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Man: You know, you
want me to tell you
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something really
interesting, man?
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I was gonna wear a suit
in this interview,
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but I thought it would
have been too much,
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so I might as well put
these nice sweatpants on
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and this nice shirt on.
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It's a little too--
you know, too much, I think.
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But next time, when we
have a good interview,
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I'll wear a suit, OK?
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Woman: One thing I
will mention is that
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at times, you know,
if you ask a question,
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there may be oc-occasions where
I--it may take me a little while
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to respond, um, but that's
only because, um, it's--
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I'm just trying to process
the--the incoming speech,
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and then I'm trying to verbally
process the answer.
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So you may hear a pause,
you know, at times, so...
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Man, voice-over: I'm
from St. Paul, Minnesota.
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I--I like living in St. Paul.
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Different man, voice-over:
I never knew for sure
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if I was gonna get married
or not, so that is something
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that, um, I never was really
fixated on doing.
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It's always been important to me
to have somebody in my life,
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but whether or not I was
married to that person,
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I wasn't sure about.
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So, what kind of questions
you got to ask me?
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Good. I feel good
about documentaries.
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I'm comfortable
with looking at--
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anywhere on the camera,
actually, so...
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Hello? I'd like to
buy a cigar.
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Yeah. Just one?
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Let me see that
big one up there.
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Hey, I got something
to ask you.
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Did you hear about that
one basketball coach
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that lived a long
time ago?
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What happened to him?
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The bask--the Celtics
coach...
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Uh-huh.
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Red Auerbach.
Did you ever
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hear about that guy?
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No.
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I'll tell you
what he did.
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Tell me what you
think about this, OK?
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Every time--OK. He was
stubborn, arrogant,
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and he was a jerk, OK?
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All right.
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And every time
he won a big game--
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he won 9 championships--
OK.
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Every time he won
a big game, he would--
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He'd smoke a cigar.
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He would smoke
a cigar, and--
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It's a celebration.
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Hold on.
He would rub it
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in the other team's
face.
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Well, it's
a cele--
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No, he would, like...
He was--
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It's a celebration.
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How much is this thing?
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That's $9.80.
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Out of $10.
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[Cash register beeps]
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20 cents back.
Would you like a bag?
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I'm good.
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Have a great
weekend.
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You, too.
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Woman: I knew that there
was something special
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with Lenny right away.
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And he would always, like,
move his hands, like,
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he would, like, get excited
and move his hands,
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and he was very--always really,
really meticulous about stuff,
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even when he was little,
like where it needed to be.
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He just--when he wouldn't talk,
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I knew that there was
something going on.
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It's been hard.
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You've got this kid that doesn't
really want to be autistic,
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and Lenny's smart enough to
know that he's different,
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and he doesn't like it.
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That's a big, big struggle.
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Lenny, voice-over:
Sometimes in my life,
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I try to pretend
I was never autistic.
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I felt like I had to
hide it from people
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because if they heard
you were it,
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then they would kind of...
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kind of laugh at you
a little bit.
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People would think to me, like,
you know, "He's cool,"
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and when they found out I was
in that situation,
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they would be like,
"Oh, he's kind of a weird kid.
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We shouldn't be
hanging out with him."
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Sometimes I feel
a little bit scared
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because let's say you go--
you see a girl
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and she likes you
and all this stuff,
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and maybe if you admit
that you're autistic,
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maybe she'll be like, "I don't
want to be with you no more
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because you're autistic."
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I don't know. That could be
a little hurtful, a little bit.
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I'm single, by the way.
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I've been single
for a long time.
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Had one girlfriend, but it
didn't quite work out that well.
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I don't want to talk about that.
Is that OK?
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It's just, you know,
bad memories.
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She was really not very nice,
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and I know that sex
was a really big issue
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because she had wanted
to have sex
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and Lenny didn't want to,
and, um,
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they split up for a while,
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and then when he got back
together with her,
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they ended up having sex,
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and it wasn't, like,
a good thing.
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Like, I really didn't realize
how little Leonard knew
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until recently.
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Like, he didn't know anything.
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I just want to tell those young
kids, "Don't have sex yet."
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You know, you're gonna
get screwed one day.
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Well, you can have sex
with the girl or the guy
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for both of you when--I feel
like it doesn't have to happen
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the first day.
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No way. You're jumping the gun.
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You're shooting
the gun right away.
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You've got to do it
when it's, like,
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a couple of months
into it, man.
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Or maybe a year.
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When you get married.
That's what I think.
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Don't have sex
on the first date.
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That's not love right there.
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That's just--that's not love
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when you do it
on the first date,
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when you meet someone
for the first time or--
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that's called reckless love.
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That's called reckless.
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Kathy: He's lonely.
He wants a girlfriend.
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And his dad's not around,
and he just doesn't have
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that positive male role model
to kind of tell him, like,
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"This is how you do it.
This is what you do.
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"This is"--you know,
he's got me.
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He's got Mom.
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[Indistinct voice on TV]
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Dave: I met Lindsey at
a national autism conference
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from the Autism Society
of America
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in Nashville, Tennessee,
in July of 2005.
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We started calling it
a relationship
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in the fall of that year,
maybe 3 or 4 months later
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when we met up
at another conference,
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and I asked her,
"How would you feel
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about being in
a relationship with me?"
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She said, "Well, I'm confused,
but I could see if this maybe--
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this may work."
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She was confused at first,
but she could see this working.
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"We'll give it a try."
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[Door opens]
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Hi!
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Hi!
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How are you?
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I'm good.
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Welcome home.
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Thank you.
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Lindsey, voice-over: I think
that autism definitely
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presents unique challenges
to our relationship.
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Our particular routines
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and rigidities and our--our
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particular comfort zones and...
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we're so fixated on--on that
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that it's sometimes difficult
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to communicate to each other.
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Love your necklace.
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Oh! Thanks.
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Do you know--
did I ever tell you,
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um, one bene--
one reason I love
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jewelry so much is
because it gives me
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a, um--a sort
of a sh--a shield
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to sort of protect
myself from sort of
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vulnerable elements?
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That's--that's news
to me, actually.
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I didn't know that.
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Oh, really?
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Vulnerable elements.
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Yeah. I kind of
discovered that
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after wearing
necklaces
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for the past
several--you know,
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the past--especially
the last 10 years.
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I've really been into
wearing heavy jewelry,
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and I discovered
a reason why it was--
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that it kind of makes
me--because I feel
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so vulnerable and feel
so, um, shy and...
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Mm-hmm.
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you know, introverted
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that wearing the jewelry
kind of makes me feel
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that sort of false
sense of confidence,
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and it kind of makes
me feel less vulnerable.
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It makes me feel like
it's sort of a shield,
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sort of protect myself
from feeling, um,
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more--more vulnerable.
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Well, it looks like
the weather just came on.
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I was gonna, like,
catch a glimpse here
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and see what he says
about the--
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Oh, of course. I can't
ever interrupt you
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from the weather.
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Well, you can always s--
be near me,
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but I may not
talk to you as much.
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Yeah, but--
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[Increases TV volume]
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Man on TV: 47. Not gonna
fall that fast tonight.
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Winds are still
gonna be a factor.
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Northwest at 16.
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I'm gonna go.
I'll be right back.
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OK.
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Man on TV: And it should
all be finished
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tomorrow night,
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which is a good thing.
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Satellite picture...
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Man on TV:
and lots of sunshine
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and 64 on Monday.
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Chance of showers
and rain Monday night
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into Tuesday...
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[Music box playing]
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Should we go rock
in your rocking chair?
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Shall we?
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Man, voice-over:
We tried to treat her
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as normally as
we possibly could,
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all the time making allowances
in our own mind
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for the fact that she might not
be able to do everything
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quite as fast or quite as well
or something like that
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but just trying to raise her as
normally as we possibly could.
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Here we go. Ah!
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Here we go.
Here we go.
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Here we go.
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Here we go.
Come on. Lindsey?
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Gordon, voice-over: We all,
evidently, come equipped
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with a social antenna that we
don't even realize we have.
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We know instinctively
when we are getting
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too close to someone physically,
when we seem to be pushing them
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a little further than
they want to be pushed,
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when maybe we should back off
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and not be quite so bossy
or controlling.
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Lindsey didn't have the antenna.
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Gordon: Lindsey,
can you wave?
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Say--Lindsey.
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Here's the water.
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Lindsey.
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Woman: She just asked
me to put the hat
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back on her.
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Different woman: Cute.
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Gordon: Lindsey.
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[Toddler crying]
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Gordon: Can you wave?
Can you wave?
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Child: Yeah.
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Gordon: Yeah.
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Gordon, voice-over:
It's sort of mystifying,
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but the absence
of that antenna,
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very hard.
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That was very
challenging for her.
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She wanted to fit in.
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Man: Oh. Has anybody
seen Lindsey?
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Group: Where is Lindsey?
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[Laughter]
255
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Woman: There she is!
256
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There she is. Yeah.
257
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Woman: Lesser-known names
for 600, please.
258
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Alex Trebek: Senator Robert
Wagner sponsored the act--
259
00:12:37,893 --> 00:12:39,527
Man: What is the National
Labor Relations Board?
260
00:12:39,595 --> 00:12:41,963
What is the National Labor
Relations Board?
261
00:12:42,031 --> 00:12:43,131
Alex: Rob.
262
00:12:43,198 --> 00:12:44,165
Rob: What is the National
Labor Relations Board?
263
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Alex: Correct.
264
00:12:45,234 --> 00:12:46,367
Rob: Compound words
for 400.
265
00:12:46,435 --> 00:12:48,202
Alex: Motorcyclist
Evel Knievel
266
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is called this
on his tombstone...
267
00:12:50,005 --> 00:12:51,005
What's a daredevil?
268
00:12:51,073 --> 00:12:52,106
Alex: and by
the Smithsonian.
269
00:12:52,174 --> 00:12:53,174
Man: What's a daredevil?
270
00:12:53,242 --> 00:12:54,175
Alex: Joshua.
271
00:12:54,243 --> 00:12:55,076
Joshua: What is
a daredevil?
272
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Alex: That's it.
273
00:12:56,245 --> 00:12:57,979
I did very well,
huh?
274
00:12:58,047 --> 00:12:58,980
You did very well.
275
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Thank you.
276
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I'm proud of you.
277
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Thank you.
278
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Woman on TV: Monday
at 6:30...
279
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Matt: What are you having
for dinner tonight?
280
00:13:13,696 --> 00:13:17,332
Uh, sole--fish
with mashed potatoes.
281
00:13:17,399 --> 00:13:19,067
Have you got
mashed potatoes?
282
00:13:19,134 --> 00:13:20,969
Woman: Not yet.
283
00:13:21,036 --> 00:13:22,036
Matt:
Are you cooking?
284
00:13:22,104 --> 00:13:23,171
My mother
is cooking.
285
00:13:23,238 --> 00:13:25,106
Matt: Oh, OK.
Do you ever cook?
286
00:13:25,174 --> 00:13:27,175
I cook hot dogs
every Sunday.
287
00:13:27,242 --> 00:13:29,310
I cook hot dogs
every Sunday.
288
00:13:34,650 --> 00:13:35,850
Matt: When he was young,
did you think
289
00:13:35,918 --> 00:13:38,953
that he would be capable
of a romantic relationship?
290
00:13:39,021 --> 00:13:40,688
[Sigh]
291
00:13:40,756 --> 00:13:45,126
No. I didn't dare hope.
I didn't dare hope.
