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Previously on "smothered"...
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Man: There you go.
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You think you're ready
for regular driving?
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I feel pushed.
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How is
the nursing going?
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It's really hard.
Maybe we should get someone
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to come in
and talk to you about that.
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That's why you got me.
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She's not the only one
whose opinion matters.
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I can't believe I'm touching
her -- your ex's stuff.
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Ridiculous.
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Sunhe:
Today was the proof
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that jason is not putting
angelica's feelings first.
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I am officially divorced.
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Don't pat yourself
on the shoulder just yet, jason.
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naked men don't turn me on
like naked women turn you on.
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Okay? Or you wouldn't have
been home on the internet.
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I watched
a porn.
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And you masturbated.
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I'm gonna go.
Really?
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Brittani needs me.
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dawn: I'm not sure
she has a good latch.
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I think she does.
See, I don't know.
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It hurts still.
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It's going to hurt.
You're just starting.
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I mean, she's still
just a few days old.
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No one ever talks
about, like --
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about it hurting
like this.
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It does hurt.
I remember
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I had to use this cream
on my nipple to try to help it.
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And, oh, I would
get chills in my body.
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I have like four different kinds
of creams I'm using right now.
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It would really hurt.
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It's been two weeks
since I've given birth,
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and I've been
breastfeeding exclusively,
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and it is extremely hard.
Like, my nipples hurt so much.
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Everyone talks
about breastfeeding
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as being a wonderful thing,
but it is so painful.
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Yes, it was very painful
at the beginning,
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but I believe in always being
very focused mentally.
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That's why I gave birth
naturally.
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So anyway, I think
that you just keep at it,
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and eventually,
it will work.
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There's just got to be
a quicker solution.
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I went ahead and scheduled
a lactation consultant to come.
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I feel like it will be helpful
for me to learn from an expert.
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I'm surprised
you didn't want to ask me.
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[ baby fusses ]
okay, my love.
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You know,
you used to always ask me.
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I'm surprised you didn't.
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Well, I just -- you haven't
breastfed in 29 years almost,
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so I didn't think that you would
necessarily remember.
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I mean, it's been so long.
29 years is a long time.
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It is a long time,
but, you know,
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you should ask.
I did raise all three of you.
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In the past,
I think you would ask.
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When were you going
to tell me?
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I'm telling you now.
This wasn't, like, a secret.
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Okay.
Just made the appointment.
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It's not like I've been
hiding this for very long.
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It's not like I've
been hiding it period.
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"very long."
I haven't been hiding it.
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It just, you know --
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right.
I'm telling you now.
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Okay.
It wasn't a big deal.
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Don't look into it so much.
Okay.
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I do feel a little hurt
that cher didn't come to me
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and ask me my advice
on breastfeeding
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and just set up
a lactation consultant.
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If you really want
to breastfeed,
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eventually, the baby
will take to it.
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Your nipples get harder and
better, and the baby adjusts.
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You'll get through it.
Mind over matter.
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I'm surprised
you didn't even tell me
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that you made
an appointment with one.
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Like, you just made it,
and you didn't even tell me.
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I'm happy, but, you know,
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you could always still feel
comfortable enough to ask me
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like you used to.
No, I feel comfortable.
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I feel comfortable to ask you.
Don't be silly.
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I think you're reading
way too much into this.
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I know things
are going to change,
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but I just didn't expect it
to start so quickly.
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This isn't a bad change.
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This isn't --
don't look into this so much.
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Right. It's just, you know, tell
me you made the appointment.
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I'm happy for you
to make the appointment, but...
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Yeah, but --
...In the past,
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you would say, "oh, I'm going
to call a lactation consultant
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and make the appointment."
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my mind isn't on calling you
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or running to your room
right now to tell you.
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My mind is on her.
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And so I don't think I need
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to just ask you to make
an appointment, you know?
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No, no, no. I just --
yeah, okay. I just, I hope --
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I know I can come to you.
I already asked you for advice.
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It's not working,
that advice.
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Now it's time that I seek out
professional help.
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You didn't really ask me
for so much advice.
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You just said to me
that you're going
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to the lactation consultant.
Alright, give me your advice.
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You didn't ask me!
What's your advice?
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You just said, "ma,
I made an appointment."
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well, what's your advice?
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My advice is it will --
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the pain will go away.
That the pain will go away.
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What else you got?
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Exactly.
[ chuckles ]
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don't look into it so much.
You're still my best friend.
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Okay.
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mary: I got to sit down.
My feet hurt.
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Brittani: Alright.
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[ sighing ]
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better?
Oh, much, much better.
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So, how are you feeling
about what happened tonight?
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I could be better.
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I do understand fully
why you left.
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And I understand
you're hurt.
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Just hearing the truth
for the first time
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kind of devastated me.
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Brittani knows everything now.
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I told brittani
some of the details
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of the bachelor party.
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But brittani still wasn't clear
about certain events.
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And I think that's where
she was totally surprised
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when other details
came out of frank's mouth.
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When it was made clear,
she was really upset.
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She was really upset
that he even showed up.
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You know, when someone does
something so despicable
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and you're like, "ohh,"
that feeling?
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That's how I feel.
It's just a gross feeling
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I get deep down.
Like, it's, like, spiritual.
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I understand, 'cause I'm still
kind of going through it myself.
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I just wish
none of this happened.
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And it's just --
it's heartbreaking.
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It's just heartbreaking.
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Where do you think
frank is?
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He was supposed
to be here by now.
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I thought
you talked to him.
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When you left,
I told him that I was leaving.
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He asked me not to,
and I said "I'm leaving,"
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I'm going to get brittani."
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so maybe he's upset.
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I also feel like
between you two,
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you guys don't really
have that communication.
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I mean, like,
in every relationship,
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there should be trust,
communication, and loyalty.
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I don't know
what to say to that.
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Ultimately,
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the one person
that I can really trust
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would be brittani.
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I can depend on her.
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I feel that brittani
loves me unconditionally.
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And I don't know if I can ever
have that kind of love
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with someone else.
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I want to see you happy
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and have someone
who truly loves you,
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not cheats on you
and lies to you.
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I have a toxic
relationship.
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What more do you
want me to tell you?
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I feel like my mom is more into,
like, she wants that love.
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She wants that, like,
feeling of comfort.
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She just wants more than my love
because I'm just her daughter.
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I can't love her that way.
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She's craving that love
that we all want.
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We all have that little bit
of a void in our hearts
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where we want to be loved.
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And that's probably
what she wants.
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She would probably say
I'm wrong, but I know I'm right.
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I'll know soon enough.
If he's gonna be faithful,
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if he's going to continue
to lie to me
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about little things,
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I know what to do,
my next step.
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And I would just hope
that if you say you love me
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as much as you do,
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you'll at least
give me a little slack.
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Let me just say this
out of love and respect.
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If he hurts you one more time,
I want him to leave.
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Definitely, I would
want him to move out.
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I just feel like, you know,
she's just putting her heart out
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for someone who doesn't
really truly love her.
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He doesn't see what he did
was really wrong.
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And that's the thing
that really makes me angry.
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I think we need
to have a little talk.
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If she were to terminate
this relationship,
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I would have to carry on
and move on.
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Let the fun begin.
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You want one hand like she's
giving a big hug to the breast.
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But you're always afraid
that the baby won't breathe.
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Flip that lip out.
There you go. Perfect.
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But then she's going to stop.
No, not necessarily.
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I think my mom forgot
that I'm the one breastfeeding
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and not her.
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my fiancé, brett,
is visiting from omaha.
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Brett and I have been together
for almost five years.
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We got engaged two years ago.
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I love my relationship
with brett
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because it allows me
to have the freedom
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to have the type of relationship
that I have with angelica.
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But the distance is really
starting to hurt us.
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He's been pressuring me a lot
to move back to omaha with him.
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It's been two weeks
since I've spoken to him.
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And that is not the usual
in our relationship.
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Hey!
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Hey. How are you?
Hi, baby. How are you?
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Hey.
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Love the hair.
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And you look nice.
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Thank you.
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I think we need to...
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Have a little talk.
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I would say
that's appropriate.
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This is the longest we've gone
without contact
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for four years.
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I mean, we used to facetime
each other every day
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or at least a text,
"I'm home."
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I don't want to leave for omaha
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because of the situation
with angelica and jason.
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I feel like she's settling
with jason.
