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Today is the very first Commitment Ceremony.

Previously... This, is where the hard work begins.

I can't communicate with you and you don't listen.

You don't back down.

...tension built as two couples clashed.

It's been proper difficult. This isn't gonna work.

No emotional connection, no, communication...

I felt we could build from the wedding day.

...just miles apart.

So, for that reason, I wrote "leave".

And there was zero tolerance for Sarah...

You went around gossiping about your husband.

You were laughing at it.

...as her scathing behaviour towards Dean was exposed.

This man is talking about how lovely his partner is,

and you are on the other side of the room disrespecting him.

It's not me. It's not who I am.

Tonight... Hello. ..it's Experts Week.

Do I have permission to remove your robe?

While some couples lean into physical intimacy...

Oh! I hope you know where the key is for that.

...Anita's patience with Paul wears even thinner.

Surely you should know what you want by now.

Are you expecting me to be fully committed after two weeks?

I need to know where this relationship's going.

No, I'm not hanging around.

And an unwanted interference in one couple's marriage...

Other people don't need to know my shit,

cos you'll see a side of me which, probably, you won't like.

I'm not having it sold that

I was trying to come between your relationship,

I'm not, I couldn't give a flying BLEEP, to be completely honest.

I'm here for my relationship.

...causes two husbands to collide.

I just wanted people just to basically just BLEEP off.

You're not part of this relationship so, see yourself out.

I'm absolutely starving. There's a hair in my pineapple. Ha-ha.

It's yours.

It's the morning after the group's first Commitment Ceremony,

which David could not attend as he felt unwell.

I'm never doing it alone again.

I felt really guilty about not being there.

Your letter was absolutely gorgeous. It did make me feel supported.

Hopefully I made you proud.

I am proud of you for doing it by yourself.

Of the boys who looked the best?

It's rude. It's actually just rude at this point.

You look really cute. Who looked the best out of the boys?

Me, I did. I just want you to say it. There you go.

Yes, you did.

I felt like I was a bit blind-sided yesterday

at the Commitment Ceremony, when it was revealed that Sarah was

kind of talking about me in not the most positive of ways sometimes.

It was a lot.

I didn't expect everything to come out like it did come out, you know?

It did catch me off guard.

Disrespect is a big thing to me, it's like my biggest red flag.

Hearing that word, I was like "Whoa!".

Like, I was literally white-knuckling the couch, I think.

I was like, "Ah, this is intense. Like, what? What's going on?"

It wasn't nice to hear, you know? Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, and it like,

and it wasn't OK. You look like it was OK and it's not OK

cos I want my wife like, championing me.

It was hurtful and I needed to get that across

cos usually I'd be like, "It's OK, it's OK."

But I feel like this time I'm like, "No, that, did hurt my feelings."

I want my wife in the corner

saying all the great things about me, like "He's funny,

"he does these caring things for me."

I don't wanna be sitting there worrying like,

"Oh, did I annoy her? Is she gonna tell everyone I annoyed her?"

And, yeah, and something I didn't think I had to think about.

It was a bit of a wake-up call and I do need to,

you know, obviously consider your feelings at all times and

think before I say anything.

I found our first Commitment Ceremony pretty hard.

You know, I really, really like Dean.

I would never want to hurt him.

I'm ready to move on, you know,

taking those baby steps and just seeing where it takes us.

I just wanna make sure that you're OK.

Yeah, it was, it was hard.

But, like, I am OK. Like you, know, I mean, I'm OK.

It's just one of those things. We won't let it happen again.

You know? Like, it's one of those, like, we can let that happen

but, that's, you know... That's it now. ..line under it. 100%.

So, it'd be silly to hold on to a grudge

when we've both said sorry and said our piece like,

gotta move on, fresh chapter,

and hopefully be in a better place on the couch next week.

There were some great points that Paul and Charlene touched on.

Did anything stand out for you? The fact that if obviously we did argue,

just to separate and just have that time away

before we start back fresh. Perfect. D'ya know what I mean?

Just make sure that everything is just all clear.

I feel like the Commitment Ceremony, in general, was quite intense.

I think it gave Divarni a bit of a reality check

and a little bit of a shake-up as well.

I felt like he opened up last night and

I just understand him a bit more, how to best support him as well.

It feels like we hit the reset button properly now.

Obviously they said I should have

a little bit more fun, let down my hair.

We're actually strong.

The things that we need to work on

is just mainly our communication and

that's what I'm going to go into this week doing.

I'm excited.

I was open and honest at the Commitment Ceremony.

I wrote "leave" because that's how I felt.

Paul and I haven't actually had that initial spark.

Obviously, being in the separate apartments,

we're not living in the same space.

But Paul is a kind, sweet man.

I want to show that I am being open and see

if he does start asking questions and showing a bit of interest.

Stranger. Hello.

After the first ceremony, I'm feeling a little bit upset.

Got you a peace offering. Oh, bless.

I thought Anita and I had a lot in common.

I thought we had a great foundation stone to build on.

It's nice to be nice, innit? Mm-hmm.

In my wedding vows I said I would give it 100%.