292
00:13:47,863 --> 00:13:49,464
Man, voice-over: Although, uh,
293
00:13:49,531 --> 00:13:51,966
his expression was not there,
294
00:13:52,034 --> 00:13:54,202
but he had knowledge.
295
00:13:55,971 --> 00:13:58,706
[Stephen reading
prayer in Hebrew]
296
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Mother: But of course,
297
00:14:07,383 --> 00:14:11,886
he still does not elaborate
and doesn't express himself
298
00:14:11,954 --> 00:14:15,690
too--too well about
his real feelings.
299
00:14:22,231 --> 00:14:26,367
His language is still
not up to the way
300
00:14:26,435 --> 00:14:28,369
it should be.
301
00:14:28,437 --> 00:14:31,172
He talks, and he
communicates, and...
302
00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:32,273
But in
a certain way.
303
00:14:32,341 --> 00:14:34,042
In a certain way.
304
00:14:35,644 --> 00:14:37,812
Matt: So tell me more
about your job, Stephen.
305
00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:38,813
Well, I was doing
assembly work,
306
00:14:38,881 --> 00:14:40,214
and I was working
in stamps,
307
00:14:40,282 --> 00:14:41,983
and I worked on trays.
308
00:14:42,051 --> 00:14:43,084
What's trays?
309
00:14:43,152 --> 00:14:44,886
Trays just means
to fold for the U--
310
00:14:44,953 --> 00:14:46,821
for the United
States Postal Service.
311
00:14:46,889 --> 00:14:49,957
Oh, OK. And so
when you do stamps,
312
00:14:50,025 --> 00:14:51,893
what--tell me what
you have to do for stamps.
313
00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:54,128
To put them
in envelopes.
314
00:14:55,898 --> 00:14:57,231
How many do you do
a day, would you say?
315
00:14:57,299 --> 00:14:58,566
Uh, 500.
316
00:14:58,634 --> 00:14:59,667
Wow. That's a big
workload.
317
00:14:59,735 --> 00:15:01,936
Yes.
Wow.
318
00:15:02,004 --> 00:15:03,237
And how many hours
a day do you work?
319
00:15:03,305 --> 00:15:06,107
8 hours, from 7:00
until 3:00.
320
00:15:06,175 --> 00:15:07,642
OK. How do you get
to work?
321
00:15:07,710 --> 00:15:09,177
By bus.
322
00:15:09,244 --> 00:15:11,012
Do you take one bus
or more than one?
323
00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:12,647
Just the bus.
Just one bus.
324
00:15:12,715 --> 00:15:13,948
Just one bus.
Yes.
325
00:15:14,016 --> 00:15:15,183
Oh. Do you like
the bus?
326
00:15:15,250 --> 00:15:16,584
Yes.
327
00:15:46,014 --> 00:15:50,618
Edith, voice-over: Our aim was
he should become independent.
328
00:15:50,686 --> 00:15:54,122
He should be able to
hold down a job.
329
00:15:55,758 --> 00:15:58,126
That, thank God,
we accomplished
330
00:15:58,193 --> 00:16:01,162
without him being
institutionalized.
331
00:16:15,544 --> 00:16:18,279
Lenny: He's a bad man, this guy.
332
00:16:24,486 --> 00:16:25,486
Kathy: What's up,
dude?
333
00:16:25,554 --> 00:16:27,155
Lenny: What's up,
Mom?
334
00:16:27,222 --> 00:16:29,390
Let me finish up
the game first.
335
00:16:29,458 --> 00:16:31,659
Come on.
336
00:16:31,727 --> 00:16:32,660
So we talked about
337
00:16:32,728 --> 00:16:34,295
a dating website
a little bit.
338
00:16:34,363 --> 00:16:37,365
Yeah. I think I might
want to do that.
339
00:16:37,432 --> 00:16:39,167
What would you put if you
were, like, putting, like--
340
00:16:39,234 --> 00:16:40,601
I don't know.
It's hard to say.
341
00:16:40,669 --> 00:16:41,669
I like to keep it
private
342
00:16:41,737 --> 00:16:42,737
to me and you only.
343
00:16:42,805 --> 00:16:43,738
I'm gonna be serious.
344
00:16:43,806 --> 00:16:46,507
I'm not gonna be
no joking around.
345
00:16:46,575 --> 00:16:48,476
OK, if you were gonna
put on a dating website,
346
00:16:48,544 --> 00:16:51,012
like, your interests--
347
00:16:51,079 --> 00:16:52,713
Sports.
348
00:16:52,781 --> 00:16:54,382
OK. What else?
349
00:16:54,449 --> 00:16:55,750
You wouldn't put--
how come you wouldn't
350
00:16:55,818 --> 00:16:57,952
put any of, like,
the Comic-Con stuff?
351
00:16:58,020 --> 00:16:59,086
Do you think
that's silly?
352
00:16:59,154 --> 00:17:00,154
Nope. I won't
do it.
353
00:17:00,222 --> 00:17:01,088
How come?
354
00:17:01,156 --> 00:17:02,657
Because I don't
want to.
355
00:17:02,724 --> 00:17:03,491
OK.
356
00:17:03,559 --> 00:17:04,692
That's you. That's--
357
00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:05,893
But why don't you--
you don't want to find
358
00:17:05,961 --> 00:17:06,994
somebody that likes
that kind of stuff, too?
359
00:17:07,062 --> 00:17:08,963
Nope.
360
00:17:09,031 --> 00:17:11,799
So, what other interests
would you put?
361
00:17:11,867 --> 00:17:13,901
I don't know.
362
00:17:16,305 --> 00:17:18,539
I'll be taken
more serious.
363
00:17:18,607 --> 00:17:20,274
So you want, like,
a serious girl?
364
00:17:20,342 --> 00:17:22,009
Yeah, a little bit.
365
00:17:22,077 --> 00:17:24,312
OK. A businesswoman?
366
00:17:24,379 --> 00:17:25,880
No, not completely,
367
00:17:25,948 --> 00:17:27,782
but I pay
for the dates.
368
00:17:27,850 --> 00:17:31,085
Me. That's the way
it goes.
369
00:17:31,153 --> 00:17:32,453
OK.
370
00:17:32,521 --> 00:17:33,554
That's the way
the show goes.
371
00:17:33,622 --> 00:17:35,423
I'm not gonna let her
pay for everything
372
00:17:35,490 --> 00:17:37,625
and me, you know,
I got to be the one
373
00:17:37,693 --> 00:17:40,127
that...
374
00:17:40,195 --> 00:17:42,196
is the more independent
one than her.
375
00:17:42,264 --> 00:17:44,031
But I don't think
that that's fair.
376
00:17:44,099 --> 00:17:45,066
No, it is fair.
377
00:17:45,133 --> 00:17:46,300
Kind of chauvinistic.
378
00:17:46,368 --> 00:17:47,368
No, it's not.
379
00:17:47,436 --> 00:17:48,436
I think a little bit.
380
00:17:48,503 --> 00:17:50,238
I mean, what if there's
a woman out there
381
00:17:50,305 --> 00:17:52,273
that is perfect for you
382
00:17:52,341 --> 00:17:53,474
but she makes more money
than you do?
383
00:17:53,542 --> 00:17:56,344
Nope.
I won't take her.
384
00:17:56,411 --> 00:17:58,579
I'm serious.
I won't take her.
385
00:18:00,048 --> 00:18:02,049
Kathy: He does not want
to be different.
386
00:18:02,117 --> 00:18:03,584
He just wants to be
like everybody else,
387
00:18:03,652 --> 00:18:06,854
so then he goes above
and, like, kind of goes
388
00:18:06,922 --> 00:18:09,257
beyond trying to fit in,
and everybody--
389
00:18:09,324 --> 00:18:11,525
I can see they're like,
"Why is he acting like this?"
390
00:18:11,593 --> 00:18:14,362
Like, we all know
Lenny's special,
391
00:18:14,429 --> 00:18:16,764
so he just needs to be
who he is, and he's not.
392
00:18:16,832 --> 00:18:18,633
He tries to be
something different.
393
00:18:18,700 --> 00:18:19,901
Lenny: I need to
be the one
394
00:18:19,968 --> 00:18:22,536
making more money.
395
00:18:22,604 --> 00:18:25,072
I hear so many
things about--
396
00:18:25,140 --> 00:18:26,674
I hear so many
YouTube videos
397
00:18:26,742 --> 00:18:27,675
about women.
398
00:18:27,743 --> 00:18:28,776
By men. OK--
399
00:18:28,844 --> 00:18:30,344
No. It's a woman
saying,
400
00:18:30,412 --> 00:18:32,546
"Don't be
with broke-ass men."
401
00:18:32,614 --> 00:18:34,181
Wow.
402
00:18:35,050 --> 00:18:35,950
These are the kind
of women--
403
00:18:36,018 --> 00:18:37,518
No, they're trying
to inform the women
404
00:18:37,586 --> 00:18:38,452
not to be
with broke men,
405
00:18:38,520 --> 00:18:39,453
and I don't want
to be--
406
00:18:39,521 --> 00:18:40,521
I don't want to be
a broke male
407
00:18:40,589 --> 00:18:41,489
with a woman.
408
00:18:41,556 --> 00:18:42,690
I don't want her
paying for everything.
409
00:18:42,758 --> 00:18:43,791
I need to be the one--
410
00:18:43,859 --> 00:18:45,526
You don't have to be
paying for everything--
411
00:18:45,594 --> 00:18:47,461
or she doesn't have to
be paying for everything.
412
00:18:47,529 --> 00:18:48,696
You could be paying
for stuff,
413
00:18:48,764 --> 00:18:50,731
but when you get into
a relationship with somebody,
414
00:18:50,799 --> 00:18:53,567
you're supposed to be
their partner. Partner.
415
00:18:53,635 --> 00:18:55,169
Well, I need to be
the one doing more.
416
00:18:55,237 --> 00:18:56,671
That's the way
it goes.
417
00:18:56,738 --> 00:18:58,272
I don't think
that's the way it goes.
418
00:18:58,340 --> 00:19:01,075
I think that you're
being misinformed
419
00:19:01,143 --> 00:19:04,011
by people that are just
not really great people.
420
00:19:04,079 --> 00:19:05,546
I think you're
being misinformed.
421
00:19:05,614 --> 00:19:06,614
I'm not.
422
00:19:06,682 --> 00:19:07,782
I think you are.
423
00:19:07,849 --> 00:19:08,816
What if you find
somebody--
424
00:19:08,884 --> 00:19:10,851
and I'm just saying
if you love somebody,
425
00:19:10,919 --> 00:19:12,320
it shouldn't matter.
426
00:19:12,387 --> 00:19:14,255
It should be, like,
you just love her,
427
00:19:14,323 --> 00:19:16,891
and maybe one day you'll
be making more money,
428
00:19:16,959 --> 00:19:18,526
and you guys just
support each other
429
00:19:18,593 --> 00:19:21,696
in that good kind of
like foundation and--
430
00:19:21,763 --> 00:19:23,097
It's just hard.
431
00:19:23,165 --> 00:19:24,932
It's just hard
to believe that.
432
00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:26,133
Why?
433
00:19:26,201 --> 00:19:28,569
It's just about being
the more independent one.
434
00:19:28,637 --> 00:19:30,471
But you will be
independent.
435
00:19:30,539 --> 00:19:31,872
You're going to
be independent.
436
00:19:31,940 --> 00:19:33,541
That is gonna
happen, Lenny.
437
00:19:33,608 --> 00:19:36,243
Sometimes it takes
a minute for people.
438
00:19:36,311 --> 00:19:40,581
It's hard. That transition
from fricking--into manhood?
439
00:19:40,649 --> 00:19:41,682
That thing, that's hard.
