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♪♪ ♪♪
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[phone line beeps]
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- You will never have
to question
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my love or devotion to you,
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because there's nothing else
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that I want to spend
my time doing
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except showing you
those things.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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[dramatic music]
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♪♪ ♪♪
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[birds chirping]
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[church bells tolling]
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ANDREA:
When we started this,
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did you have any idea
this little podcast
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that we talked about
on the phone
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would turn
into the number-one podcast
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with millions of listeners?
JENIFER: No.
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For me, it was really hard
to make sense of everything,
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what my husband did,
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and we were just kind of
following where it led us.
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And every person
that's heard my story
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can't believe it,
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except for someone who has gone
through something similar.
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I mean, it's helped
a lot of people, I think.
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ANDREA:
Yeah, absolutely.
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- But, obviously, there's
a lot more to uncover.
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[dramatic music]
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♪♪ ♪♪
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My name is Jenifer Faison.
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For the past five years,
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I've been on a journey
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of discovery,
of healing
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from a trauma that actually
started for me in college,
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even if I didn't know it yet.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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I transferred to Berry College
my junior year.
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JOSH:
Berry College is located
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in the northwest corner
of the state of Georgia.
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There are only about
1,500 students there.
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It was just a small,
close-knit, family environment
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to go to school in.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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JENIFER:
When I was at Berry,
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I just felt like I fit in
and I belonged.
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My major was communications,
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and we had
a television station.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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I went to the first meeting
for the television station.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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And Spence was sitting
up on the stage.
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And I was walking
down toward him,
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and he looked at me
and smiled.
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And then that was
just kind of it.
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I mean, that was the moment
that everything just changed.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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- They started dating probably
around September,
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maybe October
of that first year of school.
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JOSH: Spencer was certainly
well-known around campus,
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not just because
of his involvement with BCTV.
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Spencer was the station
manager at the time.
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- A new mall, a bigger mall,
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and a better mall
than Riverbend.
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JOSH: He was just one
of those people
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who had an outgoing
and charismatic personality.
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- Spence Herron, WBCS News.
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JENIFER: Spence had a great
group of friends at Berry.
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And I'll never forget, they
did this lip-sync concert.
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And it was this medley of
New Kids on the Block songs.
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SINGER:
♪♪ I can see it in your walk ♪♪
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♪♪ Tell it when you talk ♪♪
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♪♪ See it in everything you do ♪♪
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JOSH: Spencer had
the sort of guy-next-door,
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Boy Scout/Eagle Scout affect.
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- It used to be lined
with trees on both sides,
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all the way
from the horse stables
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down to
the Possum Trot site itself.
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Now it's lined with dirt.
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- He was the kind of guy that
you knew if you needed help
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moving a couch into
your third-story dorm room,
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Spencer would show up
and help you move the couch
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into your dorm room.
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And I think, in fact,
I asked him to do that once.
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APRIL:
Jenifer really liked Spence,
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and Spence really
liked Jenifer, too.
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They were a good match.
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JOSH: Spencer and Jenifer
were inseparable.
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If I saw one walking across
campus, I would look nearby,
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and I was almost guaranteed
to see the other.
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They just always seemed like
the perfect couple to me.
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- In today's fast-paced
and highly mobile world,
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it is imperative that people
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can keep their work skills
up to date.
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JENIFER: Spence was always
so attentive,
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and making sure that I knew
how he felt about me.
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Every day we would pass
each other in the hallways,
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and he would hand me a note.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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- You must have
felt like you had,
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honestly, the best boyfriend...
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- In the entire world.
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Like, I kept
this whole notebook,
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which I haven't looked at
in a while either.
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- Mm, I don't know why
I'm getting sad.
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- All the stuff
that he gave me,
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like, every note
that he passed me.
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- Stop it right now.
- I kept it in a notebook.
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- Wait.
Hold on.
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"News flash--it's official.
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"Spence Herron has
just been named
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the luckiest man on campus."
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- That was his news flash.
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- I don't even want to read
the rest of it, to be honest.
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- I know. "Jenifer, I can't
believe that you chose me.
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"I know it's not a dream
but a dream come true.
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I am now the happiest
man on campus."
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ANDREA:
This is all really sweet
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and, like, in the beginning,
like, so nice.
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Was there ever a point where
you were like, this is a lot?
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JENIFER:
Um...
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I just enjoyed it.
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There wasn't anything bad
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that would, like, give you
a red flag.
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Why would you
question any of it?
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- Safe person.
Yep.
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JENIFER: We went
to all the dances together.
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He was making me mix tapes.
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I remember one night, he
cooked me dinner in the dorm,
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and he made a whole menu.
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He wrote it out
and everything.
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It was really fun,
and it was easy.
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It was just that perfect
college relationship.
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We were definitely in love.
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Okay, this is Spence's
senior year at Berry.
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Spence and I went
up to Minnesota.
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It was his first plane ride.
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That's the first time
that Spence really met
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all of my family.
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And...
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I mean, of course,
they all just, like,
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fawned over him and loved him.
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GAIL: Our other daughter
was getting married,
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and Jenifer was coming
up for the wedding.
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And she said, would it be okay
if Spence comes?
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And from the time we picked
them up at the airport,
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it was, like, so comfortable.
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We had a terrible snowstorm
that weekend,
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and Spence thought it would be
fun to go out in the snow.
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And they go out in the yard,
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and they're playing
in the snow.
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It was like two little kids
out there.
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I mean, he's just adorable.
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They were so in love,
and it was obvious.
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- We had very positive
and strong feelings
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about Spence
being a good person.
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GAIL: Jenifer's sister,
Christy, was the first
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to refer to him
as Saint Spence.
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He was the perfect person.
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He's the kind of person
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you wanted your daughter
to marry.
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JENIFER: Spence was a year
older than I was,
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and so he graduated,
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and I still had a year left
at Berry.
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And I loved Spence,
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and we had
a great relationship.
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Yet I still had a year.
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Oh, I'll never forget,
right before my senior year,
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and we were on the phone--
a pay phone, of course.
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And it was one of the hardest
conversations that I've had,
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because I knew I was going
to break his heart.
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And I had to tell him,
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I just want to be
on my own my senior year...
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to have fun with my friends
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and not really be tied down
to a boyfriend,
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especially one that I wasn't
going to be able to see
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that often.
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He was pretty devastated.
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SINGER: ♪♪ Maybe it's okay,
oh, not to be okay ♪♪
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♪♪ When everything's broken ♪♪
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♪♪ Oh, and you don't know if ♪♪
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♪♪ It's going to be okay ♪♪
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♪♪ We're going to be okay ♪♪
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JENIFER:
When I broke up with Spence...
