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So remember,
just do the task.

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Simply see the person's hands
and describe them.

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So you've got
a little roundy scar

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on the knuckle there.

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And, um...

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...you've got lovely long
fingers, really... nice nails.

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Don't judge.

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It's not about whether
the hand is good or bad.

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Just about observing,
paying attention.

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OK?

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-May I?
-Yeah.

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OK, long fingers.

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There's a scratch there

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on the knuckle of
the index finger.

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Cat scratch.

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And there's another one there
just higher up.

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It veers off to the left a bit.

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The thumb has a little
bitten bit to the left

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of the nail.

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And when you've done the task,
just the task, long enough,

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uh, you move up to their face,

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their eyes.

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And the top dark lash line

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just cuts off the very tip of
the... the dark brown iris.

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And there's a...
there's a darker line

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around the outside of the iris.

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And it's... it's hard not to
feel a... an intimacy.

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An almost instant intimacy
and a...

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An excitement?

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Yeah, for sure, an excitement
in the intimacy.

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And it's a good way to create
an intense intimacy

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between your actors
and sometimes with you.

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You know, and it's
an intimacy you'll feel

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very comfortable with.

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It's our job.

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But they need to
understand this pact -

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what it's for,

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that the intimacy
is for the work.

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OK? Do you want to carry on?

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- Yep.
- Thank you.

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OK.

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OK, well done.

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<i>Ah,</i>
<i>that's always a bad sign.</i>

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He was meant to stay
with our friend Renate,

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but he's peeing all over
the place and there's...

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<i>Blood in the piss?</i>

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Yeah, blood in the urine.

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<i>Dearest,</i>
<i>why do you say 'urine'?</i>

49
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Well, what do you
want me to say?

50
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<i>I want you to tell me</i>
<i>what's wrong with him.</i>

51
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I am telling you
what's wrong with him.

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<i>Is it cancer?</i>

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Yeah, tumour in his bladder.

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<i>What timing.</i>

55
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Yeah, you could say that.

56
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<i>I could say that, yes.</i>
<i>I did just say that, didn't I?</i>

57
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yeah, you did just say that.

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<i>Every time you go on holiday,</i>

59
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<i>something bad happens.</i>

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Well, it's not just a holiday.

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I've got work too
and that's harder to cancel.

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<i>A visit to</i>
<i>your beloved dad</i>

63
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<i>is easier to cancel than work?</i>

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<i>-Oh! I get it.</i>
-You actually do get it.

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<i>Yeah, it's true.</i>

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I just don't know
if I can burden a friend

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with a dying dog.

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Might only have two weeks
and we wouldn't be around.

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<i>If he's in a lot of pain,</i>
<i>you should put him down now.</i>

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Mmm.

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<i>Dogs don't show</i>
<i>their suffering.</i>

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<i>That's why we love them.</i>

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Is that why we love them?

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<i>Dear daughter,</i>
<i>you know you can't</i>

75
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<i>keep him around</i>
<i>just for your sake.</i>

76
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I'm just not sure we can

77
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say goodbye that fast
and get on a plane.

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<i>Don't hang onto him.</i>

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<i>It's the kindest thing</i>
<i>you could do.</i>

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Maybe.

81
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I'll look after him.

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No, you've already got plans,
don't you?

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I've already
changed things around.

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I don't want him to suffer.

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You can't postpone your trip.

86
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Dad said I should put him
down now, not prolong it.

87
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Oh, right. Well, your fucking
father would say that.

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Sorry, Kirby was his gift.

89
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I feel like he's got
a say in it.

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Of course.

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What does he think
about your film?

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I haven't talked to him
about it yet.

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Oh.

94
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Well, you could arrive

95
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to a house full of stray gays

96
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and he won't have time
for you or Frances.

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Maybe.

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I picked up mince from
the butcher, and I read that

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if you put the tablets
in that, he should eat it.

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If that doesn't work,

101
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get the vet to make it
into a flavoured liquid.

102
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Yeah, if he changes
energy levels or appetite,

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you let me know.

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Sorry.

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Yeah, well, the teaching
helps pay for the trip over,

106
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but we will see him.

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We're staying with him.

108
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Yeah,
we're staying with him, Mum.

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I'm going so I can see Dad,
so, yeah, of course.

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Listen, I've got to go,

111
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but, uh, if he changes
even his gait

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or... or sleeping patterns,
you let me know, OK?

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Bye.

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Are you OK, Mum?

115
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I should have said,
"I love you."

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To Kirby?

117
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No, to Mum. I just said, "Bye."

118
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I should have said,
"I love you."

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Have a good flight.

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All good?

121
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Yeah, all good.

122
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What did you want to talk about?

123
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It's OK. Now's not a good time.

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It's fine. Tell me.

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OK.

126
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I wanna live with Jimpa
for a bit.

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What do you mean?

128
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Mm, I was thinking

129
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I could do Year 11
in Amsterdam with Jimpa.

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- No way.
- Why not?

131
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He's still recovering
from a stroke.

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That was three years ago.

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No way! It's an important year
next year and you're only 16.

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And we're your parents, not Jim.

135
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Why don't you wait?

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Do it after graduation.
You can have a gap year.

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Because I need to experience
a bigger queer community

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than my shitty LGBT club
at school

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in my shitty little city.

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But you love school.

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I used to.

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Is that why
you packed so much?

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You just thought
you'd stay there?

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Oh! What a waste
of a return flight.

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We could have saved a fortune!

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OK, let's talk about this later.

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But you asked me
to talk about it.

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I feel like I need to
give you my full attention.

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I don't think I can do that
at the moment.

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OK, well,
let's just all relax.

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Mum?

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Mmm?

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It's OK.

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<i>Kirby was</i>
<i>a gift from my father.</i>

155
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<i>One day he turned up with</i>
<i>an uncontrollable puppy.</i>

156
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<i>I didn't want him,</i>
<i>but I didn't get a choice.</i>

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<i>Says a lot about my dad.</i>

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<i>The day my mum</i>
<i>gave birth to me,</i>

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<i>my grandfather got on</i>
<i>the first flight to Adelaide.</i>

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<i>I wanted us to be alone</i>

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<i>with our newborn baby.</i>

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<i>But he rang from</i>
<i>the front door</i>

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with a painting.

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<i>And my mum</i>
<i>was so happy to see him.</i>

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<i>And she said to me, "Frances,</i>

166
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<i>"this person will</i>
<i>tell you about art</i>

167
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<i>"and politics and theatre.</i>

168
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<i>"He will challenge you to be</i>
<i>the best version of yourself."</i>

169
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<i>I simply said,</i>

170
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<i>"Frances, this is</i>
<i>your grandpa, Jim."</i>

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<i>But he thought 'grandpa'</i>
<i>sounded too old.</i>

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<i>So he gave himself a new name.</i>

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<i>He said...</i>

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<i>"Hello, Frances. I'm Jimpa."</i>

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The thing is,
I don't think I would be here

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openly trans, non-binary,
queer if it wasn't for him.

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That's him sometime in the '50s.

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He loves art

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and he loves to get naked.

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<i>And he still has a painting</i>

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<i>that he sat for years ago</i>
<i>which hangs</i>

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in his apartment in Amsterdam
for all to see.

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<i>He married my grandmother,</i>
<i>Katherine, in 1973.</i>

184
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<i>They had Emily, my aunt,</i>

185
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and Hannah, my mum.

186
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<i>Right after my mum was born,</i>
<i>Jimpa came out as gay.</i>

187
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My grandma got really skinny
after this,

188
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as well as a big perm,

189
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and everyone complimented her
on how amazing she looked.

190
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Uh, so, obviously it was
devastating for her.

191
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Uh, we expect
the... the narrative

192
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of a husband
coming out to his wife

193
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to follow the notes of
a big betrayal in a marriage.

194
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But she chose to
respond differently

195
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than what was expected.

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Um, they both decided
on a new bond -

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to stay together,
uh, to co-parent.

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Uh, also to have
other relationships.

199
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But they chose kindness
rather than conflict.

200
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Jimpa always argues.

201
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Look, mate, you know...

202
00:10:00,468 --> 00:10:01,802
I don't think...

203
00:10:01,836 --> 00:10:03,070
<i>He worked in politics</i>

204
00:10:03,104 --> 00:10:04,472
<i>when my mum was little.</i>

205
00:10:07,374 --> 00:10:09,844
<i>And then during</i>
<i>the AIDS crisis,</i>

206
00:10:09,877 --> 00:10:12,213
<i>he moved to Amsterdam</i>
<i>to work in public health.</i>

207
00:10:13,380 --> 00:10:15,416
<i>And he's never</i>
<i>stopped fighting</i>

208
00:10:15,449 --> 00:10:19,521
<i>for those he loves</i>
<i>and for who he is.</i>

209
00:10:19,554 --> 00:10:21,889
<i>All the while still enjoying</i>
<i>getting naked.</i>

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00:10:24,091 --> 00:10:27,061
So it's a personal story
about my parents,

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um, and my main drive is to
tell the story of the kindness

212
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they showed to each other
over that period

213
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rather than the conflict.

214
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So it's a drama
without conflict.

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<i>But...</i>

216
00:10:44,011 --> 00:10:47,148
<i>...isn't drama by very</i>
<i>definition conflict?</i>

217
00:10:48,415 --> 00:10:51,185
I think it's possible
to make a compelling film

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00:10:51,218 --> 00:10:52,853
avoiding it completely.

219
00:10:54,054 --> 00:10:55,590
<i>I don't think it is.</i>

220
00:10:55,624 --> 00:10:57,526
<i>I think you're wrong.</i>

221
00:11:00,261 --> 00:11:01,862
See, is that conflict?

222
00:11:01,896 --> 00:11:04,098
Well, I think that's someone

223
00:11:04,131 --> 00:11:06,467
expressing a different opinion.

224
00:11:06,501 --> 00:11:08,135
<i>A conflict of opinion.</i>

225
00:11:09,270 --> 00:11:10,605
<i>Therefore...</i>

226
00:11:10,639 --> 00:11:12,039
<i>...conflict.</i>

227
00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:14,576
Maybe.

228
00:11:16,143 --> 00:11:18,547
So he's not
just my grandpa.

229
00:11:18,580 --> 00:11:22,016
I think he's my true
forever hero.

230
00:11:23,050 --> 00:11:24,351
Any questions?

231
00:11:42,937 --> 00:11:44,673
We should
wake Frances up.

232
00:11:47,308 --> 00:11:49,810
Don't. Let them sleep.

233
00:11:53,714 --> 00:11:55,482
It's probably just
a passing fancy,

234
00:11:55,517 --> 00:11:57,384
the excitement of travel.

235
00:11:57,418 --> 00:11:59,588
So you do think it's a bad idea.

236
00:12:01,055 --> 00:12:03,023
I think once Frances
spends some time with Dad,

237
00:12:03,057 --> 00:12:04,391
they'll soon change their mind.

238
00:12:04,425 --> 00:12:05,960
Really?

239
00:12:05,993 --> 00:12:07,795
Frances idolises him.

240
00:12:07,828 --> 00:12:10,197
But they only see each other
once every couple of years

241
00:12:10,231 --> 00:12:11,600
and Frances has built up

242
00:12:11,633 --> 00:12:13,267
this idea of him in their head.

243
00:12:14,335 --> 00:12:15,936
And Dad can be very appealing,

244
00:12:15,970 --> 00:12:17,771
but just because
he's got all these great,

245
00:12:17,805 --> 00:12:19,139
very admirable ideals

246
00:12:19,173 --> 00:12:21,041
doesn't mean he necessarily
puts them into practice.

247
00:12:21,075 --> 00:12:23,143
Can you imagine
living with Dad for a year?

248
00:12:23,177 --> 00:12:24,679
No.

249
00:12:24,713 --> 00:12:27,381
And we don't want to be
the ones saying no to Frances.

250
00:12:27,414 --> 00:12:28,382
It doesn't help.

251
00:12:28,415 --> 00:12:30,317
I'm quite happy saying no.

252
00:12:30,351 --> 00:12:31,919
But you prefer Frances to be

253
00:12:31,952 --> 00:12:34,221
disappointed by your father
rather than by you.

254
00:12:35,690 --> 00:12:37,057
Or...

255
00:12:37,224 --> 00:12:40,595
<i>.</i> ..we let Frances come to
understand Jim a bit better...

256
00:12:41,630 --> 00:12:43,230
<i>.</i> ..and make a better choice
then.

257
00:12:49,103 --> 00:12:50,838
Their food's getting cold.

258
00:12:50,871 --> 00:12:53,807
So the food gets cold.
Let them sleep.

259
00:12:54,975 --> 00:12:57,144
Is making our daughter go hungry

260
00:12:57,177 --> 00:12:59,179
really worth avoiding
this conversation?

261
00:12:59,213 --> 00:13:02,149
Do you think Frances would
rather we use the word 'child'

262
00:13:02,182 --> 00:13:03,585
than 'daughter'?

263
00:13:03,618 --> 00:13:05,754
Why don't we ask them?

264
00:13:26,340 --> 00:13:27,709
Richard!

265
00:13:27,742 --> 00:13:30,177
What a beautiful sight!

266
00:13:30,210 --> 00:13:31,646
There he is.

267
00:13:31,680 --> 00:13:33,213
Richard.

268
00:13:34,348 --> 00:13:35,517
Smiling.

269
00:13:39,153 --> 00:13:41,055
Hey.

270
00:13:41,088 --> 00:13:43,123
- Oh, look at you!
- Oh!

271
00:13:43,157 --> 00:13:44,892
Oh, wow!

272
00:13:44,925 --> 00:13:46,761
Sorry, we didn't sleep
much on the plane.

273
00:13:46,795 --> 00:13:48,862
Why are you
apologising? Do we smell?

274
00:13:48,896 --> 00:13:50,264
No, it's 'cause Richard's

275
00:13:50,297 --> 00:13:51,800
so perfectly put together.

276
00:13:51,832 --> 00:13:52,833
You're so stylish.

277
00:13:52,866 --> 00:13:54,134
Oh, thank you.

278
00:13:54,168 --> 00:13:56,970
Welcome, my smelly,
unfashionable Australians.

279
00:13:57,004 --> 00:13:58,972
Welkom in Amsterdam.

280
00:14:17,224 --> 00:14:18,392
Where's Dad?

281
00:14:18,425 --> 00:14:20,194
The Professor is "working".

282
00:14:20,227 --> 00:14:22,530
He sent me to collect you
with the boat.

283
00:14:22,564 --> 00:14:24,131
-Oh, we're going by boat?
-Yeah, I know.

284
00:14:24,164 --> 00:14:25,767
It's ridiculous and touristy,

285
00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:27,935
but he said that Frances
always loved the boat.

286
00:14:27,968 --> 00:14:29,571
I'm not sure
we'll all fit in.

287
00:14:29,604 --> 00:14:32,272
Oh, let's just go. I really
need to eat something.

288
00:14:32,306 --> 00:14:33,641
Oh!

289
00:14:33,675 --> 00:14:34,843
- Shut up.
- OK. Alright.

290
00:14:34,875 --> 00:14:36,009
Let me grab this.

291
00:14:36,043 --> 00:14:37,311
- Wait, are they...
- Nuh-uh-uh.

292
00:14:46,621 --> 00:14:47,955
Sorry!

293
00:15:01,301 --> 00:15:02,804
As his valued
research assistant,

294
00:15:02,837 --> 00:15:04,905
do you do many domestic errands?

295
00:15:04,938 --> 00:15:07,207
Who said anything about
research assistant?

296
00:15:07,241 --> 00:15:09,343
I'm his damn
everything assistant.

297
00:15:10,545 --> 00:15:12,847
At least for now.

298
00:15:12,881 --> 00:15:14,415
Is everything OK?

299
00:15:16,350 --> 00:15:19,119
He's leaving the university
at the end of the month.

300
00:15:20,120 --> 00:15:21,355
Well, that wasn't gonna
last forever.

301
00:15:21,388 --> 00:15:22,791
Mmm.

302
00:15:24,893 --> 00:15:27,595
Does that mean you won't
have a job after that?

303
00:15:28,530 --> 00:15:30,297
He says I will,
but I don't see how.

304
00:15:31,699 --> 00:15:33,934
I'd follow him to the end of
the earth anyway.

305
00:15:33,967 --> 00:15:36,103
You know what he'd say to that?

306
00:15:37,337 --> 00:15:39,473
"Be grateful
and fuckin' move on."

307
00:15:41,041 --> 00:15:43,110
Oh, it's so nice to see you.

308
00:15:43,143 --> 00:15:45,012
Well, it's really
nice to see you too.

309
00:15:45,045 --> 00:15:46,146
Yeah.

310
00:15:52,052 --> 00:15:53,387
Where'd you get
that piece of shit?

311
00:15:53,420 --> 00:15:54,622
Oh!

312
00:15:56,023 --> 00:15:57,391
Why don't you borrow
one of mine?

313
00:15:57,424 --> 00:15:59,794
No, no, don't you dare!
It's only got 27 shots.

314
00:15:59,828 --> 00:16:02,062
-Oh, OK, well, get it...
-Dad!

315
00:16:02,095 --> 00:16:03,964
-Why not?
-Give it back.

316
00:16:03,997 --> 00:16:05,466
It's mine!

317
00:16:09,704 --> 00:16:11,472
Very good.

318
00:16:11,506 --> 00:16:13,875
Photographer!
Like father, like child.

319
00:16:13,908 --> 00:16:15,710
Whoa.

320
00:16:15,743 --> 00:16:17,277
Makes me sound
like a kid.

