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You got asked if you had
any feelings towards me...
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Previously... ..and
apparently you didn't say anything.
..a retreat reunion...
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I've been left
and didn't know what was going on.
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I don't give a BLEEP. I don't care.
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..proved to be the final straw
for Maeve and Joe.
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Get me home now.
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You don't tell someone that you love
them and don't mean it.
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..and... Divarni, you could have
walked away. You're a grown man,
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you know you make your own
decisions.
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..after a fiery
showdown with husband Divarni...
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Don't talk to me like I'm a
BLEEP kid.
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I've tried my best. I'm over it, I'm
done. Same shit.
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..Julia-Ruth's fury spread through
the group.
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Why are you so worried, babe?
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He deserves the best
and you haven't given him that.
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I think you've hurt
the boy sitting next to you.
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Pull your BLEEP up because you're
boring as BLEEP, seriously.
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You're an evil person.
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And provoked a surprise
reaction from Steven.
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People she hasn't directly affected,
shut up, it's as simple as that.
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Tonight...
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It's beyond my expectations.
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..as the couples return to face
the experts...
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I'm getting chills.
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Yeah!
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It's so good. ..some reap the
rewards from their time away.
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We're just getting stronger
and stronger,
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and my feelings are massive.
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But, for others... I've gone week
in,
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week out, trying to make things
work.
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I've wasted my time.
..turmoil from the retreat...
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What more can I do now?
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The relationship is in the gutter.
You didn't give it a second.
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..continues to build. Like,
are you on the verge of leaving?
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If I'm not giving you what you need,
I need to go.
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And Grace...
This has been the hardest week.
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..is left questioning her marriage
to Ashley.
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We were bringing out the very worst
in each other, so I've chosen to...
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Love you.
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I like you a little bit, too.
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Morning. Morning.
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Thank you very much. You're welcome.
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Good coffee. Well done, thank you.
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Always. Call me the Coffee King.
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So, the dinner party was chaotic,
wasn't it?
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Oh, my gosh, I was not expecting
it to go down like that at all.
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I knew there was going to be drama,
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but I feel like
that was at a whole new level.
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Yeah.
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Oh, that was so much drama,
wasn't there?
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It was a lot. I'm just
so lucky to be here with you.
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Yeah, we're strong now, aren't we?
I'm happy. I'm happy, too.
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How are you feeling about today?
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It's going to be an eventful one,
I think.
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I'm most looking forward
to seeing Divarni.
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I was kind of a bit down, actually,
at the dinner party,
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because Divarni was next to me
and he was, like, quite shaken.
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I think Julia-Ruth was a lot.
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She was just so rude.
To have Divarni sat next to her,
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and that speech,
it's so insensitive.
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Does she not realise everything
that she's doing is hurtful to him?
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For him, his marriage is over
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and she's just laughing,
like nothing's ever happened.
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Yeah. She knows,
she just doesn't care.
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The retreat was rocky, for sure.
Julia-Ruth still mugging me off,
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still not taking accountability.
But it was just very dramatic,
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and I felt like she
just wanted to be
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the centre of attention
and go out with a bang.
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Obviously,
the feelings just don't disappear,
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but she hurt me and, knowing
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that my feelings were taken
advantage of,
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it's come down to this.
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The marriage can't be salvaged,
no.
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I know I can walk out of this
with my head held high.
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The retreat was intense
because I feel like
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we've just gotten
a lot of attention on us.
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At least this time I got to stand
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up and do what I needed to do
for myself.
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We've got some closure.
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I feel proud
that I just held my own.
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I honestly don't think
the marriage can be salvaged at all.
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I don't think we're the right people
for each other.
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Sometimes you just need to know
when to walk away from it.
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I'm ready for another Juicy Roo
feast today.
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I think it's going to be same vibes
as the retreat.
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I feel like people will
definitely be ready
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to get in their final bits
and say their pieces,
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but I'm definitely standing
my ground.
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I won't take that,
so I'm just going
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to go back to Juicy Roo,
back to myself,
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the person who walked in here.
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Last night, Steven
and I had a bit of a barney.
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It was a hard dinner party for me
because I never argue
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with people like
I did with Julia-Ruth and,
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actually, I would have liked a
little bit more support from Steven.
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Julia-Ruth was being nasty to me.
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When she kept interrupting me, he
could have just piped up and said,
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"Don't talk to my wife that way,"
or, "Let my wife speak."
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At that point, I was like, "I'm so
done with hiding how I'm feeling."
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I need him to put me first,
make me feel secure,
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that's what needs to change.
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Morning, tea's there. Thanks.
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I need to see some progress
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because, if I don't,
then I'm wasting my time.
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I lost my cool with Julia-Ruth,
like, she's really wound me up.
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I think I just had to say
what I needed to say.
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I could see that you were getting
annoyed at me.
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Just, like, that went on longer than
what it should have,
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that dinner party.
And like I said,
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I was sitting there thinking,
"I'm bored of everyone
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"just, like, chirping in, it's
like..."
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I was just hoping, more than
anything, that you would comfort me,
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that's what I need
in a relationship.
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Nelly said she wanted me to back her
up in her argument with Julia-Ruth.
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I've always said,
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if it's between you and that person,
I won't get involved, and
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she's taken it to heart.
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I don't get why you were
so passionate about the situation.
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I don't need to be at the show
that I've not bought a ticket for.
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I don't know what to do at this
point.
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I just feel like I need more
from you.
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Today will be really important
for us.
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Yeah, for sure.
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I've tried to be
as supportive as possible,
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but I think the biggest issue
for us is actually the reassurance.
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She's already said,
I need to show a little bit more.
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She does overthink.
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I'm fully questioning how much I can
do to make this girl happy.
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We're getting close to crunch time
with the end of the experiment.
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I'm starting to mentally check out.
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How are you feeling today?
Are you all right?
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I'm all right, yeah.
I think that that talk we had
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last night has kind of confused me.
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I'm upsetting you by doing things
that I think are right and noble.
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Mm-hm. And I'm starting to just
feel really unheard...
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..in the relationship.
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I've been anxious this morning.
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Grace and I are
arguing over April, basically.
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So, in the games that we play
in the retreat,
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April has listed me, and then Grace
has taken
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a little bit of insecurity with
that because, April and I,
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we do get on well.
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We had a good week until last night.
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The initial reason we started
arguing was
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because April consistently
chooses Ash,
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no matter what the question.
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Who she'd rather be matched with?
Who's the funniest? It's always Ash.
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It is just a game,
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but it does come across
as a little bit threatening.
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I asked Ash,
"Could we tackle it together?"
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Ash did not attack the problem
together.
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At the end of the dinner party,
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April asked me what was wrong.
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I just explained to April,
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Grace feels uncomfortable
and I just don't feel
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like we can have that friendship
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that we could have had
because of that.
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I've then told Grace
that it's happened,
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and Grace has hit the roof and she's
pissed off at me for doing it.
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They had a conversation.
Why did I have no input here?
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Like, this was my issue.
It was me being disrespected.
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Why have you two squashed it between
the two of you?
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And so I was annoyed.
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We should have
dealt with it together and I
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apologise for shooting the gun. Mm.
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I understand that you wanted to fix
the April situation,
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but it was the complete opposite of
what I asked you to do.
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I think you do, sort of,
genuinely, just think your way is
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the right way,
and I need to get used to your way,
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otherwise,
this relationship will never work,
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and that's
what I find a bit challenging.
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I'm not sure you trust me.
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You're constantly questioning
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my character with the things that
you're upset with.
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Um...
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..we both came here for marriage.
It is hard work.
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Is it this hard work? I don't know.
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I don't think either of us want
to leave,
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but we're both starting to feel like
we don't have a choice. Hmm.
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I'm feeling really torn going into
the commitment ceremony today.
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This is the hardest
decision I've ever had to make.
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I really, really like Grace.
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I really want to make it work,
but there's always something
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I'm doing that needs to be argued
with, or picked up on, or attacked.
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We're both coming at this from just
completely different angles.
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He is very focused on
what he believes
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is the right thing to be,
and how he should be as a husband,
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and not what I'm literally telling
him.
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I'm upset. I am the person who...
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..is telling you it wasn't right
for me, as your wife.
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I don't know where my head's at.
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I feel emotional about today's
commitment ceremony.
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It's absolutely OK to walk away
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if this isn't the right
relationship,
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and if this is damaging,
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but it's also OK...
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..if I still feel
like there's a push I could give.
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Ash and I do have feelings
for each other...
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..but when is the right time...
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..to say, "Enough is enough"?
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Welcome to your penultimate
commitment ceremony.
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This is one of the last
opportunities
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for you to really open up to us,
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and share your thoughts
and feelings about your marriages.
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So, as always, be honest
and vulnerable,
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and make the most of your time
with us,
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while you still have
the opportunity.
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First up to the couch...
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..Abigail and John.
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It's like I'm renewing my vows...
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..with my wedding shoes as well. Aw.
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This is good, you look good.
Thank you.
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Thank you. So, how are you both?
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Yeah, we're good.
We had, like, a great week.
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The retreat was nice because I feel
like we just, kind of,
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like, opened up a lot more,
and we just, kind of, had fun.
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OK. Yeah, I had a bit of a moment
where we were looking around
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the house that we had at the
couple's retreat
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and I was like, "Oh, the last time
we were looking around
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"a villa was in the
Seychelles on our honeymoon,"
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and we were strangers then,
weren't we?
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And now to kind of think,
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"Oh, look, there's been so much
growth in that time."
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We're just so comfortable
with each other, aren't we?
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Communication, we talk about
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what we want after the experiment,
even now, you know?
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We want a family and we're speaking
about that, even now, you know?
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So, you've already talked about
having children with each other?
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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
I feel so connected to Abi.
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We just know, like, we're a team
and I've never had a we
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and I've never had an us,
and, when we speak about a family,
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I just thought that might pass me
by.
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And now, because of Abi, all of
that is on the table...
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Wow. ..and that's an amazing,
amazing place to be.
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How does that feel?
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You spent all those years single.
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At certain points, you had given up
hope. Yeah.
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You now meet someone who you're
talking about having children with.
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Hmm-hmm.
I'm getting chills, to be fair.
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Honestly,
like, it's beyond my expectations.
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Wow.
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Wow. OK, Abi, I know
the hope that you had.
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How does it feel to know that
that hope is being realised?
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It's just incredible.
I've never been in love.
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I've never, kind of,
felt that way before.
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You just said you've never been in
love.
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Are you in love now?
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I think I, 100%, I have fallen
and I have massive,
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strong feelings for John,
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and I know that I will be
in love with him,
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it's just a matter of time.
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So, I'm curious, Abi,
are you concerned with saying that?
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I'm not concerned with saying it,
but I want John to know
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that, when I say it,
then that's 100% for life.
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When I say it, that's it,
that is, literally, for definite.
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So can I play devil's advocate?
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Do you think that you've put the
cart
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before the horse discussing a child,
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but not confirming
that you love your partner?
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I see what you mean,
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but I can definitely see John being
an amazing dad,
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so I feel comfortable to
having those discussions.
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Having a kid is such a big topic,
you need to be on the same page,
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and, even at the wedding, we had
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this discussion about
whether we wanted kids.
