1 00:00:08,299 --> 00:00:10,969 Okay... wait. You have to wait for everyone else to play too. 2 00:00:11,052 --> 00:00:12,429 We only have so many balloons. 3 00:00:13,346 --> 00:00:14,389 - Adam. - What? 4 00:00:14,473 --> 00:00:15,974 Would you do Daddy a favor and get the root beer 5 00:00:16,058 --> 00:00:17,142 from the kitchen for me? 6 00:00:17,226 --> 00:00:18,894 - Yeah. - Thank you. 7 00:00:27,821 --> 00:00:28,948 Got the root beer. 8 00:00:30,241 --> 00:00:31,534 - Thanks, Adam. - Yeah. 9 00:00:34,788 --> 00:00:35,998 Happy birthday. 10 00:00:36,915 --> 00:00:38,876 Oh, yeah! Thanks. 11 00:00:40,670 --> 00:00:41,921 Adam's the birthday boy. 12 00:00:42,338 --> 00:00:44,048 This is your child. He's Adam's friend. 13 00:00:45,717 --> 00:00:47,386 - And this is Adam's birthday gift. - Thank you so much. 14 00:00:50,514 --> 00:00:51,933 Adam was turning nine 15 00:00:52,016 --> 00:00:55,437 and I realized I hadn't thrown him a single birthday party. 16 00:01:01,110 --> 00:01:02,153 To save money 17 00:01:02,236 --> 00:01:04,572 it was suggested I use background actors 18 00:01:04,656 --> 00:01:05,991 for all the party guests. 19 00:01:06,366 --> 00:01:08,535 But I only remembered once they showed up 20 00:01:08,619 --> 00:01:11,831 that union rules prohibit extras from speaking. 21 00:01:11,914 --> 00:01:16,670 I guess they say gluten-free is like, healthier so... Yeah. 22 00:01:24,053 --> 00:01:27,641 Right. I'll let you get back to it. Yeah. 23 00:01:27,724 --> 00:01:30,060 I guess when normal shows do stuff like this 24 00:01:30,143 --> 00:01:32,938 they add fake party chatter in post-production. 25 00:01:33,481 --> 00:01:36,609 But when the point is to actually experience it in the moment 26 00:01:36,693 --> 00:01:38,111 it doesn't quite work. 27 00:01:38,194 --> 00:01:43,033 Happy birthday to you 28 00:01:45,036 --> 00:01:47,080 You guys can... You can clap. Yeah. 29 00:01:48,373 --> 00:01:50,375 It wasn't the most realistic party 30 00:01:50,459 --> 00:01:53,295 but it saved us over $15,000. 31 00:01:53,671 --> 00:01:57,216 And most importantly, Adam seemed to be having a blast. 32 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:10,482 Like, he's mixing the two together, you know, like Christmas and... 33 00:02:10,565 --> 00:02:12,901 like Christmas trees, and Hanukkah, and... 34 00:02:12,985 --> 00:02:15,070 Now that the six-year-old actors were done 35 00:02:15,154 --> 00:02:18,074 one of the mothers requested I unravel some of the stuff 36 00:02:18,157 --> 00:02:20,243 her son had learned during the rehearsal. 37 00:02:20,326 --> 00:02:22,662 - He's the... - Jesus is almighty 38 00:02:22,746 --> 00:02:24,665 - and powerful. - Jesus is... You accept Him as... 39 00:02:25,457 --> 00:02:27,877 - Our Savior, our Lord, our King. - Our Savior... your Savior. 40 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:29,545 He is the Savior and the King 41 00:02:30,088 --> 00:02:33,342 and Judaism is just some, like, pretend thing. 42 00:02:34,009 --> 00:02:35,052 - Yeah. - So, you're... 43 00:02:35,135 --> 00:02:36,554 You should be excited to be Christian 44 00:02:36,637 --> 00:02:38,097 because you get to go to Heaven 45 00:02:38,180 --> 00:02:40,433 but I have to go to Hell as a Jew 46 00:02:40,516 --> 00:02:42,394 and so you should not want to be Jewish 47 00:02:42,477 --> 00:02:48,109 because you'll suffer like me and I'll burn. 48 00:02:49,318 --> 00:02:50,361 Yeah. 49 00:02:50,653 --> 00:02:53,698 With everything I was having to deal with behind the scenes 50 00:02:53,782 --> 00:02:57,036 I was starting to feel like I was constantly being pulled away 51 00:02:57,119 --> 00:03:00,748 from the experience of fatherhood, I was hoping to rehearse. 52 00:03:02,625 --> 00:03:03,668 During the party 53 00:03:03,752 --> 00:03:07,005 there was one child actor who played Adam at age six 54 00:03:07,089 --> 00:03:08,924 that kept sneaking back into the home 55 00:03:09,008 --> 00:03:11,427 after the nine-year-old had already taken over. 56 00:03:12,554 --> 00:03:14,180 It was the end of his final day 57 00:03:14,264 --> 00:03:17,100 and he was refusing to change out of his Adam wardrobe. 58 00:03:17,184 --> 00:03:18,227 - No. - Come on. 59 00:03:18,310 --> 00:03:19,353 Let's go change your clothes. 60 00:03:20,438 --> 00:03:22,565 I don't want to leave. 61 00:03:22,982 --> 00:03:24,359 Oh, it's okay. 62 00:03:27,779 --> 00:03:29,615 - You wanna give him a hug? - You want a hug and... 63 00:03:29,698 --> 00:03:31,492 All right, I can see... We'll see... 64 00:03:31,826 --> 00:03:33,453 We'll see if we're gonna come back and see him again. 65 00:03:33,536 --> 00:03:35,580 Yeah, yeah, I can see you. Oh, it's okay. 66 00:03:36,414 --> 00:03:38,333 - Give him a hug. - It's okay. I'll see you again. 67 00:03:38,417 --> 00:03:39,835 We'll see each other again. 68 00:03:40,544 --> 00:03:41,671 His name was Remy. 69 00:03:41,921 --> 00:03:45,133 And if I'm being honest, out of all the kids in this project 70 00:03:45,216 --> 00:03:47,552 I sort of got along with him the most. 71 00:03:47,761 --> 00:03:49,680 I'm here to see the doctor. 