All language subtitles for PSYCHOLOGIST EPISODE 11 [VIKI]

♫ With no specter to cut off the waves ♫

♫ With no halo bestowed by heaven ♫

♫ I should admit I was born ordinary ♫

♫ But I'm not resigned to the silence on stage ♫

♫ Break it down ♫

♫ I'm taking over now ♫

♫ Tough it out. That's what I'm all about ♫

♫ We are destined to break through a mental wall ♫

♫ To unlock a ray of light ♫

♫ We know there will be infinite waves ♫

♫ Getting in my way ♫

♫ They will build up into roads that enable me to climb high and see far ♫

♫ To test me, inspire me, make me and give me courage ♫

♫ I am the master ♫

♫ Of my own destiny ♫

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Episode 11

Haifeng Radio International

FM99.7

is about to broadcast the announcer Qian Kaiyi…

Countdown to show recording.

Four.

Three.

Two.

One.

Today is Valentine's Day.

Many friends from the audience

have sent messages of

love stories with their boyfriends.

So on this special festive occasion, I

also have some good news to tell you.

What good news are you going to share?

Yi has confessed his love to me.

Stop recording for now.

What nonsense are you talking about,

Fang Yuxuan?

How can you make a joke like this?

Do you have any sense of propriety?

Sorry.

Explain to the radio station after a while.

Qian Kaiyi,

is it you really don't fall for me

or you dare not admit you do?

Fang Yuxuan, I really don't fall for you.

But affections can be cultivated.

After being together for a long time,

affections will grow.

You can give it a try.

Are you gonna explain

to the radio station or not?

Given my relationship with you as a colleague,

I show you respect again and again.

But I tell you what, Fang Yuxuan,

this will be the last time.

If you mess things up again, either you go

or I go.

Well…

He Dun, I'm really not related to her

in any way.

She came to the wedding reception that day

just to get back at me.

Do you know what your only solution

to this matter is?

I shouldn't have

gone to the wedding reception that day

in the first place.

No, don't.

Didn't you…

Don't follow me.

Didn't you save Shasha and Yuan that day?

What's more, it was such a wonderful thing.

He Dun, what are you exactly angry about?

About me or Fang Yuxuan?

I'm angry about me, me.

I'm angry about myself, OK?

Well, you…you…don't…

Personality Psychology

Transference and Counter-transference
Let's first talk about what counter-transference is.

In a broad sense, counter-transference

encompasses the emotional responses

of all counselors to their visitors.

Any conflict related to their family experiences,

gender roles, parenting roles and unmet needs

is likely to lead to counter-transference.

A visitor wants the counselor to give him

the attention and affirmation

that he didn't get from his father.

And the counselor also wants to

show his importance

through a dependent relationship.

So the counselor is highly likely

to accept the visitor's dependence

unconsciously.

Lili, we've lost internet connection again.

When are you gonna get it fixed?

Jiahui?

I've called Mr. Ye to come over.

Didn't he come just in time?

He just came back from my house.

Now you are putting him out again.

Jiahui, I'm sorry.

I've put you out again.

It's OK.

I've fixed it.

Anything you ask for,

I'll certainly come as soon as I can.

See if you can get connected now.

OK.

The two of us worked on it for quite a few days

and didn't fix it.

You got it done in a heartbeat.

OK, connected.

Would you like me to add an app for you?

So that you can monitor everything going on at home

anytime when you are outside.

If it's convenient for you, then…please.

Mr. Ye is such a professional.

Shouldn't you thank him kindly?

Let me make you a cup of coffee.

Just a moment.

I'll go and slice some fruit for you.

He's so good.

Both presentable and professional.

An added bonus.

He's my neighbor.

I've put him out the whole day.

I can't pay back his favor.

I'd say he's only too keen

to come to our house every day.

He should thank me for asking him over.

Why are you nervous?

Jiahui.

Thank you.

I'll let you guys talk first.

I'm going upstairs first. I've got things to do.

Take your time.

Take a seat.

I've downloaded your app for you.

Thanks.

You've helped me so much, I don't even know

how to repay your kindness.

Can I make a request?

Sure, you can.

How about going on a date with me?

You are such a smart cookie.

My billing rate is expensive.

I usually charge by the hour, OK?

No problem.

As long as you make out an invoice to me.

You are humorous.

