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This is my story, but it might be familiar.

I would later find out that a lot of people go through something very

Faith, pain, and conviction.

Andy, welcome.

Thank you.

Thank you for speaking with us today. I know it takes a lot of courage.

Thank you. It's an honor.

I didn't think I had the strength to speak with you all, but a little friend

reminded me that we don't all have it together.

And my broken healing self is enough.

And I get mad at where I thought I would be.

My pride can take a backseat to remind me where I

used to be and be happy.

I'm not there anymore.

Who cares if I take a side street?

I've learned detours only lead to beauty.

I created a new me, said goodbye to who I used

to be.

I can't say I was happy to see her go.

She has parts of me I may never know.

And my heart, it's on a string.

It's attached to my sleeve.

I don't let anybody take it too far.

It's been broken into little pieces. It just started to

heal and I'm not ready to show anyone those scars.

Might not be pretty, but you should know that the hurting me

is not the broken me anymore.

Hi, honey. Sorry I missed your call. I'm just out for a quick ride.

Call me when you get this.

Love you.

So tell me about your background.

I was raised Catholic, and we love going to church together now.

But Daniel has questions that I just can't answer, so I realize I don't know

enough about my faith.

Well, that's natural. That's what's so great about learning the faith. We grow

in our understanding.

Yes, I want to know its origin.

I went through catechism as a kid, but that was it.

And how long have you been coming to Mass together?

Well, we're new to the area, so it's just been a few months.

And we were going to church together the whole time that we were dating, so it's

been five years.

Wow. Wow, that's great that you've kept it up. And we're going to keep it up.

It's our favorite thing to do together.

We're nerds like that.

Oh, we heard the announcement after Mass about completing sacraments. And I was

never confirmed.

So we want to do it together.

I love seeing your dedication doing it together.

It really bonds marriages.

I love that.

And we're also really excited about meeting new couple friends.

Do you and your husband come to all the events?

I do. My husband tries to, but he's pretty busy with work. Oh, sure. Mel,

husband is Coach Granger.

I just saw his interview.

That guy is great. He's brought the team so far in such a short amount of time.

This is the other way that Daniel nerds out.

Well, let me get you the schedule of events.

Oh.

Are you okay?

Um, yes.

Thank you.

So this is the schedule of events and the different church celebrations, the

topics we cover.

Hey. Hello, Brad.

Go ahead and have a seat.

I got scared you weren't going to come.

Well, I couldn't make it until now.

You're the one out gallivanting.

I was by myself.

What's this?

I enjoy biking, but I don't do it much anymore.

Why not?

She'd ride with a bunch of guys.

You're a married woman.

But maybe she'll do it now, since we're going to separate.

Separate?

Tell me about this.

I don't want to. We just talked about it.

Maybe we need to do something drastic to fix this.

I'd rather we go to the retreat.

I'm here, and I should be at work.

A retreat for troubled marriages?

Really?

She'd understand if she had a real job.

Let's remember to use our I statements, Brad.

Andy, how do you feel when Brad says this?

I don't know.

Well, how do you feel about your work?

Being a part of people's faith journey?

Amazing.

But if it's interfering with our marriage, I already gave up my other

to dedicate more time to Brad.

Well, making time to attend church together is a good dedication.

You used to attend together your first year of marriage.

What changed?

We did, when we were engaged, and then it became less and less.

And now he doesn't even want me to go.

That's not true.

Yes, it is.

Just yesterday, you said that... What fun things do you do together?

I go out to eat, to the gym.

I go to all his games.

What about nice walks to chat?

Walk?

You know, that was our first date.

We walked on the beach for two hours.

I thought it was wonderful.

On our honeymoon, we were fighting bad.

He finally told me that he hates walking.

So no, we don't walk.

Looking at your four years of marriage, how often do you fight?

Constantly.

And you typically resolve your fight?

He won't talk through things.

If it's really bad and I feel like I want to crawl out of my skin, I drive to

the park and cry and pray.

And this is only our third session, but things are looking pretty clear to me.

I have a critical question for you both in order to move forward.

Andy?

Do you want your marriage to work?

Yes, of course I do.

I'll do anything.

We can do this.

Brett, do you want your marriage to work?

And are you willing to put in the hard work?

I'm not the one who needs to be here.

Andy can talk about her tough childhood.

You had a tough one too.

With your mom's affair.

I have my recommendation.

Over my 30 years of counseling over a thousand couples, I've only said this

times.

You two need to divorce.

Good

afternoon,

Andy. Hi, Father.

How'd everything go today?

Okay.

I just have to work harder.

Well, you work hard.

I think you'd like to know Sister Teresa took a spill. She's in the hospital.

I wondered where she was.

Not to worry. She'll be fine. They're releasing her tomorrow, and she'll be up

for visitors then. Okay.

Thank you, Father Joseph.

Hey, Abby.

This is David, the kindest man ever. And his family is awesome.

Hi,

Andy. Sorry for inviting you out. Oh, no, you're fine.

We'll see you tomorrow.

Okay. Can I get some ice cream?

I kind of wish I had what they have.

David loves his wife and kids.

This is what love looks like.

I don't think Brad can love our kids like this if we ever had kids.

Oh, sister.

Hi, Tim.

How are you doing?

How are you feeling? Can I hug you?

A gentle hug?

Sister Teresa.

I call her my Irish twin.

No, I think I handled that fall like a gymnast. I'm sure you did.

So, tell me, Andy, how are you and Brad doing? I've been praying for you.