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Angelica is my baby.
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Yes, she's grown,
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but she's always my child first.
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So I will always put her first
before anyone,
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and that includes brett.
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I'm glad you were able
to come down now.
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Well, you know, the ticket had
been purchased a long time ago.
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I wasn't real sure that
it was going to happen or not.
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But...
You know, we kind of...
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Both agreed
that it might be okay.
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♪
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♪
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we got any plans for tonight
with either angelica
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or jason or anybody?
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Probably dinner somewhere?
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Possibly.
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Brett: With angelica
and sunhe's relationship,
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it probably does play
a major decision
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of her not wanting
to come to omaha.
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The two weeks I had
to think about things,
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I did realize that she's...
250
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A necessity in my life.
251
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But yet it also gave me
time to realize
252
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that if she were to terminate
this relationship,
253
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I would have to carry on
and move on.
254
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You know, not that
that's what I wanted.
255
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But it did come...To my mind
256
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that this may be
the direction it's heading.
257
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Alright.
Let the fun begin.
258
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I don't know
if it's fun, but...
259
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Let's see where this goes.
260
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Yeah, it is
what we want it to be.
261
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♪
262
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♪
263
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okay, my love.
264
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♪
265
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[ speaks indistinctly ]
266
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okay.
267
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[ knock on door ]
268
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wait, she's here.
269
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Oh, wow.
270
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-Hi! How are you?
-Hello. How are you?
271
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-I'm cher.
-I'm stephanie.
272
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-Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.
273
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-Congratulations.
-This is my mom.
274
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-I'm dawn.
-Hi, dawn.
275
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Congratulations
to your family.
276
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Because of all my concerns
with breastfeeding,
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I really want to seek out help
from a lactation consultant.
278
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My mom thinks
she always knows the answers.
279
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But when it comes
to breastfeeding,
280
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she hasn't breastfed
in 29 years. I need someone
281
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who actually knows
what they're talking about.
282
00:13:10,056 --> 00:13:11,656
So, have you been able
to be up here with her
283
00:13:11,658 --> 00:13:12,924
since she had the baby?
284
00:13:12,926 --> 00:13:15,326
Oh, yeah, I love it, you know?
Oh, that's so lovely.
285
00:13:15,328 --> 00:13:18,196
It's great to be mimi.
You could just love them
286
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and don't have
all the stress.
287
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And you can lay her down
however way you're comfortable.
288
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Yeah. So, if you want
to take the dress,
289
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I would just leave on
her diaper.
290
00:13:25,806 --> 00:13:27,672
So, I see you guys
are all matching.
291
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Do you do that all the time?
292
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We try.
We do try.
293
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We love it, you know?
294
00:13:32,879 --> 00:13:34,813
So you now have matching clothes
for all three of you?
295
00:13:34,815 --> 00:13:37,382
Oh, yes, we try.
296
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I thought it was very unique
that dawn, cher, and baby belle
297
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were all dressed alike
in their jean dresses.
298
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That is not something
I often see at a home visit.
299
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But I find that to be a really
sweet and precious thing.
300
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I think it's just another way
for them to connect
301
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as mother, daughter,
and now granddaughter.
302
00:13:53,133 --> 00:13:54,299
I want you
to show me originally
303
00:13:54,301 --> 00:13:55,667
what you would do
if I'm not here.
304
00:13:55,669 --> 00:13:57,035
Okay, this is
how I would do it.
305
00:13:57,037 --> 00:13:59,637
And then I'll try
to tweak from here.
306
00:13:59,639 --> 00:14:01,172
Well, first of all,
I have to move her here.
307
00:14:01,174 --> 00:14:02,340
Correct.
You want one hand
308
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like she's giving a big hug
to the breast.
309
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And then she starts like that.
Okay.
310
00:14:06,213 --> 00:14:08,379
I feel a little bad
that she doesn't want
311
00:14:08,381 --> 00:14:12,083
to ask me questions
on how to breastfeed.
312
00:14:12,085 --> 00:14:14,419
I understand to have
a lactation consultant.
313
00:14:14,421 --> 00:14:16,087
But why can't
she ask me also?
314
00:14:16,089 --> 00:14:19,157
I mean, I did breastfeed
three children.
315
00:14:19,159 --> 00:14:21,693
Do you see how you're kind of
leaning into belle?
316
00:14:21,695 --> 00:14:25,763
So we always say it's baby
to breast, not breast to baby.
317
00:14:25,765 --> 00:14:28,032
But you're always afraid
that the baby won't breathe
318
00:14:28,034 --> 00:14:30,435
'cause of the nose,
you know, stuck like that.
319
00:14:30,437 --> 00:14:32,203
If babies are drinking
and swallowing,
320
00:14:32,205 --> 00:14:33,938
they're breathing just fine.
321
00:14:33,940 --> 00:14:36,374
You don't need fancy pillows
if you don't want them,
322
00:14:36,376 --> 00:14:38,610
because you can really use your
torso to support her, and --
323
00:14:38,612 --> 00:14:41,946
we didn't even have those
pillows when we breastfed.
324
00:14:41,948 --> 00:14:44,148
And we did fine.
So, I think if we could
325
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take this out
so nothing's in your back...
326
00:14:45,252 --> 00:14:46,951
Sometimes they're more
hindrance than help.
327
00:14:46,953 --> 00:14:49,787
Also, I never had to hold
the breast the whole time
328
00:14:49,789 --> 00:14:50,889
while feeding.
329
00:14:50,891 --> 00:14:53,858
She's -- well, you --
she tries to text me,
330
00:14:53,860 --> 00:14:55,793
and I can't answer the phone.
I'm like, "I'm breastfeeding."
331
00:14:55,795 --> 00:14:57,462
is there a way
that she doesn't have to hold
332
00:14:57,464 --> 00:14:59,597
so she has a free hand?
Correct.
333
00:14:59,599 --> 00:15:01,332
Good.
Then you can call me.
334
00:15:01,334 --> 00:15:04,469
Once she's latched
and you feel a comfortable pull,
335
00:15:04,471 --> 00:15:05,837
you can take
that support hand off.
336
00:15:05,839 --> 00:15:08,339
You want nice rounded cheeks
up to nice rounded breast.
337
00:15:08,341 --> 00:15:10,742
But she's still holding
her breast with the other hand.
338
00:15:10,744 --> 00:15:12,644
Right. Now, once she's on
and you feel a comfortable pull,
339
00:15:12,646 --> 00:15:15,246
you should be able to take
that other support hand off.
340
00:15:17,117 --> 00:15:19,050
Looks like
she's falling asleep.
341
00:15:19,052 --> 00:15:21,619
♪
342
00:15:21,621 --> 00:15:23,154
usually they pop off
when they're done,
343
00:15:23,156 --> 00:15:25,657
so if she's still holding on,
she may not quite be done.
344
00:15:25,659 --> 00:15:28,626
And then how do you know that
she's not just, like --
345
00:15:28,628 --> 00:15:31,195
using the nipple
as a pacifier?
346
00:15:31,197 --> 00:15:34,065
All breastfeeding moms
are mother nature's pacifier.
347
00:15:34,067 --> 00:15:36,567
Cher: My mom is asking
a lot of questions.
348
00:15:36,569 --> 00:15:39,337
I think my mom forgot
that I'm the one breastfeeding
349
00:15:39,339 --> 00:15:41,172
and not her, so she just needs
350
00:15:41,174 --> 00:15:42,674
to, like, calm down
a little bit.
351
00:15:42,676 --> 00:15:45,176
I mean, I haven't gotten
a question in at all yet.
352
00:15:45,178 --> 00:15:46,411
Stephanie:
Next thing I want you to do
353
00:15:46,413 --> 00:15:48,713
is make sure her lips are out
like fish lips.
354
00:15:48,715 --> 00:15:50,381
So just take a finger,
and you're just gonna
355
00:15:50,383 --> 00:15:51,683
flip that lip out.
There you go. Perfect.
356
00:15:51,685 --> 00:15:54,419
But then she's gonna stop.
No, not necessarily.
357
00:15:54,421 --> 00:15:58,489
I think from experience, I know
a lot about breastfeeding.
358
00:15:58,491 --> 00:16:01,726
It would be nice if she would
ask me, too, and include me.
