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:11,720 but I'm a phone call away if you need me. 511 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:16,640 You know, I'll say this, from my time in this experiment, 512 00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:19,240 I believe that you two affirm 513 00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,960 each other better.. 514 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,400 ..than anyone I've ever seen. 515 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,760 Thank you. Thank you so much. You're making me cry. Yeah. 516 00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:28,920 And I think that you've been challenged, 517 00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:32,800 and I think you've met these challenges phenomenally well. 518 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:34,720 You should be incredibly proud. 519 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:36,280 Thank you. Thank you so much. 520 00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:38,640 You know, I waited before I said this 521 00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:40,480 because I wanted to see if it was real - 522 00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,000 and it's clear that it's real. 523 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:43,920 And I think we should just go right to a decision. 524 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:45,080 Thank you. Thank you so much. 525 00:25:45,120 --> 00:25:46,320 All right. Davide. 526 00:25:48,120 --> 00:25:49,960 You are doing things to me 527 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,520 that I didn't know that I could even think about. 528 00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:56,960 I never had anyone praise me for being me. 529 00:25:57,000 --> 00:26:00,120 I've never felt that special... 530 00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:01,480 ..by anyone. 531 00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:07,200 And I, right now, really can't see my life without you in it. 532 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:11,400 You're the calm in the storm and you'll always be my anchor. 533 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,440 I've decided to stay. 534 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:20,240 You, on our honeymoon, 535 00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,560 you promised that every day would be a honeymoon 536 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:25,320 and you have yet to break that promise. 537 00:26:25,360 --> 00:26:28,080 You just bring so much light and joy into my life, 538 00:26:28,120 --> 00:26:30,680 and I can't imagine going through anything without you, 539 00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:32,240 and do you know what? I wouldn't want to. 540 00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:34,080 I can't wait to start this next chapter 541 00:26:34,120 --> 00:26:36,480 of our lives together and raise 542 00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,800 a horde of irritating children with you. 543 00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:40,920 I know, right? For that reason, 544 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:42,200 I will stay. Aw. 545 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,200 Excellent job. Thank you so much. Thank you, guys. 546 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:53,440 Thank you so much. Thank you. I'm so happy for you guys. Yay! Yay! 547 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:01,600 Yay! 548 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:08,160 And next up on the couch... 549 00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:13,040 ..we have Maeve. 550 00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,800 Oh, honey. Oh, God. 551 00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:28,080 I just really want to commend you on your courage 552 00:27:28,120 --> 00:27:32,760 and resilience and strength for coming here, once again, 553 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:35,040 third time, by yourself. Yeah. 554 00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,720 So, you had a visit from Joe? Yes. 555 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,800 How did that play out from your perspective? 556 00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:44,720 Um, I probably didn't get... 557 00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:48,880 ..the answers that I deserved. 558 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,360 I'm going round and round and round in circles. 559 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:55,080 But, when someone tells me that it's 100% done and walks off, 560 00:27:55,120 --> 00:27:57,840 I'm not chasing after anyone. I ain't doing that. 561 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:01,800 I understand, in that conversation with Joe, 562 00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:06,920 you heard some bits of information about how he feels about you. 563 00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,360 What did you take from that? Not a lot. 564 00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:12,560 I asked him, "How do you feel about me?" 565 00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,720 And he couldn't give a definite answer, still. 566 00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:16,120 If you love someone, 567 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:18,920 you're either, it's either a yes or a no, in my eyes. Hmm. 568 00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:22,160 And if you can't answer that question, then it's a no, innit? 569 00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:26,400 I would love to provide information for you about Joe. 570 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:28,600 He's written you a letter. 571 00:28:30,360 --> 00:28:33,440 I'd like to read it to you, if that's OK. Yeah. 572 00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:47,680 "Maeve. I'd like to say thank you 573 00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:50,960 "for your amazing support during this process. 574 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:52,680 "You know better than anyone how I've been 575 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,440 "so up and down during this crazy experience, 576 00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:56,800 "and I can't thank you enough 577 00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,320 "for being such a strong partner through it all. 578 00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:03,640 "I came into this process for the right reasons. 579 00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:06,720 "I wanted to get married and meet my forever person, 580 00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,840 "and, once it was clear that that wasn't the case, 581 00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:12,840 "my time in the experiment was done, there and then. 582 00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:16,600 "My only regret is 583 00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:20,120 "that we have clearly left things in a negative way. 584 00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:23,160 "But I'm adamant, both my decision to leave, 585 00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:24,720 "and my absence here today, is 586 00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,120 "the best thing for me personally, and our relationship. 587 00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:33,400 "You are an absolutely amazing person with a heart of gold... 588 00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:37,320 "..and I'm sure there is a very lucky man out there 589 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,520 "that will be the right person for you. 590 00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:42,920 "My honesty about my feelings 591 00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:44,920 "is obviously being questioned right now... 592 00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,560 "..but, when I told you I loved you, I genuinely meant it. 593 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:53,920 "I wish you nothing but the best going forward. 594 00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:56,840 "Joe. Kiss." 595 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,600 It's hard because I don't know. 596 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:07,480 I don't actually know what he's telling me was the truth or not. 597 00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:12,040 It is a shitty thing to say if you don't actually mean it. 598 00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:14,840 When I love someone, I love them hard, and that's who I am, 599 00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,320 and I'm not changing that for anyone. 600 00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:19,840 I did feel heartbroken this week, 601 00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:21,840 but, like, don't say it if you don't mean it. 602 00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:25,000 Yeah. I deserve better, I deserve answers, 603 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:29,040 and I know that I deserve respect, so it's not OK. 604 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,920 What did you learn from the relationship with Joe 605 00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:37,120 that, perhaps, you'll take into your next relationship? 606 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:40,640 I can be vulnerable and it's OK to feel what I'm feeling. 607 00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,320 Like, I used to put everyone else, like, before me, 608 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:46,120 but now I think actually, like, my feelings are valid, too. 609 00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:48,280 I just feel like I've grown as a person. 610 00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:49,800 I'm sound now, do you know what I mean? 611 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:51,840 Like, I've grown so much. 612 00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:53,520 I might not be going out with a husband, 613 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:58,000 but I'm going out with friends that actually love me 614 00:30:58,040 --> 00:30:59,800 and that just means so much to me. 615 00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:02,680 Is there anything you'd like to say 616 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,800 to this wonderful group of people here, Maeve? 