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But it sounds like you've progressed
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that to not just do you want kids,
but you've said,
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"Do you want kids with me?" Yeah.
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I see qualities in Abi that I would
want in the mother of my child,
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but we also know we have to have
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all of this right
before we have children.
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OK. Yeah, family is a massive
part of our lives.
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That's why homestays will be such
a key turning point,
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because we'll be able
to see how each other interacts,
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whether we would be able
to integrate our lives.
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I hoped that I would meet my forever
person,
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that's why I came here,
and, like, obviously,
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in the past, I'd never met
that person.
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So, I felt like that wasn't for me.
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But, after meeting John,
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like, he has all the qualities
that I've ever wanted,
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and the way he supports me,
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and makes me come out of my shell,
and allow me to be myself.
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All right, fair. We push you
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to think about this relationship
because we want it to be right.
287
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It feels good, it looks good, right?
Yeah.
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But we just want to ensure
that it is good, right?
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So, let's go to a decision
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and we're going to start with John.
291
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I'm just having the absolute time
of my life with you.
292
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Every single day gets better,
293
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I'm more excited now to think about
what happens beyond this experiment.
294
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Every day is amazing
and so much more than I asked for,
295
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so, with that being said,
I'm writing stay.
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Yay. Great stuff.
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Each week, it keeps getting better
and better between us,
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and I'm just really excited
about our future
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and looking forward to, like,
knowing even more about you,
300
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and, yeah, just our future together.
301
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So, and that's why I have decided to
write stay.
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Aw.
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I love that you're clapping
for each other.
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It's so good. It's so good.
It's so good.
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I'll tell you what,
keep learning about each other,
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keep loving each other.
Thank you. Thank you.
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Thank you so much. Thank you. Well
done. Good stuff.
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Next up to the couch...
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..Nelly and Steven.
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Hey, guys. Good to see the two of
you.
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How are you doing?
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It's been a testing week again,
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um... OK. We had a couple
of disagreements, to say the least.
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Mm. I felt one of them was extremely
petty at the dinner party,
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Nelly's whole argument
with Julia-Ruth,
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and I was
sitting there thinking,
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"Oh, my God, my name's come up
again.
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"This is going on longer than
what it should.
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"We're getting nowhere fast."
I was already frustrated at that.
320
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We could definitely see that you
were getting quite frustrated.
321
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Mm. So, Nelly,
what's your take on the argument?
322
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Because I know that it was quite
important
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for you to share with Julia-Ruth
that you were upset about her saying
324
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that she has an attraction
to Steven.
325
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You were feeling quite emotional.
326
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What are your thoughts about that?
327
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You're allowed to be attracted
to Steven.
328
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What bothers me is that -
what was your plan?
329
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Was your plan to get him for partner
swap and then turn his head,
330
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and then Steven can say to me,
331
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"Sorry, I've got feelings for
Julia-Ruth,
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"now - see you later, Nelly"?
333
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Like, in my head, I'm thinking,
if that's your plan,
334
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and it worked,
I don't think you've considered how
335
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I would feel in that moment. She
just didn't feel very sorry to me.
336
00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:51,080
I wonder if there was a part of you
337
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that wanted, maybe, more reassurance
from Steven.
338
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I think you're right.
339
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I would have liked more support,
because I'm stood there defending
340
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and fighting for our relationship
341
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and feeling disrespected
in that moment.
342
00:17:03,320 --> 00:17:06,560
It was annoying
when Julia-Ruth was interrupting,
343
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just maybe, like, a, "Let my wife
speak," or something.
344
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Just, maybe, a little bit more
support.
345
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That's what I need, and that's
what I'm used to,
346
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and that's what I want from a
relationship.
347
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I would have liked to have
seen more support of Nelly
348
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because, actually, what she's saying
349
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is, "This could potentially
threaten our relationship."
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But I wanted them to talk
and hash things out,
351
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and I thought, in that moment,
it didn't need other people.
352
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I don't want to jump into something,
353
00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:33,480
then I feel like I'm the aggressor.
354
00:17:33,520 --> 00:17:36,560
But you looked very angry,
even in that moment.
355
00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:38,040
It looked like you were irritated
356
00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:39,800
that Nelly was bringing this
up again.
357
00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:41,280
What we saw was the, kind of,
like, "Ugh."
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Then it makes me think,
"Why am I doing all this fighting?"
359
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And that's why it felt like -
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you were really fighting for the
relationship... Yeah.
361
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..and I wasn't seeing that
reassurance from you, Steven.
362
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Something around the fact
that, "There's no threat here.
363
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"You're the person that I want to be
with.
364
00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:04,720
"I know where my heart is," and
that's usually what you expect. Mm.
365
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And I think that's been
my biggest problem,
366
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because last week, on the sofa,
I said,
367
00:18:08,120 --> 00:18:09,920
"I'm only here for one person
and one person only,
368
00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:11,120
"like, I'm married to Nelly."
369
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And I think me saying that,
in my head,
370
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would have been sufficient enough.
371
00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:17,000
I'm here for Nelly
and I've said that.
372
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But you just need to tell me.
373
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And I've said to Steven
that I do need more from you.
374
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The relationship, as it is, wouldn't
be enough for me on the outside.
375
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What is the point?
376
00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:28,120
I need to see actual progress
and start to feel, again,
377
00:18:28,160 --> 00:18:30,000
like I'm in an actual relationship.
378
00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:31,800
Because at the moment you don't feel
like you are?
379
00:18:31,840 --> 00:18:33,720
I feel like sometimes we
just co-exist.
380
00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:37,000
We're getting towards the end of
the experiment.
381
00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:38,880
I'm not just going to go cruising
through,
382
00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:41,240
it's not what I'm here for.
I do want to see progress.
383
00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:44,280
I can provide that.
But if it hasn't started that way,
384
00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:48,440
it can't just be like, right, boom,
let's go and slap on the PDA.
385
00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:49,800
But it's not about PDA,
386
00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:51,680
it's feeling like it's more of
a relationship,
387
00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:53,280
feeling more secure
with one another.
388
00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:54,880
It's not just about PDA for me.
389
00:18:54,920 --> 00:18:58,760
I'm still being affectionate, but
not to the extent that I know I can.
390
00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:01,960
I just struggle to understand
that, if you can be more
391
00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:03,520
affectionate, why aren't you being?
392
00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:08,000
It's just, as I say, it's more
because that intimate,
393
00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:10,280
playful level never started
that way.
394
00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:11,920
But it did start
that way on the honeymoon.
395
00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:15,200
It wasn't like that much, like,
I'd put my arm around her,
396
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I'd give her a kiss, I'd hold
her hand,
397
00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:18,640
I'd tell her that she looked
beautiful.
398
00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:19,880
But I said a few weeks back,
399
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I didn't want another physical
relationship,
400
00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:22,840
I wanted emotional first.
401
00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:24,560
I'm not even hearing the emotional
stuff.
402
00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:28,760
I mean, if your wife is needing your
support in a public environment
403
00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:30,640
where she's having a conflict
404
00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:33,360
with someone else
and she's not getting it,
405
00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:37,040
well, that's not establishing
an emotional connection either.
406
00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,360
What about just putting
your hand on her back
407
00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:42,320
or just saying, "It's OK,
babe, I've got you"? Yeah.
408
00:19:44,920 --> 00:19:47,440
So, it sounds like there's a lot
for you to reflect on,
409
00:19:47,480 --> 00:19:51,640
in terms of communication
and actually showing up as a unit.
410
00:19:51,680 --> 00:19:54,480
Yeah, I want to be a team. I want to
tackle the solutions together
411
00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:58,560
and not work against each
other. What I still don't get,
412
00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:01,880
I'm like, how are you not fuming
at Julia-Ruth? Because I am.
413
00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:06,080
I do need to show a lot more.
414
00:20:06,120 --> 00:20:08,520
The communication
does need to happen more, for sure.
415
00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:14,280
All right, let's go to a decision.
416
00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,200
Nelly, let's start with you.
417
00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:21,440
Based on this week...
418
00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:24,560
..it can feel
like we're just co-existing...
419
00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:28,400
..and that's not what I want,
it's not what I'm here for.
420
00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:32,480
I know what I need and I know
what I deserve.
421
00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:37,480
The relationship, as it is, isn't
enough and I do need more.
422
00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:40,400
And if you can't give it,
423
00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:41,640
then what's the point?
424
00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:56,120
I know what I need and I know
what I deserve.
425
00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:01,080
The relationship, as it is, isn't
enough and I do need more.
426
00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:05,240
And if you can't give it,
then what's the point?
427
00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:14,080
We're coming towards the end
and I really need to see progress.
428
00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,800
But I do think there
is something there,
429
00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:19,440
and I just think,
430
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:23,040
if we both really put the work in,
it could be something amazing.
431
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,600
So, for that reason,
I've decided to...
432
00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:28,680
..stay.
433
00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:37,480
Thank you. Nelly.
Steven, what's your decision?
434
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,840
I would have liked to have
been more progress
435
00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:42,480
following on from last week,
for sure.
436
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:44,760
I know I need to provide more,
437
00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:46,680
but I'm obviously willing
to make it work,
438
00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:48,680
because I do care for you, I do like
you,
439
00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:50,680
so I've put stay...
440
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:53,600
..for now.
441
00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:56,680
For now?
442
00:21:58,040 --> 00:21:59,960
Are you on the verge of leaving?
443
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:07,280
This is the last week where things
need to click for both of us.
444
00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:11,160
If I can't provide for Nelly
what she needs
445
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:12,840
for me, and, sort of, vice versa...
446
00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:15,440
..then I'd have to...
447
00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:17,800
..tap out of the experiment.
448
00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:23,440
I have asked you so many times,
"What do I need to give you?"
449
00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:25,000
And you've said, you've
not said anything.
450
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,320
Just be yourself, that's all I'm
asking. But I am being myself.
451
00:22:27,360 --> 00:22:28,960
I'm being completely myself.
452
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:30,640
To become a team, you need to work
in unison,
453
00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:34,560
so stay for now means we've got a
week.
454
00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:36,280
If I'm not giving you what you need,
I need to go.
455
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:41,120
I don't really know what else
I could say to add onto that.
456
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:43,480
That's OK.
It sounds like it's quite a shock
457
00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:45,440
for you to hear what Steven is
saying.
458
00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:49,120
If it doesn't work out after this
week, then he's going.
459
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,280
I didn't expect the stay for now.
460
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:56,320
I think I'm just processing it all.
461
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,880
OK, so it sounds like this is an
important week for the two of you.
462
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:03,080
All right. Thanks. Thank you very
much. Thank you.
463
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:05,240
Right.
464
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,760
I didn't understand
the stay for now
465
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:10,800
and I feel a bit blindsided by it.
466
00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:13,000
If you want to leave, leave.
I don't want to be a mug,
467
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:14,080
I'm not that girl.
468
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,160
My feelings for Nelly right now
are diminishing.
469
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,640
Feels like anything
I do isn't good enough.
470
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:23,880
What's bothering me the most is
that I'm the only
471
00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:26,120
one who's ever got homework
in this marriage.