321
00:16:17,311 --> 00:16:19,547
Hiya! We're very wet!

322
00:16:20,582 --> 00:16:22,650
Hey, um, I've been
meaning to ask.

323
00:16:22,684 --> 00:16:24,886
Would you prefer
'daughter' or 'child'?

324
00:16:24,919 --> 00:16:26,987
Hmm, I mean,
'daughter's not great,

325
00:16:27,020 --> 00:16:28,656
but, um, I don't want you
to be calling me 'child'

326
00:16:28,690 --> 00:16:29,757
when I'm an adult.

327
00:16:29,791 --> 00:16:31,391
Dad still calls me child.

328
00:16:31,425 --> 00:16:33,928
Because you'll always be
my child!

329
00:16:33,962 --> 00:16:35,597
Hello!

330
00:16:35,630 --> 00:16:38,198
It's the celebrity children!

331
00:16:38,232 --> 00:16:40,635
Come here, come here.
Oh!

332
00:16:40,668 --> 00:16:43,237
Never be afraid
to be called a child.

333
00:16:43,270 --> 00:16:44,772
It's humbling.

334
00:16:44,806 --> 00:16:47,542
- Harry!
- Hi! Hello!

335
00:16:47,575 --> 00:16:50,512
-How are you?
-My glorious grand-thing!

336
00:16:50,545 --> 00:16:53,515
Oh, you're all soggy.

337
00:16:53,548 --> 00:16:55,683
I told you it was going
to rain today, Richard.

338
00:16:55,717 --> 00:16:57,217
No hugs for you.

339
00:16:57,251 --> 00:16:59,119
You also told me
to take out the boat.

340
00:16:59,152 --> 00:17:01,488
Yeah, think for yourself.
That's what I pay you for.

341
00:17:01,523 --> 00:17:05,292
Old man, that is the one thing
you do not pay me for.

342
00:17:05,325 --> 00:17:08,128
Oh, years later and not one
single sexual favour.

343
00:17:08,161 --> 00:17:09,463
Dad!

344
00:17:09,496 --> 00:17:12,332
No, he's not good for anything
except making tea.

345
00:17:12,366 --> 00:17:14,167
So go make tea, assistant.

346
00:17:14,201 --> 00:17:15,770
Dad, you can't say this stuff.

347
00:17:15,803 --> 00:17:17,437
You don't know what you're
talking about, Professor.

348
00:17:17,471 --> 00:17:19,439
- You never let me make tea.
- I'll make the tea.

349
00:17:19,473 --> 00:17:20,975
Yes, you go, Harry.

350
00:17:21,009 --> 00:17:22,710
Milk in first,
otherwise you'll...

351
00:17:22,744 --> 00:17:24,044
<i>.</i> ..get pregnant.

352
00:17:24,077 --> 00:17:25,713
- Yeah.
- Look. Look, look, look, look.

353
00:17:25,747 --> 00:17:27,347
Look what I got out.

354
00:17:27,381 --> 00:17:28,883
-Ooh!
-Look.

355
00:17:29,851 --> 00:17:31,418
Decades worth.

356
00:17:31,451 --> 00:17:33,821
Here. Uh, this one.

357
00:17:33,855 --> 00:17:35,990
'Dorothy's Best Friend'.

358
00:17:36,024 --> 00:17:38,026
Hmm! What does that mean?

359
00:17:38,058 --> 00:17:39,293
Oh!

360
00:17:39,326 --> 00:17:42,564
My dear grand-thing,
you have so much to learn.

361
00:17:42,597 --> 00:17:45,499
That's when there was
such a thing as subtext.

362
00:17:45,533 --> 00:17:46,935
The unnamed.

363
00:17:46,968 --> 00:17:50,404
When we had to use euphemism
to show solidarity,

364
00:17:50,437 --> 00:17:52,974
to codify and identify.

365
00:17:53,007 --> 00:17:54,107
That sounds horrifying.

366
00:17:54,141 --> 00:17:56,811
You're all text now.

367
00:17:56,844 --> 00:17:58,211
No subtext.

368
00:17:58,245 --> 00:17:59,681
No nuance.

369
00:17:59,714 --> 00:18:02,316
Yeah, well, it's tough
not being repressed.

370
00:18:04,719 --> 00:18:07,187
'Talk with us, not about us'.

371
00:18:07,220 --> 00:18:10,058
Hobart, 1988.

372
00:18:10,090 --> 00:18:12,894
Yeah.
You see, Richard? Good memory.

373
00:18:12,927 --> 00:18:14,929
Well done, Professor.

374
00:18:14,963 --> 00:18:19,567
Ah, this one. '3rd
National Conference on AIDS'.

375
00:18:19,601 --> 00:18:23,705
We asked everyone with HIV
to take the stage.

376
00:18:25,205 --> 00:18:26,608
<i>That was when</i>
<i>we first discovered</i>

377
00:18:26,641 --> 00:18:29,476
<i>that 50% of the staff</i>
<i>were positive.</i>

378
00:18:31,713 --> 00:18:33,313
<i>Including me.</i>

379
00:18:34,314 --> 00:18:36,884
<i>It was a scary moment,</i>

380
00:18:36,918 --> 00:18:37,885
but rallying.

381
00:18:40,120 --> 00:18:44,157
More than half would be dead
within only a few years.

382
00:18:45,593 --> 00:18:47,461
As a friend of mine once said,

383
00:18:47,494 --> 00:18:50,230
"The toll of being
at the epicentre

384
00:18:50,263 --> 00:18:52,767
"was very large."

385
00:18:57,304 --> 00:18:59,674
'It's Not Just a Phase Week,
1984'.

386
00:18:59,707 --> 00:19:00,875
- Very cute.
- Hmm.

387
00:19:00,908 --> 00:19:02,910
These are all for you.

388
00:19:03,878 --> 00:19:04,946
What?

389
00:19:04,979 --> 00:19:07,214
-I'm bequeathing them to you.
-Why?

390
00:19:07,247 --> 00:19:09,383
What, my daughter
doesn't want them?

391
00:19:09,416 --> 00:19:11,318
Surely there's an archive
you can donate them to?

392
00:19:11,351 --> 00:19:12,854
Well, yes, but they're for you.

393
00:19:12,887 --> 00:19:14,522
I'll definitely take them.

394
00:19:14,555 --> 00:19:16,524
I feel a bit ambushed -
this is quite morbid,

395
00:19:16,557 --> 00:19:18,358
like there's gonna be
the reading of a will.

396
00:19:18,392 --> 00:19:20,128
They're just badges!

397
00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:22,030
Why have you
decided to do this now?

398
00:19:22,063 --> 00:19:23,397
What's the doctor say?

399
00:19:24,532 --> 00:19:25,800
You worry too much.

400
00:19:25,833 --> 00:19:28,002
I thought Frances would
like them and she did.

401
00:19:28,036 --> 00:19:29,070
They!

402
00:19:29,103 --> 00:19:30,104
Oh!

403
00:19:31,539 --> 00:19:34,542
Would they like to give me
another hug

404
00:19:34,575 --> 00:19:36,476
or are they too busy
self-identifying?

405
00:19:36,511 --> 00:19:39,212
Why do you have to be
so provocative all the time?

406
00:19:39,246 --> 00:19:41,582
Oh, I missed you.

407
00:19:41,616 --> 00:19:43,685
I love you too much!

408
00:19:43,718 --> 00:19:44,886
I love you too, Richard.

409
00:19:44,919 --> 00:19:47,088
- Hmm.
- My beautiful assistant.

410
00:19:48,422 --> 00:19:49,590
I don't want your badges either,

411
00:19:49,624 --> 00:19:50,758
but thank you very much.

412
00:19:50,792 --> 00:19:52,727
Oh, shit!
It took me all morning.

413
00:19:52,760 --> 00:19:54,862
- I cried twice.
- You did not!

414
00:19:54,896 --> 00:19:56,363
Three times.

415
00:19:57,497 --> 00:19:58,666
I might have a little lie-down.

416
00:19:58,700 --> 00:20:00,300
I didn't get much sleep
on the plane.

417
00:20:00,333 --> 00:20:02,335
-Mmm.
-You don't want your tea?

418
00:20:04,605 --> 00:20:06,808
Blatant display of
heterosexuality.

419
00:20:06,841 --> 00:20:08,208
That's enough now!

420
00:20:08,241 --> 00:20:09,711
Oh, oh, oh.

421
00:20:09,744 --> 00:20:13,114
There's one
I especially wanted to find.

422
00:20:13,147 --> 00:20:14,182
Mmm?

423
00:20:23,624 --> 00:20:24,926
That's you.

424
00:20:24,959 --> 00:20:26,594
Yes!

425
00:20:48,049 --> 00:20:50,118
Hmm?

426
00:20:50,151 --> 00:20:52,385
hmmm?

427
00:20:52,419 --> 00:20:54,555
You should have woken me up.

428
00:20:56,591 --> 00:20:58,092
You're too cute
when you sleep.

429
00:20:58,126 --> 00:20:59,694
Why would I wake you up?

430
00:20:59,727 --> 00:21:01,763
I wanted to get through
some work

431
00:21:01,796 --> 00:21:03,898
so I could spend the day
with Dad and Frances.

432
00:21:03,931 --> 00:21:05,733
They know you have to work.

433
00:21:05,767 --> 00:21:08,102
Yeah, I know, but it doesn't
mean they like it.

434
00:21:10,171 --> 00:21:11,672
Are you afraid that Frances

435
00:21:11,706 --> 00:21:13,574
will spend some time alone
with Jim?

436
00:21:17,512 --> 00:21:20,248
At some point,
he is gonna hurt Frances.

437
00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:23,084
Yeah. Isn't that your plan?

438
00:21:23,117 --> 00:21:25,586
Frances spends time with Jim.

439
00:21:25,620 --> 00:21:28,388
He eventually disappoints them

440
00:21:28,421 --> 00:21:30,457
and they change their mind

441
00:21:30,490 --> 00:21:32,392
about wanting to live here
for a year.

442
00:21:33,326 --> 00:21:35,362
Yeah, but there is
a difference between

443
00:21:35,395 --> 00:21:36,931
being disappointed
and being hurt.

444
00:21:37,932 --> 00:21:39,567
So talk to our child.

445
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,669
Tell them what to expect.

446
00:21:44,038 --> 00:21:46,373
He said, "I love you,"
to Frances.

447
00:21:46,406 --> 00:21:48,176
And to Richard.

448
00:21:49,309 --> 00:21:50,878
He never used to say,
"I love you."

449
00:21:50,912 --> 00:21:52,312
He used to say, "You show love

450
00:21:52,345 --> 00:21:53,915
"with actions, not empty words."

451
00:21:55,716 --> 00:21:57,752
He's softened since the stroke.

452
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:00,188
He's different.

453
00:22:01,889 --> 00:22:04,158
Your cunning plan
might not work.

454
00:22:05,960 --> 00:22:08,029
Oh. Maybe.

455
00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:14,135
Hmm.

456
00:22:14,168 --> 00:22:15,670
Go get 'em, tiger.

457
00:22:37,490 --> 00:22:39,459
<i>I love it. I really do.</i>

458
00:22:40,561 --> 00:22:43,430
<i>I do find it hard to believe</i>
<i>there wasn't any conflict</i>

459
00:22:43,463 --> 00:22:47,268
<i>when your dad</i>
<i>finally left you at...</i>

460
00:22:47,301 --> 00:22:48,502
13.

461
00:22:48,536 --> 00:22:50,071
<i>...13.</i>

462
00:22:51,005 --> 00:22:54,141
<i>Conflict would have been there</i>
<i>even if it's repressed.</i>

463
00:22:54,175 --> 00:22:57,545
I think any 13-year-old
would be sad

464
00:22:57,578 --> 00:22:59,013
being without their father.

465
00:22:59,046 --> 00:23:00,781
<i>Why did he leave, then?</i>

466
00:23:00,815 --> 00:23:04,352
<i>After staying with your mother</i>
<i>for so long after coming out?</i>

467
00:23:04,384 --> 00:23:05,720
Uh, work.

468
00:23:05,753 --> 00:23:09,023
As a gay man and a political
one, he hit a ceiling,

469
00:23:09,056 --> 00:23:10,625
and, uh...

470
00:23:10,658 --> 00:23:12,260
<i>.</i> ..he needed to find
opportunities

471
00:23:12,293 --> 00:23:14,795
in a more progressive
part of the world.

472
00:23:15,897 --> 00:23:16,931
<i>OK.</i>

473
00:23:16,964 --> 00:23:19,634
<i>So there is conflict there</i>
<i>for him.</i>

474
00:23:19,667 --> 00:23:24,171
<i>Do I stay with my family and</i>
<i>sacrifice my own ambition?</i>

475
00:23:24,205 --> 00:23:26,941
<i>Or do I owe it to myself</i>

476
00:23:26,974 --> 00:23:29,977
<i>to fully explore who I am</i>
<i>and my opportunities?</i>

477
00:23:30,011 --> 00:23:32,546
<i>But he hit the ceiling</i>
<i>and he made the choice</i>

478
00:23:32,580 --> 00:23:33,948
<i>at the expense of his family.</i>

479
00:23:33,981 --> 00:23:35,917
<i>The family accepted him,</i>

480
00:23:35,950 --> 00:23:37,385
<i>loved him,</i>

481
00:23:37,417 --> 00:23:40,021
<i>he was able to be himself,</i>
<i>but...</i>

482
00:23:40,054 --> 00:23:41,522
<i>...still left them.</i>

483
00:23:42,523 --> 00:23:43,624
<i>You weren't hurt</i>

484
00:23:43,658 --> 00:23:45,458
<i>or angry at your father</i>
<i>leaving?</i>

485
00:23:46,459 --> 00:23:51,032
Uh, we understood
that he needed to leave.

486
00:23:51,065 --> 00:23:52,667
What matters to me

487
00:23:52,700 --> 00:23:55,903
is how hard everyone tried
to do the right thing.

488
00:23:55,937 --> 00:23:58,639
Uh, it's not important
if I was hurt or angry.

489
00:23:58,673 --> 00:24:00,808
What if I'm angry now,
for instance?

490
00:24:01,742 --> 00:24:03,110
<i>You're angry now?</i>

491
00:24:03,144 --> 00:24:06,280
Mmm. Would it help
to express it?

492
00:24:06,314 --> 00:24:08,282
Uh, I'm not so sure.

493
00:24:08,316 --> 00:24:09,684
And would it help
with this meeting

494
00:24:09,717 --> 00:24:11,252
or us working together?

495
00:24:11,285 --> 00:24:12,887
Definitely not.

496
00:24:15,623 --> 00:24:18,426
<i>O... ok, um...</i>

497
00:24:20,328 --> 00:24:22,163
Fuck me.

498
00:24:30,004 --> 00:24:31,238
Hello?

499
00:24:31,272 --> 00:24:32,406
Hello?

500
00:24:34,308 --> 00:24:35,376
Hello?

501
00:24:35,409 --> 00:24:36,644
Hello.

502
00:24:39,847 --> 00:24:42,583
I bet he hasn't
left one for you.

503
00:24:42,616 --> 00:24:43,684
Oh!

504
00:24:43,718 --> 00:24:45,386
You should take it
while you're here.

505
00:24:46,954 --> 00:24:49,056
I'm sorry we've taken over
your bedroom.

506
00:24:49,090 --> 00:24:51,292
Well, it's definitely not
my bedroom.

507
00:24:52,893 --> 00:24:54,929
And I've been staying here
less and less.

508
00:25:06,007 --> 00:25:07,074
You think...

509
00:25:10,878 --> 00:25:13,381
Oh!

510
00:25:13,414 --> 00:25:16,550
It was convenient for a while,
but now not so much.

511
00:25:16,584 --> 00:25:18,652
Have you moved
closer to Amsterdam?

512
00:25:18,686 --> 00:25:22,223
No, no, it's just I need to
work when I'm in town

513
00:25:22,256 --> 00:25:24,692
and, you know, your father
takes up a lot of time.

514
00:25:24,725 --> 00:25:27,228
He does demand attention.

515
00:25:27,261 --> 00:25:30,197
I've been wanting to talk
to him about it for a while.

516
00:25:30,231 --> 00:25:31,699
I see.

517
00:25:34,168 --> 00:25:35,936
He's still struggling.

518
00:25:35,970 --> 00:25:37,738
Emily said.

519
00:25:37,772 --> 00:25:39,407
Since your sister left,

520
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:41,942
Richard's been doing
most of the heavy lifting.

521
00:25:41,976 --> 00:25:43,644
He has sent me a lot of articles

522
00:25:43,677 --> 00:25:45,012
and grant applications

523
00:25:45,046 --> 00:25:48,517
to finish off
and smooth out when I can.

524
00:25:48,549 --> 00:25:50,418
You shouldn't be
the one covering for him.

525
00:25:51,786 --> 00:25:53,921
I'm sorry none of us
have been here to help.

526
00:25:58,626 --> 00:26:00,795
You can stop looking after him.

527
00:26:01,829 --> 00:26:02,930
Hmm.

528
00:26:06,535 --> 00:26:08,335
You sound like him.

529
00:26:12,973 --> 00:26:14,475
Over the years, he has taught me

530
00:26:14,509 --> 00:26:16,877
to need him
less and less, but...

531
00:26:18,045 --> 00:26:19,146
But he's still hurt

532
00:26:19,180 --> 00:26:20,549
that you're not around as much.

533
00:26:21,550 --> 00:26:23,417
Hmm. Yeah.

