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[Billie Jo]
Previously on "Suddenly Amish."

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[Bishop] People are
leaving the Amish community.

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[speaking Pennsylvania Dutch]

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I will be inviting
English people into

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our community in hopes of
repopulating the church.

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[Matt]
I've always been interested
in the Amish community.

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[Esmeralda] The Amish way of
doing things kind of just makes

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more sense to me.

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[Bishop]
You'll need to integrate
into the Amish community.

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It will be your jobs to
disciple them,

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to prepare them.

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[James]
I do not have a good standing
in my community right now.

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I am shunned.

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By helping me, I'm offering
James a chance at redemption.

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[James]
I don't expect these English
to last more than a couple days.

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[Allen] It is our responsibility
to teach them what's right

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and what's wrong.

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[James] I am escorting
you off the property.

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He's chasing me with
a [bleep] axe.

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If I'm not strict enough,
I might be the one

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paying the price.

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You're an English guy trying to
drag off our Amish ladies.

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I need to go find them.

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[knocking]

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James is very unhinged.
This community's not for me.

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-I'm out of here.
-[Kendra] I'm going home.

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I'm leaving.

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[Billie Jo] We're like, dropping
like flies here.

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[singing]

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I'm scared.

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I don't think that the Amish
accepts anybody in

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the LGBT community.

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Imma just keep my little
secrets to myself.

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My hearing aids are
controlled by this.

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I'm gonna have to take
your phone now.

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If he takes my hearing aids
away, that messes with my head.

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Welcome to the Amish.

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[Billie Jo] The hardest part
for me is the heat.

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-I feel like I'm dying.
-[Esmeralda] I studied,
got my master's,

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[indistinct] now holding a broom
to sweep floors.

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It's such a step down.

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-Reckoning Day is tomorrow.
-Tomorrow is a big day.

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[Bishop]
At that time, the church will
decide whether they can

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continue pursuing membership
in the Amish church.

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I am really concerned with
the Amish stance against

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the LGBTQ community.

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I don't know if I'm ready yet
to tell Allen and James

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that I'm bi, but I feel
like I either talk to them

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about my sexuality now
or it will never happen.

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My thing is this.

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[dramatic music building]

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[reverent chanting]

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[Judah]
Can I hear in the headphones
what that sounded like?

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OK.

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[Judah singing]
Don't know if I'm wrong,
don't know if I'm right.

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Following the signs,
chasing peace of mind.

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Running from the time,
running from my mind.

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I've been trying to find...

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I've been trying to find me.

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OK, keep that,
and then let me do it again.

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The song -- the song is
gonna be called --

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the song is gonna be
called "Trying to Find Me."

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Just trying to really find
myself through everything

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that's going on in life.

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[Judah] I feel drained.

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I don't feel like my potential
is being used.

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Like, who am I?
What is this world?

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Who am I in it?

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My sexuality shouldn't
label me.

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Why do I have to put up a front
or be somebody different?

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My biggest fear is if
the Amish will accept me

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for who I really am.

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It be crazy.
I know God got my back.

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[crickets chirping]

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So if I were gay, then I would
not be able to be a part

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of the community.
Is that what you're saying?

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[tense music builds]

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My thing is this...

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um...

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I'm bisexual.

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I mean, honestly,
with me and my journey.

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I've been through so much in
my life where I've hid myself

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from my mom, from my family,
but I've been safe enough to

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be here and be myself
around these people.

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I'm not gonna do that.

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Him dropping this bomb,
especially right before

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reckoning day,
is very brave of him, I think.

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So if the Amish community
cannot accept me

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because of me being bi,

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then this is just not
a community that I'm gonna be

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a part of, respectfully.

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With Judah coming out
and saying that he's bisexual,

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it was shocking.

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Right now I'm kind of torn
because in the Old Testament,

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God clearly stated one man
and one woman in marriage.

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[James] The Bible says it's a
sin for a man to lay with a man.

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It's definitely an area
of concern.

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[Sarah]
When Judah said that he was
bisexual in the dinner table,

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I was worried a little bit

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because he's gonna have to go
in front of the Bishop.

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[Judah] I don't know.

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I came to this talk,
like, really ready to join

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the community, but now I'm just
like, do I really want to keep

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hiding who I am?

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[acoustic guitar playing]

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♪♪

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[Billie Jo] Today is
reckoning day.

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This is something that
I've always wanted so badly.

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And the more I think about it,
the more I really don't know.

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Can't think about just me.

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It's also my family,
and it's a lot.

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[acoustic guitar continues]

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[Allen]
Today is reckoning day.

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James and I will be going in
front of the Bishop

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and making a case as to

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why we think the English that
are still with us would

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or would not be a good fit
for our community.

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Sarah and I,
we did pray about this.

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And I really don't know
what I'm gonna say

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about each one.

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[Aaron]
I would be lying if I said
I wasn't tossing and turning

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the entire night
just thinking about,

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OK, do I want --
do I not want?

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What's he gonna say?
How would this go?

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This day is the day that
everything changes for me.

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[Judah] I'm just so sad because
I've created all these bonds

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with everybody, and to see this
about to come to an end,

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my heart's kind of broken,

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and we're all gonna
have to make a decision.

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Do we want to be a part of
an Amish community,

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or do we want to go back
to how we were before?

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[Esmeralda] Even if
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let us stay, we still have to
make that decision

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for ourselves.

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So it's not the decision that
the Amish are gonna

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make about me.

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It's really the decision
I have to make about them.

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[Bishop] In order to
become Amish members,

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it would be a two-
to three-year time span.

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And in that time, you would be
expected to be a part of

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the community projects
that go on.

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You would be expected to
understand and experience

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the Dutch dialect.

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And at the end of this process,
there would be a six months

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time of discipleship,

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where you would examine
the foundational principles of

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what the Amish believe
about the Bible.

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And then if you agree to that,
you would be expected to have

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an adult baptism and pronounce
you a member of the church.

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[James]
The Bishop brought together
a select group of members to

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help us make decisions about
these English people.

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I worry these English aren't
ready to continue their journey

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here in the Amish community.

