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This programme contains strong
language and adult themes
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There's things which are
putting, like, doubts in my head.
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NARRATOR: Previously... You've not
been here, though.
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..as a cafe confrontation... BLEEP
you.
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..caused dinner party despair
for Maeve...
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Another lad that's
mugged us off, yet again.
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Don't sit and tell us
that you love us, then leave us.
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Hey.
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..it was a shock entrance...
This is bollocks.
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What? It is all bullshit.
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She's been slating you
since day one,
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and her opinion hasn't changed.
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She's been saying it
to all the girls, mate.
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..that spoiled the appetite of
the group.
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Julia-Ruth, this relationship is
fake.
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I'm gonna leave. Not doing this.
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I was here for a husband,
I found one,
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I don't need fame.
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She is making an absolute mockery of
the experiment.
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Tonight... We definitely have
the physical connection.
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Very pleased with how that's going,
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..as some couples revel
in their closeness...
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You have done the most
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fabulous job, finding
me everything I need.
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..others confront a crisis....
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Joe is not being completely honest
with what he wants to say.
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I've seen Joe.
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If I go spilling everything he said
to me,
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then he's never going
to trust anyone again.
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This is shit.
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And a reckoning for Julia-Ruth...
I've never heard somebody sit on
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a couch and lie so much
in all my life.
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You're not interested
in your husband,
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we all know that. How is
that not manipulating the group?
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Divarni, is there anything
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that Julia-Ruth will do
that you won't forgive?
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..gives Divarni a decision dilemma.
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There's a lot
of shit that's happened this week.
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I've decided to...
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I loved the dinner party last night.
We were close enough to the chaos,
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but far enough away
to, like, not be directly involved.
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Yeah. It's the morning
after the dinner party.
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That was the craziest
dinner party we've had so far.
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Julia-Ruth saying, "Oh,
Steven would be my type."
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"Who am I emotionally
and physically attracted to?"
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And she chose Steven.
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How are you feeling about going into
the commitment ceremony?
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I feel like we're going in
quite strong.
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I'm just so glad that me
and you are just in it together.
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I feel like me
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and Reiss are definitely going
in the right direction,
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we're going in the love direction.
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There's quite
a lot of strong couples, really.
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We might be one of the weakest.
Yeah,
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I don't
think it's been our best week.
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The environment this week for me
has been like a pressure cooker.
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I feel like April hasn't been able
to see the real me,
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I've not been able
to be myself around her.
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This week has sort of
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made me realise I'm not really sure
who Leo is,
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because he keeps telling me,
like, he's not being himself,
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this isn't normally his personality,
so, yeah.
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A bit confused
who Leo is, currently.
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Shit.
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I feel we can't seem to have
a consistently good week.
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It's not that I'm tapping out
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or anything, like, I want
to work through this.
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I want to be here with you,
I want to do this,
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I just need a bit of help.
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I really like Grace.
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We're both truly, truly working
at it,
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and I think we have
since the very beginning.
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We're sort of fighting
for it more than anyone.
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Like,
is it supposed to be this hard?
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Do you think your feelings
have changed?
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No, no, no.
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I just want to feel that we're...
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..united. M-hm.
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I very much still want to be here,
and I still want to make this work.
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Just because we've been in it
so long now, and...
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..I keep waiting for the good bit.
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I really think we do have
so much potential.
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My feelings are, kind of, coming
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and going, because we have
so many roadblocks and obstacles.
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I mean,
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I went into last night thinking
we weren't going to have problems,
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well, we don't have any problems,
but I mean,
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other people try to start some.
What's pissed me off is I do
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feel like we had a nice week,
and then Julia-Ruth's just done
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that mad spin off and it's like,
put a dampener on it,
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or she's tried to put a dampener
on it.
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The drama that was happening between
her and Divarni,
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she just tried to deflect,
to make it about me and you.
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I don't think Julia-Ruth is here
for the right reasons,
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I feel like she has made us
all aware of the fact
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that she doesn't see a future
with him,
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she doesn't find him attractive.
It just doesn't seem legit to me,
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so, I think she's just here to stay
in the experiment.
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I do believe that Divarni's feelings
for Julia-Ruth are real,
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and I feel like they have been from
the beginning,
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but, I do feel like everything
that Julia-Ruth
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is saying now, at this point,
is bollocks.
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We listen... And we don't judge,
apparently.
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Has Divarni just thrown
in the biggest curveball ever,
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showing solidarity to save face, and
then wait until he's
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in front of the experts
to say, "Actually, no, I'm leaving."
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No, imagine. Because that,
I think, would throw everyone off,
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I'd be sitting there with my
popcorn, if I could.
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Last night's dinner party was full
of drama.
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I think a lot of the focus
was on Julia-Ruth and Divarni.
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So, what did Julia-Ruth get asked?
Is there anyone else
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you're emotionally
and physically connected to,
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in the experiment? "Steven".
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It's a bit much, that.
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I told you, didn't I, a couple of
days ago,
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I was like, "I have a sneaky
feeling."
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You are her type, and I just
thought,
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"She's gonna say his name,
I know she is,"
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and then obviously, she said it.
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Julia-Ruth definitely fancies
Steven. Fair.
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I mean, so do I, but, like...
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..you're not emotionally connected
to him.
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You don't know him like I do.
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You don't have pillow talk
at night with him, like I do.
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As long as she doesn't act on
it, whatever.
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How are you feeling after last
night?
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I'm mentally
and emotionally drained.
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I don't really have much to say.
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Kind of left me speechless
last night.
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I heard from pretty much everyone,
to be fair,
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all the stuff
that Julia-Ruth has been saying,
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it wasn't easy to hear, for sure.
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Especially since we have
actually been progressing.
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Last night's dinner party felt like
a slaughter.
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It felt like meat and a pack
of wolves,
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it felt like a feast, it
felt like The Hunger Games.
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But I'm really proud
that I didn't lose my temper,
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I listened, tried to get my word in,
even if they didn't want to listen.
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I'm just proud
of how I handled myself last night.
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They were surprised about
the 180 switch.
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It's not a 180,
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we have been fighting for a while
and we always come back,
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so, if we have arguments,
take time apart
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and come back together,
it's nothing new.
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They're looking into it,
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thinking, and obviously questioning,
if it is real.
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By Keye.
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I think it's hard for Keye
to champion our relationship
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because we had made
that mutual pact to not tell anyone
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until we were both ready
to do it together as a team.
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It's all about
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how we go through this commitment
ceremony, to be fair.
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My decision today is not based on
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the opinions of other couples
in this experiment,
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it's based on the progression of
Divarni and I.
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If we can move past trust being
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broken on both ends
of our relationship.
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I feel like, going into
the commitment ceremony today,
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that Divarni
has more people on his side.
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When I'm sitting on
that couch today,
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I really just don't want to hear it
from them.
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Our relationship has progressed.
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It is actually about you
and me behind closed doors.
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Respect is a huge thing for me.
Once you start disrespecting
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someone over and over again,
it becomes a habit.
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If it continues, then obviously,
that's just behaviour
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that I'm just not going
to stand here for.
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I'm really not sure
what I'm going to do tonight.
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Welcome to the fourth
commitment ceremony.
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After what sounds like
an intense week for many of you.
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We're now over halfway through
the process,
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and as you head towards
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taking these relationships to
the outside world,
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it's time to take a long,
hard look at your marriages.
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So, let's begin.
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First up on the couch,
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Leisha and Reiss.
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Good to see you both. Hello.
Good to see you. Hi.
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Reiss, it looks like when you sat
down,
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you did a slide over to the side.
Nah.
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Getting comfortable?
Yeah, yeah. OK.
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You need space?
No, no. He needs his space.
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I'm curious, what is life like in
the Leisha-Reiss household? Chilled.
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Yeah, it's chilled. We, like,
watch films, like, home cooking.
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I love that he's, like,
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enjoying my food because it's, like,
a big part...
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Very good cook. ..yeah. Very good
cook.
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We just, like, chat, well,
I chat, he listens, so.
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I'm a good listener, so.
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OK. If you were to categorise
the satisfaction
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of your relationship from 0 to 10,
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with ten being Rebecca-Bailey
satisfaction.
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I'd say... BOTH: Seven.
Oh.
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OK. So it's a seven. M-hm. Leisha,
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where do you think the improvement
could be?
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What brings you to a ten?
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Obviously, he needs to open
up a lot more,
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he needs to be a little
bit more vulnerable.
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Cuddling and kissing, that's there,
but. One of the things
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was I'm not spontaneous enough
in the bedroom.
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OK. We've got routines.
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If I can ask, what's the routine?
So, bedtime.
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We get to it, like, say,
in the evening,
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whereas, I think, Leisha wants it
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a little bit more, I don't know,
lunchtime, morning, like,
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any time she can get it, you know,
it's still... Right, OK!
