All language subtitles for Married At First Sight UK S10E09.en

Today is the very first Commitment
Ceremony.

Previously... This, is where the
hard work begins.

I can't communicate with you and
you don't listen.

You don't back down.

...tension built as two couples
clashed.

It's been proper difficult. This
isn't gonna work.

No emotional connection, no,
communication...

I felt we could build from the
wedding day.

...just miles apart.

So, for that reason, I wrote
"leave".

And there was zero tolerance
for Sarah...

You went around gossiping about your
husband.

You were laughing at it.

...as her scathing behaviour towards
Dean was exposed.

This man is talking about how lovely
his partner is,

and you are on the other side of
the room disrespecting him.

It's not me. It's not who I am.

Tonight... Hello. ..it's Experts
Week.

Do I have permission to remove your
robe?

While some couples lean into
physical intimacy...

Oh! I hope you know where the key is
for that.

...Anita's patience with Paul wears
even thinner.

Surely you should know what you want
by now.

Are you expecting me to be fully
committed after two weeks?

I need to know where this
relationship's going.

No, I'm not hanging around.

And an unwanted interference in one
couple's marriage...

Other people don't need to know my
shit,

cos you'll see a side of me which,
probably, you won't like.

I'm not having it sold that

I was trying to come between
your relationship,

I'm not, I couldn't give a flying
BLEEP, to be completely honest.

I'm here for my relationship.

...causes two husbands to collide.

I just wanted people just to
basically just BLEEP off.

You're not part of this relationship
so, see yourself out.

I'm absolutely starving. There's a
hair in my pineapple. Ha-ha.

It's yours.

It's the morning after the group's
first Commitment Ceremony,

which David could not attend
as he felt unwell.

I'm never doing it alone again.

I felt really guilty about not
being there.

Your letter was absolutely gorgeous.
It did make me feel supported.

Hopefully I made you proud.

I am proud of you for doing it by
yourself.

Of the boys who looked the best?

It's rude. It's actually just rude
at this point.

You look really cute. Who looked the
best out of the boys?

Me, I did. I just want you to say
it. There you go.

Yes, you did.

I felt like I was a bit blind-sided
yesterday

at the Commitment Ceremony, when it
was revealed that Sarah was

kind of talking about me in not the
most positive of ways sometimes.

It was a lot.

I didn't expect everything to come
out like it did come out, you know?

It did catch me off guard.

Disrespect is a big thing to me,
it's like my biggest red flag.

Hearing that word, I was like
"Whoa!".

Like, I was literally
white-knuckling the couch, I think.

I was like, "Ah, this is intense.
Like, what? What's going on?"

It wasn't nice to hear, you know?
Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, and it like,

and it wasn't OK. You look like it
was OK and it's not OK

cos I want my wife like, championing
me.

It was hurtful and I needed to get
that across

cos usually I'd be like, "It's OK,
it's OK."

But I feel like this time I'm like,
"No, that, did hurt my feelings."

I want my wife in the corner

saying all the great things about
me, like "He's funny,

"he does these caring things for
me."

I don't wanna be sitting there
worrying like,

"Oh, did I annoy her? Is she gonna
tell everyone I annoyed her?"

And, yeah, and something I didn't
think I had to think about.

It was a bit of a wake-up call and
I do need to,

you know, obviously consider your
feelings at all times and

think before I say anything.

I found our first Commitment
Ceremony pretty hard.

You know, I really, really like
Dean.

I would never want to hurt him.

I'm ready to move on, you know,

taking those baby steps and just
seeing where it takes us.

I just wanna make sure that you're
OK.

Yeah, it was, it was hard.

But, like, I am OK. Like you, know,
I mean, I'm OK.

It's just one of those things. We
won't let it happen again.

You know? Like, it's one of those,
like, we can let that happen

but, that's, you know... That's it
now. ..line under it. 100%.

So, it'd be silly to hold on to a
grudge

when we've both said sorry and said
our piece like,

gotta move on, fresh chapter,

and hopefully be in a better place
on the couch next week.

There were some great points that
Paul and Charlene touched on.

Did anything stand out for you? The
fact that if obviously we did argue,

just to separate and just have that
time away

before we start back fresh. Perfect.
D'ya know what I mean?

Just make sure that everything is
just all clear.

I feel like the Commitment Ceremony,
in general, was quite intense.

I think it gave Divarni a bit of
a reality check

and a little bit of a shake-up as
well.

I felt like he opened up last night
and

I just understand him a bit more,
how to best support him as well.

It feels like we hit the reset
button properly now.

Obviously they said I should have

a little bit more fun, let down my
hair.

We're actually strong.

The things that we need to work on

is just mainly our communication
and

that's what I'm going to go into
this week doing.

I'm excited.

I was open and honest at the
Commitment Ceremony.

I wrote "leave" because that's how I
felt.

Paul and I haven't actually had
that initial spark.

Obviously, being in the separate
apartments,

we're not living in the same space.

But Paul is a kind, sweet man.

I want to show that I am being open
and see

if he does start asking questions
and showing a bit of interest.

Stranger. Hello.

After the first ceremony, I'm
feeling a little bit upset.

Got you a peace offering. Oh, bless.

I thought Anita and I had a lot
in common.

I thought we had a great
foundation stone to build on.