I'll let you two ladies talk, and I'll check on you tomorrow.

Tim, thank you.

You've been wonderful.

It was nothing, ladies.

Bye, Tim.

Okay, Andy.

How's it going with the new therapist?

He came highly recommended, and he's helped a lot of couples that we know.

I was hopeful, but he said he thought we should divorce.

And he's a Catholic therapist.

Andy, they may be words of wisdom.

Sometimes when we can't see things clearly for ourselves, God will send us

someone to help us until we can see clearly.

Sister, we'll work it out.

I made a vow, and I intend to do all I can to... To do your part.

And you've done that.

But if we could just get to the marriage retreat and if he could get back to the

men's group for the prayer and support.

And if I could... Oh, sister, I'll let you rest.

I think the party's catching up with me.

Andy, I love you.

Keep praying and know that God is with you and he loves you very much.

Thank you, sister.

I hope you can get back to work soon.

Oh, I will.

They need me.

Yeah,

I'll have the tickets for you and Rick at the front.

And a T -shirt if you want.

It's just your color.

See you after our win.

What?

Oh, come on. What the hell?

Hey, hey. Mr.

Davis.

How we doing?

Ready for next week?

You know it.

Let's keep that undefeated.

That's the plan.

So, I heard we have a few competitors after our kid.

We can't lose him.

I'm working on a few incentives.

We'll be fine.

That's what I like to hear.

You're doing a great job, Brad.

Don't know what we'd do without you.

Hi, Andy.

Hi. Good to see you, Mr. Davis. I just thought I'd surprise my husband with

lunch. Hi, honey.

Well, now it's a party. Hi, Mr. D.

Hi, Debra.

Andy. Hi, boss.

Hey.

Dedicated volunteer.

Kind wife who brings you lunch.

Lucky man, Brad.

I'll see you.

Made you these?

Oh, yeah.

Brad.

Um, I don't think I have time to eat, Andy.

We'll talk later.

I'll see you at home.

Want a cookie for the road?

Oh, thanks.

What is wrong with me?

Why do I feel so left out?

Am I just being jealous?

Hi. Hey.

It was good to see you.

How was the rest of your day?

Stressed. What are you hiding?

Not hiding.

Journaling.

Praying.

To get answers.

Answers to what?

Trying to prove something to the therapist?

No.

I want to talk to you about Debra.

Oh, forget I asked.

Brad, I think she's flirting with you.

Oh, Andy, she helps me.

I thought you wanted me to succeed.

I do.

I just feel this tension.

Maybe I should be asking you about David.

I know you like him. That's why you wear what you wear, huh?

Brad, I love you.

Only you.

If we can get to that retreat and get back to where we started.

Oh, shut up, Andy. You're such a crazy nag.

Brad, I... What is wrong with you? Are you slow?

My eyes, they get blurry. I don't know why.

Look, I'm sorry.

You know I love you.

Lord, I don't want this.

But please help me be a good wife.

Do you need some help?

Oh, she definitely needs help.

Hey, Andy.

Can I get another beer?

So what's new in the big world?

You still considering that coaching position in Colorado?

Yeah, maybe.

The pay is good.

Brad? Can you get me another one, too?

You didn't... Oh, hey, Andy.

Can you bring me that foil over there?

Yeah.

I made some jerky.

Try it.

I'm so vegetarian, thanks. Oh, it's not me.

What do you think?

Pretty good.

What is it, jackfruit?

It's deer.

Jack the deer.

How was Brad's game, Andy?

You missed a great game.

They covered it in the papers.

I can't believe I had to miss your game.

I wish I could scream.

Do I count for anything?

Andy!

I'm so sorry.

What the hell happened?

You're such a mess.

It's my eye.

Get glasses, you idiot.

They're getting worse.

Oh, shut up!

Who's that?

I learned later that cheaters treat their partners as if they are the ones

cheating. It's like reverse psychology.

You, uh, ruined most of the night.

Let's not make it a total waste.

I didn't know this at the time.

It was messing up my mind.

Never mind.

Better yet, we should just finally use a condom. My sanity.

I'm sick of your natural family crap.

What?

Yeah. I love having to check a chart to see if I can have sex with my wife.

There are so many reasons.

If you would just be open to having kids like you said you were. You're enough

to deal with.

You'd be a screwed up mom anyway, just like yours was.

That's not true. I'd be a good mom.

You want a baby?

Fine. Come on.

But you'll deal with it, woman.

Brad.

You are the reason I get so angry.

My God.

I love Brad.

could one day kill me.

If he does, I'll be okay.

I have peace, and I'll be with

you.

I now pronounce you man and wife.

You may kiss the bride.

I thought you were Brad.

Sorry I came unannounced.

It's okay. Morgan is my closest friend.

My friends are my family.

What happened?

What's wrong?

Rick threw a binder at the window.

Andy, didn't you hear me? He threw a binder.

Brad does that.

Well, it's not healthy.

I'm starting to wonder, you know, if...

Is he a narcissist?

I don't know much about narcissism.

You don't? It's a personality disorder.

But some people could have narcissistic tendencies.

And you think Rick is?

Maybe. He's so rigid and uncompromising.

Does he blame you for things you haven't done?

No. No, that's projection.

No, even worse, that's displacement.

Does he get angry and...

Just focus on his own feelings and not have any empathy for you.

Are you talking about Brad?

I'm just trying to understand.

Rick never even raised his voice, which is why this is such a shock.

I take it you guys are still fighting?

Well, you always seem to make up.

