1 00:00:44,125 --> 00:00:47,542 Thank you for coming. 2 00:00:47,625 --> 00:00:50,250 Uh, over the years, you all know that, that, uh, 3 00:00:50,333 --> 00:00:53,500 I've been reluctant to speak with the press 4 00:00:53,583 --> 00:00:57,667 and have assiduously avoided publicity. 5 00:00:58,375 --> 00:01:00,041 But because of 6 00:01:00,125 --> 00:01:03,041 all the rumors and innuendos, 7 00:01:03,125 --> 00:01:05,417 I feel that I have to make a statement. 8 00:01:07,583 --> 00:01:09,458 First, 9 00:01:09,542 --> 00:01:12,208 I'm greatly saddened 10 00:01:12,291 --> 00:01:15,208 that sources close to Mia Farrow 11 00:01:15,291 --> 00:01:21,000 have released to the public allegations instigated by her 12 00:01:21,083 --> 00:01:24,166 of child abuse on my part. 13 00:01:32,792 --> 00:01:35,834 There's so much misinformation. 14 00:01:38,667 --> 00:01:43,875 There's so much obfuscation and so many lies. 15 00:01:45,500 --> 00:01:48,709 I've been subjected to every kind of doubt 16 00:01:48,792 --> 00:01:51,083 and every kind of scrutiny and every kind of 17 00:01:51,166 --> 00:01:53,000 humiliation over this. 18 00:01:55,417 --> 00:01:57,709 In the last 20 years, 19 00:01:57,792 --> 00:02:01,917 he was able to just run amok, 20 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:04,709 while I was growing up. 21 00:02:07,417 --> 00:02:10,667 And I was coping with this... 22 00:02:11,917 --> 00:02:16,125 through sleepless nights and panic attacks 23 00:02:16,208 --> 00:02:18,375 because of one man. 24 00:02:21,041 --> 00:02:22,291 For the longest time, 25 00:02:22,375 --> 00:02:27,125 I've been trying to set the record straight. 26 00:02:27,208 --> 00:02:30,083 Because no matter what you think you know, 27 00:02:30,166 --> 00:02:32,875 it's just the tip of the iceberg. 28 00:02:39,333 --> 00:02:42,375 This is a story of two of the biggest stars in the world. 29 00:02:42,458 --> 00:02:44,125 The father is Woody Allen, 30 00:02:44,208 --> 00:02:45,625 writer, director, actor. 31 00:02:45,709 --> 00:02:48,709 The mother is Mia Farrow, his frequent costar 32 00:02:48,792 --> 00:02:50,500 and the mother of his three children, 33 00:02:50,583 --> 00:02:53,542 two of them adopted. 34 00:02:53,625 --> 00:02:56,017 Woody and Mia have been together for 12 years, 35 00:02:56,041 --> 00:02:59,583 but never married and kept separate residences. 36 00:03:05,542 --> 00:03:08,709 She reportedly has a video of their adopted daughter Dylan 37 00:03:08,792 --> 00:03:11,250 explaining how Allen molested her. 38 00:03:13,709 --> 00:03:15,458 Allen denies child abuse, 39 00:03:15,542 --> 00:03:17,000 but freely admits he's in love 40 00:03:17,083 --> 00:03:19,000 with another of Farrow's daughters, 41 00:03:19,083 --> 00:03:21,458 21-year-old Soon-Yi. 42 00:03:23,417 --> 00:03:25,291 Allen said the newest allegations 43 00:03:25,375 --> 00:03:28,750 are the bizarre concoctions of a woman scorned. 44 00:03:30,917 --> 00:03:33,000 Miss Farrow's only concern 45 00:03:33,083 --> 00:03:36,083 has been, exclusively, protection of her children. 46 00:04:11,959 --> 00:04:14,959 These are the ones that my mom made me. 47 00:04:15,041 --> 00:04:19,375 And I know there's stuff full of a bunch of other, other stuff. 48 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:26,875 There's us going to the set. 49 00:04:28,083 --> 00:04:30,417 "You came to work with me each day. 50 00:04:30,500 --> 00:04:32,542 I am making 'Radio Days.'" 51 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:41,166 You know, some pictures are... 52 00:04:42,417 --> 00:04:43,667 pulled out. 53 00:04:47,417 --> 00:04:49,667 You know, we do what we have to do. 54 00:04:53,083 --> 00:04:55,333 Um... 55 00:04:55,417 --> 00:04:59,041 Yeah, you can see the pictures have been strategically cropped. 56 00:05:06,333 --> 00:05:09,375 I think in a lot of ways, 57 00:05:09,458 --> 00:05:11,834 I've come to understand my feelings better 58 00:05:11,917 --> 00:05:14,208 as an adult than I did as a child. 59 00:05:16,875 --> 00:05:19,625 At the root of it, what I was really feeling 60 00:05:19,709 --> 00:05:22,083 was that... 61 00:05:22,166 --> 00:05:25,875 I had let down the little girl that I was before 62 00:05:25,959 --> 00:05:28,709 when I couldn't speak about it. 63 00:05:31,208 --> 00:05:33,542 I wish that I had been stronger. 64 00:05:33,625 --> 00:05:36,208 That I hadn't crumpled so much 65 00:05:36,291 --> 00:05:39,250 under the, under the pressure. 66 00:05:40,583 --> 00:05:44,417 And... I need to, in a way, 67 00:05:44,500 --> 00:05:47,750 prove to myself that I... That I can face it. 68 00:05:49,417 --> 00:05:51,125 Which is probably why 69 00:05:51,208 --> 00:05:54,750 I feel so strongly about coming forward now. 70 00:06:09,208 --> 00:06:12,208 So, Dylan, what do you wanna be when you grow up? 71 00:06:12,291 --> 00:06:15,166 Well, I wanna be... 72 00:06:15,250 --> 00:06:17,291 Well, I wanna be... 73 00:06:18,709 --> 00:06:19,959 Okay. 74 00:06:20,041 --> 00:06:22,291 And what do you hope to do this summer? 75 00:06:22,375 --> 00:06:24,768 - How would you like your summer to go? - I wanna go swimming. 76 00:06:24,792 --> 00:06:29,208 - Great. Is that your favorite thing to do? - Yeah. 77 00:06:29,291 --> 00:06:33,041 - Great. - Anything else you'd like to say? 78 00:06:33,125 --> 00:06:36,333 - I love you. - I love you, too. 79 00:06:43,125 --> 00:06:45,333 It was an amazing childhood. 80 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:49,709 I grew up in 81 00:06:49,792 --> 00:06:52,875 a place filled with books and toys 82 00:06:52,959 --> 00:06:56,667 and everything I could possibly want. 83 00:06:56,750 --> 00:07:00,625 - Oh! - Blow them all out, sweetie. 84 00:07:00,709 --> 00:07:04,625 - - Hooray! 85 00:07:04,709 --> 00:07:07,458 As a little kid, I couldn't really understand 86 00:07:07,542 --> 00:07:10,333 in what ways we were actually different. 87 00:07:10,417 --> 00:07:12,393 Because there were some things that I thought, "Oh! 88 00:07:12,417 --> 00:07:15,041 Well, this must be how it is in every family." 89 00:07:15,125 --> 00:07:16,226 And then there are some things 90 00:07:16,250 --> 00:07:18,500 that I thought, you know, like, "Oh! 91 00:07:18,583 --> 00:07:22,166 Well, this is definitely unique to my family." 92 00:07:22,250 --> 00:07:26,250 You know, and part of that was having so many siblings. 93 00:07:26,333 --> 00:07:30,041 I loved having a big family. 94 00:07:30,125 --> 00:07:32,583 There was madness, but there was a method. 95 00:07:34,333 --> 00:07:37,166 You know, for the most part, we got along. 96 00:07:38,542 --> 00:07:39,834 Occasionally, 97 00:07:39,917 --> 00:07:43,250 my mom would kinda like swoop in with some damage control. 98 00:07:43,333 --> 00:07:47,250 Oh dear. Okay. Did it fall off? 99 00:07:47,333 --> 00:07:48,643 She was everywhere at once. 100 00:07:48,667 --> 00:07:50,041 Alright, let's go. come on. 101 00:07:50,125 --> 00:07:52,959 She could be picking up LEGOs one second, 102 00:07:53,041 --> 00:07:56,166 and then the next, she'd be on a movie set. 103 00:07:56,250 --> 00:07:59,667 22 Frank, take one. 104 00:07:59,750 --> 00:08:02,959 We really were a Hollywood family. 105 00:08:03,041 --> 00:08:05,250 I was always like stumbling around on set. 106 00:08:06,542 --> 00:08:08,250 To me, that was the equivalent 107 00:08:08,333 --> 00:08:10,375 of like going to your parents' office. 108 00:08:14,333 --> 00:08:16,583 I remember going on 109 00:08:16,667 --> 00:08:21,166 incredible trips in private planes, 110 00:08:21,250 --> 00:08:24,750 and traveling the world with my family. 111 00:08:27,583 --> 00:08:31,500 I have very fond memories of us all swimming in the pool 112 00:08:31,583 --> 00:08:35,458 - at the most posh hotel. - Can you swim? 113 00:08:35,542 --> 00:08:38,792 It was idyllic most of the time. 114 00:08:38,875 --> 00:08:41,834 And he was a big part of that. 115 00:08:41,917 --> 00:08:43,959 Here comes Johnny Weissmuller. 116 00:08:46,458 --> 00:08:48,583 Tell Mommy what you said. 117 00:08:48,667 --> 00:08:51,000 Tell Mommy what you said. 118 00:08:51,083 --> 00:08:52,976 - Tell Mommy what you said. - What did she say? 119 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:54,834 - What did you say, Dylan? - Your, your... 120 00:08:54,917 --> 00:08:58,250 - His legs are funny. - No, "That some daddies..." 121 00:09:07,709 --> 00:09:10,792 My daddy! I'm with my daddy! 122 00:09:13,291 --> 00:09:15,625 It's really hard to sort of examine 123 00:09:15,709 --> 00:09:17,250 the good times and the bad times 124 00:09:17,333 --> 00:09:20,000 completely independently. 