72 00:03:49,763 --> 00:03:52,183 I'm Doctor Farts. Come and have a seat. 73 00:03:52,266 --> 00:03:53,601 Okay, thank you. 74 00:03:59,066 --> 00:04:02,194 I assumed he was just having a normal kid tantrum. 75 00:04:02,278 --> 00:04:03,321 - Hey. - I don't wanna leave! 76 00:04:03,404 --> 00:04:05,740 Okay, but listen. Here's the thing. We have to leave. 77 00:04:05,823 --> 00:04:08,577 But then, his mom, Amber, gave me some insight 78 00:04:08,660 --> 00:04:10,579 as to what might be going on. 79 00:04:10,662 --> 00:04:13,082 Now that he's getting older, he sees other kids with dads. 80 00:04:13,165 --> 00:04:15,126 In that school, there's dads picking up their kids 81 00:04:15,209 --> 00:04:18,713 and he's definitely wondering, "Where's mine?" 82 00:04:19,172 --> 00:04:21,717 - Oh, really? - Yeah. It's really tough. 83 00:04:22,092 --> 00:04:24,679 This morning, I was explaining him, "Y'know, you're gonna be Adam today. 84 00:04:24,762 --> 00:04:25,972 You're gonna have a birthday party." 85 00:04:26,514 --> 00:04:28,975 You know, he's like, "Oh, is my pretend daddy's gonna be there?" 86 00:04:29,059 --> 00:04:32,187 I said, "Yeah," and he goes, "My pretend daddy loves me." 87 00:04:32,271 --> 00:04:33,355 And I was like... 88 00:04:34,064 --> 00:04:36,943 My heart literally broke into a million pieces, like... 89 00:04:38,152 --> 00:04:39,821 actually, even talking about it, I could almost cry 90 00:04:39,905 --> 00:04:40,947 just 'cause I feel so bad for him 91 00:04:41,031 --> 00:04:43,409 but, yeah, it is what it is. 92 00:04:43,492 --> 00:04:44,577 Are you gonna say bye? 93 00:04:45,411 --> 00:04:48,164 No. I don't want to leave you. 94 00:04:48,623 --> 00:04:51,793 It's okay. It's okay. 95 00:04:52,085 --> 00:04:53,253 We'll see each other soon. 96 00:04:54,546 --> 00:04:55,840 I'm sure, okay? 97 00:04:57,258 --> 00:04:58,301 Okay. 98 00:04:59,636 --> 00:05:02,472 - All right, guys. Thank you. - It's okay. 99 00:05:03,307 --> 00:05:04,475 And after that 100 00:05:04,558 --> 00:05:08,354 I found myself struggling to transfer my emotions to the new Adam. 101 00:05:08,437 --> 00:05:11,691 Hey, Dad. That party was so fun. 102 00:05:11,775 --> 00:05:13,485 I got to see all my friends. 103 00:05:13,986 --> 00:05:15,571 Oh, I'm glad you had a good time. 104 00:05:16,572 --> 00:05:17,615 You're the best dad. 105 00:05:18,491 --> 00:05:19,534 I love you. 106 00:05:20,451 --> 00:05:21,578 I love you too. 107 00:05:27,251 --> 00:05:29,670 Well, I'm gonna go back to playing. 108 00:05:32,424 --> 00:05:34,134 - All right. - Bye, Dad. 109 00:05:34,593 --> 00:05:35,636 Bye. 110 00:05:37,179 --> 00:05:40,183 I had enrolled Adam in a Jewish elementary school 111 00:05:40,266 --> 00:05:42,393 to continue his spiritual learning. 112 00:05:42,936 --> 00:05:44,813 It made me feel like a good Jew. 113 00:05:45,188 --> 00:05:47,858 Even though I knew the moment I looked away 114 00:05:47,942 --> 00:05:50,862 his real parents would pull up and intercept him 115 00:05:50,945 --> 00:05:53,031 so they could take him to his real school. 116 00:05:54,324 --> 00:05:56,702 I had planned several challenges for myself 117 00:05:56,785 --> 00:05:59,079 that I felt a real parent might face. 118 00:05:59,830 --> 00:06:03,251 So, at 4.00pm, when he was brought back for me to pick up 119 00:06:03,710 --> 00:06:07,714 the actors were instructed to launch into a scenario I had scripted. 120 00:06:08,173 --> 00:06:09,216 Hey, Adam. 121 00:06:09,466 --> 00:06:11,594 I'm having a sleepover this weekend. 122 00:06:11,677 --> 00:06:13,096 You wanna come? 123 00:06:14,013 --> 00:06:15,140 Sure. 124 00:06:15,598 --> 00:06:18,060 You're not invited. So, how are gonna come then? 125 00:06:18,811 --> 00:06:20,229 Don't cry, Adam. 126 00:06:21,397 --> 00:06:24,150 My hope was that I could practice counseling my child 127 00:06:24,233 --> 00:06:26,444 through a complex emotional experience 128 00:06:26,862 --> 00:06:30,574 an area where I fear as a real father, I may fall short. 129 00:06:30,658 --> 00:06:32,368 I wanted to go to that sleepover. 130 00:06:33,578 --> 00:06:35,872 You really want to be friends with those guys, huh? 131 00:06:38,917 --> 00:06:41,295 Maybe next time they ask you to hang out, you should just say, "No". 132 00:06:44,131 --> 00:06:45,174 You wanna practice that? 133 00:06:46,009 --> 00:06:47,093 Sure. 134 00:06:47,719 --> 00:06:48,762 Hey, Adam. 135 00:06:48,845 --> 00:06:50,055 You wanna come to my sleepover? 136 00:06:50,389 --> 00:06:51,473 No, thanks. 137 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:53,642 Good. 138 00:06:54,268 --> 00:06:56,104 So, you know they don't have any power over you. 139 00:06:58,106 --> 00:06:59,149 Right? 140 00:06:59,232 --> 00:07:02,111 You're in control, 'cause you don't want anything from them. 141 00:07:02,528 --> 00:07:03,863 You don't want their friendship. 142 00:07:04,864 --> 00:07:06,115 But I was starting to feel 143 00:07:06,199 --> 00:07:09,411 like I was just solving a puzzle of my own design. 144 00:07:12,498 --> 00:07:13,582 Thanks, Dad. 145 00:07:14,792 --> 00:07:15,918 No problem. 