359
00:16:01,728 --> 00:16:03,628
If you give advice
to your daughter,
360
00:16:03,630 --> 00:16:06,898
she sometimes doesn't want
to take it or believe it.
361
00:16:06,900 --> 00:16:09,267
But if she hears it
from somebody else,
362
00:16:09,269 --> 00:16:12,870
all of a sudden, she believes
it, and it's the way to go.
363
00:16:12,872 --> 00:16:14,605
Okay. So, this is
the best way to do it.
364
00:16:14,607 --> 00:16:16,441
If you're comfortable.
Are you comfortable?
365
00:16:16,443 --> 00:16:18,576
The best way is the way that
you feel the most comfortable.
366
00:16:18,578 --> 00:16:21,079
So, how many different
positions are there?
367
00:16:21,081 --> 00:16:23,047
Lots.
Really?
368
00:16:23,049 --> 00:16:25,550
It's absolutely possible
for support people
369
00:16:25,552 --> 00:16:28,052
and family members
to be too involved.
370
00:16:28,054 --> 00:16:31,022
If family members
are not allowing a new parent
371
00:16:31,024 --> 00:16:34,125
to learn to be a new parent,
they're probably too involved.
372
00:16:34,127 --> 00:16:35,560
I want to learn
how to make sure
373
00:16:35,562 --> 00:16:37,128
that I know
how to do all the positions
374
00:16:37,130 --> 00:16:39,664
so if she has any questions,
I can help her.
375
00:16:39,666 --> 00:16:42,333
Absolutely.
This is why I bring my doll
376
00:16:42,335 --> 00:16:44,369
and our demo breast
so you can practice
377
00:16:44,371 --> 00:16:47,472
and still be modest.
So let's do this position first.
378
00:16:47,474 --> 00:16:49,240
Sure. That one was called
the cross cradle.
379
00:16:49,242 --> 00:16:50,908
Alright. Do you remember?
So that's when you do
380
00:16:50,910 --> 00:16:54,846
opposite arm, opposite breast,
down the baby's back.
381
00:16:54,848 --> 00:16:56,447
Make sure you feel
a comfortable pull.
382
00:16:56,449 --> 00:16:57,882
And then you can lean back
with your baby.
383
00:16:57,884 --> 00:17:00,151
Perfect. Exactly right.
We call that cross cradle.
384
00:17:00,153 --> 00:17:01,919
Now let's do
the football one.
385
00:17:01,921 --> 00:17:04,422
Great. So, football is the one
where they're at their side,
386
00:17:04,424 --> 00:17:06,524
like you would kind of
hold a football.
387
00:17:06,526 --> 00:17:07,959
Make sure your arm
is down their back
388
00:17:07,961 --> 00:17:09,927
and they're pulled into
your body.
389
00:17:09,929 --> 00:17:13,598
When they go wide like a baby
bird, you bring them in swift.
390
00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:15,666
I have never had a grandmother
391
00:17:15,668 --> 00:17:18,836
sit next to the breastfeeding
parent and act it out.
392
00:17:18,838 --> 00:17:22,040
But I think for a grandma
that really wants to be involved
393
00:17:22,042 --> 00:17:23,241
and needs that closeness,
394
00:17:23,243 --> 00:17:25,543
it's a great way
for her to be involved.
395
00:17:25,545 --> 00:17:26,878
But I'm so glad
that we did this.
396
00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:28,179
It's my honor
and my pleasure.
397
00:17:28,181 --> 00:17:29,947
And you are doing
an amazing job.
398
00:17:29,949 --> 00:17:31,916
Remember, you know your baby
better than anybody.
399
00:17:31,918 --> 00:17:33,551
Trust your baby.
Trust your body.
400
00:17:33,553 --> 00:17:35,286
Have a lovely day, you guys.
Thanks!
401
00:17:35,288 --> 00:17:36,621
You, too.
Bye-bye.
402
00:17:36,623 --> 00:17:39,624
Dawn: Being a new mom,
you're exhausted.
403
00:17:39,626 --> 00:17:42,193
So I wanted to go over
the positions
404
00:17:42,195 --> 00:17:43,294
of how to breastfeed
405
00:17:43,296 --> 00:17:46,497
so later on,
if cher has any questions,
406
00:17:46,499 --> 00:17:48,833
I'll know how
to help her with it.
407
00:17:48,835 --> 00:17:51,769
So I think she's going to see
how much she needs me.
408
00:17:51,771 --> 00:17:54,272
You need that extra person
to help.
409
00:17:54,274 --> 00:17:57,108
That was really helpful.
That was really good.
410
00:17:57,110 --> 00:17:59,210
Cher:
My mom is so happy to be a mimi.
411
00:17:59,212 --> 00:18:03,181
I'm so thankful to have a mother
who wants to help so much.
412
00:18:03,183 --> 00:18:05,616
But she's wanting
to be so involved.
413
00:18:05,618 --> 00:18:07,985
And right now,
I need this opportunity
414
00:18:07,987 --> 00:18:12,090
to really be a family
with just me, jared, and belle,
415
00:18:12,092 --> 00:18:14,092
without her in the picture.
416
00:18:14,094 --> 00:18:15,960
There's something that jared
and I have talked about
417
00:18:15,962 --> 00:18:17,495
that I need to tell my mom,
418
00:18:17,497 --> 00:18:20,098
but I haven't had the courage
to tell her yet.
419
00:18:20,100 --> 00:18:22,133
You asked
so many questions!
420
00:18:22,135 --> 00:18:23,801
I know.
I really got into it.
421
00:18:23,803 --> 00:18:26,204
I kind of, like, perked up.
I remembered everything
422
00:18:26,206 --> 00:18:27,238
all of a sudden.
I was glad.
423
00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:29,474
You had energy
for both of us.
424
00:18:29,476 --> 00:18:32,343
♪
425
00:18:32,345 --> 00:18:33,978
stop. Stop!
426
00:18:33,980 --> 00:18:36,147
I got it. I got it.
No, you don't! Stop!
427
00:18:36,149 --> 00:18:37,248
Okay.
428
00:18:39,385 --> 00:18:42,687
Know what, alena? Sometimes the
only way to do it is just do it.
429
00:18:45,125 --> 00:18:53,097
♪
430
00:18:53,099 --> 00:18:55,133
marcia: Good morning!
431
00:18:55,135 --> 00:18:57,401
Quick. Come on!
432
00:18:57,403 --> 00:18:59,837
Time to get me. Oh.
433
00:18:59,839 --> 00:19:02,807
Ohh!
434
00:19:02,809 --> 00:19:04,041
I'm gonna get you.
435
00:19:04,043 --> 00:19:05,209
Oh.
436
00:19:05,211 --> 00:19:07,211
[ both laugh ]
437
00:19:07,213 --> 00:19:08,513
marcia: Aah!
438
00:19:08,515 --> 00:19:10,414
Aah!
[ laughs ]
439
00:19:10,416 --> 00:19:15,219
♪
440
00:19:15,221 --> 00:19:16,787
guess what
we're doing today.
441
00:19:16,789 --> 00:19:18,990
What?
I'll give you a clue.
442
00:19:18,992 --> 00:19:22,393
[ hums ]
443
00:19:22,395 --> 00:19:23,728
no.
444
00:19:23,730 --> 00:19:25,396
Yeah.
Driving.
445
00:19:25,398 --> 00:19:27,165
Yay.
446
00:19:27,167 --> 00:19:29,167
What do you think?
447
00:19:29,169 --> 00:19:31,302
Marcia: The whole time
alena's been in college,
448
00:19:31,304 --> 00:19:34,038
I've gone to get her,
then bring her back,
449
00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:36,674
then take her back,
then gone to get her.
450
00:19:36,676 --> 00:19:40,244
So now it's just really time
for her to drive by herself.
451
00:19:43,216 --> 00:19:45,950
It's a whole new chapter
in our life.
452
00:19:45,952 --> 00:19:47,318
That's the way
I look at it.
453
00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:48,486
But you have to drive.
454
00:19:48,488 --> 00:19:51,656
Oh, yeah,
drive you crazy.
455
00:19:51,658 --> 00:19:53,891
You ready?
456
00:19:53,893 --> 00:19:55,726
No.
457
00:19:55,728 --> 00:19:58,062
Alena:
I think my fear of driving
458
00:19:58,064 --> 00:20:01,933
is that once I start
driving on my own,
459
00:20:01,935 --> 00:20:04,602
it's that detachment
from my mom.
