1 00:00:00,900 --> 00:00:01,900 Bellessa House. 2 00:00:02,320 --> 00:00:06,220 It's where we let performers tell us who they want to have sex with, and why. 3 00:00:06,460 --> 00:00:07,460 I'm Dana Vespoli. 4 00:00:07,900 --> 00:00:08,900 Freya Parker. 5 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:10,800 So today you're working with Dana Vespoli? 6 00:00:10,980 --> 00:00:11,980 Yeah. 7 00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:13,340 Who is Dana to you? 8 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:20,966 Dana is... I'm sorry, this reminds me of that scene when 9 00:00:20,967 --> 00:00:27,060 they're interviewing Oprah about that woman that she's... Gayle. 10 00:00:27,585 --> 00:00:34,820 And she's like, she's the sister I never had, the mother everyone should want, 11 00:00:35,300 --> 00:00:40,260 the lover I wish... like she keeps going on, that's how I feel about Dana. 12 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:46,811 She's just this beautiful, smart, intelligent, funny 13 00:00:46,812 --> 00:00:51,340 woman that I happen to have things in common with. 14 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:55,060 And I really like her a lot. 15 00:00:55,260 --> 00:00:56,260 She's amazing. 16 00:00:58,065 --> 00:01:05,440 She's my girlfriend, and someone I met in adult. 17 00:01:06,100 --> 00:01:08,855 What was it that drew you to her, I guess, initially, and 18 00:01:08,856 --> 00:01:11,460 has the age played a factor in your relationship at all? 19 00:01:11,461 --> 00:01:11,920 Sure. 20 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:14,700 So, interesting. 21 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:20,020 I learned who she was from social media. 22 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:24,580 She would just sort of come across on my things, and I'd sort of see what she was 23 00:01:24,581 --> 00:01:29,180 up to, and she's beautiful, and she's funny, and all of these things. 24 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:33,360 I had no idea she was as young as she was. 25 00:01:33,780 --> 00:01:36,700 If I had to guess, I would have guessed older. 26 00:01:37,100 --> 00:01:38,100 She is 50. 27 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:38,780 She has children. 28 00:01:39,220 --> 00:01:41,780 She's sort of in a different phase of her life. 29 00:01:42,770 --> 00:01:44,940 And, you know, death is encroaching soon. 30 00:01:48,100 --> 00:01:49,480 That's how I feel as her. 31 00:01:50,100 --> 00:01:51,220 So you know what I'm saying? 32 00:01:51,860 --> 00:01:54,600 She's gone through those life cycles of having children. 33 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:58,060 Are those things that you want, and have you guys talked about that? 34 00:01:58,220 --> 00:01:58,460 Right. 35 00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:00,600 I don't think so. 36 00:02:00,700 --> 00:02:02,520 We haven't really had that conversation yet. 37 00:02:02,645 --> 00:02:07,120 I personally don't want children, but I've never wanted children. 38 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:11,840 I think I've just been one of those people that I like animals. 39 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:13,160 I have animals. 40 00:02:13,950 --> 00:02:15,120 I'm good with that. 41 00:02:16,020 --> 00:02:19,620 And even my animals become overwhelming sometimes, so I can't even imagine. 42 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:22,620 I'm not the person to just have a baby because I want a baby. 43 00:02:23,105 --> 00:02:26,548 The circumstances of my life would have to be 44 00:02:26,598 --> 00:02:30,260 perfect in order for me to want to conceive a child. 45 00:02:30,385 --> 00:02:34,365 That being said, I understand that Dana's gone through 46 00:02:34,366 --> 00:02:37,240 things in her life that I just haven't gotten to yet. 47 00:02:37,340 --> 00:02:39,640 You are in a relationship with a man. 48 00:02:40,220 --> 00:02:41,920 I never thought I'd be one of those people. 