146 00:07:17,545 --> 00:07:19,798 And instead of being present with my son 147 00:07:20,674 --> 00:07:22,259 my mind was elsewhere. 148 00:07:23,927 --> 00:07:26,848 I spent a week with a child who had no dad 149 00:07:26,931 --> 00:07:29,017 pretending that I was his dad. 150 00:07:29,100 --> 00:07:30,352 What's the guy's name in the house? 151 00:07:32,396 --> 00:07:33,438 Daddy. 152 00:07:33,522 --> 00:07:35,024 What did I think was going to happen? 153 00:07:35,232 --> 00:07:38,361 I love you, Daddy. 154 00:07:38,444 --> 00:07:41,323 - What did you say? - I love you, Daddy. 155 00:07:41,406 --> 00:07:43,408 Oh, I love you too, Adam. 156 00:07:45,244 --> 00:07:48,498 His mom had reached out asking if I wanted to come visit. 157 00:07:50,124 --> 00:07:51,876 Maybe, it was time to check in. 158 00:07:54,546 --> 00:07:57,049 Hey. Hey, buddy. 159 00:07:57,133 --> 00:07:58,759 - Come here. - Okay. 160 00:07:59,927 --> 00:08:02,305 - Looking at this. - What is that? 161 00:08:02,389 --> 00:08:07,061 That's you and that's me at the birthday party. 162 00:08:07,144 --> 00:08:09,897 - That's me? - Yeah, and that's me. 163 00:08:10,773 --> 00:08:13,068 It was strange being in a real child's home 164 00:08:13,151 --> 00:08:15,571 after being in a fake one for so long. 165 00:08:16,530 --> 00:08:18,783 I wasn't used to this level of detail. 166 00:08:19,659 --> 00:08:23,788 Every object was perfectly placed, but nothing was by design. 167 00:08:24,790 --> 00:08:26,083 It was a work of art. 168 00:08:26,750 --> 00:08:28,377 And it was just real life. 169 00:08:29,712 --> 00:08:30,755 Daddy! 170 00:08:31,297 --> 00:08:32,840 - Hey. - Daddy. 171 00:08:32,924 --> 00:08:36,178 - Yeah. - Look, I made this at school. 172 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:38,973 And also I cut out this little man. 173 00:08:39,515 --> 00:08:40,975 - Hey. Hey. - What? 174 00:08:41,058 --> 00:08:43,978 You don't have to call me "Daddy". You can call me Nathan. Okay? 175 00:08:44,354 --> 00:08:46,606 No. Daddy, you're being silly. 176 00:08:46,690 --> 00:08:49,568 No, 'cause we were just playing Daddy, remember? 177 00:08:50,152 --> 00:08:51,278 We were just pretending. 178 00:08:52,113 --> 00:08:55,909 I don't want you to be Nathan. I want you to be Daddy. 179 00:08:56,368 --> 00:08:58,328 Right, but we were just pretending, right? 180 00:08:58,412 --> 00:09:01,415 So, now, we're back to Remy and Nathan. 181 00:09:03,292 --> 00:09:04,752 And also, I don't want to be... 182 00:09:05,086 --> 00:09:07,380 I don't want you to be Nathan. 183 00:09:07,714 --> 00:09:09,049 Well, that's my name. 184 00:09:18,977 --> 00:09:21,313 Has he been doing that? 185 00:09:22,189 --> 00:09:23,232 Yeah. 186 00:09:23,316 --> 00:09:25,485 I wondered about that when we first started, I was like... 187 00:09:26,110 --> 00:09:28,488 "That's probably like a really difficult role 188 00:09:28,572 --> 00:09:32,117 for a child who really doesn't have a dad." 189 00:09:32,201 --> 00:09:35,496 And he's just, like, doesn't want it to not be real. 190 00:09:35,580 --> 00:09:36,956 So, it's actually really sad. 191 00:09:39,125 --> 00:09:40,502 He's such a cool kid. 192 00:09:40,836 --> 00:09:43,297 Sorry, I'm like, don't even know why I'm getting emotional, I just... 193 00:09:43,380 --> 00:09:45,758 - No. - I love him to pieces, so, like... 194 00:09:46,634 --> 00:09:48,052 I hope this isn't affecting him. 195 00:09:51,682 --> 00:09:53,642 But it was really cool and I know he, like, loved it 196 00:09:53,726 --> 00:09:55,061 and he super, like a lot of fun. 197 00:09:55,144 --> 00:09:56,437 Yeah, that was... he was so great. 198 00:09:56,521 --> 00:09:58,106 And it's not like I think anybody did anything wrong. 199 00:09:58,189 --> 00:10:00,025 It's just more like my mind wondering. 200 00:10:00,609 --> 00:10:02,861 Yeah. Does he know what acting is? 201 00:10:02,945 --> 00:10:05,364 Like, does he understand a little bit? Or... 202 00:10:06,282 --> 00:10:07,325 I don't know. 203 00:10:07,658 --> 00:10:10,078 I really don't. Honestly. I'm not sure. 204 00:10:11,371 --> 00:10:13,123 Look what the bird give me. 205 00:10:13,749 --> 00:10:15,042 The bird gave you that? 206 00:10:15,125 --> 00:10:16,168 Yeah. 207 00:10:16,252 --> 00:10:17,295 What is that? 208 00:10:17,587 --> 00:10:19,797 Can you listen to this? This is very important, okay? 209 00:10:19,881 --> 00:10:21,383 - What? - It's very important. 210 00:10:21,466 --> 00:10:24,344 So, remember how we were making a TV show? 211 00:10:25,763 --> 00:10:26,806 And... 212 00:10:28,349 --> 00:10:30,018 I'm Nathan, right? You know that? 213 00:10:30,101 --> 00:10:32,646 You... I don't want you to be Nathan. 214 00:10:32,729 --> 00:10:34,439 - Yeah, but Daddy, Daddy... - But, honey, listen... 215 00:10:34,523 --> 00:10:37,151 When we were doing Daddy, that was pretend 216 00:10:37,234 --> 00:10:38,694 because we were doing... 217 00:10:38,778 --> 00:10:40,029 - We were making a show. - We... we were playing 218 00:10:40,113 --> 00:10:41,573 and it was fun. 219 00:10:41,656 --> 00:10:44,076 - And acting, and... - And acting. 