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In my own
journey over the years,
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I think I've come
to understand evil
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in a way that most people don't.
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Things that people
don't talk about.
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And I do believe that
Satan is a person.
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What Ruby has done,
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it just crossed a line
of abusive to just...
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psychotic and full-on evil.
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A woman who
rose to fame on YouTube
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with her videos on parenting,
childcare, and marriage
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is charged with six counts
of felony child abuse.
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But how did we get here?
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Ruby Franke
was arrested last week
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along with her business partner
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after Franke's 12-year-old
son escaped through a window
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and ran to a neighbor's house
pleading for food and water.
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Police say the boy was
severely malnourished
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and had lacerations
from being tied up.
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The house the boy says
he escaped from: Jodi Hildebrandt's.
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Hildebrandt
has also been arrested
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and charged with six counts
of felony child abuse.
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In the journal,
Ruby describes her children
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with words like, "Demon,"
"Devil," "Possessed,"
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insisting that they must repent.
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All of this comes after mounting
questions over possible missed warnings.
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Her husband, Kevin, seen here in one
of Ruby's many social media videos
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now fighting to
clear his own name.
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In many ways,
we were the perfect family.
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But the devil knocked
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and we opened the door.
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We're both from Springville,
so we both were raised here.
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I mean, we have fond memories
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of being best friends with
our neighbors growing up.
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And so that's exactly what
we wanted for our kids.
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But also, it's perfection.
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It... It
just feels idyllic.
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And it's a place we'd never worry
about having our kids out late.
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You know, it's just
peaceful and quiet.
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People watching out
for each other, so...
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This
neighborhood is so close.
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They call this Happy Valley.
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People typically don't move.
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They house hop.
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Why do they stay?
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Just an amazing group of people.
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It's a great
community. I live here myself.
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And a lot of people are
happy in Happy Valley.
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In s... in many ways, it's
a great place to live.
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And they truly are happy.
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There's a but.
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Bu... There is a but.
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Uh, they truly are happy,
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but... they...
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Hell, I, I gotta be
careful what I say.
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They truly are happy but they...
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are stuck in a box.
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There's a bubble and there's
a certain culture here,
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a culture of perfectionism,
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wanting to look a certain
way, wanting to be good,
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wanting to be more perfect.
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And the reason why is
because Utah is the capital
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for the Mormon Church.
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Mormons are taught
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that in order to get to the
highest degree of glory,
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you should strive
for perfection.
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And we are always supposed
to be doing missionary work
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to show the world how
perfect our lives are.
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This is the
most important work.
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To join the conversation by
participating on the internet...
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And so
Utah has become the epicenter
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for family vlogging.
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Just by sharing their
lives on camera,
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they're thinking they're
doing God's work.
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There are about 53
Saturdays in a year.
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This jar is holding 100 marbles.
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This jar is holding 100 marbles.
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Okay, so the last tip that I have
for calendaring is remembering...
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My last tip for...
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I always ask myself when
I schedule a weekend,
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is what I scheduled worth...
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Hey, I'm
still recording!
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Come on!
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Why am hearing all this noise?!
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In our church, in our
faith, we were raised to believe
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that the ultimate thing that
you can become in this world
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is a parent.
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I... I am a busy mom of six
children and I am always on the go.
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And Ruby's sole ambition
was to be seen as the perfect mom.
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It's all she talked about.
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It's all she focused on.
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But she wasn't getting enough
praise and attention for it.
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And so she decided she was going
to create a YouTube channel.
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And when she sets her
mind to something,
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hell and Earth combined
could not stop her.
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And she was going to make
her vlog bigger and better
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than everybody else's.
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- What are we doing?
- What is this?
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It's a cake and inside
is the color of the baby.
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So we're gonna find out if
it's pink or if it's blue.
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Cut it.
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Oh, I'm nervous.
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Go.
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I hope it's...
It's pink!
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It's gonna be a girl!
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Oh!
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Oh!
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Yay!
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I knew it!
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Chad, what do you think?
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Staring at it won't
make it turn blue, pal.
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Mom, can I
have a piece of the bow?
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Me too?
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Here, you
better eat this...
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By this
time, we were eight
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and so we became "8 Passengers."
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Okay. Let's go.
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And that was a
powerful metaphor for us.
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We're all in this vehicle
together with our family
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driving down this
road called life.
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...in a world where people
just criticize each other
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and make each other feel bad.
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And we're here to show that
happy families are a reality.
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I love coming and doing little
simple things with my family
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because it just makes all
of my worries go away,
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just for a little bit.
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Except when they fight.
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We weren't poor.
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Whoa!
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I-I mean, Dad was just... I remember
he just became, like, a professor
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and he just finished his PhD.
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But I remember it was definitely
like a very simple but fun lifestyle.
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No!
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My mom didn't
want anything to be forced.
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She just wanted to kinda show the
view of a Mormon happy family.
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Happy
Easter. We love you.
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We're grateful that we get to
make these videos every day
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and share our lives with you.
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And thank you.
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Thank you for supporting
us and being real.
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We'll see you tomorrow.
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She really
was the best mom.
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Sunday, we would go to church.
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The rest of the week, we would have
family scripture study at night,
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the Book of Mormon.
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Our Heavenly
Father, we give thanks...
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We would just say our
prayers and go to bed.
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So, i-it was very simple.
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Okay, we are here at the
church and just got dressed.
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So we're gonna go over and take a picture
of Kevin and by the font,
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'cause your dad's
gonna baptize you.
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The first few
videos were really rough.
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There's some that
are upside down.
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I'm gonna...
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I do remember Ruby starting
with videos of all the kids
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and she'd say, you know, "Meet
Chad," and "Meet this kid."
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And I was excited for my video.
I wanted to have a video about me.
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Shari, tell everybody
what you're talking about.
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So when, like, I was
maybe like age
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and Chad was age,
we came up with a dance.
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And we still do it to this day.
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It was mostly me and Shari
just running around, messing around,
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and having fun fighting.
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Me and Shari were best friends.
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I just remember we would
always play in the crawl space.
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There's a little crawl
space door we'd open and...
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Playing with dandelions and running
around on the sidewalk, so...
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Yeah, it was fun.
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It felt like every video we posted
was, this is the perfect family.
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But they only saw what
we wanted to show them.
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Ta-da!
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Thank you. You
guys, that was beautiful.
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This is... This is heaven on
earth for me. This is heaven.
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Like, life doesn't
get better than this.
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It just doesn't.
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I live for being in the kitchen
with my kids and good food.
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Let's have family prayer...
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She filmed everything.
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Daddy! Daddy!
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And I was so
uncomfortable with it.
