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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:03,640 This programme contains strong language and adult themes 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:05,320 There's things which are putting, like, doubts in my head. 3 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:06,960 NARRATOR: Previously... You've not been here, though. 4 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:08,240 ..as a cafe confrontation... BLEEP you. 5 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:11,080 ..caused dinner party despair for Maeve... 6 00:00:11,120 --> 00:00:14,080 Another lad that's mugged us off, yet again. 7 00:00:14,120 --> 00:00:16,520 Don't sit and tell us that you love us, then leave us. 8 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:17,960 Hey. 9 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:20,960 ..it was a shock entrance... This is bollocks. 10 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:24,320 What? It is all bullshit. 11 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:25,920 She's been slating you since day one, 12 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:27,480 and her opinion hasn't changed. 13 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:29,320 She's been saying it to all the girls, mate. 14 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:31,280 ..that spoiled the appetite of the group. 15 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:34,920 Julia-Ruth, this relationship is fake. 16 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:37,560 I'm gonna leave. Not doing this. 17 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:39,240 I was here for a husband, I found one, 18 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:40,320 I don't need fame. 19 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:44,640 She is making an absolute mockery of the experiment. 20 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:48,240 Tonight... We definitely have the physical connection. 21 00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:49,960 Very pleased with how that's going, 22 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:52,560 ..as some couples revel in their closeness... 23 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:53,800 You have done the most 24 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:56,480 fabulous job, finding me everything I need. 25 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:00,160 ..others confront a crisis.... 26 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:03,400 Joe is not being completely honest with what he wants to say. 27 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:04,520 I've seen Joe. 28 00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:06,200 If I go spilling everything he said to me, 29 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:08,320 then he's never going to trust anyone again. 30 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:09,400 This is shit. 31 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:13,400 And a reckoning for Julia-Ruth... I've never heard somebody sit on 32 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:16,240 a couch and lie so much in all my life. 33 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:18,080 You're not interested in your husband, 34 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:20,760 we all know that. How is that not manipulating the group? 35 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:22,080 Divarni, is there anything 36 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:24,720 that Julia-Ruth will do that you won't forgive? 37 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:27,040 ..gives Divarni a decision dilemma. 38 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:28,880 There's a lot of shit that's happened this week. 39 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,040 I've decided to... 40 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:49,840 I loved the dinner party last night. We were close enough to the chaos, 41 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:52,760 but far enough away to, like, not be directly involved. 42 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:56,000 Yeah. It's the morning after the dinner party. 43 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:58,880 That was the craziest dinner party we've had so far. 44 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:01,920 Julia-Ruth saying, "Oh, Steven would be my type." 45 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:05,320 "Who am I emotionally and physically attracted to?" 46 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:06,400 And she chose Steven. 47 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:10,840 How are you feeling about going into the commitment ceremony? 48 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:12,400 I feel like we're going in quite strong. 49 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,280 I'm just so glad that me and you are just in it together. 50 00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:17,440 I feel like me 51 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:20,040 and Reiss are definitely going in the right direction, 52 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:22,000 we're going in the love direction. 53 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,120 There's quite a lot of strong couples, really. 54 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:29,600 We might be one of the weakest. Yeah, 55 00:02:29,640 --> 00:02:32,000 I don't think it's been our best week. 56 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:38,040 The environment this week for me has been like a pressure cooker. 57 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:41,160 I feel like April hasn't been able to see the real me, 58 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:43,840 I've not been able to be myself around her. 59 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:45,440 This week has sort of 60 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:48,040 made me realise I'm not really sure who Leo is, 61 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:50,320 because he keeps telling me, like, he's not being himself, 62 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:54,360 this isn't normally his personality, so, yeah. 63 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:58,520 A bit confused who Leo is, currently. 64 00:02:58,560 --> 00:02:59,600 Shit. 65 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:05,440 I feel we can't seem to have a consistently good week. 66 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:07,640 It's not that I'm tapping out 67 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:09,280 or anything, like, I want to work through this. 68 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:11,400 I want to be here with you, I want to do this, 69 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:12,520 I just need a bit of help. 70 00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:15,360 I really like Grace. 71 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:18,440 We're both truly, truly working at it, 72 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:21,000 and I think we have since the very beginning. 73 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:24,240 We're sort of fighting for it more than anyone. 74 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:26,080 Like, is it supposed to be this hard? 75 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,000 Do you think your feelings have changed? 76 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:31,000 No, no, no. 77 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:36,240 I just want to feel that we're... 78 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:39,880 ..united. M-hm. 79 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:47,120 I very much still want to be here, and I still want to make this work. 80 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:49,280 Just because we've been in it so long now, and... 81 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:52,720 ..I keep waiting for the good bit. 82 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:59,280 I really think we do have so much potential. 83 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:02,040 My feelings are, kind of, coming 84 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:06,960 and going, because we have so many roadblocks and obstacles. 85 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:15,840 I mean, 86 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,240 I went into last night thinking we weren't going to have problems, 87 00:04:18,280 --> 00:04:20,160 well, we don't have any problems, but I mean, 88 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:22,880 other people try to start some. What's pissed me off is I do 89 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:25,920 feel like we had a nice week, and then Julia-Ruth's just done 90 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:28,240 that mad spin off and it's like, put a dampener on it, 91 00:04:28,280 --> 00:04:29,880 or she's tried to put a dampener on it. 92 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:31,880 The drama that was happening between her and Divarni, 93 00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:34,720 she just tried to deflect, to make it about me and you. 94 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,000 I don't think Julia-Ruth is here for the right reasons, 95 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:40,320 I feel like she has made us all aware of the fact 96 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:42,120 that she doesn't see a future with him, 97 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:46,360 she doesn't find him attractive. It just doesn't seem legit to me, 98 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:49,760 so, I think she's just here to stay in the experiment. 99 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:52,520 I do believe that Divarni's feelings for Julia-Ruth are real, 100 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:54,280 and I feel like they have been from the beginning, 101 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,160 but, I do feel like everything that Julia-Ruth 102 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:58,400 is saying now, at this point, is bollocks. 103 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:01,000 We listen... And we don't judge, apparently. 104 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:07,160 Has Divarni just thrown in the biggest curveball ever, 105 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:10,360 showing solidarity to save face, and then wait until he's 106 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:13,240 in front of the experts to say, "Actually, no, I'm leaving." 107 00:05:13,280 --> 00:05:15,960 No, imagine. Because that, I think, would throw everyone off, 108 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:18,400 I'd be sitting there with my popcorn, if I could. 109 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,160 Last night's dinner party was full of drama. 110 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:25,960 I think a lot of the focus was on Julia-Ruth and Divarni. 111 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:30,720 So, what did Julia-Ruth get asked? Is there anyone else 112 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:33,520 you're emotionally and physically connected to, 113 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:34,920 in the experiment? "Steven". 114 00:05:37,920 --> 00:05:39,520 It's a bit much, that. 115 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:41,840 I told you, didn't I, a couple of days ago, 116 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:43,720 I was like, "I have a sneaky feeling." 117 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:45,400 You are her type, and I just thought, 118 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:47,240 "She's gonna say his name, I know she is," 119 00:05:47,280 --> 00:05:48,720 and then obviously, she said it. 120 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:51,040 Julia-Ruth definitely fancies Steven. Fair. 121 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:53,320 I mean, so do I, but, like... 122 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:55,360 ..you're not emotionally connected to him. 123 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:57,280 You don't know him like I do. 124 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:00,280 You don't have pillow talk at night with him, like I do. 125 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:02,920 As long as she doesn't act on it, whatever. 126 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:09,480 How are you feeling after last night? 127 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:13,200 I'm mentally and emotionally drained. 128 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:14,600 I don't really have much to say. 129 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:16,960 Kind of left me speechless last night. 130 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:19,800 I heard from pretty much everyone, to be fair, 131 00:06:19,840 --> 00:06:22,600 all the stuff that Julia-Ruth has been saying, 132 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:24,480 it wasn't easy to hear, for sure. 133 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:26,560 Especially since we have actually been progressing. 134 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,880 Last night's dinner party felt like a slaughter. 135 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:34,200 It felt like meat and a pack of wolves, 136 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:36,640 it felt like a feast, it felt like The Hunger Games. 137 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:39,280 But I'm really proud that I didn't lose my temper, 138 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:42,480 I listened, tried to get my word in, even if they didn't want to listen. 139 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:44,720 I'm just proud of how I handled myself last night. 140 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:49,640 They were surprised about the 180 switch. 