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my family
definitely questioned it.
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- I was disappointed that
they were breaking up.
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JENIFER: My sister--
she couldn't believe it.
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She was like,
you have this great guy.
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What more could you want?
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He was a great guy.
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It was just not the right time.
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APRIL: They were
a really good couple,
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but I also think she knew
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that it was part of her life
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to experience more than just
one relationship like that.
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JENIFER: And so we went
our separate ways,
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and I just kind of
kept moving forward.
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After graduation, I moved home
for about three years,
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worked at a radio station,
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and then decided to make the
big move to LA to get into TV.
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[upbeat music]
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JEFFREY:
She literally packed her car
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and drove to Los Angeles,
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and set up a life in California
on her own.
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- My first job in television
was with Judge Judy.
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ANNOUNCER:
The people are real.
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The cases are real.
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The rulings are final.
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This is Judge Judy.
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- I worked on her show
for about four years,
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and was nominated
for two Emmys for that.
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Got to take my mom
to the Emmys in New York
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and do the whole red carpet.
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So it was really fun.
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And then I got the job
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on Extreme Makeover:
Home Edition.
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ALL:
Move that bus!
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[cheering]
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PERSON: Look at this!
PERSON 2: Oh, my God!
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GAIL:
She grew.
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She blossomed out there
in this business.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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ANDREA: While Jenifer was
building an impressive résumé,
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Spencer got married,
had children...
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and created
a little life in Georgia--
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very different from Jen.
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JENIFER: I heard
about Spence getting married
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through other college friends.
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And I remember feeling
a little bit of sadness,
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because we really loved
each other,
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and that door had closed now
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because he had moved on.
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- After college, I actually
kept in touch with Spence
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probably more than
I did with Jen.
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To start his career,
Spence did some video work.
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He was in communications
and was a videographer,
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and he also taught.
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He was teaching
video production
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at one
of the local high schools.
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SPENCER: So it's going to be
an awesome semester.
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I'm really excited
about the show.
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Look at that. Perfect timing.
Welcome.
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This is our film crew,
you guys.
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I was going to explain
to you why they're here.
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They're coming here
to document us
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actually putting on an actual
student-produced morning show.
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What do you think?
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STUDENT: No way!
STUDENT 2: Yes!
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SPENCER: Yeah, it's going to be
really, really cool.
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I can't wait.
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RAE: He didn't go to school
to be a teacher.
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He didn't plan to get
into education.
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He was a camera guy
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that would go out
on freelance video shoots.
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So he didn't come at it
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from the book/educational
aspect of it.
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It was from
the hands-on experience,
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and this is what he knows.
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He wasn't much older than us.
He was in his early 20s.
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So he was just really
relatable and personable
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and engaging and supportive.
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ANDREA:
While still teaching,
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Spencer joined
the Air National Guard,
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and his position was
a member of the band.
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- Hey, guys, what's up?
It's Coach Herron.
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This is my band behind me,
and Brent shooting the camera.
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So we're performing
in Nashville, Tennessee,
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at this bigwig deal,
and I'm working really hard,
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but I'm telling you, you should
be working really hard, too.
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ANDREA: When troops get
deployed overseas,
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it's just to pick up morale
and be there for the troops
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that are in combat.
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[cheers and applause]
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JENIFER: Spence played
in a couple bands
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with the Air National Guard.
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And one of them
was a rock band,
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where they would play things
like Luke Bryan,
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"Play It Again"...
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PERSON: ♪♪ Sitting around
waiting for it to come on ♪♪
283
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♪♪ And here it is ♪♪
284
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♪♪ And she was like... ♪♪
285
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JENIFER: Or Journey,
"Don't Stop Believing."
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ALL:
♪♪ Streetlights, people ♪♪
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♪♪ Oh ♪♪
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♪♪ Don't stop ♪♪
[wild cheering]
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- He excelled
in everything that he did.
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JENIFER:
He was an Eagle Scout.
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He was a really great father.
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He played soccer on the side.
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JOSH: I cannot think
of a single time
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in the time we knew each other
295
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that I got any kind
of bad feeling about Spencer.
296
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He was just a good guy,
and the guy next door.
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[light acoustic music ends]
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[dramatic music]
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♪♪ ♪♪
300
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JENIFER:
For 20 years...
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I didn't get married.
302
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♪♪ ♪♪
303
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And it's not that I didn't date
304
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or didn't want to get married.
305
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I wanted to find
the right one.
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♪♪ ♪♪
307
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I was looking
for my soul mate,
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and I wasn't going to settle
for anything less.
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I really thought a lot
about Spence over the years.
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He kind of set the bar
for what I thought I wanted
311
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in a future relationship.
312
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And then Spence reached out
to me on Facebook...
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♪♪ ♪♪
314
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And just said,
hey, how are you?
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Are you still in LA?
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I've been following
your career.
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How's it going?
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♪♪ ♪♪
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I got butterflies.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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[bright music]
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JENIFER:
Spence's class was having
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their 20-year college reunion.
324
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And I had commented on a photo
or something on Facebook,
325
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and he saw it.
326
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So he reached out to me.
327
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First thing that I did was
message him back
328
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and just say,
are you still married?
329
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And he said,
330
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no, we've been apart
for four years now...
331
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♪♪ ♪♪
332
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Because they had lost
the intimacy and closeness
333
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of their relationship.
334
00:16:32.150 --> 00:16:33.754
So I thought, okay.
335
00:16:33.820 --> 00:16:35.991
So we spoke on the phone,
336
00:16:36.058 --> 00:16:39.197
and he said, I have to go
to New York
337
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with some students
on a school field trip.
338
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♪♪ ♪♪
339
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- Look behind me.
Tons of teenagers.
340
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We're getting ready to go
to the Empire State Building.
341
00:16:49.719 --> 00:16:52.424
- And then he asked, any chance
you're going to be in New York?
342
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I know you travel for work.
343
00:16:54.428 --> 00:16:57.366
And I didn't really travel
to New York very often.
344
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But sure enough,
about a week later,
345
00:16:59.739 --> 00:17:02.912
my old executive producer
from Extreme said,
346
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can you go to New York
and help out with this show
347
00:17:05.850 --> 00:17:07.053
that we're doing?
348
00:17:07.120 --> 00:17:09.191
Of course I said yes.
349
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When I found out
I was going to New York,
350
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I wrote Spence and let
him know--guess what.
351
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I'm going to happen to be there
at the same time you are.
352
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And so we made plans
to meet while we were there.
