1 00:00:13,375 --> 00:00:16,375 -Tell me where you're having pain. -It's the same. I'm over it! 2 00:00:16,458 --> 00:00:17,458 Right here? 3 00:00:19,125 --> 00:00:22,666 Take a deep breath. 4 00:00:23,250 --> 00:00:24,708 Now let it out. 5 00:00:25,291 --> 00:00:27,916 Big cough. 6 00:00:28,583 --> 00:00:31,541 I'll write a prescription for you. You'll feel good in no time. 7 00:00:31,625 --> 00:00:33,333 … for you and Ada. Everything! 8 00:00:33,416 --> 00:00:37,041 How long will you leave her this time? How long? 9 00:00:37,125 --> 00:00:38,750 -Answer me! -Enough! 10 00:00:39,625 --> 00:00:42,458 -I'm getting the hell out of here! -Get the hell out, then! 11 00:00:55,625 --> 00:01:01,791 Baby girl, I have to leave for a while. And you won't see me for a long time. 12 00:01:01,875 --> 00:01:04,625 I'll explain one day when you're grown up. 13 00:01:04,708 --> 00:01:06,875 When you'll be old enough to understand. 14 00:01:08,208 --> 00:01:12,166 You're a very smart girl. Take care of your mom, okay? 15 00:01:33,958 --> 00:01:36,125 How does little Ada feel? 16 00:01:36,833 --> 00:01:37,958 Lonely. 17 00:01:40,125 --> 00:01:42,166 What else do you feel? 18 00:01:42,250 --> 00:01:44,375 Observe your bodily sensations. 19 00:01:44,875 --> 00:01:47,000 Sad. 20 00:01:50,125 --> 00:01:51,750 BARCELONA - SITGES 2024 21 00:01:51,833 --> 00:01:53,208 Abandoned. 22 00:01:54,625 --> 00:01:58,000 And when you are sad, what happens in your body? 23 00:02:00,750 --> 00:02:02,333 I feel something here. 24 00:02:04,416 --> 00:02:05,583 Like pain. 25 00:02:06,375 --> 00:02:10,250 Numbness in my head. Here. 26 00:02:11,375 --> 00:02:13,250 My legs tremble. 27 00:02:13,333 --> 00:02:17,583 Why do I still feel lonely, Carla? 28 00:02:17,666 --> 00:02:23,500 Well, from what you have told me, your father grew up outside his family. 29 00:02:23,583 --> 00:02:29,333 Bueno, he must have felt the pain of not being with his family 30 00:02:29,416 --> 00:02:31,250 at such a young age, no? 31 00:02:31,958 --> 00:02:38,583 And your mother may have felt that your father was abandoning her. 32 00:02:38,666 --> 00:02:42,583 Because there was someone else who was more important to him. 33 00:02:43,375 --> 00:02:47,166 So, you see, from both sides, we see this loneliness. 34 00:02:48,250 --> 00:02:50,375 Mm. Carla. 35 00:02:51,500 --> 00:02:55,750 I came here because you offered me to work together in this clinic. 36 00:02:56,541 --> 00:02:59,125 Sevgi needs treatment, not me. 37 00:02:59,708 --> 00:03:03,000 So, can we talk about her situation? 38 00:03:03,083 --> 00:03:05,625 Don't worry. We will work with Sevgi. 39 00:03:05,708 --> 00:03:10,291 But what about you, Ada? What do you need for yourself? 40 00:03:12,208 --> 00:03:16,125 I want to help people, to heal their sicknesses. 41 00:03:16,708 --> 00:03:20,458 And what was little Ada doing when she was feeling lonely, again? 42 00:03:25,250 --> 00:03:27,625 She was trying to heal her doll. 43 00:03:28,125 --> 00:03:33,041 If you want to help other people, you have to start from yourself. 44 00:03:56,375 --> 00:03:58,083 I know you were scared. 45 00:03:59,458 --> 00:04:00,583 You were hurt. 46 00:04:03,666 --> 00:04:05,666 But we've done incredible things. 47 00:04:07,333 --> 00:04:09,083 And I'm right by your side now. 48 00:04:10,708 --> 00:04:12,000 You're safe. 49 00:04:13,666 --> 00:04:16,291 I can give you everything you need. 50 00:04:18,833 --> 00:04:20,125 I'm here now. 51 00:04:31,416 --> 00:04:33,875 I'll ask you to make your family tree. 52 00:04:34,541 --> 00:04:37,208 We call it "árbol genealógico." 53 00:04:37,291 --> 00:04:39,458 You start with yourself, 54 00:04:39,541 --> 00:04:43,333 and then you add your entire paternal and maternal family. 55 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:57,791 So, let's see who was left out of your family system. 56 00:04:58,791 --> 00:05:02,458 It is very important for you to find your place. 57 00:05:09,083 --> 00:05:15,125 ANOTHER SELF 58 00:05:33,958 --> 00:05:37,000 Hey, girls. We've gotta meet up right now. 59 00:05:46,041 --> 00:05:47,791 Here you go. Enjoy. 60 00:05:54,333 --> 00:05:57,458 Hey, Dad. It's a surprise to see you. 61 00:05:58,500 --> 00:06:01,750 Kind of out of nowhere. It… It's great, though. 62 00:06:02,333 --> 00:06:04,416 Really, it's… we're glad you came. 63 00:06:05,250 --> 00:06:08,416 Yes, we are. Fiko's told me so much about you, and… 64 00:06:08,500 --> 00:06:10,666 I know we've never had the chance to meet before, 65 00:06:11,625 --> 00:06:15,541 but frankly, we were curious about why you came to visit us now. 66 00:06:19,500 --> 00:06:21,166 Which way is the john? 67 00:06:21,916 --> 00:06:22,916 The john? 68 00:06:24,333 --> 00:06:27,000 I'll show you. Come on. Here. 69 00:06:42,666 --> 00:06:46,666 I mean, you don't call, you vanish off the face of the earth completely. 