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- Okay.
- You're home.
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Okay, well, I turned the camera on just
long enough so everyone can see you.
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Hi, everybody.
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- My phone!
- I'm back at work now.
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- I know.
- So you'll never see me.
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Daddy, Daddy.
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When I came in the door,
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wherever Ruby was,
the camera was.
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Many, many of you in the last
several videos have said,
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"Can we hear your kids play more?
Can you please sing Christmas carols?
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"We'd love to see your family
play some Christmas music
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or sing some Christmas carols."
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I'm waiting for, like, to
share a conversation with you.
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- I'm listening to you talk.
- Ugh.
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I'm sorry.
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I like to hear Ruby talk.
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I'm cutting all of this out.
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Help me out here.
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Um...
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I don't know where you
wanted me to come in.
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'Kay. Start over
again and I'll...
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All of a sudden, it wasn't
enough to just interact with her.
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I had to interact
with the camera.
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Here, I'll... I'll
pick in. You ready?
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So, one of the
traditions that we do...
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And she would pull it
out and she would say,
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"Kevin, this camera is millions
of people watching us."
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I had a neighbor come
over to the house once
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and she was standing
in the front...
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She really wanted me
to be the perfect husband.
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The even-keeled but strong
patriarch of the family.
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But I wasn't.
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I am a nerd through and through.
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I don't know.
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Okay.
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I was very insecure
with who I was.
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And I was willing to
change to become somebody
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that somebody else would
appreciate and love.
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We met in August of 2000,
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but she had about five guys
trying to court her interest.
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And so I decided to play dirty.
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Inside of her closet,
she had this big table.
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All of the rows vertically
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were all of the
attributes in a guy
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that she was looking for.
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She had physical
attributes like athletic,
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she had a ton of attributes
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that were related to our
religion and our faith.
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And then along the top, all
of the columns were the boys.
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And my name was on
there. I had a column.
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And so I'm just furiously taking notes
and I went home and I studied hard.
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I studied that stuff harder
than I did my schooling I think.
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We were engaged
by October of 2000
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and we were married
by December 28, 2000.
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It's quite quick.
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Getting married
was the ultimate symbol
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that somebody else was willing
to commit their eternity to me.
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And once I had it,
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I was willing to do
anything to keep it.
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I have never...
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I've never had a kid crawl
out of their crib before.
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What is she doing?
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Oh!
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Oh, my God!
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Our first video that went
viral, I guess you could say,
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was "Baby climbs out of crib."
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I can't believe it!
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What am I gonna do with
you if you won't take naps?
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It felt exciting
at the time for sure.
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I felt like I was
a little bit famous
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and I thought it was a cool
badge of honor to wear.
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Someone's waving at us!
252
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Hi, guys! How are you?
253
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Shortly after, the first
paycheck landed in our account.
254
00:19:03,510 --> 00:19:04,878
How much was it?
255
00:19:05,278 --> 00:19:06,880
Like, $85.
256
00:19:08,915 --> 00:19:12,218
But it felt amazing.
257
00:19:17,123 --> 00:19:22,395
And that first paycheck
flipped me 180 degrees.
258
00:19:24,898 --> 00:19:25,898
Daddy!
259
00:19:25,899 --> 00:19:28,735
And I wanted more.
260
00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:37,410
8 Passengers
LLC was born.
261
00:19:39,913 --> 00:19:41,647
Woo!
262
00:19:43,283 --> 00:19:45,452
The kids
were all employees.
263
00:19:46,519 --> 00:19:49,321
Is... Is how we were referred
to, was like employees
264
00:19:49,322 --> 00:19:51,156
and Ruby was the CEO.
265
00:19:51,157 --> 00:19:52,925
Thank you, guys, for watching.
266
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I gotta put my
house back in order.
267
00:19:55,161 --> 00:19:57,796
Thumbs up. Subscribe.
Be sure to...
268
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People loved
Ruby's personality
269
00:20:03,403 --> 00:20:06,539
and it attracted an
audience quickly.
270
00:20:08,174 --> 00:20:09,875
Okay, you
guys, just real quick,
271
00:20:09,876 --> 00:20:13,979
don't forget that we are
doing a meetup at CVX Live.
272
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We're meeting all of our viewers
273
00:20:15,515 --> 00:20:19,551
and we're also going to be
doing a super fan experience.
274
00:20:19,552 --> 00:20:21,587
Um, to get tickets,
I will leave the...
275
00:20:21,588 --> 00:20:23,490
Were you
surprised by their fame?
276
00:20:24,624 --> 00:20:27,227
I was blown away by
their fame. Blown away.
277
00:20:31,931 --> 00:20:34,067
We went and saw the
Broadway play Hamilton
278
00:20:35,635 --> 00:20:37,302
and I stopped to get some candy
279
00:20:37,303 --> 00:20:40,239
and the girl helping me said,
"Are you with Ruby Franke?"
280
00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:43,976
And I was like, "You
watch her channel?"
281
00:20:43,977 --> 00:20:45,812
Like, what?
282
00:20:47,981 --> 00:20:50,583
She played it very
intelligently.
283
00:20:51,251 --> 00:20:54,653
All you kids, come
on. Give me excitement. Ready?
284
00:20:54,654 --> 00:20:57,390
I was always blown
away by her business sense.
285
00:21:02,962 --> 00:21:04,296
It's just so fitting.
286
00:21:04,297 --> 00:21:05,898
It is so fitting
to hit a million
287
00:21:05,899 --> 00:21:11,570
while I'm, like, trying to squeeze in
all of these little things that I'm doing
288
00:21:11,571 --> 00:21:12,805
to serve my family.
289
00:21:12,806 --> 00:21:16,809
Like, my big thing has always
been mothers are powerful.
290
00:21:16,810 --> 00:21:20,814
And it's not the big things that
moms do that make them powerful.
291
00:21:21,348 --> 00:21:23,316
Power comes in
the little things.
292
00:21:27,354 --> 00:21:29,956
Thank you.
293
00:21:43,370 --> 00:21:46,773
Watching the
subscribers grow was really big.
294
00:21:47,307 --> 00:21:51,210
And the understanding was that if
Shari or Chad are on the thumbnail,
295
00:21:51,211 --> 00:21:52,778
then the video's gonna do better
296
00:21:52,779 --> 00:21:56,515
than if just Ruby was on
it or the little kids.
297
00:21:56,516 --> 00:21:58,318
Airborne shot!
298
00:21:59,352 --> 00:22:00,352
Woo!
299
00:22:03,656 --> 00:22:06,392
Why does he get
so much joy in this?