440
00:19:41,750 --> 00:19:42,717
I know.
441
00:19:42,784 --> 00:19:44,118
I couldn't even--
it was hard--
442
00:19:44,186 --> 00:19:46,387
I'm good,
though, Mom.
443
00:19:46,455 --> 00:19:47,755
I'm trying
to be good.
444
00:19:47,823 --> 00:19:49,090
Well, trying to be
good how?
445
00:19:49,157 --> 00:19:51,592
I want you
to feel good.
446
00:19:52,694 --> 00:19:53,761
I'm just going
through
447
00:19:53,829 --> 00:19:56,897
a little bit
of a struggle.
448
00:19:56,965 --> 00:19:58,833
I'm down on myself
too many times,
449
00:19:58,900 --> 00:20:01,769
and it's too tough
because I feel like
450
00:20:01,837 --> 00:20:03,804
I should be accept--
doing more in life.
451
00:20:03,872 --> 00:20:05,406
Do you think--
do you consider yourself
452
00:20:05,474 --> 00:20:06,941
like less sometimes?
453
00:20:07,009 --> 00:20:08,009
That's kind of what
I get.
454
00:20:08,076 --> 00:20:09,010
Sometimes.
455
00:20:09,077 --> 00:20:10,144
Why?
456
00:20:10,212 --> 00:20:11,746
I feel different.
457
00:20:11,813 --> 00:20:14,382
I feel better than being
autistic sometimes.
458
00:20:14,449 --> 00:20:16,117
Let's get past this.
459
00:20:16,184 --> 00:20:18,953
Let's get over this
and get on with it
460
00:20:19,021 --> 00:20:20,354
because you're
fricking awesome.
461
00:20:20,422 --> 00:20:22,323
I know. I know.
462
00:20:22,391 --> 00:20:23,391
I don't think you do.
463
00:20:23,458 --> 00:20:24,859
I know.
464
00:20:24,926 --> 00:20:27,828
I think you don't
and you need to know.
465
00:20:27,896 --> 00:20:29,630
OK.
I love you.
466
00:20:30,599 --> 00:20:32,867
Kathy: He's really
down on himself.
467
00:20:32,934 --> 00:20:33,868
I think once he starts working,
468
00:20:33,935 --> 00:20:34,902
he's gonna feel
better about himself.
469
00:20:34,970 --> 00:20:35,970
He's gonna feel more productive,
470
00:20:36,038 --> 00:20:37,371
like he's out there
doing something.
471
00:20:37,439 --> 00:20:40,508
Because right now he doesn't
feel like he's doing anything.
472
00:20:43,745 --> 00:20:44,812
Man on TV: Some points
in Massachusetts
473
00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:46,914
and Rhode Island could see
up to a foot of snow,
474
00:20:46,982 --> 00:20:48,983
and in New Jersey,
well, the storm is certainly...
475
00:20:49,051 --> 00:20:52,620
Lindsey, voice-over: I always
knew I was different,
476
00:20:52,687 --> 00:20:58,759
even before I was informed
of my diagnosis of autism,
477
00:20:58,827 --> 00:21:03,864
though I always felt like
I was an odd character
478
00:21:03,932 --> 00:21:07,435
outside of my--my peers.
479
00:21:07,502 --> 00:21:12,406
But I didn't really
understand why.
480
00:21:15,310 --> 00:21:16,777
I would often get turned away,
481
00:21:16,845 --> 00:21:19,346
or people would ignore me,
and I--I thought,
482
00:21:19,414 --> 00:21:21,849
"Well, what am I doing wrong?"
483
00:21:21,917 --> 00:21:26,921
And even after learning about
my own diagnosis,
484
00:21:26,988 --> 00:21:32,426
I still, for several years,
struggled to figure out
485
00:21:32,494 --> 00:21:36,697
why I couldn't, um,
maintain and keep friends,
486
00:21:36,765 --> 00:21:42,269
why I couldn't fit in,
why I couldn't be accepted.
487
00:21:48,176 --> 00:21:53,180
Unfortunately, I think the first
impressions I received, um,
488
00:21:53,248 --> 00:21:57,251
when I was learning about autism
were quite negative,
489
00:21:57,319 --> 00:21:59,520
and as a result,
490
00:21:59,588 --> 00:22:05,793
I felt incredibly ashamed
of being autistic.
491
00:22:05,861 --> 00:22:09,363
Every morning when I get ready,
I look in the mirror
492
00:22:09,431 --> 00:22:12,800
before I step outside the house,
and I think to myself,
493
00:22:12,868 --> 00:22:16,971
"Well, I look OK.
I look OK today."
494
00:22:17,038 --> 00:22:21,742
And the moment I step
outside the front door,
495
00:22:21,810 --> 00:22:24,078
I immediately become
self-conscious.
496
00:22:30,986 --> 00:22:34,755
I've recognized pretty quickly
497
00:22:34,823 --> 00:22:38,125
that the way I perceive myself
498
00:22:38,193 --> 00:22:42,630
in the outside world
499
00:22:42,697 --> 00:22:45,799
is drastically different than
the way I perceive myself
500
00:22:45,867 --> 00:22:48,435
in my own world.
501
00:22:48,503 --> 00:22:51,972
In some aspects
and at some times,
502
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,576
I do feel like I have found
that personal happiness
503
00:22:55,644 --> 00:22:58,379
within myself,
or that personal peace.
504
00:23:03,552 --> 00:23:08,489
But it's still very
difficult for me
505
00:23:08,557 --> 00:23:14,695
to find acceptance
of myself.
506
00:23:16,898 --> 00:23:20,434
I have just learned how
to be a good actress.
507
00:24:01,276 --> 00:24:03,377
Woman: I remember when
you first started at work,
508
00:24:03,445 --> 00:24:08,115
and, um, I wasn't sure--
I wasn't necessarily sure
509
00:24:08,183 --> 00:24:10,050
what to expect
because, you know,
510
00:24:10,118 --> 00:24:12,686
everybody on the spectrum
is different, and...
511
00:24:12,754 --> 00:24:13,921
Oh, yeah.
Yeah, absolutely.
512
00:24:13,989 --> 00:24:16,290
you never know if
somebody is going to be
513
00:24:16,358 --> 00:24:20,794
very outgoing or--you know,
kind of the classic
514
00:24:20,862 --> 00:24:22,696
description of someone
on the spectrum
515
00:24:22,764 --> 00:24:24,865
is not--you know,
unfortunately,
516
00:24:24,933 --> 00:24:26,333
not interested,
empathetic,
517
00:24:26,401 --> 00:24:27,334
you know, not into--
518
00:24:27,402 --> 00:24:29,336
I always had this fear
people would be
519
00:24:29,404 --> 00:24:32,539
staring at me, that...
520
00:24:32,607 --> 00:24:35,542
people can see
right through me.
521
00:24:35,610 --> 00:24:38,912
I think it kind of
relates to
522
00:24:38,980 --> 00:24:42,549
my frustration I've
had over the years
523
00:24:42,617 --> 00:24:45,252
of...
524
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:48,622
being pressured to fit
into the social norm...
525
00:24:50,725 --> 00:24:56,530
that I'm not good enough
if I don't fit in.
526
00:24:57,532 --> 00:24:59,199
Have you ever dated
somebody
527
00:24:59,267 --> 00:25:01,135
who was on
the spectrum before?
528
00:25:01,202 --> 00:25:03,971
Actually, all--all
the guys I've dated
529
00:25:04,039 --> 00:25:05,139
prior to Dave were--
530
00:25:05,206 --> 00:25:06,407
yeah, were not
on the spectrum.
531
00:25:06,474 --> 00:25:07,975
So Dave is the first.
532
00:25:08,043 --> 00:25:09,977
And how is it
different?
533
00:25:13,882 --> 00:25:15,349
Dave: For me, it boils
down to 3 things.
534
00:25:15,417 --> 00:25:16,650
I have a formula here.
535
00:25:16,718 --> 00:25:21,722
It's L plus P plus two T.
536
00:25:21,790 --> 00:25:24,058
So each part is 25%.
537
00:25:24,125 --> 00:25:29,797
So you have 25% of the P and L,
and you have 50% of the T,
538
00:25:29,864 --> 00:25:32,866
which results to what that
person's grade would be
539
00:25:32,934 --> 00:25:35,736
in terms of relationship
and dating potential.
540
00:25:35,804 --> 00:25:36,837
Now, you're wondering,
541
00:25:36,905 --> 00:25:38,772
L is how they look physically--
542
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,408
physical appearance
and attributes.
543
00:25:41,476 --> 00:25:44,478
The second--the P
is personality.
544
00:25:44,546 --> 00:25:46,914
What is their lifestyle like?
545
00:25:46,981 --> 00:25:49,850
And most importantly is T
is how they treat you.
546
00:25:49,918 --> 00:25:51,318
Treatment towards you.
547
00:25:51,386 --> 00:25:52,986
If--let's say, for example,
548
00:25:53,054 --> 00:25:55,222
that the person
is relatively ugly.
549
00:25:55,290 --> 00:25:59,093
Then they get, like, a 50%
category in the L category.
550
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:02,229
But they have, you know,
like a perfect personality
551
00:26:02,297 --> 00:26:05,265
and nearly perfect way
they treat you,
552
00:26:05,333 --> 00:26:08,669
they're gonna score pretty well
in the overall scheme of things.
553
00:26:08,737 --> 00:26:11,205
So the T has greater weight.
554
00:26:11,272 --> 00:26:12,673
It's twice as much weight
in the formula
555
00:26:12,741 --> 00:26:16,810
than the personality and looks
is how they treat you.
556
00:26:16,878 --> 00:26:18,912
[Playing piano]
557
00:26:22,484 --> 00:26:23,784
Lindsey: You know,
it's funny with Dave.
558
00:26:23,852 --> 00:26:28,756
He--he's much more scientific,
and I'm much more artistic.
559
00:26:28,823 --> 00:26:32,593
I think Dave is trying his best
to understand me.
560
00:26:32,660 --> 00:26:35,929
I think he always has
tried his best to understand me.
561
00:26:35,997 --> 00:26:39,767
I think it's still
difficult for him to--
562
00:26:39,834 --> 00:26:44,171
to really have that grip,
though, of understanding,
563
00:26:44,239 --> 00:26:47,307
of why I have
my particular issues.
564
00:26:47,375 --> 00:26:50,244
[Playing piano]
565
00:26:56,084 --> 00:26:58,152
You know, it's
a very good question
566
00:26:58,219 --> 00:27:04,858
whether someone can love you
without truly understanding you.
567
00:27:06,394 --> 00:27:10,130
I still think it's
absolutely possible. Yeah.
568
00:27:12,667 --> 00:27:15,135
You know, obviously
we have, from time to time,
569
00:27:15,203 --> 00:27:19,406
talked about marriage
and, um, if we were
570
00:27:19,474 --> 00:27:21,742
to get married someday
and kind of
571
00:27:21,810 --> 00:27:24,077
some of the fears
we have with that.
572
00:27:24,145 --> 00:27:26,146
Um, uncertainties.
573
00:27:26,214 --> 00:27:28,749
Yeah, and idea of
whether Lindsey
574
00:27:28,817 --> 00:27:30,784
would take my name
or keep her own name.
575
00:27:30,852 --> 00:27:33,387
And talk about, like,
prenuptial agreements
576
00:27:33,455 --> 00:27:35,222
and how they would
be written out
577
00:27:35,290 --> 00:27:37,524
and, uh,
financial matters,
578
00:27:37,592 --> 00:27:40,627
how they'd be, um,
managed.