70 00:06:46,750 --> 00:06:50,125 Now you're back on the most important day of our lives to ruin it? 71 00:06:50,208 --> 00:06:53,000 And Fiko introduced him to the woman as his father. 72 00:06:53,083 --> 00:06:56,375 Of course, Ms. Songül said, "You take care of your guest." 73 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:00,500 It's okay babe. Let's get you some tea. 74 00:07:00,583 --> 00:07:03,416 I don't even wanna hear the word "tea," for the love of God. Please. No. 75 00:07:03,500 --> 00:07:06,791 How many years had Fiko Riko been estranged from his father for? 76 00:07:06,875 --> 00:07:08,541 That man left him with his stepmom 77 00:07:08,625 --> 00:07:11,125 and looked the other way when she was beating the boy up. 78 00:07:11,208 --> 00:07:13,208 And once Fiko became old enough to leave the house, 79 00:07:13,291 --> 00:07:16,125 he joined the army, so he was never much of a father, was he? 80 00:07:16,208 --> 00:07:20,208 Sevgi, I understand you being so upset. Don't you think you might be overreacting? 81 00:07:20,291 --> 00:07:22,416 -Babe, that's the man's father. -Ada. 82 00:07:22,500 --> 00:07:26,166 I don't wanna sit through a lecture about this. Like, seriously. 83 00:07:26,250 --> 00:07:29,375 Do you remember all the hoops I needed to jump through to make that appointment? 84 00:07:29,458 --> 00:07:32,708 It's bad timing, of course, but he might've come to you for help. 85 00:07:32,791 --> 00:07:35,708 Like maybe he needs you 'cause he's sick or something like that. 86 00:07:35,791 --> 00:07:39,000 Oh, please! He's not sick or anything. He's just an alcoholic. 87 00:07:39,833 --> 00:07:41,291 You're getting so tense. 88 00:07:41,375 --> 00:07:43,458 Take a deep breath and relax your shoulders. 89 00:07:43,541 --> 00:07:46,208 Deep breath. In through your nose, out through your mouth. 90 00:07:46,291 --> 00:07:49,791 Just relax. Loosen up. 91 00:07:49,875 --> 00:07:52,583 Wow, that really works. 92 00:07:52,666 --> 00:07:55,500 What's up with you all dolled up like that? Where are you going? 93 00:07:57,541 --> 00:07:59,166 -Me? -You. 94 00:07:59,750 --> 00:08:00,791 I'm going to the store. 95 00:08:00,875 --> 00:08:03,666 "I'm going to the store." You put on fresh lipstick to go? 96 00:08:03,750 --> 00:08:05,916 I'm going to get groceries, 'kay? Stop. 97 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:10,583 Now that Fiko can't pick them up, I have to absorb that responsibility. 98 00:08:10,666 --> 00:08:12,500 By the way, I have to head out now. 99 00:08:12,583 --> 00:08:14,375 -Where to? Hold on. -Where are you going? 100 00:08:14,458 --> 00:08:17,083 You told us to come here 'cause of something urgent. What is it? 101 00:08:17,166 --> 00:08:20,041 She couldn't even get a word in 'cause I was yapping on the whole time. 102 00:08:20,125 --> 00:08:21,291 Tell me, what's going on? 103 00:08:21,791 --> 00:08:23,208 -Girls. -Huh? 104 00:08:23,291 --> 00:08:26,208 -Yeah? -I finally found my sister. Deniz. 105 00:08:26,291 --> 00:08:28,708 -You're kidding me right now. -Are you for real? 106 00:08:28,791 --> 00:08:31,083 -Stop, you're kidding. -When was this? 107 00:08:31,166 --> 00:08:32,416 Özgur helped. 108 00:08:32,500 --> 00:08:34,500 -Özgür helped you? -Who's Özgur? 109 00:08:34,583 --> 00:08:36,000 Yeah, he was on my flight. 110 00:08:36,083 --> 00:08:37,583 -Özgur. -Wait. On your flight? 111 00:08:37,666 --> 00:08:39,000 -Yeah. -His name's Özgür. And so? 112 00:08:39,083 --> 00:08:43,041 And I have to go because I'm about to pick up Deniz from the bus station now. 113 00:08:43,125 --> 00:08:44,958 -Is Deniz… sleeping at yours? -Uh, yes. 114 00:08:45,041 --> 00:08:46,708 -She took the bus? -All right. 115 00:08:46,791 --> 00:08:49,333 -Yes. -Is she staying with you? 116 00:08:49,416 --> 00:08:50,833 -How? -I'll tell you later. 117 00:08:50,916 --> 00:08:53,375 -When are you gonna tell us? -Give us a call. 118 00:08:53,458 --> 00:08:56,833 Bye! Bye, I have to go. 119 00:08:57,583 --> 00:09:00,125 She's keeping things from us again. It's obvious. 120 00:09:00,208 --> 00:09:03,000 She stopped loving us, Leyla. 121 00:09:03,500 --> 00:09:05,708 Stop being paranoid! She couldn't even get a word in. 122 00:09:05,791 --> 00:09:07,791 Well, she should've steered the conversation. 123 00:09:07,875 --> 00:09:10,958 We interrupt each other when something important needs to come out. 124 00:09:11,041 --> 00:09:13,583 Why don't you just go and put on your lipstick? 