617 00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:10,040 Don't know if I can. 618 00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:18,280 Um, I just want to say thank you for everything, 619 00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:20,320 and especially feeding me the past two weeks 620 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:22,200 because I have not been food shopping. 621 00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,280 Honestly, like, I actually love yous from the bottom 622 00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:28,200 of me heart and just thank you 623 00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,120 for your support throughout everything. 624 00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:37,840 Like, I actually love yous so much and I can't say anything else. 625 00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:39,160 We love you, Maeve. Well done. 626 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,120 Well, I guess all that's left to do is show us your decision. 627 00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:54,840 I've decided to 628 00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:55,880 leave. 629 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:03,640 Thank you. Maeve. 630 00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:06,960 Well, would you like to say goodbye to all of your buddies? 631 00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:08,120 Come here, then. 632 00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:14,720 Aw, it's just the beginning, gal. It's not goodbye. 633 00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:15,800 It's the beginning. 634 00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:18,440 Love you. Group hug. 635 00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,160 I have learnt so much about myself. 636 00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:25,880 I've learnt that I'm a lot stronger than what I thought I ever was. 637 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:27,080 Oh, Nell. 638 00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,520 I'm really heartbroken and sad that I'm leaving today. 639 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:35,120 I didn't expect my marriage to end like this... 640 00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:37,760 ..but I'm not giving up on love. 641 00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:48,000 But I cannot wait to see me little boy, 642 00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:50,280 and I'm so ready for the next chapter of me life. 643 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:04,400 OK, next up to the couch, Rebecca and Bailey. 644 00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:13,400 Hello. Hello. Hello. Good to see the two of you. 645 00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:17,800 Lovely look, Rebecca. Thank you. Guys, how has your week been? 646 00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:19,400 Really good, actually. Yeah, really good. 647 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:20,800 I have to say, 648 00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:24,240 observing you at the dinner party, I was literally just smiling. 649 00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:27,000 What's really beautiful about the two of you 650 00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:29,640 is just seeing how secure you both are 651 00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:32,120 to speak to others... Yeah. ..but you still have a way 652 00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:33,840 of making sure each other knows that, 653 00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,920 you know, "I still got you." And there's the little kisses, 654 00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:39,040 the way that you glance at each other. 655 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:42,280 It literally is a perfect romantic story... 656 00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:43,720 Aw, thank you. ..and it's so beautiful to watch. 657 00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:45,840 It does feel like that, doesn't it? 658 00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:47,760 Yeah, I think we both are very secure 659 00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:49,400 in ourselves as individuals... Right. 660 00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:51,120 ..but we're both very secure together, 661 00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:53,480 so I love that we're both around the room, 662 00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:54,800 and speaking to everybody else, 663 00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:57,200 but we know that each other's there, like, it just feels comfortable. 664 00:33:57,240 --> 00:33:59,080 Excellent. 665 00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:01,920 We are getting to the end of the experiment very soon, 666 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:06,560 so any discussions around how it will work outside of the experiment? 667 00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:09,120 We haven't got a solid plan, I think that's probably 668 00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:11,600 what gives us that little bit of anxiety, doesn't it? 669 00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:13,480 I love spending all of my time with Bec 670 00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,120 and, like, I love waking up to her every day, 671 00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:16,360 and I feel like it's just that part 672 00:34:16,400 --> 00:34:18,840 that we know we're not going to have that. Yeah. 673 00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:20,000 The intensity. 674 00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,040 We're very affectionate and not waking 675 00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,560 up with each other every day is what we're worried about, 676 00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:27,480 but we're really committed to each other. 677 00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,720 I've got no doubt that we'll put absolutely 678 00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:33,160 everything into it to make it work. Sure. Yeah. I'm confident in us. 679 00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:38,160 I am confident we'll be fine. It's just the only real worry, 680 00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:39,560 I guess, which is a good, 681 00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,960 I mean, a really great place to be, isn't it? Yeah. We can't complain. 682 00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:46,440 And I can't wait to see us back at each other's homes. 683 00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:47,520 And hopefully there's meeting 684 00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:49,360 Bluebelle one day as well, which would be good, 685 00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:51,120 I've started to picture how that's going to go, 686 00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,160 and, yeah, it's really exciting, I guess. 687 00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:55,760 You just slipped in there, 688 00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:57,520 "I'm going to introduce you to my child." 689 00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:00,040 I know she'll love you and I know you'll love her. 690 00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:01,440 It's the next big thing for us. 691 00:35:02,720 --> 00:35:06,160 Excellent. Well, I am super confident in both of you. 692 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:07,240 I am so confident 693 00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,840 that I'm going to ask you right away what your decisions are. 694 00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:12,640 I think we've both got similar worries about 695 00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:16,240 what happens after this, but it's because we're 696 00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:19,240 so in this together now and we don't want it to end, 697 00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:20,680 but I know that we will both try 698 00:35:20,720 --> 00:35:23,600 and we'll put absolutely everything into it to make it work, 699 00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:25,000 so I'm choosing to stay. 700 00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:33,640 Bailey, what's your decision? Obviously an easy one. 701 00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:35,200 Absolutely obsessed with you. 702 00:35:35,240 --> 00:35:38,520 I said I love you ages ago, but it has just grown and grown and grown, 703 00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:41,360 so, of course, I'm going to stay. 704 00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,440 OK. Have a good week, guys. Thanks very much. Cheers, guys. 705 00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,400 Well done, you guys. Thank you, guys. 706 00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:04,080 Next up on the couch, if we could have... 707 00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:06,920 ..Leigh and Leah come up. 708 00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:15,720 Hello. Hello. Hiya. 709 00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:20,200 Ladies, how do we feel? 710 00:36:20,240 --> 00:36:22,560 Good. Yeah, I feel good. 711 00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:24,600 Yeah, I feel like we're a lot closer this week. 712 00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:27,840 Yeah, I feel like we're both at a similar pace now. 713 00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,320 More PDA as well, I think that's totally changed. 714 00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:35,720 I think we are at the same level of vulnerability and... It's good. 715 00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:39,120 So, these are all positives, right? Let's play a game. 716 00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:40,360 I like a game. 717 00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:47,920 I want you to use a word to describe your emotional intimacy. 718 00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:51,320 United. United. Yeah. That's a great word. 719 00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:54,880 Team. Team, I love it. Let's keep going. 720 00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:58,720 One word to describe your physical intimacy. 721 00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,640 Leah, you go first. 