49 00:02:42,640 --> 00:02:43,640 I really didn't. 50 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:45,820 I was like, that's exhausting. 51 00:02:46,815 --> 00:02:52,540 But it works because, I mean, I'm... this is complicated. 52 00:02:52,720 --> 00:02:54,280 I'm pretty gay. 53 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:56,460 Always have been. 54 00:02:56,461 --> 00:02:58,540 I always said, you're the only guy. 55 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:02,140 You're the only guy that I'm attracted to. 56 00:03:03,700 --> 00:03:05,320 But I've gone out with women. 57 00:03:05,620 --> 00:03:09,260 During my relationship with him, I've gone out with women and things like that. 58 00:03:09,300 --> 00:03:10,300 He doesn't care. 59 00:03:10,420 --> 00:03:11,420 I mean, we're respectful. 60 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:12,760 I'm open with him. 61 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:13,980 All that kind of stuff. 62 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:15,540 The communication is there. 63 00:03:15,780 --> 00:03:19,080 And I think for him, as long as nothing is sort of impinging on his time... 64 00:03:19,081 --> 00:03:22,700 In our roles, we have a very different, we have a very practical relationship. 65 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:23,420 We're partners. 66 00:03:23,640 --> 00:03:29,880 And we collaborate together and talk about certain things together. 67 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:31,480 He's a very solitary guy. 68 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:32,980 And he likes to do his thing. 69 00:03:33,260 --> 00:03:35,220 And I've often been the same way. 70 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:38,220 So the dynamic is different. 71 00:03:41,060 --> 00:03:44,980 It's one of those things where, I don't want to get into the politics of 72 00:03:44,981 --> 00:03:48,500 gender as a social construct, but there's a difference between men and women. 73 00:03:48,750 --> 00:03:50,070 And I appreciate that difference. 74 00:03:50,220 --> 00:03:57,240 And I appreciate what it is to be alongside a very masculine man and 75 00:03:57,241 --> 00:04:03,461 alongside a very feminine woman and appreciate both of those kinds of attributes. 76 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:08,500 We had gone to a scary haunted maze with you. 77 00:04:09,450 --> 00:04:10,500 And that's when we met. 78 00:04:10,860 --> 00:04:11,900 And I was kind of nervous. 79 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:13,040 I was kind of shy. 80 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:16,880 I was like anxious to meet her for the first time. 81 00:04:16,881 --> 00:04:19,640 What had you heard or why were you nervous? 82 00:04:19,840 --> 00:04:20,840 I don't know. 83 00:04:21,780 --> 00:04:26,603 It's almost like you're intimidated by someone's 84 00:04:26,604 --> 00:04:30,360 sexiness or the energy that they give off. 85 00:04:30,620 --> 00:04:33,040 And so I was kind of like... 86 00:04:34,165 --> 00:04:35,520 I was just like, I don't know. 87 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:36,600 I was nervous. 88 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:38,156 And I don't think I came across that way. 89 00:04:38,180 --> 00:04:38,880 Probably not. 90 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:40,120 But I was. 91 00:04:40,300 --> 00:04:41,300 We were holding hands. 92 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:43,580 And I remember our hands being very sweaty. 93 00:04:44,660 --> 00:04:47,580 But that didn't seem to bother either of us. 94 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:54,060 When you were holding hands with her, I was thinking it was just more, 95 00:04:54,620 --> 00:04:57,140 you know, you're a big lover for her. 96 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:58,360 Yes. 97 00:04:58,780 --> 00:05:00,340 She has a lot of anxiety. 98 00:05:00,620 --> 00:05:02,620 And I thought you were just being nurturing to her. 99 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:05,920 But did you sense sparks flying at that haunted house? 