125 00:09:22,833 --> 00:09:23,958 It's me. 126 00:09:24,541 --> 00:09:26,333 -Now a good time, Dad? -Yeah. 127 00:09:30,708 --> 00:09:31,708 If you want… 128 00:09:32,708 --> 00:09:34,416 I made some soup for you. 129 00:09:34,500 --> 00:09:37,375 Asiye died. 130 00:09:37,458 --> 00:09:38,458 Oh. 131 00:09:40,500 --> 00:09:41,500 The witch is dead? 132 00:09:42,083 --> 00:09:45,500 God bless that woman's soul. 133 00:09:45,583 --> 00:09:47,708 She gave up a lot for you guys. 134 00:09:48,375 --> 00:09:52,125 I'm sorry. That's terrible. May God rest her soul. 135 00:09:52,791 --> 00:09:55,208 Go grab a big bottle of raki. 136 00:09:55,291 --> 00:09:58,291 It's pretty early for raki. How about you eat a little first, huh? 137 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:02,958 Just bring the raki, all right? 138 00:10:21,375 --> 00:10:23,125 -Village pepper. -Mm. 139 00:10:24,166 --> 00:10:26,750 -Tomatoes? -Smells wonderful. 140 00:10:32,708 --> 00:10:35,000 -Yeah. Tomatoes look good. -Ah. Let's get you some. 141 00:10:35,083 --> 00:10:37,166 -One kilo. -One kilo. 142 00:10:39,750 --> 00:10:42,166 Ah. Good morning, Leyla. 143 00:10:42,250 --> 00:10:45,583 To you, I'm boss lady. You got that, Yorgos? 144 00:10:45,666 --> 00:10:47,500 Okay? I'm boss lady. 145 00:10:47,583 --> 00:10:49,375 Ah, boss lady. 146 00:10:50,291 --> 00:10:51,500 Of course, I'm sorry. 147 00:10:51,583 --> 00:10:53,000 Yep, that's right. 148 00:10:53,625 --> 00:10:56,083 Hurry up, now. You know I don't have much time, 149 00:10:56,166 --> 00:10:58,416 so let's grab the stuff and go, Yorgos. 150 00:11:02,166 --> 00:11:03,166 Meaning? 151 00:11:04,375 --> 00:11:07,375 Meaning… 152 00:11:08,583 --> 00:11:10,958 Hmph. 153 00:11:11,041 --> 00:11:12,041 Hello. 154 00:11:12,125 --> 00:11:14,791 Hello. We'll check over there and come back. 155 00:11:14,875 --> 00:11:16,958 -Of course. -Oh my God, I love this stand. 156 00:11:17,041 --> 00:11:19,291 -You check between the leaves. -Between… 157 00:11:19,375 --> 00:11:21,750 It's the best way to tell if they're fresh ones. 158 00:11:21,833 --> 00:11:24,083 I imported this chef all the way from Greece, you know? 159 00:11:24,166 --> 00:11:26,083 -Should I smell it? -Smell it. 160 00:11:29,791 --> 00:11:32,166 The peppers on that stand look great. 161 00:11:32,250 --> 00:11:34,541 -Take a whiff if you want. -We don't smell everything. 162 00:11:35,125 --> 00:11:37,541 -Sesame leaves. -Sesame leaves, and good ones. 163 00:11:37,625 --> 00:11:39,833 Then you pick them, and I'll stay out of it. 164 00:11:41,458 --> 00:11:42,791 Hey, babes! 165 00:11:42,875 --> 00:11:46,208 We’re out shopping to get the freshest produce we can find 166 00:11:46,291 --> 00:11:48,083 at the farmer’s market today. 167 00:11:48,166 --> 00:11:50,250 Come haul with us! 168 00:11:50,333 --> 00:11:53,041 We're getting all of the best vegetables we can find. 169 00:11:53,125 --> 00:11:55,708 From farm to table for you guys. Check it out, come on. 170 00:11:55,791 --> 00:11:59,208 And plus, today I have a special surprise for you. 171 00:11:59,291 --> 00:12:01,083 A brand-new transfer. 172 00:12:01,166 --> 00:12:02,916 The chef at Eleni's Tavern, 173 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,625 our newest addition, Yorgos, all the way from Greece. 174 00:12:06,208 --> 00:12:08,583 -Say hi. -Kalimera! 175 00:12:08,666 --> 00:12:11,208 Oh, right. Kalimera. Pardon. Silly me. 176 00:12:11,291 --> 00:12:14,416 So, anyway, don't forget to come over and make a reservation. 177 00:12:14,500 --> 00:12:15,500 'Kay, bye. 178 00:12:15,583 --> 00:12:16,958 Mwah. Mwah. Mwah. 179 00:12:18,750 --> 00:12:19,750 Mwah. 180 00:12:20,500 --> 00:12:21,500 What's that? 181 00:12:22,166 --> 00:12:24,875 This… I'm going to make hortopita. 182 00:12:24,958 --> 00:12:26,625 Wait, you're making orthopedics? 183 00:12:27,375 --> 00:12:29,708 My grandmother's secret recipe. 184 00:12:29,791 --> 00:12:31,250 -Hortopita. -Mm… Hm… 185 00:12:31,333 --> 00:12:32,666 Hortopi-- 186 00:12:38,958 --> 00:12:40,958 -What happened? You all right? -I'm fine. 187 00:12:42,541 --> 00:12:43,583 We're late. 188 00:12:44,208 --> 00:12:46,875 We should finish it up and get back as soon as we can. 189 00:12:53,541 --> 00:12:54,541 Fiko! 190 00:12:58,541 --> 00:13:01,041 -Hey, love, welcome home. -Thank you. 191 00:13:02,291 --> 00:13:05,125 I'm late for work, so could you head upstairs and go take care of my dad? 192 00:13:05,208 --> 00:13:06,208 -Fiko, wait. -Hm? 193 00:13:08,666 --> 00:13:11,291 Have you talked to your father about when he's leaving? 194 00:13:11,375 --> 00:13:13,416 No. I couldn't tell him. 195 00:13:13,500 --> 00:13:15,125 I was going to, but… 196 00:13:16,125 --> 00:13:19,000 Then he said that his wife died, and I couldn't bring it up after. 