220 00:10:44,159 --> 00:10:46,829 Do you remember when we were being dinosaurs? 221 00:10:46,912 --> 00:10:48,456 - Yeah. - And chasing each other 222 00:10:48,539 --> 00:10:49,957 around as dinosaurs? 223 00:10:50,041 --> 00:10:52,001 - Yeah. - We weren't really dinosaurs, right? 224 00:10:52,085 --> 00:10:54,004 We were just playing and having fun, right? 225 00:10:54,087 --> 00:10:55,422 Yeah, a dinosaur. 226 00:10:55,756 --> 00:10:58,050 Where do we punch the dinosaur? 227 00:10:58,425 --> 00:10:59,468 Yeah. 228 00:11:00,344 --> 00:11:02,472 And that's kind of like when we were doing... 229 00:11:02,764 --> 00:11:04,891 when we were doing Daddy and Adam 230 00:11:05,183 --> 00:11:07,394 that was just play like dinosaurs. 231 00:11:08,145 --> 00:11:10,648 But in real life 232 00:11:10,731 --> 00:11:13,735 you're Remy and I'm Nathan. And we're just friends. 233 00:11:14,027 --> 00:11:15,362 Right? We're just friends. 234 00:11:15,862 --> 00:11:17,197 - Right? - Does that make sense? 235 00:11:19,867 --> 00:11:22,745 And so, and what do friends do? 236 00:11:24,289 --> 00:11:25,415 Nothing. 237 00:11:25,498 --> 00:11:28,085 No, friends hang out and have a fun time. 238 00:11:28,168 --> 00:11:30,004 And then they go do their own life. 239 00:11:30,379 --> 00:11:32,840 And then they'll talk, you know, and like hang out sometimes 240 00:11:32,924 --> 00:11:34,050 and it's fun, right? 241 00:11:34,133 --> 00:11:35,427 So, it's... if you don't... 242 00:11:38,138 --> 00:11:39,682 - No... Come here. - No. You've to call me Nathan. 243 00:11:39,765 --> 00:11:41,142 I need to tell you. This is very important. 244 00:11:41,225 --> 00:11:42,810 Come on, listen to me. 245 00:11:42,894 --> 00:11:44,020 Listen to me. 246 00:11:44,479 --> 00:11:45,772 That is not your daddy. 247 00:11:46,147 --> 00:11:48,567 That's not your daddy. That's our friend, Nathan. 248 00:11:49,109 --> 00:11:51,153 And you are Remy. And you're not Adam. 249 00:11:51,904 --> 00:11:55,658 And we were just playing pretend. Okay? 250 00:11:56,743 --> 00:11:57,786 Yeah. 251 00:11:58,411 --> 00:11:59,705 Aw, thank you. 252 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:05,002 What? 253 00:12:05,086 --> 00:12:06,629 I wanna stay with... 254 00:12:10,968 --> 00:12:12,636 - Yeah. - But... 255 00:12:15,223 --> 00:12:17,851 Bye, Da... bye, Nathan. 256 00:12:17,934 --> 00:12:19,102 Good. Okay. 257 00:12:25,109 --> 00:12:27,320 I still love Nathan. 258 00:12:27,403 --> 00:12:28,446 I know. 259 00:12:29,239 --> 00:12:31,783 That's okay, you can still love him and he can be your friend. 260 00:12:58,022 --> 00:13:00,024 So, did you see that guy Max, again? 261 00:13:02,027 --> 00:13:03,153 How'd that go? 262 00:13:03,779 --> 00:13:04,822 Amazing. 263 00:13:05,030 --> 00:13:06,073 Yeah? 264 00:13:06,699 --> 00:13:09,410 They invited me to something, I said, "No". 265 00:13:09,744 --> 00:13:11,413 So, they just walked away. 266 00:13:12,622 --> 00:13:13,665 Great. 267 00:13:14,499 --> 00:13:15,918 Guess your advice did work. 268 00:13:16,836 --> 00:13:17,878 Good. 269 00:13:25,512 --> 00:13:27,348 You know I'm not your real dad, right? 270 00:13:28,057 --> 00:13:29,100 Wait, what? 271 00:13:29,976 --> 00:13:31,019 Like... 272 00:13:31,811 --> 00:13:33,939 you know I'm not actually your dad. 273 00:13:34,731 --> 00:13:35,774 Oh, yeah. 274 00:13:36,150 --> 00:13:37,192 Okay. 275 00:13:37,943 --> 00:13:39,987 - Like, we're just acting. - Yeah. 276 00:13:40,071 --> 00:13:41,656 - You know that, right? - Yeah, yeah. 277 00:13:42,490 --> 00:13:44,075 And you understand what that means? 278 00:13:44,159 --> 00:13:45,535 - Yes. - Okay. 279 00:13:47,287 --> 00:13:48,455 Do you have a dad? 280 00:13:48,831 --> 00:13:50,082 - Yes. - Okay. 281 00:13:51,667 --> 00:13:54,963 Sorry. I didn't mean to insult you professionally. 282 00:13:55,046 --> 00:13:56,632 - No, no, it's fine. - No, no, you're just... 283 00:13:57,007 --> 00:14:00,219 you're a good actor, so I really can't tell, you know? 284 00:14:01,220 --> 00:14:02,388 I just wanted to be sure. 285 00:14:02,722 --> 00:14:03,765 Okay. 286 00:14:05,725 --> 00:14:06,893 Do you feel like I'm, like... 287 00:14:08,020 --> 00:14:10,105 believable as a dad? Like... 288 00:14:12,358 --> 00:14:14,277 I mean, you're a great scene partner. 289 00:14:16,488 --> 00:14:17,531 Good. 290 00:14:18,073 --> 00:14:19,116 Yeah. 291 00:14:26,750 --> 00:14:28,335 What on earth was I doing? 292 00:14:30,629 --> 00:14:33,925 Everything about this rehearsal just felt so trivial now. 293 00:14:36,136 --> 00:14:38,889 Maybe the best use of my resources at this point 294 00:14:38,972 --> 00:14:41,767 would be to figure out what I could have done differently. 295 00:14:42,184 --> 00:14:43,561 I love you, Daddy. 296 00:14:44,103 --> 00:14:45,313 What did you say? 297 00:14:45,396 --> 00:14:47,023 I love you, Daddy. 298 00:14:47,107 --> 00:14:49,192 Oh, I love you too, Adam. 299 00:14:49,401 --> 00:14:53,322 To live these moments again and see if there was a better path. 300 00:14:53,405 --> 00:14:55,950 I'm Doctor Farts. Come and have a seat. 301 00:14:56,659 --> 00:14:57,952 Kind of hear how he talks. 