300
00:22:08,294 --> 00:22:09,862
Well, I think
I knew very early on
301
00:22:09,863 --> 00:22:11,797
that people liked
seeing me the most.
302
00:22:11,798 --> 00:22:14,500
And I think that's
a little selfish of me to say,
303
00:22:14,501 --> 00:22:16,602
but it was also,
it was also true.
304
00:22:16,603 --> 00:22:19,605
Just, you know, I want you
to look at this, but don't move.
305
00:22:19,606 --> 00:22:21,708
Hold perfectly still.
306
00:22:22,575 --> 00:22:25,577
I think I brought a lot
of character into the channel.
307
00:22:25,578 --> 00:22:26,745
I'm helping you!
308
00:22:26,746 --> 00:22:29,349
I was very good at being,
like, lighthearted and fun.
309
00:22:29,883 --> 00:22:31,785
Three, two!
310
00:22:32,585 --> 00:22:33,585
One!
311
00:22:35,221 --> 00:22:41,194
But I think just the main reason was the
audience was girls my age at the time.
312
00:22:41,928 --> 00:22:45,464
And I think they just found
me fun and attractive.
313
00:22:45,465 --> 00:22:48,033
And, uh, I'm not complaining.
314
00:22:48,034 --> 00:22:49,301
We're cheerleaders.
315
00:22:53,940 --> 00:22:56,142
I was living
vicariously through him.
316
00:22:57,510 --> 00:23:02,349
He was everything that I wished
that I was when I was a kid.
317
00:23:02,949 --> 00:23:06,618
Confident, handsome,
great at sports,
318
00:23:06,619 --> 00:23:09,254
the heartthrob, and
the comedic relief.
319
00:23:09,255 --> 00:23:10,723
And that's important.
320
00:23:10,724 --> 00:23:12,092
Ruby knew that.
321
00:23:13,293 --> 00:23:14,894
And she exploited it.
322
00:23:15,829 --> 00:23:17,529
Did
you exploit it?
323
00:23:17,530 --> 00:23:19,466
Absolutely, I did.
324
00:23:21,001 --> 00:23:24,237
Let's see if we can show
how thick this wad of cash is.
325
00:23:28,842 --> 00:23:35,548
All of that money, all of that payment
came for one reason and one reason only,
326
00:23:36,416 --> 00:23:37,683
my kids.
327
00:23:37,684 --> 00:23:39,451
So smile.
328
00:23:39,452 --> 00:23:41,688
Now look at it, like...
Look at the money.
329
00:23:42,355 --> 00:23:45,257
And we started
to watch the paychecks go
330
00:23:45,258 --> 00:23:47,393
from, like, 2,000 a month
331
00:23:47,394 --> 00:23:50,997
to 8,000 a month,
to 20,000 a month.
332
00:23:51,498 --> 00:23:58,204
And at our peak, a hundred
grand or more per month.
333
00:23:59,906 --> 00:24:03,375
So going back, so
you all six kids were employees?
334
00:24:03,376 --> 00:24:04,810
Yes.
335
00:24:04,811 --> 00:24:07,112
And how old
was the youngest employee?
336
00:24:07,113 --> 00:24:09,449
Probably like four or five.
337
00:24:10,450 --> 00:24:12,551
Did you have
any misgivings about that?
338
00:24:12,552 --> 00:24:14,587
'Cause a lot of them were young.
339
00:24:15,321 --> 00:24:16,889
Not at the time.
340
00:24:18,491 --> 00:24:20,492
We're going to Hawaii!
341
00:24:20,493 --> 00:24:23,896
- We're going to Hawaii.
- It's a seven-hour flight!
342
00:24:27,067 --> 00:24:32,505
I was raised on the idea
of the cosmic vending machine.
343
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:35,641
Our Dear Heavenly Father,
344
00:24:35,642 --> 00:24:37,209
we kneel as a
family this morning.
345
00:24:37,210 --> 00:24:40,947
We're so grateful that we can have
this time together in Hawaii...
346
00:24:41,881 --> 00:24:48,088
It's this idea that I can bargain
with or do business with God.
347
00:24:51,124 --> 00:24:55,994
We've believed that we
were sharing goodness,
348
00:24:55,995 --> 00:24:58,897
Christianity with
the whole world.
349
00:24:58,898 --> 00:25:02,502
And in return, God
was blessing us.
350
00:25:04,237 --> 00:25:07,406
I have been,
like, overwhelmed
351
00:25:07,407 --> 00:25:12,512
by how many blessings that
we've received in our family.
352
00:25:13,613 --> 00:25:16,281
So many... Not just
today. And not just...
353
00:25:16,282 --> 00:25:19,019
But for Ruby, it's
never been about the money.
354
00:25:21,321 --> 00:25:24,324
- Daddy.
- Okay, go.
355
00:25:25,125 --> 00:25:26,759
Hard for me.
356
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,927
Happy Mother's Day!
357
00:25:28,928 --> 00:25:30,062
Come here!
358
00:25:34,968 --> 00:25:40,774
By this point, Ruby
was effectively America's mom.
359
00:25:41,541 --> 00:25:43,709
"Happy Mother's
Day. I hope you..."
360
00:25:43,710 --> 00:25:48,147
And of all the moms that
YouTube could showcase and highlight
361
00:25:48,148 --> 00:25:50,917
and put on a pedestal
on Mother's Day,
362
00:25:51,751 --> 00:25:53,019
there was Ruby.
363
00:25:55,221 --> 00:25:57,857
She wanted that
more than anything.
364
00:26:00,060 --> 00:26:01,327
And it was effective.
365
00:26:10,570 --> 00:26:12,238
Tell us
who you are again.
366
00:26:21,748 --> 00:26:24,817
And she
would confide to me
367
00:26:24,818 --> 00:26:29,355
that she was meant to be some sort
of instrument in the hand of God.
368
00:26:30,557 --> 00:26:34,493
"Roses are red, violets are
blue. I want to spend my life..."
369
00:26:34,494 --> 00:26:37,697
That she was meant for
something bigger than herself.
370
00:26:38,732 --> 00:26:41,934
Everyone look at the camera and I want
you to all say, "Happy Mother's Day."
371
00:26:41,935 --> 00:26:43,502
One, two, three.
372
00:26:43,503 --> 00:26:47,207
Happy Mother's Day.
373
00:26:54,014 --> 00:26:57,049
The
Frankes, they only lived
374
00:26:57,050 --> 00:26:58,852
the next neighborhood over.
375
00:27:00,153 --> 00:27:01,620
One, two, three.
376
00:27:01,621 --> 00:27:04,257
We sold our house!
377
00:27:05,558 --> 00:27:08,160
Good and I'll do a
little thumbnail of you guys.