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It's still... During meals?
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It's still happening in the evening
in bed,
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that's the comfy spot, right?
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You know, lights, well, it's
not even always lights out, but
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it's just a comfy spot.
OK. What I hear you saying
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is then, you prefer
to have sex in the evening.
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At the end of the day. Yeah,
end of the day.
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Cap off your day with it. Perfect
way to finish the day. Right?
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Yeah. OK. All right. But Leisha,
do you feel like you desire
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to have sex at
a higher frequency than Reiss?
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Yeah. If I feel like I want
to do it, I'll just do it,
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or like if you wake
up in the morning, we'll just do it.
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But Reiss is like... I schedule
it in. You schedule it in.
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Yeah. OK. I feel like
when you start doing,
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like, routines and
that, it can get quite,
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like... It gets boring.
..yeah, a little bit.
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And obviously, like, we're still
so new to each other and, you know,
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like it's just, trying
to make things spicy
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and open things up a little bit
more,
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and hopefully, it will
just bring us closer together,
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that's the, kind of, end goal
really. I'll be honest,
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like, Leisha's sex drive is a lot
higher than mine.
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I'm human, right? I'm not a machine.
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But I suppose what's important,
though, Leisha,
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is to allow for the emotional
relationship to develop here... Yep.
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..because I think it's
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when it's at a stage
where you are really close,
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where you've known each other
for maybe a longer period of time,
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maybe then you might want
to... Oh, of course. ..take it to
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the next step and kind of reignite
the intimacy in a different way.
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I just want to go like,
like deeper with Reiss,
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you know, all my life I feel
like it's always been
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quite superficial and like,
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that's not really what I want.
Emotional connection.
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This is the key. You will have
a higher satisfaction level in sex,
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the stronger
your emotional connection.
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This is something
that we need to continue to work on.
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You rated the relationship a seven,
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so, that means
that it is mostly all good.
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Yeah. So, are you happy with
where the relationship is going?
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I would say yes. Yeah.
All right, all right.
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This is good. So now, let's go to a
decision. Leisha,
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ladies first. I'm really enjoying,
obviously, getting to know Reiss.
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I have got very strong feelings
for Reiss, to be honest.
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I just want a little
bit more reassurance,
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if you can. Let's try
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and experiment with each other
and just,
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like, get to know each other.
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I'm happy where things are going,
so I'm gonna stay.
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Thank you.
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So yeah, I'm enjoying waking
up with Leisha,
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I'm enjoying chilling with Leisha,
I'm enjoying eating your food,
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I'm enjoying connecting to you more
and more,
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so, for that reason...
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Stay. ..stay.
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All right, so next week
when you come back,
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I would love if you could report
where you feel
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with regard to your emotional safety
with each other.
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OK, that sounds good.
Is that fair?
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Yeah. All right, thank you.
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Next up to the couch...
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..Leigh and Leah.
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Hello. Hi.
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OK, so how have the
two of you been?
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We've had, like,
a really lovely week.
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To be honest, I don't know
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what yous did to her brain last
week,
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but, you've done something right.
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There's been a huge shift
in her vulnerability.
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Just felt more open to Leah,
and the fact
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that I've just been trying to be
in the moment,
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and not be in my head,
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and think too much about
what the future looks like,
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and just enjoy the feelings
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as they come
in the moment.
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By doing that, it's just made
us closer,
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and more susceptible
to things progressing.
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And I understand, Leah, that you
organised a date for Leigh... Mm.
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Leigh, what was that like for you,
to go on this beautiful date?
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It was really cute.
She had all of my favourite things,
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she had, like, my favourite
chocolate, flowers,
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the colours from our wedding.
She does put a lot of thought into
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the things that she does for me,
and it means a lot.
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Can you tell me a little bit
more
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about intimacy
and taking things to the next level?
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Had Mother Nature not
have knocked on
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the door for both me
and Leah this week,
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I think things probably would have
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progressed in that area. Yeah.
Lovely, excellent.
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This is good, this is good.
OK, now of course,
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we heard at a dinner party about
the transition,
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the shift being fake,
not being very genuine.
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Leigh, what are your thoughts on
that?
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It's just a shame that that
happened, because we come into
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the dinner party yesterday off
the back of a really nice week
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where we feel
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like we'd really actually
made progress,
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and then to have that,
it was just like...
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It's tarnished the week.
..yeah, it's just shit.
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I think at this point, Julia-Ruth's
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been called out for so many lies,
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that she's backed into a corner
and all she's trying
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to do is change her narrative.
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I didn't even want to bring this to
the couch,
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I didn't want it to get angry on
the couch,
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because I want to talk about,
like, how good we've been this week,
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but it's pissed me off.
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We do listen to the feedback
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from other people,
but ultimately, you know the truth.
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Feedback
is fine, but lies is not fine.
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But what's really important is
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that the two of you communicate
that you are good,
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and it sounds like you've had
a phenomenal week.
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Probably the best week we've had.
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I just think, like, with me...
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..um...
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..like, I know
that you care about me as a person,
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and I hope that you know that I feel
the exact same about you.
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I just feel really grateful for you.
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It sounds like the two of you are
in a really good place.
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Let's go to a decision.
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Leah, what's your decision?
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I feel, with Leigh,
we have definitely connected on
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a totally different level than I've
ever had before, and...
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..it's gone to a different
point now,
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and we're now at that level
where it could blossom.
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So for that reason,
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I said stay.
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I just feel like, as a partnership,
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we feel really strong at the moment,
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and we've made
a lot of progress this week,
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and I want to continue to make
that progress,
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and see where this can go,
and just be in it with you.
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And I know I wouldn't
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want to be doing this
with anyone but you.
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For that reason,
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I chose to stay.
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Very nice writing.
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Have fun this week. Thank you.
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Next up to the couch,
if we could have...
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..Rebecca and Bailey. Come on,
girl. Ready?
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Welcome. Welcome to you both.
Hello. Thank you so much.
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How are we doing?
We're good. Good, yeah. Good.
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Bailey,
did you sew those sleeves?
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Did you? Did you? Not tight enough
because they keep falling down, so!
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00:18:48,360 --> 00:18:54,680
All right. So now, we finally
had some real conflict.
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Yes, Paul. What happened?
So, we did the spa day,
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the drinks day.
So, I was on the spa day,
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Bailey was on the drinks day,
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and one of the questions that we got
in the golden envelope was,
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who do you have a crush on
in the group?
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I said, "Well, you know,
Bailey isn't typically my type."
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If we look at someone like Joe, PT,
tattoos,
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blue eyes, he looks
like the last person that I dated.
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We don't have a pact, but we have,
like,
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an unspoken agreement.
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We're in this little
bubble together,
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and when these things try
and infiltrate our bubble,
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we always have, like,
the utmost respect for each other,
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and he knows that if he did
mention somebody else's name,
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it'd probably upset me,
and vice versa.
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00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:37,360
It blew up, didn't it? Yeah.
And we argued about it,
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because I'd broken
what we had agreed.
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How did you deal with it?
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I felt Bailey was very dismissive,
he wouldn't look at me.
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I went over to him to touch him,
I was pleading with him,
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I apologised over and over. OK,
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so, there was a boundary in place.
Yeah. Mm-hm.
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Bailey, you respect the boundary?
Yeah.
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In the moment... Mm-hm. ..did you
feel like you were respecting
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the boundary
or that you broke the boundary?
378
00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:07,480
In the moment, I didn't realise
that I was breaking the boundary.
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Now, when you two come together,
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and you see Bailey's reaction,
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do you then feel like you crossed
the boundary?
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00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:17,320
Oh, 100%.
I'm not really a jealous person,
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but it was the fact that I was like,
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"How do I answer these
questions going forward, now?
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00:20:21,120 --> 00:20:22,200
"How is she going to answer them?"
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I feel like I'm lost now.
Is that why
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you two chose not to stay
in the same apartment that night?
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Which was hell.
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How did you eventually resolve,
or have you not resolved?
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00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,400
I asked Bec, "Would you be happy
if I answered that question?"
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And she said no. So I said, "OK,
how do we move forward then?
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"I'm still happy
to dodge these questions,
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"I just need to know
that you'll do the same."
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Yeah. And Bec said, "Yeah."
And then, for that was the moment
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when I was like,
OK, the bubble isn't burst.
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We still have our pact.
This is just a small blip.
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It's not like anyone did anything
that bad.
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00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:54,640
Being away from him was,
yeah, it was awful,
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so, I do think it made us stronger,
it's made us closer,
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but just gave me, like a wake-up
call
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00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:03,600
of what life will be like
if Bailey's not there every night.