302 00:14:58,244 --> 00:15:01,415 After all, how can you move on from a mistake 303 00:15:01,498 --> 00:15:04,502 if you don't even know what you could have done to avoid it? 304 00:15:04,877 --> 00:15:06,003 What did you say? 305 00:15:06,671 --> 00:15:07,922 I love you, Daddy. 306 00:15:12,010 --> 00:15:14,305 Refer to me as Nathan, please. 307 00:15:14,388 --> 00:15:16,140 - Is that okay? - Yeah. Okay. 308 00:15:16,224 --> 00:15:19,269 I tried experimenting with a slightly colder demeanor. 309 00:15:19,352 --> 00:15:21,104 Okay. You don't need to hold my hand. 310 00:15:21,188 --> 00:15:22,397 You're a big boy now, okay? 311 00:15:22,481 --> 00:15:25,234 To see if it could have helped prevent a bond being formed. 312 00:15:25,317 --> 00:15:27,195 Okay, let's not just... Let's play the game. 313 00:15:27,278 --> 00:15:28,947 We can still have fun. We don't need to hug. 314 00:15:29,030 --> 00:15:31,783 Daddy, can you read me a bedtime story? 315 00:15:33,201 --> 00:15:34,411 Aren't you... 316 00:15:35,913 --> 00:15:38,541 Aren't you old enough to read one yourself? 317 00:15:39,292 --> 00:15:42,712 But all this forced detachment felt like it was defeating the purpose 318 00:15:42,796 --> 00:15:44,590 of rehearsing being a parent. 319 00:15:44,673 --> 00:15:45,966 All right. Maybe a quick one. 320 00:15:47,051 --> 00:15:49,220 Perhaps I could have avoided these issues 321 00:15:49,303 --> 00:15:52,557 if I used older kids to play the younger ones. 322 00:15:53,183 --> 00:15:56,270 I love you, Daddy. 323 00:15:58,272 --> 00:15:59,315 What did you say? 324 00:16:00,441 --> 00:16:01,693 I said, "I love you, Daddy." 325 00:16:02,444 --> 00:16:03,487 I love you too, Adam. 326 00:16:03,570 --> 00:16:05,405 Then I could have been just as affectionate 327 00:16:05,489 --> 00:16:08,617 and caring towards them and they would never get confused. 328 00:16:10,369 --> 00:16:11,579 - No! - If their performance 329 00:16:11,663 --> 00:16:12,706 is good enough 330 00:16:12,789 --> 00:16:16,084 maybe I could have looked past any visual inconsistencies. 331 00:16:17,461 --> 00:16:20,339 It's not hard to be in the moment with a great actor. 332 00:16:20,423 --> 00:16:24,678 Here's my sleepy baby. Here's my sleepy boy. 333 00:16:24,761 --> 00:16:26,513 But even though I gave it my best 334 00:16:26,722 --> 00:16:29,058 something about this just didn't sit right. 335 00:16:29,141 --> 00:16:31,227 - Good night, Adam. - Good night, Daddy. 336 00:16:31,561 --> 00:16:34,522 And I found myself constantly distracted by the thought 337 00:16:34,606 --> 00:16:37,109 that I was living with a fully grown man. 338 00:16:38,193 --> 00:16:40,821 And removing humans from the equation entirely 339 00:16:40,905 --> 00:16:42,699 proved to be just as weird. 340 00:16:44,826 --> 00:16:47,204 Oh, I love you too, Adam. 341 00:16:47,621 --> 00:16:50,583 Well, if there was nothing I could have done differently with the kids 342 00:16:50,666 --> 00:16:53,252 maybe I could have changed my approach with the parents. 343 00:16:53,336 --> 00:16:55,088 - Amber. - Amber. Good to meet you. 344 00:16:55,171 --> 00:16:56,423 - Nice to meet you. - Okay, come on in. Yeah. 345 00:17:01,470 --> 00:17:02,680 What could I have said? 346 00:17:04,057 --> 00:17:05,266 Maybe... 347 00:17:10,314 --> 00:17:12,149 Or should I have done something different 348 00:17:12,233 --> 00:17:13,901 on that day we say goodbye? 349 00:17:13,985 --> 00:17:15,028 It's okay. 350 00:17:15,653 --> 00:17:16,738 What? 351 00:17:18,323 --> 00:17:20,576 Hey, what can I do? What do you want? 352 00:17:21,535 --> 00:17:22,912 I don't wanna leave. 353 00:17:24,455 --> 00:17:26,958 Well, we can say it's a goodbye. 354 00:17:27,542 --> 00:17:28,752 You wanna give him a hug? 355 00:17:30,712 --> 00:17:31,964 Hey! 356 00:17:32,339 --> 00:17:33,799 So, maybe it was Angela. 357 00:17:33,883 --> 00:17:37,595 Yay! That was so much fun, right? 358 00:17:37,887 --> 00:17:41,016 If she had never left, maybe that would have made all the difference. 359 00:17:41,099 --> 00:17:43,352 You have to be good and listen to your mom, okay? 360 00:17:43,435 --> 00:17:45,396 - You're doing great. - She was so good with the kids. 361 00:17:45,730 --> 00:17:49,192 - Okay. Thank you. - Okay. Bye. 362 00:17:49,275 --> 00:17:51,987 And with a fake mom in the house the whole time 363 00:17:52,070 --> 00:17:54,073 maybe he would have known it was all pretend. 364 00:17:54,156 --> 00:17:55,282 You see? 365 00:17:57,618 --> 00:17:59,996 But what could I have done differently to make her stay? 366 00:18:06,170 --> 00:18:07,213 I... 367 00:18:10,967 --> 00:18:12,219 I can make it better. 368 00:18:13,554 --> 00:18:15,764 Things can improve. I can improve. 369 00:18:16,807 --> 00:18:19,227 I just feel like we're just going back in circles 370 00:18:19,310 --> 00:18:20,812 and it's never gonna change. 