He Dun,

I know you are reluctant at heart.

It's OK.

I won't force your hand.

I'm going for now.

Call me again if you need my help for anything.

Jiahui.

I accept your invitation.

Rest easy.

A date with me is certainly better

than the one with those short-tempered people.

He Dun, you've finally answered my call.

I was busy just now.

I didn't look at my cellphone. What's the matter?

You left in a hurry.

I forgot to ask you about something.

How's our mother doing?

I'm gonna hang up if you have nothing else to say.

I'll cut a long story short.

It's the same thing I told you about

in the WeChat group this afternoon.

Since our show is a smash hit,

the radio station allocated a sizable sum of money

for our publicity.

Come to the radio station tomorrow afternoon

for a poster shooting.

What poster?

Me and you in a poster?

Well, this is the radio station's

routine publicity model.

I've done it before.

It's done mainly to give the audience

a visual impression.

So when they are listening to our show,

there will be a 3D stereoscopic effect

which can bring us closer

Time Interview
to the audience and to each other.

A versatilely matched duo.

It'll be done with just a few clicks of the shutter.

He Dun.

Are you hearing me?

Qian Kaiyi

What's wrong with her again?

He Dun, are you being jealous?

What can I be jealous of?

It's such an important thing.

Shouldn't he tell me about it beforehand?

But he didn't tell me until now.

Isn't that a disrespect to me?

If it were you, would you not be angry?

Yes.

Men are just like this.

Too self-righteous.

But there are exceptions.

Like Mr. Ye next door.

He's meticulous and gentlemanly.

He gives acupuncture therapy to your mother

and fixes our internet.

The thing is, he's never asked for anything.

If you guys are together later on,

won't you be able to save the money

for your mother's physiotherapy?

Are you looking for a boyfriend

or a physiotherapist for me?

Well, it's good to have the best of both worlds.

Isn't it?

But I kept worrying all the time

if he'd take things too hard.

He's quite a nice guy indeed.

He has a sense of propriety.

He's quite sensible

and good at taking care of people.

But it's not that he asks for nothing at all.

Something is going on, He Dun.

Is it like what I thought?

He…

He asked me to go on a date with him just now.

It's you to blame.

You always put him out for no good reason.

He Dun, you've always been

a person with professional ethics in my eyes.

He Dun, shall we play Rock-Paper-Scissors?

One round will do.

Come to have your photo taken if you lose.

If you don't reply, don't blame me

for calling the shots for you.

Stop sending me messages.

Whatever you like.

Kaiyi, you see, it's such a late hour

and you still don't let me off work.

All right. Go home first.

Leave the laptop with me.

OK.

Long-haired beauty.

Instead of sleeping in the middle of the night,

what are you coming to my place for?

Lili, He Dun's been giving me the cold shoulder

for two days.

Did I do anything wrong

to cause misunderstanding on her part?

There's something off about you lately.

In what way?

Are you not sleeping in the middle of the night

and coming to my place

just because she's giving you the cold shoulder?

No, I'm worrying if I've done anything wrong

to make her unhappy.

Well…

No problem.

You are not sleeping and coming to my place instead.

This is not like

what an ordinary colleague would do.

Whether as her friend or colleague

or in whatever capacity,

I just don't want her to be unhappy.

All right.

I'll help you once more.

Thanks.

A treat of Michelin dinner.

He Dun!

What's up with you?

He Dun.

Why are you crying?

Tell me.

What happened?

What happened?

He Dun… He Dun.

He Dun!

He Dun!

He Dun!

What's up with you?

Can I have a word with you?

I don't want to talk now.

Are you feeling unwell?

No.

I only have a few words to say.

I don't want to listen.

If I make you unhappy,

you can hit me or curse me.

You can do whatever you like to me.

But don't be unhappy, OK?

It has nothing to do with you.

It's already in the past, OK?

Let's not bring it up again.

If it has nothing to do with me, then to whom?

He Dun…

Jun!

Can you stop calling me Jun?

What's wrong?

Jun is not my pet name at all.

Why does auntie also call you Jun?

Jun used to be my younger brother's name.

My younger brother died when he was eight.

Jun!

I'm sorry.

I just got to know you had a younger brother.

I didn't mean to.

I know you didn't.

Otherwise I wouldn't be here

to explain so much to you.

