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Believe in others to people with positive attitudes bring people up.
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Make people believe in themselves and make them want to be better thus making people want to grow.
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And it is human nature to want to learn and constantly grow.
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So if you're the cause for that that's pretty awesome in a friendship believe in your friend through
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positivity and support when your best friend tells you she's going to do a triathlon this year.
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Even though she's never even done a 5 K run.
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Instead of saying Jessica is this realistic I mean you'll do even exercise.
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I just I really don't want to get excited about something.
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He'll probably not even commit to and therefore completely diminishing any support towards her.
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Instead say Jessica.
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That's awesome.
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I'm pumped for you.
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What a great goal to work towards.
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And if you do want to gently point out that a lot of training is involved you could say so what type
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of things are you thinking about doing to train and let her take a moment to consider what's involved
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and explain outloud what her plan is.
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This is the positive way to be supportive even if someone doesn't reach the goal.
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They'll usually appreciate and more importantly remember you being positive towards them and believing
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in them you being positive may even be the support that they need to take action believe in themselves
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and achieve their goals in your career.
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Be positive and supportive with your employees or your coworkers as a boss.
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If an employee submits a proposal to you for review and you see that it still needs some work.
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Don't be feared by all bullying authority who responds with this report isn't long enough.
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They're born out all wrong.
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It's not written well.
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Have you ever heard of spell check.
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This would leave the employee feeling small worthless and unmotivated because this is negative language
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and a negative attitude.
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Rather you could be encouraging and positive by saying something like this looks good.
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I like the paragraph you wrote about people relating to each other.
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Can we make it a bit longer and structure this more like the last one we sento.
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I think that would make it even more engaging.
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See scenario one makes the employee feel blamed and fearful.
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Scenario 2.
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A positive response leaves the employee feeling motivated and like they're on their way to producing
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that great proposal they're writing.
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Be positive and gentle when someone comes to you with a problem.
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Know the difference in someone needing a solution and just needing to let steam out.
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If someone is complaining because they need a solution.
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Have the attitude that everything is figure out about because the reality is everything is figure out
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that will see things from different perspectives and say OK how can we make this better.
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Or while it's good that we now know not to do this in an intimate relationship you can be positive and
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supportive by listening when your other half has a problem they'd like to talk about.
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When I say listening I don't mean waiting to talk and then providing them with the answer to their problem.
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People can often search within themselves to find the answer to their problem.
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So rather than saying well when the boss goes you you should have told her you didn't appreciate being
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spoken to that way.
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You need to go into the office first thing tomorrow and tell her that she can dump her work on you not
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pay you all the time and talk to you the way she talks to you often in a relationship when one person
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is frustrated.
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They want to be heard and feel like someone is understanding them.
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So listen let your spouse express themselves.
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And once it's clear that they've let some steam out you can gently remember the word gently here ask
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what do you think your boss needs to know about the situation so she can go easier on you next time
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and let your other half come up with his or her own answer while you gently guide the conversation in
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a positive direction.
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Always in every relationship choose to respond positively and support positivity.
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Consider how you would hope someone would respond to you in any situation because everyone wants the
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person they're speaking to to support understand and have a positive tone to the conversation.
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Another aspect of being a positive person is that positive people have fun in life.
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An easy way to have fun in life is to find joy in things.
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Take the time to notice and appreciate a sunset or a great tasting hot chocolate or someone holding
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the door open for you.
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Positive people will sing to songs playing in the car.
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They'll enjoy a little dance to a good song they'll laugh and smile and be playful and not take themselves
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your life too seriously.
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Positive people are great for people to be more grateful notice and appreciate the kindness of others
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appreciate the good things that come your way.
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Celebrate good things and celebrate the successes of others.
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Realize how fortunate you are to be on this earth to have the ability to speak and walk and connect
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and form relationships.
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Being grateful outloud is a great way to sprinkle a bit of positivity on others too because it will
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make them stop and notice something to be grateful for as well.
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Positive people use positive words always but especially when speaking to others.
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So here are some ways to be more positive in conversation through your words and the topics you choose
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to discuss.
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Choose to discuss great things about whatever environment you're in.
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For example wow this home is absolutely beautiful.
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I love the floor to ceiling windows or you and your coworker made me getting here from my meeting so
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easy with your concise directions.
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Use words that are positive like good.
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Great love amazing wonderful excellent and other great words like that rather than words like hate you
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or phrases like It's OK I guess this sucks.
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Also the tone you use is huge part of being likable.
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And we're talking about that more in an upcoming lecture.
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Remember positivity attracts more positivity so if you want to cultivate relationships with great people
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and to not only be a likeable person but a likeable person who is surrounded by other likeable people
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then be positive.
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As the saying goes like attracts more like some of these tools to becoming a more positive person you
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may already incorporate into your relationships.
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While others may be new to you.
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So to take action and become more likeable with a more positive magnetic attitude immediately choose
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the top three of these tips on how to become a more positive person.
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And remember I'm here to answer any questions you have so please ask away.
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