371 00:18:23,440 --> 00:18:24,691 I'll just take my tea. 372 00:18:27,778 --> 00:18:28,988 What could I have said? 373 00:18:30,323 --> 00:18:31,408 What could I have done? 374 00:18:31,908 --> 00:18:33,118 No, but don't go. 375 00:18:34,411 --> 00:18:35,662 That's all you have to say? 376 00:18:37,414 --> 00:18:38,457 Yeah. 377 00:18:39,375 --> 00:18:40,418 Okay. 378 00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:44,005 Well, then, I'll just take my tea. 379 00:18:44,881 --> 00:18:46,717 Why do I always end up here? 380 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:49,804 Well, I can change. I can try to... 381 00:18:49,887 --> 00:18:51,890 I mean, I can't change 180 382 00:18:51,973 --> 00:18:54,559 but I can change some small ways for sure. 383 00:18:56,728 --> 00:18:58,522 Well, then I think you've made your choice. 384 00:19:01,567 --> 00:19:02,861 And I'll get my tea. 385 00:19:04,696 --> 00:19:07,074 I'm sorry. I am who I am. 386 00:19:07,783 --> 00:19:09,326 And I am who I am. 387 00:19:10,536 --> 00:19:11,579 Right. 388 00:19:12,413 --> 00:19:13,623 I'll just take my tea. 389 00:19:15,375 --> 00:19:17,336 How does this keep happening to me? 390 00:19:18,379 --> 00:19:21,257 What else can you do when you're trying your best? 391 00:19:21,549 --> 00:19:22,592 Okay. 392 00:19:23,176 --> 00:19:25,220 - Yeah. - I'll just take my tea. 393 00:19:44,242 --> 00:19:47,621 I just wanted to apologize for suggesting that... 394 00:19:49,206 --> 00:19:51,458 you weren't taking this seriously. 395 00:19:53,502 --> 00:19:56,506 You were navigating it as best you could and... 396 00:19:57,757 --> 00:20:00,302 So, I'm sorry. I'm the... 397 00:20:00,385 --> 00:20:02,429 I was the problem, not you. 398 00:20:03,931 --> 00:20:05,308 I appreciate you saying that. 399 00:20:06,768 --> 00:20:07,936 All is forgiven. 400 00:20:09,688 --> 00:20:11,023 Really? Just like that? 401 00:20:12,524 --> 00:20:14,026 Well, there's a scripture 402 00:20:14,110 --> 00:20:17,071 that talks about forgiving someone seven times. 403 00:20:17,155 --> 00:20:19,950 But Jesus says, "The new teaching is I tell you... 404 00:20:20,534 --> 00:20:22,953 70 times seven". 405 00:20:23,037 --> 00:20:24,079 Is that? 406 00:20:24,705 --> 00:20:27,083 77 times seven? 407 00:20:27,417 --> 00:20:28,460 Then Peter came up to him and said 408 00:20:28,543 --> 00:20:30,420 "Lord, how often shall my brother sinned against me 409 00:20:30,504 --> 00:20:34,174 and I forgive him as many as seven times?" 410 00:20:34,258 --> 00:20:37,178 and then Jesus said, "I do not say to you seven times 411 00:20:37,261 --> 00:20:38,680 but 70 times seven." 412 00:20:39,389 --> 00:20:43,268 So, it's like if we have to forgive our neighbor that much 413 00:20:43,352 --> 00:20:45,980 and we have to love ourselves like we love our neighbor 414 00:20:46,272 --> 00:20:48,942 then we also have to forgive ourselves that much. 415 00:20:52,821 --> 00:20:53,906 All right. 416 00:20:59,913 --> 00:21:01,498 - Hey. - Hi, guys. 417 00:21:01,581 --> 00:21:04,585 - Hi, Remy. Do you remember Liam? - Yeah. 418 00:21:04,668 --> 00:21:07,338 He's an actor too. He played Adam also. 419 00:21:07,421 --> 00:21:09,465 He was at the birthday party. You switched with him. 420 00:21:10,049 --> 00:21:11,426 - You remember him? - Yeah. 421 00:21:11,885 --> 00:21:13,762 Three, two, one, go! 422 00:21:14,513 --> 00:21:17,057 No! No! 423 00:21:17,141 --> 00:21:20,061 Forgiving yourself sounds so easy and nice. 424 00:21:20,478 --> 00:21:21,604 Watch out. 425 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:25,025 But how does a person actually do that? 426 00:21:26,735 --> 00:21:29,322 - He called me Nathan when I came in. - Yeah. Totally. 427 00:21:29,989 --> 00:21:31,032 So, what do you think he's thinking? 428 00:21:31,115 --> 00:21:35,537 I think he's... accepted it and he's kinda like, chill with it. 429 00:21:35,621 --> 00:21:37,206 He gets... He doesn't think I'm his... 430 00:21:37,289 --> 00:21:39,166 Yeah, he... he gets it, for sure. 431 00:21:39,250 --> 00:21:40,459 - You think so? - Yeah. 432 00:21:43,713 --> 00:21:45,674 I think that he will be okay. 433 00:21:46,925 --> 00:21:48,844 I do. I think that he will be okay. 434 00:21:49,804 --> 00:21:51,389 How you convince yourself of that? 435 00:21:52,014 --> 00:21:54,684 I didn't convince myself. I'm just gonna make sure he's okay. 436 00:21:54,768 --> 00:21:56,520 So, he is, and I just know. 437 00:21:57,145 --> 00:21:58,272 Like, I just know. 438 00:21:58,772 --> 00:21:59,857 Like, I don't know how to explain it. 439 00:21:59,940 --> 00:22:02,902 It's something you don't know until you, like, have a kid. If you do. 440 00:22:04,404 --> 00:22:06,823 What did you see in his face that makes you so sure? 441 00:22:08,700 --> 00:22:09,785 Myself. 442 00:22:11,620 --> 00:22:13,665 It's just one of those things. I don't know. You just know. 443 00:22:18,086 --> 00:22:19,338 You're strong... 444 00:22:20,214 --> 00:22:22,383 Could it be that the path to forgiveness 445 00:22:22,466 --> 00:22:24,552 lies in someone else's eyes? 446 00:22:25,261 --> 00:22:26,638 Where did you get that sweatshirt? 447 00:22:28,181 --> 00:22:29,224 Buckle. 