460
00:20:04,604 --> 00:20:10,141
And so I think that's where
my emotions come from.
461
00:20:10,143 --> 00:20:11,209
You ready?
Yes.
462
00:20:11,211 --> 00:20:13,211
Alrighty.
We got to set up the car.
463
00:20:13,213 --> 00:20:14,679
Yeah, I'll get your stuff.
464
00:20:14,681 --> 00:20:18,216
Alena loves that, you know,
she can depend on me
465
00:20:18,218 --> 00:20:21,052
and that I want
to do things for her.
466
00:20:21,054 --> 00:20:23,421
And in some ways,
467
00:20:23,423 --> 00:20:26,958
she knows that
whatever she needs or wants,
468
00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:28,759
I'm going to end up doing it.
469
00:20:28,761 --> 00:20:31,128
Even though I don't want her
to stop needing me,
470
00:20:31,130 --> 00:20:33,598
she needs to take the next step
and drive
471
00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:35,199
to become more independent.
472
00:20:35,201 --> 00:20:37,068
Oops.
473
00:20:37,070 --> 00:20:38,636
Okay.
474
00:20:38,638 --> 00:20:40,004
Think that'll work.
475
00:20:40,006 --> 00:20:42,873
Alright, let me just --
yay.
476
00:20:42,875 --> 00:20:44,642
You're in
the driver's seat.
477
00:20:49,249 --> 00:20:51,115
Okay, ready?
Mm-hmm.
478
00:20:51,117 --> 00:20:52,984
[ alena's "highway" playing ]
479
00:20:52,986 --> 00:20:55,786
oh, let's -- wait, wait,
wait, we got to bop.
480
00:20:55,788 --> 00:20:58,756
We got to do --
♪ makin' me feel so special ♪
481
00:20:58,758 --> 00:21:01,092
♪ where do I put these nerves? ♪
482
00:21:01,094 --> 00:21:02,226
take our hats off?
483
00:21:02,228 --> 00:21:04,595
♪ 'cause I'm drivin'
on the highway ♪
484
00:21:04,597 --> 00:21:07,265
♪ and I'm finally goin' my way ♪
485
00:21:07,267 --> 00:21:09,433
♪ I'm drivin' on the highway ♪
486
00:21:09,435 --> 00:21:11,836
♪ and I'm drivin'
here with you ♪
487
00:21:11,838 --> 00:21:14,905
♪ so don't look back
'cause I don't wanna turn back ♪
488
00:21:14,907 --> 00:21:16,107
got to do the bop.
489
00:21:16,109 --> 00:21:17,808
Bop, bop.
♪ 'cause I don't wanna go back ♪
490
00:21:17,810 --> 00:21:19,277
♪ don't look back 'cause
I don't wanna turn back ♪
491
00:21:19,279 --> 00:21:20,978
off we go.
492
00:21:20,980 --> 00:21:23,214
♪ don't look back
'cause I'm not goin' back ♪
493
00:21:23,216 --> 00:21:24,248
you're too close to --
494
00:21:24,250 --> 00:21:25,983
[ car horn beeps ]
495
00:21:25,985 --> 00:21:27,184
no, go out -- go out --
496
00:21:27,186 --> 00:21:28,486
no, you're going
to hit the --
497
00:21:28,488 --> 00:21:30,655
you're going to hit
the side of the --
498
00:21:30,657 --> 00:21:31,889
no, ma.
Alright. Just go.
499
00:21:31,891 --> 00:21:32,923
Okay.
500
00:21:32,925 --> 00:21:34,392
Just make-believe
you can drive.
501
00:21:34,394 --> 00:21:35,960
[ both laugh ]
502
00:21:35,962 --> 00:21:37,662
make-believe.
That's real nice.
503
00:21:37,664 --> 00:21:40,064
Just go straight.
504
00:21:40,066 --> 00:21:42,700
♪ we're never goin' back ♪
505
00:21:42,702 --> 00:21:45,269
alena: I love the time my mom
and I spend together
506
00:21:45,271 --> 00:21:48,339
driving the hour and a half
back and forth to school.
507
00:21:48,341 --> 00:21:51,342
It's something we share.
We talk in the car.
508
00:21:51,344 --> 00:21:54,779
We play around. We sing.
We write songs.
509
00:21:54,781 --> 00:21:58,115
And so once I'm alone in my car,
510
00:21:58,117 --> 00:22:01,886
it's kind of like
a step to adulthood
511
00:22:01,888 --> 00:22:05,690
and that I'm letting go
of a big part of my life.
512
00:22:05,692 --> 00:22:10,328
And so that's the scary part
when it comes to driving.
513
00:22:10,330 --> 00:22:13,698
You're going too fast.
See that? Slow down.
514
00:22:13,700 --> 00:22:14,799
I am slow--
515
00:22:14,801 --> 00:22:16,100
that's why they have
that mirror there,
516
00:22:16,102 --> 00:22:18,169
so you can see if somebody's
coming out on this side,
517
00:22:18,171 --> 00:22:20,104
or they can see.
518
00:22:20,106 --> 00:22:21,972
They can see you coming.
They should run.
519
00:22:24,577 --> 00:22:27,778
I'm gonna go.
No, stop, stop, stop, stop.
520
00:22:27,780 --> 00:22:29,113
Okay.
521
00:22:29,115 --> 00:22:30,681
This is exactly
what I mean.
522
00:22:30,683 --> 00:22:32,583
Alright. Now you can go.
523
00:22:32,585 --> 00:22:34,618
Okay, here's what you got to do.
Put your blinker on.
524
00:22:34,620 --> 00:22:35,953
What's a blink-- oh.
525
00:22:35,955 --> 00:22:37,488
What do you mean, go left?
You're going to make a u-turn
526
00:22:37,490 --> 00:22:40,091
right here. Just go near
where it says "no outlet."
527
00:22:40,093 --> 00:22:41,192
I can't make a u-turn yet.
528
00:22:41,194 --> 00:22:42,326
Just -- where it says
529
00:22:42,328 --> 00:22:44,462
you're going to make
a four-pointer u-turn
530
00:22:44,464 --> 00:22:46,263
and turn -- go --
531
00:22:46,265 --> 00:22:48,432
alena, look to your left.
532
00:22:48,434 --> 00:22:49,867
Look -- you have to stop.
533
00:22:49,869 --> 00:22:51,535
Stop!
534
00:22:51,537 --> 00:22:52,570
Yeah, it's fine.
535
00:22:52,572 --> 00:22:54,605
No, it's not!
There's a car coming.
536
00:22:54,607 --> 00:22:57,274
Yeah, but it's letting me go.
You -- that's not the point.
537
00:22:57,276 --> 00:22:58,642
[ chuckles ]
538
00:22:58,644 --> 00:23:00,211
alright.
Now, this is tricky.
539
00:23:00,213 --> 00:23:02,179
Now, she has the right of way,
so stop.
540
00:23:02,181 --> 00:23:05,349
Just don't hit her.
She has the right of -- no.
541
00:23:05,351 --> 00:23:06,450
[ sighs ]
542
00:23:06,452 --> 00:23:08,452
[ chuckles ]
you get so scared.
543
00:23:08,454 --> 00:23:11,956
Just...
Go in the parking lot.
544
00:23:11,958 --> 00:23:14,859
So, let's just
parallel park.
545
00:23:14,861 --> 00:23:16,427
I want you to back up,
546
00:23:16,429 --> 00:23:19,029
and then I want you
to back into the spot.
547
00:23:19,031 --> 00:23:21,332
[ shifter clicking ]
548
00:23:21,334 --> 00:23:24,835
♪
549
00:23:24,837 --> 00:23:26,904
turn your wheel.
Look. This way. Yoo-hoo.
550
00:23:26,906 --> 00:23:29,507
Yo.
No, that's the wrong way.
551
00:23:29,509 --> 00:23:33,511
That's the wrong way.
That's the wrong way.
552
00:23:33,513 --> 00:23:35,079
Look. Look out --
you see these two?
553
00:23:35,081 --> 00:23:36,414
I want you to look
in the mirror,
554
00:23:36,416 --> 00:23:38,115
and I want you
to look here.
555
00:23:38,117 --> 00:23:39,283
I am. And it's off.
556
00:23:39,285 --> 00:23:41,619
So then go that way
and straighten out first.