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If we don't accomplish
anything from this mission,

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there's less chance of me
falling in the good graces

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of the Bishop
and becoming unshunned.

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[Esmeralda] It's stressful,
it's overwhelming.

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There's rows and rows of people
from all over the community.

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And depending on your decision,
this could be the community

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that you're joining.

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[Billie Jo] I know that
I am being watched.

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The uncertainty is a nightmare.

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We're gathered here...

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for this special service...

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for the future of our church.

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God has sent six non-Amish
people in our midst

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who wish to join our community.

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Four remain.

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It's a decision for life.

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-Everybody's petrified.
-[Judah] This is it.

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The moment of truth.

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[Bonnie]
I know that she's been obsessed
with the Amish for a long time,

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but I didn't really,
until the last few years,

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realize that she would
like to be Amish, so...

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We are very close.

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It's a little scary that
I might not be able to see her,

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but I want her to be happy.

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If the Amish rejected her,
I would feel terrible for her.

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It's a decision for life.

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[tense chord plays]

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[Bishop]
At the end of this service,
I will ask the congregation to

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nod their heads if they agree
to allow these candidates to

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continue with us.

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You may remain silent
if you dissent.

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Allen and James,
you've been house-parents here.

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I would like to hear from
you what you've observed

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and what
your recommendations are,

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and we as a congregation will
then make a decision.

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At this time, rise and share
what you have to share.

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[Judah] The air feels
so thick right now.

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I'm anxious because I just came
out to my Amish family.

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I don't know if Allen's gonna
have my back.

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I don't know what's
gonna go on.

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Um, I'll start with Billie Jo.

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Esmeralda...

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she had a hard time to
give up the items

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that she loved,

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but she understands.
She conformed.

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Aaron has been very cooperative.

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We've seen some
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helping out on the farm.

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So yeah, I've been
very impressed with Aaron.

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Judah, he was scared of
animals, but he's been helping

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out on the farm,
feeding the animals

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and catching fish.
Yeah, that was great.

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So, one question
I would have for you is,

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do you have any recommendations,

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things that you would like to
see them work on?

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[clears throat]

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Judah has -- is...

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Maybe something you wish
they would change?

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Judah...

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to me, you're like a son.

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And I hope we can be a blessing
to each other.

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And to the people around us.

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For my part, I'd be ready to
move forward and give

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these gentlemen and ladies
an opportunity

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if they desire so.

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Good.

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When Jude is at that he was
bisexual the dinner table,

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I wasn't too sure about
what's going to happen.

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But as a person,

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I don't think I'm gonna look
at Judah any different way

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than I did before.

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[Judah]
Honestly, like Allen almost
brought me to tears

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because no matter what,
you know, the Amish rules are,

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he accepts me.
He loves me.

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He cares for me.
He knows my heart.

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[Allen]
Scripture states that one man
and one woman in marriage.

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But being honest with myself,
I saw more growth in Judah

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than probably any of the others

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and kind of made my decision
on his growth.

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[Billie Jo] It was really brave
of Allen to accept Judah

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and look past the rules.

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But I have no idea how James is
gonna react to this.

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[Bishop]
Thank you, Allen.

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James, what would
you have to say?

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I sense your opinion.
Your opinion may be different.

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Well, I don't know, um...

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[Judah]
I don't know what's about to
come out of his mouth.

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I mean, since day one,
he chased somebody out

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the house with an axe.
-[Billie Jo] He's just
a wild card.

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Who knows what James
is gonna do?

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A lot of them have ties back
into their worldly lives.

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Esmeralda has one foot in,
one foot out.

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A girly-girl, sorry.

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Aaron has definitely integrated
very well in a lot of ways,

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but he still struggles with
the hearing aid thing.

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For James to stand up,
give testimony to the community

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and give testimony to
the Bishop and say that even

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though he knows
and he watched me,

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he mentored me.

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That really hurt.

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[Esmeralda]
I feel like James hasn't
really seen,

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just, like, the changes I made.

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To him, it's so, like,
superficial that

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he doesn't think
that it's growth, so

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it kind of feels like,
OK, like,

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OK, cool, like,
he's not proud of me,

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but I am proud of myself.

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[James]
So, we're down to Judah.

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Judah has brought probably
questioned the most.

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What do you actually want?

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From what?

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Do you want
the Amish life or not?

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I love it here, and I'm having
a great time.

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I met some amazing people,

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and I'm super grateful for that.

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Kind of the main concern with
Judah is, in certain ways,

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he wants to be creative,
but the Amish don't...

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believe in being creative.

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Bishop, if I may...

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I just want to be able to
share the Word of God.

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That's all I want to do.

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[Bishop] Judah, he's
looking for more individuality.

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I would like to encourage us

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to accept Judah where
he's at today.

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I would like to encourage Judah
to continue growing.

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I think you would find some...

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acceptance
as you continue to grow.

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And I would just like to
encourage the congregation

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on that point,

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just to be more accepting,
more loving, more gracious.

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I think James has been
quite strict with them.

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Losing Matt, Kendra,
and Emma is an example of this,

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but that is for
a later discussion.

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Looks like the Bishop and I
need to have a conversation.

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I don't think he fully realizes
how much effort

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I put into this.

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When we talk about
the experience with Matt

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and Kendra,
there's principles.

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The choices we make
bring consequences,

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and James didn't care.

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[James] I'm trying to be
unshunned by my church.

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The Bishop kind of has
the final say-so, and if he has

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a bad impression of me,

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I'm not -- I'm not in
a good position.

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At this time,

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could each of you in turn stand
and say your piece?

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Aaron, if you would, would you
come up here and just address

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the congregation
and share your piece?

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I'm nervous.

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It's kind of in the hands of
the Bishop today.

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So it's...
it's pretty heavy.

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00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:05,296
We have to explain why we've
taken this journey on

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and what we want from that.

307
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So one thing that I love
about the Amish is

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that they're simple people.

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They're beautiful in the way
that they live their life

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of giving, but I have
a disability with hearing.
-You do.

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And in the community,
that's extremely difficult.

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My phone is connected

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to my hearing aids,
but then that was taken away.

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If I stay, that's a humongous
life change.

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And I've been thinking
on that a lot.