353
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SINGER: ♪♪ Remember the feeling
the day we met ♪♪
354
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♪♪ When the walls and the
ceiling shattered between us? ♪♪
355
00:17:28.395 --> 00:17:30.934
♪♪ No matter what I do,
I can't shake it yet ♪♪
356
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♪♪ And there's no other soul
who gives me this feeling ♪♪
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JENIFER:
The night that I re-met Spence
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in New York was magical.
359
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SINGER: ♪♪ The way that you
pull me close ♪♪
360
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♪♪ The way that you kiss me when
I'm dancing on the ceiling ♪♪
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♪♪ The that you... ♪♪
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JENIFER:
I walked into the hotel lobby
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where I was meeting him,
364
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and he's leaning
up against the wall.
365
00:17:56.017 --> 00:17:57.888
And...
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I just looked at him,
and I was like, wow.
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Like, this is Spence.
368
00:18:04.134 --> 00:18:09.043
And he was grown up
and handsome.
369
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And we walked around.
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We went to Bryant Park...
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SINGER: ♪♪ Oh, I love the way
that you are ♪♪
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♪♪ I love the way that you are,
oh, oh ♪♪
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JENIFER: And just caught up
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on every piece of our lives
that we could.
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SINGER:
♪♪ I love the way that you are ♪♪
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- We just talked
about everything.
377
00:18:31.890 --> 00:18:34.862
[mellow music]
378
00:18:34.929 --> 00:18:37.167
It felt like I was
back with somebody
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I was really, really
familiar with.
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We didn't want it to end.
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He said, well, I'll walk you
back to your hotel room.
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And I said, okay, great,
and, you know, we're walking,
383
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and you kind of bump
into each other.
384
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And then we stopped
for a minute,
385
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and he kissed me.
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♪♪ ♪♪
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It really just was loving
388
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and amazing.
389
00:19:03.753 --> 00:19:06.358
And he came
to my hotel that night,
390
00:19:06.425 --> 00:19:09.330
and, yeah, we slept together.
391
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Just that reconnection
and that bond
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came right back.
393
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And the next morning,
I knew he was leaving New York
394
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and I wasn't going
to see him again.
395
00:19:22.023 --> 00:19:24.327
And I was sad,
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00:19:24.393 --> 00:19:27.433
because we had reconnected,
397
00:19:27.500 --> 00:19:29.571
and, wait,
that's going to be it?
398
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That's it?
399
00:19:30.940 --> 00:19:33.881
Now we go back to our
separate sides of the country?
400
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[line trilling]
401
00:19:36.485 --> 00:19:38.389
[cell phone ringing]
Fortunately, right away,
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00:19:38.456 --> 00:19:40.728
he started calling
and sending me texts,
403
00:19:40.794 --> 00:19:43.800
and we would have
late-night conversations.
404
00:19:43.867 --> 00:19:46.304
We just didn't want
to let each other go...
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00:19:46.371 --> 00:19:49.578
♪♪ ♪♪
406
00:19:49.645 --> 00:19:51.448
Because it would just--
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00:19:51.516 --> 00:19:53.252
It was meant to be.
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00:19:53.319 --> 00:19:57.895
♪♪ ♪♪
409
00:19:57.962 --> 00:19:59.999
It just felt right.
410
00:20:00.066 --> 00:20:01.936
♪♪ ♪♪
411
00:20:02.003 --> 00:20:04.608
We really believed
we were soul mates.
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00:20:07.747 --> 00:20:11.856
One month when we were dating
and I was in LA,
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00:20:11.923 --> 00:20:14.828
he wrote me a letter
every single day
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00:20:14.895 --> 00:20:17.868
of the month of March, because
that's my birthday. Like--
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ANDREA:
And those are the letters?
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00:20:19.605 --> 00:20:21.374
JENIFER: Yeah.
ANDREA: Can I see?
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00:20:27.186 --> 00:20:29.825
"My perfect Jenifer."
418
00:20:39.344 --> 00:20:42.483
"My girlfriend--
I love using that word."
419
00:20:43.787 --> 00:20:45.591
- So that was,
like, three months
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00:20:45.657 --> 00:20:47.595
after we got back together.
ANDREA: Right.
421
00:20:47.662 --> 00:20:49.599
Because it was around
Christmastime in New York.
422
00:20:49.665 --> 00:20:51.167
- And this was March.
- And this is March.
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00:20:51.234 --> 00:20:52.336
JENIFER:
Mm-hmm.
424
00:20:54.675 --> 00:20:57.379
- "Hi, most gorgeous one."
425
00:20:57.446 --> 00:20:59.083
I don't know how you feel,
426
00:20:59.150 --> 00:21:01.722
but I have a hard time
looking at this, Jen.
427
00:21:01.789 --> 00:21:03.458
When you read these
and you see these,
428
00:21:03.526 --> 00:21:05.530
these are acts of love--
429
00:21:05.597 --> 00:21:06.766
- Yeah.
- And--
430
00:21:06.833 --> 00:21:10.038
- Acts of love.
Yeah.
431
00:21:10.105 --> 00:21:14.280
[sniffles, crying] So I don't
think anybody can blame me
432
00:21:14.347 --> 00:21:17.721
for being so in love, you know?
ANDREA: Absolutely not.
433
00:21:17.788 --> 00:21:19.191
- [sniffles]
434
00:21:19.257 --> 00:21:22.029
[dramatic music]
435
00:21:22.096 --> 00:21:26.438
- We hadn't talked to Spence
and hadn't seen Spence
436
00:21:26.505 --> 00:21:28.610
since they had gotten
back together.
437
00:21:28.676 --> 00:21:32.952
And he set up
a FaceTime with us,
438
00:21:33.018 --> 00:21:35.924
and he asked us
439
00:21:35.991 --> 00:21:38.395
if we would be okay
440
00:21:38.462 --> 00:21:41.902
if he asked Jenifer
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00:21:41.969 --> 00:21:43.773
to marry him.
442
00:21:43.840 --> 00:21:48.650
Now, they're older, so that
seemed a little unusual,
443
00:21:48.717 --> 00:21:51.889
but we were excited.
444
00:21:51.956 --> 00:21:55.864
- I decided to move
across the country,
445
00:21:55.931 --> 00:22:00.540
because he had kids still
and wanted to be close to them.
446
00:22:00.607 --> 00:22:05.383
♪♪ ♪♪
447
00:22:05.449 --> 00:22:07.487
So he came out,
448
00:22:07.554 --> 00:22:11.361
and he and I drove my car
cross-country.
449
00:22:11.428 --> 00:22:13.700
And the first night
we stopped in Vegas,
450
00:22:13.767 --> 00:22:17.339
and we had gone to dinner,
came back up to the room.