534
00:26:24,585 --> 00:26:26,053
Thank you, Matti.

535
00:26:26,087 --> 00:26:27,221
Hot, I hope.

536
00:26:27,254 --> 00:26:28,689
If only you were hot.

537
00:26:29,790 --> 00:26:31,125
You have to be careful
with steroids

538
00:26:31,158 --> 00:26:32,393
if you're taking warfarin.

539
00:26:32,426 --> 00:26:33,794
Why are you taking steroids?

540
00:26:33,828 --> 00:26:36,597
A date the other week
said I looked too skinny.

541
00:26:36,630 --> 00:26:37,932
- A date?
- Yes!

542
00:26:37,965 --> 00:26:39,300
He means a hook-up.

543
00:26:39,333 --> 00:26:42,770
You've looked exactly the same
for 97 years, Mark.

544
00:26:42,803 --> 00:26:44,472
You've had no problem before.

545
00:27:09,630 --> 00:27:12,534
Whoo!

546
00:27:15,269 --> 00:27:17,738
Steroids don't work on old men.

547
00:27:17,771 --> 00:27:19,608
I sense you've already tried.

548
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:20,774
Of course.

549
00:27:22,376 --> 00:27:25,012
But what are you into, Frances?

550
00:27:25,045 --> 00:27:26,447
What can we help you with?

551
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:28,182
Uh, 'into'?

552
00:27:28,215 --> 00:27:29,650
Are you a lesbian?

553
00:27:29,683 --> 00:27:31,218
Don't be so old.

554
00:27:31,252 --> 00:27:33,721
What? That's not
a bad question, is it?

555
00:27:33,754 --> 00:27:36,223
You can't be a lesbian
if you're not a woman.

556
00:27:36,257 --> 00:27:37,291
Oh.

557
00:27:37,324 --> 00:27:39,793
I like women
and I'm also attracted to

558
00:27:39,827 --> 00:27:42,062
people who don't identify
as a gender either way

559
00:27:42,096 --> 00:27:43,598
but are a bit femme.

560
00:27:43,632 --> 00:27:45,399
I love how much your generation

561
00:27:45,432 --> 00:27:46,667
knows what they want.

562
00:27:46,700 --> 00:27:48,169
It doesn't sound like anything.

563
00:27:48,202 --> 00:27:50,971
It's not a preference,
it's a non-preference.

564
00:27:51,005 --> 00:27:52,072
So...

565
00:27:52,106 --> 00:27:53,474
<i>.</i> ..you don't like men.

566
00:27:53,508 --> 00:27:55,042
Cis men.

567
00:27:55,075 --> 00:27:56,277
Penis?

568
00:27:56,310 --> 00:27:57,945
I don't know.

569
00:27:57,978 --> 00:28:00,114
Jim, can we talk about
how unsatisfying

570
00:28:00,147 --> 00:28:01,815
getting your penis sucked
is now?

571
00:28:01,849 --> 00:28:02,917
Oh, you too?

572
00:28:02,950 --> 00:28:04,519
I feel it's getting
lower and lower

573
00:28:04,553 --> 00:28:05,920
on my pleasure scale.

574
00:28:05,953 --> 00:28:08,355
That's because
you go straight for hole.

575
00:28:08,389 --> 00:28:10,724
Oh, you're right.
I do love ass too much.

576
00:28:12,059 --> 00:28:15,829
Frances has still not
stated a preference.

577
00:28:17,798 --> 00:28:21,068
Well, genitals aren't really
what attracts me to people.

578
00:28:21,101 --> 00:28:22,637
How are we talking
about genitals

579
00:28:22,671 --> 00:28:24,438
all of a sudden, anyway?

580
00:28:24,471 --> 00:28:26,173
Because you're talking to us.

581
00:28:26,207 --> 00:28:27,875
It's all for show, Frances.

582
00:28:27,908 --> 00:28:30,311
We mostly talk about
real estate now.

583
00:28:30,344 --> 00:28:32,246
In that regard, Amsterdam
has gotten much better.

584
00:28:32,279 --> 00:28:33,847
You're such a conservative.

585
00:28:33,881 --> 00:28:35,049
I'm just being encouraging

586
00:28:35,082 --> 00:28:37,184
towards Frances's idea
of moving here.

587
00:28:38,419 --> 00:28:40,254
<i>You know,</i>
<i>Amsterdam used to be about</i>

588
00:28:40,287 --> 00:28:43,224
squatter protests and housing
rights, but the government's

589
00:28:43,257 --> 00:28:44,959
free-market push is a disgrace.

590
00:28:46,827 --> 00:28:48,028
None of my students will be

591
00:28:48,062 --> 00:28:49,230
able to buy in their lifetimes.

592
00:28:50,397 --> 00:28:51,865
And the sale of
social housing

593
00:28:51,899 --> 00:28:53,100
has only increased the problem.

594
00:28:53,133 --> 00:28:55,903
Says the man who owns
one of those apartments.

595
00:28:55,936 --> 00:28:57,771
Hmm!

596
00:29:01,909 --> 00:29:04,613
This is their way of getting
me to change the subject.

597
00:29:34,643 --> 00:29:37,612
A clean desk is
a sign of a sick mind.

598
00:29:37,646 --> 00:29:40,214
Sit anywhere you like.
I won't be long.

599
00:30:03,672 --> 00:30:05,105
Hello!

600
00:30:05,139 --> 00:30:06,106
Hi!

601
00:30:06,140 --> 00:30:07,374
Who is it?

602
00:30:07,408 --> 00:30:08,643
It's me.

603
00:30:08,677 --> 00:30:11,278
You should say your name,
not just hello.

604
00:30:11,312 --> 00:30:13,847
Don't know who it is or
what you want, otherwise.

605
00:30:13,881 --> 00:30:15,916
You do like self-identifying,
you hypocrite.

606
00:30:17,552 --> 00:30:19,219
Hello, it's me,
your daughter, Hannah.

607
00:30:19,253 --> 00:30:21,589
That's it? Just a daughter?

608
00:30:21,623 --> 00:30:26,393
And a filmmaker
and a mother and a woman.

609
00:30:26,427 --> 00:30:27,461
Is that better?

610
00:30:27,494 --> 00:30:28,896
Impressive.

611
00:30:30,164 --> 00:30:33,000
So Mirjam gave me her key today

612
00:30:33,033 --> 00:30:35,336
'cause someone didn't
leave one behind for me.

613
00:30:35,369 --> 00:30:37,071
Who else has a key
to the apartment?

614
00:30:37,104 --> 00:30:38,172
No-one.

615
00:30:38,205 --> 00:30:41,442
Like my body,
my home is my temple.

616
00:30:41,475 --> 00:30:43,944
And what happens
if you have another stroke?

617
00:30:43,977 --> 00:30:45,346
Oh, god.

618
00:30:45,379 --> 00:30:47,214
If I have another stroke,

619
00:30:47,247 --> 00:30:49,584
even if you're here,
go out and have a coffee.

620
00:30:49,617 --> 00:30:50,918
Jimpa!

621
00:30:50,951 --> 00:30:52,353
No, I'm deadly serious.

622
00:30:52,386 --> 00:30:53,887
Let me die.

623
00:30:53,921 --> 00:30:56,156
A diminished life
is no life for me at all.

624
00:30:56,190 --> 00:30:57,559
A diminished life?

625
00:30:57,592 --> 00:30:58,959
That's a little bit ableist,
Jimpa.

626
00:31:00,260 --> 00:31:02,062
So, is that why
no-one else has a key?

627
00:31:02,096 --> 00:31:03,464
Well, of course.

628
00:31:03,497 --> 00:31:04,566
No-one.

629
00:31:04,599 --> 00:31:06,333
That's everyone
off the hook, then.

630
00:31:06,367 --> 00:31:09,069
No-one feels the need
to check up on me.

631
00:31:09,103 --> 00:31:12,072
And if you keep calling
and there's no answer,

632
00:31:12,106 --> 00:31:14,843
wait a week before
you break the door down.

633
00:31:14,875 --> 00:31:16,210
I should be dead by then.

634
00:31:16,243 --> 00:31:18,212
Richard has a key.

635
00:31:18,245 --> 00:31:20,047
Oh, yes, Richard has a key.

636
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:21,882
And although my sister lives
in another country,

637
00:31:21,915 --> 00:31:23,317
I bet she still has a key.

638
00:31:23,350 --> 00:31:24,719
Well, of course Emily has a key.

639
00:31:24,753 --> 00:31:25,886
She lived here for three years

640
00:31:25,919 --> 00:31:27,756
while she looked after me
like an angel.

641
00:31:27,789 --> 00:31:29,022
I should have a key.

642
00:31:29,056 --> 00:31:30,859
You most certainly
will need a key,

643
00:31:30,891 --> 00:31:32,126
if you're gonna live here.

644
00:31:32,159 --> 00:31:34,729
Have you talked
about that, have you?

645
00:31:37,464 --> 00:31:41,001
Yeah, it was my idea, even
before Frances mentioned it.

646
00:31:41,034 --> 00:31:42,436
I was thinking she needed...

647
00:31:42,469 --> 00:31:43,772
They, Jim. They.

648
00:31:43,805 --> 00:31:46,407
<i>.</i> ..they needed to get out of
Adelaide

649
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:48,275
before it suffocates them.

650
00:31:48,308 --> 00:31:51,178
I love Adelaide, by the way,

651
00:31:51,211 --> 00:31:54,047
and I'm very glad you made
something of yourself there

652
00:31:54,081 --> 00:31:55,382
when I wasn't able to.

653
00:31:55,416 --> 00:31:57,685
- Thank you.
- Fucking miracle.

654
00:32:02,791 --> 00:32:05,426
Yeah, it's an idea
that Frances just had.

655
00:32:05,459 --> 00:32:07,428
We haven't had a chance
to talk about it much.

656
00:32:07,461 --> 00:32:09,396
Even the small part of Amsterdam

657
00:32:09,430 --> 00:32:11,633
that I saw with Jimpa today
just felt so good.

658
00:32:11,666 --> 00:32:13,568
It feels like a proper city.

659
00:32:13,601 --> 00:32:16,103
Hm. The timing
couldn't be more perfect.

660
00:32:16,136 --> 00:32:17,672
I... I think it's perfect.

661
00:32:17,705 --> 00:32:19,507
What do you think?

662
00:32:21,241 --> 00:32:23,043
I think Frances is too young.

663
00:32:23,076 --> 00:32:24,311
For what?

664
00:32:25,245 --> 00:32:28,048
Well, Harry doesn't mean
'too young' exactly.

665
00:32:29,049 --> 00:32:30,752
I think what Harry means is

666
00:32:30,785 --> 00:32:33,721
that you're a child for such
a short amount of time

667
00:32:33,755 --> 00:32:36,891
and then there's so much life
that happens afterwards.

668
00:32:36,925 --> 00:32:39,794
But that time as a young
person, as a young family,

669
00:32:39,828 --> 00:32:42,029
is limited and then...

670
00:32:42,062 --> 00:32:44,833
<i>.</i> ..you know, then it's gone
and you can't get it back.

671
00:32:46,534 --> 00:32:50,237
But also Amsterdam is full of
people who've had to leave

672
00:32:50,270 --> 00:32:51,940
in order to survive

673
00:32:51,972 --> 00:32:54,975
or, you know,
find who they are or...

674
00:32:55,008 --> 00:32:57,545
Like, you know, my own father,
for instance.

675
00:32:57,579 --> 00:33:00,314
So who am I to say what...
what a person needs?

676
00:33:03,952 --> 00:33:06,654
Are you making your
pea and ham soup?

677
00:33:06,688 --> 00:33:08,088
Yeah.

678
00:33:08,121 --> 00:33:10,057
Yeah, for a little gathering
we're having tomorrow.

679
00:33:10,090 --> 00:33:11,358
- Ham?
- Yeah.

680
00:33:11,391 --> 00:33:13,260
Dad used to make it for me
all the time.

681
00:33:13,293 --> 00:33:15,864
Don't worry, I'll make
something for you vegans.

682
00:33:15,897 --> 00:33:17,498
Right,
I'll make something for us.

683
00:34:39,179 --> 00:34:40,949
Dennis?

684
00:34:40,982 --> 00:34:43,518
I want you to meet
my grand-thing, Frances.

685
00:34:43,551 --> 00:34:45,853
You two should
sit down and talk.

686
00:34:45,887 --> 00:34:47,889
You know Dennis.
We used to be together.

687
00:34:47,922 --> 00:34:49,023
Hi, Dennis.

688
00:34:49,057 --> 00:34:51,291
And your grandfather
is a huge cunt.

689
00:34:53,061 --> 00:34:54,428
And now we're
just good friends.

690
00:34:54,461 --> 00:34:56,263
Oh, the best,
best friends.

691
00:34:56,296 --> 00:34:57,699
- Let's chat later, OK?
- Please, yeah.

692
00:34:57,732 --> 00:34:59,499
- Great.
- Uh, everyone!

693
00:34:59,534 --> 00:35:01,002
Everyone!

694
00:35:01,035 --> 00:35:05,339
If you haven't met my
grand-thing, this is Frances.

695
00:35:05,372 --> 00:35:07,107
Hi, Frances!

696
00:35:07,140 --> 00:35:10,044
I want you to introduce
yourself to them.

697
00:35:10,078 --> 00:35:12,981
Yes, Frances is one of
those young people

698
00:35:13,014 --> 00:35:18,418
who... suddenly has no gender,
for some reason.

699
00:35:18,452 --> 00:35:21,388
So please respect that.

700
00:35:21,421 --> 00:35:22,757
Uh, anyway,

701
00:35:22,790 --> 00:35:26,027
I know most of you
might be aware that my life

702
00:35:26,060 --> 00:35:29,030
is going through
a small transition right now.

703
00:35:29,063 --> 00:35:34,267
I am finishing up my work
at the university.

704
00:35:34,301 --> 00:35:37,105
-No, no. Boo!
-No, no, no, no.

705
00:35:37,137 --> 00:35:38,305
I know, I know.

706
00:35:38,338 --> 00:35:39,941
But it's time I moved on from...

707
00:35:39,974 --> 00:35:42,275
<i>.</i> ..some of you old farts
anyway.

708
00:35:42,309 --> 00:35:43,845
But... but don't worry -

709
00:35:43,878 --> 00:35:47,615
I'm not ready to sit behind
my geraniums just yet.

710
00:35:47,649 --> 00:35:51,019
In fact,
I've just been on a call

711
00:35:51,052 --> 00:35:54,722
with a certain organisation
in Helsinki

712
00:35:54,756 --> 00:35:56,658
about a job opportunity.

713
00:35:56,691 --> 00:36:01,062
Yes. That's in Finland,
boys and girls.

714
00:36:01,095 --> 00:36:03,731
So I just wanted you all
to be aware.

715
00:36:03,765 --> 00:36:05,265
They haven't made up
their minds.

716
00:36:05,298 --> 00:36:07,467
I haven't made up my mind.

717
00:36:07,502 --> 00:36:10,104
But I want to acquaint you
with the possibility...

718
00:36:18,046 --> 00:36:20,280
Ok, so... ok, what do i do?

719
00:36:20,313 --> 00:36:22,517
Keep your body still
except for your arms.

720
00:36:22,550 --> 00:36:25,419
Uh-huh. OK, yeah.
Like I said, the arms.

721
00:36:25,452 --> 00:36:27,021
-Arms.
-And marching.

722
00:36:27,055 --> 00:36:29,389
Marching, marching.

723
00:36:29,423 --> 00:36:31,626
Make the arms, like,
intentional.

724
00:36:31,659 --> 00:36:33,895
Tiny steps. Uh-huh.

725
00:36:33,928 --> 00:36:36,396
And... no.

726
00:36:36,430 --> 00:36:38,032
What?

727
00:36:38,066 --> 00:36:40,001
-It has intention.
-OK, show me, show me.

728
00:36:40,034 --> 00:36:42,335
You don't have to go,
like, fast all the time.

729
00:36:42,369 --> 00:36:46,140
You can go slow, slow.
Slow, slow, slow.

730
00:36:47,141 --> 00:36:48,776
- Ba-ba-ba.
- Hey!

731
00:36:48,810 --> 00:36:51,546
Soft. Soft. Soft.

732
00:36:51,579 --> 00:36:53,981
And...and do soft.

733
00:36:57,085 --> 00:36:58,452
Whoo-hoo!

734
00:37:21,075 --> 00:37:22,176
I knew it.

735
00:37:23,745 --> 00:37:24,779
Hmm.

736
00:37:24,812 --> 00:37:27,014
Leading Frances on like that.

737
00:37:27,048 --> 00:37:28,549
Oh?

738
00:37:28,583 --> 00:37:31,152
Encouraging the idea of
them moving over

739
00:37:31,185 --> 00:37:33,054
and then the next minute saying

740
00:37:33,087 --> 00:37:35,189
you've got job opportunities
in another country.

741
00:37:35,223 --> 00:37:37,390
When did you organise that?

742
00:37:37,424 --> 00:37:39,227
Mirjam hadn't said anything.

743
00:37:39,259 --> 00:37:41,394
Oh, you've seen Mirjam?

744
00:37:41,428 --> 00:37:43,030
Yeah, she's at the party now.

745
00:37:43,064 --> 00:37:44,198
Is she?

746
00:37:44,232 --> 00:37:45,432
Yeah.

747
00:37:45,465 --> 00:37:47,267
And she gave me her key
yesterday, remember?

748
00:37:47,300 --> 00:37:49,637
Oh, yes.