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-Thank you.
-[Judah] Good job.

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Esmeralda?

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00:20:48,089 --> 00:20:49,848
Hello, everyone.

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I hate public speaking,
so having to go up there in

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front of community,
I feel like it's just

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so much
more pressure.

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I was so scared to leave
my comfortable life back home

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and come here and pursue this
because I knew

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it was gonna be so challenging.

325
00:21:05,572 --> 00:21:07,021
But I feel like
I learned

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conforming is not
always a bad thing.

327
00:21:11,021 --> 00:21:14,089
I learned so much about
confidence and that it's OK

328
00:21:14,262 --> 00:21:17,193
to be yourself here and not
need makeup and fancy clothes

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to feel good about yourself.

330
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And I'm hoping I continue to
grow and give back to

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the community that has
given so much to me.

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Thank you.

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You may take your seat.

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[Esmeralda] It was a lot of
pressure, a lot of emotions,

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and again, I'm not good at
public speaking, so I feel like

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the eyes of everyone
in the community

337
00:21:34,503 --> 00:21:36,814
just looking at me.

338
00:21:36,986 --> 00:21:39,400
-[Bishop] Billie Jo?
-[sighs] -- yes.

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00:21:42,779 --> 00:21:45,607
All right.
Hello, everyone.

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My mouth is dry.

341
00:21:53,883 --> 00:21:57,021
My hands are clammy.

342
00:21:59,021 --> 00:22:02,503
I want to impress the Bishop.
I want to impress the church.

343
00:22:02,503 --> 00:22:06,607
But at the same time, I'm not
sure that I'm cut out for

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the Amish life.

345
00:22:08,917 --> 00:22:11,710
It's completely overwhelming.

346
00:22:38,710 --> 00:22:41,710
[heavy exhale]
All right...

347
00:22:41,710 --> 00:22:47,434
It's completely overwhelming,
the enormity of this.

348
00:22:49,917 --> 00:22:54,400
This is like a job interview
that I want so bad.

349
00:22:54,572 --> 00:22:58,089
So I am just saying what
I think is the right thing

350
00:22:58,262 --> 00:23:00,158
and just speaking from
my heart.

351
00:23:01,779 --> 00:23:05,089
I am grateful for Sarah
and Allen and James

352
00:23:05,262 --> 00:23:07,124
and everything that you have

353
00:23:07,296 --> 00:23:09,365
taught myself
and all the others.

354
00:23:10,607 --> 00:23:15,193
That it's not just about
how you dress or what you can

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00:23:15,193 --> 00:23:19,124
or cannot do.
It's about your morals.

356
00:23:20,469 --> 00:23:21,986
I've loved so much.

357
00:23:22,124 --> 00:23:24,400
I will never get these
moments back.

358
00:23:26,883 --> 00:23:30,124
It's a lot harder than
I thought that it would be.

359
00:23:31,296 --> 00:23:33,607
-Thank you.
-Thank you.

360
00:23:33,779 --> 00:23:35,917
Judah, would you like
to share?

361
00:23:40,021 --> 00:23:43,710
Good evening
to the congregation, um...

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[Judah] The emotion is
literally bottling up.

363
00:23:50,676 --> 00:23:53,296
It's like that feeling when
you have so much to say,

364
00:23:53,296 --> 00:23:54,814
but it's all caught right here,

365
00:23:54,814 --> 00:23:56,296
and you just really
can't get it out.

366
00:24:00,676 --> 00:24:03,193
Has there been enough positive
to the experience that

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you would like to continue to
learn from it?

368
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:07,917
Or are you saying,
"No, I'm done"?

369
00:24:10,055 --> 00:24:12,055
[exhales]
I'm gonna just say this.

370
00:24:12,227 --> 00:24:14,814
I've met some beautiful,
amazing people on this journey

371
00:24:14,814 --> 00:24:18,089
with me, and I've
made community.

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00:24:18,262 --> 00:24:20,710
I've literally faced
fears here.

373
00:24:20,710 --> 00:24:23,055
I've pet animals,
I've caught fish,

374
00:24:23,227 --> 00:24:24,710
I've been chased
by chickens out here.

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00:24:24,883 --> 00:24:27,365
I've done a lot out here,
you know what I'm saying?

376
00:24:27,538 --> 00:24:28,779
And it wasn't for no reason.

377
00:24:30,917 --> 00:24:34,400
I would love to stay and learn
more about this community

378
00:24:34,572 --> 00:24:36,124
and learn more about
myself and God,

379
00:24:36,296 --> 00:24:37,503
because I've learned
a lot here.

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00:24:38,676 --> 00:24:40,779
End of the day, I would like
for y'all to accept me for

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who I am because I accept each
and every last one of y'all

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00:24:43,676 --> 00:24:44,710
in these pews.

383
00:24:46,021 --> 00:24:49,986
We can all be who we are
and still serve Jesus

384
00:24:50,124 --> 00:24:51,089
in each and every way.

385
00:24:52,917 --> 00:24:54,503
-Thank you.
-Thank you, Bishop.

386
00:24:58,676 --> 00:25:00,814
♪ Can you hear me? ♪

387
00:25:02,055 --> 00:25:08,262
♪ Can you hear me now?
Can you hear me now? ♪

388
00:25:09,883 --> 00:25:12,607
At this time,
as a congregation, if we're...

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00:25:13,710 --> 00:25:17,676
of one mind and heart,
could we give a nod of assent

390
00:25:18,710 --> 00:25:21,021
if we would allow
these four applicants

391
00:25:21,193 --> 00:25:23,607
to continue finding
their way here?

392
00:25:23,779 --> 00:25:30,503
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh ♪

393
00:25:30,676 --> 00:25:33,607
[Billie Jo] The decision
obviously makes me nervous.

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00:25:33,779 --> 00:25:37,779
I think I know what I want to
do, but it's important that

395
00:25:37,952 --> 00:25:42,469
I feel that I'm accepted and
that others will be accepted.

396
00:25:42,641 --> 00:25:47,365
Are we agreed to move
forward graciously,

397
00:25:48,607 --> 00:25:51,779
with mercy, with love,
with compassion?