141 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:51,040 It's not a 180, 142 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:53,960 we have been fighting for a while and we always come back, 143 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:56,280 so, if we have arguments, take time apart 144 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:57,960 and come back together, it's nothing new. 145 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:02,280 They're looking into it, 146 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:06,440 thinking, and obviously questioning, if it is real. 147 00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:11,440 By Keye. 148 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:16,320 I think it's hard for Keye to champion our relationship 149 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:21,240 because we had made that mutual pact to not tell anyone 150 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,600 until we were both ready to do it together as a team. 151 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:40,920 It's all about 152 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:43,040 how we go through this commitment ceremony, to be fair. 153 00:07:44,080 --> 00:07:46,120 My decision today is not based on 154 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:49,880 the opinions of other couples in this experiment, 155 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:53,920 it's based on the progression of Divarni and I. 156 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:56,440 If we can move past trust being 157 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:59,000 broken on both ends of our relationship. 158 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:01,400 I feel like, going into the commitment ceremony today, 159 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:06,040 that Divarni has more people on his side. 160 00:08:07,320 --> 00:08:09,400 When I'm sitting on that couch today, 161 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:11,240 I really just don't want to hear it from them. 162 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:16,800 Our relationship has progressed. 163 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:20,120 It is actually about you and me behind closed doors. 164 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:23,040 Respect is a huge thing for me. Once you start disrespecting 165 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:25,480 someone over and over again, it becomes a habit. 166 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:29,320 If it continues, then obviously, that's just behaviour 167 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:31,240 that I'm just not going to stand here for. 168 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:34,320 I'm really not sure what I'm going to do tonight. 169 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:23,680 Welcome to the fourth commitment ceremony. 170 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:28,480 After what sounds like an intense week for many of you. 171 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:31,960 We're now over halfway through the process, 172 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:33,280 and as you head towards 173 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:35,960 taking these relationships to the outside world, 174 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:39,920 it's time to take a long, hard look at your marriages. 175 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:43,240 So, let's begin. 176 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:49,760 First up on the couch, 177 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:51,080 Leisha and Reiss. 178 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,400 Good to see you both. Hello. Good to see you. Hi. 179 00:10:00,680 --> 00:10:02,480 Reiss, it looks like when you sat down, 180 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:04,080 you did a slide over to the side. Nah. 181 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:05,640 Getting comfortable? Yeah, yeah. OK. 182 00:10:05,680 --> 00:10:07,760 You need space? No, no. He needs his space. 183 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:14,200 I'm curious, what is life like in the Leisha-Reiss household? Chilled. 184 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:17,560 Yeah, it's chilled. We, like, watch films, like, home cooking. 185 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:18,640 I love that he's, like, 186 00:10:18,680 --> 00:10:20,800 enjoying my food because it's, like, a big part... 187 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:22,520 Very good cook. ..yeah. Very good cook. 188 00:10:22,560 --> 00:10:24,800 We just, like, chat, well, I chat, he listens, so. 189 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:26,720 I'm a good listener, so. 190 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:31,480 OK. If you were to categorise the satisfaction 191 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:33,800 of your relationship from 0 to 10, 192 00:10:33,840 --> 00:10:37,040 with ten being Rebecca-Bailey satisfaction. 193 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:39,320 I'd say... BOTH: Seven. Oh. 194 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:44,480 OK. So it's a seven. M-hm. Leisha, 195 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:45,880 where do you think the improvement could be? 196 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:47,200 What brings you to a ten? 197 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:49,760 Obviously, he needs to open up a lot more, 198 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:52,440 he needs to be a little bit more vulnerable. 199 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:56,800 Cuddling and kissing, that's there, but. One of the things 200 00:10:56,840 --> 00:11:00,160 was I'm not spontaneous enough in the bedroom. 201 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:03,640 OK. We've got routines. 202 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:10,280 If I can ask, what's the routine? So, bedtime. 203 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:15,320 We get to it, like, say, in the evening, 204 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:16,640 whereas, I think, Leisha wants it 205 00:11:16,680 --> 00:11:19,920 a little bit more, I don't know, lunchtime, morning, like, 206 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:23,080 any time she can get it, you know, it's still... Right, OK! 207 00:11:23,120 --> 00:11:24,920 It's still... During meals? 208 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:27,920 It's still happening in the evening in bed, 209 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:29,240 that's the comfy spot, right? 210 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:31,600 You know, lights, well, it's not even always lights out, but 211 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:35,120 it's just a comfy spot. OK. What I hear you saying 212 00:11:35,160 --> 00:11:38,000 is then, you prefer to have sex in the evening. 213 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:39,800 At the end of the day. Yeah, end of the day. 214 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:41,920 Cap off your day with it. Perfect way to finish the day. Right? 215 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:45,600 Yeah. OK. All right. But Leisha, do you feel like you desire 216 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:48,560 to have sex at a higher frequency than Reiss? 217 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:52,680 Yeah. If I feel like I want to do it, I'll just do it, 218 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:54,680 or like if you wake up in the morning, we'll just do it. 219 00:11:54,720 --> 00:11:57,640 But Reiss is like... I schedule it in. You schedule it in. 220 00:11:57,680 --> 00:12:00,360 Yeah. OK. I feel like when you start doing, 221 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:02,080 like, routines and that, it can get quite, 222 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:03,960 like... It gets boring. ..yeah, a little bit. 223 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:06,960 And obviously, like, we're still so new to each other and, you know, 224 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:09,240 like it's just, trying to make things spicy 225 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:11,480 and open things up a little bit more, 226 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:13,800 and hopefully, it will just bring us closer together, 227 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:16,920 that's the, kind of, end goal really. I'll be honest, 228 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:20,000 like, Leisha's sex drive is a lot higher than mine. 229 00:12:20,040 --> 00:12:21,680 I'm human, right? I'm not a machine. 230 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:28,400 But I suppose what's important, though, Leisha, 231 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:33,840 is to allow for the emotional relationship to develop here... Yep. 232 00:12:33,880 --> 00:12:34,960 ..because I think it's 233 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:37,520 when it's at a stage where you are really close, 234 00:12:37,560 --> 00:12:40,280 where you've known each other for maybe a longer period of time, 235 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:42,360 maybe then you might want to... Oh, of course. ..take it to 236 00:12:42,400 --> 00:12:46,880 the next step and kind of reignite the intimacy in a different way. 237 00:12:46,920 --> 00:12:49,520 I just want to go like, like deeper with Reiss, 238 00:12:49,560 --> 00:12:51,160 you know, all my life I feel like it's always been 239 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:52,480 quite superficial and like, 240 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:56,760 that's not really what I want. Emotional connection. 241 00:12:56,800 --> 00:13:01,320 This is the key. You will have a higher satisfaction level in sex, 242 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:03,240 the stronger your emotional connection. 243 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:05,720 This is something that we need to continue to work on. 244 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:07,560 You rated the relationship a seven, 245 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:10,760 so, that means that it is mostly all good. 246 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:16,680 Yeah. So, are you happy with where the relationship is going? 247 00:13:16,720 --> 00:13:19,280 I would say yes. Yeah. All right, all right. 248 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:22,120 This is good. So now, let's go to a decision. Leisha, 249 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:26,800 ladies first. I'm really enjoying, obviously, getting to know Reiss. 250 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:30,560 I have got very strong feelings for Reiss, to be honest. 251 00:13:30,600 --> 00:13:32,680 I just want a little bit more reassurance, 252 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:34,200 if you can. Let's try 253 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:35,920 and experiment with each other and just, 254 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:37,400 like, get to know each other. 255 00:13:37,440 --> 00:13:39,800 I'm happy where things are going, so I'm gonna stay. 256 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:43,080 Thank you. 257 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:49,360 So yeah, I'm enjoying waking up with Leisha, 258 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:52,680 I'm enjoying chilling with Leisha, I'm enjoying eating your food, 259 00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:54,560 I'm enjoying connecting to you more and more, 260 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:56,400 so, for that reason... 261 00:13:56,440 --> 00:13:57,560 Stay. ..stay. 262 00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:05,560 All right, so next week when you come back, 263 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:08,280 I would love if you could report where you feel 264 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:10,280 with regard to your emotional safety with each other. 265 00:14:10,320 --> 00:14:11,800 OK, that sounds good. Is that fair? 266 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:13,000 Yeah. All right, thank you. 267 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:21,120 Next up to the couch... 268 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:24,480 ..Leigh and Leah. 269 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:32,320 Hello. Hi. 270 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:36,200 OK, so how have the two of you been? 271 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:38,000 We've had, like, a really lovely week. 272 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:39,080 To be honest, I don't know 273 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,520 what yous did to her brain last week, 274 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:43,640 but, you've done something right. 275 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:48,040 There's been a huge shift in her vulnerability. 276 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:51,280 Just felt more open to Leah, and the fact 277 00:14:51,320 --> 00:14:53,440 that I've just been trying to be in the moment, 278 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:55,280 and not be in my head, 279 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:57,600 and think too much about what the future looks like, 280 00:14:57,640 --> 00:14:59,440 and just enjoy the feelings 281 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:01,200 as they come in the moment. 282 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:03,560 By doing that, it's just made us closer, 283 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:07,200 and more susceptible to things progressing. 284 00:15:07,240 --> 00:15:11,240 And I understand, Leah, that you organised a date for Leigh... Mm. 285 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:14,440 Leigh, what was that like for you, to go on this beautiful date? 286 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:17,000 It was really cute. She had all of my favourite things, 287 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:19,160 she had, like, my favourite chocolate, flowers, 288 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:21,760 the colours from our wedding. She does put a lot of thought into 289 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,160 the things that she does for me, and it means a lot. 290 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:25,480 Can you tell me a little bit more 291 00:15:25,520 --> 00:15:28,200 about intimacy and taking things to the next level? 292 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:30,440 Had Mother Nature not have knocked on 293 00:15:30,480 --> 00:15:32,760 the door for both me and Leah this week, 294 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:34,280 I think things probably would have 295 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:38,560 progressed in that area. Yeah. Lovely, excellent. 296 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:41,080 This is good, this is good. OK, now of course, 297 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:44,880 we heard at a dinner party about the transition, 298 00:15:44,920 --> 00:15:48,000 the shift being fake, not being very genuine. 