402
00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:06,520
I missed her. Made me realise
403
00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:08,360
that although we got
over our first argument,
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I don't want to be arguing all the
time. Do you know what I mean?
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I think the myth is
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that, conflict is bad
in relationships,
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00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:16,920
but as you go through conflict,
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you learn resolution
of the conflict,
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and, inevitably,
410
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that makes couples come
together stronger.
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I'm worried that if it doesn't work
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and we can't make it work, that I'll
be left... I'm going to cry...
413
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..that I'll be left
where I was before,
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heartbroken, because then he's not
in my life any more.
415
00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:47,760
There's so many reasons
to be unsure,
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00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:50,320
and that's what was blocking me
to tell Bailey that I loved him,
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and why I just couldn't take
that next step.
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That's what was blocking me
from saying it.
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00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:01,040
Hey.
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00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:10,360
I do love you.
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00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:18,600
I love you loads. Love you too.
It's beautiful.
422
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,840
I love that you took your time.
Yeah. And I love
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that eventually... You're so cute.
..I'm like,
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I feel like I'm interrupting... I'm
getting very distracted,
425
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,080
Paul, I'm sorry. ..I'm interrupting
you two. I'm back in the room.
426
00:22:35,120 --> 00:22:36,600
I'm back in the room.
I'm sorry.
427
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:38,800
It's like, we have
nothing to talk about.
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00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:42,160
Can we go to a decision? Yeah.
429
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:44,520
I have felt you just growing
closer and closer this week,
430
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and it is really nice
to hear you say
431
00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:48,600
it and tell me
that you're in love with me as well,
432
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so, not a doubt in my mind
that I'll be staying.
433
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:54,800
I'm staying.
434
00:22:57,120 --> 00:22:58,320
Love you too, baby girl.
435
00:23:02,120 --> 00:23:04,040
Feels good. Doesn't it?
And you know what?
436
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:06,080
And that feeling doesn't
have to end.
437
00:23:06,120 --> 00:23:08,480
Yeah. Yeah. That's the beauty of it,
it doesn't have to end.
438
00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:10,480
Thanks very much, cheers, guys.
Lovely, thank you guys so much.
439
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:11,600
Thank you.
440
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:15,680
I've waited patiently
441
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to hear those words,
and it was very much worth the wait.
442
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,120
It was really nice to hear,
yeah?
443
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:25,360
Love you. Love you too.
I feel like you're milking it now.
444
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,000
I'm gonna milk it.
445
00:23:30,360 --> 00:23:32,320
Next up to the couch,
if we could have...
446
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..Grace and Ashley.
447
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:48,160
So this week, Love/Hate.
448
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That's a good way of summarising.
How did the week go for you?
449
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So, we had a bit of an incident and,
um,
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I kind of felt side-swiped
with something that happened.
451
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:04,360
It caught me off guard and I think,
maybe,
452
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:06,840
for the first time I had,
like, a wall go up.
453
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,800
Let's unpack what happened.
454
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So, two of my hates were relevant to
what happened.
455
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:16,080
So one was, I hate
when you make jokes
456
00:24:16,120 --> 00:24:18,360
that paint me in a bad light,
457
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:23,400
and one was, I hate when there's
an altercation or a dispute,
458
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,400
it's usually something
I've done wrong,
459
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:28,280
or interpreted wrong, or taken
badly.
460
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:31,920
And so, in the discussion, I used
461
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a very recent example
that had happened that day.
462
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:38,200
Ash took issue with the example
I used.
463
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:42,320
We'd had a drunken tiff, a dispute.
We kind of just squashed it,
464
00:24:42,360 --> 00:24:43,560
I think we both agreed it was
465
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just not really worth
making more of.
466
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,960
But then when summarising
that to others,
467
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:50,840
Ash's summary was,
468
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,480
"Grace was being a bit
of a dick."
469
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:58,120
So, I use that as like one of the
jokes that paint me in a bad light.
470
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He says I reacted and I laughed,
and I should have called him out
471
00:25:01,120 --> 00:25:03,200
for it there
and then, if it upset me.
472
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,960
But either way,
if I'd have called it out,
473
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:07,720
I think Ash would have told me
to lighten up,
474
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,360
and it's just a joke,
or he would have said,
475
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,160
"Laugh it off, be playful."
476
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:16,480
My understanding is that Ash feels
that was calculating of me,
477
00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:19,160
that I twisted it,
that I'm trying to...
478
00:25:21,360 --> 00:25:22,480
..put him in a bad light.
479
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:27,360
Is that fair, that summary?
480
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:29,760
Yeah, that's about the long
and short of it.
481
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,040
I felt betrayed in that moment.
482
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:35,480
It hit me bad.
483
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,680
Honestly,
I didn't know how to deal with it,
484
00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:40,240
and I was just so caught
up, and, sort of, spinning
485
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,600
in my own head and thinking,
"What am I doing here?"
486
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:44,920
I've struggled with it.
487
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:49,720
From the very beginning,
I've had to prove my character,
488
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:51,800
prove my character,
prove my character.
489
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:54,640
It's like a banter thing.
490
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:57,320
You give it to get it,
491
00:25:57,360 --> 00:25:59,680
whereas I give it
and then it affects,
492
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:01,000
and I'm not used to that.
493
00:26:03,360 --> 00:26:05,440
Do I want to change that part of me?
494
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,120
I've found it hard
to kind of bounce back from that,
495
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,680
it's made me relive
and rethink about everything.
496
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,360
I think I've thought,
"Am I being mugged off, here?"
497
00:26:16,120 --> 00:26:19,440
So, you're saying you were
reconsidering your marriage?
498
00:26:35,360 --> 00:26:38,640
So, you're saying you were
reconsidering your marriage?
499
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:50,800
I wouldn't say reconsidering
the marriage.
500
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,720
I went in to kind of dissect it.
501
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,880
Can I...? I just want to be really
clear,
502
00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:01,080
I come from an Aussie family,
banter is not off limits.
503
00:27:01,120 --> 00:27:04,520
We do have jokes, and they're funny
and they're thoughtful.
504
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:07,280
But, your jokes are usually relating
to actual problems
505
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,440
that we're having,
that are not funny to me.
506
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:10,760
When you say things
507
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:15,000
that are actually, like, upsetting,
there is a difference.
508
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:16,400
Can I share an observation?
509
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:23,400
The two of you use humour a lot
in your communication,
510
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:26,200
and I wonder
if it's worth reflecting on
511
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,160
whether each time you
inject humour in,
512
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,720
it's for the sake of humour
and levity and playfulness and fun,
513
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:35,680
or is it as a bit of a defence
mechanism?
514
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:37,400
Could you be using humour
515
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:39,960
as a way to, sort of, deflect from
the issue,
516
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:41,200
or to protect yourself,
517
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:45,240
or to gloss over something
that's going on?
518
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,040
100% in my case, I think, yeah.
519
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:49,280
And I think the reason we're picking
up on this, is because
520
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,240
the humour's not landing with
you guys,
521
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,760
and you are
both genuinely funny people,
522
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:56,840
and this was one of the reasons
that we were
523
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:58,360
so excited about you as a match,
524
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,360
you do share that humour,
525
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,200
but, this is happening at the
moment,
526
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,560
so I wonder
if it's just worth, not now,
527
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:09,080
but you know, during the week,
having a bit of a conversation about
528
00:28:09,120 --> 00:28:11,840
what role does humour play
in our communication,
529
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:15,760
where do we want to use it,
and where will we not use humour?
530
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:19,200
For example, if we are having one of
those more difficult conversations,
531
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:21,880
let's not use the throwaway line
or a bit of sarcasm,
532
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,960
let's keep that out of it for now,
because it's being misinterpreted
533
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:28,360
between the two of you,
and it's doing some damage.
534
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:33,360
Yeah, I agree. OK,
good. I second that. Excellent.
535
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:34,800
All right.
536
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:37,120
I'm curious - who's funnier between
the two of you?
537
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:38,520
Me, obviously.
538
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,000
This is very resolvable.
539
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:47,720
It's a little hot right now,
but it's very resolvable.
540
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,480
OK, can we go to a decision?
541
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:51,840
Ashley.
542
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:53,440
Uh, yeah, I'm in this.
543
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:55,200
I've said
that from the very beginning.
544
00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:59,080
I do find it hard at times,
and I know you do as well,
545
00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:02,040
but, I feel like every time we work
through something,
546
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,600
we are so much stronger
when we come out the other side,
547
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:08,000
so, this could be absolutely
amazing,
548
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:10,800
so, I'm gonna say stay.
549
00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:12,120
Yeah!
550
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:23,880
What you guys are describing is
what I want.
551
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,280
I want us
to attack problems together,
552
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,400
I want us
to use humour appropriately.
553
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,080
I do want that.