398
00:25:51,952 --> 00:25:53,607
♪ Ooh ♪

399
00:25:53,779 --> 00:25:55,779
[Judah]
I've given up so much
of my life to be here,

400
00:25:55,952 --> 00:25:58,400
and I don't want it to
be in vain.

401
00:25:58,400 --> 00:25:59,745
This is where
our lives change.

402
00:26:01,193 --> 00:26:05,193
[Bishop]
Are we prepared to allow
these applicants to continue?

403
00:26:08,779 --> 00:26:12,021
[upbeat music playing]

404
00:26:26,296 --> 00:26:29,400
[Aaron] I feel like there was
a big sigh of relief after this.

405
00:26:30,469 --> 00:26:32,193
It's pretty heavy.

406
00:26:33,607 --> 00:26:34,986
The congregation has spoken,

407
00:26:36,021 --> 00:26:37,296
but for the English,

408
00:26:38,124 --> 00:26:40,469
I would like to encourage you to
take it very, very seriously.

409
00:26:41,365 --> 00:26:43,400
In the Amish world,
this decision...

410
00:26:44,503 --> 00:26:45,710
is a lifelong decision.

411
00:26:46,917 --> 00:26:49,193
Take the time you need to
think it through.

412
00:26:49,365 --> 00:26:51,055
Think about it.

413
00:26:51,227 --> 00:26:54,365
Bishop Vernon asking us to
take a moment to step back

414
00:26:54,538 --> 00:26:57,124
and really, you know,
think about the decision

415
00:26:57,296 --> 00:27:00,124
that we're gonna make
is a smart move.

416
00:27:00,296 --> 00:27:03,710
Take a day, breathe,
and see if it's something

417
00:27:03,710 --> 00:27:05,158
that we really decide to do.

418
00:27:05,331 --> 00:27:09,365
Now, we all have a decision
to make, and I just hope

419
00:27:09,538 --> 00:27:12,262
that everyone makes the right
decision for themselves.

420
00:27:12,434 --> 00:27:14,607
[Esmeralda]
I'm super grateful that
the Bishop and the community

421
00:27:14,607 --> 00:27:18,021
gave me the opportunity to
join, so making this decision

422
00:27:18,193 --> 00:27:19,296
is gonna be really hard.

423
00:27:20,676 --> 00:27:21,814
[Billie Jo] Try it.

424
00:27:23,503 --> 00:27:25,021
Wow!

425
00:27:25,158 --> 00:27:26,710
-Cheers.
-Cheers!

426
00:27:26,710 --> 00:27:28,607
-[glasses clinking]
-Mm!

427
00:27:30,572 --> 00:27:31,986
The Bishop is just
sitting in the back,

428
00:27:32,124 --> 00:27:35,400
just watching everybody,
and his energy is real tense.

429
00:27:35,572 --> 00:27:38,021
[Billie Jo] I could just see by,
like, body language there was

430
00:27:38,158 --> 00:27:40,193
something brewing.

431
00:27:40,193 --> 00:27:43,262
What we know is we didn't get
kicked out, so cheers to that.

432
00:27:43,434 --> 00:27:49,296
So, if you're sincere, I told
you that you could continue to

433
00:27:49,296 --> 00:27:50,469
sort through these things.

434
00:27:52,021 --> 00:27:55,883
But I did not come here
to create drama.

435
00:27:56,814 --> 00:27:58,779
And I'll just be very,
very frank.

436
00:28:00,158 --> 00:28:02,021
I am very, very upset with

437
00:28:02,193 --> 00:28:03,814
what happened with
Kendra and Matt.

438
00:28:03,814 --> 00:28:05,262
I'm very upset.

439
00:28:06,503 --> 00:28:07,917
I'll be honest with you, James.

440
00:28:08,883 --> 00:28:11,021
You need this experience
as much as they do

441
00:28:11,193 --> 00:28:14,400
because you literally have
walked away from the faith...

442
00:28:16,124 --> 00:28:17,193
in Jesus Christ.

443
00:28:18,779 --> 00:28:20,158
[Bishop]
James was rebellious,

444
00:28:20,331 --> 00:28:22,158
and he was
a disappointment to me...

445
00:28:23,503 --> 00:28:27,917
because in the Amish world,
you're willing to say,

446
00:28:27,917 --> 00:28:29,917
"OK, I made a mistake here.

447
00:28:29,917 --> 00:28:31,814
I think I should have done
that differently."

448
00:28:33,089 --> 00:28:35,124
And that has not happened.

449
00:28:36,089 --> 00:28:37,710
I don't know
what James was doing.

450
00:28:39,089 --> 00:28:41,296
That's not the Amish
background I came from.

451
00:28:42,296 --> 00:28:43,676
I will not be a part of...

452
00:28:44,917 --> 00:28:47,572
pounding on anybody
and hurting people.

453
00:28:49,262 --> 00:28:52,021
I don't think the Bishop
should have gotten upset at me.

454
00:28:52,158 --> 00:28:54,572
I mean, I was just trying to
keep law and order

455
00:28:54,745 --> 00:28:56,055
in this group.

456
00:28:56,227 --> 00:28:58,607
I mean, the fact is that Kendra
and Matt went to a hotel,

457
00:28:58,607 --> 00:29:00,572
and they shouldn't have.

458
00:29:00,745 --> 00:29:03,193
But at the end of the day,
he is in charge of

459
00:29:03,193 --> 00:29:04,710
making final decisions,

460
00:29:05,607 --> 00:29:08,227
and there's nothing
I can really do.

461
00:29:10,710 --> 00:29:14,021
So, if you were to ask whether
I would recommend James be

462
00:29:14,193 --> 00:29:15,607
unshunned in his community...

463
00:29:16,710 --> 00:29:17,814
the answer is no.

464
00:29:32,676 --> 00:29:34,262
Hey!

465
00:29:34,434 --> 00:29:35,986
Welcome to my classroom.

466
00:29:36,124 --> 00:29:39,917
This is my special-ed class,
and I have students that come

467
00:29:40,055 --> 00:29:43,986
in every single day and we have
goals, we have objectives.

