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Previously on Cherish the Day. I hope
your meeting with Miss Bluma goes well.

Okay, you remember.

Some things just aren't fair.

There's gotta be something we can do.
And her stories are incredible.

We record it and put it online.

People are gonna love this. We're
supposed to let the corporate radio come

our house?

I thought we were on the same page. We
are.

I want to meet with her, see what she's
talking about. You never know.

I'm doing a podcast.

Can we talk about it after dinner?

Do you really care about anything that
ain't got to do with you? I don't know

what I did, I don't know what I said. I
just don't want to fight anymore, okay?

I'm almost done. Oh.

Take your time.

You sure you still want to do this?

Do you want to?

We're here.

We might as well go in.

Yeah.

Right?

Nervous? No.

You?

No.

We're just checking it out, right?

Shopping.

That's right.

Shopping.

You show me how deep love can be.

This is my prayer.

I cherish the day.

How long have you two been married?

Two years.

Two years, three months, actually.

Why don't you tell me a little bit about
yourselves?

I used to be a CEO of my own tech

company.

A great tech company.

And you, Gently?

I produce podcasts.

The number one podcast that's out right
now. Busy Lives.

Yeah.

Well, a lot of people coming to couples
counseling come with an agenda, a series

of things that they want to work
through.

Thank you.

And I try to provide a space where you
can talk about anything. I want you both

to feel free and feel safe to share
yourselves here.

So, what made you decide to come here
today?

Why don't you turn towards one another?

Really try to connect in that time.

Now, Evan, tell me, when you look at
your wife, right now, how do you

feel?

I love her dress. Speak to Jen.

And I'm happy that you came today and
that we can do this together.

Me too.

You sure?

I am.

Why?

You're making that face.

No, I'm not.

Gently, can you tell Evan what you'd
like to accomplish here?

I'd like to know what's wrong.

What's wrong?

Yeah, what made you think we had to come
here?

What's going on with you? What's wrong
with me?

Don't you mean us?

No, I mean what I said.

I'm not the one who wants to be here.

Okay, we'll come back to this in a
moment.

Tell me how you two met.

At the library.

Which one?

I'm going to tell you what I'm about to
do. Ladies, can we consider tabling this

while the rest of us in line handle our
book business?

I don't have any problems. We just want
to read.

They say it's fundamental.

He's right.

My memory is really bad.

When you think back to that first
meeting, what word comes to mind?

Why that smile, Johnny?

I've always appreciated how he instantly
loved someone I loved.

Luma Langston.

Oh, shit. Luma Langston.

Yeah.

My granddad used to always say that Luma
Langston was the real Diamond Dixie and

not that white lady she played the main
for.

Your granddad was right.

You still got it, Miss Loma.

You still got it.

Don't intend to lose it anytime soon.

I instantly fell in love with you and
everything that came with you.

I wish that were true.

It is true.

You know what she's talking about right
now, Evan?

Really try to hear what she's saying.
Don't defend.

I'd like you to translate to me what you
think she's saying.

That I don't accept parts of her.

Any truth in that?

Damn.

Rewind.

Hey, hey, hey, hey. Jim.

Look, let's just take care of it.

We can go to a real appliance place and
we can pick out something with the

measurements.

I can't do that. I can handle it. And we
can get it delivered, installed.

It's easier.

That's the solution to everything, huh?

Throw some money at it? You're trying to
fix something the way you want it done

and you're judging my way.

I don't...

Believe in blind acceptance and that it
should be in a relationship. We should

be pushing each other. We should be
helping each other become better.

How does gently help you be better?

She's helped me take risks. How?

By her example.

She's a freer spirit than I am and she
made me want to be free.

What's the price for light mosquitoes to
light innocence?

I feed off bioluminescence.

Love and intent.

How has heaven helped you?

You show me the value of anchors.

That they aren't always weight.

That feeling stable, solid.

Be a good thing sometimes.

Okay, Evan, I'd like you to look at
gently right now and tell her what you

in this moment.

It wasn't supposed to go like this.

I feel like everything I say makes you
upset.

You see what you just did?

Oh, my God. You don't know what you're
doing. You don't know what you're doing.

Gently, gently.