749
00:37:49,670 --> 00:37:51,939
See, sometimes I don't know
if you've lost your memory

750
00:37:51,973 --> 00:37:53,574
or you just don't care
about these things.

751
00:37:54,876 --> 00:37:56,376
Come here.

752
00:37:57,979 --> 00:38:00,982
We haven't had
nearly enough cuddles yet.

753
00:38:01,015 --> 00:38:02,950
OLDER <i>Mmm!</i>

754
00:38:06,687 --> 00:38:09,257
I'm sure it was just
a passing fancy.

755
00:38:10,558 --> 00:38:12,593
The excitement of
coming to see me.

756
00:38:14,629 --> 00:38:17,064
Are you taking a new job
in a new country?

757
00:38:19,100 --> 00:38:20,400
Shouldn't I?

758
00:38:20,433 --> 00:38:22,469
Why don't you retire and just...

759
00:38:22,503 --> 00:38:23,738
And be an old man?

760
00:38:23,771 --> 00:38:25,940
-Water my geraniums?
-Yeah, why not?

761
00:38:25,973 --> 00:38:27,809
Because there's so much
to fight for.

762
00:38:27,842 --> 00:38:30,044
Because work is everything.

763
00:38:30,077 --> 00:38:31,546
Oh, it isn't everything.

764
00:38:31,579 --> 00:38:34,148
Oh, look who's talking.

765
00:38:35,850 --> 00:38:38,052
We need to feel useful,

766
00:38:38,085 --> 00:38:40,221
the two of us, hmm?

767
00:38:40,254 --> 00:38:41,454
Mmm.

768
00:38:41,488 --> 00:38:44,225
Mm-hm! Mademoiselle!

769
00:38:44,258 --> 00:38:45,960
Hmm. OK.

770
00:38:45,993 --> 00:38:48,029
But Professor Jim
said to me that

771
00:38:48,062 --> 00:38:50,363
teenagers can't be
into polyamory.

772
00:38:50,397 --> 00:38:51,899
They just like to cheat.

773
00:38:51,933 --> 00:38:54,135
Jim's never been
monogamous in his life.

774
00:38:55,269 --> 00:38:57,138
Also, non-monogamous
is so different

775
00:38:57,171 --> 00:38:58,172
from polyamorous.

776
00:38:58,206 --> 00:38:59,240
True.

777
00:38:59,273 --> 00:39:01,509
Well, I'm still
working that out.

778
00:39:02,844 --> 00:39:05,179
We know, baby, we know.

779
00:39:05,213 --> 00:39:06,280
We know.

780
00:39:08,649 --> 00:39:10,218
I'm definitely into polyamory.

781
00:39:10,251 --> 00:39:12,086
I'm a big believer
in compersion.

782
00:39:14,088 --> 00:39:16,257
Oh, my God! I love you.

783
00:39:16,290 --> 00:39:18,559
I love you too!

784
00:39:19,927 --> 00:39:22,630
So, what do we think?

785
00:39:22,663 --> 00:39:24,232
- Wow!
- Cute!

786
00:39:24,265 --> 00:39:25,766
It looks cute on you.

787
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:26,934
-Oooh!
-It's cute.

788
00:39:26,968 --> 00:39:28,401
Thank you.

789
00:39:28,435 --> 00:39:30,938
Frances certainly doesn't
see you as useless.

790
00:39:30,972 --> 00:39:35,209
I thought you didn't want
Frances to move over here.

791
00:39:35,243 --> 00:39:37,645
Well, it's not up to me
to tell them what to do.

792
00:39:37,678 --> 00:39:38,946
I want to support Frances.

793
00:39:38,980 --> 00:39:40,214
Well, so do I.

794
00:39:43,251 --> 00:39:45,286
Ah!

795
00:39:48,589 --> 00:39:49,891
Hey, where are you?

796
00:39:49,924 --> 00:39:51,859
<i>I'm standing in the hallway.</i>

797
00:39:51,893 --> 00:39:53,227
OK.

798
00:39:53,261 --> 00:39:55,863
<i>Um, can I go out with Isa?</i>

799
00:39:55,897 --> 00:39:57,932
<i>She's a friend of Richard,</i>
<i>she's 19</i>

800
00:39:57,965 --> 00:40:00,101
<i>and she likes that</i>
<i>I know about compersion.</i>

801
00:40:00,134 --> 00:40:02,435
- What's compersion?
- Compersion.

802
00:40:02,469 --> 00:40:04,171
<i>It's taking pleasure in</i>

803
00:40:04,205 --> 00:40:06,439
<i>witnessing someone else's</i>
<i>pleasure</i>

804
00:40:06,473 --> 00:40:08,376
<i>but not related to you.</i>

805
00:40:08,408 --> 00:40:10,477
<i>It's a polyamory thing.</i>

806
00:40:10,511 --> 00:40:11,779
OK.

807
00:40:11,812 --> 00:40:14,548
<i>'OK' I can go out</i>
<i>with Isa, 'OK'?</i>

808
00:40:14,582 --> 00:40:16,050
<i>She's 19.</i>

809
00:40:16,083 --> 00:40:17,318
Well, does Richard have

810
00:40:17,351 --> 00:40:19,020
this 19-year-old Isa's
phone number?

811
00:40:19,053 --> 00:40:20,420
I got her number.

812
00:40:20,453 --> 00:40:22,924
-She's spunky, Hannah.
-Spunky? Ugh.

813
00:40:24,091 --> 00:40:25,425
Have fun, Frances,

814
00:40:25,458 --> 00:40:27,595
and don't come back till
you've got a story to tell.

815
00:40:27,628 --> 00:40:29,462
<i>Thank you, Jimpa.</i>

816
00:40:31,899 --> 00:40:33,267
She's hot.

817
00:40:34,502 --> 00:40:35,836
And smart.

818
00:40:37,004 --> 00:40:38,673
And very nice.

819
00:40:40,875 --> 00:40:42,343
You set this up.

820
00:40:42,376 --> 00:40:44,211
Frances is 16!

821
00:40:44,245 --> 00:40:46,180
I remember you at 16.

822
00:40:46,213 --> 00:40:47,682
Yeah, but you do realise

823
00:40:47,715 --> 00:40:48,983
Frances has no experience
whatsoever?

824
00:40:49,016 --> 00:40:50,483
Really?

825
00:40:50,518 --> 00:40:52,520
Yeah, it's like they know
the lyrics to the song

826
00:40:52,553 --> 00:40:54,021
but they've never
sung it out loud.

827
00:40:55,056 --> 00:40:57,091
You don't know if you can sing

828
00:40:57,124 --> 00:40:58,893
until you sing.

829
00:41:00,061 --> 00:41:01,429
Hmm.

830
00:41:02,396 --> 00:41:04,265
Are you ready to see Amsterdam?

831
00:41:04,298 --> 00:41:06,067
Yeah!

832
00:41:11,806 --> 00:41:15,209
Here you can go... I think
it's open 24 hours, so...

833
00:41:27,221 --> 00:41:28,589
You don't sing?

834
00:41:28,622 --> 00:41:30,257
Oh, no, I love to sing.

835
00:41:30,291 --> 00:41:31,859
You're cute.

836
00:41:33,394 --> 00:41:35,029
To the lesbian bar!

837
00:41:35,062 --> 00:41:36,530
Yes, let's go!

838
00:41:38,232 --> 00:41:39,967
I'm definitely
not a woman,

839
00:41:40,001 --> 00:41:41,602
but I'm still into women.

840
00:41:41,635 --> 00:41:43,304
Is it OK that I'm here?

841
00:41:45,373 --> 00:41:47,241
-Roosje.
-Mmm?

842
00:41:47,274 --> 00:41:48,442
This is Frances.

843
00:41:48,476 --> 00:41:50,311
They're non-binary.
Are they welcome here?

844
00:41:50,344 --> 00:41:52,346
-Oh, fuck, yes.
-Yes.

845
00:41:52,380 --> 00:41:54,315
- Cheers!
- Ah, ja, ja, ja.

846
00:41:54,348 --> 00:41:56,517
She knows her shit.

847
00:41:58,853 --> 00:42:02,356
So you and Bis are... something?

848
00:42:04,125 --> 00:42:06,394
We've been together
since high school.

849
00:42:08,496 --> 00:42:10,364
Since before he transitioned.

850
00:42:10,398 --> 00:42:13,134
And I like his new,
uh, qualities.

851
00:42:13,167 --> 00:42:14,335
His more masc energy.

852
00:42:14,368 --> 00:42:16,804
What?

853
00:42:18,005 --> 00:42:19,273
And... and you two are...

854
00:42:19,306 --> 00:42:20,708
are monogamous or...

855
00:42:25,079 --> 00:42:26,781
That's what's great
about being queer, right?

856
00:42:26,814 --> 00:42:28,649
How we state things -

857
00:42:28,682 --> 00:42:30,584
by what our boundaries are,

858
00:42:30,618 --> 00:42:32,019
by what we want.

859
00:42:33,087 --> 00:42:34,355
Yeah.

860
00:42:34,388 --> 00:42:36,557
I want you, Isa.

861
00:42:36,590 --> 00:42:37,992
Exactly.

862
00:42:39,460 --> 00:42:40,728
For example.

863
00:42:42,129 --> 00:42:43,264
Exactly.

864
00:42:43,297 --> 00:42:44,799
Right.

865
00:42:50,438 --> 00:42:52,306
You're still cleaning up!

866
00:42:52,339 --> 00:42:54,509
You're still cleaning up too.

867
00:43:04,952 --> 00:43:07,221
You didn't want
to go out with the others?

868
00:43:08,289 --> 00:43:09,524
Not really.

869
00:43:09,558 --> 00:43:10,925
You?

870
00:43:12,059 --> 00:43:13,060
No.

871
00:43:13,094 --> 00:43:15,029
Well,

872
00:43:15,062 --> 00:43:17,765
if you're gonna stay up
like an anxious mother...

873
00:43:18,999 --> 00:43:20,267
<i>.</i> ..you can have another drink.

874
00:43:21,503 --> 00:43:23,137
'Anxious mother' sounds old.

875
00:43:23,170 --> 00:43:24,738
Not old.

876
00:43:24,772 --> 00:43:26,140
Older.

877
00:43:26,173 --> 00:43:28,876
Aren't you, like, 10 years
older than me?

878
00:43:28,909 --> 00:43:30,344
-12.
-Nothing!

879
00:43:52,633 --> 00:43:54,468
No lovers waiting for you, then?

880
00:43:58,339 --> 00:44:00,274
Just a few boys here and there.

881
00:44:19,727 --> 00:44:21,395
How about you sing me a song?

882
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:26,867
What?

883
00:44:28,035 --> 00:44:29,170
Come on!

884
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:32,706
Please.

885
00:46:12,707 --> 00:46:15,644
What do you know
about compersion?

886
00:46:21,081 --> 00:46:23,250
It's the opposite
to jealousy.

887
00:46:24,619 --> 00:46:26,588
It's a polyamory thing.

888
00:46:28,389 --> 00:46:30,124
How do you know about it?

889
00:46:33,794 --> 00:46:35,796
It's just wanting
someone you love

890
00:46:35,829 --> 00:46:37,599
to be happy and fulfilled.

891
00:46:39,233 --> 00:46:40,834
It's a nice idea.

892
00:47:16,937 --> 00:47:18,872
Were you pretending to sleep?

893
00:47:20,542 --> 00:47:22,744
No, I think I was
trying to sleep.

894
00:47:25,212 --> 00:47:26,514
Did you have fun?

895
00:47:29,083 --> 00:47:31,185
-I had the best time, Mum.
-Oh!

896
00:47:31,218 --> 00:47:33,555
Yay, I'm so glad.

897
00:47:34,723 --> 00:47:36,223
So you liked Isa?

898
00:47:37,458 --> 00:47:39,059
I'm in love.

899
00:47:43,765 --> 00:47:45,533
Guys.

900
00:47:45,567 --> 00:47:47,267
But I'm in love, Dad.

901
00:47:47,301 --> 00:47:49,269
- Yeah, great.
- Oh!

902
00:47:49,303 --> 00:47:52,774
Oh, don't!

903
00:47:59,346 --> 00:48:00,648
- There you go.
- Thank you.

904
00:48:00,682 --> 00:48:01,850
Tell us about your film.

905
00:48:01,882 --> 00:48:03,484
Thank you, Matti. Hot, I hope.

906
00:48:03,518 --> 00:48:05,687
It's impossible for it
to be any hotter, Jim.

907
00:48:05,720 --> 00:48:07,354
Yes, you haven't told us
about your film yet.

908
00:48:07,388 --> 00:48:09,089
I'm just trying to cast it
right now.

909
00:48:09,123 --> 00:48:11,959
Why don't you just put your
mouth under the machine, Jim?

910
00:48:11,992 --> 00:48:13,927
Your film?

911
00:48:13,961 --> 00:48:16,531
Hannah hasn't told me a thing
about it. She's avoiding it.

912
00:48:16,564 --> 00:48:17,565
Why?

913
00:48:17,599 --> 00:48:19,400
So she's bisexual?

914
00:48:19,433 --> 00:48:20,502
Who?

915
00:48:20,535 --> 00:48:21,770
Isa, the student.

916
00:48:21,803 --> 00:48:24,405
There's no such thing
as bisexuality.

917
00:48:24,438 --> 00:48:26,974
- Oh!
- OK, maybe tone it down a bit.

918
00:48:27,007 --> 00:48:28,475
Tone what down?

919
00:48:28,510 --> 00:48:30,712
What? I'm just trying to talk
about these things openly.

920
00:48:30,745 --> 00:48:32,346
Are you sure you talking openly

921
00:48:32,379 --> 00:48:34,716
isn't just you wanting to
express your opinion?

922
00:48:34,749 --> 00:48:36,718
So, what is a conversation

923
00:48:36,751 --> 00:48:38,385
except a collision of opinions?

924
00:48:38,419 --> 00:48:41,523
Uh, a conversation can also be
working towards agreement.

925
00:48:41,556 --> 00:48:43,490
Says the only straight person
at the table.

926
00:48:44,592 --> 00:48:46,226
Yeah, but, you know,
it's more complex

927
00:48:46,260 --> 00:48:47,862
than you are making it out to be

928
00:48:47,896 --> 00:48:49,898
because you have actually
been in love with women.

929
00:48:50,931 --> 00:48:52,567
My mother, for instance.

930
00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:53,902
Is...

931
00:48:53,934 --> 00:48:55,670
Is that what your film is about?

932
00:48:55,703 --> 00:48:57,806
About what?

933
00:48:57,839 --> 00:48:59,774
Me and your mother?

934
00:48:59,808 --> 00:49:00,909
Not exactly.

935
00:49:05,379 --> 00:49:08,683
If you say you're bi,
you're just confused.

936
00:49:08,716 --> 00:49:10,718
If you're attracted to
the same sex, you're gay.

937
00:49:10,752 --> 00:49:12,019
It's as simple as that.

938
00:49:12,052 --> 00:49:13,888
If you say otherwise,
you're in denial.

939
00:49:13,922 --> 00:49:16,558
- Here we go.
- I never said Isa was bi.

940
00:49:16,591 --> 00:49:18,726
You know how many men
have said to me

941
00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:21,228
that they're straight
while sucking my cock?

942
00:49:21,261 --> 00:49:24,097
You can't be straight
with a dash of gayness.

943
00:49:24,131 --> 00:49:26,033
He's just being provocative
for the sake of it.

944
00:49:26,066 --> 00:49:27,067
- Mmm.
- Ignore him.

945
00:49:27,100 --> 00:49:28,603
No, I once heard someone say

946
00:49:28,636 --> 00:49:30,304
that they're 'mostly straight'.

947
00:49:30,337 --> 00:49:32,105
Now, what the hell
does that mean?

948
00:49:32,139 --> 00:49:33,775
They're just cowards.

949
00:49:33,808 --> 00:49:37,044
So, Isa's a lesbian.
What's wrong with that?

950
00:49:37,077 --> 00:49:38,178
Well, it's not useful...

951
00:49:38,212 --> 00:49:39,514
"Not useful"?

952
00:49:39,547 --> 00:49:41,916
Dad, maybe just let
Frances speak.

953
00:49:42,917 --> 00:49:44,151
Well, you know...

954
00:49:44,184 --> 00:49:45,753
Are you worried that
Frances has had sex

955
00:49:45,787 --> 00:49:47,922
with a 19-year-old lesbian?

956
00:49:47,956 --> 00:49:50,123
-Uh, I haven't had sex.
-I'm not worried.

957
00:49:50,157 --> 00:49:52,025
And don't put words in my mouth.

958
00:49:52,059 --> 00:49:53,528
I'm not.

959
00:49:55,162 --> 00:49:57,297
It's fine if that's
what they want.

960
00:49:57,331 --> 00:49:59,968
And by 'they', do you mean
plural or singular?

961
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:02,971
Because only one of them
is a consenting adult,

962
00:50:03,003 --> 00:50:05,940
so only one of they
is able to consent.

963
00:50:05,974 --> 00:50:07,909
And I think that's the lesbian.

964
00:50:07,942 --> 00:50:10,678
It's not my place
to tell Frances what to do.

965
00:50:10,712 --> 00:50:11,946
Well, that's nonsense.

966
00:50:11,980 --> 00:50:13,882
I tell you what to do
all the time

967
00:50:13,915 --> 00:50:16,350
and whether or not
you wanna do it is up to you.

968
00:50:16,383 --> 00:50:18,218
So, about this lesbian.