Sometimes I just...

Brad would hit me.

People could see it.

Just because Morgan doesn't understand doesn't mean you're not being abused.

Emotional abuse is even trickier because there's no bruise to show for it.

The scarring of manipulation, tearing down your spirit can be crippling.

How does it affect you that Brad keeps saying you're going to leave him?

I don't understand why he does that.

It's not who I am. I would never do that, and he knows it.

It's why he married me.

Exactly. You believe in marriage.

Yes. Yet he's not trying to make the marriage work either.

Kind of like a little trap he has you in.

Why would he not want it and stay in it?

Maybe because he wants to blame you.

That you're the one who leaves and it's not really his fault, but he'll keep you

around.

I'm trying to understand him.

Like I always tried to understand my mom growing up.

She would love me one minute and hate me the next.

It didn't make sense. She would yell at me. I hadn't done anything wrong.

But my family didn't help, so I figured it was my fault, and I deserved it.

And there was no one to help.

They didn't know.

I mean, it happened all the time, but I guess it must have just been me and my

mom during those times.

They knew.

They were part of the problem.

My dad said he never thought.

He turned the other way, Andy.

There's no way he couldn't know.

He didn't know how to stand up to your mom or protect you.

Keep kind women and protective men in your life.

That will help you heal.

What do you think about what the therapist recommended?

On the one hand, I feel supported, like I do with you.

That I'm not so crazy and that this marriage really has its problems.

He didn't say it lightly.

He took a risk calling it out.

He sees it and wants to help.

But I don't think I can leave.

Does it take more strength to stay or to leave?

I don't know.

But I made a vow to make this work to the end.

What's the end that God wants?

And how does your vow answer to it?

Hi.

Been a hard day.

Oh.

What the hell is this?

I know you've been under a lot of stress lately, but I just wonder if something

else is going on.

You think I need help? We both do.

You're the crazy one.

Cuckoo, cuckoo, cuckoo. No.

You don't push me. I'm sorry, Brad.

Brad, let's walk through this.

So you'll most likely come across couples who want to remarry in the

they would need to go through the process of the annulment, in which case

would see if the marriage was invalid or non -sacramental, basically having a

defect before the start of the marriage.

We'll review the conditions.

The first is duress.

So due to threats, violence, or constraints, one party is forced to

marriage against their will or better judgment.

Misrepresentation at the time of the marriage.

Can you give me an example of one of those?

Of misrepresentation? Sure.

It's also known as fraud. For example, one party says that they're a certain

religion because it's important to the other party.

Or they lie.

They say that they'll raise the children in the Catholic Church.

Another common one is where a spouse says they don't drink, and then after

get married, they find out that they do.

Yes, that's right.

Mental incapacity, this is not just a refusal, neglect, or difficulty,

rather an inability to assume the basic marital obligations.

Um, Andy, sorry to interrupt.

Didn't you say you needed to end the session a little early today?

Well, it's getting close to that time.

Uh, we'll finish up tomorrow. Thank you, everyone.

Andy, are you okay?

Yeah, I'm okay.

If you need to talk, I'm here.

I don't like to talk about it. I understand.

I just... I don't know if we're headed to divorce.

I'm confused because I... I thought it was God's will that I marry Brad.

Maybe it was.

Why would he lead me to a marriage that's not going to last, have me suffer

to leave me out?

Dana got in my favorite.

That grace, like water, flows to the lowest point. And maybe your suffering

what you needed to get closer to God.

And now he has another path for you.

I work for the church.

What kind of an example is that?

You're legit, Andy. You just taught us the qualifications that under high

scrutiny, these unions are non -sacramental.

Doesn't that describe your marriage?

My marriage fits this.

I didn't want to believe it.

I'm kind of a mess.

But at least I know it now.

Take comfort.

Look at Jesus' disciples.

He worked his ministry through them. He could work through all of us, even in

our brokenness.

I'm afraid for this marriage to end.

Because it means that my promise to love wasn't strong enough.

No. You can't control anyone but yourself.

And you can't force anyone to love.

A marriage is not about bringing 50 % each. It's about each person bringing

100%. And that's what you did.

Another reason I don't want to quit.

Is that if this marriage is over.

So is my chance of being a mom.

No.

But you know.

I saw David the other day. And the way he loves his kids.

Brad could never love our child.

You're valuing.

the life of your non -existent child.

I guess that's good.

But when do you take a moment to value your life?

I'm going to go to the restaurant. We'll be right back, okay? Okay.

Hey, I know you haven't been sharing much right now, and I'm really sorry

everything you've been going through, but you have your faith to keep you

strong.

Thank you, Laura.

I'm just trying to deal.

Yeah, no worries.

Just know that we're here for you.

I need to get to that thing called work, too.

Tell me later.

I'm fine.

Did you catch her on the way out? I did, yes.

I'm so sorry. I went on and on about my classes.

No, it's okay.

It gives me a break from thinking about my stuff.

Well, maybe it's too much for him.

He says he's got a lot going on.

What?

I mean, he has scouts that are coming to check on the athletes and his boss is

really hard on him at work. You talk to him?

We have coffee.

I'm sorry, Morgan.

I think you need to choose whose friend you are.

Mine or his.

Well, I'm your friend.

Good.

We've been friends for a long time.

And you're my best friend.

I should get going.

Good luck at your doctor's appointment, and we'll talk soon, okay?

Let's go.

My heart is falling quickly.

My mind is drifting fast.

Depleted as of yesterday.