468
00:29:44,124 --> 00:29:46,469
I guess I can relate to them
because, you know, I do have

469
00:29:46,641 --> 00:29:48,124
a disability with my hearing.

470
00:29:48,296 --> 00:29:51,262
As you can see,
they're in there.

471
00:29:51,434 --> 00:29:56,400
So having my phone where I can
adjust the volume is crucial,

472
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,296
because how am
I gonna educate them

473
00:29:58,469 --> 00:29:59,607
if I can't hear them?

474
00:29:59,607 --> 00:30:01,779
And get feedback
or give feedback?

475
00:30:01,952 --> 00:30:03,917
Or just really be

476
00:30:04,055 --> 00:30:07,089
an advocate for these kids
who might just need somebody to

477
00:30:07,262 --> 00:30:09,607
slow down with them?
And, uh...

478
00:30:11,296 --> 00:30:12,400
I will miss that.

479
00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:19,124
[pensive music plays]

480
00:30:23,607 --> 00:30:25,710
[Esmeralda] The Bishop told us
to take a little more time to

481
00:30:25,883 --> 00:30:26,917
make our final decisions.

482
00:30:28,296 --> 00:30:29,814
I want to grow with
the community.

483
00:30:29,814 --> 00:30:33,607
It's also, like, I need to look
at my own life and, you know,

484
00:30:33,607 --> 00:30:35,676
the decision that
I truly want to make.

485
00:30:36,710 --> 00:30:40,158
Yeah, they took my eyelashes
off, my nails off.

486
00:30:40,331 --> 00:30:41,917
Like, the first night
I was here,

487
00:30:41,917 --> 00:30:43,193
they obviously took away
our phones.

488
00:30:43,193 --> 00:30:44,710
They took away all my makeup,

489
00:30:44,883 --> 00:30:46,779
all my, like,
not modest clothes.

490
00:30:46,952 --> 00:30:50,021
But, yeah, it's all gone.
It's all locked away.

491
00:30:52,469 --> 00:30:54,676
But, yeah, like, at church
today, hearing everyone else

492
00:30:54,848 --> 00:30:56,400
kind of, like, made me
also feel pressured

493
00:30:56,572 --> 00:30:58,021
to wanting to
join the community.

494
00:31:00,124 --> 00:31:03,021
But the Bishop also kind of
gave us, like, the grace to

495
00:31:03,158 --> 00:31:05,814
really take our own time
and make our own decisions.

496
00:31:05,986 --> 00:31:07,986
So, like, in the back of
my head, I'm still like,

497
00:31:08,124 --> 00:31:10,089
"Do I really want this for
the rest of my life?"

498
00:31:23,469 --> 00:31:24,710
[Judah]
It feels so bittersweet.

499
00:31:24,710 --> 00:31:26,262
Like, it feels just
like yesterday,

500
00:31:26,434 --> 00:31:29,883
we walked in English,
and some of us will be leaving

501
00:31:30,021 --> 00:31:32,607
out Amish, you know?
-Brother James,

502
00:31:32,779 --> 00:31:35,538
[continues in
Pennsylvania Dutch]

503
00:31:38,021 --> 00:31:40,089
[speaking Pennsylvania Dutch]

504
00:31:42,124 --> 00:31:43,296
Sure.

505
00:31:49,365 --> 00:31:51,572
Any time that Allen and James
speak in Dutch,

506
00:31:51,745 --> 00:31:52,917
something's about to go down.

507
00:31:54,676 --> 00:31:58,193
Now is the time where
the English are going to make

508
00:31:58,365 --> 00:32:02,227
a decision whether
they want to stay or leave.

509
00:32:04,710 --> 00:32:06,814
-[Billie Jo] Oh.
-[Esmeralda] Oh, my gosh.

510
00:32:06,986 --> 00:32:08,710
I haven't seen that in
so long.

511
00:32:08,883 --> 00:32:13,262
[Billie Jo]
Oh, my goodness.
The contraband chest.

512
00:32:13,434 --> 00:32:15,779
The pants already no.
Shoes have to go.

513
00:32:19,676 --> 00:32:21,848
[Billie Jo] I literally forgot
about those.

514
00:32:24,296 --> 00:32:27,124
I want to hear one of you say,
"Thou shalt not tempt us."

515
00:32:27,296 --> 00:32:29,021
[Billie Jo]
Thou shalt not tempt us.

516
00:32:30,158 --> 00:32:31,986
Oh, God.

517
00:32:32,124 --> 00:32:36,193
This chest holds a lot of
things that we love

518
00:32:36,365 --> 00:32:38,710
and we've had and we used.

519
00:32:38,710 --> 00:32:40,986
I'm a little nervous what
people are gonna do with this

520
00:32:41,124 --> 00:32:43,986
temptation because everything
has been away from us.

521
00:32:44,124 --> 00:32:46,607
-So the time has arrived.
-Go ahead.

522
00:32:47,607 --> 00:32:49,262
[Judah] It's like they're
baiting us to see if,

523
00:32:49,434 --> 00:32:50,883
do you really want
to be Amish?

524
00:32:53,193 --> 00:32:54,883
[Billie Jo]
I'm a little on edge.

525
00:32:55,021 --> 00:32:59,469
Everyone here has become like
my family, so I really don't

526
00:32:59,641 --> 00:33:00,917
want to say goodbye to anyone.

527
00:33:04,193 --> 00:33:06,917
[fire crackling]

528
00:33:09,365 --> 00:33:12,676
[James]
Who is staying Amish?
Who is going back English?

529
00:33:13,710 --> 00:33:14,814
Come on up.

530
00:33:19,296 --> 00:33:21,124
Everybody's just looking
around like,

531
00:33:21,296 --> 00:33:23,021
"Who's gonna stand up?"

532
00:33:27,262 --> 00:33:29,883
[tense music builds]

533
00:33:32,296 --> 00:33:35,365
[Esmeralda]
Walking up to that chest,
once you see like a part of

534
00:33:35,538 --> 00:33:38,400
the old you, it's like you just
get all those memories of,

535
00:33:38,572 --> 00:33:40,883
oh, like, I can just go back
home and, you know,

536
00:33:41,021 --> 00:33:44,193
act like I'm, you know,
back to the convenient life,

537
00:33:44,365 --> 00:33:45,503
back to English life.