969
00:50:18,252 --> 00:50:19,888
She's not a lesbian.
She's queer.

970
00:50:19,921 --> 00:50:22,222
Shhh!

971
00:50:22,256 --> 00:50:24,859
-See? There's that word again.
-What, queer?

972
00:50:24,893 --> 00:50:27,027
-Queer.
-Here we go.

973
00:50:27,060 --> 00:50:28,563
This is the exact same
conversation

974
00:50:28,596 --> 00:50:30,532
we've been having for
the past 30 years.

975
00:50:33,001 --> 00:50:35,235
Dear, you might be queer.

976
00:50:35,269 --> 00:50:36,804
- But I'm gay.
- Yes.

977
00:50:36,838 --> 00:50:40,140
And I've spent my whole life
fighting for it

978
00:50:40,173 --> 00:50:44,444
as... as a visible, gay,
HIV-positive man.

979
00:50:44,478 --> 00:50:46,213
Because someone had to.

980
00:50:46,246 --> 00:50:48,448
-We all have.
-Yeah, we all have.

981
00:50:48,482 --> 00:50:50,050
- I understand that, but...
- Yeah, that's true.

982
00:50:50,083 --> 00:50:51,385
We haven't lived through that.

983
00:50:51,418 --> 00:50:52,854
Mum.

984
00:50:52,887 --> 00:50:54,556
I think what
Dad's trying to say is...

985
00:50:54,589 --> 00:50:56,323
No, no, what I'm
trying to say is

986
00:50:56,356 --> 00:50:57,859
if Frances wants to fuck

987
00:50:57,892 --> 00:51:00,294
a hot 19-year-old
who calls themselves

988
00:51:00,327 --> 00:51:03,130
Greenpeace Rainbow
Warrior Princess,

989
00:51:03,163 --> 00:51:04,298
they can do it,

990
00:51:04,331 --> 00:51:06,199
but calling everyone bisexual

991
00:51:06,233 --> 00:51:09,269
negates the rights that I have
demanded and fought for.

992
00:51:09,303 --> 00:51:11,104
Yes, it's like
we had to fight

993
00:51:11,138 --> 00:51:12,306
so hard for same-sex rights -

994
00:51:12,339 --> 00:51:13,975
things Frances
doesn't have to deal with.

995
00:51:14,008 --> 00:51:16,544
But that's a good thing,
isn't it?

996
00:51:21,549 --> 00:51:22,750
Hey.

997
00:51:23,718 --> 00:51:25,352
Hey!

998
00:51:25,385 --> 00:51:26,854
You know, walking out like that

999
00:51:26,888 --> 00:51:29,089
could be seen as quite hostile.

1000
00:51:30,390 --> 00:51:32,894
Don't be too disappointed.
They're all still hurting.

1001
00:51:32,927 --> 00:51:35,630
Oh, by 'they', do you mean
singular or plural?

1002
00:51:35,663 --> 00:51:37,632
'Cause you're just being
wilfully confusing.

1003
00:51:37,665 --> 00:51:39,067
I know.

1004
00:51:40,635 --> 00:51:41,769
Jimpa is...

1005
00:51:41,803 --> 00:51:42,837
He's so determined

1006
00:51:42,870 --> 00:51:44,572
to say that Isa
has to be a lesbian.

1007
00:51:44,606 --> 00:51:47,441
But for him, 'lesbian' means
attracted to women, right?

1008
00:51:47,474 --> 00:51:49,476
And I'm not a woman, Mum.

1009
00:51:49,510 --> 00:51:51,345
Then why didn't you point
that out to Jimpa?

1010
00:51:51,378 --> 00:51:53,146
Do you know
how much easier it is

1011
00:51:53,180 --> 00:51:54,849
for you to do it than for me?

1012
00:51:54,882 --> 00:51:56,350
Do what?

1013
00:51:57,885 --> 00:51:59,787
To stand up for me.

1014
00:52:00,788 --> 00:52:02,757
You don't think
I stand up for you?

1015
00:52:04,424 --> 00:52:06,594
Well, this is what he's like.

1016
00:52:06,628 --> 00:52:08,261
How are you gonna do this
when I'm not here?

1017
00:52:12,767 --> 00:52:14,702
-It's Isa.
-Go ahead, answer it.

1018
00:52:17,705 --> 00:52:18,973
Oh, hi there.

1019
00:52:19,007 --> 00:52:21,643
<i>Where are you</i>
<i>and what are you doing?</i>

1020
00:52:22,877 --> 00:52:25,880
Oh, nowhere interesting.
Doing nothing much.

1021
00:52:25,913 --> 00:52:29,717
<i>I doubt that,</i>
<i>but I was wondering</i>

1022
00:52:29,751 --> 00:52:31,786
<i>if you wanted to go for a ride</i>
<i>with me.</i>

1023
00:52:33,021 --> 00:52:36,057
<i>If you need to ask your mom</i>
<i>or Jim, that's cool.</i>

1024
00:52:36,090 --> 00:52:37,825
No, I don't need to do that.

1025
00:52:59,379 --> 00:53:01,381
Australians are
afraid of the sun.

1026
00:53:09,222 --> 00:53:10,692
What's over there?

1027
00:53:12,560 --> 00:53:14,227
- There?
- Mmm.

1028
00:53:15,228 --> 00:53:18,432
It's a big cruising spot. 24/7.

1029
00:53:18,465 --> 00:53:20,902
Oh, is that why
you brought me here?

1030
00:53:20,935 --> 00:53:22,970
Do you want to go take a look?

1031
00:53:24,304 --> 00:53:25,640
Uh...

1032
00:53:30,343 --> 00:53:31,913
Did you wanna
talk anything through?

1033
00:53:33,981 --> 00:53:36,117
I think I'm
a bit sick of talking.

1034
00:53:36,150 --> 00:53:37,518
Is that ok?

1035
00:53:38,619 --> 00:53:39,687
Of course.

1036
00:56:53,381 --> 00:56:55,149
No, I tried that.

1037
00:56:55,182 --> 00:56:56,617
It's not working.

1038
00:56:56,651 --> 00:56:58,019
It says I have two more attempts

1039
00:56:58,052 --> 00:56:59,353
before it locks me out.

1040
00:57:14,467 --> 00:57:16,337
My grand-thing

1041
00:57:16,370 --> 00:57:18,506
has done a grand thing.

1042
00:57:20,541 --> 00:57:21,976
Let's celebrate.

1043
00:57:30,184 --> 00:57:31,352
Hmm?

1044
00:57:36,757 --> 00:57:38,426
Are you gonna tell Hannah?

1045
00:57:39,427 --> 00:57:40,795
You don't think I should?

1046
00:57:44,732 --> 00:57:47,902
I think sex is simpler for her.

1047
00:57:47,935 --> 00:57:49,036
Mmm.

1048
00:57:50,037 --> 00:57:51,806
I feel sorry for straight women.

1049
00:57:51,839 --> 00:57:53,274
Having to lie there,

1050
00:57:53,307 --> 00:57:55,710
people assuming you
just want to be fucked.

1051
00:57:55,743 --> 00:57:57,645
No-one talks about it.

1052
00:57:57,678 --> 00:58:00,381
They just do what's expected.

1053
00:58:02,249 --> 00:58:04,018
The benefits of who we are

1054
00:58:04,051 --> 00:58:07,922
is you can't assume
anything about anyone.

1055
00:58:07,955 --> 00:58:10,358
You always have to ask
for what they want.

1056
00:58:10,391 --> 00:58:12,693
State what you want.

1057
00:58:12,727 --> 00:58:14,628
Consent's sexy.

1058
00:58:14,662 --> 00:58:16,330
Understanding what
someone wants.

1059
00:58:17,565 --> 00:58:19,200
Sure, as long as it's not like

1060
00:58:19,233 --> 00:58:21,235
instructions for
a washing machine.

1061
00:58:31,078 --> 00:58:34,081
Has Mum talked to you about
me staying in Amsterdam?

1062
00:58:35,516 --> 00:58:37,051
Your parents love you.

1063
00:58:37,084 --> 00:58:39,053
You're very supported by them.

1064
00:58:40,354 --> 00:58:41,489
And?

1065
00:58:41,522 --> 00:58:44,091
And it sounds like
schools in Australia

1066
00:58:44,125 --> 00:58:45,459
are much better now.

1067
00:58:47,828 --> 00:58:49,363
<i>School's fine.</i>

1068
00:58:49,397 --> 00:58:51,999
<i>It's not like I'm... I'm</i>
<i>getting beaten up or anything.</i>

1069
00:58:53,234 --> 00:58:57,204
<i>I'm not scared exactly,</i>
<i>just not...</i>

1070
00:58:59,106 --> 00:59:00,374
<i>.</i> ..connecting.

1071
00:59:01,809 --> 00:59:04,545
I'm tired of the feeling
that I'm somehow

1072
00:59:04,578 --> 00:59:06,614
rubbing my queerness
in everyone's face.

1073
00:59:06,647 --> 00:59:07,882
Hmm.

1074
00:59:10,918 --> 00:59:12,586
That might never stop.

1075
00:59:14,188 --> 00:59:17,091
But it will never stop us.

1076
00:59:19,427 --> 00:59:25,199
You're the president of
an LGBT club at school.

1077
00:59:25,232 --> 00:59:27,668
So it... it can't be so bad.

1078
00:59:30,304 --> 00:59:33,040
Maybe you don't need to
leave your family just yet.

1079
00:59:35,443 --> 00:59:37,611
But you had to leave
your family.

1080
00:59:37,645 --> 00:59:39,680
No, I didn't have to.

1081
00:59:39,713 --> 00:59:41,115
I wanted to.

1082
00:59:41,148 --> 00:59:42,383
What do you mean?

1083
00:59:43,552 --> 00:59:46,387
Katherine offered to move
with me with the children.

1084
00:59:47,455 --> 00:59:49,957
I decided to come to
Amsterdam on my own.

1085
00:59:51,759 --> 00:59:53,694
Does Mum know this?

1086
00:59:53,727 --> 00:59:55,196
I'm not sure.

1087
00:59:55,229 --> 00:59:56,664
What does your grandma say?

1088
00:59:57,965 --> 01:00:00,569
That she thought it best
that they stayed in Adelaide.

1089
01:00:00,601 --> 01:00:03,604
For Hannah's sake.
She was only 13.

1090
01:00:03,637 --> 01:00:05,339
That's a lie.

1091
01:00:05,372 --> 01:00:08,409
Most of the people
who left home,

1092
01:00:08,442 --> 01:00:10,811
their families and came here,

1093
01:00:10,845 --> 01:00:12,680
they did so because they had to.

1094
01:00:12,713 --> 01:00:14,014
Mmm.

1095
01:00:14,048 --> 01:00:17,084
It was a matter of survival,
of having a future.

1096
01:00:17,118 --> 01:00:18,686
But not me.

1097
01:00:20,054 --> 01:00:21,956
I was purely selfish.

1098
01:00:26,427 --> 01:00:27,628
Go on.

1099
01:00:28,796 --> 01:00:30,231
It'll do you good.

1100
01:00:34,635 --> 01:00:38,205
Did you... connect with Isa?

1101
01:00:40,307 --> 01:00:42,710
Did you understand
what Isa wanted?

1102
01:00:45,212 --> 01:00:46,780
Not at all.

1103
01:00:46,814 --> 01:00:48,682
I forgot to ask.

1104
01:00:52,953 --> 01:00:56,056
Nothing fit into
my idea of things.

1105
01:00:56,090 --> 01:00:58,392
I don't even know what I liked.

1106
01:01:00,094 --> 01:01:02,229
I just thought things
would be clearer.

1107
01:01:23,384 --> 01:01:24,885
<i>Hello?</i>

1108
01:01:24,919 --> 01:01:26,220
Oh, hi.

1109
01:01:26,253 --> 01:01:28,255
Nice to meet you, Tilda.

1110
01:01:28,289 --> 01:01:31,759
<i>I don't want to play her</i>
<i>as too passive.</i>

1111
01:01:31,792 --> 01:01:34,596
<i>But she does seem to sacrifice</i>
<i>her needs and wants</i>

1112
01:01:34,629 --> 01:01:36,063
<i>for the sake of her husband.</i>

1113
01:01:36,096 --> 01:01:37,532
Mmm.

1114
01:01:37,566 --> 01:01:39,133
Yeah, you could say that.

1115
01:01:39,166 --> 01:01:40,502
<i>Because even though he's gay,</i>

1116
01:01:40,535 --> 01:01:41,670
<i>I mean, it's still the man</i>

1117
01:01:41,702 --> 01:01:43,137
<i>who gets to go</i>
<i>and explore himself</i>

1118
01:01:43,170 --> 01:01:44,539
<i>while the woman stays at home.</i>

1119
01:01:44,573 --> 01:01:46,473
Yeah,
you could say that too.

1120
01:01:46,508 --> 01:01:48,142
<i>I mean, and it's</i>
<i>still the man that,</i>

1121
01:01:48,175 --> 01:01:50,978
<i>you know, doesn't actively</i>
<i>look after his children.</i>

1122
01:01:51,011 --> 01:01:52,713
<i>Which is...</i>
<i>I mean, that's probably</i>

1123
01:01:52,746 --> 01:01:54,048
<i>the reality for many.</i>

1124
01:01:54,081 --> 01:01:56,518
<i>Right? I mean,</i>
<i>especially in that time.</i>

1125
01:01:56,551 --> 01:01:59,019
<i>I just thought that might</i>
<i>not be how you want to...</i>

1126
01:01:59,053 --> 01:02:01,255
<i>...portray him.</i>

1127
01:02:01,288 --> 01:02:03,157
<i>Or her.</i>

1128
01:02:03,190 --> 01:02:05,426
All... all those,
uh, thoughts

1129
01:02:05,459 --> 01:02:07,394
are really interesting, um...

1130
01:02:12,800 --> 01:02:15,035
-Was that about your film?
-Yes.

1131
01:02:17,438 --> 01:02:18,906
Have you made up with Frances?

1132
01:02:18,939 --> 01:02:21,342
I didn't think
I needed to.

1133
01:02:22,409 --> 01:02:24,778
You do know it's actually OK

1134
01:02:24,812 --> 01:02:27,848
to disagree and say hurtful
things to someone?

1135
01:02:28,816 --> 01:02:30,384
You didn't have to push so hard.

1136
01:02:31,586 --> 01:02:33,921
Is this about the fact
that Frances had sex?

1137
01:02:36,457 --> 01:02:38,058
Oh. You didn't know.

1138
01:02:38,092 --> 01:02:39,728
How could I know?

1139
01:02:39,760 --> 01:02:43,897
I'm sure Frances will tell you
all the details in no time.

1140
01:02:44,965 --> 01:02:46,300
Don't worry.

1141
01:02:47,569 --> 01:02:50,204
They've got more of
a head start than I ever had.

1142
01:02:52,006 --> 01:02:54,475
When I was Frances's age,

1143
01:02:54,509 --> 01:02:57,579
I didn't even have the word
to describe the way I...

1144
01:03:00,080 --> 01:03:01,549
I know, Dad.

1145
01:03:03,183 --> 01:03:06,086
But Frances has all the words.

1146
01:03:07,522 --> 01:03:10,190
Frances will be fine.

1147
01:03:10,224 --> 01:03:12,326
They can...

1148
01:03:12,359 --> 01:03:14,962
<i>.</i> ..idolise me from afar.

1149
01:03:14,995 --> 01:03:16,631
That's just the way I like it.

1150
01:03:19,501 --> 01:03:21,636
So you're still going
for the Helsinki job?

1151
01:03:21,670 --> 01:03:23,772
Oh, you don't think I should?

1152
01:03:25,272 --> 01:03:26,508
What are we cooking?

1153
01:03:26,541 --> 01:03:28,275
My osso buco.

1154
01:03:29,977 --> 01:03:31,746
I might make something for us.

1155
01:03:34,649 --> 01:03:36,651
Oh, fuck!

1156
01:03:36,685 --> 01:03:38,419
-Let me see.
-No, no.

1157
01:03:38,452 --> 01:03:40,387
I'm fine. Fuck.

1158
01:03:40,421 --> 01:03:42,056
Is it deep?
Does it need stitches?

1159
01:03:42,089 --> 01:03:43,991
-No, no, I'm fine.
-Dad?

1160
01:03:44,024 --> 01:03:46,360
I don't need
a fucking hospital! Oh!

1161
01:03:46,393 --> 01:03:47,961
Easy.

1162
01:03:47,995 --> 01:03:50,632
Just lean here.

1163
01:03:52,099 --> 01:03:53,434
Hold it.

1164
01:03:59,708 --> 01:04:00,974
Hmm.

1165
01:04:01,008 --> 01:04:03,043
Tell me about your film.

1166
01:04:04,546 --> 01:04:05,814
Uh...

1167
01:04:05,846 --> 01:04:08,449
It's about a couple.

1168
01:04:08,482 --> 01:04:11,418
It's about commitment

1169
01:04:11,452 --> 01:04:14,388
and our contradictory
feelings about it.

1170
01:04:14,421 --> 01:04:17,358
Well, my feelings about it.
And, um...

1171
01:04:19,728 --> 01:04:21,663
<i>.</i> ..I don't think people
are getting it.

1172
01:04:22,996 --> 01:04:24,164
Hmm.

1173
01:04:25,667 --> 01:04:27,602
Do you remember Stephen?