I would have left long ago.

I just hope after telling you so much,

you'll stop doing things that bug me.

Uh.

Do you know

what is the most common thing in this city?

It's sand.

There used to be a time

when I especially enjoyed seeing the sea.

Actually I was not seeing the sea.

I just liked poking a few holes on the beach,

because it wouldn't be long

before the waves smoothed out the holes.

Then I would guess how many waves it took

to smooth out the holes completely.

If I guess right,

I'd treat myself to a big meal.

Thank you for your consolation.

But I don't think

there is such a word as empathy in this world.

Maybe not being able to empathize

is a kind of luck instead.

He Dun,

if you need a special listener one day,

just turn around.

I'm sure I'll be there.

Jun should be your pet name.

I'll call you by that name from now on.

Jun… Can you stay away from me?

Please.

Sorry, He Dun.

Did I do anything wrong?

If it's because…

The safety distance between people

is 1.2 meters.

Once you pass beyond it,

I'd think you are threatening me.

Let me know if I've done anything wrong.

I'll apologize to you.

The problem lies with me.

If I make you unhappy,

you can hit me or curse me.

You can do whatever you like to me.

But don't be unhappy, OK?

It has nothing to do with you.

It was the past, OK?

Let's not bring it up again.

Thank you for your consolation.

But I don't think

there is such a word as empathy in this world.

Maybe not being able to empathize

is a kind of luck instead.

Hello.

Please come on in.

Go.

I'll be waiting here.

Jiang Jing,

has your health been any better these days?

I'm OK.

I'm used to it.

It's OK.

Next,

we are going to have the formal counseling session.

I'm going to ask you a simple question.

If you don't want to answer,

you can…

Can I?

Sure.

Choose a way you are comfortable with

and make yourself at home.

When I'm at home,

I just don't make myself at home.

Can you really cure me?

I'll choose the best way to cure you

and stay with you.

Believe me.

Next, we are going to play a game.

Human subconsciousness is prone to escapism

and likes to play hide-and-seek.

Now let's leave your choice

to your subconsciousness.

Pick a picture based on your intuition

and answer accordingly.

Do I pick myself?

Sure.

Jiang Jing, your current biggest problems

are rampant bulimia

and making yourself vomit, right?

Imagine what kind of scenario

would be the most likely to make you overeat

and make yourself vomit?

I don't know.

Maybe I like eating a lot.

But I'm afraid of becoming fat.

I can't control myself.

Well done.

Based on how you are feeling now, you can pick.

It's just like me.

Let's relax first.

Follow me to perform a few moves.

Let's breathe in.

Breathe out.

Close your eyes slowly.

Then imagine one of your favorite scenes.

Next,

you are going to hear me counting down three to one.

When the countdown is
over, let's open our eyes.

Three.

Two.

One.

What does your ideal state of life look like?

Very free.

Now which one

of these cards can best describe you?

I'm always wrong and she's always right.

But she would hold my hand.

Under what circumstances

do you think your mother would hold your hand?

She's never let go of my hand.

It doesn't matter.

We'll skip it if you don't know.

Now based on how you are feeling,

pick two more cards again.

What do you feel when you see this card?

This heart

shouldn't be here.

In order to examine

whether it is healthy or intact,

it is taken out

for people to play with and watch.

When it is uncovered and shown to people,

it will die.

You have beautiful smile.

Please.

Please.

Jing, you are back.

Come on, come on, come on, look.

All my close friends are here.

Sit for a while. Come on.

What a nice-looking girl!

Put your schoolbag down.

You see, nowadays children

are having such a hard time.

Indeed.

How heavy her schoolbag is!

Yes.

Why?

Don't read it.

Let me have a read.

So your mother

still got to read what you wrote back then?

Yes.

What did you write back then?

I said

"Mom, there is someone I take a fancy to."

How did you feel at that time?

I don't know.

Did you feel upset?

Were you afraid?

Yes.

Very.

What happened later?

Did your mother do anything?

She did nothing.

I'm…going to the bathroom.

OK. OK, go.

Her husband is making money abroad.

Her daughter wins one prize after another in piano competitions.

Look at her.

Who knows what her husband is up to outside?

The mother and daughter are abandoned.

They have to have some
fun by playing the piano.

The daughter is no good either.

Look at her precocious face.

