All language subtitles for finding_joy_s01e02_boundaries

An old pepper in her step this morning.

Good, good to see.

He's not coming back. Okay.

No one quite scratches under the chin
like he can. Not to mention those pig's

ears.

Yummers!

That was our dirty little secret.

I just want to make you happy, Joey.
It's just that everything feels

now, and I'm struggling here a bit, and
I think you are too, but maybe you're

just better at hiding it than me.

It's just that dogs need boundaries.

Sometimes I think you're the only one
who doesn't judge me.

You know that? I'm the only one who gets
me. I won't judge you if you don't

judge me, okay?

Ah.

Yeah. You see, the thing is... Now,
wait.

Aidan? No.

Pause, rewind, refocus.

What have you got to say for yourself?

That was a proper human -dog connecting
moment we had. That was pure Disney

stuff right there.

Okay, so, wait.

So this is... Rookie. No.

I know. No. Boundaries. Totally. Yeah.
No. I get us. You know, you think I

haven't watched Pretty Woman with you
like 7 ,000 times.

Not in the mouth!

High five, sister.

That's not a high five. I'm just really
excited for you. Congratulations.

Basically, you haven't been fired.

Oh, was I going to be? I'm not going to
lie. The chances were defo up there.

We're expecting a lot of trolling, big
backlash, intense hate, and all directed

at you because you're not Flora.

Okay.

I thought maybe they believed in me.
Yeah, no.

But then people liked it. Our sponsors
are happy.

We haven't fucked it up. Okay, good.

Yeah. Yes, it is good, Joy.

We're not going to starve and I can
still buy expensive moisturizer, which

important to me.

Okay? Okay.

Jeffrey, Audrey and the team are waiting
to tell us about this week's

assignment. You are going to freak out.

It's not what I want. It's not what I
want.

It's not what I want. I will.

All righty, all righty, all righty.

We are still standing, comrades.

I'm better than we expected, Joey.

Audrey here thought you were going to
fuck the whole thing up and then you

and surprised us all with your naive
reporting style and your supreme

vulnerability.

You fooled them all.

You didn't really fool me. We have a
pretty good editor.

So this week you basically need to be
better. We've assigned Stan to you for

rest of the week. That guy is so
committed.

He has third -degree windburns from
Skellig Michael.

He's a legend.

Maybe. You just concentrate on getting
the juicy stuff. Make it sexy, make it

hot. Chiz it up.

Chiz. Jazz.

Jazz it up, jazz it up.

Okay. So what exactly will I be doing?
We need a piece on boundaries.

Write up your views on how they impact
our lives through a company of film

pieces to camera. Where you'll be
wrestling.

It's a wellness group called Wrestle
Your Demons where you get to explore

healthy boundaries and tone up.

It's brilliant.

But you need to bring a friend. You have
to sit in twos.

You can do it, Joy.

But we need more to know more about you.
We're watching, Joy.

What are you

coming over, Joy?

Your dad's procedure is all done now.

Hello, Mrs. Joy's mum.

It's all good down there, chicken. She's
doing great.

He's a little bit tender, but his penis
is fine, love.

Hey, I saw the finished piece from last
week.

Yeah, I really don't know what I'm
doing.

No, it was good. It was funny.

You were like a young, fearless,
abseiling Princess Leia or something.

Or like Chewbacca or whatever.

They've assigned me to film this week's
piece too.

So see you in the wrestling ring.

Sorry.

Do you properly document my humiliation?

No, don't worry. I'll catch all your
best angles.

I'm really looking forward to it.

What is it with you?

I mean, with you and your stuff and your
belongings and you just need all your

space and order and... Jesus.

Actually, well, that's just really
annoying.

It's just an order to things. You know,
there's boundaries to stuff.

Helping you feel calm, make you feel
happy and organized.

That would be unhelpful.

What boundaries, though?

So it's like you make these rules up in
your head.

And then you think you have to apply
them to all life situations.

And you expect everyone else to know
what the fuck you're talking about.

Or what to do with them.

Well, I don't want to keep discussing
it.

Yeah, well, I'm sorry if it frustrates
me.

And your breathing exercises, of course,
are your friends.

I'm sorry we couldn't go to the cinema,
but I've got to learn this stuff so I

don't rip my vagina.

Yeah, no, I totally understand.

And with Tom being away, I've missed so
many classes.

Let's go.

I'm enjoying this. Basically, you just
take your coconut oil and you just rub

right in there. Right into your
perineum.

This is very educational.

Let's just breathe again here.

Okay.

Actually,

do you know, I do have a favor to ask
you back.

Will you be my wrestling partner?

Um, no.

You can to do that.

Yeah, they can be quite strict about
things like unpasteurised cheese and

contact wrestling.

Yeah.

Honestly, Joy, if you want to hang out
with other friends, I'm totally cool

it. What other friends? Joy,

it's okay to have other friends.