125 00:09:23,709 --> 00:09:25,959 This is somebody that... 126 00:09:27,083 --> 00:09:29,250 I loved... 127 00:09:29,333 --> 00:09:31,417 more than anybody else. 128 00:09:36,667 --> 00:09:39,375 And it's taken me a long time 129 00:09:39,458 --> 00:09:42,041 to sort of reconcile 130 00:09:42,125 --> 00:09:45,000 that you can love somebody and be afraid of them. 131 00:10:08,333 --> 00:10:10,542 I made this, uh, 132 00:10:10,625 --> 00:10:13,834 this doll's house when I was waiting for Dylan. 133 00:10:15,625 --> 00:10:17,250 I actually made it. 134 00:10:17,333 --> 00:10:22,000 Every, every shingle and the floors. 135 00:10:22,083 --> 00:10:26,083 I went to different places that had doll furniture, 136 00:10:26,166 --> 00:10:29,375 and I decorated all the interior. 137 00:10:30,417 --> 00:10:33,166 I mean, I really went all-out here. 138 00:10:35,959 --> 00:10:37,542 It's a home within a home. 139 00:10:43,583 --> 00:10:47,333 I've lived here in this house for 40 years. 140 00:10:50,709 --> 00:10:55,208 So much has happened here that's hard to talk about. 141 00:10:57,792 --> 00:11:01,542 But still a place of happiness and love. 142 00:11:04,750 --> 00:11:08,875 I haven't spoken publicly about him for decades. 143 00:11:11,709 --> 00:11:14,417 But that's the great regret of my life. 144 00:11:14,500 --> 00:11:17,125 That I wasn't perceptive enough. 145 00:11:18,291 --> 00:11:19,625 It's my fault. 146 00:11:19,709 --> 00:11:23,333 I brought this guy into our family. 147 00:11:23,417 --> 00:11:26,125 You know, there's nothing I can do 148 00:11:26,917 --> 00:11:29,250 to take that away. 149 00:11:32,041 --> 00:11:34,083 I get why people can't believe it 150 00:11:34,166 --> 00:11:37,959 because who on Earth could believe that of Woody Allen, you know? 151 00:11:38,750 --> 00:11:40,917 I couldn't believe it. 152 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:43,667 I couldn't believe it. 153 00:11:43,750 --> 00:11:46,959 Everybody admired Woody so much, you know. 154 00:11:47,041 --> 00:11:49,750 Loved him, and I did, too. 155 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:53,458 My next guest is a writer, a director, 156 00:11:53,542 --> 00:11:55,583 a very skillful amateur musician, 157 00:11:55,667 --> 00:11:57,083 a philosopher, a comedian. 158 00:11:57,166 --> 00:12:00,166 Will you welcome, please, Mr. Woody Allen? 159 00:12:07,625 --> 00:12:09,333 Woody Allen is one of the most prominent 160 00:12:09,417 --> 00:12:12,041 American film directors and writers. 161 00:12:12,125 --> 00:12:16,709 He's made a film every year for about four decades. 162 00:12:16,792 --> 00:12:20,417 Woody Allen's success was pretty meteoric. 163 00:12:20,500 --> 00:12:24,709 A lot of his films were instant classics. 164 00:12:24,792 --> 00:12:27,667 And then he's something of a legend onto himself, you know. 165 00:12:27,750 --> 00:12:32,458 They say you're not a New Yorker until you encounter Woody Allen. 166 00:12:32,542 --> 00:12:35,625 Woody was such a dominant cultural figure, 167 00:12:35,709 --> 00:12:37,959 particularly in New York. 168 00:12:38,041 --> 00:12:40,417 I mean, he was so highly regarded. 169 00:12:40,500 --> 00:12:43,917 He didn't even have to maybe submit his film scripts for approval. 170 00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:45,834 You know, "This was Woody." 171 00:12:50,166 --> 00:12:52,250 I was a fan of Woody Allen 172 00:12:52,333 --> 00:12:54,500 well before I was a film critic. 173 00:12:54,583 --> 00:12:57,166 One of the first films I remember seeing 174 00:12:57,250 --> 00:12:59,542 and loving when I was a kid was "Sleeper." 175 00:13:00,667 --> 00:13:03,917 And I thought it was just so funny. 176 00:13:11,834 --> 00:13:14,333 He's created this adorable persona 177 00:13:14,417 --> 00:13:18,083 that's, you know, the sort of small, weak man. 178 00:13:19,041 --> 00:13:22,250 He makes neuroses hilarious. 179 00:13:27,125 --> 00:13:31,333 He's sort of anything other than the classic Hollywood leading man. 180 00:13:31,417 --> 00:13:34,500 He's not this kind of buff guy on a horse. 181 00:13:34,583 --> 00:13:36,125 He reads a lot of books 182 00:13:36,208 --> 00:13:39,583 and he freaks out about things a lot, and that's who he is. 183 00:13:39,667 --> 00:13:41,041 How much is this stuff? 184 00:13:41,125 --> 00:13:43,625 That's about $2,000 an ounce. 185 00:13:43,709 --> 00:13:47,083 Really? And what is the kick of it? I never... 186 00:13:48,834 --> 00:13:50,125 Achoo! 187 00:13:50,208 --> 00:13:52,500 The Woody Allen film I love the most 188 00:13:52,583 --> 00:13:54,083 is probably "Annie Hall," 189 00:13:54,166 --> 00:13:55,500 and the reason is that 190 00:13:55,583 --> 00:13:57,834 I thought Annie was a great character. 191 00:13:57,917 --> 00:13:59,959 A great female character, which is still something 192 00:14:00,041 --> 00:14:02,500 that's kind of hard to see in the movies. 193 00:14:02,583 --> 00:14:05,250 And when I watched it, I saw something aspirational there. 194 00:14:05,333 --> 00:14:07,875 Something that I wanted to be. 195 00:14:08,583 --> 00:14:10,166 You-you play very well. 196 00:14:10,250 --> 00:14:12,000 Oh, yeah? So do you. 197 00:14:12,083 --> 00:14:14,959 Oh God, what a... what a dumb thing to say, right? 198 00:14:15,041 --> 00:14:16,709 I mean, you say you play well, 199 00:14:16,792 --> 00:14:20,000 and then right away I have to say you play well. 200 00:14:20,083 --> 00:14:23,083 Oh, oh God, Annie. Well... 201 00:14:23,750 --> 00:14:25,583 Oh well. 202 00:14:25,667 --> 00:14:29,542 Lah-dee-dah. Lah-dee-dah. La, la. Yeah. 203 00:14:29,625 --> 00:14:32,333 I grew up feeling really close to Woody Allen. 204 00:14:32,417 --> 00:14:35,250 He was always, to me, my whole life, 205 00:14:35,333 --> 00:14:37,083 extremely appealing. 206 00:14:37,166 --> 00:14:39,458 I felt... I felt that he represented me, 207 00:14:39,542 --> 00:14:42,375 which is a very weird way for a little girl to feel 208 00:14:42,458 --> 00:14:46,875 about a, you know, middle-aged filmmaker. 209 00:14:46,959 --> 00:14:49,667 He has a way of inhabiting something very human 210 00:14:49,750 --> 00:14:52,291 that's extremely relatable. 211 00:14:52,375 --> 00:14:54,917 I got the classic symptoms of a brain tumor! 212 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:57,875 Two months ago, you thought you had a malignant melanoma. 213 00:14:57,959 --> 00:15:02,041 There's a lot of kind of mortifying self-disclosures 214 00:15:02,125 --> 00:15:06,208 that make you feel warmly towards him and root for him. 215 00:15:06,291 --> 00:15:07,893 It's a great cultivator of sympathy, right? 216 00:15:07,917 --> 00:15:10,917 Like showing your underbelly to the audience, apparently, 217 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:14,041 is a great way to earn their allegiance forever. 218 00:15:14,125 --> 00:15:16,125 This morning, I was so happy, you know? 219 00:15:16,208 --> 00:15:18,250 Now, I don't know what went wrong. 220 00:15:18,333 --> 00:15:20,291 You were miserable this morning! 221 00:15:20,375 --> 00:15:22,542 We got bad reviews, terrible ratings, 222 00:15:22,625 --> 00:15:23,875 the sponsors are furious. 223 00:15:23,959 --> 00:15:27,583 No, I was happy, but I just didn't realize I was happy. 224 00:15:27,667 --> 00:15:29,709 He makes you think about 225 00:15:29,792 --> 00:15:32,083 that part of yourself that's unsure 226 00:15:32,166 --> 00:15:33,875 and neurotic and, um, 227 00:15:33,959 --> 00:15:35,583 you don't hate it quite so much 228 00:15:35,667 --> 00:15:38,625 because it's being framed so appealingly by him. 229 00:15:38,709 --> 00:15:40,549 - -But shouldn't I stop making movies 230 00:15:40,583 --> 00:15:43,333 and do something that counts like helping blind people 231 00:15:43,417 --> 00:15:45,417 or becoming a missionary or something? 232 00:15:45,500 --> 00:15:50,542 So he does, you know, what great personal art can do. 233 00:15:50,625 --> 00:15:54,875 He shows something that's uncomfortable in himself, 234 00:15:54,959 --> 00:15:57,291 and then you feel less alone. 235 00:16:06,625 --> 00:16:11,375 In 1979, I was living in New York City. 236 00:16:11,458 --> 00:16:16,500 I was in a Broadway play for about a year with Anthony Perkins. 237 00:16:16,583 --> 00:16:18,000 One night, Michael Caine, 238 00:16:18,083 --> 00:16:20,208 an old friend, came to see the play, 239 00:16:20,291 --> 00:16:22,291 and he said afterwards, he said, 240 00:16:22,375 --> 00:16:25,917 "Come on. Let us take you out to Elaine's restaurant." 