I want to do the work.
554
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,200
Let's actually do the
work this week.
555
00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:38,880
Stay. Yes.
556
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:45,960
Thank you both.
All I have to say is do the work.
557
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,640
Next up to the couch,
Nelly and Steven.
558
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:09,600
Hi! Hello. Good to see you.
Really nice to see the two of you.
559
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:12,880
How are you both doing?
Good,
560
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:15,400
I feel like it's been a really
positive week for us.
561
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:18,320
With the commitment
ceremony last week,
562
00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:20,680
I think I just felt in that moment
that I probably didn't
563
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:22,960
support Steven as much
as I should have.
564
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:24,600
I wish I said at the time
that I don't
565
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:26,720
think Steven ever did any of
that intentionally.
566
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:27,880
I think, like you said, it was
567
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,040
a good person with bad behaviour at
that time.
568
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:32,600
Well, it sounded
like it generated conversation
569
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:36,080
between the two of you, to establish
what you both want
570
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:39,720
and don't want in the relationship,
and what is actually happening here.
571
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:42,560
It, kind of, prompted those
conversations to have,
572
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:45,120
and the timing with the
Love/Hate was just perfect.
573
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:46,960
When it come to the like
side of things,
574
00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:48,400
I was able to go into more detail
575
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:51,400
as to
why I love certain things about her.
576
00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:53,320
I know it hasn't been easy for you
577
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,800
in terms of some of the feedback
that you've received,
578
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,520
but it sounds
like you've really reflected on it.
579
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,320
The natural side of things
has come back out,
580
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:01,760
like, I know we joke about it,
581
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,640
give me a smooch and stuff,
and you're like,
582
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:04,960
if you want to just kiss me,
583
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:07,440
just grab my face and kiss me. So, I
do. Just do it.
584
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:09,160
I'm like, "Come here!"
585
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:15,280
This week, I think, before, I didn't
have the safe space to be myself.
586
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:16,880
I honestly feel
like you've created that,
587
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:17,960
so, I'm just going to be me,
588
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,240
and if you don't like it,
fine. I'm sure you will.
589
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:23,280
And that sounds amazing,
it sounds like the two of you have
590
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:26,160
really grown over the last week,
I feel like this is a different
591
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:28,160
couple that we're seeing.
Very much so.
592
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,000
Any worries or concerns
that you have?
593
00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:31,240
So...
594
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:34,200
..what I've heard,
595
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:37,320
what Julia-Ruth has been saying
in the last week about Steven,
596
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:39,640
when that was brought
up yesterday at the dinner party,
597
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,280
I did make a bit of a light
joke about it,
598
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:44,400
but Steven's always
made me feel quite secure
599
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,720
that he's not interested
in looking at other people.
600
00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:49,200
I mean, I was shocked
to hear my name come out yesterday,
601
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:50,280
to be honest.
602
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:53,280
I've nearly choked on my red wine
when I heard my name.
603
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,400
But, that's always going
to reiterate I'm
604
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:57,200
a one-girl guy,
and I'm married to Nelly,
605
00:31:57,240 --> 00:31:58,400
that will be the same,
606
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,040
I'll always work on the marriage
with Nelly,
607
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,600
and I'm only interested in Nelly
in this whole experiment.
608
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:04,800
I had a weird gut feeling
609
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:06,600
that it was going to happen,
and I said it to you.
610
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:10,480
It sounds really petty, this.
But at the dinner,
611
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:11,560
not dinner party this time,
612
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:13,240
the dinner party
before, she'd just laugh
613
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:14,360
a little bit too loudly.
614
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,160
Just, you know,
little things like that,
615
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,600
or hold the eye contact
for a bit too long.
616
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:23,760
I thought, "No, Nelly, you're being
crazy," but, it's transpired
617
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,760
that, after last week's
commitment ceremony,
618
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:28,960
she'd met some people from the
group,
619
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,400
and said that she'd really
fancied Steven,
620
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,360
and that she needs
to stay two more weeks,
621
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:35,840
because she hopes she gets him
for Partner Swap.
622
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:42,120
That's just not right at all.
Let me finish.
623
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:45,280
Everyone was doing a...X, Y, and Z.
Julia-Ruth, let me finish.
624
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:46,400
There was a group of us.
625
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,600
Julia-Ruth brought
up that she wanted to couple swap,
626
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:52,200
ideally with Steven.
627
00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:54,400
How can, at one moment, you be
giving me advice
628
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,760
as a friend, and making sure
that I'm OK,
629
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,480
but then in that same, sort of
day, a few hours later,
630
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:01,520
telling people that you fancy
Steven, and you've got to stay
631
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,080
in the game for two weeks, so
that you can couple swap with him?
632
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:05,680
Jesus fucking Christ!
633
00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:11,320
Who does that? It blows my mind.
I haven't
634
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:13,320
had more than six conversations
with Steven.
635
00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:15,360
The honesty box came
up, and I answered it,
636
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:18,040
so, OK, fine, I dug myself
a grave, but like, it's...
637
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:21,680
EXHALES
638
00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:27,640
..yeah, I don't know.
639
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:31,480
Can I, please, like,
I can't do this any more.
640
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:33,720
OK. That's fair.
641
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:41,680
Irrespective of comments
that come in,
642
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:45,840
the two of you are very solid,
and that's really beautiful to see.
643
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:48,680
We finally said, "Look,
we're going back to day one,
644
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:49,880
"when we first met."
645
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:51,840
We have allowed ourselves
to be more fun,
646
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:54,280
because that's the Nelly I loved
from the wedding.
647
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:57,800
Steven,
did I hear you say that
648
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,080
that's the Nelly that I love?
I just wanted to make sure.
649
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:02,120
Yeah, we heard that.
You heard that? Yeah.
650
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:06,360
When I spoke to you, Mel, like,
it was always,
651
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:08,200
I want someone just to be them.
652
00:34:08,240 --> 00:34:10,800
Be comfortable to be yourself at
all times.
653
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:11,880
Keep doing you.
654
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:16,960
It sounds like the two of you are
in a really good place,
655
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,160
so, it's so lovely to see this.
656
00:34:20,240 --> 00:34:22,800
Let's go to decisions.
657
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:26,800
After a rocky couple of weeks,
I feel a lot more secure.
658
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,880
I feel like I'm myself again,
659
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,480
I can be fully myself, so thank you
for allowing me to do that,
660
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:33,920
but, I am really looking forward
to seeing how
661
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:36,680
we can get deeper
and more connected from here.
662
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:41,360
For that reason,
I have decided to stay.
663
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,320
We've made a hell
of a lot of progress in the week.
664
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:53,800
I think, obviously, I'm very happy
with the space
665
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:55,120
you've created for me,
666
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:58,520
how caring you are as a person,
how you're putting me first,
667
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:02,760
which is crazy to me, to even think
about someone else does that for me.
668
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:04,120
So yeah, like, it's probably
669
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:06,400
the easiest decision I've made
for a long time.
670
00:35:08,240 --> 00:35:09,360
For me, it's stay.
671
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:18,600
It is just so wonderful to see
where the two of you have arrived.
672
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:20,640
You know,
looking at the journey over
673
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:24,440
the last few weeks,
it's been so tough for both of you,
674
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:25,720
so, good on you.
675
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:27,240
Thank you so much.
Thank you very much. Thank you.
676
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:28,480
Come on, you.
677
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:40,120
Our next couple on the couch...
678
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:43,440
..Abigail and John.
679
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:50,880
Hi. Hello, you two.
Welcome.
680
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:52,120
Thank you. Thank you.
681
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:55,040
You've had Love/Hate Week.
How's it been?
682
00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:58,800
I did find it hard, trying
to find anything I hate about John.
683
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:01,240
I really had to kind of,
you know, think of things
684
00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:04,640
that we could potentially,
like, improve, like, as a couple.
685
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:08,200
Such as? He does, like, doubt
himself, so, I just
686
00:36:08,240 --> 00:36:11,640
wanted him to, kind of, know what
an incredible, like, guy he is,
687
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:15,720
and I wanted him to, kind of, see
what I see.
688
00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:20,040
And also, I see an absolutely
incredible lady looking back at me,
689
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:23,080
and I want her to know
that she is an incredible lady.
690
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:25,720
It's interesting
to hear you both reflecting back
691
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,680
to each other, that you think each
of you could have
692
00:36:28,720 --> 00:36:31,640
a little more confidence,
or a little more self-belief.
693
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,040
Yeah, it's nice that we can be
so open
694
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,040
and honest with our communication,
because I think,
695
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:38,000
honestly,
that's what's made us, like,
696
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:40,000
become, like, so strong as a couple.
