All language subtitles for Episode 75º Patreon How I prepare myself for a wedding

Hello, hello friends, how are you?

How's everything going?

How have you started the month?

As always, I wish you all the best

and, as I always say, I hope that

things will be solved little by little and,

of course, I want to give everyone my

infinite gratitude for being there because without you

this would be practically impossible.

Just a few months ago Erika already told

me, hey, why don't you create a video

in which you talk a little about how

you prepare both physically and psychologically for weddings?

And I get to tell her, do you

think that will be interesting?

Do you think people will be interested?

And she told me, fuck, why not, man?

I mean, everyone prepares as best they can

and surely someone is interested in knowing how

you prepare.

And I told her, but don't think that

I prepare in a super special way, if

I don't do four little things and such.

And she told me, well, share it.

In total, a topic remained there on standby,

but the other day, just a couple of

chapters ago, a good partner, a good Patreon,

Fran Ortiz, told me that.

In one of the comments he said, hey,

why don't you talk a little about that

topic?

How do you prepare physically and psychologically for

your weddings?

So I said, well, one of the following

videos has to be about this, okay?

So let's talk a little about how I

prepare physically and psychologically before a damn wedding.

But I think it's not about before a

damn wedding or before a wedding, but it's

about being prepared for a wedding season.

I mean, I'm not going to be surprised

when I say that, damn, photographing for a

wedding, depending on how it is photographed, is

not easy, it is not simple and it

is a physical job.

I don't know about you, I can imagine

it, but at least in our case, our

weddings that we do are quite, quite physical.

I mean, we don't stop moving, we don't

stop crouching, running around here, running around there

and that needs to have a training or

have a certain medium physical state, normal or

good, right?

Well, normal, because well, as you can see,

I don't have muscles or anything like that,

but for several years now, well, quite a

few years, I have been exercising almost daily.

I mean, it is true that I have

not been a sportsperson, I have not liked

football or basketball or any other type of

sport, but there has been something that I

have always loved and it is swimming.

And swimming is really good for arms, for

the back and for the legs and that

will make it easier for me to be

in shape or moderately in shape for a

wedding day.

Personally, I like to swim every day, every

day at six and a half, whether it

is summer or winter, I go to the

pool covered and I love to spend almost

an hour swimming, no less than 50 minutes

and I try to force myself to go

a little bit, exercising that, right?

When I can't swim, what do I do?

Well, I go out for a run and

I try to run for 45 minutes to

at least have legs, which are the limbs

that I work the most and sometimes they

carry.

Personally, swimming not only helps me a lot

to be in shape, but it helps me

think, it helps me relax enormously.

When I swim, I think about my things,

I think about photography, I think about the

things I have to do on the day

I am going to start.

I mean, there are so many things to

think about and it relaxes me so much

and at the same time I move, that

helps me physically.

Beyond all that, believe me that I am

not going to play a football game or

a basketball game, I mean, the only thing

I do is swim or when I can't

go swimming, for example, when I'm not in

my city, I'm going to run and take

care of that, of being more or less

physically in shape.

I'm also talking to you about the sport

I do during the week, but I don't

do this sport only when I have a

wedding season, but I always do it, both

in winter and in summer, regardless of whether

I have weddings or not, but it is

also super important during the day of the

wedding, in which there is a physical and

mental activity, but let's talk first about the

physical, for me it is super important to

think, sorry, that during the wedding I always

have to stay active, regardless of the weddings,

I mean, if a wedding is international, there

are usually speeches, with which I am going

to stay active simply because of inertia, because

it is not going to stop at all,

because people sit down to dinner and they

already start talking, with which I already have

to start photographing, lighting, thinking how to do

it well and all these things.

If it is a Spanish wedding, which is

a bit sometimes long and tedious because of

the fact that from the moment they sit

down until things start to happen, it's like

three hours, more or less, and all that

time it's a real drama, it's a nightmare,

being there for three hours sitting down, that's

why I try to do things, I mean,

I try to stay active and among other

things that I do is try to eat

fast, to try to eat something fast, to

go back to taking photos of whatever, of

people talking at the tables, of waiters distributing

dishes, of the food dishes workshop, desserts, whatever,

something, you have to do something, why?

Because if not, how do I feel?

I'm going to come down and in the

end getting up is going to be an

over-effort and then mentally it's going to

be, I'm not in the game anymore, do

you understand where I'm going or not?

And talking a little more about something so

important, or more important than what I have

told so far, is the food on the

day of the wedding.

We always carry two, three, four energy bars,

each one of us, both Erika and me,

well, in our backpacks, to replenish the body

with sugar, with calories.

What do I mean by this?

The mind always has to be with sugar

so that it has the ability to create,

to think, to have good, creative ideas.

I don't say this, this is what all

doctors say, right?

When the mind lacks water or sugar, the

mind no longer starts to work so well.

That's why those bars are going to help

us, for example, perfectly.

At the last wedding, for example, in Barcelona,

at the moment I got in the same

car with the grooms to go from the

church to the hacienda, I remember that I

took two bars with half a liter of

water, practically all at once.

Why?

Because in the next 15 minutes I had

to take pictures, I had to do that

portrait session, so I had to stay agile

mentally, and the sugar left me like pearls.

We always do that at all weddings.

And speaking of food, at the moment we

sit down to eat something at the same

banquet, although the grooms, as at the last

wedding or at many weddings, they serve us

the same food as them, as the guests.