241 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:28,083 And I'm like, "Oh, no, thank you." 242 00:16:28,166 --> 00:16:31,875 Because I liked to get home before the audience even left, 243 00:16:31,959 --> 00:16:33,291 so I could get up early 244 00:16:33,375 --> 00:16:35,417 and take my kids to school and stuff. 245 00:16:35,500 --> 00:16:37,125 But he said, "Oh, we're... 246 00:16:37,208 --> 00:16:40,333 I'm meeting Mick Jagger there, and it's gonna be so fun." 247 00:16:40,417 --> 00:16:43,625 And I thought, you know? Maybe it would be fun. 248 00:16:45,750 --> 00:16:48,166 We passed Woody Allen's table, 249 00:16:48,250 --> 00:16:50,500 and he introduced me to Woody Allen, 250 00:16:50,583 --> 00:16:52,166 who said a nice thing or two. 251 00:16:52,250 --> 00:16:57,333 And I was pretty excited that he even knew who I was, you know? 252 00:16:57,417 --> 00:17:00,625 In passing at Elaine's, she came in with Michael Caine, 253 00:17:00,709 --> 00:17:02,000 passed my table. 254 00:17:02,083 --> 00:17:03,166 We said hello. 255 00:17:03,250 --> 00:17:04,625 She got seated elsewhere, 256 00:17:04,709 --> 00:17:07,583 and I lunged back into my tortellini. 257 00:17:13,166 --> 00:17:15,333 And then I got an invitation 258 00:17:15,417 --> 00:17:18,834 for Woody Allen's New Year's Eve party. 259 00:17:18,917 --> 00:17:21,000 He invited everyone on Broadway, 260 00:17:21,083 --> 00:17:23,000 all the people from the sports world. 261 00:17:23,083 --> 00:17:24,917 Thousands of amazing people 262 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:28,875 would go to Woody Allen's New Year's Eve party. 263 00:17:28,959 --> 00:17:31,709 And in among the giddy multitude 264 00:17:31,792 --> 00:17:33,417 was Mia with some friends. 265 00:17:33,500 --> 00:17:35,250 Sondheim, I believe, 266 00:17:35,333 --> 00:17:37,542 and Mia's pretty sister, Stephanie. 267 00:17:37,625 --> 00:17:42,208 Again, Mia and I exchanged pleasant hellos, 268 00:17:42,291 --> 00:17:44,709 and then made a casual suggestion 269 00:17:44,792 --> 00:17:48,667 that would eventually change the lives of many people. 270 00:17:48,750 --> 00:17:52,375 I said, "If you're free one day, let's have lunch." 271 00:17:57,250 --> 00:17:58,709 At that point in my life, 272 00:17:58,792 --> 00:18:00,875 it was all work and all the kids. 273 00:18:00,959 --> 00:18:03,291 The children and I had moved in with my mom 274 00:18:03,375 --> 00:18:07,375 because my husband, Andre, and I split up. 275 00:18:07,458 --> 00:18:09,542 I had three sons with Andre, 276 00:18:09,625 --> 00:18:11,291 twins Matthew and Sascha, 277 00:18:11,375 --> 00:18:14,709 and my baby son Fletcher. 278 00:18:14,792 --> 00:18:18,125 And we had adopted Lark and Daisy, 279 00:18:18,208 --> 00:18:21,875 and then we adopted an older child, Soon-Yi. 280 00:18:23,667 --> 00:18:25,959 When Andre left the family, 281 00:18:26,041 --> 00:18:29,250 she'd only been with us for like a year. 282 00:18:29,333 --> 00:18:34,458 And then after the divorce, I adopted Moses on my own. 283 00:18:35,583 --> 00:18:38,667 Even though I had a wonderful family, 284 00:18:38,750 --> 00:18:41,917 I assumed that nobody would ever wanna date 285 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:44,250 anyone with seven children, you know? 286 00:18:44,333 --> 00:18:46,667 And so, I had just put that out of my mind. 287 00:18:48,083 --> 00:18:51,083 And then one day, I got a phone call 288 00:18:51,166 --> 00:18:53,208 from Woody Allen's secretary, 289 00:18:53,291 --> 00:18:56,125 inviting me to have lunch with him. 290 00:18:56,208 --> 00:19:00,500 So, I went and, um, we talked. 291 00:19:00,583 --> 00:19:03,250 We talked about music. We talked about books. 292 00:19:04,208 --> 00:19:08,208 And I was completely intrigued. 293 00:19:16,125 --> 00:19:18,083 She turned out to be bright, beautiful. 294 00:19:18,166 --> 00:19:21,041 She could act, could draw, had an ear for music. 295 00:19:21,125 --> 00:19:22,959 Found myself beginning an affair 296 00:19:23,041 --> 00:19:24,709 with a beautiful movie star 297 00:19:24,792 --> 00:19:27,291 who could not have been nicer, sweeter, 298 00:19:27,375 --> 00:19:30,417 more attentive to my needs. 299 00:19:31,417 --> 00:19:34,333 He showed me his New York. 300 00:19:34,417 --> 00:19:36,291 Took me to the top of buildings 301 00:19:36,375 --> 00:19:39,750 where there'd be a fantastic view. 302 00:19:39,834 --> 00:19:42,667 He took me to little nooks and crannies of New York City 303 00:19:42,750 --> 00:19:44,709 that I'd never seen before. 304 00:19:47,250 --> 00:19:50,542 It was exciting, and I slowly 305 00:19:50,625 --> 00:19:53,375 fell in love with him. 306 00:19:53,458 --> 00:19:56,917 She was not demanding, better informed than me, 307 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:58,583 more cultivated, 308 00:19:58,667 --> 00:20:02,166 appropriately libidinous, charming to my friends, 309 00:20:02,250 --> 00:20:06,083 and, best of all, living directly across Central Park. 310 00:20:09,250 --> 00:20:12,375 We discovered that we could, and we did... 311 00:20:12,458 --> 00:20:15,208 We'd turn our lights on and off at each other, 312 00:20:15,291 --> 00:20:18,208 just as... it was a way to say I love you. 313 00:20:18,291 --> 00:20:19,625 And I would, 314 00:20:19,709 --> 00:20:22,208 sometimes I'd hang a towel, a big red towel, 315 00:20:22,291 --> 00:20:26,500 out of the window, like, "Love you huge." 316 00:20:26,583 --> 00:20:29,291 Everything about that time was romantic. 317 00:20:42,041 --> 00:20:43,417 But I had seven children, 318 00:20:43,500 --> 00:20:46,291 and he didn't want to meet them at all. 319 00:20:46,375 --> 00:20:48,959 - - And he said, "Look, 320 00:20:49,041 --> 00:20:51,041 I have zero interest in kids." 321 00:20:51,125 --> 00:20:54,166 So I thought about that, and I thought, well... 322 00:20:54,250 --> 00:20:57,709 You know, still, in my free time as an adult, 323 00:20:57,792 --> 00:20:59,750 it's wonderful to have a boyfriend. 324 00:20:59,834 --> 00:21:03,041 And then I'll still be able to be with my kids. 325 00:21:03,125 --> 00:21:06,709 And I thought I could make this work. 326 00:21:09,333 --> 00:21:12,250 I have a picture in my mind of... 327 00:21:12,333 --> 00:21:15,250 of Woody Allen and Mia Farrow surrounded, 328 00:21:15,333 --> 00:21:17,792 these days, by pets and children, 329 00:21:17,875 --> 00:21:21,750 and homes, domestic life. Which is a very long way away 330 00:21:21,834 --> 00:21:23,709 from the Woody Allen of old. 331 00:21:23,792 --> 00:21:25,917 - Has there been a dramatic change? - Well, no, 332 00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:28,166 because Mia and I live... We don't live together. 333 00:21:28,250 --> 00:21:30,417 She is surrounded by kids and pets, 334 00:21:30,500 --> 00:21:32,583 and I live by myself across the Park, 335 00:21:32,667 --> 00:21:34,017 and we see each other quite frequently. 336 00:21:34,041 --> 00:21:37,208 But, but, no, I'm still... I'm still as I was. 337 00:21:37,291 --> 00:21:39,917 I mean, I do play with the kids all the time, 338 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,625 but, but then I never have to be there 339 00:21:41,709 --> 00:21:44,792 when the diapers are changed or anything, you know, 340 00:21:44,875 --> 00:21:46,959 really awful happens. 341 00:21:51,208 --> 00:21:55,291 I wanted the children to be able to get out of the city. 342 00:21:55,375 --> 00:21:58,208 I felt it was important for all of us, really. 343 00:22:01,375 --> 00:22:04,041 And after a long, dispiriting hunt, 344 00:22:04,125 --> 00:22:06,667 I found this house. 345 00:22:06,750 --> 00:22:09,625 - What are you gonna have? - Ice cream sandwiches. 346 00:22:09,709 --> 00:22:12,226 - Can I have an ice cream? - Well, you can't have that until you had lunch. 347 00:22:12,250 --> 00:22:14,750 What are you gonna have for lunch? 348 00:22:14,834 --> 00:22:17,917 - Toast. - No, you have to have a sandwich. 349 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:22,125 Ma, can I have an ice cream? 350 00:22:22,208 --> 00:22:24,291 - You had lunch? Okay. - Yeah. 351 00:22:24,375 --> 00:22:26,625 Ma, I-I had lunch. 352 00:22:26,709 --> 00:22:29,917 - Can I have some ice cream? - What kind do you want? 353 00:22:30,667 --> 00:22:32,542 Um... 354 00:22:32,625 --> 00:22:34,333 Cat! 355 00:22:34,417 --> 00:22:35,792 The cat! Oh, no. 356 00:22:37,750 --> 00:22:39,208 Oh no... 357 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:45,458 Hi there! - Mia: Hi! 358 00:22:45,542 --> 00:22:49,166 This house was a wonderful thing for us, 359 00:22:49,250 --> 00:22:53,792 and Woody did come to visit us in the summer. 