451
00:22:17.406 --> 00:22:20.547
And he hands me
this little book...
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♪♪ ♪♪
453
00:22:23.987 --> 00:22:26.759
With photos of us
over the years,
454
00:22:26.826 --> 00:22:31.334
and the very last page was
a picture of a diamond ring.
455
00:22:31.401 --> 00:22:34.207
And he got down on one knee,
and he asked me to marry him.
456
00:22:34.274 --> 00:22:37.981
And I said, can you ask me
that one more time?
457
00:22:38.048 --> 00:22:42.724
Because I didn't want to
forget what it sounded like.
458
00:22:42.791 --> 00:22:47.367
I really wanted to remember
this experience.
459
00:22:47.434 --> 00:22:50.072
He laughed and asked me again.
460
00:22:50.139 --> 00:22:53.211
And of course
I said yes, and...
461
00:22:53.278 --> 00:22:55.918
It was just...
462
00:22:55.984 --> 00:22:58.088
just wonderful.
463
00:22:58.155 --> 00:23:04.801
♪♪ ♪♪
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[steady music]
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APRIL: I found out that Spence
and Jen were getting married
466
00:23:14.487 --> 00:23:17.193
and that she was moving
back to Georgia,
467
00:23:17.260 --> 00:23:19.765
in Acworth...
468
00:23:19.832 --> 00:23:21.869
a little small town,
469
00:23:21.936 --> 00:23:23.739
but it's also pretty close
to Atlanta.
470
00:23:23.806 --> 00:23:25.743
So you get
a little bit of both--
471
00:23:25.810 --> 00:23:28.616
big-city
and little small-town feel.
472
00:23:28.683 --> 00:23:31.121
♪♪ ♪♪
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JENIFER: When Spence went to
tell his ex-wife
474
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that he was getting
married again,
475
00:23:36.999 --> 00:23:40.239
he didn't even have to tell her
who it was.
476
00:23:40.306 --> 00:23:43.513
She literally said,
it's Jenifer, isn't it?
477
00:23:43.580 --> 00:23:45.282
And it was crazy.
478
00:23:45.349 --> 00:23:47.453
He and I dated 20 years prior,
479
00:23:47.521 --> 00:23:52.296
but she still knew that
there was something special
480
00:23:52.363 --> 00:23:54.000
between the two of us,
481
00:23:54.067 --> 00:23:57.707
and she wasn't surprised to
hear that we got back together.
482
00:24:05.055 --> 00:24:07.093
JENIFER: I've been thinking--
PERSON: Oh, it's beautiful.
483
00:24:07.160 --> 00:24:09.230
PERSON 2: It's so pretty!
PERSON 2: You like where it is?
484
00:24:09.297 --> 00:24:10.567
PERSON 4:
Jen.
485
00:24:10.633 --> 00:24:13.573
[soft music]
486
00:24:13.640 --> 00:24:16.011
♪♪ ♪♪
487
00:24:16.077 --> 00:24:19.585
JENIFER: I had waited
a long time to get married,
488
00:24:19.652 --> 00:24:21.622
because I just wanted
to do it once,
489
00:24:21.688 --> 00:24:23.626
and I wanted to do it right.
490
00:24:23.693 --> 00:24:26.131
And we planned
a small wedding.
491
00:24:26.198 --> 00:24:30.072
About 80 people were there--
closest friends and family.
492
00:24:30.139 --> 00:24:33.679
And it was such
a celebration of love.
493
00:24:35.048 --> 00:24:37.386
KELLY: It was a beautiful,
beautiful night.
494
00:24:37.453 --> 00:24:40.059
There was just lights
everywhere, firefly-type deal.
495
00:24:40.125 --> 00:24:41.596
I was kind of jealous.
496
00:24:41.663 --> 00:24:43.465
[laughs]
I was kind of jealous
497
00:24:43.533 --> 00:24:45.269
of how the whole thing
went down.
498
00:24:45.336 --> 00:24:48.341
♪♪ ♪♪
499
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RAE: It was the day
before New Year's Eve.
500
00:24:50.212 --> 00:24:52.717
So it was that end-of-the-year,
new beginnings
501
00:24:52.784 --> 00:24:55.188
kind of feeling to everything.
502
00:24:55.255 --> 00:24:57.694
APRIL:
The wedding was beautiful.
503
00:24:57.761 --> 00:24:59.297
She looked gorgeous.
504
00:24:59.364 --> 00:25:01.234
♪♪ ♪♪
505
00:25:01.300 --> 00:25:02.971
JOSH: I was deeply honored
to have the chance
506
00:25:03.038 --> 00:25:04.708
to officiate at their wedding.
507
00:25:04.775 --> 00:25:06.477
They were two people
whom I loved dearly
508
00:25:06.545 --> 00:25:08.750
and had a lot of affection for.
509
00:25:08.817 --> 00:25:10.754
This is my favorite part
in the ceremony.
510
00:25:10.821 --> 00:25:12.190
As I explained to the couple,
511
00:25:12.256 --> 00:25:16.130
this is the part where I get
to say anything I want.
512
00:25:16.197 --> 00:25:18.837
And what I have been waiting
to say to the two of you is,
513
00:25:18.903 --> 00:25:22.142
it took you long enough.
[laughter]
514
00:25:22.209 --> 00:25:26.384
An unbroken circle, the ring
is an ancient symbol of love
515
00:25:26.451 --> 00:25:28.956
because it has neither
a beginning nor an end.
516
00:25:29.023 --> 00:25:31.829
It is a reminder of both
your love for each other
517
00:25:31.896 --> 00:25:34.367
and of the promises
you've made today.
518
00:25:34.433 --> 00:25:36.572
- Spencer was on cloud nine.
519
00:25:36.639 --> 00:25:37.941
- You will never have
to question
520
00:25:38.007 --> 00:25:39.344
my love or devotion to you,
521
00:25:39.410 --> 00:25:40.479
because there's nothing else
522
00:25:40.547 --> 00:25:41.982
that I want to spend
my time doing
523
00:25:42.049 --> 00:25:44.120
except showing
you those things.
524
00:25:44.187 --> 00:25:45.188
I call you my dream girl
525
00:25:45.255 --> 00:25:47.426
because you
are so perfect to me.
526
00:25:47.493 --> 00:25:48.629
And yet I feel
like I'm dreaming
527
00:25:48.696 --> 00:25:49.932
every time I'm with you.
528
00:25:49.999 --> 00:25:52.469
- You make me laugh.
You listen.
529
00:25:52.537 --> 00:25:55.276
And, most importantly,
you love me unconditionally.
