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Why did I ask you to film Grandma during quarantine?

You thought I was bored.

You wanted to keep me busy.

You didn't think you'd make it through quarantine.

You probably thought it would be interesting to see two generations of

forced to live together in hell.

I'm dividing this hair into sections.

I didn't know you had so much hair.

What am I doing here? It's pulling on these muscles here.

I like it back.

It quivers.

It's lovely having dinner with you. Sometimes you cook something you never

it's going to turn out. Cheers.

Oh, I'm cheering.

And cheers to a long and happy life.

And I love living with you.

I love living with you.

Oh, that's good. We can do that forever.

I asked my mom to record her days living with my grandmother in Tribeca during

the COVID lockdown so that I could feel closer to them. I mean, my grandmother

is 90 years old.

I was afraid that something might happen while I wasn't there.

Like three minutes.

Oh, my God, Mom.

I didn't know that.

I thought they might drive each other crazy.

It's like all over the floor and the stove.

So we have something to do later.

And now, the powdered sugar, just to give it that great look.

To you and to everybody else who is here.

I just want you to notice.

We're the market on this vodka bottle today, which is Thursday.

And we'll see where it is by the end of the week.

Okay.

Sunday, June 21st.

This has been my life.

Hello, hello, hello.

I know, but it looks like a hand.

That's not working either.

No,

it's too far away.

It's hard to do.

What? Why don't you bring it right here?

Mom, then it gets the table. It doesn't get the people.

It'll get the people.

Oh, really? Okay, here.

Who's in it, Mom?

Come on in.

Who's in it?

The angled room. No, it's not the angle. It's just... Too close up?

As soon as I could, I drove to New York from Texas to be with them.

All right, the three generations are here.

Number one, number two, and the camera person is number three. What do you

about three generations of getting to know your granddaughter?

A lot of quality time now.

Well, she talks to me a little bit, but not in great depth.

We talk about relationships and friends, but I want to know, she has a

boyfriend. What's he like? What does he do? Is that going to go anyplace?

Or is this just an internal relationship? We've had a conversation.

This is what we talk. I wasn't on tape.

You want to be on tape about that?

Yeah. Well, we're talking about what we are exploring about each other and the

relationships. Now you're divorced, and what's going to happen to you? Do you

want to be alone?

Do you want to look for a partner, a part -time partner, friends, or just

with women, friends? My feeling is if it happens, it happens. I'm not looking

for a partner. I'm not going on dating sites. I did it after my divorce.

To me, it's not worth the effort.

I, you know, I do well on dating sites. But then when

we have a conversation, and now it's COVID, so I can't even answer to that.

before it was COVID, I met people and I went on dates.

And I found myself turning back into

the person who listens and asks questions. and I was not being myself

in a lot of ways.

And then I would come away saying, God, that was boring.

I don't need to learn about metadata.

Look.

I like it. I think you look good.

Oh, that's very sweet of you.

You wouldn't have divorced me?

No, when you cut your hair?

No, when I had chemo. Oh.

When I had breast cancer.

No. Oh, no.

Here's Janet and Peter's failed wedding.

That's what you wrote in the description?

Yes.

Why isn't this working?

Maybe he was. Maybe she didn't.

When he admitted that he had an affair.

What did he say?

And then, I don't know, in a conversation, somehow he just said, you

I was a breast man or something like that. No, he didn't.

You always thought I was a breast man?

I think it's so hard to fathom hearing that from someone.

How about the man you were married to?

Dana.

Yeah.

Does he realize that that's offensive?

Yes.

Does he know? No. Does he realize what that was? I think he, I should have

I always liked men who were slim.

Yes. I didn't think like that. With a stiff cock, which you don't have. Mom,

we just not go there, even with that terminology?

I don't like it. You don't like it? I like it. I know you do, because you

it's shocking and provocative.

Well, it is provocative.

No, it isn't. It means you're guttural.

No. And I would rather people have more.

Oh, you want me to just say penis?

Yeah, I think that's more impressive. Okay, I would say that. Okay, thank you.

weak penis that bends in the middle.

I'm very careful about imposing myself on my family.

In other words, I don't tell my daughters what I think unless I'm asked.

even when I'm asked, I try to be very diplomatic about it because I'm not sure

everybody really wants to know the truth, especially if it's not the most

flattering thing. So it's best to bite your tongue.

Your illness scared Peter off. He couldn't deal with it.

No, he couldn't.

But I didn't put it on him, Mom.

You know what I mean? Some people it's like, he didn't have much to do for me.

I could do it myself.

Yeah, but he wasn't supportive.

I know, but I don't know why.

He didn't know what to do, I guess.

He didn't know what to do.

He couldn't assure you that all will be well, everything will be okay.

Well, he didn't know, so he couldn't lie, I guess.

He wasn't a good liar then. He became a good liar later.

When he was cheating.

Right. Then he became a good liar.

I don't think I said to her point blank, like, well, we haven't been sleeping

together for years.

I don't think I said that because she was so successful in her marriage.

And also in pleasing herself.

What if you weren't in the mood for sex?

These are the questions I never asked you, you know. Was I ever?