299 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:50,160 Leigh, what are your thoughts on that? 300 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:52,480 It's just a shame that that happened, because we come into 301 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:55,040 the dinner party yesterday off the back of a really nice week 302 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:56,120 where we feel 303 00:15:56,160 --> 00:15:58,200 like we'd really actually made progress, 304 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:01,080 and then to have that, it was just like... 305 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:03,280 It's tarnished the week. ..yeah, it's just shit. 306 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:07,480 I think at this point, Julia-Ruth's 307 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:10,040 been called out for so many lies, 308 00:16:10,080 --> 00:16:12,520 that she's backed into a corner and all she's trying 309 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:13,960 to do is change her narrative. 310 00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:15,640 I didn't even want to bring this to the couch, 311 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:17,320 I didn't want it to get angry on the couch, 312 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:19,960 because I want to talk about, like, how good we've been this week, 313 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:21,240 but it's pissed me off. 314 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:24,080 We do listen to the feedback 315 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:27,600 from other people, but ultimately, you know the truth. 316 00:16:27,640 --> 00:16:30,720 Feedback is fine, but lies is not fine. 317 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:32,040 But what's really important is 318 00:16:32,080 --> 00:16:35,120 that the two of you communicate that you are good, 319 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:38,240 and it sounds like you've had a phenomenal week. 320 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:39,680 Probably the best week we've had. 321 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:45,600 I just think, like, with me... 322 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:47,760 ..um... 323 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:51,360 ..like, I know that you care about me as a person, 324 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:54,840 and I hope that you know that I feel the exact same about you. 325 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:03,200 I just feel really grateful for you. 326 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:09,960 It sounds like the two of you are in a really good place. 327 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:11,960 Let's go to a decision. 328 00:17:12,000 --> 00:17:14,000 Leah, what's your decision? 329 00:17:14,040 --> 00:17:17,920 I feel, with Leigh, we have definitely connected on 330 00:17:17,960 --> 00:17:21,240 a totally different level than I've ever had before, and... 331 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,320 ..it's gone to a different point now, 332 00:17:24,360 --> 00:17:28,120 and we're now at that level where it could blossom. 333 00:17:29,960 --> 00:17:31,320 So for that reason, 334 00:17:31,360 --> 00:17:32,360 I said stay. 335 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:44,120 I just feel like, as a partnership, 336 00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:45,440 we feel really strong at the moment, 337 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:47,520 and we've made a lot of progress this week, 338 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:50,240 and I want to continue to make that progress, 339 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:52,880 and see where this can go, and just be in it with you. 340 00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:54,280 And I know I wouldn't 341 00:17:54,320 --> 00:17:55,840 want to be doing this with anyone but you. 342 00:17:59,120 --> 00:18:00,440 For that reason, 343 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:01,800 I chose to stay. 344 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:08,200 Very nice writing. 345 00:18:09,320 --> 00:18:10,920 Have fun this week. Thank you. 346 00:18:25,360 --> 00:18:27,400 Next up to the couch, if we could have... 347 00:18:29,680 --> 00:18:32,960 ..Rebecca and Bailey. Come on, girl. Ready? 348 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:38,320 Welcome. Welcome to you both. Hello. Thank you so much. 349 00:18:38,360 --> 00:18:41,080 How are we doing? We're good. Good, yeah. Good. 350 00:18:41,120 --> 00:18:43,200 Bailey, did you sew those sleeves? 351 00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:48,320 Did you? Did you? Not tight enough because they keep falling down, so! 352 00:18:48,360 --> 00:18:54,680 All right. So now, we finally had some real conflict. 353 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:57,800 Yes, Paul. What happened? So, we did the spa day, 354 00:18:57,840 --> 00:18:59,400 the drinks day. So, I was on the spa day, 355 00:18:59,440 --> 00:19:00,880 Bailey was on the drinks day, 356 00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:04,880 and one of the questions that we got in the golden envelope was, 357 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,840 who do you have a crush on in the group? 358 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:11,800 I said, "Well, you know, Bailey isn't typically my type." 359 00:19:11,840 --> 00:19:15,520 If we look at someone like Joe, PT, tattoos, 360 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:18,800 blue eyes, he looks like the last person that I dated. 361 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:21,440 We don't have a pact, but we have, like, 362 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:22,640 an unspoken agreement. 363 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:24,280 We're in this little bubble together, 364 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:27,080 and when these things try and infiltrate our bubble, 365 00:19:27,120 --> 00:19:29,560 we always have, like, the utmost respect for each other, 366 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:31,560 and he knows that if he did mention somebody else's name, 367 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:33,280 it'd probably upset me, and vice versa. 368 00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:37,360 It blew up, didn't it? Yeah. And we argued about it, 369 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:40,440 because I'd broken what we had agreed. 370 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:41,960 How did you deal with it? 371 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:45,160 I felt Bailey was very dismissive, he wouldn't look at me. 372 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:50,160 I went over to him to touch him, I was pleading with him, 373 00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:53,000 I apologised over and over. OK, 374 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,440 so, there was a boundary in place. Yeah. Mm-hm. 375 00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:57,600 Bailey, you respect the boundary? Yeah. 376 00:19:57,640 --> 00:20:00,840 In the moment... Mm-hm. ..did you feel like you were respecting 377 00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:02,920 the boundary or that you broke the boundary? 378 00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:07,480 In the moment, I didn't realise that I was breaking the boundary. 379 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:10,360 Now, when you two come together, 380 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,960 and you see Bailey's reaction, 381 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:14,960 do you then feel like you crossed the boundary? 382 00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:17,320 Oh, 100%. I'm not really a jealous person, 383 00:20:17,360 --> 00:20:19,120 but it was the fact that I was like, 384 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:21,080 "How do I answer these questions going forward, now? 385 00:20:21,120 --> 00:20:22,200 "How is she going to answer them?" 386 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:24,520 I feel like I'm lost now. Is that why 387 00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:28,640 you two chose not to stay in the same apartment that night? 388 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:30,160 Which was hell. 389 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:34,000 How did you eventually resolve, or have you not resolved? 390 00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,400 I asked Bec, "Would you be happy if I answered that question?" 391 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:39,000 And she said no. So I said, "OK, how do we move forward then? 392 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:41,440 "I'm still happy to dodge these questions, 393 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:43,160 "I just need to know that you'll do the same." 394 00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:45,480 Yeah. And Bec said, "Yeah." And then, for that was the moment 395 00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:47,560 when I was like, OK, the bubble isn't burst. 396 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:50,000 We still have our pact. This is just a small blip. 397 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:52,000 It's not like anyone did anything that bad. 398 00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:54,640 Being away from him was, yeah, it was awful, 399 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:57,920 so, I do think it made us stronger, it's made us closer, 400 00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:01,200 but just gave me, like a wake-up call 401 00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:03,600 of what life will be like if Bailey's not there every night. 402 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:06,520 I missed her. Made me realise 403 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:08,360 that although we got over our first argument, 404 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:10,280 I don't want to be arguing all the time. Do you know what I mean? 405 00:21:10,320 --> 00:21:11,680 I think the myth is 406 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:14,040 that, conflict is bad in relationships, 407 00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:16,920 but as you go through conflict, 408 00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:20,120 you learn resolution of the conflict, 409 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:21,440 and, inevitably, 410 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:24,320 that makes couples come together stronger. 411 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:30,120 I'm worried that if it doesn't work 412 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:33,800 and we can't make it work, that I'll be left... I'm going to cry... 413 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:41,400 ..that I'll be left where I was before, 414 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:45,160 heartbroken, because then he's not in my life any more. 415 00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:47,760 There's so many reasons to be unsure, 416 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:50,320 and that's what was blocking me to tell Bailey that I loved him, 417 00:21:50,360 --> 00:21:52,520 and why I just couldn't take that next step. 418 00:21:57,440 --> 00:21:59,360 That's what was blocking me from saying it. 419 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:01,040 Hey. 420 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:10,360 I do love you. 421 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:18,600 I love you loads. Love you too. It's beautiful. 422 00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,840 I love that you took your time. Yeah. And I love 423 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:30,720 that eventually... You're so cute. ..I'm like, 424 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:32,600 I feel like I'm interrupting... I'm getting very distracted, 425 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,080 Paul, I'm sorry. ..I'm interrupting you two. I'm back in the room. 426 00:22:35,120 --> 00:22:36,600 I'm back in the room. I'm sorry. 427 00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:38,800 It's like, we have nothing to talk about. 428 00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:42,160 Can we go to a decision? Yeah. 429 00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:44,520 I have felt you just growing closer and closer this week, 430 00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:46,720 and it is really nice to hear you say 431 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:48,600 it and tell me that you're in love with me as well, 432 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:51,800 so, not a doubt in my mind that I'll be staying. 433 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:54,800 I'm staying. 434 00:22:57,120 --> 00:22:58,320 Love you too, baby girl. 435 00:23:02,120 --> 00:23:04,040 Feels good. Doesn't it? And you know what? 436 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:06,080 And that feeling doesn't have to end. 437 00:23:06,120 --> 00:23:08,480 Yeah. Yeah. That's the beauty of it, it doesn't have to end. 438 00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:10,480 Thanks very much, cheers, guys. Lovely, thank you guys so much. 439 00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:11,600 Thank you. 440 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:15,680 I've waited patiently 441 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:19,360 to hear those words, and it was very much worth the wait. 442 00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,120 It was really nice to hear, yeah? 443 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:25,360 Love you. Love you too. I feel like you're milking it now. 444 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,000 I'm gonna milk it. 445 00:23:30,360 --> 00:23:32,320 Next up to the couch, if we could have... 446 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:36,560 ..Grace and Ashley. 447 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:48,160 So this week, Love/Hate. 448 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:52,280 That's a good way of summarising. How did the week go for you? 449 00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:57,960 So, we had a bit of an incident and, um, 450 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:01,880 I kind of felt side-swiped with something that happened. 