360 00:22:53,875 --> 00:22:57,875 He started spending more time with the kids, 361 00:22:57,959 --> 00:23:00,917 and he gradually warmed to them and, 362 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:04,166 and he was sweet to them. You know, nice to them. 363 00:23:05,291 --> 00:23:07,000 He was the person I loved, 364 00:23:07,083 --> 00:23:09,417 and as such, they loved him, too. 365 00:23:13,083 --> 00:23:15,500 He very much was a father figure. 366 00:23:15,583 --> 00:23:19,375 I mean, I had my, my actual father but, um, 367 00:23:19,458 --> 00:23:23,000 he was not around day-to-day, and Woody very much... 368 00:23:23,083 --> 00:23:24,834 functioned in that capacity. 369 00:23:24,917 --> 00:23:26,458 He would have meals with us. 370 00:23:26,542 --> 00:23:30,875 We'd fish in the pond together up in Connecticut. 371 00:23:30,959 --> 00:23:33,639 I would get up in the morning, and he would be there, 372 00:23:33,709 --> 00:23:36,667 you know, waiting for the kids to wake up. 373 00:23:36,750 --> 00:23:39,166 We would go to his house on the weekends, spend the night 374 00:23:39,250 --> 00:23:41,083 when my mom would spend the weekend with him. 375 00:23:41,166 --> 00:23:43,166 In the back of his apartment, 376 00:23:43,250 --> 00:23:45,041 he made like bunk beds and stuff for us, 377 00:23:45,125 --> 00:23:46,685 like a little living area for us to live in 378 00:23:46,709 --> 00:23:50,250 so we'd feel comfortable going there while my mom was there. 379 00:23:50,333 --> 00:23:53,041 Her children were well-mannered and polite. 380 00:23:53,125 --> 00:23:54,750 I got along with all of them, 381 00:23:54,834 --> 00:23:58,333 although I did find Soon-Yi a tad sullen. 382 00:23:59,834 --> 00:24:02,041 I took a particular liking to Moses, 383 00:24:02,125 --> 00:24:05,625 a small Korean kid with black-rimmed glasses. 384 00:24:12,500 --> 00:24:14,667 Yeah. Sure. 385 00:24:14,750 --> 00:24:16,750 - We'll check with him. - Okay. 386 00:24:16,834 --> 00:24:19,667 Moses absolutely fell in love with Woody 387 00:24:19,750 --> 00:24:21,875 and wanted a dad so badly. 388 00:24:21,959 --> 00:24:24,625 You gotta do it big and loud. Ready? 389 00:24:24,709 --> 00:24:27,333 - Ready. - Let's start with Jimmy Cagney. 390 00:24:27,417 --> 00:24:30,166 You dirty rat. 391 00:24:30,250 --> 00:24:32,500 Higher voice. 392 00:24:34,083 --> 00:24:36,625 You dirty rat. 393 00:24:38,041 --> 00:24:40,959 - Okay, you got it? - Mm-hmm. 394 00:24:43,542 --> 00:24:45,125 It was about that time 395 00:24:45,208 --> 00:24:48,792 that she told me rather than adopt another child, 396 00:24:48,875 --> 00:24:51,959 she'd really like to be pregnant again. 397 00:24:52,041 --> 00:24:54,041 I looked over my shoulder to see 398 00:24:54,125 --> 00:24:56,709 who she was talking to, but she meant me! 399 00:24:58,875 --> 00:25:00,959 I said, would you ever want, 400 00:25:01,041 --> 00:25:03,000 you know, to have a child together? 401 00:25:03,083 --> 00:25:06,000 He said, "Yeah, I would not object to that." 402 00:25:06,083 --> 00:25:07,750 He said, "But you have to understand, 403 00:25:07,834 --> 00:25:11,166 "I have zero interest in a kid, 404 00:25:11,250 --> 00:25:13,500 "so you would be entirely responsible, 405 00:25:13,583 --> 00:25:15,125 financially and in every way." 406 00:25:15,208 --> 00:25:17,208 And I said absolutely. 407 00:25:17,291 --> 00:25:19,750 Mia assured me I could participate 408 00:25:19,834 --> 00:25:23,166 in rearing a new child to any extent I cared to. 409 00:25:23,250 --> 00:25:25,500 If I wanted to be a hands-on father, great. 410 00:25:25,583 --> 00:25:27,041 If not, she'd raise it, 411 00:25:27,125 --> 00:25:31,291 and I would be the same free soul I'd always been. 412 00:25:31,375 --> 00:25:34,250 After some years of trying to have a baby 413 00:25:34,333 --> 00:25:37,291 and not conceiving a child, 414 00:25:37,375 --> 00:25:39,375 I asked how he would feel about 415 00:25:39,458 --> 00:25:41,417 adopting a child, 416 00:25:41,500 --> 00:25:43,834 and he said if I wanted to do that, 417 00:25:43,917 --> 00:25:45,458 that it wouldn't ruin the relationship, 418 00:25:45,542 --> 00:25:47,458 but he wanted nothing to do with it. 419 00:25:47,542 --> 00:25:51,375 And I thought, well, that's fair. 420 00:25:51,458 --> 00:25:54,709 He knew the kind of children that I adopted were all 421 00:25:54,792 --> 00:25:57,333 from different countries with different needs. 422 00:25:57,417 --> 00:26:00,750 He said, "Well, I might be more kindly disposed if it was 423 00:26:00,834 --> 00:26:02,875 a little blond girl." 424 00:26:02,959 --> 00:26:06,125 I thought if he cares about that, I should try to 425 00:26:06,208 --> 00:26:09,291 find, find, find a little girl like that, and then... 426 00:26:10,667 --> 00:26:13,542 maybe he'll love her. 427 00:26:16,083 --> 00:26:18,709 I eventually ended up with a little blond girl, 428 00:26:18,792 --> 00:26:21,041 and that was baby Dylan. 429 00:26:30,500 --> 00:26:32,959 I was totally indifferent to the whole enterprise, 430 00:26:33,041 --> 00:26:34,959 caught up in movie-making. 431 00:26:35,041 --> 00:26:38,750 Still, I figured if it made Mia happy, fine. 432 00:26:38,834 --> 00:26:42,041 But that's not quite how it worked out. 433 00:26:42,125 --> 00:26:45,208 I quickly found this tiny baby girl adorable. 434 00:26:45,291 --> 00:26:47,583 I found myself more and more holding her, 435 00:26:47,667 --> 00:26:50,500 playing with her, and completely falling in love with her, 436 00:26:50,583 --> 00:26:52,709 delighted to be her father. 437 00:26:52,792 --> 00:26:54,208 Dada. 438 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:58,250 Dada. 439 00:26:58,333 --> 00:27:02,166 He began to be enchanted by her. 440 00:27:02,250 --> 00:27:04,583 And I was absolutely thrilled. 441 00:27:04,667 --> 00:27:08,834 It was more than relief. I was over-the-moon happy. 442 00:27:09,875 --> 00:27:12,250 You getting more messy? 443 00:27:12,333 --> 00:27:14,917 Mia was a real role model for mothering. 444 00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:17,709 She loved playing with them and getting down on the floor with them, 445 00:27:17,792 --> 00:27:20,542 and doing the LEGO and the blocks and all that kind of stuff. 446 00:27:22,333 --> 00:27:24,709 Mia and I, we were at school together. 447 00:27:24,792 --> 00:27:27,500 High school. We were young. 448 00:27:27,583 --> 00:27:29,125 When she bought a country house, 449 00:27:29,208 --> 00:27:31,542 it was in Bridgewater and I already lived in Washington, 450 00:27:31,625 --> 00:27:33,959 which is like 10, 15 minutes apart, 451 00:27:34,041 --> 00:27:36,125 and we also had children the same ages. 452 00:27:36,208 --> 00:27:39,583 My son John is the same age as Dylan. 453 00:27:40,959 --> 00:27:43,166 In the summertime, she had this big beautiful lake 454 00:27:43,250 --> 00:27:44,970 behind the house, and the children all swam 455 00:27:45,041 --> 00:27:46,542 and played together. 456 00:27:48,125 --> 00:27:50,834 And she had this big new video camera, 457 00:27:50,917 --> 00:27:54,792 and she was always videotaping the children. 458 00:27:54,875 --> 00:27:57,875 We had gone away and lived in Japan for a short time, 459 00:27:57,959 --> 00:27:59,834 and when I came back, 460 00:27:59,917 --> 00:28:02,667 my John and Dylan were about 2, 2 and a half, 461 00:28:02,750 --> 00:28:05,709 and that's when I saw this incredible intensity 462 00:28:05,792 --> 00:28:07,750 that Woody had for... 463 00:28:08,458 --> 00:28:10,875 Dylan. 464 00:28:10,959 --> 00:28:12,959 One time, she left a teddy bear 465 00:28:13,041 --> 00:28:15,166 somewhere on one of these European trips, 466 00:28:15,250 --> 00:28:17,375 and he paid for 467 00:28:17,458 --> 00:28:19,583 a first-class ticket to have the teddy bear flown 468 00:28:19,667 --> 00:28:21,500 from one hotel to the next country 469 00:28:21,583 --> 00:28:24,625 so that she would have it that night. 470 00:28:24,709 --> 00:28:27,875 Once Dylan had her heart set on the ruby red slippers 471 00:28:27,959 --> 00:28:29,667 Dorothy wore in "The Wizard of Oz." 472 00:28:29,750 --> 00:28:32,667 I stayed up until midnight having the costume department 473 00:28:32,750 --> 00:28:34,041 of my movie make her a pair 474 00:28:34,125 --> 00:28:35,834 so I could leave them on her bed, 475 00:28:35,917 --> 00:28:37,125 and she could discover them 476 00:28:37,208 --> 00:28:39,417 when she woke up in the morning. 