697
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,000
Even if we do, kind of, have bumps
in the road,
698
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:44,040
like, I'm not worried any more
because I know that
699
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:46,200
we can
just communicate effectively
700
00:36:46,240 --> 00:36:48,080
and just, like,
talk about it.
701
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:50,120
Honestly,
everything's so good.
702
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:52,200
Um...
703
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:57,200
..I have fallen for Abi
704
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:01,880
So, yeah.
705
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:09,200
Wow. Abi, how does it feel
to hear that?
706
00:37:09,240 --> 00:37:12,000
Like, amazing. It's just
so nice to hear,
707
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:13,600
and it just puts me at ease,
because,
708
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:14,680
like, I tell you all the time,
709
00:37:14,720 --> 00:37:17,000
I've not felt this way
about someone before,
710
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:18,960
and I get scared because I'm like,
is this normal?
711
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:22,000
Like, am I OK to have
these feelings so early on?
712
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:23,360
When I've asked my friends
in the past,
713
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,360
like, "How do you know
when someone's right for you?"
714
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:28,920
They're like, "You just know."
715
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:33,440
Now, I understand what they mean.
716
00:37:36,240 --> 00:37:37,240
I just know.
717
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,920
Well, it sounds
like you're certainly making lots
718
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:51,120
of progress in terms of
that emotional connection.
719
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:52,640
What's happening physically?
720
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:54,560
We definitely have
the physical connection as well,
721
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:57,160
so I'm very,
very pleased with how that's going.
722
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:01,680
And that's another thing, like
weirdly, we spoke about this.
723
00:38:01,720 --> 00:38:03,960
We spoke about the physical
connection
724
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,000
before the physical
connection.
725
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:08,280
Why do you say "weirdly" around
that?
726
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:10,400
I've never had those conversations
before, about like
727
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:13,000
what I like in the bedroom,
what I don't like in the bedroom.
728
00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:15,480
We've had those conversations
before doing the thing, do you know
729
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:18,600
what I mean? I think Charlene's
going to give you a gold star.
730
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:20,040
But it is very healthy to have
731
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:22,280
the conversations beforehand, about
what you like,
732
00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:25,520
what you enjoy, what you don't like,
what your boundaries are,
733
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:27,480
you know, and I think
for so many couples,
734
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:29,080
they don't have those conversations,
735
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,320
and then problems arise later on
down the line,
736
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:33,160
so, it's very healthy
to hear you say that.
737
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:36,720
Thank you. Good stuff. All right.
Well I think we'll go to a decision.
738
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:37,800
Great.
739
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:40,560
My feelings, yeah,
740
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:42,640
just keep getting stronger
and stronger for you,
741
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:46,240
and I couldn't have asked
for a better man, a better husband,
742
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:49,400
so, that's why I have decided to...
743
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:52,240
..ta-da...stay.
744
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:58,480
Beautiful. And to you, John.
745
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,480
I'm having the absolute
time of my life,
746
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:03,600
and I just love that I'm having
the time of life with Abi.
747
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:06,080
We're already looking beyond,
748
00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:08,480
and I'm really, really excited
for what that holds for us,
749
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:10,800
so, with that in mind,
I've decided to stay.
750
00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:11,880
Wonderful.
751
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,200
Well, thank you both so much,
752
00:39:19,240 --> 00:39:21,880
we are so pleased with the progress
you're making.
753
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,840
Keep going. Thanks. Thank you.
754
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:27,080
Yay!
755
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:32,240
How cute are yous, man?
756
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:36,480
Next up on the couch tonight...
757
00:39:37,720 --> 00:39:38,760
..Maeve.
758
00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:44,480
Yeehaw!
Go on, Maevey!
759
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,520
Hello, beautiful.
Hiya, are yous all right?
760
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:49,040
So sorry to see you on this couch
alone again.
761
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:50,240
It's not ideal, but.
762
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:54,480
Well, of course, today,
763
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,400
Joe's not here because he's
at his grandad's funeral...
764
00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:00,200
Yeah. ..and he's been having a bit
of a rough week.
765
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:04,760
But I imagine you've been having
a rough week.
766
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,760
Yeah, it's pretty shit, like. Yeah.
767
00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:11,840
I have been all over the shop,
like, been in me head a lot.
768
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:14,320
I'm in limbo right now,
I don't know if I'm coming or going.
769
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:18,880
Today is about you having
an opportunity
770
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:21,240
to talk to us about what's going on
for you.
771
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:24,080
We're not going to try and guess
what's going on for him.
772
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,920
Yeah, cos that's what I'm doing,
I'm guessing everything.
773
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:29,880
I'm second-guessing everything
that, like, I've done.
774
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:31,800
Like, thinking
that I've not supported him enough,
775
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:33,880
and, like, I don't know
if I feel like,
776
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:35,800
is it my fault that he's not here?
777
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:37,680
When there's an absence
of information,
778
00:40:37,720 --> 00:40:39,400
we try and fill in the gaps,
779
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:44,480
and sometimes, the way we fill
in the gaps is a lot more dramatic,
780
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:46,680
sometimes a lot more of
a catastrophe...
781
00:40:46,720 --> 00:40:48,800
Oh, I've been spiralling like.
..than is actually there.
782
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:50,640
Yeah, it's not OK. Yeah.
783
00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:54,080
Sometimes it can be helpful,
when you're overthinking things,
784
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:58,720
to try and separate out what's
going on here that's emotional...
785
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:00,960
Yeah. ..and what's rational?
786
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:04,280
So, the rational
part is really any evidence,
787
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:06,240
any real conversations,
788
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:09,280
real behaviours, that you've
observed, or been a part of
789
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:10,640
that might tell you
790
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:13,440
how Joe's tracking
in this relationship.
791
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:14,520
Like,
792
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:17,000
I know he's going through a lot,
and I know he is,
793
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,240
but I'm trying to put myself
in his situation,
794
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:20,680
like, I know
when I'm going through a lot,
795
00:41:20,720 --> 00:41:21,720
I don't want to speak to anyone,
796
00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:23,280
I don't really communicate
with anyone.
797
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:25,240
Obviously I want to make it work,
but at the same time,
798
00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:26,760
am I wasting me time?
799
00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:29,000
When you're
in a relationship like this,
800
00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:31,560
there are certain things
that you can control.
801
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:32,920
What do you think they are?
802
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:36,880
Me? I don't know. Yeah, you do
know, and you're right.
803
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:40,160
Yeah. You're absolutely right.
So let's just focus on you.
804
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:43,320
Yeah. If you could imagine looking
805
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:46,400
down on you
and Joe from the outside,
806
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,320
would you think
that the two of you were compatible?
807
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:51,680
Well, this is
what I'm struggling with,
808
00:41:51,720 --> 00:41:53,600
Honestly, he's the kindest soul.
809
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:55,640
He just gives off this warm vibe,
810
00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:57,440
and that's all I've ever wanted.
811
00:41:57,480 --> 00:41:59,640
There are stuff
that I think, oh, yeah, we're good,
812
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:03,000
but there's other parts
that I think, nah.
813
00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,920
How can we move forward from this?
But what can be really helpful here
814
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:09,960
is to hone in on the things
that are important to you.
815
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:11,040
What would they be?
816
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:13,840
What? Like loyalty?
817
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:16,640
Trust.
818
00:42:17,720 --> 00:42:21,840
Communication. OK,
so how would you rate loyalty
819
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:23,960
and trust in the relationship at
the moment?
820
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:28,480
I don't know.
821
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:30,840
The trust side right now,
822
00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:32,760
like, sometimes I feel
like he's not being
823
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:34,160
completely honest with
824
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:35,760
what he wants to say.
825
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,280
You're an intuitive woman,
826
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:42,280
and your instinct
is telling you something here,
827
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:44,400
and I think it's really important
to listen to that.
828
00:42:46,720 --> 00:42:48,520
What do you think your instinct
is saying?
829
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,160
Well, something's not right.
830
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,280
I've got all these questions
in my head...
831
00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:58,480
..that I need answered.
832
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:01,680
I wonder
if it would be helpful to fill
833
00:43:01,720 --> 00:43:04,720
in some of those gaps by opening
it up to the group.
834
00:43:06,240 --> 00:43:07,280
Oh.
835
00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:11,320
None of us have really spoke
to Joe that much in that way.
836
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:13,400
From an outsider's point of view,
it does look...
837
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:17,480
I dunno. She does need answers.
838
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:26,160
I'm in an awful position at
the moment,
839
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,600
watching Maeve and how much
she's struggling with it...
840
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:32,800
..and then knowing how much Joe
is struggling with it,
841
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:36,120
and Joe
has opened up to me like, ah.
842
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:37,200
See...
843
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:40,680
..I...
844
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:44,000
..I've seen Joe struggling.
845
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:47,720
We went to the spa,
846
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:51,400
and he sort of opened
up about a few things...