557
00:23:41,621 --> 00:23:43,821
That's what I'm trying to --
do not look at this.
558
00:23:43,823 --> 00:23:45,256
She's yelling at me.
559
00:23:45,258 --> 00:23:48,092
Like, and I'm like,
"but I'm doing everything."
560
00:23:48,094 --> 00:23:51,996
so I guess, like, I think my mom
loves to take care of me.
561
00:23:51,998 --> 00:23:53,864
But then on the other hand,
she's like,
562
00:23:53,866 --> 00:23:55,733
"oh, you got to do this
on your own."
563
00:23:55,735 --> 00:23:59,537
♪
564
00:23:59,539 --> 00:24:02,440
see? See the line?
565
00:24:02,442 --> 00:24:05,142
♪
566
00:24:05,144 --> 00:24:06,577
no, you're not
in the line.
567
00:24:06,579 --> 00:24:08,746
There's no --
you're not in the line.
568
00:24:08,748 --> 00:24:11,348
I can't park.
569
00:24:11,350 --> 00:24:12,783
Because you don't
want to listen.
570
00:24:12,785 --> 00:24:13,851
Alright.
You're still doing it.
571
00:24:13,853 --> 00:24:15,853
You're not waiting
for any direction.
572
00:24:15,855 --> 00:24:18,322
Just stop. Stop. Stop!
573
00:24:18,324 --> 00:24:19,523
I got it. I got it.
Stop.
574
00:24:19,525 --> 00:24:20,558
I got it.
Stop!
575
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:22,393
I got it.
No, you don't! Stop!
576
00:24:22,395 --> 00:24:23,661
Okay.
577
00:24:26,999 --> 00:24:28,466
Are you going to cry?
578
00:24:28,468 --> 00:24:30,734
Why?
579
00:24:30,736 --> 00:24:32,536
Why am I
getting you anxious?
580
00:24:33,773 --> 00:24:35,206
I'm what?
581
00:24:36,642 --> 00:24:38,042
I'm being mean?
582
00:24:38,044 --> 00:24:40,444
I'm not being mean. I want --
I want you to --
583
00:24:44,584 --> 00:24:46,784
[ sighs ]
what are you gonna --
584
00:24:46,786 --> 00:24:49,186
you can't --
585
00:24:49,188 --> 00:24:51,455
then you have to listen
to somebody.
586
00:24:51,457 --> 00:24:52,957
Because you can't
drive like that.
587
00:24:52,959 --> 00:24:55,626
You can't do that.
You're going to get hurt.
588
00:24:55,628 --> 00:24:57,928
Marcia: I hate losing
my temper with alena,
589
00:24:57,930 --> 00:24:59,263
but I just need to push her
590
00:24:59,265 --> 00:25:02,967
so that she'll get over the hump
and just drive.
591
00:25:02,969 --> 00:25:07,171
I'm somewhat conflicted,
because if she starts to drive,
592
00:25:07,173 --> 00:25:10,074
there's always a chance
she might not need me so much.
593
00:25:10,076 --> 00:25:11,709
I'm literally
in a parking lot.
594
00:25:11,711 --> 00:25:13,644
It doesn't matter.
595
00:25:13,646 --> 00:25:16,313
I can't let you be and you don't
know what you're doing.
596
00:25:18,818 --> 00:25:21,452
Oh, really?
597
00:25:21,454 --> 00:25:23,454
Because you're driving.
I'm not.
598
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:29,426
We're going to go back
to the house.
599
00:25:29,428 --> 00:25:32,196
You have to practice.
That's what driving's about.
600
00:25:36,736 --> 00:25:40,538
Know what, alena? Sometimes the
only way to do it is just do it.
601
00:25:40,540 --> 00:25:47,144
♪
602
00:25:47,146 --> 00:25:50,381
next time,
you have to listen.
603
00:25:50,383 --> 00:25:51,515
I mean, you're getting --
604
00:25:51,517 --> 00:25:54,118
I can't drive with her.
605
00:25:54,120 --> 00:25:57,021
You can't know how to do
everything all the time.
606
00:25:58,357 --> 00:26:00,658
I'm not always screaming at you.
Nobody was screaming at you
607
00:26:00,660 --> 00:26:03,260
till I told you to turn
the wheel, and then you --
608
00:26:04,897 --> 00:26:06,597
you did well,
but this is not --
609
00:26:06,599 --> 00:26:08,365
this is not something
you're supposed to know
610
00:26:08,367 --> 00:26:11,101
how to do all the time.
611
00:26:11,103 --> 00:26:12,570
So every time
you learn something,
612
00:26:12,572 --> 00:26:14,672
you can't start crying
and getting upset that --
613
00:26:14,674 --> 00:26:16,307
you just -- you have to --
614
00:26:16,309 --> 00:26:19,076
but you are.
615
00:26:19,078 --> 00:26:22,746
It's not just
parallel parking.
616
00:26:22,748 --> 00:26:24,615
Marcia: I think the emotions
about driving
617
00:26:24,617 --> 00:26:26,350
aren't just about the driving.
618
00:26:26,352 --> 00:26:30,087
It's really about letting go.
It would be easy for me
619
00:26:30,089 --> 00:26:32,489
to just let things
stay the way they are.
620
00:26:32,491 --> 00:26:34,458
But I have to just let go,
621
00:26:34,460 --> 00:26:37,428
even though
it kind of breaks my heart.
622
00:26:37,430 --> 00:26:44,068
♪
623
00:26:44,070 --> 00:26:46,337
next time,
I will yell at you.
624
00:26:46,339 --> 00:26:49,239
♪
625
00:26:49,241 --> 00:26:51,508
I've been hearing for a while
that you're going to change.
626
00:26:51,510 --> 00:26:53,510
Once a cheater,
always a cheater.
627
00:26:53,512 --> 00:26:54,745
God made me a certain way.
628
00:26:54,747 --> 00:26:56,280
I'm not going to
fight it no more.
629
00:26:56,282 --> 00:26:58,983
[ crying ]
630
00:26:58,985 --> 00:27:00,384
isn't that
a little strange,
631
00:27:00,386 --> 00:27:03,087
you listening in
to their private conversation?
632
00:27:03,089 --> 00:27:05,789
No. We do
everything together.
633
00:27:05,791 --> 00:27:08,826
I think out of anybody,
you'd understand that the most.
634
00:27:11,530 --> 00:27:16,667
♪
635
00:27:16,669 --> 00:27:21,872
♪
636
00:27:26,612 --> 00:27:29,246
hey, honey.
637
00:27:29,248 --> 00:27:33,951
When frank and I have arguments,
638
00:27:33,953 --> 00:27:37,187
sometimes it will get so bad.
639
00:27:37,189 --> 00:27:40,124
That he will spend the night
at his store.
640
00:27:40,126 --> 00:27:43,160
And then the next day
after he's cooled down,
641
00:27:43,162 --> 00:27:45,963
you know, we'll meet halfway,
you know,
642
00:27:45,965 --> 00:27:49,166
and we'll try
to discuss the issue.
643
00:27:52,471 --> 00:27:54,838
Are we going to have
our discussion now?
644
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,141
-Hi, honey.
-Hi, mom.
645
00:27:57,143 --> 00:27:59,410
Come here.
646
00:27:59,412 --> 00:28:01,311
-Honey, I'll be right there.
-Okay.
647
00:28:01,313 --> 00:28:03,113
Okay?
648
00:28:03,115 --> 00:28:05,182
Right. I guess I'll give him
another chance.
649
00:28:05,184 --> 00:28:06,850
Oh, my god.
650
00:28:06,852 --> 00:28:08,652
You know how long
I've been hearing that?
651
00:28:08,654 --> 00:28:09,953
I know.
Eight years?
652
00:28:09,955 --> 00:28:11,955
I know, but I think I'll --
almost nine years?
653
00:28:14,627 --> 00:28:15,893
I've worked so hard.
654
00:28:15,895 --> 00:28:20,864
I put so much of myself,
my heart into this relationship,
655
00:28:20,866 --> 00:28:24,268
that I just don't want
to toss it out the window
656
00:28:24,270 --> 00:28:26,603
and say, "okay, it's done."
657
00:28:26,605 --> 00:28:28,906
so I had the devil on
one shoulder telling me,
658
00:28:28,908 --> 00:28:31,542
"once a cheater,
always a cheater."