It'd be nice if she allows me to try and give it 100%.

Why did you think I wrote "leave"?

Well, you said you came here to find love. Yeah.

I think there was a word missing.

"I came to find instant love", cos it was only eight days in.

I wrote "leave" because of the lack of interest in me and my life.

Because I think that is the basics of starting to get to know someone.

Obviously, when we were in this apartment last time,

I was, "Can you remember my children's names?",

and you said "No".

You want to be asked the questions to volunteer the information and

I volunteer the information.

Are you expecting me just to go,

"I'm Anita, I've got two children. I've got three grandchildren.

"I'm an operations manager. Da-da-da-da-da-da."

Do you expect that? Yeah, cos that's what I did.

Because you're good at talking about yourself.

We're here to find out about each other.

We're married. Paul definitely needs to ask more questions.

If I'm not feeling it, I'm not getting what I want, then I'm off.

I'm done.

How you doing, you all right? Yeah, good, you?

Yeah, good. A bit tired but I'm all right. Yeah, me too.

Yeah? Eventful evening? Yeah.

After the intensity of yesterday's Commitment Ceremony,

some of the couples went to let off steam at a local bar.

GIRLS SCREAM AND LAUGH

Steven and Nelly have had a bit of a disagreement.

After the Commitment Ceremony Steven did go into himself

and then, naturally, Nelly needed a little bit of reassurance.

Then I feel like a couple of people picked up on it

and said to him, "Oh, go up to her", and I feel like, as a typical man,

when people are telling you to do something,

he kind of fights against it a bit more. Yeah, and I think he just

was, like, going into himself... He did a bit. ..more and more,

wasn't he? Yeah.

It was really good at the Commitment Ceremony, but

last night Steven and I had our first bit of conflict.

I think the last couple of days I've just felt like a little bit on edge.

He's not being the same as he was on the honeymoon.

I've been absolutely spoilt, I couldn't have asked for

a better match. Despite their perfect honeymoon...

Where the hell have you been for 34 years of my life?

I don't know what to say, ah!

...Steven's approach to validation...

Reassurance for me,

can be quite hard to give if I feel like I've given enough. Mm-hmm.

...fuelled Nelly's insecurities.

We just had a really, really good time,

but then I would think, "He's not given me a kiss this morning."

And then I think, "Yeah, it's cos he doesn't like you."

I probably did need a little bit of validation and I was being needy,

but he does feel distant.

Then last night we all went out for some drinks.

Other people started picking up on it a little bit.

Some of them were saying to Steven, like, "Tell her how good she looks."

and he didn't like that.

I'm really sorry that it's upset him, but these are my friends

I need to lean on them. I need that reassurance.

Last night made me feel a little bit uneasy.

Keye walked in with Nelly, asking me to compliment her.

Absolutely no idea why Keye's got involved.

I believe Nelly said something to the group about our relationship.

That needs to stop,

cos it'll just wind me up even more if more and more people get involved

in stuff they shouldn't and don't need to be involved in.

Let's just talk over, I guess, what happened yesterday.

People were coming in, Keye being the main instigator,

telling me that I've got to compliment you

on how you've worn this top just for me only. So,

I'm thinking, "What has Nelly been saying?

I was just telling them that you have

pulled back a little bit since the honeymoon and stuff.

That was all.

Keye was just trying to have my back more than anything and just make,

try and make me feel a little bit good.

It feels like you're going behind my back

and talking shit. I would never. No, but, this is what I mean,

in the moment, that's what it felt like.

I didn't ask them to have this conversation with you.

Other people don't need to know my shit.

It's just gonna blow up this situation

worse than what it actually is.

I can't be having people come up to me again

cos you'll see a side of me which probably you won't like.

Let's be honest.

You haven't been the same since the honeymoon,

and that's why I needed a bit more reassurance from you.

I've been standoffish because you've already

created scenarios of when things are gonna go wrong.

I'm thinking, "Oh, shit, is she now gonna look for things?"

But that's what I do and that's what I said to Paul

on the Commitment Ceremony.

I'm doing this and I hate that I'm doing it.

Sorry, I don't want to get upset, but I hate that I'm doing it

because I'm gonna potentially throw something away.

That is just my... my protection mechanism coming up

so that I don't get blind-sided. This is why I'm single.

But if you're already in that self-sabotage mode

or got shit in your mind,

that's just gonna make it ten times worse.

Just be yourself, it will get back to the honeymoon stage

but that comes in time.

I hate getting emotional about these things.

It sucks having to tell someone it's because of my past.

I am a little bit worried about if I am gonna push him away, but,

well, we can't go on like we were, so I haven't got a choice.

Like, do you feel like that's everything off?

Like... My main issue is with other people.

And I'll have those conversations with other people.

Still feeling annoyed with a few things.

I really wanna have a conversation with Keye today.

I don't want people meddling in Nelly and I's business.

"You're not part of this relationship, so see yourself out."

Last night, drinks were flowing and we were having a fun time,

but Leah was being a little bit flirty with Rebecca.