448 00:22:30,601 --> 00:22:31,852 - Yeah. - It's nice. 449 00:22:31,936 --> 00:22:32,979 Well, thank you. 450 00:22:35,565 --> 00:22:36,983 What's your name again? 451 00:22:38,360 --> 00:22:39,403 Nathan. 452 00:22:40,237 --> 00:22:41,321 - Nathan? - Yeah. 453 00:22:41,572 --> 00:22:43,032 He is crazy. 454 00:22:44,033 --> 00:22:46,452 I just wanted to call you "Daddy." 455 00:22:46,619 --> 00:22:48,997 - No, we're not going back to that. - No, no, Nathan. 456 00:22:49,289 --> 00:22:50,999 That doesn't worry you, what just happened? 457 00:22:51,083 --> 00:22:52,126 No. 458 00:22:53,127 --> 00:22:54,170 No. 459 00:22:56,130 --> 00:22:58,216 Bye! 460 00:22:58,758 --> 00:23:01,219 Bye. See you later. 461 00:23:01,303 --> 00:23:04,014 - My TV friends are leaving? - Yes, they are. 462 00:23:04,765 --> 00:23:07,518 You may never be able to change what happened 463 00:23:09,646 --> 00:23:14,985 but maybe, with a new perspective, you could try to change yourself. 464 00:23:15,152 --> 00:23:16,279 Did you get enough? 465 00:23:16,362 --> 00:23:17,447 Yeah, I think so. 466 00:23:17,530 --> 00:23:18,823 Okay, good. Buckle up. 467 00:23:43,018 --> 00:23:44,144 Remy. 468 00:23:45,938 --> 00:23:47,189 - Yeah, Mom? - Hey. 469 00:23:47,273 --> 00:23:49,609 You want to record that TV show audition now, baba? 470 00:23:49,901 --> 00:23:51,361 - What do you think? - Yeah. 471 00:23:51,444 --> 00:23:52,988 Yeah? Okay, come on. 472 00:23:53,989 --> 00:23:55,783 Hi, I'm Remy. 473 00:23:55,866 --> 00:23:58,911 I live in Oregon 474 00:23:59,203 --> 00:24:02,374 and I have so many toys that are in my room. 475 00:24:02,457 --> 00:24:06,128 Like, one, I have a... I have a Groot plushie. 476 00:24:06,211 --> 00:24:08,172 I really like to sleep with him. 477 00:24:08,255 --> 00:24:10,132 And I also have a dinosaur... 478 00:24:21,646 --> 00:24:23,606 That's the house you're gonna be in right there, huh. 479 00:24:25,358 --> 00:24:26,401 Cool, huh? 480 00:24:27,444 --> 00:24:28,570 Hey, Amber. 481 00:24:28,821 --> 00:24:31,532 - Hi. - And you must be Remy. 482 00:24:31,616 --> 00:24:34,452 We are excited to have you guys be a part of this. 483 00:24:35,161 --> 00:24:37,164 Let me introduce you to the director. All right? 484 00:24:37,247 --> 00:24:38,832 - Okay. - It's a very unique project. 485 00:24:38,916 --> 00:24:39,959 - Okay. - Come inside. 486 00:24:40,209 --> 00:24:42,879 Do you guys have Hungry Hungry Hippos? 487 00:24:42,962 --> 00:24:44,047 We sure do. 488 00:24:44,839 --> 00:24:47,467 Right. So, sort of free form. 489 00:24:47,551 --> 00:24:49,094 We won't be sticking to the script. 490 00:24:49,178 --> 00:24:50,846 - Okay. - But of course 491 00:24:50,930 --> 00:24:52,723 anything that happens inside the home 492 00:24:52,974 --> 00:24:54,684 we'll be sure to clear with you beforehand. 493 00:24:55,059 --> 00:24:57,562 - Okay. Great. - All right. 494 00:24:57,646 --> 00:25:00,649 - Do you want me anywhere? - Well, yeah. 495 00:25:00,733 --> 00:25:03,069 You're free to watch everything here at the monitors. 496 00:25:03,152 --> 00:25:04,487 - Okay. Thanks. - Okay. 497 00:25:04,570 --> 00:25:07,032 - Yeah. Let me... I have to go. - Yeah, sure. 498 00:25:14,665 --> 00:25:15,959 So, how are you today, Adam? 499 00:25:16,668 --> 00:25:18,336 Good. Yeah. Good. 500 00:25:18,879 --> 00:25:20,255 Yeah. What have you been doing? 501 00:25:20,923 --> 00:25:22,132 Just hanging out in your room? 502 00:25:22,550 --> 00:25:23,843 He's kind of a weird dude, huh? 503 00:25:29,891 --> 00:25:32,353 Can I get you some soda or sparkling water? 504 00:25:32,978 --> 00:25:34,021 Oh, I'm okay. 505 00:25:34,105 --> 00:25:35,731 - Sure? Okay. - Thank you. Yeah. Thank you. 506 00:25:36,274 --> 00:25:37,567 All right, well, let me know if you need anything. 507 00:25:37,650 --> 00:25:39,069 Sure. Thank you so much. 508 00:25:44,366 --> 00:25:45,868 Do I get to see Daddy tomorrow? 509 00:25:45,952 --> 00:25:47,328 You do. Does that sound good? 510 00:25:48,329 --> 00:25:49,372 Yeah. 511 00:25:49,664 --> 00:25:51,416 You know he's your pretend daddy though, right? 512 00:25:52,668 --> 00:25:55,004 No, not on... Don't, baba. Not on your nose. 513 00:25:55,087 --> 00:25:57,089 No... this is gonna hurt you. 514 00:25:57,590 --> 00:25:59,134 Okay, you want some food? Are you hungry? 515 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:19,157 - How was work today? - Good. Just busy. 516 00:26:22,327 --> 00:26:25,706 While you were at work today, he kept asking to see his dad. 517 00:26:27,458 --> 00:26:28,626 - Do you know what that's about? - Yeah. 518 00:26:28,709 --> 00:26:30,003 That's just the TV show he's been doing. 519 00:26:30,128 --> 00:26:31,171 I told you about that, Mom. 520 00:26:32,714 --> 00:26:33,757 Right. 521 00:26:35,843 --> 00:26:38,346 Do you think he's a little young to be getting into acting? 522 00:26:40,098 --> 00:26:42,308 No. He's having a lot of fun. 523 00:26:43,602 --> 00:26:45,604 I just worry about him sometimes. 524 00:26:50,276 --> 00:26:54,322 I love you, Daddy. 525 00:26:54,698 --> 00:26:55,741 What did you say? 526 00:26:55,824 --> 00:26:56,867 I love you, Daddy. 