197 00:13:19,083 --> 00:13:20,375 -Oh… -Mm. 198 00:13:20,458 --> 00:13:22,291 -I'm sorry to hear. -Yeah, well… 199 00:13:22,375 --> 00:13:24,708 You can tell, it's broken him. 200 00:13:24,791 --> 00:13:26,250 -He's devastated. -Mm. 201 00:13:26,333 --> 00:13:28,083 So I couldn't make him leave yet. 202 00:13:28,166 --> 00:13:29,666 Sevgi. 203 00:13:30,208 --> 00:13:32,541 It's fine if he stays for a while, right? 204 00:13:34,750 --> 00:13:36,333 Fiko, can we talk for a minute? 205 00:13:36,416 --> 00:13:39,000 Come sit down. You can go to work later. 206 00:13:43,666 --> 00:13:47,958 Fiko. Fiko, listen, I'm not gonna beat around the bush with you about this. 207 00:13:48,041 --> 00:13:51,125 -So please promise you won't get upset. -All right. 208 00:13:51,875 --> 00:13:54,500 If we keep your father here, it'll be impossible to move forward 209 00:13:54,583 --> 00:13:55,708 with the adoption. 210 00:13:55,791 --> 00:13:57,541 And you know I'm right. 211 00:13:57,625 --> 00:13:59,708 Of course I know, Sevgi but I don't have any options. 212 00:13:59,791 --> 00:14:03,125 He came here. What am I supposed to do? Throw him out on the street? 213 00:14:03,208 --> 00:14:05,375 Look, I'm not saying throw him out on the street. 214 00:14:05,458 --> 00:14:09,416 We can go and find him a clean place. A hotel or an apartment. 215 00:14:09,500 --> 00:14:13,666 We can still take care of your dad. But we have to move him out. 216 00:14:13,750 --> 00:14:16,250 What if our application gets rejected? What then? 217 00:14:16,333 --> 00:14:18,458 All of this would be for nothing. 218 00:14:22,291 --> 00:14:26,291 Okay, Sevgi. I'll figure something out. I'll find a way, I promise. 219 00:14:26,875 --> 00:14:29,333 All right, Fiko. 220 00:14:29,416 --> 00:14:32,000 -I gotta go now. -'Kay, have a good day. 221 00:14:32,083 --> 00:14:33,125 Thanks. 222 00:14:42,958 --> 00:14:46,541 Painful experiences don't just manifest in our memories. 223 00:14:46,625 --> 00:14:48,375 They also occupy our bodies. 224 00:14:48,458 --> 00:14:50,791 Meaning trauma, contrary to popular belief, 225 00:14:50,875 --> 00:14:52,500 is not a psychological problem. 226 00:14:52,583 --> 00:14:54,541 It's a physiological problem. 227 00:14:54,625 --> 00:14:57,291 As our minds try to process discomfort in the body, 228 00:14:57,375 --> 00:15:00,666 they generate emotions that feel familiar to us. 229 00:15:00,750 --> 00:15:04,333 However, those feelings reflect the past, not the present. 230 00:15:04,416 --> 00:15:08,500 When our past takes a hold of us, and we recognize that and transform it, 231 00:15:08,583 --> 00:15:10,291 our feelings can also change. 232 00:15:10,375 --> 00:15:13,791 If our feelings change, our decisions will also change. 233 00:15:14,416 --> 00:15:18,041 Hey, babes, I'm waiting for her. She should be getting off any second. 234 00:15:18,541 --> 00:15:19,916 I feel like maybe… 235 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:22,583 Like maybe this was a mistake, or I… 236 00:15:22,666 --> 00:15:25,250 I mean, would it be awful if I said something came up? 237 00:15:25,333 --> 00:15:27,083 And that I couldn't have her visit right now? 238 00:15:38,250 --> 00:15:41,125 "Maybe… Ada meets Deniz one day." 239 00:15:41,708 --> 00:15:44,541 "She could be the big sister that Deniz never had." 240 00:16:19,250 --> 00:16:20,375 Deniz? 241 00:16:23,583 --> 00:16:25,666 Ada? 242 00:16:27,416 --> 00:16:29,500 Nice to meet you. 243 00:16:38,416 --> 00:16:39,833 I'm sorry if it's too much. 244 00:16:39,916 --> 00:16:42,166 I just got super excited. 245 00:16:42,666 --> 00:16:45,541 -So, how was your trip? -It was good. Just kinda warm, I guess. 246 00:16:45,625 --> 00:16:47,708 Yeah, these days it's a little warm. 247 00:16:51,791 --> 00:16:54,666 You're such a… beautiful woman, Ada. 248 00:16:54,750 --> 00:16:58,000 -How come I never got those genes? -You're gorgeous, Deniz. 249 00:17:01,500 --> 00:17:04,375 Mm. I'm hungry. I basically starved the whole way here. 250 00:17:04,458 --> 00:17:06,583 -You wanna go eat? -Sounds good. 251 00:17:08,041 --> 00:17:09,875 -My car's down there. -Let's do it. 252 00:17:17,125 --> 00:17:21,333 And it's already warranting more. Leyla, dear! Can you come here? 253 00:17:22,166 --> 00:17:23,166 Erdem? 254 00:17:24,250 --> 00:17:25,250 Hello. 255 00:17:27,458 --> 00:17:31,500 I'll introduce you. Uh, Mr. Yavuz. My wife Leyla, sir. 256 00:17:32,333 --> 00:17:35,416 It's a pleasure. Mr. Yavuz. 257 00:17:35,500 --> 00:17:39,375 Uh, Leyla, Mr. Yavuz has fallen in love with the place. 258 00:17:39,458 --> 00:17:42,750 Well, how could he not? It's been a labor of love. 259 00:17:42,833 --> 00:17:44,166 Thank you. I appreciate it. 260 00:17:44,750 --> 00:17:47,083 Mr. Yavuz, um, made us an offer. 