It's nice to be nice, innit? Mm-hmm.

In my wedding vows I said I would
give it 100%.

It'd be nice if she allows me to try
and give it 100%.

Why did you think I wrote "leave"?

Well, you said you came here to
find love. Yeah.

I think there was a word missing.

"I came to find instant love", cos
it was only eight days in.

I wrote "leave" because of the lack
of interest in me and my life.

Because I think that is the basics
of starting to get to know someone.

Obviously, when we were in this
apartment last time,

I was, "Can you remember my
children's names?",

and you said "No".

You want to be asked the questions
to volunteer the information and

I volunteer the information.

Are you expecting me just to go,

"I'm Anita, I've got two children.
I've got three grandchildren.

"I'm an operations manager.
Da-da-da-da-da-da."

Do you expect that? Yeah, cos
that's what I did.

Because you're good at talking
about yourself.

We're here to find out about each
other.

We're married. Paul definitely needs
to ask more questions.

If I'm not feeling it, I'm not
getting what I want, then I'm off.

I'm done.

How you doing, you all right?
Yeah, good, you?

Yeah, good. A bit tired but I'm
all right. Yeah, me too.

Yeah? Eventful evening? Yeah.

After the intensity of yesterday's
Commitment Ceremony,

some of the couples went to let off
steam at a local bar.

GIRLS SCREAM AND LAUGH

Steven and Nelly have had a bit
of a disagreement.

After the Commitment Ceremony
Steven did go into himself

and then, naturally, Nelly needed a
little bit of reassurance.

Then I feel like a couple of people
picked up on it

and said to him, "Oh, go up to her",
and I feel like, as a typical man,

when people are telling you to do
something,

he kind of fights against it a bit
more. Yeah, and I think he just

was, like, going into himself... He
did a bit. ..more and more,

wasn't he? Yeah.

It was really good at the
Commitment Ceremony, but

last night Steven and I had our
first bit of conflict.

I think the last couple of days I've
just felt like a little bit on edge.

He's not being the same as he was on
the honeymoon.

I've been absolutely spoilt, I
couldn't have asked for

a better match. Despite their
perfect honeymoon...

Where the hell have you been
for 34 years of my life?

I don't know what to say, ah!

...Steven's approach to validation...

Reassurance for me,

can be quite hard to give if I feel
like I've given enough. Mm-hmm.

...fuelled Nelly's insecurities.

We just had a really, really good
time,

but then I would think, "He's not
given me a kiss this morning."

And then I think, "Yeah, it's cos he
doesn't like you."

I probably did need a little bit of
validation and I was being needy,

but he does feel distant.

Then last night we all went out
for some drinks.

Other people started picking
up on it a little bit.

Some of them were saying to Steven,
like, "Tell her how good she looks."

and he didn't like that.

I'm really sorry that it's upset
him, but these are my friends

I need to lean on them. I need that
reassurance.

Last night made me feel a little
bit uneasy.

Keye walked in with Nelly, asking me
to compliment her.

Absolutely no idea why Keye's got
involved.

I believe Nelly said something to
the group about our relationship.

That needs to stop,

cos it'll just wind me up even more
if more and more people get involved

in stuff they shouldn't and don't
need to be involved in.

Let's just talk over, I guess, what
happened yesterday.

People were coming in, Keye being
the main instigator,

telling me that I've got to
compliment you

on how you've worn this top just
for me only. So,

I'm thinking, "What has Nelly been
saying?

I was just telling them that you
have

pulled back a little bit since the
honeymoon and stuff.

That was all.

Keye was just trying to have my back
more than anything and just make,

try and make me feel a little bit
good.

It feels like you're going behind my
back

and talking shit. I would never.
No, but, this is what I mean,

in the moment, that's what it felt
like.

I didn't ask them to have this
conversation with you.

Other people don't need to know my
shit.

It's just gonna blow up this
situation

worse than what it actually is.

I can't be having people come up to
me again

cos you'll see a side of me which
probably you won't like.

Let's be honest.

You haven't been the same since the
honeymoon,

and that's why I needed a bit more
reassurance from you.

I've been standoffish because
you've already

created scenarios of when things
are gonna go wrong.

I'm thinking, "Oh, shit, is she now
gonna look for things?"

But that's what I do and that's what
I said to Paul

on the Commitment Ceremony.

I'm doing this and I hate that I'm
doing it.

Sorry, I don't want to get upset,
but I hate that I'm doing it

because I'm gonna potentially throw
something away.

That is just my... my protection
mechanism coming up

so that I don't get blind-sided.
This is why I'm single.

But if you're already in that
self-sabotage mode

or got shit in your mind,

that's just gonna make it ten times
worse.

Just be yourself, it will get back
to the honeymoon stage

but that comes in time.

I hate getting emotional about these
things.

It sucks having to tell someone it's
because of my past.

I am a little bit worried about if I
am gonna push him away, but,

well, we can't go on like we were,
so I haven't got a choice.

Like, do you feel like that's
everything off?

Like... My main issue is with other
people.

And I'll have those conversations
with other people.

Still feeling annoyed with a few
things.

I really wanna have a conversation
with Keye today.

I don't want people meddling in
Nelly and I's business.

"You're not part of this
relationship, so see yourself out."

Last night, drinks were flowing
and we were having a fun time,

but Leah was being a little bit
flirty with Rebecca.