472
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:27,680
There's two people involved in this
473
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:29,720
and I think something needs
to change drastically
474
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:33,360
because, pretty soon, I'll be
dropping my wedding ring off.
475
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:36,120
Next up on the couch...
476
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:39,240
..Davide and Keye.
477
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:47,160
Hello. Hello. Hello.
How are we doing?
478
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,080
Good, how are you? We're good.
How was last week?
479
00:23:50,120 --> 00:23:52,640
It was really good. Do you know
what? Our communication is
480
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:54,280
just getting so much better, like,
481
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:56,480
we're just getting stronger
and stronger.
482
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:58,240
Above all, this week,
it was just great.
483
00:23:58,280 --> 00:23:59,960
It was good to, even
484
00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:03,360
separate from him for the day,
to be with the boys.
485
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,560
And then, he just comes to me
and tells me like,
486
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,200
"Oh, I love you so much,"
I was like, "Thank you,"
487
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:11,120
but it's great. No,
he makes me feel very seen,
488
00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:12,560
and I'm not even doing
anything special,
489
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:15,840
I'm just being me.
It's definitely something special.
490
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:21,760
What's clear here is you're both
very comfortable with one another.
491
00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:26,080
We are getting to the end very soon,
so are you worried how
492
00:24:26,120 --> 00:24:28,440
it'll work outside of
the experiment?
493
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:31,400
Yeah, it is slightly nerve-racking,
just because you are
494
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,760
so accustomed to waking
up every single morning together.
495
00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:38,880
But we are a 30-minute taxi ride
away from one another,
496
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:40,600
so he is basically my neighbour.
497
00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:42,600
But that 30 minutes
is still very different
498
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,760
to sharing an apartment together,
499
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:47,760
so it's natural to have some form
of anxiety.
500
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:49,600
But there's also excitement,
because there's
501
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:52,760
so many thousands of firsts
that we're going to get to do.
502
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:53,960
Like, the excitement of both
503
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:57,400
of us being at work all week,
and then having to plan a date,
504
00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:58,880
and surprising each other,
like, there's
505
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:02,040
so many fun firsts that come from
that as well,
506
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:04,280
so apprehensive but excited.
507
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,440
Yeah. And we're confident we're
going to make it work.
508
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:08,280
I know there'll be times
where we're not going
509
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:09,760
to be able to wake
up with each other,
510
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:11,720
but I'm a phone call away
if you need me.
511
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:16,640
You know, I'll say this,
from my time in this experiment,
512
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:19,240
I believe that you two affirm
513
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,960
each other better..
514
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,400
..than anyone I've ever seen.
515
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,760
Thank you. Thank you so much.
You're making me cry. Yeah.
516
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:28,920
And I think that you've been
challenged,
517
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:32,800
and I think you've met these
challenges phenomenally well.
518
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:34,720
You should be incredibly proud.
519
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:36,280
Thank you. Thank you so much.
520
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:38,640
You know, I waited
before I said this
521
00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:40,480
because I wanted to see
if it was real -
522
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,000
and it's clear that it's real.
523
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:43,920
And I think we should just go right
to a decision.
524
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:45,080
Thank you. Thank you so much.
525
00:25:45,120 --> 00:25:46,320
All right. Davide.
526
00:25:48,120 --> 00:25:49,960
You are doing things to me
527
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,520
that I didn't know that I could even
think about.
528
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:56,960
I never had anyone praise me
for being me.
529
00:25:57,000 --> 00:26:00,120
I've never felt that special...
530
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:01,480
..by anyone.
531
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:07,200
And I, right now, really can't see
my life without you in it.
532
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:11,400
You're the calm in the storm
and you'll always be my anchor.
533
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,440
I've decided to stay.
534
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:20,240
You, on our honeymoon,
535
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,560
you promised that
every day would be a honeymoon
536
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:25,320
and you have yet to break
that promise.
537
00:26:25,360 --> 00:26:28,080
You just bring so much light
and joy into my life,
538
00:26:28,120 --> 00:26:30,680
and I can't imagine going through
anything without you,
539
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:32,240
and do you know what?
I wouldn't want to.
540
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:34,080
I can't wait to start this next
chapter
541
00:26:34,120 --> 00:26:36,480
of our lives together and raise
542
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,800
a horde of irritating children
with you.
543
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:40,920
I know, right? For that reason,
544
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:42,200
I will stay. Aw.
545
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,200
Excellent job. Thank you so much.
Thank you, guys.
546
00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:53,440
Thank you so much. Thank you.
I'm so happy for you guys. Yay! Yay!
547
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:01,600
Yay!
548
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:08,160
And next up on the couch...
549
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:13,040
..we have Maeve.
550
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,800
Oh, honey. Oh, God.
551
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:28,080
I just really want
to commend you on your courage
552
00:27:28,120 --> 00:27:32,760
and resilience and strength
for coming here, once again,
553
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:35,040
third time, by yourself. Yeah.
554
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,720
So, you had a visit from Joe? Yes.
555
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,800
How did that play out from your
perspective?
556
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:44,720
Um, I probably didn't get...
557
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:48,880
..the answers that I deserved.
558
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,360
I'm going round and round and round
in circles.
559
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:55,080
But, when someone tells me
that it's 100% done and walks off,
560
00:27:55,120 --> 00:27:57,840
I'm not chasing after anyone.
I ain't doing that.
561
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:01,800
I understand,
in that conversation with Joe,
562
00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:06,920
you heard some bits of information
about how he feels about you.
563
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,360
What did you take from that?
Not a lot.
564
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:12,560
I asked him, "How do you feel about
me?"
565
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,720
And he couldn't give a definite
answer, still.
566
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:16,120
If you love someone,
567
00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:18,920
you're either, it's either a yes or
a no, in my eyes. Hmm.
568
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:22,160
And if you can't answer that
question, then it's a no, innit?
569
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:26,400
I would love to provide information
for you about Joe.
570
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:28,600
He's written you a letter.
571
00:28:30,360 --> 00:28:33,440
I'd like to read it to you,
if that's OK. Yeah.
572
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:47,680
"Maeve. I'd like to say thank you
573
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:50,960
"for your amazing support
during this process.
574
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:52,680
"You know better than
anyone how I've been
575
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,440
"so up and down during this
crazy experience,
576
00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:56,800
"and I can't thank you enough
577
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,320
"for being such a strong partner
through it all.
578
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:03,640
"I came into this process
for the right reasons.
579
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:06,720
"I wanted to get married
and meet my forever person,
580
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,840
"and, once it was clear that
that wasn't the case,
581
00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:12,840
"my time in the experiment
was done, there and then.
582
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:16,600
"My only regret is
583
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:20,120
"that we have clearly left things
in a negative way.
584
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:23,160
"But I'm adamant, both my decision
to leave,
585
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:24,720
"and my absence here today, is
586
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,120
"the best thing for me personally,
and our relationship.
587
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:33,400
"You are an absolutely amazing
person with a heart of gold...
588
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:37,320
"..and I'm sure there is a very
lucky man out there
589
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,520
"that will be the right person
for you.
590
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:42,920
"My honesty about my feelings
591
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:44,920
"is obviously being questioned
right now...
592
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,560
"..but, when I told you I loved you,
I genuinely meant it.
593
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:53,920
"I wish you nothing
but the best going forward.
594
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:56,840
"Joe. Kiss."
595
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,600
It's hard because I don't know.
596
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:07,480
I don't actually know what he's
telling me was the truth or not.
597
00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:12,040
It is a shitty thing to say
if you don't actually mean it.
598
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:14,840
When I love someone, I love them
hard, and that's who I am,
599
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,320
and I'm not changing
that for anyone.
600
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:19,840
I did feel heartbroken this week,
601
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:21,840
but, like, don't say it if you don't
mean it.
602
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:25,000
Yeah.
I deserve better, I deserve answers,
603
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:29,040
and I know that I deserve respect,
so it's not OK.
604
00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,920
What did you learn from
the relationship with Joe
605
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:37,120
that, perhaps, you'll
take into your next relationship?
606
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:40,640
I can be vulnerable and it's OK
to feel what I'm feeling.
607
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,320
Like, I used to put everyone else,
like, before me,
608
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:46,120
but now I think actually, like,
my feelings are valid, too.
609
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:48,280
I just feel like I've grown
as a person.
610
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:49,800
I'm sound now,
do you know what I mean?
611
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:51,840
Like, I've grown so much.
612
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:53,520
I might not be going out with
a husband,
613
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:58,000
but I'm going out with friends
that actually love me
614
00:30:58,040 --> 00:30:59,800
and that just means so much to me.
615
00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:02,680
Is there anything you'd like to say
616
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,800
to this wonderful group of people
here, Maeve?
617
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:10,040
Don't know if I can.
618
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:18,280
Um, I just want to say thank you
for everything,
619
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:20,320
and especially feeding me the past
two weeks
620
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:22,200
because I have not been food
shopping.
621
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,280
Honestly, like, I actually love yous
from the bottom
622
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:28,200
of me heart and just thank you
623
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,120
for your support throughout
everything.
624
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:37,840
Like, I actually love yous so much
and I can't say anything else.
625
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:39,160
We love you, Maeve. Well done.
626
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,120
Well, I guess all that's left to do
is show us your decision.
627
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:54,840
I've decided to
628
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:55,880
leave.
629
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:03,640
Thank you. Maeve.
630
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:06,960
Well, would you like to say goodbye
to all of your buddies?
631
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:08,120
Come here, then.
632
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:14,720
Aw, it's just the beginning, gal.
It's not goodbye.
633
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:15,800
It's the beginning.
634
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:18,440
Love you. Group hug.
635
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,160
I have learnt so much about myself.
636
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:25,880
I've learnt that I'm a lot stronger
than what I thought I ever was.
637
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:27,080
Oh, Nell.
638
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,520
I'm really heartbroken and sad
that I'm leaving today.
639
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:35,120
I didn't expect my marriage to end
like this...
640
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:37,760
..but I'm not giving up on love.
641
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:48,000
But I cannot wait
to see me little boy,
642
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:50,280
and I'm so ready for the next
chapter of me life.
643
00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:04,400
OK, next up to the couch,
Rebecca and Bailey.
644
00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:13,400
Hello. Hello. Hello.
Good to see the two of you.
645
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:17,800
Lovely look, Rebecca. Thank you.
Guys, how has your week been?
646
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:19,400
Really good, actually.
Yeah, really good.
647
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:20,800
I have to say,
648
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:24,240
observing you at the dinner party,
I was literally just smiling.
649
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:27,000
What's really beautiful about the
two of you
650
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:29,640
is just seeing how secure
you both are
651
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:32,120
to speak to others... Yeah.
..but you still have a way
652
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:33,840
of making sure each
other knows that,
653
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,920
you know, "I still got you."
And there's the little kisses,
654
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:39,040
the way that you glance at each
other.
655
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:42,280
It literally is a perfect
romantic story...
656
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:43,720
Aw, thank you. ..and it's so
beautiful to watch.
657
00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:45,840
It does feel like that, doesn't it?
658
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:47,760
Yeah, I think we both are
very secure
659
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:49,400
in ourselves as individuals...