When she was young,

she was pampered and courted.

But when she gets old, can't she even

hold onto a man?

Let's see what's written in there

that makes her so angry.

The figure up front is just like me.

Actually it's the same with all of us.

We are just a marionette.

Our lives have been chosen and arranged.

They never belong to us.

Have you ever watched a puppet show?

I am my mother's puppet.

Have you talked about this with her?

Can you communicate with your mother?

What attempts have you made

to break through these dilemmas?

One.

Two.

Three.

Four.

Did you tell me you were going out?

Who let you play the drum?

You are a piece of flesh from my body.

Whatever you do, you must tell me.

Do you know?

Look at the people around you.

All dressed in weird costumes.

With their hair hanging loose.

What the hell do they look like?

Do you know?

Should anything happen to you, how can I live?

Go with me!

Mom!

I…

Jiang Jing.

Jiang Jing.

I don't want to talk.

Let's call it a day today.

Come to think of it, Qian.

I've talked to Zhang Miao.

We plan to do more on-the-spot interviews

and accumulate more realistic materials.

What do you think?

Dong.

Let's say, if someone has lost

a person very important to her,

how should such agony be healed?

I'm not talking about myself.

Well, the famous psychologist Carl Rogers said:

"Empathy is the ability to experience

the spiritual world of others."

Just as if…

As if…

As if…

You…were that person.

You mean I have strong empathy.

No, no, no.

What I'm saying is

empathy is a herald of love.

You said it on purpose, didn't you?

I was joking. Why do you get excited?

Today's food is good.

But you are right.

What's up? You get frustrated?

In such a tranquil world and peaceful time,

what frustrations can I get?

Let me guess. Wang Zhuo?

He made trouble for you again, didn't he?

A man like him?

I tell you what, Night Talk to Your Heart

has been on the trending topic list a few times.

The audience rating is off the charts.

When the audience rating becomes No.1,

I'll make him cry

and give Time Interview back to me.

For Night Talk to Your Heart's popularity,

the credit goes to He Dun.

What you said is not music to my ears.

Do I take no credit at all?

In terms of the show, yes, He Dun's expertise

is admittedly important.

But my personal charm is also indispensable.

Do you know what this is called?

It's called clear division of labor,

neither can be dispensed with.

Do you know why hasn't the show become No.1

in audience rating?

Why?

Because there's little interaction between you guys.

What do audience like doing most nowadays?

Doing what?

Being a shipper.

Being a shipper.

Bicker often, praise each other occasionally.

Seemingly fall for each other,

only to tantalize the audience.

Simple interactions can no longer meet

the audience's need.

You guys must build on this

to reinforce your persona as a couple.

As long as you guys start to
talk, there must be

bubbles of love.

I tell you what, Yuan, It takes

real skills to run a show.

As long as a show's content is of good quality,

and can really bring

some psychological comfort to the audience,

it wouldn't have bad rating.

What's more,

this is also He Dun's original intention

when she promised to run the show with me.

Mentor Kaiyi,

are you about to change your nature?

You used to be a host

who believes topic is king.

Why?

Is it because Miss He Dun

used her psychology expertise

to set things right for you

and help you find your conscience again?

Stop dissing me.

Once there is sea change in a man,

in all probability it's because of woman.

But He Dun won't fall for you.

Because she falls for me.

Why can't she fall for me?

Why does she fall for you?

After seeing you only a few times,

she falls for you?

Kang Ziyuan, this is not properly done.

Are you still my buddy or not?

Are you still… Are you still my buddy or not?

I'm telling the truth.

I'm not saying it to play devil's advocate.

She…she's He Dun.

Yes. He Dun.

On the day of the wedding reception,

our classmates told me that.

If they didn't tell me,

I wouldn't remember it was her.

Let me give you more hints.

Senior high school, broadcasting room,

the song she wrote to confess her love to me.

The one you publicly executed

in front of everybody at school.

Today, I'd like to present you a song

about first love.

Who are you?

Has nobody told you not to touch others' stuff?

Did you write the lyrics?

It's none of your business!

I'm helping you.

Yuan, she likes you.

Hello.

He Dun,

You are just like what your name suggests.

You are so slow ("chi dun" in Chinese)

in picking up my call.

Is there anything you are calling me about?

Yes.

Are you in the office?

I'm going out in a minute.