100 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:08,860 So yeah, I mean, I was. 101 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:10,680 The initial thing is like, we'll hold hands. 102 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:13,300 And then we're going through it. 103 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:16,260 And then I was just like, she's so pretty. 104 00:05:16,650 --> 00:05:17,900 I like holding hands with her. 105 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:20,120 Oh no, look at that thing jumping out at us. 106 00:05:22,710 --> 00:05:25,620 So then after that, we ended up doing content. 107 00:05:25,840 --> 00:05:27,140 100% chemistry. 108 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:30,860 And she was like, hey, we should hang out soon. 109 00:05:30,900 --> 00:05:32,780 And I was like, okay. 110 00:05:34,070 --> 00:05:35,340 So we went to a museum. 111 00:05:36,100 --> 00:05:37,200 And we walked around. 112 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:48,000 When I took her on a date to the Auschwitz exhibit. 113 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:52,840 I know telling people like, our first date was the Auschwitz museum. 114 00:05:53,140 --> 00:05:54,220 Like, oh my god. 115 00:05:54,720 --> 00:05:57,900 But no, we just walked around and we learned a lot. 116 00:05:58,380 --> 00:06:00,200 And then we had lunch afterwards. 117 00:06:00,540 --> 00:06:01,860 And it was good. 118 00:06:01,861 --> 00:06:03,620 It was educational. 119 00:06:03,860 --> 00:06:06,620 But also I didn't feel like I could be intimate with her at any level. 120 00:06:07,060 --> 00:06:08,620 That's really not the time or place. 121 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:13,580 And so I was just kind of like, maybe she's not attracted to me. 122 00:06:13,700 --> 00:06:15,480 Maybe I'm reading all of this wrong. 123 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:18,160 But apparently not. 124 00:06:18,420 --> 00:06:21,350 I think what really sealed it was, I had to go to 125 00:06:21,351 --> 00:06:23,661 San Francisco for a week and I really missed her. 126 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:25,360 And then she was like, I miss you. 127 00:06:25,660 --> 00:06:27,240 So then we got together. 128 00:06:27,241 --> 00:06:30,712 So the trip to San Francisco was when you were like, oh, maybe 129 00:06:30,713 --> 00:06:33,201 it's not just this girl I hang out with and shoot content. 130 00:06:33,820 --> 00:06:33,820 Yeah. 131 00:06:34,340 --> 00:06:36,760 That's when I really like felt it. 132 00:06:36,840 --> 00:06:37,340 I was like, oh. 133 00:06:37,460 --> 00:06:39,785 We were laying in bed and she was like, um, 134 00:06:39,786 --> 00:06:42,941 I'm not trying to freak you out or anything. 135 00:06:43,620 --> 00:06:46,220 But I think that I'm falling in love with you. 136 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:47,400 And I was like... 137 00:06:50,950 --> 00:06:53,430 And I was just... Is that what you did? 138 00:06:53,431 --> 00:06:56,270 Yeah, I was like, wait. 139 00:06:57,510 --> 00:07:00,683 Um, and I don't know, I think that that was, I 140 00:07:00,684 --> 00:07:03,450 was very overwhelmed and very happy and excited. 141 00:07:03,530 --> 00:07:05,030 And I also felt the same way. 142 00:07:05,031 --> 00:07:10,650 So it was just nice to have that kind of mutual feeling in that moment. 143 00:07:11,550 --> 00:07:14,669 Um, and yeah, I don't think we ever sat down 144 00:07:14,670 --> 00:07:16,890 and we're like, so are you my girlfriend? 145 00:07:16,970 --> 00:07:17,470 I don't know. 146 00:07:17,490 --> 00:07:18,230 Are you my girlfriend? 147 00:07:18,330 --> 00:07:22,690 Like we just knew in that moment that that was a thing. 148 00:07:22,691 --> 00:07:23,130 All right. 149 00:07:23,210 --> 00:07:24,366 Well, we're going to go get her. 150 00:07:24,390 --> 00:07:24,530 Okay. 151 00:07:24,730 --> 00:07:24,870 Yay. 152 00:07:25,030 --> 00:07:27,710 The next time you walk through the store, she'll be waiting for you. 153 00:07:27,810 --> 00:07:28,810 Oh, am I leaving? 