You can make other friends.

Because believe it or not, you make a
very lovely friend. The one thing that

don't want is to be unrepaired. Oh,
don't freak out. We have the roommate

interviews tomorrow.

And who knows, maybe one of them could
turn into, like, a real pal.

Before you know it, you've ripped your
vagina right into your anus. Exactly.

Such a good menu.

I'm going to go for the croque monsieur
with chips and sausages and a side of

kale. Keeps my hair shiny.

What do you want, Joyce?

I don't know, Charlene.

I think I'm just freaking out a little
bit because I have to find a partner for

this wrestling thing, you know? I mean,
I know my world is small. I know I've

cut myself off from other people, and
maybe that's okay.

Or maybe now it's not okay because it's
not working as a coping mechanism

anymore. But in truth, I just kind of
convinced myself I didn't really need

anybody else. And anyway, I wouldn't
know how to undo it all or do it any

way anyway.

Okay, but what would you like for lunch?

Oh.

Same.

know what i'm doing charlene nobody does
i just don't get this wrestling i've

got tight hamstrings what would flora do
stretch oh look please come with me

tomorrow to the wrestling jeffrey and
audrey are looking for something

and honest and amazing and i'm really
starting to feel the pressure i can't go

with you joy i can't double job and
besides i've been in trouble for

before but it can't be that hard for you
to find someone People love being in

front of the camera.

Go over to her.

Ask her.

Members of the public love being
involved. It makes them feel reflected

truth of it or some bullshit like that
that's very touching but I don't really

understand. I can't ask her. She's going
to think I'm weird. Probably, but is

that really the worst that can happen?

So, this is Sarah, and she'd really like
to be involved in the piece tomorrow.

Hi, nice to meet you.

Oh, lucky, do you know that?

No social media.

No one looking to see how not perfectly
you're living your life. No one judging,

no rules, no pressure.

I mean, you can just go out and sniff
around whoever you want.

No one's going to get a picture of him
putting on lines of the last bitch

ridden and looking going, who's that?

You know?

And look, I don't mean bitch as in
bitch.

I mean a lady dog.

And I hope you can still enjoy it after
we've got rid of your balls.

Okay.

How do we do this?

Well, we interview them and see which
one fits best.

Great. Easy peasy. Piece of it.

I love watching movies and going for
walks in my spare time.

No. I'd be happy to cook the meals and
things.

Baking, I love baking.

I'm so sorry, I don't think it's going
to work out. I'm trying to cut down on

buns. I have a boyfriend, so he'd stay
over some time.

But we're not noisy or anything.

Do you have a boyfriend?

I'm incredibly organised, tidy, clean
freak.

Sometimes I run with a cloth and a dead
-ass spritzer.

Stay in my room mostly.

Don't talk much.

Perfect. No.

Our fridge is broken. You'd hate it
here. We have no running water. We have

wrath. So sorry for wasting your time.
The room has actually just been taken.

Please, get out.

I thought you said you were going to do
things differently.

I'm trying. You're not. You're not
trying.

You said you were reimagining boundaries
for your work, for your life. I am. I

did. Just today, I hung out with this
hot young thing who happens to be maybe

falling in love with human aid and
tomorrow I'm going to wrestle her.

On the internet, yeah, so don't lecture
me on boundaries, because... Oh!

Oh, OK, Trish.

Watch this.

Oh!

Ooh! Look at the new me in action.

Are you watching?

Do you want the room?

What? The room here, do you want it?

Er, yeah.

Great, it's yours.

Thank you, thank you so much for the
laser.

Oh, that's so exciting.

Look at this. Congrats!

Ooh!

Too low, that's my gi.

As you know, it's a piece on boundaries.

But look, it'll be a good bit of
exercise and nothing else because you do

like you like to keep fit.

Like you say, you do a lot of squats.
Like, would squatting be a part of your

daily routine?

Um, yeah, I like to keep pretty fit.

Your hair is very swishy.

Are you good with kale?

Like, where are you with your intake of
kale?

Um, is this a beauty feature?

Oh, oh.

A little poo.

Um, it's just some background research
stuff.

Uh, cool.

You know, I've been thinking about the
whole boundary things and, you know, how

to keep them healthy.

I think what it really is for me is just
about trying to do things continually

outside your comfort zone, you know?

And what if you can only eat first
inside your comfort zone?

Well, then you die.

Like, emotionally.

Why else would we exist if it's not to
learn and grow?

To love.

To find and share joy.

Besides, if I kept the boundaries...

I never would have met this Britney guy.

Oh.

I'm so sorry. I think I still have some
shame in my shape.

Hey, Joy.

Hello.

I'm just going to get a few shots over
here and then I'll be ready to roll in

two minutes. Perfect.

So, I hate running, right? I mean, I
really hate it.