530
00:25:55.343 --> 00:25:58.817
Marrying you is the easiest
decision I've ever made.
531
00:25:58.883 --> 00:26:01.622
[romantic music]
532
00:26:01.689 --> 00:26:03.993
♪♪ ♪♪
533
00:26:04.060 --> 00:26:06.297
- Friends and family,
it is my privilege
534
00:26:06.364 --> 00:26:09.303
to present to you, finally...
535
00:26:09.370 --> 00:26:11.007
[laughter]
536
00:26:11.073 --> 00:26:14.381
Spencer and Jenifer Herron,
husband and wife.
537
00:26:14.447 --> 00:26:17.119
[cheers and applause]
538
00:26:17.186 --> 00:26:19.090
♪♪ ♪♪
539
00:26:19.156 --> 00:26:22.931
- Everybody laughed at that,
because they all agreed
540
00:26:22.997 --> 00:26:25.504
it was finally time
that we got together.
541
00:26:25.570 --> 00:26:28.475
[cheers and applause]
542
00:26:28.543 --> 00:26:31.515
CHRISTY: Spence, I want
to welcome you to our family.
543
00:26:31.582 --> 00:26:34.353
[crying] Thank you for loving
my sister the way that you do.
544
00:26:34.420 --> 00:26:37.894
[sniffles] I've never seen her
happier than she is with you.
545
00:26:37.961 --> 00:26:39.899
She lights up when she
talks about you
546
00:26:39.965 --> 00:26:42.069
and your future together.
547
00:26:42.136 --> 00:26:45.375
I am so happy to officially
be your little sis.
548
00:26:45.442 --> 00:26:47.647
[applause]
549
00:26:47.714 --> 00:26:50.185
KELLY: I had a feeling the
night of their wedding that
550
00:26:50.252 --> 00:26:51.622
that was going to be
something special,
551
00:26:51.688 --> 00:26:52.691
that these two, they--
552
00:26:52.758 --> 00:26:54.193
It was the right choice.
553
00:26:54.260 --> 00:26:57.199
[upbeat music]
554
00:26:57.266 --> 00:26:58.970
♪♪ ♪♪
555
00:26:59.037 --> 00:27:01.975
GAIL: You could just see it
on their faces.
556
00:27:02.042 --> 00:27:05.348
It was like
these two beaming faces.
557
00:27:05.415 --> 00:27:08.723
They were so happy.
558
00:27:08.790 --> 00:27:15.903
♪♪ ♪♪
559
00:27:21.047 --> 00:27:23.184
JENIFER:
After we got married,
560
00:27:23.251 --> 00:27:26.491
we just always
had fun together.
561
00:27:26.558 --> 00:27:28.495
SPENCER:
Hey, Jen, listen,
562
00:27:28.563 --> 00:27:31.669
I'm having a great time,
and I will be skiing tomorrow.
563
00:27:31.735 --> 00:27:33.740
So we can have a lot more fun
together,
564
00:27:33.806 --> 00:27:35.175
which would be great.
565
00:27:35.242 --> 00:27:38.749
And I may even hit a jump
to impress you, if I can.
566
00:27:38.816 --> 00:27:40.352
I love you so much.
567
00:27:40.419 --> 00:27:43.526
- He left me a note
every single morning
568
00:27:43.593 --> 00:27:46.130
by the coffee pot.
569
00:27:46.197 --> 00:27:47.567
JEFFREY:
I was thinking,
570
00:27:47.634 --> 00:27:52.376
why did he feel
the need to do this every day?
571
00:27:52.443 --> 00:27:54.346
That felt so over the top.
572
00:27:54.413 --> 00:27:56.284
- [laughs]
573
00:27:56.351 --> 00:27:58.154
JEFFREY: Was that a flag?
I don't know.
574
00:27:58.221 --> 00:28:02.229
But it was unusual behavior,
in my mind.
575
00:28:03.533 --> 00:28:06.939
JENIFER: He always checked in
during the day,
576
00:28:07.006 --> 00:28:10.111
always making sure
if I needed anything.
577
00:28:11.715 --> 00:28:14.220
You know, it was a big deal
578
00:28:14.287 --> 00:28:16.892
to be married to one another.
579
00:28:16.959 --> 00:28:18.562
We both love coffee,
580
00:28:18.629 --> 00:28:20.967
and so we were walking
around one day and thought,
581
00:28:21.034 --> 00:28:24.073
oh, we should open a coffee bar
on Main Street.
582
00:28:24.140 --> 00:28:26.010
Like, that's what
this town needs.
583
00:28:26.077 --> 00:28:29.851
So it ended up
kind of developing over time,
584
00:28:29.918 --> 00:28:33.559
and a wine bar
became available.
585
00:28:33.626 --> 00:28:36.498
So we ended up
taking the wine bar over,
586
00:28:36.566 --> 00:28:39.504
right on Main Street
in downtown Acworth.
587
00:28:39.571 --> 00:28:43.144
♪♪ ♪♪
588
00:28:45.282 --> 00:28:47.687
ANDREA:
It is really cute here.
589
00:28:47.754 --> 00:28:50.025
- So this is the old wine bar.
590
00:28:50.091 --> 00:28:51.862
- This is the old wine bar.
- Yeah.
591
00:28:51.929 --> 00:28:54.133
ANDREA: Wow.
JENIFER: Yeah.
592
00:28:54.199 --> 00:28:57.640
It really became that hangout
for the neighborhood.
593
00:28:57.707 --> 00:29:01.114
♪♪ ♪♪
594
00:29:01.181 --> 00:29:04.821
There was definitely something
special about that time.
595
00:29:04.888 --> 00:29:06.559
- It's been over 24 hours,
596
00:29:06.625 --> 00:29:08.529
but Jenifer and I have been
a little bit busy
597
00:29:08.596 --> 00:29:11.201
running our wine bar, so here's
our Ice Bucket Challenge.
598
00:29:11.268 --> 00:29:14.006
Are you ready?
[both screaming]
599
00:29:14.073 --> 00:29:16.979
[Jenifer laughing]
600
00:29:17.046 --> 00:29:20.252
♪♪ ♪♪
601
00:29:20.319 --> 00:29:23.224
We both, though, were
working full-time jobs,
602
00:29:23.291 --> 00:29:25.630
at the same time trying
to run this wine bar.
603
00:29:25.697 --> 00:29:27.266
So it wasn't easy.
604
00:29:27.332 --> 00:29:31.107
We ended up selling it about
two years after we opened it.