She has said to me before that she's
got a flirty personality,

and it's something that I've dealt
with in my past so,

I just don't want to feel like I'm
being disrespected.

Last night, I started to feel like
you were being overly familiar

with Rebecca and then,

because we've had conversations
before and you've said you're quite

a flirty person... No, I didn't say
I'm a flirty person,

I said people sometimes... You've
got a flirty personality, you said.

So you did say that, and then I
started to feel like you were

being overly familiar with Rebecca

and it started to make me feel a
little bit like I was like,

"Hmm, that's a bit muggy."

I think because she's from a similar
area to me, I do gravitate to her.

So I do feel like it's more that
than anything.

But I think the bottom line of
that is

you realised at this point that you
liked me more than you thought,

cos you got a little bit jealous
over Rebecca that's

why you thought "I'm gonna pounce
on you."

OK, let's get into that, shall we?

You got jealous.

Obviously, that's coming from
somewhere.

I wouldn't feel that way if I just
saw you as a friend.

I feel like we both are getting

a little bit closer to that romantic
side.

We had a kiss last night, which is
not something we've been doing.

Yeah, it was nice, to be fair.

We shared a kiss last night.

If I just purely viewed Leah as a
friend,

behaving that way probably wouldn't
have bothered me.

So, the fact that it did,

obviously there are some feelings
there that I maybe wasn't aware of.

I need to speak to Keye after last
night.

I didn't like the way he was
acting with Nelly.

Paraded her around like a bit of
meat.

KNOCK AT THE DOOR

Who's at the door now?

Hello. How are you?

I need to tell him that, "Look,
your actions last night

don't sit right with me and this
now has affected, er, my marriage."

Last night I got frustrated
with you.

With everything going on with Nelly
and I with the distancing stuff,

I just wanted people just to,
basically, just fuck off.

Keye, you brought her over to me
and was like,

"Comment on her, like, outfit.
Comment on, like, her breasts."

And that wound me up cos I don't
want anyone to get involved.

Just leave me alone.

Sorry, I'm actually still just
confused

as to what I've... what I've done.

Nelly had said that she was feeling
down,

didn't feel very cute about
herself,

so I bigged her up to make her
feel like she was cute.

I then walked her in,

gave her a spin and said, "Look
how amazing your wife looks."

It was more the comment of, like,

"Look at how good her breasts look.
She wore this top for you."

I was literally saying directly to
her... To her.

..."Look at those boobs! Look at
those boobs!" Yeah, yeah, I know

but when you hear, like, "Look at
your wife",

you automatically assume, "Oh, this
is directed at me".

I can't be held accountable for
your assumption.

I'm not having it sold that

I was trying to come between your
relationship,

I'm not. Couldn't give a flying
fuck, if I'm completely honest.

I'm here for my relationship.

I was being supportive the same way
I would support absolutely anyone.

That's who I am. I am a cheerleader,

I'm a positive person, it's what I
do.

And if you've assumed more than
that, that's on you.

I am a cheerleader, I'm a positive
person, it's what I do.

And if you've assumed more than
that, that's on you.

When people were saying, "No, you've
got to say these things."

I was like, "But I've said it to her
when I walked in."

It actually had nothing to do with
you whatsoever.

I came in and gave you an
opportunity to compliment her,

because I had spent the time
outside with her saying,

"Maybe you just need to give him an
opportunity." I was literally

playing devil's advocate, having
your side and having your back.

No-one knows the conversations
we have back at home.

Ah, god, just stay out my business.

If Nelly comes to me again and says,
"I feel shit about myself.

"I don't feel very cute",

I'm gonna big her up again, do
exactly the same thing.

The same as I would for anyone in
this fucking room

because that's what you do when
someone feels low about themselves.

And that's never gonna change, I'm
afraid.

I think everyone needs to put effort
into a relationship,

Steven included.

If there are aspects of his
relationship

that he doesn't want discussed,

that's a conversation between him
and his wife, not me.

Feeling pretty pissed off...
DOOR CLOSES

...so I've just ended up just walking
away.

My relationship is my relationship
and

I don't like people getting
involved in

business they shouldn't get
involved in.

KNOCK AT THE DOOR

Thought someone was actually at the
door

but it looks like we've got an
envelope. Stop!

Oh, my God. Oh, my God, our first
golden envelope.

Today marks the start of Experts
Week.

I think we've won the lottery, kid.

I can't pick it up with my nails.
Ha-ha.

We've devised a series of exercises
to help the couples

navigate these early stages of
married life.

I feel stressed.

Some couples could find

these exercises challenging or
confronting,

but this is a vital part of the
process to allow them

to develop deeper levels of
emotional connection.

"There is no one-size-fits-all
remedy for any relationship.

"So each of us have drawn on our own
specific areas

"of expertise and devised
activities...

"Tailored specifically to you as a
couple

to help you navigate the challenges
you face."

There were some big words in that,
weren't there!?

There were, weren't there?

"Dear Grace and Ashley, you are
requested to attend

a fun workshop." Nice.

"I know that intimacy and affection
has been an issue for your marriage,

"and this is something I'd like to
help you work on.

"Lots of love, Charlene."

Charlene, here we come.

Come on, Charlene.

"We have left something outside
for you."