378
00:27:08,161 --> 00:27:10,996
They did have kind
of a, a negative reputation
379
00:27:10,997 --> 00:27:13,867
for filming and not asking.
380
00:27:15,568 --> 00:27:17,870
Today is moving day.
381
00:27:17,871 --> 00:27:21,174
I can't believe the day
has come where we are leaving.
382
00:27:23,410 --> 00:27:25,511
YouTube
wasn't banned in our house
383
00:27:25,512 --> 00:27:29,949
but we didn't really encourage
our children to watch it.
384
00:27:30,517 --> 00:27:34,987
So we didn't really know of them
until I heard from my niece.
385
00:27:34,988 --> 00:27:36,622
And she messaged me
and she was like,
386
00:27:36,623 --> 00:27:38,857
"I think these guys are moving
into your neighborhood."
387
00:27:38,858 --> 00:27:43,463
So then we were... I think we were
like, "Okay, what... who are they?"
388
00:27:50,904 --> 00:27:51,971
Come on in!
389
00:27:52,972 --> 00:27:56,575
This is where our grandkids
are gonna come visit grandma.
390
00:27:56,576 --> 00:27:59,846
And where Kevin's
gonna be a grandpa.
391
00:28:00,747 --> 00:28:02,681
Like, this is our grandma home.
392
00:28:02,682 --> 00:28:03,750
You ready?
393
00:28:05,652 --> 00:28:09,221
As a couple, we
both connected with Kevin
394
00:28:09,222 --> 00:28:10,857
and talking with him...
395
00:28:11,358 --> 00:28:14,526
- We never had beef with Kevin ever.
- No, yeah.
396
00:28:14,527 --> 00:28:19,332
Never. It was always with
Ruby and the channel.
397
00:28:21,301 --> 00:28:24,236
โช It's a
beautiful day in the neighborhood โช
398
00:28:24,237 --> 00:28:25,772
โช A beautiful day... โช
399
00:28:28,742 --> 00:28:29,743
โช For a neighbor โช
400
00:28:30,643 --> 00:28:32,212
โช Would you be mine? โช
401
00:28:32,846 --> 00:28:34,747
Anytime they
went for a walk,
402
00:28:34,748 --> 00:28:37,783
Ruby would wear
the bright dress,
403
00:28:37,784 --> 00:28:39,885
bright lipstick, filming,
404
00:28:39,886 --> 00:28:42,054
and all of our homes
were in the background
405
00:28:42,055 --> 00:28:44,524
and we're just a
private community.
406
00:28:45,592 --> 00:28:48,094
To be honest, Ruby wasn't
the most friendly person.
407
00:28:49,095 --> 00:28:51,630
I don't think she really ever
had a major conversation with me
408
00:28:51,631 --> 00:28:52,831
the whole time she was here.
409
00:28:52,832 --> 00:28:54,233
She wasn't hosting parties.
410
00:28:54,234 --> 00:28:57,236
She wasn't trying to
have people come over
411
00:28:57,237 --> 00:29:00,205
for brunch or a ladies' day.
412
00:29:00,206 --> 00:29:02,242
She kinda, I think,
kept to herself.
413
00:29:03,810 --> 00:29:05,011
This is better lighting.
414
00:29:06,513 --> 00:29:07,981
She just
seemed very busy.
415
00:29:09,082 --> 00:29:11,617
So, I think, for a lot of us,
416
00:29:11,618 --> 00:29:15,487
she just kinda got a reputation
that her channel was more important
417
00:29:15,488 --> 00:29:17,524
than relationships with people.
418
00:29:19,626 --> 00:29:21,560
- Ey!
- Ey!
419
00:29:21,561 --> 00:29:23,262
'Kay, I wanna try.
420
00:29:23,263 --> 00:29:24,797
I tried it.
421
00:29:24,798 --> 00:29:28,301
We were just completely
lost in the fun of it.
422
00:29:28,702 --> 00:29:30,302
Hopefully, there's
no cracks in the road.
423
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:39,179
But we did see changes
in the kids accumulating.
424
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:41,781
Let's go inside.
425
00:29:47,020 --> 00:29:48,855
You can use their
faces as B-roll.
426
00:29:56,396 --> 00:29:58,397
The kids started to
complain about everything.
427
00:29:58,398 --> 00:30:00,432
Like, "I'm bored.
428
00:30:00,433 --> 00:30:02,101
"We don't wanna film.
429
00:30:02,102 --> 00:30:03,837
We're so tired of doing this."
430
00:30:05,105 --> 00:30:06,538
There's, like, no beach.
431
00:30:06,539 --> 00:30:09,075
It just, like, starts. Water.
432
00:30:10,543 --> 00:30:14,046
It really began
to concern Ruby a lot.
433
00:30:14,047 --> 00:30:17,817
She would describe it as
they were losing their light.
434
00:30:18,985 --> 00:30:21,254
Do you know that
this is what we do?
435
00:30:22,722 --> 00:30:26,458
And everyone gets $10 for a
video that they help with.
436
00:30:26,459 --> 00:30:27,994
Do you want $10?
437
00:30:29,162 --> 00:30:33,299
Our entire schedule
revolved around YouTube.
438
00:30:33,700 --> 00:30:36,870
And I think that's where
I started to have issues.
439
00:30:40,507 --> 00:30:42,242
We always had to
keep the house clean.
440
00:30:43,510 --> 00:30:46,812
We changed all the light
bulbs from our yellow shade
441
00:30:46,813 --> 00:30:48,515
to, like, a bright white.
442
00:30:49,015 --> 00:30:51,717
It felt more like
a set than a house.
443
00:30:54,254 --> 00:30:55,921
My heart
sunk pretty fast
444
00:30:55,922 --> 00:31:01,660
because I started watching some
of the videos and I was ap...
445
00:31:01,661 --> 00:31:03,796
I mean, honestly "appalled"
is the word I have...
446
00:31:03,797 --> 00:31:05,931
- Well, it...
- ...of-of-of sharing
447
00:31:05,932 --> 00:31:08,368
such personal information
about your kids.
448
00:31:12,172 --> 00:31:14,540
That was when I just
wanted to be with my friends.
449
00:31:14,541 --> 00:31:17,609
I really didn't want
anything to do with YouTube.
450
00:31:18,678 --> 00:31:20,379
It bugged the crap out of me.
451
00:31:20,380 --> 00:31:21,780
I... I hated it.
452
00:31:21,781 --> 00:31:24,883
And there was a time,
maybe even a year or more,
453
00:31:24,884 --> 00:31:27,220
where I truly hated her.
454
00:31:28,021 --> 00:31:29,022
Smile.