722 00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:02,080 Steady. Yeah. Ooh. 723 00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:04,800 Steady's kind of sexy. Steady's sexy. Ooh! Yeah. 724 00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:07,440 Progressing. Progressing. 725 00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:10,880 So, these are all positive words. 726 00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:16,960 Now, at the dinner party, there was a great chat around intimacy. 727 00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:18,440 I think, for me, 728 00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:21,840 sleeping together wasn't necessarily the actual end goal. 729 00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:23,360 It was more like, I wasn't feeling like 730 00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:24,600 I was getting any vulnerability 731 00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:27,480 from her, and any intimacy and... Like the flirtiness and stuff. 732 00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:29,840 ..where we were kissing. Yeah, it was the flirtiness. 733 00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,800 Now that I've started getting that, I'm happy. 734 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,640 So, we're moving 735 00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:38,800 in a direction where you both, it sounds like, you're pleased. 736 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,120 Yeah, for me, like I'm happy where it is now, 737 00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,240 like, compared to where I was. OK. 738 00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:49,280 What's really clear here is that the emotional intimacy has really grown. 739 00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:51,720 What feels like a bit of a question mark is, 740 00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,760 do you feel that there has been progress 741 00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,600 when it comes to physical intimacy? 742 00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,040 Obviously things have happened. 743 00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:01,480 Yeah, without, obviously, going 744 00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:03,600 into detail specifically what we've done, 745 00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:05,800 yes, it's progressed from where it was last week, yeah. 746 00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:10,840 Yeah. It's just, it's just... Not full hog yet, but half hog. 747 00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:14,320 But also, like, no concerns because we both know 748 00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:16,200 what we like and what we want, and, you know, 749 00:38:16,240 --> 00:38:18,040 we've had those conversations, actually, 750 00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:20,640 so, it's not as if it's, like, a taboo thing between me and Leah. 751 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,760 Would you say that you two are really good friends right now? 752 00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:26,880 No. No. 753 00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:31,040 We are definitely not friends. It's definitely a relationship for me. 754 00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:33,400 Yeah. We've been enjoying each other's company, 755 00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:35,040 getting to know each other, 756 00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:37,320 experimenting, that kind of thing. Yeah. 757 00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:42,760 I mean, the progress is commendable, especially where you came from. 758 00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:44,040 I know. 759 00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:45,840 Here's a concern, though, that I have. 760 00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:50,960 Everything is progressing, but we're almost at the end of the experiment. 761 00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,960 Mm. So, what happens on the outside, if you start interacting with people 762 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,280 and you come across someone who you're physically attracted to, 763 00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:01,320 someone who is checking all the "boxes"? 764 00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:02,400 Is that a concern? 765 00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:07,360 There's obviously going to be people out there 766 00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:10,360 that are more suited to us, for our, for our physical type, 767 00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:13,640 we all know that. Of course. I can't sit here and say, 1,000%, 768 00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:15,280 I'm going to be with her at the end of this... Yeah. 769 00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:18,320 ..like I can't. How do we know that until we get on 770 00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:21,480 the outside world, until we see each other's environments? 771 00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:23,960 I may go to Leigh's homestay 772 00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:27,520 and think, "Oh, God, she's a scruffy cow, 773 00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,600 "I can't be with her." 774 00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:31,320 I'm just taking each day as it comes 775 00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:36,040 and, right now, it feels like a positive growth each day, 776 00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:37,440 and that's all I'm asking for. 777 00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,480 All right, you guys ready for a decision? 778 00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:43,360 Yep. Who wants to go first? 779 00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:47,520 I didn't expect to come into this experiment 780 00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:52,120 and be open and vulnerable and patient - 781 00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,760 all the things that I'm not really on the outside - 782 00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:57,160 and I do feel like you have taught me that. 783 00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:58,360 I appreciate 784 00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:02,640 that you have now been open, and things are progressing, 785 00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,160 so, yeah, for that reason, 786 00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:06,920 I have decided to stay. 787 00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:14,360 Where we were in the beginning to now, 788 00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:17,280 I don't think either of us saw us getting here, 789 00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:21,840 that we've both stuck at it and put the work in to be where we are now. 790 00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:23,600 Yeah, I'm just excited for the next few weeks, 791 00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,080 so I decided to stay. 792 00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:37,240 Stay united and stay steady, right, 793 00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:40,640 those two will get you anywhere that you want to go. 794 00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:43,600 All right, thank you. Well done. Thank you. Thank you. 795 00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:44,680 See you guys, bye-bye. 796 00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:57,520 Next up on the couch tonight... 797 00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:03,600 ..Julia-Ruth and Divarni. 798 00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:20,560 You two have had a rough week. Yeah. 799 00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:25,240 I wanted to start just by checking in on how you're both doing. 800 00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:27,920 Divarni, how are you feeling tonight? 801 00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,480 Just emotionally drained, yeah. 802 00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,640 Julia-Ruth? It's definitely has been, 803 00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:37,520 like, a rough two weeks, 804 00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,080 but I feel I'm back to myself after the retreat. 805 00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:44,600 What was your experience of the retreat? 806 00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:47,280 I felt like I was doing the whole retreat, like, by myself. 807 00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:49,840 Two hours in, Divarni was gone. 808 00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:53,880 Divarni, you made the decision not to stay 809 00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,600 in the same room... Yeah. ..as Julia-Ruth for the retreat. 810 00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:58,480 Yeah. Why was that? 811 00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:00,440 I mean, there was a lot going through my mind, 812 00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:02,320 and I just needed some time and some space. 813 00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,160 Last week was pretty tough on the couch, 814 00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,520 but I did want to give her an opportunity to take 815 00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:10,360 accountability for the things that she was called out for. 816 00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:12,200 So, I was still internalising everything else 817 00:42:12,240 --> 00:42:15,000 that came up from last commitment ceremony. 818 00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:17,960 But I did have a conversation with Leah, Leigh and Bailey... 819 00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,000 ..and there was information that I didn't know, 820 00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,360 and that's when I was like, "Look, I'm trying to make it work," 821 00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:26,000 but the reality was it wasn't going to work. 822 00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,480 So, what was the new information that you learnt? 823 00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:33,080 What I heard from Bailey, 824 00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:36,040 which opened my eyes a little bit, was about the flirting with Steven. 