Oh no. Will I go get it? Yeah, go,
go, go.

Oh! Oh, God. Oh!

I'm already impressed.

You're joking.

Oh, it's a little robe. I mean,
that's cool for me.

I might do one leg. We'll see.

We'll see. We'll see how it goes.
Dean and I get on great, but, um,

the main thing really missing is
the intimacy.

We've obviously not kissed. You
know, been intimate with each other

or anything like that, so, yeah,
I think...

...you know, it's quite scary
because you don't really know

sort of what's gonna happen and
things, but I know it's

what our marriage needs, so I'm
really willing to work at it.

I'm excited. Yeah, to touch it.

It's exciting, right?

It's a big moment, I guess, in our
relationship, it's the next stage.

So, yeah, I'm hoping it's the start
of the touching

and not the end of the touching.

I'm hoping it's the beginning.

Bring it on! Let's do it. Let's do
it! Let's do it.

I can't wait.
Yeah, me too.

I wouldn't like to think what's in
store for this workshop.

I hope it's not a massage.

We've already done that on the
honeymoon.

Are you OK with it?

On their honeymoon, Grace's struggles
with physical touch

were brought to the surface during
what should have been

a romantic massage from Ashley.

Hey, is that enough now?

Do it for me. I will do it for you.
You do so much for me,

I am totally willing to do this for
you. Thank you.

Would you like a hand? Because
you're actually stressing me out.

Me and Leah are trying to build a
romantic connection.

At the minute it's just, sort of,
more of a friendship thing,

So I feel like it's definitely come
at

a good time for us to see if we can
initiate a bit of a spark.

Ah. Look who it is. Hello.

It's important for our couples to
understand

that intimacy isn't just about sex.

There are many different ways

in which a physical connection can
develop.

With that in mind, I've set some of
the couples a task

to inspire trust and understanding
between them.

Welcome to my workshop.

I'm sure you're very excited to see
me.

Let's talk about intimacy because one
thing that I realise is that,

as soon as I say the word "intimacy",
everyone gets a little bit nervous.

But intimacy should be fun.

The key is to explore and that's
what I want you to do today.

I don't want you to do anything
that you're not comfortable doing.

So, blindfold your partner.

Not too tight. OK, OK.

Can you see? No.

Is that too tight? No. Even a bit
tighter probably. Yeah, perfect.

Next to you, what you'll see is some
massage oil.

My heart drops a little bit at the
thought of massage.

It's always going to be something
that I find really uncomfortable.

Is there anywhere you want me to go
in particular? No, that's good.

Oh.

Feel free to make sounds if you want
to, if it feels good.

Make some sounds, Leah. Make it
better then. OK.

How's that? That's nice. Good.

LAUGHING

I've waited a long time for this.

Like, it's been worth the wait
though, as well.

It's so nice to, kind of, share
that moment.

I think this is a step in the right
direction

and what we're missing really.

More oil. Oh, yeah, go on. Ooh.
That's nice.

I want to be Dean's biggest
cheerleader.

I want for things to start going
in the right direction.

But, um, it was a little bit funny,
isn't it? Like...

You're really good at it. Thank you.
Soft hands.

We're giving it a go. We're giving
it a go.

Grace, how does that feel?

I've never been one for massages
myself.

I'm trying to focus on the fact
that it's a good massage.

Like, Ash is a good masseuse.

You OK? Mm-hmm.

I'm feeling a bit stressed. It's
not me. It's not my kind of thing.

It's beyond my comfort zone. My
comfort zone was, like,

120 miles back.

You're doing amazing. Thank you.

But Ash, this is important to him,
so,

I'm trying to have an open mind.

So the partners that are massaging

I'm sensing that you're really
enjoying this.

Is it showing that much? Ha-ha!

You can see a massive difference
from the honeymoon.

Even though she's feeling a bit
uncomfortable,

she's staying there and she's
working at it.

Do you wanna swap? Yeah, we could
swap. Swap, good.

Especially with Grace where,

feelings are starting to build,

she's really sort of throwing
herself into this and...

...Yeah, nice to see, to be honest.

Do I have permission to remove your
robe? Yeah.

I'm really proud of her. I'm
chuffed.

Is that OK? Yeah, perfect. Ooh. Ooh.

Nice. That's good. Nice to touch
you.

I really enjoyed getting a bit
more... touchy.

I don't know what... Yeah. Yeah.

I think all it can do is just make
us stronger.

Initially I was slightly nervous,

but, actually, Dean is doing well
at giving the massage.

I'm getting rid of some of that
tension.

He's made me feel super comfortable.

So, yeah, he is doing well.

It's nice. Is it? Yeah. Oh, good.

I think you guys have had quite
a lot of fun.

Grace and Ashley, the good thing with
the two of you

is that you have a really good
connection.

So although there is this issue
around the skin-on-skin touch,

there's a bond that I see between
the two of you.

That's key.

Today was important because I did

want an opportunity to show Ash
that I am trying as well.

He has made a huge amount of effort
and

he does deserve someone who's going
to put as much in as he does.

Well done, guys. Now, I think you're
absolutely ready for stage two.

Let's take it up a notch.

ALL EXCLAIM

Where is Charlene going?

No way!

What's gonna be inside this room?

What is behind this wall? What is
going on?