579
00:27:40,695 --> 00:27:42,429
Um, things like that.
580
00:27:42,497 --> 00:27:43,430
Yeah.
581
00:27:43,498 --> 00:27:45,299
And where the wedding
would take place.
582
00:27:48,069 --> 00:27:52,039
Yeah, well, I think
that's not really fears.
583
00:27:52,106 --> 00:27:55,976
I think that's just
more of, you know,
584
00:27:56,044 --> 00:27:57,478
listing the pros
and cons
585
00:27:57,545 --> 00:28:00,914
and kind of--
it's the whole idea
586
00:28:00,982 --> 00:28:06,353
of whether marriage
is going to dictate
587
00:28:06,421 --> 00:28:09,756
that our identities
are lost.
588
00:28:09,824 --> 00:28:12,292
That's kind of
my main fear.
589
00:28:12,360 --> 00:28:13,393
I'd still support
590
00:28:13,461 --> 00:28:14,394
keeping
our own identities.
591
00:28:14,462 --> 00:28:16,964
I mean, marriage is
just a--kind of like
592
00:28:17,031 --> 00:28:18,031
a social title
we would have,
593
00:28:18,099 --> 00:28:19,099
but we'd still have
our own identities.
594
00:28:19,167 --> 00:28:20,100
Yeah.
595
00:28:20,168 --> 00:28:23,136
Of course. I would
insist upon it.
596
00:28:24,339 --> 00:28:27,107
I mean, Dave has--has been
through a lot with me,
597
00:28:27,175 --> 00:28:30,611
and he's still around,
598
00:28:30,678 --> 00:28:37,718
and that to me is definitely
evidence of--of love.
599
00:28:37,785 --> 00:28:40,754
Dave: I love it when she shows
me physical, um, appreciation,
600
00:28:40,822 --> 00:28:47,361
when she holds me, hugs me,
kisses me, smiles at me.
601
00:28:47,428 --> 00:28:50,831
I always love it when she comes
to tuck me into bed at night.
602
00:28:50,899 --> 00:28:54,201
But I feel like she puts me very
high up on her daily list.
603
00:28:54,269 --> 00:28:56,637
I feel like I'm very much
important to her
604
00:28:56,704 --> 00:28:59,506
and that I'm a big part
of her life.
605
00:29:00,875 --> 00:29:04,945
But the T score also
ties in very much
606
00:29:05,013 --> 00:29:07,381
to how important
that person makes you feel.
607
00:29:07,448 --> 00:29:09,182
If you don't--if you get
the impression
608
00:29:09,250 --> 00:29:11,118
that person doesn't think
you're important,
609
00:29:11,185 --> 00:29:12,953
that hurts your T score.
610
00:29:14,589 --> 00:29:16,823
When I was first dating her
and first meeting her,
611
00:29:16,891 --> 00:29:19,793
I never had stronger feelings
for anybody else ever before.
612
00:29:19,861 --> 00:29:22,796
The fact that they lasted for 8
years I think is a good signal
613
00:29:22,864 --> 00:29:25,832
that things were on a very
solid course here.
614
00:29:35,343 --> 00:29:37,044
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615
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616
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617
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[Chatter]
632
00:30:33,334 --> 00:30:36,069
[Music playing]
633
00:30:46,314 --> 00:30:49,983
Man: When Stephen
first saw Gita,
634
00:30:50,051 --> 00:30:51,218
he was introduced to her.
635
00:30:51,285 --> 00:30:54,588
Stephen said,
"I'm going to marry her."
636
00:30:54,656 --> 00:30:56,657
[Laughter]
637
00:30:56,724 --> 00:30:59,993
And after a few days, Gita said,
"Let's set a date."
638
00:31:00,061 --> 00:31:02,696
[Laughter]
639
00:31:02,764 --> 00:31:05,966
Well, the date is here,
640
00:31:06,034 --> 00:31:08,535
and this is the couple,
641
00:31:08,603 --> 00:31:12,472
and we hope that
this marriage is from God.
642
00:31:12,540 --> 00:31:16,543
It's going to be a lasting
marriage and a happy marriage.
643
00:31:16,611 --> 00:31:19,346
Stephen, voice-over:
I met Gita 20 years ago.
644
00:31:19,414 --> 00:31:24,017
It was on February 7, 1993.
645
00:31:24,085 --> 00:31:25,052
Matt: What day of
the week was that?
646
00:31:25,119 --> 00:31:26,920
It was on a Sunday.
647
00:31:26,988 --> 00:31:28,055
What did you say
to her
648
00:31:28,122 --> 00:31:28,989
when you first
met her?
649
00:31:29,057 --> 00:31:30,390
"Hello."
650
00:31:33,628 --> 00:31:35,495
And what did you think
when you first met her?
651
00:31:35,563 --> 00:31:37,831
It's nice. It was beautiful.
652
00:31:41,703 --> 00:31:42,636
Are you in love
with Gita?
653
00:31:42,704 --> 00:31:45,505
Yes, I'm in love with Gita.
654
00:31:45,573 --> 00:31:46,540
What does that mean?
655
00:31:46,607 --> 00:31:48,141
I don't know.
It means to fall in love,
656
00:31:48,209 --> 00:31:50,544
to give a kiss
and a hug.
657
00:31:52,547 --> 00:31:54,815
How do you know
when you're in love?
658
00:31:54,882 --> 00:31:56,516
I don't know.
659
00:32:06,627 --> 00:32:09,996
Max: Somebody suggested
they knew of Gita.
660
00:32:10,064 --> 00:32:11,565
They said, "Maybe
these two together--
661
00:32:11,632 --> 00:32:12,766
"these two will
get together.
662
00:32:12,834 --> 00:32:16,503
Maybe they'll make--
they'll make a couple."
663
00:32:16,571 --> 00:32:19,206
Edith: They were kind of
complementing each other.
664
00:32:19,273 --> 00:32:24,144
Gita is very verbal.
That's what Stephen is lacking.
665
00:32:24,212 --> 00:32:27,514
Stephen has other qualities
that she was lacking,
666
00:32:27,582 --> 00:32:33,353
so they really
complemented each other.
667
00:32:33,421 --> 00:32:38,558
Max: They lived happily
for almost 17 years,
668
00:32:38,626 --> 00:32:42,129
and then unfortunately,
669
00:32:42,196 --> 00:32:45,866
Gita got ovarian cancer,
670
00:32:45,933 --> 00:32:49,302
and she's fighting with
it for the last 3 years.
671
00:32:49,370 --> 00:32:51,705
Remember 3 years ago,
Gita had chemo?
672
00:32:51,773 --> 00:32:53,940
3 years ago.
673
00:32:54,008 --> 00:32:54,941
Matt: What is chemo?
674
00:32:55,009 --> 00:32:57,844
I don't know.
It's a disease.
675
00:32:59,814 --> 00:33:00,714
Is that bad?
676
00:33:00,782 --> 00:33:02,315
It's bad.
677
00:33:05,553 --> 00:33:07,120
So, what happened
after chemo?
678
00:33:07,188 --> 00:33:08,188
I don't know.
679
00:33:08,256 --> 00:33:09,189
She went to the doctor.
680
00:33:09,257 --> 00:33:13,994
She went to the Mayo
Clinic in Rochester.
681
00:33:14,061 --> 00:33:15,162
What happened there?
682
00:33:15,229 --> 00:33:16,363
Uh, she had to go--
683
00:33:16,430 --> 00:33:19,032
yeah, she had tests
for her cancer.
684
00:33:19,100 --> 00:33:20,901
She had tests.
685
00:33:22,670 --> 00:33:24,371
And what did
the tests say?
686
00:33:24,438 --> 00:33:27,974
Uh, her condition
is, uh, I don't know.
687
00:33:38,019 --> 00:33:40,287
Edith, voice-over:
Stephen is very hopeful
688
00:33:40,354 --> 00:33:43,223
about her sickness.
689
00:33:43,291 --> 00:33:45,225
He says, "Gita's
not gonna die.
690
00:33:45,293 --> 00:33:47,093
She'll be all right."
691
00:33:47,161 --> 00:33:50,764
[Indistinct
voice on TV]
692
00:33:53,901 --> 00:33:57,637
Hi, Marlena.
693
00:33:57,705 --> 00:34:01,541
I feel a little better.
I'm getting better.
694
00:34:01,609 --> 00:34:03,276
Hello.
695
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:07,013
Hi, honey.
696
00:34:07,081 --> 00:34:08,048
Hello.
697
00:34:08,115 --> 00:34:09,249
Gita, voice-over:
The thing with Stephen
698
00:34:09,317 --> 00:34:12,919
is that he is...
699
00:34:12,987 --> 00:34:16,389
I find that
he understands me
700
00:34:16,457 --> 00:34:18,792
in his own way.
701
00:34:25,533 --> 00:34:30,670
I have a learn--a mild
learning disability,
702
00:34:30,738 --> 00:34:37,077
and, um--ahem--
so but still and all,
703
00:34:37,144 --> 00:34:41,848
I feel in a way that
I can understand him
704
00:34:41,916 --> 00:34:46,720
because he can--because
we both have something
705
00:34:46,787 --> 00:34:50,123
we cannot do
and things we can do,
706
00:34:50,191 --> 00:34:54,494
but being that
we have disabilities,
707
00:34:54,562 --> 00:34:57,063
we can...
708
00:34:57,131 --> 00:34:59,599
we can relate all the more.
709
00:34:59,667 --> 00:35:01,801
Tell me what else
is new.
710
00:35:01,869 --> 00:35:02,903
Nothing.
711
00:35:02,970 --> 00:35:08,275
Nothing? Well,
I--I relaxed all day...
712
00:35:08,342 --> 00:35:09,376
That's good.
713
00:35:09,443 --> 00:35:10,977
trying to feel better.
714
00:35:11,045 --> 00:35:12,812
Uh-huh. That's nice.
715
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:13,980
Yeah.
716
00:35:14,048 --> 00:35:15,782
I don't know if this is
the right thing to say,
717
00:35:15,850 --> 00:35:22,222
but I feel bad that he's
not able to express himself,
718
00:35:22,290 --> 00:35:25,492
and I'm--and I try to
encourage him,
719
00:35:25,559 --> 00:35:27,861
to make him feel
as if he can,
720
00:35:27,929 --> 00:35:29,095
and you know something?
721
00:35:29,163 --> 00:35:31,498
He has improved a lot.
722
00:35:31,565 --> 00:35:32,799
How was your day?
723
00:35:32,867 --> 00:35:33,900
It was excellent.
724
00:35:33,968 --> 00:35:35,335
What did you do?
725
00:35:35,403 --> 00:35:36,369
Well, I worked--
726
00:35:36,437 --> 00:35:38,772
I worked on towels
today at MBI.
727
00:35:38,839 --> 00:35:40,607
Towels? What do
they look like?
728
00:35:40,675 --> 00:35:41,975
Well, they look
like, uh--
729
00:35:42,043 --> 00:35:43,576
they look like
wash towels.
730
00:35:43,644 --> 00:35:45,145
They look like
dish towels.
731
00:35:45,212 --> 00:35:47,914
Oh, nice.
What colors were they?
732
00:35:47,982 --> 00:35:49,316
They were purple.
733
00:35:49,383 --> 00:35:51,818
Oh, nice. What's
your favorite color?
734
00:35:51,886 --> 00:35:53,053
Blue.
735
00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:56,556
Blue. And my favorite
color is red.
736
00:35:56,624 --> 00:35:57,657
Well, that's nice.
737
00:35:57,725 --> 00:36:00,026
You have a nice hat,
huh?