538
00:33:45,503 --> 00:33:48,296
It's so easy to just pick up
those stuff and go.

539
00:33:52,193 --> 00:33:55,158
OK, let me get my stuff.

540
00:33:59,296 --> 00:34:02,710
Gotta -- gotta go back home for
a little, figure things out.

541
00:34:04,021 --> 00:34:05,296
So I would like my stuff.

542
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:09,778
I've made the decision and this
Amish life is not meant for me.

543
00:34:15,296 --> 00:34:16,606
[Judah]
We came in together.

544
00:34:16,606 --> 00:34:19,606
I wanted us to stay together,
but everybody got their own

545
00:34:19,778 --> 00:34:20,778
path and their own journey.

546
00:34:27,468 --> 00:34:29,089
[Esmeralda]
It is bittersweet.

547
00:34:29,262 --> 00:34:32,883
I'm gonna miss the people here
and the house despite the flies

548
00:34:33,021 --> 00:34:34,572
and no AC and no lights.

549
00:34:36,124 --> 00:34:38,606
I feel like if you're wanting
to live a very simple,

550
00:34:38,606 --> 00:34:41,262
minimalistic life,
then the Amish life

551
00:34:41,434 --> 00:34:43,296
could definitely be for you.

552
00:34:43,468 --> 00:34:46,883
But if you're not ready to give
up the everyday conveniences

553
00:34:47,021 --> 00:34:50,296
of life, then I do not
recommend.

554
00:35:02,607 --> 00:35:03,710
Aaron, it's your turn.

555
00:35:07,193 --> 00:35:08,296
[heavy exhale]

556
00:35:16,469 --> 00:35:17,572
[sniffs]

557
00:35:21,296 --> 00:35:24,503
[Aaron] If I leave today,
I'm leaving my family.

558
00:35:31,158 --> 00:35:32,262
I do need these.

559
00:35:35,710 --> 00:35:37,021
I cannot believe this.

560
00:35:39,469 --> 00:35:41,814
-And I do need this.
-I understand.

561
00:35:44,124 --> 00:35:46,607
[Aaron] I think that as much as
I wanted to be here,

562
00:35:46,607 --> 00:35:49,883
I have been really wrestling
with a lot of stuff all day

563
00:35:50,021 --> 00:35:52,296
and realizing I can't
keep my hearing aids,

564
00:35:52,469 --> 00:35:55,227
and that's huge.
That's a deal breaker.

565
00:35:57,676 --> 00:36:02,089
[Billie Jo]
I think that the phone
and the hearing aids,

566
00:36:02,262 --> 00:36:05,917
you know, that's something that
he feels he needs to have in

567
00:36:06,055 --> 00:36:08,676
order to live comfortably.

568
00:36:08,848 --> 00:36:11,365
So he has to do what's best for
him on his journey.

569
00:36:15,572 --> 00:36:16,986
[James]
You got all your stuff?

570
00:36:18,883 --> 00:36:22,158
[Allen]
It's a disappointment to me
that Aaron made the decision

571
00:36:22,331 --> 00:36:25,986
not to stay, simply because
the fact of his hearing aids.

572
00:36:27,021 --> 00:36:29,089
I wish there was a way that
we could have made it

573
00:36:29,262 --> 00:36:30,503
easier on him.

574
00:36:30,676 --> 00:36:33,607
He had a chance to become
a good fit for our community.

575
00:36:35,883 --> 00:36:39,365
Walking away from something
that you have put so much

576
00:36:39,538 --> 00:36:43,710
energy into, life and breath,
isn't easy.

577
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:47,296
I love and want community,

578
00:36:47,296 --> 00:36:50,917
and that's one big reason
I took this journey.

579
00:36:52,779 --> 00:36:54,124
But it doesn't have
to be Amish.

580
00:36:59,193 --> 00:37:02,021
OK, BJ.

581
00:37:02,158 --> 00:37:04,158
I mean, I'm just gonna take
a look, you know?

582
00:37:04,331 --> 00:37:09,158
I -- it's been so long, Allen,
I almost forget what's in there.

583
00:37:11,607 --> 00:37:13,917
[James]
Yield not to temptation.
What do I see?

584
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:17,089
[laughing]

585
00:37:24,193 --> 00:37:25,779
[Billie Jo]
Phones are in there,

586
00:37:25,952 --> 00:37:27,883
and things that
we used every day.

587
00:37:30,124 --> 00:37:32,262
This is like Pandora's box.

588
00:37:37,986 --> 00:37:39,917
BJ's hesitating,
and I can't even believe

589
00:37:40,055 --> 00:37:41,779
that she's considering
leaving right now.

590
00:37:41,952 --> 00:37:43,814
She's literally wanted to be
Amish her whole life.

591
00:37:48,365 --> 00:37:50,193
-So, what do you think?
-I am...

592
00:37:50,365 --> 00:37:53,089
I am staying out of it.
-Hey!

593
00:37:53,262 --> 00:37:55,814
-I am focused on this.
-Whoa!

594
00:37:58,055 --> 00:38:00,710
-Aw! I love you.
-I love you too.

595
00:38:03,158 --> 00:38:07,365
I have longed to be a part of
the community, and this journey

596
00:38:07,538 --> 00:38:11,124
has showed me that it's
absolutely the place for me.

597
00:38:11,296 --> 00:38:14,296
I love the people,
the culture, the lifestyle.

598
00:38:14,296 --> 00:38:16,814
The verdict is in.
I do want to be Amish.

599
00:38:18,055 --> 00:38:19,814
All right, Judah, your turn.

600
00:38:20,917 --> 00:38:22,089
What is your decision?

601
00:38:22,262 --> 00:38:25,021
Are you staying or
are you leaving?

602
00:38:26,607 --> 00:38:27,710
Come on up.

603
00:38:33,710 --> 00:38:36,607
When Judah walks up,
I'm just bracing myself.

604
00:38:36,779 --> 00:38:39,503
Oh my gosh, Judah,
don't do it.

605
00:38:39,676 --> 00:38:42,021
I'm scared to death that he's
going to do what they did.