825 00:42:37,240 --> 00:42:39,400 That was what I didn't know. 826 00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:40,720 That was when I blew. 827 00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:42,560 My worth was being undermined. 828 00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:45,920 So, would you say that that conversation, 829 00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:48,440 where you learnt that information, was the last straw? 830 00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:49,520 Yeah. 831 00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:56,360 Was that the point where you decided that this relationship 832 00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,120 is not going to work for you? 833 00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,240 Yeah, that was the turning point for me. 834 00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:03,680 Sorry, but you were there for like, two hours, and then you were gone. 835 00:43:03,720 --> 00:43:06,560 Fair enough that you heard that, but you didn't give it a day. 836 00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:11,840 I came to make it up to you and I could've run at the dinner party, 837 00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:13,320 could've run at the commitment ceremony, 838 00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:14,520 could've not gone to the retreat. 839 00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:17,320 I came here for you, but you didn't give it a second. 840 00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,120 I mean, I've been giving the weeks and, obviously, the punches, 841 00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:23,480 the blows and the emotions that wasn't met, 842 00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,320 and, obviously, coming into the dinner party, 843 00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:27,080 I'm seeing Julia-Ruth, she's coming, 844 00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:29,000 walking around the room all smiley, smiley, 845 00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:31,440 like everything's all dandelions and roses, you know what I mean? 846 00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:32,680 She's having the greatest time 847 00:43:32,720 --> 00:43:34,520 and I'm just there, just wallowing up in the emotions, 848 00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:37,880 and I'm just like, look, "How are we both in the same situation, 849 00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:39,400 "but I'm feeling in one way and you're feeling 850 00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:42,280 "a different way?" Because I also had my snap moment. 851 00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:43,680 I was fuming and fed up. 852 00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:50,040 We know you've had stuff going on within your own relationship, 853 00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:55,120 but also some very heavy opinions from the group weighing in. 854 00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:58,320 Yeah, at that dinner party, everyone was just having a go, 855 00:43:58,360 --> 00:43:59,680 having a go at me. 856 00:43:59,720 --> 00:44:02,040 People ask me questions and don't let me talk... 857 00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:03,120 Jesus. 858 00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:04,720 ..and I just burst and I had enough. 859 00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:07,080 I just felt like, I've taken all the hits, 860 00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:08,160 what more can I do now? 861 00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:10,120 The relationship is in the gutter. 862 00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:14,200 I'm not going to go with my tail between my legs and cowering down. 863 00:44:15,240 --> 00:44:18,960 I'm going to walk out here the way I came in...and I'm done. 864 00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:25,960 So do you believe that you bear responsibility in the situation? 865 00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:30,160 There's no shying away from the blunder that I've created. 866 00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:33,760 What would you define as the blunder that you made? 867 00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:37,120 Honestly, I think, hurting Divarni and saying things behind his back. 868 00:44:38,240 --> 00:44:41,080 Maybe not having my walls down and letting people in. 869 00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:42,920 I feel like I've, at least, tried. 870 00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:47,760 So, Divarni, did you get the answers that you needed 871 00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:49,960 in terms of her taking accountability? 872 00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:51,800 No, not really. Not particularly, no. 873 00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:53,840 Because I didn't do it in a group setting... 874 00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:55,560 I didn't want the group setting, that's the thing. 875 00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:57,160 No, but then I've done these things, Divarni, 876 00:44:57,200 --> 00:44:59,120 and I've apologised to you multiple times. 877 00:45:02,240 --> 00:45:04,640 So, what do you still need to hear from her? 878 00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:06,160 Really and truly, I've checked out. 879 00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:07,840 I don't really need to get that closure. 880 00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:11,160 I went into the retreat for one last chance. 881 00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:12,520 I do wear my heart on my sleeve, 882 00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:15,800 so I feel like that was taken advantage of, for sure. 883 00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:17,600 I do feel like I've wasted my time. 884 00:45:17,640 --> 00:45:20,760 I've gone through every week, week in, week out, trying 885 00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:23,520 to make things work within the relationship. 886 00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:26,320 I want to give the person that I'm with the world. 887 00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:29,320 I feel like I've done the best to give Julia-Ruth the world, 888 00:45:29,360 --> 00:45:31,480 but I don't think it was just received like that 889 00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:32,920 and that's the hard part. 890 00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,840 Divarni, what would you say you've learnt 891 00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,160 about yourself in this process? 892 00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:42,600 I'm stronger than I thought I was. 893 00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:45,840 Also, the biggest thing is just standing up for myself 894 00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:49,240 because I feel like I've always put people before myself - 895 00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:50,880 that's what I've learnt. 896 00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:53,160 That's great. Good for you. 897 00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:56,640 Julia-Ruth, what are you taking away? 898 00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:57,880 Think before I speak... 899 00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:01,280 ..and knowing what impact my words 900 00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:04,640 have on other people and just reflect on, 901 00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:06,840 yeah, how I've treated you in this process. 902 00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:08,920 OK. 903 00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,000 I think we've talked about the hard stuff. 904 00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:16,280 We're going to go to a decision. 905 00:46:17,720 --> 00:46:19,280 Divarni, we'll go to you first. 906 00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:24,720 It's been turbulent, and I only wish you only the best... 907 00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,120 ..but, um, yeah... 908 00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:30,240 ..leave. 909 00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,760 OK. Thank you. 910 00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:35,600 And Julia-Ruth. I am truly sorry. 911 00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:39,400 I have had a lot of laughs with you. 912 00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:41,280 My regrets is... 913 00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:45,040 ..making you look silly in front of the group, 914 00:46:45,080 --> 00:46:47,440 for saying bad things about you behind your back, 915 00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:49,280 and I've apologised to you multiple times, 916 00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:53,440 and I am, again, really sorry for hurting you... Hmm. ..genuinely. 917 00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:56,240 I'm very, very grateful, 918 00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:57,640 but I have written leave. 919 00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:05,120 Do either of you have anything to say to the group? 920 00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:14,720 Really big sorry for our impact in your personal relationships. 921 00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:15,840 Yeah, sorry, team. 922 00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:22,040 Divarni? 923 00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:25,840 I don't even have words for you guys. 924 00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:37,080 You guys have been supportive for me throughout this journey, 925 00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:38,920 whether good or bad. 926 00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:41,880 It's something I'm going to cherish for a very long time. 927 00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:47,040 Nah, but, honestly, like, you guys don't know 928 00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:48,400 how much you guys mean to me. 929 00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:50,840 It's sad it's come to this. Nah, I love you guys a lot, man, 930 00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:53,080 do you know what I mean? And hopefully I'll see you guys again. 