I try to eat the first dish, but

the second, if it's meat, I'm not going

to eat it anymore.

Why?

Because I don't usually eat meat normally.

It doesn't mean that I'm a vegan, no,

no, no.

I mean, I eat meat calmly and I

like it, but it's not a dish, it's

not a type of food that I really

like, so I don't try to force myself

to do it.

Of course, if I'm not used to eating

meat, on the day of the wedding, of

course, I'm not going to eat it because

that's going to cause my stomach to overdo

it and, ultimately, it won't help me work

properly.

And when I eat meat, like when I

drink alcohol, which I'm not going to drink

either, I'm going to want to sit down,

to come down, so I'm not going to

do that, okay?

That's physically, okay?

If we talk about psychologically, the first thing

is to deceive myself that I'm going to

do it super well, that I'm going to

put all the eggs in the damn pan,

I'm going to give my best.

I mean, I convince myself that I'm going

to give it all, I'm not going to

come down, I'm never going to win, I

mean, I don't think about winning money or

prizes, no, no, but rather, I go out

to win, it's like a horse that is

going to compete and goes out to win,

there is no margin to say, well, let's

see what happens, well, let's see if I

have a good day, let's see if I'm

lucky, well, let's see what happens with the

couple, no, no, no, no, what the hell,

I mean, I'm going for them, the couple,

come on, come on, come on, come on,

I mean, I try during the whole week

to say, come on, come on, Saturday, Saturday,

Saturday, boom, boom, boom, no, it's like convincing

yourself that you're going to do it perfectly.

At weddings, what?

I've been a little bitative?

Error, no?

I mean, you have to be very clear

that you are going to win anyway, to

win, that fucking battle is for you, and

you are going to take it to the

sack, and you are going to take the

damn couple to your land, and you are

going to make that day that everything jumps

through the air, it is the only way

that in my head it works, no?

And something also very, very important, I am

not only worth being excited on the day

of the wedding, but the week, it is

as if we had here like an oven,

and you are putting coal in it, no?

You don't let that fire go out, you

go like the week to rum, rum, rum,

rum, rum, rum, rum, no, you're going to

be thinking all the time, not thinking, but

heating engines, right?

Saying, come on, this fucking wedding, the previous

one didn't go quite the way I wanted,

this damn wedding, come on, I have to

start at the sack, plus that farm, plus

the boyfriends, boom, boom, boom, I mean, it

is to go avenging yourself at all times

and be very clear that you want to

photograph, I mean, it is as important to

convince yourself that you are the best as

to convince yourself that knowing that you want

to photograph what type of photos you will

not miss, I mean, when I go to

a wedding without thinking what I want to

do, what I am going to photograph, who

is the couple, how is the couple, where

is he going to get married, does he

have a wedding planner, no, as a consequence,

what photos, because I want to do, plus

the mother is, they have already told me

that it is problematic, that it is going

to give me war, because how am I

going to manage that, I mean, I am

going to be prepared at all times for

the pros and cons, not to come up

when they applaud me, not to come down

when they hit me in the balls, that

is, I am going to be mine and

I am always going to see the couple

from the affection, but in a super aseptic

way that does not affect me, neither the

good nor the bad, I mean, I am

going to go spearheading forward at all times

with a knife, do you understand me or

not, to death, that is, that is how

I am going to prepare mentally at all

times and we are going, for example, before

he starts photographing in the car, we usually

put music at full volume, that is, we

try to put ourselves almost like the super

saiyajins, do you understand me or not, that

almost comes out fire and the hair turns

yellow, that is, so damn level and there

is, for example, a song and do not

laugh please and this is completely serious, which

is Conan the Barbarian's soundtrack and that I

always put it on, I always put it

on before starting a wedding, because that is

not that I have a childhood like Conan

the Barbarian and that I lost my parents

for a real crazy man, but the effort

that has led me to get here is

not comparable to that of Conan, but it

was complicated, that is, because my life, despite

the fact that I have had a perfect

childhood, getting to be a photographer has been

hard, it has not been easy, I have

had to sacrifice many things in my life

to get to where I am, with which

I compare myself in a certain way with

Conan the Barbarian and I put on his

damn soundtrack so that my hair gets swollen,

it starts to pull forward and it is

like a little donkey that no longer thinks

about pulling, pulling, pulling, pulling forward, you understand

where I am going, that is why that

is one of the ways with which I

try to prepare myself mentally and psychologically for

all this and above all, as I have

told you at a wedding, there will be

many moments in which the boyfriends and family

members, either out of nerves or because they

are some hoodlums or whatever, are going to

touch our balls, they are going to make

comments that are going to sink us and

there will be others that are not, because

it is neither for some nor for other

comments we have, it has to affect us,

you understand, that is, we have to see

everything in an aseptic way, we have to

think everything as if we were sometimes psychologists

and that it does not affect us, you

understand, that is, so that everything goes well

because as at a wedding we have a

bad one, I was going to say a

mother who touches our eggs, which usually happens,

or a girlfriend who makes us a couple

of miscarriages, that can mine us, but that

out, out and out, so I think that

it can work better and the work in

the end comes out, okay?

So this was today's video, I hope that

Fran and more liked it or found it

interesting, I think I see you all swimming

and I see you all listening to Conan

the Barbarian, so nothing else friends, take care,

be good and have a good week and

keep hiring weddings, bastards!