477 00:28:42,542 --> 00:28:44,542 I remember one day in particular that 478 00:28:44,625 --> 00:28:47,250 we had taken the children for a walk in Central Park, 479 00:28:47,333 --> 00:28:51,542 and the kids were up on this play structure. 480 00:28:51,625 --> 00:28:53,959 And all of a sudden, the limo pulled up, 481 00:28:54,041 --> 00:28:55,417 and Woody jumps out, 482 00:28:55,500 --> 00:28:58,166 and he runs up to the play structure, 483 00:28:58,250 --> 00:29:01,041 follows Dylan, up and down 484 00:29:01,125 --> 00:29:03,417 and through the tunnels and down the slide. 485 00:29:04,750 --> 00:29:07,709 And I remember thinking, I've never seen anybody 486 00:29:07,792 --> 00:29:09,375 act like this with a child before, 487 00:29:09,458 --> 00:29:13,875 and I-I-I really hope it's a good thing what's happening. 488 00:29:13,959 --> 00:29:17,250 I adored Dylan and spent as much time with her as possible 489 00:29:17,333 --> 00:29:20,125 from her infancy on. 490 00:29:20,208 --> 00:29:22,750 I played with her, bought her endless toys, 491 00:29:22,834 --> 00:29:26,709 dolls, stuffed animals, My Little Ponys. 492 00:29:26,792 --> 00:29:29,625 In those days, FAO Schwarz was a kid's paradise, 493 00:29:29,709 --> 00:29:33,041 and they used to let me in early before it opened. 494 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:35,208 And then one day, 495 00:29:35,291 --> 00:29:38,750 Mia announced she was pregnant. 496 00:29:38,834 --> 00:29:41,875 You're soon to become a father, for which congratulations. 497 00:29:41,959 --> 00:29:44,083 - Oh, thank you. - Do you hope that 498 00:29:44,166 --> 00:29:46,750 he or she's gonna be a chip off the old Woody, as it were? 499 00:29:46,834 --> 00:29:49,500 I hope it's a she, that's the first thing. 500 00:29:49,583 --> 00:29:51,184 I mean, that would be very important to me. 501 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,750 Woody kept saying to me, "I hope it's a girl." 502 00:29:55,834 --> 00:29:59,000 And then when we found out it wasn't a girl, 503 00:29:59,083 --> 00:30:01,041 he was disappointed. 504 00:30:02,458 --> 00:30:06,083 Satchel was born on the 19th of December. 505 00:30:06,166 --> 00:30:08,125 It'd been a difficult birth. 506 00:30:08,208 --> 00:30:11,375 It was a Cesarean, but I lost so much blood. 507 00:30:13,458 --> 00:30:16,750 I think he'd never been around a newborn 508 00:30:16,834 --> 00:30:20,166 or a woman who had given birth. 509 00:30:20,250 --> 00:30:23,125 He thought I just wanted to be next to the baby 510 00:30:23,208 --> 00:30:24,625 and not next to Dylan, 511 00:30:24,709 --> 00:30:27,125 but I wanted to be next to both of them. 512 00:30:27,208 --> 00:30:30,959 Um, so he would take Dylan away and I would be crying, 513 00:30:31,041 --> 00:30:32,583 saying, "Don't take Dylan away. 514 00:30:32,667 --> 00:30:34,250 Please don't take her away." 515 00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,750 Mia was delirious with Satchel. 516 00:30:38,834 --> 00:30:40,500 She monopolized his time, 517 00:30:40,583 --> 00:30:42,667 and short of me forcing the issue, 518 00:30:42,750 --> 00:30:45,959 he was rarely available. 519 00:30:46,041 --> 00:30:48,333 Mia had little parenting time left 520 00:30:48,417 --> 00:30:50,250 to spend on Moses and Dylan 521 00:30:50,333 --> 00:30:52,667 or any of the other kids. 522 00:30:55,083 --> 00:30:57,166 I remember him taking me out of the room, 523 00:30:57,250 --> 00:30:58,667 away from her a lot. 524 00:30:58,750 --> 00:31:01,542 Even when I wanted to stay. 525 00:31:01,625 --> 00:31:04,542 And sort of very... 526 00:31:05,375 --> 00:31:07,959 slowly instilling the idea 527 00:31:08,041 --> 00:31:09,959 in my head that 528 00:31:10,041 --> 00:31:12,417 she was more Satchel's parent. 529 00:31:12,500 --> 00:31:15,208 He was more my parent. Like... 530 00:31:16,500 --> 00:31:19,333 I was Daddy's girl, you know? 531 00:31:21,625 --> 00:31:25,458 I was told... that she didn't want me around 532 00:31:25,542 --> 00:31:29,333 or that she didn't have time for me or that she was too busy. 533 00:31:35,792 --> 00:31:38,059 Here, I'm gonna turn around so I get the light this way. 534 00:31:38,083 --> 00:31:40,125 Dylan has, uh, done some artwork 535 00:31:40,208 --> 00:31:43,583 all over her arms and face. Let me see, kids. 536 00:31:43,667 --> 00:31:45,208 Oh, you look so great. 537 00:31:45,291 --> 00:31:47,709 I just think you just look like Alice. 538 00:31:47,792 --> 00:31:49,625 Can I see the white rabbit? 539 00:31:50,417 --> 00:31:52,208 Oh, Mr. Rabbit! 540 00:31:52,291 --> 00:31:55,208 And there he is, the white rabbit. 541 00:31:57,583 --> 00:31:59,834 Dylan and I were really close. 542 00:31:59,917 --> 00:32:01,709 We hung out nonstop all the time 543 00:32:01,792 --> 00:32:04,583 because we were really close in age. 544 00:32:04,667 --> 00:32:06,583 We would tell each other everything 545 00:32:06,667 --> 00:32:08,625 through our whole childhoods. 546 00:32:09,834 --> 00:32:11,959 We were pretty inseparable. 547 00:32:12,041 --> 00:32:15,250 Sometimes, he would literally follow me around. 548 00:32:15,333 --> 00:32:17,959 Be like, "Dylan, Dylan, can I play with you?" 549 00:32:18,041 --> 00:32:21,250 And most of the time, I'd be like, "No! Go away!" 550 00:32:22,750 --> 00:32:24,792 He's a very... 551 00:32:24,875 --> 00:32:27,750 stubborn, persistent... 552 00:32:27,834 --> 00:32:29,583 type of, type of guy. 553 00:32:29,667 --> 00:32:31,351 So, I would always wind up playing with him. 554 00:32:31,375 --> 00:32:35,125 I'm going to go out to the market and have a picnic today. 555 00:32:35,208 --> 00:32:36,667 Wow. That'll be great. 556 00:32:36,750 --> 00:32:39,458 Me, too. I wanna go with her on her picnic. 557 00:32:39,542 --> 00:32:41,125 Great. 558 00:32:41,208 --> 00:32:44,500 So I said, "Oh, what are you serving at this tea party?" 559 00:32:44,583 --> 00:32:47,500 And he said, "I'm serving acorns." 560 00:32:47,583 --> 00:32:50,750 I first met Mia and Dylan and Ronan 561 00:32:50,834 --> 00:32:53,500 in 1987, 562 00:32:53,583 --> 00:32:55,375 when I started dating Matthew, 563 00:32:55,458 --> 00:32:57,959 one of Mia's oldest sons. 564 00:32:58,041 --> 00:33:00,875 And I started going over there every afternoon 565 00:33:00,959 --> 00:33:05,375 and spending evenings with them, even without Matthew. 566 00:33:05,458 --> 00:33:08,166 So, I became extremely close to those little kids. 567 00:33:16,333 --> 00:33:19,291 Priscilla definitely, you know, 568 00:33:19,375 --> 00:33:22,083 formed a very close bond with the family. 569 00:33:22,166 --> 00:33:24,166 She was just there all the time. 570 00:33:24,250 --> 00:33:25,834 She was practically another sister. 571 00:33:28,542 --> 00:33:30,834 When I would go over there, I would feel, oh, 572 00:33:30,917 --> 00:33:35,542 like I'm immersed in this bustling, warm, diverse, 573 00:33:35,625 --> 00:33:37,583 loving family. 574 00:33:37,667 --> 00:33:40,500 And there was lots of laughter, 575 00:33:40,583 --> 00:33:44,000 and funny stories. 576 00:33:44,083 --> 00:33:47,166 And Woody was there every morning 577 00:33:47,250 --> 00:33:48,750 before the kids woke up. 578 00:33:48,834 --> 00:33:53,000 He was there every night until they went to sleep. 579 00:33:53,083 --> 00:33:58,250 I thought he was a great father. 580 00:33:58,333 --> 00:34:00,000 Here we are in a carriage ride. 581 00:34:00,083 --> 00:34:01,792 Children, say hi! 582 00:34:01,875 --> 00:34:03,667 Hi! Hi! 583 00:34:03,750 --> 00:34:05,041 Isn't it beautiful? 584 00:34:05,125 --> 00:34:06,875 This is the greatest. 585 00:34:06,959 --> 00:34:09,667 Nine times out of 10, he'd be there when we woke up, 586 00:34:09,750 --> 00:34:11,959 and we were spending our days together, 587 00:34:12,041 --> 00:34:15,542 and the family was fully integrated. 588 00:34:15,625 --> 00:34:17,417 The memories I do have were 589 00:34:17,500 --> 00:34:20,500 not like distant, lost father memories. 590 00:34:20,583 --> 00:34:22,375 He was my dad, he was raising us. 591 00:34:22,458 --> 00:34:25,291 You know, we'd bond over loving genre movies. 592 00:34:25,375 --> 00:34:27,792 He'd play me all of these, you know, 593 00:34:27,875 --> 00:34:29,583 horror movies and science fiction movies, 594 00:34:29,667 --> 00:34:32,000 and things that I still love to this day. 595 00:34:35,458 --> 00:34:38,458 - Look at that. - Oh! Yes. 596 00:34:38,542 --> 00:34:41,667 Let's see what else. Let's see if there's good pictures in here. 597 00:34:41,750 --> 00:34:43,583 Look. Let's see... 598 00:34:43,667 --> 00:34:45,542 I remember every morning, 599 00:34:45,625 --> 00:34:47,225 he would read the comic section with me. 600 00:34:47,250 --> 00:34:49,291 Goody, goody, Daddy, Daddy! 