Paint that cloud my path.

If I keep looking back.

Hi, Andy.

Hi, Father.

I'm riding Ubers now.

Your eyes?

Yeah.

It's not sounding good.

This is when I need Brad and we're separated.

I'm sorry.

But separation can lead to the right solution.

It can bring couples back together.

Or, of course, it can lead to divorce.

Could God be calling me out of this marriage?

Was I meant to go through this awful... Well, there's a few things to consider.

You didn't have full disclosure, Andy, about Brad.

Did you see this coming?

I had my concerns.

You guys fought a lot during your engagement, but you always seemed to

out. The marriage prep materials...

It did show areas of concern. In fact, it leaned towards incompatibility, and I

thought you saw that.

No, I didn't.

And we didn't resolve those arguments.

I was fooling myself.

And Brad plays a good game.

You were determined.

Sounds about right.

Well, now you can be determined to reexamine where God is leading you.

It's moments like these that can lead to inspiration.

Maybe God is saving me now through his love, giving me clarity.

I need him for the strength.

There was a moment, a Holy Spirit moment, when my mom went to go hit me,

did.

I know it's a blocker.

I can see it like it was yesterday.

We were both shocked, stared at each other.

It was not like me. I'd never done that before.

From that moment on, my mom didn't hit me again.

I just don't have that strength.

To leave.

It's hard to stop abuse.

But with God's grace, maybe it can.

I think you're calling me to let go.

I was holding on so tight.

Trying to save him.

Save my marriage.

I didn't let you guide.

I'm sorry.

I know you want to heal me.

Take my marriage.

Take my eyesight.

My suffering.

I need you, Lord, please.

It's me.

Hello, Andy. I was just going to set up for reflection night.

Oh, my precious girl.

Oh,

Andy.

It'll be okay.

It'll be okay.

He's got you.

He's got you.

Thank you for coming in, Andy.

Your exams show that you have diminished eyesight.

Now, there's no way to tell how bad this is going to get or how long this is

going to last.

And I am sorry they don't have a more clear prognosis and cause.

I concluded the condition called somatic trauma response, perhaps caused by the

stress you mentioned about your marriage.

Probably divorce.

Ah, yes.

well, more stress, and that stress is triggering cortisol, which is affecting

your eyesight and could lead to more medical conditions. But for now, let's

focus on this one.

So I am referring you to a specialist, and my assistant can provide some

additional resources to help you through this process.

So my eyes... I'm sorry.

Call Brad.

What do you want?

Nothing new.

We both heard it.

We know it.

You didn't want to say it for whatever reason.

I didn't want to give up on my vow.

And I didn't. I was true to my vow.

But God is speaking to me.

And I'm listening.

Are you going to tell me you have cancer or something?

No.

But I do have an eye illness, and it's scary.

But I need to give it to God and trust.

I can let go of my own expectations and let God lead my life.

Greg, well, I got to go. Brad, it's time to divorce.

Hey, Andy.

I didn't see you back here. Are you okay?

Um, not really.

My eyes are failing, and my marriage is... Yeah, I'm really

sorry.

He told you?

He's staying with us.

We didn't want him staying at a hotel, so we asked him to live with us.

He has his own office and room.

It'll be really nice for him.

Look, I've got dinner planned, so I'm going to go.

Let's chat later, okay?

Andy. Laura?

I didn't see you in bath.

Have you been here the whole time?

Yeah. I'll walk out with you.

What's wrong?

I think I need to make a change.

It's going to be hard to leave this church.

You would leave?

Really, Andy?

Hey, try your Lady of Grace.

That's good parish.

Thanks.

I will.

Hey, what are you doing tomorrow?

Ready? Yeah.

How are your eyes?

Um, blurry.

But I see you're purple.

I'm excited for you to show me your workout. Thanks for being my new gym

partner. Brad can be much fun.

You know, we had some fun times.

But he didn't like me going to the gym by myself.

So I didn't.

That must sound really lame.

No, you were trying to make things work.

But controlling you is not loving.

Yeah.

You want to pray?

Yeah, let's sit.

Lord, we thank you for this time of struggle.

What? It's because we know you're here helping us through, Lord.

Good comes out of all things to those who believe and trust in you.

Please give Andy peace and strength during her divorce.

And we pray for Brad and his pain.

I know we need to pray for him, but do we need to do it today?

Yes.

And for her eyes to be healed, Lord.

And for her heart, through all of this, she may have insight.

And thank you, Lord, for showing us your love through friends like Laura.

I appreciate her so much.

Please continue to bless her, her friends, the family, work and ministry.

We praise you. We thank you. We love you. In your name we pray.

Amen. Amen.

answer. Answer call.

Hello. You know, I decided I'm not giving you the divorce.

I'm not signing.

What? I'm not signing. Why would you do this right now?

We filed months ago.

We have the mediator tomorrow.

Hello, Brad.

Don't worry. He can't stop the divorce.

Only one person is needed to file. I know my cousin went through this.

Really? Oh, my God.

I'm sorry for your cousin and anyone who goes through this.

It's been hell.

Let's go get a good one.

I didn't know any of this.

Yeah, good information, huh?

Morgan's a great little resource.

Her law school classes are coming in handy.

Now she's advising you?

I'm entitled to the money I put into the mortgage and the condo. Isn't that

right, Joanne?

Can you really take my condo from me?

I didn't know the percentage he might be owed. I'll look into that.

But as far as the actual condo, it depends on whose name is on the title.

Well, I'm sure she added me on.