931 00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:56,200 There you go. All right. Aw. 932 00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:00,800 Thank you both. No worries. Take a seat. 933 00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:03,000 Take care, guys. Thank you. 934 00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:04,080 Love you, guys. 935 00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:08,560 It was very emotional for both of us. 936 00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:11,320 Julia-Ruth's regrets is good, so I accept that. 937 00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:13,640 I just look forward to taking what I've learnt from 938 00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:16,840 the experiment and applying that to the outside world. 939 00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,760 Thank you, both. I am walking out here with my 940 00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:23,640 head held high, proud of myself. 941 00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:27,560 Juicy Roo, she's made an appearance, she made a statement, 942 00:48:27,600 --> 00:48:29,160 she made some mistakes, 943 00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:31,840 but I'm still going to be spicy and naughty as ever. 944 00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:35,360 Juicy Roo's out, babes. 945 00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,200 Next up to the couch, 946 00:48:49,240 --> 00:48:50,680 Reiss and Leisha. 947 00:48:57,040 --> 00:48:59,200 Good to see the two of you. Yeah. Good to see you all, too. 948 00:48:59,240 --> 00:49:02,240 So, how has your week been? 949 00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:04,040 You were at the retreat. 950 00:49:04,080 --> 00:49:06,160 We connected really well. Yeah. 951 00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:08,480 It was quite nice to have some time apart, as well, 952 00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:10,360 like, obviously, I was with the girls, 953 00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:13,120 he was with the boys. But I was so excited to see Reiss, 954 00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:15,200 like, afterwards, I was like, let me see Reiss. 955 00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:18,840 I was happy. Good. 956 00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:24,360 Now, let's talk about the intimacy. OK. 957 00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:25,520 Reiss' favourite topic. 958 00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:28,640 Last week, we spoke 959 00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:33,520 about how often you're intimate, when you're intimate. 960 00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:35,400 It seems like the two of you had 961 00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:39,800 this issue, in terms of, you both want a different pace. 962 00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:40,880 Where are you now? 963 00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:43,680 You can answer that. No, I'll let you do it because... 964 00:49:43,720 --> 00:49:44,760 No, you answer that one. 965 00:49:45,840 --> 00:49:49,040 It's, um, really good. OK. 966 00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:53,560 It hasn't just been after 10pm this week. Yeah. 967 00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:57,040 We haven't been scheduling it in. OK. 968 00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:58,120 That sounds so weird, 969 00:49:58,160 --> 00:49:59,800 we never, actually, did schedule things in, by the way. 970 00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:01,760 No, it just kind of happened, that. I just needed to clear that up. 971 00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:04,680 OK, but you have had conversations 972 00:50:04,720 --> 00:50:07,920 about what your sex life will look like 973 00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:10,360 in terms of making sure it meets the needs of both of you. 974 00:50:10,400 --> 00:50:12,200 I wouldn't say we've had conversations, 975 00:50:12,240 --> 00:50:14,960 but it's just, it's gone more of, like, a natural flow 976 00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:17,080 because I know Leisha didn't want us to wait till bedtime, 977 00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:19,400 because she felt like it was like sort of scheduled in, 978 00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:20,920 so I've, sort of, broke that rule. 979 00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:25,120 Yeah. 980 00:50:25,160 --> 00:50:27,360 Have you changed the location, as well? 981 00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:28,960 Yeah. Yeah, we have. Yeah. 982 00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:37,400 So, it sounds like the two of you have 983 00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:43,560 had healthy communication around how you will be intimate moving forward. 984 00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:46,600 Yes. And it sounds like the agreement 985 00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:50,440 has pleased the two of you, because you can see the affection 986 00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:51,560 between the two of you. 987 00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:56,400 So, it feels like something has worked out quite well. 988 00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:58,360 What I needed was just Leish to calm 989 00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:00,920 down rather than trying to rush me with my emotions. 990 00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:05,600 And, since I've done that, I have seen such a massive change in Reiss. 991 00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:07,920 Even at the mixer, he was giving me eye contact, 992 00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:09,600 he was giving me reassurance, you know? 993 00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:12,000 He was coming over, stroking my leg, just little things 994 00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:16,120 that just don't take much to do, but it means the world to me. 995 00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:17,160 He was perfect. 996 00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:20,080 I feel like we was in a right strong place. 997 00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:25,000 Should we go to the decision? OK. Yes. 998 00:51:26,840 --> 00:51:30,080 Every week we're just getting stronger and stronger, 999 00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:31,400 and my feelings are... 1000 00:51:32,520 --> 00:51:34,160 ..massive. 1001 00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:37,800 I'm enjoying our time together and I just hope that we just grow 1002 00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:40,200 a really deep connection. 1003 00:51:40,240 --> 00:51:41,400 On that, I will... 1004 00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:44,000 ..stay. Yay! 1005 00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:48,240 Excellent, thank you, Leisha. 1006 00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:50,240 And, Reiss, what's your decision? Um, yeah, 1007 00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:52,960 this week, I've had one of the best weeks with you. 1008 00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:57,320 I'm enjoying where we're going, so I would like to... 1009 00:51:57,360 --> 00:51:58,440 ..stay. 1010 00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:04,520 I wish you guys the best for the rest of the week. Thank you. 1011 00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:07,080 Hopefully, your relationship goes from strength to strength. 1012 00:52:07,120 --> 00:52:08,680 Thank you. Good luck, guys. Thank you. Well done, guys. 1013 00:52:08,720 --> 00:52:11,240 Thank you. Cheers, guys. Yes, guys! 1014 00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:17,960 Happy? Yeah. It's done, now. 1015 00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:22,320 Next up... 1016 00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:24,480 ..April and Leo. 1017 00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:33,040 Hello. Hello, there. Hiya. How are you both? 1018 00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:35,960 Good. Good, thank you, how are you? Good. 1019 00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:40,000 All right, can we start where we saw you last week, 1020 00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:43,040 on the couch, Leo? 1021 00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:46,320 I think, for me, what I've been focusing on this week 1022 00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:48,800 is building this deeper emotional connection, 1023 00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:51,600 opening more up to her, being more honest, 1024 00:52:51,640 --> 00:52:53,840 and building that foundation 1025 00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:56,400 that we didn't necessarily have at the start. 1026 00:52:56,440 --> 00:53:02,200 Realistically, you need all of those elements for a relationship to work. 1027 00:53:02,240 --> 00:53:03,280 Right, because, actually, 1028 00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:05,640 without the emotional connection, everything else is worthless. 1029 00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:06,880 Exactly. 1030 00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:09,280 One of the stuff that we was working on, 1031 00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:12,960 that you said last time, is being more of a team, 1032 00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:14,360 and we've spent more time together 1033 00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:17,000 in which we have deepened that emotional connection. 1034 00:53:17,040 --> 00:53:19,160 It's obviously not where it needs to be, 1035 00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:21,320 uh, but we're definitely working towards it. 1036 00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:25,200 So, you believe that you've made progress, 1037 00:53:25,240 --> 00:53:28,280 you have advanced the strength and satisfaction 1038 00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:31,400 of your relationship this week from last? 1039 00:53:31,440 --> 00:53:32,680 Definitely. OK. 1040 00:53:33,720 --> 00:53:36,080 April, is that fair to say? 1041 00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:38,600 I don't know, I don't feel, up until this point, 1042 00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:41,880 that we have built that much of an emotional connection - 1043 00:53:41,920 --> 00:53:45,520 that is just honestly how I feel. All right. 