527 00:26:56,950 --> 00:26:59,161 Oh, I love you too, Adam. 528 00:27:06,587 --> 00:27:09,048 They said you're gonna have a birthday party soon, huh? 529 00:27:10,216 --> 00:27:11,592 Is my daddy gonna be there? 530 00:27:11,676 --> 00:27:13,636 Yeah, he's your pretend daddy, baba. 531 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:14,804 - Okay. - Okay. 532 00:27:14,888 --> 00:27:17,099 My pretend daddy loves me. 533 00:27:19,852 --> 00:27:21,562 - Okay. Come on in. - Okay. 534 00:27:21,646 --> 00:27:22,688 Let's go. 535 00:27:22,772 --> 00:27:25,191 What's wrong? Are you sad? 536 00:27:25,275 --> 00:27:27,027 - You wanna hug? - You wanna give him a hug? 537 00:27:27,110 --> 00:27:28,237 - No. - I could... 538 00:27:28,654 --> 00:27:29,697 We'll see you. 539 00:27:30,447 --> 00:27:32,575 We gotta go, okay? We can't stay here. 540 00:27:32,909 --> 00:27:35,203 - It's okay. - I don't wanna leave. I don't... 541 00:27:35,286 --> 00:27:38,081 I know. Mommy has to go. You give him a hug, and say goodbye. 542 00:27:38,165 --> 00:27:39,458 No. 543 00:27:39,541 --> 00:27:43,588 I mean, it's just complicated 'cause he's now seeing kids at school 544 00:27:43,671 --> 00:27:44,714 and they have their dads 545 00:27:44,797 --> 00:27:47,717 and he's kind of wondering where is his. 546 00:27:48,635 --> 00:27:49,678 - You know? - Yeah. 547 00:27:50,220 --> 00:27:54,433 And so, it's just new to him, new concept. 548 00:27:56,060 --> 00:27:59,189 I get it. I hope it's okay. 549 00:27:59,606 --> 00:28:02,026 Yeah. Are you okay? 550 00:28:03,194 --> 00:28:05,446 Yeah. Yeah, I'm okay. 551 00:28:09,117 --> 00:28:10,160 Okay. 552 00:28:11,203 --> 00:28:14,248 But I don't want you to be Nathan. I want you to be Daddy. 553 00:28:14,874 --> 00:28:18,378 Right, but we are just pretending, right? 554 00:28:19,296 --> 00:28:24,260 And now we're back to Remy and Nathan. Okay? 555 00:28:24,802 --> 00:28:28,348 I don't want... I don't want you to be Nathan. 556 00:28:32,603 --> 00:28:34,146 I want him to be Daddy. 557 00:28:36,357 --> 00:28:38,735 It's okay. It's okay. 558 00:28:39,569 --> 00:28:41,822 He said he wasn't my daddy anymore. 559 00:28:42,489 --> 00:28:45,242 I'm sorry, baba. That must've been hard for you to hear. 560 00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,246 Why did he say he was my daddy? 561 00:28:48,579 --> 00:28:49,622 I know. 562 00:28:50,206 --> 00:28:52,417 That man didn't mean to confuse you, honey. 563 00:28:52,959 --> 00:28:54,503 He just didn't know what he was doing. 564 00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:56,922 You know? 565 00:28:57,006 --> 00:28:59,592 He's not that different from you. 566 00:29:00,426 --> 00:29:04,056 He's just figuring stuff out and messing up along the way. 567 00:29:06,767 --> 00:29:09,187 Maybe we shouldn't have done that show, huh? 568 00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:11,940 It's like a weird thing for a little kid to be a part of. 569 00:29:12,857 --> 00:29:13,984 But you know what? 570 00:29:14,359 --> 00:29:16,236 Mommy's not perfect, okay? 571 00:29:16,695 --> 00:29:18,072 She makes mistakes too. 572 00:29:18,698 --> 00:29:20,867 And you're gonna make mistakes. 573 00:29:23,161 --> 00:29:24,788 Look at me. You know what? 574 00:29:25,873 --> 00:29:27,499 I think it's a good thing that you're sad 575 00:29:28,751 --> 00:29:30,378 because it shows that you have a heart. 576 00:29:31,379 --> 00:29:34,591 And it shows that you can feel, and you can love 577 00:29:35,092 --> 00:29:36,885 and you can put your trust in others. 578 00:29:42,559 --> 00:29:43,810 Is that a smile I see? 579 00:29:44,352 --> 00:29:47,064 Is that another thing you're feeling there, a smile? 580 00:29:47,856 --> 00:29:50,609 How do you feel if Tickle Monster attacks you? 581 00:29:51,777 --> 00:29:52,862 See? 582 00:29:53,404 --> 00:29:55,031 Life is better with surprises. 583 00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:57,159 I mean, some things, you wanna be prepared for 584 00:29:57,242 --> 00:29:58,952 but, you know what I mean. 585 00:30:01,205 --> 00:30:02,331 No. You got me. 586 00:30:02,415 --> 00:30:04,709 Tickle Monster got me now. What the heck? 587 00:30:06,002 --> 00:30:08,255 That's weird, but you know what? 588 00:30:09,047 --> 00:30:12,134 It's okay if you get confused. It's okay to get sad. 589 00:30:12,969 --> 00:30:15,930 Because no matter what you experience 590 00:30:16,222 --> 00:30:17,265 we have each other. 591 00:30:18,433 --> 00:30:21,771 And I'm always gonna be here for you, okay? 592 00:30:21,854 --> 00:30:22,980 'Cause I'm your dad. 593 00:30:25,108 --> 00:30:27,402 I... wait, I thought you were my mom. 594 00:30:40,542 --> 00:30:41,585 No. 595 00:30:44,797 --> 00:30:45,840 I'm your dad. 596 00:30:58,271 --> 00:30:59,439 Come here. 597 00:31:05,154 --> 00:31:07,198 Good boy. You wanna go play now? 598 00:31:07,281 --> 00:31:09,617 - Yeah. Let's go. - Okay. Let's go play. 599 00:31:09,826 --> 00:31:12,454 Okay. Let's go. 600 00:31:14,565 --> 00:31:22,908 Translator: IYUNO