Charlene! Charlene, where are we
going?

There's no words. Here we go, here
we go.

Oh, my God!

Wow!
I wasn't expecting that.

Oh, my God! Holy shit.

OK. Ooh! Strawberries.

There is a table full of sex toys
here.

We've got handcuffs, we've got
dildos, we've got butt plugs.

We've got, God knows what.

Does Charlene just carry these
around in her bag, every day? Or...

Welcome to my table of treats.

You now have an array of

lots of different tools that you can
have lots of fun with.

You may look at some of these things
and think, "Well, that's not for me."

Yep.
LAUGHTER

But you may look at some of these
things and think,

"Actually, I wouldn't mind trying
that."

I hope you know where the key is
for that.

Right, yeah, go on. OK. You could go
harder.

Oh really? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Ooh, ooh.

Harder? Yeah. Ooh!

I'm just gonna stay seated here
for a while. Oh.

Oi!

That happens to everyone.

I swear, I didn't mean to do
that, I swear.

All went a bit tits up, didn't it?
Ha!

Can't even think about it.

Just had cream all over my face and
a strawberry shoved into my mouth.

Not feeling very sexy and sensual
right now.

Do you want another one?

I'm fine, thank you.

Open your mouth.

Ooh! Ashley!

That's what I wanted, but that's not
what I got.

The next activity is, Fill In The
Blanks.

Partner A will read out the card,

and partner B will answer the
question.

Right now I'm feeling... intrigue.

Ooh!

I love it when... You are cuddly and
tactile.

Mm. That's nice.

It's cos she doesn't say a lot of
nice things.

No, often, I mean often.

No, often. I don't agree, but OK.

It's a little bit uncomfortable

that Leah's just said this in front
of a group of people.

I do feel like I have put a lot of
effort in and

there's this, like, running theme
with you at the moment

where you will sort of act as if
I'm not doing anything at all.

No, I'm not. I'm just saying it's
nice to hear it when you say it

cos you don't say it often, that's
all.

It's a little bit deflating.

I'm trying to be nice and trying to
make the effort and

it doesn't always feel like it's
received in the best way.

She likes what I'm saying, but,
there's always a but.

It just gets a bit draining.

I will do that more, but I also
would appreciate if,

when I do do it, you don't make a
backhanded comment

because that makes me not wanna do
it again. OK.

Intimacy workshop isn't going the
best for me, I'll be honest.

Now, because we absolutely love you
all,

we would like you to choose anything
on the table

that you might wanna go home with
and have a bit of fun with.

I promise I won't look. Thank you.
Thank you. Bye!

Come on then, guys. What are we
grabbing?

Today was amazing for Grace and I.

Behind closed doors she's cuddly and
affectionate so,

it was really nice to be around
people

and for her to still be OK with it.

It's a huge step for us, I feel, huge.

I did it for you.
Ah, well done guys.

Let's do that.

You basically burn it, it melts and
then you massage.

So, the intimacy workshop.

I suppose it felt a little bit
tense,

but Leigh picked up the candle,

so I think I'm getting a full body
massage. In for a treat.

If that's not dibs. Hey! She's a
lingerie girl, yeah.

There's been a lot of pressure in
not having that intimacy with Sarah.

That's been building up and building
up and today's

helped kind of deflate that and
make it fun.

So it's keeping that going now on
our own

and then hopefully progressing to a
loving, nice relationship.

This could not have come at a better
time for Dean and I.

So many things are there.

The main thing that is lacking is
the intimacy side of things.

I still do wanna take it slow,

but I think it has been just what
we've needed.

A values ranking. That's gonna be
fun.

Oh dear. We'll see how it goes.

Struggling to see eye to eye since
their honeymoon,

Julia-Ruth and Divarni's task

is to both rank nine different
values,

chosen by the experts, in their order
of importance.

Divarni and I haven't spoken about
values before.

I hope that we get a better
understanding of each other

as a couple and that we can
understand as well

why we're both here and what we're
here for.

No peeking. I know what my core
values are,

and hopefully they do align with
Julia-Ruth's.

Here we go.

This is my list.

At number one, I'd say humour.
Mm-hmm.

If someone, like, can make me laugh

and that I feel like that makes
him, like,

so outrageously attractive,

you just wanna be around that
person. Mm-hmm.

And then sex and looks is important
to me. Mm-hmm.

OK. So, this is my nine.

Hmm.

Divarni's put sex and looks at the
bottom of his list.

So I've got a lot of questions to
ask.

Sex is quite low down. Mm-hmm.

Um... yeah.

Do you wanna explain that? Like,
you're, like,

why you've put it at eight.

I wanna know the person before
anything else.

And that's why I put it at the
bottom.

Not because it's the least... But
it is out of this list,

that is the least. That's the
second least.

So someone's ambition to you is
more important than sex?

Yeah.

Um, OK. Cos all of this will
connect to the person,

and then this is composites
everything else.

Money before sex?

Yeah.

For him it's looks and sex is the
last thing on the man's mind.

On a man's mind.

Looks and sex is the last thing on
a man's mind?

Come on.

OK.

Your sex was four, my sex was eight.

Sex and looks is important to me.
Mmm.

It's a struggle for me because that
is not important to you at all.

Mm-hmm.

It's a little bit, er, yeah, it's a
little bit worrying.