261 00:17:47,166 --> 00:17:49,625 I'll fill you in later with all the details, dear. 262 00:17:49,708 --> 00:17:51,666 If it's for a wedding or a big organization, 263 00:17:51,750 --> 00:17:54,458 we unfortunately won't be able to accommodate that right now. 264 00:17:54,541 --> 00:17:56,583 But in the future, for sure. We're open to it. 265 00:17:56,666 --> 00:18:01,125 It's not. We came to propose to Mr. Erdem an offer to acquire the entire business. 266 00:18:01,208 --> 00:18:04,500 You can consider it and let us know. 267 00:18:04,583 --> 00:18:07,250 -Have a good day. -Yes. Have a good day, Mr. Yavuz. 268 00:18:07,333 --> 00:18:08,750 This doesn't count, though, right? 269 00:18:08,833 --> 00:18:11,083 Come by anytime. We'd love to see you. 270 00:18:11,166 --> 00:18:13,291 All right. Take care, now. 271 00:18:13,375 --> 00:18:15,375 Thanks, İlhan. Have a good one. 272 00:18:17,166 --> 00:18:21,375 -You know I'm gonna kill you over this. -Leyla dear, let's smile until they leave. 273 00:18:21,958 --> 00:18:23,666 Going, going… 274 00:18:24,333 --> 00:18:26,916 What's happening with him? What is he saying? 275 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:29,250 You haven't even heard what they offered to buy it for. 276 00:18:29,333 --> 00:18:30,875 I don't give a damn, all right? 277 00:18:30,958 --> 00:18:33,916 -'Cause this place is not for sale! -Is that so? 278 00:18:35,250 --> 00:18:37,625 And where were you all day today with that chef? 279 00:18:38,166 --> 00:18:39,375 Leyla! 280 00:18:41,583 --> 00:18:43,916 Making me yell in front of the damn mafia. 281 00:18:46,875 --> 00:18:48,958 So, tell me. What's up with you? 282 00:18:51,750 --> 00:18:54,375 All right. Who am I? 283 00:18:54,458 --> 00:18:56,291 Um, I dance for work. 284 00:18:56,375 --> 00:18:57,916 -Mm. -It was my major. 285 00:18:58,708 --> 00:19:02,458 I work on cruise ships. I'm part of an amazing dance company. 286 00:19:02,541 --> 00:19:04,041 So, you're traveling the world? 287 00:19:04,125 --> 00:19:07,875 Yeah. I usually cruise for four weeks, then go home for two. 288 00:19:07,958 --> 00:19:10,291 -And where do you live? -Istanbul for now. 289 00:19:10,375 --> 00:19:12,208 But… I've been staying with a friend, 290 00:19:12,291 --> 00:19:14,583 so I don't have to pay rent when I'm out at sea. 291 00:19:15,291 --> 00:19:16,500 Hm. 292 00:19:16,583 --> 00:19:20,333 I'm saving up. My dream is to be able to open a dance studio. 293 00:19:20,416 --> 00:19:22,458 Oh. That's so great. 294 00:19:23,041 --> 00:19:24,625 I'm so jealous of you. 295 00:19:24,708 --> 00:19:26,875 I'm an awful dancer. Just terrible. 296 00:19:26,958 --> 00:19:28,875 Like, I can't even pretend to dance. 297 00:19:28,958 --> 00:19:31,291 Oh, stop it. Come on. Everyone can dance a little. 298 00:19:31,375 --> 00:19:34,041 No. I really can't, though. 299 00:19:34,750 --> 00:19:35,916 What's your style? 300 00:19:37,833 --> 00:19:38,791 Hm. 301 00:19:40,500 --> 00:19:44,416 Actually… jazz would suit you. 302 00:19:44,500 --> 00:19:45,750 Jazz? 303 00:19:45,833 --> 00:19:50,750 Yeah, totally. It's an independent style, as opposed to a partner dance. 304 00:19:52,625 --> 00:19:53,958 How come? 305 00:19:54,541 --> 00:19:58,166 When I meet someone for the first time, I imagine how they'd dance 306 00:19:59,416 --> 00:20:02,041 -That's special. -Dancing tells a lot about people. 307 00:20:02,958 --> 00:20:07,166 Were they fluid? Were they stiff? What's their threshold? 308 00:20:07,666 --> 00:20:11,375 In a relationship, are they controlling? Or are they submissive? 309 00:20:11,458 --> 00:20:13,375 -You can get the whole picture. -Hm. 310 00:20:15,958 --> 00:20:18,166 So, I shouldn't dance when you're around. 311 00:20:19,416 --> 00:20:21,625 So, let's hear it. Tell me your whole story. 312 00:20:21,708 --> 00:20:22,750 What do you do? 313 00:20:22,833 --> 00:20:27,625 Other than being a gorgeous, charismatic, award-winning surgeon. 314 00:20:28,125 --> 00:20:31,208 Someone made sure to do her research before we met up. 315 00:20:31,708 --> 00:20:33,875 Yeah, well… I might have stalked you a little. 316 00:20:33,958 --> 00:20:36,083 I've wondered about you for a long time. 317 00:20:37,416 --> 00:20:39,250 I've heard so much from our dad. 318 00:20:42,500 --> 00:20:43,541 Tell me more. 319 00:20:45,041 --> 00:20:46,541 What would he say? 320 00:20:48,250 --> 00:20:49,416 Good things. 321 00:20:50,500 --> 00:20:51,750 Always good things. 322 00:20:54,125 --> 00:20:55,583 -Excuse me. -Yes, ma'am? 323 00:20:55,666 --> 00:20:58,291 Can I get another beer? And what do you want to drink? 