451 00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:04,360 It caught me off guard and I think, maybe, 452 00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:06,840 for the first time I had, like, a wall go up. 453 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,800 Let's unpack what happened. 454 00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:13,440 So, two of my hates were relevant to what happened. 455 00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:16,080 So one was, I hate when you make jokes 456 00:24:16,120 --> 00:24:18,360 that paint me in a bad light, 457 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:23,400 and one was, I hate when there's an altercation or a dispute, 458 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,400 it's usually something I've done wrong, 459 00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:28,280 or interpreted wrong, or taken badly. 460 00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:31,920 And so, in the discussion, I used 461 00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:34,880 a very recent example that had happened that day. 462 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:38,200 Ash took issue with the example I used. 463 00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:42,320 We'd had a drunken tiff, a dispute. We kind of just squashed it, 464 00:24:42,360 --> 00:24:43,560 I think we both agreed it was 465 00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:45,880 just not really worth making more of. 466 00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,960 But then when summarising that to others, 467 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:50,840 Ash's summary was, 468 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,480 "Grace was being a bit of a dick." 469 00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:58,120 So, I use that as like one of the jokes that paint me in a bad light. 470 00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:01,080 He says I reacted and I laughed, and I should have called him out 471 00:25:01,120 --> 00:25:03,200 for it there and then, if it upset me. 472 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,960 But either way, if I'd have called it out, 473 00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:07,720 I think Ash would have told me to lighten up, 474 00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,360 and it's just a joke, or he would have said, 475 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,160 "Laugh it off, be playful." 476 00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:16,480 My understanding is that Ash feels that was calculating of me, 477 00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:19,160 that I twisted it, that I'm trying to... 478 00:25:21,360 --> 00:25:22,480 ..put him in a bad light. 479 00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:27,360 Is that fair, that summary? 480 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:29,760 Yeah, that's about the long and short of it. 481 00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,040 I felt betrayed in that moment. 482 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:35,480 It hit me bad. 483 00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,680 Honestly, I didn't know how to deal with it, 484 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:40,240 and I was just so caught up, and, sort of, spinning 485 00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,600 in my own head and thinking, "What am I doing here?" 486 00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:44,920 I've struggled with it. 487 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:49,720 From the very beginning, I've had to prove my character, 488 00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:51,800 prove my character, prove my character. 489 00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:54,640 It's like a banter thing. 490 00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:57,320 You give it to get it, 491 00:25:57,360 --> 00:25:59,680 whereas I give it and then it affects, 492 00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:01,000 and I'm not used to that. 493 00:26:03,360 --> 00:26:05,440 Do I want to change that part of me? 494 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,120 I've found it hard to kind of bounce back from that, 495 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,680 it's made me relive and rethink about everything. 496 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,360 I think I've thought, "Am I being mugged off, here?" 497 00:26:16,120 --> 00:26:19,440 So, you're saying you were reconsidering your marriage? 498 00:26:35,360 --> 00:26:38,640 So, you're saying you were reconsidering your marriage? 499 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:50,800 I wouldn't say reconsidering the marriage. 500 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,720 I went in to kind of dissect it. 501 00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,880 Can I...? I just want to be really clear, 502 00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:01,080 I come from an Aussie family, banter is not off limits. 503 00:27:01,120 --> 00:27:04,520 We do have jokes, and they're funny and they're thoughtful. 504 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:07,280 But, your jokes are usually relating to actual problems 505 00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,440 that we're having, that are not funny to me. 506 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:10,760 When you say things 507 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:15,000 that are actually, like, upsetting, there is a difference. 508 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:16,400 Can I share an observation? 509 00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:23,400 The two of you use humour a lot in your communication, 510 00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:26,200 and I wonder if it's worth reflecting on 511 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,160 whether each time you inject humour in, 512 00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,720 it's for the sake of humour and levity and playfulness and fun, 513 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:35,680 or is it as a bit of a defence mechanism? 514 00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:37,400 Could you be using humour 515 00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:39,960 as a way to, sort of, deflect from the issue, 516 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:41,200 or to protect yourself, 517 00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:45,240 or to gloss over something that's going on? 518 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,040 100% in my case, I think, yeah. 519 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:49,280 And I think the reason we're picking up on this, is because 520 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,240 the humour's not landing with you guys, 521 00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,760 and you are both genuinely funny people, 522 00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:56,840 and this was one of the reasons that we were 523 00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:58,360 so excited about you as a match, 524 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,360 you do share that humour, 525 00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,200 but, this is happening at the moment, 526 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,560 so I wonder if it's just worth, not now, 527 00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:09,080 but you know, during the week, having a bit of a conversation about 528 00:28:09,120 --> 00:28:11,840 what role does humour play in our communication, 529 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:15,760 where do we want to use it, and where will we not use humour? 530 00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:19,200 For example, if we are having one of those more difficult conversations, 531 00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:21,880 let's not use the throwaway line or a bit of sarcasm, 532 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,960 let's keep that out of it for now, because it's being misinterpreted 533 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:28,360 between the two of you, and it's doing some damage. 534 00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:33,360 Yeah, I agree. OK, good. I second that. Excellent. 535 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:34,800 All right. 536 00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:37,120 I'm curious - who's funnier between the two of you? 537 00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:38,520 Me, obviously. 538 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,000 This is very resolvable. 539 00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:47,720 It's a little hot right now, but it's very resolvable. 540 00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,480 OK, can we go to a decision? 541 00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:51,840 Ashley. 542 00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:53,440 Uh, yeah, I'm in this. 543 00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:55,200 I've said that from the very beginning. 544 00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:59,080 I do find it hard at times, and I know you do as well, 545 00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:02,040 but, I feel like every time we work through something, 546 00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,600 we are so much stronger when we come out the other side, 547 00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:08,000 so, this could be absolutely amazing, 548 00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:10,800 so, I'm gonna say stay. 549 00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:12,120 Yeah! 550 00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:23,880 What you guys are describing is what I want. 551 00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,280 I want us to attack problems together, 552 00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,400 I want us to use humour appropriately. 553 00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,080 I do want that. I want to do the work. 554 00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,200 Let's actually do the work this week. 555 00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:38,880 Stay. Yes. 556 00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:45,960 Thank you both. All I have to say is do the work. 557 00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,640 Next up to the couch, Nelly and Steven. 558 00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:09,600 Hi! Hello. Good to see you. Really nice to see the two of you. 559 00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:12,880 How are you both doing? Good, 560 00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:15,400 I feel like it's been a really positive week for us. 561 00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:18,320 With the commitment ceremony last week, 562 00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:20,680 I think I just felt in that moment that I probably didn't 563 00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:22,960 support Steven as much as I should have. 564 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:24,600 I wish I said at the time that I don't 565 00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:26,720 think Steven ever did any of that intentionally. 566 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:27,880 I think, like you said, it was 567 00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,040 a good person with bad behaviour at that time. 568 00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:32,600 Well, it sounded like it generated conversation 569 00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:36,080 between the two of you, to establish what you both want 570 00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:39,720 and don't want in the relationship, and what is actually happening here. 571 00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:42,560 It, kind of, prompted those conversations to have, 572 00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:45,120 and the timing with the Love/Hate was just perfect. 573 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:46,960 When it come to the like side of things, 574 00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:48,400 I was able to go into more detail 575 00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:51,400 as to why I love certain things about her. 576 00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:53,320 I know it hasn't been easy for you 577 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,800 in terms of some of the feedback that you've received, 578 00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,520 but it sounds like you've really reflected on it. 579 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,320 The natural side of things has come back out, 580 00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:01,760 like, I know we joke about it, 581 00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,640 give me a smooch and stuff, and you're like, 582 00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:04,960 if you want to just kiss me, 583 00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:07,440 just grab my face and kiss me. So, I do. Just do it. 584 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:09,160 I'm like, "Come here!" 585 00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:15,280 This week, I think, before, I didn't have the safe space to be myself. 586 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:16,880 I honestly feel like you've created that, 587 00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:17,960 so, I'm just going to be me, 588 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,240 and if you don't like it, fine. I'm sure you will. 589 00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:23,280 And that sounds amazing, it sounds like the two of you have 590 00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:26,160 really grown over the last week, I feel like this is a different 591 00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:28,160 couple that we're seeing. Very much so. 592 00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,000 Any worries or concerns that you have? 593 00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:31,240 So... 594 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:34,200 ..what I've heard, 595 00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:37,320 what Julia-Ruth has been saying in the last week about Steven, 596 00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:39,640 when that was brought up yesterday at the dinner party, 597 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,280 I did make a bit of a light joke about it, 598 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:44,400 but Steven's always made me feel quite secure 599 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,720 that he's not interested in looking at other people. 