601 00:34:49,375 --> 00:34:52,125 And on the days that he wasn't there, 602 00:34:52,208 --> 00:34:56,208 he would actually leave me little notes and comics, 603 00:34:57,458 --> 00:34:59,750 for me to find at the, at the breakfast table. 604 00:35:01,875 --> 00:35:05,041 He took me to my first Broadway musical, "Guys and Dolls." 605 00:35:05,125 --> 00:35:09,041 And he explained the entire thing to me, so I understood it. 606 00:35:11,542 --> 00:35:13,709 I mean, I worshiped him. 607 00:35:14,875 --> 00:35:18,583 He was so funny, 608 00:35:18,667 --> 00:35:20,542 and... 609 00:35:20,625 --> 00:35:23,917 he made me feel so special. 610 00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:27,333 That's where things get really, really complicated... 611 00:35:28,166 --> 00:35:31,208 because... 612 00:35:31,291 --> 00:35:33,625 threaded throughout all of those good times, 613 00:35:33,709 --> 00:35:36,542 there was a lot more going on. 614 00:35:39,458 --> 00:35:44,291 Dilly-Dilly? Should we get some presents? 615 00:35:44,375 --> 00:35:47,500 Every time he showed up at the apartment, 616 00:35:47,583 --> 00:35:50,709 like a magnet, he would just come straight to me. 617 00:35:50,792 --> 00:35:54,208 Intense affection all the time. 618 00:35:56,917 --> 00:36:00,375 In time, what it became was 619 00:36:00,458 --> 00:36:02,500 there was nobody but the two of them. 620 00:36:03,500 --> 00:36:05,458 And he began just 621 00:36:05,542 --> 00:36:08,000 an incredible amount of focus on her. 622 00:36:08,083 --> 00:36:10,583 He didn't wanna see the other kids. 623 00:36:10,667 --> 00:36:12,792 He wanted to see her. 624 00:36:12,875 --> 00:36:15,083 It was just so one-track. 625 00:36:16,750 --> 00:36:18,959 If he was there and we were there, 626 00:36:19,041 --> 00:36:21,291 Dylan did not play with the other children. 627 00:36:21,375 --> 00:36:23,500 He would take her to tell her a story 628 00:36:23,583 --> 00:36:25,834 or take her for a walk or... 629 00:36:25,917 --> 00:36:27,792 So we would most of the time leave 630 00:36:27,875 --> 00:36:29,333 because there was no point. 631 00:36:29,417 --> 00:36:33,583 Whoa. Daddy! There was something in this car... 632 00:36:33,667 --> 00:36:36,834 He followed Dylan wherever she went. 633 00:36:36,917 --> 00:36:39,875 We'd be playing, Dylan, me, and Ronan, 634 00:36:39,959 --> 00:36:43,250 and I would look up and I would just see him standing there, watching. 635 00:36:44,250 --> 00:36:45,834 Silently. 636 00:36:45,917 --> 00:36:48,625 And once Dylan noticed it, she would say, 637 00:36:48,709 --> 00:36:51,875 "Go away, Daddy! Go away! This is Priscilla time! 638 00:36:51,959 --> 00:36:53,417 Go away!" 639 00:36:56,291 --> 00:37:00,583 I remember going to a friend's house once, 640 00:37:00,667 --> 00:37:05,208 and playing with dolls with her in her room. 641 00:37:05,291 --> 00:37:09,417 And I remember kind of looking around and thinking, like, 642 00:37:09,500 --> 00:37:11,917 "Her dad isn't in here. 643 00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:14,417 "Why isn't her dad... 644 00:37:14,500 --> 00:37:17,959 in the room with her, like, you know, hovering?" 645 00:37:18,041 --> 00:37:20,208 Wow. - A bunny! 646 00:37:20,291 --> 00:37:23,000 And then I just kind of went back to playing, 647 00:37:23,083 --> 00:37:25,834 but that was my entire frame of reference. 648 00:37:27,333 --> 00:37:30,083 I was always in his clutches. 649 00:37:31,417 --> 00:37:34,250 He was always hunting me. 650 00:37:40,542 --> 00:37:43,208 She and I would be playing together, 651 00:37:43,291 --> 00:37:44,583 and his voice would sound, 652 00:37:44,667 --> 00:37:46,500 and he'd be calling her away. 653 00:37:48,083 --> 00:37:50,208 And she would kind of stiffen up 654 00:37:50,291 --> 00:37:53,166 and she would try to scramble away from him. 655 00:37:53,250 --> 00:37:55,834 And she was frightened of this stuff. 656 00:37:55,917 --> 00:37:57,959 She would talk to me at the time about being, 657 00:37:58,041 --> 00:38:00,000 "Oh, I don't wanna be with Daddy. 658 00:38:00,083 --> 00:38:03,000 Can we keep playing? Can we do anything other than this?" 659 00:38:03,083 --> 00:38:07,583 He would come. She would run away from the door, 660 00:38:07,667 --> 00:38:10,000 and say, "Hide me! Hide me! Hide me!" 661 00:38:11,208 --> 00:38:13,375 And at first, I thought it was like a game. 662 00:38:13,458 --> 00:38:16,792 But then, I realized that she actually sensed 663 00:38:16,875 --> 00:38:20,125 this kind of smothering energy from him. 664 00:38:20,208 --> 00:38:22,250 I only started questioning things 665 00:38:22,333 --> 00:38:24,083 because Dylan's reaction to it 666 00:38:24,166 --> 00:38:26,125 made me think that it wasn't good 667 00:38:26,208 --> 00:38:28,834 because you could see her withdrawing from it. 668 00:38:30,583 --> 00:38:32,375 Hi. - 669 00:38:32,458 --> 00:38:34,709 Is this the secret place? 670 00:38:34,792 --> 00:38:37,000 Is this the clubhouse? 671 00:38:38,375 --> 00:38:40,917 She started running away from him. 672 00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:44,959 She started locking herself in bathrooms. 673 00:38:45,041 --> 00:38:46,709 And he would say she was 674 00:38:46,792 --> 00:38:48,458 retreating from reality or something, 675 00:38:48,542 --> 00:38:52,333 but she wasn't like that when he wasn't there. 676 00:38:52,417 --> 00:38:56,083 She was fully conversant, and then the minute he would walk in, 677 00:38:56,166 --> 00:38:57,500 she'd become an animal. 678 00:38:57,583 --> 00:39:00,542 Sometimes a dead animal, sometimes a wounded animal, 679 00:39:00,625 --> 00:39:02,834 like, lying on the floor. 680 00:39:02,917 --> 00:39:05,083 Anything that didn't talk. 681 00:39:06,125 --> 00:39:07,625 Over time, 682 00:39:07,709 --> 00:39:10,667 Dylan went from being outgoing 683 00:39:10,750 --> 00:39:14,333 and effervescent and talkative, 684 00:39:14,417 --> 00:39:17,917 to her having this sadness 685 00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:20,583 and this withdrawn quality. 686 00:39:20,667 --> 00:39:24,667 And I didn't know as a kid how to contextualize that. 687 00:39:24,750 --> 00:39:27,291 But now, in retrospect, I understand 688 00:39:27,375 --> 00:39:29,583 that that was a pattern of something 689 00:39:29,667 --> 00:39:31,834 very serious and alarming. 690 00:39:39,875 --> 00:39:43,000 I have very vivid snapshots. 691 00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:48,000 Just different places in the apartment 692 00:39:48,083 --> 00:39:52,000 or the country house, different rooms. 693 00:39:53,250 --> 00:39:57,917 Mostly just a window with a feeling attached. 694 00:39:59,834 --> 00:40:03,083 I remember sitting on the edge of his bed, 695 00:40:03,166 --> 00:40:05,834 the light in the room. 696 00:40:05,917 --> 00:40:07,917 The satin sheets. 697 00:40:08,834 --> 00:40:12,125 There were clarinet reeds. 698 00:40:14,500 --> 00:40:17,291 I have memories of getting into bed with him. 699 00:40:18,959 --> 00:40:20,375 He was in his underwear, 700 00:40:20,458 --> 00:40:22,959 and I'm in my underwear, cuddling. 701 00:40:24,667 --> 00:40:28,166 I remember his breath on me. 702 00:40:31,166 --> 00:40:33,959 He would just wrap his body around me, 703 00:40:34,041 --> 00:40:36,041 very intimately. 704 00:40:40,750 --> 00:40:42,583 The first time that I saw it, 705 00:40:42,667 --> 00:40:45,291 I was coming into the room, 706 00:40:45,375 --> 00:40:47,083 and he was getting out of the bed. 707 00:40:47,166 --> 00:40:50,291 And so I saw that he was only wearing underwear. 708 00:40:50,375 --> 00:40:52,615 And I just kind of turned around and walked the other way 709 00:40:52,667 --> 00:40:54,834 because I didn't want him to know that I had seen. 710 00:40:56,583 --> 00:40:59,166 I would suddenly walk in, and there she would be 711 00:40:59,250 --> 00:41:02,750 in his bed with him in his underwear. 712 00:41:02,834 --> 00:41:05,792 And sometimes, he would also kneel in front of her, 713 00:41:05,875 --> 00:41:07,458 or sit next to her 714 00:41:07,542 --> 00:41:12,125 and put his face in her, in, in, in her lap. 715 00:41:12,208 --> 00:41:14,792 Which I caught a couple of times, 716 00:41:14,875 --> 00:41:16,917 and I didn't think that was right. 717 00:41:19,583 --> 00:41:22,917 At the time, I thought this was 718 00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:26,208 how fathers interacted with their daughters. 