455
00:31:30,623 --> 00:31:31,624
Chad, look at me.
456
00:31:35,929 --> 00:31:37,263
'Kay, let's go back.
457
00:31:37,931 --> 00:31:40,432
But when it came to brand
deals and the sponsorships,
458
00:31:40,433 --> 00:31:43,969
that's what really put me on edge
'cause it felt like a script,
459
00:31:43,970 --> 00:31:45,739
felt like I was
being controlled.
460
00:31:46,306 --> 00:31:47,673
I think this one is really good.
461
00:31:47,674 --> 00:31:49,608
It says, "Do you think
your teen's mental health
462
00:31:49,609 --> 00:31:51,444
is more important than
school and grades?"
463
00:31:51,911 --> 00:31:53,847
Do you know where
I sit with that?
464
00:31:56,483 --> 00:31:58,952
Chad, are you gonna be
willing to help me out or not?
465
00:32:00,020 --> 00:32:01,421
You seem really distant.
466
00:32:02,188 --> 00:32:04,556
I purposefully
said the wrong lines.
467
00:32:04,557 --> 00:32:08,795
I purposely tried to make my mom
as pissed as she possibly could.
468
00:32:09,829 --> 00:32:13,432
I made things hard for
her and I don't know why.
469
00:32:13,433 --> 00:32:16,468
I just... I
think it just goes back to
470
00:32:16,469 --> 00:32:18,905
I really didn't like
being told what to do.
471
00:32:20,306 --> 00:32:23,075
I wasn't even
doing anything bad.
472
00:32:23,076 --> 00:32:25,845
I just wouldn't
listen to adults,
473
00:32:26,346 --> 00:32:28,415
especially my teachers.
474
00:32:34,020 --> 00:32:40,459
In May, Chad was expelled from school
and I didn't know what the answer was.
475
00:32:40,460 --> 00:32:42,462
I didn't know where
he was gonna go.
476
00:32:43,196 --> 00:32:46,832
And after several discussions
and conversations with him,
477
00:32:46,833 --> 00:32:51,437
we knew that it would be the most
helpful if he had some sup...
478
00:32:51,438 --> 00:32:53,872
some more support, so...
479
00:32:53,873 --> 00:32:56,742
Once I started
getting suspended,
480
00:32:56,743 --> 00:32:59,845
um, my parents thought
it would be a great idea
481
00:32:59,846 --> 00:33:01,514
if I started getting
into therapy.
482
00:33:05,051 --> 00:33:08,688
I think she wanted somebody
that really put the hammer down.
483
00:33:12,192 --> 00:33:13,893
Ruby went to Paige.
484
00:33:15,562 --> 00:33:20,600
Paige effectively said, "I
know the perfect person."
485
00:33:38,151 --> 00:33:40,886
Welcome to Mentally Fit
with Jodi Hildebrandt.
486
00:33:40,887 --> 00:33:43,122
So glad you could join
us this morning...
487
00:33:43,123 --> 00:33:46,725
Jodi was very
influential in the community.
488
00:33:46,726 --> 00:33:52,097
And when Jodi was teaching, she
could just cut straight to the chase.
489
00:33:52,098 --> 00:33:56,435
So I admired her and I
did look to her as a guru
490
00:33:56,436 --> 00:33:58,904
and, and really found myself
putting her on a pedestal of,
491
00:33:58,905 --> 00:34:02,142
"if I'm going to learn from somebody,
she's a great person to learn from."
492
00:34:02,742 --> 00:34:06,779
The issue is you. You need
to get centered in you.
493
00:34:06,780 --> 00:34:09,515
You become a woman of integrity.
494
00:34:09,516 --> 00:34:11,950
She did come
across very knowledgeable.
495
00:34:11,951 --> 00:34:13,820
And she referenced her history.
496
00:34:15,055 --> 00:34:18,957
She was at a very prestigious
drug rehab facility
497
00:34:18,958 --> 00:34:20,993
with a lot of prominent people.
498
00:34:20,994 --> 00:34:23,496
Um, and I... and I bought it.
499
00:34:24,297 --> 00:34:27,167
Truth
is love. Truth is love.
500
00:34:27,934 --> 00:34:32,871
And you feel good about yourself when you
use your agency to choose that. Now...
501
00:34:32,872 --> 00:34:37,711
In 2010, I finally got
fully licensed as a therapist.
502
00:34:39,145 --> 00:34:41,947
One of the biggest practices
was Jodi Hildebrandt's practice
503
00:34:41,948 --> 00:34:43,315
in Utah County.
504
00:34:43,316 --> 00:34:46,720
And she invited me
to come shadow her.
505
00:34:48,221 --> 00:34:51,690
At first, I... I
was actually amazed.
506
00:34:51,691 --> 00:34:55,227
I thought, "Wow, look what she's
doing. This is incredible."
507
00:34:55,228 --> 00:34:59,198
Um, "She's... She's
courageous. She's powerful."
508
00:34:59,199 --> 00:35:04,004
And I was a little bit convinced
that she had it figured out.
509
00:35:04,738 --> 00:35:08,540
I started realizing that those
statements were destructive.
510
00:35:08,541 --> 00:35:10,743
They weren't helpful.
They weren't loving.
511
00:35:10,744 --> 00:35:12,911
They weren't kind.
They didn't motivate...
512
00:35:12,912 --> 00:35:16,516
She can speak
with authority really well.
513
00:35:17,717 --> 00:35:21,787
When... When they're looking for
guidance and they're looking for help
514
00:35:21,788 --> 00:35:25,791
and she's coming across
as, "I know how to do this
515
00:35:25,792 --> 00:35:29,595
and I will tell you directly
what you need to do,"
516
00:35:29,596 --> 00:35:31,331
um, people respond to that.
517
00:35:33,233 --> 00:35:37,002
"Hallelujah. Somebody who's
gonna call me on my stuff
518
00:35:37,003 --> 00:35:40,305
and help me move toward what
I actually desire in my life."
519
00:35:42,509 --> 00:35:46,412
You are gonna learn
how to parent your children
520
00:35:46,413 --> 00:35:50,784
in a way that does not invite
them to live in distortion.
521
00:35:51,584 --> 00:35:53,052
They're going to learn...
522
00:35:53,053 --> 00:35:58,224
Ruby fell in love with everything
that she was hearing and seeing.
523
00:36:00,226 --> 00:36:02,528
So about a month after
524
00:36:02,529 --> 00:36:06,766
was the first meeting
between Jodi and Chad.
525
00:36:09,235 --> 00:36:11,337
I remember my mom
telling me that morning,
526
00:36:11,338 --> 00:36:14,808
"Hey, it's gonna be your
first kinda session with her."