She has said to me before that she's got a flirty personality,

and it's something that I've dealt with in my past so,

I just don't want to feel like I'm being disrespected.

Last night, I started to feel like you were being overly familiar

with Rebecca and then,

because we've had conversations before and you've said you're quite

a flirty person... No, I didn't say I'm a flirty person,

I said people sometimes... You've got a flirty personality, you said.

So you did say that, and then I started to feel like you were

being overly familiar with Rebecca

and it started to make me feel a little bit like I was like,

"Hmm, that's a bit muggy."

I think because she's from a similar area to me, I do gravitate to her.

So I do feel like it's more that than anything.

But I think the bottom line of that is

you realised at this point that you liked me more than you thought,

cos you got a little bit jealous over Rebecca that's

why you thought "I'm gonna pounce on you."

OK, let's get into that, shall we?

You got jealous.

Obviously, that's coming from somewhere.

I wouldn't feel that way if I just saw you as a friend.

I feel like we both are getting

a little bit closer to that romantic side.

We had a kiss last night, which is not something we've been doing.

Yeah, it was nice, to be fair.

We shared a kiss last night.

If I just purely viewed Leah as a friend,

behaving that way probably wouldn't have bothered me.

So, the fact that it did,

obviously there are some feelings there that I maybe wasn't aware of.

I need to speak to Keye after last night.

I didn't like the way he was acting with Nelly.

Paraded her around like a bit of meat.

KNOCK AT THE DOOR

Who's at the door now?

Hello. How are you?

I need to tell him that, "Look, your actions last night

don't sit right with me and this now has affected, er, my marriage."

Last night I got frustrated with you.

With everything going on with Nelly and I with the distancing stuff,

I just wanted people just to, basically, just fuck off.

Keye, you brought her over to me and was like,

"Comment on her, like, outfit. Comment on, like, her breasts."

And that wound me up cos I don't want anyone to get involved.

Just leave me alone.

Sorry, I'm actually still just confused

as to what I've... what I've done.

Nelly had said that she was feeling down,

didn't feel very cute about herself,

so I bigged her up to make her feel like she was cute.

I then walked her in,

gave her a spin and said, "Look how amazing your wife looks."

It was more the comment of, like,

"Look at how good her breasts look. She wore this top for you."

I was literally saying directly to her... To her.

..."Look at those boobs! Look at those boobs!" Yeah, yeah, I know

but when you hear, like, "Look at your wife",

you automatically assume, "Oh, this is directed at me".

I can't be held accountable for your assumption.

I'm not having it sold that

I was trying to come between your relationship,

I'm not. Couldn't give a flying fuck, if I'm completely honest.

I'm here for my relationship.

I was being supportive the same way I would support absolutely anyone.

That's who I am. I am a cheerleader,

I'm a positive person, it's what I do.

And if you've assumed more than that, that's on you.

I am a cheerleader, I'm a positive person, it's what I do.

And if you've assumed more than that, that's on you.

When people were saying, "No, you've got to say these things."

I was like, "But I've said it to her when I walked in."

It actually had nothing to do with you whatsoever.

I came in and gave you an opportunity to compliment her,

because I had spent the time outside with her saying,

"Maybe you just need to give him an opportunity." I was literally

playing devil's advocate, having your side and having your back.

No-one knows the conversations we have back at home.

Ah, god, just stay out my business.

If Nelly comes to me again and says, "I feel shit about myself.

"I don't feel very cute",

I'm gonna big her up again, do exactly the same thing.

The same as I would for anyone in this fucking room

because that's what you do when someone feels low about themselves.

And that's never gonna change, I'm afraid.

I think everyone needs to put effort into a relationship,

Steven included.

If there are aspects of his relationship

that he doesn't want discussed,

that's a conversation between him and his wife, not me.

Feeling pretty pissed off... DOOR CLOSES

...so I've just ended up just walking away.

My relationship is my relationship and

I don't like people getting involved in

business they shouldn't get involved in.

KNOCK AT THE DOOR

Thought someone was actually at the door

but it looks like we've got an envelope. Stop!

Oh, my God. Oh, my God, our first golden envelope.

Today marks the start of Experts Week.

I think we've won the lottery, kid.

I can't pick it up with my nails. Ha-ha.

We've devised a series of exercises to help the couples

navigate these early stages of married life.

I feel stressed.

Some couples could find

these exercises challenging or confronting,

but this is a vital part of the process to allow them

to develop deeper levels of emotional connection.

"There is no one-size-fits-all remedy for any relationship.

"So each of us have drawn on our own specific areas

"of expertise and devised activities...

"Tailored specifically to you as a couple

to help you navigate the challenges you face."

There were some big words in that, weren't there!?

There were, weren't there?

"Dear Grace and Ashley, you are requested to attend

a fun workshop." Nice.

"I know that intimacy and affection has been an issue for your marriage,

"and this is something I'd like to help you work on.

"Lots of love, Charlene."

Charlene, here we come.

Come on, Charlene.

"We have left something outside for you."

Oh no. Will I go get it? Yeah, go, go, go.

Oh! Oh, God. Oh!