719 00:41:26,291 --> 00:41:29,041 I mean, I was a kid, so I... 720 00:41:30,917 --> 00:41:34,083 I internalized it 721 00:41:34,166 --> 00:41:36,250 in a sense that I... 722 00:41:37,208 --> 00:41:38,875 I felt that if, 723 00:41:38,959 --> 00:41:41,458 if I felt weird about it, that was on me. 724 00:41:41,542 --> 00:41:43,041 That was my fault 725 00:41:43,125 --> 00:41:45,834 and that was because I was doing something wrong. 726 00:42:14,291 --> 00:42:16,625 When I went to the country house, 727 00:42:16,709 --> 00:42:19,000 it was a summer day. 728 00:42:19,083 --> 00:42:20,792 We were all outside, 729 00:42:20,875 --> 00:42:24,208 and the kids were running around naked by the beach. 730 00:42:25,959 --> 00:42:27,542 Mia handed Woody 731 00:42:27,625 --> 00:42:29,875 a thing of sunscreen to put on, 732 00:42:29,959 --> 00:42:33,709 and he was rubbing Dylan's back and his... 733 00:42:33,792 --> 00:42:36,208 My mom was there, too. 734 00:42:36,291 --> 00:42:38,500 His hand went down between her buttocks 735 00:42:38,583 --> 00:42:40,959 and kinda lingered there, 736 00:42:41,041 --> 00:42:42,792 and suggestively... 737 00:42:42,875 --> 00:42:46,041 I have to say suggestively because that's what it was... 738 00:42:46,125 --> 00:42:47,709 went between her buttock cheeks 739 00:42:47,792 --> 00:42:49,375 with his finger, and then came back. 740 00:42:49,458 --> 00:42:53,166 And Mia saw it, too, and snatched the sunscreen away. 741 00:42:55,458 --> 00:42:58,792 I started being... I felt more like a policeman, 742 00:42:58,875 --> 00:43:02,709 you know, coming into him, like, am I gonna see something that, um, 743 00:43:02,792 --> 00:43:05,583 I... that shouldn't be happening. 744 00:43:07,542 --> 00:43:11,083 One time, we were all sitting on the floor, 745 00:43:11,166 --> 00:43:13,959 and he slapped her hand away. 746 00:43:14,041 --> 00:43:16,709 And I said, "Why did you do that?" 747 00:43:16,792 --> 00:43:19,500 And he said, "She grabbed at my penis." 748 00:43:20,333 --> 00:43:22,250 So... 749 00:43:22,333 --> 00:43:24,208 I was comforting her, 750 00:43:24,291 --> 00:43:26,667 and at the same time, I was thinking, 751 00:43:26,750 --> 00:43:30,125 "Why would a little girl do that?" 752 00:43:30,208 --> 00:43:31,792 What... 753 00:43:31,875 --> 00:43:34,583 I tried to push it out of my mind, but... 754 00:43:34,667 --> 00:43:38,125 what, what kind of thing was going on of... 755 00:43:38,208 --> 00:43:40,250 that involved... 756 00:43:40,333 --> 00:43:42,542 private parts, at all? 757 00:43:45,250 --> 00:43:48,875 Maybe there were things that I didn't know 758 00:43:48,959 --> 00:43:51,166 that might be happening. 759 00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:58,166 I remember... 760 00:44:01,583 --> 00:44:05,166 sitting on the steps with him in the country house. 761 00:44:07,792 --> 00:44:09,917 There was nobody else around, and... 762 00:44:10,875 --> 00:44:12,750 He was... 763 00:44:12,834 --> 00:44:15,583 directing me on how to suck his thumb. 764 00:44:20,667 --> 00:44:22,917 Telling me what to do with my tongue. 765 00:44:26,583 --> 00:44:28,208 And... 766 00:44:29,542 --> 00:44:31,750 I think that lasted a while. 767 00:44:33,583 --> 00:44:35,750 Um, it felt like a long time. 768 00:44:38,583 --> 00:44:41,417 I saw her sucking his thumb, 769 00:44:41,500 --> 00:44:44,041 which was really, really weird. 770 00:44:45,041 --> 00:44:46,667 And he said, "Yes, this helps her. 771 00:44:46,750 --> 00:44:48,000 "This calms her down. 772 00:44:48,083 --> 00:44:50,250 Soothes her to do this." 773 00:44:53,375 --> 00:44:56,041 I finally said, "You know, I'm not comfortable 774 00:44:56,125 --> 00:44:59,417 with the way that you're handling her and looking at her." 775 00:45:00,709 --> 00:45:03,333 And he just got so angry with me. 776 00:45:03,417 --> 00:45:04,625 Oh my gosh. 777 00:45:04,709 --> 00:45:06,500 It was as if I had 778 00:45:06,583 --> 00:45:08,333 accused him of being an axe murderer. 779 00:45:08,417 --> 00:45:10,667 Like, "What is wrong with you? 780 00:45:10,750 --> 00:45:12,959 You know, how could you think that?" 781 00:45:13,041 --> 00:45:15,208 Finally, I was crying and I was apologizing. 782 00:45:15,291 --> 00:45:17,458 I said, "I'm so sorry. I'm just so sorry." 783 00:45:19,583 --> 00:45:21,250 And sometimes he would say, you know, 784 00:45:21,333 --> 00:45:24,417 "I honestly think you need help." 785 00:45:25,959 --> 00:45:28,750 And I began thinking, well, I must be crazy. 786 00:45:28,834 --> 00:45:31,000 He can't be a pedophile. Of course, what am I saying? 787 00:45:31,083 --> 00:45:32,542 Oh my god! 788 00:45:32,625 --> 00:45:34,375 He's my boyfriend and I, 789 00:45:34,458 --> 00:45:37,500 and I love him and I know him and I must believe him. 790 00:45:39,041 --> 00:45:41,458 I wanted to believe that he was not capable 791 00:45:41,542 --> 00:45:43,583 of what I feared, you know, what I was seeing. 792 00:45:43,667 --> 00:45:46,709 I wanted to believe that it was in innocence, 793 00:45:46,792 --> 00:45:48,542 and that it was just being affectionate. 794 00:45:48,625 --> 00:45:50,125 And I just wanted... 795 00:45:50,208 --> 00:45:52,125 I wanted that to be true. 796 00:45:56,500 --> 00:45:58,792 He's the man I love. 797 00:46:00,041 --> 00:46:02,166 He's Woody. 798 00:46:03,333 --> 00:46:06,041 You know, he would never hurt the children 799 00:46:06,125 --> 00:46:08,000 or hurt our family. 800 00:46:17,959 --> 00:46:20,959 One day in our apartment building, 801 00:46:21,041 --> 00:46:24,333 there was a very famous psychiatrist. 802 00:46:25,250 --> 00:46:26,583 Her name was Ethel Person, 803 00:46:26,667 --> 00:46:30,750 I mean, much-printed, very respected therapist. 804 00:46:30,834 --> 00:46:32,875 And she called me, and she said, 805 00:46:32,959 --> 00:46:35,125 "Mia, I saw something of Woody, 806 00:46:35,208 --> 00:46:37,750 the way he greeted your daughter, Dylan." 807 00:46:37,834 --> 00:46:40,625 And I'm like, "Yeah?" And she said, 808 00:46:40,709 --> 00:46:44,125 "There was something off." And I'm like... 809 00:46:44,208 --> 00:46:46,417 Then the floodgates opened for me. 810 00:46:48,875 --> 00:46:51,125 The fact that she saw this, 811 00:46:51,208 --> 00:46:53,458 I thought that he would listen, 812 00:46:53,542 --> 00:46:56,458 you know, and that it would really mean something to him. 813 00:46:56,542 --> 00:46:58,333 So I asked, and he agreed 814 00:46:58,417 --> 00:47:00,667 to see a person she recommended. 815 00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,083 The therapist told me that 816 00:47:19,166 --> 00:47:22,083 the behavior was inappropriate, 817 00:47:22,166 --> 00:47:25,000 but that it wasn't sexual. 818 00:47:25,083 --> 00:47:28,333 It could be perceived as sexual by others, 819 00:47:28,417 --> 00:47:31,667 by me, and even by the child. 820 00:47:31,750 --> 00:47:34,959 But it wasn't sexual. 821 00:47:35,041 --> 00:47:37,834 It was just that he had never been around children, 822 00:47:37,917 --> 00:47:41,125 and that it was his way of expressing affection, 823 00:47:41,208 --> 00:47:44,959 and that he must learn how to behave with a child. 824 00:47:45,041 --> 00:47:49,333 And when he would do things, the therapist told me to say, 825 00:47:49,417 --> 00:47:52,709 "Could you not do that?" And he then would just say, 826 00:47:52,792 --> 00:47:55,959 "I, you know, was showing affection. 827 00:47:56,041 --> 00:48:00,667 Never for a second was any of it sexual." 828 00:48:01,625 --> 00:48:04,375 And he relieved my anxiety 829 00:48:04,458 --> 00:48:08,208 by saying, "You know, you're right. 830 00:48:08,291 --> 00:48:11,208 "When you see something like that, it's good if you tell me, 831 00:48:11,291 --> 00:48:13,709 and I won't get mad at you anymore." 832 00:48:13,792 --> 00:48:17,208 And I felt it was under control. 833 00:48:21,291 --> 00:48:25,125 So, I thought things, things would get better. 834 00:48:25,208 --> 00:48:27,959 And for a time, it seemed that way. 835 00:48:32,375 --> 00:48:34,625 I decided in a moment of clarity 836 00:48:34,709 --> 00:48:37,542 that not being the legal father of Dylan and Moses 837 00:48:37,625 --> 00:48:39,542 was just not acceptable. 838 00:48:39,625 --> 00:48:42,250 For years, I had assumed full responsibility 839 00:48:42,333 --> 00:48:45,583 for both of them as their father. 