1174
01:04:31,038 --> 01:04:32,973
<i>Oh, I loved him so much.</i>

1175
01:04:34,208 --> 01:04:35,876
<i>So did Frances.</i>

1176
01:04:35,909 --> 01:04:37,846
<i>Yeah. So did I.</i>

1177
01:04:39,246 --> 01:04:42,049
But he was a fervent
monogamist, poor thing.

1178
01:04:42,082 --> 01:04:43,951
Didn't you tell him
what you wanted?

1179
01:04:43,984 --> 01:04:46,019
Yes, and he agreed.

1180
01:04:47,087 --> 01:04:48,590
At first.

1181
01:04:48,623 --> 01:04:50,491
Until he didn't.

1182
01:04:50,525 --> 01:04:52,393
And you didn't change.

1183
01:04:52,426 --> 01:04:54,495
I don't believe in monogamy,
dearest.

1184
01:04:56,897 --> 01:04:58,499
Oh, he was so lovely.

1185
01:05:00,934 --> 01:05:02,970
You don't believe
in monogamy either.

1186
01:05:05,973 --> 01:05:07,975
But I also know
how great it can be.

1187
01:05:08,976 --> 01:05:11,145
Constancy. Loyalty.

1188
01:05:11,178 --> 01:05:14,181
Sounds like you're talking
about a dog. Hmm!

1189
01:05:14,214 --> 01:05:16,383
How is the dog anyway?

1190
01:05:16,417 --> 01:05:18,919
Oh! I need to call Mum.

1191
01:05:24,692 --> 01:05:26,460
I'm not very open.

1192
01:05:27,461 --> 01:05:30,632
No. I guess not.

1193
01:05:42,042 --> 01:05:43,377
Are you awake?

1194
01:05:49,216 --> 01:05:50,785
Are you not hungry?

1195
01:05:52,352 --> 01:05:53,987
I was thinking
you should stay here

1196
01:05:54,021 --> 01:05:55,289
while I go to London.

1197
01:05:56,925 --> 01:05:58,058
Why?

1198
01:05:58,091 --> 01:05:59,293
I don't know, just...

1199
01:05:59,326 --> 01:06:01,462
<i>.</i> ..gives you the chance
to soak up Amsterdam.

1200
01:06:03,263 --> 01:06:05,733
Sounds like you had
a really good time with Isa.

1201
01:06:07,802 --> 01:06:09,704
I was...
I was going to tell you.

1202
01:06:10,672 --> 01:06:12,372
It's OK, Frances. It's fine.

1203
01:06:14,876 --> 01:06:16,511
OK.

1204
01:06:20,715 --> 01:06:22,784
I'm excited for you.
It's a big thing.

1205
01:06:46,473 --> 01:06:48,308
Jim Hill in Helsinki.

1206
01:06:48,342 --> 01:06:50,310
Jani! How are you?

1207
01:06:51,513 --> 01:06:53,380
You... you got the study
I sent you?

1208
01:06:53,413 --> 01:06:55,650
Yeah, yeah, of course.
Fascinating stuff.

1209
01:06:55,683 --> 01:06:58,385
Nothing gets my heart racing
like social housing theory.

1210
01:06:58,418 --> 01:06:59,654
I mean it, Jim.

1211
01:06:59,687 --> 01:07:01,556
-It's good to see you.
-You too.

1212
01:07:07,427 --> 01:07:10,430
<i>So this is still</i>
<i>a huge focus for me.</i>

1213
01:07:10,464 --> 01:07:14,636
Building scientific capacities
for community groups.

1214
01:07:14,669 --> 01:07:17,170
I remember you raised this
even all the way back

1215
01:07:17,204 --> 01:07:20,975
at the CDC symposium
at AIDS 2018.

1216
01:07:21,009 --> 01:07:23,811
It was in my plenary talk,
the one I gave at the IAS.

1217
01:07:23,845 --> 01:07:25,112
2019.

1218
01:07:25,145 --> 01:07:26,781
We can't keep up.

1219
01:07:26,814 --> 01:07:28,783
Oh. You were there, Karolina.

1220
01:07:28,816 --> 01:07:31,853
I was, I was, but I still
couldn't keep up!

1221
01:07:36,223 --> 01:07:37,291
So...

1222
01:07:38,458 --> 01:07:40,227
<i>.</i> ..is this an area
that you'd like

1223
01:07:40,260 --> 01:07:42,329
someone in this new
position to focus on?

1224
01:07:44,933 --> 01:07:46,701
We were very excited

1225
01:07:46,734 --> 01:07:48,636
when you called to say
you'd be in town

1226
01:07:48,670 --> 01:07:50,939
and wanted to talk
about the position.

1227
01:07:50,972 --> 01:07:53,575
It's such an honour,
personally speaking.

1228
01:07:53,608 --> 01:07:55,977
Of course we jumped on
the opportunity to meet up.

1229
01:07:56,010 --> 01:07:58,478
We would be honored
to access someone

1230
01:07:58,513 --> 01:08:00,048
with your knowledge
and experience.

1231
01:08:00,080 --> 01:08:01,348
Yes.

1232
01:08:01,381 --> 01:08:04,384
We were talking that
maybe we can even

1233
01:08:04,418 --> 01:08:08,056
formalise something
in an advisory capacity

1234
01:08:08,088 --> 01:08:12,560
or a board position, when
they come up in three years.

1235
01:08:12,594 --> 01:08:14,829
Mmm. Yeah.

1236
01:08:17,832 --> 01:08:19,534
While you're here in Helsinki,

1237
01:08:19,567 --> 01:08:21,736
I was hoping to take you out
for lunch or dinner.

1238
01:08:21,769 --> 01:08:24,471
And why would you want
to do that?

1239
01:08:24,505 --> 01:08:27,942
Well, we were very impressed
by Mirjam Oerlemans.

1240
01:08:27,976 --> 01:08:29,276
Mirjam?

1241
01:08:29,309 --> 01:08:32,947
She's young, but her advocacy
for equality care

1242
01:08:32,981 --> 01:08:36,718
aligns really well with some
of our new impact areas.

1243
01:08:36,751 --> 01:08:39,020
You've been a kind of mentor
to her for years.

1244
01:08:39,053 --> 01:08:40,220
10 years.

1245
01:08:41,923 --> 01:08:44,058
And you're considering her
for this new...

1246
01:08:44,092 --> 01:08:45,793
Hence my clumsy invite
to dinner.

1247
01:08:47,662 --> 01:08:50,197
You want my opinion on
Mirjam Oerlemans?

1248
01:08:50,230 --> 01:08:52,667
Well, you're her reference.

1249
01:08:53,668 --> 01:08:55,770
But we respect your opinion.

1250
01:08:55,803 --> 01:08:58,238
Your honesty especially,
it's legendary.

1251
01:08:58,271 --> 01:09:00,407
I wish we could do dinner,
but...

1252
01:09:00,440 --> 01:09:05,046
<i>.</i> ..I came without a bag,
and I... I have work back home.

1253
01:09:06,380 --> 01:09:10,183
But you don't need dinner
for me to tell you Mirjam...

1254
01:09:12,553 --> 01:09:14,354
<i>.</i> ..would be perfect.

1255
01:09:14,388 --> 01:09:17,058
She's pragmatic. Evidence-based.

1256
01:09:17,091 --> 01:09:20,193
Her success is focusing
on young people

1257
01:09:20,227 --> 01:09:21,896
<i>and marginalised groups.</i>

1258
01:09:21,929 --> 01:09:24,364
<i>Her stellar</i>
<i>rights-based approach</i>

1259
01:09:24,398 --> 01:09:27,300
<i>has meant actual</i>
<i>policy change, not just...</i>

1260
01:09:40,682 --> 01:09:43,316
'Cause that is
beautiful. OK?

1261
01:09:46,353 --> 01:09:48,056
Hello!

1262
01:09:50,825 --> 01:09:52,860
Hello!

1263
01:09:52,894 --> 01:09:54,394
Say your name.

1264
01:09:55,596 --> 01:09:56,964
-Why?
-Hi, guys.

1265
01:09:56,998 --> 01:09:58,432
Just dropping
the professor home.

1266
01:09:58,465 --> 01:10:00,467
You need to say your name,
not just hello.

1267
01:10:00,501 --> 01:10:02,235
Otherwise, we don't know
who you are

1268
01:10:02,269 --> 01:10:03,771
or what you want.

1269
01:10:03,805 --> 01:10:05,640
Who else would it be?

1270
01:10:09,644 --> 01:10:11,846
Uh, I think it's time for bed.

1271
01:10:11,879 --> 01:10:13,715
Well, how did it go?

1272
01:10:13,748 --> 01:10:16,684
-Oh, wet and miserable.
-Hmm.

1273
01:10:17,785 --> 01:10:19,020
But really good.

1274
01:10:19,053 --> 01:10:20,688
Let me, uh...

1275
01:10:23,624 --> 01:10:25,793
It went really well.

1276
01:10:26,894 --> 01:10:28,596
They'd be lucky to have me.

1277
01:10:29,797 --> 01:10:32,466
It reminded me... Oh.

1278
01:10:33,634 --> 01:10:34,702
<i>.</i> ..of all the ideas...

1279
01:10:37,370 --> 01:10:39,507
Of the ideas i still have.

1280
01:10:39,540 --> 01:10:42,275
Of the energy I have.

1281
01:10:42,309 --> 01:10:43,745
Ahhh.

1282
01:10:47,849 --> 01:10:50,017
What... what time is it?

1283
01:10:50,051 --> 01:10:52,186
Let's get you to bed, Professor.

1284
01:11:00,027 --> 01:11:01,896
I think
she could be interesting.

1285
01:11:01,929 --> 01:11:03,965
She had some interesting ideas.

1286
01:11:06,433 --> 01:11:08,268
But at least she's invested.

1287
01:11:08,301 --> 01:11:09,436
One second.

1288
01:11:10,470 --> 01:11:11,672
Have fun.

1289
01:11:11,706 --> 01:11:13,808
I think it makes sense
for you to stay here.

1290
01:11:13,841 --> 01:11:14,976
Mm-hm.

1291
01:11:15,009 --> 01:11:16,177
This was always gonna happen.

1292
01:11:16,210 --> 01:11:17,545
Don't make your mum feel guilty.

1293
01:11:17,578 --> 01:11:20,280
Yes, don't shame your mother
for working, Frances.

1294
01:11:20,313 --> 01:11:21,448
I'm not.

1295
01:11:21,481 --> 01:11:23,483
You rather have a mother
who stayed home

1296
01:11:23,518 --> 01:11:24,752
and cooked biscuits for you?

1297
01:11:24,786 --> 01:11:26,087
You want that kind of a mother?

1298
01:11:26,120 --> 01:11:27,822
Yep. I should go. I need
to go and get the train.

1299
01:11:27,855 --> 01:11:29,991
No, I don't want
that kind of a mother.

1300
01:11:30,024 --> 01:11:30,992
Yeah. Good.

1301
01:11:31,025 --> 01:11:33,127
Oh! For fuck's sake!

1302
01:11:33,161 --> 01:11:35,462
Um, originally I had said
Frances might come.

1303
01:11:35,495 --> 01:11:37,565
Tell your mother you'll be fine.

1304
01:11:37,598 --> 01:11:39,133
Or tell me nothing.

1305
01:11:39,167 --> 01:11:40,268
Hmm.

1306
01:11:41,401 --> 01:11:43,137
But I... I did want to tell you.

1307
01:11:43,171 --> 01:11:45,640
I just... I hadn't yet.

1308
01:11:45,673 --> 01:11:46,908
That's not what I
meant.

1309
01:11:46,941 --> 01:11:48,810
It's fine.
You didn't have to tell me.

1310
01:11:48,843 --> 01:11:50,011
OK?

1311
01:11:50,044 --> 01:11:52,379
OK? Of course it's OK.

1312
01:11:53,480 --> 01:11:54,682
Uh...

1313
01:11:55,883 --> 01:11:57,885
You don't want to stay
in Amsterdam?

1314
01:11:58,886 --> 01:12:00,855
Do you want to come with me?

1315
01:12:06,127 --> 01:12:09,429
But Dad's fine. He's been
to Finland for an interview.

1316
01:12:09,462 --> 01:12:11,398
<i>You need to tell your father</i>

1317
01:12:11,431 --> 01:12:13,901
<i>that he's being</i>
<i>ridiculous and selfish.</i>

1318
01:12:13,935 --> 01:12:16,804
He doesn't need me
to tell him those things.

1319
01:12:16,838 --> 01:12:19,640
<i>Tell him he needs to retire</i>
<i>with some fucking dignity.</i>

1320
01:12:19,674 --> 01:12:21,309
We don't need to tell him
anything.

1321
01:12:21,341 --> 01:12:22,944
He's feeling old, Mum.

1322
01:12:22,977 --> 01:12:25,847
<i>Have you talked to him</i>
<i>about your film yet?</i>

1323
01:12:25,880 --> 01:12:27,648
Uh, kind of.

1324
01:12:27,682 --> 01:12:29,449
<i>You're worried that</i>
<i>he's not gonna give you</i>

1325
01:12:29,482 --> 01:12:30,818
<i>his divine blessing?</i>

1326
01:12:30,852 --> 01:12:33,054
I just don't want to get
into an argument.

1327
01:12:33,087 --> 01:12:34,487
<i>Then he'll tell you</i>

1328
01:12:34,522 --> 01:12:36,557
<i>there are far more</i>
<i>interesting parts in his life,</i>

1329
01:12:36,591 --> 01:12:38,226
<i>so be ready.</i>

1330
01:12:38,259 --> 01:12:39,794
Maybe.

1331
01:12:48,169 --> 01:12:50,738
You never come visit anymore,
Mirjam.

1332
01:12:50,771 --> 01:12:52,640
-You told me not to.
-I never!

1333
01:12:52,673 --> 01:12:55,276
You did.

1334
01:12:55,309 --> 01:12:57,377
You did.

1335
01:13:01,515 --> 01:13:04,819
Thank you for the kind words
you said about me.

1336
01:13:04,852 --> 01:13:06,287
I meant them.

1337
01:13:08,956 --> 01:13:11,092
You could have told me.

1338
01:13:11,125 --> 01:13:13,728
I didn't know you were going
for the same job

1339
01:13:13,761 --> 01:13:14,962
until you announced it

1340
01:13:14,996 --> 01:13:16,931
in front of everyone
at your party.

1341
01:13:16,964 --> 01:13:18,866
If you'd known earlier,

1342
01:13:18,900 --> 01:13:20,968
would you still have
gone for the position?

1343
01:13:24,138 --> 01:13:25,438
If there is a job,

1344
01:13:25,472 --> 01:13:27,174
think of Richard, won't you?

1345
01:13:29,476 --> 01:13:30,978
Get him out of my hair.

1346
01:13:39,387 --> 01:13:41,088
Two hugs.

1347
01:13:41,122 --> 01:13:42,857
Aren't you lucky?

1348
01:14:06,180 --> 01:14:09,050
<i>I can't</i>
<i>believe I feel jealous.</i>

1349
01:14:09,083 --> 01:14:11,052
<i>It's OK, I understand.</i>

1350
01:14:11,085 --> 01:14:12,954
It's not ok.

1351
01:14:14,088 --> 01:14:17,091
It's stupid. It's so fucking...

1352
01:14:17,124 --> 01:14:19,760
It's so fucking stupid.

1353
01:14:21,829 --> 01:14:23,597
Maybe things were
just a bit fast.

1354
01:14:25,166 --> 01:14:26,300
My God.

1355
01:14:26,334 --> 01:14:28,669
It's so immature of me,
isn't it?

1356
01:14:29,804 --> 01:14:32,039
Can we just go home?

1357
01:14:33,341 --> 01:14:34,675
We will.

1358
01:14:34,709 --> 01:14:37,645
Talk to Jimpa about your film
and let's go home.

1359
01:14:37,678 --> 01:14:39,146
I will.

1360
01:14:46,420 --> 01:14:48,222
I don't think I want the job.

1361
01:14:49,190 --> 01:14:53,260
I think...
I'll stay in Amsterdam.

1362
01:14:53,294 --> 01:14:55,596
I... I think Amsterdam could be

1363
01:14:55,629 --> 01:14:58,866
really great for you, Frances.

1364
01:14:58,899 --> 01:15:02,837
I'll stay here
so you can live with me.

1365
01:15:02,870 --> 01:15:04,839
-Are you sure?
-Of course.

1366
01:15:04,872 --> 01:15:09,176
It'll mean that you'll come
visit more often as well.

1367
01:15:09,210 --> 01:15:10,644
Yeah.

1368
01:15:10,678 --> 01:15:12,213
What do you say, grand-thing?

1369
01:15:25,459 --> 01:15:27,628
- OK.
- Good.

1370
01:15:28,629 --> 01:15:30,297
Is that what you want?

1371
01:15:32,066 --> 01:15:34,035
Yeah, I mean,
sounds amazing, Jimpa.

1372
01:15:34,068 --> 01:15:36,170
Good.

1373
01:15:39,006 --> 01:15:40,574
Fuck me.

1374
01:15:42,443 --> 01:15:43,677
Your cunning plan

1375
01:15:43,711 --> 01:15:45,646
really didn't work out
as expected, did it?

1376
01:16:26,387 --> 01:16:28,022
How old are you?

1377
01:16:29,190 --> 01:16:30,357
Old enough.

1378
01:16:30,391 --> 01:16:32,726
Hm. Just wanting to be safe,
you know.

1379
01:16:32,760 --> 01:16:34,762
Always safe.

1380
01:16:34,795 --> 01:16:36,597
I once fucked an older guy,

1381
01:16:36,630 --> 01:16:38,933
then discovered he'd escaped
from a nursing home.