Right.
660
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:51,120
..but we're both very secure
together,
661
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:53,480
so I love that we're both around the
room,
662
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:54,800
and speaking to everybody else,
663
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:57,200
but we know that each other's there,
like, it just feels comfortable.
664
00:33:57,240 --> 00:33:59,080
Excellent.
665
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:01,920
We are getting to the end of the
experiment very soon,
666
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:06,560
so any discussions around how it
will work outside of the experiment?
667
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:09,120
We haven't got a solid plan,
I think that's probably
668
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:11,600
what gives us that little bit
of anxiety, doesn't it?
669
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:13,480
I love spending all of my time
with Bec
670
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,120
and, like, I love waking
up to her every day,
671
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:16,360
and I feel like it's just that part
672
00:34:16,400 --> 00:34:18,840
that we know we're not going to have
that. Yeah.
673
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:20,000
The intensity.
674
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,040
We're very affectionate
and not waking
675
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,560
up with each other every day is
what we're worried about,
676
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:27,480
but we're really committed
to each other.
677
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,720
I've got no doubt
that we'll put absolutely
678
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:33,160
everything into it to make it work.
Sure. Yeah. I'm confident in us.
679
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:38,160
I am confident we'll be fine.
It's just the only real worry,
680
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:39,560
I guess, which is a good,
681
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,960
I mean, a really great place to be,
isn't it? Yeah. We can't complain.
682
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:46,440
And I can't wait to see us back
at each other's homes.
683
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:47,520
And hopefully there's meeting
684
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:49,360
Bluebelle one day as well,
which would be good,
685
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:51,120
I've started to picture how
that's going to go,
686
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,160
and, yeah, it's really exciting,
I guess.
687
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:55,760
You just slipped in there,
688
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:57,520
"I'm going to introduce you
to my child."
689
00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:00,040
I know she'll love you
and I know you'll love her.
690
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:01,440
It's the next big thing for us.
691
00:35:02,720 --> 00:35:06,160
Excellent. Well, I am super
confident in both of you.
692
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:07,240
I am so confident
693
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,840
that I'm going to ask you right away
what your decisions are.
694
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:12,640
I think we've both got similar
worries about
695
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:16,240
what happens after this,
but it's because we're
696
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:19,240
so in this together now
and we don't want it to end,
697
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:20,680
but I know that we will both try
698
00:35:20,720 --> 00:35:23,600
and we'll put absolutely everything
into it to make it work,
699
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:25,000
so I'm choosing to stay.
700
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:33,640
Bailey, what's your decision?
Obviously an easy one.
701
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:35,200
Absolutely obsessed with you.
702
00:35:35,240 --> 00:35:38,520
I said I love you ages ago, but it
has just grown and grown and grown,
703
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:41,360
so, of course, I'm going to stay.
704
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,440
OK. Have a good week, guys.
Thanks very much. Cheers, guys.
705
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,400
Well done, you guys.
Thank you, guys.
706
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:04,080
Next up on the couch, if we could
have...
707
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:06,920
..Leigh and Leah come up.
708
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:15,720
Hello. Hello. Hiya.
709
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:20,200
Ladies, how do we feel?
710
00:36:20,240 --> 00:36:22,560
Good. Yeah, I feel good.
711
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:24,600
Yeah, I feel like we're a lot
closer this week.
712
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:27,840
Yeah, I feel like
we're both at a similar pace now.
713
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,320
More PDA as well,
I think that's totally changed.
714
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:35,720
I think we are at the same level
of vulnerability and... It's good.
715
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:39,120
So, these are all positives, right?
Let's play a game.
716
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:40,360
I like a game.
717
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:47,920
I want you to use a word
to describe your emotional intimacy.
718
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:51,320
United. United.
Yeah. That's a great word.
719
00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:54,880
Team. Team, I love it.
Let's keep going.
720
00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:58,720
One word
to describe your physical intimacy.
721
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,640
Leah, you go first.
722
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:02,080
Steady. Yeah. Ooh.
723
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:04,800
Steady's kind of sexy. Steady's
sexy. Ooh! Yeah.
724
00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:07,440
Progressing. Progressing.
725
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:10,880
So, these are all positive words.
726
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:16,960
Now, at the dinner party, there was
a great chat around intimacy.
727
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:18,440
I think, for me,
728
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:21,840
sleeping together wasn't necessarily
the actual end goal.
729
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:23,360
It was more like,
I wasn't feeling like
730
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:24,600
I was getting any vulnerability
731
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:27,480
from her, and any intimacy and...
Like the flirtiness and stuff.
732
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:29,840
..where we were kissing.
Yeah, it was the flirtiness.
733
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,800
Now that I've started getting that,
I'm happy.
734
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,640
So, we're moving
735
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:38,800
in a direction where you both,
it sounds like, you're pleased.
736
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,120
Yeah, for me, like I'm happy
where it is now,
737
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,240
like, compared to where I was. OK.
738
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:49,280
What's really clear here is that the
emotional intimacy has really grown.
739
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:51,720
What feels like a bit of a question
mark is,
740
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,760
do you feel
that there has been progress
741
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,600
when it comes to physical intimacy?
742
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,040
Obviously things have happened.
743
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:01,480
Yeah, without, obviously, going
744
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:03,600
into detail specifically
what we've done,
745
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:05,800
yes, it's progressed from
where it was last week, yeah.
746
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:10,840
Yeah. It's just, it's just...
Not full hog yet, but half hog.
747
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:14,320
But also, like, no concerns
because we both know
748
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:16,200
what we like and what we want,
and, you know,
749
00:38:16,240 --> 00:38:18,040
we've had those conversations,
actually,
750
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:20,640
so, it's not as if it's, like,
a taboo thing between me and Leah.
751
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,760
Would you say that you two
are really good friends right now?
752
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:26,880
No. No.
753
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:31,040
We are definitely not friends. It's
definitely a relationship for me.
754
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:33,400
Yeah. We've been enjoying each
other's company,
755
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:35,040
getting to know each other,
756
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:37,320
experimenting,
that kind of thing. Yeah.
757
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:42,760
I mean, the progress is commendable,
especially where you came from.
758
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:44,040
I know.
759
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:45,840
Here's a concern, though, that I
have.
760
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:50,960
Everything is progressing, but we're
almost at the end of the experiment.
761
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,960
Mm. So, what happens on the outside,
if you start interacting with people
762
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,280
and you come across someone
who you're physically attracted to,
763
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:01,320
someone who is checking
all the "boxes"?
764
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:02,400
Is that a concern?
765
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:07,360
There's obviously going
to be people out there
766
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:10,360
that are more suited to us, for our,
for our physical type,
767
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:13,640
we all know that. Of course.
I can't sit here and say, 1,000%,
768
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:15,280
I'm going to be with her at the end
of this... Yeah.
769
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:18,320
..like I can't. How do we know
that until we get on
770
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:21,480
the outside world, until we see each
other's environments?
771
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:23,960
I may go to Leigh's homestay
772
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:27,520
and think,
"Oh, God, she's a scruffy cow,
773
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,600
"I can't be with her."
774
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:31,320
I'm just taking each day
as it comes
775
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:36,040
and, right now, it feels like
a positive growth each day,
776
00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:37,440
and that's all I'm asking for.
777
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,480
All right, you guys ready
for a decision?
778
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:43,360
Yep. Who wants to go first?
779
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:47,520
I didn't
expect to come into this experiment
780
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:52,120
and be open and vulnerable
and patient -
781
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,760
all the things that I'm not really
on the outside -
782
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:57,160
and I do feel like you have
taught me that.
783
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:58,360
I appreciate
784
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:02,640
that you have now been open,
and things are progressing,
785
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,160
so, yeah, for that reason,
786
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:06,920
I have decided to stay.
787
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:14,360
Where we were
in the beginning to now,
788
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:17,280
I don't think either
of us saw us getting here,
789
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:21,840
that we've both stuck at it and put
the work in to be where we are now.
790
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:23,600
Yeah, I'm just excited
for the next few weeks,
791
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,080
so I decided to stay.
792
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:37,240
Stay united and stay steady, right,
793
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:40,640
those two will get you anywhere
that you want to go.
794
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:43,600
All right, thank you. Well done.
Thank you. Thank you.
795
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:44,680
See you guys, bye-bye.
796
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:57,520
Next up on the couch tonight...
797
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:03,600
..Julia-Ruth and Divarni.
798
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:20,560
You two have had a rough week. Yeah.
799
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:25,240
I wanted to start just by checking
in on how you're both doing.
800
00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:27,920
Divarni, how are you feeling
tonight?
801
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,480
Just emotionally drained, yeah.
802
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,640
Julia-Ruth?
It's definitely has been,
803
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:37,520
like, a rough two weeks,
804
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,080
but I feel I'm back to myself
after the retreat.
805
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:44,600
What was your experience of
the retreat?
806
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:47,280
I felt like I was doing
the whole retreat, like, by myself.
807
00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:49,840
Two hours in, Divarni was gone.
808
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:53,880
Divarni, you made the decision not
to stay
809
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,600
in the same room... Yeah.
..as Julia-Ruth for the retreat.
810
00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:58,480
Yeah. Why was that?
811
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:00,440
I mean, there was a lot
going through my mind,
812
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:02,320
and I just needed some time and
some space.
813
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,160
Last week was pretty tough on
the couch,
814
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,520
but I did want to give her
an opportunity to take
815
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:10,360
accountability for the things
that she was called out for.
816
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:12,200
So, I was still internalising
everything else
817
00:42:12,240 --> 00:42:15,000
that came up from last commitment
ceremony.
818
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:17,960
But I did have a conversation with
Leah, Leigh and Bailey...
819
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,000
..and there was information
that I didn't know,
820
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,360
and that's when I was like,
"Look, I'm trying to make it work,"
821
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:26,000
but the reality was it wasn't
going to work.
822
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,480
So, what was the new information
that you learnt?
823
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:33,080
What I heard from Bailey,
824
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:36,040
which opened my eyes a little bit,
was about the flirting with Steven.
825
00:42:37,240 --> 00:42:39,400
That was what I didn't know.
826
00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:40,720
That was when I blew.
827
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:42,560
My worth was being undermined.
828
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:45,920
So, would you say that that
conversation,
829
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:48,440
where you learnt that information,
was the last straw?
830
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:49,520
Yeah.
831
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:56,360
Was that the point where you decided
that this relationship
832
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,120
is not going to work for you?
833
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,240
Yeah, that was the turning point
for me.
834
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:03,680
Sorry, but you were there for like,
two hours, and then you were gone.
835
00:43:03,720 --> 00:43:06,560
Fair enough that you heard that,
but you didn't give it a day.
836
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:11,840
I came to make it up to you and I
could've run at the dinner party,
837
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:13,320
could've run at the commitment
ceremony,
838
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:14,520
could've not gone to the retreat.
839
00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:17,320
I came here for you,
but you didn't give it a second.
840
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,120
I mean, I've been giving the weeks
and, obviously, the punches,
841
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:23,480
the blows and the emotions
that wasn't met,
842
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,320
and, obviously, coming into
the dinner party,
843
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:27,080
I'm seeing Julia-Ruth, she's
coming,
844
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:29,000
walking around the room all smiley,
smiley,
845
00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:31,440
like everything's all dandelions
and roses, you know what I mean?