527
00:36:17,310 --> 00:36:19,978
And I remember looking
forward to that call,
528
00:36:19,979 --> 00:36:21,848
just to kinda, like,
get rid of her.
529
00:36:23,283 --> 00:36:26,486
I'll just put on a
happy face, I'll smile,
530
00:36:28,121 --> 00:36:29,756
and this will go
away eventually.
531
00:36:32,125 --> 00:36:34,294
And so, I go in
my parents' room.
532
00:36:35,095 --> 00:36:36,495
They open up laptops.
533
00:36:36,496 --> 00:36:39,733
I'm kind of in the middle, my parents
are sitting on either side of me.
534
00:36:40,700 --> 00:36:42,301
And the first thing
Jodi said was, you know,
535
00:36:42,302 --> 00:36:43,802
"Chad, it's really
good to see you.
536
00:36:43,803 --> 00:36:48,307
"Are you ready to start living
an honest and responsible
537
00:36:48,308 --> 00:36:49,842
and humble lifestyle?"
538
00:36:49,843 --> 00:36:53,846
And I said, "Absolutely, yeah.
Let's get this started," you know?
539
00:36:53,847 --> 00:36:56,682
"I'm so ready to live
a responsible life."
540
00:36:56,683 --> 00:37:00,920
And, uh, the first thing she
said was, "You're lying, Chad."
541
00:37:01,721 --> 00:37:03,256
And I went silent.
542
00:37:08,928 --> 00:37:13,265
This random person I've never met before
just said, "You're lying to me, Chad."
543
00:37:13,266 --> 00:37:15,300
And I just remember
thinking like,
544
00:37:15,301 --> 00:37:19,204
"Well, yeah, I'm lying to you,
but you just said it?" Like...
545
00:37:19,205 --> 00:37:23,709
And I remember I looked at my
mom and my mom looked at my dad
546
00:37:23,710 --> 00:37:25,778
and my mom kind of
smiled a little bit.
547
00:37:25,779 --> 00:37:27,013
Like, she smirked.
548
00:37:28,648 --> 00:37:31,116
She really kinda
just read through me.
549
00:37:31,117 --> 00:37:34,253
And, uh, that really
excited my mom
550
00:37:34,254 --> 00:37:39,625
that there's finally someone out there
who isn't gonna take my bull crap anymore.
551
00:37:39,626 --> 00:37:43,830
So she was hooked onto
her from that moment on.
552
00:37:45,331 --> 00:37:46,332
Yeah.
553
00:37:48,335 --> 00:37:50,537
Chad just
scowled at her.
554
00:37:53,707 --> 00:37:58,378
And after that first call, Jodi's
like, "He needs an outcome.
555
00:37:59,045 --> 00:38:03,516
"He needs an outcome for the way
that he showed up in that meeting.
556
00:38:05,251 --> 00:38:08,821
He's running circles
around you and your wife."
557
00:38:13,193 --> 00:38:14,760
To get me back in line,
558
00:38:14,761 --> 00:38:17,397
they needed to take
everything away from me.
559
00:38:18,732 --> 00:38:22,102
All electronics, which
meant my phone, the Xbox.
560
00:38:22,936 --> 00:38:25,572
No access to sports.
561
00:38:26,573 --> 00:38:28,575
They even sent me to
a wilderness camp.
562
00:38:30,076 --> 00:38:33,312
Chad today
has just entered
563
00:38:33,313 --> 00:38:38,550
the Anasazi Foundation
Wilderness Therapy Program
564
00:38:38,551 --> 00:38:39,952
where he's gonna spend...
565
00:38:39,953 --> 00:38:43,122
My mom was trying
everything she could to fix me,
566
00:38:43,123 --> 00:38:45,759
but I never felt she
was doing it for me.
567
00:38:47,060 --> 00:38:49,062
It was like she was
doing it for herself.
568
00:38:53,533 --> 00:38:57,269
It got to the point where
she gave me an option
569
00:38:57,270 --> 00:38:59,905
to sleep, like,
in the living room
570
00:38:59,906 --> 00:39:02,574
or she gave me the option
to go down in the basement
571
00:39:02,575 --> 00:39:04,310
and sleep on our
little bean bag.
572
00:39:08,982 --> 00:39:13,052
I slept on that bean bag every
night for about seven months
573
00:39:13,053 --> 00:39:15,355
and, uh, that was my
bedroom, the basement.
574
00:39:19,926 --> 00:39:23,629
My mom, at some point,
she kind of got teary-eyed
575
00:39:23,630 --> 00:39:28,033
and, uh, she said, "Chad,
this is your last chance.
576
00:39:28,034 --> 00:39:32,771
"Jodi and I have found a
military camp in Virginia
577
00:39:32,772 --> 00:39:38,711
"and we are just waiting for
one more time of you acting up.
578
00:39:38,712 --> 00:39:40,245
"And if that happens,
579
00:39:40,246 --> 00:39:42,781
we're gonna send you
there until you're 18."
580
00:39:42,782 --> 00:39:44,717
And that scared
the hell out of me.
581
00:39:44,718 --> 00:39:46,720
That... That terrified me.
582
00:39:48,288 --> 00:39:49,723
I really shaped up.
583
00:39:50,523 --> 00:39:52,926
I just accepted it very quickly.
584
00:39:53,693 --> 00:39:56,195
I don't know, I think I really
sensed something in my mom,
585
00:39:56,196 --> 00:39:58,630
that realized she's
not gonna let Jodi go.
586
00:39:58,631 --> 00:40:00,233
This is how it's gonna be.
587
00:40:01,301 --> 00:40:03,435
This is how it's
gonna be from now on.
588
00:40:03,436 --> 00:40:07,574
And, um, I just decided
just to start listening.
589
00:40:08,575 --> 00:40:09,575
Okay.
590
00:40:09,576 --> 00:40:11,611
I
have been where you are,
591
00:40:12,212 --> 00:40:13,480
but you're a child of God
592
00:40:14,614 --> 00:40:17,283
and therefore, I love you.
593
00:40:18,485 --> 00:40:20,420
And if you are living
in distortion...
594
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:24,791
It went from weekly calls with
Jodi to two meetings a week.
595
00:40:27,127 --> 00:40:31,131
She was very kind and
considerate, very understanding.
596
00:40:32,098 --> 00:40:34,333
We had good laughs
in our phone calls.
597
00:40:34,334 --> 00:40:36,602
And that's where I tell
people, like, at first,
598
00:40:36,603 --> 00:40:38,672
working with her
really wasn't that bad.