What could I have said that would have
offended you right now in that

Even in a connected moment, he'll say
something like, everything I say upsets

you. You're not taking responsibility
for yourself or for the part.

that you play in any of this is putting
it all on me.

Like, you've done nothing wrong, and I'm
just randomly upset. I don't know. It's

juvenile. It diminishes me.

I'm over it.

Yeah.

You're always over it.

Like, since literally day one.

Point blank. The end.

So, look, you can either get in or get
left. I'm ready to go. I'm good.

I just think we should have left it
right there.

Yeah, me too.

But you didn't.

Apology accepted.

I accept your apology too.

you can see in a short time with some
real introspection we can uncover root

causes key questions and layered
feelings that need to be assessed and

but it isn't easy now i know you two are
meeting with other therapists and

that's a smart process but if you decide
to go with me this is what it'll be

like real work unblinking unflinching

You want to go to the other appointment?

Yeah, the next one is Miss Luma's
referral.

I don't want her fussing if we miss it.

Is that the only reason you want to go?

Of course not.

I'm not resistant to this.

I just feel... like... I'm forcing you.

Like it's all on me.

Look, I'm committed to this.

I told you I would and I am.

Can that be enough?

Can you just trust what I'm telling you?

Things ain't what they used to be.

Now it's twice as hard.

Keeping the past in the past. These
secrets in the dark.

Everyone around me changing.

I still see their scars.

Got two sides on their faces.

And they played a part.

I just wanna take it back, back, back,
back, back Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah

just wanna take it back, back, back,
back, back Yeah, ooh I just wanna take

back, back, back, back, back Can we take
it back, take it back, oh

Is she even a real doctor?

I don't see any degrees.

Maybe she doesn't need to show up.

Ah, you must be Gently and Evan. I'm
Coral LaRose.

Nice to meet you, my sweetie.

Get over here.

Give me some love.

All right.

Come on in.

Dr. LaRose.

Doctor of love, sugar.

But I like to keep it simple so you can
just call me Coral.

Wow, look at you two.

Beautiful, beautiful.

You know, I think you might be one of
the prettiest couples that I've seen.

Fabulous. Okay, and the dress is fierce.

Child, don't let me mess around and lose
a couple of pounds because I will be

rocking that.

All right.

So.

How are you guys doing?

Okay, you don't have to be so tense. I
don't bite.

Okay.

Well, Miss Luma told me that you guys
are looking at different counselors

Smart, smart, smart, smart.

Everybody's different, you know, and you
want to find the right person that

you're going to vibe with.

Now, me, I like to cut straight on down
to the real nitty gritty, so shall we?

And so my company didn't work out.

I made some miscalculations.

But, you know, we're fine with our
personal finances. We don't have any

problems between us. What's mine is
hers.

What about you, sweetie?

You're okay with sharing one big pot?

Yeah, it's cool.

It's cool like it's going to work for
you, or it's cool like you don't want to

say anything because you don't want to
start something.

It's beautiful for the most part, you
know, living at the beach, having nice

things, not having to worry about bills.

But it comes at a cost.

Mm -hmm.

Last time I checked, money ain't free,
okay? Am I right?

Okay?

I mean, he's a really generous guy. I
sound like a crybaby or like I'm

ungrateful, and I'm really not.

I know what I didn't have, and I know
what I have now, and I'm very fortunate.

You know, when I think about the things
that really cause a lot of emotion, it's

not being a baby if you explore those
feelings.

Actually, it's quite the opposite.

Yeah.

When I was on my own, I didn't have a
lot, but I had enough.

And when we moved in together, I was not
making anything as significant as he

was, so I helped with... I helped out
around the house. I helped him with his

errands, and that was my way of
contributing.

So when he threw it back in my face, I
just can't shake that off. You're just

not going to forgive me for that, are
you?

I want to talk about my podcast.

Yes, baby, I want to hear all about it,
but can we talk about it after dinner?

Is that cool?

Whatever. Oh, come on, don't do this to
me.

I just want to stay focused. You know,
take a shower and... Okay, you're right.

I want to hear all about it. I'm
listening. Hey, hey, hey, hey.

I'm listening.

Okay, look.