But it wouldn't entirely go to you, Brad. You would both need to sell and

the money.

Fine.

It's my home.

Andy, I see that you're splitting your mom's inheritance. That was before you

two met and got married, right?

Yeah. Well, I gotta get back to my job.

You both have three days to make any changes.

It's not final until then.

Usually one of the parties seems to give the whole farm away.

Thank you.

Candy, you're splitting your mom's inheritance.

One of the parties seems to give the farm away.

As far as the condo, that depends on whose name is on the title. A title. A

title.

Open Sing Out app.

Settlement statement.

Type of loan.

Homeowners Association.

This property belongs to the undersigned.

Andy Cruz. This property belongs to the undersigned. Andy Cruz.

Thank you, God. Thank you.

Holy Spirit, you rock.

Why did we have to come back, Andy?

Because I see that you were taking the farm.

I said no spousal support.

And I agreed to that. I don't want anything from you.

But my condo stays with me.

No, it doesn't.

Yes, it does.

Actually, it does. Looks like it's in Andy's name.

You will receive the percentage of the money you put into the mortgage.

As for the condo itself, it will remain with Andy.

Well, that's the last of the negotiation.

I'll drop the new papers and get them over to you both.

Ridiculous.

Thank you for meeting again.

Of course.

Good luck.

Knock, knock.

Penny?

Hey, what a surprise.

Is everything okay?

I was hoping we could talk about your decision to divorce.

Um, okay.

God gave me a message for you.

He doesn't want you to get a divorce.

What? It's not right.

You need to stay with Brad.

But he doesn't even... No, no, no. Stop blaming him, Andy.

We have to honor our vows.

No matter what.

You have no right to leave him.

God's given me a peace about this.

This is not about God.

God does not condone this just because you want a different life.

I did everything I could to save this marriage.

And God doesn't condone abuse.

Divorce will mark you.

You can't receive communion.

No, that's a misimpression.

Divorce doesn't separate an individual from the Catholic Church.

And I've been to confession for my part in all of this.

Andy, you're not listening to me.

I... Appreciate you wanting to keep me as a daughter -in -law, but it's

not that.

I realize that God is the only one I need to listen to.

Penny, Penny, no!

Oh, Andy, do you have the tablecloth for... Andy, are you all right?

What happened?

Oh, she's awake.

Oh, Andy, you frightened me.

Are you okay?

Tell me what you remember.

Oh, it felt like a dream.

Penny was here.

No.

More like a nightmare.

Penny, your mother -in -law.

Father, am I not supposed to end things with Brad?

She's delirious.

Father, talk sense into her.

Okay.

Tell me what happened.

She had a message for me from God to not divorce Brad.

Tell me what you know versus what you feel. I understand my marriage was not

sacramental. It was abusive, among other things.

And I am listening to God.

He's loving me in and through all of this.

I'm seeing things for what they really are.

But... For her to say that God told her.

Does she pray?

Does she listen to God?

No. She's not religious.

No. And what about her marital situation?

I don't think she's very happy.

So maybe it's projection because... Oh, no, it's displacement.

Morgan is very helpful.

Perhaps Penny is resentful of your peace.

And you moving on with your life without her son in it.

So her message to me had nothing to do with me making a mistake.

Maybe I can help her.

Yeah, maybe.

But listen, remember, some people can't face their own situation.

And they don't even want help.

Well, it took me a while.

Well, I'll just pray for my ex -mother -in -law.

Thank you, Father.

Let's get you up.

Yeah.

Those

who

haven't been abused may not understand.

Those who have know it's real and hard to break.

But we have to.

Just not easy.

Here I am again trying

to fake it like it's all okay.

But it's not. I love these goggles.

Kind of pricey.

You know, there is financial help for some of that.

Yeah, I really want those goggles.

Yeah?

I think this

might be your divorce letter.

Really? Do you want me to open it?

Yes, please.

This is it.

Stamped and sealed.

Stamped and sealed.

That took a long time.

I'm already working on my annulment papers.

Oh, it's here.

Hola, Andy.

Hola, gracias por venir.

Hi, I'm Tim.

I've heard great things about you. Oh, I don't believe it. Oh, great things?

Anthony's been part of the VI group for many years, and he's part of my new art

class. Nice.

We've heard great things, and I appreciate all the support you've been

So she is saying good things about me. She's been a blessing in my life.

Anyway, enough of the mushy stuff.

I brought the goods. Okay,

straight ahead. Follow me.

There's the couch here on the left.

Okay.

oh okay all right that's what's on the wiki six okay yeah

i use them to help identify your stuff let's start with the microwave

i know you like to use a microwave a lot i don't like to cook microwaves are

cooking so you want to put them on the even numbers um sure

Yeah, let me move that there.

Andy, you can still see, right?

Un poquito.

Why? I'm just wondering why you put it in the wrong place.

I downloaded some of those apps you told me about. They're really helpful.

Yeah, the rehab center has a lot to offer.

Don't forget to look into that computer program that they can get you for free.

Thanks. I will.

I'll need it.

Do you guys need any help?

Yes, please.

I'll leave these here for you to work with.

I got to get to my date.

Shadows is going to pick me up in a couple of minutes.

Thank you very much.

Oh, yeah, Andy.

You're doing great. And congrats on getting all of your office papers all

away. That's a big task.

Yeah, thank God I did, because now... You got everything?

Yeah, yeah.

Call me, Andy.

I will. Have fun on your date. Be good.

Do I have to?

I know, I know.