846
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:32,680
She's having the greatest time
847
00:43:32,720 --> 00:43:34,520
and I'm just there, just wallowing
up in the emotions,
848
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:37,880
and I'm just like, look, "How
are we both in the same situation,
849
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:39,400
"but I'm feeling in one way
and you're feeling
850
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:42,280
"a different way?"
Because I also had my snap moment.
851
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:43,680
I was fuming and fed up.
852
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:50,040
We know you've had stuff going on
within your own relationship,
853
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:55,120
but also some very heavy opinions
from the group weighing in.
854
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:58,320
Yeah, at that dinner party,
everyone was just having a go,
855
00:43:58,360 --> 00:43:59,680
having a go at me.
856
00:43:59,720 --> 00:44:02,040
People ask me questions
and don't let me talk...
857
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:03,120
Jesus.
858
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:04,720
..and I just burst and I had enough.
859
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:07,080
I just felt like, I've taken
all the hits,
860
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:08,160
what more can I do now?
861
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:10,120
The relationship is in the gutter.
862
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:14,200
I'm not going to go with my tail
between my legs and cowering down.
863
00:44:15,240 --> 00:44:18,960
I'm going to walk out here the way
I came in...and I'm done.
864
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:25,960
So do you believe that you bear
responsibility in the situation?
865
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:30,160
There's no shying away
from the blunder that I've created.
866
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:33,760
What would you define as the blunder
that you made?
867
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:37,120
Honestly, I think, hurting Divarni
and saying things behind his back.
868
00:44:38,240 --> 00:44:41,080
Maybe not having my walls
down and letting people in.
869
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:42,920
I feel like I've, at least, tried.
870
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:47,760
So, Divarni, did you get the answers
that you needed
871
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:49,960
in terms of her taking
accountability?
872
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:51,800
No, not really. Not particularly,
no.
873
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:53,840
Because I didn't do it
in a group setting...
874
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:55,560
I didn't want the group setting,
that's the thing.
875
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:57,160
No, but then I've
done these things, Divarni,
876
00:44:57,200 --> 00:44:59,120
and I've apologised to you multiple
times.
877
00:45:02,240 --> 00:45:04,640
So, what do you still need to hear
from her?
878
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:06,160
Really and truly, I've checked out.
879
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:07,840
I don't really need to get
that closure.
880
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:11,160
I went into the retreat
for one last chance.
881
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:12,520
I do wear my heart on my sleeve,
882
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:15,800
so I feel like that
was taken advantage of, for sure.
883
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:17,600
I do feel like I've wasted my time.
884
00:45:17,640 --> 00:45:20,760
I've gone through every week,
week in, week out, trying
885
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:23,520
to make things work within
the relationship.
886
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:26,320
I want to give the person
that I'm with the world.
887
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:29,320
I feel like I've done the best
to give Julia-Ruth the world,
888
00:45:29,360 --> 00:45:31,480
but I don't think it
was just received like that
889
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:32,920
and that's the hard part.
890
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,840
Divarni, what would you say you've
learnt
891
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,160
about yourself in this process?
892
00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:42,600
I'm stronger than I thought I was.
893
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:45,840
Also, the biggest thing is just
standing up for myself
894
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:49,240
because I feel like I've always
put people before myself -
895
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:50,880
that's what I've learnt.
896
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:53,160
That's great. Good for you.
897
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:56,640
Julia-Ruth, what are
you taking away?
898
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:57,880
Think before I speak...
899
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:01,280
..and knowing what impact my words
900
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:04,640
have on other people
and just reflect on,
901
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:06,840
yeah, how I've treated you
in this process.
902
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:08,920
OK.
903
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,000
I think we've talked about the hard
stuff.
904
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:16,280
We're going to go to a decision.
905
00:46:17,720 --> 00:46:19,280
Divarni, we'll go to you first.
906
00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:24,720
It's been turbulent,
and I only wish you only the best...
907
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,120
..but, um, yeah...
908
00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:30,240
..leave.
909
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,760
OK. Thank you.
910
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:35,600
And Julia-Ruth. I am truly sorry.
911
00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:39,400
I have had a lot of laughs with you.
912
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:41,280
My regrets is...
913
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:45,040
..making you look silly in
front of the group,
914
00:46:45,080 --> 00:46:47,440
for saying bad things about
you behind your back,
915
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:49,280
and I've apologised to you multiple
times,
916
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:53,440
and I am, again, really sorry for
hurting you... Hmm. ..genuinely.
917
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:56,240
I'm very, very grateful,
918
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:57,640
but I have written leave.
919
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:05,120
Do either of you have anything
to say to the group?
920
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:14,720
Really big sorry for our impact
in your personal relationships.
921
00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:15,840
Yeah, sorry, team.
922
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:22,040
Divarni?
923
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:25,840
I don't even have words
for you guys.
924
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:37,080
You guys have been supportive
for me throughout this journey,
925
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:38,920
whether good or bad.
926
00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:41,880
It's something I'm going to cherish
for a very long time.
927
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:47,040
Nah, but, honestly, like,
you guys don't know
928
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:48,400
how much you guys mean to me.
929
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:50,840
It's sad it's come to this.
Nah, I love you guys a lot, man,
930
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:53,080
do you know what I mean? And
hopefully I'll see you guys again.
931
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:56,200
There you go. All right. Aw.
932
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:00,800
Thank you both.
No worries. Take a seat.
933
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:03,000
Take care, guys. Thank you.
934
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:04,080
Love you, guys.
935
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:08,560
It was very emotional
for both of us.
936
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:11,320
Julia-Ruth's regrets is good,
so I accept that.
937
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:13,640
I just look forward to taking
what I've learnt from
938
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:16,840
the experiment and applying
that to the outside world.
939
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,760
Thank you, both.
I am walking out here with my
940
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:23,640
head held high, proud of myself.
941
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:27,560
Juicy Roo, she's made an appearance,
she made a statement,
942
00:48:27,600 --> 00:48:29,160
she made some mistakes,
943
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:31,840
but I'm still going to be spicy and
naughty as ever.
944
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:35,360
Juicy Roo's out, babes.
945
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,200
Next up to the couch,
946
00:48:49,240 --> 00:48:50,680
Reiss and Leisha.
947
00:48:57,040 --> 00:48:59,200
Good to see the two of you.
Yeah. Good to see you all, too.
948
00:48:59,240 --> 00:49:02,240
So, how has your week been?
949
00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:04,040
You were at the retreat.
950
00:49:04,080 --> 00:49:06,160
We connected really well. Yeah.
951
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:08,480
It was quite nice to have some time
apart, as well,
952
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:10,360
like, obviously, I was with the
girls,
953
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:13,120
he was with the boys.
But I was so excited to see Reiss,
954
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:15,200
like, afterwards, I was
like, let me see Reiss.
955
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:18,840
I was happy. Good.
956
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:24,360
Now, let's talk about the intimacy.
OK.
957
00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:25,520
Reiss' favourite topic.
958
00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:28,640
Last week, we spoke
959
00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:33,520
about how often you're intimate,
when you're intimate.
960
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:35,400
It seems like the two of you had
961
00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:39,800
this issue, in terms of, you both
want a different pace.
962
00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:40,880
Where are you now?
963
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:43,680
You can answer that.
No, I'll let you do it because...
964
00:49:43,720 --> 00:49:44,760
No, you answer that one.
965
00:49:45,840 --> 00:49:49,040
It's, um, really good. OK.
966
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:53,560
It hasn't just been after 10pm
this week. Yeah.
967
00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:57,040
We haven't been scheduling it in.
OK.
968
00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:58,120
That sounds so weird,
969
00:49:58,160 --> 00:49:59,800
we never, actually,
did schedule things in, by the way.
970
00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:01,760
No, it just kind of happened, that.
I just needed to clear that up.
971
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:04,680
OK, but you have had conversations
972
00:50:04,720 --> 00:50:07,920
about what your sex life will look
like
973
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:10,360
in terms of making sure it meets
the needs of both of you.
974
00:50:10,400 --> 00:50:12,200
I wouldn't say we've
had conversations,
975
00:50:12,240 --> 00:50:14,960
but it's just, it's gone more of,
like, a natural flow
976
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:17,080
because I know Leisha didn't want us
to wait till bedtime,
977
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:19,400
because she felt like it was like
sort of scheduled in,
978
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:20,920
so I've, sort of, broke that rule.
979
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:25,120
Yeah.
980
00:50:25,160 --> 00:50:27,360
Have you changed the location,
as well?
981
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:28,960
Yeah. Yeah, we have. Yeah.
982
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:37,400
So, it sounds like the two of
you have
983
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:43,560
had healthy communication around how
you will be intimate moving forward.
984
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:46,600
Yes. And it sounds
like the agreement
985
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:50,440
has pleased the two of you,
because you can see the affection
986
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:51,560
between the two of you.
987
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:56,400
So, it feels like something
has worked out quite well.
988
00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:58,360
What I needed was just Leish to calm
989
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:00,920
down rather than trying
to rush me with my emotions.
990
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:05,600
And, since I've done that, I have
seen such a massive change in Reiss.
991
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:07,920
Even at the mixer,
he was giving me eye contact,
992
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:09,600
he was giving me reassurance,
you know?
993
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:12,000
He was coming over, stroking my leg,
just little things
994
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:16,120
that just don't take much to do,
but it means the world to me.
995
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:17,160
He was perfect.
996
00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:20,080
I feel like we was in a right
strong place.
997
00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:25,000
Should we go to the decision? OK.
Yes.
998
00:51:26,840 --> 00:51:30,080
Every week we're just getting
stronger and stronger,
999
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:31,400
and my feelings are...
1000
00:51:32,520 --> 00:51:34,160
..massive.
1001
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:37,800
I'm enjoying our time together
and I just hope that we just grow
1002
00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:40,200
a really deep connection.
1003
00:51:40,240 --> 00:51:41,400
On that, I will...
1004
00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:44,000
..stay. Yay!
1005
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:48,240
Excellent, thank you, Leisha.
1006
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:50,240
And, Reiss, what's your decision?
Um, yeah,
1007
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:52,960
this week, I've had one of the best
weeks with you.
1008
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:57,320
I'm enjoying where we're going,
so I would like to...
1009
00:51:57,360 --> 00:51:58,440
..stay.
1010
00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:04,520
I wish you guys the best
for the rest of the week. Thank you.
1011
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:07,080
Hopefully, your relationship goes
from strength to strength.
1012
00:52:07,120 --> 00:52:08,680
Thank you. Good luck, guys.
Thank you. Well done, guys.
1013
00:52:08,720 --> 00:52:11,240
Thank you. Cheers, guys. Yes, guys!
1014
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:17,960
Happy? Yeah. It's done, now.
1015
00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:22,320
Next up...
1016
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:24,480
..April and Leo.
1017
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:33,040
Hello. Hello, there. Hiya.
How are you both?
1018
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:35,960
Good. Good, thank you, how are you?
Good.