659
00:28:31,544 --> 00:28:32,876
and the other, the angel, going,
660
00:28:32,878 --> 00:28:34,278
"no, you don't really want
to do that,
661
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:36,113
'cause you really do love him."
662
00:28:40,419 --> 00:28:41,719
oh, my god. Okay.
663
00:28:41,721 --> 00:28:44,354
Can I just, like,
sit down, please?
664
00:28:44,356 --> 00:28:45,923
[ sighs ]
665
00:28:45,925 --> 00:28:50,027
I'm not ready to give up.
Not ready to give up.
666
00:28:50,029 --> 00:28:53,030
And I know frank's
not ready to give up.
667
00:28:53,032 --> 00:28:54,898
Now, brittani,
on the other hand,
668
00:28:54,900 --> 00:28:58,068
they really need to sit down
and talk things out.
669
00:28:58,070 --> 00:29:03,640
And, you know, maybe she can
gain trust back with him.
670
00:29:03,642 --> 00:29:07,111
I'm just, like, trying to think
about, like, you know,
671
00:29:07,113 --> 00:29:08,946
still about
the bachelor party.
672
00:29:08,948 --> 00:29:11,415
Like, I understand that was
the past, but still, like,
673
00:29:11,417 --> 00:29:13,150
I don't get
the whole point of it.
674
00:29:13,152 --> 00:29:16,487
Right.
Why it happened.
675
00:29:16,489 --> 00:29:19,423
Like, I know what happened.
I got that answered.
676
00:29:19,425 --> 00:29:21,558
Listen, just put it
underneath somewhere,
677
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:23,961
'cause it's not who I am.
678
00:29:23,963 --> 00:29:25,896
It's not who I am.
679
00:29:25,898 --> 00:29:30,000
♪
680
00:29:30,002 --> 00:29:32,436
I've been hearing for a while
that you're going to change.
681
00:29:32,438 --> 00:29:34,938
And, I mean, like,
if you wanted to change,
682
00:29:34,940 --> 00:29:36,373
I would think
it would happen sooner.
683
00:29:36,375 --> 00:29:38,175
Well, you know,
we're not all the same.
684
00:29:38,177 --> 00:29:40,277
What can I say?
685
00:29:40,279 --> 00:29:41,712
You know,
god made me a certain way.
686
00:29:41,714 --> 00:29:43,280
I'm not going to
fight it no more.
687
00:29:43,282 --> 00:29:45,182
I feel like when you're
talking to me like this,
688
00:29:45,184 --> 00:29:46,884
it's like you want --
689
00:29:46,886 --> 00:29:50,387
you want mom
to do something about me.
690
00:29:50,389 --> 00:29:51,722
And that's really
a conversation
691
00:29:51,724 --> 00:29:53,791
between you and her.
692
00:29:53,793 --> 00:29:55,592
Well, I just want --
am I willing to change?
693
00:29:55,594 --> 00:29:57,928
Every single day, yes.
694
00:29:57,930 --> 00:29:59,296
Every single day.
695
00:29:59,298 --> 00:30:01,465
Is it easy for me?
Absolutely not.
696
00:30:01,467 --> 00:30:03,200
I just worry about my mom.
That's all.
697
00:30:03,202 --> 00:30:05,202
Of course. Of course.
698
00:30:05,204 --> 00:30:08,472
I'm not together with her
just to hurt her.
699
00:30:08,474 --> 00:30:11,508
That was never the plan.
700
00:30:11,510 --> 00:30:14,111
You know, I think
in my case with brittani,
701
00:30:14,113 --> 00:30:17,314
I have to take a step at a time.
702
00:30:17,316 --> 00:30:22,085
We've disagreed plenty.
And I want to cool off.
703
00:30:22,087 --> 00:30:23,821
I want to just give it a rest.
704
00:30:23,823 --> 00:30:25,989
You still keep giving him
chances and chances
705
00:30:25,991 --> 00:30:27,825
and chances and chances.
706
00:30:27,827 --> 00:30:29,293
I love you.
I know.
707
00:30:29,295 --> 00:30:30,761
But I love him.
708
00:30:32,364 --> 00:30:34,965
Are you sure?
I've seen her really broken.
709
00:30:34,967 --> 00:30:37,000
Like, I've seen her,
like, literally cry
710
00:30:37,002 --> 00:30:38,535
because she's so upset.
711
00:30:38,537 --> 00:30:40,571
Like, you know, when you're
not around, she's always like,
712
00:30:40,573 --> 00:30:45,008
wanting me to be there for her.
I'm there for her.
713
00:30:45,010 --> 00:30:48,478
I think I think, in a way,
I was jealous of you.
714
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:49,980
Honestly.
It's the truth.
715
00:30:49,982 --> 00:30:52,349
I'm sorry. I'm just
finding that really funny.
716
00:30:52,351 --> 00:30:54,785
Okay. But you know what?
He's right.
717
00:30:54,787 --> 00:30:57,721
♪
718
00:30:57,723 --> 00:31:02,426
mary is a wonderful mother
to brittani.
719
00:31:02,428 --> 00:31:03,560
I'm jealous of that.
720
00:31:03,562 --> 00:31:07,364
I'm jealous of that
particular relationship.
721
00:31:07,366 --> 00:31:09,166
Yep.
He used to get so mad
722
00:31:09,168 --> 00:31:11,501
when brittani and I
would sleep together
723
00:31:11,503 --> 00:31:13,370
and hang out in her bedroom,
724
00:31:13,372 --> 00:31:15,505
and he would say, "come on."
it was weird.
725
00:31:15,507 --> 00:31:17,507
It's not weird.
It was what I wasn't used to.
726
00:31:17,509 --> 00:31:19,543
We're mother-daughter, so...
Right. Okay.
727
00:31:19,545 --> 00:31:21,645
...We just have that bond.
728
00:31:21,647 --> 00:31:24,581
So, I've been angry.
I've been very angry,
729
00:31:24,583 --> 00:31:30,454
and I feel like that's really
a huge revelation for me.
730
00:31:30,456 --> 00:31:33,457
You know,
my firstborn, okay,
731
00:31:33,459 --> 00:31:36,159
she hasn't spoken
to me in,
732
00:31:36,161 --> 00:31:39,296
I think it's a good six,
six, seven years.
733
00:31:39,298 --> 00:31:41,064
Today's her birthday.
734
00:31:41,066 --> 00:31:44,101
I took a chance today.
I text her.
735
00:31:44,103 --> 00:31:47,170
So today, she finally --
she says, "thank you."
736
00:31:47,172 --> 00:31:48,372
wow.
Yeah.
737
00:31:48,374 --> 00:31:51,441
And that was a big thing
for me.
738
00:31:51,443 --> 00:31:53,810
You know,
something is working.
739
00:31:53,812 --> 00:31:55,012
[ voice breaking ]
that's good.
740
00:31:55,014 --> 00:31:56,914
Yeah.
Sorry.
741
00:31:56,916 --> 00:31:59,082
I'm just happy for you. Good.
Thank you.
742
00:31:59,084 --> 00:32:01,585
I couldn't imagine,
you know --
743
00:32:01,587 --> 00:32:03,954
that's why I get sad,
and I cry,
744
00:32:03,956 --> 00:32:08,525
is because if I didn't have
that relationship with you,
745
00:32:08,527 --> 00:32:11,528
god, I would want to die.
746
00:32:11,530 --> 00:32:13,764
You're my everything,
you know?
747
00:32:13,766 --> 00:32:17,000
So I'm a little emotional
because...
748
00:32:23,542 --> 00:32:24,875
Yeah.
749
00:32:28,180 --> 00:32:30,847
I know you feel
this way about me.
750
00:32:30,849 --> 00:32:33,016
And it's hard, very hard.
751
00:32:33,018 --> 00:32:35,385
You know, I've made
a lot of mistakes.
752
00:32:35,387 --> 00:32:37,354
I don't wish it on nobody.
753
00:32:37,356 --> 00:32:38,956
You know, some issues,
like, I get --
754
00:32:38,958 --> 00:32:43,393
I tell you,
you got to let that go.
755
00:32:43,395 --> 00:32:45,963
I really don't know
how to really feel right now,
756
00:32:45,965 --> 00:32:47,864
though, still. You know,
it takes time for me
757
00:32:47,866 --> 00:32:50,867
to really trust you again.