1044 00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:48,120 This is the second to last time that we're going to see you, 1045 00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:50,760 so it's very important that we really push you 1046 00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:52,960 to think about this relationship. 1047 00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:54,920 So, we're going to talk about 1048 00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:57,960 the questions that April had at the retreat. 1049 00:53:59,560 --> 00:54:01,920 So, the question was, 1050 00:54:01,960 --> 00:54:03,840 "Who would be your type outside of your husband?" 1051 00:54:03,880 --> 00:54:06,800 Yeah. She says Ashley. And, "Other than your husband, 1052 00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:09,440 "who could you see yourself being with in the experiment?" 1053 00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:10,520 OK, Ashley. 1054 00:54:11,720 --> 00:54:13,040 So, Leo... 1055 00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:16,160 ..what was the emotion, 1056 00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:20,680 or your feeling, hearing your wife say 1057 00:54:20,720 --> 00:54:21,960 that gentleman, right over there? 1058 00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:29,440 Insecurity was one of them. 1059 00:54:29,480 --> 00:54:32,360 Just the fact that it was consistently someone else, 1060 00:54:32,400 --> 00:54:35,040 but I knew, if I took these emotions on deeply, 1061 00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:37,920 it would get in my head and that's not what I wanted it to do. 1062 00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:42,680 So, you know what I find interesting? 1063 00:54:42,720 --> 00:54:46,640 The emotion that typically drives insecurity is fear - 1064 00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:50,440 the fear of losing your partner. 1065 00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:51,960 Yeah, correct. 1066 00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:58,280 Now, April, did you realise your partner had that emotion? 1067 00:54:59,920 --> 00:55:01,520 No, because he didn't communicate that to me. 1068 00:55:02,640 --> 00:55:05,960 So, you say that you've become better since last week, 1069 00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:11,440 but you had this emotion that you had not articulated to your wife. 1070 00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:16,000 Correct, but, for me, I didn't read too much into that situation. 1071 00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:18,360 You didn't want the conflict. I didn't want the conflict, 1072 00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:21,520 but I was able to, sort of, brush it to one side. 1073 00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:26,720 Leo, it's not like we're trying to bring up the Ashley and April 1074 00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:28,840 story to, kind of, cause any drama, 1075 00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:30,600 but I think what we're trying to get at is, 1076 00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:34,240 there has to be space for you to articulate, 1077 00:55:34,280 --> 00:55:36,200 how does it make you feel? 1078 00:55:36,240 --> 00:55:38,560 But it kind of feels like you're scared to say, 1079 00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:40,240 "Do you know what? That's not great," 1080 00:55:40,280 --> 00:55:42,560 for fear that, maybe, April will leave. 1081 00:55:46,040 --> 00:55:49,200 Charlene just nailed the point. You need a voice. 1082 00:55:49,240 --> 00:55:51,040 You have no voice in this relationship. 1083 00:55:52,240 --> 00:55:53,840 And you know what's interesting? 1084 00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:56,600 That's what she wants. She wants you to assert yourself. 1085 00:55:57,680 --> 00:56:00,000 If you don't have a voice in this situation, 1086 00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:03,160 this is not going to continue to be a situation. 1087 00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:06,920 April... 1088 00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:11,080 ..am I right that you want Leo to have a voice? 1089 00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:13,160 Yeah, I am a strong character, 1090 00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:15,280 and I did explain to Leo at the beginning of the retreat, 1091 00:56:15,320 --> 00:56:17,760 like, you need to not always agree with me, 1092 00:56:17,800 --> 00:56:20,320 and I need a man to be like that with me. 1093 00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:21,640 But, you did say back to me, 1094 00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:23,440 "I've just wanted to do everything that you've wanted to do," 1095 00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:24,840 and I went, "That seems impossible." 1096 00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:27,640 And I know that he is just pleasing me 1097 00:56:27,680 --> 00:56:29,480 and he is just saying yes to everything, and he isn't 1098 00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:31,600 expressing his feelings, but I'm not getting anything back. 1099 00:56:32,880 --> 00:56:34,800 It makes me feel bad because it makes me feel 1100 00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:37,040 like I'm just being a mean girl to a nice guy. Right. 1101 00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:39,760 He obviously has problems, he's just not explaining them to me 1102 00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:41,800 and then that annoys me. Right. 1103 00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:43,760 And then that pushes me away. 1104 00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:45,280 This, this makes sense. 1105 00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:49,760 So, you now know what it is you need to do, 1106 00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:52,160 and what is it? Take charge. 1107 00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:54,920 Express myself exactly how I'm feeling. 1108 00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:58,720 OK, I need assertive Leo with a voice, fair? 1109 00:56:58,760 --> 00:57:00,360 Yeah, that's fair. All right. 1110 00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:08,160 Now, what do you believe that you can do to help Leo find his voice? 1111 00:57:09,600 --> 00:57:12,080 I honestly don't know. Let's go back. 1112 00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:14,760 You didn't know the emotion that he felt. 1113 00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:16,600 Yeah, but I had had that conversation 1114 00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:18,000 with Leo, do you know I mean? 1115 00:57:18,040 --> 00:57:20,480 I was reassuring him that there was nothing behind it. 1116 00:57:20,520 --> 00:57:23,240 I think, for me, I just sort of took his word, he was OK. 1117 00:57:23,280 --> 00:57:25,720 I think, in a normal situation, when we were more emotionally connected, 1118 00:57:25,760 --> 00:57:27,200 I would have asked and would have been like, 1119 00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:28,880 "Are you sure?" But, I'm just not used 1120 00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:30,680 to dating people that just agree with me all the time, 1121 00:57:30,720 --> 00:57:33,760 so I do need to, almost, force it out of you, 1122 00:57:33,800 --> 00:57:35,160 you know what I mean? 1123 00:57:35,200 --> 00:57:37,560 You have to be in tune with your partner. 1124 00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:40,320 Mm. You have to start to truly read your partner, 1125 00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:41,400 and the moment that you feel 1126 00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:43,440 like something could be off, you open it up, 1127 00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:45,800 you show the curiosity... OK. ..right? 1128 00:57:48,040 --> 00:57:50,360 We just don't have that bond, currently. 1129 00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:52,200 I'm not feeling overly connected, but... 1130 00:57:53,320 --> 00:57:56,560 ..and I wanted this so badly, and I wanted it to work, 1131 00:57:56,600 --> 00:57:57,880 and I wanted the connection 1132 00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:00,000 that most of the people have got in this room. 1133 00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:03,440 It doesn't always come straight away, April. 1134 00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:05,160 I know. You have to work on it. 1135 00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:06,960 It doesn't. 1136 00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:14,280 There, obviously, are reasons why we've been paired. 1137 00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:16,960 I, kind of, just got lost in the fact 1138 00:58:17,000 --> 00:58:19,600 that there wasn't that instant emotional connection. 1139 00:58:21,360 --> 00:58:25,040 For me, this experiment, it's been very much a personal journey, 1140 00:58:25,080 --> 00:58:27,800 but I think every week I am adapting, 1141 00:58:27,840 --> 00:58:30,080 and I am taking all the advice, 1142 00:58:30,120 --> 00:58:32,160 it just hasn't come straight away. 1143 00:58:33,200 --> 00:58:34,600 In essence, that's what marriage is, 1144 00:58:34,640 --> 00:58:36,760 marriage is that you becoming better, 1145 00:58:36,800 --> 00:58:38,400 you're helping your partner 1146 00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:40,000 to release their best self. 1147 00:58:40,040 --> 00:58:42,480 So, you continue to work on you, 1148 00:58:42,520 --> 00:58:44,760 what happens is that strengthens your partner. 1149 00:58:46,280 --> 00:58:48,720 All right. So, then, let's go to a decision. 1150 00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:51,680 Leo, could you go first? 1151 00:58:54,360 --> 00:58:56,640 I didn't realise that I had these attributes 1152 00:58:56,680 --> 00:58:58,960 that I wasn't able to open up straight away, 1153 00:58:59,000 --> 00:59:00,360 which obviously set us back... 1154 00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:03,800 ..but we get on really well, 1155 00:59:03,840 --> 00:59:06,600 there was a physical attraction, and I feel like it is still there. 1156 00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:08,640 We have got a lot going for us. 1157 00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:13,280 As long as we're making progress, which is what we have been. 1158 00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:15,160 But I do genuinely feel confident 1159 00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:17,120 we can get there moving forward, 1160 00:59:17,160 --> 00:59:19,080 so I've chosen to stay. 1161 00:59:25,120 --> 00:59:26,160 All right. 