840 00:48:45,667 --> 00:48:48,458 Interestingly, for someone who always wanted me 841 00:48:48,542 --> 00:48:49,875 to father her child, 842 00:48:49,959 --> 00:48:52,000 Mia was suddenly very cool to the idea 843 00:48:52,083 --> 00:48:56,125 of me adopting Dylan and Moses when I broached it. 844 00:48:56,208 --> 00:48:58,291 I had felt a little strange about it. 845 00:48:58,375 --> 00:48:59,959 He had mentioned it before, 846 00:49:00,041 --> 00:49:02,309 but I said I just didn't think that would be a great idea. 847 00:49:02,333 --> 00:49:05,625 That just was too big a step, but once he was in therapy 848 00:49:05,709 --> 00:49:08,291 and said he wouldn't get mad at me anymore 849 00:49:08,375 --> 00:49:14,583 and, um, that, that I felt, um, that... 850 00:49:14,667 --> 00:49:17,709 maybe it'd be great if she had a dad, you know. 851 00:49:17,792 --> 00:49:19,417 Maybe it'd be a great thing. 852 00:49:19,500 --> 00:49:22,291 As long as everything else was okay. 853 00:49:25,417 --> 00:49:26,959 I actually said to the judge, 854 00:49:27,041 --> 00:49:29,417 "I'm not giving up anything, am I?" 855 00:49:29,500 --> 00:49:33,625 And the judge said, "No, you're gaining something." 856 00:49:33,709 --> 00:49:36,709 And then Woody said he wanted to adopt Moses. 857 00:49:37,959 --> 00:49:39,709 He was the only other child in the family 858 00:49:39,792 --> 00:49:41,959 that didn't have a father. 859 00:49:42,041 --> 00:49:44,291 So, I asked Moses 860 00:49:44,375 --> 00:49:46,542 if he would like to be adopted by Woody, 861 00:49:46,625 --> 00:49:48,417 and Moses was over the moon. 862 00:49:59,166 --> 00:50:00,792 The reason I let him adopt them 863 00:50:00,875 --> 00:50:03,125 was 'cause I thought that he was my life's partner, 864 00:50:03,208 --> 00:50:05,959 and I believed in our future. 865 00:50:06,041 --> 00:50:09,000 And that we were gonna go on, 866 00:50:09,083 --> 00:50:12,583 you know, and have a wonderful life. 867 00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:25,834 One day, I was at his apartment 868 00:50:25,917 --> 00:50:27,333 because I wasn't working that day, 869 00:50:27,417 --> 00:50:31,000 so I took one of the kids over that we left a coat over there. 870 00:50:31,083 --> 00:50:32,875 And there by the side of the phone, 871 00:50:32,959 --> 00:50:34,792 to the right of the phone, 872 00:50:36,250 --> 00:50:39,125 was a stack of Polaroid pictures, 873 00:50:39,208 --> 00:50:43,250 of pornographic pictures of... 874 00:50:43,917 --> 00:50:46,083 a woman, a girl. 875 00:50:48,208 --> 00:50:50,667 And I picked them up, and I realized 876 00:50:50,750 --> 00:50:53,542 all of them were of Soon-Yi. 877 00:50:53,625 --> 00:50:55,750 It was my own child. 878 00:50:55,834 --> 00:50:58,291 She was in her first year of college. 879 00:51:00,417 --> 00:51:02,583 And they were all just like... 880 00:51:02,667 --> 00:51:04,959 I mean, they wouldn't put them in "Playboy." 881 00:51:05,041 --> 00:51:07,000 They were like... 882 00:51:07,083 --> 00:51:10,458 I don't know, "Hustler" pictures or something. 883 00:51:10,542 --> 00:51:13,500 You know, really, really, really raunchy pictures, and I... 884 00:51:15,542 --> 00:51:17,625 I, you know... 885 00:51:18,417 --> 00:51:19,959 I-I-I just remember... 886 00:51:20,041 --> 00:51:22,917 I remember struggling to breathe. 887 00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:24,667 I remember, um... 888 00:51:25,667 --> 00:51:29,417 um, get-getting my son... 889 00:51:29,500 --> 00:51:33,667 um, trying to put his coat on, trying to do the buttons. 890 00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:06,375 I took the photos, 891 00:52:06,458 --> 00:52:09,750 and I put them in my pocket and I... I was leaving. 892 00:52:09,834 --> 00:52:11,643 And then I just realized that I don't even think 893 00:52:11,667 --> 00:52:13,208 I could push the elevator button. 894 00:52:13,291 --> 00:52:15,375 I was just, like, shaking. 895 00:52:17,291 --> 00:52:22,208 And I took my child home and I locked the door. 896 00:52:22,291 --> 00:52:26,125 Soon-Yi was home, and I remember saying, 897 00:52:26,208 --> 00:52:27,375 "I found the pictures." 898 00:52:27,458 --> 00:52:29,417 And she said, "What pictures?" 899 00:52:29,500 --> 00:52:32,000 And I said, "The pictures Woody took." 900 00:52:32,083 --> 00:52:35,291 And she started crying and I started crying. 901 00:52:35,375 --> 00:52:37,917 And I'm like, "No, no, it's not your fault." 902 00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:41,041 And she was just beside herself. 903 00:52:42,834 --> 00:52:44,959 Mia asked me to go in and talk to Soon-Yi. 904 00:52:45,041 --> 00:52:47,125 And I did do that because Mia said, 905 00:52:47,208 --> 00:52:50,083 "I'm so upset right now, I don't think I should talk to her. 906 00:52:50,166 --> 00:52:51,875 Will you go in and talk to her?" 907 00:52:52,917 --> 00:52:55,083 Mia was very forgiving of Soon-Yi. 908 00:52:55,166 --> 00:52:58,291 She said that, "He's an older man, very much experienced, 909 00:52:58,375 --> 00:53:00,458 "and you would have no idea 910 00:53:00,542 --> 00:53:03,333 how to resist his overtures." 911 00:53:03,417 --> 00:53:05,250 And the next thing I knew, 912 00:53:05,333 --> 00:53:07,583 Woody had entered my apartment 'cause he had a key. 913 00:53:07,667 --> 00:53:10,000 And I was saying, "Get out, get out. You gotta get out." 914 00:53:10,083 --> 00:53:12,041 And then Woody was there for like four hours, 915 00:53:12,125 --> 00:53:14,834 just talking and talking and talking. 916 00:53:14,917 --> 00:53:17,542 And first he said, 917 00:53:17,625 --> 00:53:20,542 "I'm-I'm-I'm in love with Soon-Yi. I would marry her." 918 00:53:20,625 --> 00:53:22,185 And then he said, "No, I just said that. 919 00:53:22,250 --> 00:53:23,890 "It was something I thought of in the car. 920 00:53:23,917 --> 00:53:26,226 "I thought it would make it better if I said... put it that way. 921 00:53:26,250 --> 00:53:28,333 No, I, I love you." 922 00:53:28,417 --> 00:53:30,250 And it was all of that for four hours. 923 00:53:30,333 --> 00:53:33,834 "I just made a mistake. I lost control. Blah, blah, blah." 924 00:53:34,875 --> 00:53:37,291 I didn't know what to think. 925 00:53:37,375 --> 00:53:39,625 I just needed him to get out. 926 00:53:41,291 --> 00:53:45,333 I came home one day, and my mom was... 927 00:53:46,917 --> 00:53:48,959 crying. 928 00:53:49,041 --> 00:53:52,834 And she was standing in the doorway of Soon-Yi's bedroom. 929 00:53:54,458 --> 00:53:56,458 And Soon-Yi was on the floor. 930 00:53:57,417 --> 00:53:59,875 And, um, she was crying. 931 00:54:01,792 --> 00:54:04,875 I'm not sure if I really understood 932 00:54:04,959 --> 00:54:08,208 anything that was going on. 933 00:54:08,291 --> 00:54:10,750 It was like, you know, somebody had 934 00:54:10,834 --> 00:54:12,542 shut the lights off. 935 00:54:12,625 --> 00:54:14,458 Everything was suddenly very dark 936 00:54:14,542 --> 00:54:17,125 and confusing for a kid. 937 00:54:18,500 --> 00:54:20,667 It was Dylan's therapist 938 00:54:20,750 --> 00:54:25,083 who told me I had to tell her, and, and also Ronan. 939 00:54:25,166 --> 00:54:28,834 And she gave me the words, and I memorized them. 940 00:54:28,917 --> 00:54:32,333 And I would rather have cut off my arm 941 00:54:32,417 --> 00:54:34,542 than have to tell them that. 942 00:54:36,250 --> 00:54:41,417 I remember my mom told me and Ronan, 943 00:54:41,500 --> 00:54:44,291 "Daddy took naked pictures of Soon-Yi." 944 00:54:45,125 --> 00:54:46,500 And... 945 00:54:48,417 --> 00:54:50,667 that was sort of the first instance 946 00:54:50,750 --> 00:54:53,583 that I thought, 947 00:54:53,667 --> 00:54:56,750 "Oh. It's not just me." 948 00:56:51,959 --> 00:56:53,639 I loved Woody Allen. Mia loved Woody Allen. 949 00:56:53,709 --> 00:56:55,000 There was so much to love. 950 00:56:55,083 --> 00:56:57,709 And Woody gave her everything she could possibly want. 951 00:56:59,792 --> 00:57:01,542 When I met Woody, suddenly, 952 00:57:01,625 --> 00:57:02,745 there was somebody who said, 953 00:57:02,917 --> 00:57:04,643 "I'll take you out. I'll show you all of New York." 954 00:57:04,667 --> 00:57:05,667 I would've told you 955 00:57:05,792 --> 00:57:07,512 that I'm just the luckiest person on earth. 956 00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:10,417 You had sex with one of my teenage children. 957 00:57:10,834 --> 00:57:11,875 He can't deny it. 958 00:57:11,959 --> 00:57:13,583 Mia was terribly upset. 959 00:57:14,208 --> 00:57:15,518 Casey called and she said 960 00:57:15,542 --> 00:57:18,000 her babysitter had seen something that upset her. 961 00:57:18,083 --> 00:57:20,125 They looked everywhere for like 20 minutes. 962 00:57:20,208 --> 00:57:22,166 Woody and Dylan disappeared. 963 00:57:23,125 --> 00:57:24,750 We went into the attic.