Yeah. Understood.
758
00:32:50,869 --> 00:32:56,406
♪
759
00:32:56,408 --> 00:33:01,311
♪ nobody can, nobody can ♪
760
00:33:01,313 --> 00:33:06,249
♪ nobody can tell me I can't ♪
761
00:33:06,251 --> 00:33:07,517
♪ tell me I can't,
tell me I can't ♪
762
00:33:07,519 --> 00:33:08,885
thank you.
763
00:33:08,887 --> 00:33:11,455
Angelica: We are meeting my mom
and brett for dinner,
764
00:33:11,457 --> 00:33:15,792
and I'm just hoping
for a nice, drama-free night.
765
00:33:15,794 --> 00:33:17,861
I think my mom is concerned
766
00:33:17,863 --> 00:33:21,198
that jason isn't
the right person for me
767
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:26,336
just because he's had so many
things that he's had to do.
768
00:33:26,338 --> 00:33:28,805
I do care about
my mom's concerns,
769
00:33:28,807 --> 00:33:31,641
but at this very moment,
I really don't,
770
00:33:31,643 --> 00:33:34,711
because jason has taking care
of the divorce,
771
00:33:34,713 --> 00:33:38,515
got rid of his ex-girlfriend's
stuff in his house.
772
00:33:38,517 --> 00:33:42,219
Yes, it took some time,
but it still got done.
773
00:33:44,189 --> 00:33:46,957
[ sighs ]
774
00:33:46,959 --> 00:33:49,726
how's your mom
and brett doing?
775
00:33:49,728 --> 00:33:51,294
Uh...
776
00:33:51,296 --> 00:33:53,697
I don't think so good.
777
00:33:53,699 --> 00:33:59,169
She was just talking about just
some issues in the relationship.
778
00:33:59,171 --> 00:34:00,270
What happened?
779
00:34:00,272 --> 00:34:04,341
They had a big discussion
the other day,
780
00:34:04,343 --> 00:34:07,177
and my mom called me,
781
00:34:07,179 --> 00:34:09,880
and I listened
to the whole thing.
782
00:34:09,882 --> 00:34:11,715
So you were basically
listening in?
783
00:34:11,717 --> 00:34:12,849
Yeah.
784
00:34:12,851 --> 00:34:15,952
What was it, like, an argument
or something?
785
00:34:15,954 --> 00:34:19,189
No, not necessarily
an argument,
786
00:34:19,191 --> 00:34:20,891
just them talking
about some issues
787
00:34:20,893 --> 00:34:24,494
that they have
in their relationship.
788
00:34:24,496 --> 00:34:26,029
Isn't that
a little strange,
789
00:34:26,031 --> 00:34:29,032
you listening in
to their private conversation
790
00:34:29,034 --> 00:34:30,067
like that?
791
00:34:30,069 --> 00:34:33,403
No.
792
00:34:33,405 --> 00:34:36,540
We do everything together,
support each other.
793
00:34:36,542 --> 00:34:39,776
But that's their business.
794
00:34:39,778 --> 00:34:41,445
No?
795
00:34:41,447 --> 00:34:43,280
No.
796
00:34:43,282 --> 00:34:46,149
My mom wants my support,
and I'm gonna give it to her.
797
00:34:46,151 --> 00:34:49,953
You might be a little biased
in that department, but --
798
00:34:49,955 --> 00:34:52,422
biased how?
799
00:34:52,424 --> 00:34:54,091
That's your mother.
800
00:34:54,093 --> 00:34:56,493
You're always
going to take her side.
801
00:34:56,495 --> 00:35:01,198
Not necessarily taking her side,
just supporting her.
802
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:04,968
I think out of anybody,
you'd understand that the most.
803
00:35:04,970 --> 00:35:09,406
It's still a little strange
that, without brett's knowledge,
804
00:35:09,408 --> 00:35:11,341
your mother called you
and had you listen in
805
00:35:11,343 --> 00:35:14,778
on their little
discussion together.
806
00:35:14,780 --> 00:35:17,314
It's not strange.
807
00:35:17,316 --> 00:35:18,882
-Hey, guys.
-Hey.
808
00:35:18,884 --> 00:35:20,750
-How you been, buddy?
-Hey, how you doing?
809
00:35:20,752 --> 00:35:21,918
-Good.
-Nice to see you.
810
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,387
-Hey, mama.
-Hi.
811
00:35:24,389 --> 00:35:26,823
I knew angelica's
relationship to sunhe
812
00:35:26,825 --> 00:35:28,792
was strong
from the beginning.
813
00:35:28,794 --> 00:35:32,162
But I feel sunhe can be
a little overbearing,
814
00:35:32,164 --> 00:35:34,664
maybe a little tough
at times.
815
00:35:34,666 --> 00:35:37,467
It is very clear to me that
my relationship with angelica
816
00:35:37,469 --> 00:35:41,438
will not progress
as long as sunhe is around.
817
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,641
♪
818
00:35:44,643 --> 00:35:46,743
so, how's your trip
so far, brett?
819
00:35:46,745 --> 00:35:48,745
Oh, it's been great.
820
00:35:48,747 --> 00:35:51,648
And you guys?
821
00:35:51,650 --> 00:35:54,417
Well...
822
00:35:54,419 --> 00:35:57,354
Jason signed
his divorce papers.
823
00:35:57,356 --> 00:35:58,622
You did?
824
00:35:58,624 --> 00:36:00,524
I guess that's
congratulations, buddy.
825
00:36:00,526 --> 00:36:02,993
You got the ball rolling
in the right direction.
826
00:36:02,995 --> 00:36:05,428
[ sighs ] finally.
Long time coming, but --
827
00:36:05,430 --> 00:36:07,297
yeah, finally.
828
00:36:07,299 --> 00:36:09,533
I appreciate that.
And I'm glad you're here.
829
00:36:09,535 --> 00:36:11,902
It's really nice
to see you.
830
00:36:11,904 --> 00:36:14,538
Brett's in town. They're
supposed to have a nice weekend.
831
00:36:14,540 --> 00:36:16,606
I got the divorce.
832
00:36:16,608 --> 00:36:18,375
Thank you for the support.
833
00:36:18,377 --> 00:36:20,777
♪
834
00:36:20,779 --> 00:36:22,179
cheers, everyone.
835
00:36:22,181 --> 00:36:23,346
Good to see you.
Good to talk to you.
836
00:36:23,348 --> 00:36:24,381
Good to see you.
837
00:36:24,383 --> 00:36:27,951
Especially good
to see you.
838
00:36:27,953 --> 00:36:30,787
Cheers.
839
00:36:30,789 --> 00:36:33,557
And I would imagine
you're ecstatic.
840
00:36:33,559 --> 00:36:35,559
I-I can't believe it.
841
00:36:35,561 --> 00:36:37,594
I thought that would be, like,
the last thing that he'd do.
842
00:36:37,596 --> 00:36:39,162
I knew it was going to come,
843
00:36:39,164 --> 00:36:42,299
but it's like
the first thing that he did.
844
00:36:42,301 --> 00:36:44,601
Wow. I would think
that you would be happy
845
00:36:44,603 --> 00:36:47,404
about the whole situation.
846
00:36:47,406 --> 00:36:49,472
Sunhe: I would like
to be happy about it,
847
00:36:49,474 --> 00:36:53,677
but I'm actually
not happy about it.
848
00:36:53,679 --> 00:37:00,684
♪
849
00:37:00,686 --> 00:37:02,852
I see through him.
850
00:37:02,854 --> 00:37:05,555
I see right through his actions.
851
00:37:05,557 --> 00:37:07,457
And because of that,
852
00:37:07,459 --> 00:37:12,596
I feel like I have
to constantly protect her.
853
00:37:12,598 --> 00:37:17,801
♪
854
00:37:17,803 --> 00:37:23,006
♪
855
00:37:24,876 --> 00:37:30,146
♪
856
00:37:30,148 --> 00:37:35,385
♪
857
00:37:35,387 --> 00:37:39,923
sunhe has a special ability
of taking a happy situation
858
00:37:39,925 --> 00:37:41,858
and making it unhappy.
859
00:37:41,860 --> 00:37:44,461
Lot of people
have filters on things.
860
00:37:44,463 --> 00:37:46,863
Not with her. She pretty much
voices her opinion
861
00:37:46,865 --> 00:37:48,498
on everything she feels
862
00:37:48,500 --> 00:37:52,702
and is not afraid
to tell the whole table that.