738
00:36:00,094 --> 00:36:02,929
Yeah. Just look at me.
739
00:36:02,997 --> 00:36:04,798
Yes.
Relax.
740
00:36:04,865 --> 00:36:06,666
It's always difficult.
741
00:36:06,734 --> 00:36:11,071
It's always difficult,
but I got used to it.
742
00:36:11,138 --> 00:36:12,906
I got used to it.
743
00:36:12,974 --> 00:36:17,644
It's extremely difficult,
but I think if I were married
744
00:36:17,712 --> 00:36:24,751
to someone who it--
wasn't disabled
745
00:36:24,819 --> 00:36:27,954
or who isn't disabled,
I'd have more of a problem
746
00:36:28,022 --> 00:36:35,161
because that person might
be--be--ahem--demanding
747
00:36:35,229 --> 00:36:39,299
and want more out of me.
748
00:36:39,367 --> 00:36:41,201
So tell me more.
749
00:36:41,268 --> 00:36:42,936
Well, I'm going to
eat dinner
750
00:36:43,004 --> 00:36:44,337
at my parents'.
751
00:36:44,405 --> 00:36:45,372
Oh, that's good.
752
00:36:45,439 --> 00:36:46,406
Well, I hope
you'll feel better,
753
00:36:46,474 --> 00:36:47,707
and I'll see you
later.
754
00:36:47,775 --> 00:36:49,409
See you later,
honey.
755
00:36:49,477 --> 00:36:52,946
Thanks for dropping by
and wishing me well.
756
00:36:53,014 --> 00:36:55,615
You're welcome.
757
00:36:55,683 --> 00:36:56,616
Matt: How do you
know that Stephen
758
00:36:56,684 --> 00:36:58,451
is in love with you?
759
00:36:58,519 --> 00:37:01,054
Gita: Um...
760
00:37:01,122 --> 00:37:04,691
it's in the way
he looks at me.
761
00:37:04,759 --> 00:37:07,060
I can tell.
762
00:37:07,128 --> 00:37:10,230
He gives me
such loving eyes.
763
00:37:31,886 --> 00:37:33,453
Dave: Love is a very
abstract concept
764
00:37:33,521 --> 00:37:36,289
that many people with autism
have a hard time grasping,
765
00:37:36,357 --> 00:37:39,092
and it's one of those things
that's not concrete.
766
00:37:41,862 --> 00:37:44,798
As a scientist, I wish I could
put it into perspective
767
00:37:44,865 --> 00:37:47,934
as a type of subatomic particle,
but it's not.
768
00:37:48,002 --> 00:37:51,404
Love is basically
more like a force.
769
00:37:54,341 --> 00:37:55,842
Like, in physics,
you have forces--
770
00:37:55,910 --> 00:37:58,678
forces of attraction--
and I have a feeling
771
00:37:58,746 --> 00:38:00,680
that love is--the best way
to describe that
772
00:38:00,748 --> 00:38:03,683
is a force of attraction
between two people
773
00:38:03,751 --> 00:38:09,422
that is neither visible,
measurable, or heard.
774
00:38:09,490 --> 00:38:12,058
There's no way to quantify it.
775
00:38:28,442 --> 00:38:31,945
Lenny: I'm feeling a little
down about myself right now.
776
00:38:32,012 --> 00:38:33,213
Matt: Why is that?
777
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:34,414
I've just been down lately.
778
00:38:34,482 --> 00:38:36,616
I've been a little...
779
00:38:36,684 --> 00:38:40,153
sometimes you go through
hard times in your life.
780
00:38:42,990 --> 00:38:46,292
I feel like I can't
get a girl.
781
00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:49,796
I don't--there are
no girls at my school.
782
00:38:49,864 --> 00:38:51,798
Everywhere I go,
it's something about guys.
783
00:38:51,866 --> 00:38:54,734
I go home,
I see my stepfather,
784
00:38:54,802 --> 00:38:58,571
and the only women I see
are my good friends
785
00:38:58,639 --> 00:39:00,773
or my--my--my sister, like,
786
00:39:00,841 --> 00:39:02,242
girls are sort of
like my sisters
787
00:39:02,309 --> 00:39:06,045
or my home girls,
and that's so annoying.
788
00:39:06,113 --> 00:39:07,847
You don't see women
anywhere.
789
00:39:07,915 --> 00:39:10,884
It's like--I feel like
if someone came up to me
790
00:39:10,951 --> 00:39:13,987
and said, "Would you--would you
want to go to a women's prison
791
00:39:14,054 --> 00:39:17,357
for a week?" I would
probably say yes.
792
00:39:17,424 --> 00:39:19,926
"Would you--would you go
to a women's jail for a week
793
00:39:19,994 --> 00:39:21,027
and be the only man there?"
794
00:39:21,095 --> 00:39:23,229
I'd probably say yes.
795
00:39:33,307 --> 00:39:36,042
Lenny, voice-over: I feel like,
you know, if I had a girl,
796
00:39:36,110 --> 00:39:37,744
maybe--maybe I'll be
happy right now.
797
00:39:37,811 --> 00:39:40,613
Maybe I'll be--
feel good about myself.
798
00:39:45,252 --> 00:39:46,152
You know what, Matt?
799
00:39:46,220 --> 00:39:47,520
I'm gonna admit
something to you.
800
00:39:47,588 --> 00:39:48,955
Do you want me
to tell you something?
801
00:39:49,023 --> 00:39:51,291
I like girls that are black.
802
00:39:51,358 --> 00:39:54,827
I like them a lot.
What do you think about that?
803
00:39:57,097 --> 00:40:01,868
Do you know what interracial--
interracial relationships are?
804
00:40:01,936 --> 00:40:04,938
Inter--interracial
relationships?
805
00:40:05,005 --> 00:40:09,375
It means when different race
people go out with each other.
806
00:40:09,443 --> 00:40:11,778
I was reading something
on the computer
807
00:40:11,845 --> 00:40:14,280
that...
808
00:40:14,348 --> 00:40:17,450
black women are really
independent,
809
00:40:17,518 --> 00:40:19,385
and it said that
they're lucky girl--
810
00:40:19,453 --> 00:40:21,588
that they're really
intelligent women,
811
00:40:21,655 --> 00:40:24,824
and I feel like that, you know,
I want a girl like that,
812
00:40:24,892 --> 00:40:26,926
but I feel like I can't.
813
00:40:28,629 --> 00:40:29,862
Matt: Why do you think
you can't?
814
00:40:29,930 --> 00:40:32,899
Because, you know,
they're too independent.
815
00:40:32,967 --> 00:40:34,767
I need to be more
independent.
816
00:40:34,835 --> 00:40:38,204
I need to get a good job
and make good money.
817
00:40:50,084 --> 00:40:51,351
Dave, voice-over: You get
married for love, too,
818
00:40:51,418 --> 00:40:54,320
but for me, there's more of
a practical component as well.
819
00:40:54,388 --> 00:40:57,857
Probably 60% practical
and 40% emotional.
820
00:40:57,925 --> 00:41:00,393
I'll always love her.
That won't change.
821
00:41:00,461 --> 00:41:03,196
But for the specific
reasons for the marriage,
822
00:41:03,264 --> 00:41:05,798
that's what it'd boil down to.
823
00:41:09,103 --> 00:41:13,840
Lindsey, voice-over:
I had told him a few years ago
824
00:41:13,907 --> 00:41:16,442
that whenever he was ready
to take that next step,
825
00:41:16,510 --> 00:41:22,081
that I would be
willing to--to accept.
826
00:41:24,018 --> 00:41:30,657
I've--I've yet to hear
any kind of indicator
827
00:41:30,724 --> 00:41:33,126
that that next step
may be taken.
828
00:42:05,893 --> 00:42:08,728
Um, I know that we kind
of brushed over this,
829
00:42:08,796 --> 00:42:10,830
like, when we chatted
about it.
830
00:42:10,898 --> 00:42:12,932
I do believe you
and trust you
831
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:14,834
when--when you've
told me that
832
00:42:14,902 --> 00:42:16,102
you were in it
for the long haul.
833
00:42:16,170 --> 00:42:17,203
Oh, yeah.
834
00:42:17,271 --> 00:42:19,038
And I do believe you,
and I do--you know,
835
00:42:19,106 --> 00:42:22,875
I do trust you,
and I--I, um, you know,
836
00:42:22,943 --> 00:42:24,844
I definitely am in it
for the long haul
837
00:42:24,912 --> 00:42:27,313
for us, too, and I--
I wouldn't--you know,
838
00:42:27,381 --> 00:42:30,416
I wouldn't be here
if I wasn't.
839
00:42:30,484 --> 00:42:31,417
Well, I know that.
840
00:42:31,485 --> 00:42:32,952
Yeah.
841
00:42:40,260 --> 00:42:42,628
I guess I'm just--
I was just still
842
00:42:42,696 --> 00:42:45,164
kind of just figuring
out, like--
843
00:42:45,232 --> 00:42:46,232
That was a conversation
that made me
844
00:42:46,300 --> 00:42:48,201
a little bit
uncomfortable, too.
845
00:42:51,972 --> 00:42:52,905
Oh, you mean
at the time?
846
00:42:52,973 --> 00:42:53,806
Yeah, yeah.
847
00:42:53,874 --> 00:42:55,641
Yeah. Well, it's
uncomfortable
848
00:42:55,709 --> 00:42:58,611
for me, too, but...
849
00:42:58,679 --> 00:43:00,513
it's important.
850
00:43:00,581 --> 00:43:03,216
It's important.
Sometimes I think
851
00:43:03,283 --> 00:43:05,651
there's conversations
that are uncomfortable
852
00:43:05,719 --> 00:43:08,855
for us, but they're
really important
853
00:43:08,922 --> 00:43:14,927
to have or at least
to address them
854
00:43:14,995 --> 00:43:17,764
in order to us
to understand
855
00:43:17,831 --> 00:43:20,967
where each other
are coming from.
856
00:43:21,034 --> 00:43:24,404
So I--I'm not gonna lie.
So...
857
00:43:24,471 --> 00:43:26,739
But having this on camera,
I don't like at all.
858
00:43:26,807 --> 00:43:27,974
I don't like the idea
of having this conversation
859
00:43:28,041 --> 00:43:29,575
on camera at all.
860
00:43:29,643 --> 00:43:31,210
OK.
861
00:43:31,278 --> 00:43:33,346
It's one of those things
that's best left
862
00:43:33,414 --> 00:43:35,181
off camera, I think.
863
00:43:35,249 --> 00:43:36,549
OK. We can stop
talking about it.
864
00:43:36,617 --> 00:43:38,084
Yes.
865
00:43:38,986 --> 00:43:39,919
All right.
Thank you for--
866
00:43:39,987 --> 00:43:41,020
thank you for
letting me know.
867
00:43:41,088 --> 00:43:42,655
I think--yeah, I just
feel better that way.
868
00:43:42,723 --> 00:43:43,656
OK.
869
00:43:43,724 --> 00:43:44,657
I just feel
uncomfortable
870
00:43:44,725 --> 00:43:45,792
being on camera
talking about it.
871
00:43:45,859 --> 00:43:46,793
All right.
No, thank you
872
00:43:46,860 --> 00:43:48,227
for letting me know.
873
00:43:52,399 --> 00:43:53,232
But you know how
I feel,
874
00:43:53,300 --> 00:43:55,635
so don't worry
about it.
875
00:44:07,381 --> 00:44:08,714
Lindsey, voice-over:
There's been times
876
00:44:08,782 --> 00:44:15,121
that I have questioned whether
he really wants to be with me.