847
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:55,640
..like, I don't, I don't
feel like...
848
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:03,200
..I'm kind of torn in
between things that he said,
849
00:44:03,240 --> 00:44:06,720
and then being that safe place,
and him having one.
850
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:10,640
You've opened
up and you've been honest with me,
851
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:12,600
but then you haven't with her,
852
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:14,680
and it's put me
in a really shitty position.
853
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:19,360
I'm between a rock and a hard place.
854
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:21,840
If I go spilling everything he said
to me,
855
00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:24,480
then he's never going
to trust anyone again.
856
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:32,840
If you're asking my opinion,
with the head-space that he's in...
857
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,760
..I don't think he can give you
what you need.
858
00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:56,960
If you're asking my opinion,
with the head-space that he's in...
859
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:01,760
..I don't think he can give you
what you need.
860
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:11,160
This is a really good point.
What do you need in a relationship?
861
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,080
Someone that's going to be there
for us.
862
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,240
Someone that's going
to have me back.
863
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:17,280
Someone that's not just going
to leave us.
864
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:30,640
This is shit.
865
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:32,840
ALL: Aww, Maeve.
866
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:36,800
This is shit.
867
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:42,400
Yeah.
868
00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:45,840
Oh.
869
00:45:48,920 --> 00:45:51,200
I just feel that probably right
now...
870
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,600
..I do think he needs
to focus on himself.
871
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:57,800
And I probably need
to focus on myself.
872
00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:06,200
Is it time for you to choose you?
873
00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:10,640
Yeah.
874
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:14,040
And what might that look like?
Going.
875
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,440
Well, look,
we're going to go to a decision.
876
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:30,960
So from your perspective,
877
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:34,360
we're just interested
in what your decision is tonight.
878
00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:42,400
I've got so many questions
that I need to know.
879
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:44,280
Yeah.
880
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:45,320
Um...
881
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:50,360
..I want me answers.
882
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:56,280
I don't know, I need to just talk to
Joe.
883
00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:57,560
So...
884
00:46:58,720 --> 00:46:59,880
..I'm gonna stay.
885
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:08,160
Well, you are certainly surrounded
by love here,
886
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:12,360
you have all our support as well.
And we understand that
887
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:14,720
you need some of
your questions answered
888
00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:17,320
before you're ready to make
a call on what's right for you...
889
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:20,320
Yeah. ..so, we support you in that.
You can go now.
890
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:23,880
Thank you. Thanks, Maeve.
Cheers. Come on, Maeve!
891
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:33,480
Our next couple on the couch...
892
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:35,560
..April and Leo.
893
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:44,040
Hello. Hello. Hello. Welcome.
How are we doing?
894
00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:45,120
Welcome back. Good.
895
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:49,160
Well, you've been living together
for a week.
896
00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:51,640
Now, I know, really, one of the key
goals
897
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:53,600
for the two of you this week was
for you,
898
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:55,960
Leo, to be a bit more vulnerable
and a bit more open
899
00:47:56,000 --> 00:48:00,400
and to really show more of yourself,
the deeper level of yourself.
900
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:03,520
April, did you get to see more of
the vulnerable side of Leo?
901
00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:06,840
Um, the concerns
902
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:09,720
that I raised on the honeymoon and
when we were here last time, about,
903
00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:11,560
you know, him being more inquisitive
and trying to,
904
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:12,640
like, get more depth
905
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:15,240
in the relationship
and be open, are still there.
906
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:19,280
That is definitely a bit
of a blockade in our relationship.
907
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:23,400
I don't feel like I've been able
to give April...
908
00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:25,400
..like...
909
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:27,880
..the full me.
910
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:29,920
I've struggled to communicate stuff
with her,
911
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:32,720
just because I'm not used to talking
about my feelings.
912
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:35,040
I get the impression
that the two of you are operating
913
00:48:35,080 --> 00:48:37,080
a little bit independently at
the moment,
914
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:41,480
and we could maybe do something more
from a teamwork perspective, here.
915
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:44,800
Leo, what would you say you need,
in the next week,
916
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:50,400
in order to step into more of
that open version of yourself.
917
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:52,960
I think for me,
a little bit of reassurance.
918
00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:55,120
I know
what we had during our honeymoon,
919
00:48:55,160 --> 00:48:56,680
and I know we've had a few setbacks,
920
00:48:56,720 --> 00:48:59,320
but it doesn't mean
that we can't move forward now.
921
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:03,280
You're probably figuring out
that April's one of the most
922
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:05,080
open people you're ever going
to meet.
923
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:06,360
She is.
924
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:10,160
Which is such a wonderful place
for you to land.
925
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:12,240
It is, she's exactly what I need.
Yeah.
926
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:15,440
Aw. Yeah, so, trust her and allow
her
927
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:18,000
to see what's underneath the lid.
Yeah.
928
00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:19,200
Yeah, definitely.
929
00:49:19,240 --> 00:49:23,360
I'm just looking forward
to showing you, April, the real me.
930
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:27,800
You've seen two sides of me from
the honeymoon to this week.
931
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:31,880
I feel like I'm going to learn
to find the balance in between,
932
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:34,720
where she's going
to see my personality shine through,
933
00:49:34,760 --> 00:49:38,360
as well as me being able to open up,
and have these deeper conversations.
934
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:43,240
Wonderful, guys. Good work.
We're going to go to a decision.
935
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:45,400
Leo, why don't you show us
what you got?
936
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:50,560
You've enabled me to open
up and be more vulnerable,
937
00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:52,000
which is helping me
938
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:54,960
to, obviously, progress
in this relationship.
939
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,880
And so, my decision is to stay.
940
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:05,840
Thank you. And to you, April.
941
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:08,560
It hasn't been the easiest of weeks,
942
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:09,880
but I fully understand it,
943
00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:11,720
do you know what I mean?
Like, the process is hard,
944
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:13,680
it is intense. We can move on
945
00:50:13,720 --> 00:50:17,120
and grow and be better together.
946
00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:19,240
So, I have
947
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:22,320
decided to stay. Fabulous.
948
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:30,320
All right, you two, well,
this week's all about teamwork.
949
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:32,480
Good on you. Thanks, guys.
Thank you both. Thank you.
950
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:33,880
Well done.
951
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:43,520
Next up on the couch,
952
00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:45,000
Davide and Keye.
953
00:50:49,600 --> 00:50:51,640
Hello, guys. Hi, guys. Hello.
954
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:53,680
We're having a green moment.
955
00:50:53,720 --> 00:50:54,760
Yes. Love it.
956
00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:59,120
How are you both feeling?
We've had the best week.
957
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:02,280
We played with otters,
we've had a wonderful time.
958
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:05,360
OK, you played with otters?
959
00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:07,800
Cos it's Davide's favourite animal
and he's always wanted to do it,
960
00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:10,840
so, I organised it as a surprise
for him.
961
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:12,360
It was just such a special moment,
962
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:14,640
It was like a once-in-a-lifetime
thing that I never thought
963
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:16,400
I would be able to do.
964
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:19,360
I didn't notice how much
in common he has with otters.
965
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:24,640
They're both very cute.
They're both very cute.
966
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:26,920
It's not just that they're cute,
it's that they're needy and loud
967
00:51:26,960 --> 00:51:29,480
and need to eat all of the time
and have short attention spans.
968
00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:31,680
There was more than them just
being cute. Perfect partner.
969
00:51:35,080 --> 00:51:38,680
Let's look at moving forward with
the two of you,
970
00:51:38,720 --> 00:51:41,360
what would you like help with
in your relationship?
971
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:42,640
I think we're on the right path.
972
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:44,560
I think this week just proved
that as well.
973
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:46,240
We are having more fun.
974
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,600
I think we're on the right path.
975
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:50,440
And just getting
to know each other more,
976
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:53,000
I guess, we've still got things
that we haven't discussed,
977
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:54,120
but we're going to be fine.
978
00:51:54,160 --> 00:51:56,440
We're good, we communicate,
we're great.
979
00:51:56,480 --> 00:52:00,480
This is good. OK,
let's go to the decisions.
980
00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:01,960
Let's start with Keye.
981
00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:05,680
You have done the most
fabulous job finding me someone
982
00:52:05,720 --> 00:52:07,320
that is everything I need,
983
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:10,080
and everything I didn't realise
I did, like,
984
00:52:10,120 --> 00:52:11,280
I've just never known
985
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:14,280
anyone that's grounded me,
and made me feel so comfortable.
986
00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:15,760
I am, of course,
987
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:18,800
going to stay.
Lovely. Brilliant.
988
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:25,400
OK. And, Davide,
what's your decision?
989
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:30,240
You make me feel seen.
990
00:52:30,280 --> 00:52:32,000
You always have my back.