Why?

Going out?

Where are you going?

I'm going for now

if you have nothing else to say.

I'll talk to you later.

Are you ready to go on a date with me?

No.2?

No way.

It's good enough to be No.2.

It's not your first day at the radio station.

Do you want to be No.1
right from the beginning?

We can't compare with the laggards.

Night Talk to Your Heart has just gained momentum,

we must seize the momentum to be the top performer.

I'll go and talk to Director Pan

about its publicity.

Hold on, hold on.

You are going to see Director Pan?

Haven't you just screwed
up the poster shooting?

You are going to see her again?

Is your EQ negative?

Right.

I'll explain to her then.

Actually… Actually there's another way.

Since I've been

negotiating on business partnerships these days.

Whenever possible, I can try to figure out

how to link up with the businesses.

But if I manage to make a deal,

be sure to make no more mistakes again.

What are you busy with?

OK.

I'll be waiting for the good news from you, Qiao.

Go on with your work.

I'm going…I'm going to make a phone call.

Hi.

Lili, this is Qian Kaiyi.

I know it's you.

Wanna speak to He Dun?

Yes, yes, yes.

Where's He Dun? Where's she gone?

Sorry, no comment.

I'll hang up if you've finished.

Don't hang up for now.

Can you not do what He Dun does?

How can you not let people

finish what they are saying?

If you feel uncomfortable with her, feel free

to have a new partner.

Maybe the next one

will be more obedient, considerate and clingy?

Lili, I know you are sticking up for He Dun.

I also know why He Dun is angry.

I understand it fully well.

But as to the relationship between me and Fang Yuxuan,

it's really a misunderstanding.

She was just proclaiming one-sidedly

that I fall for her.

Just ask people

of our radio station if you don't believe me.

They all know.

And I've explained to He Dun about this.

Let me just ask you one thing.

Now are you being so nice
to He Dun just because

she's your partner?

She's my partner.

Of course I should be nice to her.

But I'm not being as nice

to each and every partner.

All right, Qian.

Let me give you a word of advice.

If a man can be forced to accept other's love,

it shows he's not committed enough.

You must know He Dun

is also an eligible bachelorette.

She could be taken any day.

You should shape up or ship out.

OK, OK, OK.

Can you tell me now?

Where on earth is she?

I have something important to see her about.

She seems to be on the way of being taken.

On the way of being taken?

Is she going out with Ye Jiahui?

Thanks.

The first stop of our date.

I'm going to take you to see my friends.

Well, Lili.

Be quick to tell me where they are going.

I'm not gonna tell you they are going to have

a romantic dinner.

A romantic dinner?

Where are they going to have it?

I really have no idea.

OK, Lili.

I'll treat you to a hearty dinner later.

Then I'll not bother to refuse…

He's too insincere.

Aren't we here to see your friends?

They are all my friends.

I work here.

You work here?

I'm a health consultant.

Providing both physical and mental care.

This is the nursing home where my grandma is staying.

Dr. Ye.

Grandma?

You've seen her.

Last time at my house.

Well, why didn't you tell me beforehand?

If you did,

I'd have prepared something in advance.

Now I come here empty-handed.

It's really embarrassing.

It's OK.

Grandma doesn't care about this.

Grandma told me

she wanted to spend her twilight years

with these elderly people.

But I knew she actually didn't want to

be a burden to me.

I couldn't talk her around,

but didn't want her to have her way,

so I applied for a job here.

It's quite a bliss for your grandma to have you with her.

I am the lucky one.

Actually, Grandma Yun and I

are not blood relations,

but closer than blood relations.

When I was a child,

my parents were always not at home.

Grandma Yun was taking care of me.

Every day after school,

I went to her place to bum dinner.

Later on, even if my parents were at home,

I didn't want to go home.

I just wanted to stay with grandma.

I'm really sorry today.

I've taken the liberty

of taking you here for a date.

We are going in after a while

to sit with grandma for a while

and have a chat.

If you find it boring,

just put your hand on mine,

and I'll get you out.

Get out.

Shoo, shoo, shoo.

Get out, get out, get out!

Mr. Ke,

why is your chicken running to my place?

The psychological counseling cases in this TV series are artistically stylized for visual presentation purposes. Please seek help from professional psychological counseling institutions if you encounter similar cases or have other psychological distress.

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