Apparently, it's not enough.

Doesn't care. It's bottom of the
list, so...

Do you know what's really
interesting?

I almost put looks at one.

So we literally would have had the
polar opposites.

But it does shed a light on things.
It's definitely interesting to see.

I don't know where this leaves me
and Divarni,

just in terms of progressing
forward.

It's day one of hitting the reset
button.

It was meant to be a fresh start.
It was meant to be fun and banter.

But, um...

They're quite opposite.

Opposites attract.

I never want to see that picture in
my life.

I look about 50 as well. No comment.
Yeah, no comment.

Go on then, girl, hit me with it.

"Dear Rebecca and Bailey, you seem
content in the present,

"so we're gonna ask you to delve
into your past by opening your

"ex-files. We want you to explore
the lessons you've learnt

"and how you can bring them to bear
on your current relationship.

"Lots of love, Mel, Paul and
Charlene."

Let's get into it. Ex-files then,
yeah? Ex-files.

I'm sure it'll be fine, as long as
my ex isn't gonna walk in

through the door or your ex.

You ready? Yeah.

Have you ever broken someone's
heart?

And how do you feel about that now?

Yeah.

Yeah. So, with my long-term ex, we,
um,

had built a life together. Built,
literally, built a house together.

You all right? Yeah. All right?
Mm-hmm.

He proposed

and I thought, "God", like, I'm
gonna have to make a decision

and either, like, marry him

or, like, be more true to

this, like, weird niggly feeling
that I had.

It broke his heart. Yeah.

Like, I feel selfish that, like, I

decided to, like, take that away
from him then. Yeah.

And I know I broke his heart, he
told me I did, so...

Mmm.

Um...

You all right? Yeah. I didn't
wanna, like, I didn't,

I wouldn't wanna make anyone
that sad. Yeah.

I also felt like I had to be true
to myself, but also true for him.

It's such a double-edged sword
seeing Bec get emotional

because it is hard.

Don't wanna see someone upset, but
then also that vulnerability

is somewhat a nice feeling.

It's like part and parcel with kind
of falling for someone

and starting to like someone more.
So, yeah, I'm relishing it.

Yeah. Good answer. You all right?
Yeah. Cool? Yes.

Happy? Give me a hug then. Yeah.
Come here.

I find it hard sometimes to open
up to people, but

being with Bailey does make me feel
like it's safe.

I haven't felt that for a while and
it's a really nice feeling.

Ready? OK. Teddy. Go. Yeah.

To help strengthen their emotional
connections,

Anita and Paul, and Davide and Keye,

have been given the Ask Me Anything
task.

It's what we wanted. We're letting
go.

We're gonna smash it. Yeah, we
will. I like this.

This is things to do, it's what
we're here for. Right?

It's to work on ourselves. It's to
make sure that

we get to know each other deeper.

Ready? Let's do this.

Right now, I have no nerves. I have
my man.

Where do you think you've gone
wrong

"in your previous relationships?

Um...

...many ways. Um... OK. ..I lose
aspects of myself.

In my marriage, I changed and
edited myself

and turned into something I wasn't
and became very vacuous.

Um...

...I guess until this point, I've
never really gone into

a relationship as myself, so

I guess I haven't given anyone a
fair opportunity to actually

date me or be in a relationship with
me because I just

have a different edited or amended
version that I think

they're going to like.

I guess most of the facade versions
of me are pretty shitty people.

So, yeah, I wouldn't want to have
dated me either. Huh.

They're in the past. They are
indeed.

You know I don't judge for anything
of the past.

You're good as you are.

I've never met anyone that is more
themselves than you are.

Thank you. It's OK.

The more time I spend with Davide,
the more I'm growing and developing

because of how considerate and
caring he is.

I like this, this is nice. This is
lovely, yeah.

Keye, tell me three things you'd
change about me.

I wish your job didn't involve you
having to go away

for long periods of time.

OK. Ha-ha.

When you get in your head and
overthink things.

Most of the time, it's a
non-problem, it's a non-issue.

I can work on that. We can try and
do it together.

Um, and then the third thing I would
change is

your perspective on your body image.

Mm-hmm. Because I think you're

absolutely goddamn sexy as hell and
wish you could see yourself

the way that I see you.

That's very cute.

Being open with my body makes me
a little bit anxious,

but, slowly, slowly, I'm getting
more confident.

I think it is lovely to see how he
sees me.

He makes me feel wanted. He makes me
feel great about myself.

It's been a while since someone made
me feel like that.

It's just nice.

Stop! Ha-ha.

Stop.

It's kind of the perfect task
this week for us, isn't it?

That's what I've been banging on
about all week,

at the end of the day, haven't I?

Hi.

Depending on his questions, they'll
depend

where that actually leaves us.

Did you find that hard?

No. All right.

Cos I've not really asked you much,
as you've pointed out a few times.

I am a little bit sweaty palms.

I think it's important for Anita to
see some improvement, so,

fingers crossed again.

Will you give the marriage

enough time

so I can love you for you?

How, how long's a piece of string, time?

I'm not in a hurry. I just, it's
more a case of

I need to know where this
relationship's going.

What's on your mind? What you want
out of it?

Whether you're fully committed.

Are you expecting me to be fully
committed after two weeks?

Well, the clue's in the title, isn't
it? Married At First Sight.