I was just really excited to share my
idea with you, and it feels like you

really give a damn. You know how
important this dinner is to me. Okay,

thing's important to me. Just as
important. Just as important as a $17

investment into a company who allows you
to have as many dreams as you want

without having to think about mortgage
or insurance or even a bill.

I was over the moon that day. You know,
I had finally found my thing, my

purpose, my calling.

The podcast.

Ooh, girl.

Oh, you know I am hooked on that.

Oh, all of those juicy tidbits about
black Hollywood.

Oh, and then when Miss Luma gets to
talking, girl, and she's going on and on

about who's left with who with it, who's
dirty business, and just all those

black stars, girl. You are doing a
fantastic job.

I love it. Thank you.

Thank you. I built that from the ground
up all around Miss Luna, and I'm really

proud of it. Well, you should be.

Shouldn't she?

Yeah.

Is it?

When you were telling me about the idea
for the podcast, you knew that I was

getting ready for a dinner. It was
really important, and you knew that. And

just expected me to drop everything in
that moment, and I just couldn't. And it

wasn't that I was disinterested forever
or against you.

This is the perfect example of the
double standard we live under. What's

for him, it ain't okay for me.

He is always complaining about me being
on my phone.

Look, tell him.

You are always complaining about me
being on my phone.

Yet you stay on your phone.

But when you do it, you're working. When
I do it, I'm not paying enough

attention to you.

I work, too.

When I'm on my phone, I'm reading.

I'm doing research, too.

And I just feel like you never really
supported me in that. And I've always

supported you. Always.

I'm just, you know, always so busy, so.

Oh, yeah. I mean, you got a whole other
vibe going on. Work is important to you.

Of course.

Yeah. But I am considering really
striking out on my own. Risky.

I love it.

It's a beauty, right?

You remember that?

Yeah, I do.

I'm sorry. Back up, back up. Because I'm
going crazy right now. Are you actually

saying that I don't support you?

Look. I don't support you. That's an
accurate statement, gently.

I need a flatbed.

Oh, a flatbed.

That's the worst counter, Erin.

You need a hand?

Yeah, I'd like a hand. What am I not
seeing? She makes me happy more and more

every day. She challenges me.

She's who I'm with, and I expect you to
respect me enough to see that.

Take good care of me. care of my girl do
you hear me otherwise okay look look

look look sometimes we forget the good
all right so i just want us just to take

a deep breath okay and we're going to
breathe out all of the bad okay just and

we can breathe in the good you guys come
on i need you to work with me okay just

try this all right i need you to breathe
out just breathe out all of the the

misunderstandings

Breathe out all of the grudges.

Breathe out all of that. And we're going
to breathe in those butterflies

that you had in your stomach when you
first started dating.

Oh, all right.

That's how we do it, huh?

Want to know my favorite Buddhist quote?

Do not dwell on the past.

Do not dream of the future.

Concentrate your mind on the present
moment.

I like that.

Breathe in those moments when you knew
that this was real.

My man, I didn't order my car.

Hey.

You need a ride?

I damn sure do.

Come on.

Breathe in the first dance.

This is how you travel.

Breathe in all of those things that you
love about each other Where were we?

Breathe in the love that is shared
between the two of you.

I love you.

Love you too.

How are you two relating to each other
physically?

There's no physical violence.

Boy, she's talking about sex.

Yeah.

Right.

All is well there.

Yeah, when it happens.

Oh, so has your lovemaking become more
infrequent?

I wouldn't say infrequent.

Maybe not as frequent as it used to be.

And how frequent was that?

A lot.

Long as you want it, you can keep it.

I jump inside it with no regrets.

Make you cry next to me.

When I'm feeling, you know I mean it.

It's raining all season. I want to feel
you rocking on my body.

I feel you rocking on my body. While
everybody's in the party.

I feel you rocking on my body. I want to
feel you rocking on my body.

I feel you rocking on my body.

Well,

you know, it seems like you guys have
shared a lot of beautiful moments.

A lot of trust, too.

It happened.

I think I'm struggling with it now.

Yeah, but I don't think trust is our
issue.

Trust is exactly our issue.

Look, it's been really hard for me to
watch the way you treated J. Doe.

He was a trusted person in your life,
and you just threw him away, and that's

been hard to watch.