I'm already impressed.

You're joking.

Oh, it's a little robe. I mean, that's cool for me.

I might do one leg. We'll see.

We'll see. We'll see how it goes. Dean and I get on great, but, um,

the main thing really missing is the intimacy.

We've obviously not kissed. You know, been intimate with each other

or anything like that, so, yeah, I think...

...you know, it's quite scary because you don't really know

sort of what's gonna happen and things, but I know it's

what our marriage needs, so I'm really willing to work at it.

I'm excited. Yeah, to touch it.

It's exciting, right?

It's a big moment, I guess, in our relationship, it's the next stage.

So, yeah, I'm hoping it's the start of the touching

and not the end of the touching.

I'm hoping it's the beginning.

Bring it on! Let's do it. Let's do it! Let's do it.

I can't wait. Yeah, me too.

I wouldn't like to think what's in store for this workshop.

I hope it's not a massage.

We've already done that on the honeymoon.

Are you OK with it?

On their honeymoon, Grace's struggles with physical touch

were brought to the surface during what should have been

a romantic massage from Ashley.

Hey, is that enough now?

Do it for me. I will do it for you. You do so much for me,

I am totally willing to do this for you. Thank you.

Would you like a hand? Because you're actually stressing me out.

Me and Leah are trying to build a romantic connection.

At the minute it's just, sort of, more of a friendship thing,

So I feel like it's definitely come at

a good time for us to see if we can initiate a bit of a spark.

Ah. Look who it is. Hello.

It's important for our couples to understand

that intimacy isn't just about sex.

There are many different ways

in which a physical connection can develop.

With that in mind, I've set some of the couples a task

to inspire trust and understanding between them.

Welcome to my workshop.

I'm sure you're very excited to see me.

Let's talk about intimacy because one thing that I realise is that,

as soon as I say the word "intimacy", everyone gets a little bit nervous.

But intimacy should be fun.

The key is to explore and that's what I want you to do today.

I don't want you to do anything that you're not comfortable doing.

So, blindfold your partner.

Not too tight. OK, OK.

Can you see? No.

Is that too tight? No. Even a bit tighter probably. Yeah, perfect.

Next to you, what you'll see is some massage oil.

My heart drops a little bit at the thought of massage.

It's always going to be something that I find really uncomfortable.

Is there anywhere you want me to go in particular? No, that's good.

Oh.

Feel free to make sounds if you want to, if it feels good.

Make some sounds, Leah. Make it better then. OK.

How's that? That's nice. Good.

LAUGHING

I've waited a long time for this.

Like, it's been worth the wait though, as well.

It's so nice to, kind of, share that moment.

I think this is a step in the right direction

and what we're missing really.

More oil. Oh, yeah, go on. Ooh. That's nice.

I want to be Dean's biggest cheerleader.

I want for things to start going in the right direction.

But, um, it was a little bit funny, isn't it? Like...

You're really good at it. Thank you. Soft hands.

We're giving it a go. We're giving it a go.

Grace, how does that feel?

I've never been one for massages myself.

I'm trying to focus on the fact that it's a good massage.

Like, Ash is a good masseuse.

You OK? Mm-hmm.

I'm feeling a bit stressed. It's not me. It's not my kind of thing.

It's beyond my comfort zone. My comfort zone was, like,

120 miles back.

You're doing amazing. Thank you.

But Ash, this is important to him, so,

I'm trying to have an open mind.

So the partners that are massaging

I'm sensing that you're really enjoying this.

Is it showing that much? Ha-ha!

You can see a massive difference from the honeymoon.

Even though she's feeling a bit uncomfortable,

she's staying there and she's working at it.

Do you wanna swap? Yeah, we could swap. Swap, good.

Especially with Grace where,

feelings are starting to build,

she's really sort of throwing herself into this and...

...Yeah, nice to see, to be honest.

Do I have permission to remove your robe? Yeah.

I'm really proud of her. I'm chuffed.

Is that OK? Yeah, perfect. Ooh. Ooh.

Nice. That's good. Nice to touch you.

I really enjoyed getting a bit more... touchy.

I don't know what... Yeah. Yeah.

I think all it can do is just make us stronger.

Initially I was slightly nervous,

but, actually, Dean is doing well at giving the massage.

I'm getting rid of some of that tension.

He's made me feel super comfortable.

So, yeah, he is doing well.

It's nice. Is it? Yeah. Oh, good.

I think you guys have had quite a lot of fun.

Grace and Ashley, the good thing with the two of you

is that you have a really good connection.

So although there is this issue around the skin-on-skin touch,

there's a bond that I see between the two of you.

That's key.

Today was important because I did

want an opportunity to show Ash that I am trying as well.

He has made a huge amount of effort and

he does deserve someone who's going to put as much in as he does.

Well done, guys. Now, I think you're absolutely ready for stage two.

Let's take it up a notch.

ALL EXCLAIM

Where is Charlene going?

No way!

What's gonna be inside this room?

What is behind this wall? What is going on?

Charlene! Charlene, where are we going?

There's no words. Here we go, here we go.