877
00:44:17,591 --> 00:44:20,293
Gordon: Within yourself,
you think you can communicate.
878
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:21,594
You think you've
said something.
879
00:44:21,662 --> 00:44:23,062
You think it should be
obvious to somebody
880
00:44:23,130 --> 00:44:25,097
that's this, this, and this,
881
00:44:25,165 --> 00:44:28,568
but again you go back
to the antenna.
882
00:44:28,635 --> 00:44:31,337
Maybe you are, but maybe
they haven't picked that up.
883
00:44:51,758 --> 00:44:55,261
Stephen, voice-over: Yes,
this is my apartment with Gita.
884
00:44:57,931 --> 00:45:00,199
Uh, this is our bedroom.
885
00:45:03,971 --> 00:45:05,938
It's beautiful, isn't it?
886
00:45:06,006 --> 00:45:10,476
Gita moved here with me, uh--
that was 15 years ago.
887
00:45:10,544 --> 00:45:14,614
[Door closes]
888
00:45:14,681 --> 00:45:17,083
And this is our bathroom.
889
00:45:19,753 --> 00:45:23,689
Stephen, voice-over: She moved--
she had to go--she had surgery
890
00:45:23,757 --> 00:45:26,025
on--in May 2010.
891
00:45:27,995 --> 00:45:29,695
That was 3 years ago.
892
00:45:46,013 --> 00:45:48,881
Stephen, voice-over: I'll take
a shower tonight at 7:00.
893
00:45:48,949 --> 00:45:52,285
Edith: OK, maybe at 7:30
if you go later to Gita's.
894
00:45:52,352 --> 00:45:55,288
I'll go--I'll go see
Gita right now.
895
00:45:55,355 --> 00:45:57,089
I think they're
eating, still.
896
00:45:57,157 --> 00:45:58,090
They're eating--no,
897
00:45:58,158 --> 00:45:59,058
they're
still eating dinner.
898
00:45:59,126 --> 00:46:00,226
They're eating dinner.
899
00:46:00,294 --> 00:46:03,930
Yeah, because Erica
was making it late...
900
00:46:03,997 --> 00:46:04,897
Yes.
901
00:46:04,965 --> 00:46:07,366
because Gita wasn't
feeling well.
902
00:46:07,434 --> 00:46:09,735
I hope Gita
will feel better.
903
00:46:09,803 --> 00:46:11,537
I hope so.
904
00:46:18,412 --> 00:46:19,979
She threw up.
905
00:46:20,047 --> 00:46:21,480
She felt nauseous.
906
00:46:21,548 --> 00:46:24,650
Yeah. Did she
tell you that?
907
00:46:24,718 --> 00:46:26,552
Yeah, she told
me that.
908
00:46:26,620 --> 00:46:27,620
When you were there?
909
00:46:27,688 --> 00:46:29,055
Yes.
910
00:46:43,170 --> 00:46:46,639
I'm trying--I'm trying
to be positive, man.
911
00:46:46,641 --> 00:46:47,974
I'm just--
912
00:46:47,976 --> 00:46:49,875
it's been kind of hard
the past couple of weeks.
913
00:46:49,877 --> 00:46:53,646
Last week I did
something to a girl,
914
00:46:53,648 --> 00:46:55,014
and it wasn't right.
915
00:46:55,016 --> 00:46:59,185
It felt--it felt
kind of stupid, what I did.
916
00:46:59,419 --> 00:47:04,223
I was bored. I wanted to see
what women felt like.
917
00:47:04,225 --> 00:47:07,326
It felt good for a little bit.
918
00:47:07,328 --> 00:47:10,663
Maybe for, like, 20 minutes
it felt good, but it just
919
00:47:10,665 --> 00:47:12,164
felt like you--
two things.
920
00:47:12,166 --> 00:47:15,101
It felt like you wanted
to do it more times,
921
00:47:15,103 --> 00:47:17,003
but it just felt like
whatever at the end
922
00:47:17,005 --> 00:47:18,738
because it just--
that wasn't--
923
00:47:18,740 --> 00:47:20,673
I don't--
I don't know that girl.
924
00:47:20,675 --> 00:47:22,108
I don't--
I don't love her.
925
00:47:22,110 --> 00:47:24,310
I just--
it felt like,
926
00:47:24,312 --> 00:47:27,346
I kind of felt bad for
her a little bit.
927
00:47:27,348 --> 00:47:32,318
People told me that--
I talked to 2 or 3 people.
928
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,954
[Whispers] I kind of
want to say it
929
00:47:34,956 --> 00:47:36,255
when there aren't
that many people around.
930
00:47:36,257 --> 00:47:38,557
I kind of want to say it softly
because it isn't good.
931
00:47:38,559 --> 00:47:41,193
People tell me that, "Oh"--
932
00:47:41,195 --> 00:47:43,062
p-people, they tell me,
"Oh, you got ripped off
933
00:47:43,064 --> 00:47:44,463
for just touching her ass."
934
00:47:44,465 --> 00:47:47,099
People told me that "you
could have gotten a ha--"
935
00:47:47,101 --> 00:47:50,269
People told me that I
could have gotten a ---.
936
00:47:50,271 --> 00:47:51,904
People--you know
what this stuff means?
937
00:47:51,906 --> 00:47:54,073
People told me that
I could have gotten a ---.
938
00:47:54,075 --> 00:47:56,042
People told me that I
could have gotten--
939
00:47:56,044 --> 00:47:58,010
could have ---.
940
00:47:58,012 --> 00:48:03,082
People told me that
I could have...
941
00:48:03,084 --> 00:48:05,885
had --- her.
942
00:48:05,887 --> 00:48:08,120
That's what people told me--
943
00:48:08,122 --> 00:48:10,322
those 4 things,
People told me
944
00:48:10,324 --> 00:48:13,225
people told me that I could
have done those 4 things
945
00:48:13,227 --> 00:48:16,128
with--with the 20 bucks,
that "you got ripped off"
946
00:48:16,130 --> 00:48:18,898
and "delete her number."
947
00:48:18,900 --> 00:48:21,600
She told me
her name was Diamond.
948
00:48:21,602 --> 00:48:25,504
That--that doesn't sound
like a real name, does it?
949
00:48:38,452 --> 00:48:40,219
Dave, voice-over: I've been
together with her for 8 years,
950
00:48:40,221 --> 00:48:41,387
and a lot of people
are wondering,
951
00:48:41,389 --> 00:48:43,856
"Why are you still
just boyfriend/girlfriend?"
952
00:48:43,858 --> 00:48:44,857
A lot of people are asking,
953
00:48:44,859 --> 00:48:46,358
"When are y'all
gonna get married?"
954
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:50,429
That's, um--that's always a big
step for a guy to take,
955
00:48:50,431 --> 00:48:54,266
and got to make sure
it's the right one.
956
00:49:25,198 --> 00:49:27,666
When we talked about it,
she made me feel like,
957
00:49:27,668 --> 00:49:29,201
"Oh, I do want to marry you,
958
00:49:29,203 --> 00:49:31,771
but maybe now's
not the right time."
959
00:49:31,773 --> 00:49:32,805
That's--it's not likely,
960
00:49:32,807 --> 00:49:35,174
but it's possible
she might say that.
961
00:49:35,176 --> 00:49:40,646
Uh, I--sometimes what she thinks
is different from what I think,
962
00:49:40,648 --> 00:49:41,914
so...
963
00:49:41,916 --> 00:49:46,886
Lindsey, voice-over:
I think before I said yes,
964
00:49:46,888 --> 00:49:50,556
I'd want to ask him...
965
00:49:50,558 --> 00:49:55,027
what in particular
had been holding him back
966
00:49:55,029 --> 00:49:57,630
the past few years,
967
00:49:57,632 --> 00:50:00,966
since when I first
brought it up.
968
00:50:03,236 --> 00:50:06,906
Gordon: Nobody was exactly at
the same place at the same time.
969
00:50:06,908 --> 00:50:09,608
I hope, for her sake, that--
that they will eventually
970
00:50:09,610 --> 00:50:13,212
make a--a firm and formal
commitment to each other.
971
00:50:13,214 --> 00:50:15,581
OK, maybe it's just
a few simple words
972
00:50:15,583 --> 00:50:16,649
or something like that.
973
00:50:16,651 --> 00:50:18,284
Maybe it's just a little
formal ceremony,
974
00:50:18,286 --> 00:50:20,186
something like that,
but it means something.
975
00:50:20,188 --> 00:50:21,487
It makes a difference.
976
00:50:21,489 --> 00:50:25,357
It--it gives a base for someone
to feel self-confident
977
00:50:25,359 --> 00:50:30,329
about giving everything of
themselves to the other person
978
00:50:30,331 --> 00:50:34,633
without restraint
or without holding back.
979
00:50:35,802 --> 00:50:38,337
But I think that's just one
of the challenges
980
00:50:38,339 --> 00:50:41,974
that they've had
to work through.
981
00:50:42,742 --> 00:50:45,477
[Indistinct]
982
00:50:52,319 --> 00:50:54,653
So do you still, um,
continue to think
983
00:50:54,655 --> 00:50:56,689
about the future?
984
00:50:57,090 --> 00:51:00,926
Like next steps
and stuff like that.
985
00:51:00,928 --> 00:51:04,630
Well, I--I thought
we had that conversation
986
00:51:04,632 --> 00:51:08,133
recently about how
I wasn't reading your mind
987
00:51:08,135 --> 00:51:09,368
and I wasn't sure.
Yeah.
988
00:51:09,370 --> 00:51:12,204
And then you--you
reassured me
989
00:51:12,206 --> 00:51:15,774
that, um, you...
990
00:51:15,776 --> 00:51:19,178
that I--I shouldn't
be worried about anything.
991
00:51:19,180 --> 00:51:22,414
Just I was gonna see
if still--
992
00:51:22,416 --> 00:51:23,415
everything is still
the case.
993
00:51:23,417 --> 00:51:26,619
Is that still
the same thing?
994
00:51:31,258 --> 00:51:32,224
You wouldn't be
hesitant
995
00:51:32,226 --> 00:51:35,027
to the idea of
marriage, would you?
996
00:51:37,764 --> 00:51:39,965
I don't think you've
ever been so candid
997
00:51:39,967 --> 00:51:42,635
about this
conversation before.
998
00:51:42,637 --> 00:51:44,470
I guess you've been
thinking about it.
999
00:51:44,472 --> 00:51:45,337
I have.
1000
00:51:45,339 --> 00:51:47,840
[Chatter from
other tables]
1001
00:51:50,143 --> 00:51:51,944
Well, I--I'll be
honest with you.
1002
00:51:51,946 --> 00:51:54,747
I think regardless,
I'm always going to be
1003
00:51:54,749 --> 00:51:58,751
afraid of anything
that involves, um,
1004
00:51:58,753 --> 00:52:00,219
major life transition.
1005
00:52:00,221 --> 00:52:01,220
Right.
1006
00:52:01,222 --> 00:52:04,189
Right? And marriage
is one of them.
1007
00:52:04,191 --> 00:52:05,324
Is what? I'm sorry.
1008
00:52:05,326 --> 00:52:06,625
Marriage is
one of them.
1009
00:52:06,627 --> 00:52:08,661
Yeah, it is.
1010
00:52:11,631 --> 00:52:12,665
We seem pretty
happy, though,
1011
00:52:12,667 --> 00:52:14,900
as a couple,
don't we?
1012
00:52:14,902 --> 00:52:18,070
We seem pretty happy
as a couple, right?
1013
00:52:18,072 --> 00:52:22,508
Well, the question
is, do we feel happy?