I think it actually stems from being
chased by a potential sexual predator

once. Anyway, I don't believe in bad
boundaries like that.

So, I joined this fun -type running
group and met this really cute guy.

I hate running in groups.

But hey.

Well. Oh.

Hey. How about that?

Where do you stand on WWE boundaries,
huh? Sorry? Oh, Jesus. There's too much

your face for you? Kind of. What about
this? The rear naked choke. The rear

naked choke. The rear naked choke. A
retaliation move. It's quite crazy.

You're constantly wrangling.

Oh, the brain blast.

Okay, I'm tapping out. I'm tapping out.
No, you're not. She's tapping out. No,

she's not.

Hey, how about I just threw everything
off course here for a second and told

I was falling in love with you?

Nothing. Oh.

Anyway, turns out not all guys are
sexual predators.

You know, some can be really sweet, fun,
gentle, passionate lovers.

Rolling.

Are you okay?

I think I must have eaten some raw
chicken or something in that coffee

definitely going to complain about it.

Yeah, you should.

Ready?

Okay,

before

we start today, let's talk a little
about the philosophy of professional

wrestling. What we learn in the ring
here today, we learn in life.

we can start to benefit from the
strength of other people and secure

to protect our weaknesses.

When you're ready, start to circle each
other and recognise each other's body

languages.

That's actually an illegal shot. I'm so
sorry.

Hey landlady.

I'm just unwinding, chilling.

Oh, by the way, do not panic about the
mess.

I am going to clean it up. I basically
unpacked here and I'm going to move it

to my room.

I've been living on couch for so long, I
totally forgot about the wardrobe.

Oh, yeah, also, I wanted to watch TV and
then I found this zipped up in here and

I didn't want to tamper with it because
I thought it might be part of a police

investigation.

I know it's a crime to tamper with the
evidence.

And I didn't want you to end up in jail
just because I wanted to watch Cake

Boss, you know?

You live on couches?

Yeah, couchsurf .com.

Basically, like, live on loads of random
people's couches, meeting new people,

new experiences, moving around, mixing
it up.

I have met some of my best friends,
actually, on couches.

Some of my best lovers, even.

Who knew I'd learn to make the perfect
patatas bravas from the coolest Latino

transgender mind performer I personally
have ever met.

Honestly, he was like... I thought there
was a window there, but there was no...

I've never even had patatas bravas.

Oh, my God.

I'll teach you how to make them.

It'd be really nice.

I think maybe I've needed some patatas
bravas for some while now.

Oh, carb -related sugar thumb?

I hear you, sister. I one time fainted
on the street and cracked two ribs

because a lady cycled over me on a city
bike. So you have to be very careful

with those.

Oh, no. Hang on. Let me.

Do not worry.

Oh.

Voila.

Thank you.

We broke up right in the middle of
season two of Narcos.

Oh, no.

Yeah, I just couldn't touch it, you
know? I just zipped it up in here.

How come you're here?

You know, in a room, not on a couch for
some surfy trip.

Yeah, uh, my last guy, he, um, stole my
credit card

after he stole my heart.

He also told her this really lovely
cashmere sweater I was particularly

to. Yeah, so I just needed to move on to
try something new.

I did something new today.

Oh?

I hung out with a stranger.

We chatted. She shut her guard down and
I really wanted to hate her.

see why he likes her.

Then I fought her like an old -fashioned
duel, but she won.

She really won, you know.

She opened up her boundaries, and when I
crossed them, she took my strength. She

took my fucking strength, Amelia. I felt
like Mickey Rourke.

Yeah.

And then she handed me my last toned ass
back to me on a plate.

I mean, it was pretty impressive, to be
honest.

And now the teeth are trending on
Twitter, which is interesting.

Maybe I've just had my boundary settings
the wrong way around.

Hey.

Do you want to watch some drug lords get
gunned down at close range in the face?

Sounds really lovely.

Give me that.

I'm out.

Right. Here we go.

Oh, sorry. There we go.

His face.

See, I find him really handsome, even
though I do know that he's in quite a

of families' lives.

There he is.

There goes his face.

I think I'm ready to give you this.

Joey, your tiny heart of stone.

Yeah.

Thank you.

we got to know you more. Sort of. Bye.

Hey.

Oh, yeah.

The snuggle monster's here.

Oh, she's probably wondering what she's
got herself into.

She must be exhausted, poor thing.

I know.

I miss him, too.

Oh, God, let's... Got me.

That's really got me.

Go away.

We're bonding.

Hey, Joy.

Some bloke is here with the same name as
your dog.

What? He says it's about wrestling that
woman on the internet. Oh, my God.

Pixies!

Joy?

Catherine Thomas, host.

The new series of Ireland's Fittest
Family, which picked off on October 28th

here on RTE1. Next this evening, Brendan
O 'Connor's Cutting Edge.