600 00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:49,200 I mean, I was shocked to hear my name come out yesterday, 601 00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:50,280 to be honest. 602 00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:53,280 I've nearly choked on my red wine when I heard my name. 603 00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,400 But, that's always going to reiterate I'm 604 00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:57,200 a one-girl guy, and I'm married to Nelly, 605 00:31:57,240 --> 00:31:58,400 that will be the same, 606 00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,040 I'll always work on the marriage with Nelly, 607 00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,600 and I'm only interested in Nelly in this whole experiment. 608 00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:04,800 I had a weird gut feeling 609 00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:06,600 that it was going to happen, and I said it to you. 610 00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:10,480 It sounds really petty, this. But at the dinner, 611 00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:11,560 not dinner party this time, 612 00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:13,240 the dinner party before, she'd just laugh 613 00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:14,360 a little bit too loudly. 614 00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,160 Just, you know, little things like that, 615 00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,600 or hold the eye contact for a bit too long. 616 00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:23,760 I thought, "No, Nelly, you're being crazy," but, it's transpired 617 00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,760 that, after last week's commitment ceremony, 618 00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:28,960 she'd met some people from the group, 619 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,400 and said that she'd really fancied Steven, 620 00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,360 and that she needs to stay two more weeks, 621 00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:35,840 because she hopes she gets him for Partner Swap. 622 00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:42,120 That's just not right at all. Let me finish. 623 00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:45,280 Everyone was doing a...X, Y, and Z. Julia-Ruth, let me finish. 624 00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:46,400 There was a group of us. 625 00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,600 Julia-Ruth brought up that she wanted to couple swap, 626 00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:52,200 ideally with Steven. 627 00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:54,400 How can, at one moment, you be giving me advice 628 00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,760 as a friend, and making sure that I'm OK, 629 00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,480 but then in that same, sort of day, a few hours later, 630 00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:01,520 telling people that you fancy Steven, and you've got to stay 631 00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,080 in the game for two weeks, so that you can couple swap with him? 632 00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:05,680 Jesus fucking Christ! 633 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:11,320 Who does that? It blows my mind. I haven't 634 00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:13,320 had more than six conversations with Steven. 635 00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:15,360 The honesty box came up, and I answered it, 636 00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:18,040 so, OK, fine, I dug myself a grave, but like, it's... 637 00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:21,680 EXHALES 638 00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:27,640 ..yeah, I don't know. 639 00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:31,480 Can I, please, like, I can't do this any more. 640 00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:33,720 OK. That's fair. 641 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:41,680 Irrespective of comments that come in, 642 00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:45,840 the two of you are very solid, and that's really beautiful to see. 643 00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:48,680 We finally said, "Look, we're going back to day one, 644 00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:49,880 "when we first met." 645 00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:51,840 We have allowed ourselves to be more fun, 646 00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:54,280 because that's the Nelly I loved from the wedding. 647 00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:57,800 Steven, did I hear you say that 648 00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,080 that's the Nelly that I love? I just wanted to make sure. 649 00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:02,120 Yeah, we heard that. You heard that? Yeah. 650 00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:06,360 When I spoke to you, Mel, like, it was always, 651 00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:08,200 I want someone just to be them. 652 00:34:08,240 --> 00:34:10,800 Be comfortable to be yourself at all times. 653 00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:11,880 Keep doing you. 654 00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:16,960 It sounds like the two of you are in a really good place, 655 00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,160 so, it's so lovely to see this. 656 00:34:20,240 --> 00:34:22,800 Let's go to decisions. 657 00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:26,800 After a rocky couple of weeks, I feel a lot more secure. 658 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,880 I feel like I'm myself again, 659 00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,480 I can be fully myself, so thank you for allowing me to do that, 660 00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:33,920 but, I am really looking forward to seeing how 661 00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:36,680 we can get deeper and more connected from here. 662 00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:41,360 For that reason, I have decided to stay. 663 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,320 We've made a hell of a lot of progress in the week. 664 00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:53,800 I think, obviously, I'm very happy with the space 665 00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:55,120 you've created for me, 666 00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:58,520 how caring you are as a person, how you're putting me first, 667 00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:02,760 which is crazy to me, to even think about someone else does that for me. 668 00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:04,120 So yeah, like, it's probably 669 00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:06,400 the easiest decision I've made for a long time. 670 00:35:08,240 --> 00:35:09,360 For me, it's stay. 671 00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:18,600 It is just so wonderful to see where the two of you have arrived. 672 00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:20,640 You know, looking at the journey over 673 00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:24,440 the last few weeks, it's been so tough for both of you, 674 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:25,720 so, good on you. 675 00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:27,240 Thank you so much. Thank you very much. Thank you. 676 00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:28,480 Come on, you. 677 00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:40,120 Our next couple on the couch... 678 00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:43,440 ..Abigail and John. 679 00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:50,880 Hi. Hello, you two. Welcome. 680 00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:52,120 Thank you. Thank you. 681 00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:55,040 You've had Love/Hate Week. How's it been? 682 00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:58,800 I did find it hard, trying to find anything I hate about John. 683 00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:01,240 I really had to kind of, you know, think of things 684 00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:04,640 that we could potentially, like, improve, like, as a couple. 685 00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:08,200 Such as? He does, like, doubt himself, so, I just 686 00:36:08,240 --> 00:36:11,640 wanted him to, kind of, know what an incredible, like, guy he is, 687 00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:15,720 and I wanted him to, kind of, see what I see. 688 00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:20,040 And also, I see an absolutely incredible lady looking back at me, 689 00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:23,080 and I want her to know that she is an incredible lady. 690 00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:25,720 It's interesting to hear you both reflecting back 691 00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,680 to each other, that you think each of you could have 692 00:36:28,720 --> 00:36:31,640 a little more confidence, or a little more self-belief. 693 00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,040 Yeah, it's nice that we can be so open 694 00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,040 and honest with our communication, because I think, 695 00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:38,000 honestly, that's what's made us, like, 696 00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:40,000 become, like, so strong as a couple. 697 00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,000 Even if we do, kind of, have bumps in the road, 698 00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:44,040 like, I'm not worried any more because I know that 699 00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:46,200 we can just communicate effectively 700 00:36:46,240 --> 00:36:48,080 and just, like, talk about it. 701 00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:50,120 Honestly, everything's so good. 702 00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:52,200 Um... 703 00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:57,200 ..I have fallen for Abi 704 00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:01,880 So, yeah. 705 00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:09,200 Wow. Abi, how does it feel to hear that? 706 00:37:09,240 --> 00:37:12,000 Like, amazing. It's just so nice to hear, 707 00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:13,600 and it just puts me at ease, because, 708 00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:14,680 like, I tell you all the time, 709 00:37:14,720 --> 00:37:17,000 I've not felt this way about someone before, 710 00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:18,960 and I get scared because I'm like, is this normal? 711 00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:22,000 Like, am I OK to have these feelings so early on? 712 00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:23,360 When I've asked my friends in the past, 713 00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,360 like, "How do you know when someone's right for you?" 714 00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:28,920 They're like, "You just know." 715 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:33,440 Now, I understand what they mean. 716 00:37:36,240 --> 00:37:37,240 I just know. 717 00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,920 Well, it sounds like you're certainly making lots 718 00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:51,120 of progress in terms of that emotional connection. 719 00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:52,640 What's happening physically? 720 00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:54,560 We definitely have the physical connection as well, 721 00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:57,160 so I'm very, very pleased with how that's going. 722 00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:01,680 And that's another thing, like weirdly, we spoke about this. 723 00:38:01,720 --> 00:38:03,960 We spoke about the physical connection 724 00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,000 before the physical connection. 725 00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:08,280 Why do you say "weirdly" around that? 726 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:10,400 I've never had those conversations before, about like 727 00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:13,000 what I like in the bedroom, what I don't like in the bedroom. 728 00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:15,480 We've had those conversations before doing the thing, do you know 729 00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:18,600 what I mean? I think Charlene's going to give you a gold star. 730 00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:20,040 But it is very healthy to have 731 00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:22,280 the conversations beforehand, about what you like, 732 00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:25,520 what you enjoy, what you don't like, what your boundaries are, 733 00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:27,480 you know, and I think for so many couples, 734 00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:29,080 they don't have those conversations, 735 00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,320 and then problems arise later on down the line, 736 00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:33,160 so, it's very healthy to hear you say that. 737 00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:36,720 Thank you. Good stuff. All right. Well I think we'll go to a decision. 738 00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:37,800 Great. 