Oh, my God!

Wow! I wasn't expecting that.

Oh, my God! Holy shit.

OK. Ooh! Strawberries.

There is a table full of sex toys here.

We've got handcuffs, we've got dildos, we've got butt plugs.

We've got, God knows what.

Does Charlene just carry these around in her bag, every day? Or...

Welcome to my table of treats.

You now have an array of

lots of different tools that you can have lots of fun with.

You may look at some of these things and think, "Well, that's not for me."

Yep. LAUGHTER

But you may look at some of these things and think,

"Actually, I wouldn't mind trying that."

I hope you know where the key is for that.

Right, yeah, go on. OK. You could go harder.

Oh really? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Ooh, ooh.

Harder? Yeah. Ooh!

I'm just gonna stay seated here for a while. Oh.

Oi!

That happens to everyone.

I swear, I didn't mean to do that, I swear.

All went a bit tits up, didn't it? Ha!

Can't even think about it.

Just had cream all over my face and a strawberry shoved into my mouth.

Not feeling very sexy and sensual right now.

Do you want another one?

I'm fine, thank you.

Open your mouth.

Ooh! Ashley!

That's what I wanted, but that's not what I got.

The next activity is, Fill In The Blanks.

Partner A will read out the card,

and partner B will answer the question.

Right now I'm feeling... intrigue.

Ooh!

I love it when... You are cuddly and tactile.

Mm. That's nice.

It's cos she doesn't say a lot of nice things.

No, often, I mean often.

No, often. I don't agree, but OK.

It's a little bit uncomfortable

that Leah's just said this in front of a group of people.

I do feel like I have put a lot of effort in and

there's this, like, running theme with you at the moment

where you will sort of act as if I'm not doing anything at all.

No, I'm not. I'm just saying it's nice to hear it when you say it

cos you don't say it often, that's all.

It's a little bit deflating.

I'm trying to be nice and trying to make the effort and

it doesn't always feel like it's received in the best way.

She likes what I'm saying, but, there's always a but.

It just gets a bit draining.

I will do that more, but I also would appreciate if,

when I do do it, you don't make a backhanded comment

because that makes me not wanna do it again. OK.

Intimacy workshop isn't going the best for me, I'll be honest.

Now, because we absolutely love you all,

we would like you to choose anything on the table

that you might wanna go home with and have a bit of fun with.

I promise I won't look. Thank you. Thank you. Bye!

Come on then, guys. What are we grabbing?

Today was amazing for Grace and I.

Behind closed doors she's cuddly and affectionate so,

it was really nice to be around people

and for her to still be OK with it.

It's a huge step for us, I feel, huge.

I did it for you. Ah, well done guys.

Let's do that.

You basically burn it, it melts and then you massage.

So, the intimacy workshop.

I suppose it felt a little bit tense,

but Leigh picked up the candle,

so I think I'm getting a full body massage. In for a treat.

If that's not dibs. Hey! She's a lingerie girl, yeah.

There's been a lot of pressure in not having that intimacy with Sarah.

That's been building up and building up and today's

helped kind of deflate that and make it fun.

So it's keeping that going now on our own

and then hopefully progressing to a loving, nice relationship.

This could not have come at a better time for Dean and I.

So many things are there.

The main thing that is lacking is the intimacy side of things.

I still do wanna take it slow,

but I think it has been just what we've needed.

A values ranking. That's gonna be fun.

Oh dear. We'll see how it goes.

Struggling to see eye to eye since their honeymoon,

Julia-Ruth and Divarni's task

is to both rank nine different values,

chosen by the experts, in their order of importance.

Divarni and I haven't spoken about values before.

I hope that we get a better understanding of each other

as a couple and that we can understand as well

why we're both here and what we're here for.

No peeking. I know what my core values are,

and hopefully they do align with Julia-Ruth's.

Here we go.

This is my list.

At number one, I'd say humour. Mm-hmm.

If someone, like, can make me laugh

and that I feel like that makes him, like,

so outrageously attractive,

you just wanna be around that person. Mm-hmm.

And then sex and looks is important to me. Mm-hmm.

OK. So, this is my nine.

Hmm.

Divarni's put sex and looks at the bottom of his list.

So I've got a lot of questions to ask.

Sex is quite low down. Mm-hmm.

Um... yeah.

Do you wanna explain that? Like, you're, like,

why you've put it at eight.

I wanna know the person before anything else.

And that's why I put it at the bottom.

Not because it's the least... But it is out of this list,

that is the least. That's the second least.

So someone's ambition to you is more important than sex?

Yeah.

Um, OK. Cos all of this will connect to the person,

and then this is composites everything else.

Money before sex?

Yeah.

For him it's looks and sex is the last thing on the man's mind.

On a man's mind.

Looks and sex is the last thing on a man's mind?

Come on.

OK.

Your sex was four, my sex was eight.

Sex and looks is important to me. Mmm.

It's a struggle for me because that is not important to you at all.

Mm-hmm.

It's a little bit, er, yeah, it's a little bit worrying.

Apparently, it's not enough.