1019
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:40,000
All right, can we start
where we saw you last week,
1020
00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:43,040
on the couch, Leo?
1021
00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:46,320
I think, for me,
what I've been focusing on this week
1022
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:48,800
is building this deeper emotional
connection,
1023
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:51,600
opening more up to her, being more
honest,
1024
00:52:51,640 --> 00:52:53,840
and building that foundation
1025
00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:56,400
that we didn't necessarily have at
the start.
1026
00:52:56,440 --> 00:53:02,200
Realistically, you need all of those
elements for a relationship to work.
1027
00:53:02,240 --> 00:53:03,280
Right, because, actually,
1028
00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:05,640
without the emotional connection,
everything else is worthless.
1029
00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:06,880
Exactly.
1030
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:09,280
One of the stuff
that we was working on,
1031
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:12,960
that you said last time,
is being more of a team,
1032
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:14,360
and we've spent more time together
1033
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:17,000
in which we have deepened
that emotional connection.
1034
00:53:17,040 --> 00:53:19,160
It's obviously not
where it needs to be,
1035
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:21,320
uh, but we're definitely
working towards it.
1036
00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:25,200
So, you believe
that you've made progress,
1037
00:53:25,240 --> 00:53:28,280
you have advanced the strength
and satisfaction
1038
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:31,400
of your relationship this week
from last?
1039
00:53:31,440 --> 00:53:32,680
Definitely. OK.
1040
00:53:33,720 --> 00:53:36,080
April, is that fair to say?
1041
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:38,600
I don't know, I don't feel,
up until this point,
1042
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:41,880
that we have built that much
of an emotional connection -
1043
00:53:41,920 --> 00:53:45,520
that is just honestly how I feel.
All right.
1044
00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:48,120
This is the second to last time
that we're going to see you,
1045
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:50,760
so it's very important
that we really push you
1046
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:52,960
to think about this relationship.
1047
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:54,920
So, we're going to talk about
1048
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:57,960
the questions that April had at the
retreat.
1049
00:53:59,560 --> 00:54:01,920
So, the question was,
1050
00:54:01,960 --> 00:54:03,840
"Who would be your type outside
of your husband?"
1051
00:54:03,880 --> 00:54:06,800
Yeah. She says Ashley.
And, "Other than your husband,
1052
00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:09,440
"who could you see yourself being
with in the experiment?"
1053
00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:10,520
OK, Ashley.
1054
00:54:11,720 --> 00:54:13,040
So, Leo...
1055
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:16,160
..what was the emotion,
1056
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:20,680
or your feeling, hearing
your wife say
1057
00:54:20,720 --> 00:54:21,960
that gentleman, right over there?
1058
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:29,440
Insecurity was one of them.
1059
00:54:29,480 --> 00:54:32,360
Just the fact that it was
consistently someone else,
1060
00:54:32,400 --> 00:54:35,040
but I knew, if I took these
emotions on deeply,
1061
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:37,920
it would get in my head and that's
not what I wanted it to do.
1062
00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:42,680
So, you know what I find
interesting?
1063
00:54:42,720 --> 00:54:46,640
The emotion that typically drives
insecurity is fear -
1064
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:50,440
the fear of losing your partner.
1065
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:51,960
Yeah, correct.
1066
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:58,280
Now, April, did you realise your
partner had that emotion?
1067
00:54:59,920 --> 00:55:01,520
No, because he didn't communicate
that to me.
1068
00:55:02,640 --> 00:55:05,960
So, you say that you've become
better since last week,
1069
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:11,440
but you had this emotion that you
had not articulated to your wife.
1070
00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:16,000
Correct, but, for me, I didn't read
too much into that situation.
1071
00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:18,360
You didn't want the conflict.
I didn't want the conflict,
1072
00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:21,520
but I was able to, sort of,
brush it to one side.
1073
00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:26,720
Leo, it's not like we're trying to
bring up the Ashley and April
1074
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:28,840
story to, kind of, cause any drama,
1075
00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:30,600
but I think what we're trying to get
at is,
1076
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:34,240
there has to be space
for you to articulate,
1077
00:55:34,280 --> 00:55:36,200
how does it make you feel?
1078
00:55:36,240 --> 00:55:38,560
But it kind of feels
like you're scared to say,
1079
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:40,240
"Do you know what?
That's not great,"
1080
00:55:40,280 --> 00:55:42,560
for fear that, maybe, April will
leave.
1081
00:55:46,040 --> 00:55:49,200
Charlene just nailed the point.
You need a voice.
1082
00:55:49,240 --> 00:55:51,040
You have no voice
in this relationship.
1083
00:55:52,240 --> 00:55:53,840
And you know what's interesting?
1084
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:56,600
That's what she wants.
She wants you to assert yourself.
1085
00:55:57,680 --> 00:56:00,000
If you don't have a voice
in this situation,
1086
00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:03,160
this is not going to continue to be
a situation.
1087
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:06,920
April...
1088
00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:11,080
..am I right that you want
Leo to have a voice?
1089
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:13,160
Yeah, I am a strong character,
1090
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:15,280
and I did explain to Leo at
the beginning of the retreat,
1091
00:56:15,320 --> 00:56:17,760
like, you need to not always
agree with me,
1092
00:56:17,800 --> 00:56:20,320
and I need a man to be like
that with me.
1093
00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:21,640
But, you did say back to me,
1094
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:23,440
"I've just wanted to do everything
that you've wanted to do,"
1095
00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:24,840
and I went, "That seems impossible."
1096
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:27,640
And I know that he is just
pleasing me
1097
00:56:27,680 --> 00:56:29,480
and he is just saying yes
to everything, and he isn't
1098
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:31,600
expressing his feelings,
but I'm not getting anything back.
1099
00:56:32,880 --> 00:56:34,800
It makes me feel bad
because it makes me feel
1100
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:37,040
like I'm just being
a mean girl to a nice guy. Right.
1101
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:39,760
He obviously has problems,
he's just not explaining them to me
1102
00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:41,800
and then that annoys me. Right.
1103
00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:43,760
And then that pushes me away.
1104
00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:45,280
This, this makes sense.
1105
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:49,760
So, you now know
what it is you need to do,
1106
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:52,160
and what is it? Take charge.
1107
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:54,920
Express myself exactly
how I'm feeling.
1108
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:58,720
OK, I need assertive Leo
with a voice, fair?
1109
00:56:58,760 --> 00:57:00,360
Yeah, that's fair. All right.
1110
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:08,160
Now, what do you believe that you
can do to help Leo find his voice?
1111
00:57:09,600 --> 00:57:12,080
I honestly don't know.
Let's go back.
1112
00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:14,760
You didn't know the emotion
that he felt.
1113
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:16,600
Yeah, but I had had that
conversation
1114
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:18,000
with Leo, do you know I mean?
1115
00:57:18,040 --> 00:57:20,480
I was reassuring him that there was
nothing behind it.
1116
00:57:20,520 --> 00:57:23,240
I think, for me, I just sort
of took his word, he was OK.
1117
00:57:23,280 --> 00:57:25,720
I think, in a normal situation, when
we were more emotionally connected,
1118
00:57:25,760 --> 00:57:27,200
I would have asked
and would have been like,
1119
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:28,880
"Are you sure?" But, I'm just not
used
1120
00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:30,680
to dating people that just agree
with me all the time,
1121
00:57:30,720 --> 00:57:33,760
so I do need to, almost,
force it out of you,
1122
00:57:33,800 --> 00:57:35,160
you know what I mean?
1123
00:57:35,200 --> 00:57:37,560
You have to be
in tune with your partner.
1124
00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:40,320
Mm. You have to start
to truly read your partner,
1125
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:41,400
and the moment that you feel
1126
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:43,440
like something could be off,
you open it up,
1127
00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:45,800
you show the curiosity...
OK. ..right?
1128
00:57:48,040 --> 00:57:50,360
We just don't have
that bond, currently.
1129
00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:52,200
I'm not feeling overly connected,
but...
1130
00:57:53,320 --> 00:57:56,560
..and I wanted this so badly,
and I wanted it to work,
1131
00:57:56,600 --> 00:57:57,880
and I wanted the connection
1132
00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:00,000
that most of the people have got
in this room.
1133
00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:03,440
It doesn't always come straight
away, April.
1134
00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:05,160
I know. You have to work on it.
1135
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:06,960
It doesn't.
1136
00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:14,280
There, obviously, are reasons
why we've been paired.
1137
00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:16,960
I, kind of, just got lost in the
fact
1138
00:58:17,000 --> 00:58:19,600
that there wasn't that instant
emotional connection.
1139
00:58:21,360 --> 00:58:25,040
For me, this experiment, it's been
very much a personal journey,
1140
00:58:25,080 --> 00:58:27,800
but I think every week I am
adapting,
1141
00:58:27,840 --> 00:58:30,080
and I am taking all the advice,
1142
00:58:30,120 --> 00:58:32,160
it just hasn't come straight away.
1143
00:58:33,200 --> 00:58:34,600
In essence, that's what marriage is,
1144
00:58:34,640 --> 00:58:36,760
marriage is that you becoming
better,
1145
00:58:36,800 --> 00:58:38,400
you're helping your partner
1146
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:40,000
to release their best self.
1147
00:58:40,040 --> 00:58:42,480
So, you continue to work on you,
1148
00:58:42,520 --> 00:58:44,760
what happens is
that strengthens your partner.
1149
00:58:46,280 --> 00:58:48,720
All right. So, then, let's go
to a decision.
1150
00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:51,680
Leo, could you go first?
1151
00:58:54,360 --> 00:58:56,640
I didn't realise
that I had these attributes
1152
00:58:56,680 --> 00:58:58,960
that I wasn't able to open
up straight away,
1153
00:58:59,000 --> 00:59:00,360
which obviously set us back...
1154
00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:03,800
..but we get on really well,
1155
00:59:03,840 --> 00:59:06,600
there was a physical attraction,
and I feel like it is still there.
1156
00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:08,640
We have got a lot going for us.
1157
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:13,280
As long as we're making progress,
which is what we have been.
1158
00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:15,160
But I do genuinely feel confident
1159
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:17,120
we can get there moving forward,
1160
00:59:17,160 --> 00:59:19,080
so I've chosen to stay.
1161
00:59:25,120 --> 00:59:26,160
All right.
1162
00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:30,280
Um...
1163
00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:34,200
..last week was not positive.
1164
00:59:35,600 --> 00:59:38,560
What we did discuss, we needed
to spend more time together,
1165
00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:42,240
and we have implemented
that this week...
1166
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:45,080
..but I'm not suddenly
just going to be, like,
1167
00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:47,280
"Oh, yeah, this is great,
we're having a great time."
1168
00:59:49,760 --> 00:59:52,640
This was such high hopes
and I really,
1169
00:59:52,680 --> 00:59:55,920
really wanted to come
in and get a connection instantly,
1170
00:59:55,960 --> 00:59:57,800
and it is, obviously...
1171
00:59:57,840 --> 00:59:59,280
..more work...
1172
01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:01,600
..than I thought...
1173
01:00:02,640 --> 01:00:05,520
..and I am unsure on the future,
and I am unsure on us.
1174
01:00:12,240 --> 01:00:13,680
I honestly don't know.