1014
00:52:24,444 --> 00:52:26,111
I do.
1015
00:52:27,213 --> 00:52:30,983
I--I feel similarly.
1016
00:52:52,639 --> 00:52:55,307
Lenny: I am high class.
1017
00:52:55,375 --> 00:52:57,576
You know that?
1018
00:52:57,644 --> 00:52:59,912
What? You calling me stupid?
1019
00:52:59,980 --> 00:53:02,014
I'll call you stupid.
1020
00:53:02,082 --> 00:53:05,117
You know what?
Let me tell you something, Matt.
1021
00:53:05,185 --> 00:53:06,819
I didn't know what
the hell happened, man.
1022
00:53:06,886 --> 00:53:08,721
Let me just tell you
what happened.
1023
00:53:08,788 --> 00:53:12,291
I wish I was not autistic.
1024
00:53:12,359 --> 00:53:14,326
There. I'm gonna
say it right now.
1025
00:53:14,394 --> 00:53:17,696
I don't like it.
It makes me different.
1026
00:53:17,764 --> 00:53:18,797
I don't like it.
1027
00:53:18,865 --> 00:53:21,800
I wish I could have
been a normal person.
1028
00:53:21,868 --> 00:53:22,801
I wish I could have been
1029
00:53:22,869 --> 00:53:25,471
a normal, regular person.
1030
00:53:28,441 --> 00:53:31,944
My mom says,
"Be autistic. Accept it."
1031
00:53:32,012 --> 00:53:34,313
I tried accepting it.
1032
00:53:34,381 --> 00:53:35,781
It's hard.
1033
00:53:40,387 --> 00:53:41,920
Can I be honest with you?
1034
00:53:41,988 --> 00:53:42,988
If I could change something--
if I could--
1035
00:53:43,056 --> 00:53:44,056
I'm gonna try to change it,
1036
00:53:44,124 --> 00:53:45,190
but I told my mom this
right now
1037
00:53:45,258 --> 00:53:46,992
because of how
disappointed I was.
1038
00:53:47,060 --> 00:53:50,696
I would rather be
a normal man
1039
00:53:50,764 --> 00:53:53,665
than be an autistic person
with a million dollars.
1040
00:53:53,733 --> 00:53:56,869
There. If God came up to me
and says, "What do you want?"
1041
00:53:56,936 --> 00:53:58,404
I don't want to be
autistic anymore.
1042
00:53:58,471 --> 00:54:00,372
I wish you can give me
a new li--me.
1043
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:02,975
I could start my life all over
again and I wasn't autistic.
1044
00:54:03,043 --> 00:54:05,244
There. Let me be
a normal person.
1045
00:54:05,311 --> 00:54:07,479
I bet you all the damn people
I knew in middle school
1046
00:54:07,547 --> 00:54:10,883
and high school, they're all
in fricking college now.
1047
00:54:10,950 --> 00:54:12,785
I'm not in college.
1048
00:54:12,852 --> 00:54:14,753
That's what I wanted
when I was in high school.
1049
00:54:14,821 --> 00:54:18,290
I dreamed of going to college,
and I'm not in college.
1050
00:54:22,695 --> 00:54:27,066
I wanted to go to college.
I wanted to go to college!
1051
00:54:27,133 --> 00:54:31,070
I don't--I think now I should
have graduated college!
1052
00:54:34,707 --> 00:54:35,874
I should have been
in college right now.
1053
00:54:35,942 --> 00:54:38,177
I should have
graduated college right now.
1054
00:54:38,244 --> 00:54:39,912
I know so many people
that went to college,
1055
00:54:39,979 --> 00:54:42,314
and they're done right now.
1056
00:54:42,382 --> 00:54:43,916
I can't hang out
with people like that.
1057
00:54:43,983 --> 00:54:45,150
I can't.
1058
00:54:45,218 --> 00:54:46,318
Matt: Why not?
1059
00:54:46,386 --> 00:54:49,221
Because they're higher--
they're higher than me.
1060
00:54:51,891 --> 00:54:55,060
Look. They're up here.
I'm down here.
1061
00:54:57,263 --> 00:54:58,664
They're--I'm all
the way down here.
1062
00:54:58,731 --> 00:55:00,799
They're all the way up here.
1063
00:55:02,368 --> 00:55:04,269
That's what I think.
1064
00:55:31,764 --> 00:55:32,631
Lenny: I want to get a girl
1065
00:55:32,699 --> 00:55:34,766
that's kind of lower than me.
1066
00:55:36,870 --> 00:55:38,570
That's what I want.
1067
00:55:43,143 --> 00:55:46,979
If I found a girl that
had a job, had a car,
1068
00:55:47,046 --> 00:55:49,648
had her own home,
I can't be with her.
1069
00:55:49,716 --> 00:55:51,850
She deserves to be with
somebody better than me.
1070
00:55:51,918 --> 00:55:54,019
She's up here. I'm down here.
1071
00:55:54,087 --> 00:55:57,356
That's the way I see it.
It's hard, man.
1072
00:55:57,423 --> 00:55:59,925
It's really hard
to accept it, man.
1073
00:56:13,339 --> 00:56:16,675
Yeah, this is--
this is hard, man.
1074
00:56:19,579 --> 00:56:21,914
This is tough.
1075
00:56:23,183 --> 00:56:25,484
This is--this is probably
one of the hardest things
1076
00:56:25,552 --> 00:56:28,220
I have to go through
in my life.
1077
00:56:28,288 --> 00:56:30,822
Don't cry, man. Let me cry.
1078
00:56:30,890 --> 00:56:33,425
I don't want to see
a tear come out of your eye.
1079
00:56:33,493 --> 00:56:34,960
It's hard.
1080
00:56:40,433 --> 00:56:42,668
What do you think
about me crying?
1081
00:56:44,204 --> 00:56:45,370
What do you think the peop--
1082
00:56:45,438 --> 00:56:47,906
the viewers could think
about this?
1083
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:56,515
[Crying]
1084
00:57:07,594 --> 00:57:08,760
It's emotional.
1085
00:57:08,828 --> 00:57:11,230
I can't let that happen.
1086
00:57:11,297 --> 00:57:14,900
I got no job. I got no car.
1087
00:57:14,968 --> 00:57:18,270
I'm living with my parents.
1088
00:57:18,338 --> 00:57:20,772
I should be doing something.
1089
00:57:29,782 --> 00:57:32,851
I'm a good person, man.
I'm not a bad person, Matt.
1090
00:57:32,919 --> 00:57:36,288
I'm a good guy.
That's just--
1091
00:57:37,857 --> 00:57:40,892
It hurts. It hurts, man.
1092
00:57:47,033 --> 00:57:50,002
He once told me that...
1093
00:57:50,069 --> 00:57:57,309
that, um--he said, "You ever
walk into a room...
1094
00:57:57,377 --> 00:57:59,444
and you know everybody's
talking about you?"
1095
00:57:59,512 --> 00:58:01,146
And he said that's how
he feels every day
1096
00:58:01,214 --> 00:58:03,582
when he leaves
the house, you know?
1097
00:58:03,650 --> 00:58:05,484
So, um...
1098
00:58:06,853 --> 00:58:09,054
I just want my son
to be happy.
1099
00:58:12,091 --> 00:58:15,227
And, um, I think he needs
to come to terms
1100
00:58:15,295 --> 00:58:17,796
with who he is
1101
00:58:17,864 --> 00:58:22,134
because he's not comfortable
with who he is,
1102
00:58:22,201 --> 00:58:23,635
and if he's not
comfortable with who he is,
1103
00:58:23,703 --> 00:58:26,538
I don't know how he could
ever expect anybody else
1104
00:58:26,606 --> 00:58:28,940
to be comfortable
with who he is.
1105
00:58:55,835 --> 00:58:57,936
Stephen, voice-over:
I feel sad about Gita.
1106
00:58:58,004 --> 00:59:00,005
She died last April.
1107
00:59:02,008 --> 00:59:04,676
She had cancer. That's sad.
1108
00:59:10,683 --> 00:59:13,852
She was laying down.
She was laid to rest.
1109
00:59:18,558 --> 00:59:21,259
I miss Gita. I miss Gita.
1110
00:59:23,863 --> 00:59:25,530
When Gita died, we went
1111
00:59:25,598 --> 00:59:29,401
to the--to work
to tell him.
1112
00:59:29,469 --> 00:59:33,105
It was on a workday,
and he was there,
1113
00:59:33,172 --> 00:59:35,407
and when I told him,
1114
00:59:35,475 --> 00:59:38,443
he just turned white
like a sheet.
1115
00:59:40,980 --> 00:59:43,482
He put his head
down on the table.
1116
00:59:43,549 --> 00:59:47,085
I could tell
he was very upset.
1117
00:59:47,954 --> 00:59:49,888
She was gone.
1118
00:59:52,258 --> 00:59:53,158
Matt: Do you feel like
1119
00:59:53,226 --> 00:59:54,926
you're still
in love with Gita?
1120
00:59:54,994 --> 00:59:57,195
No. I stop loving
someone--they die,
1121
00:59:57,263 --> 00:59:58,196
because they die,
1122
00:59:58,264 --> 01:00:01,333
because Gita died
on April 9.
1123
01:00:02,635 --> 01:00:04,503
No longer in love.
1124
01:00:23,189 --> 01:00:24,923
Max: It is a big help
for him to go back--
1125
01:00:24,991 --> 01:00:27,058
go back to work.
1126
01:00:29,729 --> 01:00:32,864
Edith: We encouraged
him to pick up life
1127
01:00:32,932 --> 01:00:35,233
like...
1128
01:00:35,301 --> 01:00:37,803
normal, sort of.
1129
01:00:40,973 --> 01:00:42,140
Stephen, voice-over:
I fell in love with Gita
1130
01:00:42,208 --> 01:00:44,543
for the past 20 years.
1131
01:00:46,813 --> 01:00:49,281
And then gave--I gave
Gita a hug.
1132
01:00:49,348 --> 01:00:52,951
I gave Gita a hug.
1133
01:00:53,019 --> 01:00:56,955
I--I put my arms around her.
1134
01:01:08,401 --> 01:01:10,402
Dave: In physics, we have
something called
1135
01:01:10,470 --> 01:01:11,670
electromagnetic spectrum--
1136
01:01:11,737 --> 01:01:13,205
how much energy
a wavelength has.
1137
01:01:13,272 --> 01:01:15,173
You go from radio waves to light
1138
01:01:15,241 --> 01:01:17,676
to ultraviolet,
x-rays, gamma rays.
1139
01:01:20,480 --> 01:01:22,214
And then how I feel
towards someone
1140
01:01:22,281 --> 01:01:23,515
is kind of on a similar scale.
1141
01:01:23,583 --> 01:01:27,619
You have different wavelengths
1142
01:01:27,687 --> 01:01:30,255
going from just physical lust,
1143
01:01:30,323 --> 01:01:31,823
then you go--graduate from
1144
01:01:31,891 --> 01:01:33,992
a general interest
in the opposite sex.
1145
01:01:34,060 --> 01:01:36,962
Then you graduate from having
a specific intense crush
1146
01:01:37,029 --> 01:01:39,431
on a specific person.
1147
01:01:42,835 --> 01:01:44,836
Dave: And after that,
it kind of evolves into
1148
01:01:44,904 --> 01:01:47,339
another stage, which is
the true love stage
1149
01:01:47,406 --> 01:01:51,776
and not having that deep crush
where you're thinking about her
1150
01:01:51,844 --> 01:01:53,178
24/7 and you have
a hard time sleeping
1151
01:01:53,246 --> 01:01:54,813
because you're so much
in love with her,
1152
01:01:54,881 --> 01:01:57,883
but it kind of graduates
into a more subconscious form.