605
00:29:31.174 --> 00:29:34.848
KIM WIGINTON: But there were
things happening there,
606
00:29:34.915 --> 00:29:39.123
and she never realized
anything was going on.
607
00:29:39.190 --> 00:29:42.229
ANDREA: After, you know,
what happened in there,
608
00:29:42.296 --> 00:29:43.966
is that hard for you
to walk by it?
609
00:29:44.033 --> 00:29:45.803
Or are you kind of over that?
JENIFER: Yeah.
610
00:29:45.870 --> 00:29:47.306
It happened everywhere.
611
00:29:47.373 --> 00:29:49.778
I could let any
of this affect me.
612
00:29:49.845 --> 00:29:52.517
I drive by it all
every single day.
613
00:29:52.584 --> 00:29:54.086
- It's true.
614
00:29:54.153 --> 00:29:57.459
- But I don't
because I want to be here.
615
00:29:57.527 --> 00:30:01.000
And I have
so many good memories.
616
00:30:01.067 --> 00:30:04.340
I have great memories
of the wine bar.
617
00:30:04.407 --> 00:30:06.679
ANDREA: When she first started
living in Acworth,
618
00:30:06.745 --> 00:30:11.054
Jen really was able to bounce
back and find opportunities
619
00:30:11.120 --> 00:30:13.392
as a producer in Atlanta.
620
00:30:13.458 --> 00:30:16.364
[soft music]
621
00:30:16.431 --> 00:30:17.767
♪♪ ♪♪
622
00:30:17.834 --> 00:30:21.775
JENIFER: Spencer continued
to teach video production,
623
00:30:21.842 --> 00:30:23.411
now at Kell High School.
624
00:30:23.478 --> 00:30:26.217
♪♪ ♪♪
625
00:30:26.284 --> 00:30:30.560
And he was
Teacher of the Year twice.
626
00:30:30.627 --> 00:30:34.066
He had a lot of respect
at the school.
627
00:30:34.133 --> 00:30:37.472
♪♪ ♪♪
628
00:30:37.540 --> 00:30:40.245
Spencer also continued
to be deployed on occasion
629
00:30:40.312 --> 00:30:43.351
with the
Air National Guard Band.
630
00:30:43.417 --> 00:30:45.690
- Good morning, kids.
Coach Herron again.
631
00:30:45.757 --> 00:30:47.660
Wanted to give you a report
of what's going on today.
632
00:30:47.727 --> 00:30:49.531
We played for a middle school
this morning,
633
00:30:49.598 --> 00:30:52.303
really early, for almost
890 middle-school kids.
634
00:30:52.370 --> 00:30:54.273
It was fabulous.
We had a great time.
635
00:30:54.340 --> 00:30:56.177
So we got through with a huge
rehearsal with the Army band.
636
00:30:56.244 --> 00:30:57.947
You can see all these
flags behind me.
637
00:30:58.014 --> 00:30:59.083
We have this big ordeal
638
00:30:59.150 --> 00:31:01.053
going on tonight
and tomorrow, nonstop.
639
00:31:01.120 --> 00:31:02.790
We don't stop working,
and neither should you,
640
00:31:02.857 --> 00:31:03.893
'cause I'm watching you.
641
00:31:03.960 --> 00:31:05.362
You know what I'm
talking about.
642
00:31:05.428 --> 00:31:07.165
- He would be deployed
for a little while,
643
00:31:07.232 --> 00:31:09.303
and she would miss him
so badly.
644
00:31:09.369 --> 00:31:12.744
And then Jenifer might go work
on a show
645
00:31:12.811 --> 00:31:16.852
somewhere out of state,
and he would miss her.
646
00:31:16.919 --> 00:31:19.156
♪♪ ♪♪
647
00:31:19.223 --> 00:31:20.727
SPENCER:
Hello, gorgeous.
648
00:31:20.794 --> 00:31:22.196
I am almost packed,
649
00:31:22.263 --> 00:31:23.966
but I wanted you
to hear my voice
650
00:31:24.033 --> 00:31:25.670
one last time in Germany
651
00:31:25.737 --> 00:31:29.912
to tell you that I'm coming
home to you and I cannot wait.
652
00:31:29.978 --> 00:31:32.517
- It was the ideal marriage.
653
00:31:33.553 --> 00:31:37.092
[light music]
654
00:31:37.159 --> 00:31:39.765
JENIFER:
I was working in Nashville,
655
00:31:39.832 --> 00:31:43.171
and Spence had been home
from being deployed
656
00:31:43.238 --> 00:31:45.510
for about six weeks.
657
00:31:45.577 --> 00:31:49.050
So I finished up my show
658
00:31:49.116 --> 00:31:52.489
and got up really early
that morning
659
00:31:52.557 --> 00:31:54.226
to pack up my car,
660
00:31:54.293 --> 00:31:57.432
head back home
to go see Spence again,
661
00:31:57.499 --> 00:32:00.238
because we hadn't seen
each other very much.
662
00:32:00.305 --> 00:32:02.510
He had been deployed
for five months.
663
00:32:02.577 --> 00:32:06.383
♪♪ ♪♪
664
00:32:06.450 --> 00:32:08.722
I was excited driving home.
665
00:32:08.789 --> 00:32:10.291
I've got the windows down,
666
00:32:10.358 --> 00:32:12.128
the music cranked up,
listening
667
00:32:12.195 --> 00:32:14.433
to Natasha Bedingfield's
"Unwritten."
668
00:32:14.500 --> 00:32:17.373
BEDINGFIELD:
♪♪ Feel the rain on your skin ♪♪
669
00:32:17.439 --> 00:32:19.544
It was just one
of those beautiful days.
670
00:32:19.611 --> 00:32:23.418
I pulled into the driveway
of our house,
671
00:32:23.485 --> 00:32:27.025
expecting him
to come outside to greet me.
672
00:32:27.092 --> 00:32:28.929
♪♪ ♪♪
673
00:32:28.996 --> 00:32:31.535
And nothing this time.
674
00:32:32.804 --> 00:32:35.342
Little did I know,
I was married to a man
675
00:32:35.408 --> 00:32:37.714
who had done something
so horrible
676
00:32:37.781 --> 00:32:40.754
that it would devastate our
lives and change us forever.
677
00:32:40.820 --> 00:32:43.725
[ominous music]
678
00:32:47.601 --> 00:32:50.138
JENIFER: Spence had been
deployed for five months,
679
00:32:50.205 --> 00:32:53.679
so I'm going home
to see my husband.
680
00:32:53.745 --> 00:32:57.720
And I parked,
but he didn't greet me.
681
00:32:57.787 --> 00:33:01.160
He would always greet me when
I would come home, always.