599
00:40:39,673 --> 00:40:44,511
Her main focus was for me to
live a more spiritual lifestyle.
600
00:40:46,479 --> 00:40:49,314
Chad's gotten really good
at figuring out truth.
601
00:40:49,315 --> 00:40:54,586
He actually... So tell me what
you learned yesterday about.
602
00:40:54,587 --> 00:41:00,225
So I had a phone call
yesterday with my therapist
603
00:41:00,226 --> 00:41:03,228
and she taught me about
truth and distortion
604
00:41:03,229 --> 00:41:05,664
and three different
types of pain
605
00:41:05,665 --> 00:41:08,067
and, uh, we can
feel pain in ways...
606
00:41:08,068 --> 00:41:09,902
Jodi's helped
Chad understand
607
00:41:09,903 --> 00:41:13,706
that his happiness isn't
dependent on him getting a phone
608
00:41:13,707 --> 00:41:16,042
or Mom saying yes to things.
609
00:41:16,543 --> 00:41:20,746
We have searched high and low for
a therapist to help Chad see that.
610
00:41:20,747 --> 00:41:23,415
And Jodi is one in a million.
611
00:41:23,416 --> 00:41:25,451
I say that quite literally.
612
00:41:25,452 --> 00:41:26,785
She is one in a million.
613
00:41:26,786 --> 00:41:29,822
And the happiness that
has been in our house,
614
00:41:29,823 --> 00:41:31,423
you can feel it.
615
00:41:31,424 --> 00:41:35,428
I know that you have felt
the change in our home too.
616
00:41:36,262 --> 00:41:37,263
I know it.
617
00:41:45,638 --> 00:41:47,107
I have no idea what I'm doing.
618
00:41:48,208 --> 00:41:52,612
Behind the scenes,
Chad really was working hard.
619
00:41:53,613 --> 00:42:00,219
Chad's been... super, super
good around his schedule.
620
00:42:00,220 --> 00:42:05,492
He was not complaining
anymore about his sessions with Jodi.
621
00:42:06,393 --> 00:42:10,429
I remember just thinking
like, "He's, he's fixed!
622
00:42:10,430 --> 00:42:14,033
"He's polite. He's grateful.
623
00:42:14,034 --> 00:42:15,534
- This is great."
- Woo!
624
00:42:15,535 --> 00:42:16,703
Okay, grab it.
625
00:42:17,637 --> 00:42:19,906
Yeah! Grab it.
626
00:42:20,940 --> 00:42:25,678
Ruby and I both were
like, "Okay, I think you are ready
627
00:42:25,679 --> 00:42:28,748
to have the privilege
back of a bedroom."
628
00:42:29,916 --> 00:42:34,087
That was the spark that
blew the powder keg.
629
00:42:35,422 --> 00:42:36,955
In our house, we...
630
00:42:36,956 --> 00:42:38,824
when we take something away...
631
00:42:38,825 --> 00:42:40,459
- You never...
- ...it's because they have shown
632
00:42:40,460 --> 00:42:43,929
that they are not responsible
enough to manage it.
633
00:42:43,930 --> 00:42:46,865
And so we don't just turn
around and give it back
634
00:42:46,866 --> 00:42:49,869
as soon as they
start acting good.
635
00:42:50,770 --> 00:42:52,104
Holy!
636
00:42:52,105 --> 00:42:54,440
- Oh my goodness.
- Have I ever given something back
637
00:42:54,441 --> 00:42:56,543
more than six...
less than six months?
638
00:42:57,177 --> 00:42:59,478
- Um, no.
- I've had my phone taken away
639
00:42:59,479 --> 00:43:01,080
- for, like, days.
- My bedroom was taken away
640
00:43:01,081 --> 00:43:02,181
for seven months
641
00:43:02,182 --> 00:43:04,249
and then you gave it back
like a couple weeks ago.
642
00:43:04,250 --> 00:43:06,051
I don't think
our viewers know that.
643
00:43:06,052 --> 00:43:08,053
You've been sleeping
on a bean bag for the last...
644
00:43:08,054 --> 00:43:09,922
I've sleeping on a
bean bag since October.
645
00:43:09,923 --> 00:43:12,524
And they gave me my room
back like two weeks ago.
646
00:43:12,525 --> 00:43:13,625
Mm-hmm.
647
00:43:13,626 --> 00:43:15,706
Um, phone's been
taken away since Decem...
648
00:43:18,965 --> 00:43:23,403
When this video
hit, all hell broke loose.
649
00:43:28,108 --> 00:43:30,642
And all of a sudden,
650
00:43:30,643 --> 00:43:35,415
the algorithm began to recognize,
"Oh, this is a hot topic."
651
00:43:37,617 --> 00:43:39,685
So everyone scrambles.
652
00:43:39,686 --> 00:43:41,421
Ruby takes the video down.
653
00:43:42,989 --> 00:43:46,558
But I think what she
was unprepared for
654
00:43:46,559 --> 00:43:53,133
was the torrent of pure hatred
that came through the door.
655
00:43:53,533 --> 00:43:55,000
Hey, guys, it's Billie,
656
00:43:55,001 --> 00:43:57,903
today we're talking about
the family, 8 Passengers.
657
00:43:57,904 --> 00:44:02,541
This family punished their son
by taking his fucking bed away
658
00:44:02,542 --> 00:44:06,578
and making him sleep on a
bean bag for seven months.
659
00:44:06,579 --> 00:44:08,781
The mother, Ruby,
is also being called out
660
00:44:08,782 --> 00:44:11,083
for making her daughter
go hungry at school.
661
00:44:11,084 --> 00:44:12,418
What type of punishment is that?
662
00:44:12,419 --> 00:44:15,120
Because to me, that's
like borderline abuse.
663
00:44:15,121 --> 00:44:17,623
This woman, I don't
even wanna say "parent,"
664
00:44:17,624 --> 00:44:20,727
because that is an insult
to all parents out there.
665
00:44:21,327 --> 00:44:23,595
Ruby was devastated.
666
00:44:23,596 --> 00:44:28,868
You have to remember,
Ruby was America's mom.
667
00:44:36,109 --> 00:44:41,680
And for her, then, to be
viewed as this abusive monster,
668
00:44:41,681 --> 00:44:43,249
it haunted her.
669
00:44:50,290 --> 00:44:54,827
We saw it as an innocent
religious family
670
00:44:54,828 --> 00:44:59,332
that's being attacked
unjustly by cancel culture,
671
00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:02,402
and cancel culture is winning.
672
00:45:06,906 --> 00:45:09,075
Do you
think they had a point?
673
00:45:11,344 --> 00:45:13,079
Any of it valid do you think?