1153
01:01:57,950 --> 01:01:59,251
Let's say you're going
from light waves
1154
01:01:59,318 --> 01:02:01,386
that you can basically see
to ultraviolet waves.
1155
01:02:01,454 --> 01:02:03,355
They're still there,
but you can't see them.
1156
01:02:03,422 --> 01:02:06,057
But they're stronger.
Is that making sense?
1157
01:02:15,167 --> 01:02:16,134
Lindsey: Are you sure
that was--
1158
01:02:16,202 --> 01:02:17,335
are you sure that was
the spot
1159
01:02:17,403 --> 01:02:18,904
where we did
that photograph?
1160
01:02:18,971 --> 01:02:19,905
I want to say
it was taken
1161
01:02:19,972 --> 01:02:21,506
somewhere
around here.
1162
01:02:29,715 --> 01:02:32,384
Very--this is
nostalgic, isn't it?
1163
01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:36,454
Almost 8 years ago.
1164
01:02:37,757 --> 01:02:40,392
It's always amazing
when you look back
1165
01:02:40,459 --> 01:02:44,296
in time, how things
have grown and how
1166
01:02:44,363 --> 01:02:46,331
our relationship
has grown
1167
01:02:46,399 --> 01:02:48,400
and what we've
been through
1168
01:02:48,467 --> 01:02:50,669
has been really
amazing.
1169
01:02:50,736 --> 01:02:52,203
That says something
when you go
1170
01:02:52,271 --> 01:02:54,139
for a relationship
that long,
1171
01:02:54,206 --> 01:02:57,275
that is a very
strong signal
1172
01:02:57,343 --> 01:02:59,177
that the relationship
is meant to be.
1173
01:02:59,245 --> 01:03:02,013
And at first, um, you
were kind of confused
1174
01:03:02,081 --> 01:03:03,848
as to where
we were headed,
1175
01:03:03,916 --> 01:03:05,584
and I remember
you telling me
1176
01:03:05,651 --> 01:03:08,086
you were--you would
have been totally happy
1177
01:03:08,154 --> 01:03:09,120
just pursuing
your career
1178
01:03:09,188 --> 01:03:10,789
and being a single
woman,
1179
01:03:10,856 --> 01:03:11,790
and then...
1180
01:03:11,857 --> 01:03:13,925
Remember that slide
you kind of show
1181
01:03:13,993 --> 01:03:15,794
on your presentation--
1182
01:03:15,861 --> 01:03:17,429
is it the
physics-related slide?
1183
01:03:17,496 --> 01:03:18,763
Yes. Yes.
1184
01:03:18,831 --> 01:03:19,898
Where you have...
1185
01:03:19,966 --> 01:03:20,899
the wavelengths.
1186
01:03:20,967 --> 01:03:23,201
The alpha and the beta
and the gamma?
1187
01:03:23,269 --> 01:03:24,202
And the delta.
1188
01:03:24,270 --> 01:03:25,971
The delta.
1189
01:03:26,038 --> 01:03:30,976
And I think how I
viewed our experience
1190
01:03:31,043 --> 01:03:34,746
and our adventure
together
1191
01:03:34,814 --> 01:03:38,416
is that our wavelengths
might have been different
1192
01:03:38,484 --> 01:03:39,818
at different times--
1193
01:03:39,885 --> 01:03:41,653
It was a mutual thing.
1194
01:03:41,721 --> 01:03:44,456
And I think
1195
01:03:44,523 --> 01:03:45,991
having those different
wavelengths
1196
01:03:46,058 --> 01:03:49,027
at different times
may have been
1197
01:03:49,095 --> 01:03:52,063
a significant
reason why
1198
01:03:52,131 --> 01:03:55,834
we both may have
struggled
1199
01:03:55,901 --> 01:03:58,236
to...
1200
01:03:58,304 --> 01:04:04,242
really understand where
we may be seeing ourselves
1201
01:04:04,310 --> 01:04:05,477
in the far future.
1202
01:04:05,544 --> 01:04:06,478
But now I feel like
1203
01:04:06,545 --> 01:04:08,346
our wavelengths
are in sync.
1204
01:04:09,148 --> 01:04:11,516
I feel like
we've grown.
1205
01:04:11,584 --> 01:04:12,984
We have.
1206
01:04:13,052 --> 01:04:17,355
And I want to
only go
1207
01:04:17,423 --> 01:04:19,124
by what's in here...
1208
01:04:19,191 --> 01:04:21,259
Absolutely.
In here, too.
1209
01:04:21,327 --> 01:04:22,627
and what's in here.
1210
01:04:22,695 --> 01:04:24,863
And trust me,
it's in here.
1211
01:04:26,132 --> 01:04:27,766
It's in here
1212
01:04:27,833 --> 01:04:30,068
and always will be.
1213
01:04:30,136 --> 01:04:31,069
And I say that
1214
01:04:31,137 --> 01:04:33,304
from the bottom
of my heart.
1215
01:04:41,080 --> 01:04:42,047
[Sigh]
1216
01:04:42,114 --> 01:04:44,449
[Laughs and cries]
1217
01:04:44,517 --> 01:04:47,952
And it's OK to blush
if you want to,
1218
01:04:48,020 --> 01:04:53,291
but, um, understand
if you do.
1219
01:04:53,359 --> 01:04:55,293
But, uh, this has
been a remarkable
1220
01:04:55,361 --> 01:05:00,565
journey, and somebody
as beautiful as you
1221
01:05:00,633 --> 01:05:02,667
deserves the very best
1222
01:05:02,735 --> 01:05:05,170
and a life of happiness
together.
1223
01:05:05,237 --> 01:05:11,309
And I would very much
be honored...
1224
01:05:11,377 --> 01:05:13,712
to have you as my wife.
1225
01:05:17,349 --> 01:05:19,384
Will you marry me?
1226
01:05:35,601 --> 01:05:37,435
Yes, I will marry you.
1227
01:05:46,512 --> 01:05:47,979
There you are.
1228
01:05:53,419 --> 01:05:54,486
That's why I wore
my vest--
1229
01:05:54,553 --> 01:05:56,287
to conceal that.
1230
01:05:56,355 --> 01:06:00,258
I--I was wondering
about that.
1231
01:06:03,129 --> 01:06:04,996
But definitely
in the delta region
1232
01:06:05,064 --> 01:06:06,798
where it's true love.
1233
01:06:06,866 --> 01:06:09,567
That's the wavelength
we're both in.
1234
01:06:21,213 --> 01:06:25,450
"Your task is not
to seek for love
1235
01:06:25,518 --> 01:06:29,020
"but merely to seek
and find all the barriers
1236
01:06:29,088 --> 01:06:33,691
within yourself that
you have built against it."
1237
01:06:33,759 --> 01:06:36,761
That quote really
resonates with my life.
1238
01:06:38,297 --> 01:06:44,769
All the negative things
that I heard on autism
1239
01:06:44,837 --> 01:06:51,309
growing up, it definitely made
me feel worthless or less.
1240
01:06:54,013 --> 01:06:58,449
I had consistently
set up barriers
1241
01:06:58,517 --> 01:07:00,919
to protect myself.
1242
01:07:00,986 --> 01:07:07,992
It's very easy to not feel like
that you can trust people.
1243
01:07:15,701 --> 01:07:20,071
I thought that perhaps
1244
01:07:20,139 --> 01:07:25,243
Dave was holding back
more than I was.
1245
01:07:25,311 --> 01:07:31,382
But what I discovered
through a lot of introspection
1246
01:07:31,450 --> 01:07:36,221
is that I was really
holding back, too.
1247
01:07:55,174 --> 01:07:57,175
Alex Trebek: This
author's losing entry
1248
01:07:57,243 --> 01:07:59,911
in a 1948 literary
contest--
1249
01:07:59,979 --> 01:08:01,646
Who was Arthur C. Clarke?
1250
01:08:01,714 --> 01:08:03,147
Alex: ...2001? Lars.
1251
01:08:03,215 --> 01:08:04,148
Lars: Who is Clarke?
1252
01:08:04,216 --> 01:08:06,217
Alex: Arthur C. Clarke.
You are right.
1253
01:08:06,285 --> 01:08:08,453
Lars: U.S. Cabinet, 200.
1254
01:08:08,520 --> 01:08:09,654
Alex: Which Cabinet
department,
1255
01:08:09,722 --> 01:08:12,624
the Transportation
Security Administration...
1256
01:08:14,226 --> 01:08:16,127
Lenny: I'm gonna throw
a penny in the water,
1257
01:08:16,195 --> 01:08:17,662
make a wish.
1258
01:08:21,133 --> 01:08:23,268
When I make my wishes,
I make it clear
1259
01:08:23,335 --> 01:08:26,504
that I don't tell anybody, OK?
1260
01:08:26,572 --> 01:08:27,805
Hey, by the way, there's
some more ducks over there.
1261
01:08:27,873 --> 01:08:30,375
Why don't you go
film them all over there?
1262
01:08:45,891 --> 01:08:47,992
Lenny: Got one minute
left, by the way.
1263
01:08:49,094 --> 01:08:50,295
When that one minute's
over with, I'm gone.
1264
01:08:50,362 --> 01:08:53,665
I got to go back.
I like to get there early.
1265
01:08:54,767 --> 01:08:57,368
I don't know.
It's kind of fun doing this.
1266
01:09:00,039 --> 01:09:02,807
6 weeks I've been
working here at Flora.
1267
01:09:02,875 --> 01:09:06,210
Here. Here's your--here's
the one right here.
1268
01:09:08,247 --> 01:09:10,481
A famous person that had
a job like this
1269
01:09:10,549 --> 01:09:11,549
when he was a young man
was Kurt Warner.
1270
01:09:11,617 --> 01:09:12,583
You don't know who
Kurt Warner is?
1271
01:09:12,651 --> 01:09:14,118
He's the--he's
the football player--
1272
01:09:14,186 --> 01:09:18,156
he's the quarterback who played
for the Rams a long time ago.
1273
01:09:18,223 --> 01:09:19,824
You don't remember how
that Super Bowl happened
1274
01:09:19,892 --> 01:09:21,759
where it was the last
second on--
1275
01:09:21,827 --> 01:09:24,128
they were one yard
short of winning it?
1276
01:09:24,196 --> 01:09:26,197
Well, he was the quarterback
of that winning game.
1277
01:09:26,265 --> 01:09:28,766
All right. I got
to go back now. Sorry.
1278
01:09:29,768 --> 01:09:31,536
Got to go.
1279
01:09:31,603 --> 01:09:33,671
Sorry. Got to go back now.
1280
01:09:36,508 --> 01:09:40,311
I'm back now. May I have
a drink of water, please?
1281
01:09:43,248 --> 01:09:44,682
OK, ready?
OK.
1282
01:09:44,750 --> 01:09:45,683
All right.
1283
01:09:45,751 --> 01:09:46,684
[Plays note]
1284
01:09:46,752 --> 01:09:49,187
So it starts
here, OK?
1285
01:09:49,254 --> 01:09:50,188
Ready?
1286
01:09:50,255 --> 01:09:51,189
Mm-hmm.
1287
01:09:51,256 --> 01:09:53,624
[Playing "Heart and Soul"]
1288
01:10:00,099 --> 01:10:03,534
Don't pound it.
Just gently.
1289
01:10:18,217 --> 01:10:20,852
["Heart and Soul" continues]
1290
01:10:22,105 --> 01:10:28,638
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