739 00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:40,560 My feelings, yeah, 740 00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:42,640 just keep getting stronger and stronger for you, 741 00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:46,240 and I couldn't have asked for a better man, a better husband, 742 00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:49,400 so, that's why I have decided to... 743 00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:52,240 ..ta-da...stay. 744 00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:58,480 Beautiful. And to you, John. 745 00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,480 I'm having the absolute time of my life, 746 00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:03,600 and I just love that I'm having the time of life with Abi. 747 00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:06,080 We're already looking beyond, 748 00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:08,480 and I'm really, really excited for what that holds for us, 749 00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:10,800 so, with that in mind, I've decided to stay. 750 00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:11,880 Wonderful. 751 00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,200 Well, thank you both so much, 752 00:39:19,240 --> 00:39:21,880 we are so pleased with the progress you're making. 753 00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,840 Keep going. Thanks. Thank you. 754 00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:27,080 Yay! 755 00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:32,240 How cute are yous, man? 756 00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:36,480 Next up on the couch tonight... 757 00:39:37,720 --> 00:39:38,760 ..Maeve. 758 00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:44,480 Yeehaw! Go on, Maevey! 759 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,520 Hello, beautiful. Hiya, are yous all right? 760 00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:49,040 So sorry to see you on this couch alone again. 761 00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:50,240 It's not ideal, but. 762 00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:54,480 Well, of course, today, 763 00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,400 Joe's not here because he's at his grandad's funeral... 764 00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:00,200 Yeah. ..and he's been having a bit of a rough week. 765 00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:04,760 But I imagine you've been having a rough week. 766 00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,760 Yeah, it's pretty shit, like. Yeah. 767 00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:11,840 I have been all over the shop, like, been in me head a lot. 768 00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:14,320 I'm in limbo right now, I don't know if I'm coming or going. 769 00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:18,880 Today is about you having an opportunity 770 00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:21,240 to talk to us about what's going on for you. 771 00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:24,080 We're not going to try and guess what's going on for him. 772 00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,920 Yeah, cos that's what I'm doing, I'm guessing everything. 773 00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:29,880 I'm second-guessing everything that, like, I've done. 774 00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:31,800 Like, thinking that I've not supported him enough, 775 00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:33,880 and, like, I don't know if I feel like, 776 00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:35,800 is it my fault that he's not here? 777 00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:37,680 When there's an absence of information, 778 00:40:37,720 --> 00:40:39,400 we try and fill in the gaps, 779 00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:44,480 and sometimes, the way we fill in the gaps is a lot more dramatic, 780 00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:46,680 sometimes a lot more of a catastrophe... 781 00:40:46,720 --> 00:40:48,800 Oh, I've been spiralling like. ..than is actually there. 782 00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:50,640 Yeah, it's not OK. Yeah. 783 00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:54,080 Sometimes it can be helpful, when you're overthinking things, 784 00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:58,720 to try and separate out what's going on here that's emotional... 785 00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:00,960 Yeah. ..and what's rational? 786 00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:04,280 So, the rational part is really any evidence, 787 00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:06,240 any real conversations, 788 00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:09,280 real behaviours, that you've observed, or been a part of 789 00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:10,640 that might tell you 790 00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:13,440 how Joe's tracking in this relationship. 791 00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:14,520 Like, 792 00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:17,000 I know he's going through a lot, and I know he is, 793 00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,240 but I'm trying to put myself in his situation, 794 00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:20,680 like, I know when I'm going through a lot, 795 00:41:20,720 --> 00:41:21,720 I don't want to speak to anyone, 796 00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:23,280 I don't really communicate with anyone. 797 00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:25,240 Obviously I want to make it work, but at the same time, 798 00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:26,760 am I wasting me time? 799 00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:29,000 When you're in a relationship like this, 800 00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:31,560 there are certain things that you can control. 801 00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:32,920 What do you think they are? 802 00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:36,880 Me? I don't know. Yeah, you do know, and you're right. 803 00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:40,160 Yeah. You're absolutely right. So let's just focus on you. 804 00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:43,320 Yeah. If you could imagine looking 805 00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:46,400 down on you and Joe from the outside, 806 00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,320 would you think that the two of you were compatible? 807 00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:51,680 Well, this is what I'm struggling with, 808 00:41:51,720 --> 00:41:53,600 Honestly, he's the kindest soul. 809 00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:55,640 He just gives off this warm vibe, 810 00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:57,440 and that's all I've ever wanted. 811 00:41:57,480 --> 00:41:59,640 There are stuff that I think, oh, yeah, we're good, 812 00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:03,000 but there's other parts that I think, nah. 813 00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,920 How can we move forward from this? But what can be really helpful here 814 00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:09,960 is to hone in on the things that are important to you. 815 00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:11,040 What would they be? 816 00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:13,840 What? Like loyalty? 817 00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:16,640 Trust. 818 00:42:17,720 --> 00:42:21,840 Communication. OK, so how would you rate loyalty 819 00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:23,960 and trust in the relationship at the moment? 820 00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:28,480 I don't know. 821 00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:30,840 The trust side right now, 822 00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:32,760 like, sometimes I feel like he's not being 823 00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:34,160 completely honest with 824 00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:35,760 what he wants to say. 825 00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,280 You're an intuitive woman, 826 00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:42,280 and your instinct is telling you something here, 827 00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:44,400 and I think it's really important to listen to that. 828 00:42:46,720 --> 00:42:48,520 What do you think your instinct is saying? 829 00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,160 Well, something's not right. 830 00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,280 I've got all these questions in my head... 831 00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:58,480 ..that I need answered. 832 00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:01,680 I wonder if it would be helpful to fill 833 00:43:01,720 --> 00:43:04,720 in some of those gaps by opening it up to the group. 834 00:43:06,240 --> 00:43:07,280 Oh. 835 00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:11,320 None of us have really spoke to Joe that much in that way. 836 00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:13,400 From an outsider's point of view, it does look... 837 00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:17,480 I dunno. She does need answers. 838 00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:26,160 I'm in an awful position at the moment, 839 00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,600 watching Maeve and how much she's struggling with it... 840 00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:32,800 ..and then knowing how much Joe is struggling with it, 841 00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:36,120 and Joe has opened up to me like, ah. 842 00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:37,200 See... 843 00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:40,680 ..I... 844 00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:44,000 ..I've seen Joe struggling. 845 00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:47,720 We went to the spa, 846 00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:51,400 and he sort of opened up about a few things... 847 00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:55,640 ..like, I don't, I don't feel like... 848 00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:03,200 ..I'm kind of torn in between things that he said, 849 00:44:03,240 --> 00:44:06,720 and then being that safe place, and him having one. 850 00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:10,640 You've opened up and you've been honest with me, 851 00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:12,600 but then you haven't with her, 852 00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:14,680 and it's put me in a really shitty position. 853 00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:19,360 I'm between a rock and a hard place. 854 00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:21,840 If I go spilling everything he said to me, 855 00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:24,480 then he's never going to trust anyone again. 856 00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:32,840 If you're asking my opinion, with the head-space that he's in... 857 00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,760 ..I don't think he can give you what you need. 858 00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:56,960 If you're asking my opinion, with the head-space that he's in... 859 00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:01,760 ..I don't think he can give you what you need. 860 00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:11,160 This is a really good point. What do you need in a relationship? 861 00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,080 Someone that's going to be there for us. 862 00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,240 Someone that's going to have me back. 863 00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:17,280 Someone that's not just going to leave us. 864 00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:30,640 This is shit. 865 00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:32,840 ALL: Aww, Maeve. 866 00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:36,800 This is shit. 867 00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:42,400 Yeah. 868 00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:45,840 Oh. 869 00:45:48,920 --> 00:45:51,200 I just feel that probably right now... 870 00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,600 ..I do think he needs to focus on himself. 871 00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:57,800 And I probably need to focus on myself. 872 00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:06,200 Is it time for you to choose you? 873 00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:10,640 Yeah. 874 00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:14,040 And what might that look like? Going. 875 00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,440 Well, look, we're going to go to a decision. 876 00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:30,960 So from your perspective, 877 00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:34,360 we're just interested in what your decision is tonight. 878 00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:42,400 I've got so many questions that I need to know. 879 00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:44,280 Yeah. 880 00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:45,320 Um... 881 00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:50,360 ..I want me answers. 882 00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:56,280 I don't know, I need to just talk to Joe. 883 00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:57,560 So... 884 00:46:58,720 --> 00:46:59,880 ..I'm gonna stay. 885 00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:08,160 Well, you are certainly surrounded by love here, 886 00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:12,360 you have all our support as well. And we understand that 887 00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:14,720 you need some of your questions answered 888 00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:17,320 before you're ready to make a call on what's right for you... 889 00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:20,320 Yeah. ..so, we support you in that. You can go now. 890 00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:23,880 Thank you. Thanks, Maeve. Cheers. Come on, Maeve! 891 00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:33,480 Our next couple on the couch... 892 00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:35,560 ..April and Leo. 893 00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:44,040 Hello. Hello. Hello. Welcome. How are we doing? 