1175
01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:28,160
It is, obviously, more work...
1176
01:00:29,480 --> 01:00:30,760
..than I thought...
1177
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:34,400
..and I am unsure on the
future, and I am unsure on us.
1178
01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:42,200
I honestly don't know.
1179
01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:51,960
But I think there are a lot
of positives to Leo.
1180
01:00:52,000 --> 01:00:56,280
He is very caring towards me,
you can see how much he wants this
1181
01:00:56,320 --> 01:01:00,240
to work, and he is genuinely such a
good guy and I commend him for it.
1182
01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:05,000
You know, if we continue progressing
in a positive way...
1183
01:01:06,080 --> 01:01:07,600
..then there is hope for us.
1184
01:01:09,360 --> 01:01:12,040
So, I have decided...
1185
01:01:12,080 --> 01:01:13,560
..to stay.
1186
01:01:19,880 --> 01:01:25,160
This week, Leo,
assert yourself, develop your voice,
1187
01:01:25,200 --> 01:01:30,200
and then, April, work on being more
emotionally in tune with Leo.
1188
01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:33,360
If you do those two things,
I guarantee you, you'll come back,
1189
01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:36,200
you'll be stronger the next time.
Is that fair?
1190
01:01:36,240 --> 01:01:39,520
That's fair. That's fair.
All right, thank you. Thank you.
1191
01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:44,360
I genuinely feel like I have seen
1192
01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:46,720
a bit more of Leo's personality
this week.
1193
01:01:46,760 --> 01:01:50,000
Leo does have a lot of positives
and he is a really good guy,
1194
01:01:50,040 --> 01:01:53,720
so I am holding out hope
and moving forward with that.
1195
01:01:53,760 --> 01:01:56,640
But I think this next week,
for me, is me figuring
1196
01:01:56,680 --> 01:01:58,600
out, can I build
that emotional connection?
1197
01:01:58,640 --> 01:02:00,160
Because, currently, I feel like me
1198
01:02:00,200 --> 01:02:01,840
and Leo are definitely on
different pages.
1199
01:02:04,440 --> 01:02:06,960
And, finally, Grace and Ashley.
1200
01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:13,680
Hello, you two. Hello.
1201
01:02:20,280 --> 01:02:22,800
Grace, I've noticed you've been
a little bit emotional tonight.
1202
01:02:22,840 --> 01:02:24,240
Um...
1203
01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:26,800
..I've been a wreck. Oh.
1204
01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:30,080
What's going on for you?
1205
01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:34,840
So, Ash and I were vying
for one good week.
1206
01:02:34,880 --> 01:02:36,840
We were pushing
for one good week, this week,
1207
01:02:36,880 --> 01:02:39,240
but, basically, I had a general
sense,
1208
01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:41,480
this week, of just
being unheard...
1209
01:02:42,480 --> 01:02:46,200
..of being quite clear about
what I want, what I need,
1210
01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:49,480
and it falling on,
what I felt, was deaf ears.
1211
01:02:50,920 --> 01:02:53,920
Do you know? Us having this good
week, I'm thinking, "yes,
1212
01:02:53,960 --> 01:02:56,880
"I'm really starting to fall for you
and we are getting to this place."
1213
01:02:56,920 --> 01:02:59,360
But then to find out
that the only reason we're there is
1214
01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:01,080
because Grace is not being herself,
1215
01:03:01,120 --> 01:03:04,320
it's, kind of, like... Mm.
Is that true, Grace?
1216
01:03:05,600 --> 01:03:08,880
Yeah, because things were happening
that I was just choosing to turn
1217
01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:10,640
a blind eye to because I was like,
1218
01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:12,880
"We're going for one good week,
I don't want to start an argument."
1219
01:03:12,920 --> 01:03:14,640
So, is this "one good week" mantra
1220
01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:17,320
meaning that you're avoiding all
conflict?
1221
01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:19,760
Yes, me. What about you, Ash? No.
1222
01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:22,280
I was so happy that we weren't
having the conflict.
1223
01:03:22,320 --> 01:03:24,160
She's finally seeing who I am.
1224
01:03:24,200 --> 01:03:27,960
I'm not being questioned and
attacked on all these little things.
1225
01:03:28,000 --> 01:03:30,000
Ash very regularly takes it back
to,
1226
01:03:30,040 --> 01:03:34,280
"You're attacking my character."
I'm never attacking Ash's character,
1227
01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:36,760
like, I... ..not so much attacking,
but questioning.
1228
01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:40,440
It's more questioning whether
you're listening to me, Ash.
1229
01:03:40,480 --> 01:03:43,200
OK, I'm just going to jump in.
1230
01:03:43,240 --> 01:03:46,000
There's a sense of disconnection at
the moment.
1231
01:03:46,040 --> 01:03:48,480
Grace, you're saying you haven't
been heard -
1232
01:03:48,520 --> 01:03:50,560
I think that's really
important here. Mm.
1233
01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:55,120
I'd like you to explain
what you mean by that.
1234
01:03:55,160 --> 01:04:00,240
OK. So, when April joined us
in the experiment,
1235
01:04:00,280 --> 01:04:03,760
we both said we're going to have
a really good, like, mate here.
1236
01:04:03,800 --> 01:04:05,920
And then, I, kind of, noticed at
1237
01:04:05,960 --> 01:04:10,080
the dinner parties this friendship
was just Ash and April.
1238
01:04:11,280 --> 01:04:13,720
And then, Girls Day on the retreat,
1239
01:04:13,760 --> 01:04:15,520
there were several questions and
like,
1240
01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:17,720
"Who's the person
you'd rather be married to?"
1241
01:04:17,760 --> 01:04:21,800
And April said Ash,
just really locking in Ash.
1242
01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:25,800
It is just a game, but you could
give a different answer.
1243
01:04:25,840 --> 01:04:28,040
And when it comes
from someone who's actively saying
1244
01:04:28,080 --> 01:04:30,520
that they're not necessarily settled
in their marriage,
1245
01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:32,280
I started to feel a bit
disrespected.
1246
01:04:34,040 --> 01:04:37,800
So, I approached Ash about tackling
the problem together.
1247
01:04:40,080 --> 01:04:43,440
After the dinner party, it emerges
1248
01:04:43,480 --> 01:04:45,440
that Ash and April have had
a conversation.
1249
01:04:45,480 --> 01:04:47,400
Then the issue became between
April and Ash,
1250
01:04:47,440 --> 01:04:49,600
and they resolved it between them,
and, actually, the person
1251
01:04:49,640 --> 01:04:53,000
who felt disrespected was not
a part of it at all.
1252
01:04:53,040 --> 01:04:56,560
I know Ash has great intentions,
but it wasn't what I wanted,
1253
01:04:56,600 --> 01:05:00,360
and it wasn't what I
vocalised, and I felt unheard.
1254
01:05:00,400 --> 01:05:03,040
Ash, what could you do differently?
1255
01:05:03,080 --> 01:05:04,440
I really don't know.
1256
01:05:04,480 --> 01:05:08,240
I do get on with April, but we don't
speak outside dinner parties,
1257
01:05:08,280 --> 01:05:12,080
so how on earth do I friend zone
someone that's only a friend anyway?
1258
01:05:12,120 --> 01:05:14,000
I don't want to make it awkward,
but then,
1259
01:05:14,040 --> 01:05:16,760
out of respect for Grace,
I did try and avoid eye contact,
1260
01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:18,520
did try and not joke so much.
1261
01:05:18,560 --> 01:05:21,160
But was that respecting me
when I didn't want you to do that?
1262
01:05:21,200 --> 01:05:23,000
I didn't want you
to make April feel uncomfortable.
1263
01:05:23,040 --> 01:05:24,400
It made me feel really
uncomfortable,
1264
01:05:24,440 --> 01:05:26,040
so I was doing the best thing I
thought...
1265
01:05:26,080 --> 01:05:28,320
Sounds like you didn't quite know
what to do. Yeah. Yeah.
1266
01:05:28,360 --> 01:05:30,640
Like, what do you want me to do?
Like, I'm not actually flirting.
1267
01:05:30,680 --> 01:05:32,120
This is another one
of those examples
1268
01:05:32,160 --> 01:05:33,960
where the argument
that's happening at
1269
01:05:34,000 --> 01:05:38,280
the surface is not really
about what's going on here.
1270
01:05:38,320 --> 01:05:40,680
This is about listening
to each other.
1271
01:05:40,720 --> 01:05:43,000
Well, then I'm really struggling
with that.
1272
01:05:43,040 --> 01:05:46,840
When she was trying to talk to me
about the issue the night before,
1273
01:05:46,880 --> 01:05:50,040
we had, literally, just finished
being intimate...
1274
01:05:51,720 --> 01:05:53,560
..and then she wanted to talk to me
about April.
1275
01:05:53,600 --> 01:05:55,440
So the reason I was avoiding it,
I was like, "There's no way
1276
01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:57,760
"I'm talking about another woman
straight after that."
1277
01:05:58,960 --> 01:06:00,840
So I said, "No,
I'm not discussing that."
1278
01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:04,880
Have you been able to reflect
since, on maybe,
1279
01:06:04,920 --> 01:06:06,520
why Grace did bring up April
1280
01:06:06,560 --> 01:06:08,160
straight after being intimate?
1281
01:06:09,320 --> 01:06:11,520
I don't know, I just, I didn't
really, I was a bit selfish,
1282
01:06:11,560 --> 01:06:14,400
I just really didn't want to
in that moment.
1283
01:06:14,440 --> 01:06:16,880
Something tells me she
might have felt a little insecure.
1284
01:06:18,200 --> 01:06:21,320
What, after that?
A little vulnerable. Mm.
1285
01:06:21,360 --> 01:06:24,000
Maybe, Ash,
you could look at this situation
1286
01:06:24,040 --> 01:06:27,640
and see that Grace is telling you,
in a number of different ways,
1287
01:06:27,680 --> 01:06:29,720
that she's feeling a little
bit insecure
1288
01:06:29,760 --> 01:06:31,800
and that she needs reassurance
from you.
1289
01:06:33,080 --> 01:06:36,400
Why would that, why would that be,
in that situation?
1290
01:06:36,440 --> 01:06:39,400
Well, I suppose,
after an intimate encounter,
1291
01:06:39,440 --> 01:06:42,040
it often makes you feel closer
to your partner, doesn't it?
1292
01:06:42,080 --> 01:06:44,400
And it can
make you feel more vulnerable
1293
01:06:44,440 --> 01:06:47,040
and, sometimes, it's in those
moments that you feel
1294
01:06:47,080 --> 01:06:49,080
like it's important to talk
about things
1295
01:06:49,120 --> 01:06:52,320
that you feel might be threatening
the relationship.
1296
01:06:52,360 --> 01:06:54,720
But I think it's about checking
in with your partner
1297
01:06:54,760 --> 01:06:56,520
as to why she's feeling maybe a bit
1298
01:06:56,560 --> 01:06:59,440
vulnerable and needs some
support from you.