1162 00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:30,280 Um... 1163 00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:34,200 ..last week was not positive. 1164 00:59:35,600 --> 00:59:38,560 What we did discuss, we needed to spend more time together, 1165 00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:42,240 and we have implemented that this week... 1166 00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:45,080 ..but I'm not suddenly just going to be, like, 1167 00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:47,280 "Oh, yeah, this is great, we're having a great time." 1168 00:59:49,760 --> 00:59:52,640 This was such high hopes and I really, 1169 00:59:52,680 --> 00:59:55,920 really wanted to come in and get a connection instantly, 1170 00:59:55,960 --> 00:59:57,800 and it is, obviously... 1171 00:59:57,840 --> 00:59:59,280 ..more work... 1172 01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:01,600 ..than I thought... 1173 01:00:02,640 --> 01:00:05,520 ..and I am unsure on the future, and I am unsure on us. 1174 01:00:12,240 --> 01:00:13,680 I honestly don't know. 1175 01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:28,160 It is, obviously, more work... 1176 01:00:29,480 --> 01:00:30,760 ..than I thought... 1177 01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:34,400 ..and I am unsure on the future, and I am unsure on us. 1178 01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:42,200 I honestly don't know. 1179 01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:51,960 But I think there are a lot of positives to Leo. 1180 01:00:52,000 --> 01:00:56,280 He is very caring towards me, you can see how much he wants this 1181 01:00:56,320 --> 01:01:00,240 to work, and he is genuinely such a good guy and I commend him for it. 1182 01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:05,000 You know, if we continue progressing in a positive way... 1183 01:01:06,080 --> 01:01:07,600 ..then there is hope for us. 1184 01:01:09,360 --> 01:01:12,040 So, I have decided... 1185 01:01:12,080 --> 01:01:13,560 ..to stay. 1186 01:01:19,880 --> 01:01:25,160 This week, Leo, assert yourself, develop your voice, 1187 01:01:25,200 --> 01:01:30,200 and then, April, work on being more emotionally in tune with Leo. 1188 01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:33,360 If you do those two things, I guarantee you, you'll come back, 1189 01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:36,200 you'll be stronger the next time. Is that fair? 1190 01:01:36,240 --> 01:01:39,520 That's fair. That's fair. All right, thank you. Thank you. 1191 01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:44,360 I genuinely feel like I have seen 1192 01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:46,720 a bit more of Leo's personality this week. 1193 01:01:46,760 --> 01:01:50,000 Leo does have a lot of positives and he is a really good guy, 1194 01:01:50,040 --> 01:01:53,720 so I am holding out hope and moving forward with that. 1195 01:01:53,760 --> 01:01:56,640 But I think this next week, for me, is me figuring 1196 01:01:56,680 --> 01:01:58,600 out, can I build that emotional connection? 1197 01:01:58,640 --> 01:02:00,160 Because, currently, I feel like me 1198 01:02:00,200 --> 01:02:01,840 and Leo are definitely on different pages. 1199 01:02:04,440 --> 01:02:06,960 And, finally, Grace and Ashley. 1200 01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:13,680 Hello, you two. Hello. 1201 01:02:20,280 --> 01:02:22,800 Grace, I've noticed you've been a little bit emotional tonight. 1202 01:02:22,840 --> 01:02:24,240 Um... 1203 01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:26,800 ..I've been a wreck. Oh. 1204 01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:30,080 What's going on for you? 1205 01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:34,840 So, Ash and I were vying for one good week. 1206 01:02:34,880 --> 01:02:36,840 We were pushing for one good week, this week, 1207 01:02:36,880 --> 01:02:39,240 but, basically, I had a general sense, 1208 01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:41,480 this week, of just being unheard... 1209 01:02:42,480 --> 01:02:46,200 ..of being quite clear about what I want, what I need, 1210 01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:49,480 and it falling on, what I felt, was deaf ears. 1211 01:02:50,920 --> 01:02:53,920 Do you know? Us having this good week, I'm thinking, "yes, 1212 01:02:53,960 --> 01:02:56,880 "I'm really starting to fall for you and we are getting to this place." 1213 01:02:56,920 --> 01:02:59,360 But then to find out that the only reason we're there is 1214 01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:01,080 because Grace is not being herself, 1215 01:03:01,120 --> 01:03:04,320 it's, kind of, like... Mm. Is that true, Grace? 1216 01:03:05,600 --> 01:03:08,880 Yeah, because things were happening that I was just choosing to turn 1217 01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:10,640 a blind eye to because I was like, 1218 01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:12,880 "We're going for one good week, I don't want to start an argument." 1219 01:03:12,920 --> 01:03:14,640 So, is this "one good week" mantra 1220 01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:17,320 meaning that you're avoiding all conflict? 1221 01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:19,760 Yes, me. What about you, Ash? No. 1222 01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:22,280 I was so happy that we weren't having the conflict. 1223 01:03:22,320 --> 01:03:24,160 She's finally seeing who I am. 1224 01:03:24,200 --> 01:03:27,960 I'm not being questioned and attacked on all these little things. 1225 01:03:28,000 --> 01:03:30,000 Ash very regularly takes it back to, 1226 01:03:30,040 --> 01:03:34,280 "You're attacking my character." I'm never attacking Ash's character, 1227 01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:36,760 like, I... ..not so much attacking, but questioning. 1228 01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:40,440 It's more questioning whether you're listening to me, Ash. 1229 01:03:40,480 --> 01:03:43,200 OK, I'm just going to jump in. 1230 01:03:43,240 --> 01:03:46,000 There's a sense of disconnection at the moment. 1231 01:03:46,040 --> 01:03:48,480 Grace, you're saying you haven't been heard - 1232 01:03:48,520 --> 01:03:50,560 I think that's really important here. Mm. 1233 01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:55,120 I'd like you to explain what you mean by that. 1234 01:03:55,160 --> 01:04:00,240 OK. So, when April joined us in the experiment, 1235 01:04:00,280 --> 01:04:03,760 we both said we're going to have a really good, like, mate here. 1236 01:04:03,800 --> 01:04:05,920 And then, I, kind of, noticed at 1237 01:04:05,960 --> 01:04:10,080 the dinner parties this friendship was just Ash and April. 1238 01:04:11,280 --> 01:04:13,720 And then, Girls Day on the retreat, 1239 01:04:13,760 --> 01:04:15,520 there were several questions and like, 1240 01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:17,720 "Who's the person you'd rather be married to?" 1241 01:04:17,760 --> 01:04:21,800 And April said Ash, just really locking in Ash. 1242 01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:25,800 It is just a game, but you could give a different answer. 1243 01:04:25,840 --> 01:04:28,040 And when it comes from someone who's actively saying 1244 01:04:28,080 --> 01:04:30,520 that they're not necessarily settled in their marriage, 1245 01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:32,280 I started to feel a bit disrespected. 1246 01:04:34,040 --> 01:04:37,800 So, I approached Ash about tackling the problem together. 1247 01:04:40,080 --> 01:04:43,440 After the dinner party, it emerges 1248 01:04:43,480 --> 01:04:45,440 that Ash and April have had a conversation. 1249 01:04:45,480 --> 01:04:47,400 Then the issue became between April and Ash, 1250 01:04:47,440 --> 01:04:49,600 and they resolved it between them, and, actually, the person 1251 01:04:49,640 --> 01:04:53,000 who felt disrespected was not a part of it at all. 1252 01:04:53,040 --> 01:04:56,560 I know Ash has great intentions, but it wasn't what I wanted, 1253 01:04:56,600 --> 01:05:00,360 and it wasn't what I vocalised, and I felt unheard. 1254 01:05:00,400 --> 01:05:03,040 Ash, what could you do differently? 1255 01:05:03,080 --> 01:05:04,440 I really don't know. 1256 01:05:04,480 --> 01:05:08,240 I do get on with April, but we don't speak outside dinner parties, 1257 01:05:08,280 --> 01:05:12,080 so how on earth do I friend zone someone that's only a friend anyway? 1258 01:05:12,120 --> 01:05:14,000 I don't want to make it awkward, but then, 1259 01:05:14,040 --> 01:05:16,760 out of respect for Grace, I did try and avoid eye contact, 1260 01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:18,520 did try and not joke so much. 1261 01:05:18,560 --> 01:05:21,160 But was that respecting me when I didn't want you to do that? 1262 01:05:21,200 --> 01:05:23,000 I didn't want you to make April feel uncomfortable. 1263 01:05:23,040 --> 01:05:24,400 It made me feel really uncomfortable, 1264 01:05:24,440 --> 01:05:26,040 so I was doing the best thing I thought... 1265 01:05:26,080 --> 01:05:28,320 Sounds like you didn't quite know what to do. Yeah. Yeah. 1266 01:05:28,360 --> 01:05:30,640 Like, what do you want me to do? Like, I'm not actually flirting. 1267 01:05:30,680 --> 01:05:32,120 This is another one of those examples 1268 01:05:32,160 --> 01:05:33,960 where the argument that's happening at 1269 01:05:34,000 --> 01:05:38,280 the surface is not really about what's going on here. 1270 01:05:38,320 --> 01:05:40,680 This is about listening to each other. 1271 01:05:40,720 --> 01:05:43,000 Well, then I'm really struggling with that. 1272 01:05:43,040 --> 01:05:46,840 When she was trying to talk to me about the issue the night before, 1273 01:05:46,880 --> 01:05:50,040 we had, literally, just finished being intimate... 1274 01:05:51,720 --> 01:05:53,560 ..and then she wanted to talk to me about April. 1275 01:05:53,600 --> 01:05:55,440 So the reason I was avoiding it, I was like, "There's no way 1276 01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:57,760 "I'm talking about another woman straight after that." 1277 01:05:58,960 --> 01:06:00,840 So I said, "No, I'm not discussing that." 1278 01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:04,880 Have you been able to reflect since, on maybe, 1279 01:06:04,920 --> 01:06:06,520 why Grace did bring up April 1280 01:06:06,560 --> 01:06:08,160 straight after being intimate? 1281 01:06:09,320 --> 01:06:11,520 I don't know, I just, I didn't really, I was a bit selfish, 1282 01:06:11,560 --> 01:06:14,400 I just really didn't want to in that moment. 1283 01:06:14,440 --> 01:06:16,880 Something tells me she might have felt a little insecure. 1284 01:06:18,200 --> 01:06:21,320 What, after that? A little vulnerable. Mm. 1285 01:06:21,360 --> 01:06:24,000 Maybe, Ash, you could look at this situation 1286 01:06:24,040 --> 01:06:27,640 and see that Grace is telling you, in a number of different ways, 1287 01:06:27,680 --> 01:06:29,720 that she's feeling a little bit insecure 1288 01:06:29,760 --> 01:06:31,800 and that she needs reassurance from you. 1289 01:06:33,080 --> 01:06:36,400 Why would that, why would that be, in that situation? 