894 00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:45,120 Welcome back. Good. 895 00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:49,160 Well, you've been living together for a week. 896 00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:51,640 Now, I know, really, one of the key goals 897 00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:53,600 for the two of you this week was for you, 898 00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:55,960 Leo, to be a bit more vulnerable and a bit more open 899 00:47:56,000 --> 00:48:00,400 and to really show more of yourself, the deeper level of yourself. 900 00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:03,520 April, did you get to see more of the vulnerable side of Leo? 901 00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:06,840 Um, the concerns 902 00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:09,720 that I raised on the honeymoon and when we were here last time, about, 903 00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:11,560 you know, him being more inquisitive and trying to, 904 00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:12,640 like, get more depth 905 00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:15,240 in the relationship and be open, are still there. 906 00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:19,280 That is definitely a bit of a blockade in our relationship. 907 00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:23,400 I don't feel like I've been able to give April... 908 00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:25,400 ..like... 909 00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:27,880 ..the full me. 910 00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:29,920 I've struggled to communicate stuff with her, 911 00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:32,720 just because I'm not used to talking about my feelings. 912 00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:35,040 I get the impression that the two of you are operating 913 00:48:35,080 --> 00:48:37,080 a little bit independently at the moment, 914 00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:41,480 and we could maybe do something more from a teamwork perspective, here. 915 00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:44,800 Leo, what would you say you need, in the next week, 916 00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:50,400 in order to step into more of that open version of yourself. 917 00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:52,960 I think for me, a little bit of reassurance. 918 00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:55,120 I know what we had during our honeymoon, 919 00:48:55,160 --> 00:48:56,680 and I know we've had a few setbacks, 920 00:48:56,720 --> 00:48:59,320 but it doesn't mean that we can't move forward now. 921 00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:03,280 You're probably figuring out that April's one of the most 922 00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:05,080 open people you're ever going to meet. 923 00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:06,360 She is. 924 00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:10,160 Which is such a wonderful place for you to land. 925 00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:12,240 It is, she's exactly what I need. Yeah. 926 00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:15,440 Aw. Yeah, so, trust her and allow her 927 00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:18,000 to see what's underneath the lid. Yeah. 928 00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:19,200 Yeah, definitely. 929 00:49:19,240 --> 00:49:23,360 I'm just looking forward to showing you, April, the real me. 930 00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:27,800 You've seen two sides of me from the honeymoon to this week. 931 00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:31,880 I feel like I'm going to learn to find the balance in between, 932 00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:34,720 where she's going to see my personality shine through, 933 00:49:34,760 --> 00:49:38,360 as well as me being able to open up, and have these deeper conversations. 934 00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:43,240 Wonderful, guys. Good work. We're going to go to a decision. 935 00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:45,400 Leo, why don't you show us what you got? 936 00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:50,560 You've enabled me to open up and be more vulnerable, 937 00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:52,000 which is helping me 938 00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:54,960 to, obviously, progress in this relationship. 939 00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,880 And so, my decision is to stay. 940 00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:05,840 Thank you. And to you, April. 941 00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:08,560 It hasn't been the easiest of weeks, 942 00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:09,880 but I fully understand it, 943 00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:11,720 do you know what I mean? Like, the process is hard, 944 00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:13,680 it is intense. We can move on 945 00:50:13,720 --> 00:50:17,120 and grow and be better together. 946 00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:19,240 So, I have 947 00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:22,320 decided to stay. Fabulous. 948 00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:30,320 All right, you two, well, this week's all about teamwork. 949 00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:32,480 Good on you. Thanks, guys. Thank you both. Thank you. 950 00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:33,880 Well done. 951 00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:43,520 Next up on the couch, 952 00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:45,000 Davide and Keye. 953 00:50:49,600 --> 00:50:51,640 Hello, guys. Hi, guys. Hello. 954 00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:53,680 We're having a green moment. 955 00:50:53,720 --> 00:50:54,760 Yes. Love it. 956 00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:59,120 How are you both feeling? We've had the best week. 957 00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:02,280 We played with otters, we've had a wonderful time. 958 00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:05,360 OK, you played with otters? 959 00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:07,800 Cos it's Davide's favourite animal and he's always wanted to do it, 960 00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:10,840 so, I organised it as a surprise for him. 961 00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:12,360 It was just such a special moment, 962 00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:14,640 It was like a once-in-a-lifetime thing that I never thought 963 00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:16,400 I would be able to do. 964 00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:19,360 I didn't notice how much in common he has with otters. 965 00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:24,640 They're both very cute. They're both very cute. 966 00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:26,920 It's not just that they're cute, it's that they're needy and loud 967 00:51:26,960 --> 00:51:29,480 and need to eat all of the time and have short attention spans. 968 00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:31,680 There was more than them just being cute. Perfect partner. 969 00:51:35,080 --> 00:51:38,680 Let's look at moving forward with the two of you, 970 00:51:38,720 --> 00:51:41,360 what would you like help with in your relationship? 971 00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:42,640 I think we're on the right path. 972 00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:44,560 I think this week just proved that as well. 973 00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:46,240 We are having more fun. 974 00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,600 I think we're on the right path. 975 00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:50,440 And just getting to know each other more, 976 00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:53,000 I guess, we've still got things that we haven't discussed, 977 00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:54,120 but we're going to be fine. 978 00:51:54,160 --> 00:51:56,440 We're good, we communicate, we're great. 979 00:51:56,480 --> 00:52:00,480 This is good. OK, let's go to the decisions. 980 00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:01,960 Let's start with Keye. 981 00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:05,680 You have done the most fabulous job finding me someone 982 00:52:05,720 --> 00:52:07,320 that is everything I need, 983 00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:10,080 and everything I didn't realise I did, like, 984 00:52:10,120 --> 00:52:11,280 I've just never known 985 00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:14,280 anyone that's grounded me, and made me feel so comfortable. 986 00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:15,760 I am, of course, 987 00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:18,800 going to stay. Lovely. Brilliant. 988 00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:25,400 OK. And, Davide, what's your decision? 989 00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:30,240 You make me feel seen. 990 00:52:30,280 --> 00:52:32,000 You always have my back. 991 00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:34,040 What else can I ask from a partner, then? 992 00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:36,320 Making me feel special every day. 993 00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:38,320 So, my decision is to stay. 994 00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:44,840 Have a good week, guys. Thank you. Thank you so much, 995 00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:47,520 thank you, guys, and thank you so much for my husband. 996 00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:49,080 You're welcome. 997 00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:52,200 Yay. 998 00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:01,240 Next up on the couch, if we can have 999 00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:03,320 Julia-Ruth and Divarni. 1000 00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:11,600 Hello. 1001 00:53:12,720 --> 00:53:14,920 Hello to you both. Hello. 1002 00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:17,680 Probably know this is going to be challenging. 1003 00:53:17,720 --> 00:53:20,720 Yeah. And what I would love 1004 00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:25,040 is full transparency and honesty. OK. 1005 00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:29,680 Divarni, if you could walk through what happened at spa day. 1006 00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:34,760 All right. So, obviously, the first part of the spa day was great, 1007 00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:36,920 and then, there was a game, which was, 1008 00:53:36,960 --> 00:53:38,760 "Which couple is not going to be 1009 00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:40,880 "the one that's going to survive?" Or something like that, right? 1010 00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:44,320 And so, everyone said, uh, myself and Julia-Ruth... 1011 00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:48,800 ..but, I knew what was going on the intimacy level. 1012 00:53:48,840 --> 00:53:53,760 This is something that we've been keeping quiet for a long time. 1013 00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:56,400 So, at what point did you start having sex? 1014 00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:59,640 About second weekend of the apartments. 1015 00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:01,880 Oh, right, no, please. 1016 00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:04,400 At what point did you make the pact 1017 00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:06,560 not to talk about your physical intimacy? 1018 00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:10,600 Time-wise, what, was it... 1019 00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:13,400 Uh, I don't think you have to go to her. 1020 00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:17,520 We don't have to get into the details, 1021 00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:20,320 but it sounds like you had sex multiple times. 1022 00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:22,760 OK, and the reason why I'm painting this picture, 1023 00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:24,640 if you will, is because I want us 1024 00:54:24,680 --> 00:54:27,160 to get to this point where you were at the spa. 1025 00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:28,880 It sounds like you were confused 1026 00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:31,480 as to what your relationship was with Julia-Ruth. 1027 00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:32,720 Were you thinking 1028 00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:34,520 that you were going to leave the experiment? 1029 00:54:34,560 --> 00:54:36,480 Yeah, rightly so, yeah. OK. 1030 00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,280 So, a question that we have, 1031 00:54:40,320 --> 00:54:43,560 and it seems like a lot of your friends have, was 1032 00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:46,680 what changed between that feeling of, 1033 00:54:46,720 --> 00:54:48,400 "I'm going to leave", 1034 00:54:48,440 --> 00:54:52,120 and you walking into the dinner party hand-in-hand? 1035 00:54:52,160 --> 00:54:54,360 We kind of spent, I think it was two 1036 00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:57,520 or three days apart. When we did come together, 1037 00:54:57,560 --> 00:54:59,960 we just had to hash out how everything was. 1038 00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:02,840 So, that's where the clarity came. And then we, kind of, developed 1039 00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:04,920 from there, where it was like, we had more conversations, 1040 00:55:04,960 --> 00:55:06,960 she was being vulnerable, that was cool, 1041 00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:09,760 and that was an extra step in the development in our relationship. 1042 00:55:09,800 --> 00:55:10,960 OK. 1043 00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:14,920 Was it vulnerability, or were you being worked? 1044 00:55:20,240 --> 00:55:22,120 I saw it as vulnerability. OK. 1045 00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:24,240 From that conversation, it felt 1046 00:55:24,280 --> 00:55:26,800 like she was emotionally attracted to you? Yeah. 1047 00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:31,760 I'm not sure about the physical. You sound confused about 1048 00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:34,000 the physical attraction, but, yet, you had sex. 1049 00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:39,480 Can we just get an answer to that? 1050 00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:42,960 So, Julia-Ruth, this is, literally, your partner 1051 00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:46,800 is unsure if you are physically attracted to him, 1052 00:55:46,840 --> 00:55:48,280 what is the answer? 