991
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:34,040
What else can I ask from a partner,
then?
992
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:36,320
Making me feel special every day.
993
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:38,320
So, my decision is to stay.
994
00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:44,840
Have a good week, guys.
Thank you. Thank you so much,
995
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:47,520
thank you, guys, and thank you
so much for my husband.
996
00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:49,080
You're welcome.
997
00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:52,200
Yay.
998
00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:01,240
Next up on the couch,
if we can have
999
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:03,320
Julia-Ruth and Divarni.
1000
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:11,600
Hello.
1001
00:53:12,720 --> 00:53:14,920
Hello to you both. Hello.
1002
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:17,680
Probably know this is going
to be challenging.
1003
00:53:17,720 --> 00:53:20,720
Yeah. And what I would love
1004
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:25,040
is full transparency
and honesty. OK.
1005
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:29,680
Divarni, if you could walk through
what happened at spa day.
1006
00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:34,760
All right. So, obviously, the first
part of the spa day was great,
1007
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:36,920
and then, there was a game,
which was,
1008
00:53:36,960 --> 00:53:38,760
"Which couple is not going
to be
1009
00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:40,880
"the one that's going to survive?"
Or something like that, right?
1010
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:44,320
And so, everyone said, uh,
myself and Julia-Ruth...
1011
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:48,800
..but, I knew what was going on the
intimacy level.
1012
00:53:48,840 --> 00:53:53,760
This is something that we've been
keeping quiet for a long time.
1013
00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:56,400
So, at what point did you
start having sex?
1014
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:59,640
About second weekend of
the apartments.
1015
00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:01,880
Oh, right, no, please.
1016
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:04,400
At what point did you make the pact
1017
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:06,560
not to talk about your physical
intimacy?
1018
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:10,600
Time-wise, what, was it...
1019
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:13,400
Uh, I don't think you have
to go to her.
1020
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:17,520
We don't have to get into
the details,
1021
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:20,320
but it sounds like you had
sex multiple times.
1022
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:22,760
OK, and the reason
why I'm painting this picture,
1023
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:24,640
if you will, is because I want us
1024
00:54:24,680 --> 00:54:27,160
to get to this point
where you were at the spa.
1025
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:28,880
It sounds like you were confused
1026
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:31,480
as to what your relationship
was with Julia-Ruth.
1027
00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:32,720
Were you thinking
1028
00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:34,520
that you were going to leave
the experiment?
1029
00:54:34,560 --> 00:54:36,480
Yeah, rightly so, yeah. OK.
1030
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,280
So, a question that we have,
1031
00:54:40,320 --> 00:54:43,560
and it seems like a lot
of your friends have, was
1032
00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:46,680
what changed between
that feeling of,
1033
00:54:46,720 --> 00:54:48,400
"I'm going to leave",
1034
00:54:48,440 --> 00:54:52,120
and you walking into
the dinner party hand-in-hand?
1035
00:54:52,160 --> 00:54:54,360
We kind of spent, I think it was two
1036
00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:57,520
or three days apart.
When we did come together,
1037
00:54:57,560 --> 00:54:59,960
we just had to hash out
how everything was.
1038
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:02,840
So, that's where the clarity came.
And then we, kind of, developed
1039
00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:04,920
from there, where it was like, we
had more conversations,
1040
00:55:04,960 --> 00:55:06,960
she was being vulnerable,
that was cool,
1041
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:09,760
and that was an extra step in the
development in our relationship.
1042
00:55:09,800 --> 00:55:10,960
OK.
1043
00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:14,920
Was it vulnerability,
or were you being worked?
1044
00:55:20,240 --> 00:55:22,120
I saw it as vulnerability. OK.
1045
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:24,240
From that conversation, it felt
1046
00:55:24,280 --> 00:55:26,800
like she was
emotionally attracted to you? Yeah.
1047
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:31,760
I'm not sure about the physical.
You sound confused about
1048
00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:34,000
the physical attraction,
but, yet, you had sex.
1049
00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:39,480
Can we just get an answer to that?
1050
00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:42,960
So, Julia-Ruth,
this is, literally, your partner
1051
00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:46,800
is unsure if you
are physically attracted to him,
1052
00:55:46,840 --> 00:55:48,280
what is the answer?
1053
00:55:55,960 --> 00:55:57,160
Yes.
1054
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:05,120
This is huge. You just said yes.
1055
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:10,440
So you're saying yes, you are
attracted, physically, to Divarni?
1056
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:12,560
OK. Less than 24 hours ago,
1057
00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:14,520
you said you were
attracted to Steven.
1058
00:56:20,680 --> 00:56:24,040
Why did you feel the need
to make a pact in the first place,
1059
00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:26,280
not to disclose your intimacy?
1060
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:30,640
Literally, just because it felt
like, at least for me, quite a lot
1061
00:56:30,680 --> 00:56:33,720
we were dealing with anyway, we were
called the Hot and Cold Couple,
1062
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:36,160
and it just felt like another can
of fuel.
1063
00:56:36,200 --> 00:56:37,720
Maybe, that wasn't the right
thing to do,
1064
00:56:37,760 --> 00:56:38,960
I fully agree with that.
1065
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:43,000
By doing that, there's a tremendous
amount of lies...
1066
00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:45,720
Yeah. ..and quite honestly,
a lot of wasted time.
1067
00:56:47,240 --> 00:56:51,680
Divarni, I think you have
been had, tooken,
1068
00:56:51,720 --> 00:56:55,320
hoodwinked,
bamboozled, led astray, run amok.
1069
00:56:55,360 --> 00:56:57,160
That's what I think.
1070
00:56:57,200 --> 00:56:59,080
If you don't wake up,
1071
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:02,920
you are going to be
in for a terrible life, my man.
1072
00:57:02,960 --> 00:57:04,520
You've got to snap out of this.
1073
00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:12,200
Julia-Ruth,
everyone has clocked you.
1074
00:57:16,480 --> 00:57:20,800
Divarni, the only person
who has not clocked this is you.
1075
00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:46,480
Divarni, the only person
who has not clocked this is you.
1076
00:57:59,400 --> 00:58:03,440
This has got to change.
Not just for this relationship,
1077
00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:05,720
or, is it a relationship?
I don't know.
1078
00:58:08,480 --> 00:58:10,920
It goes back to
what Bailey said to me yesterday.
1079
00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:12,360
Maybe it's because I like her
too much,
1080
00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:13,640
maybe.
1081
00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:17,280
But do you feel like you have
1082
00:58:17,320 --> 00:58:19,440
been respected throughout
this journey? No.
1083
00:58:20,760 --> 00:58:23,480
Do you feel like you've been used
on this journey?
1084
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:27,040
Used is a strong word, but I'll
stick to the disrespect, 100%.
1085
00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:29,840
I think also, Divarni, what we've
seen is that,
1086
00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:33,520
throughout this process, that
you've, kind of, lost yourself a
little bit.
1087
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:34,760
I think the very fact
1088
00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:38,480
that you weren't really clear on
when this pact was, suggests to me,
1089
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:40,800
and this is my opinion, that
actually,
1090
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:42,120
this was something, Julia-Ruth,
1091
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:46,000
that you had decided on, and
that you, Divarni, went along with.
1092
00:58:49,160 --> 00:58:50,880
Julia-Ruth, I can see that
1093
00:58:50,920 --> 00:58:52,640
there's a lot going on for you,
here.
1094
00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:54,520
You are listening
to this conversation,
1095
00:58:54,560 --> 00:58:56,040
there's a lot of accusations,
1096
00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:58,040
and I really want
to know what's going on for you.
1097
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:02,960
The whole thing
of me telling Divarni
1098
00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:06,160
to make this pact
is completely wrong.
1099
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:09,720
I will say when I've done wrong,
and put my hands up, that's fine.
1100
00:59:09,760 --> 00:59:11,880
Are you saying there wasn't a pact?
No,
1101
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:14,560
there was, but it wasn't a me
telling Divarni that,
1102
00:59:14,600 --> 00:59:17,080
"You have to agree with
what I'm saying."
1103
00:59:17,120 --> 00:59:19,640
You do have a big voice
and a big say,
1104
00:59:19,680 --> 00:59:21,160
and you do say your piece,
1105
00:59:21,200 --> 00:59:23,800
so, it's not that I'm controlling
what you say,
1106
00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:25,320
or put words into your mouth
and tell you
1107
00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:28,480
what you can and can't do.
We both came to that agreement.
1108
00:59:30,320 --> 00:59:33,160
It's not fair, because I've said
to you multiple times,
1109
00:59:33,200 --> 00:59:35,400
if you feel
that you have felt mugged off,
1110
00:59:35,440 --> 00:59:37,720
if you feel you want to walk off,
you can walk off.