Evan built his whole company with his
boy, and then he just dumped him. I

dump him, J. Doe. Wait, wait, just let
her finish, sweetie.

Because of what? Because he made a
mistake?

Because he disagreed with your
philosophy?

Because he wanted to stick to the
mission?

Babe, that's not what happened.

We are not supposed to have a board that
has completely changed the fundamentals

of our company.

They have no idea who we are or what we
stand for. They have no idea. They don't

give a shit.

We're not supposed to stop just because
they don't get it, man.

Jado, Jado's team slipped up and leaked
info to the public.

I mean, the investors were calling for
someone's head and it wasn't going to be

mine. I mean, I started the company.

He was our friend.

It's business.

Evan, how does it make you feel when you
hear this?

Being judged.

Unsupported. Join the club.

Sorry, I should not have said that. I
shouldn't have said that.

Then why did you?

I'm sad.

Disappointed.

I don't know.

See, and that's all the part of this
glorious life.

Your reactions, your perceptions, and
your processing of these things, they

determine the rise and the fall,
darling.

And we've got to rise.

We've got to rise.

What am I admitting? Just admit it.

Look, I'm not saying I'm scared of him,
okay?

Okay. So then what would you say? Hey,
Evan, I need you to be truthful with Dr.

Como. If we're going to get the most out
of this session, we got to look it in

the face. No. We got to trust the
process.

You ain't no good.

Nah, look, I'm just giving the man his
respect. You got a name like Bone, and

you know you got some respect coming to
you.

And whatever, man. I ain't talking to y
'all. Look, me and Bone are good, all

right?

Hey, you smiling, sis.

What's going on?

What are you thinking about?

I'm just thinking back to the first time
I ever met Ben and his friends.

You don't snag now.

Ben,

this is Evan, a new friend.

Evan, this is my parent, Ben.

Look, who set you up? Uncle Bob, please
sit down.

What set you strong?

TV set.

Homie, I'll take care of you, man.

Nobody moves nothing around here without
my say -so.

Yeah, I understand, yeah. I'm good,
yeah.

Everything's good.

Okay. Yeah.

Okay.

Oh, it was a pleasure to meet you, sir.

You too.

Finn's like my dad. He raised me.

And he always knew Evan was the one.

He said that?

Yeah.

The night Evan proposed, I got cold
feet.

I was scared and confused.

So I talked to Ben.

And he told me not to run away just for
the sake of running.

First time your mother was coming to get
you and didn't show up.

That night, you ran out of the house.

Rode your bike all the way to Kenneth
Hunt Park, remember?

Yeah. That's when you started your
running.

The older you got, the further you ran,
all the way to the other side of the

world. But you ain't been nowhere since
you met Heaven.

He looks at you like you're everything
in the world to him.

That matters.

I didn't know that.

Yeah.

And my whole tribe loves Evan, so.

And what about Evan's family?

Do you have a good relationship with
them? It depends on how you define good.

Here we go.

What? I mean, look, his pops love me. I
can say that, you know, right from the

start. But the rest of his family.

Esther, come on.

Like, gently has got to be my niece's
favorite person.

Esther's my heart.

You picked a great color. Rolling in
here looking like the Obama's bringing

the flash to get her hair done.

And I think your hair looks dope.

And what about Evan's mom?

Long story.

Sorry, we got a minute.

Okay.

I guess unlike Ben, Evan's mom didn't
think I was the one.

It's... Not like that.

Me and my mom, we were always very
close.

She was such a classy person, and she
had very clear views on what's right and

wrong, what's good or bad.

But the code that she lives by is
flawed.

All right.

Drop it, okay?

It's me, and I know you.

That's all right. I'll play the bad guy.
I understand that.

But I know what you want.

And I know what will really make you
happy.

Don't blow this whole thing on pride,
Evan.

Rise to the occasion of your life.

Let me at least give you, and gently, a
wedding to remember.

It's based on things that...

Aren't important to me to surface
things.

I think that's why she was hard on
gently.

Being with her.

Made everything transparent.

You know what I'm saying?

Yeah.

I do know what you're saying.

And getting to know your family is key.

I do that because where we come from
gives us the foundation of how we love.

So, let me ask you both, what do you two
hope to accomplish through therapy?

It's okay.

It's okay.