1382
01:16:43,137 --> 01:16:45,673
The perils of being
a daddy chaser.

1383
01:16:45,706 --> 01:16:46,941
Hmm!

1384
01:16:48,709 --> 01:16:50,512
So come on.

1385
01:16:50,545 --> 01:16:51,979
Chase me.

1386
01:16:59,787 --> 01:17:01,255
I did say I regretted Frances

1387
01:17:01,288 --> 01:17:02,656
not spending
enough time with him.

1388
01:17:02,690 --> 01:17:03,724
Mmm.

1389
01:17:04,892 --> 01:17:06,460
It is a great city.

1390
01:17:18,472 --> 01:17:20,975
-Really good cafes.
-Mmm.

1391
01:17:21,008 --> 01:17:22,476
Good schools too.

1392
01:17:31,118 --> 01:17:32,453
Hey, Richard.

1393
01:17:49,003 --> 01:17:51,438
Uh, I don't know
what they've told you...

1394
01:17:52,641 --> 01:17:55,209
<i>.</i> ..but two days ago,
you had a bad stroke.

1395
01:17:56,777 --> 01:17:59,213
So you've been in a coma
to protect your brain.

1396
01:18:01,015 --> 01:18:03,384
And now they've taken you
out of the coma

1397
01:18:03,417 --> 01:18:04,785
to see how you are.

1398
01:18:06,521 --> 01:18:09,356
And they told us that you can
hear us now. Is that right?

1399
01:18:11,892 --> 01:18:13,662
Apparently you can
squeeze my hand.

1400
01:18:16,497 --> 01:18:19,233
So if you can hear me, Dad,
can you squeeze my hand?

1401
01:18:22,504 --> 01:18:24,171
OK.

1402
01:18:24,205 --> 01:18:27,474
So we'll do once for yes,
two for no.

1403
01:18:28,876 --> 01:18:30,110
OK.

1404
01:18:31,546 --> 01:18:34,715
So are you OK?
I mean, are you in any pain?

1405
01:18:39,353 --> 01:18:41,623
No? Good. OK.

1406
01:18:43,558 --> 01:18:45,392
And do you know who I am?

1407
01:18:45,426 --> 01:18:47,596
It's me, Hannah, your daughter.

1408
01:18:52,099 --> 01:18:53,635
And a filmmaker

1409
01:18:53,668 --> 01:18:55,369
and a woman and a mother.

1410
01:19:03,277 --> 01:19:05,879
And Frances is here as well,
your grandchild.

1411
01:19:10,150 --> 01:19:11,418
Hi, Jimpa.

1412
01:19:25,734 --> 01:19:28,035
Don't worry, Dad, OK?
I know what to do.

1413
01:19:29,003 --> 01:19:30,271
OK, I know.

1414
01:19:35,342 --> 01:19:36,877
Do you feel like you?

1415
01:19:39,480 --> 01:19:41,683
No, of course you don't.
Stupid question.

1416
01:19:43,384 --> 01:19:44,918
Strange, you not talking.

1417
01:19:50,291 --> 01:19:51,859
Shall I tell you about yourself?

1418
01:19:54,763 --> 01:19:55,896
OK.

1419
01:19:55,929 --> 01:19:59,433
You were born in 1951.

1420
01:20:00,434 --> 01:20:02,637
Your parents were Mary and Bill.

1421
01:20:04,004 --> 01:20:05,973
You don't believe in monogamy.

1422
01:20:06,006 --> 01:20:08,643
Uh, you've had many lovers.

1423
01:20:09,910 --> 01:20:11,646
Stephen, who we all loved.

1424
01:20:13,414 --> 01:20:16,317
And then when you first
got here, there was a, um...

1425
01:20:17,251 --> 01:20:18,886
He was a photographer.

1426
01:20:18,919 --> 01:20:21,690
Tall, blonde.

1427
01:20:21,723 --> 01:20:23,591
He took that photo of you
that I really loved.

1428
01:20:23,625 --> 01:20:24,759
Daan.

1429
01:20:24,793 --> 01:20:26,960
His name was Daan.

1430
01:20:26,994 --> 01:20:28,896
I remember. Yeah, Daan.

1431
01:20:30,297 --> 01:20:31,633
He can't remember?

1432
01:20:31,666 --> 01:20:34,968
I'm just making sure that
he understands who he is.

1433
01:20:35,002 --> 01:20:37,171
Hey. Sorry.

1434
01:20:44,912 --> 01:20:46,880
Oh, God, look at him.

1435
01:20:46,914 --> 01:20:48,415
Jesus.

1436
01:20:49,917 --> 01:20:51,285
Oh, Hannah, I can't bear that.

1437
01:20:51,318 --> 01:20:53,755
- Hey, he can hear you.
- OK.

1438
01:20:58,192 --> 01:21:00,361
<i>So he can't</i>
<i>breathe on his own?</i>

1439
01:21:00,394 --> 01:21:01,629
- No.
- OK.

1440
01:21:01,663 --> 01:21:03,130
Not yet, anyway. Hmm?

1441
01:21:05,899 --> 01:21:08,302
Jesus, can they just
prop him up or something?

1442
01:21:08,335 --> 01:21:10,170
He looks fucking horrific
like this.

1443
01:21:10,204 --> 01:21:12,339
Why don't we just
sit and talk to him?

1444
01:21:12,373 --> 01:21:13,440
OK.

1445
01:21:23,050 --> 01:21:24,853
I mean, I don't really know
what to say.

1446
01:21:24,885 --> 01:21:26,621
He's usually the one
doing all the talking.

1447
01:21:28,021 --> 01:21:29,356
You talk just fine.

1448
01:21:29,390 --> 01:21:31,125
Yeah, I know that. I know I do.

1449
01:21:34,194 --> 01:21:36,397
Oh, my God, Hannah,
look at our dad.

1450
01:21:36,430 --> 01:21:38,867
He can hear you.

1451
01:21:38,899 --> 01:21:42,002
Oh, god, dad, you look
like shit.

1452
01:21:43,170 --> 01:21:44,806
Hi.

1453
01:21:44,839 --> 01:21:46,508
It's OK.

1454
01:21:54,348 --> 01:21:55,382
Oh.

1455
01:21:55,416 --> 01:21:56,751
I am here.

1456
01:21:58,218 --> 01:21:59,587
<i>It's OK.</i>

1457
01:22:05,593 --> 01:22:07,862
The doctor said there was
a similar patient

1458
01:22:07,896 --> 01:22:09,531
who can now sit in the backyard

1459
01:22:09,564 --> 01:22:11,733
with a cup of tea
and a dog on their lap

1460
01:22:11,766 --> 01:22:13,967
and... and that
there's... there's no reason

1461
01:22:14,001 --> 01:22:16,003
Dad couldn't have that life.

1462
01:22:17,438 --> 01:22:19,908
Oh, this coffee is awful.

1463
01:22:19,940 --> 01:22:21,843
What have they done to the milk?

1464
01:22:21,876 --> 01:22:23,611
Look at your risotto.

1465
01:22:23,645 --> 01:22:25,979
-Who puts tofu in risotto?
-It's fine.

1466
01:22:26,013 --> 01:22:28,650
No. Excuse me!
If it's bad, you send it back.

1467
01:22:28,683 --> 01:22:30,284
I've already eaten
a quarter of it.

1468
01:22:30,317 --> 01:22:32,821
Jesus, Hannah, they need
to know if their food is bad.

1469
01:22:32,854 --> 01:22:35,723
I will tell them and I'll get
them to take it back.

1470
01:22:35,757 --> 01:22:36,791
No, please don't.

1471
01:22:36,825 --> 01:22:38,325
Why not?

1472
01:22:41,663 --> 01:22:43,598
Who puts tofu in risotto?

1473
01:22:43,631 --> 01:22:46,033
Would you like me
to remove the tofu?

1474
01:22:46,066 --> 01:22:47,100
No, it's fine.

1475
01:22:47,134 --> 01:22:48,469
I've... I've already eaten some.

1476
01:22:48,503 --> 01:22:49,771
And honestly, it's fine.

1477
01:22:49,804 --> 01:22:52,372
Let her have the terrible
risotto if she wants.

1478
01:22:54,208 --> 01:22:55,610
Fine, yep.

1479
01:22:55,643 --> 01:22:57,177
Just tell the kitchen
that it's terrible.

1480
01:22:57,211 --> 01:23:00,147
And look, these eggs, they're
way overcooked. Look at that.

1481
01:23:01,081 --> 01:23:03,217
Have a proper look. They're
solid, they don't even move.

1482
01:23:03,250 --> 01:23:05,520
Uh, shall I get the kitchen
to make them again?

1483
01:23:05,553 --> 01:23:07,421
No, you just tell the kitchen
that they're terrible.

1484
01:23:08,455 --> 01:23:09,691
OK.

1485
01:23:23,972 --> 01:23:25,405
We could get him a dog

1486
01:23:25,439 --> 01:23:26,808
and he could sit
in the garden...

1487
01:23:26,841 --> 01:23:28,108
Probably hooked up to machines.

1488
01:23:28,141 --> 01:23:30,344
<i>.</i> ..the dog on his lap,
and they... they said that

1489
01:23:30,377 --> 01:23:32,446
he might even be able to
communicate a little bit.

1490
01:23:32,479 --> 01:23:34,381
In the words
of the doctor, "Maybe,

1491
01:23:34,414 --> 01:23:36,049
"and after an extended
and difficult

1492
01:23:36,083 --> 01:23:37,251
"period of rehabilitation."

1493
01:23:37,284 --> 01:23:38,653
It's still possible.

1494
01:23:38,686 --> 01:23:40,153
It could take years, Em,

1495
01:23:40,187 --> 01:23:41,523
with no guarantee,

1496
01:23:41,556 --> 01:23:43,390
and that's the best possible
scenario.

1497
01:23:43,423 --> 01:23:44,859
But it's still a life.

1498
01:23:44,893 --> 01:23:46,661
And no-one should give up
their life to look after Dad.

1499
01:23:46,694 --> 01:23:48,395
-He wouldn't want that.
-Oh, Jesus, Hannah.

1500
01:23:48,428 --> 01:23:50,397
-It's not what he wants.
-How do you know that?

1501
01:23:50,430 --> 01:23:51,833
There was
no advanced care directive.

1502
01:23:51,866 --> 01:23:54,636
There's no recent will either.
Stephen's still in it.

1503
01:23:54,669 --> 01:23:56,804
Because it wasn't updated.
But we know what he wants.

1504
01:23:56,838 --> 01:23:58,238
That's not the same.

1505
01:23:58,272 --> 01:24:00,140
He told me, Em,
and he was very clear.

1506
01:24:00,173 --> 01:24:02,442
If he ends up more diminished,
let him die.

1507
01:24:05,680 --> 01:24:07,549
And... and what?

1508
01:24:09,316 --> 01:24:10,818
What, we just go and get coffee?

1509
01:24:10,852 --> 01:24:13,153
Is that what he said?

1510
01:24:13,186 --> 01:24:16,290
You know what Dad's like.
He just says shit like I do.

1511
01:24:16,323 --> 01:24:18,026
He could have written it down,

1512
01:24:18,058 --> 01:24:19,694
he could have... he could have
left instructions,

1513
01:24:19,727 --> 01:24:21,428
but he didn't.

1514
01:24:21,461 --> 01:24:23,565
And maybe he would be very happy

1515
01:24:23,598 --> 01:24:26,133
just sitting in the garden
with a dog on his lap.

1516
01:24:26,166 --> 01:24:27,434
That's his idea of hell.

1517
01:24:27,467 --> 01:24:28,836
Well, lately
he's been happy

1518
01:24:28,870 --> 01:24:30,638
to sit on the couch
and eat yoghurt.

1519
01:24:31,673 --> 01:24:33,240
He has been very diminished

1520
01:24:33,273 --> 01:24:34,308
since his first stroke, Hannah.

1521
01:24:34,341 --> 01:24:35,677
You just haven't been around.

1522
01:24:43,751 --> 01:24:46,086
I have seen him sit on
the couch and eat yoghurt.

1523
01:24:47,889 --> 01:24:49,189
Oh.

1524
01:24:52,727 --> 01:24:57,230
Well, there were these panels
and they were about 3x6

1525
01:24:57,264 --> 01:24:59,366
and, well, there were
all different kinds of fabrics

1526
01:24:59,399 --> 01:25:01,468
and... and we would decorate
them

1527
01:25:01,502 --> 01:25:02,971
with gems and buttons and...

1528
01:25:03,004 --> 01:25:04,171
<i>Everything.</i>

1529
01:25:04,204 --> 01:25:05,305
<i>Anything.</i>
<i>Whatever we wanted.</i>

1530
01:25:05,339 --> 01:25:06,841
<i>Sequins,</i>

1531
01:25:06,874 --> 01:25:08,442
stuffed animals.

1532
01:25:08,475 --> 01:25:10,011
Hair. Condoms.

1533
01:25:12,312 --> 01:25:14,314
But everything you got
you then...

1534
01:25:14,348 --> 01:25:17,484
<i>.</i> ..sewed together
to form the quilt.

1535
01:25:17,518 --> 01:25:20,354
I felt like we were doing
that every week. I loved it.

1536
01:25:20,387 --> 01:25:23,390
How could you love it?
I mean, it's so... sad.

1537
01:25:23,423 --> 01:25:25,827
- I think it was just...
- Hmm.

1538
01:25:25,860 --> 01:25:27,729
<i>I was 15.</i>

1539
01:25:27,762 --> 01:25:30,297
<i>I think it just felt like</i>
<i>family arts and crafts to me.</i>

1540
01:25:30,330 --> 01:25:31,733
<i>It was important work</i>

1541
01:25:31,766 --> 01:25:34,802
because some didn't get
funerals or celebrations.

1542
01:25:34,836 --> 01:25:36,336
Or families were ashamed.

1543
01:25:36,370 --> 01:25:38,106
You know, or didn't want
to bring attention

1544
01:25:38,138 --> 01:25:39,107
to how they died.

1545
01:25:39,139 --> 01:25:40,642
So it's the only way

1546
01:25:40,675 --> 01:25:43,111
people who had
an AIDS-related death

1547
01:25:43,143 --> 01:25:44,512
are remembered still.

1548
01:25:44,545 --> 01:25:46,848
- Mmm.
- One day it's, uh...

1549
01:25:46,881 --> 01:25:49,017
"Have you heard about Felix?

1550
01:25:49,050 --> 01:25:50,985
"He's gone back home
to his family."

1551
01:25:51,019 --> 01:25:52,887
And then we hear
from the family.

1552
01:25:52,920 --> 01:25:54,088
Felix suddenly died from

1553
01:25:54,122 --> 01:25:55,657
lung cancer
or something ridiculous.

1554
01:25:55,690 --> 01:25:57,692
Yeah. We knew the truth.

1555
01:25:57,725 --> 01:26:00,995
But you didn't really
know in those early days.

1556
01:26:01,029 --> 01:26:04,966
<i>You were constantly checked,</i>
<i>but you were always scared.</i>

1557
01:26:06,166 --> 01:26:07,769
Always fucking scared.

1558
01:26:10,104 --> 01:26:12,406
We went on holiday to Spain.
You were there?

1559
01:26:12,439 --> 01:26:14,307
-Yeah. Tom.
-Yeah.

1560
01:26:14,341 --> 01:26:15,743
- <i>And Jim.</i>
<i>- Jim.</i>

1561
01:26:15,777 --> 01:26:17,444
<i>And we went to the gay beach.</i>

1562
01:26:17,477 --> 01:26:18,780
<i>There was this man,</i>

1563
01:26:18,813 --> 01:26:21,816
very skeletal man,
with just his, uh...

1564
01:26:21,849 --> 01:26:23,551
<i>.</i> ..how do you call this,
swimming, uh...

1565
01:26:23,584 --> 01:26:26,253
-Swimmers.
-Swimmers, yeah.

1566
01:26:26,286 --> 01:26:30,024
And when he got up from
his bed to go to the sea,

1567
01:26:30,058 --> 01:26:33,628
you could see that he was
covered in Kaposi sarcoma.

1568
01:26:33,661 --> 01:26:34,996
Hmm.

1569
01:26:35,029 --> 01:26:38,700
Honestly, all over his body.
It was horrible.

1570
01:26:38,733 --> 01:26:40,902
And I was thinking
what a horrible sight it was,

1571
01:26:40,935 --> 01:26:42,402
but at the same time, I thought,

1572
01:26:42,436 --> 01:26:45,073
no, but it's also brave
and it's also beautiful

1573
01:26:45,106 --> 01:26:47,709
that he felt comfortable
showing his body like this.

1574
01:26:49,110 --> 01:26:51,211
But Jim wasn't interested, no.

1575
01:26:51,244 --> 01:26:53,614
Jim just pointed to
a small purple spot

1576
01:26:53,648 --> 01:26:55,482
on Tom's neck or shoulder

1577
01:26:55,516 --> 01:26:57,018
and he said...

1578
01:26:58,853 --> 01:27:01,656
"You need to get that
checked, otherwise... eugh."

1579
01:27:01,689 --> 01:27:02,890
No!

1580
01:27:02,924 --> 01:27:04,424
He just never has
any fucking tact.

1581
01:27:04,458 --> 01:27:05,492
No tact.

1582
01:27:05,526 --> 01:27:06,728
<i>Like, none at all.</i>

1583
01:27:06,761 --> 01:27:08,228
<i>We were on the beach.</i>

1584
01:27:08,261 --> 01:27:10,064
There was no etiquette
about these things.