154 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:30,886 You're going to leave because we're going to interview her. 155 00:07:30,910 --> 00:07:31,150 Okay. 156 00:07:31,710 --> 00:07:32,710 Bring her in. 157 00:07:33,070 --> 00:07:34,070 I'm just kidding. 158 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:40,200 Ta-da. 159 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:41,720 Hey. 160 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:44,140 You're wearing your onesie. 161 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:45,220 I know I am. 162 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:46,600 You're wearing cap socks. 163 00:07:47,820 --> 00:07:48,220 Yeah. 164 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:49,900 That's so on brand for me. 165 00:07:50,100 --> 00:07:51,100 There's people in here. 166 00:07:51,140 --> 00:07:51,440 It's weird. 167 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:52,120 I know. 168 00:07:52,260 --> 00:07:52,760 I'm sorry. 169 00:07:52,980 --> 00:07:53,640 Let's pretend like they're not here. 170 00:07:53,641 --> 00:07:55,340 I don't know. 171 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:57,200 It's a figment of our imagination. 172 00:07:58,800 --> 00:07:59,800 Hi. 173 00:07:59,840 --> 00:08:00,840 How are you? 174 00:08:04,380 --> 00:08:07,820 I told Jackie we might just hug the whole time. 175 00:08:09,410 --> 00:08:10,560 Cause that's what we do. 176 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:15,060 Oh, come over here. 177 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:20,580 Come more towards, yeah, there. 178 00:08:21,630 --> 00:08:22,900 There's no one in here. 179 00:08:23,270 --> 00:08:24,820 There's not a camera. 180 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:34,520 Keep going. 181 00:08:34,860 --> 00:08:35,860 Your hair is back. 182 00:08:36,380 --> 00:08:36,460 Hello. 183 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:38,520 Cause I know what's going to happen. 184 00:08:45,340 --> 00:08:46,660 Do you want to go to Petco after? 185 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:48,240 Yeah. 186 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:50,080 I need to get a new tank for Gennady. 187 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:50,940 Okay. 188 00:08:51,700 --> 00:08:52,200 And toys? 189 00:08:52,201 --> 00:08:54,720 Yeah, and you probably want to get something for your dog. 190 00:08:55,100 --> 00:08:56,100 Yeah. 191 00:08:56,860 --> 00:08:58,620 This is a very gay conversation. 192 00:09:04,390 --> 00:09:05,680 I never see you with makeup. 193 00:09:06,380 --> 00:09:08,100 I see you sometimes with makeup. 194 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:09,920 This is crazy. 195 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:10,400 Is it weird? 196 00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:10,940 No. 197 00:09:11,140 --> 00:09:11,880 It's not going to be awkward. 198 00:09:11,940 --> 00:09:12,940 And you have earrings. 199 00:09:14,260 --> 00:09:15,620 You're so cute. 200 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:16,840 You are. 201 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:49,600 Do you hear my tummy? 202 00:09:49,930 --> 00:09:50,390 Are you hungry? 203 00:09:50,391 --> 00:09:51,391 Yeah. 204 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,000 This is usually how this goes, huh? 205 00:12:01,790 --> 00:12:03,230 That's how they do it in the movies. 206 00:12:03,600 --> 00:12:04,600 In the movies. 207 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:13,280 You're so strong. 208 00:12:14,170 --> 00:12:16,240 You're going to do like a jujitsu move on me. 209 00:12:16,680 --> 00:12:19,000 I mean, I pulled you under my guard just a second ago. 210 00:12:28,510 --> 00:12:29,510 Hmm. 211 00:13:21,490 --> 00:13:22,490 These are tight. 