1111
00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:41,000
You're here on your own, and if
you want to stay, then you stay,
1112
00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:42,560
like, I'm not manipulating,
1113
00:59:42,600 --> 00:59:44,600
or trying to emotionally pull you
anywhere.
1114
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:46,720
You do know you have your own voice.
1115
00:59:46,760 --> 00:59:48,720
So, you haven't intentionally tried
1116
00:59:48,760 --> 00:59:52,760
to get a reaction from the group
for favour towards you?
1117
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:56,080
Never? OK. That is
what happened last night,
1118
00:59:56,120 --> 00:59:58,240
trying to deflect
from your own problems,
1119
00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:01,120
and emotionally manipulate the group
into thinking
1120
01:00:01,160 --> 01:00:05,320
that there's something else going
on, to get the heat off of you.
1121
01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:07,680
I've never heard somebody sit on
1122
01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:10,320
a couch and lie so much
in all my life.
1123
01:00:10,360 --> 01:00:13,360
OK. I'm actually shocked, like,
everything that's coming out
1124
01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:16,320
of your mouth
is just a lie this whole time.
1125
01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:17,720
You've said from day one,
1126
01:00:17,760 --> 01:00:19,840
Julia-Ruth, you're not interested
in your husband,
1127
01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:22,120
we all know that.
I've defended him from day one.
1128
01:00:22,160 --> 01:00:23,880
First, I just thought he's a
positive guy,
1129
01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:26,200
and then I started thinking,
maybe he's just delusional.
1130
01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:28,000
I keep saying, he's delusional.
Cos you speak to everyone,
1131
01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:29,680
all of your friends,
everyone in this group,
1132
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:32,240
and you say, "I don't fancy the man,
I don't know why we've been matched,
1133
01:00:32,280 --> 01:00:33,920
"he's got none of the qualities
that I like in a man."
1134
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:36,080
That's not true. And I hear this
stuff, and then I see Divarni
1135
01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:37,440
smiling and talking, because there
1136
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:38,720
is stuff happening behind
closed doors.
1137
01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:40,960
He thinks he's doing the right
thing by protecting you,
1138
01:00:41,000 --> 01:00:42,280
not talking about intimacy.
1139
01:00:42,320 --> 01:00:43,880
How is
that not manipulating the group?
1140
01:00:43,920 --> 01:00:45,840
And then in the space of a day,
now, all of a sudden
1141
01:00:45,880 --> 01:00:47,600
you find him attractive,
you want to make it work,
1142
01:00:47,640 --> 01:00:49,040
you're sleeping with him again
now...
1143
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:51,120
And now he's attractive.
..a couple of days ago.
1144
01:00:51,160 --> 01:00:52,240
That's ironic.
1145
01:00:52,280 --> 01:00:53,560
Divarni, is there anything
1146
01:00:53,600 --> 01:00:56,080
that Julia-Ruth will do
that you won't forgive?
1147
01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:00,280
I don't think he would have kept
the intimacy quiet,
1148
01:01:00,320 --> 01:01:01,360
he would have sung it from
1149
01:01:01,400 --> 01:01:03,200
the rooftops,
because he's obsessed with you.
1150
01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:04,760
So, I don't think you made
that pact mutually.
1151
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:06,760
He would have sung it to everyone
that would listen... We did, though.
1152
01:01:06,800 --> 01:01:08,800
..because he, I think he loves you,
I think he really likes you.
1153
01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:17,360
I've rarely seen the entire group
in unison on one thing, but,
1154
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:20,680
Julia-Ruth, when I hear you
say, "That's not true," right...?
1155
01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:23,440
So what you're saying is
that they're lying.
1156
01:01:23,480 --> 01:01:25,640
There's parts,
there's certain things,
1157
01:01:25,680 --> 01:01:28,520
I'm not saying the whole thing.
I've said the attraction
1158
01:01:28,560 --> 01:01:31,040
has been very slow
and not been there from the start.
1159
01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:33,080
It's not what you said to the group.
You haven't said that, Julia,
1160
01:01:33,120 --> 01:01:35,400
you said you are not attracted
to him.
1161
01:01:35,440 --> 01:01:37,800
Don't carry this on, this is wrong.
1162
01:01:37,840 --> 01:01:42,480
Every single person in this
room sees...
1163
01:01:43,720 --> 01:01:45,880
..your story differently.
Fair.
1164
01:01:47,680 --> 01:01:49,680
What would you say your emotion is
right now,
1165
01:01:49,720 --> 01:01:51,360
in this moment that we're talking?
1166
01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:52,600
All over the place.
1167
01:01:52,640 --> 01:01:54,680
This is the moment where I say,
1168
01:01:54,720 --> 01:01:57,400
this could be a
breakthrough moment for you.
1169
01:01:57,440 --> 01:01:58,680
There's a saying, right?
1170
01:01:58,720 --> 01:02:00,120
There's not necessarily bad people,
1171
01:02:00,160 --> 01:02:02,240
there's good people, but with bad
behaviour...
1172
01:02:02,280 --> 01:02:03,280
Mm. ..right?
1173
01:02:03,320 --> 01:02:05,760
You think that a lot of your
behaviour has been questionable.
1174
01:02:07,360 --> 01:02:10,400
I sense, Julia-Ruth,
that you're hearing us
1175
01:02:10,440 --> 01:02:12,400
in terms of, maybe, the impact
1176
01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:16,720
that some of your behaviour
has had on Divarni.
1177
01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:20,240
It was shocking, that everyone came
and told me what she said.
1178
01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:22,600
So, that cut deep.
1179
01:02:26,120 --> 01:02:27,520
I've seen qualities that are good,
1180
01:02:27,560 --> 01:02:29,320
outside of everything else that
she's done,
1181
01:02:29,360 --> 01:02:31,720
and I'm not going to paint her
as a negative individual.
1182
01:02:31,760 --> 01:02:34,640
She's got her flaws,
like everyone else.
1183
01:02:34,680 --> 01:02:37,320
I just don't understand how you can
see the real her,
1184
01:02:37,360 --> 01:02:40,040
when she's been lying to you
the full time.
1185
01:02:40,080 --> 01:02:42,320
Everyone has said their piece,
right? Yeah, for sure.
1186
01:02:42,360 --> 01:02:45,720
Divarni, Julia-Ruth, this
is your life, right?
1187
01:02:45,760 --> 01:02:50,000
We're here to give you
as much insight as we can,
1188
01:02:50,040 --> 01:02:52,520
but it's
up to you to make decisions.
1189
01:02:54,480 --> 01:02:56,560
Let's go to a decision.
1190
01:02:56,600 --> 01:03:00,600
Divarni, if you can
give us your decision first.
1191
01:03:00,640 --> 01:03:02,480
Erm...
1192
01:03:02,520 --> 01:03:04,080
..there's a lot
of shit that's happened this week.
1193
01:03:06,200 --> 01:03:08,640
I've been disrespected left,
right and flipping centre,
1194
01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:09,880
underneath the rug and whatnot.
1195
01:03:16,960 --> 01:03:18,160
I know what I came here for.
1196
01:03:19,880 --> 01:03:22,720
It has to be 100% authentic,
1197
01:03:22,760 --> 01:03:25,400
100% truthful, 100% honest.
1198
01:03:34,760 --> 01:03:35,880
I don't need to be here.
1199
01:03:39,480 --> 01:03:42,520
I've decided to...
1200
01:03:46,200 --> 01:03:48,560
NARRATOR: Next time... I want that
room.
1201
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:50,400
..the couples head off to a retreat.
1202
01:03:50,440 --> 01:03:53,800
I love it!
As some embrace the escape...
1203
01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:56,840
I know that it's love.
I'm on the love road.
1204
01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:59,160
Ah, you're pulling me in it, now!
1205
01:03:59,200 --> 01:04:00,840
..others start to check out.
1206
01:04:00,880 --> 01:04:02,200
There are personality traits
1207
01:04:02,240 --> 01:04:05,360
that I need in a partner,
that I'm not seeing.
1208
01:04:05,400 --> 01:04:08,160
Any kind of connection
is missing, at the minute, for me.
1209
01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:10,080
And as Maeve's frustrations grow...
1210
01:04:10,120 --> 01:04:11,680
I'm sitting here
when everyone's talking
1211
01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:14,320
up their relationships,
and look at me, like a fucking mug.
1212
01:04:14,360 --> 01:04:17,280
..Ashley delivers a devastating
truth.
1213
01:04:17,320 --> 01:04:19,520
I asked him,
"Do you love her?"
1214
01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:20,800
He couldn't really answer it.
1215
01:04:22,520 --> 01:04:24,800
Now I just feel like a fucking
idiot.
1216
01:04:24,840 --> 01:04:26,600
I don't know what else I can do.
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