Purity pays.

Purity pays.

I haven't been able to see more than blurry for a long time I don't think

coming back This is it

Thanks for your help, Father.

The VI technology is hard with these forms.

Well, you know I'm happy to help.

And you've done a lot already.

I really want to get it done.

So for the annulment, we need to show that there's defect before the marriage.

You mentioned lots of red flags during the engagement.

Why didn't you call off the engagement?

I thought it was too late.

I had already given my word and we were engaged.

So you were of the belief that once you got married, everything would be better.

Yeah.

And the assumption that if you do everything just right, the marriage

to succeed.

Well, you did the prep, marriage prep, the saving intimacy, the prayer

retreat. Those were all good.

They just didn't work for your marriage.

I had hoped that if I could just keep loving Brad.

Keep honoring my vow no matter how hard.

That God would bless our marriage.

Miracles happen.

Miracles do happen.

But trying to find your connection to God through unachievable perfection

true. And expecting it from God isn't fair.

People have free will.

Brad just wasn't able to give you what you needed in the marriage.

I wanted God to be proud of me.

I didn't even realize I was doing that. I know that's not how God works.

And now I wonder if I've caused my own illness.

I hope God can forgive me.

This sounds like we're going into confession.

Is that what you need, Annie?

Yes, please.

May God be in your mind and in your heart.

Have a good compassion.

Well, everything I just said and I made my vow a little

God.

And I might have made Brad an equal to God because I was so focused on making

him happy to the point of staying in a booth.

Not what God wanted.

Well, God can heal, and God forgives you.

Is that all, Andy?

Isn't that enough?

Thank you, Father, for being one of those to help me see.

It took losing my eyesight to see things more clearly.

You know, loss can be a blessing.

Yes, many times it is.

So for your penance, say the prayer of contrition and pray three Hail Marys.

Okay.

God, the Father of mercy, through the death and resurrection of his Son, has

reconciled the world to himself and sent the Holy Spirit among us for the

forgiveness of sins.

Through the ministry of the church, may God give you pardon and peace and

absolve you from your sins. In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy

Spirit. Amen. Amen.

Thank you, Father.

Hello. What's going on?

What do you need?

Well, I'm just looking at this lovely invitation.

I'll be seeing you at our friend's wedding in a few months.

Harry's wedding?

I'm in the wedding. Please, don't go.

The invitation was for Morgan, but she said I could go.

Save a dance for me.

continue to destroy.

No.

You cannot steal my joy.

As instructors, we are an example of how we handle the crosses we have been

given, and we can help our participants in what difficulties they go through in

their faith journeys.

Andy.

Hi, Father.

I have some great news.

Yes? Your anointment came in. I have the papers right here.

Oh! I want to give it to you in person if you want it.

Yes, please.

You know, it's very strange it came to my desk instead of the head of the

tribunal. If it would have gone through the normal routes, it would have taken

at least another week.

Another gift.

You know, I feel like the church understands.

They make decisions for our lives, and they offer a

new life.

I feel such freedom.

Thank you Father.

You're welcome.

Hey, Andy.

Caleb. Hey, nice to see you.

It's been a long time. Nice to see you, too.

Well, you're, I mean, you're still as lovely as ever.

Aren't you sweet?

Well, let's get started. I know you don't have much time.

Yeah, oh, and thanks for meeting me here. I'm not, like, you know, going for

offices. No, I like this place, and it's close by.

Okay, so tell me, you've been leading this whole program.

I mean, even since you lost your eyesight? How do you do that?

Oh, well, I see a little bit, and the devices I use are very helpful.

I made some modifications to my work requirements and a lot of organization

strategy.

Wow. I mean, that's a lot. Andy, you're amazing.

No, you just make do with what you've got and know how blessed you are.

Right, right. Well, you're still a charmer.

I didn't remember you being so playful, Caleb.

Well, I didn't remember the teacher being so beautiful.

So you're interested in confirmation?

Have you been going to math?

Oh, yeah. No, I stopped for a while. There's just a lot of other stuff going

But I look forward to your session and receiving my sacrament at Easter with

you.

There's nothing more beautiful.

Exactly.

So I lead the sessions, but the priest and deacon are very involved, and you'll

meet everyone else who's a part of the process.

But you're still part of it.

Yes.

So let me give you the calendar of events and start coming to our sessions

week.

This is a list of all the participants and their phone numbers.

What? Just kidding. It's the calendar. Oh, because I mark all my forms, so I

thought this was a big problem.

Hey, there's a really.

Great bagel shop, like, right around the corner.

Would you like to get breakfast tomorrow?

Um, I don't think so, thanks.

I need to keep this professional.

I mean, nothing says we can't get to know each other, right?

There probably is.

I just never had the situation.

Okay, well, you do need to get to know me as a participant, right?

Um... And, and you have to eat.

So, look, I know you're busy. We can be quick.

I do need to hear more about the big commitment I'm making to God and food

health. You are very convincing.

Let me think about it.

That's great.

Okay, well, I'll be in touch.

Okay.

You knew my name.

You were talking to me.

As the days go by, grief and why

I know.

Super sweet.

And from what I remember, he's pretty cute, too.

And we've kissed.

Wow.

It's been really nice.

Has he talked about being exclusive when he's in marriage?

No, but it's only been a few weeks.

And he's been a total gentleman.

Plus, he's part of my program, so I'm sure he's on board.

He sounds awesome.

I need a good couple to come speak to my youth group on Jets today.

Oh, no. I only teach adults.