682
00:33:01.227 --> 00:33:03.900
And I just thought
it was really strange.
683
00:33:03.966 --> 00:33:06.170
We've been married
seven years now,
684
00:33:06.237 --> 00:33:08.208
and you don't come
and greet me anymore?
685
00:33:08.274 --> 00:33:10.646
[dramatic music]
686
00:33:10.713 --> 00:33:15.121
And I remember walking in
through the kitchen.
687
00:33:15.188 --> 00:33:17.527
And I even shouted out to him
688
00:33:17.594 --> 00:33:21.234
'cause I could see him sitting
in the living room.
689
00:33:21.301 --> 00:33:22.937
And he doesn't move.
690
00:33:23.004 --> 00:33:27.012
♪♪ ♪♪
691
00:33:27.079 --> 00:33:28.515
He's just sitting
on the couch,
692
00:33:28.582 --> 00:33:31.888
and I can see the back
of his head just hanging,
693
00:33:31.955 --> 00:33:34.259
and he's shaking his head.
694
00:33:34.326 --> 00:33:36.832
So I walk over to him.
695
00:33:36.899 --> 00:33:38.802
♪♪ ♪♪
696
00:33:38.869 --> 00:33:43.612
And he's just saying,
it's over, it's over, it's--
697
00:33:43.679 --> 00:33:46.216
it's all over.
698
00:33:46.283 --> 00:33:47.486
And I sat down next to him.
699
00:33:47.553 --> 00:33:49.223
I said, what are
you talking about?
700
00:33:49.289 --> 00:33:50.491
What's going on?
701
00:33:50.559 --> 00:33:54.333
And there's this piece of paper
702
00:33:54.399 --> 00:33:57.238
on the table in front of us,
703
00:33:57.305 --> 00:33:59.645
and I notice that it says
"search warrant"
704
00:33:59.711 --> 00:34:02.082
on the top of it.
705
00:34:02.148 --> 00:34:06.424
And then I just remember seeing
the words "sexual assault"
706
00:34:06.491 --> 00:34:08.161
and the word "student."
707
00:34:08.228 --> 00:34:13.639
♪♪ ♪♪
708
00:34:13.706 --> 00:34:16.110
I look up
over at the front door,
709
00:34:16.176 --> 00:34:18.047
and it was a double door,
710
00:34:18.114 --> 00:34:21.889
and there was a splinter
down the middle.
711
00:34:21.956 --> 00:34:24.359
I was in such shock.
712
00:34:24.426 --> 00:34:27.299
The police have been in our
house when we weren't there.
713
00:34:27.366 --> 00:34:30.707
They kicked in the door
to get in.
714
00:34:30.773 --> 00:34:34.848
I just thought that maybe
someone was accusing him
715
00:34:34.915 --> 00:34:36.317
of doing something,
716
00:34:36.384 --> 00:34:38.689
because there was no way
717
00:34:38.756 --> 00:34:41.160
that he would have taken
advantage
718
00:34:41.227 --> 00:34:43.264
of one of his students.
719
00:34:43.331 --> 00:34:45.870
It just wasn't...
720
00:34:45.937 --> 00:34:48.976
It couldn't be possible.
721
00:34:49.043 --> 00:34:53.585
And I just got up and started
pacing back and forth.
722
00:34:53.652 --> 00:34:57.226
And then the police
pulled up in the driveway.
723
00:34:57.293 --> 00:35:00.532
SINGER:
♪♪ Love is ♪♪
724
00:35:00.599 --> 00:35:04.172
♪♪ Our only battle ♪♪
725
00:35:04.239 --> 00:35:07.045
[Laplace's
"My Blood Runs Cold"]
726
00:35:07.112 --> 00:35:14.528
♪♪ ♪♪
727
00:35:15.462 --> 00:35:20.338
- I opened the door for them,
which just feels so weird.
728
00:35:20.405 --> 00:35:23.144
It was like I was welcoming
them into the home.
729
00:35:23.211 --> 00:35:26.250
But I just knew
that was the next step.
730
00:35:26.317 --> 00:35:28.187
They were coming in.
731
00:35:28.254 --> 00:35:35.369
♪♪ ♪♪
732
00:35:35.435 --> 00:35:39.343
As they're handcuffing Spence,
they didn't say anything.
733
00:35:39.409 --> 00:35:41.615
When they arrested him,
they didn't say,
734
00:35:41.682 --> 00:35:45.222
you have a right to remain
silent or anything like that.
735
00:35:45.288 --> 00:35:46.858
They just handcuffed him.
736
00:35:46.925 --> 00:35:50.967
And so I said, what are
you arresting him for?
737
00:35:51.033 --> 00:35:54.473
Like, I wanted to know
exactly what it was,
738
00:35:54.541 --> 00:35:57.379
because I thought that they
were supposed to tell you.
739
00:35:57.446 --> 00:36:00.986
Well, he yells out,
don't tell her anything.
740
00:36:01.053 --> 00:36:04.326
I didn't know
what to make of that.
741
00:36:04.393 --> 00:36:07.867
Why was he saying that
so angrily?
742
00:36:09.638 --> 00:36:12.911
The police didn't say a word.
743
00:36:12.977 --> 00:36:16.652
As they are taking him
literally out our front door
744
00:36:16.719 --> 00:36:19.524
and down the steps,
I yell out to the police,
745
00:36:19.591 --> 00:36:22.295
he's a really nice person.
746
00:36:22.362 --> 00:36:25.468
He's a really good person...
747
00:36:25.536 --> 00:36:28.241
because I wanted them to know,
748
00:36:28.307 --> 00:36:31.982
this must have just been
a mistake.
749
00:36:32.049 --> 00:36:35.088
It couldn't be real.
750
00:36:35.154 --> 00:36:36.625
SINGER:
♪♪ Fight ♪♪
751
00:36:36.691 --> 00:36:41.935
♪♪ Or you'll sink like a stone
in the darkest night ♪♪
752
00:36:42.002 --> 00:36:44.941
♪♪ In the darkest night ♪♪
753
00:36:45.007 --> 00:36:48.715
♪♪ My blood runs cold ♪♪
754
00:36:48.782 --> 00:36:50.686
♪♪ ♪♪
755
00:36:54.092 --> 00:36:56.497
[dramatic music]
756
00:36:56.565 --> 00:36:59.336
- I couldn't believe it.
757
00:36:59.403 --> 00:37:03.244
I just watched my soul mate...
758
00:37:03.310 --> 00:37:07.920
being led to a police car
down my driveway.