324 00:20:59,125 --> 00:21:00,583 Wanna pack up here? 325 00:21:00,666 --> 00:21:04,375 Let's go home. How 'bout you come over and we have a drink there? 326 00:21:04,458 --> 00:21:06,125 Okay, sure. I'm down. 327 00:21:09,541 --> 00:21:11,458 I warmed up some soup for you. 328 00:21:12,166 --> 00:21:14,583 If you want, there's some fried rice too. 329 00:21:14,666 --> 00:21:17,083 Fiko's an amazing cook. He made it. 330 00:21:24,250 --> 00:21:26,500 -I heard you're a lawyer. -Mm-hmm. 331 00:21:29,708 --> 00:21:30,708 Uh… 332 00:21:31,583 --> 00:21:33,750 I work at an office downtown. 333 00:21:33,833 --> 00:21:36,000 I haven't been able to work for a long time, though. 334 00:21:36,083 --> 00:21:38,916 I was sick for a while. Fiko might've told you a bit about it. 335 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:40,416 But I'm better now. 336 00:21:44,625 --> 00:21:47,208 Fiko and I, we met here, in Ayvalık. 337 00:21:47,833 --> 00:21:49,000 You got some lemon? 338 00:22:05,750 --> 00:22:09,083 Fiko said that … you lost your wife. I'm sorry to hear. 339 00:22:09,833 --> 00:22:10,833 Mm. 340 00:22:10,916 --> 00:22:15,541 I'm sure that down in Adana you have a lot of friends and family. 341 00:22:16,041 --> 00:22:17,708 And I heard that you have a shop. 342 00:22:18,291 --> 00:22:19,916 Mm. 343 00:22:20,708 --> 00:22:23,208 No, there's nothing else left for me there. 344 00:22:24,833 --> 00:22:27,958 From now on, I'll be living here, God willing. 345 00:22:38,708 --> 00:22:40,833 I think I've got a bottle in the fridge. 346 00:22:41,416 --> 00:22:47,125 Bring me a glass of raki, neat. And get, um… a slice of cheese with it. 347 00:22:49,583 --> 00:22:52,416 Here we are. Make yourself at home. 348 00:23:03,916 --> 00:23:06,916 -Your place is unbelievable. -Thank you. 349 00:23:07,875 --> 00:23:09,250 Come have a glass with me? 350 00:23:09,333 --> 00:23:12,458 -Sure. Wine's cool. -M'kay. 351 00:23:21,125 --> 00:23:23,666 So do you rent this place, or do you own it? 352 00:23:23,750 --> 00:23:27,041 I own it. I moved here after the divorce. 353 00:23:27,708 --> 00:23:29,208 Pretty good choices. 354 00:23:29,291 --> 00:23:34,000 Both of them. You moving up here and divorcing your husband. 355 00:23:35,125 --> 00:23:36,125 Do you have kids? 356 00:23:39,875 --> 00:23:44,000 -Not yet, I don't. -Gotcha. Another good choice. 357 00:23:44,916 --> 00:23:47,875 So, you must be seeing someone new, right? 358 00:23:47,958 --> 00:23:48,916 No. 359 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:52,708 Okay, so I'm supposed to believe a woman like you doesn't have a boyfriend? 360 00:23:53,291 --> 00:23:55,375 Well, you must have a booty call. 361 00:23:55,458 --> 00:23:56,875 No. 362 00:23:57,875 --> 00:24:01,625 I met someone the other day, though. And thanks to him, I found you. 363 00:24:01,708 --> 00:24:05,291 Oh, nice. I like him, and I haven't even met him yet. 364 00:24:21,833 --> 00:24:22,875 To sisterhood. 365 00:24:50,375 --> 00:24:51,375 What is that? 366 00:25:00,791 --> 00:25:02,333 Some kinda project, or…? 367 00:25:06,291 --> 00:25:07,750 Wait, why is my name on here? 368 00:25:07,833 --> 00:25:10,458 It's a genogram. 369 00:25:10,541 --> 00:25:12,458 Like a family tree. 370 00:25:13,791 --> 00:25:16,458 If you're curious, I can explain it to you. 371 00:25:18,125 --> 00:25:22,333 I … I don't wanna ruin my buzz right now. 372 00:25:23,875 --> 00:25:26,375 Deniz, could you actually go outside to smoke? 373 00:25:26,458 --> 00:25:28,166 You can step out on the patio. 374 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,750 All right, sure. I'll do that. 375 00:25:56,833 --> 00:25:57,833 Dad? 376 00:25:59,875 --> 00:26:01,458 What are you doing in the dark? 377 00:26:07,333 --> 00:26:08,375 You all right? 378 00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:10,375 Did you get raki for me? 379 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:25,291 Listen. Let's talk for a minute. 380 00:26:27,333 --> 00:26:31,041 Sevgi and I… have built a life here. 381 00:26:33,583 --> 00:26:36,416 We've been through some very, very tough times. 382 00:26:36,500 --> 00:26:38,333 My wife nearly died, Dad. 383 00:26:39,166 --> 00:26:40,833 We've struggled so much. 384 00:26:42,083 --> 00:26:44,541 And we're trying to adopt a child on top of it. 385 00:26:47,333 --> 00:26:48,958 It's a very difficult time. 386 00:26:51,041 --> 00:26:52,041 I mean… 387 00:26:52,666 --> 00:26:56,916 Um… your problem… it's putting us… 388 00:26:57,583 --> 00:27:01,125 It puts us in a very difficult position. It's not working anymore. 389 00:27:01,208 --> 00:27:03,125 What problem are you talking about? 390 00:27:03,625 --> 00:27:08,125 How about the two of us, tomorrow, go to the hospital for a checkup. 