1290 01:06:36,440 --> 01:06:39,400 Well, I suppose, after an intimate encounter, 1291 01:06:39,440 --> 01:06:42,040 it often makes you feel closer to your partner, doesn't it? 1292 01:06:42,080 --> 01:06:44,400 And it can make you feel more vulnerable 1293 01:06:44,440 --> 01:06:47,040 and, sometimes, it's in those moments that you feel 1294 01:06:47,080 --> 01:06:49,080 like it's important to talk about things 1295 01:06:49,120 --> 01:06:52,320 that you feel might be threatening the relationship. 1296 01:06:52,360 --> 01:06:54,720 But I think it's about checking in with your partner 1297 01:06:54,760 --> 01:06:56,520 as to why she's feeling maybe a bit 1298 01:06:56,560 --> 01:06:59,440 vulnerable and needs some support from you. 1299 01:07:00,560 --> 01:07:03,960 When I do feed back, Ash is like, "Lighten up," 1300 01:07:04,000 --> 01:07:06,480 you know, "You're going to have to because I like it," 1301 01:07:06,520 --> 01:07:08,520 this and that, and I don't really get any positive, 1302 01:07:08,560 --> 01:07:10,640 like, I just feel bad. 1303 01:07:10,680 --> 01:07:13,600 It sounds like there's a bit of point-scoring going on here... 1304 01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:15,720 Right. ..and we really need to let go of that 1305 01:07:15,760 --> 01:07:17,840 because, if each of you is trying to be right 1306 01:07:17,880 --> 01:07:20,400 in each situation, then neither of you will win. 1307 01:07:20,440 --> 01:07:22,640 But it's, you know, the strange... 1308 01:07:22,680 --> 01:07:24,800 You keep coming back with but at the moment, Ash... 1309 01:07:24,840 --> 01:07:26,360 Sorry. ..and my sense is that's probably 1310 01:07:26,400 --> 01:07:28,000 what you're doing with Grace, as well. OK. 1311 01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:30,920 I think what's really important here, 1312 01:07:30,960 --> 01:07:35,520 for both of you, is to let go of some of the need to be right, 1313 01:07:35,560 --> 01:07:38,640 finding the moments to have those conversations about 1314 01:07:38,680 --> 01:07:40,880 what you need from each other 1315 01:07:40,920 --> 01:07:44,160 in a way that's not about, you know, one-upmanship. 1316 01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:49,400 Just for a moment, I want to go to you, April, 1317 01:07:49,440 --> 01:07:52,960 because, whilst Grace was telling her perspective here, 1318 01:07:53,000 --> 01:07:54,840 I know you were shaking your head and it looks like you, 1319 01:07:54,880 --> 01:07:57,000 perhaps, you see it a little bit differently. 1320 01:07:57,040 --> 01:07:58,760 No, I was shaking my head, as in agreeing. 1321 01:07:58,800 --> 01:08:00,640 Hands up, I should have had a conversation 1322 01:08:00,680 --> 01:08:02,600 with Grace after I'd said, like, Ash's name, 1323 01:08:02,640 --> 01:08:04,240 just like, girl-to-girl. 1324 01:08:04,280 --> 01:08:07,440 I honestly, genuinely, am so sorry that you felt 1325 01:08:07,480 --> 01:08:09,720 in this way, and all your feelings are genuinely valid, 1326 01:08:09,760 --> 01:08:11,440 but, I promise you, there's nothing in it. 1327 01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:14,800 And I really appreciate you saying all of that, April. 1328 01:08:14,840 --> 01:08:16,520 Whatever's happening here today, 1329 01:08:16,560 --> 01:08:19,600 whatever the outcome is, it's definitely not your fault. Mm. 1330 01:08:19,640 --> 01:08:21,960 We had issues before... 1331 01:08:23,080 --> 01:08:26,320 ..sorry, before you came into the experiment, 1332 01:08:26,360 --> 01:08:30,080 and this is not your problem. This was always us. 1333 01:08:34,360 --> 01:08:37,600 Let's zoom out because this is not about April 1334 01:08:37,640 --> 01:08:40,440 or any of the other issues that are circulating around you. 1335 01:08:40,480 --> 01:08:42,320 It's about feeling hurt, 1336 01:08:42,360 --> 01:08:47,120 and the hurt is there and it's ever-present 1337 01:08:47,160 --> 01:08:49,080 because feelings are developing here. 1338 01:08:52,200 --> 01:08:54,360 We really believe in you guys. Mm. 1339 01:08:54,400 --> 01:08:56,680 We can see that you are doing the work. 1340 01:08:56,720 --> 01:08:59,800 You're making yourselves a bit uncomfortable, you know? 1341 01:08:59,840 --> 01:09:01,840 You're trying things for each other. 1342 01:09:01,880 --> 01:09:04,160 You're not always hitting the mark, but that's OK. 1343 01:09:06,480 --> 01:09:08,600 Yeah? Yeah. OK. 1344 01:09:09,640 --> 01:09:10,960 We're going to go to a decision. 1345 01:09:12,800 --> 01:09:14,600 Grace, we'll start with you. 1346 01:09:17,280 --> 01:09:19,640 This has been the hardest week. 1347 01:09:22,040 --> 01:09:23,800 One of the things that was so important to me, 1348 01:09:23,840 --> 01:09:26,000 coming into this, was being with a partner 1349 01:09:26,040 --> 01:09:27,840 that brings out the very best in me. 1350 01:09:30,680 --> 01:09:33,360 And I really felt like we were 1351 01:09:33,400 --> 01:09:35,520 bringing out the very worst in each other. 1352 01:09:38,640 --> 01:09:41,520 We'd agreed that we were both done... 1353 01:09:42,640 --> 01:09:44,360 ..and when we tried to come back together, 1354 01:09:44,400 --> 01:09:46,680 we had another huge, big argument. 1355 01:09:46,720 --> 01:09:48,680 I felt like I was losing myself a little bit. 1356 01:09:52,880 --> 01:09:55,880 I think I was just being, focusing on the negative, 1357 01:09:55,920 --> 01:09:57,640 and we do have so much positive. 1358 01:09:59,600 --> 01:10:02,360 Although I started to feel like I couldn't 1359 01:10:02,400 --> 01:10:06,920 see the wood for the trees, I just was getting really lost. 1360 01:10:09,360 --> 01:10:12,120 I knew, if we left, 1361 01:10:12,160 --> 01:10:14,080 I would miss you so much. 1362 01:10:14,120 --> 01:10:15,720 I don't want to be apart from you... 1363 01:10:16,920 --> 01:10:19,880 ..so I've chosen to... 1364 01:10:21,000 --> 01:10:22,760 ..stay. 1365 01:10:28,520 --> 01:10:29,920 And, Ash. 1366 01:10:32,560 --> 01:10:34,520 This is a lot harder than I thought it would be. 1367 01:10:34,560 --> 01:10:36,160 When you get questioned on something 1368 01:10:36,200 --> 01:10:38,240 so much, I'm starting to question it myself. 1369 01:10:38,280 --> 01:10:40,080 And that's making me feel insecure. 1370 01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:41,520 How don't you know me by now? 1371 01:10:41,560 --> 01:10:45,000 Like, I feel like everyone I've met here, kind of, knows me 1372 01:10:45,040 --> 01:10:47,200 and I don't feel like the person I really want to, 1373 01:10:47,240 --> 01:10:48,400 and I'm closest to, does. 1374 01:10:48,440 --> 01:10:51,200 And I do really want to make this work. 1375 01:10:52,680 --> 01:10:56,520 But am I sacrificing parts of myself to make it work? 1376 01:11:00,400 --> 01:11:02,960 I'm sorry for the things that I'm doing, 1377 01:11:03,000 --> 01:11:06,160 I don't ever do them on purpose or maliciously. 1378 01:11:06,200 --> 01:11:09,720 I am growing big, big feelings for you, 1379 01:11:09,760 --> 01:11:12,200 so I've said stay. 1380 01:11:17,720 --> 01:11:20,480 You know what? You're both very defensive with each other. 1381 01:11:20,520 --> 01:11:23,960 So defensive, Mel, it's exhausting. 1382 01:11:24,000 --> 01:11:28,360 What would happen if you both just agreed to drop the defensiveness... 1383 01:11:28,400 --> 01:11:29,440 Yeah. 1384 01:11:30,600 --> 01:11:33,240 ..and just being there together 1385 01:11:33,280 --> 01:11:37,040 in all of these conversations, without one person needing to win, 1386 01:11:37,080 --> 01:11:42,120 with the ultimate shared goal of coming up with solutions together? 1387 01:11:44,120 --> 01:11:46,120 You know, you are pushing yourselves beyond 1388 01:11:46,160 --> 01:11:48,000 what is comfortable, and... 1389 01:11:49,520 --> 01:11:50,720 ..keep doing it, 1390 01:11:50,760 --> 01:11:53,440 I know it's hard, and really focus on 1391 01:11:53,480 --> 01:11:57,640 that one team working toward the same outcome. 1392 01:11:57,680 --> 01:11:59,040 Yeah? 1393 01:12:00,440 --> 01:12:04,320 Thank you. Well done, guys. Thank you. 1394 01:12:06,200 --> 01:12:07,960 This week's make or break for Ash and I. 1395 01:12:08,000 --> 01:12:11,360 For the marriage to work, Ash and I have got to stop point-scoring. 1396 01:12:11,400 --> 01:12:13,640 We need to just start caring about each other's feelings 1397 01:12:13,680 --> 01:12:15,640 more than we care about proving a point. 1398 01:12:15,680 --> 01:12:17,840 We could just afford to, just, drop some of the stubbornness 1399 01:12:17,880 --> 01:12:19,720 and we could be great. As long as the two people care 1400 01:12:19,760 --> 01:12:23,120 about each other and want to make it work, I do think we can overcome it. 1401 01:12:25,720 --> 01:12:29,280 It was a really hard decision today. I packed my bags last night. 1402 01:12:29,320 --> 01:12:33,480 I was at a stage where I just can't see us moving forward. 1403 01:12:33,520 --> 01:12:36,640 I still really want this to work. I care deeply for Grace. 1404 01:12:36,680 --> 01:12:39,560 What I want from here on out is to draw a line in the sand 1405 01:12:39,600 --> 01:12:41,560 and you just see me for who I am, 1406 01:12:41,600 --> 01:12:43,680 and I will give this everything I've got. 1407 01:12:47,600 --> 01:12:49,560 Next time... Hi, husband. 1408 01:12:49,600 --> 01:12:51,000 ..it's partner swap week. 1409 01:12:51,040 --> 01:12:54,640 Hello. Hello. While absence makes some hearts grow fonder... 1410 01:12:54,680 --> 01:12:58,360 Being away from her has made me have even more love for her. 1411 01:12:58,400 --> 01:13:00,520 I'm in love! Yes! 1412 01:13:00,560 --> 01:13:03,200 ..for others... Leah, you'll be coupled with Leisha. 1413 01:13:03,240 --> 01:13:04,600 I don't want no flirting. 1414 01:13:05,720 --> 01:13:07,560 Breakfast in bed. Have you ever done this with Nelly? 1415 01:13:09,040 --> 01:13:12,520 No. ..time away from their partners... I spoke to April, 1416 01:13:12,560 --> 01:13:15,280 she said, "I don't miss him when he's not around." 1417 01:13:15,320 --> 01:13:16,720 That is absolute bullshit. 1418 01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:19,480 ..threatens to demolish all their hard won-progress. 1419 01:13:19,520 --> 01:13:20,560 Say cheese. 1420 01:13:21,680 --> 01:13:23,760 What are those? Who are you married to 1421 01:13:23,800 --> 01:13:25,800 and whose apartment is this? And I respect that, but... 1422 01:13:25,840 --> 01:13:28,280 But you don't because you put it up on my fridge. 1423 01:13:28,320 --> 01:13:31,160 And could yet more clashes between Grace and Ashley... 1424 01:13:31,200 --> 01:13:33,240 I don't need to feel like the problem. 1425 01:13:33,280 --> 01:13:35,840 ..spell an unexpected end to their marriage? 1426 01:13:35,880 --> 01:13:38,480 I can't do this. I'm at my limit. 1427 01:13:38,520 --> 01:13:39,720 Is it over, then, Ash? 118888

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