Surely you're wanting to commit,
aren't you?

I think you can be committed to
the process,

to going down that road of

building a relationship, building
trust, building respect.

I think you are expecting me to be
further ahead than I am.

You've said it takes you time.

It could be six years before you
get a spark.

That's the doubt that's set in my
mind. Yeah.

How long does it actually take you?

I just haven't got that time.

Love is something you build.

My timeframe

may be different from her timeframe

and that's gonna be the sticking
point.

I need to know what you're thinking.

Surely you should know what you
want by now.

I don't know if Paul understands I
haven't got time to waste.

I was in my previous relationship
for 17 years

and didn't get the outcome I wanted,

so I need to know where I stand.

I've just wasted 17 years , and I
don't wanna waste time.

Surely we should want the same
outcome.

He's 60, I'm nearly 55. No, I'm not
hanging around.

What we gonna have dinner
tonight?

Pasta. Lots of cheese. Lots of
cheese.

Maeve and Joe's exercise for this
week

involves a visit from one of the
experts.

At the Commitment Ceremony,

Maeve voiced her insecurities within
the marriage and herself.

KNOCK AT THE DOOR

Oh. I wonder who that could be.

As Joe was absent, I'm visiting him
and Maeve at their home

to offer further one-on-one
expertise.

Yes! Hey!

Hiya, you all right? Ha-ha.

I'm so happy to see Paul.

Honestly, like, his home's my home,
d'ya know what I mean?

No. My home's his home. Is that what
you say?

Well anyway, I'm not arsed. So take
your shoes off and get comfy.

Where I would love to begin is the
Commitment Ceremony.

Yeah. Joe, I believe you missed

a very important moment. It was
profound.

At yesterday's Commitment Ceremony,

Maeve faced the couch alone while
Joe was ill.

I think he is really attractive,

and I feel like he's not gonna find
me attractive whatsoever.

I think he's too good for me.

I mean, it's quite heartbreaking
to hear you say that.

Well he is.

You need to love on yourself more.

This is more important than your
relationship with Joe. Yeah.

You recall a little bit of the
conversation that we had.

Oh, God. Joe compliments me all the
time.

Like, I couldn't have anyone nicer
to say nice things about us, but

I don't believe what he's saying.

At what point in your life did you
begin doubting yourself?

Probably when I was with my ex.

He used to talk about my appearance.

Just negative shit all the time. OK.

If someone says it enough to you,

you start believing it, d'ya know
what I mean? Yes.

How do we take that narrative and
switch it to positive?

Maeve, what I would love for us
to do

is teach you how to receive a
compliment.

Taking compliments sounds like a
very easy thing to do, but it's not.

I really struggle to take stuff on
board.

All right. This is gonna be great.

So Joe is going to give compliments

and when he gives you that
compliment I want you to look

in the mirror, repeat the
compliment.

And you're gonna say I received
this, I believe this,

and thank you for seeing me this
way.

OK? So hit us, Joe.

I love how you give everyone your
energy

and everyone just loves you as a
person.

That was cute.

What, do I look at myself and say
that? Yes.

Just do it.
I'm trying to. Come on.

I'd be like, I can't say it.

This is hard, isn't it?

Yeah. Why is it hard?

Cos I can't take it in. OK.

I actually can't. I can hear him.
I'm listening, but it doesn't go,

like, it's literally in one ear and
out the other.

Exactly. Because you've taught
yourself to just not believe it.

And I also notice that you have a
hard time keeping eye contact

with yourself in the mirror.

Why do you think you're having a
hard time

looking at yourself in the mirror?

I don't really enjoy looking at
myself in the mirror.

Why? I don't know. I just don't feel
confident in myself.

That's why this is important. Yeah.

So, we're going to do that round
again,

but you have to look at yourself
in the mirror the entire time.

Joe. I love how you have my back
in any situation.

That is so true. It's so true. It's
actually really true. Yeah.

I believe that one. So you believe
that's what I mean?

I do. But do you?

Yeah, cos I do have your back. Say
it in the mirror then.

Joe loves the fact that I have his
back in every situation.

I receive this, I believe this.

I actually do, though.

Like, I know I'm struggling, but

I feel like it is starting to make
me believe him.

This exercise actually makes me feel
a little bit better about myself.

It's melting my heart.

You can always tell if an
intervention has worked well,

because the couple' s closer

when you come back together
and look at it.

Maybe it's in your lap right now.
Yeah.

Maeve, you have this story going on
in your mind

that you were not good enough.

And the more you take in these
compliments,

what's going to happen to that
negative script in your mind?

It's not gonna be negative any more,

it's gonna be positive. It's gonna
be positive.

When you can connect at your true
self, that's true love.

Yeah. And that's what we're trying
to get to.

I'm very grateful for Paul. Yeah,
we're gonna work on it

and actually do the task going
forward.

So, hopefully it'll improve.

We are making... baby steps. Yeah,
but

moving in the right direction, 100%.

Well then, on that note I'm gone.

Thank you for coming. Yeah.

100% this is the beginning of a new
Maeve.

I actually want to believe what
Joe's saying.

Honestly, I think he's amazing.

And I don't want him not in my life.

Ah, now, what is the matter with me?
Ha-ha! Ah!

Oh, God.