212 00:13:22,850 --> 00:13:23,630 Yes, they are. 213 00:13:23,850 --> 00:13:24,850 They are. 214 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:26,000 I'm doing all of them. 215 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:03,000 Hmm. 216 00:14:47,660 --> 00:14:48,140 Hmm. 217 00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:48,420 Hmm. 218 00:14:48,421 --> 00:14:48,660 Hmm. 219 00:14:48,661 --> 00:14:49,661 Hmm. 220 00:16:11,830 --> 00:16:12,310 Hmm. 221 00:16:12,311 --> 00:16:12,690 Hmm. 222 00:16:12,691 --> 00:16:13,691 Hmm. 223 00:16:38,730 --> 00:16:39,730 Hmm. 224 00:17:08,270 --> 00:17:08,750 Hmm. 225 00:17:08,751 --> 00:17:09,751 Hmm. 226 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:26,160 Oh. 227 00:19:18,260 --> 00:19:19,260 Nice shirt. 228 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:19,740 Do you like it? 229 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:20,880 I do. 230 00:19:27,670 --> 00:19:28,870 I should have worn mine. 231 00:19:30,830 --> 00:19:31,830 I couldn't imagine. 232 00:19:32,110 --> 00:19:33,530 I don't know why we didn't think of that. 233 00:19:33,531 --> 00:19:34,531 No. 234 00:20:11,450 --> 00:20:12,090 Yeah. 235 00:20:12,430 --> 00:20:12,550 Here. 236 00:20:13,070 --> 00:20:13,890 Oh, you already have yours. 237 00:20:14,050 --> 00:20:14,330 Oh, yeah. 238 00:20:14,750 --> 00:20:15,750 That's pretty usual. 239 00:20:15,950 --> 00:20:17,190 I can take mine out now. 240 00:20:17,350 --> 00:20:18,350 So I can relax. 241 00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:39,080 Hmm. 242 00:22:54,420 --> 00:22:55,420 Hmm. 243 00:23:07,830 --> 00:23:08,830 Hmm. 244 00:23:20,410 --> 00:23:21,410 Hmm. 245 00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:25,600 Hmm. 246 00:23:25,601 --> 00:23:25,840 Hmm. 247 00:23:26,060 --> 00:23:26,700 Hmm. 248 00:23:26,701 --> 00:23:27,701 Hmm. 249 00:24:48,950 --> 00:24:49,950 Huh. 250 00:24:50,950 --> 00:24:51,950 Oh, here they are. 251 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:52,340 Oh, God. 252 00:24:52,780 --> 00:24:53,780 I can't say anything. 253 00:24:54,770 --> 00:24:56,800 There's a camera here the whole time? 254 00:24:58,140 --> 00:24:59,220 You guys are pervs. 255 00:24:59,580 --> 00:25:00,580 Yeah. 256 00:25:28,370 --> 00:25:29,810 I don't like it. 257 00:25:30,745 --> 00:25:33,310 That like goes on like five or six more times. 258 00:25:33,311 --> 00:25:35,950 Yeah, we do that about like six more times. 259 00:25:36,950 --> 00:25:38,160 You want us to do it... 260 00:25:39,780 --> 00:25:41,180 five, six more times? 261 00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:41,580 No. 262 00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:43,580 And sometimes in different positions. 263 00:25:43,700 --> 00:25:44,700 Yeah. 264 00:25:44,820 --> 00:25:46,540 Sometimes it gets more aggressive than the strap-on. 265 00:25:46,541 --> 00:25:47,981 As long as you guys haven't had sex. 266 00:25:49,140 --> 00:25:49,660 I don't know. 267 00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:50,680 Oh, my God. 268 00:25:51,825 --> 00:25:53,160 I mean, it just will go and go. 269 00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:56,360 Sometimes we'll take a break and like watch Bob's Burgers. 270 00:25:56,500 --> 00:25:56,840 Yeah. 271 00:25:56,980 --> 00:25:57,660 Or something like that. 272 00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:00,640 We'll watch a show and then we'll... That turns you on? 273 00:26:00,780 --> 00:26:02,160 Then we'll continue having sex. 274 00:26:02,745 --> 00:26:03,936 No, we just fondle each other. 275 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:04,180 Yeah. 276 00:26:04,360 --> 00:26:05,360 Okay. 277 00:26:05,500 --> 00:26:06,500 Yeah. 278 00:26:06,660 --> 00:26:07,780 Well, you guys are adorable. 279 00:26:08,535 --> 00:26:12,340 And thank you for sharing your very interesting and unique story with us. 280 00:26:12,341 --> 00:26:13,341 You're welcome. 281 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:14,660 We appreciate you both. 282 00:26:15,300 --> 00:26:16,300 Thank you. 283 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:17,800 Bye.