606
00:38:44,503 --> 00:38:46,296
[dramatic music plays]

607
00:39:04,434 --> 00:39:06,710
I really don't know
what he's gonna do.

608
00:39:16,296 --> 00:39:17,365
I'm gonna stay.

609
00:39:17,538 --> 00:39:19,021
-[reverent chanting plays]
-OK.

610
00:39:19,986 --> 00:39:22,262
-That's a great decision.
-Thank you, sir.

611
00:39:24,365 --> 00:39:26,055
-Thank you.
-Thank you.

612
00:39:26,227 --> 00:39:29,572
[Judah] Being here, I didn't
expect to gain any friendships,

613
00:39:29,745 --> 00:39:32,262
and the fact that I'm here as
the last two with you really

614
00:39:32,434 --> 00:39:33,538
does mean a lot to me.

615
00:39:33,710 --> 00:39:35,641
-I'm proud of you.
-Thank you, Sarah.

616
00:39:35,814 --> 00:39:38,055
-I'm so proud
of you, I love you.
-Thank you.

617
00:39:42,089 --> 00:39:46,710
I appreciate you for making
this a safe space for me to be

618
00:39:46,883 --> 00:39:49,814
open and be myself.
I appreciate you.

619
00:39:49,986 --> 00:39:51,158
I love you.

620
00:39:51,158 --> 00:39:54,917
And I'm excited to see,
like, where this crazy journey

621
00:39:54,917 --> 00:39:57,124
takes us.
-[chuckles] Same.

622
00:39:59,607 --> 00:40:03,021
With Judah and BJ planning to
continue the journey in

623
00:40:03,158 --> 00:40:05,814
the Amish, I wish them well.

624
00:40:08,262 --> 00:40:11,158
In the end, I guess
Esmeralda and Aaron,

625
00:40:11,331 --> 00:40:13,124
it was just too much for them.

626
00:40:14,917 --> 00:40:16,021
This life is not for them.

627
00:40:19,434 --> 00:40:20,572
[Aaron]
I'm sad to leave.

628
00:40:22,021 --> 00:40:23,538
Am I gonna regret leaving?

629
00:40:25,814 --> 00:40:27,296
I don't know.

630
00:40:29,779 --> 00:40:31,296
[Esmeralda] I'm gonna miss
the slow-paced life here.

631
00:40:31,469 --> 00:40:33,710
I don't think I really had
any regrets,

632
00:40:33,883 --> 00:40:36,262
I think I did everything to
the best that I could.

633
00:40:36,434 --> 00:40:39,262
And I loved everyone to
the best of my ability.

634
00:40:39,434 --> 00:40:40,503
[Esmeralda] Oh.

635
00:40:40,676 --> 00:40:43,400
-Oh, my gosh.
-Esme!

636
00:40:44,676 --> 00:40:45,779
[indistinct]

637
00:40:51,227 --> 00:40:52,917
I love you guys.

638
00:40:53,055 --> 00:40:54,676
[sniffling]

639
00:40:59,710 --> 00:41:02,055
-All right --
we'll see you guys.
-[Aaron] We'll see you.

640
00:41:02,227 --> 00:41:03,158
-Love you all.
-[Allen] Safe travels.

641
00:41:03,331 --> 00:41:04,262
[Billie Jo] Thank you.

642
00:41:04,434 --> 00:41:05,538
[James speaks indistinctly]

643
00:41:10,055 --> 00:41:11,158
[Billie Jo] Bye.

644
00:41:12,262 --> 00:41:14,572
-[Aaron] Bye, guys.
-Love you guys.

645
00:41:14,745 --> 00:41:16,538
-Love you, Es! No!
-[Billie Jo] Love you so much.

646
00:41:18,572 --> 00:41:21,434
Seeing Esmeralda and Aaron
in their English clothes

647
00:41:21,607 --> 00:41:23,710
is kind of crazy.

648
00:41:24,676 --> 00:41:27,124
Saying goodbye,
it's bittersweet.

649
00:41:29,607 --> 00:41:31,400
But right now, I'm happy.

650
00:41:33,503 --> 00:41:36,227
I am here for the long run,
for the Amish life.

651
00:41:38,710 --> 00:41:41,572
I'm so grateful for this
entire experience.

652
00:41:45,814 --> 00:41:47,607
Sorry.

653
00:41:50,055 --> 00:41:52,227
[Bishop]
Everybody deserves
a place where they can find joy.

654
00:41:54,021 --> 00:41:56,296
And if that's not here,
we're gonna bless you.

655
00:41:57,641 --> 00:42:00,124
If you can take something
from this experience,

656
00:42:00,296 --> 00:42:01,538
I bless you for it.

657
00:42:01,538 --> 00:42:03,917
If it leads you to something
different other than being

658
00:42:04,055 --> 00:42:05,538
Amish, I bless you for it.

659
00:42:08,917 --> 00:42:11,641
Has it changed the way
they look at technology?

660
00:42:11,814 --> 00:42:14,917
Has it broken the cycle of just
being glued to your phone?

661
00:42:16,021 --> 00:42:18,227
That would be my hope for
these six applicants.

662
00:42:21,814 --> 00:42:25,883
♪ A fresh perspective
of my life ♪

663
00:42:26,021 --> 00:42:28,538
[Esmeralda]
I'm glad that I did this,
because it just showed me

664
00:42:28,710 --> 00:42:30,917
how much I take for
granted back home.

665
00:42:31,055 --> 00:42:33,124
So I'm definitely putting
that into my life

666
00:42:33,296 --> 00:42:34,227
and being more grateful.

667
00:42:35,089 --> 00:42:37,158
I'm excited to finally,
you know,

668
00:42:37,331 --> 00:42:39,021
be more, like,
immersed in my life.

669
00:42:47,124 --> 00:42:51,055
♪ Another moment
locked in time ♪

670
00:42:51,227 --> 00:42:54,434
[Kendra]
Even though it was a very
challenging experience for me,

671
00:42:55,641 --> 00:42:59,193
it's completely shifting how
I'm living my life now.