Come on. Kids aren't that bad.

Yeah, right.

Hello, Andy. It's Dr. Avila, your ophthalmologist.

We're calling to let you know about an experimental surgery that you qualify

for.

There's, well, there's a good chance of at least partial restoration.

However... Hi.

Andy.

Hey. That's not my usual welcome.

Sorry, I just got a call from the doctor.

I guess I qualify for an eye surgery.

To help your eyesight, Andy, that's great.

But it's not a guarantee.

Go for it, Andy, come on.

Let's open your eye.

It could restore my eyesight, or it could leave me the same.

Or it could take away the little bit of light and shadows I see now.

That's a risk worth taking.

I could also stay the way I am.

I can do everything I did before, I just take a little longer.

Okay, imagine you can see me.

Okay, that might convince you.

I need to pray on this, and I could use your help to pray too.

Yeah.

It was a really, really good day today.

And now I get to be with you.

Caleb? Caleb,

I can't. Can't what?

I guess I need to tell you that I'm not going to sleep with you.

You didn't want that, right?

We'll go slow, okay?

Because I won't sleep with anyone until I'm married to them.

Your perseverance is one of the things I love about you. I

was hoping we're on the same

page.

Tell me we're on the same page.

Absolutely. Yeah.

Because... Being chaste is really important to me.

I won't waver on that.

Yeah, yeah.

Hey, do you want a drink? I could use a drink.

Grace? Yeah, it's me. I actually had a question I didn't want to ask in front

the group.

My boyfriend is asking about having sex.

Oh.

Okay.

Sex has side effects.

When it's not a committed relationship, it's actually quite divisive for the

couple.

It becomes more physical and doesn't allow the relationship to develop in

very important ways.

It's such a sacred act that it sometimes gets taken for granted when it's given

too soon.

And a lot of times, because it's so physical and it's given away already,

the two parties tends to get bored and leave.

Does that make sense?

My friend said that she felt really empty and depressed after she had sex,

then her boyfriend ended up cheating on her. Oh, sorry.

And then there's also the concern of FTDs and getting pregnant before she's

ready.

But tell your friend about renewed purity and God's love and mercy.

He can restore us to our original state of purity and virginity.

That's cool.

I told her about youth group.

Oh, good.

How are you doing, Ms. Cruz?

Thanks for asking.

I'm dealing with a confused boy myself.

How about we make a pact to be with the boys who will cherish us for life?

That's dope.

What?

No, that's good.

Oh, good.

Oh.

You take care, Grace. You too.

Welcome back to my humble abode.

Thank you.

Here, let me take your sweater. Okay.

The couch is right there in front of you, to your right.

I've been waiting all night to kiss you.

This is hard for both of us, so we have to set boundaries.

It was hard for you, too. Well, that's good.

No, it's not good.

We both have to be strong.

Caleb, this is what I don't want.

You're killing me, Andy. Come on.

It is not a big deal.

It is a big deal.

So we can kiss and nothing else?

You want me to be like Mr. Chastity?

Oh, I looked up that word, by the way.

I thought because you came back to church that you would want a faithful

relationship too, that it would be important.

I don't have that belief.

What?

Will this work?

Caleb.

Just relax.

Caleb, get off of me. What the... You know what? You're crazy.

I'm getting a drink and that's it. I'm taking you home.

Oh, you walk out and it's over, Andy.

No coming back, Andy. Why would I, Caleb?

Take me.

Take care, boys.

I'm fine.

I think Caleb and I are not the couple to talk to your youth group about

chastity. Just so you know.

I need you to pick me up, please.

I'm so sorry you went through that, Andy.

Haven't I healed?

Don't I learn?

Don't be hard on yourself.

That won't help you.

Patterns are hard to break and people are very good actors.

Yeah.

You didn't give in to him and you learned from this.

It's not for nothing.

You have a great way of seeing the good in people.

You just need to be careful and go slowly.

I guess I'll just keep learning a hard lesson until I get stronger.

Andy? I'm okay.

Uh, Brad?

Are you really blind?

Uh, I tried to tell you.

But it's all good.

This is your gym?

No, I moved to Vegas for work.

I'm here just for the weekend.

Oh, good.

Well, okay.

Bye.

By your grace and mercy Your grace and mercy

I've been saved by your mercy

I've been saved by your

mercy I've been saved by your mercy I've been saved by your

mercy

I've been saved by your mercy

I've been saved by your mercy.

I've been saved by your mercy.

And whatever

you do, whether in word or deed, do

it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through

him. Colossians 3, verse 17.

You should clothe yourselves instead.

with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and

quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 1 Peter 3, verse 4.

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

Romans 12, verse 18.

Okay, Lord, I get it.

Not just those who are easy to be at peace with, but people like...

Brad.

But it's hard.

Please help me to forgive.

If it is possible, live at peace with everyone.

Here you are.

Oh, thank you.

So, I've been preying on your decision.

What are you thinking of doing?

I'm not getting a clear answer yet.

Well... They did say in the Bible that his voice can be like a whisper.

Yeah, but he appeared to Moses in a burning bush.

Yeah, that too. That's how I need it.

But I'm listening. I'll answer when he calls.

Sister Teresa says that when it's the right time, I'll get a clear answer.

Like the story of Samuel.

All right.

You know, since you're listening so well, there is something that I've been

wanting to ask you.

Andy? Yes.

Hi. Hi.