Not in the mood.

Oh, is that what you're trying to say? No, come on. Seriously, what if you were

not in the mood? Then I'd say I'm not in the mood. I'm tired. I want to go to

sleep.

And? And that was the end of that.

Nobody persisted. We were respectful of each other.

We really were. So I think, you know, you accommodate. Sometimes when you're

in the mood, you help the other partner out.

What's that mean?

You're accommodating.

What's that mean? You have sex even though you're not in the mood.

Oh. You talk yourself into it. Because your partner really wanted sex, and

you want to.

Please your partner. And sometimes you want sex, and you say to your partner,

I'm hot tonight.

And he'll accommodate you, hopefully.

At this point, I'm 90.

My husband is dead two years. I miss him terribly.

Am I contented? I am satisfied in a

sense that...

I feel complete. I miss him terribly, of course.

But I have a full life, and I was taught to be independent, and I am. A marriage

is like a liaison.

You know what they say? When you make mayonnaise, you take olive oil and eggs,

and you whip it together, and that's what makes a liaison. It's called a

liaison, and that's what a marriage is.

But you know what? If you leave mayonnaise out, Too long. You can get

thick. I know. Don't leave it out. You have to cherish it. And that's like a

marriage. You may have tried all your best to make a marriage work, but there

was a partner in this, and that partner didn't want to make it work.

You can't do something all by yourself.

That's true.

Oh, thank you. That's perfect.

I didn't realize how close their relationship is and how much

my mother, no matter what she says, values my grandmother's opinion.

For me or in general?

Keep going.

Take his picture, too.

Okay,

let's do some scallops. Right here.

And this is... Swordfish?

Swordfish. You like swordfish?

Yeah. So we'll do grilled swordfish tonight.

I don't need a whole bunch. Can I have just a couple of them?

Yeah, you just want a couple? Yeah, just give me a couple.

That should do for two days, right.

I do have garlic.

Okay, the potatoes.

Put this back. All right,

now let's get the food out from here.

Dana, go get your food and sit down to dine.

Let's go. Here's the chicken.

It is the clitoris that is the area that is the exciting

part for orgasm. I think everyone knows that.

No. No, they don't. I think they do.

No, they don't. Your generation knows.

Mom!

No. You know, there's more ways to have an orgasm than just through the

clitoris.

I hope we're getting her face on camera because she's looking at me like.

What are all the other way?

He said she squirt.

She what? I'll never forget that. She what?

No, no one can forget that. What was the word?

She what?

She what?

You're not going to tell me.

She what? What is she doing?

She squirts.

She squirts? We're cutting that out. Don't worry. We're going to cut that

out. I was like, huh?

I mean, that's the thing that happens. It's such a weird.

It's just weird.

There's too much information. I didn't need that much information. She has to

urinate. No, the concept is squirting.

Squirting is a concept.

Some women.

Uh, like, ejaculate. It's not urine.

It's, like, uh, whatever.

I never heard that.

I never, I don't know what you told me. It's a thing, but to say that... I don't

think it's a thing. It is a thing. No, I think she has to urinate.

Well, it's a little bit. It's a drop.

No, Mom. It's not urine.

No!

What?

RBG died.

Shut up.

During this conversation.

Oh, did she?

The nerve of her.

You sure?

Yeah, Beth just told me.

Jesus Christ.

Wow.

Pancreatic cancer.

Do I worry at this point?

No, I sometimes contemplate what the exit plan would be for me.

But I don't think about it as often as a lot of people do.

Look, there's a natural order in life.

Things happen.

And at certain times, it's the best thing.

So figure that you have a wonderful daughter and she's going to worry about

So it's cyclic, isn't it, Dana?

Don't you think life is cyclic in a way?

Cyclical.

Cyclic. Well, cyclical.

I am worried about her.

Can you imagine Dana taking care of me?

Excuse me, but that's going to be... You don't think... I have to think about

that.

No, we don't see it in your nature.

Why? I see you, because I see you at the moment as being a little flighty.

I have to go walk the dogs on that note.

Hello, darling dog. That was insulting.

It's not insulting.

Do you think I can take care of you?

No. No, I don't think you need your mother. I think right now at your stage

life, you should focus on yourself.

Absolutely. As you do.

I never really thought of somebody taking care of me as I'm taking care of

mother.

I want her to have a quality of life.

She deserves it. Should we say a prayer before we eat? Well, let's hope Trump

drops dead.

Great prayer, Mom.

Happy New Year. Happy New Year.

Listen, they're playing music.

Seven o 'clock.

Can you open the window?

One of the windows?

Why? Can you hear me? I can still hear you.

I'm gay.

I think we should bang pots and pans.

Want to bang the pots?

No.

No, I like pots.

Okay.

Want to play music?

No. Okay.

We could clap.

Come here. I think he's trying to come here.

Want to clap?

It's your sense of spirit.

It's thanking all the workers for all their efforts. The hospital workers.

Then we should look down to the street.

I'm not leaving my spaghetti.

Cream out.

Hello! Good luck!

Thank you!

Thank you!

We've been together.

We'll get out of this mess.