Doesn't care. It's bottom of the list, so...

Do you know what's really interesting?

I almost put looks at one.

So we literally would have had the polar opposites.

But it does shed a light on things. It's definitely interesting to see.

I don't know where this leaves me and Divarni,

just in terms of progressing forward.

It's day one of hitting the reset button.

It was meant to be a fresh start. It was meant to be fun and banter.

But, um...

They're quite opposite.

Opposites attract.

I never want to see that picture in my life.

I look about 50 as well. No comment. Yeah, no comment.

Go on then, girl, hit me with it.

"Dear Rebecca and Bailey, you seem content in the present,

"so we're gonna ask you to delve into your past by opening your

"ex-files. We want you to explore the lessons you've learnt

"and how you can bring them to bear on your current relationship.

"Lots of love, Mel, Paul and Charlene."

Let's get into it. Ex-files then, yeah? Ex-files.

I'm sure it'll be fine, as long as my ex isn't gonna walk in

through the door or your ex.

You ready? Yeah.

Have you ever broken someone's heart?

And how do you feel about that now?

Yeah.

Yeah. So, with my long-term ex, we, um,

had built a life together. Built, literally, built a house together.

You all right? Yeah. All right? Mm-hmm.

He proposed

and I thought, "God", like, I'm gonna have to make a decision

and either, like, marry him

or, like, be more true to

this, like, weird niggly feeling that I had.

It broke his heart. Yeah.

Like, I feel selfish that, like, I

decided to, like, take that away from him then. Yeah.

And I know I broke his heart, he told me I did, so...

Mmm.

Um...

You all right? Yeah. I didn't wanna, like, I didn't,

I wouldn't wanna make anyone that sad. Yeah.

I also felt like I had to be true to myself, but also true for him.

It's such a double-edged sword seeing Bec get emotional

because it is hard.

Don't wanna see someone upset, but then also that vulnerability

is somewhat a nice feeling.

It's like part and parcel with kind of falling for someone

and starting to like someone more. So, yeah, I'm relishing it.

Yeah. Good answer. You all right? Yeah. Cool? Yes.

Happy? Give me a hug then. Yeah. Come here.

I find it hard sometimes to open up to people, but

being with Bailey does make me feel like it's safe.

I haven't felt that for a while and it's a really nice feeling.

Ready? OK. Teddy. Go. Yeah.

To help strengthen their emotional connections,

Anita and Paul, and Davide and Keye,

have been given the Ask Me Anything task.

It's what we wanted. We're letting go.

We're gonna smash it. Yeah, we will. I like this.

This is things to do, it's what we're here for. Right?

It's to work on ourselves. It's to make sure that

we get to know each other deeper.

Ready? Let's do this.

Right now, I have no nerves. I have my man.

Where do you think you've gone wrong

"in your previous relationships?

Um...

...many ways. Um... OK. ..I lose aspects of myself.

In my marriage, I changed and edited myself

and turned into something I wasn't and became very vacuous.

Um...

...I guess until this point, I've never really gone into

a relationship as myself, so

I guess I haven't given anyone a fair opportunity to actually

date me or be in a relationship with me because I just

have a different edited or amended version that I think

they're going to like.

I guess most of the facade versions of me are pretty shitty people.

So, yeah, I wouldn't want to have dated me either. Huh.

They're in the past. They are indeed.

You know I don't judge for anything of the past.

You're good as you are.

I've never met anyone that is more themselves than you are.

Thank you. It's OK.

The more time I spend with Davide, the more I'm growing and developing

because of how considerate and caring he is.

I like this, this is nice. This is lovely, yeah.

Keye, tell me three things you'd change about me.

I wish your job didn't involve you having to go away

for long periods of time.

OK. Ha-ha.

When you get in your head and overthink things.

Most of the time, it's a non-problem, it's a non-issue.

I can work on that. We can try and do it together.

Um, and then the third thing I would change is

your perspective on your body image.

Mm-hmm. Because I think you're

absolutely goddamn sexy as hell and wish you could see yourself

the way that I see you.

That's very cute.

Being open with my body makes me a little bit anxious,

but, slowly, slowly, I'm getting more confident.

I think it is lovely to see how he sees me.

He makes me feel wanted. He makes me feel great about myself.

It's been a while since someone made me feel like that.

It's just nice.

Stop! Ha-ha.

Stop.

It's kind of the perfect task this week for us, isn't it?

That's what I've been banging on about all week,

at the end of the day, haven't I?

Hi.

Depending on his questions, they'll depend

where that actually leaves us.

Did you find that hard?

No. All right.

Cos I've not really asked you much, as you've pointed out a few times.

I am a little bit sweaty palms.

I think it's important for Anita to see some improvement, so,

fingers crossed again.

Will you give the marriage

enough time

so I can love you for you?

How, how long's a piece of string, time?

I'm not in a hurry. I just, it's more a case of

I need to know where this relationship's going.

What's on your mind? What you want out of it?

Whether you're fully committed.

Are you expecting me to be fully committed after two weeks?

Well, the clue's in the title, isn't it? Married At First Sight.