1299
01:07:00,560 --> 01:07:03,960
When I do feed back, Ash is like,
"Lighten up,"
1300
01:07:04,000 --> 01:07:06,480
you know, "You're going to have to
because I like it,"
1301
01:07:06,520 --> 01:07:08,520
this and that, and I don't
really get any positive,
1302
01:07:08,560 --> 01:07:10,640
like, I just feel bad.
1303
01:07:10,680 --> 01:07:13,600
It sounds like there's a bit of
point-scoring going on here...
1304
01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:15,720
Right. ..and we really need to
let go of that
1305
01:07:15,760 --> 01:07:17,840
because, if each of you is
trying to be right
1306
01:07:17,880 --> 01:07:20,400
in each situation,
then neither of you will win.
1307
01:07:20,440 --> 01:07:22,640
But it's, you know, the strange...
1308
01:07:22,680 --> 01:07:24,800
You keep coming back with
but at the moment, Ash...
1309
01:07:24,840 --> 01:07:26,360
Sorry. ..and my sense is that's
probably
1310
01:07:26,400 --> 01:07:28,000
what you're doing with Grace,
as well. OK.
1311
01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:30,920
I think what's really important
here,
1312
01:07:30,960 --> 01:07:35,520
for both of you, is to let go of
some of the need to be right,
1313
01:07:35,560 --> 01:07:38,640
finding the moments to have those
conversations about
1314
01:07:38,680 --> 01:07:40,880
what you need from each other
1315
01:07:40,920 --> 01:07:44,160
in a way that's not about,
you know, one-upmanship.
1316
01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:49,400
Just for a moment,
I want to go to you, April,
1317
01:07:49,440 --> 01:07:52,960
because, whilst Grace
was telling her perspective here,
1318
01:07:53,000 --> 01:07:54,840
I know you were shaking your head
and it looks like you,
1319
01:07:54,880 --> 01:07:57,000
perhaps, you see it a little
bit differently.
1320
01:07:57,040 --> 01:07:58,760
No, I was shaking my head,
as in agreeing.
1321
01:07:58,800 --> 01:08:00,640
Hands up, I should have
had a conversation
1322
01:08:00,680 --> 01:08:02,600
with Grace after I'd said, like,
Ash's name,
1323
01:08:02,640 --> 01:08:04,240
just like, girl-to-girl.
1324
01:08:04,280 --> 01:08:07,440
I honestly, genuinely,
am so sorry that you felt
1325
01:08:07,480 --> 01:08:09,720
in this way, and all your
feelings are genuinely valid,
1326
01:08:09,760 --> 01:08:11,440
but, I promise you, there's nothing
in it.
1327
01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:14,800
And I really appreciate you saying
all of that, April.
1328
01:08:14,840 --> 01:08:16,520
Whatever's happening here today,
1329
01:08:16,560 --> 01:08:19,600
whatever the outcome is,
it's definitely not your fault. Mm.
1330
01:08:19,640 --> 01:08:21,960
We had issues before...
1331
01:08:23,080 --> 01:08:26,320
..sorry, before you came into
the experiment,
1332
01:08:26,360 --> 01:08:30,080
and this is not your problem.
This was always us.
1333
01:08:34,360 --> 01:08:37,600
Let's zoom out
because this is not about April
1334
01:08:37,640 --> 01:08:40,440
or any of the other issues
that are circulating around you.
1335
01:08:40,480 --> 01:08:42,320
It's about feeling hurt,
1336
01:08:42,360 --> 01:08:47,120
and the hurt is there and it's
ever-present
1337
01:08:47,160 --> 01:08:49,080
because feelings are developing
here.
1338
01:08:52,200 --> 01:08:54,360
We really believe in you guys. Mm.
1339
01:08:54,400 --> 01:08:56,680
We can see that you are doing the
work.
1340
01:08:56,720 --> 01:08:59,800
You're making yourselves a bit
uncomfortable, you know?
1341
01:08:59,840 --> 01:09:01,840
You're trying things for each other.
1342
01:09:01,880 --> 01:09:04,160
You're not always hitting the mark,
but that's OK.
1343
01:09:06,480 --> 01:09:08,600
Yeah? Yeah. OK.
1344
01:09:09,640 --> 01:09:10,960
We're going to go to a decision.
1345
01:09:12,800 --> 01:09:14,600
Grace, we'll start with you.
1346
01:09:17,280 --> 01:09:19,640
This has been the hardest week.
1347
01:09:22,040 --> 01:09:23,800
One of the things that was so
important to me,
1348
01:09:23,840 --> 01:09:26,000
coming into this,
was being with a partner
1349
01:09:26,040 --> 01:09:27,840
that brings out the very best in me.
1350
01:09:30,680 --> 01:09:33,360
And I really felt like we were
1351
01:09:33,400 --> 01:09:35,520
bringing out the very worst in each
other.
1352
01:09:38,640 --> 01:09:41,520
We'd agreed that we were both
done...
1353
01:09:42,640 --> 01:09:44,360
..and when we tried
to come back together,
1354
01:09:44,400 --> 01:09:46,680
we had another huge, big argument.
1355
01:09:46,720 --> 01:09:48,680
I felt like I was losing myself
a little bit.
1356
01:09:52,880 --> 01:09:55,880
I think I was just being, focusing
on the negative,
1357
01:09:55,920 --> 01:09:57,640
and we do have so much positive.
1358
01:09:59,600 --> 01:10:02,360
Although I started to feel like I
couldn't
1359
01:10:02,400 --> 01:10:06,920
see the wood for the trees, I just
was getting really lost.
1360
01:10:09,360 --> 01:10:12,120
I knew, if we left,
1361
01:10:12,160 --> 01:10:14,080
I would miss you so much.
1362
01:10:14,120 --> 01:10:15,720
I don't want to be apart from you...
1363
01:10:16,920 --> 01:10:19,880
..so I've chosen to...
1364
01:10:21,000 --> 01:10:22,760
..stay.
1365
01:10:28,520 --> 01:10:29,920
And, Ash.
1366
01:10:32,560 --> 01:10:34,520
This is a lot harder than I thought
it would be.
1367
01:10:34,560 --> 01:10:36,160
When you get questioned on something
1368
01:10:36,200 --> 01:10:38,240
so much, I'm starting to question it
myself.
1369
01:10:38,280 --> 01:10:40,080
And that's making me feel insecure.
1370
01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:41,520
How don't you know me by now?
1371
01:10:41,560 --> 01:10:45,000
Like, I feel like everyone I've
met here, kind of, knows me
1372
01:10:45,040 --> 01:10:47,200
and I don't feel like the person
I really want to,
1373
01:10:47,240 --> 01:10:48,400
and I'm closest to, does.
1374
01:10:48,440 --> 01:10:51,200
And I do really want
to make this work.
1375
01:10:52,680 --> 01:10:56,520
But am I sacrificing parts of myself
to make it work?
1376
01:11:00,400 --> 01:11:02,960
I'm sorry for the things
that I'm doing,
1377
01:11:03,000 --> 01:11:06,160
I don't ever do them on purpose
or maliciously.
1378
01:11:06,200 --> 01:11:09,720
I am growing big, big feelings
for you,
1379
01:11:09,760 --> 01:11:12,200
so I've said stay.
1380
01:11:17,720 --> 01:11:20,480
You know what? You're both very
defensive with each other.
1381
01:11:20,520 --> 01:11:23,960
So defensive, Mel, it's exhausting.
1382
01:11:24,000 --> 01:11:28,360
What would happen if you both just
agreed to drop the defensiveness...
1383
01:11:28,400 --> 01:11:29,440
Yeah.
1384
01:11:30,600 --> 01:11:33,240
..and just being there together
1385
01:11:33,280 --> 01:11:37,040
in all of these conversations,
without one person needing to win,
1386
01:11:37,080 --> 01:11:42,120
with the ultimate shared goal of
coming up with solutions together?
1387
01:11:44,120 --> 01:11:46,120
You know, you are
pushing yourselves beyond
1388
01:11:46,160 --> 01:11:48,000
what is comfortable, and...
1389
01:11:49,520 --> 01:11:50,720
..keep doing it,
1390
01:11:50,760 --> 01:11:53,440
I know it's hard, and really focus
on
1391
01:11:53,480 --> 01:11:57,640
that one team working toward
the same outcome.
1392
01:11:57,680 --> 01:11:59,040
Yeah?
1393
01:12:00,440 --> 01:12:04,320
Thank you. Well done, guys. Thank
you.
1394
01:12:06,200 --> 01:12:07,960
This week's make or break for Ash
and I.
1395
01:12:08,000 --> 01:12:11,360
For the marriage to work, Ash and I
have got to stop point-scoring.
1396
01:12:11,400 --> 01:12:13,640
We need to just start caring
about each other's feelings
1397
01:12:13,680 --> 01:12:15,640
more than we care about proving
a point.
1398
01:12:15,680 --> 01:12:17,840
We could just afford to, just, drop
some of the stubbornness
1399
01:12:17,880 --> 01:12:19,720
and we could be great.
As long as the two people care
1400
01:12:19,760 --> 01:12:23,120
about each other and want to make it
work, I do think we can overcome it.
1401
01:12:25,720 --> 01:12:29,280
It was a really hard decision today.
I packed my bags last night.
1402
01:12:29,320 --> 01:12:33,480
I was at a stage where
I just can't see us moving forward.
1403
01:12:33,520 --> 01:12:36,640
I still really want this to work.
I care deeply for Grace.
1404
01:12:36,680 --> 01:12:39,560
What I want from here on out
is to draw a line in the sand
1405
01:12:39,600 --> 01:12:41,560
and you just see me for who I am,
1406
01:12:41,600 --> 01:12:43,680
and I will give this everything I've
got.
1407
01:12:47,600 --> 01:12:49,560
Next time... Hi, husband.
1408
01:12:49,600 --> 01:12:51,000
..it's partner swap week.
1409
01:12:51,040 --> 01:12:54,640
Hello. Hello. While absence makes
some hearts grow fonder...
1410
01:12:54,680 --> 01:12:58,360
Being away from her has made me
have even more love for her.
1411
01:12:58,400 --> 01:13:00,520
I'm in love! Yes!
1412
01:13:00,560 --> 01:13:03,200
..for others...
Leah, you'll be coupled with Leisha.
1413
01:13:03,240 --> 01:13:04,600
I don't want no flirting.
1414
01:13:05,720 --> 01:13:07,560
Breakfast in bed. Have
you ever done this with Nelly?
1415
01:13:09,040 --> 01:13:12,520
No. ..time away from their
partners... I spoke to April,
1416
01:13:12,560 --> 01:13:15,280
she said, "I don't miss him
when he's not around."
1417
01:13:15,320 --> 01:13:16,720
That is absolute bullshit.
1418
01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:19,480
..threatens to demolish all their
hard won-progress.
1419
01:13:19,520 --> 01:13:20,560
Say cheese.
1420
01:13:21,680 --> 01:13:23,760
What are those?
Who are you married to
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and whose apartment is this?
And I respect that, but...
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But you don't because you put it
up on my fridge.
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And could yet more clashes between
Grace and Ashley...
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I don't need to feel like
the problem.
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..spell an unexpected
end to their marriage?
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I can't do this. I'm at my limit.
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Is it over, then, Ash?
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