759
00:37:07.987 --> 00:37:12.095
♪♪ ♪♪
760
00:37:12.162 --> 00:37:16.437
- Teacher of the Year is
now charged with sex crimes.
761
00:37:16.504 --> 00:37:19.510
- A lot of people didn't
believe that it was true.
762
00:37:19.577 --> 00:37:22.081
- There had to be
something wrong--
763
00:37:22.148 --> 00:37:24.854
maybe a student
who didn't like her grade,
764
00:37:24.921 --> 00:37:28.328
or she made passes at him,
and he told her no.
765
00:37:28.394 --> 00:37:30.799
- You don't always know
what the truth is.
766
00:37:30.866 --> 00:37:33.471
I mean, someone can say
something about somebody
767
00:37:33.539 --> 00:37:35.274
just to hurt their reputation--
you don't know.
768
00:37:35.341 --> 00:37:37.379
- I would always want to know
the history of this person
769
00:37:37.446 --> 00:37:38.782
making the complaint as well.
770
00:37:38.849 --> 00:37:40.752
You know, what kind of history
do they have?
771
00:37:40.819 --> 00:37:43.023
Could they have provoked
something like that?
772
00:37:44.861 --> 00:37:48.768
- I had even told her,
Jenifer, I'll go to court.
773
00:37:48.835 --> 00:37:51.608
I'll testify.
I'll testify for his character.
774
00:37:51.675 --> 00:37:54.212
I thought, her husband
has been accused of something
775
00:37:54.279 --> 00:37:56.284
that he obviously didn't do.
776
00:37:56.350 --> 00:37:58.889
His career is ruined,
777
00:37:58.956 --> 00:38:01.194
and here she is,
left standing alone
778
00:38:01.260 --> 00:38:03.197
to pick up the pieces.
779
00:38:03.264 --> 00:38:05.134
♪♪ ♪♪
780
00:38:05.201 --> 00:38:08.074
JENIFER: There was
a lot of things going on
781
00:38:08.141 --> 00:38:11.782
around this and not knowing
what was going to happen.
782
00:38:11.848 --> 00:38:14.721
Are we going to be able
to bail him out?
783
00:38:14.788 --> 00:38:17.392
I went and got cash
out of the bank.
784
00:38:17.459 --> 00:38:19.931
And they gave Spence
785
00:38:19.998 --> 00:38:22.469
a $50,000 cash bond.
786
00:38:22.537 --> 00:38:24.641
So he couldn't get out,
787
00:38:24.707 --> 00:38:27.145
because
that's just a lot of money.
788
00:38:27.212 --> 00:38:29.817
ANDREA: Jen and Spencer
had just bought a house
789
00:38:29.884 --> 00:38:31.989
within, I think,
that last year.
790
00:38:32.055 --> 00:38:33.559
They didn't have the money.
791
00:38:33.625 --> 00:38:36.698
With the bail set at that
level, he wasn't getting out.
792
00:38:36.765 --> 00:38:41.373
SINGER: ♪♪ Everybody knows
that the truth is a liar ♪♪
793
00:38:41.440 --> 00:38:43.812
♪♪ ♪♪
794
00:38:43.879 --> 00:38:46.851
[vocalizing]
795
00:38:46.918 --> 00:38:51.962
♪♪ ♪♪
796
00:38:52.028 --> 00:38:55.468
- The story broke
about Spence's arrest
797
00:38:55.536 --> 00:38:57.372
and was all over the news.
798
00:38:57.439 --> 00:38:59.644
NEWSCASTER: A Cobb County
Teacher of the Year
799
00:38:59.710 --> 00:39:02.015
has been indicted
on sexual-assault charges.
800
00:39:02.081 --> 00:39:04.086
NEWSCASTER 2: Herron
is a video-production teacher
801
00:39:04.153 --> 00:39:05.188
at Kell High School.
802
00:39:05.255 --> 00:39:06.792
NEWSCASTER 3:
An investigation found
803
00:39:06.859 --> 00:39:09.296
that a student is alleging
she had sex with Herron.
804
00:39:09.363 --> 00:39:14.272
SINGER: ♪♪ Everybody knows
that the truth is a liar ♪♪
805
00:39:14.339 --> 00:39:16.410
♪♪ ♪♪
806
00:39:16.477 --> 00:39:19.416
[vocalizing]
807
00:39:19.483 --> 00:39:22.524
JENIFER: I was getting phone
calls and texts all the time,
808
00:39:22.590 --> 00:39:26.063
and people were making
comments about it
809
00:39:26.129 --> 00:39:28.401
on Facebook and on his page.
810
00:39:28.468 --> 00:39:29.871
My sister called me.
811
00:39:29.937 --> 00:39:33.077
She said, you really need
to take down his social media.
812
00:39:33.144 --> 00:39:37.452
So, two days
after Spence was arrested,
813
00:39:37.520 --> 00:39:41.561
I got
into his Facebook account.
814
00:39:41.628 --> 00:39:48.408
♪♪ ♪♪
815
00:39:48.474 --> 00:39:53.117
That led me
into his email account.
816
00:39:53.184 --> 00:39:56.223
So I get into his email.
817
00:39:56.290 --> 00:39:59.129
[suspenseful music]
818
00:39:59.196 --> 00:40:02.570
And I click on the folder
that says "photos."
819
00:40:02.636 --> 00:40:05.208
And I start scrolling down,
820
00:40:05.275 --> 00:40:06.912
and all of a sudden,
821
00:40:06.978 --> 00:40:10.218
there's a photo
of a woman half-naked.
822
00:40:10.285 --> 00:40:11.921
And then there's another one.
823
00:40:11.988 --> 00:40:15.061
And then there's another
different woman, naked.
824
00:40:15.128 --> 00:40:17.499
♪♪ ♪♪
825
00:40:17.567 --> 00:40:18.969
And I just kept looking,
826
00:40:19.036 --> 00:40:23.512
and it was woman
after woman after woman.
827
00:40:23.579 --> 00:40:26.383
♪♪ ♪♪
828
00:40:26.450 --> 00:40:29.356
And then I found emails
829
00:40:29.422 --> 00:40:31.561
and messages
830
00:40:31.628 --> 00:40:35.034
between him and these women.
831
00:40:35.101 --> 00:40:37.774
♪♪ ♪♪
832
00:40:37.840 --> 00:40:40.980
He was living a double life.
833
00:40:41.046 --> 00:40:45.455
Who was this predator
that I was married to?
834
00:40:45.522 --> 00:40:47.660
I never would have imagined
835
00:40:47.727 --> 00:40:52.235
the scope of what he had done.
836
00:40:52.302 --> 00:40:55.609
♪♪ ♪♪
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