1053 00:55:55,960 --> 00:55:57,160 Yes. 1054 00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:05,120 This is huge. You just said yes. 1055 00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:10,440 So you're saying yes, you are attracted, physically, to Divarni? 1056 00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:12,560 OK. Less than 24 hours ago, 1057 00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:14,520 you said you were attracted to Steven. 1058 00:56:20,680 --> 00:56:24,040 Why did you feel the need to make a pact in the first place, 1059 00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:26,280 not to disclose your intimacy? 1060 00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:30,640 Literally, just because it felt like, at least for me, quite a lot 1061 00:56:30,680 --> 00:56:33,720 we were dealing with anyway, we were called the Hot and Cold Couple, 1062 00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:36,160 and it just felt like another can of fuel. 1063 00:56:36,200 --> 00:56:37,720 Maybe, that wasn't the right thing to do, 1064 00:56:37,760 --> 00:56:38,960 I fully agree with that. 1065 00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:43,000 By doing that, there's a tremendous amount of lies... 1066 00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:45,720 Yeah. ..and quite honestly, a lot of wasted time. 1067 00:56:47,240 --> 00:56:51,680 Divarni, I think you have been had, tooken, 1068 00:56:51,720 --> 00:56:55,320 hoodwinked, bamboozled, led astray, run amok. 1069 00:56:55,360 --> 00:56:57,160 That's what I think. 1070 00:56:57,200 --> 00:56:59,080 If you don't wake up, 1071 00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:02,920 you are going to be in for a terrible life, my man. 1072 00:57:02,960 --> 00:57:04,520 You've got to snap out of this. 1073 00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:12,200 Julia-Ruth, everyone has clocked you. 1074 00:57:16,480 --> 00:57:20,800 Divarni, the only person who has not clocked this is you. 1075 00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:46,480 Divarni, the only person who has not clocked this is you. 1076 00:57:59,400 --> 00:58:03,440 This has got to change. Not just for this relationship, 1077 00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:05,720 or, is it a relationship? I don't know. 1078 00:58:08,480 --> 00:58:10,920 It goes back to what Bailey said to me yesterday. 1079 00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:12,360 Maybe it's because I like her too much, 1080 00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:13,640 maybe. 1081 00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:17,280 But do you feel like you have 1082 00:58:17,320 --> 00:58:19,440 been respected throughout this journey? No. 1083 00:58:20,760 --> 00:58:23,480 Do you feel like you've been used on this journey? 1084 00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:27,040 Used is a strong word, but I'll stick to the disrespect, 100%. 1085 00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:29,840 I think also, Divarni, what we've seen is that, 1086 00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:33,520 throughout this process, that you've, kind of, lost yourself a little bit. 1087 00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:34,760 I think the very fact 1088 00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:38,480 that you weren't really clear on when this pact was, suggests to me, 1089 00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:40,800 and this is my opinion, that actually, 1090 00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:42,120 this was something, Julia-Ruth, 1091 00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:46,000 that you had decided on, and that you, Divarni, went along with. 1092 00:58:49,160 --> 00:58:50,880 Julia-Ruth, I can see that 1093 00:58:50,920 --> 00:58:52,640 there's a lot going on for you, here. 1094 00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:54,520 You are listening to this conversation, 1095 00:58:54,560 --> 00:58:56,040 there's a lot of accusations, 1096 00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:58,040 and I really want to know what's going on for you. 1097 00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:02,960 The whole thing of me telling Divarni 1098 00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:06,160 to make this pact is completely wrong. 1099 00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:09,720 I will say when I've done wrong, and put my hands up, that's fine. 1100 00:59:09,760 --> 00:59:11,880 Are you saying there wasn't a pact? No, 1101 00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:14,560 there was, but it wasn't a me telling Divarni that, 1102 00:59:14,600 --> 00:59:17,080 "You have to agree with what I'm saying." 1103 00:59:17,120 --> 00:59:19,640 You do have a big voice and a big say, 1104 00:59:19,680 --> 00:59:21,160 and you do say your piece, 1105 00:59:21,200 --> 00:59:23,800 so, it's not that I'm controlling what you say, 1106 00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:25,320 or put words into your mouth and tell you 1107 00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:28,480 what you can and can't do. We both came to that agreement. 1108 00:59:30,320 --> 00:59:33,160 It's not fair, because I've said to you multiple times, 1109 00:59:33,200 --> 00:59:35,400 if you feel that you have felt mugged off, 1110 00:59:35,440 --> 00:59:37,720 if you feel you want to walk off, you can walk off. 1111 00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:41,000 You're here on your own, and if you want to stay, then you stay, 1112 00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:42,560 like, I'm not manipulating, 1113 00:59:42,600 --> 00:59:44,600 or trying to emotionally pull you anywhere. 1114 00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:46,720 You do know you have your own voice. 1115 00:59:46,760 --> 00:59:48,720 So, you haven't intentionally tried 1116 00:59:48,760 --> 00:59:52,760 to get a reaction from the group for favour towards you? 1117 00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:56,080 Never? OK. That is what happened last night, 1118 00:59:56,120 --> 00:59:58,240 trying to deflect from your own problems, 1119 00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:01,120 and emotionally manipulate the group into thinking 1120 01:00:01,160 --> 01:00:05,320 that there's something else going on, to get the heat off of you. 1121 01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:07,680 I've never heard somebody sit on 1122 01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:10,320 a couch and lie so much in all my life. 1123 01:00:10,360 --> 01:00:13,360 OK. I'm actually shocked, like, everything that's coming out 1124 01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:16,320 of your mouth is just a lie this whole time. 1125 01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:17,720 You've said from day one, 1126 01:00:17,760 --> 01:00:19,840 Julia-Ruth, you're not interested in your husband, 1127 01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:22,120 we all know that. I've defended him from day one. 1128 01:00:22,160 --> 01:00:23,880 First, I just thought he's a positive guy, 1129 01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:26,200 and then I started thinking, maybe he's just delusional. 1130 01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:28,000 I keep saying, he's delusional. Cos you speak to everyone, 1131 01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:29,680 all of your friends, everyone in this group, 1132 01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:32,240 and you say, "I don't fancy the man, I don't know why we've been matched, 1133 01:00:32,280 --> 01:00:33,920 "he's got none of the qualities that I like in a man." 1134 01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:36,080 That's not true. And I hear this stuff, and then I see Divarni 1135 01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:37,440 smiling and talking, because there 1136 01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:38,720 is stuff happening behind closed doors. 1137 01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:40,960 He thinks he's doing the right thing by protecting you, 1138 01:00:41,000 --> 01:00:42,280 not talking about intimacy. 1139 01:00:42,320 --> 01:00:43,880 How is that not manipulating the group? 1140 01:00:43,920 --> 01:00:45,840 And then in the space of a day, now, all of a sudden 1141 01:00:45,880 --> 01:00:47,600 you find him attractive, you want to make it work, 1142 01:00:47,640 --> 01:00:49,040 you're sleeping with him again now... 1143 01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:51,120 And now he's attractive. ..a couple of days ago. 1144 01:00:51,160 --> 01:00:52,240 That's ironic. 1145 01:00:52,280 --> 01:00:53,560 Divarni, is there anything 1146 01:00:53,600 --> 01:00:56,080 that Julia-Ruth will do that you won't forgive? 1147 01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:00,280 I don't think he would have kept the intimacy quiet, 1148 01:01:00,320 --> 01:01:01,360 he would have sung it from 1149 01:01:01,400 --> 01:01:03,200 the rooftops, because he's obsessed with you. 1150 01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:04,760 So, I don't think you made that pact mutually. 1151 01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:06,760 He would have sung it to everyone that would listen... We did, though. 1152 01:01:06,800 --> 01:01:08,800 ..because he, I think he loves you, I think he really likes you. 1153 01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:17,360 I've rarely seen the entire group in unison on one thing, but, 1154 01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:20,680 Julia-Ruth, when I hear you say, "That's not true," right...? 1155 01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:23,440 So what you're saying is that they're lying. 1156 01:01:23,480 --> 01:01:25,640 There's parts, there's certain things, 1157 01:01:25,680 --> 01:01:28,520 I'm not saying the whole thing. I've said the attraction 1158 01:01:28,560 --> 01:01:31,040 has been very slow and not been there from the start. 1159 01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:33,080 It's not what you said to the group. You haven't said that, Julia, 1160 01:01:33,120 --> 01:01:35,400 you said you are not attracted to him. 1161 01:01:35,440 --> 01:01:37,800 Don't carry this on, this is wrong. 1162 01:01:37,840 --> 01:01:42,480 Every single person in this room sees... 1163 01:01:43,720 --> 01:01:45,880 ..your story differently. Fair. 1164 01:01:47,680 --> 01:01:49,680 What would you say your emotion is right now, 1165 01:01:49,720 --> 01:01:51,360 in this moment that we're talking? 1166 01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:52,600 All over the place. 1167 01:01:52,640 --> 01:01:54,680 This is the moment where I say, 1168 01:01:54,720 --> 01:01:57,400 this could be a breakthrough moment for you. 1169 01:01:57,440 --> 01:01:58,680 There's a saying, right? 1170 01:01:58,720 --> 01:02:00,120 There's not necessarily bad people, 1171 01:02:00,160 --> 01:02:02,240 there's good people, but with bad behaviour... 1172 01:02:02,280 --> 01:02:03,280 Mm. ..right? 1173 01:02:03,320 --> 01:02:05,760 You think that a lot of your behaviour has been questionable. 1174 01:02:07,360 --> 01:02:10,400 I sense, Julia-Ruth, that you're hearing us 1175 01:02:10,440 --> 01:02:12,400 in terms of, maybe, the impact 1176 01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:16,720 that some of your behaviour has had on Divarni. 1177 01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:20,240 It was shocking, that everyone came and told me what she said. 1178 01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:22,600 So, that cut deep. 1179 01:02:26,120 --> 01:02:27,520 I've seen qualities that are good, 1180 01:02:27,560 --> 01:02:29,320 outside of everything else that she's done, 1181 01:02:29,360 --> 01:02:31,720 and I'm not going to paint her as a negative individual. 1182 01:02:31,760 --> 01:02:34,640 She's got her flaws, like everyone else. 1183 01:02:34,680 --> 01:02:37,320 I just don't understand how you can see the real her, 1184 01:02:37,360 --> 01:02:40,040 when she's been lying to you the full time. 1185 01:02:40,080 --> 01:02:42,320 Everyone has said their piece, right? Yeah, for sure. 1186 01:02:42,360 --> 01:02:45,720 Divarni, Julia-Ruth, this is your life, right? 1187 01:02:45,760 --> 01:02:50,000 We're here to give you as much insight as we can, 1188 01:02:50,040 --> 01:02:52,520 but it's up to you to make decisions. 1189 01:02:54,480 --> 01:02:56,560 Let's go to a decision. 1190 01:02:56,600 --> 01:03:00,600 Divarni, if you can give us your decision first. 1191 01:03:00,640 --> 01:03:02,480 Erm... 1192 01:03:02,520 --> 01:03:04,080 ..there's a lot of shit that's happened this week. 1193 01:03:06,200 --> 01:03:08,640 I've been disrespected left, right and flipping centre, 1194 01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:09,880 underneath the rug and whatnot. 1195 01:03:16,960 --> 01:03:18,160 I know what I came here for. 1196 01:03:19,880 --> 01:03:22,720 It has to be 100% authentic, 1197 01:03:22,760 --> 01:03:25,400 100% truthful, 100% honest. 1198 01:03:34,760 --> 01:03:35,880 I don't need to be here. 1199 01:03:39,480 --> 01:03:42,520 I've decided to... 1200 01:03:46,200 --> 01:03:48,560 NARRATOR: Next time... I want that room. 1201 01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:50,400 ..the couples head off to a retreat. 1202 01:03:50,440 --> 01:03:53,800 I love it! As some embrace the escape... 1203 01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:56,840 I know that it's love. I'm on the love road. 1204 01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:59,160 Ah, you're pulling me in it, now! 1205 01:03:59,200 --> 01:04:00,840 ..others start to check out. 1206 01:04:00,880 --> 01:04:02,200 There are personality traits 1207 01:04:02,240 --> 01:04:05,360 that I need in a partner, that I'm not seeing. 1208 01:04:05,400 --> 01:04:08,160 Any kind of connection is missing, at the minute, for me. 1209 01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:10,080 And as Maeve's frustrations grow... 1210 01:04:10,120 --> 01:04:11,680 I'm sitting here when everyone's talking 1211 01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:14,320 up their relationships, and look at me, like a fucking mug. 1212 01:04:14,360 --> 01:04:17,280 ..Ashley delivers a devastating truth. 1213 01:04:17,320 --> 01:04:19,520 I asked him, "Do you love her?" 1214 01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:20,800 He couldn't really answer it. 1215 01:04:22,520 --> 01:04:24,800 Now I just feel like a fucking idiot. 1216 01:04:24,840 --> 01:04:26,600 I don't know what else I can do. 99802

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