1585
01:27:10,098 --> 01:27:11,132
No.

1586
01:27:11,165 --> 01:27:12,967
But still, yeah,
it was... it was rude.

1587
01:27:14,802 --> 01:27:17,505
Tom was kind of
a sensitive man,

1588
01:27:17,538 --> 01:27:18,673
unlike Jim.

1589
01:27:19,707 --> 01:27:21,274
And he said, "Well, thanks, Jim.

1590
01:27:21,308 --> 01:27:24,212
"Thank you very much
for ruining my holiday.

1591
01:27:24,244 --> 01:27:26,313
"Muchas gracias, darling."

1592
01:27:26,346 --> 01:27:29,449
But he did have it.

1593
01:27:29,483 --> 01:27:31,152
- Ohh.
- He did have it, yes.

1594
01:27:31,185 --> 01:27:33,921
-Yes, and he did get a quilt.
-Yeah.

1595
01:27:35,223 --> 01:27:37,525
It's so... it's so horrific.

1596
01:27:39,961 --> 01:27:43,731
Sorry. It's terrible.

1597
01:27:43,765 --> 01:27:45,600
Sorry, I'm sorry.

1598
01:27:45,633 --> 01:27:49,837
It's a terrible story. It's
not funny at all. It's not.

1599
01:27:49,871 --> 01:27:52,774
I don't even know
why I'm laughing about it.

1600
01:28:03,551 --> 01:28:05,253
Sorry.

1601
01:28:09,857 --> 01:28:12,593
Oh, God, I just
don't want him to die.

1602
01:28:18,800 --> 01:28:20,768
But I do need
more wine, so...

1603
01:28:20,802 --> 01:28:23,104
Coming up.

1604
01:28:27,975 --> 01:28:30,278
Thank you.
Thank you, sir.

1605
01:28:33,247 --> 01:28:35,482
I think that... Yeah.

1606
01:28:45,760 --> 01:28:47,427
I do, you know.

1607
01:28:47,460 --> 01:28:48,796
What?

1608
01:28:48,830 --> 01:28:50,965
Want him to die.

1609
01:28:56,336 --> 01:28:58,338
Because you don't need him
like they do.

1610
01:29:06,214 --> 01:29:07,682
He thinks we have a thing.

1611
01:29:10,251 --> 01:29:12,053
I know.

1612
01:29:17,792 --> 01:29:20,328
Dark pink skin on the knuckles.

1613
01:29:21,596 --> 01:29:23,496
Prominent tendons.

1614
01:29:25,132 --> 01:29:26,366
Little cut.

1615
01:29:26,399 --> 01:29:27,935
Hmm!

1616
01:29:27,969 --> 01:29:31,305
There's a few dark hairs
on the outside of the hand.

1617
01:29:57,632 --> 01:30:00,101
Be grateful and fucking move on.

1618
01:30:26,426 --> 01:30:29,764
Do you think Emily knows
Jimpa better than you do?

1619
01:30:32,266 --> 01:30:33,668
Do you?

1620
01:30:37,204 --> 01:30:40,508
Emily's lived with or close
to Jimpa her whole life

1621
01:30:40,541 --> 01:30:43,744
so she's got a... different
relationship to him

1622
01:30:43,778 --> 01:30:45,179
than the one we have.

1623
01:30:45,212 --> 01:30:46,714
We have?

1624
01:30:46,747 --> 01:30:48,049
What's that?

1625
01:30:48,082 --> 01:30:50,051
Long-distance.

1626
01:30:51,385 --> 01:30:52,787
Mm.

1627
01:30:54,722 --> 01:30:56,624
I just wanna know
what Jimpa wants.

1628
01:30:58,392 --> 01:31:00,127
You don't think
I know what he wants?

1629
01:31:02,830 --> 01:31:04,865
The story you tell

1630
01:31:04,899 --> 01:31:08,402
about how he eventually had
to leave to come to Amsterdam,

1631
01:31:08,436 --> 01:31:11,939
about how Grandma decided it
was best to stay in Adelaide.

1632
01:31:12,940 --> 01:31:14,008
Yeah?

1633
01:31:16,476 --> 01:31:17,712
It's not true.

1634
01:31:19,180 --> 01:31:21,449
Grandma said to Jim that
she could come with him

1635
01:31:21,481 --> 01:31:22,883
and bring the kids.

1636
01:31:22,917 --> 01:31:24,652
You could all
move here together.

1637
01:31:25,753 --> 01:31:27,455
And Jimpa said no.

1638
01:31:28,422 --> 01:31:30,458
He said he wanted
to do it on his own.

1639
01:31:32,426 --> 01:31:33,861
He could have

1640
01:31:33,894 --> 01:31:35,863
brought you all with him

1641
01:31:35,896 --> 01:31:37,631
but he didn't want to.

1642
01:31:41,969 --> 01:31:43,471
Is that what he said to you?

1643
01:31:45,239 --> 01:31:46,640
Do you think he was lying?

1644
01:31:49,343 --> 01:31:50,811
No, I don't think he was.

1645
01:31:58,352 --> 01:32:00,187
Are you and Dad monogamous?

1646
01:32:03,224 --> 01:32:04,458
Mostly.

1647
01:32:06,127 --> 01:32:07,728
Why don't you talk about it?

1648
01:32:11,832 --> 01:32:13,801
I'm not as open as Jimpa.

1649
01:32:16,537 --> 01:32:17,838
Hmm.

1650
01:32:38,025 --> 01:32:40,694
And you were Director of
Public Health for five years.

1651
01:32:40,728 --> 01:32:41,996
Do you remember that?

1652
01:32:43,464 --> 01:32:44,999
Yeah? And...

1653
01:32:46,434 --> 01:32:47,802
Thank you.

1654
01:32:51,372 --> 01:32:54,642
And... and...

1655
01:33:01,649 --> 01:33:03,384
Emily's here.

1656
01:33:08,956 --> 01:33:11,092
Hannah,
you don't have to do it.

1657
01:33:11,125 --> 01:33:12,726
No shit. I'm not eating ham.

1658
01:33:12,760 --> 01:33:14,628
What? Fuck.

1659
01:33:14,662 --> 01:33:17,298
No, Hannah,
I'm talking about our dad.

1660
01:33:17,331 --> 01:33:20,267
No, it won't be me
that actually kills him.

1661
01:33:20,301 --> 01:33:22,169
Fucking hell, Hannah. I'm...

1662
01:33:23,304 --> 01:33:25,806
I mean that you don't
have to look after him.

1663
01:33:25,840 --> 01:33:28,242
If that's what scares you,
I will do that. You know this.

1664
01:33:28,275 --> 01:33:29,844
You're not gonna
have to give up anything.

1665
01:33:29,877 --> 01:33:30,845
Emily.

1666
01:33:30,878 --> 01:33:32,980
No, it's my fucking life.

1667
01:33:36,250 --> 01:33:37,785
I can help.

1668
01:33:37,818 --> 01:33:39,753
I can stay here
and live with them.

1669
01:33:39,787 --> 01:33:41,556
Jimpa would love it and...

1670
01:33:41,590 --> 01:33:44,825
<i>.</i> ..I can properly experience
this place.

1671
01:33:44,859 --> 01:33:46,260
- No.
- Why not?

1672
01:33:46,293 --> 01:33:48,429
You were ready to let me
live with him before.

1673
01:33:48,462 --> 01:33:50,599
No, no, not necessarily.

1674
01:33:51,732 --> 01:33:53,100
You weren't?

1675
01:33:56,370 --> 01:33:57,805
Hannah, can you please
say something?

1676
01:33:59,974 --> 01:34:01,775
It's not what he wants.

1677
01:34:05,580 --> 01:34:06,981
It's OK, Mum.

1678
01:34:07,014 --> 01:34:09,850
Sorry, don't take this
as hostile, but I need to go.

1679
01:34:09,884 --> 01:34:11,318
Go for a walk.

1680
01:37:27,147 --> 01:37:29,183
-Is that Stephen?
-Mmm.

1681
01:37:34,121 --> 01:37:35,824
<i>What did you</i>
<i>say to him?</i>

1682
01:37:35,856 --> 01:37:38,225
<i>I told him he was</i>

1683
01:37:38,258 --> 01:37:40,961
being stubborn
for not updating his will.

1684
01:37:42,196 --> 01:37:44,733
I told him I never wanted
anything from him

1685
01:37:44,766 --> 01:37:47,034
except for his constancy

1686
01:37:47,067 --> 01:37:49,937
and that was the one thing
he refused to give me.

1687
01:37:50,938 --> 01:37:53,173
And I asked him what's the use

1688
01:37:53,207 --> 01:37:56,644
of all of his ideals
and opinions

1689
01:37:56,678 --> 01:37:59,913
if he can't give the people
he loves what they need.

1690
01:38:03,217 --> 01:38:06,220
You know,
you're allowed to be angry

1691
01:38:06,253 --> 01:38:07,822
or disappointed by him

1692
01:38:07,856 --> 01:38:09,890
and still think
the world of him.

1693
01:38:09,923 --> 01:38:11,659
I know.

1694
01:38:11,693 --> 01:38:13,093
Are you sure?

1695
01:38:21,168 --> 01:38:22,903
I'm not sure if you
remember much about

1696
01:38:22,936 --> 01:38:24,839
what we talked about
the other day.

1697
01:38:25,939 --> 01:38:28,175
Or if you remember
much about anything.

1698
01:38:29,176 --> 01:38:30,678
But I'm Hannah,

1699
01:38:30,712 --> 01:38:32,980
<i>your youngest daughter.</i>

1700
01:38:33,013 --> 01:38:35,315
<i>And a filmmaker.</i>

1701
01:38:35,349 --> 01:38:37,217
<i>A mother.</i>

1702
01:38:37,251 --> 01:38:38,753
<i>A woman.</i>

1703
01:38:41,088 --> 01:38:43,424
And we have to decide
what to do with you today.

1704
01:38:51,165 --> 01:38:52,299
You tell me off

1705
01:38:52,332 --> 01:38:54,536
for not answering
my phone when you call.

1706
01:38:54,569 --> 01:38:57,672
<i>And for not visiting enough</i>
<i>and for working too hard,</i>

1707
01:38:57,705 --> 01:38:59,173
<i>but you taught me</i>
<i>those things.</i>

1708
01:39:00,875 --> 01:39:03,310
And I'm about to make
a film about you

1709
01:39:03,343 --> 01:39:05,312
and I kept saying
I couldn't visit yet

1710
01:39:05,345 --> 01:39:06,815
and you kept saying to

1711
01:39:06,848 --> 01:39:08,215
<i>block out the time in my diary</i>

1712
01:39:08,248 --> 01:39:09,983
<i>and just to tell everyone</i>
<i>I'm working with</i>

1713
01:39:10,017 --> 01:39:12,554
<i>that it's happening</i>
<i>and to come for a visit.</i>

1714
01:39:15,355 --> 01:39:17,592
This is one way to keep me
around longer than planned!

1715
01:39:20,929 --> 01:39:22,764
Are you OK? Are you in any pain?

1716
01:39:27,134 --> 01:39:28,469
No? Good.

1717
01:39:31,539 --> 01:39:34,107
So I'm gonna tell you
about my film.

1718
01:39:36,778 --> 01:39:39,112
<i>It starts in 1977...</i>

1719
01:39:40,815 --> 01:39:43,283
<i>...which is obviously</i>
<i>a different and difficult time</i>

1720
01:39:43,317 --> 01:39:45,352
<i>to come out as gay.</i>

1721
01:39:45,385 --> 01:39:47,889
<i>But it's extra hard</i>
<i>for my main character</i>

1722
01:39:47,922 --> 01:39:49,389
<i>because he's married,</i>

1723
01:39:49,423 --> 01:39:52,025
<i>with a toddler</i>
<i>and a newborn baby.</i>

1724
01:39:53,126 --> 01:39:55,797
But he does tell his family.

1725
01:39:58,098 --> 01:39:59,868
<i>And instead of conflict,</i>

1726
01:39:59,901 --> 01:40:03,605
<i>he and his wife work out</i>
<i>how to keep living together</i>

1727
01:40:03,638 --> 01:40:05,874
<i>and to raise</i>
<i>their two children.</i>

1728
01:40:08,208 --> 01:40:11,411
<i>They start creating</i>
<i>a different bond</i>

1729
01:40:11,445 --> 01:40:14,616
<i>where they co-parent</i>
<i>and they share a life and...</i>

1730
01:40:14,649 --> 01:40:16,985
<i>...both of them having</i>
<i>various relationships,</i>

1731
01:40:17,017 --> 01:40:19,052
<i>some good, some bad, and...</i>

1732
01:40:20,187 --> 01:40:23,056
<i>...they go on living like this</i>
<i>for over 10 years.</i>

1733
01:40:24,091 --> 01:40:25,760
<i>And, um...</i>

1734
01:40:25,793 --> 01:40:27,194
<i>...you know, they build</i>
<i>a home together,</i>

1735
01:40:27,227 --> 01:40:28,930
<i>they... cook biscuits.</i>

1736
01:40:29,964 --> 01:40:31,298
<i>They coach each other</i>
<i>through life</i>

1737
01:40:31,331 --> 01:40:34,134
<i>to make a good life,</i>
<i>a good family.</i>

1738
01:40:36,069 --> 01:40:38,806
<i>And because of this, their</i>
<i>youngest daughter grows up</i>

1739
01:40:38,840 --> 01:40:43,343
<i>seeing their dad as gay</i>
<i>and a father as one thing -</i>

1740
01:40:43,377 --> 01:40:47,147
<i>as one whole thing, with</i>
<i>no hidden or separated parts.</i>

1741
01:40:49,316 --> 01:40:52,687
But then all this changes
when she turns 13.

1742
01:40:55,222 --> 01:40:56,991
The father is finding it harder

1743
01:40:57,025 --> 01:40:58,560
to get work in Adelaide.

1744
01:40:58,593 --> 01:41:01,629
He's considered too political,
too controversial,

1745
01:41:01,663 --> 01:41:04,298
and... he feels limited by

1746
01:41:04,331 --> 01:41:06,734
the views, the place,
the lifestyle,

1747
01:41:06,768 --> 01:41:08,636
and so he says
he needs to leave.

1748
01:41:12,607 --> 01:41:15,577
And so, just like that,
after 13 years, he leaves.

1749
01:41:29,958 --> 01:41:32,894
But instead of it being
a terrible decision...

1750
01:41:36,496 --> 01:41:38,733
<i>.</i> ..it's presented as
something wonderful...

1751
01:41:40,568 --> 01:41:42,670
<i>.</i> ..that will prove to open up
all their lives.

1752
01:41:44,171 --> 01:41:45,405
And it did.

1753
01:42:46,233 --> 01:42:47,935
So that's what the film's about.

1754
01:42:53,941 --> 01:42:55,409
<i>It's about a daughter learning</i>

1755
01:42:55,442 --> 01:42:57,812
to not need her father so much.

1756
01:43:03,017 --> 01:43:04,184
Because she doesn't want him

1757
01:43:04,217 --> 01:43:06,386
to stay at home
and cook biscuits for her.

1758
01:43:08,589 --> 01:43:10,223
And her being grateful for that.

1759
01:43:31,311 --> 01:43:33,246
Do you like that story, Jimpa?

1760
01:43:39,887 --> 01:43:41,889
And do you think it's true?

1761
01:43:50,098 --> 01:43:51,231
Jimpa.

1762
01:43:55,103 --> 01:43:57,270
Do you want to die now?

1763
01:44:06,681 --> 01:44:08,248
Em...

1764
01:44:09,717 --> 01:44:10,885
Hmm.

1765
01:44:27,568 --> 01:44:30,403
You've said goodbye
to him a hundred times.

1766
01:44:30,437 --> 01:44:31,672
He'll be OK, Mum.

1767
01:44:32,607 --> 01:44:35,510
I just don't want him to feel
alone. He must be so scared.

1768
01:45:43,476 --> 01:45:44,545
Hello?

1769
01:46:25,720 --> 01:46:28,388
<i>Jimpa always</i>
<i>thought he was right.</i>

1770
01:46:29,590 --> 01:46:30,925
<i>You might have heard him say,</i>

1771
01:46:30,958 --> 01:46:32,660
<i>"I'm not often wrong</i>
<i>and I'm right this time."</i>

1772
01:46:34,028 --> 01:46:36,297
<i>But he did</i>
<i>change his mind sometimes.</i>

1773
01:46:36,330 --> 01:46:38,465
<i>He was just used to</i>
<i>fighting for it.</i>

1774
01:46:40,234 --> 01:46:43,804
<i>He told me recently</i>
<i>he was selfish.</i>

1775
01:46:43,838 --> 01:46:46,774
<i>And it's true that</i>
<i>he could be careless.</i>

1776
01:46:46,807 --> 01:46:48,576
<i>He hurt people.</i>

1777
01:46:51,212 --> 01:46:53,714
<i>I always said he was my hero.</i>

1778
01:46:55,349 --> 01:46:57,518
<i>But I didn't really know him</i>
<i>that well.</i>

1779
01:46:59,587 --> 01:47:02,056
<i>I just had an idea of him.</i>

1780
01:47:05,326 --> 01:47:07,828
<i>I'm grateful for that idea.</i>

1781
01:47:29,383 --> 01:47:31,352
I love you.

1782
01:47:32,720 --> 01:47:34,288
I love you too.

1783
01:47:45,599 --> 01:47:47,134
You're my hero.