Surely you're wanting to commit, aren't you?

I think you can be committed to the process,

to going down that road of

building a relationship, building trust, building respect.

I think you are expecting me to be further ahead than I am.

You've said it takes you time.

It could be six years before you get a spark.

That's the doubt that's set in my mind. Yeah.

How long does it actually take you?

I just haven't got that time.

Love is something you build.

My timeframe

may be different from her timeframe

and that's gonna be the sticking point.

I need to know what you're thinking.

Surely you should know what you want by now.

I don't know if Paul understands I haven't got time to waste.

I was in my previous relationship for 17 years

and didn't get the outcome I wanted,

so I need to know where I stand.

I've just wasted 17 years , and I don't wanna waste time.

Surely we should want the same outcome.

He's 60, I'm nearly 55. No, I'm not hanging around.

What we gonna have dinner tonight?

Pasta. Lots of cheese. Lots of cheese.

Maeve and Joe's exercise for this week

involves a visit from one of the experts.

At the Commitment Ceremony,

Maeve voiced her insecurities within the marriage and herself.

KNOCK AT THE DOOR

Oh. I wonder who that could be.

As Joe was absent, I'm visiting him and Maeve at their home

to offer further one-on-one expertise.

Yes! Hey!

Hiya, you all right? Ha-ha.

I'm so happy to see Paul.

Honestly, like, his home's my home, d'ya know what I mean?

No. My home's his home. Is that what you say?

Well anyway, I'm not arsed. So take your shoes off and get comfy.

Where I would love to begin is the Commitment Ceremony.

Yeah. Joe, I believe you missed

a very important moment. It was profound.

At yesterday's Commitment Ceremony,

Maeve faced the couch alone while Joe was ill.

I think he is really attractive,

and I feel like he's not gonna find me attractive whatsoever.

I think he's too good for me.

I mean, it's quite heartbreaking to hear you say that.

Well he is.

You need to love on yourself more.

This is more important than your relationship with Joe. Yeah.

You recall a little bit of the conversation that we had.

Oh, God. Joe compliments me all the time.

Like, I couldn't have anyone nicer to say nice things about us, but

I don't believe what he's saying.

At what point in your life did you begin doubting yourself?

Probably when I was with my ex.

He used to talk about my appearance.

Just negative shit all the time. OK.

If someone says it enough to you,

you start believing it, d'ya know what I mean? Yes.

How do we take that narrative and switch it to positive?

Maeve, what I would love for us to do

is teach you how to receive a compliment.

Taking compliments sounds like a very easy thing to do, but it's not.

I really struggle to take stuff on board.

All right. This is gonna be great.

So Joe is going to give compliments

and when he gives you that compliment I want you to look

in the mirror, repeat the compliment.

And you're gonna say I received this, I believe this,

and thank you for seeing me this way.

OK? So hit us, Joe.

I love how you give everyone your energy

and everyone just loves you as a person.

That was cute.

What, do I look at myself and say that? Yes.

Just do it. I'm trying to. Come on.

I'd be like, I can't say it.

This is hard, isn't it?

Yeah. Why is it hard?

Cos I can't take it in. OK.

I actually can't. I can hear him. I'm listening, but it doesn't go,

like, it's literally in one ear and out the other.

Exactly. Because you've taught yourself to just not believe it.

And I also notice that you have a hard time keeping eye contact

with yourself in the mirror.

Why do you think you're having a hard time

looking at yourself in the mirror?

I don't really enjoy looking at myself in the mirror.

Why? I don't know. I just don't feel confident in myself.

That's why this is important. Yeah.

So, we're going to do that round again,

but you have to look at yourself in the mirror the entire time.

Joe. I love how you have my back in any situation.

That is so true. It's so true. It's actually really true. Yeah.

I believe that one. So you believe that's what I mean?

I do. But do you?

Yeah, cos I do have your back. Say it in the mirror then.

Joe loves the fact that I have his back in every situation.

I receive this, I believe this.

I actually do, though.

Like, I know I'm struggling, but

I feel like it is starting to make me believe him.

This exercise actually makes me feel a little bit better about myself.

It's melting my heart.

You can always tell if an intervention has worked well,

because the couple' s closer

when you come back together and look at it.

Maybe it's in your lap right now. Yeah.

Maeve, you have this story going on in your mind

that you were not good enough.

And the more you take in these compliments,

what's going to happen to that negative script in your mind?

It's not gonna be negative any more,

it's gonna be positive. It's gonna be positive.

When you can connect at your true self, that's true love.

Yeah. And that's what we're trying to get to.

I'm very grateful for Paul. Yeah, we're gonna work on it

and actually do the task going forward.

So, hopefully it'll improve.

We are making... baby steps. Yeah, but

moving in the right direction, 100%.

Well then, on that note I'm gone.

Thank you for coming. Yeah.

100% this is the beginning of a new Maeve.

I actually want to believe what Joe's saying.

Honestly, I think he's amazing.

And I don't want him not in my life.

Ah, now, what is the matter with me? Ha-ha! Ah!

Oh, God.