863
00:37:52,704 --> 00:37:54,804
I know angelica's
your daughter,
864
00:37:54,806 --> 00:37:57,107
and you're trying
to protect her in your eyes.
865
00:37:57,109 --> 00:38:02,646
But wouldn't you focus on
your own relationship, as well,
866
00:38:02,648 --> 00:38:05,448
instead of always
being over us?
867
00:38:08,987 --> 00:38:12,455
Sunhe: Do you think we have
problems in our relationship?
868
00:38:12,457 --> 00:38:13,723
We have struggles.
869
00:38:13,725 --> 00:38:17,160
The distance thing
is one of them, yes.
870
00:38:17,162 --> 00:38:21,798
If angelica wasn't
here in las vegas,
871
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,701
you would be with me
in omaha.
872
00:38:24,703 --> 00:38:29,406
She is keeping you here
and keeping us apart.
873
00:38:29,408 --> 00:38:31,975
Why does she have
to move over there?
874
00:38:31,977 --> 00:38:33,610
I'm not leaving my boys.
875
00:38:33,612 --> 00:38:35,779
They're at a very
impressionable age.
876
00:38:35,781 --> 00:38:37,447
I'm not going
to abandon them.
877
00:38:37,449 --> 00:38:39,149
Well, you wouldn't be
abandoning them.
878
00:38:39,151 --> 00:38:40,583
You'd just be moving.
879
00:38:40,585 --> 00:38:43,486
When you're 13 and 16,
880
00:38:43,488 --> 00:38:46,256
no. They're not going to be
without daddy.
881
00:38:46,258 --> 00:38:51,294
♪
882
00:38:51,296 --> 00:38:53,763
I think they're old enough.
883
00:38:53,765 --> 00:38:56,032
Teenagers, both of them.
884
00:38:56,034 --> 00:38:57,867
They're not infants.
885
00:39:07,646 --> 00:39:11,014
You're asking me to leave omaha
and leave my children.
886
00:39:11,016 --> 00:39:13,883
But yet you're not willing
to part with your mother,
887
00:39:13,885 --> 00:39:16,219
and your 32?
888
00:39:16,221 --> 00:39:20,190
♪
889
00:39:20,192 --> 00:39:23,993
I feel like tonight's dinner
is focusing on jason
890
00:39:23,995 --> 00:39:26,029
and what he hasn't done,
891
00:39:26,031 --> 00:39:28,698
whereas brett hasn't really
done much for my mom.
892
00:39:30,902 --> 00:39:34,704
It makes me feel
like I'm secondary
893
00:39:34,706 --> 00:39:37,040
and that I'm not
894
00:39:37,042 --> 00:39:40,977
his number-one priority.
895
00:39:40,979 --> 00:39:43,346
And that's something
I'm going to have to deal with.
896
00:39:43,348 --> 00:39:45,749
I knew going in
that you two were close,
897
00:39:45,751 --> 00:39:49,052
but I find it a little odd how
close you guys actually are...
898
00:39:49,054 --> 00:39:50,520
Well, get over it, jason.
...In every aspect
899
00:39:50,522 --> 00:39:52,188
of all your lives.
Get over it, jason.
900
00:39:52,190 --> 00:39:53,289
Some of this is private.
901
00:39:53,291 --> 00:39:55,225
It's not going to change.
902
00:39:55,227 --> 00:40:00,630
I think angelica and sunhe
have a...
903
00:40:00,632 --> 00:40:02,532
A bond that can
never be broken.
904
00:40:02,534 --> 00:40:05,535
At this point in time,
they fill their own void,
905
00:40:05,537 --> 00:40:07,771
it seems.
906
00:40:07,773 --> 00:40:08,938
Didn't you kind of
already realize
907
00:40:08,940 --> 00:40:14,210
someday that she would find
a potential husband?
908
00:40:14,212 --> 00:40:15,712
Yeah, but not jason.
909
00:40:15,714 --> 00:40:17,247
Ooh.
910
00:40:17,249 --> 00:40:20,350
♪
911
00:40:20,352 --> 00:40:23,386
it was supposed to be
angelica and myself.
912
00:40:23,388 --> 00:40:25,622
Forever?
Just you two?
913
00:40:25,624 --> 00:40:29,092
It's always been us two.
Is that it?
914
00:40:29,094 --> 00:40:32,195
It's not going to change
because you're in the picture,
915
00:40:32,197 --> 00:40:35,331
or that you're in the picture,
as well.
916
00:40:35,333 --> 00:40:37,700
It's angelica and I.
917
00:40:37,702 --> 00:40:39,702
♪
918
00:40:39,704 --> 00:40:43,072
my mom and I
have never been secretive
919
00:40:43,074 --> 00:40:44,474
about how close we are.
920
00:40:44,476 --> 00:40:47,777
We've been very up-front
about our bond.
921
00:40:47,779 --> 00:40:52,315
So if it's becoming
an issue now, it shouldn't be.
922
00:40:52,317 --> 00:40:55,485
♪
923
00:40:55,487 --> 00:40:57,954
sunhe:
We choose to be with them.
924
00:40:57,956 --> 00:41:01,658
It's a choice
that we both make.
925
00:41:01,660 --> 00:41:03,293
But if we choose not to,
926
00:41:03,295 --> 00:41:06,696
then that's also
our choice, as well.
927
00:41:06,698 --> 00:41:08,431
We've always been together,
928
00:41:08,433 --> 00:41:10,733
and that's the way
it's going to remain.
929
00:41:10,735 --> 00:41:15,772
If you have a problem with that
and you don't like that,
930
00:41:15,774 --> 00:41:17,807
you know where you can go.
931
00:41:17,809 --> 00:41:20,443
I can make this
even more difficult for you.
932
00:41:20,445 --> 00:41:22,579
So don't mess with me.
933
00:41:22,581 --> 00:41:29,285
♪
934
00:41:29,287 --> 00:41:30,687
next time on "smothered"...
935
00:41:30,689 --> 00:41:33,022
This is exactly why
I did not want to move in here.
936
00:41:33,024 --> 00:41:34,524
What has that got to do
with moving in here?!
937
00:41:34,526 --> 00:41:36,125
Because you're
designing my kitchen!
938
00:41:36,127 --> 00:41:39,329
Carlo's taste is kind of
meat-head modern.
939
00:41:39,331 --> 00:41:40,730
Aww!
940
00:41:40,732 --> 00:41:42,398
I'm gonna take her.
941
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:45,435
At the moment, I don't have
a plane ticket coming home.
942
00:41:45,437 --> 00:41:48,404
I'm afraid I'm going to miss
something by going back.
943
00:41:48,406 --> 00:41:51,708
Did you talk to them
about going home?
944
00:41:51,710 --> 00:41:52,876
Woman: Go!
945
00:41:52,878 --> 00:41:55,578
[ all cheering,
screaming indistinctly ]
946
00:41:55,580 --> 00:41:58,815
we're so excited
for wienerfest.
947
00:41:58,817 --> 00:42:00,850
Sarah, I'm getting dizzy.
I can't stand in the sun.
948
00:42:00,852 --> 00:42:02,819
Are you okay?
No, I'm really not.
949
00:42:02,821 --> 00:42:04,754
My blood pressure.
She needs to sit.
950
00:42:04,756 --> 00:42:07,190
[ dogs barking ]
951
00:42:07,192 --> 00:42:08,825
we're finally here.
952
00:42:08,827 --> 00:42:10,593
Brittani:
I feel like lewis is different.
953
00:42:10,595 --> 00:42:13,196
Most guys just care
about one thing.
954
00:42:13,198 --> 00:42:16,633
You'd be crazy if you didn't,
like, jump on this.
955
00:42:16,635 --> 00:42:18,034
This is the guy.
956
00:42:18,036 --> 00:42:20,870
I feel like she doesn't know
the whole picture of how I feel,
957
00:42:20,872 --> 00:42:23,673
because I have a big secret
I haven't told anyone,
958
00:42:23,675 --> 00:42:25,475
including my mom.
959
00:42:25,477 --> 00:42:27,043
I need to
tell you something,
960
00:42:27,045 --> 00:42:30,914
and I don't want you
to look at me differently.
961
00:42:30,916 --> 00:42:32,015
Okay?