This place makes you go crazy.

To mark the end of Experts Week,

some of the group head out to
compare notes.

I am so excited to find out what
everyone else has done,

what everyone's tasks have been
for Expert Week.

It's a special day if Steven's
getting the round in, innit?

First little day out. Cheers, lads.

Cheers.

I've been loving my time with Bec
but also excited to see the lads

and have a bit of a debrief.

We did a workshop with Charlene.

She had, like, a secret doorway into
this, like,

sex dungeon. Wait, wait, where is
it? Stop.

Where is it?

Could I have a go?

I'm jealous that you got to do the
workshop, I want to do it.

It was really good. Yeah, it was
good. Like,

I'm not gonna lie, I was a little
bit nervous.

I mean, you just, you don't know
what you're kind of expecting.

Do you feel like it's grown you

closer to him in, like, a different
way?

I think it's still too early to
tell.

Dean and I, obviously we haven't had
really any form of intimacy at all.

But obviously, there are different
forms of it. There's

different levels of it. We are still
taking baby steps.

Yeah, it was good. I think it was
what we needed.

I said to him after the Commitment
Ceremony,

he's constantly got you on this
pedestal and

that's something he said he wouldn't
do.

I was like, you know, "You also need
to be there for you too."

I think that Commitment Ceremony
kicked her up the arse a little bit.

You know, maybe it's made her
realise a little bit more,

how good Dean is.

She needs to be open and vulnerable
to him.

Like, she's been matched with him
for a reason.

Where are you and Leigh now?

Yeah, we haven't, like, we didn't
have the best night.

Ah, did you not? No, like,

Leigh thought I'd come up to you in
the bar

and was like, "Hey, Rebecca, I
fancy you",

but it's not in that way at all.

I think you'd said, like, "Rebecca's
more my type, gym girl, dark hair."

And also, like I said, you feel like
home to me

because you're... my friends are
like you and

it was just something that was
latched onto, but there was

literally nothing in it.

That made her realise, definitely,
that,

"OK, maybe I do like her a little
bit more", but she still

won't admit that.

I can understand why Leigh

would feel negative feelings towards
it, because,

if somebody in the group has pointed
out as being more

your wife's type, then there's going
to be some sort of feelings, but

there's just nothing to worry about
with me and Leah.

Come on then, Steve, you're the one
holds your cards

close to your chest. What about you?

Obviously for me, look, I never
like to show vulnerability

cos it makes me look weak, and when
I've done that in the past,

then people take the piss. So,

I've decided to slow down on the
intimacy side of things, like,

the less hugging, the kissing, which
sounds bad. But why have you,

why have you, kind of, made that
decision? Cos like,

she's three steps ahead of me. Ah,
OK.

Cos she's opened up and I haven't.

It might get in her head a little
bit

if she sees you going backwards
a bit.

I think, if you are doing that,

you've got to be super clear as why
you are doing that.

I don't like neediness, I like...

It's good to feel wanted, right?
Yeah. Course it is. Like,

everyone wants to feel wanted but,
like, just let me breathe.

I need my time apart.

I don't think she's, like, super
needy.

But then also if you are, you're
saying yourself

you're more on the closed side,

that might bring a little bit of
that out.

She really likes you

and I've talked with her a lot and
you know that. Yeah.

Steven is overthinking it. He's
definitely overthinking it.

He's being way too logical
about this.

Um, just let go.

It's the only way it's going to work
is if he lets go.

So, Steven came to see you, didn't
he?

I think he just needed to kind of
vent and

go through what had happened in the
evening.

He just, kind of, needed to say
it... Vent it out. ..out loud to us.

And I told him, like, time and time
again,

that "They're not trying to do it
to wind you up. No-one's

aim is to wind you up." No. "Their
aim is to pick me up",

cos you could see that I wasn't
myself.

Much better to do it over wine.
Yeah.

And youse two are good now. That's
all squashed.

Yeah, I'm just, obviously, it's
still hard, I think.

He still has pulled back, but now
I'm like, "Well, cool, sweet.

"You pull back if, that's what you
wanna do.

"I'm gonna do me. If you want me
then, great."

If he doesn't, his loss. Yeah, it
is, yeah.

I don't really know where I stand.

I just need a bit of consistency.
It's really hard sometimes if

the Steven I've got now is slightly
more reserved than

the Steven I met on the honeymoon,

Usually I would be like, "OK, cool,
I'm tapping out.

"I'm not gonna put myself through
this.

"So if you don't want all of me
then, see you later, mate."

He can get fucked.

Next time... "On a scale of one to
ten, how strong are your feelings?"

...the second dinner party serves up
romantic confessions from some.

9.5.
ALL SCREAM AND CHEER

"Do you have any regrets so far?"
...while others face harsher truths .

Yes.

I feel like I'm constantly calling
you out for things.

I'm trying to be nice and then
they're backfiring on me.

I'm at a point of my life now, I
need to know

you want the same thing.

I haven't got time to waste.

But it's gossip in the group...

He fucked a girl, like, two weeks
before he came here.

Whoa!
Oi!

...that sparks the biggest conflict
of the night.

Who has decided to say, I was
talking about my sexual activity.

You did! We were all there.

People are starting to fuck me off!
They're that, that, that, that.

All fucking cunts. Wow! Did he just
say that?