674
00:45:14,681 --> 00:45:18,018
From my perspective
now, is any of it valid?
675
00:45:19,285 --> 00:45:21,253
Sure.
676
00:45:21,254 --> 00:45:23,823
I think a lot of it was valid.
677
00:45:26,693 --> 00:45:28,594
Hold on! Hold on.
678
00:45:28,595 --> 00:45:30,263
Oh, what was that look for?
679
00:45:32,866 --> 00:45:34,099
Stop gett...
Just be... Look.
680
00:45:34,100 --> 00:45:35,902
- Mom.
- Just be yourself.
681
00:45:38,004 --> 00:45:39,305
Well, then, change it.
682
00:45:40,273 --> 00:45:46,078
I've learned that there
was a whole lot of horror
683
00:45:46,079 --> 00:45:50,149
that was going on in the
shadows and behind the scenes.
684
00:45:50,150 --> 00:45:53,286
When you are...
685
00:45:55,155 --> 00:45:56,388
We're gonna cut that out.
686
00:45:56,389 --> 00:45:58,258
You get down and you be quiet!
687
00:45:59,292 --> 00:46:00,694
This isn't your turn!
688
00:46:01,261 --> 00:46:02,261
Now, sit!
689
00:46:02,262 --> 00:46:03,929
And cut.
690
00:46:03,930 --> 00:46:05,565
Yeah, we're cutting that out.
691
00:46:07,267 --> 00:46:08,334
And it stays...
692
00:46:08,335 --> 00:46:11,870
I had no idea that
this was going on in my family.
693
00:46:11,871 --> 00:46:14,474
- Did you really not?
- Mm-mm.
694
00:46:15,175 --> 00:46:19,212
No. Not to that extent.
695
00:46:22,215 --> 00:46:23,550
Okay. Move it!
696
00:46:24,284 --> 00:46:28,187
If you cut one more
thing in my house,
697
00:46:28,188 --> 00:46:30,756
I am going to cut your
cat's head right off.
698
00:46:32,292 --> 00:46:36,528
But I knew that's
how it was modeled for her.
699
00:46:36,529 --> 00:46:39,064
Love is obedience.
700
00:46:39,065 --> 00:46:44,704
But the moment you disobey
me, you're going to fear me.
701
00:46:45,238 --> 00:46:46,872
Sit down right here!
702
00:46:46,873 --> 00:46:48,207
Go sit on the couch.
703
00:46:48,208 --> 00:46:51,243
Sit her down
on the flipping couch!
704
00:46:51,244 --> 00:46:52,978
- Okay.
- Stop hijacking...
705
00:46:52,979 --> 00:46:54,080
Stop it!
706
00:46:54,948 --> 00:46:58,183
There were times
where she blew up off camera.
707
00:46:58,184 --> 00:47:03,088
She would spank, whip, take
the belt out and whip my butt,
708
00:47:03,089 --> 00:47:04,824
you know, pull down
my pants, whip me.
709
00:47:05,558 --> 00:47:08,427
Chad, I've asked
you to give me a night
710
00:47:08,428 --> 00:47:10,563
where it's enjoyable
to be with you.
711
00:47:13,233 --> 00:47:15,768
Chad, take that look off your face
712
00:47:15,769 --> 00:47:18,004
and just be happy to be with us.
713
00:47:20,340 --> 00:47:22,108
Okay. You know what then?
714
00:47:25,111 --> 00:47:27,579
I did always feel
bad when he got in trouble.
715
00:47:27,580 --> 00:47:31,283
You know, he'd get a bloody nose and
I'd bring him, you know, toilet paper
716
00:47:31,284 --> 00:47:32,952
and didn't really
know what to do.
717
00:47:34,254 --> 00:47:36,622
He got beat really bad
one time...
718
00:47:36,623 --> 00:47:40,293
and I helped him clean
blood off the walls.
719
00:47:41,327 --> 00:47:43,529
Chad, it is your turn.
720
00:47:43,530 --> 00:47:45,931
- Mm-hmm.
- Do you know where your name came from?
721
00:47:45,932 --> 00:47:46,999
Grandpa?
722
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:48,535
Of course, you know.
723
00:47:49,469 --> 00:47:50,569
Grandpa.
724
00:47:50,570 --> 00:47:52,237
So tell us who
you're named after.
725
00:47:52,238 --> 00:47:53,306
Grandpa.
726
00:47:55,175 --> 00:47:56,375
Which grandpa?
727
00:47:56,376 --> 00:47:58,177
- Gr...
- Okay, we're gonna try this again.
728
00:47:58,178 --> 00:47:59,912
You be a little
more talkative here.
729
00:47:59,913 --> 00:48:02,716
I am. I'm talking. I'm
answering your questions.
730
00:48:06,519 --> 00:48:10,255
Hey, if I hear one more word!
731
00:48:10,256 --> 00:48:11,324
Get out!
732
00:48:13,727 --> 00:48:15,694
Go
downstairs and close the door.
733
00:48:18,865 --> 00:48:22,267
- If I'm gonna let you... vlog...
- I don't...
734
00:48:22,268 --> 00:48:24,503
...and if I'm gonna spend
all my time helping you,
735
00:48:24,504 --> 00:48:26,139
you're gonna help me too!
736
00:48:29,809 --> 00:48:31,610
Be excited to tell 'em
where your name came from,
737
00:48:31,611 --> 00:48:33,046
even if you have to fake it.
738
00:48:35,982 --> 00:48:37,549
Fake being happy.
739
00:48:41,254 --> 00:48:42,255
'Kay?
740
00:48:46,793 --> 00:48:48,593
- I don't...
- 'Kay, well, I'm gonna take a...
741
00:48:50,897 --> 00:48:53,833
Looking back on it, I
don't think she was a good person.
742
00:48:54,768 --> 00:48:57,771
I think she was already
an abusive mother before
743
00:48:59,339 --> 00:49:02,675
and then obviously, it
escalated dramatically
744
00:49:02,676 --> 00:49:04,644
in the last couple years.
745
00:49:08,114 --> 00:49:11,818
And the fact that Ruby
went as far as she did,
746
00:49:12,285 --> 00:49:14,386
I wouldn't blame that on Jodi.
747
00:49:20,827 --> 00:49:27,367
She just set off things in Ruby
that were already in her heart.
748
00:49:30,270 --> 00:49:32,171
We're just
here to talk to you
749
00:49:32,172 --> 00:49:35,308
about kind of a few things
involving your kids.
750
00:49:39,913 --> 00:49:41,681
I'll wait 'til I have a lawyer.
751
00:49:42,816 --> 00:49:43,817
Okay.
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