This place makes you go crazy.

To mark the end of Experts Week,

some of the group head out to compare notes.

I am so excited to find out what everyone else has done,

what everyone's tasks have been for Expert Week.

It's a special day if Steven's getting the round in, innit?

First little day out. Cheers, lads.

Cheers.

I've been loving my time with Bec but also excited to see the lads

and have a bit of a debrief.

We did a workshop with Charlene.

She had, like, a secret doorway into this, like,

sex dungeon. Wait, wait, where is it? Stop.

Where is it?

Could I have a go?

I'm jealous that you got to do the workshop, I want to do it.

It was really good. Yeah, it was good. Like,

I'm not gonna lie, I was a little bit nervous.

I mean, you just, you don't know what you're kind of expecting.

Do you feel like it's grown you

closer to him in, like, a different way?

I think it's still too early to tell.

Dean and I, obviously we haven't had really any form of intimacy at all.

But obviously, there are different forms of it. There's

different levels of it. We are still taking baby steps.

Yeah, it was good. I think it was what we needed.

I said to him after the Commitment Ceremony,

he's constantly got you on this pedestal and

that's something he said he wouldn't do.

I was like, you know, "You also need to be there for you too."

I think that Commitment Ceremony kicked her up the arse a little bit.

You know, maybe it's made her realise a little bit more,

how good Dean is.

She needs to be open and vulnerable to him.

Like, she's been matched with him for a reason.

Where are you and Leigh now?

Yeah, we haven't, like, we didn't have the best night.

Ah, did you not? No, like,

Leigh thought I'd come up to you in the bar

and was like, "Hey, Rebecca, I fancy you",

but it's not in that way at all.

I think you'd said, like, "Rebecca's more my type, gym girl, dark hair."

And also, like I said, you feel like home to me

because you're... my friends are like you and

it was just something that was latched onto, but there was

literally nothing in it.

That made her realise, definitely, that,

"OK, maybe I do like her a little bit more", but she still

won't admit that.

I can understand why Leigh

would feel negative feelings towards it, because,

if somebody in the group has pointed out as being more

your wife's type, then there's going to be some sort of feelings, but

there's just nothing to worry about with me and Leah.

Come on then, Steve, you're the one holds your cards

close to your chest. What about you?

Obviously for me, look, I never like to show vulnerability

cos it makes me look weak, and when I've done that in the past,

then people take the piss. So,

I've decided to slow down on the intimacy side of things, like,

the less hugging, the kissing, which sounds bad. But why have you,

why have you, kind of, made that decision? Cos like,

she's three steps ahead of me. Ah, OK.

Cos she's opened up and I haven't.

It might get in her head a little bit

if she sees you going backwards a bit.

I think, if you are doing that,

you've got to be super clear as why you are doing that.

I don't like neediness, I like...

It's good to feel wanted, right? Yeah. Course it is. Like,

everyone wants to feel wanted but, like, just let me breathe.

I need my time apart.

I don't think she's, like, super needy.

But then also if you are, you're saying yourself

you're more on the closed side,

that might bring a little bit of that out.

She really likes you

and I've talked with her a lot and you know that. Yeah.

Steven is overthinking it. He's definitely overthinking it.

He's being way too logical about this.

Um, just let go.

It's the only way it's going to work is if he lets go.

So, Steven came to see you, didn't he?

I think he just needed to kind of vent and

go through what had happened in the evening.

He just, kind of, needed to say it... Vent it out. ..out loud to us.

And I told him, like, time and time again,

that "They're not trying to do it to wind you up. No-one's

aim is to wind you up." No. "Their aim is to pick me up",

cos you could see that I wasn't myself.

Much better to do it over wine. Yeah.

And youse two are good now. That's all squashed.

Yeah, I'm just, obviously, it's still hard, I think.

He still has pulled back, but now I'm like, "Well, cool, sweet.

"You pull back if, that's what you wanna do.

"I'm gonna do me. If you want me then, great."

If he doesn't, his loss. Yeah, it is, yeah.

I don't really know where I stand.

I just need a bit of consistency. It's really hard sometimes if

the Steven I've got now is slightly more reserved than

the Steven I met on the honeymoon,

Usually I would be like, "OK, cool, I'm tapping out.

"I'm not gonna put myself through this.

"So if you don't want all of me then, see you later, mate."

He can get fucked.

Next time... "On a scale of one to ten, how strong are your feelings?"

...the second dinner party serves up romantic confessions from some.

9.5. ALL SCREAM AND CHEER

"Do you have any regrets so far?" ...while others face harsher truths .

Yes.

I feel like I'm constantly calling you out for things.

I'm trying to be nice and then they're backfiring on me.

I'm at a point of my life now, I need to know

you want the same thing.

I haven't got time to waste.

But it's gossip in the group...

He fucked a girl, like, two weeks before he came here.

Whoa! Oi!

...that sparks the biggest conflict of the night.

Who has decided to say, I was talking about my sexual activity.

You did! We were all there.

People are starting to fuck me off! They're that, that, that, that.

All fucking cunts. Wow! Did he just say that?