391 00:27:08,958 --> 00:27:10,666 Have them take a look at you, Dad. 392 00:27:12,375 --> 00:27:15,833 Then I'll move you into a place that's nice and clean. 393 00:27:15,916 --> 00:27:17,375 Okay? 394 00:27:18,916 --> 00:27:21,333 You're kicking your own father out, Fiko? 395 00:27:21,958 --> 00:27:23,375 Like some piece of garbage? 396 00:27:24,041 --> 00:27:26,791 So ungrateful. Shame on you! 397 00:27:29,250 --> 00:27:31,458 -Mr. Rıza. -Sevgi. 398 00:27:31,541 --> 00:27:34,041 I won't let you talk to Fiko like that. 399 00:27:35,500 --> 00:27:37,458 -Sevgi… -For all these years, where have you been? 400 00:27:37,541 --> 00:27:39,916 You've been gone. I don't even know who you are. 401 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,000 You call your son ungrateful as if you've ever supported him? 402 00:27:43,083 --> 00:27:44,250 Ever were there for him? 403 00:27:44,333 --> 00:27:45,958 -Ever did anything? -Sevgi. 404 00:27:46,041 --> 00:27:48,916 In my house I won't stand for anybody speaking to my husband like that. 405 00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:51,541 -Okay, Sevgi, please… -Come on, Fiko! It's enough of this. 406 00:27:51,625 --> 00:27:53,750 Do you agree with what your wife is saying? 407 00:28:05,416 --> 00:28:06,416 I do. 408 00:28:07,625 --> 00:28:09,583 I think that it's time for you to go now. 409 00:28:13,500 --> 00:28:15,458 I'll get some cash for you. 410 00:28:45,333 --> 00:28:48,666 -Dad! Dad! -Fiko, please. I'm begging you. 411 00:28:49,166 --> 00:28:52,333 He's gonna buy booze with the money. You won't be doing him a favor. 412 00:29:08,666 --> 00:29:09,791 Oh God… 413 00:29:11,666 --> 00:29:13,458 God damn! 414 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:20,458 So does that stuff actually work, though? 415 00:29:21,416 --> 00:29:25,333 You know, like, our ancestral… trauma 416 00:29:25,416 --> 00:29:27,625 and… like all of that stuff? 417 00:29:27,708 --> 00:29:30,625 I read the articles you wrote. 418 00:29:31,583 --> 00:29:33,208 And you wrote something like… 419 00:29:34,791 --> 00:29:37,541 "If we can find a way to accept our past… 420 00:29:39,958 --> 00:29:43,541 it means we'll find a way to accept what's happening in the present." 421 00:29:44,750 --> 00:29:47,708 Of course, uncovering what's in our past won't magically fix 422 00:29:47,791 --> 00:29:49,166 whenever we have a problem. 423 00:29:49,250 --> 00:29:52,708 But learning about and acknowledging our ancestral trauma, 424 00:29:53,583 --> 00:29:57,208 that can enable us to really… change the impact we feel from it. 425 00:30:02,416 --> 00:30:06,958 Ada, I feel awful for saying this, but you know what that sounds like? 426 00:30:07,500 --> 00:30:08,541 Bullshit. 427 00:30:11,458 --> 00:30:15,208 After you get into a clearer mindset, I'm happy to explain it to you. 428 00:30:17,250 --> 00:30:19,666 I love the earrings you've got on. 429 00:30:19,750 --> 00:30:22,250 They're beautiful. Can I see those? Can I just… 430 00:30:23,416 --> 00:30:24,416 Mm… 431 00:30:25,708 --> 00:30:28,375 Sunflowers are my favorite. 432 00:30:29,375 --> 00:30:30,833 I'm happy you like them. 433 00:30:30,958 --> 00:30:34,125 After I was accepted to med school, I got them as a gift from Dad. 434 00:30:43,416 --> 00:30:45,458 -Where's your toilet? -Um… 435 00:30:45,541 --> 00:30:48,916 -It's cool, it's cool. I'll find it. -On the left down there. 436 00:30:51,916 --> 00:30:53,000 Hello? 437 00:30:55,041 --> 00:30:56,208 How are you, Özgür? 438 00:30:56,291 --> 00:30:59,666 I'm good. How are you? How'd it go with your sister? 439 00:30:59,750 --> 00:31:00,958 Fine. 440 00:31:02,083 --> 00:31:05,541 She's great, but might've just said something that made her upset. 441 00:31:11,500 --> 00:31:14,333 "A gift from Dad"? Asshole. 442 00:31:26,875 --> 00:31:29,875 -And what about you? -I'm in Ayvalık. 443 00:31:29,958 --> 00:31:32,291 -What? You're in Ayvalık? -Mm-hmm. 444 00:31:32,916 --> 00:31:35,875 I'm in town. Heading to my mother's house to do work. 445 00:31:37,041 --> 00:31:38,041 What's up with you? 446 00:31:38,750 --> 00:31:41,250 Want to go out for a drink? Are you free? 447 00:31:41,333 --> 00:31:44,375 I'd love to, but Deniz is here, and… 448 00:31:45,458 --> 00:31:47,958 -No. Let me call you back. -You go ahead. I'm leaving anyway. 449 00:31:48,041 --> 00:31:49,625 Deniz, you're staying here tonight. 450 00:31:49,708 --> 00:31:51,375 I'm not letting you go. 451 00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:54,000 All right. 452 00:31:55,708 --> 00:31:57,041 'Kay, but one condition. 