It's so nice to have you. Thank you for coming. Thank you. It's such an honor to

meet you. Jenna. Please call me Jenna. Jenna. Thank you. I honestly don't know

how Tim got me roped into this, but, well, it was perfect. We were looking

something inspiring, and Tim shared a bit of your story. Something real.

A story that people can relate to.

Really? Yes.

We have a musician who is just finishing up, so why don't we head on back?

Okay. You know, I am a little nervous because I didn't get to prepare like I

normally would for a talk.

Well, maybe you weren't meant to think about it.

You know, when you feel like you're not in control, that's when God does his

best work.

So true.

May I take your arm here? Sure. I don't know the area. Thank you.

Okay, there's a small bump.

And then we're right here as a step.

Andy, this was my favorite song.

My God song.

That's what I like to call it. God wait.

No, it was.

I used it in my wedding video and it ruined it.

Andy, nobody can take that away from you.

That is your gift from God.

Take it back as your own.

Sorry.

I don't think I did do that.

What am I doing?

You're okay.

Excuse me?

What happened?

Do I know you?

No, but I'm a good listener.

I was asked to give my testimony.

People think I'm really strong, but I'm really very weak.

I stayed in a marriage that was killing me.

And you got out?

God showed you the way, and you followed.

Eventually.

I didn't understand that staying in my marriage was actually ignoring

God's call for me to be safe.

Not easy.

I'm sure the suffering didn't quite end there either.

No.

I've lost close friends.

I felt a lot of shame.

And the fear was so heavy.

What brought you through it?

Good friends.

Math.

Prayer.

God.

That's a great testimony.

There you go.

No, I don't have it all together.

Who's asking you to?

People want to be inspired by someone. By someone who's real, honest,

struggling, but learning.

And following him.

Just sharing your story helps others.

You get back in there.

I will.

Jenna?

I'm sorry.

Are you willing to do it?

I worry a lot and try to control self -doubt.

You still want me?

Absolutely. It's not too late to do the show?

No, it's perfect.

Our next guest just canceled on us, which is kind of weird because I just

I saw him pull up.

Huh.

Okay.

Let's do it.

Great.

Okay. All right.

Okay.

Microphones in front of you. Headphones are in front of you. Put those on.

Okay.

All righty. Ready?

I hope so.

All right.

Good afternoon, everyone. I am so happy to introduce to you Andy Cruz.

She comes to us with a story of perseverance, faith, pain, and

Andy, welcome.

Thank you.

Thank you for speaking with us today. I know it takes a lot of courage.

Thank you. It's an honor.

I didn't think I had the strength to speak with you all.

But a little friend reminded me that we don't all have it together.

And my broken healing self is enough.

Well, that sure does sound like us all.

So, Andy, tell us the insight that you have gained on your journey.

So the most recent part of my journey, the last six years, well, I can attest

that divorce is one of the top stressors of life for many reasons.

So anyone going through that, just... hang in there.

And another colossal challenge I went through was creating a whole new

without my eyesight.

Can you explain some of the positives you mentioned to me?

Yes. I discovered that God never leaves us.

Even though we might think so, or others have, God will bring new friends.

And, you know, Losing my eyesight was one of the best things that ever

to me.

I'm really grateful and blessed.

It's those losses in life that can really teach us lessons.

It shows a lot of trust and acceptance.

Something that could look so tragic could actually help you grow your faith.

I have grown in my faith.

And I'm now doing things to grow in ways that I've... kind of forgotten i'm

rediscovering studying scripture brings a lot of peace and clarity to me any new

favorite passages that have been a comfort to you oh there are so many um i

jeremiah 29 11 that god has a plan to prosper us um a promise and it gives us

future and hope and philippians 4 13 is always a good one that we can do all

things through christ who strengthens us from affliction to hope

Yes. So what has been the most difficult thing for you right now as a visually

impaired, newly single, working woman in the church?

I think forgiveness.

Why is that one so hard?

It takes work.

And there's forgiving ourselves that we forget about, too.

And I always have to remember that forgiveness of others.

It's not about excusing their hurtful behavior, but preventing that behavior

from damaging our hearts.

So true.

Yeah.

Something I've got to work on.

You know, I know that when we've been deeply hurt, we never fully heal until

forgive.

And then maybe we can move into the thought of wanting them to heal.

We'll be praying for your continued healing and your ability to forgive.

Thank you, Jenna.

It was a gift for me to share.

I was really meant to.

And I'll be praying for each of you.

May we all keep our sight on him.

Andy?

Brad?

You're in town again?

Leaving today.

See you.

Hey, Brad.

What?

I forgive you.

Maybe not for every little thing.

I'm working on that with God.

And I hope you can forgive me for my part in the mess.

Are you okay? I see less blurry.

Oh, no.

No, it's good. Oh, thank you.

Thank you.

Oh, I'm sorry.

I can see you.

Thank you.

nothing more he said there's only one way i

won't let you stray i won't let you walk too far away

there's only one way i won't let you stray hold on to

my hand

Walking down my life slowly.

Holding to my hand.

Holding on so tightly.

Sometimes I get scared I lose my faith.

And I let go of the things.

I try to live my own.

I've been saved by your grace and mercy.

Your grace and mercy.

I've been saved by your mercy.

I've been saved by your mercy.

I've been saved by your mercy.

I've been saved by your mercy I've been saved by your mercy

I've been saved by your mercy

Turn around, I'm looking back behind me.

I'm only moving up because that's the path that I see in front of me.

I see it so clearly.

I won't waste my time now, I get it.

Like a cherry pie.

The smell of candy on it.