We'll work through it step by step.

Hold the pose.

Okay, this is weird.

Hold it.

I mean, I hate this.

How long?

Don't ask questions.

I just want to know.

I don't get it. Try to get out of your
own heads and lean into the experience.

Are you okay?

Not really.

It's hard to hold, isn't it?

Yes.

Take a deep breath and close your eyes.

Close your eyes.

Why are you...

Why did you stop?

Too uncomfortable.

If you could have allowed yourself to
stay in that place, that particular

exercise simply could be you enjoying
the closeness of your partner, holding

your partner, connecting to your
partner.

Okay. I see.

It's okay. Let's try another exercise.

Tell me the first thing that pops into
your mind when I say marriage.

Why? All right, y 'all.

Roll with me.

Money. Necessary. Burden.

It's okay.

It's okay. We'll embrace our truths at
the end of the session.

Sex. Busy. Busy.

Yeah, I hear y 'all.

Church.

Mother. Spirit.

Very good.

Vacation.

Necessary.

Interesting answer there.

Solitude.

Relief.

Future.

Help.

I guess scared.

Marriage is hard, y 'all.

It isn't just smiles and fun and she's
my beautiful queen and he's my amazing

king post on Instagram.

Sometimes you gotta dig in.

Go deeper.

Let me ask y 'all a few questions.

Hard ones.

Ready? Yeah.

Evan? Do you love your wife?

Of course.

Do you want to be with your wife?

Of course.

Gently.

Do you love Evan?

Yes.

Do you want to be with Evan?

I do.

Yes, that's why I'm doing this.

How many nights a week do you spend
together?

Well, normally a lot.

But I've been working lately.

I have a big show coming up, so I've
been really busy.

I feel like... It's like I barely see
you anymore, G.

And you are around? I mean, more than
she is.

We used to hang out all the time.

I'd come home, and you were there.

I don't know.

Everything was just cool.

But now, it's like I'm lucky if I can
see you twice a week.

Wow.

Gently, you have a different take on
that? I just find it interesting that

things were cool when I was home waiting
for you.

I never tripped.

You know, I never said, I barely see,
I'm lucky if I see him.

I mean, but it's different.

Gently, you're shaking your head. Tell
us what you're thinking.

I'm just thinking this is crazy.

I don't want to answer to you. If I want
to be out, I'm going to be out.

But that's a thing a woman's
perspective.

Or a grown woman.

It's not a married woman's perspective.

Because I'm married, I'm beholden to
you.

You come and go whenever you please, and
you do not ask me for permission.

Actually, yes.

I am beholden to you. I thought that you
were beholden to me.

I thought that's the way it was supposed
to be. So you don't want me to do the

one thing that makes me the happiest
I've ever been in my entire life? The

thing. So I don't make you happy?

I didn't say that.

In a perfect world, what do you want,
Evan? Look, it's not even in a perfect

world. I'm not asking you too much. I
just want the way that it used to be. I

miss you, Gently.

I want a wife I can come home to at
night, a woman who would put me before

job.

Gently, what do you want from Evan?

I want you to want this for me.

This meaning your career? Yeah.

Dude, you're flipping the script.

Oh, there's no script.

It's called evolving. That means
growing, changing. It's growing apart.

Go further with that.

I don't know. It's just the exercise
that we were doing early when we put our

heads up to each other. It's just...

If you had just stayed in that moment,
you could have learned something about

yourself. But you're not willing to be
uncomfortable. You don't want to be

uncomfortable, gently, ever. I shouldn't
have to be uncomfortable.

I have catered to you.

I've changed myself for you.

And I find one thing for me, and you
mad.

That makes me furious, and I resent
that, and I'm not doing this with you. I

shouldn't have to give up what I love
for you, for anyone.

No.

You shouldn't have to give up what you
love for me. Can you please stop with

passive -aggressive shit, Evan? It's
really weak. Excuse me? Please stop. I'm

not the weak one. You heard me. No.
Okay, okay, okay. Okay.

Stand up. Let's try one more. No, I
don't think this is working. It'll all

together with this last one.

Please. Trust me.

Trust.

Okay, y 'all follow me.

Face each other.

Hold hands.

Now, I want you to hold this connection
as long as you can.