672
00:42:59,365 --> 00:43:02,503
All this, I don't need it.
I just don't --

673
00:43:02,676 --> 00:43:05,779
[Kendra]
I stopped accepting dance
opportunities if the outfit was

674
00:43:05,952 --> 00:43:07,158
a little too revealing,

675
00:43:07,331 --> 00:43:09,641
and I started dancing for
my church.

676
00:43:28,365 --> 00:43:31,158
[Kendra] Update on Matt and I,
unfortunately, it just wasn't

677
00:43:31,331 --> 00:43:33,814
meant to be.
So he's not my cowboy.

678
00:43:33,814 --> 00:43:36,158
I'm hoping and praying for
another cowboy.

679
00:43:42,021 --> 00:43:44,710
[Matt] Life is simple now.
Screen time is down.

680
00:43:44,883 --> 00:43:46,021
TV time is down.

681
00:43:46,193 --> 00:43:49,089
The boys don't play as much
video games anymore.

682
00:43:57,262 --> 00:43:59,469
My kids want to be Amish now,
and I told them

683
00:43:59,641 --> 00:44:01,296
Dad gave it a shot.

684
00:44:01,469 --> 00:44:02,986
And they said, "We can't bring
our phones, Dad,

685
00:44:03,124 --> 00:44:05,021
so don't bring your phone.
I don't want to get in trouble."

686
00:44:13,434 --> 00:44:17,021
[Aaron]
Walking away from something
that you have put so much

687
00:44:17,158 --> 00:44:19,055
energy into isn't easy,

688
00:44:20,193 --> 00:44:25,055
but what I'm really glad is
that I considered trying

689
00:44:25,227 --> 00:44:28,089
the Amish life,
because the lessons learned,

690
00:44:28,262 --> 00:44:30,641
the revelations
and realizations,

691
00:44:30,814 --> 00:44:33,124
it was everything that I needed.

692
00:44:35,607 --> 00:44:39,400
[Allen] Our mission was to help
them find a better life,

693
00:44:39,572 --> 00:44:42,572
and I do feel like
we did succeed.

694
00:44:42,745 --> 00:44:45,469
And I hope they have good
memories of our time together

695
00:44:45,641 --> 00:44:48,089
and think positive of
the Amish lifestyle.

696
00:44:49,434 --> 00:44:51,124
♪ For life ♪

697
00:44:52,814 --> 00:44:54,710
♪ The time is now ♪

698
00:44:54,883 --> 00:44:57,434
♪ This is our moment ♪

699
00:44:57,607 --> 00:44:59,365
♪ We chose our path ♪

700
00:44:59,538 --> 00:45:01,572
♪ Get up and do it ♪

701
00:45:03,607 --> 00:45:08,193
♪ There's no where
I'd rather be, yeah ♪

702
00:45:09,607 --> 00:45:12,331
♪ Right here,
right now ♪

703
00:45:12,503 --> 00:45:15,124
[James] The Bishop didn't feel
like I'm ready to be unshunned,

704
00:45:15,296 --> 00:45:18,021
but I'm glad for everything
I've learned during this

705
00:45:18,193 --> 00:45:21,089
mission, what the English have
taught me about acceptance.

706
00:45:22,434 --> 00:45:26,055
Some of the English left,
some stayed, but hopefully more

707
00:45:26,227 --> 00:45:27,331
come in the future,

708
00:45:27,503 --> 00:45:29,814
and I'm willing to be here
to help them.

709
00:45:41,503 --> 00:45:44,193
[Judah] I'm currently in
Atlanta, seeing family, friends,

710
00:45:44,365 --> 00:45:46,676
and letting them know
that I decided to move forward

711
00:45:46,848 --> 00:45:49,055
and continue my journey with
the Amish community.

712
00:45:49,227 --> 00:45:50,710
Even though everybody moved on,

713
00:45:50,883 --> 00:45:53,021
I still feel like we're
all a family.

714
00:45:53,193 --> 00:45:55,055
Like, Allen and Sarah
are the parents.

715
00:45:55,227 --> 00:45:57,434
BJ is like an older sister.
Aaron is a brother.

716
00:45:57,607 --> 00:45:59,917
Esme is a sister.

717
00:45:59,917 --> 00:46:02,917
James is like that annoying
uncle at the cookout that

718
00:46:02,917 --> 00:46:05,089
you really don't want to talk
to, but you love him anyway.

719
00:46:18,607 --> 00:46:23,055
[Billie Jo] Judah and I both are
pursuing our discipleship.

720
00:46:23,227 --> 00:46:26,917
We've talked about getting
a house together.

721
00:46:27,055 --> 00:46:31,021
And meanwhile, I'm trying to
learn Pennsylvania Dutch.

722
00:46:31,193 --> 00:46:32,986
[speaking Pennsylvania Dutch]

723
00:46:33,124 --> 00:46:34,607
I think that means
"I don't know."

724
00:46:36,883 --> 00:46:38,262
We'll see.
I'm learning.

725
00:46:39,158 --> 00:46:42,986
♪ There's no where
I'd rather be, yeah ♪

726
00:46:55,227 --> 00:46:58,262
[Emma] I think a lot of people
covet the Amish lifestyle just

727
00:46:58,434 --> 00:47:03,055
because it seems so peaceful
and everybody wants peace

728
00:47:03,227 --> 00:47:04,193
in their life.

729
00:47:04,365 --> 00:47:06,262
Everybody is looking
for something,

730
00:47:06,434 --> 00:47:09,676
and most of those people
that are looking for something,

731
00:47:09,848 --> 00:47:12,021
they're looking for a place
where they can feel safe...

732
00:47:13,193 --> 00:47:14,572
and where they can just...

733
00:47:15,883 --> 00:47:18,021
have that peacefulness.

734
00:47:18,158 --> 00:47:20,124
♪ Ooh-oh-oh ♪

735
00:47:20,296 --> 00:47:22,779
♪ Ooh-oh-oh ♪

736
00:47:22,952 --> 00:47:24,814
♪ Ooh-oh-oh ♪

737
00:47:24,986 --> 00:47:26,883
♪ Ooh-oh-oh ♪

738
00:47:27,917 --> 00:47:30,089
♪ Right here,
right now ♪