453 00:31:59,250 --> 00:32:00,250 Tell me. What? 454 00:32:01,958 --> 00:32:04,125 You're gonna go see Özgür right now. 455 00:32:06,250 --> 00:32:07,625 So, do we have a deal? 456 00:32:14,958 --> 00:32:18,166 A brand-new transfer. The chef at Eleni's Tavern, 457 00:32:18,250 --> 00:32:21,416 our newest addition, Yorgos! All the way from Greece! 458 00:32:21,500 --> 00:32:23,541 -Say hi. -Kalimera. 459 00:32:23,625 --> 00:32:26,541 Oh, right. Kalimera. Pardon. Silly me. 460 00:32:26,625 --> 00:32:29,791 So, anyway, don't forget to come over and make a reservation. 461 00:32:29,875 --> 00:32:31,458 'Kay, bye! Mwah. Mwah. Mwah. 462 00:32:31,541 --> 00:32:34,083 Leyla, you sleeping in there? 463 00:32:34,166 --> 00:32:36,541 What are you even saying? I just showered! 464 00:32:36,625 --> 00:32:39,041 Why would I be sleeping? I'll be out soon. 465 00:32:39,125 --> 00:32:40,958 Oh my God, that man's so annoying. 466 00:32:43,958 --> 00:32:45,166 We've gotta talk. 467 00:32:45,666 --> 00:32:48,916 -I swear, if it's about selling the rest-- -Five million dollars. 468 00:32:56,166 --> 00:32:57,166 What? 469 00:32:58,333 --> 00:33:00,500 Five million dollars. 470 00:33:01,208 --> 00:33:04,166 They wanna buy Eleni's Tavern from us for five million. 471 00:33:07,375 --> 00:33:11,958 Why, though? Like… Why'd they offer so much? I don't get it. 472 00:33:12,041 --> 00:33:14,541 Why should we care why? It's five million dollars. 473 00:33:14,625 --> 00:33:15,916 We can't miss this opportunity. 474 00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:18,375 Think about what we can do with that kind of money. 475 00:33:19,250 --> 00:33:21,541 Or we can keep living this life, being miserable. 476 00:33:21,625 --> 00:33:25,666 Oh, Erdem, are you serious? How's our life miserable, for God's sake? 477 00:33:25,750 --> 00:33:27,458 -What is it, then? -It's miserable, though? 478 00:33:27,541 --> 00:33:30,500 -What, then? -What you're going through's misery? 479 00:33:30,583 --> 00:33:31,916 Leyla, look. 480 00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,833 Look, we struggle every day just to get by. 481 00:33:34,916 --> 00:33:37,333 Come on. The restaurant barely pays for itself. 482 00:33:37,416 --> 00:33:40,291 We deal with jerks. At home, I'm a glorified babysitter. 483 00:33:40,375 --> 00:33:42,083 You look run down from all the work. 484 00:33:46,125 --> 00:33:47,750 Erdem, I'm run down now? 485 00:33:48,250 --> 00:33:50,875 I'm not hot anymore? You don't find me attractive? 486 00:33:50,958 --> 00:33:53,583 Just tell me to my face, I'm not beautiful anymore. 487 00:33:53,666 --> 00:33:55,208 Is that what I said, huh? 488 00:33:56,125 --> 00:33:58,000 And I'm the one who's been chasing after you. 489 00:33:58,083 --> 00:33:59,291 You have no interest. 490 00:33:59,875 --> 00:34:02,416 You know how many weeks it's been since we made love, Leyla? 491 00:34:02,500 --> 00:34:06,083 Wow, Erdem! I come home crawling from working so much, 492 00:34:06,166 --> 00:34:09,375 but all you really care about is the last time that we had sex? 493 00:34:09,458 --> 00:34:11,833 I know. That's my point exactly, Leyla. 494 00:34:11,916 --> 00:34:14,541 I just want you to live your life like a queen again. 495 00:34:15,416 --> 00:34:17,791 Let's buy a couple of boats and put them to work. 496 00:34:17,875 --> 00:34:20,833 We'll make money, get back to Istanbul, your husband can work, 497 00:34:20,916 --> 00:34:23,375 and you can do whatever you want and be comfortable. 498 00:34:23,458 --> 00:34:25,875 I miss having Lady Leyla in the house. 499 00:34:27,166 --> 00:34:29,208 Either we take this offer now, 500 00:34:29,875 --> 00:34:32,500 or we keep living a miserable life like this. 501 00:34:33,083 --> 00:34:37,291 Please consider your family and us, and decide what you want to do. 502 00:34:37,791 --> 00:34:38,791 Good night. 503 00:35:07,291 --> 00:35:10,333 It takes effort and hard work for us to break free 504 00:35:10,416 --> 00:35:14,583 from our victim mentality and the narratives that we cling to. 505 00:35:17,625 --> 00:35:22,416 Even after hours of therapy, expecting to break free from those cycles 506 00:35:22,500 --> 00:35:27,125 without taking real steps in our lives is merely passive optimism. 507 00:35:43,500 --> 00:35:47,583 When I found Deniz, I thought I had taken one of those real steps. 508 00:35:47,666 --> 00:35:49,916 I thought everything would snap into place 509 00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,666 and that I could make room for new stories in my life. 510 00:35:53,833 --> 00:35:55,708 But life has a tendency of testing us 511 00:35:55,791 --> 00:35:58,583 with things we think we've already figured out. 512 00:36:24,166 --> 00:36:26,958 And every new story we start to write 513 00:36:27,041 --> 00:36:31,333 can only grow as big as the capacity of our hearts.